it's about details - issue 9 - Ultimate Planning

issue 9 New year 2013

Ultimate Planning

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in this ... features

Whose Table is it?

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wedding professionals come together for a design competition benefitting charity

Bridal Show Tips!

30

what you need to know before you go

Keeping it Together!

32

great and easy ways to reduce wedding planning stress

in every issue letter from the editor........................6 wedding day countdown...................8 Q & A.............................................10 the hotlist.......................................10 date night.......................................12 d.i.y. spotlight...............................164 professional spotlight....................166 seven things to love.......................172

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contents...

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Style & Beauty

wedding gown lingo - from ball gown to bateau prepping beauty

34 Stationery & Favors formal invitation wording - for every situation choosing favors

43 Forgotten Details making a toast - tips to help you out

45 Venue Spotlight things to consider questions to ask

57 Behind the Scenes

behind the lense - details that make the shoot

61 Wedding Inspiration

designs from “whose table is it anyway?� competition

97 Planning

you’re engaged! now what? wedding music tips why hire a wedding planner ceremony details reception timeline sample advice from experts & brides

132 Destination & Honeymoon destination wedding - great reasons to have one choosing a honeymoon destination

142 Real Weddings & Engagements melodie & gianni - engage christine & francis - engage

editor’s note ISSUE 9 Ultimate Planning Dear Readers, First allow me to say that we hope you all had a great holiday and happy New Year celebration. With a new year comes new beginnings and new changes. One of the changes that is occurring for the new year is a change in format for it’s about details. Instead of 4 great issues, this year you will be treated to 6 issues.

We hope you enjoy each of them as much as we enjoy creating them.

Speaking of new beginnings, we are certain that many people have begun a new beginning as a couple by getting engaged. That means lots of work ahead getting ready for your wedding. For this reason, we have dedicated our first issue of the year to planning. Planning the big day can be very difficult and is a lot of work. We hope that this issue is full of tips, tricks, advice, and resources to help you get through all the work and end up with a memorable and happy wedding day.

xoxo, Jason and Heather

Editor-in-Chief Jason Kimble

Executive Editor/Creative Director Heather Kimble

Photography Contributors Jim Cottingham Carrie Gromis

Style Contributor

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Beauty Contributor

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Music Contributor Nick Doak

Wedding Planner Contributor Michelle Tortuya Kris Membrino

Honeymoon Contributor Carlie Finch

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wedding day countdown

12 Months

4-3 Months

-Decide on your wedding budget and who’s contributing.

-Appraise and insure your engagement ring.

-Decide your wedding style and colors.

-Choose your wedding date and time.

-Interview and hire a wedding planner.

-Start envisioning your wedding dress.

-Choose and order groomsmen attire.

-Choose and order grooms attire.

-Research and choose a rehearsal dinner site.

-Choose and reserve all tables, chairs, and any other wedding rentals.

-Make all your honeymoon reservations-airfare, hotel for your wedding night.

-Put together hotel and city information for out- of-town guests.

9 Months -Choose your bridal party, ring bearer, flower girl, ceremony reader, etc.

-Interview and hire a caterer. Begin planning your reception menu.

-Finalize guest list.

-Decide on your wedding officiant.

-Look into any family customs or cultural traditions.

-Research centerpieces, flowers, décor, etc.

-Start your gift registry.

2-3 Months

-Purchase your accessories-jewelry, tiara, garter etc.

-Purchase wedding bands.

-Decide on your favors.

-Purchase all your under the dress essentials and take them to your dress fittings.

-Decide on special ceremony songs & readings.

-Book wedding day transportation.

6-8 Months

6 Weeks

-Choose and order bridesmaids’ dresses.

-Choose and order your wedding dress and veil.

-Research and book vendors, eg. florist, baker, DJ, photographer etc.

-Set aside blocks of hotel rooms for out-of-town guests.

-Order and send out save-the-dates.

-Research and buy wedding insurance.

-Order your wedding invitations and wedding announcements.

-Send out wedding invitations -Order ceremony programs and decide on your wedding vows.

-Submit your newspaper wedding announcement.

-Research local marriage license requirements.

-Schedule hair and makeup trial appointments.

-Purchase entire bridal party, parent gifts etc.

-Purchase and send out rehearsal dinner invitations.

3-4 Weeks -Purchase ceremony accessories.

-Confirm honeymoon reservations.

-Pick up marriage license and your wedding dress.

-Meet with your officiant & musicians and/or DJ to go over details.

-Create a wedding day schedule.

-Have your bridal potraits and/or boudoir photog- raphy session.

-Schedule wedding day hair and makeup appointments.

1-2 Weeks -Call guests who have not RSVP’d and make seating arrangements.

-Confirm all details with your reception site.

-Give guest count & confirm all details with your caterer and baker -Determine your receiving line.

-Confirm all details with vendors etc.

-Pack for your wedding night and honeymoon.

-Put final payments and tips for vendors in marked envelopes.

Day Before -Designate someone to mail out your wedding announcements on the wedding day.

-Pull together your wedding dress, all accessories, and emergency kit.

-Designate someone to drop off items to ceremony and reception sites -Get manicure and pedicure.

-Enjoy your rehearsal and rehearsal dinner!

-Set your alarm!

Wedding Day -Tell your parents how much you love them and thank them.

-Set aside time after your ceremony to have a private moment together.

-Enjoy your Wedding Day!

Q&A Q- I’m planning my wedding and getting a lot of opinions, ideas, and advice from friends and family! HELP! A- It might be overwhelming, but you seem to have many people who care about you and who want to help you! Listen to their ideas, opinions, and advice; remember you don’t necessarily need to take it. Some people may have great ideas and others not so great ideas. Respond to the not so great ideas, opinions, and advice politely by simply saying, “Thank you for your help, we really appreciate it, we already have something else in mind.”

Q- We can’t afford a wedding planner to help plan our wedding, but I want to hire one for the day of my wedding. Is it worth it?

A- YES! Hiring a wedding planner for just your wedding day is completely worth it.

They can take all the wedding day stress off of you and your family. They will make sure everything runs smoothly and correctly.

They will be the contact and go to person for all your other wedding vendors. That way you and your family can just simply enjoy the entire day from start to finish!

If you would like to have your questions answered, please send them to info@itsaboutdetails.com.

Comfort and Style!

“You don’t need to sacrifice style for comfort. You want both!

Especially while planning your wedding with touring venues, meeting vendors, tastings etc. Accessorize your favorite jeans and basic top with statement jewelry and cute black flats.”

-Heather Kimble Executive Editor/Creative Director

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Cornflower Blue Low Skinny Jeans H&M

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Black Long-Sleeved Jersey Top H&M

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Silver Gitane with Tassel Necklace Stella & Dot

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Nouvelle Ring Stella & Dot

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Faux Suede Black Flats Forever 21

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date night

Planning a romantic night H

aving a romantic date with your soon to be spouse is an important part of your relationship, especially as your wedding day approaches. Sometimes it is easy to get caught up in all you need to do and not enjoy the journey. This is why it becomes important that you take some time and have some really great romantic dates as the wedding approaches. Here are some tips for planning the perfect romantic date night.

• Think ahead. Plan something that both you and your date are going to enjoy equally. When planning it out keep in mind both the likes and dislikes of the people involved.

• Keep it simple. To have a romantic night, you don’t have to be doing something elaborate. Some of the more romantic evenings are the ones that aren’t cluttered with a lot of extras. Make it totally about you and your date. No matter where you go and what you do, enjoy the fact that you are there together.

• Have reservations. If you plan on going out, make sure you have reservations. Nothing can spoil a romantic date more than having to wait an hour for a table.

• Hold hands. Touching is one of the most intimate things a couple can do. Just the small gesture of holding each other’s hands helps keep the fire burning.

• Don’t talk about work or the wedding. One of the ways to keep the evening romantic is to keep stressful talk to a minimum. Talk about topics you both like, but stay away from the ones that have been causing you anxiety over the last few days, weeks, and months.

• Above all else, remember it’s the thought that counts. Sometimes

it’s not about having a fancy dinner with wine and candles. Surprising your spouse to be with their favorite take out and a movie is all you need to have a really romantic night. Turn the cell phones to silent and snuggle down and just immerse yourselves in each other. This it was romance is all about.

style & beauty

Trumpet - Similar to the mermaid, but flares out about mid-thigh.

A-line aka Princess - Fitted bodice with an A-line skirt. *Compliments any body type*

Ball Gown - Very traditional, fitted bodice and full skirt.

Mermaid - Hugs the body and flares out below the knee.

Sheath - Follows closely to the lines of the body.

Empire -Waistline site just below the bust as the dress flows down.

Bateau aka Sabrina - Follows the curve of the collarbone extending to both shoulders.

Halter - Strap wraps around the neck. Shoulders and arms are exposed.

Sweetheart - Neckline is shaped like the top of a heart. Can easily be with straps or without.

Scoop - A u-shaped neckline that dips to the bust.

Off the Shoulder - Neckline sits below the shoulders with straps or sleeves across the upper arms.

Strapless - No straps or sleeves. Usually a more structured and fitted bodice.

Sheer - Fitted bodice with a sheer fabric overlay from the bust to the collarbone.

Square - Neckline takes the shape of its namesake letter.

