KC Baby & Maternity Spring 2023

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As seasoned parents know, so many changes and transitions transpire during a child’s first few years. One of those rites of passage for babies is teething. It can be a painful and uncomfortable time for little ones! My mom used to always say, “Teething is so much work for something that’s just going to fall out in a few years.” And she wasn’t wrong. It can be a trying time for both tots and parents. I remember after my older daughter’s first tooth came in, I naively thought to myself, “Well, that teething stuff wasn’t so bad!” Little did I know she would get fussy and go through teething as each tooth came in. And about six years later, they did indeed fall out. For those of you dealing with a teething baby, head to pg. 14 for great tips and suggestions on how to ease the pain.

Once those teeth have erupted, your baby gets to move on to eating a wider variety of food, now that they have the chompers with which to do so. And even though there’s a world of different foods and tastes out there, it might seem like your toddler will eat only the same three things. Every. Single. Day. Toddlers are known for being finicky eaters. For creative ways to help deal with a picky eater, check out Judy Goppert’s article on pg. 24.

Days are longer, temps are warmer, and it’s the perfect time of year to get outside and enjoy! If rain interrupts your outdoor plans, never fear! We’ve got you covered with ideas for outdoor adventures, as well as indoor fun for tiny tots, starting on pg. 30. For a list of even more great activities for little ones, be sure to check out the calendar at KCParent.com.

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DIY Cheerio Bird Feeders

Need a cute little project to entertain your crew? This is an easy one to do while you sit at the table or get outside and enjoy the spring weather! Just plan on having some additional Cheerios handy for snacking, as well as crafting!

Step one: Pour Cheerios onto a plate or into a bowl.

Step two: Bead Cheerios onto a pipe cleaner, leaving about one inch at the end of the pipe cleaner to wrap the end around itself into a circle.

Step three: Repeat with an additional pipe cleaner, looping the second circle through the first circle, so they will make a chain.

Step four: Repeat as many times are you would like!

Step five: Bend the chain into any shape you want and then hang and enjoy watching the birds enjoy a special treat!

Janelle Cumro-Sultzer lives in Manhattan, Kansas, with her husband, three children and two dogs. Janelle is the owner of Flint Hills Mediation LLC and loves to focus on learning through play and getting messy with crafts.

Supplies:

• Pipe cleaners

• Cheerios— any flavor is fine

• Plate or bowl

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FOUR PREGNANCY EXPERIENCES VIA HOSPITAL, BIRTHING CENTER AND HOME

When I found out I was pregnant with my firstborn, I had two primary goals: to have an unmedicated delivery and to be seen by a female doctor. Living outside of the Kansas City metro area, I knew the first goal would be obtainable at my local hospital. However, there were no guarantees that the second goal would be within reach. That led me to research options beyond my hometown. I landed on a women’s health care group in Kansas City. In my mind, having an allfemale staff of OB/GYN doctors and nurses was worth the extra drive time.

I was set up with a primary doctor to meet with during my initial visits. But during the latter half of my pregnancy, I met with other OB/GYNs on staff so that our first encounter was not at the delivery itself. It was helpful knowing that outside of scheduling an induction or c-section, the likeliness of having my primary doctor on call when I went into labor was slim. Nonetheless, the consistency of care within the first few months built a level of trust that was assuring for asking so many questions. It was my first pregnancy, after all, and I had a ton of them!

At my final prenatal appointment, there were some concerns about Baby’s heartbeat, so additional monitoring was performed. While the results confirmed Baby looked to be healthy, it also gave way to information I wasn’t expecting: I was in the early stages of labor. Contractions were steady enough for me to be admitted to the hospital system. The news was exciting, and it was also a relief that my entire labor process was monitored. I didn’t have to question whether it was too early or too late to make the long trek to the hospital, which was one of my biggest concerns.

When I looked out the top floor windows of my delivery suite, my eyes met at a gorgeous sunset that enveloped the distinct downtown KC skyline, and its beauty provided just the distraction I needed to transition into active labor. While the staff supported my desire to have an unmedicated delivery, the hospital’s policy prevented me from being able to move as needed after my water broke. Laboring on my back was not my desired choice. Likewise, ice chips weren’t cutting it after not having eaten the entire day. Thankfully, I had a relatively quick labor for a first-time mom, and no medical interventions were necessary.

A year later, we were Olathe residents with an announcement: Another baby was on the way. This led to a new health care search because we found ourselves on the other side of town. In between pregnancies, I had watched a fair share of TLC’s A Baby Story (remember those?!), in which many women showcased their election to waterbirth, describing it as “nature’s epidural.” This had me intrigued. After all, if I could successfully labor flat on my back, how much better would it be sitting upright in a tub? Sadly, a preliminary search determined that water-birthing in a hospital system was prohibited in our new neck of the woods. (Rather, you could labor, but not deliver, in a tub). No birthing center existed in my region at the time, so I explored an option that was completely foreign to me: home birth with a midwife.

I primarily wanted a water birth, not a home birth. So I determined I wouldn’t make a decision until after an initial consultation with a local midwife. My fears were laid to rest when met with how favorable home birth outcomes are with skilled care. I couldn’t have predicted how we would test our midwife’s aptitude right out of the gate. The day before our first scheduled appointment, I was in a car crash that put blunt force on my abdomen. I was convinced something was terribly wrong, and an ER nurse’s inability to pick up Baby’s heartbeat only raised more concern. A nurse from the maternity ward was brought in and, after quite some time, was able to detect a faint pulse. At my first home appointment, I relayed how hard it had been for the hospital to find a heartbeat. No sooner had I explained, than the midwife had already found it, loud and strong, adding the tone sounded like a boy’s heart (a sonogram a few months later would confirm she was correct).

Our home appointments covered all the same bases as my hospital ones with my firstborn, including labs and ultrasounds, but extended to include lifestyle and nutrition coaching (literally going through my pantry together). This additional education armed me with confidence I would need as I experienced a precipitous labor—my newborn was in my arms 20 minutes after my water broke. On the other side of things, I was thankful a desire to water-birth led me to home birthing, since I would have had no way to make it to a hospital in time anyway. Being able to shower and lie down in my own bed after delivery was just gravy.

Three years later, we welcomed our third child, this time at a newly opened birthing center. The center provided a middle ground between hospital and

home birth. Standard appointments took place in what looked like traditional exam rooms. Yet birthing suites were outfitted with all the comforts of home, including a jacuzzi, queen-size bed and kitchenette. Emergency medical supplies were inconspicuously housed within the three distinctly themed resort-like rooms, yet lost in the spa-like ambience that was created via aromatherapy, music therapy and a serene water wall. Before being discharged, the staff surrounded my husband and me, singing “Happy Birthday” to our newborn while presenting us a cake.

When number four came along, I decided to have another home birth, though this time with another midwife team. (My previous midwife had moved, meaning that in some ways, it was yet another new experience). This time, I found myself visiting an office for all my prenatal appointments. The only appointments that would take place within my home happened during the final month. My fourth pregnancy was a bumpy ride: bacterial infections, preterm labor scares and bedrest and long-term medications to bring Baby into the world safely at full term. With each hiccup along the way, my midwife gave me peace of mind.

I’ve been asked what my favorite birthing experience has been, but my response remains the same. All had favorable outcomes: healthy babies born in safe environments with skilled care. And truly, nothing could be better than that!

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

Lauren Greenlee is a mom of four hailing from Olathe.

I’ve been asked what my favorite birthing experience has been, but my response remains the same. All had favorable outcomes: healthy babies born in safe environments with skilled care. And truly, nothing could be better than that!

