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In THis Issue June 2014 - Volume 2, Issue 7 1 Cover 3 In this issue 4 Letter from the publisher 6 in the news: national 7 in the news: interNational 8 Out on LI: Network news 10 Out on li: The ongoing fight against hiv/aids 11 Out On li: pride festivals around the nation 12 Calendar of events

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It is my pleasure to welcome you to the June issue of Living Out and your 2014 Pride Guide! Saturday, June 14th will bring with it a new day and an increased momentum for our movement forawrd! This June is particularly special as the time at hand is an exciting and pivotal one for our community. The Hamptons GLBT Center will be celebrating its one year anniversary, work will be underway for a larger center in Patchogue, and as of June 5th, 19 states and the District of Columbia now recognize same sex marriage. In recent news, Michael Sam became the first openly gay football player to be drafted into the NFL. All these milestones and more show that this not only a great time to celebrate, but also to reflect on what we have accomplished and what we still need to do.

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This is the third year that The Long Island GLBT Network is organizing the annual Pride Parade and PrideFest. Just as The Network knows it has a great responsibility to provide critical services and programs for tens of thousands of GLBT and allied Long Islanders each year, we knew we had an equally important responsibility on June 14th: ensuring that Pride was a day in which our whole community could come together for a celebration that is truly inclusive of all our families. I am confident that we have met that responsibility again this year, and most importantly, that once the festivities come to an end, each one of you will head home with unforgettable memories and a renewed feeling of solidarity, hope, and pride.

Please join us on Saturday, June 14th in Huntington for a Pride like Long Island has never seen before. Start off your day at 12pm by following the parade down Main Street and saluting LGBT civil rights hero and our Grand Marshal, Edie Windsor. Enjoy incredible all-day performances by Taylor Dayne (“Tell It To My Heart”), Kristine W. (“I’ll Be Your Light”), Prince Poppycock (finalist on “America’s Got Talent) and Joe Muerna (“American Idol” Season 4 Contestant) in addition to local performers, great food and drinks, and a fun-filled day of activities for everyone. Bring your family and friends! On behalf of the board of directors, staff, and volunteers who have made this great day possible, thank you for joining us. We look forward to many more years of Pride to come. With Pride,

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Trans-rights bill becomes law in md.

Football player makes history Michael Sam became the first openly gay player in the NFL when the St. Louis Rams drafted him last month. The SEC Defensive Player of the Year and All-American was chosen in in the seventh round and made waves when he gave his boyfriend a celebratory kiss. People took to Twitter to decry the display of affection, which was aired on ESPN. Don Jones of

the Miami Dolphins was fined and suspended for his anti-gay tweet and Washington lobbyist Jack Burkman has vowed to prepare legislation that would ban gays from playing in the NFL. Sam is also receiving support from players around the league and President Obama publicly congratulated him for “taking an important step forward today in our Nation’s journey.”

CDC takes new approach to HAGEL “open” to reviewing military’s Transgender Policy fight against HIV/aids In an effort to combat the growing HIV/AIDS epidemic, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) has recommended that groups deemed most at risk of AIDS start taking a daily pill. According to the CDC, these groups include gay men who have sex without condoms, those who inject illicit drugs and share equipment, and heterosexuals with at-risk partners. The Truvada Pill has been shown to vastly reduce infection rates, but the CDC warns that it should also be used with a condom or other barrier method. Some, like the AIDS Healthcare Foundation, oppose the CDC’s recommendation because they fear patients will fail to follow the drug regime as directed and more of them will abandon condoms, causing the spread of other sexually transmitted diseases, Bloomberg reports.

Defense Secretary Chuck Hagel (right) said in an interview with ABC’s “This Week” that he is open to reviewing the Pentagon’s ban on transgender people serving in the military. He said that every American who is qualified and wants to serve should be able to, but he noted that the issue was “complicated because it has a medical component to it.” A SF State University panel indicated that more than 15,000 transgender people are currently serving in the military.

Transgender individuals in Maryland will be protected against discrimination in matters of housing, employment, credit and use of public accommodations under legislation signed by Gov. Martin O’Malley(D). The Baltimore Sun reported the transgender rights measure could face a challenge at the polls in November. Conservative opponents have launched a petition, hoping to collect enough signatures to put it up for a referendum vote. It has been dubbed it the “Bathroom Bill” because it protects a person’s right to use restrooms for the gender with which they identify.