Queen Ann - Higher collar in the back. It opens to the lower front of the bust. Sometimes in a scoop, v-neck, diamond shape, etc.

One Shoulder - Strap goes across one of the shoulders.

V-neck - Neckline plunges in the shape of a “V�.

High Neck - Neckline above the collarbone with bare shoulders and arms.

Blusher

Flyaway

Elbow

Fingertip

Waltz

Chapel Cathedral

Prepping Beauty 6-12 Months - Start exercising: You’ll keep the stress away, feel better, and look better.

- Begin a good and consistent cleansing and moisturizing routine.

- Talk to your stylist about growing out your hair, cutting it drastically, or coloring now.

- Watch what you eat: Eat plenty of fruits and vegetables, while avoiding fried foods, processed foods, sugary drinks, etc.

- Lose weight (only if you want to!): Talk to you Doctor or nutritionist about creating a healthy weight loss plan.

- Start experimenting with makeup.

3-5 Months - Look into and start brightening up those pearly whites.

- Want a little extra color? Experiment with self-tanners.

- Keep stress away by having one night a week that has nothing to do with wedding planning.

- Work with a professional to get those killer eyebrows.

1-2 Months -

Get plenty of sleep.

Drink lots of water.

Continue exercising, eating right, and taking care of your skin.

Exfoliate and moisturize your hands, elbows, knees, and feet.

Fuller lashes? Look into all the options from lash extensions to mascaras.

Take care of your hands and feet with manicures and pedicures.

Day Before - Get a good night’s rest!

Wedding Day - Wear a robe or button up shirt while you have your hair and makeup done.

- Take a deep breath, relax, and have fun!

events

features

&competitions

If you would like it’s about details to attend or cover your event email Heather at hkimble@itsaboutdetails.com.

“Whose Table is it Anyway?”

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t was a brisk autumn afternoon and the stage was once again set for a friendly competition among some of the wedding planners and designers in the Philadelphia area. This was the 5th annual “Whose Table is It Anyway?” competition hosted by the Society of Wedding Planners. Much like last year there were many great designs by a variety of competitors that showcased the talents and creative ingenuity that they have to offer. Taking place again at the Phoenixville Foundry, it was a great event and everyone had a great time. Food was provided by J. Scott Catering. And at the end of it all when the smoke had settled, it didn’t matter who won or lost. It was a great time and it benefitted two great charities. This year the beneficiaries were the Philadelphia Theater Company and the MS Society of Greater Delaware Valley.

This year we took part in the tables with a wedding decor budget of over $10,000. Our theme/style was a rock n’ roll wedding. We pushed the theme/style to the edge with lots of dark colors, skulls, and all the glitz and glam that is rock n’ roll. It was a great mix of the chic and elegant with the edgy and non-traditional.

Part of the fun of these types of competitions is one’s ability to really step outside the box and do some things that are unique. It allows you to really take a chance and do things you wouldn’t normally see. All in all, we felt our table captured everything we were hoping for and more. We had a great time designing it.

Check it out, and all the other designs on page 61.

Competing Designers Blue Moon Florist Precise Events, Inc./Casa Papel Something Blu Weddings and Events Philadelphia Events Planners/AFR Furniture Rentals it’s about details Something New Weddings and Events South Jersey Party Rentals Groups Beautiful Beyond Dreams Creative Eventology Events by Katrina Gilbert/ALH Designs Aribella Events Wegmans Collegeville Eva E. Glassworks/Save Your Fork Mainline Event Planners/A to Z Party Rentals Vito Russo Team/Carl Alan Event Creations

Bridal Show Tips Bridal shows are a great way to meet various vendors, get ideas, win great prizes, see a fashion show, and just have fun. Shows may seem a little overwhelming at first, but with these tips you’ll have nothing to fear!

• Research and choose 1-3 shows to attend.

• Dress comfortably.

• Wear comfortable shoes – Leave those cute heels at home!

• Makes your own cards and labels that include your information (Name, fiancé’s name, address, email, phone number, wedding date, birthday, etc.)

• Enter to win all the contest and drawings that you are interested in. Stay until the winners are announced.

• Be sure to sample all the great food, drinks, cake, and desserts.

• Preregister and purchase tickets early (some tickets are FREE for brides!)

• If you have kids, it’s best to leave them with a sitter. Some shows get very crowded.

• Make if a fun all day outing. Bring your fiancé, mom, or closest friend (or all of them!)

Keeping it

TOGETHER G etting married is one of the greatest experiences a couple can have together. It is a beautiful experience and will create memories that will last a lifetime. Unfortunately, getting married can also be one of the most stressful things in your lifetime. There is so much to plan and so many things to be worried about. The hardest thing it seems is to have a great wedding and staying sane throughout the process.

Here are some things that you can do to help make it till your wedding day without letting the stress get to you.

• Get organized! The easiest way to avoid

stress is to stay organized. Get a binder and keep all of your planning tools together. Find a good checklist and keep it handy.

• Do your research! The internet is a power-

ful tool. Use it to find out all the things you will need to do before it’s too late.

• Take time to yourself! No matter how

overloaded you get and no matter how much you need to get done, it is important to take a step back and find the time to relax a little. It may be difficult, but just taking that time out will help you to keep your sanity. Go get a cup of tea at your local café, take a walk, or go get a manicure. Just take the time to yourself and leave your stress at the door.

• Take a time out! One of the best ways to avoid stress is to stop and evaluate the situation. Often times when deadlines are looming and catastrophes seem imminent, it is easy to get caught up and lose sight of things. Take a step back and rationalize the issues. Don’t get caught in the whirlwind.

When dealing with stressful situations there a variety of things you can do to help you cope with your stress. Here is a list of things you can do that will help you make it through your stressful times:

• Try keeping a stress journal. This is a great way to release your stress. Write down the things that are stressing you and the feelings you have. Not only will this help you to vent, but it will help you to track your stress and the causes of it.

• Get some sleep. Sleep is your body’s way of rejuvenating. When you are in stressful situations it is easy to forget to sleep. Sleeping will help keep you healthy and refreshed and make it easier for you to deal with the situations ahead of you.

• Try meditation. Sit in a quiet room with

your eyes closed. Empty your mind of all the things that are causing you stress. You can take this exercise further and add visualizations to your meditation. Visualize yourself somewhere happy. Whether it’s the beach with the sun streaming on your face, or at the top of a mountain; see yourself there. During your visualization try to incorporate all of your senses.

If you are visualizing yourself on the beach, think about how the sand feels on your feet, the warmth of the sun on your face, the smell of the salt air, and the sounds of the waves hitting the shore. Fully immerse yourself in your personal oasis.

• Get a massage. Most people carry tension

in the muscles of the neck and back. Getting a massage will help release that tension and make you forget about your stress. An alternative to massage is acupuncture.

• Exercise. When we exercise, our bodies release endorphins that create a natural high.

Besides all of the health benefits of exercising, working out also releases tension which will in turn decrease stress. And if you are not into going to the gym or lifting weights, yoga is a great alternative that will have the same effect..

stationery & favors Formal Invitation Wording -for every situationBride’s parent’s host: Mr. and Mrs. Warren Dunlap request the honour of your presence at the marriage of Elizabeth Sue and Mr. Robert James Evans Saturday, the twenty-second of June two thousand thirteen at five o'clock St. John Church Bala Cynwyd, Pennsylvania

Bride's parents, who are divorced and remarried, host the wedding together: Mr. and Mrs. Lawrence Frick and Mr. and Mrs. Warren Dunlap request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Elizabeth Sue Dunlap and Robert James Evans Saturday, the twenty-second of June two thousand thirteen at five o'clock St. John Church Bala Cynwyd, Pennsylvania

Bride's mother and stepfather host: Mr. and Mrs. Lawrence Frick request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of her daughter Elizabeth Sue Dunlap to Mr. Robert James Evans Saturday, the twenty-second of June two thousand thirteen at five o'clock St. John Church Bala Cynwyd, Pennsylvania

Bride's only living parent hosts: Mr. [Mrs.] Warren Earl Dunlap requests the honour of your presence at the marriage of his [her] daughter Elizabeth Sue to Mr. Robert James Evans Saturday, the twenty-second of June two thousand thirteen at five o'clock St. John Church Bala Cynwyd, Pennsylvania

Groom’s parent’s host: Mr. and Mrs. Jerry Jason Evans request the honour of your presence at the marriage of Miss [Ms.] Elizabeth Sue Dunlap to their son Mr. Robert James Evans Saturday, the twenty-second of June two thousand thirteen at five o’clock St. John Church Bala Cynwyd, Pennsylvania

Both the bride's and the groom's parents host: Mr. and Mrs. Warren Dunlap and Mr. and Mrs. Jerry Jason Evans request the honour of your presence at the marriage of Elizabeth Sue Dunlap and Robert James Evans Saturday, the twenty-second of June two thousand thirteen at five o'clock St. John Church Bala Cynwyd, Pennsylvania

