LivingLBI Gazette July2014
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An Unapologetic Voice
My eyesight is clearly changing. More and more, I need to know where my glasses are...just in case. My father’s magnifying glass with the worn leather sheath is within reach wherever I read “small print”. I can no longer deny what the kindly radiologist has told me: my bones are brittle, and I am a high risk candidate for a bone fracture. I have given up hope that a weekend liquid fast will quickly get me “bathing suit ready”. So, what is it about this moment that makes me celebrate freedom with unparalleled passion and unbridled pleasure? I think I know! Golden moments and golden years are my home, now...shared with the man who rescued me from my history thirty-nine years ago and continues to be the best company around, other than my own. Freedom from vanity is a gift every woman can treasure...when her body delights in playing, rather than posing. Freedom from holding on to needless possessions that might have mattered once is as refreshing as a breeze in July that carries on its wings, the gentle perfume of wildflowers that bow in reverence to the privilege of being beautiful--simply by being. Freedom to fill one’s time with purpose and pleasure that is not power driven. No longer fear driven. Never again, ego driven. Do we need to grow older to appreciate being alive? Do we need to struggle and resolve conflicts in order to grow more compassionate? More grateful? Less hurtful? Is the greatest freedom of all the belief that our lives matter because we matter to ourselves--and to another? Simply because we are who we are--not who we might have been-or wished we were? Finally, that sense of urgency has been replaced with a relaxed trust. A celebration of our strengths and an acceptance of our foibles. Can freedom be any better than that? Is it my imagination, or does the potato salad really taste better this July, and the sour pickles, and the watermelon and the cupcakes with the red white, and blue sprinkles? Are the stripes on my neighbor’s flag brighter this July? The big dipper, sharper against the summer sky? The sunsets more golden? The drivers more careful as I ride my bicycle? Who knows? My heart is wide open, the wind is playing with my hair, and I feel free!
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Just Ask Darla
Dear Darla,
One of my aunts has a young child who steals. My cousin is eight years old, and I have seen him place items in his pockets when we have had family gatherings at other people’s homes. He knows I have seen him. I have been afraid to tell my mom because she loves her younger sister and her nephew very much. This is a difficult and delicate issue for me because I am only thirteen years old, and I am afraid my aunt will get mad at me. My family is planning a birthday party for my dad later this month in our home, and I am nervous that my cousin will steal things from us! Can you help me before my dad’s birthday? A Fearful Cousin Dear Fearful,
What are you passionate about? I went to a party the other day and was talking to an old friend. She had recently quit her job and was working at a new job that really wasn’t what she thought it would be. It was a step up but as she thought about her upcoming 60th birthday, she felt that life was passing her by. We all cope with bad situations by making excuses. Whatever we “don’t” do, we can easily justify with an explanation of why we can’t do what we really love to do. It comes out of fear from the unknown. “I can’t quit this job because we need the money.” But if you were laid off, you’d have to find a way to make money. It should be easier to find a job while you are working than after you lose your job. Fear has taken over. Replace your fear with passion. While you are working at the job you don’t like, start thinking of what you would like. Find your passion. Do what you love; then make it into your profession. Figure it out. Take a chance. Start a business in your basement until you have grown so large that you MUST quit your old job. Get obsessed. Not only will you be happier, but richer too. People who love what they do are usually very good at it and business will grow. -Lisa
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I am so glad you shared your “secret” with me. Secrets borne out of fear and shame are BAD secrets. They keep you a prisoner of your heart. You must tell your mom what you know. Sometimes, the difficult things we share with our family can help a family heal. Even if your mom or your aunt are upset, your cousin (and those he steals from) will all be better off if this dark secret is out in the light of day! Only then, is there hope for change. Wish you luck, Darla
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Nourishing Thoughts