Chelsea Manning may receive treatment for gender transition In an unprecedented move, the Pentagon is going to attempt to transfer convicted national security leaker Pvt. Chelsea Manning to a civilian prison so she can get treatment for her gender disorder. Chelsea, formerly named Bradley, was convicted of sending classified documents to anti-secrecy website WikiLeaks and is serving a 35-year sentence. The soldier has asked for hormone therapy and to be able to live as a woman, which is the first request of its kind.

Boy scouts ban church due to gay troop leader The Boy Scouts of America disbanded a chapter in Seattle because they refused to replace an openly gay Scout troop leader. Beach United Methodist Church was told that it could no longer

host troops under the Boy Scouts name when they stood by Geoff McGrath, 49, a Seattle software engineer and Eagle Scout. According to the Associated Press, the organization told McGrath that

it had “no choice” but to revoke his registration after he said he was gay while being interviewed and profiled by NBC News.

19 and counting.. • Lesbian and gay couples in Arkansas are finally allowed to marry. Pulaski County Circuit Judge Chris Piazza ruled that the state’s ban on gay marriage was unconstitutional. • U.S. Magistrate Judge Candy Wagahoff Dale issued a sweeping opinion that knocked down Idaho state laws and a state constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage. Two days later, a three-judge panel of the 9th Circuit Court of Appeals granted Idaho Gov. Butch Otter’s request for a temporary stay of Dale’s decision. • Alaska has joined the ever-growing number of states that are challenging anti-marriage equality laws. A lawsuit was filed on behalf of four couples who were married outside of the state and one unmarried couple. • A federal judge overturned Oregon’s ban on gay marriage at noon on May 20, and couples began exchanging vows within the hour. U.S. District Judge Michael McShane, declared the prohibition of marriage equality unconstitutional and ordered it lifted immediately. 6

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France sees spike in anti-gay violence Hate crimes in France have risen drastically in the past year following the country’s legalization of samesex marriage. According to SOS Homophobie, an LGBT group that helps people who have been the victim of hate crimes, a physical anti-gay

Australian lawmakers consider same-sex marriage recognition The Australian Senate’s Legal and Constitutional Committee will hold an inquiry on legally recognizing same-sex marriages performed overseas. Senator Sarah HansonYoung (left) introduced a bill that would recognize them if passed, Gay Star News reports. The senate inquiry will examine the legal and constitutional aspects of recognizing overseas same-sex marriages while Australia’s Marriage Act continues to ban them at home and also the economic and social aspects of any reform. The Australian government already recognizes heterosexual marriages performed in other countries.

attack was reported every two days, a rise of 54 percent from the previous year. Attacks on the whole rose by 78 percent. The organization also said that the number of distress calls to its helpline has increased by 25 percent from 1,977 in 2012 to 3,500 in 2013.

Japan’s First Lady Marches in Pride Parade Japan’s first lady Akie Abe joined the annual gay parade in Tokyo to show her support for the LGBT community. The Agence France Presse reported that the 51-year-old wife of conservative Prime Minister Shinzo wrote on her Facebook page that she strives to “help build a society where anyone can conduct happy, enriched lives without facing discrimination.” Abe also wrote that she has been involved in LGBT activism since joining a commission set up by UNAIDS and the Lancet medical journal last year.

California Activist takes pride to new heights A California activist and business owner expressed disdain for Uganda’s Draconian anti-LGBT laws in a unique way. Neal Gottlieb, the founder and owner of San Rafael-based Three Twins Ice Cream, planted a rainbow flag atop Mount Stanley’s 16,753 foot tall Margherita Peak, the highest in the East African country. Gottlieb said that he planted the flag to protest the recent passage of the AntiHomosexuality Act, which calls for life imprisonment for LGBT people and criminalizes the so-called promotion of homosexuality.

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School for Trans students reopens An Islamic school in Indonesia, which is exclusively for transgender students, has reopened after a brief closure when the school’s founder died. According the Jakarta Post, the school - known locally as a Pesantren Waria - opened in 2008 and was the first of its kind. It is now housed in the home of a local LGBT activist and serves 35 students who learn Islamic studies and are given a chance to work and earn money.

Proposed Law Addresses homophobia Lawmakers in Cyprus are considering a bill that would punish homophobic behavior with fines and possible jail time. The legislation, introduced by the House Legal Affairs Committee, proposes offenders face a €5,000 – approximately $6,800 - fine and a prison sentence of up to three years.

