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Time took a wonky perspective change once we were expecting our first baby. “Hurry up!” I would think as I wished to meet this stranger poking around my insides. “Slow down, already!” I would think as she grew through tiny clothes those first few months and years. And my husband and I would marvel, as most new parents do, at what on earth we did with ourselves before our baby!

Once she arrived, we just wanted to sit still and hold her a little longer … even when we weren’t already feeding, rocking or reading to her.

When it came to naming our firstborn, we engaged in hours and hours of conversations about names. Once we had a contender, we always checked the Social Security Administration website to see how popular it was. That was a fascinating exercise! You can find lots of ideas for generating baby names on p. 8. Years have passed now, and I do know the cost of kiddos doesn’t seem to let up! Be sure to see “Budgeting After Baby” on p. 16 for helpful tips to navigate the expenses associated with children.

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Snowman Paintings eady to introduce your little ones to painting? Try out this simple craft that will allow your tots to try their hands or fingers at painting!

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• Canvas • Assorted paints (We used blue, white, black, orange and red.)

• Paintbrush • Round paint sponges • Paper plate for paint • Paper towels/wipes • Scrap paper for under the canvas DIRECTIONS: Step one: Put canvas onto scrap paper.

Step two: Paint canvas blue. Let dry.

Step three: Using the round paint sponges (or fingers!), paint the body of the snowman. Let dry.

Step four: Using the paint sponges or fingers, paint the snow on the ground under the snowman and also the falling snow in the sky. Let dry.

Step five: Add snowman details including face, hat and scarf.

Let dry.

Optional: Add onto the painting your children’s names and the year along with a cute saying like, “We love you SNOW much!”

Janelle Cumro-Sultzer lives in Manhattan, Kansas, with her husband, three children, two dogs, eight fish and a frog. Janelle is the owner of Flint Hills Mediation LLC and loves to focus on learning through play and getting messy with crafts.

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APPS Babyname App is a fun way for both you and your partner to find the perfect name.

The app is inspired by the popular app Tinder. Each parent will swipe to the right if they like the name and to the left if they don’t. You can even add names you like without your partner knowing, so you can get honest feedback. If your partner likes the same name, the app saves it. So what are you waiting for?

Get to swiping!

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Baby Name Genius by Nametrix is another app you can use. It gives data about names, such as which names lean toward particular professions or political parties.

For instance, do you want your child to be a doctor? The app can help you find the perfect name for your future physician.

There’s even an app to help your baby choose her own name. If you want your child to pick out her own name, try the Kick to Pick app. The app will pick out names for your baby by assessing the baby’s kicks. Just place the phone on your belly when the baby is moving, and when the baby kicks, the phone will spin out a name for your child.

decision that can be quite difficult. You have to make sure the name suits him, because it will be with him forever. Where do parents turn for baby name ideas these days? In this technologically advanced age, apps, name generators, websites, books and even artificial intelligence (AI) can help take the burden off parents.

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NAME GENERATORS Several websites offer name generators. TheBump.com offers a name generator tool. It asks you the gender, any origin, style or meaning you would like, as well as whether you have a preference on the first initial and how many syllables. Then it gives you several name suggestions. I gave this a try and really loved one of the name suggestions.

I also tried out the Baby Name DNA name generator at Nameberry.com. According to Nameberry, Baby Name DNA analyzes your individual name style and identifies your unique blend of eight main baby name types. My family has unique names, so I used the tool to generate a unique name. I was asked to look at several images and choose my preferences. I couldn’t believe how spot-on the name suggestions were!

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Named by AI is a namegenerating tool that uses AI to help parents find names for their newborn babies. You simply answer a few questions about the gender, whether you would like a preferred origin or meaning and whether you prefer a popular or unique name. This tool was extremely fast and gave me a long list of options. I found several names that were on my name list that we didn’t use when I was expecting my daughter three years ago.

As soon as I found out I was pregnant with my oldest daughter 10 years ago, I rushed to the bookstore and picked up a baby name book. I pored over the book for hours. Now, books aren’t the most popular or quickest method for finding baby names, but there are still several great options out there. Try 100,000+

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Baby Names: The Most Helpful, Complete, & Up-to-Date Name Book by Bruce Lansky and The Name Book: Over 10,000 Names—Their Meanings, Origins, and Spiritual Significance

by Dorothy Astoria. Both are great resources.

Social media has become a fun and easy way to find baby names. TikTok has so many name ideas. Simply search for what kind of baby names you are looking for and go through the many videos of options. You can search for names that are unusual, vintage, rare or trendy. The list goes on and on.

The only issue with this method is that you’ll encounter an infinite number of suggestions, which might make it difficult to narrow them down to your favorites.

SOCIAL SECURITY WEBSITE SSA.gov is another great resource.

You can research the most popular baby names of each year, as well as look up a name you like to see how it’s changed in popularity through the years. You can also research how popular a name is in your state.

Regan Lyons is a girl mom and freelance writer. She lives with her husband, Cale, and daughters, Atley, 9, and Ensley, 3, in St. Joseph.

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xpecting a baby is an exciting experience, but it brings about monumental changes in a woman’s body that aren’t always easy to adjust to. One of these changes is the disruption of sleep patterns. As the pregnancy progresses, women may find it increasingly difficult to get a good night’s rest. This is because of hormonal changes, physical discomfort and anxiety about the impending arrival of their little one.

It’s important to understand how pregnancy affects sleep. The main culprit here is progesterone, a hormone that increases during pregnancy. It causes drowsiness, but it also relaxes muscles and joints, making it harder to find a comfortable sleeping position. The growing baby grows puts pressure on a mom’s bladder, leading to more frequent trips to the bathroom and less time sleeping. All these factors can leave an expectant mom feeling exhausted. Each pregnancy is unique, but here are some common sleep solutions that may help you get the much-longed-for rest you need.

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Create an environment that encourages rest Creating the right sleeping environment can make a significant difference in getting a good night’s rest. Consider investing in a pregnancy pillow designed specifically for pregnant women that will help support your growing belly as well as your lower back. Keep the room dark, quiet and at a temperature that promotes better sleep.

Don’t keep your lack of sleep a secret—ask your partner for help in creating the right sleeping conditions. If possible, agree with your spouse to take turns getting up with your other children so you can both get rest.

Establish a bedtime routine Establishing a bedtime routine can help signal to your body that it’s time to sleep. This could include taking a warm bath, drinking herbal tea or reading a book before bed.

Make sure to avoid stimulating activities such as using electronics or watching TV right before bedtime. If you take naps during the day, try to schedule them for earlier in the day to promote better sleep at bedtime.

Create healthy habits Regular exercise promotes better sleep. Try to incorporate 15 minutes of exercise each day, even if it’s just taking a walk. Healthy eating habits can also help you feel better and get good rest. Try eating your evening meal earlier in order to avoid acid reflux, which is common in pregnancy and can result in loss of sleep. It’s also wise to avoid caffeine in the evening, which can cause you to feel jittery and struggle to settle down at night.

Practice relaxation techniques Pregnancy can be a stressful time, and anxiety can make it hard to fall asleep. To help calm your mind and body, practice relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, stretching, meditation, prayer or prenatal yoga. These techniques can also be helpful in reducing any physical discomfort you may be experiencing.

Try different sleeping positions As mentioned earlier, finding a comfortable sleeping position can be a challenge during pregnancy. Experiment with different positions such as sleeping on your side with a pillow between your legs or using extra pillows to support your back and belly. Some women may find that a recliner is more comfortable as the pregnancy progresses. Experiment with different pillows and positions to figure out what works best for you.

