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IN EVERY ISSUE 10 Craft Corner 12 Date Night 14 Mojo for Moms

16-PAGE BACK-TO-SCHOOL GUIDE, PGS. 30-45

16 5 Things 17 Word from Dad 18 Ask the Experts 21 Tasty Treats

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SPECIAL SECTIONS 26 Party Guide 30 Back-To-School 58 Calendar of Events

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Ways to instill and foster independence in children.

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EDITOR’SLETTER AUGUST 2020

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Wishing you a successful school year, Kansas City parents and kiddos!

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fter the glorious summer months, it’s time to turn our attention to the upcoming school year! Our August issue is chock-full of helpful tidbits to help get you ready to make the most of this year.

In the spirit of back to school, I’ll share a few of my most helpful tips. The first comes courtesy of my mom, who moved around a lot as a child because her dad was career Navy. This meant she often found herself the new kid at school. To help ease the transition and to make friends, my grandmother would send her to school on the first day with candy in her lunch. When lunchtime rolled around, Mom would take out the candy and set it on the table. It wasn’t long before kids approached her for some candy, and she was making new friends!

My second tip deals with photos. Once you take the first day photos, print up one of each child by himself and put in a folder. Do it that day, before you forget or it gets put on that never-ending “I’ll get to it when I have time” pile. A few years down the road, when you find yourself planning a graduation party and needing photos of your child throughout her school career, you’ll have them all in one place. In that same vein, tuck away one of the annual fall school pictures taken in this same folder. Trust me, this will save you a lot of time in the future! Future you will be tremendously thankful! What are your best back-to-school tips? Share them on our social media. I’d love to hear how you get ready for the school year!

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CRAFTCORNER

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• Any size wooden clothes pins • Any size Popsicle sticks, 4 total

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ational Aviation Day is Aug. 19. What better way to celebrate than to make a bunch of these super easy and cheap little airplanes? These are easy to customize for your kiddos’ preferences using paint, stickers, pom poms or anything you can think of!

Step one: Line up two Popsicle sticks and place a small amount of glue in the middle of each stick. If using two different sizes of sticks, use the larger ones as the front wings.

Step two: Place the clothes pin on the glue and let set for a minute.

Step three: Place a dot of glue on the top of the clothes pin and set the remaining two Popsicle sticks on top of the clothes pin. Allow to dry.

Step four: Decorate however you see fit!

Step five: Feel free to make additional airplanes for friends!

Janelle Cumro-Sultzer lives in Overland Park with her husband, son and two dogs. Janelle is a former health care executive director and is a mediator in Kansas, helping families in conflict. Janelle loves to focus on learning through play and getting messy with crafts.

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This month’s date night roundup is brought to you by the letter J! JASPER’S If you are looking for a real treat, run—do not walk—directly to Jasper’s Italian Restaurant in South Kansas City. On the night we went, we got to enjoy his highly acclaimed mozzarella theater, which is only done in the summer when they can get fresh, local, heirloom tomatoes.

What could be more fun or better for a date night than having fresh mozzarella made tableside by Jasper himself! It was sooo delicious with the tomatoes, basil, olive oil and balsamic. My husband and I could have eaten just that and their rolls for dinner. But, of course, we didn’t.

Approximately 4,326 calories each later (courtesy of our dinner salads, entrees, wine and desserts), we left fat and happy and with leftovers for the next day. Be sure to check out their amazing dessert cart. There are at least 10 things on there guaranteed to tempt you. You can’t go wrong with any of the choices, of course, but both the coconut cake and strawberry cake are amazing!

JUMP SESSION On a recent Saturday morning, the hubby and I headed to Above All Trampoline Park in Liberty for a 60-minute jump session. I had never been to a trampoline park before and wasn’t sure what to expect.

The open jump area was my favorite, and the ninja course was the hardest. I couldn’t make it through successfully. Of course, leaving it for the end might have had something to do with it. Trampoline parks are exhausting, especially if you are over 40! And my sweaty, tired body definitely was not up for a ninja course. My husband did much better than I, but even he was too tired to complete the entire thing. All in all, I thought it was a pretty fun date. Other trampoline parks in the area include Sky Zone in Lee’s Summit or Shawnee, and Urban Air in Lenexa or Overland Park.

JULIE & JULIA Julie & Julia, starring Meryl Streep and Amy Adams, is based on the true stories of Julia Child and Julie Powell. The movie tells the tale of how Julia Child became a culinary legend in French cooking and how she subsequently inspired Julie Powell, a fledgling writer, to cook 524 recipes in one year—all from Child’s book Mastering the Art of French Cooking.

Powell’s efforts are on full display in her tiny New York City apartment kitchen and memorialized in her blog. At times, she is successful in her efforts. At other times, she fails miserably. And not just with the food.

During those 365 days, Julie discovers herself and what her true priorities are. It’s a charming movie, easygoing and, at times, hilarious. And it was an absolutely superb performance by Meryl Streep. Bon appétit!

Hannah Berry is a freelance writer who lives with her husband in Kansas City.

They enjoy regular date nights and love trying new restaurants and activities.

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While Mid-Continent Public Library’s branches, located throughout Clay, Jackson, and Platte Counties, are still only offering limited in-branch services, the Library’s many online resources are available 24/7 for caregivers who need help assisting their students. As with all of the Library’s resources, these are free to use with a Mid-Continent Public Library Access Pass (Library card), which metro residents can sign up for (and immediately begin using) at mymcpl.org/NewCard.

Below are some of the resources compiled by the experts at MCPL to help you get started! These resources provide age-appropriate lesson plans and other content to support learning at home, as well as in-classroom instruction.

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scavenger hunts • Bloom’s Literature – literary themes, timelines, and essay topics • U.S. History and World History – research toolkit for writing reports, including tips and worksheets • Access World News – current events • Interactive: Science – learning activities with guided lessons followed by a quiz • Science Reference Center – experiments, worksheets, and a research guide • ScienceFlix – videos, quizzes, projects, and other media For parents who want to help their student (but are just as lost as they are!), MCPL’s Live Homework Help from Tutor.com connects students with an online tutor for live, one-on-one help with homework assignments. This free resource is available seven days a week for English and Spanish-speaking students from noon to midnight. Tutors will walk students through each step of their homework problems (messaging and audio communications available).

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MOJOFORMOMS mōjō: 1. influence, especially magic power 2. mom joy

Fear of Missing Out During the COVID-19 pandemic, medical experts have strongly advised safety measures of physical distancing, wearing masks in public and, whenever possible, staying home. As a citizen in our community who cares about my neighbors, I see it as part of my civic duty to adhere to these guidelines as much as possible. But as a mom, encouraging my family to physically distance can be a challenge, especially now that pools are open, camps are in full swing, and the majority of people in our circle of friends are back to living normal, carefree lives. For families who choose a more cautious approach, like mine, fear of missing out (FOMO) can kick in as the world moves on without us. If your kids have a bad case of FOMO this summer, here are a few strategies to help.

“In our family…”

I can’t vs. I don’t

FOMO to JOMO

“Moooom, why can’t WE go to the pool? Charlie’s family gets to!”

Sound familiar? When kids don’t get their way, making comparisons with other families is often a surefire, go-to strategy to twist a parent’s arm.

Why? Because it works. We don’t want to be the boring mom among peers who throws a wet blanket on our kids’ summer fun. Instead of succumbing to peer-pressure-by-proxy, keep this one phrase handy: “In our family, we…” Your pool plea response? “I see that they’re having a playdate at the pool, honey, but in our family, we stay home. Maybe we can run through the sprinklers and have a water balloon fight.”

Researchers at the University of Houston and Boston College found a powerful difference between the phrases “I can’t” and “I don’t.” “I can’t” is experienced as disempowering, undermining our sense of freedom and agency. Making a subtle shift to “I don’t,” on the other hand, is experienced as an expression of selfdetermination and strength. In a study in which participants were encouraged to use either “I can’t” or “I don’t” language, then tempted to lapse from a fitness goal, 80 percent of the “I don’t” group avoided the temptation, versus only 10 percent of the “I can’t” group. Encourage your family to make the subtle shift from “we can’t” to “we don’t” to feel more empowered.

Missing out is not always a bad thing, and for families, it has its perks.

Due to the pandemic, our family has been forced to spend more time together: taking walks and bike rides, playing card games and driveway pickleball, having picnics outdoors with Grandma. We’ve baked together, taken up loom knitting, kayaked, camped and created a family kazoo orchestra. Instead of lamenting all that we are missing out on, I’m trying to shift my focus to the wonderful things we get to do all hunkered down at home. With small doses of gratitude, we get to relish the joy of missing out (JOMO), together.

Wendy Connelly, M.Div., lives in Overland Park with her husband and two kids.

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Clean Trash Cans Trash cans are gross and stinky, especially in the summer. Did you know there are companies that will come out and clean your trash cans? I had no idea until a friend posted on Facebook that she had just discovered trash can cleaners. This friend lives in a different state, so I had to consult my trusty friend Google to see whether this was a thing in KC—and guess what? It is! I signed up online, and voila! I now have clean, non-stinky trash cans.

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Coupon Website I was making a recent purchase online when my younger popped in and told me about a website (I believe the official term is browser extension) that finds and applies coupons to your online purchases. I joined and added and, just like that, it has saved me money several times!

I’ll be honest—I don’t know how it works and I haven’t researched it, so for all I know I’ve just given away super secret intel to spies, but on the flip side, it’s a great way to save when making online purchases!

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I love to play games, but truth be told, I don’t enjoy Monopoly (or the game of Life). It just takes so darn long to play, and everyone loses interest about halfway through a game. Enter Monopoly Deal.

A friend recommended it—she loves it so much she gave me a copy of the game to try out. Turns out it’s tons of fun for all ages! Fast-paced and so much better than original Monopoly, this one still has the same feel as the board game.

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Phone Cases I am one of the unfun people who think that a phone case should be more about protecting the phone than being fashionable. Shockingly, my teen girls disagree.

They recently upgraded their phones and wanted cute, stylish cases, but I wanted some serious protection for those new devices. We all found what we wanted with Wildflower cases. A nice combination of protection along with great designs that are teen approved.

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Pet Portrait My husband is hard to buy gifts for. The past few months have brought Father’s Day, his birthday and our anniversary, so I was in need of some gift inspiration. I found a local gal who paints pet portraits—to know my husband is to know he loves our dog. I submitted a few photos, and she painted the most adorable photo of our Spork. My husband was very surprised, and we all love the latest portrait on our mantle. In addition to pet portraits, she creates home accessories and more!

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WORDFROMDAD

back-to-school shopping “Bill,” Mary said, “Mom gave us some money so we can get Patrick clothes for his first school year.”

I was pleased, but not surprised. An only child, Mary presented her mother with Patrick, the first grandchild and only grandson. Grandma doted on him and gave us almost a hundred dollars from her factory salary, a princely sum 40 years ago.

The money came with a stipulation.

“Get him good clothes that will last the whole school year,” Grandma had told us.

Mary felt that way, too, so we dropped Stacy and Laura off at Grandma’s and went to the pricey department store.

Patrick was tractable and gave us no trouble as we tried on item after item. Two hours later, we brought our selections to the checkout kiosk.

The cashier rang up our selections and gave a warm smile to our first kindergarten-bound child. After everything was complete, I took Patrick’s hand while Mary took her purse and we returned to the car.

Mary turned to me when we got to our sedan. “Where’s the bag?”

I gave her a blank look. “I thought you had it.”

“I didn’t take it. I thought you did.”

“I’ll be right back.” I ran inside and returned to the same cashier.

“Excuse me, I just bought something here and forgot to take the package. Is it still here?”

The clerk checked the inside of the kiosk. “No, I’m sorry it isn’t.”

Someone had taken the school clothes we’d bought for our son. I took responsibility. I also took the blame along with some unpleasant consequences. A couple weeks later, we visited Grandma and, by then, everyone had accepted the situation.

“Bill,” Grandma said, “Maybe it was supposed to be this way. I just hope the person who took them really needed them.”

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EXPERTS We have a wide range of experts on hand to answer your questions on everything from dental visits and playdates to dance lessons, lawns and so much more!

If you have a question that needs answering, get in touch.

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We are proud to be a leading pediatric dental practice in the Kansas City metro, including Johnson and Wyandotte counties in Kansas.

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Sylvan offers a wide range of tutoring for every age and grade from pre-K through college, to meet your child’s individual needs and goals. 816.468.7900, KansasCitySylvan.com

Children’s Mercy is one of the nation’s top pediatric medical centers. With hospitals and specialty clinics in Missouri and Kansas, we provide the highest level of care for children.

816.234.3000, ChildrensMercy.org

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Mid-Continent Public Library has 33 branches and serves more than 816,000 residents across Jackson, Clay and Platte counties, offering resources and services for all ages.

816.836.5200, MyMCPL.org

The Culture House Conservatory of Art (established 1996) has programs and performances in dance, theatre, music and art (ages 3-20), as well as a professional dance division.

913.393.3141, CultureHouse.com

Family Tree Nursery is a team of passionate horticulturists, providing an unmatched selection of plants and gardening products for the KC area since 1964. 913.642.6503, FamilyTreeNursery.com

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ASK THE EXPERTS...If you have a question, send it our way and we’ll ask one of our experts to answer.

Email editor@kcparent.com and put “Ask the Experts” in the subject line.

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At what age should my child have his first dental visit? And should my child see a pediatric dentist instead of our regular family dentist?

My child struggled with math last year.

Should I get a tutor now or wait to see how she does for the first quarter?

“First visit by first birthday” is the general rule. To prevent dental problems, your child should see a pediatric dentist when the first tooth appears, usually between 6 and 12 months of age, certainly no later than his first birthday. Pediatric dentistry is a dental specialty that focuses on the oral health of young people. Following dental school, a pediatric dentist has two to three years of additional specialty training in the unique needs of infants, children and adolescents, including those with special health needs.

