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f you are pregnant with your first (or fifth!), congrats! It’s such an exciting time but can also be a bit worrisome with so many unknowns. One of my biggest concerns was labor. How would l know FOR SURE that it was the real deal—and then what? With my first, I started having what I thought might be contractions one evening, but since I’d never experienced them before, I wasn’t 100 percent sure. I timed and watched throughout the night. At 5:00 in the morning, I finally called my doctor who told me to head to the hospital. I second-guessed myself, sure I would be sent home as the contractions weren’t very intense and it was a week before my due date. As I was being taken to the room I asked, “Am I staying?” The nurse replied, “Yep! You are having a baby today!” If you, like I, have some worries, read “Through the Stages of Labor” on pg. 12 and “The ABCs of a Hospital Delivery” on pg. 8 to help prepare you for the big event! Once my daughter was born, my worries didn’t stop! When she was a few weeks old, she had a loose stool, and I panicked. Looking back, I see how silly I was to worry about something like this, but as a first-time mom, I was more than alarmed. After frantic calls to my mom and husband, I was able to calm down and realize that nothing serious was wrong. Local mom Gina Klein helps to alleviate new parents’ worries by answering some common questions about newborns on pg. 20. With old man winter gone, it’s finally time to get out and play! From rainy days to backyard fun, this issue has you covered! Happy spring, Kansas City!
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OF HOSPITAL DELIVERY The hospital delivery process starts long before labor pains begin. Here’s what to expect.
ADMISSIONS. At around 32 weeks gestation, schedule a pre-admission appointment to complete most of your paperwork before labor, like the birth certificate and other forms. “At that time, we do all of the pre-admit work like consents you’ll sign when you come to have the baby,” says Clara Davis, RN, pre-admission coordinator, Olathe Medical Center. BIRTH PLAN. Do you want an epidural or prefer natural childbirth? A birth plan communicates your desires for your labor and delivery experience. If you have a plan, bring it with you to the pre-admission appointment and to delivery. CIRCUMCISION. At hospitals, circumcisions are usually performed within 48 hours of delivery. Talk to your doctor about the procedure’s benefits and risks. Your pre-admission coordinator will have the paperwork you need to complete when you’re ready. DELIVERING PHYSICIAN. Many doctors check in on their patients first thing in the morning and midday. “We page the delivering physician as soon as we think it’s time. If a baby is having heart rate issues, we can always page them to come evaluate,” says Jenna O’Connor, RN, Olathe Medical Center. EPIDURAL. An epidural is a pain-relieving local anesthetic administered by an anesthesiologist that numbs pain in the lower half of the body. “Allow 45 minutes from the time you ask for your epidural to getting it,” O’Connor says. “We like to give IV fluids prior to that at a faster rate to help prevent blood pressure from dropping from the anesthesia.”
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FETAL HEART MONITOR. Health care practitioners will either periodically monitor your baby’s heartbeat during labor, or you will be hooked up to an electronic fetal heart monitor, especially if you are on medication to be induced. GET READY. Pack your bag between 32 and 35 weeks of pregnancy. Bring toiletries and comfortable clothes, including warm socks and slip-on shoes. You’ll also need a take-home outfit for your baby and a car seat. HEPATITIS B. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends all healthy newborns receive their first dose of hepatitis B vaccine within 24 hours of delivery. Hepatitis B is a potentially fatal viral infection that attacks the liver. INDUCTION. Prior to an induction, your provider will examine your cervix and decide whether you should go into the hospital the day of the scheduled induction or the night before. If you go in the night before, you might receive a medication or a balloon catheter that thins or softens the cervix. When your cervix is ready, you’ll be given a medication called Pitocin to induce contractions. JACUZZI TUBS. Many hospitals offer laboring moms full-size jacuzzi tubs for pain relief early in the delivery process. Check with your doctor to see whether this an option for you. VITAMIN K. All babies are born vitamin K deficient. Upon birth, your baby will receive a vitamin K shot, which is essential to aid the body in forming clots to prevent severe and potentially life-threatening bleeding.
RISKS? Because hospitals are prepared for complications that can arise during labor and delivery, they remain the safest place to deliver babies, especially for those considered high-risk. High-risk pregnancies include women who are expecting multiples, are under the age of 17 or over the age of 35, or have a health condition like diabetes, high blood pressure or depression. SURGERY. A cesarean section requires an incision through the abdomen and uterus. You’ll receive an epidural and will likely be awake for the procedure. Upon arrival for a planned C-section, you’ll be hooked up to a monitor and an IV, and receive a physical assessment and bloodwork TOURS REDUCE UNCERTAINTY. Scheduling a firsthand look of a hospital’s birthing center early in your pregnancy can familiarize you and your partner ahead of time with the hospital layout, parking and available classes and amenities. Some expectant parents tour as early as six to 12 weeks gestation. “By meeting them early, we can help them feel as comfortable as possible throughout the entire process,” Young says.
LACTATION CONSULTANT. Breastfeeding specialists visit new moms in the hospital to address any initial questions or concerns around breastfeeding. MARKING THE MOMENT. During pre-admission, you’ll have the opportunity to decide whether you want your newborn photographed. “But, you’re not obligated to buy anything,” Davis says. NICU. Premature infants, multiples and sick or low birth-weight babies are usually transferred to a Neonatal Intensive Care Unit, which provides specialized care. OVERNIGHT STAYS. The typical hospital stay for a vaginal delivery is 24 to 48 hours, while a C-section is between three and four days. PEDIATRICIAN. The hospital will notify your baby’s physician when you’re admitted. He or she will provide a physical examination of your infant within 24 hours postpartum. QUESTIONS. Since questions often arise throughout pregnancy, maternity navigator and experienced labor and delivery nurse Danae Young, RN, Overland Park Regional Medical Center, tries to be as accessible as possible to expectant parents. She and her colleague Lisa Holk, RN, work one-on-one with expectant parents according to their specific birth plan. “We give them our phone numbers, which we’ve allowed texting on,” Young says. “That’s been a game changer. If they want to text us, ‘Hey, what should I pack again?’ we can respond pretty quickly to them.”
VISITORS. Decide who you want in the delivery room. “This can be doctor-directed a little bit. For example, if the patient is having trouble with their blood pressure, we’re not going to want them to have a lot of visitors in their room at that time,” Davis says. When your baby arrives, your loved ones can access the locked unit during visiting hours by providing your first and last name. WIRELESS MONITORING. Some hospitals wirelessly monitor the baby’s heart rate and a laboring mom’s contractions. The wireless monitor allows patients the freedom to move around, use the restroom, take a shower or sit on a birth ball. X OR Y? Still unsure whether your newborn is a Xenia or a Yasmin? Try settling on a name before you check out of the hospital. Otherwise you’ll get a call from the State Department of Health for not completing your birth certificate paperwork—and it can cost you extra. ZEN. Giving birth is rarely considered a “zen-like” experience, but many hospitals prioritize comfortable accommodations for expectant parents, like private suites, in-room music options, rocker-recliners and “quiet time for moms” to allow for family bonding.