Consider natural remedies If you’re still struggling with sleep, you may want to explore natural remedies such as herbal supplements or essential oils. However, consult with your doctor before trying any new remedies, as not all of them are safe for pregnant women.

Prenatal massage can also be enjoyable, relaxing and promote sleep. Before making an appointment, check with your doctor to make sure this is a safe option for you. If natural remedies don’t make a difference, reach out to your doctor for other tips and suggestions to help you rest.

Pinpoint the underlying issue Try to pinpoint the reason for your lack of sleep. Do you have heartburn? Are you stressed about anything? Do you have a toddler sharing your bed? Once you know what your sleep obstacles are, you can work with your partner and your doctor to come up with a solution that can help you rest. If you’re still having trouble sleeping, seek help from your OB/GYN. Your doctor can check for any underlying issues, such as sleep apnea, restless legs syndrome or acid reflux, and provide appropriate treatment.

Sleep is essential for both the mother and the growing baby during pregnancy. Nothing was more frustrating to me when I was tired and pregnant than a friend saying, “Rest while you can because once the baby arrives, you won’t be getting much sleep.” Although these comments are usually well-intentioned,

they don’t help a pregnant mom relax and get the rest she desperately needs. The most important thing is to take care of your body and your growing baby. Find a solution that works for you and, if you are still struggling, listen to your body and reach out to your doctor with your questions and concerns.

How to Calm Your Mind and Body Before Bed • Listen to calming music.

• Take a relaxing bath or shower.

• Journal to release any anxious feelings.

• Ask your partner for a massage.

• Pray or meditate.

• Read a book.

• Try essential oils, herbal tea or natural remedies—but consult your doctor first!

• Try listening to white noise or ASMR (YouTube has many free options).

• Practice deep breathing and muscle relaxation techniques.

• Get tomorrow organized—pack lunches, make a list, prepare for school, work and activities. You will sleep better knowing you are ready and prepared.

• Talk about your day with your partner or a friend. List some positive things going on in your life.

• Practice a good bedtime routine.

• Practice healthy exercise and eating habits during the day, so you can rest better at night.

Sarah Lyons is a mom of six children, including 9-year-old triplets. She lives in Olathe with her family.

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ost babies and toddlers use them.

Whether they call them a pacifier, paci, bobo, binky—or just use their own thumb—little ones find comfort in sucking on them.

Sucking is a normal reflex that soothes babies. It can help them go to sleep on their own and calm them when they’re upset, which is always welcome to new parents. But when is it time to wean your child? And how should you do it?

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The American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry (AAPD) says most children will stop using a pacifier or sucking their thumb on their own between the ages of 2 and 4, but they recommend intervention for children over 3 years old. Using a pacifier can affect the growth of the jaw and the way a child’s teeth bite together. Upper teeth may also begin to top outward or become crooked. This can be fixed with braces, but it could also cause speech problems or a lisp.

Thumbs are free, easy to use and always safe.

The only issue is you can’t take them away. If you have an option when your child is born, the AAPD recommends a pacifier over a thumb to comfort babies since a pacifier habit is easier to break at an early age.

However, offering a pacifier is not always a choice, as some babies start sucking their thumb in the womb.

Danielle Hewitt, a mother from St. Joseph, says her 3-year-old daughter has always sucked her thumb, but she sleeps well on her own because sucking her thumb keeps her comforted. It also gives Hewitt signs that her daughter is feeling shy or tired. “I think it will be hard for her to stop, because you can’t take it away like a pacifier,” she says.

A few tips for weaning from thumb sucking include positive reinforcement, like a sticker chart or praise when your child doesn’t suck his thumb, wearing special nighttime gloves, finding a special blanket or lovey to help soothing instead of thumb sucking, or asking your pediatric dentist for a mouth guard. There are also several products you can purchase to prevent thumb sucking. Thumb sucking guard gloves are available for purchase, as well as solutions like Nixxit and Control-It that have a bad flavor that helps deter kids from thumb sucking. Another option would be a home remedy of soaking the thumb in apple cider vinegar to make the fingers taste bitter.

Sometimes giving up the pacifier can be tougher for the parents than the children. That was the case with my children. My husband and I relied on it to soothe both our daughters while on car rides and when going to sleep. If they were fussy, the pacifier was a quick and easy way to calm them down immediately.

However, there were a few downsides. We were constantly losing and buying new pacifiers. We also had to have one on us at all times. I felt reliant on it in case we were out and she needed to be soothed.

We also found ourselves looking for the pacifier in the middle of the night and putting it back in the baby’s mouth, so she would go back to sleep. We decided to slowly wean at the age of 1. We couldn’t believe how painless it was! One major factor was our daycare was on the same page and took away the pacifier at the same time we did.

Amber Pinson, a mom of three from St. Joseph, also slowly weaned one of her children. “We gradually took away the pacifier,” she says. “We gave it to our child at nap time and bedtime since it was what soothed him. We started taking it out of his mouth when he fell asleep at nap time and eventually at nap time altogether. Once he no longer needed it for naps, we did the same for bedtime.”

Krystina Huff, another mother of three from St. Joseph, says each of her three children were different. “I was able to convince my oldest child that pacifiers were for babies, and she could gift them to a baby. My middle child was much harder to convince, so we cut holes and created imperfections in the nipple so he wouldn’t want it anymore,” she says. “With our youngest, we went cold turkey and just took it away. It was rough for a couple of nights, but then he got over it.”

Katie Heitman, a Spring Hill, Kansas, mother of one, says she had friends who threw pacifiers out the window when their child had fits. “Another friend gave them to Santa in exchange for an extra gift in return,” she says.

TIPS TO KICK THUMB SUCKING: • Positive reinforcement tools like a sticker chart.

• Praise kids when they aren’t sucking their thumb.

Don’t criticize when they are.

• Special gloves or a thumb guard to wear at nighttime.

• Teaching them about the germs on their hands.

• Cover their thumb with a bitter solution like apple cider vinegar.

• Offer alternatives like a stuffed animal or special blanket to comfort them.

TIPS TO DITCH THE PACIFIER: • Limit the pacifier to the crib only.

• Cut a hole in the pacifier and tell your child it’s broken.

• Set a date to graduate from using the pacifier and become a big kid.

• Tell your kids you lost the pacifier.

• Let your child trade her pacifiers for a big kid toy of her choice.

• Have the Paci Fairy take it and leave him with a toy instead.

• Read books to your child about giving up the pacifier. Some suggestions are Bye Bye Binky by Little Hippo Books, Pacifiers Are Not Forever by Elizabeth Verdick, No More Pacifier, Duck by Michael Dahl and The Paci Fairy by Melissa Burnett.

Regan Lyons is a girl mom and freelance writer. She lives with her husband, Cale, and daughters, Atley, 9, and Ensley, 3, in St. Joseph. kcparent.com january-march 2024

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do’s and don’ts after a c-section

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hildbirth is an amazing and memorable time for

your family, but the process is tough on your body— whether you have a vaginal delivery or a cesarean section. Recovery from a C-section encompasses significant physical and emotional changes that are complicated by the fact you’ll be recovering from surgery as well as caring for a newborn. It’s a time to lean on your support system, focus on healing and bond with your little one.

Do: Rest and listen to your body.

Pain control and getting to know your baby are top priorities during the first few days. You’ll gradually incorporate more movement and activity as you heal, but it’s OK to take a break when things feel overwhelming.

Don’t: Try to be a superhero.

If you do too much too fast, you may delay healing and cause long-term health problems. Let your support system do the dishes, laundry and dinner preparation.