Dr. Jill Jenkins and Dr. Michael LeBlanc Jenkins & LeBlanc Dentistry for Children

At Sylvan, I receive this question frequently and respond, “Don’t wait until math struggles exist, because then you’re already behind.” While parents may encourage summer reading, many forget math, whether because of oversight or feeling ill-equipped to help. Summer learning loss is real, with up to six months of math knowledge lost.

And this year, COVID-19’s impact on the spring semester will undoubtedly compound learning loss in math and other subjects—as well as raise uncertainties about school this fall. Consequently, proactively seeking a math tutor before troubles show up is imperative. Sylvan is prepared to assist your child during this unpredictable period.

Barbara Nickless Center Director, Sylvan of Kansas City North

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Is it safe to have playdates with other children?

What are some of the best ways I can utilize the library’s online resources for my middle school son?

Opportunities for children to socialize and play are critical for their development and wellness.

Allowing children to play with friends while promoting healthy behaviors that reduce spread of COVID-19 is key. Parents can do the following to decrease the spread of COVID-19: Encourage children to wash hands often and cover their coughs and sneezes, discourage the sharing of items such as food and toys with friends, play outside as much as possible, encourage masking and social distancing in older children, and make sure a child or parent exposed to COVID-19 or feeling ill stays home. Consider keeping playdates limited to small groups and ensuring adults present at playdates are wearing masks.

Mid-Continent Public Library’s homework help page, MyMCPL.org/homework, is a great place to start and can be used to access MCPL’s collection of free homework help resources for students.

Need more hands-on help? “Live Homework Help” from Tutor.com offers assistance from actual tutors on a variety of subjects. Need to do some research? “Research for Middle Schoolers” features a collection of more than 400 topics, each with articles, images and primary sources. Ageappropriate book lists can also be found on the library’s online catalog, including those created specifically for middle school readers.

Contact your local branch for more support!

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My daughter is 11 and wants to take ballet, but I’m afraid she’ll be the oldest one in the class.

What are some things I should do now to prep my lawn for fall and winter?

It is never too late to begin dancing! The age of 11 actually can be a great one to begin training because students are able to understand technique and have body awareness. Even though they don’t have the benefit of the early years of classes, they are certainly able to grasp the foundational principles more quickly because of their age. If a student works hard, she can catch up during her teen years and find great success. TCH offers beginning classes for older age groups (including adults).

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Spray weeds in August to eliminate root competition before fall seeding. September is the best month to put down grass seed in Kansas City. Cool air starts to set in, decreasing the stress on the new seedling, while the soil temperature remains warm, allowing grass seed to germinate and root quickly. In autumn, grass begins to store carbohydrates for winter, so it’s important to apply a high-nitrogen fertilizer. We recommend three applications, one month apart starting in September, to ensure the establishment of deep roots. When seeding and fall fertilizing, always keep your lawn well hydrated.

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sensational seasonal AUGUST FOODS

As the sweet summertime draws to an end, school will soon be in session. Whether you and your family are down in the dumps or leaping for joy, aim to celebrate the close of summer and the opening of new possibilities with these healthful, seasonal August foods.

corn This sunny yellow vegetable is a good source of complex carbs, which support steady energy levels for all your kiddos’ activities. In addition, corn has eye-healthy carotenoids, an antioxidant essential for good sight.

Pick: Fresh with the husks or choose frozen.

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What epitomizes the sweetness of summertime more than a slice of fresh watermelon? Not only is this sensational summer food a seasonal classic, it’s a great source of hydration and electrolytes needed during the dog days of August.

This sweet and juicy vegetable is so versatile in dishes and is a super source of fiber for digestion and antioxidants for immune health.

Pick: Fresh or short cuts.

Lunch: Slice and layer on sandwiches, paninis and wraps. Chop tomatoes and add to omelets or a blend of greens.

Mealtime Enjoyments

Mealtime Enjoyments

Dinner: Go traditional by topping the summer off right with grilled corn on the cob.

Your kids will smile ear to ear.

(See recipe to the far right.)

Dessert: For a sweet and refreshing treat, opt for watermelon sticks. (See recipe to the far right.)

Lunch: Fill whole grain tortilla with black beans, corn, tomatoes, lettuce, shredded cheese with a side of salsa.

Your kids can also help you assemble them for their lunch boxes. “My kids like combining all the ingredients and wrapping it up,” says LouAnn, a Lenexa mother of two grade schoolers. “It gives them a good start for cooking skills.”

Snack: Simply blend watermelon chunks and milk with ice to enjoy a watermelon slush. Your kids can enjoy this quick pickme-up in a pinch indoors or outdoors.

recipes Corn on the cob

Pick: Fresh or canned.

Rub husked ears with butter and wrap in foil.

Grill over medium heat for 25-30 minutes, adding a few dollops of butter and turning several times.

Mealtime Enjoyments

Watermelon Sticks

Snack: Keep it simple yet complete. Serve it kebab style with a source of protein. (See recipe to the right.)

Cut watermelon in wedges and insert wooden craft sticks into the rind of the wedge. Freeze for about 4 hours and drizzle with dark chocolate and shredded coconut.

Tomato kebabs On a wooden skewer, line up a cherry tomato, mozzarella cheese slice, jumbo black olive and a slice of turkey.

Savor the rest of the summer with these healthful and seasonal classic treats!

Amy Hundley is a registered dietitian nutritionist, licensed in both Kansas and Missouri, and a published freelance nutrition writer.

She is currently practicing as a clinical RD and has been a resident of Olathe since early childhood. kcparent.com august 2020

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three little words

We all know the most important three little words—I love you—but others are equally important to express to our children. Look to incorporate these simple yet meaningful phrases into your parenting vocabulary.

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I Like You. Have you ever noticed how liking someone and loving them are not one and the same? True love isn’t a feeling but a commitment. It’s shown by caring for one another sacrificially and unconditionally. Liking someone, on the other hand, is a matter of preference and taste. As comedian Mark Lowry says, “There are some people I love that I don’t like. I go through Thanksgiving and Christmas, too.

You know what I’m talking about…. You’ll cry at [their] funeral but you don’t want to go on vacation with them!”

Caring for children requires a lot from a mom and dad, so it’s important they know they are worth the investment.

Do your children know that you sincerely enjoy being with them? Tell them! There’s nothing more meaningful than hearing your mom and dad say they truly value who you are—not what you accomplish or how you stack up compared to others but the way you tick and what makes you YOU! It’s important our kids know we love them, but it’s equally important that we tell them how much we like them.

blatantly obvious, so an apology is the last thing on their radar. However, when a parent admits mistakes and owns them, a child feels more safe and secure. “Being wrong is not the same as being weak,” psychologist Kate Roberts writes in her Psychology Today article “When Parents Say I’m Sorry They’re Saying So Much More.” “Children need to be taught that asking for forgiveness and accepting failure is not only more important than covering up mistakes, but it’s a sign of strength and bravery.” Modeling repentance also teaches humility, resilience and the importance of learning through failure.

I Am Listening.

When our kids hurt, we hurt. The knee-jerk reaction most parents have to seeing their kids in pain is trying to fix things themselves. But some things are beyond a parent’s ability to smooth over. Band-Aids and Neosporin can heal a toddler’s scraped knee, but what can heal a broken middle school heart? Asking our kids to share their feelings with no strings attached can help them know we value how they feel regardless the outcome of a situation.

And the reality is, some problems don’t have simple solutions. By finding us a safe place to process their feelings, kids can oftentimes create solutions of their own. Consider asking open-ended questions: How did that make you feel?

How did you respond? What do you think you should do?” Those kinds of queries foster deeper conversation and problem solving. True listening demonstrates itself by being available. Not all kids are open books, so don’t expect that just by offering, you’ll get a deep heart-to-heart conversation every time. Instead, focus more on providing the time and space for conversations to organically transpire as they may.

I Am Sorry.

An apology from a parent can have a huge impact on a child, and yet for many moms and dads, it’s one of the hardest things to do. This problem is two-fold: many parents are afraid that admitting a mistake undermines their authority, revealing they’re not as perfect as they hope to be perceived by their son or daughter. Sadly, others refuse to admit they have the capacity to be wrong, even when it’s

I’ll Be There.

Kids don’t need perfect parents. They need present parents. Being actively involved in your child’s life will look different depending on the stage of life that both you and your child are in. Because families vary so much, whether a single-parent home, a blended family or one with a special needs child, intentionally show your presence in ways that work based on your unique situation. Consider taking mommy or daddy dates with your kids, an opportunity to spend one-on-one time with each of your children. It could be as simple as doing errands with just one of your children or going out for ice cream together. Looking for ways to connect at home? Establish a bedtime routine where you read (or listen to audio books) together before lights out. For older kids that are fluently reading, offer to hold a parent-child book club, discussing the themes of your current reads. Establishing a sense of family culture and togetherness and prioritizing time together show you’re not in it for the highlight reel. You’re in it for keeps.

Lauren Greenlee is a KC boymom of three who strives to tell each of her children that he’s both loved and liked every day.

She writes from her Olathe home.

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Your Worry-Free Guide for Returning to Work Talking through your return to work with your kids probably won’t be a onetime conversation.

Anticipate questions and concerns throughout the transition.

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hether you’ve been out of the workforce for months or years, making the transition back after staying home with your children can cause a mixture of excitement and anxiety. Read on to enjoy a smoother adjustment for your family.

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Celebrate the change. How a child reacts and adjusts to changes in home life can vary by personality and age. Talk to your kids about your decision to return to the workforce by explaining how the transition will benefit the entire family.

Life and leadership coach Julie Edge, Ph.D., Inside Edge Coaching, Prairie Village, helps guide parents back into the workforce and says we often underestimate what our youngsters can understand.

“It’s really about making it relevant for kids so that they can put it into context.

Have them have a role in Mom or Dad going back to work: ‘We’re all going to chip in more’ or ‘We’re all going to need to help out in certain ways so that Mom can have this time to contribute to the family differently.’

They can be a cheerleader for Mom or Dad and help celebrate the change,” Edge says Manage your own fears. When you think about the prospect of going back to work, try not to get carried away imagining all the things that could go wrong during the transition. Edge says we often blow fears out of proportion, and she suggests saying your fears out loud. Often, what seems like a big deal in our heads sounds ridiculous to our ears.

“Stay the course and let things unfold instead of trying to over-manage everything,” Edge says. “My clients are always surprised at how well it goes and that their fears really don’t come true.”

Expect multiple conversations.

Talking through your return to work with your kids probably won’t be a one-time conversation. Anticipate questions and concerns throughout the transition.

“What you don’t want to do is promise that everything is going to be the same because it’s not going to be, and kids are smart,” Edge says. “Reassure them and make sure quality time with your kids—eye to eye—doesn’t feel like it’s being taken away.”

Quality time. Although you may spend a fewer number of hours overall with your kids once you start working, you don’t have to sacrifice quality time. Try to eat meals together and periodically schedule family activities.

Leigh Carr, a registered nurse, was a stayat-home mom for four years. She returned to work when she and her husband, Dustin, decided to start Hari Om Hemp, an online shop based in Kansas City that sells a full spectrum of CBD bath and body products.

“My oldest son, Nolan, who was 4 at the time, had more anxiety than his younger sister, who was 2. I made sure during the transition—and to this day—to make individual one-on-one time with each of my children so that they know in their mind and heart that I am still Mom before all else,” Carr says.

Plan ahead. Take time on the weekend to scope out the upcoming week’s activities.

Also, plan meals and arrange carpools to alleviate last-minute stress.

Laura Fitzsmmons, another registered nurse and a single mom of three sons, ages 14, 17 and 22, schedules family meetings to discuss the week ahead during their Sunday dinners together.

“That little bit of planning is what’s saving me right now,” says Fitzsimmons, who is a certified lymphatic specialist therapist and owner of Prairie Star Wellness in Shawnee.

Fitzsimmons initially returned to the workforce on a part-time basis after staying home with her children for 13 years. But she went back full time soon after her husband died from a sudden heart attack in 2017.

“I had to learn quickly how to plan more crockpot meals,” she says. “And, when you’re working evenings, you can’t follow strict family dinnertime hours. Dinner is always on the table, but not at exactly 5:00.”

Ask for help. When you were a stayat-home parent, it may have been easier to manage the moving parts of a busy household.

But once you start working, your family may have to participate more when it comes to household chores or helping with meals.

“It took solid and honest cooperation with my husband. We had to focus on communicating about shifts in the priorities and duties around our home, as well as continue to focus on work-life balance” Carr says.

Carpools can also help take some of the pressure off, especially when your kids are involved in multiple activities.

Fitzsimmons relies on her older son to help with driving his younger brother to his activities.

“If he’s not available, I’ll just put a text out to a couple of his friends in the neighborhood,” she says. “We call it the Teen Uber. I flip them five bucks for gas—it’s awesome.”

Forgive yourself. Some days will be harder than others. Work obligations might sometimes prevent you from attending a school program, a soccer game or getting a home-cooked meal on the table.

“I’ve learned to forgive myself,” Fitzsimmons says. “It’s ok if they have a turkey sandwich two nights in a row at dinner because that’s the best I can do. Allow yourself to be in that place of surrender and quiet and accept that it’s okay if you fail. At the end of the day, my kids have a roof over their heads, and their bellies are full—they’re fine.”

Carr agrees. “Outside influences do not understand your own family’s dynamic and what is in the best interest of your family.

Go easy on yourself. It does no one any good to be hard on yourself when things don’t go quite right or get stressful.”

Benefits of working parents. In addition to gaining valuable life skills like helping to prep meals, budgeting and learning personal responsibility, kids take pride in seeing their parents pursuing goals outside of the home.