Christa Melnyk Hines is a nationally published writer. She lives in Olathe with her husband and their two sons who were C-section deliveries. As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns. kcparent.com april-june 2020
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MY NAME BETTER NOT BE MUD
You may find it beneficial to leave family out of the naming process altogether. Though well intentioned, grandparents and parents are particularly dangerous territory. They might have the perfect name for a child, but the problem is, it’s not perfect for your child. On the flip side, you might find that when you float a name past family members, they give you unfiltered and unflattering feedback. What if you really planned on using that name, and now you’re stuck knowing your entire family hates it? Even more reason to consider keeping your lips zipped until you officially announce after the baby’s birth! No one is going to be critical of a baby name when they’re staring into beautiful newborn eyes, right?
Name associations do change. Past life experiences give us all kinds of reasons to dislike a name right off the bat. Maybe it was the first person who broke your heart, or a boss that never let you take a day off. Regardless, try to keep an open mind. If you truly love a name and would enjoy it if it weren’t for that negative experience, don’t discount it. Over time the undesirable connotations can drop away, especially when you replace those bad associations with something you love more than you ever imagined. Obviously, some names are wisely discarded—like your spouse’s ex-girlfriend’s. Leave those names buried in the past.
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So you want to name your child Greg. But Greg is a pretty common name, so you decide to add an extra g to make it more unique. Let me just stop you right there. Do you really need the extra g? If your reasoning isn’t because of family lineage, culture or something close to your heart, place yourself in Gregg’s little baby shoes. The rest of Gregg’s life will be filled with conversations that begin, “Hi, I’m Gregg. With two g’s.” Imagine Gregg going to school for the first time. The teacher is going to call him out to make sure she doesn’t have his name spelled wrong. Poor Gregg. Is the unique spelling worth it? If the answer is yes, there you have it. You’ve made your decision and that’s great. However, if there’s any hesitation, give it some additional thought.
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Your unique name may not stay that way.
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Every year, hundreds of couples pore over baby books, television shows, family trees and even the Bible to find that exquisitely quirky yet sophisticated baby name. Inevitably, they find it, name their baby and find out some celebrities just named their newborn the same thing. Next thing you know, it’s the number one name in the United States. While you can’t control pop culture or trends, you can make sure you really love your baby’s name, come hell or celebrity connotation. Know that it may not be as super unique as you initially hoped it would, and that’s okay.
here to the end of eternity. The moniker you give your
child will be wrapped up in just a handful of letters strung together. But fear not. Consider these tips to make sure your child has a fighting chance for a unique—but not strange—and memorable— but not too common—name. Take a deep breath, grab your baby naming book and let’s figure this out together.
Everything will be fine. Naming your child can turn you into a big ball of anxiety. You have so many variables to consider, so at the end of the day, just remember this: Your baby is all yours and your partner’s. You are the only two people who can decide what’s best. So trust your gut. Choose a name that fills you with love and warmth for your child. Nothing else matters. Kim Antisdel is a freelance writer and interior design sales rep for KC. She lives in Liberty with her husband, stepdaughters and toddler son.
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f your only experience with labor is watching a dramatized version of it on a TV show or movie, you might think that labor strikes out of nowhere and involves a lot of instantaneous crying, screaming and pushing. Thankfully, according to the American Pregnancy Association, expectant mothers can actually expect to go through three very distinct stages of labor.
STAGE ONE begins at the onset of labor and concludes when the cervix is fully dilated to 10 cm. STAGE TWO marks the time after the cervix is completely dilated until the baby is delivered. STAGE THREE is the delivery of the placenta.
WHAT TO EXPECT IN STAGE ONE LABOR The first stage of labor is the longest and characterized by three phases: the early labor phase (onset of labor-3 cm dilation), the active labor phase (the time when the cervix is dilated 3 cm-7 cm), and the transition labor phase (the time when the cervix is dilated 7 cm-10 cm). Each phase brings about unique challenges and different waves of emotions. Here’s how you can prepare for each one with confidence.
THE EARLY LABOR PHASE, also known as latent labor, typically lasts somewhere between 8 and 12 hours. This time is marked by mild and irregular contractions that build in both intensity, frequency and consistency. Many women describe the first sensations of early labor as pains similar to menstrual cramps. Others note that they experience lower back aches or feel pelvic pressure. Still more experience indigestion or diarrhea. Contractions will last roughly 30-45 seconds every 5-30 minutes until the cervix effaces and dilates to 3 cm. If you find yourself going through early labor, be sure to start a record of your contractions and note whether they’re growing more regular, intense and longer. Some women find their water breaks during early labor, a result of the amniotic sac rupturing. It’s important to note what time it broke, and what color or odor is present with the fluid (if any). If your water doesn’t break during early labor, it will at some point later on in the first stage of labor. Throughout the first phase of labor, the most important thing a mother can do is relax. Sometimes that’s easier said than done. If you find yourself feeling anxious, giddy, euphoric, panic-stricken or all of the above, rest assured that’s all very normal. The goal throughout riding those waves of emotion is to conserve energy for the work that is yet to come. If you find yourself laboring throughout the day, drink plenty of water and keep small snacks on hand. Maintaining simple home routines, such as washing dishes or putting away laundry (not to mention packing your bag for the
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hospital if it’s not already prepared), is a great way to keep your mind occupied and your body at ease. If you find yourself in early labor at night, consider taking a warm shower and trying to get a bit of shut-eye. There’s no need to head to the hospital just yet, but it wouldn’t be a bad idea to call your doctor to inform him or her of your progress. For now, enjoy the familiarity and comfort that home brings.