You should focus on gradual increases in activity and caring for your new bundle of joy.

Do: Care for your incision.

Follow your surgeon’s instructions to properly care for your incision, which will help prevent complications.

• Avoid baths, hot tubs and pools until the incision is completely healed.

• Gentle cleansing with soap and water is recommended.

• Wear comfy clothing that doesn’t dig into the incision.

• A postpartum belly band or binder stabilizes and provides a gentle amount of compression.

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• Place a pillow on your stomach when you sit or stand up, cough, sneeze or laugh.

• Silicone scar sheets help promote healing and can minimize the scar.

Don’t: Ignore signs of infection.

The last thing you want after a C-section is an infected incision. Call your health care provider if you notice any of the following: • Redness, swelling or the incision feels hot to touch.

• Bleeding or other drainage.

• You develop a fever.

• Pain that was improving suddenly worsens.

• Separation or opening of the incision.

Do: Drink water and take a stool softener.

Avoid constipation after giving birth like your life depends on it! Drink plenty of water, take stool softeners and increase the fiber in your diet, so your first bowel movements are soft and easy to pass.

Don’t: immediately dive back into your favorite foods.

Start with bland, easy-to-digest foods and slowly advance your diet as tolerated.

Avoid fried and greasy foods, at least for the first few days.

Do: Breastfeed with care.

Invest in a Boppy or similar nursing pillow; they make life easier while figuring out the best breastfeeding positions. Your nurses and breastfeeding consultants will help you find comfortable positions like the football hold that don’t place extra pressure on your incision.

Don’t: Give up without asking for help and support.

Take advantage of breastfeeding clinics even after hospital discharge. Breastfeeding is hard, and no one knows how to do it at first. The nurses and staff are just as invested in your success as you.

Do: Talk about your feelings.

Childbirth is one of the most transformative experiences in life, with emotional changes you’ve likely never experienced. Joy and all-consuming love are often mixed with fear, exhaustion and frustration—sometimes all simultaneously.

Don’t: Think you’re alone.

The emotional upheaval of new motherhood is normal. Connect with your loved ones and contact your health care provider if you’re struggling. Sometimes, just “getting it out” is enough to feel better.

But if not, it’s also OK to accept help from professionals.

Do: Expect recovery to take time.

A C-section is a major abdominal surgery. You wouldn’t expect anyone else who just had major surgery to be up doing all the things, so don’t expect it of yourself either. You’ll gradually feel more like yourself about four to six weeks after surgery.

Typical recovery symptoms include: • Mild to moderate cramping.

• Vaginal bleeding or discharge for up to six weeks.

• Pain, tenderness and numbness at the incision site.

Don’t: Ignore the post-op instructions.

These instructions are meant to promote optimal healing after delivery.

• Don’t have sex or put anything in your vagina, including tampons, until cleared by your health care provider.

• Call if you notice worsening pain, shortness of breath, leg pain, or develop a fever and chills.

Do: Give yourself grace.

If the laundry is in piles or bottles and pump parts are strewn across the counter, don’t fret. Give yourself the grace to accept this season and find joy in the little moments.

Don’t: Feel guilty.

Embrace the chaos, ask for help from your support system and get to know the newest member of your family!

Joleen Sams lives with her family in Shawnee. She’s a family nurse practitioner who has always loved taking care of kids and their families.

Sources: American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, “Cesarean Birth: Frequently Asked Questions” and The Mayo Clinic, “C-section recovery: What to expect”

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BUDGETING after baby B

abies cost a lot of money! Diapers, formula, clothes and baby gear can take a huge chunk out of your monthly budget. Some families find the cost of childcare or reducing

to a single income makes the adjustment even more difficult than expected. Here are some tips to cut down on spending.

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Trimming Your Baby Budget Diapers To save on diapers, consider switching to cloth. Modern cloth diapers are easy to use and come in cute designs. The initial cost is typically $10-20 per diaper, but they can be reused for years.

If cloth diapers aren’t for your family, you still can find ways to save money on disposable diapers. Check manufacturer websites for high dollar coupons and combine with store sales. Generic diapers are another great way to save and they are typically comparable to name brand.

Formula Breastfeeding is not always an option for families for a variety of reasons, and formula is pricey. Coupons and rebates are readily available from manufacturers. Go to the manufacturer's website and sign up for additional coupons and have friends and family do the same. You also can ask your obstetrician and pediatrician for free formula samples.

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Car seat, stroller, high chair, bouncer, swing and more—for someone so small, a baby seems to require a lot of gear. And each item seems to cost a hundred dollars or more. Buying a new car seat that meets current safety standards is wise, but you can purchase all the other items gently used and sell them again later when your family no longer needs them.

Just because a new baby is in the house doesn’t mean you have to stop enjoying entertainment, but you might need to approach a night out in a new way. You do not need to forego movies, concerts or area attractions but do check deal sites to see whether there are any options available to you. Doing this requires planning ahead to make sure the expenditure fits into the budget and that you have childcare covered, if necessary. Also consider whether items like cable or streaming subscriptions are necessary. Choose to pay for the entertainment you use and enjoy.

Baby clothes Babies grow fast! It doesn’t make sense to spend a lot on several cute baby outfits when your child outgrows them only a few weeks later. Consider buying gently used clothing and asking friends for hand-medowns. If you want new items, buy less than you think you will need because your baby will use them for only a short time.

Childcare To save money on childcare, you have to get creative. Ideas include having a family or friend watch the baby at a lower rate, trading babysitting with another family or alternating shifts with your partner to reduce time in childcare. Some companies offer flexible spending plans to pay for childcare with pre-tax money.

Reduce Our homes are filled with items we rarely use. Consider selling these items to put extra cash in your hand that can be used for all those new baby expenses. Have a garage sale, utilize consignment sales or sell items in online marketplaces.

Trim expenses Look at the family budget and evaluate where you easily can trim expenses. Do you belong to a gym, have club memberships, subscriptions or other monthly bills for

services you don’t use enough to justify the expense? Discuss with your partner whether some of these items can be cut to free up the money for other expenses.

A favorite resource for thrifty thinking in many categories is EverdayCheapskate.com.

DIY A simple way to save money is to do things yourself. Cleaning and lawn services are nice but expensive. Taking care of it yourself is free. Instead of paying someone to repair or remodel things around the house, try it yourself first and save the money you would have spent on labor.

Bringing home a new baby is an adjustment in many ways, and financial priorities may have shifted in your family.

In time, you will adjust to your new lifestyle and budget and you will feel comfortable with budgeting after Baby.

Sarah Lyons is a mom of six children, including 9-year-old triplets. She lives in Olathe with her family. She has learned to cut costs and save money in a variety of ways.

Trimming Other Areas Wardrobe The key to saving money on adult clothing is to shop for versatile pieces that can be worn many different ways. A solid color top can be worn with jeans, slacks or a skirt and paired with a scarf, necklace, jacket or worn alone for a variety of looks.

Once you have your key pieces, only buy clothing when you really need something.

Food Several strategies can help cut costs in this area. Purchasing groceries with coupons or on sale or buying generic brands can save money. Also, consider making items from scratch and eating out less to help trim your food budget. A quick Google search will provide you with several $5 meal ideas.

11 Ways to Find Hidden Cash in Your Home You may have potential cash lying around your house in the form of unused items that can be sold for cash.