Bride's parent’s host and groom's parent’s names are included: Mr. and Mrs. Warren Dunlap request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Elizabeth Sue and Mr. Robert James Evans son of Mr. and Mrs. Jerry Jason Evans Saturday, the twenty-second of June two thousand thirteen at five o'clock St. John Church Bala Cynwyd, Pennsylvania Families host together: Together with their families Miss Elizabeth Sue Dunlap and Mr. Robert James Evans request the honour of your presence at their marriage Saturday, the twenty-second of June two thousand thirteen at five o'clock St. John Church Bala Cynwyd, Pennsylvania

Bride and groom host: Miss [Ms.] Elizabeth Sue Dunlap and Mr. Robert James Evans request the honour of your presence at their marriage Saturday, the twenty-second of June two thousand thirteen at five o'clock St. John Church Bala Cynwyd, Pennsylvania OR The honour of your presence is requested at the marriage of Miss [Ms.] Elizabeth Sue Dunlap to Mr. Robert James Evans Saturday, the twenty-second of June two thousand thirteen at five o'clock St. John Church Bala Cynwyd, Pennsylvania

Bride's family members host: Mr. John Lee Dunlap requests the pleasure of your company at the marriage of his sister Elizabeth Sue to Mr. Robert James Evans Saturday, the twenty-second of June two thousand thirteen at five o'clock St. John Church Bala Cynwyd, Pennsylvania OR Mr. and Mrs. Philip Smith request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their niece Miss [Ms.] Elizabeth Sue Dunlap to Mr. Robert James Evans Saturday, the twenty-second of June two thousand thirteen at five o'clock St. John Church Bala Cynwyd, Pennsylvania

Choosing Favors -Charity-

We all have a cause that is close to our hearts. In lieu of a favor you can donate to a charity in the name of your guests. Place a note at each place setting that states you donated to a charity in their name.

-Double-Duty-

Have your escort cards double as favors. Miniature vases filled with fresh flowers or a candle in your favorite scent.

-Theme/Style-

Does your wedding have a specific theme/style? Play that up with your favors. For a Rock n’ Roll wedding consider custom guitar picks or wine stoppers for a vineyard wedding.

-Edible-

Everyone eats! Choose your favorite candies and create a candy bar. Package up your childhood favorites like chocolate chip cookies or mini apple pies.

-Seasonal-

Each season brings something special and almost exclusive.

Spring wedding – Plantable paper Summer wedding – Colorful hand fans Fall wedding – Candy apples Winter wedding – Hot chocolate mixes

-Locals-

If you’re having a destination wedding or just love you local town/city incorporate that into your favors. Like salt water taffy from Atlantic City, a deck of cards from Vegas, soft pretzels from Philadelphia, or Turkey Hill orange tea from Lancaster (PA).

-Personalized-

Do you love leaving personal touches? Do you have a beautiful custom monogram?

Give your guests a personalized favor box filled with something special or sweet.

Create a personalized CD with your favorite music. Create custom m&m’s or Hersey kisses.

forgotten details

Making a Toast For some this may be a ‘piece of cake’ for others it’s a terrifying thought. Then there are those who are in between. No matter what spot you fall into here are some helpful pointers to get you through.

• Keep it simple • Make it about 2-3 minutes • Be yourself!

• Practice, practice, practice!

• Leave out inside jokes, slang, and raunchiness • Don’t drink too much before your toast • Open with a quote or short poem • Tell them 10 things you love about one another • Keep thank-yous general with Mom, Dad, Family, and Friends • Don’t hold the mic to close • Hold the glass in your other hand

venue spotlight

Choosing A Venue Things to consider and the questions to ask

By Stephanie Berg of Morey’s Pier

S

o the perfect proposal took place, and it’s now time to start planning the day you’ve dreamt about since you were a little girl, or at least since you’ve known he’s “the one.” When choosing your wedding venue, there are many things to consider and it can be quite a daunting task. Following steps 1-5 below will help you narrow down your options of venues, and make the choice much easier.

Things to consider: 1) Scale:

First things first: that dreaded list of people that you have to narrow down. This is more important than you know for a few reasons. For starters, if you “think” you will have 200 people, and you are on a budget, you might actually be able to cut that list down to 150 people, and have more of a budget than you thought. You need to decide what’s more important to you; inviting your third cousin that you haven’t seen since you were 9, or the choice of food and venue. Everyone is different, and these are decisions you and your fiancé (with the help of your family if they’re chipping in) need to make. After making this list, you will also know automatically which venues can or can’t accommodate your size.

2) Knowing your limits:

After you know how many people you will be inviting, you should now have your budget made and know what you can and can’t afford. You need to know your limits. This could easily save you time and unneeded stress by only touring venues that fit into your budget and are willing to work within your means. There’s nothing worse than falling in love with a venue that you will never be able to afford or that can’t accommodate your party.

Stokesay Castle

3) Ceremony:

Will your ceremony be held at a church or on the venues property? If your ceremony is at a church, or anywhere offsite of your reception, choosing a venue location within a decent distance allows guests to get from A to B without getting lost or traveling too far.

4) Style:

Do you want an elegant black tie affair, a garden party, or maybe a semi-casual beach atmosphere? This is another important thing to consider when starting to look for your perfect location. Envisioning what your dream wedding will be like and sticking to that will help you narrow down your search tremendously. Just please keep in mind that if you’re thinking Aruba on a beach, grand-mom might not make it on a long flight, as well as friends and family may not have the means to come along for the party either, so there may be some other factors to keep in mind if you’re thinking abroad.

5) Photos

This is one of the most important days of your life and you need to make sure that you have perfect photo opportunities available to you from the beginning of your day to the very end. If your ceremony is offsite, something to consider is whether you’d want that time after the ceremony for photos someplace located in between the two sites, or get them taken at the reception venue. Or, if your ceremony takes place onsite, please keep in mind you will never have enough time to load the bridal party up and head to another location during the cocktail hour. Please consider this when choosing whether your ceremony site be at the venue, because 90% of your photos that you will cherish forever will be taken there.

Morey’s Pier

Spirit of Philadelphia

The questions to ask: For most couples planning their wedding, visiting different venues and agreeing on one that you both love and can afford can be an overwhelming task. To avoid hidden fees and going over budget, here are a few questions for you to both keep in mind while choosing your perfect venue:

1) Is there a fee for having my ceremony here? If so, what is it?

2) Do you offer a rehearsal the evening before the wedding?

3) Is this included in the ceremony fee?

4) What is the minimum requirement for a Saturday evening?

-Some may have a minimum of 150 people

5) Do you offer discounts for a Friday or Sunday wedding?

-This is always a good question to ask because your dream location may be way out of your budget and make you willing to compromise.

6) What is your maximum capacity?

7) Is there a site rental fee?

8) What about overtime charges if we want to stay later?

9) How many events take place at the same time?

-Some larger locations may have a few weddings going on at the same time and you want to be sure that this is something you don’t mind.

10) Is there a facility director, and will he or she be attending the wedding day?

-This will be your go-to person on the day of the wedding incase you have questions or emergencies.

Be sure to ask what they’re responsibilities are, and this may alleviate your need for a wedding planner services for the day of.

11) Do you offer us a tasting of the menu?

12 ) Who puts up the decorations and personal touches we provide for our day?

13) Would you be willing to exchange some of the foods on the menu and work on pricing?

-Most venues have more than one menu with different choices. If you want something on the menu that’s important to you, they may be willing to negotiate and/or exchange other food items that might be the same pricing. It never hurts to ask!

14) Can we choose our own vendors?

-This is an important question because some locations only allow you to use theirs, and you may have your heart set on a favorite dj, band or photographer.

14) Are there any hidden fees or extra costs that aren’t in the contract?

-Such as: if you see venue now with chair covers, pretty linens, certain décor. Or even a cake cutting fee, coat check or valet…. ask now so it doesn’t surprise you later.

15) Is our cake included in the package?

16) Can we bring in our own cake?

17) Will there be a hosted or cash bar?

18) Are there any restrictions or policies we need to be aware of before booking?

-Some venues don’t allow glass, candles, or may have noise ordinances, or even flash photography may not be allowed if you’re in a museum type setting.

19) What are the service charges added onto the menu price?

-Most places have a service charge of around 20%. This service charge pays the staff for the day. Be sure to have this in your head and be aware of it before you book, because it could add up to thousands. Don’t forget the tax!

20) Can you show me what my exact cost will be inclusive of everything?

The Garden Gables Inn

behind the scenes

all in the details Hair/Makeup: Kristen Bonifas of Mack Stylist Models: Gabrielle Cooper Dress: David’s Bridal Veil: Something Borrowed Bride

wedding inspiration

planning

You’re Engaged! { now what? { G

etting engaged can be one of the most exciting things that can happen in your life. Many of you have gotten engaged over the Holidays or New Year. Congrats! There is a lot that needs to be done and you may not know where to start. Here are some tips to help you figure out what to do next.

• Announce it!

This might seem really obvious, but sometimes it’s the obvious things that get overlooked.

Make sure you tell the people closest to you first, and then announce it more generally.

• Insure your ring! In most cases, your new engagement ring is worth a substantial amount of money.

Many times it is the fruit of months or even years of saving. If it were lost, stolen, or broken it could take a while to acquire enough money to replace it. Furthermore, the ring that you are now wearing on your finger is a symbol of your undying love and affection for each other, so regardless of total value it is important that you be able to replace it if it were lost or stolen.

• Introduce your families!