PREPPING YOUR DOG FOR BABY R

oughly two-thirds of American families own at least one dog. Add a baby to the mix, and oftentimes the family dog drops quickly on the priority list or is removed from the household altogether. Before your baby arrives, prepare your dog for the changes ahead and enjoy the rewards of raising your children alongside your furry companion.

“We tend to underestimate how stress and change can affect a dog’s behavior,” says SueZanne Thibodeau, a certified humane education specialist and dog trainer. Thibodeau also facilitates a Dogs & Storks parent education program, teaching expectant parents how to help the family dog with the transition.

Manners are a must. Teach your dog appropriate behaviors including basic commands like sit, down, stay, come, drop it and leave it.

“Make it fun. No prong collars, choke collars or shock collars. Instead, use treats and toys to help motivate the dog,” says Kristyn Savage, a certified dog trainer. “Before the baby [arrives], sit in the chair that you will be nursing or feeding in and have the dog do the obedience in those areas.”

Keep treats near the changing table and nursing station to create an association between pleasant experiences and the baby.

PREPARE FOR THE COMMOTION.

When Ali Foulk was expecting her son Hans, she worried about her German shepherd Blondie’s fearful behavior. Following Savage’s advice, Foulk turned what could have been a dicey situation into a positive one.

“My son is now 2 years old and loves our dog. Blondie is extraordinarily gentle with him. He can give her a sit or down command, give her treats and throw balls. Playing together entertains both of them and fosters confidence and language development in my son,” Foulk says.

Prepare for the commotion. The sounds of toys dropping on hard floors, swings moving and the baby crying may alarm a dog, especially one sensitive to sounds. Download a soundtrack of a baby crying from iTunes or Google. Play the sounds at a low volume for your dog while offering treats. Over time, increase the volume of the cries.

Establish boundaries. Manage your dog’s access to your baby and her accoutrements, like the diaper can and toys, with baby gates and closed doors.

The sounds of toys dropping on hard floors, swings moving and the baby crying may alarm a dog, especially one sensitive to sounds. Download a soundtrack of a baby crying from iTunes or Google. Play the sounds at a low volume for your dog while offering treats. Over time, increase the volume of the cries.

Christina Thomas started preparing her two mixed-breed rescue dogs for the arrival of her baby, Makayla, long before her daughter’s birth. She trained her dogs to go to a “safe” space, like their dog beds, when they want to be left alone.

“They aren’t allowed to be protective of their space, but they know it is a safe area that we will always make sure they can rest peacefully there,” Thomas says. “The dogs now trust that they won’t be hurt by our daughter so both are very accepting of her.”

Welcome home! Before coming home from the hospital, send your husband or a relative home with a blanket that smells like your baby. Introduce the new scent to your dog with treats and praise.

Before you arrive home, have a friend or relative crate your dog or put her in a safe room.

“You don’t have to introduce your dog to your baby on the day you come home from the hospital. In fact, for most people that’s a really bad idea,” Thibodeau says.

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home with your baby. Dogs can sense your stress, which raises their stress levels.

When you feel calm, have your partner control your dog on a leash, and you hold your baby while seated. Because a dog learns about the world through smell, allow her to sniff the diaper area and your baby’s feet (cover your baby’s feet with booties or socks). Avoid the baby’s head, face and fingers.

Watch for subtle body language, including tongue flicking and looking or turning away, early signs that your dog feels uncomfortable and wants to disengage. Immediately consult with a certified dog trainer experienced in behavioral modification if your dog exhibits any aggressive behavior.

Never leave your dog alone with your child. Even a well-trained dog could bite a child who is climbing on it or pulling on its tail or ears.

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Newborn Worries Not to Lose Sleep Over

Welcoming a new baby brings an overwhelming amount of love, joy and, oh yeah, stress, worry and questions. Even the most prepared parents don’t have all the answers all of the time. Most new parents find themselves up late into the night Googling the best diapers to prevent diaper rash or texting their mom to see when a fever is too high. Although it’s normal to worry, don’t lose sleep over these common newborn worries.

Umbilical Cord

Umbilical cords tend to be a common worry for new parents. They stress about caring for it correctly and wondering whether it should have fallen off already or whether it should be that color. The good news is caring for the umbilical cord is quite simple: keep it clean and dry. Sponge baths, airing it out and not covering the cord with the diaper are all easy ways to care for the cord. More than likely, your baby’s umbilical cord will dry out and fall off by the time your baby is 3 weeks old.

Crying

It can be overwhelming when your newborn cries, but keep in mind it’s completely normal for babies to cry. It’s their way of communicating what they need. Before you start to worry, make sure your child’s basic needs are met. Do they need to be fed, changed or burped, or are they too tired? More than likely, their crying will stop when you address their need. If you find your baby’s crying is not getting better or you feel something is really wrong, reach out to your pediatrician.

Loose Stools

Your baby’s diaper can leave you puzzled and wondering whether it’s normal. I remember Googling at 3:00 a.m. one night whether my daughter’s stool was normal or not. Your baby’s stool may seem way too loose when you compare it to an adult’s stool. However, it’s important to remember your baby is on an all-liquid diet, so softer stools are normal. As they grow older and begin eating solids, their stool will become thicker in consistency. If your child is experiencing extremely hard poop or overly watery stools, you might reach out to your pediatrician to see whether they really are having trouble with constipation or diarrhea.

Hiccups

The sweet little sound of a baby’s hiccups can be so adorable, but is it something to be worried about? More than likely, your baby’s hiccups are completely harmless. Hiccups are especially common in newborns and normally don’t bother

them. If your baby is happy and seems comfortable, hiccups are not a cause for concern. Infant hiccups are caused by spasms of the baby’s diaphragm. They can be caused by overeating, eating too quickly or gulping air during feeding. If you still don’t like the idea of your baby hiccupping, you can try sitting your baby up to feed in a more upright position, burping more frequently and repositioning the bottle so the air isn’t near the nipple. Generally, hiccups alone are not something to worry about. If your child experiences hiccups along with other symptoms like spitting up and crying more than normal, they could be experiencing GER, gastroesophageal reflux.

A 2019 survey conducted by OnePoll on behalf of Mead Johnson Nutrition found that moms spend 1,400 hours worrying, which includes 220 frantic Google searches and 227 calls or texts to their mother. The survey found 58% of moms were concerned about their infant’s overall health, 54% worried about their child’s reaching milestones at the right age, 52% worried about the amount of milk/formula their baby consumed, and 47% were concerned whether their infant was growing as they should.

enough. After multiple consultations, I learned she really wasn’t getting enough, so pumping and supplementing was the best choice for us. I found myself feeling stressed and guilty until a lactation consultant said to me, “Fed is best.” As long as your child is getting enough to eat and growing, that is what is most important. The source of their nutrition doesn’t matter, and the stress simply isn’t worth it.

Hitting Milestones

It can be easy to compare your baby to other babies around the same age and worry your child isn’t progressing as quickly. All babies hit milestones at different times, so there’s no need to compare or worry about when your child hits one milestone compared to another child. My daughter is one week younger than my niece. I often found myself wondering why she wasn’t as vocal as my niece. We found that my daughter excelled quickly with fine motor skills, while her speech came later. Now she is 2 and can’t stop talking!

Listening to Other’s Opinions

Breastfeeding

We’ve all heard the saying, “Breast is best,” but that can be concerning for a mother who has decided not to breastfeed or for a mother who has tried her best to breastfeed but it just isn’t working out. New mothers can feel so much pressure regarding the breast vs. bottle decision. When I was pregnant, I had no idea how hard breastfeeding would be for my daughter and me. Once she was born, she wasn’t latching correctly, and I had supply issues. I was so worried she wasn’t getting

When you have a newborn, especially your first child, you will receive unsolicited advice from friends, family and even strangers at the grocery store about how you should do everything from feed to bathe to put your baby to sleep. Some of this might be good advice, but some of it might just leave you worrying your parenting is not up to par. It’s important to remember that what works for one child might not work for another child. No one knows your child the way you do. It’s up to you as the parent to decide what is best for you and your baby. The next time you receive unwanted advice, feel free to let it go in one ear and out the other.

