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Dating Dialogue
What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters
Dear Navidaters,
I have been dating Sara for two months, and things have been going very well. I saw a future with her and was looking forward to spending chol hamoed Pesach in her hometown. As Pesach is approaching, we were discussing some date
ideas, and she casually mentioned going to a dog park with her family dog. I was absolutely stunned. In the two months I have known her she has not once mentioned having a dog, and I feel betrayed as if she has been lying to me. This is a big piece of information to leave out. I catch myself asking what else she is hiding from me and has not mentioned until now? Besides the fact that I am allergic to dogs and am no longer looking forward to spending time in her family’s home, I feel betrayed that she never shared this piece of information sooner. Are my feelings valid? I seriously have thoughts of breaking up because of this. -Ben*
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