• Gently used designer clothes, shoes and purses • Gold or silver jewelry—even broken items • Old cell phones or electronics • Books, CDs and DVDs you no longer use • Gift cards • Things that were gifts or freebies that you never have used • Collectibles such as figurines, coins or stamps • Outdoor or sporting equipment • Musical instruments • Formal dresses that were only worn once • Home decor and antiques

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anguage development is an essential part of a child’s overall growth and development. It enables kids to express their thoughts, needs and emotions effectively. Toddlers who have good language skills are better equipped to interact with others and develop relationships. It can be concerning when your toddler isn’t talking as much as other children her age. However, every child develops at her own pace, and there’s no need to panic if your little one is taking a bit longer to start talking.

In fact, there are many things you can do to encourage your child’s speech and language development. Here are some tips and advice for parents of toddlers who won’t talk.

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What’s normal?

Try not to compare your child to his peers. Every child develops at his own pace. “Comparing is always hard because there’s such a wide range with kids’ development,” says Stephanie Loux, mom of three. “Being part of a mom’s group is helpful to see what peers are doing, and talking with other moms is helpful.”

While some toddlers may start talking as early as 12 months, others may not say their first words until they are closer to 2 years old. In general, most toddlers will have a vocabulary of around 50 words by the time they are 20-24 months old.

By the time they are 3 years old, they should be able to combine words into short phrases and sentences. If your child

falls within this range, then his speech development is likely on track.

Encourage speech development If your toddler is not yet talking, there are a few things you can do to encourage his speech and language development.

Make sure to talk to him often. Narrate your day as you go about your activities, describing what you’re doing and asking questions. This will expose your child to a wide range of vocabulary words and help him understand the structure of language. As you are driving, point out the blue sky, the yellow school bus or the big dog walking on the sidewalk. Use playtime as an opportunity to express feelings, describe options and actions, and

talk about the world around you. Reading to your child every day is another great way to encourage speech development.

Choose books with simple words and bright pictures that will capture his attention.

Next steps If your toddler is still not speaking at the age of 2 or 3, it may be a good idea to consult with a speech therapist who can help assess your child’s speech and language development and provide techniques for you to use at home. Talk to your child’s teacher or pediatrician for a referral for an evaluation of your child’s speech.

Many school districts offer free testing for preschool-age children.

It’s also a good idea to get your child’s hearing and vision screened. Hearing impairment can be a barrier for language development and the ability to imitate sounds. Vision impairment can make it hard for a child to see the world around her, which can interfere with language development.

In the meantime, there are some simple speech therapy techniques you can incorporate into your daily routine. For example, encourage your child to imitate actions and sounds, such as animal noises

As you are driving, point out the blue sky, the yellow school bus or the big dog walking on the sidewalk. Use playtime as an opportunity to express feelings, describe options and actions, and talk about the world around you. Reading to your child every day is another great way to encourage speech development. or simple actions like clapping or waving.

You can also try playing games that involve using words, such as Simon Says or I Spy, or teaching her simple sign language. These activities can be fun for your child while also helping her develop her speech.

Know the signs of a speech delay Though every child develops at his own pace, there are signs that may indicate a possible speech delay. If your toddler is not babbling by 12 months old or has a limited vocabulary of words by the age of 2, it may be worth consulting with your pediatrician.

Other signs to watch for include difficulty understanding simple instructions and trouble communicating basic needs and wants. In these cases, early intervention is key, and seeking help from a professional can greatly benefit your child’s development.

It’s natural to be concerned if your toddler isn’t talking as much as his peers.

You know your child best, and if you feel there is a problem, it never hurts to have your child evaluated by a professional for guidance and support. “Trusting your gut and seeing your pediatrician or asking for a second opinion is the best way to be an advocate for your child,” says Loux. With patience, consistency and love, you can help your toddler become a confident and expressive communicator. Remember to enjoy this special stage of development and celebrate all the milestones along the way.

Sarah Lyons is a mom of six children, including triplets. Now that everyone's found their voice, the challenge becomes finding moments of quiet together in Olathe.

References American Speech-Language-Hearing Association, https://www.asha.org/public/ speech/development/chart/

Incorporating Language into Play Toddlers are at a crucial age for language development.

During this stage, children learn to communicate using words and sentences, which sets the foundation for their future language skills. As a parent, you have an essential role in facilitating your child’s language learning through play.

Incorporating language into play is an effective way to engage toddlers and helps them develop their communication skills.

Narrate your actions. As you play with your toddler, describe what you are doing in simple words. For example, “I am building a tower with blocks.” This allows children to associate words with actions and objects, which helps in building their vocabulary.

Use open-ended questions. Instead of asking yes or no questions, ask open-ended questions that encourage your child to use words and phrases. For example, “What color should we paint the sky?” This encourages creativity and language development.

Sing songs and rhymes. Music is a great way to introduce language into play. Singing songs and using nursery rhymes not only helps children develop listening skills but also introduces them to new words and phrases.

Play pretend. Pretend play can be an excellent opportunity to incorporate language into play. Encourage your child to use words and phrases as she engages in imaginative play. For example, if your child is pretending to cook, ask her what ingredients she is using or what she is making.

Read together. Reading with your toddler is an effective way to introduce language into play. Choose books with simple and repetitive phrases, and encourage your child to point to objects and name them as you read.

Use everyday interactions. Simple activities like grocery shopping or going for a walk can also be used to incorporate language into play with toddlers. Point out and name objects as you engage in these daily tasks, which helps expand your child’s vocabulary.

Be patient and supportive. Every child develops at his own pace, so it is essential to be patient and supportive as your toddler learns to communicate. Reinforce his efforts and continue incorporating language into play in a fun and relaxed manner. You will both have fun along the way.

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Before you allow your baby to trek freely from room to room, get your home ready for a child on the move with these safety steps and precautions.

Prepare before the birth First-time parents embark upon a new life filled with late nights, sleep deprivation and a world of stresses they’ve never experienced or considered. Prepare your home before the baby is born to avoid the panic of waiting until the last minute.

Tour like your tot The first step toward ensuring your home is ready for a mobile child is to see the world from the same level. Take a crawling tour around your home to see things that may be in the way and discover hazardous items that are within easy reach. Use all of your senses to assess any potential dangers.

Latch it up Protect your little one from sharp objects and heavy items by installing child-protective latches on all cabinets and drawers. For an added layer of protection, keep any sharp objects and harmful chemicals in high places only adults can reach.

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Bookshelves, bedside tables and the items placed on them, such as television sets and other large appliances, can be a threat to the safety of a small child trying to pull himself up and balance on two feet. Ensure these items are properly secured or keep them put away unless in use to avoid their being pulled over on top of your child.

Other safety measures To properly prepare your home for a mobile child, remember to take these steps:

• Cover electrical outlets with safety plugs.

• Place safety gates at the top and bottom of staircases.

• Install fireplace screens.

• Add foam padding to sharp furniture corners and edges.

• Place a soft cover over the bathtub waterspout.

• Remove blinds with looped cords or install safety tassels and cord stops.

• Stock your first-aid kit.

• Put nonslip pads under rugs.

Find more tips to childproof your home at eLivingToday.com.

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THE FAST-MOVING MENAGERIE OF EMOTIONS CAN LEAD TO FRUSTRATION, THEN MELTDOWNS.

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s your children grow and experience new things, from foods to activities to people, they may feel overwhelmed by all the world’s bombardments. A toddler’s answer? Lie on the floor and start screaming and pounding the tile or carpet.

Think of when you feel out of sorts. As adults, though, we understand we need to step back, go for a run, do yoga, call a friend or simply breathe.

Meltdowns can result in screaming matches between parent and child. With younger children, these sometimes lead to violence, with the child hitting or biting the parent or the parent resorting to spanking the child. Spanking can simply exasperate the situation and cause power struggles.