Regan Lyons is a girl mom and freelance writer. She lives with her husband, Cale, and daughters, Atley, 8, and Ensley, 2, in St. Joseph, Missouri.

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

LOVE BITES: A Parent’s Survival Guide to a Teething Baby

By the time parents have been with their baby for a few months, a relative rhythm begins to feel established. Sleep schedules are more settled, morning routines have become seamless, and even feeding and bathing feels manageable. It’s easy to think that you might just have this parenting thing down to a science.

Until … the teething begins. And your life is suddenly upside down.

Those sleep patterns you’ve established are quickly disrupted by the pain of your baby’s chompers charging through. The gentle baby you live to snuggle abruptly becomes a rage monster who can’t stop drooling and is gnawing on your furniture like a rabid beaver. How do you stop it? How are you going to survive? Here’s your guide:

Don’t get too confident

Maybe those first few teeth have already come in and you’re feeling good. There were a few nights of sleeplessness, but overall, your baby did great and so did you. How hard can this be?

Hard. The answer is it will be very, very hard.

There’s a misperception that one tooth’s coming in is indicative of how each subsequent tooth will arrive. Alas, no. Your baby’s teeth are related, but they aren’t identical. Each individual tooth will bring its own unique set of circumstances and challenges. Some teeth hurt more than others. One tooth might break through quickly, but the next two may take their sweet time. Do yourself a favor and take it one day—and one tooth—at a time. Getting ahead of yourself usually spells disaster.

Get the bibs ready

The amount of liquid that will exit your baby’s mouth while he teethes is one of the many wonders of the world. Where does it all come from? There’s so much drool! Consider strategically placing a dry bib anywhere in the house where you tend to hang out with your little one. This way, when you sit down to do tummy time with the baby and realize he’s creating his own pond, you’ll already be prepared to clean him up. There’s nothing worse than getting cozy and having to get back up for a bib— again. Another pro tip? Keep at least two extra bibs in the diaper bag. You’re going to forget to pack them, and you will definitely need them.

Is it an ear infection? Or teething?

Your baby’s mouth, ears and cheeks all have the same nerve pathways. Though a gum might be the source of some discomfort, that pain might actually be felt in the ears. Tugging and pulling on her ears could be a sign of your baby’s teething, but can also potentially indicate an ear infection. Make sure to monitor your baby to be sure you’re providing targeted care for the right ailment.

Try to keep the sleep cycle

Teething pain will certainly wake your little one up in the middle of the night. If she’s old enough for a pain reliever (and your doctor will advise if that’s the case), a good time to administer that medication is a half an hour before bed. By the time the pain arrives, the medication will already be administering relief. The biggest goal is to try to let your baby get through the discomfort on her own and fall back asleep independently. Babies develop sleep habits quickly, so even two times of your getting her out of bed to provide comfort can disrupt progress you’ve made in her sleeping habits. Then you’re back to square one with a non-sleeping baby … who is also teething.

If medication isn’t an option, try gentle pats on the back to lull him back to sleep. If absolutely necessary, provide a cold chewing ring—not frozen—for him to exert some needed counter pressure on the gums. Just be sure you remove the ring from the crib when he falls asleep.

Keep a journal on pain occurrences

As random as teething can be, a sort of pattern can start to emerge if you pay attention. Perhaps your baby’s pain is noticeably more intense first thing in the morning, or right after her first nap. By keeping a simple log (like in the Notes app on your phone) you can begin to anticipate when the worst of the pain will arrive and act accordingly. If lunchtime is a danger zone, try to avoid being out with your baby during that time. It’s best to be at home surrounded by all of her favorite things to soothe her, rather than where she feels less comfortable. This also allows you to have all the necessary gear at the ready (i.e., teething rings, cold washcloths, cold snacks, etc.)

Break out the cold foods

If your baby is on solid foods, get some fruit nice and chilly (just above frozen), and let your baby go to town. The food should be very cold, but still

mushy enough for him to chew. The low temps will feel amazing on aching gums, and the delicious taste of strawberries, bananas or mangoes will provide a little extra enjoyment.

Call the dentist

When the first tooth comes in, make an appointment with a pediatric dentist. It might seem ridiculous, as the dentist won’t do much on the initial visit. But introducing early the sights, sounds and smells of the dentist office can help ease tension about the process as your baby grows. The dentist can also begin a rapport with you and your baby and be on the lookout for early gum disease and other not-so-noticeable issues.

Kim Antisdel is a freelance writer and interior design sales rep for KC. She lives in Liberty with her husband, stepdaughters and son.

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

THE DO NOTS OF TEETHING

DO NOT! – Allow chewing of clothing, furniture or anything inedible. Allowing chewing on unapproved items can establish bad habits and also be a potential health hazard. A cold washrag is acceptable, but your shirt sleeve is not.

DO NOT! – Use teething gels. For one, you can never be sure what’s in them, even if they are labeled safe. Secondly, your baby’s drool wipes away the true effectiveness anyway.

DO NOT! – Share teething toys with other babies. Even if you are told they’re clean and safe, you can never truly know. Just keep your own nearby.

NURTURE THE NEED TO Nest

Nesting is typically in full swing by the third trimester of pregnancy, so hold on tight— you’re about to hyper-focus on tasks you never imagined. You might feel the urge to redo loads of already clean laundry, start collecting and hoarding ring slings or vacuum the same reading corner multiple times a day.

You may order a breast pump and start watching YouTube tutorials. If you’re not breastfeeding, you may start stocking up on formula. You’re researching all kinds of mom groups to join. You’re meal prepping. Most of these tasks are pretty typical for expecting mamas, so try to embrace the drive to get home and hearth ready for you and your newborn.

No matter how your nesting phase manifests, it’s the mom instinct you want to follow. This drive is your brain and body’s way of preparing your environment for your newest little human. So add that espresso

machine to your Amazon cart. Invest in that brand of swaddle blankets you’ve been eyeing. Put those canvas pictures up in the new nursery. Shampoo the carpet.

While it’s safe to follow most nesting urges, the American Pregnancy Association does suggest taking precautions. Avoid lifting heavy objects. Stay away from cleaning chemicals such as bleach or oven cleaners. Try not to wear yourself out and do get as much rest as possible—save as much energy as you can for labor, delivery and the fourth trimester. Be sure to accept help from others.

In the meantime, here are some ways nesting can take form, as well as a few tips and tricks to get through this stage of pregnancy. Though it can start during your earliest months of pregnancy, nesting may mean your baby’s arrival is just around the corner. Be sure to always keep in contact with your doctor, first and foremost.

No matter how your nesting phase manifests, it’s the mom instinct you want to follow. This drive is your brain and body’s way of preparing your environment for your newest little human.

Sometimes, nesting is putting up a few pictures in the nursery and washing all your onesies with Dreft. Other times, it can mean repainting rooms in the house, shampooing all the carpet and rearranging furniture. However it manifests, do what you can without overexerting yourself.

TIPS AND TRICKS

Try to focus on one thing at a time. You may want to tackle every task all at once, as if you’re on a very short timer—which you sort of are. Try to recharge your battery in between tasks. Tackle each item one day at a time. You will get it all done, but even if one thing does not get checked off, it will be okay. Your partner or family and friends will help you.

Make freezer meals. You may have friends or family organizing a meal train, but it’s also smart to have frozen meals ready for

after you and your family return from the hospital. The last thing you’ll have energy for is cooking.