Start with your parents and immediate family. Make sure you introduce parents, grandparents, and any siblings you might have. That way they can also start to get to know each other.

Your marriage is a joining of two families, so it’s important to start that process early on.

• Decide your budget and who is contributing!

Budget is a key part of the wedding day. Once you determine how much you are spending it will help put together the rest of the event. It’s also good to know where you are getting the money. That way you don’t have any surprises when the bills come and there isn’t enough money.

• Start working on your guest list!

You may not be able to finalize this list right away, but it is important to at least have a rough draft put together. That way you can use this to determine your budget, or use your budget to determine your list. And when you work on your list, start broad then narrow down. Start by deciding the basics first. “Will we invite coworkers?” and “How far extended within extended family?” are two examples of the questions you can start with.

• Pick a date!

If not the exact date, at least pick the wedding month you would like to be married in. This when as you are beginning your research, you can decide on certain parts of the wedding based on your month. A good example is, if you are having a winter wedding and live in a colder climate, you can skip any venues that only offer outdoor spaces for your wedding day. This will save time and make things move faster. You can also ask venues if they have availability in the month you chose before you tour it to avoid looking at something that just won’t work.

• Research and book a ceremony and reception venue! This is important to

get done early on in the planning process. Venues tend to book up quickly and are the hardest thing to replace if your planned venue is already booked. Remember that, just like you, there are lots of other newly engaged couples looking for places to get married so getting in early will save you lots of aggravation. Also, make sure you look at venues that fit your needs. Do as much research as you can from the internet and on the phone. Make a list of venues you like and keep track of the details. Number of guest accommodated, place for the bride/groom to get ready, indoor or outdoor venue, exclusive vendors or open to all vendors, will your event be the only one there that day, fees and costs associated with the rental; these are just a few of the things you should be considering as you research the venue.

And be smart about where you take the time to visit. If you are researching and find a venue that only seats 100 people but your guest list is 150, don’t go look at it unless you are okay with trimming your guest list. Utilize all the information available to determine where you plan on visiting first, this way you won’t waste time with places that don’t work for you.

• Book a wedding planner/coordinator!

Whether you plan on using one for your wedding day, to help with the planning, or both; you should budget for one of these.

Wedding planners are invaluable during the day of as well as during the planning process. In many cases, having a planner can pay for itself as they are going to already know other vendors and be able to negotiate better prices to help you save money. Having their help is also going to eliminate a lot of stress and help you stay on course in regards to getting everything together in time for your wedding day.

• Register for gifts!

Doing this early on is a great idea. It is never really too early to start registering. You never know how early people will want to start shopping, and it is important to be registered before your engagement party and showers.

That way you don’t end up with a pile of surprise gifts. Also, when you are registering make sure you take the time and consider the items you are asking for. And don’t go crazy! Pick a couple of places to register and stick with those. You want to give your guests a variety of choices and options on what to get you, but you don’t want to go overboard with too many choices. Remember not to include your registry information in engagement party invitations and wedding invitations. Do not ask for cash and gift cards, but if these are things you really want, you can let guests know IF they ask you. Also, you can let your parents, siblings, and wedding party know, that way if a guest asks them; they can let the guest know your preference. While many people are going to give you that anyway, there are going to be people who really would rather buy you a physical gift. Check out the it’s about details honeymoon registry at www. itsaboutdetails.honeymoonwishes.com.

• Don’t stress! Enjoy the experience!

This is super important and also the hardest one to do. Remember that at the end of the day, the only thing that really matters is, that you and your spouse are married, happy, and in love. Outside of that there is nothing else quite as important. This day is supposed to be one of the most important and most memorable of your life. Make sure the memory is not of you worrying about your centerpieces, etc. Also, it is important to keep in mind that while you want your wedding day to be perfect, there are plenty of things that may be “wrong” that your guests would never know.

Wedding Music -10 tips to consider for your special dayby Nick Doak Photographer: Nikos Petrides Model: Vinny DeRenzis

1. What’s Your Style?

Is he a little bit country while you are a little bit Rock N’ Roll? Determining your specific unique style is no easy task. First, examine what you think your style is in a broader sense: traditional, modern, or a combination there of. A traditional wedding may include popular classical pieces, such as Pachelbel’s “Canon in D”, Bach’s “Jesu, Joy for a Man’s Desiring,” or Wagner’s “Bridal Chorus.” If you sway towards the modern side, then choosing a favorite pop song may be more fitting to compliment your ceremony. It is perfectly acceptable to mix and match songs of differing styles. After all, it is your special day.

2. “Your Song” The music represents you as a couple, and should reflect the style of your wedding. If you are having difficulty choosing music for the ceremony and reception events, just think of a favorite song or band that best describes your love for one another. Think back to special moments in your courtship that music may have played a significant role, i.e. first date, concert, prom night.

3. Research Online Today, brides-to-be have a vast resource to find ideas and inspirations for their wedding--the World Wide Web. Aside from consulting with friends and family, most brides surf the Internet for their wedding needs first. By simply searching “wedding music,” you are instantly given millions upon millions of different outlets to choose from. Between online wedding magazines, blogs, and YouTube, there is a plethora of information that can aid you in selecting music for your wedding.

4. Instrumentation With your song selections in mind, now you must decide what types of instrumentalists and/or vocalists you would like to have for the ceremony. Popular instruments and ensembles today include piano, organ, classical guitar, harp, flute, string ensemble, wind ensemble, and brass ensemble. Depending on your style and the venue for the ceremony, some options are more feasible than others. Professional musicians and ensembles with a functional website that provides audio samples and reviews will most likely be a safe choice for your wedding ceremony.

5. Ask a Musician If you are completely overwhelmed with where and how to select music for your wedding, do not hesitate to consult with local musicians. Any professional musician should be able to help you in selecting appropriate music for the ceremony. Describe your style to him or her and you will have the ceremony music planned in no time.

6. Structure Once you have determined your style and have chosen your songs, you must determine how the music will fit into your ceremony. Depending on the kind of wedding service you are having, a typical ceremony may include: 20-30 minutes of pre-service music, 1 song selection for the procession of bridal party, 1 song for procession of the bride, 1-2 song selections for specific events during the ceremony (optional), 1 song selection for the recession of the bride and groom, and 10 minutes of lively recessional music as guests exit the venue. Using this guide, you and your partner may only have to pick 3-5 songs for the ceremony.

7. DJ vs. Live Band Choosing a DJ or a live band will create two completely different vibes at your wedding reception. A 12-piece wedding band can be electrifying, but at the same time, an engaging disc jokey can also keep the guests dancing and satisfied all night. In either case, demand the highest quality from those you hire and expect whichever type of entertainment you choose will make your wedding memorable.

8. Variety Consider how much variety you want during your reception. A wedding band will be able to play to the style of your wedding, but may lack in the ability to play songs at request, unlike a DJ. An experienced DJ should have no problem providing great variety and flexibility throughout the night because of the computer software DJs use to keep the reception hopping and the dance floor bumping.

9. Venue Do not forget to take into account the size and location of your ceremony and reception when selecting songs for your wedding. Certain songs might not be appropriate depending on what instrumentalist you hire. It is often difficult to hear instrumentalists during an outdoor ceremony. In many cases, amplification and an electrical outlet will be needed. In addition, the size of the reception is especially important to consider when hiring a live band. A small, low ceiling room is not an ideal venue for a wedding band.

On the other hand, a DJ should be able to adapt to any size room.

10. Budget Generally, bands cost more than DJs, especially ensembles with 7-15 musicians. A professional wedding band, depending on the number of people, may cost $3,000-$15,000, while a typical DJ may cost $800-$1,500. Between the ceremony and reception, you can expect to spend a conservative $1,200-3,000 to have music at your wedding.

Why Hire A Wedding Planner?

12 Reasons You Should!

by Kris Membrino

You’re engaged! Now what? Not sure where to start? Hiring a wedding planner for assistance with your wedding and day-of coordination can save you and your families’ a lot of stress leading up to the big day along with several other benefits.

1. Make your vision a reality.

Many people already have a vision for their wedding in their head, but the challenge is taking all your ideas and turning them into an event. A wedding planner is able to work with you on the big picture, share examples of what other couple’s have done and personalize your wedding to fit your style.

2. Organize your ideas and fit to your wedding theme.

Many brides use web sites like Pinterest or Lover.ly to find ideas for their wedding, but not all the ideas directly apply to their wedding or don’t fit the theme of their event. A wedding planner can help tailor these ideas into details for your wedding and incorporate into the event in a way that fits best.

3. Stay within your budget.

Now that you have your ideas and vision together, it’s time to create your event and stay within your budget. Your wedding planner is there to make sure everyone is staying within their means and also helps with budget allocation. Brides always wonder, “How much should I be spending on certain aspects of my wedding?” Every budget allocation is different. The important part is making sure that large portions are being used towards the items that are most important to you. Some couples value their photographs more than the food or the music more than the flowers. It is different for every couple and that is what makes every wedding unique. If you decide to spend more on certain items, your wedding planner will help allocate funds and keep you on track so you don’t go over your budget.

4. Keeping peace within your family.

Weddings have a tendency to make people a little stressed. Your wedding planner is there to help! He or She is able to stay a neutral party and listen to all ideas or suggestions from family members and friends throughout the wedding process. The wedding planner can then apply ideas or suggestions as they see fit for your event. Not all ideas will be used, but all are heard so everyone will feel included in the planning process.