The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends that parents do not spank their children at all. In fact, research suggests that spanking isn’t actually effective in stopping children from being disruptive.

Spanking leads to fear, confusion and anger in children, and can lead to more hitting and biting since violent behavior from a parent begets violent behavior in a child.

So what does work to calm down a frustrated, angry child who just doesn’t want to get dressed, log in to online school or eat breakfast? Here are some timeproven tips.

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Number one is easier said than done, yet it is the most valuable tool: Stay calm in front of your child when you are disciplining him, even though your own heart may be racing, and you are near tears! Discipline from a calm place, not from anger. Most important of all, don’t yell at your child. A child feels terrible and confused when a parent yells at him.

Discipline is most effective if the parent remains calm.

I once did a skit with my daughter for one of her school plays about how to handle a tantrum in the grocery store line. It was an eye-opening experience because my daughter learned how bad she looked when she melted down! And to think it was all over the fact I didn’t buy her the candy she wanted and that she was hungry and tired.

Be consistent with discipline and follow through when you have made a threat. Try not to make any threat you are not willing to carry through. For example, instead of saying to your child, “You are grounded for the rest of your life,” say, “You are grounded for this weekend. That means no sleepovers or playdates this weekend. That’s final.” The consequence should follow the misbehavior as quickly as possible. For example, “You hit your brother, so you lose TV tonight.”

Reward positive behavior by using a star chart. At the end of every day, for the good behavior you have discussed, reward your child with a gold star on the calendar.

If your child gets three or four (you decide how many) gold stars during the week, then on Saturday, he gets a special treat. This may be an outing to an ice cream parlor, a movie or a pizza place. Use this method to help your child get ready for school on time, go to bed peacefully at bedtime or any number of other routines.

Another idea is to create a reward grab bag for times when you go out somewhere.

This does not need to be an extravagant undertaking. Dollar stores have inexpensive toys. Giftwrap the toys and put them in a bag. Your child may choose a toy from the bag when you want to reward her for especially good behavior.

Pick your battles. For instance, why should you fight with your preschool-age child if she wants to wear her pajamas all morning or even all day if she’s just staying home? Later, you can encourage her to get dressed by offering to take her out bike riding or for a visit to Grandma’s house.

Have clear consequences for unacceptable behavior, such as timeouts, loss of privileges (e.g., television, computer or video games) or grounding.

Explain the system of consequences and rewards clearly to your child.

Assess whether your child is tired, hungry, feeling ill or has to make some transition soon. Children never plan to frustrate or embarrass you. The tantrum is a way to express frustration. Try running errands when your little one isn’t likely to be hungry or tired. As stated, pack a small toy or snack to occupy her.

Some situations can trigger tantrums, such as when you give your child toys that are too advanced for her. If your child begs for toys or treats when you shop, steer clear of areas with temptations. If your toddler acts up in restaurants, choose places that offer quick service.

Stay calm in front of your child when you are disciplining him, even though your own heart may be racing, and you are near tears!

Even though it seems annoying, count to three. If your child is having a tantrum or misbehaving in another way while you are in the grocery aisle, calmly and firmly count to three. Tell her you will both go to the car and leave all the groceries there if she doesn’t calm down—then do it! At a coffee shop, simply go to the bathroom and calmly have a talk. The book 1-2-3 Magic is a good read for parents.

Don’t give in to your child’s tantrums.

Children learn to have more tantrums if that is how they can get their way. Show your child that a tantrum will not get her what she wants.

You might be thinking, “I’ve tried some of these strategies, and they don’t work.” Try thinking out ahead of time what you’re going to do when your child has the next meltdown. Then follow through. You’ll find that your plan, applied with resolve, will work like magic.

The psychology of the tantrum is basically that it is an expression of a young child’s frustration with his limitations or his anger about not getting his way. Maybe your child is having trouble figuring something out or completing a task and doesn’t have the words to express his feelings. This angst results in a meltdown.

Distraction is an amazing tool. Try reading a different book, change your location or make a funny face. If you have asked your child to do something against his will, offer to help. If you have asked him not to play in a certain area, show him where playing is OK! If your child is actually hitting or kicking someone or trying to run into the street stop the behavior by holding him tightly until he calms down. Once all is quiet, calmly explain your rules and he will remember.

Creativity is fostered by exposing your child to new thoughts and ideas.

Encourage free thinking while teaching the rules of daily life. It will be worth it when you see your child grow into a happy, healthy adult!

An avid outdoors girl, Judy Goppert lives in Lee’s Summit. She enjoys drawing on her personal experiences to write about the nuances of everything wonderful about life.

Sources: PsychologyToday.com, MayoClinic.org.

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little one’s first words are music to a parent’s ears, but did you know that you play a critical role in the process of getting your baby to that point? It’s true! Children with parents who regularly talk to them are known to have increased communication skills and a more robust vocabulary than those who don’t. Thankfully, the way most of us feel compelled to talk to babies is the way they prefer to hear it: in a sing-songy cadence such as “I looove youuuu!” and “Now wheeerrreee did your sock gooo?!?!”

Talking to your baby comes naturally, whether it’s in the form of a game of “peekaboo,” a conversation you have with her while you change her diaper (“Let’s get you all cleaned up!

Now, don’t you feel better?”) or a soft lullaby serenade given while you rock her to sleep.

But what seems like second nature—and possibly just fun and games—is actually a key part of bolstering your little one’s speech, language and social development. Her little brain is absorbing every articulation and nuance in the way you speak to her, and it’s preparing her to be able to communicate with you in turn.

Alyssa Gerrity, a speech pathologist and mom of one, has devoted more than a decade to serving children between her own private practice and more recently within Canyon Creek Elementary in Olathe. She encourages parents with this simple truth: there are ample ways to make a home a language-rich environment. Here are some of them.

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Never Underestimate the Power of Story Alyssa recommends hitting the books from the start. “First and foremost, reading to your child—even from birth—is one of the best ways to help your child develop a strong language foundation,” she says. Your baby won’t understand everything you’re saying, but by her first birthday she will have learned all the sounds necessary to speak in your native tongue. So the more stories you introduce her to, the stronger her vocabulary will be and the more improved her own speech will be.

Reading aloud builds memory and listening skills and teaches little ones

Face Time Vs. Facetime “A screen can never replace face-toface interaction in terms of the quality of a communication exchange,” Alyssa asserts.

Since the advent of the tablet, parents have downloaded educational apps with the intention of bolstering Baby’s IQ and language skills. But research confirms that there is no substitute for Mom and Dad as primary language teachers. Looking into your baby’s eyes, asking questions and giving time for him to absorb and respond with his babbles and coos, give a real-time response that is necessary for healthy social interaction (and it’s something no device can provide). Limit the screen time (which is known to stunt language skills) and talk away!

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about the world around them. Your baby will pick up cues about different emotions and expressions, mimic sounds that you make and point to pictures, the first sign of asking questions. But perhaps the greatest reason to cuddle up together with a good book is the bond that it forms between readers and the book itself. If little ones are read to often and with fondness, they, in turn, associate books with happiness—and new readers are born. One of the best ways to grow a reader is to keep books readily accessible around your home.

Keep sturdy vinyl, cloth or board books within easy reach so that Baby can easily grab a book as soon as he’s able.

What do Little Boy Blue, Jack and Jill, and Mary Mary Quite Contrary have in common? They’re all part of one of the most underrated and highly valued tools for building early speech: nursery rhymes.