THE ACTIVE LABOR PHASE is when it’s officially time to hit the road and head to the hospital. This period of time is distinguishably different from the early phase of labor. Contractions are increasingly stronger, last longer (45-60 seconds, to be precise) and are closer together, striking roughly every 3-5 minutes. Your support system (family, best friend, doula, etc.) will be an invaluable help to you, providing words of encouragement, offering back rubs, keeping track of contractions (and learning to read the monitor when at the hospital or birthing center), and generally giving you undivided attention. Throughout this phase, remember to switch positions frequently. This is a good time to roll around on a birthing ball, sway back and forth making figure 8s with your belly, walk the halls or take a warm bath if you haven’t already. Continue to stay hydrated. And if you find you need medication for pain relief, now is the time to ask for an epidural. THE TRANSITION PHASE is considered the most challenging phase but, thankfully, it’s also the shortest. Contractions may roll one on top of the other, lasting over a minute with as little as a 2-minute rest between. They also bring with them new sensations, such as nausea, hot flashes, chills and vomiting. They key is to focus solely on getting through one contraction at a time, not the 30 minutes to 2 hours that this phase may last. If your support system came in handy during active labor, they’re going to be worth their weight in gold during this crucial time, reminding you to relax, guiding you through breathing techniques and encouraging you with lots of praise (or remaining quiet if that’s what you prefer). Unless you are numb from an epidural, it is normal to experience intense pressure in your back, rectum and perineum; crampy legs that shake uncontrollably; drowsiness between each contraction; and fatigue and exhaustion. Birthing a baby is hard work, but it can also be exhilarating. If you feel like you’re about to throw in the towel, hang in there, Mama—your baby is almost here! As your cervix completes dilating, here are some things you can do. BREATHE EASY. Nothing about labor is easy, but breathing can be a key factor in a healthy delivery. If you feel the urge to push before you are fully dilated, ask your doula or doctor for some advice. Pushing too soon can result in cervical swelling, with may delay Baby’s arrival. However, simple breathing techniques such as blowing or panting can help stave off the urge until it’s time. SPEAK UP. Perhaps you appreciated having someone hold your hand through active labor but you don’t want to be touched now. Say something! STAY FOCUSED. Keep your eye on the prize—your little one will be here before you know it! CONGRATULATIONS! At 10 cm dilated, you’ve made it through the three phases of stage one labor and onto stage two: Baby’s delivery!
Lauren Greenlee is a freelance writer and a mom of three hailing from Olathe. Her children all came fast and furious as she experienced precipitous labor with each of their deliveries (that’s all stages and phases of labor in under 3-5 hours). She considers it a miracle that none of them were born while en route to the hospital! As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns. kcparent.com april-june 2020
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oes your toddler pitch a fit when you take away screens? The research on toddlers and screen time can be a bit contradictory, but the fact remains that many toddlers today spend a lot of time on screens. Screens are a norm in most households. Not only do we have a TV in the family room, we often have screens in almost every other room—and often even carry a mini screen around with us from room to room! Asking people how much screen time they have a day is a very loaded question. Asking parents how much screen time their toddler watches is downright volatile! There is no right answer that doesn’t get met with some sort of judgment from others. Maybe the answer for your toddler is 30 hours a week. You get the judgment, “Wow, that is at least four hours a day! Don’t you play with your kid?” If your answer is no screens, then you become the parent with whom other parents don’t want to be friends because, apparently, you and your child are perfect— and relating to you as a peer would be way too difficult! No matter where you land on the screen time scale, recognize there is not a right answer to give. Luckily, that is not the primary issue here. We all know our children are going to watch a screen at some point. Instead of feeling guilty or assigning blame, let’s focus on how to introduce screens to toddlers and how to regulate the time they spend watching screens. I won’t presume to tell you what to do in your own home; I can, however, tell you about my home. The biggest screen struggle we have had as a family is thinking about why we have screens on. I constantly think about whether we are using a screen as a quick babysitter so we can get dinner made or whether we are binge watching our favorite shows while we play with our son. Or are we hoping to provide some education from the screen time? We all are going to have different answers to these questions, and our answers are what will help us regulate screen times.
Once we figure out why we are using a screen, we can figure out whether we can cut back or make substitutions of what we are currently doing to make improvements. For example, almost every night my son gets very fussy while I’m making dinner. My quick go-to is to turn on this 18-minute Elmo mix of his favorite songs via YouTube on our TV in the family room. We dance to his three favorite songs together, and the others he watches by himself while I’m in the kitchen. Sometimes dinner takes longer to prep and he watches the video twice or even three times in a row. He loves Elmo, and we have fun dancing, but this quickly adds up to some major screen time! An easy substitution would seem to be to play the music on my phone and leave it on the counter instead, so he isn’t watching the TV the whole time. I smugly tried this out one evening, and it was a nightmare! Instead of quietly watching the video, he screamed the whole time, wanting my
phone. Since then, I have been turning on the radio and I moved a small play table into our already too small kitchen, so he can play while I cook. This approach seems better, but not perfect! I highly doubt we will figure out perfect, but it’s a start. To get started on reducing seem time, first track how much screen time your kids get—and don’t beat yourself up for the number. It might be two hours a week. It might be 40 hours a week. It doesn’t matter at this point. What matters is you are thinking about it. Once you know the average time, make a plan to reduce it. Cut it back by 15 minutes a day or every other day until you get to where you want to be. Set a time for the screen to automatically turn off and then distract, distract, distract! Start on the weekend when your whole family is home and figure out some fun things to do instead of screen time. Get outside, go to the store, make a fort. You know what will help your kid best!
Lastly, include your children in the changes. Talk to your children about what you will be doing instead of watching a screen. Even if you think they won’t understand, give them the chance. Focus on the positive. For example, “We will be listening to Elmo and looking at your favorite books while I cook dinner tonight.” Easier said than done, of course, but that’s one of the great things about motherhood— you get to keep trying until you get to where you want to be. You get to set the bar and you are ultimately in control!
Janelle Cumro-Sultzer lives in Overland Park with her husband, son and two dogs. Janelle is a former health care executive director and is a mediator in Kansas, helping families in conflict. She loves to focus on learning through play and getting messy with crafts.