Wren & Field Photography

5. Assisting with setting up your wedding vendors.

Not sure where to host your wedding ceremony or reception? Worried that your florist or caterer is quoting too high? Your wedding planner should have a list of “preferred vendors� that he or she can suggest for your event. Or they will go through contracts that are already in place, ask the questions that and assist with finalize all vendors for your wedding.

6. Receive discounts!

A lot of vendors give discounts to wedding planners and coordinators to give incentives for using their services and products for more events. Your wedding planner will be able to discuss these discount offerings with your vendors and suggest it when possible.

7. Putting together your Wedding Day schedule.

Your wedding planner will not only be there for you on the day of your wedding, they will also organize the entire day for you and your vendors. From the hair appointments in the morning to the cutting of the cake, every detail will be organized on a customized wedding day schedule for all your vendors to follow. Vendors can contact the Wedding Planner on that day instead of a family member or the bride or groom. No one likes a bride with a cell phone, it does not normally go with your wedding attire.

8. Making final payments and tipping your vendors.

Instead of having a parent, sibling or bridal party member in charge of tipping or final payment for your wedding vendors, your wedding planner can handle this for you. He or she will be in charge of getting payments or tips to the correct vendors throughout the entire day of your wedding so your family & bridal party can enjoy the day without having any duties.

Wren & Field Photography

9. Keeping you and your family stress-free on the day of the wedding.

There is a lot going on the day of the wedding so you want to make sure everyone is staying on schedule and staying calm. Your wedding planner is there to help the couple stay on schedule, but also the family and bridal party. He or she is there to assist with lost or forgotten items, emotional family members and anything anyone needs throughout the day. This may mean running back to the hotel to get the marriage license that was left in the bridal suite before the wedding ceremony. For another couple, help an over whelmed mother of the bride put on her shoes. Your wedding planner is there to make sure you and your family can relax and enjoy the day.

10. Making your big day come to life.

Your wedding planner has either been with you from the beginning or brought on during the planning process. Either way, that person knows what you want and what you envision for your wedding. Your wedding planner will check every detail the day of your wedding and take care of decisions so you don’t need to worry.

11. Bringing your personal items & gifts back to the hotel.

In some instances, your wedding planner will collect your personal items like your framed photos, purse or bag and gifts at the reception venue and bring them to the hotel for you. By handling this for you, you’re able to get back in the limo or shuttle and enjoy your wedding night! Then they are able to pick up their larger items the next day at the reception venue, but not worry about anything happening to their personal items and gifts the night of the wedding.

12. Have an ally and a friend throughout your planning process.

Wedding planners are there for the bride and groom throughout the entire planning process. Whether you need someone to help you make a decision about your flowers, pick up umbrellas in case they are predicting rain or vent about your future mother-in-law, wedding planners are there to help or just listen. Wedding planners are honored when hired for weddings because it is a very special time in a person’s life and they become very close to the couple during the process.

Ceremony Details We had the chance to ask Reverand Ann Fuller some questions all about the details that go into and make a ceremony. Reverand Ann Fuller is a Community Minister affirmed by a Unitarian Universalist congregation. As such, she is able to provide independent wedding officiating as part of her responsibilities and she has the honor of presiding over religious, spiritual and secular ceremonies.Reverand Ann Fuller is based in Florida, but has officiated ceremonies in other states as well. She teaches a marriage preparation class and is collaborating on an officiant training program that will be available throughout the United States, hopefully within the next year. She helps officiants write custom rituals upon request. Reverand Ann Fuller has officiated over 400 weddings of all types and sizes since June 2006. Visit her website for even more information www.brevardminister.com.

Q - What is the basic breakdown, contents, and components of a wedding ceremony?

Human beings invest more emotional meaning into life’s transitions when we ritualize them. A couple can certainly make a private commitment to one another intended to last a lifetime, but marking the occasion with the pomp and circumstance of a public wedding highlights a specific point in time for friends and family as well as for the couple. It conveys the change in social status, in a highly visible way, from single individuals to a married couple – long considered the foundation of our family social structure.

Although the ritual of the wedding ceremony is shared by most cultures, the details of the ritual can vary dramatically. In the United States, to be considered legally married, the couple must simply express their intent to be married (the vows) while in possession of a valid marriage license in the presence of an individual authorized by the state to affirm the two have been joined in married. Everything else is optional.

While couples marrying within some denominations may be limited to their faith’s Rite of Marriage, the contemporary independent wedding ceremony can usually be constructed in virtually limitless ways. Couples can work with their officiant to craft an Order of Service meaningful to them and their families.

Q - What is the difference between a religious officiant and a civil officiant?

In terms of satisfying the legal requirements with respect to the marriage license, there is no difference.

Clergy act as an agent of the state when signing the certificate of marriage affirming the couple have been joined legally in marriage.

Both clergy and civil officiants have the legal authority to solemnize marriage in all 50 states. However, the definition and qualification of both types of officiant depends upon state law. For example, notaries public are authorized to solemnize marriage in just three U.S. states and internet ordinations are prohibited for such purposes in some areas. As the marriage license and the authority of the person signing the license determines the legality of the marriage rather than the wedding ceremony itself, couples should always familiarize themselves with the state laws governing marriage in the state where the wedding will take place.

In general, religious officiants are typically ordained clergy affiliated with a particular religious denomination while civil officiants are qualified to solemnize marriage in their state, but are not ordained clergy.

Q - What is the difference between a religious ceremony and civil ceremony?

Either type of ceremony will render the couple legally married only if they are also in possession of a valid marriage license issued by the state. Religious ceremonies are typically presided over by clergy and include religious content such as prayer, scripture and religious rites specific to the denomination. Civil ceremonies are every bit as lovely and meaningful, but simply use secular language and elements rather than religious.

Many couples today opt for a middle ground and choose a “spiritual” ceremony in which a religious feeling is evoked, sacramental language such as “sacred covenant” or “holy matrimony” is used, but no specific religious doctrines concerning marriage are referenced.

However, when seeking the services of an independent officiant, it is generally not terribly difficult to find clergy who also perform civil ceremonies and civil officiants who will perform a religious wedding. No independent officiant would be offended if asked what types of ceremonies they are willing to perform. Independent officiants can usually serve a broader range of people because they are not responsible to a denominational or judicial authority. They must possess the legal authority to solemnize marriage within their state, but are generally free to work with anyone they so choose. Clergy whose denominations do not restrict their ability to officiate weddings and actively provide these services to non-members (like me) would be considered independent officiants when in that role.

Q - How should couples choose vows?

I encourage couples to give serious consideration to their vows, as they should be a meaningful pledge they honestly believe they will make every effort to fulfill every day for the rest of their lives. The vows constitute the beginning of the marriage and provide for the foundation of the couple’s life together.

While I generally write the majority of the ceremony, the vows and the ring exchange are two places within the wedding where the couple must choose what they want to say. A good officiant can help guide a couple through their options, but ultimately these are promises they make to one another and should be regarded as such. Even if the couple chooses the traditional, “for better and for worse,” they should at least spend time reflecting upon what their vows mean in practical terms.

Q - What advice do you have for couples who choose to write their own vows?

Most couples who intend to write their own vows are generally enthusiastic about the prospect and already have some idea of what they would like to say. Those who seek my guidance seem to appreciate a simple little formula.

Express your feelings to your partner. (“I love you with all I am.”)

Indicate your intention to make a lifelong commitment. (“I am honored to join my life with you as your husband/wife.”)

Make realistic promises you feel define your primary responsibilities as a spouse. (“I pledge to …”)

And then scour the internet for samples you can cut, paste and edit until they feel uniquely your own. It really isn’t necessary to reinvent the wheel if you don’t feel like a confident writer.

Q - What type of unity symbols/rituals can be incorporated in the wedding ceremony?

Anything you can possibly imagine. While the Unity Candle and Sand Ceremony are probably the two most popular rituals, anything that can be blended, mixed or joined together can be used in unity ritual. I have had couples use shells (modified sand ceremony), cords (knot ceremony), wine, flower seeds, plants, salt and pepper, etc. for unity symbols. A good officiant should be able to write a unity ritual using whatever symbols the couple find meaningful. Such rituals are usually placed immediately after the ring exchange within the ceremony as they are visible metaphors for what the couple has just done ritually—join individual lives together in a partnership.

Additionally, couples today are opting for rituals that carry the symbolism a little bit further and include Rituals of Sharing and Rituals of Reconciliation within their wedding ceremonies. Rituals of Unity express the symbolism of two individuals coming together in a partnership while Rituals of Sharing take that a step further and illustrate what it means in practical terms—the couple intend to be there for one another in both good times and in bad. Rituals of Reconciliation are for couples who have a realistic expectation of marriage and understand there will come a time when they are not quite as thrilled with one another as they are on their wedding day. These rituals give the couple something to do during times of conflict that will ease tensions by reminding them of their wedding and the reasons they chose to marry.

Every once in a while, I will get a request from a couple that requires we create an entirely new ritual, perhaps one that is not easily categorized. These rituals are a lot of fun and a great way for the couple to express themselves in the context of their wedding ceremony.