“Despite the initial guilt and stress of returning to the workforce, for my children to see continued hard work, dedication, perseverance, compassion and motivation both in the home and outside is such a true blessing,” Carr says.

Christa Melnyk Hines, Olathe, is a nationally published freelance writer who reentered the workforce when her youngest son was 2.

She enjoys her work and is a happier mother because of it.

The Kids Will Be Alright Studies find that working moms tend to raise: • Children who become high-achieving adults.

• Daughters who enjoy successful careers.

• Sons who believe in gender equity in the workplace.

• Kids who are just as likely to be happy adults as kids raised by stay-at-home parents.

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hances are your kid will attend dozens of birthday parties over the course of the next few years. At even $10 a pop for a gift, that can really add up. Now think of all the gifts that come into your own home for birthdays and other holidays. Picture at least half of that stuff eventually going into a landfill or to charity. Talk about a bunch of wasted money! So I’m proposing a radical idea: the no-gift birthday party. You’ll have a lot less cleanup, and the other parents just might thank you. Try it just once and see what you think! Here are some ideas:

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Instead of giving your child a birthday gift or even a party, consider giving an experience. Ideas include a trip to an indoor or outdoor amusement park, the zoo or water park.

For very young children, consider giving just one fun gift from you and ask everyone else to gift money for a savings account. I know my babies were too young to care about gifts, but they sure are proud of the money they already have saved for their future.

Ask guests to bring canned goods for a local food bank to the party. After cake, depending on the ages of the kids, caravan to the food bank so the kids and adults can help out for a couple of hours.

Cook up some fun at a place where kids can cook. Businesses like this often offer birthday parties where kids can make their own pizzas or decorate their own little cakes.

Have a party at a cool place like a nature center and ask for donations. Jaime Perreca, mom of four, says, “More parents are saying ‘no gifts, please’ or are doing a donation thing.

We went to a party last month at a nature center and were asked to donate money. Most families put in $10-20. The nature center was SO happy to have our donation.”

Go to a shop where the kids can paint their own pottery creation, which is super fun. Then have cake and ice cream bars.

Throw a party with an animal theme. Shari Fresorger, mom of Hunter, says, “We have done two no-gift parties because my son has a December birthday. [At the first] we did animal-themed Christmas ornaments, and gifts were donated to the local animal shelter. The second party, I ended up with a large SUV packed with supplies for the animal shelter. Lots of large bags of dog food, blankets, toys and even checks to be donated in my son’s name.”

Ask guests to bring an item from home or even a new book or toy for charity. Your child will get a kick out of taking donations to a local center that helps those in need.

If you do it right, nobody will be thinking about presents at all.

They’ll be too busy having fun!

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ways to find an babysitter If you have friends who use a babysitter often, ask them how they found the babysitter and how their children get along with her.

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inding a great babysitter can be daunting at first, especially if you don’t have close family nearby to lend a hand. It can be hard to trust someone you barely know with your little ones, but amazing babysitters are all around. You just have to keep your eyes open.

children. The best part about using an instructor is your children are probably already comfortable with the familiar person, which makes leaving them much easier on you. If your particular instructor isn’t available, chances are that person has friends or knows someone who teaches another class that is available.

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If you have friends who use a babysitter often, ask them how they found the babysitter and how their children get along with her. If the sitter sounds like someone you would be interested in using, you can ask whether their babysitter is open to watching new children. More than likely, if close friends trust their children with the babysitter, you will too. You can also ask them all the questions you need answered to make an informed decision before even contacting the prospective sitter.

It’s also a good idea to ask your coworkers who they use to watch their children. My husband is a teacher and found out some of his colleagues’ children are the perfect babysitting age.

Several online apps make finding a babysitter much easier.

Care.com is a website that helps you connect with caregivers in your area. You can select how often you need care, the amount of experience you prefer a sitter to have, how quickly you need care and any other specifications you would prefer, such as CPR certification or having their own transportation. You can also do background checks. When I did a search in my zip code, I found 39 matches! The basic service is free, but for premium features you can subscribe for as low as $13 per month.

The Nextdoor app is another great option for finding childcare. Nextdoor is a neighborhood hub that makes exchanging information with your neighbors easier. Just post that you’re looking for childcare in your neighborhood and see who responds. This is a nice option, because the responses will be coming from your own neighborhood and you might end up knowing who responds to your post, instead of it being a random stranger.

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Check Social Media It might seem a bit odd to post about your childcare needs on your personal Facebook page or other social media platforms, but it can be a great way to get leads from people you know and trust: your friends. With just one post, you will likely end up with several babysitters to check out. You can also post in local parenting groups to ask for recommendations from people you might not know. Social media is a great way to get several leads at once, and then you can decide which option is best for you.

Daycare Teachers Does your child love her daycare teacher? Ask her whether she babysits on the weekends. Using a teacher is an ideal situation, because your children probably have a close bond with her already. The teacher also knows all about your kids’ allergies, favorite foods and favored games and toys. A daycare teacher will also be CPR and first aid certified and have a love for children that spurred the choice of childcare as a livelihood.

hours and usually enjoy the company. Some of our neighbors watch their grandchildren during the day too, so it’s like a fun playdate for the kids!

Checklist for the Babysitter When you have a new babysitter, be helpful by leaving an information sheet for him. The sheet can provide house rules regarding snacks, screen time, bedtime and other do’s and don’ts. Along with that, ask the sitter to record what your child ate that day, his naptimes and bedtimes, diapering information and other special notes. You can also leave all your emergency contacts, just in case!

Regan Lyons is a freelance writer who lives in St. Joseph, MO, with her husband, 6-year-old daughter and soon-to-be newborn baby girl.

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table of contents 31 school bus photo frame 32 welcoming new students 34 kindergarten preparation 36 goal setting 38 genius back-to-school tips 40 school planner 42 save money on shopping 44 breakfast burritos

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CRAFTCORNER

Materials needed:

• Popsicle/craft sticks • Yellow, black and silver paint (or paint pens) • Paint brush

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ack to school is here! This simple and fun craft will make a great decoration for your fridge at home while serving as a special keepsake for years to come.

• Red craft jewels (two) or sequins • Scissors • Glue • Paper plate • Scrap of white paper (for the license plate) • 4x6 picture of your child • Magnets (two)

Step one: Paint your craft sticks so that you have enough for the bus, bumper and wheels. For the wheels, you can just paint the ends! Let dry.

Step two: Build your bus using glue (regular or hot glue is great).

Step three: Break the stick with the wheels on it in half and glue to the back of the bus so that you see the wheels in front.

Step four: Add a license plate (I did “Back to School,” but your child can do whatever he or she likes—get creative!) and red brake lights with glue. Let dry.

Step five: Flip the bus over and cut your child’s picture to fit. Glue into place. You also can tape it so it can be changed out.

Step six: Attach magnets with glue.

Step seven: Find the perfect place on your fridge to display and enjoy!

Happy back to school!

Megan Coffey is a former kindergarten teacher and lives in Overland Park with her husband and two kids. She loves encouraging creativity with her children through art and play.

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WELCOMING

the new kid to school

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ho will I sit with at lunch? Will I be able to find my locker or my classroom? Being the new kid isn’t easy, but fortunately many schools and their students love rolling out the welcome mat to help new students feel like a valued part of the community.

Make a new friend. “New students need and want to feel special because they are special. They also want friends,” says Tara Walrod, district coordinator, Student Support Services Instructional Design Team, Blue Valley Schools.

Build empathy by talking to your children about any feelings they experienced when they were new to a classroom, club or sports team.

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make a difference in someone’s life,” Walrod says. “All of us have a role in helping to make the transition as easy as possible.”

Thoughtful touches. Offer a warm welcome to new classmates. Walrod suggests students write short letters or draw pictures. They can collect their notes and place the packet on their new friend’s desk for when they arrive at school. Or they might sign and mail a “welcome to our class” postcard to a new student’s home.

Walrod says some teachers also create electronic books for new students and their families to use as a resource, highlighting their background and interests, class rules and procedures and photos of classmates with their names (to help a new student learn names).

Ronee Vrooman, a fourth grade teacher at Sunrise Point Elementary School, makes goody bags that welcome new

students. She also makes friendship bracelets for the whole class to wear the first day—or as long as they’d like—to symbolize new friends. She attaches cards that say: “This is to remind you that our class would ‘knot’ be the same without you.”

Goody bags work well at the middle and high school levels too.

They might contain items like a school t-shirt/keychain, a welcome letter, the student’s schedule and lists of clubs and extracurricular activities.

Of course, adjusting to middle or high school as a new student has its own set of challenges due to larger school settings and multiple classes.

“Since your child will have a different teacher for each class and a different group of students, your child may have more complex feelings and experiences,” Walrod says.

New student orientations, resource folders and ambassador programs can be instrumental in managing nervous anticipation and helping kids get familiar with the school.

Lead by example. At William Bryant Elementary School in Blue Springs, students can apply to be Greeter Leaders, who welcome new students and distinguished guests to the school throughout the year.

“A lot of times we’ll have a greeter leader who has been a new student. That empathy piece is huge because they know what it’s like to be in their shoes,” says Stacy Scalfaro, school counselor.

Some students are naturals while others grow into the role, giving them an opportunity to gain new skills throughout the year. Scalfaro and her greeter leaders host new student gatherings monthly to help enhance a sense of connection. One month, with the help of his mom, an exceptionally generous fifth grader purchased donuts for new students with his own money.

At Holy Trinity Catholic School, Lenexa, school counselor Kathleen Feist kicks off a Welcoming Buddy program each year before school starts, pairing each new student with a current student. While parents visit with their child’s teacher, a buddy helps their child with a scavenger hunt to locate important areas around school like the library, the cafeteria and the nurse. Plus, the buddy offers a friendly, known face on the first day of school.

Feist says that often many students are eager to help welcome a new student and like to take turns sitting with the student at lunch or playing at recess. She recommends the welcoming buddy program continue for about six weeks or until the new student is adjusted.

“Each child is different,” Feist says. While some kids will acclimate quickly, others may “need help throughout the whole school year.”

Integrating families. Holy Trinity also sponsors a Buddy Family program in which existing school families are paired with new families to help them transition into the community. They introduce the newcomers to other families, answer questions and make them aware of available activities, resources, events and

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traditions. (Check with your school PTO to see whether they offer liaisons to help new families get involved.)

“It’s traumatic for a child to start a new school. The more support you give, the better the adjustment can be,” Feist says. “They’re going through a lot of loss and families don’t always move because of a good reason. It could be there was a death and so now they’re moving closer to family. It could be a job loss or financial stress. So sometimes children are bringing in a certain amount of stress to the already stressful situation of starting a new school.”

Connect 1:1 10 x 2. Nope, that’s not a weird math formula. It’s a community-building technique Scalfaro implemented for kids who are new and struggling with the adjustment. For two minutes, 10 days in a row, the student can sit and chat about whatever he wishes with an adult other than his teacher, like a music or P.E. teacher.

“Two minutes of just letting them tell you whatever they want to tell you—that’s been really powerful,” Scalfaro says. “When teachers have 20 plus kids in their classroom, sometimes it’s really hard to just pause and get to know somebody. When you pair a child with another adult in the school, it takes the pressure off the teacher and also builds that community within the school. We don’t ever want kids to feel like they just have one adult. We want them to feel like they have several trusted adults within our building.”

Advocate. If your child struggles with the transition and the new school doesn’t offer a new student program, ask the counselor or your child’s teacher if your student can be paired with a helpful classmate. Also, check in periodically with teachers and the school counselor to learn how your child is managing recess, lunch and in the classroom.

Raised in a military family, Olathe-based writer Christa Melnyk Hines was the new kid several times growing up. While the adjustment wasn’t always easy, she appreciates the resiliency skills she gained along the way.

Additional Resources The Invisible Boy by Trudy Ludwig The Brand New Kid by Katie Couric Enemy Pie by Derek Munson First Day Jitters by Julie Danneburg The Name Jar by Yangsook Choi Inside Out (movie) kcparent.com august 2020

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your baby is off to kindergaren!

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This is a big-deal-kind-of-day for children as they embark on this new adventure, but it’s also a big-deal-kind-of-day for you too.

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ongratulations! You have made it to another momentous occasion as a parent! Your sweet bundle has grown up to take on the next level of childhood! He is ready to take that first big step into kindergarten, and you are entering the school-aged phase of parenthood—but are you ready?

Are you feeling prepared for the year and stage ahead? I’m sending my third, and the baby of our family, off to his first day of kindergarten in the fall, so I just want to advise you to take a moment. Give yourself a pause to think back on all you’ve gone through as a parent to get to this point. Think of how amazing that kid of yours has turned out so far! Make sure you allow yourself some time to wrestle with any emotions you may have, such as fear, sadness, excitement, anxiety or pride before the big day. This is a big-deal-kind-of-day for your child as he embarks on this new adventure, but it’s also a big-deal-kind-of-day for you too.

First, think ahead to any traditions you would like to start or keep for the first day of school. For our family, we have a small blackboard, as well as a large t-shirt, with their graduating class year that we use to take first-day photos with each year. If this is something you’d like to do as well, have your supplies purchased ahead of time and message written out while you have a chance, before scrambling on that first day of school.

I also suggest shopping for school supplies when the list first comes out to make sure you’re able to find them all. It’s usually midsummer when you just want to enjoy the sunshine and not look ahead to fall quite yet, but it’s helpful to get the shopping done and items put away until you need them.

Books are always top on my list of ways to explain new ideas to my children, and going to school is no exception. Casey Frasser, mother of four, agrees: “Read books about school.

There’s lots about going to kindergarten.” On

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the first day, make sure to allow for extra time to get everything ready and have the opportunity for all those pictures! Better yet, get everything ready the night before so you don’t forget anything you want to do or have your child take with him.