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HOSPITAL LABOR & DELIVERY GUIDE | Special Advertising Section ADVENTHEALTH BIRTH CENTER 9100 W. 74th St. Shawnee Mission, KS 66204 More families choose the AdventHealth Birth Center, formerly known as the Shawnee Mission Birth Center, to deliver their babies each year, not because of the amenities, but because of the outstanding doctors and dedicated nursing staff who ensure you are comfortable, both physically and emotionally, during your stay. From low-intervention births to the Level III NICU staffed in partnership with Children’s Mercy, the Birth Center takes every step to ensure a safe, personalized birth experience. 913.676.2000 AdventHealthKC.com/birthcenter
CENTERPOINT MEDICAL CENTER 19600 E. 39th St. S. Independence, MO 64057 Centerpoint Medical Center takes the unique needs of expectant moms and personalizes each birth experience. Nearly 8,000 babies have been born since Centerpoint opened in 2007 and, with the most advanced, family-centered care backed by HCA Midwest Health’s technology and resources, we offer private, spacious labordelivery and postpartum rooms, dedicated lactation consultants, and an electronic infant security system and robust communication for Baby’s safety. Centerpoint also has a Level III NICU supported by experienced neonatologists, specialized nurses and more. 816.698.7300 CenterpointMedical.com/ uniquedelivery
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Check out the virtual Labor & Delivery Guide at KCParent.com MENORAH MEDICAL CENTER 5721 W. 119th St. Overland Park, KS 66209 The spa-like environment at the Women’s Center at Menorah Medical Center is nurturing, relaxing and secure for expectant moms, featuring private and spacious suites for labor, birth and recovery for the length of stay. Backed by HCA Midwest Health’s technology and expertise, the Women’s Center provides compassionate doctors specializing in mother-baby care and experienced nurses and support staff dedicated to caring for moms and newborns. Should the need arise, Menorah has a Level II NICU for babies requiring advanced 24/7 care. 1.877.769.6636 MenorahMedicalCenter.com/ uniquedelivery
OLATHE MEDICAL CENTER 20333 W. 151st St. Olathe, KS 66061
The four-story Birth Place blends the care you’ve grown to trust at Olathe Medical Center with an impressive facility you’ll immediately love. Every detail of the Birth Place is designed to provide the most comforting experience, from personalized music and overhead fans for mom in the delivery room to queen-sized beds in the MotherBaby Suite. The Level II neonatal intensive care unit (NICU) includes secure, webcam-enabled nurseries and individual rooms where you can stay overnight with your baby. Find a doctor who delivers at OMC. 913.791.4396 OlatheHealth.org/birthplace
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What to Take to the Hospital
s you enter the last part of your pregnancy, it is time to start thinking about your trip to the hospital. Delivery is rarely easy, but making sure that you have a few extra comforts from home can go a long way. So think ahead and pack your hospital bag soon. Here are a few items you may want to pack: • Anything for the actual birth to soothe you (music, favorite book, massage tools, etc.) • Nightgown or pajamas, including nursing style if you plan to nurse • Underwear, socks and nursing bras • Bathrobe and slippers • Special snacks or beverages • Cosmetics and hair care items • Clothes to wear home…make sure they are loose-fitting, not your size 8 jeans! • Contact information for family and friends • Camera and any video equipment you wish to use • Clothes for Baby • Receiving blankets • If bottle feeding, a bottle with a newborn nipple • Newborn diapers • Car seat
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on newborn care
ecoming a new parent and bringing your little bundle home for the first time is exciting. However, no matter how much you prepared for this special homecoming, the days ahead are sure to give you many surprises. You may find some of your questions embarrassing to ask the pediatrician, but don’t worry. When it comes to your new baby, no question is silly.
In fact, below are some questions many new parents have asked, along with some helpful answers from doctors and nurses. Maybe you’ll find the answer to one of your own questions.
Question: If I hold my baby too much, am
Question: Why is my baby’s skin peeling?
Question: Do I have to sterilize pacifiers
I spoiling her?
Should I use lotion on it?
and bottles after every use?
Answer: Babies are cuddly and cute for
Answer: Your newborn’s peeling skin is completely normal and requires no treatment. If you notice cracking or excessive irritation around her wrists or ankles, however, lubricate with a little Vaseline or diaper ointment.
Answer: Although sterilizing everything after every use is ideal, let’s face it. It’s not realistic. Do be sure to wash bottles with soap and hot water after every feeding, and sterilize them overnight. With pacifiers, if your little one drops it on the floor, be sure to wash it with hot water and soap before giving it back to her. Or give her an extra binky that’s clean and just set aside the dirty one to sterilize later.
a reason. They’re meant to be held! It’s completely okay to hold your baby during the day, whether in your arms or attached to you in a baby carrier. Nighttime, however, should be time for your baby to wind down on his own without being held and rocked to sleep. Babies who are held or rocked to sleep have a hard time drifting off on their own, and they’re unable to soothe themselves back to sleep when they wake in the night. Instead, try putting your little one in her crib drowsy, but awake, and on her back. This allows her to learn how to fall asleep on her own.
Question: Do I have to breastfeed for one year?
Answer: Breastfeeding has a myriad of benefits, and the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends nursing for 12 months, and exclusively for the first six. However, if a mom is no longer enjoying it, she should stop breastfeeding.
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Question: Is green poop normal? Answer: Absolutely! If your baby’s stool is green, brown, light yellow or seedy mustard, it is completely normal. The color variations depend on whether your baby is drinking formula or breast milk. Ignore the color unless it’s white and chalky, thick and black, or red. These can be signs of illness, so contact your pediatrician right away. Question: How many layers should I dress my baby in when we go outside? Answer: Always dress your baby in one more layer than you have on. If you’re wearing a shirt and a coat, your baby needs those plus a blanket. If it’s windy or chilly outside, put a hat on your baby as well.
Question: How many bowel movements should my newborn have in 24 hours? Answer: Newborns who are breastfed will generally have three or more bowel movements per 24 hours by day three or four (normal stool for breastfed babies is extremely loose). Infants who are formula fed will generally have one bowel movement per 24 hours (normal formula-fed stool tends to be pasty). However, some infants can have up to 20 per day and still be completely normal.
Question: What if there is oozing or blood after the cord has fallen off?
Question: How often should I bathe my newborn?
Answer: A bit of yellowish white gunk at the site of the cord that dries over a few days is normal, as long as the skin around the base of the cord remains normal color. (If it becomes increasingly red, call your pediatrician immediately.) You do not need to use alcohol. Also, a few drops of blood on the diaper as the cord is falling off is normal. If it bleeds a lot (which is rare), apply pressure to stop the bleeding and call your pediatrician right away.
Answer: Your baby should have three baths a week or fewer. More than that will dry out his skin. Be sure to wait until his umbilical cord has fallen off before bathing him. As a new parent, you will have a lot of questions pop up during the first year. Don’t be afraid to ask your baby’s pediatrician or nurse. They’ve heard it all, so there’s no reason to fear that your question is odd.
In the meantime, be sure to always put Baby to sleep on her back, keep up with doctor appointments and immunizations, breastfeed if you can, and keep her sleeping space clear of pillows, crib bumpers and toys.
Gina Klein is a mom and author who resides in Kansas City with her husband, two daughters and many wonderful pets. As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.