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AFTER ANNOUNCING A HISTORIC COLLABORATION WITH NONPROFIT, FAMILY RESIDENCES AND ESSENTIAL ENTERPRISES (FREE), CEO DAVID KILMNICK ANNOUNCED THE PURCHASE OF A NEW FACILITY IN PATCHOGUE

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Patchogue center at Equality awards GALA Close to 300 enjoyed a night to remember and heard big news from The Long Island GLBT Network (The Network). The Network announced a historic collaboration with another nonprofit, Family Residences and Essential Enterprises (FREE), that will bring together the expertise of both agencies in launching a program to serve the regions population of GLBT people with disabilities. The Long Island GLBT Network also announced the purchase of an 8,000 square foot facility in Patchogue that will soon host its Western and

Central Suffolk programs. The new Center at Patchogue doubles the size of the current Bay Shore Center and is located right off Sunrise Highway. The Center at Patchogue will enable The Network to increase its services and programs, including health care, more community rooms, outdoor space and a children’s playground for a new LGBT families initiative. And in a moving and emotional moment, the family of David Hernandez Barros, the 16-year-old East Hampton gay teen who committed suicide in Spetember 2012,

accepted an award in David’s memory following a video tribute. Entitled “Hope in the Hamptons,” the 8-minute video can be viewed on The Network’s YouTube channel (liglbtnetwork) at youtu.be/lb2DghlESpQ. “We hear moving stories everyday from families that struggle with a world that still doesn’t fully support and nurture their children,” said The Network’s Chief Executive Officer David Kilmnick, PhD., “We also hear from them the hope that the world will be better because The Network exists.”

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Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore 34 Park Avenue, Bay Shore, NY 11706 Open Monday through Thursday, 9 a.m. to 9 p.m., and Fridays 9 a.m. to midnight.

East End: The Hamptons Glbt Center 44 Union Street, Sag Harbor, NY 11963 Open Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. to 8 p.m. 8

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Pride Festivals Around The Nation by Toni Calabrese

Throughout the nation, LGBT Pride is abundant. There are days, weeks and sometimes months dedicated to celebrating. One theme occurs throughout the different states – parade. In every state that has gay pride celebrations, parades are always the biggest draw.

In New York City (above), there are events such as family movie night, a rally, rooftop parties, dance parties at the pier, and of course, the march. The annual march, known as the Parade, down Fifth Avenue passes by the site of the Stonewall Inn where the Stonewall riots launched the modern gay rights movement in 1969.

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PrideFest 2014 in Knoxville, Tennessee (below) is an open celebration featuring music, entertainment and speakers focusing on the equality and inclusion of all. While the parade and festival are held on the same day in June, Knoxville PrideFest holds events, including Eat Out With Pride, from May through August.

A week-long LGBT pride parade is held annually in Altanta, Georgia. Atlanta Pride was established in 1971 and is one of the oldest pride celebrations in the U.S. While most pride events take place during the month of June, Atlanta Pride takes place around National Coming Out Day in October. The festival is preceded by a variety of events that start in June around the anniversary of the Stonewall riots. Atlanta’s gay film festival, “Out on Film”, is held in conjunction with Atlanta Pride. This years theme for the San Francisco Pride Celebration and Parade is “Color Our World with Pride.” Marking its 44th anniversary, San Francisco holds the largest gathering of LGBT people and allies in the nation. The SF Pride is also a grant giving organization and since 1997, have granted nearly $2.3 million dollars back to the community from proceeds of the Pride celebrations.

Philadelphia (above) organizes a “PrideDay” in June and “OutFest” in October. According to its mission statement, “coming out” marks the beginning of the gay self-realization process while “pride” marks its culmination. “PrideDay” attracts over 25,000 people each year with headlining entertainers like The Village People. “PrideDay” is preceded by a block party and annual dyke march.

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The Long Island GLBT Network & The Ongoing Fight Against HIV/AIDS by robert vitelli LAMBERT LIU, HIV/STD OUTREACH AND TESTING MANAGER FOR THE LONG ISLAND GLBT SERVICES NETWORK, PREPARES A TESTING KIT FOR A CLIENT.