Then as your fledgling scholar heads into her new classroom, remember to keep a brave face, reassure her, be excited for her and don’t linger. Remind your child that you’ll come back and celebrate together later that day. Of course, there are different schools and ways to get to school. For my oldest, we walked up as a family and took her all the way to her classroom. The next day she asked if she could walk in by herself. I was a little surprised and sad but ultimately so proud she was showing her independence. My middle child got onto the bus with his older sister and looked out at me with tears pricking his eyes—that was a bit more emotional—but it was also the moment where we just ripped off the Band-Aid and off he went. He was so excited to be going to school like his sister and to have his own experience too.

The excitement may wear off after the first week or so, but remember to stay positive. Kindergartners often hit a rough patch the first couple of months up to the first semester of being completely exhausted from long days at school to which they haven’t yet adjusted. They are learning so much and around so much stimulation, so just make sure they do have that downtime when they come home.

Sticking to a routine can be helpful and familiar since they have a pretty set routine at school every day. Guarding downtime, family time and early bedtimes can assist these tired tiny students. In addition to providing free time, consider choosing only one extracurricular activity or taking a break for the first couple months of school while your child adjusts. The breathing space can be helpful to kids,

and it also cuts back on running to and fro to make it places on time for a little while. My son had always been my easy kid until he went to kindergarten and he was kind of a mess at home after school.

It was a long transition for him, and we just realized he definitely requires more sleep. Making sure he got more sleep was helpful but challenging—who wants to go to bed earlier each night when it’s still light out or keep the family in from doing a fun activity? We’ve found, though, that having a happier kid is usually worth the sacrifice.

Lunch is another aspect of school to be prepared for. Will your child bring her own lunch or eat school lunch? I was shocked to see how quickly my children can blow through their school lunch money. Schools differ in their offerings, and our current school has a la carte items that are very enticing to newly independent kids. This was not a great idea in my opinion, and, apparently, I wasn’t alone. This past year they sent home a note for parents to deny permission for seconds or a la carte items.

Kids still get plenty to eat and end up throwing too much away because they aren’t used to having to eat quickly.

The amount of homework depends on your school, teacher and child, but your kindergartner will probably need some sort of assistance with homework. Parents will need to create a routine and expectations of when homework will be done at your house and that you are ready to give that time to helping your child. We haven’t experienced a lot, but those reading logs can require a lot of patience as your child is learning how to read. Just breathe, stay positive and maybe even break it up over the evening or alternate reading every other page with your child. For example, let him struggle through one page and then you read the next page to show him how, a little break, and speed up the process a little bit.

Another aspect of the school-aged years is the onslaught of paper coming into your house. The inundation can be intense, especially if you’re sentimental at all. We started early on by looking and sorting each day and recycling most of it after acknowledging how proud we were of what they did. As they got older, I would have them sort the papers themselves.

The things we keep we put in a designated folder for the year, and then we sort it further at the end of the year. Come up with a plan for the paper that works for you and try to stick to it. There will be so much more so don’t be sad to recycle or toss most of it. You have my permission.

On top of the paper, be prepared to keep up with the technical side of school, including keeping up to date on school activities via email, calendar, social media and any additional apps your school or classroom teacher may utilize. Some of the classroom apps are really amazing, but all of it together can be overwhelming. Kelly Smoak, mother of two, suggests, “Get involved in the PTO. It’s the best way to know what’s going on at the school.”

Safety is another concept to go over with your child. Discuss inappropriate touching, not talking or going with strangers, and standing up for himself or asking a teacher for help. Just as important, remember the Golden Rule. Teach your youngster to look for the lonely kids that may need help making friends.

Remember, it’s kindergarten, they are still little kids, relax, enjoy, and do your best. You have many more years ahead of you—and don’t forget to celebrate with some ice cream! Our favorite is Sylas and Maddy’s.

Stephanie Loux is the mother of Layla, 10, Mason, 8, and Slade, 5, and can’t believe they will all be in school this fall. kcparent.com august 2020

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SMART START

SETTING GOALS FOR THE SCHOOL YEAR

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he beginning of the new school year brings excitement: lists of supplies to fill backpacks and book bags, not to mention new clothes, uniforms, shoes and haircuts. The last lazy days of summer are replaced by friends, fun teachers and favorite subjects.

An electricity fills the air, no matter where you live and how old you are. Some of us still mark the year by the beginning of school, seeing it as a time of reawakening, a chance to start fresh and the opportunity to watch all the school sports.

Your children will take their lead from you. If you are excited and involving them in the process, they will pick up on it and follow. Smiling, making the preparations special, letting them select some of the supplies themselves will ensure kids will enjoy beginning their academic endeavors, whether in a traditional school building or at home with you.

No matter what the situation will be this fall, keep your conversations positive. Let your kids know this will be the best year yet and that they will learn new things wherever they are. Do make sure your wifi is strong enough to receive

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any schoolwork that teachers send your way if that is the new normal for each of us.

One tip for the new school year is to ease into a schedule, since most children spend their summers up late and sleeping in.

Gradually ease into a bedtime and wake up schedule a few weeks before the first day of school. This helps children adjust to early morning alarm clocks. Also, begin refocusing those summer eating habits from junk food on the run to healthy sit-down meals as a family whenever possible. When children spend hours in a classroom, they need all the nutrition to keep their brains in top shape. This means healthy breakfasts and family dinner nights.

Whether learning from home or going to the classroom, your young scholars will find a homework station a great motivator. Create a corner in your home, whether a desk in the bedroom or a space at the kitchen table, where your children have paper, pencils, erasers and any other supplies within reach. Once you’ve created this setup, use it at the same time each day, so kids establish a study time without any electronic devices, unless they are required for assignments.

Find a place for everything, so when your child runs in after school, he can drop that backpack in the basket by the door and put his lunchbox in the strainer by the sink. And get things ready the night before the school day. Prepare lunch, put homework in the backpack and set out clothes. Consider preparing a special breakfast, such as refrigerator oatmeal in a jar. You can find lots of recipes online. A smooth morning makes for a more relaxing day.

To ease first day jitters, plan to meet with teachers and school staff before the first day. You can make an appointment with the principal, teacher and any support staff your child might come in contact with on a daily basis. Putting a face to a name can go a long way for you and your child. On the same note, take a tour of the building to help your child get the lay of the land before the first bell rings. Some schools offer organized tours.

As a parent, you have lots of sources for learning about the curriculum that will be used in your child’s classroom. An appointment with the teacher or principal is a good first step for collecting information. The state department of education will also have curriculum information on its website.

And get involved! If time allows, volunteer to help in the classroom, plan a class party or work in the lunchroom one day a week. This will give you a chance to observe your child in the school environment. If you are unable to volunteer, make sure to talk to your child after school daily about the events of the day. Keeping lines of communication open with the teacher also helps.

If you have older students, you may need to assist them with organization. Create an organization system that makes it easier for them to track assignments and keep track of papers.

Give the system a check-up once a week to ensure clutter doesn’t begin to build up. Clean out backpacks weekly to catch stray permission slips and homework assignments before they fall through the cracks.

Students need to explore study methods and practices that work for them, and then employ those practices throughout the year. The most important fact to drive home is that daily study is more effective than last-minute cramming. Implement this strategy at any age. For your first grader, start that reading assignment as soon as she receives it, then it will be a fun activity instead of stressful. College students who know how to study will be much better at retaining information and keeping up.

School days may not look the same as they once did, but if you put a little positive energy into this time of year, it will be memorable and adventurous!

An avid outdoors girl, Judy Goppert lives in Lee’s Summit. She enjoys drawing on her personal experiences to write about the nuances of everything wonderful about life.

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BACK “PACK” 101 After the end of a long school week, is your child spending too much time fishing for items out of a messy backpack? With the help of the PACK system, together you can turn that unorganized pack into a thing of the past.

PURGE: At the end of each week, reevaluate the homework papers, books, projects and any other loose ends your child has accumulated. Toss, recycle or store anything no longer needed in the bag.

ACCESSORIZE: Keep necessities from floating about by attaching them to the backpack.

Try a snap-on hand sanitizer or a lip balm that comes with a keychain-style container.

CATEGORIZE: Designate certain pockets for certain items. For example, use larger pockets for books, a smaller one for homework folders, a small side pocket for pens and pencils. You can even label them if you need to help your kids keep track of what goes where.

KEEP IT UP: Motivate your child to stick to those good habits by making the weekly purge a family ritual. While your kiddos are sorting through their backpacks, clean out your own workbag or purse along with them!

Sources: PublicSchoolReview.com, PBSParents.com, Scholastic.com

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SIX GENIUS BACK-TO-SCHOOL TIPS Assign several age-appropriate tasks to the kids.

They’ll probably enjoy participating.

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he coffee maker is all set up, you’ve given yourself a pep talk, but you’re starting to have nightmares about sleeping through your alarm, forgetting your son’s backpack or putting two completely different shoes on the wrong feet.

The idea of sending your kids back to school after several months out of a regular routine might sound stressful. You may even be a little anxious. It can be tricky to get back into a groove. If you’re looking for ways to make that transition easier or to

start the school year off right, we’ve got you covered.

Taylor Morgan, special education teacher, shares a bit of her expertise on gearing up for and navigating the back-toschool season. Morgan has worked with 18-month-olds, preschoolers and even high schoolers. She hopes her advice will help parents with kids of all ages and abilities.

Here are her six tips and tricks for parents and their kiddos during back-toschool season:

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Plan backups Let’s say you need to go in early or your kiddo misses the bus—have a plan for two or three alternative ways of getting your child to school, she says. Remember to add those backup folks to the pickup list at school. Have a backup plan in case of the flu, stomach bug or snow day. Who will be able to come over? Will he or she have to go somewhere else? If inclement weather is in the forecast, touch base with your No. 1 to prepare. This will allow ample time to move down the list without having to scramble during the morning at issue.

Simply schedule Create a master schedule that includes the time you need to leave the house, who picks up the kids on your late nights, who takes them to practice—whatever else is in your family’s mix. This may especially help couples who have hectic work schedules and must take turns handling after-school activities.

“A bedtime schedule is the most common to think of and set, but morning schedules are just as important and easily overlooked,” Morgan notes. Each step counts.

Do what you can the night before Reduce the hustle and bustle and morning stress by skipping the “Oh, it’ll be fine. I’m too tired” sentiment the night before. Shower and pack lunches that night. “That saves time for last-minute morning surprises, like the dog getting sick, accidentally hitting snooze too many times or just moving slower on some mornings,” Morgan says.

If you are planning to put certain items in lunch boxes and discover you’re all out of something, this gives you time to stuff an alternative into the bag. Pop the bag in the refrigerator and grab it on the way out the next morning. “This may also be beneficial

for setting out clothes for the kids and you the evening before,” she adds. Backpacks can be stuffed, and sports bags packed and ready.

Delegate jobs Assign several age-appropriate tasks to the kids. They’ll probably enjoy participating. Each child can empty his own lunch box and make sure it gets to the designated spot in the kitchen, and they all can put their spoons in the dishwasher (or at least the sink).

Shoes can be taken to the bedrooms, and homework folders can be placed in the homework station. Maybe the oldest is in charge of gathering snacks while the youngest feeds the dog. “This will free up so much of your own time, and you will have less to worry about and possibly forget,” Morgan says.

Create a homework station You don’t necessarily need a desk or an office for the kids, but assign one area that includes a basket or one basket per child (whichever you find most convenient for the space you have), she says. All homework folders go in the basket to check for papers that go back to school, papers to throw away and reminders. It will be easiest to tend to them as soon as you see them.

“This is one of those evening jobs where you can sign the permission form and put it back in the folder, throw away graded work, or hang on the refrigerator the new month’s school calendar,” Morgan says. This area will also be the expected spot for kids to work and do homework. Keep it organized and uniform.

Pro tip: If a library book or paper goes missing, you have an idea of where it is.

“The homework station can be equipped with materials children might need, including pencils, rulers, paper and other supplies so they do not spend 45 minutes searching for an eraser.”

Don’t procrastinate We all do it, but don’t wait until the last minute.

The principle applies to many tasks: n Don’t wait until the last minute to turn

in the enrollment forms. n Don’t wait until the last minute to

choose your backups. n Don’t wait until the night before to

start practicing the new bedtime routine.

Adjusting to a new routine—especially sleeping and waking—can be difficult.

Although Morgan doesn’t insist parents practice everything down to a science, she believes it helps to start practicing and getting your body and your kids’ bodies acclimated to waking up to an alarm or not taking naps (which is so tough, she empathizes).

“If a student is struggling to stay awake, then they cannot effectively learn,” Morgan says. “Just like I cannot effectively do my job, they can’t do theirs.”

She understands both parents and students wanting to enjoy the last few days of summer, so she suggests maybe for a few days setting an alarm, but then designating a couple of days you can sleep in but still wake up before noon.

“Sometimes, I even have to practice setting an alarm this week, and then next week it’s set for 30 minutes sooner, and the next week 30 minutes sooner than that. You will know what you and your family will do best with.”

Emily Morrison is a freelance writer, former copy editor, full-time mommy and Disney fanatic who lives in Independence with her husband, 4-year-old son and dogs.

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Countdown

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elieve it or not, the time has arrived for back-to-school planning. The season of sunshine and sleeping in is coming to an end, and the days of looking at after-school activities and school supply lists are upon us. “We look forward to our summer break for months and then, in a whirl, it is over. I promise myself each year that I won’t let it go by so quickly!” says Jennifer Eaton, Olathe mom. To start now thinking about the fall schedule may seem a bit early, but planning ahead offers many advantages:

• The ability to participate in sales as

they happen. If you know what you need and when you need it, you can shop smart!