Pack your hospital bag. Keep a checklist of what you’ll need so you can just throw it all together when the time comes. Even with the best plan in place, you never know when Baby will decide to make her appearance.

Stock up on postpartum supplies. Most hospitals will send you home with the essentials, but it’s never a bad idea to be extra prepared just in case. Heavy pads, hemorrhoid pads with witch hazel, Dermoplast, etc.

Figure out your nursing needs. Order a breast pump and chat with a lactation consultant. Stock up on nursing bras, gowns, pads and creams.

Create a “who to call” list. Then give that list to your partner, your closest friend, your mother, whoever you wish to delegate this task to. Once you’re in full labor, you will only have energy for recovery and for Baby. It’s best to let others break the exciting news to your loved ones.

Lastly, enjoy this sudden burst of energy during your third trimester—especially if your first two were full of exhaustion, nausea, and an inability to keep food down. Nesting can be one of the most exciting stages of pregnancy.

Emily Morrison is a freelance writer, former copy editor, full-time mommy and Disney fanatic who lives in Independence with her husband, son, daughter and dog.

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

Bounce Back

Bouncing back after having a baby means so much more than simply losing baby weight. You also have to do things like figure out how to relate to your friends without kids, how to deal with the advice of family members, how to get your brain back and more. I’ve been there five times and want you to know that not only can you get back to yourself, you can become a better version of you! Below are seven areas I found it important to give some focus.

FRIENDS. What a minefield! Maybe you have friends who are single, who aren’t able to have kids of their own or, worse, who don’t really like kids at all. Some of these friendships may experience strain after you’ve had your own baby. My best advice here is to feel them out. If they roll their eyes every time you talk about your new tiny love, you might need a break. Or maybe you need to pick a night to get out of the house and meet up with these friends and at least attempt to talk about a few other things besides your baby!

As for energy-sappers and naysayers (those moms who attack your parenting choices): consider putting them in the friend deep freeze. Replace them with the cool moms you’ll meet when you look up mom meet-up places online. You’ll find plenty of places to hang out with other moms while you catch up and grab a cup of coffee.

FAMILY. When my parents realized I was really serious about this attachment parenting thing, they wondered why I would ever do such a thing. After all,

didn’t they raise me better than that?! But once they saw how the kids were thriving, they were on board. I hope you’re blessed with at least a few family members who offer encouraging (rather than condescending) advice. As for the rest you may encounter at family gatherings, practice smiling and saying, “Thank you for that advice. I’ll think about it.”

MARRIAGE. Who is that guy you pass in the hallway in the middle of the night? You may crave a weekly date night, or neither of you may want to leave your new bundle at all just yet. Either way, you are perfectly normal. Everything I read tells my man and me we have to have date nights on a regular basis, but we don’t want to. We enjoy the challenge of sneaking moments to talk early in the morning while little ones sleep or hanging out on the deck while they’re watching a movie in the house. If you need that time completely away together as a couple, don’t let anyone make you feel guilty about it. If you prefer staying in, be sure to steal those sweet moments regularly.

BODY. It’s not always easy to pop on a YouTube video and work out, especially on only a couple hours of sleep. I want to hug the person who coined the saying, “Nine months up, nine months down.” Why rush off the pounds when your body needs time to heal, and you need time to focus on your baby? While your baby is young and mostly stationary, consider it your excuse to be Rubenesque for a little while (i.e., enjoy those curves!). Because you probably don’t have access to a trainer, a chef and a team of nannies, once your baby is mobile, you get mobile, too. Push that little punkin on swings and in his stroller, chase him around, walk after him, play lots of hide and seek and peek-a-boo. During bath time, do some squats or lunges or pick up those arm weights. The days of long workouts may be over temporarily, so grab your exercise wherever and whenever you can get it!

MIND. I admit I have mommy brain for a good year after I’ve given birth. To keep your brain from turning to total mush, stay connected to current events, join online forums like Mothering.com, read if you love it, watch the news if it doesn’t freak you out. And if you just need to get it all out of your head, blogging has become a great way to connect with other moms while also using your brain during those late nights when you can’t sleep or during your baby’s nap time.

SPIRIT. To knock out both spirit and mind requirements, I like to take a laptop to a coffee shop, grab a drink and write. You may find renewal by spending time with girlfriends alone or exercising alone or just driving around in your car listening to music at full blast like you did pre-kids. If you aren’t big on going out with the girls, use that time off to do something else you love. It can be productive, crafty (scrapbooking), money making (part-time job) or something else (like shopping, a.k.a. “retail therapy,” or going to church alone sometimes).

FINANCES. Having a baby doesn’t have to break the bank, even if you decide to become a stay-at-home mom. Registering for simple things like diapers, wipes or formula is perfectly appropriate and will help you save money down the line. And don’t forget about online coupons because every little bit helps. When people ask what you need or what they can bring, don’t worry about telling them you need basic baby care items. Most people would rather bring something you truly need than just another rattle or onesie.

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

Kerrie McLoughlin (TheKerrieShow.com) lives in Peculiar, Missouri, and raises five kids while trying to go easy on herself.

GESTATIONAL DIABETES Five Reasons to Watch Your Sugars

Gestational diabetes (GD) develops in about 10% of pregnant women who have never been diagnosed with Type 1 or Type 2 diabetes. It occurs when too much sugar circulates through your blood, either because your body can’t produce enough insulin or doesn’t use insulin effectively. Screening and management help decrease the many risks associated with GD.

GD screening is an essential part of prenatal care. The glucose challenge test is typically completed between 24 and 28 weeks’ gestation. You drink a very sugary solution, and the lab checks your blood glucose one hour later. This identifies how well your body manages a quick influx of sugar. With screening, diagnosis and treatment, GD is manageable throughout pregnancy.

Five Reasons Gestational Diabetes Is a Big Deal

Increases the risk for Type 2 diabetes

Most of the time, GD resolves after pregnancy. However, about 50% of women are diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes later in life. T2D is an expensive, complicated disease that affects every aspect of your health. Babies born to moms with GD are also more likely to develop T2D later in life.

Increases risk for preeclampsia

Preeclampsia is dangerously high blood pressure that can lead to problems for you and your baby. Moms risk developing seizures or heart complications. In addition, high blood pressure restricts blood flow to your baby during pregnancy, which can cause preterm birth or growth restriction.

Excessive fetal growth

Consistently high blood sugars stimulate the developing fetus to grow, grow, grow. It’s not uncommon for these babies to weigh 10-12 pounds (or more) at birth, which increases the likelihood your baby will get “stuck” during delivery or causes

other complications. Risks to mom include significant birth canal trauma, excessive blood loss and the need for a c-section. Oxygen deprivation during labor is the biggest threat to your baby; this can cause severe brain damage or even death.

Increases preterm delivery risk

Sometimes preterm labor happens naturally. Other times, your health care team may recommend early delivery to decrease the risk of more catastrophic complications. This may occur if you have poorly controlled diabetes, preeclampsia, or if your baby is showing signs of distress. Early labor induction or c-section are not recommended for women with wellcontrolled GD.

NICU care is more likely, even for full-term babies

These babies may look big and healthy, but several complications can occur. There are many ways to treat these common conditions, but no one wants their baby to need NICU care.

Low blood sugars – Blood sugar instability after birth is the most common reason GD babies transfer to the NICU. Their bodies have a difficult time adjusting when their sugar supply is cut off at delivery. They need IV fluids and time to help their bodies adjust. Poor feeding ability – Frequently, these babies are neurologically immature compared to babies whose mothers did not have GD. They may have trouble coordinating their suck-swallow-breathe pattern or tire quickly during feedings. They may need IV fluids, a feeding tube or both until they are able to complete all feedings by breast or bottle. Breathing difficulties – A vital substance called surfactant lubricates the smallest airways (alveoli), which keeps them open and able to exchange oxygen and carbon dioxide. Uncontrolled GD decreases your baby’s ability to make surfactant, which can lead to difficulty keeping their airways open. Respiratory distress syndrome (RDS) can develop shortly after birth, and these babies transfer to the NICU for breathing support and close monitoring.