A common practice in childhoods of old, nursery rhymes fail to get the credit they’re due in modern times. Alyssa encourages parents to introduce their children to a broad assortment of these beloved poems and songs as a way of bonding and learning together. Purchasing a few collections in book form is a wonderful way to get started. But don’t forget to consult Mimi and Papa! Grandparents innately have a vast knowledge of these antiquated sayings and notions, and they can be wonderful teachers to the next generation. If words come to you but you fail to come up with a tune, look into nursery rhyme collections such as Wee Sing where both you and your baby can familiarize yourself with both lyrics and melodies.

There’s More Than One Way to Talk “I think baby sign language is great,” Alyssa recommends. “Some people think that if you teach Baby sign language that it will replace spoken words. That’s a myth.

Teaching sign and pairing it with the word verbally help provide a bridge to spoken language. It also teaches young children the power of communication, which ultimately leads to an increase in verbal communication.”

One of the greatest benefits of baby sign language is that it helps nonverbal children express themselves earlier than they might otherwise, while, on the flip side, fueling a natural chatterbox’s insatiable appetite for more words. Parents can find signing classes to participate in with their baby through various sources, from local community centers, library programs and moms groups. For home use, look into Rachel Coleman’s program Baby Signing Time, which teaches sign language through books, DVDs and music as demonstrated by babies themselves.

Lauren Greenlee is a boymom of four from Olathe who loves bonding with her boys over good stories.

Baby Talk? Parentese?

What’s the Difference?

Do you know the difference between baby talk and parentese?

Baby talk is when parents and caretakers mispronounce words and use improper grammar when talking to their little ones in an attempt to mimic their child (“Wook at dose widdle shoes!”). Parentese, however, takes three of the best elements of “baby talk”—higher pitch, slower tempo and exaggerated intonation—and applies them to real words and correct grammar. The results? A University of Washington linguistics study found that babies ages 14-18 months spoken to in parentese had nearly twice the vocabulary of their control group counterparts. More interesting still, this parenting technique is represented in almost every language throughout the world!

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eing a mom is wonderful, exhilarating, exhausting, confusing, guilt-inducing and everything in between. Whether you go into parenting trembling or with open arms, one of the greatest surprises is just how all-consuming it is. As an older mom friend of mine likes to remind me, the trials of her time of mothering young children was feeding them, getting them to bed at a decent time and making sure they got on the school bus on time.

No doubt you’ve seen a meme about modern parenting responsibilities floating around that goes something like this:

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Make sure your children’s academic, emotional, psychological, mental, spiritual, physical, nutritional, social needs are met while being careful not to overstimulate, under-stimulate, improperly medicate, helicopter-parent or neglect them in a screen-free, processed foods-free, GMOfree, negative energy-free, plastic-free, body positive, socially conscious, egalitarian but also authoritative, nurturing but also fostering of independence, gentle but not overly permissive, pesticide-free, two-story, multilingual home preferably in a cul de sac with a backyard and 1.5 siblings spaced at least two years apart for proper development. And, also, don’t forget the coconut oil.

We laugh because it sounds ridiculous, but it’s also true.

There are huge expectations placed on today’s mothers.

We have the internet at our fingertips, advice lurking in every space. And with it comes a sense that we should have all the answers or find someone that does—and stat!

Instead of freedom, too many choices—from products to pediatrician recommendations to parenting podcasts—can cause decision fatigue and paralysis of analysis. Parenting is supposed to be intuitive, right? So, how can something so simple as loving your child well feel so overwhelming?

Counselor and author of A Mom Is Born Rachael Elmore suggests that what women really need going into motherhood is a “postpartum pack,” that is three to five people who are dependable, trustworthy and empathetic.

She suggests that you text a few trusted family members or friends to ask whether they’ll commit to offering three things for you as you prepare for life with a newborn:

The Big Transition

3. Offer to help in various ways. So what are common new mama needs?

As a mom of four, I’ve been asked what the toughest transition was and, without missing a beat, I will always say going from life without kids to life with my firstborn.

Make no mistake, each child changed my world for the better, but nothing prepared me for the overnight switch of living life wild and carefree to then being completely at the mercy of another’s needs day in and day out. I received well-meaning advice from older women about how I needed to savor each moment because it was fleeting. My heart was so full to overflowing with love for my newborn, but my body was sore in places I didn’t even know I had.

I was drenched in bodily fluids that weren’t my own. And half the time I couldn’t remember what day it was just because I hadn’t left the house in so long. (Consequently, I was wearing the same outfits for a questionable amount of time.) I was so sleep deprived, it made for a postpartum version of the old film Groundhog Day. What I really needed more than anything—even more than a shower (which, trust me, was so very needed)—was close and treasured community surrounding me as I navigated the life transition B.C. (that is, before children) to life forevermore with my little tribe. Sure, meal trains initially flowed in and with them copious amounts of spaghetti dinners and brownies. But after the last gifted dinner was consumed, I had a deep and aching sense of loneliness coupled with a preconceived notion that I needed to figure this motherhood thing out on my own. It was time to man up … er, make that mom up! Only I couldn’t. My firstborn had colic. My husband worked out on the road with unpredictable hours. Add to that the fact that, for all its naturalness, breastfeeding came anything but easy. I was a hot mess, fully in love with my baby and fully at a loss of what to do.

Moms Have Needs Too Perhaps your postpartum experience is similar to mine.

After the initial baby gifts and meals and visitors have waned, you find yourself wondering how motherhood can be so amazing and so hard all at the same time. You know you need help, but admitting it feels like defeat. Or worse, you may not know what you need, let alone how to communicate it.

1. Be willing to commit to prioritizing correspondence.

2. Periodically check in on you to make sure you’re not isolated.

• Snacks • Encouragement (after all, moms need to know they’re doing a good job!)

• Reassurance (examples of how they walked through the challenges of postpartum life) • Reminders to take care of yourself, that this is temporary and that you’re loved and thought of • Presence (Facetime, host a Netflix binge or go out for ice cream) We don’t bat an eye at asking for help with our baby, but asking for help for ourselves can be hard. There’s fear of being rejected or imposing on someone. Being vulnerable about our needs is one of the first steps in being brave and not letting fear permeate our parenting.

And the best news? Those that love us most will be honored to accept our request.

No Such Thing As Perfect One of the most freeing parts of parenting is knowing that there are so many ways to do it well. I have mom friends who are natural nurturers, lead learners, amazing DIY-ers and home decorators, boss babes and marathon runners. Not a single one of them is all of those things, but they each play to their strengths and do motherhood proud in their own ways. Kids don’t need perfect parents, but they do need a mom who delights in them, gives the best of herself without regard to what’s outside of her lane and is willing to apologize when she messes up. It’s all too easy to lose sight of all the ways you’re doing things well if you’re convinced you need to be the type of mom that doesn’t come naturally to you. Shake off the should be’s and embrace your gifts, talents and interests as they pertain to how you connect with your children.

Lauren Greenlee is a sourdough baking, read-aloud reading, structure-loving mom who embraces the hard and seeks to find joy in parenting her four awesome boys. She also freelance writes from her Olathe home!

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Art: Visit the Nelson-Atkins Museum of Art, where admission is free. Bring your baby in a stroller or carrier for an adultfocused, yet infant-friendly, visit to the museum. You’ll find brochures and maps at the information desk with suggested itineraries.

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Bounce: Head to Urban Air Lenexa or Urban Air Overland Park. Their tubes playground is designed for children under 52" to climb, crawl and slide. Check the calendar on KCParent.com for their Jumperoo sessions especially for little ones.

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Enjoy the outdoors from the indoors: Something is always blooming at Family Tree Nursery. Family Tree offers some of the largest nurseries in the area with wide selections to enjoy through one of the most unique and fun shopping experiences in the city. Little ones love the fairy gardens and displays.