• You can take your time to adjust

sleep schedules. That way, no one ends up exhausted for the first day of school.

• You can make sure you have your school physicals, sports checkups and all other appointments completed if you schedule them ahead of the school year’s start.

• There is plenty of time to get your

schedule—and all the beginningof-the-year paperwork—in order if you start early.

• Your stress level will not skyrocket

the night before school starts if you have been preparing at a slow and steady pace!

Although saying parents should start to prep early is easy, the real trick is to figure out when to start getting ready and what to do first. “End of school and back to school are always so stressful,” says Jaycee Owens, Prairie Village mom. “I feel like I am behind no matter what. And there is a neverending list of forms to be signed, appointments to make. Plus, we have to change our family’s whole schedule around when school starts and when it ends.” To stay organized and keep your family on task, approach back-toschool preparations one step at a time.

Here are some tips from metro parents on how to set your family up for firstday success:

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One Month Out

• Complete any required physicals and obtain the needed signatures.

• Start setting a morning routine and waking children earlier.

• Look over schoolwork from the previous year and begin reviewing problem areas.

Three Weeks Out

• Obtain school supply list and begin shopping.

• Check your school’s website for any •

additional parent forms or information that is needed.

Print out the school year calendar.

Two Weeks Out

One Week Out

• Print out the school lunch schedule • •

and do your back-to-school grocery shopping.

Attend any back-to-school events planned by the school.

Begin talking about school and the positives of beginning a new year.

Five Days Out

• Plan some final summer fun! Go on • •

a picnic, head to the pool or set some playtime with friends.

Label school supplies.

Review all the school paperwork (including items for the school nurse) and make sure everything is turned in.

Three Days Out • Create a master calendar of school schedules, sports and family activities.

• Implement your school morning routine to get in the groove before • Set up a homework station to ensure the big day. your child has a good place to focus and complete assignments.

• Practice walking to the bus stop.

• Purchase any new clothing or uniforms • Talk about the schedule and needed.

expectations for after school, pickup, etc.

Night Before School

• Prepare and pack lunch (and snack) if needed!

• Set out clothing for the morning.

• Pack backpack.

The first day of school is always going to churn up big feelings and a bit of stress.

It is a time of new beginnings and is one of those days where we soak up the fact that our children are getting older.

“The first day of school each year is a bit emotional. I always look at my kids and think, ‘How are they this big already?’” says Rebecca O’Neal, Kansas City, MO, mom. But even if emotions run high, a little preparation and planning will make the start of the new year a smooth ride for you and your family!

Melissa Bellach is a freelance writer, wife and mother of three living in Overland Park

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DON’T BREAK THE BANK ON

BACK TO SCHOOL

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ummer is winding down, and kids are preparing to start a new school year. This signifies an exciting new beginning for kids. But for parents, it can mean a bank-breaking spending spree for school supplies and new fall clothing.

Families with children in elementary school through high school plan to spend an average of $696.70 this year on back-to-school shopping (National Retail Federation). That’s a lot of money, especially for parents of multiple children. How can you buy the items your kids need without wrecking your wallet on back-toschool shopping? Here are some ways to save.

TAKE INVENTORY It doesn’t make sense to purchase items you already have around the house. “We reuse items like notebooks, binders and pencil boxes,” says Carrie Miller, Olathe mom of three. “I also save all the pencils from class parties, birthday parties and other giveaways to use the following year.” Before you start back-to-school shopping, take inventory of what new or gently used office and school supplies you already have. Go through the kids’ closets and remove items that are too small and make a list of what needs to be replaced. Can any items be passed down to younger siblings? Consider shopping at second-hand stores or consignment sales for gently used items to save on clothes, shoes and coats. Backpacks and lunch boxes that are in good condition can be reused. Once you know what you need, make a list of what needs to be purchased and stick to it.

DO YOUR RESEARCH It’s hard to know whether you’re getting a good deal on back-toschool supplies and clothing if you don’t know how much they cost to begin with. Once you know the average cost of an item, you can more easily track down a good deal. It can be easy to get caught up on saving on small items like glue and pencils, but the wiser focus

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is on big ticket items, which can mean more money saved. Saving $50 to $100 on a tablet is worth the effort of driving across town to shop, compared to saving 10 cents on glue. “Shop around!” says Emily Rodriguez. “Last year, I added all the items needed to my online cart at Walmart, Amazon and Target. I was surprised Target came out well under the other two. I was glad to save the money.”

TAKE ADVANTAGE OF DISCOUNTS For retailers, back-to-school season is the biggest money maker, second only to the Christmas shopping season. To bring in customers, they are willing to offer discounts, free shipping for online orders, price matching, in-store coupons and other deals to get you to shop their stores. Take some time to shop around and find the best deals, sign up for email coupons and deals and, most importantly, don’t forget to use the coupons when you make your purchase. Many states, including Missouri, offer a tax-free weekend in late summer. This is a great time for families to take advantage of a discount on clothing, shoes and other items needed for school.

BUY LATER When you are looking at the long list of supplies that schools hand out, determine what your kids need right away and what can be purchased later. You’ll be able to get school supplies at clearance prices if you simply wait until September. This is also a great time to stock up on commonly needed items for the following school year. “Purchase items in advance when possible,” says Olathe mom Fia Swartwood. “Clearance sales after school starts are a great time to stock up on paper, spiral notebooks, folders and writing utensils.” Many families feel the need to buy their children a new fall wardrobe when school resumes, but it’s perfectly reasonable to delay purchasing new clothing as temperatures are still too warm for fall and winter clothing when kids start school. This gives

parents a chance to buy items over time or as needed instead of purchasing everything at once. “I shop clearance items after every season and guess on sizing for the following year,” says Katlyn Purkapile, Edgerton mom of three.

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LEAVE THE KIDS HOME As a mom of six, my biggest money saving tip for back-toschool shopping is to simply leave the kids home. I arrive at the store with a list of school supplies needed. If my daughter were with me, she would ask for the sparkliest unicorn notebook, which costs twice as much as the plain pink one I would pick. It’s faster and more efficient if I shop for the supplies alone. When picking out clothes, backpacks and lunchboxes, it’s reasonable to bring kids along so they can select something to fit their tastes. Prior to shopping, give your kids a set budget and let them pick something they like that fits within it.

In order to save money, you may have to put in some extra effort in research, take the time to get organized, drive to more than one store and forgo a few items to stay within a budget. In the long run, the cost savings will be worth it, especially for families shopping for multiple children.

Sarah Lyons is a part-time freelance writer and full-time mom of six. She lives in Olathe with her family.

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simple ways to produce healthy habits

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f getting your kids to embrace healthy eating habits feels like a constant uphill battle, take heart in knowing you’re not alone. However, modeling smart choices in the kitchen and at the grocery store may be just the nudge your kids need.

One of the biggest hurdles many families face when it comes to healthier eating is getting started. These tips show how subtle changes can make it simple to introduce healthier choices the whole family can enjoy.

Mornings are a busy time for families, and it can be difficult to make a nutritious breakfast and get out the door. Even so, skip the packaged breakfast foods that are loaded with sodium and calories. Instead, make and freeze your own healthy breakfast foods ahead of time.

These breakfast burritos are easy for reheating and eating on the go.

A common misperception is that eating healthfully takes too long. Set a good example for kids to follow by preparing healthy dinners at home.

When kids are empowered to choose what they eat, they’re more likely to enjoy it. One easy way for kids to identify smart choices in the produce department is by looking for foods with the Produce for Kids logo. Not only are these items an important part of a balanced meal, shoppers who support the products are giving back to local organizations that help children and families.

To find additional tips to encourage your family’s healthy eating and more than 300 registered dietitian-approved recipes, visit ProduceForKids.com.

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In nonstick skillet over medium heat, heat 1 t. oil. Add sausage and cook 5-8 minutes, or until cooked through.

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In same skillet, add remaining oil, bell peppers, onions and tomatoes and cook 3-5 minutes, or until softened. Add tomatoes and cook 2 minutes.

In large bowl, scramble eggs and pepper. Add to pan and cook, stirring regularly, 3-4 minutes, or until eggs are set.

Remove from heat and mix in sausage and cheese.

Let cool.

Fill tortillas with ½ c. egg mixture, roll into burrito and lay seam-side down on parchment-lined baking sheet. Freeze 1 hour. Transfer to freezer-safe re-sealable bag and return to freezer.

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Lotions and Creams.

• Diaper rash cream. All babies get diaper rash. It’s inevitable.

Zinc oxide cream is a definite must-have for clearing up diaper rashes.

• Hydrocortisone cream. This is great to have on hand for when Baby has dry, itchy skin, bug bites or eczema (a red, scaly rash).

You can find this anti-inflammatory salve in pharmacies in 1/2or 1-percent strengths, both mild enough for infants. Talk to your pediatrician before use, and don’t use for more than seven days on your baby, as it can cause changes to the skin (loss of pigment).

• Petroleum jelly. This inexpensive, tried-and-true moisturizing remedy works well on dry skin and eczema, as well as on diaper rash.

• Triple antibiotic ointment. Once Baby starts crawling or walking, this will come in handy for the minor cuts and scrapes he may get along the way.

• Baby lotion and baby oil. Lotion is great to relieve Baby’s chafed or irritated skin, while baby oil is used for very dry, patchy areas that may develop on a baby’s skin and scalp.

• Teething medication. Although teething toys usually help your baby with teething pain, if your baby isn’t getting enough relief, a topical teething remedy may be what you need.

Pain Relief.

medicine cabinet must-haves for baby

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hen your baby is suffering the discomfort of a tummy ache, teething pain or a cold, are you prepared? The last thing you want to do is head out late at night for supplies when your baby isn’t feeling well. So, stock up on things you know your little one may need as she grows. You’ll want to keep the essentials on hand, so you’ll be ready for whatever ails your baby.

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• Infant Acetaminophen (Tylenol). You’ll need the infant drops or liquid for fever or pain. However, never use acetaminophen for babies under 2 months old without specific instructions from the pediatrician. Also, ask your pediatrician for a dosing chart to keep on hand as well.

• Ibuprofen (Advil, Motrin). Ibuprofen infant drops work like acetaminophen in helping pain and fever. However, if your baby is younger than 4 months old, don’t give it to him without a pediatrician’s consent. While ibuprofen is a little stronger and can last a little longer, most pediatricians prefer acetaminophen for babies younger than 6 months old because it’s easier on the stomach.

• Decongestant. For babies older than 6 months, an overthe-counter decongestant or combination decongestant/ antihistamine medicine is commonly recommended for a runny nose and congestion. If your little one is younger than 6 months, contact your pediatrician about use and dosage.

• Saline nasal drops. These drops are made from pure salt water and help loosen and clear Baby’s stuffy nose. They can be used alone or with a nasal aspirator.

• Simethicone drops. Gas drops may not always produce results, but they’re safe to try since they stay in the gastrointestinal tract and aren’t absorbed into the body.

• Electrolyte solution. Used to alleviate dehydration, this beverage is mostly for bottle-fed babies suffering from significant diarrhea or vomiting. Give this drink only under the direction of your pediatrician.

Feel-Better Tools.

• Medicine dropper or syringe. Because babies can overdose easily, these are great tools to have to make sure you’re giving your child the correct amount of medicine. Syringes are best, as they don’t drip and are easy to direct into the mouth of a wiggly baby. Droppers are also available, but they tend to drip.

If your baby is old enough to sit up on her own, a hollowhandled spoon that can be filled with medicine works best.

• Nasal aspirator/bulb syringe. Your baby can’t blow his own nose, so you will have to do it for him. Bulb syringes are great at suctioning out the excess mucus from little noses.

• Cotton swabs. Swabs are wonderful for cleaning the folds of baby’s outer ear. Just be sure never to insert them into Baby’s inner ear canal or you risk perforating the eardrum.

• Nail clippers. Newborn babies grow quickly, so they may need their nails trimmed every five to seven days. Be sure to use nail clippers designed for babies, and if your little one is resistant, try clipping her nails while she’s sleeping or feeding.

• Rectal thermometer. If your newborn feels warm, the best way to take her temperature is with a rectal thermometer.

In fact, a rectal thermometer should be used until Baby is 6 months of age because the readings are more accurate than under-the-arm or ear thermometers, and accuracy is especially important in infancy.

• Cool-mist humidifier or vaporizer. These are a great, natural method for helping relieve a baby’s cold symptoms.

Once you have Baby’s medicine cabinet all set up, be sure to stay on top of expiration dates and update the medications at least once a year. This is the best way to avoid waking up in the middle of the night to a sick baby and realizing the medicine expired two years ago.

Mom and author Gina Klein resides in Kansas City with her husband, two daughters and a houseful of pets.

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

Medicine Do’s and Don’ts: • Don’t call your child’s medicine “candy.”

• Keep medicine out of children’s reach.

• Ask your pediatrician whether medicine should be given before or after meals.

• Measure medicine carefully.

• Inform your doctor if your child is taking any other medicine.

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WARNING:

Learning Curves Ahead

Ways to help empower your child

Every parent wants kids who are smiling and living their best lives. But on the other side of the coin, we also want children who grow to be strong, empathetic and fiercely independent. To have the latter, we can’t always have the former.

The toughest parts of life are what shape our children into the amazing adults they are meant to be. That said, by mowing down all the obstacles that could befall our little ones, we’re only handicapping them for later. It’s a tough lesson for parents to learn, but a necessary one.

Here are a few tips on how to love your kids through empowerment, so they’re mentally strong and definitely not living in your basement when they’re 30.

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Establish Chores

Your kids are part of your household.

They eat, sleep and live there. That means they need to have a stake in the upkeep and responsibilities of living in that home. How many times have you shouted, “I am not your maid!” and then proceeded to pick up your children’s mess? Hate to break it to you, but they’ve got you trained. If they see you give in once, they know you’ll do it again. As the adults, you and your partner must hold steadfast on established rules and chores in your home. Have high expectations for your kids and reward them when they meet or exceed them.