Long Island continues to be the suburban area with the greatest number of new cases of HIV in America each year – a fact that is not new. The facts also make it clear that there is a reemergence of HIV among gay and bisexual men. Even though gay and bisexual men represent just 5% of the Long Island population, this small community comprises more than half (52%) of all new HIV infections on Long Island. The numbers signify a major health disparity that is being met with a firm response. The Long Island GLBT Services Network (The Network) is a leader on Long Island working to stop the spread of HIV/AIDS, particularly among gay and bisexual men who are disproportionately affected by HIV/AIDS. With this re-emergence of the epidemic, The Network has ramped-up efforts to help the GLBT community. The Network’s HIV/STI Outreach and Testing Program conducts community outreach and education services so that GLBT people know how to stop the spread of HIV. The Network’s HIV/ STI Program also provides free and confidential rapid HIV testing helping people know their status and get connected to specialized HIV

medical care. The Network continues to expand its outreach and testing staff with a profound community impact – over 400 HIV tests were conducted in 2013, which is a 25% increase from the number of tests The Network conducted during the previous year. The Network has also taken on the responsibility and leadership to offer free STD screenings as well. The risk of contracting HIV increases two to 23 times when someone has an STD. Screenings for gonorrhea, chlamydia, and syphilis are offered in conjunction with HIV tests at The Network’s community centers so that someone can access all services at once. In 2013, more than 600 STD tests were performed so that more gay and bisexual men are aware of their status. Beyond its prevention efforts, The Network also provides support. “Living PositHIVly” is a group exclusively for GLBT people living with HIV/ AIDS – the only group of its kind on Long Island. Aiming to provide peer support, this group is facilitated by a professional social worker and provides the unique opportunity for all GLBT people living with HIV/AIDS to gather, instead of just one segment of the community.

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“Getting tested is no longer a scarlet letter,” says Lambert Liu – HIV/STD Outreach and Testing Manager with The Network. “Our youth openly announce to their friends they have recently been tested and are met with words of support and congratulations, rather than being labeled ‘promiscuous’.” Sadly, young gay and bisexual men of color are at an even higher risk for contracting HIV. The Network has developed special outreach programs to engage this hard-to-reach group that has historically faced homophobia from family and faith communities in different ways then their peers. The efforts include special prevention programs borrowed from the CDC – “evidence based interventions” or EBIs that are proven to help participants decrease their risks. The Network coordinates these special programs

for young gay and bisexual men of color to provide education while also building a sense of community to reduce the impact of homophobia. “As educators of the community, it is important that we are comfortable talking about sex in a non-judgmental way,” says Liu. “In moving away from the notion that sex talk is taboo, we can effectively educate the community on safer sex practices and how to prevent HIV and STDs.” Knowledge is power. GLBT youth can be directly involved in the important task of educating their peers through LIGALY’s SNAP, Sexual Negotiation and Prevention, program, a 4-week interactive, fun, educational, and team building program that teaches the tools needed to deliver HIV risk reduction messages.

Know Your Status for you and your partners Free HIV and STD/STI Testing Available during drop-in hours and by appointment at all locations of The Long Island GLBT Community Center.

Because we all need to talk to someone sometimes. It is not finding a place that understands you, but The Network offers such a place!

If you cannot afford it, ask The Network about their recycle system. And if you have extra, you can donate unused HIV/AIDS medications to help others.

The Center at Woodbury 20 Crossways Park Dr. N., Suite 110 Woodbury Every Thursday, 5-8pm

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The Network offers condoms, dental dams, and other forms of sexual protection as well as information on how to use them.

If you are involved at your school, church, or community center, you should ask about scheduling a workshop or training.

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Drop-In Hours The Center at Bay Shore 34 Park Avenue, Bay Shore Every Wednesday, 5-8pm

The Hamptons GLBT Center 44 Union Street, Sag Harbor First Friday of the month, 4-8pm

For more information or to schedule an appointment, contact Lambert Liu, HIV/STD Outreach and Testing Program Manager at lliu@ligaly.org or 631.665.2300 Nassau: Center at Woodbury 20 Crossways Park Dr. N., Suite 110 Woodbury, NY 11797 T 516.323.0011 F 516.750.4715

Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore 34 Park Avenue Bay Shore, NY 11706 T 631.665.2300 F 631.665.7874

East End: The Hamptons GLBT Center 44 Union Street Sag Harbor, NY 11963 T 631.899.4950 F 631.665.7874

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calendar of events 3MV Retreat (Day 1 of 2) Sunday, June 8th, 10 a.m.- 4 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore

3MV Retreat (Day 2 of 2) Sunday, June 15th, 10 a.m.- 4 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore

Book Club Tuesday, June 31st, 7-8 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury

LIFE in Nassau 2nd Thursday, 7-9 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury

Many Men, Many Voices (3MV) is a weekend retreat for gay and bisexual men of color that happens four times a year at The Center at Garden City. This fun and interactive 2-day program addresses the different cultural, social, and religious factors that influence the behavior of gay and bi men of color on Long Island. These retreats are on a first-come, first-served basis. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

Join us for this month’s discussion as well as bringing your ideas for future books to share with the group. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

LIFE in Nassau meets every second Thursday. Open to adults of all genders and orientations with an interest in BDSM topics.