Q - What’s your advice for couples selecting ceremony readings?

Short and sweet!

Couples should only pick readings they believe capture how they feel about one another and their views of marriage. If they can’t find anything that jumps out at them as particularly appropriate, they shouldn’t bother including any readings at all.

If they have anyone besides their officiant read, they should obtain the reader’s agreement well in advance of the ceremony and make sure the person has the text ahead of time to rehearse.

Q - What do they need to become legally married?

Marriage law is determined by state statute in the United States. The couple should check the laws in the state where the ceremony will take place and obtain their marriage license under that state’s laws. If one lives in Virginia, the other is stationed in Texas, and they are getting married in Montana…know Montana state law!

In generally, the couple will need to obtain a marriage license from the state, hire an officiant who satisfies the legal requirements, and schedule their ceremony to be held during the valid dates on the marriage license.

Q - What advice do you have for couples overall while preparing and making decisions about their wedding ceremony?

Oh, I could go on for hours! And I have on my blog.

The wedding ceremony should reflect the couple’s personalities, their regard for one another, and their expectations for their marriage. I encourage couples to work closely with an officiant they trust to develop a ritual that does just that.

Couples should give no thought whatsoever to the length of their ceremony. Weddings outside of some types of religious services rarely last longer than fifteen to twenty minutes. The individual elements within a wedding: readings, vow exchange, blessings, unity ritual, song, ritual of conclusion, do not individually take much time at all. Anything the couple includes in their wedding or drops from their wedding will not add or subtract more than a minute or two to the ceremony.

The focus should be on what they find meaningful. If they encounter an idea that leaves a lump in the throat or brings tears to the eyes, they should include it! If someone enthusiastically tells them about a ritual seen at a wedding recently, but it evokes no emotional response whatsoever—don’t do it.

Let’s be honest. The majority of wedding guests sit through the ceremony for the reward of the reception. Couples who keep the focus on what truly matters: their unique personalities, love for one another, and decision to create a life together will engage their guests. A “generic” ceremony or a “spectacle” will lose a guest’s attention faster than you can say, “I do.”

“We tell our brides to make sure they don't do any running around on wedding day. It causes stress and it reflects on their pictures and overall wedding day experience. Have someone come to you and pamper you on your special day. Oh and waterproof makeup is a MUST! We recommend Airbrush waterproof makeup.”

- Carolina Velasco, Hair to Eternity~ Special day

“ Videography is a must. I have client regret not having one DURING their wedding it’s different than photography because it records the ceremony vows, speeches, and captures the mood in a way photography cannot. Wedding videos make even strangers cry. It’s a total different experience than photography.”

- Annie Lee, Daughter of Design

“Have your wedding planner make you little doggy bags of your dinner & your cake. Many times you get so caught up in visiting & thanking guests, you don’t get a chance to eat your meal or cake you worked so hard picking out!

Then you have a little treat when you get back to your room.”

Advice...

- Better Half Weddings & Events, Inc. “Only invite the people you really want there so you don’t have to sacrifice quality for quanity. And follow the R rule… Reasearch, Referrals, Reviews, References… and CHECK THEM!” - Lisa Light, Destination Bride, LLC

“Don’t let others press you into doing something that you are uncomfortable with or that doesn’t reflect your style and personality.

And “others” includes wedding planners and wedding vendors...not just family or friends. Have a voice in your planning process, but be open to suggestions from wedding professionals. Rely on them for the experts that they are but don’t be afraid to speak up and politely say ‘no’.”

- Taylor, TaylorMade Weddings

“When matching colors that need to be given to various vendors, swing by the paint department at a local hardware store and pick up some paint chips, as they’re FREE!” - Wendi Saposnek, SweeTreats Cake Boutique

“Brides should make sure they get and keep their skin in the best condition prior to the wedding. Six months prior I recommend getting monthly facials to ensure that their skin is smooth and clear.

Also, getting a nice overall body exfoliation service to help them have that bridal glow on their special day.”

- Stefanie Savino, Bella Rococo Hair & Makeup Artistry

from the Experts!

“Planning your wedding is about one special day, but how well you plan together will last a lifetime and set you on a path to a wonderful and long lasting marriage filled with many more special days ahead.”

- Sherries, Stylish Weddings & Things

“My advice is to plan 50% more time than expected for EVERYTHING. If you think that Makeup will take 1 hour, plan 1 hour 30 minutes. If you think the ceremony will be 30 minutes, plan for 45 minutes. Everything always runs late and stress on your wedding day is the number one thing you should be avoiding. So, plan more time so that you can take it all in properly.”

- Isabella, Ella Photography/Boudoir & Weddings “Try not to get too overly attached to details and lose sight of the bigger picture. Cultivate an adaptable attitude if you tend towards perfectionism, because nothing in life is ever a guarantee. A flawless wedding is a rare thing indeed. But with the right attitude and a little creativity, the wedding will still be fabulous.”

- Rev. Ann Fuller, Brevard Minister

“Relax. It’s about the love, not matching favours. If something is stressing you, consider if you should change to something else or be left out completely. And hire a planner.”

- Lavina, The Bride

“Hire a wedding planner, or dayof coordinator.”

- Lauren, The Bride

Advice...

“Do your homework. You do not need to pay full price to get equal quality. And not sweat the small stuff. Nobody likes a Bridezilla and it is not our right to be one. Accept that things happen and be ready to make amendments to your plans. Trust that happiness will ensue and you will have the best day of your life.”

- Fiona, The Bride

“As much as possible, splurge on food and photo-video, save on everything else.”

- Amond, The Groom

from the Real Brides!

“Shop around you can always find things cheaper.”

- Paula, The Bride

“Be open and honest about your budget with your planner from the very beginning. It will make the planning process go smoother and eliminate unwanted surprises!”

- Samantha, The Bride

Reception Timeline -SampleSample Reception Timeline: Five hour seated dinner 7:00pm Cocktail Hour 8:00pm Guests enter reception 8:15pm You, your wedding party, and parents are introduced 8:25pm Blessing or welcome speech 8:30pm Dinner is served 8:45pm Toasts – Starting with the best man 9:00pm First dance 9:05pm Father-Daughter dance 9:10pm Mother-Son dance 9:15pm Bridal party dance 9:25pm Dancing 9:45pm Cake cutting 9:55pm Dancing 10:15pm Bouquet toss and garter toss 10:30pm Dancing 11:50pm Last dance 11:55pm Grand exit

Deciding on

Photography H

by Carrie Gromis

iring a good photographer for your wedding day will result in beautiful memories to last a lifetime. On the other hand, a bad wedding photographer can ruin your special day. Ask any cross section of married couples, and you will undoubtedly hear some photographer horror stories. To make the decision process a little easier, as well as prevent your own wedding nightmare, it is important to ask the right questions. Preparation is key!

Research, get referrals from friends, and ask around. Simply typing into Google “wedding photographer” is where most people start, but it can produce generic results. Get a feel for what type of images you like, take note of your favorites, and determine the style that best fits you.

Before you meet with your potential photographer…

Just as you will have questions for your photographer, they will undoubtedly have questions for you. Anticipating some basic questions will prevent the “I’ll have to get back to you on that” which usually results in delays and frustration.

If you are having a traditional ceremony, ask the officiant that will be marrying you if the photographer is allowed to use flash.

Almost every ceremony is different, proficient and skilled photographers expect this. Some venues place heavy restrictions on photographers, where they can or cannot go during certain parts of the wedding, if they can or cannot use flash, and sometimes even at what specific points flash photography may be used.

Having a general timetable in mind can help determine when you will need photographer coverage. Leave ample time before and after the ceremony for photo sessions; but expecting your photographer arrive four hours before the ceremony to take preparation pictures can be a little much. Likewise, if your photographer begins shooting at 8am, and your reception is scheduled to carry on until midnight, that’s a sixteen-hour day of shooting.

Remember to build time into the schedule for the group shots you want. It can be helpful to write out a specific and detailed list of each shot you want. Compare that list to how much time you have allotted for these photographs; if you want 45 different group set ups, but only allow half an hour, things will run late.

Finally, consider whether you would prefer prints or printable image files from your photographer. Each photographer has a different method for delivering your images, attributed mostly to the shift from film to digital imagery. Before you meet your photographer, have an idea of what you would like. Some photographers are steadfast in dealing solely with one method or the other.

When you meet your potential photographer…

If you have done your homework, the first meeting with your potential photographer will go smoothly. You can begin to determine whether your personalities mesh well, which will ultimately lead to a more pleasant photographic experience on your special day.

Every good photographer has a particular style. These can fall into broad categories such as artistic, journalistic, or traditional, for example. When you meet your photographer, it is a great time to discuss what style of photography you are expecting. Maybe the idea of setting your dress on fire, or jumping into the ocean fully clothed isn’t your style. On the contrary, maybe the idea of rigid poses and traditional group shots isn’t your cup of tea. If you fall into either of these situations and your photographer is more of the opposite, chances are there will be a clash of style and a fragmented result. When a photographer enjoys the style of images they are creating, it shines through in the end result.

Knowing what you want while not being overbearing can be a fine line. Providing sample images of what you like is very different from providing a sixpage list of specific images you need. You should choose a photographer that you trust to do their job of creating beautiful photos without micromanaging them.