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Find freebies: Discover the freebies for kids at your local supermarket.

Many grocery stores offer birthday clubs for children with giveaways or discounts on cake and party goods. Grocers offer free cookies, fruit and treats, and sample day at Costco or Sam’s Club is always a favorite time to shop.

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Go to the movies: Matinee movies during the week are always a better value. You can feed Baby in the theater and catch the newest release on the big screen.

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Ceramics: Make a ceramic keepsake with Baby’s handprints or footprints at Ceramic Cafe. They supply the ceramics, the paints and the brushes—you just supply the creative budding artists!

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Date night: Ward off cabin fever for new parents with a night on the town. Enlist a friend or relative to babysit and check out the ideas featured in our Date Night column on KCParent.com.

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Just do what you love most: Your little one isn’t begging for a day at the children’s museum yet so enjoy what YOU love most. Find creative ways to continue your hobbies. Read your favorite books during naptime, listen to podcasts while driving or cooking, schedule time with friends, tackle small projects while Baby plays in his high chair.

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Investigate the zoo: The Kansas City Zoo & Aquarium is open year-round and now, with the new Sobela Ocean Aquarium, there are even more indoor animals to enjoy. Choose a warmer winter day to visit and hit up our favorite indoor exhibits—polar bear, penguins, Discovery Barn, Tropics—and remember to pack a lunch.

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KidScape: This indoor exhibit features a child-sized village where kids love to play at the Johnson County Museum. The play area is perfect for toddlers and preschoolers.

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Lunch: Visit Inspired Play Cafe in Overland Park, where little ones can nurture their curiosity in a safe, fun and educational environment while parents and caregivers enjoy the cafe.

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Make things: You’ll find dozens of ideas from KC Baby & Maternity’s Craft Corner on KCParent.com. Try a new DIY project or visit your local craft store. They often sell inexpensive kits for simple projects for all ages.

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Nature exploration: Kansas City is home to many wonderful nature centers, including our two favorites. Burr Oak Woods offers a large aquarium of Missouri’s freshwater fish, snakes, turtles, toads and more. Lakeside Nature Center is home to some of the best animal exhibits in the area.

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Read: Do you have a favorite book from your childhood that seems long forgotten? Try to find a copy at the library or a local bookstore and reminisce while sharing the classic favorite with your child.

Water play: Science City at Union Station offers several wonderful exhibits with little ones in mind. Some of our favorites are the water play table, infant and toddler area and a variety of places for sensory play. This is a favorite indoor outing.

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Observe pets: You can enjoy the pleasure of pets without owning one. Head to your local pet store where you can watch fish, see reptiles and admire puppies and kitties at play. If you’re looking to add a furry friend to your family, Great Plains SPCA is one of Kansas City’s no-kill animal shelters, or visit Wayside Waifs, a pet adoption center (WaysideWaifs.org).

Swim: The Lenexa Rec Center, YMCAs and local gyms are home to indoor pools offering swim lessons for infants and toddlers. Winter is an oft-overlooked time to take swimming lessons. We have your guide to indoor pools in KC when you click Going Places and search pools on KCParent.com.

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Take a walk: Ward off cabin fever by bundling up and braving the elements. Head to your favorite park or discover a new one in our Going Places directory on KCParent.com.

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Plan ahead: Take advantage of your local grocery store’s delivery or drive-up/pickup options to simplify shopping and keep Baby out of the winter elements. For even simpler meal planning, pick up freezer meals at Dream Dinners.

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Quell your curiosity: Spend a day among the shelves at the local library looking for new books and exploring sections of the library you’ve never explored before. Increase your chances of making a new discovery with a visit to a new branch.

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eXplore: Try something new from the Kansas City calendar on KCParent.com.

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Yum: Check out our Kids Eat Free Guide on KCParent.com and take the family out to eat.

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Zero: The number of days you’ll be bored with all of the above ideas!

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Unlimited Fun: Enjoy indoor playtime at Kanga’s Indoor Playcenter and Cafe in Independence.

With tunnels, soft play areas, a bounce house, playground equipment and rides, this fun center is a favorite winter spot for families.

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The Peking Acrobats, Feb. 18 at Midwest Trust Center

parents night out Sar-Ko-Aglow Thru Jan. 15, Sar-Ko-Par

Apollon Musagète Quartet Feb. 2,

Elvis: Aloha from Vegas Feb. 8-April

Trails Park. Start the new year with a

Folly Theater. The winners of the

21, New Theatre. Elvis: Aloha from Vegas

wrap-up of seasonal festivities. Take

prestigious ARD Competition bring an

traces the King’s journey through the

a stroll and enjoy this holiday lighting

enthralling program featuring the works

’70s, a period of reinvention. Set to

experience. Lenexa.com

of Dvořák and Brahms, as well as the

unforgettable songs like “Burning Love,”

charming and poignant “Crisantemi”

“Suspicious Minds” and, of course, “Can’t

Arsenic & Old Lace Jan. 5, 7-8, 12-14,

by the operatic master Giacomo

Help Falling in Love.” NewTheatre.com

Roger T. Sermon Center, 7:00 Fri.

Puccini. ChamberMusic.org

Little Women Feb. 10, Midwest Trust

and Sat., 2:00 on Sun. An uproarious murder farce, Arsenic and Old Lace

Catch Me If You Can Thru Feb. 4, New

Center. Based on Louisa May

has become a favorite among

Theatre. Parks and Recreation star Jim

Alcott’s life, Little Women follows the

regional theaters throughout America.

O’Heir leads the charge in this edge-

adventures of sisters, each determined

CityTheatreOfIndependence.org

of-your-seat comedy murder mystery!

to live life on her own terms. Little Women

Tensions rise as an overworked local

brings the timeless, captivating story

North Jan. 26-27, Midwest Trust Center.

detective tries to sort fact from fiction,

to vivid musical life on stage.

North is a moving story that explores

but with conspiracy running deep who

JCCC.edu/midwest-trust-center/events

the multifaceted reality of Black life

can be trusted? NewTheatre.com

The Peking Acrobats Feb. 18, 7:00,

during the antebellum period. Explore themes of optimism, bravery, playfulness,

Jazz at the Garrison Feb. 5 and March 4,

Midwest Trust Center. The Peking

wonder, suspense and mystery.

Corbin Theatre. Enjoy a night of relaxing

Acrobats push the limits of human ability

JCCC.edu/midwest-trust-center/events

jazz performed by local musicians on

and defy gravity with amazing displays

the first Monday of every month at 6:00

of contortion, flexibility and control.

(except holidays). CorbinTheatre.org

JCCC.edu/midwest-trust-center/events

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The StepCrew March 3, Midwest Trust

The Diary of Anne Frank March 28-30 and

Tick Tock Escape Games Overland

Center. The StepCrew is a dynamic

April 5-7, Roger T. Sermon Center, 7:00

Park. Quality and creativity are

dance production combining three

Fri. and Sat., 2:00 on Sun. Anne Frank’s

what separate Tick Tock from the

styles of percussive dance—Irish, tap

family lives in Germany and goes into

crowd. They use sound, technology

and Ottawa Valley—in a fully realized

hiding as a result of the treatment of

and other special effects to bring

theatrical setting. As a member of the

Jews in Europe during World War II. The

your game to life in an immersive

audience, you’re sure to be on your feet!

diary ends suddenly on Aug. 1, 1944.

experience you won’t soon forget.