20 Something 2nd & 4th Fridays, 7:30-9 p.m Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury

LIGALY Advisory Board Mondays, 5-7 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore

SAGE-LI OUTdoors Trip: Planting Fields Arboretum & Picnic Monday, June 9th, 1 p.m. 1395 Planting Fields Rd., Oyster Bay

SAGE-LI Restaurant OUTing & OUTdoors Trip: Pumpernickel’s and The Vanderbilt Museum Tuesday, June17th, 12 p.m. 640 Main Street, Northport

A former Gold Coast estate, the Arboretum in comprised of 409 acres of greenhouses, rolling lawns, formal gardens, woodland paths, and outstanding plant collections. This is a brow-bag event so please bring lunch so we can enjoy a picnic on the grounds. We are meeting in the parking lot at 1pm. Admission costs $8 per car and an additional $4 per person if you want to tour Coe Hall. RSVP required by Friday, June 6th. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 631.665.7874

Pride Volunteer Orientation Tuesday, June 10th, 7 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore Help the Long Island GLBT Services Network make this year’s Long Island Pride Parade and Festival even better than the last by becoming a volunteer! www.liglbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

Getting Married? Get Insured!

Project HELM (Health Enrollment for the LGBT Marketplace) is here to help you with special enrollment in the New York State Insurance Marketplace when you become legally married. Project HELM can get your insurance changed TODAY. Call the Long Island GLBT Network at 631. 665.2300 and ask for Project HELM or email enroll@ liglbtnetwork.org

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Join us at the famous German restaurant, Pumpernickel’s (located at 640 Main Street in Northport), followed by a trip to the Vanderbilt Planetarium (180 Little Neck Road in Centerport). Pumpernickel’s lunch prices range from $9-$25 and the food is known to be exceptional. At the Vanderbilt Planetarium, we are watching “Black Holes,” a show that brings to life all that is fascinating and extreme in the universe of black holess. The show begins at 2pm so we ask that everyone arrive a few minutes early. Admission is $6 per person for the show. RSVP required by Monday, June 16th. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 631.665.7874

SAGE-LI Evening Mingle Wednesday, June 18th, 7p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury If you work and/or have engagements during the day that limit you from attending fabulous SAGE-LI daytime programming, this is the program for you! The Evening Mingle is the perfect opportunity to socialize and hang out with other GLBT older adults. Light refreshments will be served. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

SAGE-LI Pride Dance Satruday, June 28th, 6 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore What better way to celebrate Pride Month than by coming down to SAGE-LI for some great food, music and dancing?! Join us as we celebrate our community! We encourage you to bring family and friends! Admission is $10 per person. RSVP and payment required by Thursday, June 26th. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

Senior Focus Group Monday, June 30th, 1-2 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore This is part of a monthly series of coed, peer-led, issue focused discussion groups. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

Discussion and support group for GLBT people in their 20’s. A safe and affirming space to share their experiences. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

AlAnon Wednesdays, 7-8 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury Closed group for all ages. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

Alcoholics Anonymous Tuesdays, 8-9 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore Closed group for all ages. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

Brother2Brother 2nd and 4th Fridays, 7-8 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury Social and discussion group for gay and bisexual men of color age 21+. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

Co-Dependents Anonymous Thursdays, 7-8 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore For those who desire a healthy and loving relationship free of codependency. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

Drop-In HIV/STD Testing: Thursdays, 5-8 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury Wednesdays, 5-8 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore By Appointment Only East End: The Hamptons GLBT Center, 44 Union St., Sag Harbor Free and confidential testing for HIV, Syphilis, Gonorrhea and Chlamydia. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

Hampton Bays Mingle 2nd and 4th Thursdays, 3-5 p.m. Hampton Bays Senior Center, 25 Ponquogue Ave., Hampton Bays SAGE-LI’s bi-monthly social for GLBT seniors 50+ on the East End. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

Youth help plan new programs and events at LIGALY. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

LIPSA Tuesday Night Tease Bowling League Tuesdays, 7:30 p.m. Bowl Long Island, 138 West Rd., Patchogue Friendliest co-ed/mixed LGBT Bowling League. LIPSAbowling@optonline.net, 516.375.9473