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Living with Loss: One Mom’s Story
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our dates remain etched in my
bought maternity clothes. We told all
brain: July 24, 2015; July 17,
of our family. I chose the name “Ava.”
account so I wouldn’t see another
2017; June 27, 2018; and
My husband ordered cute pregnancy
pregnancy announcement. I was happy
Sept. 3, 2019. The first date
Some days I deactivated my Facebook
announcement shirts for my son and
for others but painfully jealous because
is my son’s birthday. The others are the
me that read “pregosaurus” and “big
of my grief. I was thankful for my one
days I miscarried my babies.
brother” because my son loves dinosaurs.
healthy boy on Earth. I wasn’t any less of
I took my second ever positive
I looked at letter boards. This was it! This
a mom, I told myself.
pregnancy test in 2017. It was a new
was the baby that was meant to be! Eli
kind of excitement compared to my first.
would have a little sister.
I couldn’t take enough tests to validate
June 27, 2018: I woke up sick as usual
A year later, on my son’s fourth birthday, I randomly started crying at the Big Biscuit. Obviously, mothers get a little
that excitement. I wasn’t nervous. I
on ultrasound day. For once, I didn’t
emotional on their kid’s birthday, but this
wanted it to be real. I was set on the
throw up while brushing my teeth. My
was a different kind of emotional. It was a
name “Oliver.” I was already wondering if
husband stayed home with my son so
deep level of sadness that I just couldn’t
we needed a bassinet or baby swing. Or
I could get there early. I was ready to
shake. It was also an all-too-familiar
both?! I envisioned my son, Eli, running
see those images and tell the rest of
feeling, so I took a pregnancy test the
around with his little brother. We’d have
our friends and family the news. I arrived
next day.
a “pack” of two boys and two dogs. I was
with a sucker in my mouth to curb my
already planning everything.
nausea, which was my only concern
excitement and anxiety. I was determined
in that moment. I’ll never forget the
it was meant to be but knew what might
losing this second baby. I had never
pause and tone of her voice when the
happen. I tried to appreciate every
experienced a miscarriage before, so I
sonographer said, “We can’t find a
moment no matter how sick I felt. I threw
don’t know why I obsessively Googled
heartbeat.” I could barely even respond
up every morning before taking my son
“legit pregnancy symptoms” and prayed
with words, only tears.
to preschool but told myself it was worth
I had two separate dreams of
for morning sickness. My pregnancy
I had a D and C procedure the
My fourth pregnancy was a blur of
it. This was the first time since being
with my son was almost perfect (minus
morning after the Fourth of July. If you
pregnant with my son that I got to see
horrible nausea), so I had no reason to
don’t know what this is, it is surgery to
a heartbeat and take home ultrasound
believe I would have an unsuccessful
remove the fetus if your body doesn’t
photos. I wanted to allow myself to feel
pregnancy. I cried during the ultrasound
miscarry naturally. I healed, took my pain
complete happiness and relief.
that confirmed my body naturally
meds, drank plenty of water, got enough
miscarried my baby. I got over it,
rest. My toddler kept me busy. I went for
because, “we’d just try again!”
tons of walks by myself. I read tons of
May 24, 2018: After almost a year of
health blogs. I had days where I simply
trying and hoping and scrolling through
loved not feeling sick and I drank all the
Instagram for cute baby outfits and
coffee and ate all the heartburn-inducing
family-of-four photos, I was pregnant
foods I wanted without throwing up and
again. I carried three positive pregnancy
I felt great. Other days I quietly cried in
tests around in my purse for weeks.
the shower thinking, “Why am I broken?
We took a home gender test. We
What did I do wrong?”
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pregnancies and wish you had the
Try a yoga class. Meditate for a few minutes
shattered when a heartbeat could not
same ability. It’s a grief we don’t talk
every morning. Surround yourself with
be detected at my next appointment.
about. I wish I could say something to
everything you love. Don’t be afraid to
I couldn’t muster any tears this time. In
make every devastated mother feel
share your feelings, even the negative
fact, I scheduled a D and C procedure
better, especially those who never got
ones, because they are valid.
immediately. It would take place
a “rainbow baby.” I wish I had hopeful,
two days later. I was ready to feel
positive words for women still yearning
Emily Morrison is a freelance writer, former
like myself again. I was done playing
to be mothers, women enduring
copy editor and full-time mommy and Disney
this game. I wanted off of this roller
fertility treatments, those who have lost
fanatic who lives in Independence with her
coaster. The idea of pregnancy was no
even more than I have.
husband, 4-year-old son and two dogs.
Any feeling of relief quickly
longer fun. It was the worst feeling in the world. The burst of energy I had after my
Know that your story matters and your babies mattered, even on days
As always, please consult your health care
you can’t talk about them. Be patient
provider with any questions or concerns.
last loss was nice for a while. I could
with yourself while in the process of
enjoy taking my son to preschool on
healing. Your body won’t snap right
time because I no longer threw up
back to normal. Take care of yourself.
my breakfast. But then a sense of
Talk to a therapist. Blog. Start a journal.
emptiness started to kick in. If you know grief, you know the sudden heaviness in your chest. And how your body’s defense mechanism that tried to protect you from trauma starts to weaken. Now, I had to face my feelings and my emptiness head-on, and I had no way to deflect it. I sympathize with every woman who has to experience this quiet, torturous kind of loss. It’s not fair. It is a void that cannot be filled, an emptiness and ache for something you cannot replace. It’s a jealousy you’re ashamed of when you learn of countless friends’ full-term
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tips for parents of multiples
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y husband and I held hands as we anxiously awaited the news of whether our fourth baby would be a girl or a boy. As the tech spread the sticky jelly across my stomach and began to rub the ultrasound wand across, I heard a quick gasp. She quickly pulled the wand away and pushed a chair toward my husband. “I think you should sit down, Dad.” I thought I knew what she was about to say, I had seen something too. “Twins?” I asked. “No, not twins,” she answered with hesitation “Triplets!” We were having two boys and one girl. It was the single most shocking moment of our lives, and I found myself filled with great excitement and wonder at the miracles I was carrying. The amazement was also mixed with worry and fear as I tried to wrap my head around how I would manage so many infants.
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Parents expecting twins, triplets or more often find themselves feeling overwhelmed and unsure who to turn to for advice. The experience is not one everyone will walk through, but other parents of multiples are willing to share their wisdom with those who will share this rare, challenging, amazing and exhausting life of raising multiples.
Having multiples is different. I assumed I was more prepared to handle triplets because I had three older children. I quickly realized that raising multiples is profoundly different and much more challenging. “Throw out most of what you know about parenting, because multiples are a whole new ballgame! Just when you think you’ve got everything figured out, they throw you a curveball,” says Cynthia Wilson, mom of triplets plus two. It’s not that experience won’t have benefits, but it is best to realize
that things are more challenging with multiple babies. Megan Guertin, twin mom, says, “It was hard for me to accept having two babies was not the same experience some of my friends had. It helped to find happiness in each moment and stay a few steps ahead to maximize one-on-one time.” Having multiples is different than having only one infant at a time, and that is okay.