Let Them Fight Their Battles

The first time I saw a child push in front of my son for a ride on the slide at the playground, I had to physically force myself to stay seated and simply watch. Kids are going to be put in situations where others are rude and maybe even downright mean.

Of course, this doesn’t mean you should

allow your child to be bullied, but it also doesn’t mean you need to referee every disagreement. Stand back and see how your kiddo handles the conflict. Does he scream and cry? Does he allow himself to be walked upon? Use these as teachable moments. Talk to your child openly about how to resolve the conflict, even if he’s little. Kids will remember.

Don’t Sugarcoat Feelings

To our children, we are superhumans.

Heroes. Impervious to fear or sadness. But sheltering your children from your own pain or feelings doesn’t do them any good. They need to understand that you are a human and you feel emotions just like they do. Give them the guidance and talk openly about how you and your partner navigate through big feelings. Show them by example, and they will follow.

Consistent Consequences

Kids of every age and area of development will push boundaries to see what happens. It’s their way of gauging risk to reward or, in this case, risk to repercussion. You and your partner must

The toughest parts of life are what shape our children into the amazing adults they are meant to be. clearly lay out those repercussions for violations of rules. And spoiler alert: That’s the easy part. Doling those consequences out is where it gets tough, because there will be tears. Lots of tears. But the long-term consequences of letting these moments slide can be severe. Not disciplining small children only leads to entitled older children who don’t respect authority or directions.

Yes, They Can

Children love to tell you what they can’t do. They can’t reach the counter to get their cup. They can’t write their name. They can’t dribble the basketball. Trust and believe they are looking to you to confirm this narrative.

Young children learn what they’re capable of when they’re encouraged to try harder by those they love. Resist the urge to assist with something because it’s more convenient for you in the moment. By coming to your child’s aid, you’re unintentionally reinforcing that she needs you, or someone else, to do everything for her. But kids are capable. They are ready. Think back to some of your greatest accomplishments.

It’s doubtful they revolve around how you tried once and succeeded immediately.

Stories worth sharing don’t occur without struggle.

Fear Factor

From the moment our babies are born, we are in a constant state of anxiety. Our minds swirl with “what ifs.” Our biggest responsibility as parents is to protect our children from all the terrible things that are conceivable. Although it’s prudent and necessary to shield our children from dangerous situations, it’s still important to gauge how big a bubble we should place them in. Consider acknowledging early on that broken bones, sprained ankles and the occasional hurt feeling are a given. Injury, whether emotional or physical, is part of the growing process. And even though social media and sanctimonious parents may make you feel like you’re failing if your child encounters any small obstacle, stay your course.

Know that allowing your child to experience the world without fear is making her stronger.

It’s making her fearless. And who knows how far she’ll go without fear holding her back.

Get a Life

Your children are the most important thing in the world to you, as they should be. But don’t forget that you are important as well. If you make your entire life about your children and what they need at every moment, they learn that they should always be the most important thing to everyone

in their life. That’s not a great recipe for a well-adjusted adult. Teach your children to discover what they can do for those around them. Teach them to be happy as a team player, not necessarily the team captain.

Kim Antisdel is a freelance writer and interior design sales rep for KC. She lives in Liberty with her husband, stepdaughters and toddler son.

5 Parenting Habits to Stop Now

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Picking up after your kids. Your kids have things. They need to be responsible for them. The end.

Letting them skip a chore/responsibility “just this once.” Once turns into twice and then into always. Treat your kids’ responsibilities as a nonnegotiable.

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Allowing pity parties. No, no, no. If your child is throwing one, you are not attending. There’s a lesson in every bad situation. Help him find it.

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Parenting in the short term. You are the adult. If your kid wants Cheetos at the supermarket RIGHT NOW or she’ll scream, let her scream. Don’t give in now because of your fear of judgment.

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Making everything magical. No one ever discovered something new by being comfortable. Let your child be bored.

Teach kids to make magic for themselves.

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Who’s got your back?

TIPS TO MAKE YOUR SPINAL COLUMN SMILE Most people don’t know this, but the spine needs time to relax too.

Did you know the discs in your spine hydrate when your body rests?

No wonder our backs complain to us so often.

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ow important is your back really? Well, let’s put this into perspective. When you reach for your toothbrush, your arm is connected to what? When your feet chase a toddler or your legs run a forgotten lunch to the bus stop, thank your back. So much of what we do ties into a healthy spine. So why do our backs often elicit the biggest grunt when we roll out of bed in the morning? All too often we take this essential structure for granted, giving it no option but to bemoan our neglect to grab our attention. It’s time to give this piece of afflicted anatomy the TLC it needs. Try these simple tips.

Tip #1

THINK MODERATION. What a lot of people don’t understand is that extra pounds on the body add stress to your back. Most moms pack their purses with all sorts of junk. My go-to phrase?

“It’s better to have it and not need it than to need it and not have it.” If you’re too intimately acquainted with this outlook, let it go! Carrying that kind of negativity in your life or your purse isn’t healthy, trust me! That phrase singlehandedly excuses most, if not all, of my unhealthy snacking and unneeded purse packing. And both those habits add unnecessary stress and weight to my back. So whether you pack it in a bag or pack it in your belly, remember to keep it light and think to yourself, “Hey, do I really need this?”

Tip #2

STAY HYDRATED. The average adult human body is composed of 60 percent water. The rest of your body is made up of natural gases and elements. It is believed that the

average person should consume at least half her body weight in water daily. This habit, according to Medical News Today, gives your body the necessary muscle and bone support it needs. Staying hydrated can cushion the brain, spinal cord and other sensitive tissues. When you’re thinking of your back, think of water too.

Tip # 3

DON’T ROB YOURSELF OF A GOOD NIGHT’S REST. Some of the best doctors recommend six to eight hours of sleep. Doctors give this advice to improve body functionality. Some say for the brain, others say for muscles, but sleep actually benefits both! Body rest is also beneficial for the bones. The body needs rest to actively function and to process daily challenges. Most people don’t know this, but the spine needs time to relax too. Did you know the discs in your spine hydrate when your body rests? No wonder our backs complain to us so often. We try managing a long eight-hour day of work (some parents more), the kids’ daily activities, dinner and

the bedtime fight—we’re lucky if we get a solid five hours of sleep. So how can we fix it? As difficult as it may be, map out time throughout the day to rest. Invest in a highquality bed. If you only get a solid six hours of sleep, make it the most comfortable six hours of sleep you’ve ever had. Buy that Serta mattress, foam mattress topper, plush body pillow or even that down comforter you’ve been eyeing. The more comfortable you are, the easier and quicker falling asleep will be.

Last, but not least, know your limits. If the pain in your back progressively worsens or you consistently experience pain, make an appointment with a specialist or your primary care physician. Ignoring symptoms can cause more harm than you think.

Overall, a little kindness and care will ensure you and your back get along just fine.

Jessica Samuel lives in Kansas City and is a freelance writer and photographer.

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

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Carving out time for self-care

“Find some meaningful way to take action and do it. The more stressed I am, the more passion I pour into my work.

There are so many things in life we cannot control. Focusing on those is discouraging.

As entrepreneurs, we have innovation and opportunity on our side.�

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hether an entrepreneur mom, a working mom, a work-from-home mom, a business owner mom, a part-time working mom or a stay-at-home mom, we all experience burnout sometimes.

Carving out the time for self-care is essential with or without kids—but with kids, it can be trickier. In all walks of life, we need to recharge.

The idea of self-care and “me time” may sound like a luxury, unattainable even. “How can I possibly have a moment to myself when I’m constantly pulled in different directions, swamped with work or constantly meeting the needs of my children?” a frazzled mom may ask. The truth is self-care is not only possible, it’s vital.

Stephanie Zamora Schilling, entrepreneur, business coach and founder of SymbioBiz, lifts up other entrepreneur moms every day, offering them wisdom and advice. Her passion is validating and providing support to parents who are trying to grow successful businesses in the midst of growing their family. She shared her expertise on how to prioritize yourself and make self-care a part of your daily routine.

Count the moments

Finding time for self-care requires a shift in mindset, Schilling says. Striving for days off is not an option. Based on her experience as a parent entrepreneur, she finds attempts to carve out full days discouraging because the break rarely works out.

“I’m able to feel more fulfilled by carving out chunks of time for time off,” she says.

“Two hours here, 20 minutes there, with a half day on Sunday.”

Striving for full days off also makes it harder to actually enjoy that downtime, so she suggests guarding your time. “Decide when you are going to engage in meaningful self-care. Set aside the time and guard it like your life depends on it, because it does,” she says. Identify what is most likely to interrupt the time.

Steal minutes

Develop self-care tactics

When you’re not striving for full days off, you are more likely to notice smaller, free chunks of time in the day that you can claim as your own, Schilling notes. Wake up 15 minutes early to do yoga by yourself. If you’re waiting for laundry to finish drying, give yourself a foot massage.

Take a shower. “Take a few extra minutes to let the water pour over you and just breathe,” she says. “Don’t think about anything but the feel of the water and air in your lungs. Take 10 deep breaths and return to your day more recharged.”

Prioritize the things that make you feel most recharged. If you only have 20 minutes out of the whole day, you should pick the things that make the biggest difference to you, which requires a bit of self-reflection.

“Know what feeds your soul and do that,” Schilling says.

As a business coach, Schilling has found that setting aside chunks of self-care time each day (one in the morning, one midday and one in the evening) sets her up for success. She lists a few of the basics to a good routine:

Sleep. If you can’t achieve 7-10 hours of sleep at night, carve out time during the day for short naps.

Minimize distractions

If you’re likely to get lost in social media, turn off your phone. Log out of Facebook.

“Is the laundry staring at you, preventing you from napping? Take yourself back to the last time you were on an airplane,” Schilling says. “It’s easy to get lost spending free time on social media or watching Flea Market Flip, but when I am done with that activity, I rarely feel fulfilled.”

The truth is when you’re not rested and your mind and body feel neglected, you aren’t going to be able to be an awesome mom, housekeeper, cook, business owner or community leader, Schilling says. “The more rested you are, the more energy you will have to conquer the world, or at least dinner,” she says.

Don’t be afraid to call in reinforcements.

You might need support from others to manage kids during your downtime. Talk with your partner and support system. Let them know when you need help and what exactly that looks like.

“Don’t have support? Get creative,” she suggests. “Use the time they are at soccer practice to work out at the park. Bring your book and get lost in a tale of far-off lands.”

Eat good food. “Learning how to cook well was something I did for myself. I took the time. I gave myself permission to mess it up and try again,” she says.

Take relaxing baths. “I have a lot of muscle pain, so I make my baths count. Relaxing music, Epsom salts, baking soda, essential oils, the works,” she says.

Keep a weekly calendar. Schilling keeps a calendar and detailed lists. Keeping a weekly calendar with tasks made it easier for her to see when she was overloading her schedule.

“I can look ahead, see if I’ve overcommitted myself and readjust early,” she says. She doesn’t always wake up worried, wondering whether she forgot something important.

“There were little worries that found their way in and impeded on my sense of peace.”

Create. When Schilling is feeling stressed, she finds joy in creating content that will help others, whether that is hosting an event, writing a blog or going live on Facebook to share her experience and what she has learned.

“Find some meaningful way to take action and do it. The more stressed I am, the more passion I pour into my work,” she says.

“There are so many things in life we cannot control. Focusing on those is discouraging.

As entrepreneurs, we have innovation and opportunity on our side.”

Emily Morrison is a freelance writer, former copy editor, full-time mommy and Disney fanatic who lives in Independence with her husband, 4-year-old son and two dogs.

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10 LESSONS KIDS LEARN WHEN THEY GIVE SPORTS A CHANCE

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pretty much failed at every athletic endeavor I tried when growing up … anything I was introduced to in P.E. class that resembled a sport: that cringe-worthy summer of softball and those two hilarious years of ballet

and tap. You’d think I’d try to steer my own kids away from sports, but instead I do what I can to encourage them to give any sport a shot. Here are some of the cool things I told them they could learn:

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or heat. Think about how you either have to show up at school or fail. This extends into more areas of your life later on, like friendship, family, work and marriage. Be the kind of person who shows up because that’s going to be a real stand-out character trait.

Learning how to handle disappointment will carry you through life.

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Learning how to be a graceful winner is just as important as learning how to be a graceful loser. Gloating and bragging are not cute in kids and definitely are not cute in adults.

something new might lead to unexpected things.

1 Trying First of all, you might have more fun than you thought you would, and you might make some amazing friends. It’s a break from screens and the routine of home life.

At the very least, you are getting some exercise and learning a new skill!

When you’re older, you may get fired from a job, fail a college exam, tank a few relationships. It’s okay to experience losing when you’re young … it prepares you for life later. But try to be a good loser because it looks ridiculous when people act like big babies over something meant to be played in fun.

Mistakes are how we learn … and something we all make.

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You may want to groan when someone on your team doesn’t make an easy shot but instead try to understand he is still learning or maybe her mind wandered— these kids are just kids like you. Don’t have a fit if the ref makes a bad call or if the coach takes someone out then loses the game. You are also going to mess up sometimes and you want the same patience from your teammates, refs, other parents and coaches.

a good winner shows character.

4 Being opportunities always present themselves.

9 Leadership Learning how to be a graceful winner is just as important as learning how to be a graceful loser. Gloating and bragging are not cute in kids and definitely are not cute in adults. Shake hands and tell kids from the other team they did a great job.

not always going to be fair.