Women with GD can and do have healthy pregnancies. The complications discussed occur more often when GD is poorly controlled. If you are diagnosed with GD, learn as much as possible and work with your OB/GYN or midwife to develop a treatment plan. Healthy food choices, physical activity and blood sugar monitoring are important; medications such as metformin or insulin are used when lifestyle changes can’t keep blood sugars in the optimal range.

Joleen Sams is a family nurse practitioner who lives in Shawnee. Her two beautiful children are in grade school, and most of the time you’ll find her running around the metro for their activities. Joleen helps families thrive by providing easy-to-understand, fact-based health information.

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

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CHILDCARE OPTIONS

Congratulations on your new baby! I hope you enjoyed your maternity time with your new squishy little one and are looking forward to heading back to your normal routine. But first things first—where will you be taking your babe while you’re back at work? Let’s look at some questions you may want to consider as you make your daycare decision. Be sure to allow yourself enough time to research childcare providers to ensure you feel confident in your choice when the big day comes.

To begin with, do you have a type of daycare in mind as a starting or elimination point as you begin your search for the perfect place for your child? Perhaps you grew up going to an in-home daycare, or your partner grew up attending an established daycare center. This is a topic to ponder and discuss as you begin looking for childcare for your baby. If you are open to any option, ask other parents for some feedback about what they’ve experienced and the pros and

cons of the choice they made. A glowing referral can be key to finding a place you’ll feel comfortable and happy with, and what a bonus if your little one has neighborhood or family friends to go to daycare with!

Daycare centers can be a great option for routines, socialization and consistency for your child. They also may have longer hours in case your job has an early start or later end time. This can also be a great introduction to “school” for your child. Structured centers allow them to take their own backpack and have routines for the day, which can make the transition to actual school easier down the road. Also similar to school’s organization, the children are usually separated by age so they will be with their peers in a class-style setting as opposed to a broader range of ages. This can be a plus to keep smaller children safe, but the arrangement means they may be separated from any siblings. Centers may have more activities available, such as field trips or

Be sure to allow yourself enough time to research childcare providers to ensure you feel confident in your choice when the big day comes.

quality playground equipment, as well as follow cleaning and sanitation regulations. Centers may be more reliable with more employees able to cover when someone else is sick or unavailable, but they can also have high turnover rates due to seasonal help from college students over the summer.

In-home daycares can be a comforting place to drop your child off because they’re in another person’s home environment. Your child can feel like part of the daycare family and form close relationships with the other children there. Just be sure you feel comfortable with the provider, the home and the number of children the provider has each day. In-home providers could also have pets, other older children or adults coming in and out of the house, and a wider range of ages of children. Depending on your perspective, these could be pros or cons, but they would be able to remain with any siblings they may have down the road as well. My own mom ran an in-home daycare for 10 years during my childhood, and my brother seemed to grow up with many friends that were more like brothers. I loved helping care for the babies and learned a lot about caring for children because of this experience. Our home was a second home to many of the kids. In-home providers may need days off due to sickness, jury duty or family vacations, however, so be sure to have a drop-in center or someone else available for such instances. I have a wonderful neighbor who has an in-home daycare, and she has a triple stroller she uses to walk her little brood to the neighborhood parks. It’s great to see the kids get out and explore with her, as well as get some exercise, fresh air and sunshine.

Another option you might consider is hiring a nanny , whether that’s someone who comes to your home each day or a live-in nanny that helps you care for your children. This arrangement can be a plus, as your child gets to stay in their own home and stay on your own routine. A nanny can be a great way for your children to be able to participate in swim lessons, preschool gymnastic classes or story times at the library during the day while you’re still able to do your job, freeing up your evenings for family time instead of a race to fit those activities

in after work. As your children get older, a nanny can drive them to and from school, as well as any extracurricular activities. A nanny can feel like another member of your family that your child can trust and depend on. It just depends on how you feel with someone else in your home. We actually had a student teacher come stay with us for a semester when our oldest two were 3 years and 18 months old, and it was great having someone else available to help care for and entertain our kids. Now that all my children are in school, it’s challenging to do school pickups and run them to all their extracurricular activities. A nanny would be a great asset during this stage of parenting, too.

Once you’ve narrowed your search, ask to visit the home or tour the center to get a better sense of the environment and overall feel of the employees. If you’re leaning toward a nanny, begin the interview process. You may also have a list of questions ready to ask your potential childcare provider to be sure your child will be cared for in a way that matches your parenting style.

Location is another key factor to weigh. After all, traveling to and from childcare will add time to your morning and evening commutes, but a provider you love may be worth the extra commute time. Another factor to consider is schedule. Each job has a different schedule, so be sure your provider is available when you need childcare. Cost,

of course, plays a factor in the decision. You will need childcare for the foreseeable future, so be sure your chosen provider fits into your budget. On top of provider costs, ask about any additional expenses: Are meals included? Do you need to bring your own food and supplies like diapers, wipes, sunscreen? What about special outings or activities?

The hunt can seem like an overwhelming task on top of either being pregnant or welcoming a new baby home, but start researching early, make a priority list and ask around about different providers you’re considering. Community and moms groups on social media can be a quick and easy way to learn more, too, especially if you’re new to the area. You can even ask folks to direct message you if they want to be more honest than they would in a public review. A referral from a trusted friend or coworker can make all the difference in your confidence level. As you begin your parenting journey, know that you’re not alone, trust your gut and remember there are other options if you don’t end up feeling comfortable with your first choice. Your primary job is to ensure your child is properly cared for and loved so you can successfully focus on your day job.

Stephanie Loux is the mother of Layla, 12, Mason, 11, and Slade, 8, and writes from her home in between being a substitute teacher and family photographer.

Questions to ask providers

• Are meals and snacks provided, or do I need to bring our own?

• Where will they sleep?

• How many children will be cared for by how many adults?

• What training and experience do employees have?

• How is potty training handled?

• How are poor behaviors corrected?

• Do you take children on any outings?

• How are children transported for outings?

• Do you provide transportation to school?

• Why should I choose your daycare facility?

• Is there a part-time option?

• How are inclement weather days handled?

• What are the sickness protocols?

• When is payment due?

When your baby is born, you are thrilled when he drinks a full bottle or learns to nurse like a champ. Fast forward a few months and in come the days of solid food. It’s such fun to have your child sit in a highchair and eat Cheerios, tiny pieces of what is on your plate—and then throw everything on the floor or at the wall!

Eating is one of the first ways toddlers begin to show personality and learn they can say no. Your child may not like every food you give him on the first try. Give your child a chance to try foods multiple times, even if he does not like them at first. Children may need to try some foods many times before they actually like them.

Try freezing small bites of different foods you can use later to avoid throwing a lot of food away. Wait a week before you try the new food again and try mixing the new food with a food your baby likes, such as breast milk.

As children get older, they may start refusing foods they used to like and show signs of picky eating. Favoring a couple foods and not wanting foods to touch each other on the plate are normal behaviors. These often go away by the time your child is around 5 years old.

Remember to be silly and make mealtime fun. Make funny faces with the foods on your child’s plate. It may help her get excited to eat it. My kids loved the heart and teddy bear shaped pancakes I made. Go ahead and eat a bite of the food first to show your child you like it, then your child will try it. Let your child decide which food she wants to try today.

Most youngsters are great eaters. At my daughter’s first birthday party, I recall she happily ate broccoli and peaches and would have nothing to do with her birthday cake. A few months later, she wouldn’t touch the broccoli.