Stick to a schedule. “Get them on the same schedule as soon as you can. It was life changing for my entire family!” says Amanda Copenhaver, mother of twins plus two. Many parents of multiples will recommend feeding the babies every three hours, even waking sleeping babies, to reduce the number of feedings overnight. Sleepless nights are the norm for a parent of twins or more, and a strict schedule can increase rest time for everyone.
Take one day at a time.
Expect the unexpected.
Accept help.
From the moment you find out you are expecting multiple babies, the phrase “one day at a time” should become your mantra. I can safely say that nearly three years later, I still think it on a daily basis. “Take it a day at a time, an hour at a time, and some days you’ll have to take it minute by minute. It’s hard, but it’s so worth it,” says Emeline Britton, mother of triplets plus one. It is so easy to get caught up in all the “How’s?” that go along with raising multiples. How will I feed them all? How will we leave the house? How will I potty train? How will I handle three teenagers? Take a deep breath and only worry about the moment you are in right now. The “one day at a time” mindset makes things so much easier to manage.
As soon as you’ve made your sixth and final trip from the house to the minivan, buckled the last child safely in her seat, and double checked the stocked diaper bag, you smell a familiar scent. Someone needs a diaper change. With multiples, each obstacle that goes along with having an infant or toddler is multiplied. When dealing with multiples, plan to leave the house earlier, pack more diapers than you ever thought you would need, and try not to stress about the hurdles you face along the way. My triplets have been able to work as a team to break toys I thought were unbreakable, climb heights I thought were unscalable and make us late to nearly every single event since their birth. Someone is always sick, has an accident or forgets something, and you learn to be flexible while simultaneously planning for every disaster possible. Just think of the time management and organizational skills you will perfect while raising your little ones!
“If someone offers help of any kind, take it!” says Kelsey Raper, mother of twins plus two. Many people offer help early on or during pregnancy but don’t know where to start. Do not be afraid to ask friends or family to clean your house, bring over meals, rock babies while you rest or shower, or do carpool for older children. It can be really hard for a new mom to accept help, but with multiples you will find it a huge blessing. “I was overwhelmed by how generous people are from the time I announced we were expecting triplets to this day,” says Laura Fecak, mother of triplets plus two from Tom’s River, NJ.
Do what works for you. Any first-time parent will receive unsolicited advice from well-meaning friends or relatives. You may be already feeling stressed because you’re expecting multiple babies, and the comments and advice can be overwhelming. “I listened to what others said, but I only did what worked for us,” says Katherine Schwaebler, mom of twins. When you are in the thick of things and living in survival mode, just do whatever feels comfortable for you. “When it comes to nursing or bottle feeding, cosleeping or not, cloth diapers vs. disposable diapers, it doesn’t matter what anyone else does. Do what works for your family,” says Heidi Carlton, mother of two sets of twins.
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Raising twins or more is an exhausting and sometimes overwhelming job, but the unique experience is filled with immense joy.
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Get out.
Find your tribe.
The idea can be daunting, but one of the healthiest things a parent of multiples can do is to get out of the house on a regular basis. Packing up multiple babies and their gear can feel like packing for a two-week trip, but the sense of accomplishment that comes with conquering this obstacle makes you feel like a superstar. “It’s so easy to lose yourself in the mom role. Take some time for yourself and your spouse as well,” says Sarah Imbierowicz, mom of two sets of triplets plus one. Making time for yourself and your relationships can be a challenge, but when you return to your family refreshed and ready to take on the next day’s challenges, everyone benefits.
One of the most important tips for any new mom is to find a supportive group of friends to get you through the highs and lows of parenting. “I joined a multiples Facebook group to gain support from others who understand,” says Teryn Tomme, mother of twins plus two. There are many online support groups for parents of multiples, local groups for twins and more, or you may find a group of friends in your community that understand what you are going through. Having friends to laugh with, vent to and share life with can be a lifesaver while raising little ones.
Embrace it and enjoy it. Raising twins or more is an exhausting and sometimes overwhelming job, but the unique experience is filled with immense joy. Watching the bond that my triplets have is amazing and heartwarming. When I think I can no longer handle the stress and cannot face another diaper change or tantrum, I watch them play together, cheer each other on, and comfort one another, and then I remember I am part of something special that few will experience first-hand. Finding joy in the small moments makes it easier to embrace the challenges. Sarah Lyons is a part-time freelance writer and full-time mom. She lives in Olathe with her family.
Who is more likely to have twins?
• Those with a family history of multiples.
• Women who are tall and have a higher BMI are more likely to have twins.
• Women over 35 years old. • Women who have had a past multiple pregnancy are much more likely to have a second.
• Those seeking fertility assistance. • Those who have recently
stopped taking birth control pills.
Source: WebMD
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get some
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with toddlers
s warmer temps come our way, you’re probably itching to get out and about
with your little ones again. But outings
with a toddler aren’t always as simple as they seem. Gone are the days of easy sleeping and quiet playing, but with some thoughtful preparation, you can make your next stroll to a nearby park a great one!
bring the right gear You’re going to be toting some gear if you plan on successfully getting out with your toddler for the day. This should include extra diapers/underwear and a change of clothes. To make sure you don’t forget, just keep a small bag of these extras in the back of the car, so they’re always on hand! Spring weather can still be chilly, so don’t forget to grab an extra jacket or a hat. A couple of books or favorite toys for the car are musthaves for a longer drive, and a travel packet of wet wipes helps with sticky hands and spills.
try baby wearing If you’re a parent of multiples, baby wearing could be your ticket to hands-free fun. Whether they choose a wrap or a carrier, many local moms wouldn’t leave the house without one. You will want to practice wearing your wrap or carrier before using it away from home.
select a sweet stroller If baby wearing isn’t your thing, consider which type of stroller you would like to have on hand. The larger ones carry items for you as well (Thank you, Mommy Hook!), but a slim umbrella stroller is so easy to carry along.
stock up on snacks Prepackage finger foods or fill up snack-size Ziplocs to help toddlers self-serve when you’re on the go. If the outing will run close to a mealtime, bring plenty of tummy-filling options.
timing is everything Depending on your toddler’s nap time, your best bet is probably going to be leaving first thing after breakfast or waiting until later, right after a nap. Don’t make the mistake of being in the middle of a fun activity just to realize your toddler is about to fall apart thanks to tiredness.
invite a friend An outing is a great time to make sure you get some adult time in, too. Invite a friend or neighbor who also has little ones. While the kids get a playmate, you’ll get some much-needed parent-to-parent socialization.