5 It’s No matter what the call is or how the other team plays, you should always play fair. You know what is right, so do it. A good athlete—and person—is honest and trustworthy. Also, a ref may make a call seen from a different angle or viewpoint and you know for a fact it was one way, but you still have to respect that call.

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Teamwork is everything.

You will always need this skill, so listen to others, respect differences, support others. Succeed or fail, but do it together. Every member of the team is important, so don’t downplay your place (or the place of others) on the team.

and passion 2 Showing up is half the battle. 7 Confidence make up for a lack in ability many times.

You might not feel like going to the practices and games, especially if a losing streak has plagued your team, you’re having an issue with a teammate or are tired of playing outside in the cold

practiced extra at home. Not the best kicker on the soccer team? Feel that inner confidence, take a deep breath and just keep trying. Don’t be scared to fail. Do your best, practice and try your hardest.

You will go into a game more confident if you made all the team practices and also

I love the teams who rotate the team captain responsibility so they can all give it a try and see whether they have a strength they didn’t realize they had. Even if you are not captain you can still exhibit leadership skills by assisting younger kids or kids who need help with their skills.

Help where you can, even if that just means handing out snacks and drinks after the games.

10 Downtime is okay.

Ah, patience. Sometimes sports involve a lot of waiting around. Some sports move more slowly than others, and some teams have more players than others. Sometimes you’ll have to play the entire game and sometimes you’ll be sitting out for half of it. Use downtime to make friends on the bench … but don’t forget to cheer on your team.

What will you and your kid learn if you give sports a chance?

Kerrie McLoughlin (TheKerrieShow.com) is the mom of five who is surprised to find herself teaching physical education at the homeschool co-op year after year … and loving it. kcparent.com august 2020

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Camping with Kids in the KC Area

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ur family loves to spend time together in the great outdoors. Our state and county parks offer beautiful sites for tent, cabin and RV camping. We’re fortunate to have several great choices less than an hour away, which really helps with the workload of camping. You’ll find many great opportunities to enjoy the outdoors, including boating, fishing, hiking, biking, horseback riding, stargazing, bird watching, nature journaling and more.

Our Favorite Local Campsites: We are partial to state and county parks for family camping. We’ve found these sites are the most scenic and family-friendly for making memories with kids. Each site will provide complete information before you go, so you’ll know what to expect when it comes to restrooms, water, firewood, quiet times, parking and facilities.

Lake Jacomo 9200 Beach Rd., Lee’s Summit, 816.503.4805, MakeYourDayHere.com This Lee’s Summit campground site offers both tent and RV camping. Located in Fleming Park on Lake Jacomo, this is a

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great place to camp for the wide variety of activities you may enjoy. The marina at Lake Jacomo offers pontoon, canoe, pedal boat, fishing boat and kayak rentals. Your family can also enjoy fishing for bass, crappie, catfish, bluegill and walleye. Fleming Park is also home to the Native Hoofed Animal Enclosure where you can see elk and bison; Missouri Town 1855, a historic village where reenactors bring Jackson County history to life; an RC flying field where you may watch hobbyists fly remote controlled aircraft or fly your own (with permit); and numerous hiking and paved bike trails.

Longview Lake 1499 SW County Park Rd., Lee’s Summit, 816.503.4805, MakeYourDayHere.com Situated on the beautiful Longview Lake, this site offers both tent and RV camping. There are great trails around the lake, including paved trails for biking. You can rent bikes from RideKC at Shelter #14. The marina at Longview Lake offers pontoon and fishing boat rental. Your family can also enjoy fishing for bass, crappie, catfish and walleye.

Watkins Mill State Park

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26600 Park Rd. N., Lawson, MO, 816.580.3387, MoStateParks.com One of the most scenic campgrounds in the region, Watkins Mill State Park is home to 96 campsites, 74 with electric hookups. Families enjoy fishing for bass, crappie, catfish and sunfish in Williams Creek Lake. The park also offers biking, hiking and equestrian trails (bring your own ride).

A visit to the park is not complete without touring the Watkins Woolen Mill Historic Site. The site tells the story of 19th century life on the Missouri frontier. The elegant home and three-story woolen mill are the prime attractions on the tour, but the visitors center is also well done, featuring hands-on exhibits explaining life in the 1870s. Watkins Mill is the only 19th century textile mill in the United States with its original machinery still intact. The site hosts many living history events throughout the year as well.

We frequently pack foil dinners and breakfasts when camping. These premade frozen meals can be heated over the coals, making an easy meal in a hurry. Make your favorite breakfast burrito, wrap it in foil that’s been sprayed with cooking spray, and wrap it once more for a second layer.

Freeze it ahead and store in your cooler until cooking time. For dinner, you can use the same foil packet concept to cook your favorite veggies and meat. We love to do a sliced smoked sausage with roasted potatoes and veggies, or a seasoned pork chop with some potatoes and veggies, or barbecue chicken. You’ll find a ton of great foil dinner recipes at CountryLiving.com/ food-drinks/g3394/foil-pack-recipes/. The kids also love to roast hot dogs or brats over the fire, and s’mores are a camping must. Most campgrounds sell ice on site to help keep your cooler cold. I’ve found that frozen water bottles and frozen foods keep it cold for a long time. Remember to bring plenty of water and some easy nonperishable healthy snacks for when the munchies strike.

Weston Bend State Park 16600 MO-45, Weston, MO, 816.640.5443, MoStateParks.com Weston is one of our favorite day trip destinations. The campground offers basic and electric sites. We love picking fruit at the Weston Orchard & Vineyard, visiting the shops on Main Street and exploring the region. The state park is one of the prettiest places to view the Missouri River. This campground is known for amazing views of the Mighty Mo, including the scenic overlook accessible to persons with disabilities. The 3-mile paved bike trail explores the park’s wooded terrain and stops by the old tobacco barn and picnic shelters.

Smithville Lake 816.407.3400, VisitClayMO.com/p/play/camping-at-smithville-lake Smithville Lake in Clay County is home to two campsites: Camp Branch Campground (17201 Paradesian, Smithville, MO) and Crow’s Creek Campground (4601 Crows Creek Rd., Smithville, MO). You’ll find tent and RV sites for your convenience. Smithville boasts one of the largest lakes in the area at 7,190 acres. You may rent pontoon boats at either of the lake’s two marinas. You may fish for bass, walleye, catfish, crappie or bluegill at this lake. In addition to water sports, families enjoy camping, golfing and exploring hiking, biking and equestrian trails.

Lake Perry 5441 W. Lake Rd., Ozawkie, KS, 785.246.3449 KSOutdoors.com/State-Parks/Locations/Perry Lake Perry is a scenic campground with electric and primitive tent sites.

They also offer four rental cabins if you’d like a roof over your head and don’t own an RV. The campground offers 15 miles of mountain bike trails, 25 miles of horse trails and a 1-mile nature trail. The marina offers pontoon and ski boat rental. Fishing includes catfish, bass and crappie.

El Dorado State Park 618 NE Bluestem Rd., El Dorado, KS, 316.321.7180 KSOutdoors.com/State-Parks/Locations/El-Dorado The Flint Hills are one of the most beautiful natural features in the state of Kansas, and El Dorado State Park is one of the prettiest places to experience the Flint Hills. El Dorado is Kansas’ largest state park, a sprawling 4,000 acres along the eastern and western shores of El Dorado Reservoir. The park offers tent and cabin camping; fishing for bass, perch, crappie, walleye and catfish; hiking, biking and equestrian trails; and views of spacious skies.

If you’re looking for more great sites, be sure to visit MoStateParks.com and KSOutdoors.com/State-Parks. Many state parks offer cabins, yurts and lodges for those looking to enjoy the outdoors without the work of a tent or RV.

Fire Starting Most local campgrounds sell firewood on site and many do not permit you to bring in outside wood (they don’t want non-native bugs, pesticides, etc., on site). Most also allow charcoal. We like to make simple fire starters ahead of time, which really help with lighting a campfire. My favorite fire starters use an old Girl Scout technique: Save dryer lint, cardboard egg cartons and some old candles. Melt the candle wax over a double boiler (I use old tin cans to melt the wax over a small skillet with water).

While it’s melting, set your egg cartons on a tray or cover your counter in newsprint for spills. Fill each egg carton cavity with a bit of lint or sawdust. Pour the melted wax over the lint. Let the shells cool. Once solid, you can use one egg cavity per fire. These are our favorite fire starters. If you don’t have time to make starters, a bit of dryer lint and crumpled newspaper come in handy.

Kristina Light’s family loves outdoor adventures. They’ve enjoyed everything from tent camping to treehouse glamping over the years and look forward to many more camping memories in the future. kcparent.com august 2020

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Throughout August head to Union Station and visit Dinosaur Road Trip, a walkthrough prehistoric adventure with 26 life-size animatronic dinosaurs.

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On Saturdays head to the Farmers Market in the Shawnee City Hall parking lot. Shop local! Purchase fresh produce and other goods from local vendors.

CityOfShawnee.org

Bring the kids to the Tiny Tot Triathlon Aug. 8 at Sar-Ko-Par Trails Park. Kids ages 3-9 will bike, run, get wet and go down an inflatable slide to the finish line. Pre-reg at Lenexa.com.

Spend an Evening in the Park on Aug. 15 at Shawnee Mission Park, Theatre in the Park. Enjoy live music and a movie. Concessions available.

JCPRD.com/ eveninginthepark

Aug. 28 brings Light Up the Lawn at the Nerman Museum.

Bring a blanket and enjoy an outdoor concert by Kansas City’s own, the Rainmakers.

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Farmers Market 8:00, Merriam Marketplace.

Shop fresh produce and other goods from local merchants. Enjoy live music and family fun!

Merriam.org

KC Northern Train Rides Noon, Line Creek Park. Ride restored trains around a half-mile track in the park. $.75/ride. KCNRR.com

Festival of Butterflies Thru Aug 9, Powell Gardens. See hundreds of colorful, free-flying butterflies and much more during the signature festival. 816.697.2600 Summer Swing 10:00, Union Station. Celebrate 10 years of shopping handmade at the Summer Swing! KC makers, food trucks, DIY stations and more! TheStrawberrySwing.org Car Cruise 4:00, Cable Dahmer Arena parking lot. Come see the largest recurring car cruise in the nation! DJ, food trucks, games and much more. CableDahmerArena.com Movie in the Park 7:30, Hitt Park (Greenwood).

Bring the family, some blankets or chairs and bug spray to enjoy Toy Story 4. Concessions available. 816.537.6969 Movie in the Park 8:30, Theatre in the Park.

Enjoy Missing Link under the stars. Concessions available for purchase. Because of size limits, prepurchase tickets at TheatreInThePark.com.

Music in the Park 6:00, Rotary Park. Enjoy a relaxing evening outdoors with free, live musical entertainment. Concessions will be available or bring your own picnic.

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3 Monday Elephant Expedition 10:00, Kansas City Zoo. The new elephant exhibition is open at the zoo.

Reserve a time online and plan a visit with the family. KansasCItyZoo.org Jazz on the Square 5:30, Corbin Theatre. The Corbin Theatre presents Jazz on the Square on the first Monday of every month. Free.

CorbinTheatre.org

4 Tuesday Farmers Market 9:00, Lenexa Civic Campus.

Shop for fresh vegetables, fruit, meat, eggs, baked goods, flowers and more from local merchants. Lenexa.com

Kidscape 9:00, Johnson County Museum.

Bring the family to visit the experience where kids time travel to different periods and communities from the region’s past.

JCPRD.com/museum Time Travelers 10:00, Shawnee Town 1929.

Step back in time to the 1920s with family activities in this living history program. Today’s theme: In the Garden. ShawneeTown.org

5 Wednesday Dinosaur Road Trip 9:00, Union Station. A walk-through prehistoric adventure with 26 lifesize animatronic dinosaurs that you and your family won’t want to miss! UnionStation.org Little Leapers 10:00, Sky Zone. A time for little ones to bounce under the supervision of their parents and without interference from the big kids. SkyZone.com

6 Thursday Bridging the Gender Divide 10:00, National Museum of Toys and Miniatures. Exhibit explores how toys once marketed to boys have evolved over time to encourage all children.

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Pop in at the Park 10:00, McCoy Park. Find the Kansas City Public Library in the park! Library staff available at booths to assist families with summer reading program. KCLibrary.org

Tiny Tot Triathlon 9:30, Sar-Ko-Par Trails Park.

Kids ages 3-9 will bike, run, get wet and go down an inflatable slide to the finish line. Prereg at Lenexa.com.

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Dog Days of Summer 10:00, Shawnee Town 1929. Bring your dog for contests and prizes, along with visits with local vets, groomers and trainers. ShawneeTown.org

Friday in the Park Fridays thru September, 11:30, Macken Park. Enjoy a free summer performance in a beautiful park setting. Music by local bands. NKC.org Behind the Scenes at the Museum 1:00, John Wornall House. Meet people who work at museums, learn how to handle historic objects and think like a historian. Pre-reg at 816.444.1858.

First Fridays 5:00, Crossroads Arts District.

Galleries and shops remain open later on the first Friday of each month. KCCrossroads.org Movie in the Park 8:30, Theatre in the Park.

Enjoy Hook under the stars. Concessions available for purchase. Prepurchase tickets at TheatreInThePark.com.

8 Saturday Farmers Market 7:00, City Hall Parking Lot (Shawnee). Shop local! Purchase fresh produce and other goods from local vendors.

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Second Weekends 10:00, Downtown Excelsior Springs. Enjoy local shops, restaurants and galleries, along with music and entertainment.

VisitExcelsior.com

9 Sunday Free Afternoon Program 1:30, Prairie Park Nature Center. Free program for the family may include video, slideshow and going outside to enjoy nature. LawrenceKS.org Music in the Park 6:00, Rotary Park. Enjoy a relaxing evening outdoors with free, live musical entertainment. Concessions will be available, or bring your own picnic.