There are some reasons why 1-yearolds change their eating habits. Children’s growth velocity slows down dramatically after that first birthday. The average child gains 15 pounds in the first year of life, and only five pounds in their second year. Most of the food your baby ate went to growth, while most of a toddler’s food will go to running around and playing, which means hunger will be variable. Some days they will be hungrier than they are other days.

The average toddler or preschooler will eat just enough to get the energy to play more. When their tank is refilled, away they go!

Many of us were raised that you eat what is on your plate or go hungry. My mother said to eat what you want and leave the rest. This saved many meltdowns, and I often did this in my household. It is amazing how a child can eat around the carrots on the plate!

Remember, do not bribe, coerce or force your children to eat. Sit your toddler down for three well-rounded meals per day and at least one healthy snack in between. Offer a variety of foods at each meal. Be aware of your responses to food refusal: If you go ahead and make mac and cheese when your son won’t eat the chicken nuggets, you are teaching him that to get mac and cheese, he has to simply whine and refuse the food he doesn’t want.

It’s tough sometimes, but children won’t starve themselves! Try placing the plate in the fridge and give him a chance to try it again if he decides he is hungry later. As

kids’ parents, we are in control of the quality of food they are offered, and they are in control of how much they eat of it.

Another way to insure you little one will be ready to eat with you is to minimize snacks. Veggie Straws and Goldfish Crackers may seem great on the car ride home, but when kids fill up on those, they won’t be apt to eat the hamburger you fix later. Try offering an apple or a pear for a snack.

Once again, our kids are great imitators! If Mom is eating peas, the toddler will want some. In today’s world, family meals are harder to manage, so make an effort as often as you can to sit at the table together.

Another tip is to involve those little hands in the cooking process. Let your toddler help you mash the potatoes, cut the hot dogs or pour the noodles in the water. Baking is a great way to share the joy of making good food, too. This will increase the odds that your child will eat!

And if you don’t want your children to eat something, do not buy it at the store. This is where good nutrition begins. If the only options are fruits and vegetables, it is likely your toddler will eat them. Let your child go grocery shopping with you and let him pick one fun item, such as Popsicles, cookies or chips. Then, together, decide when you eat them. This way, food will never be the focus of life, which can help stave off obesity and food issues.

Judy Goppert lives in Lee’s Summit. She enjoys drawing on her personal experiences to write about the nuances of everything wonderful about life.

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

Sources: CDC.gov/nutrition, Health.choc.org

Nausea, fatigue and unexplained cravings for dill pickles and ice cream may be the classic telltale signs of pregnancy. But some pregnancy symptoms are so unique, they almost sound like a curse right out of Greek mythology. Here at KC Baby & Maternity, we’ve got the 411 on pregnancy problems, sorting out fact from fiction.

PREGNANCY PROBLEMS

ALLERGIES

This lesser-known symptom is actually one of the most common. More than a quarter of all pregnant women complain of developing an allergy throughout the course of their pregnancy—some of which may stick around even after your little bambino is born! Although seasonal allergies and food sensitivities are inconvenient, one allergy can hit particularly close to home: allergies to pets. If your feline friend or canine companion cause you to have itchy eyes and shortness of breath, you may need to reach out to a friend or family member to temporarily relocate your beloved pet.

DARKER SKIN

No, this isn’t that pregnancy glow you always hear about. Considered the “mask of pregnancy,” melasma is a condition known to produce dark patches on the forehead, cheek bones, upper lip and nose. Melanin, the substance that produces your natural skin pigmentation, can find itself in increased production because of hormone changes throughout pregnancy. But don’t worry! Typically a first trimester symptom, melasma should be a thing of the past once Baby arrives. In the meantime, grab a wide-brimmed hat and wear sunscreen to avoid prolonged sun exposure, a factor known to aggravate the condition.

DROOLING

If you thought drooling was a condition reserved for your newborn, think again. Ptyalism, also known as hypersalivation, is a bizarre pregnancy condition that can be chalked up to increased hormone production. Women with ptyalism can expect to produce anywhere from 3 to 4 quarts of saliva a day. Kansas City mom Machelle Kuftack knew this problem all too well throughout her pregnancy. “I couldn’t have conversations with people without needing to spit every few seconds. It was just pooling in my mouth! And I couldn’t swallow it because it would make my nausea worse,” Kuftack says. “It went away as soon as I delivered, thankfully!”

EXCESSIVE GAS

Potty humor may make you giggle, but breaking wind when you least expect it is no laughing matter. Bloating, cramping and passing gas are all unpleasant side effects

associated with pregnancy. You can thank progesterone working its way through your system and slowing down your digestion for this one. Unlike some other unusual pregnancy symptoms that are here today, gone tomorrow, this side effect can hang around for all three trimesters. So just how can you avoid this unfortunate situation? Aim to graze throughout the day while avoiding large meals. Also, you might pass on cruciferous foods, such as cauliflower and broccoli, high fiber foods like beans, and carbonated beverages like soda.

HAIR CHANGES

More hair, less hair and texture changes are all par for the course when you’re with child. Some women find their hair to be at its best when they’re pregnant—shiny, thicker, stronger. Others find their lovely locks falling lackluster and evening clumping at the shower drain at an unprecedented rate. Still more may experience an incredible anomaly: straight hair transforming into corkscrew curls or fine hair turning coarse.

HEARTBURN

Many a pregnant mama complains about heartburn, but did you know your preexisting condition may actually reverse when you’re pregnant? That’s right! If you were prone to having heartburn before pregnancy, you might find you lose that terrible acidic feeling when a bun is in the oven. That was the case for KC mom Yolanda Navarrete, who took prescription heartburn medication prior to pregnancy. “The heartburn miraculously went away. Those were the best 9 months of relief I've ever had from it!”

HOT FLASHES

Quick! What pregnancy symptom is something you and your menopausal mother can bond over? If you said hot flashes, you’re correct. Pregnancy gives your body a crash course in what’s to come down the line, all thanks to the combination of extra progesterone and increased blood flow due to metabolic overdrive. If you find yourself sweating like crazy, know it’s with good cause: Your body is working feverishly to produce new life. Interestingly, some women experience hot flashes with one pregnancy but not another. If you find yourself in the uncomfortable position of being a “hot mama,” it might be time to invest in a few extra fans.

LEAKY BREASTS

Sore breasts are one of the first maladies that pregnant women complain of. But don’t be surprised if you find them leaking, too. As early as 14 weeks into pregnancy, your breasts may produce colostrum, a highly nutritious milk your body is preparing for your little one’s arrival. There’s no need to be alarmed if you find that your breasts have sprung a leak. Just keep a supply of nursing pads on hand to prevent leaking through your bra.

METALLIC TASTE

Waking up to the taste of copper pennies or tin foil on your tongue might sound like a remnant of a nightmare, but for many moms, it’s a first-trimester reality with a name to match: dysgeusia. This metal mouth conundrum, thought to be the result of estrogen surges, is known to dissipate by the second trimester. To combat it, moms can reach for acidic foods, such as crackers and citrus juices, or nosh on spicy foods followed by icy beverages. Still others find relief with vinegar-brined veggies (three cheers for dill pickles!).

SWELLING

Pregnancy apps that compare your baby’s monthly size to a piece of fruit are a hot ticket item. I mean, how can you not squeal with delight when you find out your baby is finally the same size as a kumquat? But swollen fingers and ankles? No one wants to know what piece of produce matches those bloated extremities! Because of increased blood production, some women find themselves swollen from stem to stern. Thankfully, swelling often goes down after delivery, but you may see one permanent change to your lower extremities: expanded foot size. Feet take a beating during pregnancy, and it’s not uncommon to go up a half size or more permanently, thanks to weight gain and added pressure.