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outing checklist: • Diaper bag/backpack • Extra clothes • Jacket and hat • Snacks • Stroller/baby carrier • Wet wipes • Car toys/books
prepare behavior Let’s face it: Unwanted behavior can pop up anytime. Be prepared in case your toddler has a meltdown during the outing and have a plan in place for how you will respond in a given location. You will be more likely to remain calm if it happens, which also helps de-escalate a problem. And remember, most people around you are well-acquainted with toddler moods, so no one around you is judging!
Emily Cline lives in Lenexa with her husband and 3-year-old son.
talk it up Kansas City mom Taneka Brown says that preparing her 2-year-old daughter helps her outings go more smoothly. “Before a special outing, we talk about what we’re going to see and do. This sets my daughter up for success, so she is more likely to act better and be excited about going.” Think about your toddler’s personality and how to best prepare him for the trip. Some toddlers will need more encouragement to participate in a new activity, and discussing and showing pictures of a new place will help other toddlers not be overwhelmed upon arrival.
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Hand-Me-Downs: what to keep (and what to toss)
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nce you’ve had more than one child, you know a lot about parenthood—including the magic of handme-downs. The first child is gifted new everything: clothes, crib, car seat, toys, changing table and more. Then the little brother and sister end up with, well, much of that same stuff. Exactly what should you hand down to your second, third (and if you’re crazy enough, fourth and subsequent) children? And what should be bought new for each child? Here’s the breakdown.
clothes: KEEP! REUSE! Our third child barely has worn a new piece of clothing in his four years of life. Grandma may buy him a cool Star Wars t-shirt now and then, but for the most part, his older siblings’ drawers get emptied right into his. This works out perfectly as he tears a hole in most pants on day one, so there’s not much heartbreak when his hand-me-downs go into the trash. Babies are the same way. They spit up and poop through their clothes (you know this by now if you have one). Why buy new clothes for them to stain? Of course, you may
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want to purchase a new “coming home from the hospital” outfit or, if you have your first girl and her older siblings are boys, maybe a few new dresses. But most days she can hang out in big brother’s frog pajamas and be all set.
shoes: Depends on the shoes. And the kid. My boys wear their sneakers until they have holes in the bottom, making them ineligible for the hand-me-down pile. A cute pair of dress shoes, however, that are still in good shape? Pass them on. Snow boots, cleats, dance shoes, etc., definitely can be reused as well.
expensive baby gear: REUSE! When our second and third were born, we dragged out the trusty bouncy seat and exer-saucer from the basement. We dusted them off, installed new batteries and plopped that baby right on in. Same goes for high chairs, cribs, swings, Pack ’n Plays and strollers. Of course always register your products so you can be notified of a recall. Check for broken parts like straps that don’t function properly anymore and loose parts that can fall off and choke Baby.
For example, drop-down side cribs have been deemed highly unsafe, so parents who used them in the past have now had to purchase a new crib for younger siblings. Also, sometimes items just aren’t going to make it past one or two kids. Our stroller didn’t. My kids and I beat the you-know-what out of it, going to parks, playdates, shopping and on long walks, so it needed to be replaced before Number Three arrived. Sometimes you just need to have a good long look at your stuff and make a judgment call. It’s not easy, but what is easy in parenthood?
car seats: Car seats are tricky. They expire, so check the label before reusing. If the date has passed, it cannot be reused. Check to make sure the straps, base, latches, etc., all work properly. Update your knowledge on car seat recommendations. Every few years, the American Academy of Pediatrics changes the rules. With new guidelines, your car seat may not work out this time around. This is a topic not to be taken lightly. Think about how much time you spend in your car and know that with each subsequent child, that amount increases as the older kids go to school and join activities. Baby needs to be safe.
breast pump: REUSE (hello, those suckers are expensive) but buy new tubes, bottles and any other parts that have been exposed to milk. After sticking your trusty pump in the closet for two years, think about what could have happened if milk particles were lodged in any of its parts. Gross, right? Replacing these parts means clean, safe milk for Baby.
other mom and baby gear: Definitely reuse your baby carriers and wraps (again, check for recalls), sheets, blankets, diaper bag, baby monitor, etc. You probably can reuse your training potty for when you’re ready to go down that road again. Cloth diapers are reusable. I do, however, recommend investing in a new changing table pad, as well as a new travel pad for your diaper bag. Think about how much pee and poop was on those things. Start new with a new tushie!
outdoor wear: Definitely hold on to sports gear like cleats, baseball gloves, batting helmets, swimming flotation devices, hats, gloves and snow pants. This stuff isn’t cheap! Get the longest life out of it that you can. My second son proudly rides his big brother’s old bicycle, wears his old helmet and swings his old baseball bat.
other items to buy new: Nipples for bottles, pacifiers, teethers, sippy cups and toys that Baby chews on (like board books). Also bath toys and any other plastic toys that may collect moisture. Moisture equals mildew and mold.
rule of thumb: Most of the gear you’ve invested in can be
Quiz: 1 Which of the following should you keep for the second, third, etc., baby?
A. clothes
B. sheets
C. crib
D. all of the above (as long as the crib meets current safety standards)
2 Which of the following should you buy new for your next baby?
A. cloth diapers
B. nipples for bottles
C. swing
D. high chair
3 Car seats can be reused only if
A. t hey are in proper working order and have not expired
B. they seem to be working fine
C. they are the right fit for Baby
D. they are clean
4 Which of the following should be replaced because they may have moisture and mildew trapped?
A. pump parts
B. sippy cups
C. bath toys
D. all of the above
5 When having a new baby, it is a good idea to invest in a new
A. bouncy seat
B. Pack ’n Play
C. changing table pad
D. stroller
reused! Save a buck. Recycle it. And enjoy growing your family!
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F A M I LY F U N Fresh air, quality time, and exercise are vital for families at this time. Here are some fine ways to have fun in your own backyard!
Scavenger Hunts: These can be done in your own backyard, on a walk through the neighborhood or at home:
• A-Z: Try to find one thing starting with each letter of the alphabet.
• 1-10: Try to find one ball, two acorns, three squirrels and so on. The kids can take turns making the list.
• Animal, vegetable, mineral: Try to find a set number of animals, vegetables (plants) and minerals (non-living things).
• Spell your name hunt: Search for an object starting with every letter in your name.