The final question…

How much will everything cost?

Cost can be directly related to what you want. There are photographers who will travel a certain distance, shoot your wedding, and hand you a disc of images at the conclusion of the day. A photographer who provides proofs, edits each of your choices, and prints your images tend to be more expensive than one who will provide an edited disc or drive of your images for you to print.

Ask how the photographer will provide your images before you make your decision.

There is no shortage of couples posting on Craigslist looking for a wedding photographer for a couple hundred dollars. Keep in mind that, generally speaking, you get what you pay for. A friend who got a brand new camera that volunteers to shoot your wedding probably won’t have the skill set that a seasoned wedding photographer would.

Of course, there are always more questions to be asked while building a positive rapport with your wedding photographer. Don’t hesitate to ask! Chances are if you have chosen a good photographer, they will be able to anticipate any questions that might arise throughout the wedding planning process.

destination & honeymoon

5 Great Reasons to have a

Destination Wedding!

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estination weddings are a fun and exciting way to get married. They allow you to take your big day on the road and have your event at exciting and unique locations. Is a destination wedding right for you? Here are 5 great reasons to consider having a destination wedding

1. Quality time with friends and family. Generally speaking destination weddings are not a one day event. The bridal party and the guests usually arrive at the event location at least a few days in advance.

This allows you, as a bride or groom, to have a lot more time to spend one on one with your guests. You can take part in activities, go out to eat, or just hang out; but this allows you spend more meaningful time with your guests. Destination weddings also tend to be smaller and more intimate. That means that on your big day, instead of having to make your way through a room of 250 people to make sure you get in all your face time, you may only be dealing with 40 or 50 guests.

2. Less expensive. Many times, because the guest list will be smaller, the overall cost of the wedding will

be lower. Most destination wedding locations offer a variety of wedding packages from the simple to the extremely elaborate. No matter how elaborate your big day is, the smaller guest list means the costs will definitely be lower than a larger guest list.

3. All Inclusive. Destination weddings can take place anywhere; however, most of them are at many beautiful resorts. This means all sorts of activities, and exciting things to do with your guests. In many cases, these activities are already included in your costs. It also means that, in most cases, you don’t have to worry about paying for food and drinks throughout your stay. The best part is that the moment the wedding ends; your honeymoon can begin. You don’t have to worry about rushing from the reception site to a hotel, or catching a flight to get to your honeymoon, because you are already at your honeymoon destination.

4. Fresh, locally authentic fare. One of the best things about a destination wedding is that you can

incorporate the fresh local fare that the area is known for into your big day. Having a coconut or a banana fresh off a tree at a tropical destination or having fresh caught fish to dine on really adds to the thrill of the day. No matter the destination, there are things that are local and can be unique to your event. Serving your guests fresh Maine lobster or Dungeness crabs in Maryland are just some of the ways to make their experience extremely memorable.

5. Less Stress. Having a destination wedding will truly cut down on the stress of the big day. Because you are doing everything remotely, it forces you to hand the reigns over to the highly trained wedding professionals employed by or recommend by your event location and wedding planner. Another reason remote planning helps cut the stress is you don’t have time to over analyze your decisions. The final look of the event space is going to be a semi surprise since in many cases you have not seen all of the details in person.

This way you don’t spend hours looking at the color swatches thinking “Should I go with the cornflower blue or the sea foam green napkins?”

How to choose a honeymoon destination

by Carlie Finch Photography: Kristyn Hogan

With all the places to go in the world it can be so overwhelming to decide which spot is the best for the two of you. So much attention goes towards the wedding planning you want to make sure the honeymoon will be that once in a lifetime experience. The best option depends on your budget, likes, and interests. What type of couple are the two of you? Are you an adventurous or a romantic couple?

Choosing the best honeymoon destination should not be an afterthought. If the wedding is memorable, make your honeymoon equally unforgettable. Your honeymoon destination should represent you both as a couple.

If you’re just beginning to think about honeymoons, or stuck in a bit of a muddle about yours, then why not contact a honeymoon travel consultant to help with your planning? Using a honeymoon travel consultant can benefit the two of you when deciding the destination. Honeymoon consultants, with their expertise and information, can help plan the most unforgettable dream honeymoon of your life. Choosing a honeymoon destination can be so overwhelming, but after reading this hopefully you will have more of an idea of where you want to go and why to invest in using a honeymoon consultant.

With the expertise of traveling around the world a honeymoon travel consultant can guide you in deciding the best option for the two of you. Often visiting destinations most requested by clients. They can tell you about destinations and resorts based on their experiences. With their connections and relationships with resorts they can make sure all extra perks are added for your honeymoon. Clients frequently get room upgrades upon availability, surprises in their rooms, and much more. A good honeymoon consultant will contact a resort ahead of your arrival to verify you will be taken care of during your stay.

What type of couple are you?

For couples want to unwind a soothing massage is very relaxing after many months of wedding planning.

This is the perfect time couples can unwind after the big event. They can a trip to a wellness spa and rejuvenate their spirits. A romantic dinner can follow the comforting spa experience. For a romantic couple a tropical retreat is a good choice. Couples can receive a private resort and stay there during the entire honeymoon vacation. Steamy nights on the beach will surely attract romance. Various activities are enjoyable and available at the beach. Some couples are concerned with being bored at a tropical getaway. They could try island hopping, sunbathing, scuba diving, and dancing. An adventure seeking couple loves spending their time in the middle of rain forest, top of the hill, or even in the jungle. Their adventurous hearts wanted them to feel the excitement and romance in these places. Expert says that exploring the beauty of other places strengthens the relationship of newlyweds.

How long do the two of you want to take your honeymoon and when are you going?

It’s easy to forget how much time is lost getting to your honeymoon destination – once you factor in flights, a two-week trip suddenly becomes ten days if you’re going to Australia. You don’t want to spend ages getting to your honeymoon. You want an adequate amount of time to wind down and enjoy yourself before heading home again. Time of year Chances are, you’ve already booked your wedding date or at least know roughly when it’s going to be. This will undoubtedly have an impact on where you can go –for example, if you’re getting married in June and have your heart set on a beach honeymoon in Thailand, you’ll need to head to the Gulf Coast islands in order to avoid the worst of the rains.

Budget Your budget decides your options. When using the right honeymoon consultant they shop around and find the best rates and most of the time has access to special rates. And even-better there are NO HIDDEN FEES with certain honeymoon consultants. The majority of the time you’ll probably be spending more money on your honeymoon than you would on a typical vacation.

The wedding is about celebrating the beginning of your new lives with your family and closest loved ones and the honeymoon is the celebration of the two of you alone celebrating the beginning of the rest of your lives, relaxing or exploring in whatever the two of you enjoy the most.

real weddings & engagements

Melodie & Gianni October 18th, 2012 Carrie Lorraine Photography

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elodie and Gianni met at his family restaurant, Casa Carollo Bar & Grill in New Jersey, where she had worked as the hostess. They recently celebrated their six year anniversary on November 22nd, 2012. They proposal took place on Melodie’s birthday, at her aunt’s house. Melodie and her family had just finished dinner and Gianni got down on one knee and asked her to be Mrs. Carollo! Melodie’s mother, aunt, uncle, cousins, and grandparents were all there. It was a very sweet proposal and they are very excited to grow old together! They wedding is set for November 23rd, 2013.

Congratulations!

-10 Things they love about one anotherGianni

loves...

her wittines. her cooking. her free spirit. her smile.

Melodie

loves...

his laughter at her jokes. his cleaning up after her cooking. his ambition. the way he makes her smile.

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love...

the thought of getting old together. how much they love each other.

Christine & Francis November 11th, 2011 that guy stan {PHOTOgraphy} Erica Does Makeup

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hristine and Francis went to SUNY Stony Brook together. They were both members of the Philippine United Student Organization. For years they never really spoke or hung out. It wasn't until their last day at Stony Brook when Christine realized he was pretty cool and fun to be around. Francis started calling her after graduation.

They had phone conversations that lasted hours, and soon enough Christine became his girlfriend. That was over 8 years ago and now Christine can't wait to be the wife of this playful, charming, hilarious guy.

Francis had invited his sister over for brunch. Christine didn’t have to time to tidy up that morning so she made him clean, which she was sure that was NOT part of his plan. He had music playing, the TV was on, and he bought Moet so we could make Mimosas. Francis was being silly, taking pictures and videos of all the food they were preparing. Christine couldn’t help but notice he was more excited than usual about this meal but she figured he’s always taking pictures of food anyway.

Francis finished making the bacon. His hands were completely free. In Christine narrow kitchen, he stood there resting his hands on her counter, looking at her, and asks, “Boo can you get the eggs out of the fridge?” Christine’s hands were completely full. She was holding the waffle iron open with one hand, and was pouring batter in with the other hand, She have a towel draped over her shoulder. Christine was thinking, “What the heck?” She let it slide, put everything down and opened the fridge. On top of the eggs, Christine saw a ring box. She abruptly closed the fridge thinking she was imagining things! She turned and looked at Francis and he was already crying. Then Christine started with the, “Oh My God” and tears. They opened the fridge, took the ring out and Francis got down on one knee. The rest is history! They wedding is set for September 1st, 2013.