Lauren Greenlee is a local freelance writer and mom of four who found broccoli cheese soup grotesquely unappetizing throughout her pregnancies.

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

Allergies, the lesser-known symptom, are actually one of the most common. More than a quarter of all pregnant women complain of developing an allergy throughout the course of their pregnancy—some of which may stick around even after your little bambino is born!

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Terrific Twos!

Everyone has heard about the Terrible Twos, but have you heard about the Terrific Twos instead? Around the time toddlers turn 18 months old, they enter into this new stage of independence that can often feel like a power struggle to parents and caregivers. Your once sweet baby is now mobile and ready to make her own mind up. Here are some tips to help make the twos terrific all around!

The first way to set your little one and family up for success is to talk as a family about what your goals and expectations are. One of the easiest ways to decide what you want as a family is to focus on creating a daily routine. You will quickly identify what is important to you in the way you set up your day. Focus on a routine instead of a schedule. No one likes the idea of “Fun Playtime 9:00-9:30 a.m.” Instead, focus on certain things to be scheduled such as meals, nap time and bedtime. For example, you could start getting little ones ready for bed at 7:00 with a goal of bedtime at 7:30 but understand that sometimes bedtime will be 7:20 and other times bedtime will be 7:40. Focusing on a routine will make the day more predictable and easier for not only your little one but for your whole family. A routine becomes easy to predict, which will lead to fewer meltdowns. If your little one attends daycare or has a sitter, make sure you plan what the days will ideally look like together, so you can maintain the same routine all days of the week. No day will ever be an exact copy of another, and your aim is to keep things consistent, not exactly the same.

Once you get a routine in place and your kiddos know what to expect on a daily basis, it is time to start leaning into helping them build their independence. Toddlers at this stage are really just trying to tell you they want to make their own choices about things that are important to them. Often we see toddlers have tantrums because they are trying to communicate with us that they want or need something, and unfortunately we don't understand what they want. A 2-year-old might be able to communicate with you he is hungry but not able to communicate with you he wants Cheerios in the red bowl with the train spoon and a cut up banana on the side. The easiest way to figure out what your tots want and to reduce the tantrums is to offer them choices. A lot of choices. The key is to only offer choices you want them to pick. You can offer choices with everything. Ask whether he wants the blue or red cup, the green or purple shirt, to play with the blocks or the puzzles. The possibilities are endless for the appropriate options you can offer your kid. Your child is getting to pick things he wants, and you’re helping him find his voice toward independence.

Another way to help your terrific 2-year-old is to focus on modeling the behavior you want your child to be part of. You can easily build these goals into your daily routine focusing on your priorities to teach your child. You can set up roles or chores for your 2-year-old. Once you teach your child her new responsibilities, then your role is to remind her of when the tasks need to be done, helping her complete the tasks and cheering her on for completing things. One simple chore a 2-yearold can complete is to put her dirty clothes in the hamper. Weave this into part of the bedtime routine and remind her to put her clothes in the hamper every night. Giving toddlers simple tasks to complete will help them feel more independent and develop pride in themselves. Some other tasks a 2-year-old is capable of helping with are pushing in his chair at the table, throwing away his napkin after meals, helping to pick up his toys, feeding the dogs with assistance … the list goes on and on! Don’t expect toddlers to be perfect at tasks, but giving them their own responsibilities from a young age will help them develop and communicate the independence they are searching for. They are on their way to the terrific twos!

Helping a toddler become terrific is hard work! Don’t beat yourself up every time your toddler gets upset. Focus on controlling what you can and let the rest go. Remember, your toddler is trying to communicate with you, and how you help set up parent-child communication now will make the twos terrific!

Janelle Cumro-Sultzer lives in Manhattan, Kansas, with her husband, three children and two dogs. Janelle is the owner of Flint Hills Mediation LLC and loves to focus on learning through play and getting messy with crafts.

RAIN OR SHINE SPRING INTO FUN IN KC

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Spring weather in the Midwest is unpredictable. Enjoy these favorite outings, whether the weather forecast is rain or shine.

GET THE WIGGLES OUT

ON A RAINY DAY, visit an indoor playground during an open jump. Many indoor play places offer special jump times for infants, toddlers and preschoolers. Also, visit KCParent.com and click “Coupons” to save on admission. Urban Air Trampoline Park offers Jumperoo from 9:00 to noon on Tuesdays and Fridays for children ages 5 and younger.

ON A SUNNY DAY, visit one of the best parks in Kansas City (search “Best Parks” on KCParent.com for ideas). Some of our favorites for little ones include Meadowmere Park with a fun forest-themed play area and soft play surfaces, Leawood City Park with a fully accessible playground for all ages and abilities and Penguin Park with giant penguins and elephants adorning the play area with equipment for all age groups.

GROWING THE GARDENS

ON A RAINY DAY, visit your local nursery. Family Tree Nursery and Colonial Gardens are some of the largest nurseries in the area with wide selections to enjoy. Both offer beautiful seasonal displays and special events. At Colonial Gardens, they offer livestock farm tours, and Family Tree’s Café Equinox is a favorite place to relax.

ON A SUNNY DAY, Overland Park Arboretum is a delightful place to spend a spring day. With blooming flowers to enjoy and the charming children’s garden, the whimsical train garden and the stunning Monet garden, as well as miles of trails to walk and explore— you and your little ones will have an enchanted visit.

ON A RAINY DAY, paint pottery. Ceramic Café offers story time and projects for little ones. Or walk in any time and paint something together. Let your little one get creative or design a handprint or footprint keepsake.

ON A SUNNY DAY, spend some time at the NelsonAtkins Museum of Art. You can visit the museum any time and explore the galleries, then enjoy a picnic on the lawn and explore the exhibits outside at Sculpture Park. The info kiosk offers a familyfriendly tour and ideas for little ones.

NATIVE NATURE

ON A RAINY DAY, you’ll be glad Kansas City is home to many wonderful nature centers, and they all offer story times and classes for all ages, including infants, toddlers and preschoolers.

Burr Oak Woods (816.228.3766) is one of our favorite outings on a chilly afternoon. You’ll see a large aquarium of Missouri’s freshwater fish, snakes, turtles, toads and more, and many great hands-on exhibits. Lakeside Nature Center (816.513.8960) is home to some of the best animal displays in the area, with falcons, owls, eagles, toads, frogs, fish, insects and wonderful exhibits on the animals in our city and in our homes.

ON A SUNNY DAY, visit the Native Hooved Animal Enclosure in Fleming Park. This 110-acre fenced enclosure is home to bison, elk and white-tailed deer.

ON THE FARM

ON A RAINY DAY, head inside to play pretend at KidScape at the Johnson County Museum. This whimsical destination is a hands-on, child-sized city. Children time travel to different periods and communities from the region’s past. They enjoy pretend play as they work on the farm, perform at the theater or the puppet show, teach in the school, deliver the mail, care for patients at the hospital and fry up some burgers at the diner. This exhibit is a favorite for early education.

ON A SUNNY DAY, feed baby goats, ride a pedal tractor and learn how to milk a cow at Deanna Rose Children’s Farmstead (913.897.2360). The farmstead is a top pick for local moms, who can take their tots to encounter goats, chickens, ponies, cows, bunnies, pigs, horses, bison, prairie dogs and more.

WILD ANIMALS

ON A RAINY DAY, check out Mid-Continent Public Libraries for free educational programs for all ages throughout the year. Some of the most popular events include the Kansas City Zoo’s Zoo to You programs where animals visit from the zoo. They also offer petting zoo programs and animalthemed story times and puppet shows. Check the library’s event calendar for information and follow our Kansas City Calendar

ON A SUNNY DAY, ride the carousel at the Kansas City Zoo. The zoo is always a favorite destination, with the polar bear, penguins, elephants, kangaroos, sea lions and hundreds more animals to enjoy. Purchase a FOTZ pass to include rides and visit often—plus, zoo memberships are reciprocal with other zoos if your family travels. Tip: You may pack a picnic at the Kansas City Zoo.