• Create-a-hunt: Give every member of your family 10 index cards or slips of paper. Have them write a different object on each paper. Then, put all of the papers in a bowl and take turns drawing them from the bowl. Once each person has a new set of 10 (randomly selected), start a race to see who can find their 10 objects first.
Backyard Arts and Crafts: • Collect objects like leaves, acorns and rocks to make a collage or diorama.
• Paint rocks and decorate your garden with them.
• Plant a garden and make signs for your vegetables and herbs. Painted Popsicle sticks can make excellent garden markers.
• Make a flag for your swing set, treehouse or deck. Design a family crest and paint or sew a flag using scrap material.
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Fun and Games: • Obstacle course: Use backyard toys, jump ropes, hula hoops, old tires or recycled materials to create your own backyard obstacle course.
• Circus time: Encourage the kids to put
on a backyard circus. Use the swing set, balance beam, balls and toys to perform. Youtube is a great resource for simple magic tricks you can perform at home with cards and coins.
• Reader’s theater: Have the children reenact
a favorite fairy tale or story. Then, tell the same story in a different genre. For example, perform classic Jack and the Beanstalk, then Jack and the Beanstalk spooky style, or Jack and the Beanstalk sci-fi.
• Old favorites: Dust off the old croquet
set, volleyball net, badminton and baseball. Play sports together as a family.
Firepit Time: • Roast s’mores for dessert. Try new
combinations. For example replace the graham cracker with a cookie or the Hershey bar with another favorite candy.
• Bring out the guitar or sing acapella
and spend time singing favorite songs together as a family.
• Share stories of your childhood. Spend
time telling your kids about your favorite childhood memories or things you enjoyed. Get to know each other better.
• Read together. Bring a flashlight to the
campfire, or start before sunset, and enjoy a book together.
• Make up funny or spooky stories together.
Pick up where you left off last time and see how big your story can become.
Family Dinner Outside: • Make it a tech-free dinner time with a family meal at the picnic table.
• Have a family potluck. Each member of
the family prepares one dish toward the main meal and everyone shares. Older sister might grill the burgers, while brother makes a salad, mom makes some vegetables, and dad bakes a dessert.
• Grill everything. Make kebabs or grill
your favorite meat and vegetables. Enjoy a meal straight from the backyard grill.
• Finger food dinner. Wash your hands
first, and then serve only finger foods for dinner at the picnic table.
in your own backyard
On the Driveway: • Tic-tac-toe: Play tic-tac-toe, hangman
and other classic pen and paper games with sidewalk chalk.
• Racetrack: Using sidewalk chalk or
too windy) and play it at the picnic table. Games like Scattergories or Yahtzee work really well.
• Have a backyard Nerf war or water war if it’s warm enough.
masking tape, create roads, highways and intersections with stoplights for imaginative play with toy cars (Hot Wheels style) or bikes (for kids to ride).
• Set up the tent and sleep in the backyard.
• Basketball: Challenge the kids to one-on-
practice drawing them in a scrapbook.
one, or a classic game of H-O-R-S-E.
• Jump rope: Do you remember the old jump rope games from the school playground? Teach your kids how to jump rope to “Rockin’ Robin” and “Mary Mack.”
Take It Outside: • Play Twister on the lawn. • Take a favorite board game (when it isn’t
Enjoy Nature: • Take photos of animals in nature and then • Learn how to identify backyard birds.
AllAboutBirds.org is a great resource to learn the names and habits of birds.
help identify stars and constellations and learn more about the space program.
• Collect and identify local rocks. Our favorite resource for rock hounds is Geology.com/rocks/.
Find what you love and do it again. Many families connect through shared collections or games. Make it a tradition to shoot hoops together, stargaze, sing or collect rocks. Your kids will always have fond memories of the time you spent together enjoying your own backyard.
• Once you’ve learned about birds, try
learning to identify the trees where they live. Arborday.org/trees/whattree/ is a useful website.
• Use the telescope for a bit of nighttime stargazing. NASA has a terrific app to
Kristina Light’s family loves to eat outside when the weather is nice, and they are thankful to enjoy a nice backyard full of great memories.
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potty train LIKE A PRO
diapers.
When you are pregnant, you stack the tiniest size on your changing table in preparation of putting them on your new angel. Thousands of diaper changes later, you realize it is time to say goodbye to these and hello to potty training. The success of this endeavor depends on patience, consistency and a loving attitude. When you have a baby, you’re knee-deep in diapers. You tuck them your bag, stack them near the crib and even have a few stashed in the glove compartment of your car, just in case. Diapers are such a part of your life you may feel like the day when your child will walk into the bathroom, pee or poop, wipe, wash hands, and walk back out without your even knowing it is a long way off. And yet, that day is coming—and it will be
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as glorious as it has been in your dreams! Between now and then, you and your toddler have a big project: potty training. You may be ready to make the transition, but is your little one? Just like talking, walking and sleeping through the night, timing for potty training readiness is different for every child. There is no perfect age to start the process. How can you know whether your child is ready? He will show interest in various ways, including asking questions about the toilet, potty seats and underwear. Many kids show interest around 2 years old, while others couldn’t care less until they’re closer to 3. Though there are always exceptions, girls usually show interest earlier than boys and are quicker to get the hang of it.
Keep in mind that readiness is based on both physical and emotional development. Ask yourself some questions to gauge whether the time is right: Can my child sit on a potty seat and get back up without my help? Follow basic instructions? Tell me when it’s time to go? Can my child pull down diapers, training pants or underwear without my help? Control bladder and bowel muscles and keep a diaper dry for at least 2 hours? Teach your child that going to the bathroom is natural and necessary. Show him your dog’s toilet, the backyard, and explain the process. Try setting a timer to keep a routine. The timer not only reminds you, but also cues your child that when she hears a chime, it’s pooping time! Use a child-sized potty chair and consider lining it with coffee filters for easy cleanup. Have your child practice the art of aiming and place a cheerio or fruit loop in the bottom for him to hit. Or consider putting food coloring in the water to attract your little one. If your child is afraid of falling into the toilet, have her sit on it backwards. This helps eliminate balance issues. You can purchase little toilet lids to place over public toilets for cleanliness and familiarity. One young mom says, “I let my child run around the house naked, and this makes it easier to sit down quick on the potty.” Another idea is to give toddlers an audience of their favorite stuffed animals, the family cat or dog. Make the event a party and use stickers to track progress on a special chart. Always remember to keep your expectations low, then when small successes happen, they are unexpected triumphs. An avid outdoors girl, Judy Goppert lives in Lee’s Summit. She enjoys drawing on her personal experiences to write about the nuances of everything wonderful about life. As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns. Sources: WebMD.com, ParentingPassage.com.
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