JCCC.edu/midwest-trust-center/events

CityTheatreofIndependence.org

TickTockEscapeRoom.com

Aquila Theatre Fahrenheit 451

Chicken N Pickle: Overland Park

Axe Throwing at Blade & Timber

March 8, Midwest Trust Center. Aquila

Chicken N Pickle is the place to gather

Multiple locations. Blade & Timber is

Theatre’s Desiree Sanchez uses Ray

on game day. “Sunday Funday” is

the perfect date night destination.

Bradbury’s own stage adaptation in

where parents can watch the game,

Experience axe throwing with their

a new production of Fahrenheit 451

kids can play in the game yard, and

coaches who teach you how to hit the

to deftly articulate just how pressing

families can come for brunch and bingo.

target. BladeAndTimber.com

and prescient this cautionary tale is.

ChickenNPickle.com/overland-park

First Fridays in the Crossroads Starting

JCCC.edu/midwest-trust-center/events

Farm to Table Dinner Experience

at 5:00. Every month, head to the

Beyond Babel March 24, Midwest Trust

Second Friday of the month, Colonial

cultural arts district for free peeks at

Center. Created by Hideaway Circus,

Gardens. Join us to celebrate the freshly

galleries and studios, delicious treats

Keone and Mari Madrid and Josh and

grown and harvested produce by the

from food trucks and local restaurants,

Lyndsay Aviner, Beyond Babel is a critically

Farms at Colonial Gardens. Our expert

and entertainment from street

acclaimed dance theater show inspired

chef has created the menu completely

performers and buskers showcasing

by Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet.

around what is available locally and in

their talent. KCCrossroads.org

JCCC.edu/midwest-trust-center/events

season. ColonialGardensKC.com

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Visit the KCParent.com calendar for over 1,000 more events!

playdates WEEKLY

DAILY

MONDAY

Story Time Visit MyMCPL.org or

RoKC Play Lounge 8:00, RoKC Olathe.

JoCoLibrary.org to find a complete list

Children 6 months to 6 years are invited

of story times.

to enjoy a two-hour session to the play lounge while parents participate in rock

Inspired Play Inspired Play Cafe. Attend

wall climbing.

a two-hour play session in this fun, educational and nurturing environment

Mom or Dad & Me Bumper Bowling

where little ones explore and caregivers

9:30, Summit Lanes. For just $3 per

may enjoy the calming cafe.

person, you get a game, shoe

InspiredPlayCafe.com

rental and drink on Mondays and Wednesdays. SummitLanes.com

Indoor Play 9:00, Kanga’s Indoor Playcenter. Enjoy hours of running,

Open Gym 9:30-noon, Kaw Prairie

climbing, jumping and sliding through

Community Church (Lenexa). Grab a

incredible play spaces. Kids 3 and under

coffee from the coffeeshop and hang

can play in the dedicated toddler play

out with friends while your kiddos get

area, while the bigger kids can explore the

their energy out on cold days! Offered

7,200-square-foot, multilevel playscape.

Monday-Thursday. KawPrairie.org/info

Independence.KangasPlaycenter.com

Visit the Zoo 10:00, Kansas City Zoo & Aquarium. The zoo is open yearround. Pack a picnic and enjoy your favorite animals all through the winter.

KansasCityZoo.org

TUESDAY Preschool Indoor Playground 9:30, Merriam Community Center. Drive, pull or push your favorite Little Tikes vehicles.

Parents must supervise their children. $2/child. Punch cards available: $10 for 10 visits.

Visit Sea Life 10:00, Sea Life Aquarium.

Bring the kids to see the Doodle Reef, the touch pool, Stingray Bay and more!

Purchase tickets online at VisitSeaLife.com.

Pay for Play 10:00, Backyard Specialists. Plan a playdate for your children and their friends at the amazing outdoor showroom.

BackyardSpecialists.com/pay-for-play

Toddler Town 10:00, Roger T. Sermon Center. Children ages 5 and under enjoy the indoor playground for $2/child.

IndependenceMO.gov

Time for Tots 10:30, Kemper Museum. Sing songs, read books, explore art and make your own art with a Kemper Museum educator and Kansas City librarian.

Facebook.com/KemperMuseum/events

WEDNESDAY Retro Story Time Second Wednesday of the month, 10:00-10:45, Johnson County Museum. Preschoolers love stories from long ago, read by a special guest from the 1950s All-Electric House! Craft activity included. Register at 913.831.3359.

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SATURDAY

Preschool Story Time First and third

Visit Legoland 10:00, Legoland

Wednesday of the month, 10:30-11:00,

Discovery Center. Take the kids to the

Ernie Miller Nature Center. For ages 2-6.

ultimate indoor playground for the

Visit the nature center for stories, songs

biggest fans of Lego. Purchase tickets

and surprises geared to preschool

at LegolandDiscoveryCenter.com.

5 and under and their guardians are

FRIDAY

around safely. UrbanAir.com

THURSDAY

Jumperoo (toddler time) 9:00, Urban

Little Acorns 10:00, Anita Gorman

Jumperoo (toddler time) 9:00, Urban

Jumpers 5 and under and their

Air (Lenexa). Jumpers 5 and under and

parent/guardian are invited to jump,

their guardians are invited to jump,

bounce and crawl around safely.

bounce and crawl around safely.

UrbanAirOP.com

children. $2/person, including adults.

Register at JCPRD.com.

Air Trampoline Park (Overland Park).

Pay for Play 10:00, Backyard Specialists.

Toddler Time 10:00, Blue Springs

Plan a playdate for your children and their

Fieldhouse. On the first and third Friday

friends at the amazing outdoor showroom.

of the month, children, ages 6 months

BackyardSpecialists.com/pay-for-play

to 5 years old, play inside on cars, scooters, slides, playhouse, books, mats

Toddler Time 10:00, Ceramic Cafe. On

and more! BlueSpringsgov.com

Jumperoo (toddler time) 8:00, Urban Air (Overland Park and Lenexa). Jumpers invited to jump, bounce and crawl

Discovery Center. Join volunteer naturalists for a fantastic journey through forests, streams and other magical places as they read select books. Register at 816.759.7300.

Penguin March 11:00, Kansas City Zoo & Aquarium. Included with admission, these fun events occur every Saturday and Sunday thru February.

KansasCityZoo.org

Thursdays from 10:00 to 2:00, toddlers 5 and under can paint a selected item.

CeramicCafeKC.com

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“The Elephant and Piggie books by Mo Willems were beloved by all my daughters and are still family favorites that hold many inside jokes.” ~ Kristina L. I love You to the Moon and Back by Amelia Hepworth, a favorite of Karla T. The Sneetches and Other Stories by Dr. Seuss, the favorite of reader Alyssa T. The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein, a favorite of reader Melissa R. “A Day in the Park by Ronne Randall—this is my favorite book from childhood. I just found it in my old treasure box and am reading it to my daughter now.” ~ Merry G. The Monster at the End of this Book by Jon Stone, a favorite of Heather C. “My daughter loves Cloudy with a Chance of Meatballs by Judi Barrett.” ~Jackie E. Green Eggs and Ham by Dr. Seuss, a favorite of Tammy S. Goodnight Moon by Margaret Wise Brown, a favorite of Medina S. The Mr. Putter & Tabby series by Cynthia Rylant, a favorite of Kelsey W. Chicka Chicka Boom Boom by Bill Martin Jr., a favorite of Msichana S. Jamberry by Bruce Degen, a favorite of Taylor R. The Store-Bought Doll by Lois Meyer, a favorite of Megan B. The Tractor Mac series by Billy Steers, a favorite of Jed L. One Fish Two Fish Red Fish Blue Fish by Dr. Seuss, a favorite of Stacie Lorenzen E.

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