LITE Social and Discussion Group 1st/3rd Mondays, 7-8 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury Wednesdays, 7:30-9 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore 1st and 3rd Thursdays, 6:30-8 p.m. East End: The Hamptons GLBT Center, 44 Union St., Sag Harbor An open discussion group for transgender people and their friends and family. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

Parent Support Group 1st/3rd Thursdays, 6-7 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore Discussion group for parents of GLBT children. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

PEP Team – Suffolk Thursdays, 6-8 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore Interactive leadership program promoting sexual health for GLBT young people. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

Safe Schools Team Wednesdays, 5:30-7:30 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore Youth leadership program for young people committed to creating safer schools on Long Island. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

Sag Harbor Mingle Fridays, 3-5 p.m. East End: The Hamptons GLBT Center, 44 Union St., Sag Harbor The Hamptons GLBT Center is officially open and SAGE-LI is bringing a Mingle to Sag Harbor! Bring your friends and come meet new ones. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 631.899.4950

SAGE-LI Women at Nassau (SWAN) Wednesdays, 7:30-8:45 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury A social and discussion group for lesbian, bisexual, and transgender women as well as women questioning their identity. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

TRUE Calling Tuesdays, 6-8 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury LIGALY is offering a great opportunity for black and Latino gay and bisexual youth and their friends to show off their skills! Sing, act, dance, or perform. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

Women 2 Women Tuesdays, 7:15-8:45 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore W2W is dedicated to providing a safe and supportive space for lesbians age 40+.

You Gotta Believe Mondays, 6-9 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore The Long Island GLBT Community Center has partnered with You Gotta Believe, a non-profit organization that places teenagers into permanent adoptive homes, to provide Adoptive Parent Preparation Classes! If you are interested in participating, please call 631.665.2300. www.liglbtnetwork.org

Youth Group Tuesdays, 5-6 p.m. East End: The Hamptons GLBT Center, 44 Union St., Sag Harbor All East End youth should come check out this new hot GLBT spot. Every Tuesday is a fun interactive youth group: hang out with others in the lounge. You won’t want to miss it! www.liglbtnetwork.org, 631.899.4950

Living PositHIVly 1st and 3rdThursdays, 7-8:30 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury A support group for GLBT people living with HIV/AIDS. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

Monday Mingle Mondays, 11 a.m.-1 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore SAGE-LI’s weekly social for GLBT seniors 50+ at The Center at Bay Shore. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

Nassau County Mingle Tuesdays, 11 a.m.-1 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury SAGE-LI’s weekly social for GLBT seniors 50+ at The Center at Garden City. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

OUTlet Fridays, 8 p.m.-Midnight Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore Friday night social program for GLBT youth and their friends ages 13-21. $2 admission, transportation available. www.liglbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

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LI Pride: A 24 Year History

The Long Island Pride Parade traces its origins to over twenty years ago when Long Island Lesbian and Gay Pride Freedom Committee founders – Leah Gustavson, David Kilmnick, Cara Wilson and Steve Hanaghan – approached the Town of Huntington to grant a permit to hold the first Pride Parade. The request was denied by the town on the grounds that only “traditional” parades

were allowed on Huntington’s streets. The committee was represented by the ACLU and the matter was heard in a federal court on May 28, 1991 by Judge Leonard D. Wexler who ruled in favor of the committee and granted the parade permit. The first Long Island Pride Parade was held on June 9, 1991. Since that time, the Pride Parade has grown into one of the largest parades outside of

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New York City: community organizations, businesses, and school-based Gay-Straight Alliance clubs participate each year, out and proudly marching along Main Street to the cheers of thousands of spectators. The 2014 Pride Parade on Saturday, June 14th will begin at 12:00pm, leading to Heckscher Park for PrideFest, a day-long music and entertainment festival.

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When she is not thrilling audiences on stage and screen, Aunt Barbara can be seen shopping at her local Waldbaums and Pathmark. She enjoys picking through leftovers at yard sales, playing Bingo and frolicking at her local community pool. At home, Aunt Barbara enjoys vacuuming, dusting, preparing large cuts of beef and politely asking children to get off her lawn.

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2014 Entertainment Q & A with Kristine W Are people out of control with technology?

I think we all rely too much on our gadgets. Phones and computers have become a safety glass separating real life from the cyber world we create. We are losing our ability to truly connect with one another.

Do you monitor the amount of time you spend online?

I have the ringer on my phone set to off quite a bit. That way, I can focus on what I’m doing at the moment or really listen to that person who needs me to be totally present.