Congratulations!

-10 Things they love about one anotherFrancis

loves...

that she’s intelligent. that she’s an angel. that she’s thoughtful. that she’s caring. that she’s compassionate. that she’s humble. that she’s independent. that she’s open-minded. that she’s strong-willed. that she’s beautiful.

Christine

loves...

that he’s HILARIOUS. that he’s really close with his family. that he goes to church. that he’s not afraid to be silly. that he’s sweet and thoughtful. that he dresses well. that he’s got a great smile. that he loves food as much as I do. that he’s adventurous. that he gets along great with all my friends.

d.i.y spotlight

d.i.y Pros and Cons of

pros:

• • It can be less expensive. Sometimes buying things that are made by someone else tends to have significant mark up and labor fees that can be avoided by doing it yourself.

• It feels more personal. Doing it your self will add that personal touch to the wedding day.

• It can be used as a fun group activity. You can turn your DIY project into a date night or a night with a few friends where you all work toward an ultimate goal.

• It can be fun. Many times these DIY projects can be a lot of fun. And it is always great to learn how to do something new.

cons: • It can be more costly. We know that this contradicts the pro, but there are many cases were DIY can actually cost more than getting it done by a professional. In many cases, they have ways to get there materials at a lower cost than the average consumer. And some mistakes can also significantly raise the cost.

• Time can be an issue. If you are “DIY-ing” something that is very involved, the amount of time you spend may not be worth the potential savings. If you are doing favors for 250 guests yourself and have to tie 250 bows, this could take up a lot of the little free time you have.

• You are not a professional. Because you are an amateur doing the job of a professional, the final product might suffer. And since you are no pro, there are bound to be mess ups. This will also add to the cost and time issues.

• It can add to your over all stress. Knowing that you have to do the project and worrying about completing it on time and to your standards can really add to the stress of an already stressful time.

professional spotlight

What to Look for in a Professional Trista Lerit Photography

Michelle Tortuya, owner of The Charming Little Event Company

by Michelle Tortuya

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irst comes the beautiful and anticipated proposal, then the acceptance, some announcements, maybe a party – and then there are some serious, time-consuming tasks to be addressed after the thrill of getting engaged!

Your team of wedding professionals will be a crucial part of a day that runs smoothly and efficiently. These are the folks you trust in as you sign contracts, pay deposits, and communicate frequently from time of booking up to your big day. You want to make sure your team of vendors understands your vision of the entire day and specifically the job they are contracted for.

How can you make sure this happens? Read on for some tips on choosing the right wedding vendors for you.

Money and your Budget Having a detailed budget is a must before contacting and interviewing vendors. Although price shouldn’t be the only factor in picking a company, it will definitely provide a useful range for narrowing down the choices.

Which Vendors Will You Need?

-Wedding Planner -Venue(s) -Photographer & Videographer -Florist -Attire -Band and/or DJ -Bakery -Jeweler -Caterer -Paper goods -Officiant

Where Do You Find Them?

-Wedding Planner -Friends and family -Your venue -Association of Bridal Consultants (www.bridalassn.com) -On-line resources

Questions To Ask -How long have you been in the business?

-Can I have at least three past client phone numbers as referrals?

-What are the contract and payment terms and is a sample contract is available to review?

-What are your back-up/emergency plans in case you can’t make it to the wedding?

-Are you available on my wedding date and time?

-Will the same person be working at your wedding that you initially spoke to?

-Does your total time also include delivery and tear-down?

-Are you available by e-mail and/or phone from date of contract up to wedding day?

-Anything other details or information you would like to share with me about why you do what you do?

How Do You Know They Are The Right ONE? -Personalities mesh. If possible, meet with each vendor you are considering. Study up on their work and check-out past events. Does their style inspire you and match your own likes? If so, schedule a consultation so that you have the opportunity to sit and talk and really get a sense of who they are. If you don’t feel comfortable from the start, you probably won’t at all.

-They go above and beyond. Quick replies to e-mails and phone calls, detailed service descriptions and options when requested, updated information and photos; these are examples of a vendor who is serious about what they do and is a great first sign of professionalism and commitment. Of course, never a guarantee but a great start.

-They fit into your style, budget and availability. That’s right – super simple if all these things come together!

It is common to second guess your choices, especially because your wedding day is such a special (and probably pricey) event but if you do your research, follow-up on referrals, and trust your instinct, you are guaranteed to have a truly beautiful day!

Enlightened Styles - AR No need to rush around on your Wedding Day. On location Hairstylist and Makeup Artist comes to your home or hotel. We come to you to help make your Wedding Day Hair and Make up as relaxing as possible. You can sit back look and feel beautiful and enjoy your special Wedding Day.

Jim Cottingham Photography - NJ, PA Jim Cottingham Photography is one of Philadelphia and surrounding areas premiere photographers. Providing excellent quality and exceptional service from New York to DC. Fashion. Lifestyle. Commercial. Portrait.

Event. Weddings Print. And so much more.

* Phone: 609-320-2146 * www.jimcottingham.com

* Phone: 540-560-2957 * www.enlightenedstyles.com

Bridal Brooch Bouquets - LA The memories of your wedding will last a lifetime, so can your bouquet! Let us create your something old, new, borrowed & blue brooch bouquet!

* Phone: 225-266-6575 * www.bridalbroochbouquets.com

JTD Productions - MA JTD Professional DJ Services has over 20 years experience creating just the right atmosphere for everything from elegant country weddings to all night dance fests. We have the experience, the insurance, the backup systems, everything. We free your mind, so you can have maximum fun on your big day or night.

* Phone: 845-853-8912 * www.jtdproductions.com

NY Artistry - NY

As a professional makeup artist with a lifetime of style and artistic vision, Dede, brings cutting-edge techniques and creative application in turning our undressed faces into beautiful ones. Whether you are looking for a subtle, natural look or a more dramatic one, she uses HD friendly products to create a perfect photo finish.

* Phone: 212-542-0414 * www.nyartistry.com

Maria Ramagli Beauty - NY, NJ, PA Providing full spectrum makeup artistry application and techniques for print, video, television, film, and freelance for bridal and all special event needs. Servicing NY, NJ and PA. Proficient in producing creative and technically perfect visual representations

* Phone: 856-425-6632 * www.mariaramagli.com

Love the Way You Wed - NJ, PA Love The Way You Wed offers Day of the Wedding coordination services. I am here to carry out those last minute details or hiccups that may arrise on your wedding day. With this, the bride and groom can feel like a guest at their own wedding.

* Phone: 856-404-4848 * www.lovethewayyouwed.com

Andrew Reiner Photography - NJ, PA Andrew Reiner Photography specializes in creative photojournalism style wedding photography. He takes pride in capturing all the unique colors, details, and emotions of your special day. Available in the Philadelphia/South Jersey area and for Destination weddings. Now booking for 2012-2013. Free e-session with booking.

* Phone: 609-332-6171 * www.andrewreiner.com

Kim Alicea Makeup Artistry - NJ, PA, DE I was born with a brush in my hand! Painting faces is my passion. I have been a Makeup Artist for 25 years. It’s my passion. It’s in my heart, my mind and my soul. I am the daughter of an artist/painter and the grandaughter of the same. Working regionally in NJ, PA and DE

* Phone: 856-979-2781 * www.facebook.com/kimalicea1

Dlux - NJ, NY, PA Dlux is a professional hair and makeup company located in New York and New Jersey and serving New York, New Jersey, and Pennsylvania. We provide services for all occasions and cater to, both, private and production events, specializing in editorials and couture with.

* Phone: 609-387-4367 * www.dluxmakeup.com

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Carrie Lorraine Photography - PA Capture moments that last a lifetime, customize your wedding photography package with Carrie Lorraine! Offering photo booths, stylized and journalistic photography, videography, multiple photographer coverage, and engagement sittings for your traditional or non-traditional wedding.

* Phone: 717-368-9672 * www.carrielorrainephotography.com

Priscilla Costa Brazil - PA Great quality is put into each piece, only the richest natural fabrics are used, and personal attention is paid to the smallest details. Her pieces range from made-to-order wedding gowns, bridesmaid dresses and evening wear to accessories such as veils and necklaces, all fine garments with exquisite finishes.

* Phone: 215-938-1009 * www.priscillacosta.com

The Master’s Baker - PA We are a family bakery that has been creating custom wedding and party cakes for every occasion over 40 years now. We stand out by baking from our scratch recipe, using a real butter cream icing while throwing in some ideas of our detailed fondant work. We LOVE what we do!

Be sure to check out these vendors!

They are just one click away!

* Phone: 610-436-9888 * www.themastersbaker.com

Calligraphy & Illustration - VT The elegance of your event begins when your invitations arrive at your guests’ homes with hand calligraphed addresses by Ann Kremers.

Ann can provide all your social calligraphy needs including seating charts, menus and invitation design as well as illustrated marriage certificates and vows.

* Phone: 802-442-7108 * www.annkremers.com

Memorable Celebrations - Worldwide We are an online wedding accessory resource offering an amazing range of accessories and decorations. Included are many exclusive designs created specifically with today’s Brides in mind. Combined with perennial favorites, our collection is unmatched in selection, quality and value. www.memorablecelebrations.weddingstar.com

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