LEARN NEW THINGS

ON A RAINY DAY, head to Science City, Kansas City’s largest, most interactive science museum with something for visitors of all ages. Little ones especially love the experiential, handson exhibitions designed with them in mind. The

“Let’s Play!” exhibit is designed especially for babies, crawlers, toddlers and their caregivers and features activities designed for developmental needs with multiple sensory and role-playing activities.

“Creative Corner” is an exhibit where art meets science in a whole new way with cool interactive activities encouraging kids to explore, paint on glass and interact with sand and light tables to engage senses and stimulate minds.

ON A SUNNY DAY, Prairie Park Nature Center (LawrenceKS. org) showcases reptiles, amphibians, birds and mammals, as well as a hands-on center for preschoolers that features nature puppets, puzzles and activities.

LITTLE ENGINEERS

ON A RAINY DAY, Legoland Discovery Center Kansas City offers a fun, highly interactive and educational twoto three-hour indoor experience. Based on the ever-popular Lego brick, Legoland Discovery Center provides a range of interactive play areas. The Train Station Adventure is where children climb, slide, jump and roll around train obstacles. Families also enjoy the Kingdom Quest and Merlin’s Apprentice rides; Miniland, an interactive Lego replica of Kansas City’s most famous landmarks; and a variety of Lego play spaces.

ON A SUNNY DAY, Shawnee Mission Park’s new inclusive playground offers some incredibly fun ways to explore. Climb in a giant spider web, enjoy adaptive swings, play on spinning spheres and buckets, explore musical instruments and practice swaying on a platform. This playground is wonderful for children of all ages and abilities and offers many fun elements to explore the basics of engineering.

Kristina Light believes in being prepared when it comes to fun with kids.

DAILY

Story Time Visit MyMCPL.org or JoCoLibrary.org to find a complete list of story times.

MONDAY

RoKC Play Lounge 8:00, RoKC Olathe. Children 6 months to 6 years are invited to enjoy a two-hour session to the play lounge while parents participate in rock wall climbing.

Gym for Me Mon & Wed (Lenexa Community Center), Tue (Lenexa Rec Center), 9:00. A place for littler ones to run, ride and play. Play items available including riding toys, inflatables and balls. Lenexa.com/preschool

Mom or Dad & Me Bumper Bowling 9:30, Summit Lanes. For just $3 per person, you get a game, shoe rental and drink on Mondays and Wednesdays. SummitLanes.com

Open Gym Mon-Thu, 9:30, Kaw Prairie Community Church (Lenexa). Grab a coffee from the coffee shop and hang out with friends while your kiddos get their energy out on chilly days! KawPrairie.org/info

playdates

WEEKLY

Penguin Exhibit 10:00, Kansas City Zoo. The zoo is open year-round, and this is a great time to visit the penguins and polar bears! KansasCityZoo.org

TUESDAY

Preschool Indoor Playground 9:30, Merriam Community Center. Drive, pull or push your favorite Little Tikes vehicles. Parents must supervise their children.

Visit Sea Life 10:00, Sea Life Aquarium. Bring the kids to see the Doodle Reef, the touch pool, Stingray Bay and more! Purchase tickets online at VisitSeaLife.com.

Pay for Play 10:00, Backyard Specialists. Plan a playdate for your children and their friends at our amazing outdoor showroom. BackyardSpecialists.com/pay-for-play

WEDNESDAY

Retro Story Time Second Wednesday of the month, 10:00-10:45, Johnson County Museum. Preschoolers love stories from long ago, read by a special guest. Craft activity included. Pre-reg at 913.831.3359.

Preschool Story Time First and third Wednesday of the month, 10:30-11:00, Ernie Miller Nature Center. Visit the nature center for stories, songs and surprises geared to preschool children. Pre-reg at JCPRD.com.

THURSDAY

Pay for Play 10:00, Backyard Specialists. Plan a playdate for your children and their friends at our amazing outdoor showroom. BackyardSpecialists.com/pay-for-play

Toddler Time 10:00, Ceramic Café. Toddlers 5 and under can paint a selected item for only $12! CeramicCafeKC.com

Visit Legoland 10:00, Legoland Discovery Center. Take the kids to the ultimate indoor playground for the biggest fans of Lego. Purchase tickets at LegolandDiscoveryCenter.com.

SATURDAY

Little Acorns 10:00, Anita Gorman Discovery Center. Join volunteer naturalists for a fantastic journey through forests, streams and other magical places as they read select books. Pre-reg at 816.759.7300.

parents night out

Worlds of Fun Opening Day April 8. Kansas City’s amusement park with 235 acres of family rides, thrill rides and waterslides, including seven worldclass roller coasters. Enjoy season-long access, including seasonal events, and free parking to Worlds of Fun with a Gold Season Pass. WorldsOfFun.com

Passport to India April 16, Nelson-Atkins Museum of Art. Travel to India with a celebration of Indian art, culture, music, dance, fashion and food! Collect a “passport” when you arrive and have it stamped along the way. Nelson-Atkins.org

Million Dollar Quartet April 20-July 2, The New Theatre & Restaurant. This thrilling, smash-hit Broadway musical takes you inside Sun recording studio

for an unforgettable night of rock ’n’ roll inspired by the famed recording session that brought together icons Elvis Presley, Johnny Cash, Jerry Lee Lewis and Carl Perkins for the first and only time. NewTheatre.com

Is He Dead? May 5-21, Olathe Civic Theatre. Jean-Francois Millet, a young painter of genius, is in love with Marie Leroux but in debt to a villainous picture dealer, Bastien Andre. Andre forecloses on Millet, threatening debtor’s prison unless Leroux marries him. Adapted from the play by Mark Twain. OlatheTheatre.org

Cirque Kalabanté – “Afrique en Cirque” May 19, Midwest Trust Center. “Afrique en Cirque” is a highly colorful creation featuring amazing acrobats performing

authentic choreography to the frantic rhythms of native instruments of Guinea. JCCC.edu/midwest-trust-center/events

Jazzoo June 2, Kansas City Zoo. The zoo’s largest fundraiser! Proceeds provide food and care for the 1,700 animals as well as educational opportunities for children in the community. JazzooKC.org

Meet Me in St. Louis June 16-24, Shawnee Mission Theatre in the Park. It is the summer of 1903, and everyone in the Smith family eagerly anticipates the opening of the 1904 World’s Fair. Over the course of a year, the family’s mutual respect, tempered with good-natured humor, helps them through romance, opportunity and heartbreaks. TheatreInThePark.org

Cirque Kalabanté – “Afrique en Cirque” at Midwest Trust Center

My daughter thinks Chuck E. Cheese is only open for birthday parties.

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What clever/funny fibs have you told your children?

Lindsay: My husband told my kids, “When the ice cream man is playing music, it means he’s sold out.” My kids have NEVER asked for ice cream.

Lucinda: I left the clock at “spring forward” for an extra week after it was supposed to “fall back.” Kids went to bed an hour early, and I got an extra hour in the evenings.

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Katie: My daughter thinks Chuck E. Cheese is only open for birthday parties.

Timothy: Cranberry juice is “red pop.” So the only “pop” they knew was cranberry juice. Too bad they learned the facts of “pop” from classmates.

Jamie: That the finely chopped spinach in all of their meals was actually a spice. I even showed them a jar of dried parsley.

Audra: Whenever my son, 5, asks how I did something— “Mommy magic,” I reply.

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