What one technology could you not live without? I Skype a lot, especially for business. It’s useful for speaking with producers and remixers in other countries. It has saved me a lot of time I would have spent traveling.

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“So Close To Me is a celebration of the magic of spending time with loved ones,” explains Vegas’ leading party diva Kristine W about the next single off her New and Number Ones record. She will perform the song, along with several other dance floor hits from the album, June 14th at Long Island Pride. Kristine hopes So Close To Me will serve as a reminder to club fans that no matter how many electronic gadgets are invented, there is no stronger connection than real human contact. “People need to turn off their devices,” she says. “Real face-to-face quality time with the people you love is key to a happy life.” That’s why she chose to include her back-up dancers in the song’s music video. “We’ve been working together for years, traveling the world, performing songs like Land of the Living, One More Try, Stronger and Feel What You Want together. It felt right to include them.” “My dancers are my support system on the road,” she continues. “We laugh, cry, share ideas… We appreciate the special time we get to spend with one another on the tour bus. Sure, it can be tight at times but it’s allowed us to build such a wonderfully unique and close bond and I wouldn’t change it for anything.” 18

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about choreography and show ideas. We are all secure enough in our relationship to be honest about how we feel. In the end, the best ideas win, even if they aren’t mine. (Laughs)

Whose idea was it to release so many remixes of So Close To Me? We were only going to release the two CDs of remixes but as the single got more popular, we received more offers from DJs and producers. Soon, we had over 30 remixes and I was blown away by how great they all were! I wanted them to be available to the fans. I couldn’t fit them all on two CDS so we had to make a third.

Releasing three albums has to be expensive.

Oh yes. It’s a labor of love really because artists don’t make much money selling physical CDs these days. You have to pay the graphic people, the So you’re not anti-technology? mastering house, editors who make sure all the info is correct. Not at all. Technology is an It’s a lot but I do it for the amazing! It’s only when we collectors who prefer their CDs overuse and abuse it that it becomes harmful. We shouldn’t over mp3s. CDs are something tangible. Collectors enjoy substitute technology for real the artwork and the overall life connection. personalization of having a How do you get away from the physical copy.

technology?

I hang with my kids and friends. I ride my horses. I write songs and play my instrument. I love to hike, power walk and go to fitness classes and, of course, church. There are lots to do!

You also spend a lot of time on the road. Does it get lonely?

Not at all. Every show is a creative adventure. I’ve been traveling with the same dancers and musicians for almost a decade. They’re my other family.

Do you fight like family?

We don’t argue. That would be counterproductive in a creative environment. But we have had strong conflicting opinions

How did you pay for it?

We were out of money after the second remix album so the third is a literally a gift to fans from everyone on the New and Number One team. I really have to thank the tribe of talented remixers who agreed to make it happen with me.

Do you have a favorite remix?

I love them all. They offer such a wide variety of sounds. It’s truly amazing. But so is the team we have assembled for this project. Every day I count my blessings for the first class people in my life that I am lucky to have so close to me. For more information, visit KristineW.com

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Taylor Dayne

Prince Poppycock

Taylor Dayne stands out as one of music’s most dynamic artists of all time. Her unique vocal style has earned her numerous bestselling gold andplatinum albums, which produced seventeen Top 20 singles, among them number 1 hits such as “Tell It To My Heart” & “Prove Your Love To Me”. Taylor has sold more than 75 million albums and singles worldwide, garnered three GRAMMY nominations and appeared in many film, television, and Broadway stage roles such as Elton John’s, Aida.

Prince Poppycock, the witty and glamorous, with his powerful trained voice, has opened for bands like the Dresden Dolls and The Sounds; performed at extravagant events like NYC’s Dances of Vice; and opened for performance art legend Ann Magnuson at LA’s prestigious Redcat Theater. He was also a contestant on NBC’s “America’s Got Talent.”

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Take Pride in Your Look Summer Tips for Fabulous Hair Protect Your Scalp

Summer is just around the corner and we all know that the sun we live with today is quite stronger than the sun of yester-year. Be ready for it with some tips from Diana Rusinak-Acevedo, owner of Salon per Lea in Bethpage. Stronger sun doesn’t just mean you should worry about your skin but your hair and scalp should be protected also to maintain your “pride and joy”. Here are a few helpful tips.

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Just like you would never go out without sunscreen, don’t forget about the scalp and hairline. Dangerous moles can form in these areas, especially in fine and/or light haired people. Nioxin Scalp Shield Sunscreen Spray is a great way to protect yourself with SPF20 and no alcohol. It’s the perfect product to save you a trip to the dermatologist.