A junior high school teacher and a devoted parent for most of my adult life, I learned to be wary when using the word “freedom” around young adolescents--and, myself. The word “freedom” did not summon thoughts of red, white, and blue flags blowing and bowing in the breeze of an early summer day. It summoned red flags for me: wanton recklessness without thought to responsibility, compassion, or consequence. My father, himself addicted to a variety of seemingly harmless behaviors, used to admonish me daily, “You must live your life a free
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agent--beholden to nobody and nothing except yourself and your conscience.” This was a difficult concept for me, growing up a twin in a family where loyalty often meant submission to another’s demands and compliance with authority’s commands. I get it! A “free agent” believes her life. She loves her work; she is not addicted to it. She cherishes her possessions; she does not accumulate more than she treasures, has room for and uses. She enjoys the richness of trusting friendships; she does not flee her own companionship. She eats for nourishment and pleasure-not comfort and sedation. She knows the value of investing in excellence, rather than settling for mediocre. She travels the “high road” rather than following the path of least resistance or worse, staying on a dead-end dirt road which leads to a deeper, darker detour. An infinite number of opportunities and challenges will always exist for any one of us ready to celebrate freedom with hopeful abandon and with fearless faith—in honor of the core of our country’s unique greatness—and our own: freedom. This month—and all the others—let freedom ring, sing, roar, soar, rant, chant, create, celebrate, discard pride, dare to confide, keep it real, dare to feel, uncover, recover, discover! The common denominator of “freedom” is living one’s life shamelessly and purposefully, moment by moment, and with trust. July is a wonderful month to begin.
Aries ~ March 21 - April 19 Calm down! Count to ten! Deep breaths! Summer’s just begun! What you are looking for has got to be out there! Stay kind. Taurus ~ April 20 May 20 Slow and steady--you know that. Give in a bit... it will come back, twofold!
Gemini ~ May 21 - June 20 Rein in your desires and always remember, charm will get you better results than sarcasm.
Cancer ~ June 21 - July 22 Lighten up your lovin’ in the sun this month; passion can be mistaken for over the top possessiveness. Enjoy take-out this month. Leo ~ July 23 - Aug 22 Your time to shine should not leave you without a dime! Remember, save energy and money for a rainy day with those we love. Virgo ~ Aug 23 - Sept 22 Easy does it! Summertime will bring some unforeseen delays and detours as you share the road with travelers less ambitious. Relax! Breathe in summer air! Libra ~ Sept 23 - Oct 22 Not all is fair in the world. Have a good tantrum or cry, and get back to what you do best, doing what is right. Scorpio ~ Oct 23 - Nov 21 Be nice...before you need help during this season of unforeseen dangers and temptations. We need each other, especially during summer heat and hurry. Sagittarius ~ Nov 22 - Dec 21 Ready, aim, fun in the sun! It is the perfect time to enjoy friendly new faces and aim high for fresh excitement. Remain responsible for best outcome. Capricorn ~ Dec 22 - Jan 19
Be Happy
“Think of the beauty still left around you, and be happy”
-Anne Frank (6/12/1929-March 1945)
Wow, if Anne Frank could see the beauty, we all can. She would have been 85 this year. Imagine what she could have accomplished had she survived . She was truly an incredible child. Life is so unfair. You chose whether to focus on the inequality of the world or focus on the small space around you. I’m not saying to forget the big picture, but to be happy you must focus on your space. A happy mind is a productive mind. Lisa Ball
Motivation
Come on let’s go. It is time to get going. Does that motivate you? Probably not. Someone telling you to do something is not the best way to get motivated. The idea to get up and go, has got to come from within. Things that help put the idea in your mind are pictures. That is why Ophrah’s vision board is so successful. If you flip through a magazine, looking for things that you love, cut them out and paste them, you will get excited every time you see on a vision board. The more you think about what is on that board, the more you will want that picture to come true and the more motivated you will be to realize your dream. Start pasting!
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Smile while striving for your best this month. Let them see your softer side; it can help.
Aquarius ~ Jan 20 - Feb 18 Stay true to your individual spirit, but joining some group experience that costs a bit of money could enrich your life. Pisces ~ Feb 19 - March 20 Lots of summer temptations this month; enjoy the freedom of summer and the free events that abound. Ignore advice that is unhelpful.
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