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Saturday Feeder 3:30 tour, 4:00 feeding, Cedar Cove. Come to see the public feedings of the cats, weather permitting. Tour sizes limited.

SaveOurSiberians.org

Pottery Painting 10:00, Ceramic CafÊ. Make a reservation and bring the kids in to create a masterpiece. Creative assistants will guide you through the process. CeramicCafeKC.com

Stems: A Garden Soiree 7:00, Overland Park Arboretum. Enjoy food from local restaurants, wine, art, music, fireworks and much more!

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Raytown Live 7:00, Greenspace in Town Center. Bring a lawn chair or blanket and enjoy a family-friendly concert with neighbors and friends. Raytown.live

Elephant Expedition 10:00, Kansas City Zoo. The new elephant exhibition is open at the zoo.

Reserve a time online and plan a visit with the family. KansasCItyZoo.org Fun and Games 10:00, Powell Gardens. Spend your summer playing outside in the gardens, where new games and activities are popping up in this summer exhibit. PowellGardens.org

12 Wednesday Little Leapers 10:00, Sky Zone. A time for little ones to bounce under the supervision of their parents and without interference from the big kids. SkyZone.com Family Night 4:00, Lenexa Public Market.

Get a bite to eat and hang out! Enjoy rotating activities like a balloon artist, specialty vendors and more. 913.477.7516

13 Thursday Dinosaur Road Trip 9:00, Union Station. A walk-through prehistoric adventure with 26 lifesize animatronic dinosaurs that you and your family won’t want to miss! UnionStation.org Missouri State Fair Thru Aug 23, Sedalia. The 400-acre fairground in Sedalia features livestock shows, competitive exhibits, carnival rides and more! MOStateFair.com Culture After Dark 5:30, Johnson County Arts & Heritage Center. Date night! Enjoy a variety of cultural and creative learning opportunities.

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Moo-vie Night Aug. 22, Deanna Rose Children’s Farmstead. Food trucks and activities at 5:00, movie starts at 8:15. Bring the family for a night of fun! OPKansas.org

14 Friday Friday in the Park Fridays thru September, 11:30, Macken Park. Enjoy a free summer performance in a beautiful park setting. Music by local bands. NKC.org Movie on the Plaza 7:00, Evergy Plaza (Topeka). Bring your friends, chairs, and blankets to lie back and enjoy Jurassic Park on the big screen. TopekaChamber.org Joseph, Live on Stage! 8:00, Belton Memorial Park. Bring a chair or blanket and enjoy a family-friendly story, with familiar themes and catchy music. BeltonParks.org Movie in the Park Dusk, Kenagy Park (Raytown). Bring a blanket and enjoy a free showing of Moana under the stars. Raytown.live Light Up the Lawn 8:30, Nerman Museum Lawn. Enjoy an outdoor concert by Calvin Aresenia, voted Kansas City’s best musician in 2018 and 2019. JCCC.edu/carlsencenter

Summer Movie Series 8:30, National World War I Museum. Grab your Lasso of Truth, favorite blanket and snacks and see 2017’s hit, Wonder Woman! Pre-reg at TheWorldWar.org.

Movie in the Park 8:30, Theatre in the Park. Enjoy The Mighty Ducks under the stars.

Concessions available for purchase. Prepurchase tickets at TheatreInThePark.com.

15 Saturday KC Sunflower Fest 10:00, KC Wine Co. Bring the kids and celebrate agriculture with acres of kids activities, yard games, sunflower field access and more! KCWineCo.com

Illuminated Waters 6:00, Theis Park.

Activities include a giant puppet play, food trucks, interactive art, games and music.

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Evening in the Park 6:00, Shawnee Mission Park, Theatre in the Park. Bring blankets and chairs and enjoy live music and a movie. Concessions available. JCPRD.com/eveninginthepark

Summer Concert 7:00, Park Place. Limited seating available or BYOC (Bring Your Own Chair) and listen to the hottest concerts of the summer. 913.381.2229

OUTINGS INSPIRED BY BIG DREAMS Ask your child what he’d love to be when he grows up, and plan a special back-to-school outing around the theme. Click “Going Places” on KCParent.com for inspiration. A few ideas: Astronaut: Take him to the Gottlieb Planetarium at Union Station Kansas City (UnionStation.org). Afterward, spend a day playing at Science City, where you’ll explore the Science of the Sphere exhibit and buy some astronaut ice cream in the gift shop for a treat.

Doctor: Visit KidScape at the new Johnson County Museum (JCPRD.com/museum).

Young children love the interactive KidScape that offers many aspects of adult life to explore and pretend. A favorite is the hospital where children care for sick patients.

Artist: Explore the free Nelson-Atkins Museum

President: Learn about the presidency firsthand at the Harry S. Truman Home (NPS. gov/hstr/index.htm) in Independence. Take a tour of the 33rd president’s house and learn about his life. After sightseeing, stop

by Clinton’s Soda Fountain on the square for a treat.

of Art (Nelson-Atkins.org) and encourage your child to take photos throughout the galleries, talk about his favorite pieces and then grab a bite on the Plaza afterward. As you walk the Plaza, take time to look at the art in the architecture. Or create your own masterpiece at a paint-your-own pottery shop like Paint, Glaze & Fire or Ceramic Café.

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Baseball Player: Spend a day at the Negro Leagues Baseball Museum (NLBM.com), where you’ll discover the history of American baseball from the African American perspective, beginning in 1863, and get to know many famous local baseball stars. Kids and adults alike will love measuring up against the life-size bronze statues of players in mid-game on the baseball diamond.

Chef: Take your child to a local farmers market (complete guide on KCParent.com) and let him select a few ingredients. Spend a day cooking together and trying new recipes.

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Toy Inventor: What kid doesn’t dream of inventing new toys? For many parents, backto-school time prompts reminiscing about their own childhoods.

Head to the National Museum of Toys and Miniatures (ToyAndMiniatureMuseum.org), where visitors explore hundreds of toys and treasures.

Train Engineer: Ride the rails with the Belton, Grandview & KC Railroad (BeltonRailroad.org) on a weekend excursion. Kids love the 5-mile, 45-minute round trip train ride.

16 Sunday Free Afternoon Program 1:30, Prairie Park Nature Center. Free program for the family may include video, slideshow and going outside to enjoy nature. LawrenceKS.org Music in the Park 6:00, Rotary Park. Enjoy a relaxing evening outdoors with free, live musical entertainment. Concessions will be available, or bring your own picnic.

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17 Monday Kidscape 9:00, Johnson County Museum. Bring the family to visit the experience where kids time travel to different periods and communities from the region’s past. JCPRD.com/museum Elephant Expedition 10:00, Kansas City Zoo. The new elephant exhibition is open at the zoo.

Reserve a time online and plan a visit with the family. KansasCItyZoo.org

18 Tuesday Farmers Market 9:00, Lenexa Civic Campus.

Shop for fresh vegetables, fruit, meat, eggs, baked goods, flowers and more from local merchants. Lenexa.com

Fun and Games 10:00, Powell Gardens. Spend your summer playing outside in the gardens, where new games and activities are popping up in this summer exhibit. PowellGardens.org

Pottery Painting 10:00, Ceramic Café. Make a reservation and bring the kids in to create a masterpiece. Creative assistants will guide you through the process. CeramicCafeKC.com

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Dinosaur Road Trip 9:00, Union Station. A walk-through prehistoric adventure with 26 lifesize animatronic dinosaurs that you and your family won’t want to miss! UnionStation.org

Food Truck Friday 11:00, Union Cemetery.

Come enjoy a tasty and affordable lunch in downtown’s most peaceful park. Live music and tasty food! KCParks.org

Little Leapers 10:00, Sky Zone. A time for little ones to bounce under the supervision of their parents and without interference from the big kids. SkyZone.com

Friday in the Park Fridays thru September, 11:30, Macken Park. Enjoy a free summer performance in a beautiful park setting. Music by local bands. NKC.org

Missouri State Fair Thru Aug 23, Sedalia. The 400-acre fairground in Sedalia features livestock shows, competitive exhibits, carnival rides and more! MOStateFair.com

Summerfest Today & tomorrow, Memorial Park (Belton). Local performers, family-friendly carnival, food trucks, fireworks on Saturday and more! BeltonParks.org

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Summer Dusk Concert 7:00, Colonnade in the Concourse. Enjoy a live performance

by Bantaba. Bring lawn chairs and blankets.

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Bridging the Gender Divide 10:00, National Museum of Toys and Miniatures. Exhibit explores how toys once marketed to boys have evolved over time to encourage all children.

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Farmers Market 7:00, City Hall parking lot (Shawnee). Shop local! Purchase fresh produce and other goods from local vendors.

CityOfShawnee.org

Elephant Expedition 10:00, Kansas City Zoo. The new elephant exhibition is open at the zoo.

Reserve a time online and plan a visit with the family. KansasCItyZoo.org

KC Slammers Model Cars 9:00, Overland Park Convention Center. Family-friendly event with more than 400 model cars on display. Buy new and old kits from vendors. KCSlammers.com

25 Tuesday

Moo-vie Night 5:00, Deanna Rose Children’s Farmstead. Food trucks and activities at 5:00, movie starts at 8:15. Bring the family for a night of fun! OPKansas.org

23 Sunday Free Afternoon Program 1:30, Prairie Park Nature Center. Free program for the family may include video, slideshow and going outside to enjoy nature. LawrenceKS.org Music in the Park 6:00, Rotary Park. Enjoy a relaxing evening outdoors with free, live musical entertainment. Concessions will be available, or bring your own picnic.

BlueSpringsGov.com

Farmers Market 9:00, Lenexa Civic Campus.

Shop for fresh vegetables, fruit, meat, eggs, baked goods, flowers and more from local merchants. Lenexa.com Fun and Games 10:00, Powell Gardens. Spend your summer playing outside in the gardens, where new games and activities are popping up in this summer exhibit. PowellGardens.org

26 Wednesday Farmers Market 7:30, Stagecoach & Black Bob parks (Olathe). Shop for a good variety of baked goods, flowers, fresh produce, plants and more.

OlatheKS.org Little Leapers 10:00, Sky Zone. A time for little ones to bounce under the supervision of their parents and without interference from the big kids. SkyZone.com

Jammin’ on the Green 7:00, Shawnee Town 1929. Sit back and relax under the stars during a performance by Grand Marquis.

ShawneeTown.org

27 Thursday Dinosaur Road Trip 9:00, Union Station. A walk-through prehistoric adventure with 26 lifesize animatronic dinosaurs that you and your family won’t want to miss! UnionStation.org Kidscape 9:00, Johnson County Museum.

Bring the family to visit the experience where kids time travel to different periods and communities from the region’s past.

JCPRD.com/museum

28 Friday Fourth Friday Art Walk 5:00, Downtown Lee’s Summit. Enjoy a variety of activities, including artist showcases, Music in the Park and even some surprises! DowntownLS.org A Night Out 6:00, Macken Park. Check out how vehicles look up close and personal. Then stay for a movie in the park and enjoy Lion King under the stars. NKC.org

Four FREE Outdoor Day Trips Visit 40 acres of sunflower fields at Grinter Farms (24154 Stillwell Rd., Lawrence, Facebook.com/GrinterFarms) for amazing photos ops. This spectacular autumn experience offers breathtaking views of acres upon acres of sunflowers. Typically, the flowers bloom late August through early October. Splurge with a stop by Sunflower General (14755 243rd St., Lawrence), where you can purchase locallymade goods and enjoy treats from the bakery.

Take a day trip to Weston, MO, and ride bikes or walk the trails at Weston Bend State Park (16600 Hwy. 45 N., 816.640.5443, MoStateParks.com). With trails leading to the bluffs overlooking the Missouri River, this park offers beautiful autumn views. Many of the trails include exhibit information about Lewis and Clark’s expedition. For more area history, you also can visit an old tobacco barn (the native crop for the area) that currently is being renovated. The barn includes an exhibit on the history of tobacco farming in the area.

Visit the Native Hoofed Animal Enclosure (8010 E. Park Rd., Lee’s Summit, 816.229.8980) at Fleming Park, where you can watch white-tailed deer, elk and bison eat and play. Then enjoy a walk or hike on one of the many trails in Fleming Park with beautiful views of Lake Jacomo.

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Pack a picnic and explore Waterfall Park (4501 S. Bass Dr., Independence, 816.325.7375). The 18-acre park, near Bass Pro Shops, is nestled in a wooded area overlooking a lake and waterfalls and features a fantastic playground, small rock wall, small lake, walking trails, picnic tables and the scenic backdrop of a waterfall.

Light Up the Lawn 8:30, Nerman Museum Lawn. Bring a blanket and enjoy an outdoor concert by Kansas City’s own, the Rainmakers.

JCCC.edu/carlsencenter Mission Outdoor Movie 8:45, Shawnee Indian Mission. Bring lawn chairs or blankets and enjoy Willy Wonka in the great outdoors.

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Movie in the Park 9:00, Cornerstone Park (Gardner). Brink a blanket or chairs, pack some snacks and head to the park to see Trolls World Tour!

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Farmers Market 7:00, City Hall parking lot (Shawnee). Shop local! Purchase fresh produce and other goods from local vendors.

CityOfShawnee.org Living the Great War 10:00, National WWI Museum and Memorial. Living historians share their knowledge. See vehicles from Military Vehicle Preservation and more.

TheWorldWar.org Saturday Feeder 3:30 tour, 4:00 feeding, Cedar Cove. Come to see the public feedings of the cats, weather permitting. Tour sizes limited.

SaveOurSiberians.org

30 Sunday Bridging the Gender Divide 10:00, National Museum of Toys and Miniatures. Exhibit explores how toys once marketed to boys have evolved over time to encourage all children.

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