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UV rays can affect the skin, hair and hair color. One way to protect hair color is to use a sulfate free shampoo system like Italy’s Uniq One shampoo balm and hair treatment. The balm and leave in treatment have 10 real effects including heat protection, split end prevention and hair color protection with UVA/UVB filters. Just in time for summer, the leave in treatment now comes in a coconut scent.

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Look your best at all the upcoming Pride events this month with manageable and frizz free hair by using a Keratin treatment. Keratin treatments are relaxers that “tame” your curl, by providing you with frizz free, shiny hair. During the treatment keratin gets sealed into your hair, but it eventually washes out. By using sulfate/ sodium free products the treatment can last up to 5 months. It’s the perfect way to insure that your look stays during all day Pride parades and parties.

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Dancing to Taylor Dayne and other PrideFest headliners may make you tired, so be prepared to sit and stay a while. A folding chair or picnic blanket on the grass is a must-have.

Make sure you have the top 5 essentials to enjoy all PrideFest has to offer in Heckscher Park by coming prepared!

Whether you’re snapping pictures of local drag performers, dancing entertainers, or your family and friends, you’ll want to save the memories: Bring a camera. Be sure to smile for the photographers and you could be featured on LI Pride’s website!

SUNSCREEN If the weather is in full summer swing, you’ll want some protection from the sun. Bring sunscreen, some sunglasses, an umbrella, or whatever else you like to use to avoid a farmer’s tan.

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Come down to Huntington on Saturday, June 14th and have a blast with your friends! Start off your day at the Pride Parade down Main Street then get ready to party all day at PrideFest. This is the one summer event that you don’t want to miss!

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2 boxes vanilla cake mix Food coloring (red, blue, green, and yellow) 6 eggs 2 cups water 1 cup oil Frosting (of your choice)

How to make it

Heat oven to 350°F. Spray 3 (8-inch) round cake pans with cooking spray. In large bowl, beat cake mix, water, oil and eggs with electric mixer on low speed 30 seconds, then on medium speed 2 minutes, scraping bowl occasionally. Divide batter evenly among 6 small bowls, about 1 1/3 cups each. COLOR

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Blue

12 drops blue

Green

12 drops green

Yellow

12 drops yellow

Orange

12 drops yellow, 4 drops red

Red

18 drops red

Using food coloring, tint batter in each bowl a different color according to the chart above. Refrigerate 3 colors of batter until ready to bake. Pour remaining 3 colors of batter into cake pans. Bake 18 to 20 minutes or until cake springs back when touched lightly in center and begins to pull away from side of pan. Cool 10 minutes. Remove from pans to cooling racks; cool completely. Wash cake pans. Bake and cool remaining 3 cake layers as directed. Trim rounded tops off cakes to level, if needed. On serving plate, place purple cake layer. Spread with frosting to within 1/4 inch of edge. Repeat with blue, green, yellow, orange and red cake layers. Spread light coat of frosting on top and side of cake to seal in crumbs, frost with remaining frosting.

Rainbow Pasta with Grilled Pesto Chicken

Perfect Pride Recipes

What you’ll need

yummy & Festive treats to show your pride!

How to make it

To begin, boil your desired pasta and fill several Ziploc bags with different food colors. Once boiled, combine the strained pasta, 2 table spoons of water and about 20 drops of coloring in each bag, letting this mixture sit for at least a minute.

The Swimming Pool What you’ll need

• 1.18 oz. Vodka • .6 oz. Cream • .6 oz. Cream of Coconut • .6 oz. Blue Curaçao • 3 oz. Pineapple juice Pour pineapple juice, vodka, cream and cream of coconut with ice into a blender. Blend and strain into a hurricane glass with ice cubes. Float the blue curacao on top.

Long Island Iced Tea

What you’ll need

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LGBTrue Stories Strong Women

Journalist and blogger Kelly Cogswell tells her own story in Eating Fire: My Life as a Lesbian Avenger (University of Minnesota, 2014). Cosgrove immersed herself in activism, plunging into the explosive, fire-eating world of in-your-face action all in the name of making the world a safer place for “baby dykes,” lesbians and women everywhere.

Before there was openly gay football player Michael Sam, there was out, 6’8” WNBA player Brittney Griner. Her memoir In My Skin: My Life On and Off the Basketball Court (!t Books, 2014) by Brittney Griner with Sue Hovey follows her from her Houston childhood to college at Baylor University to her career as a professional athlete.

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In the introduction to the book, The Animals: Love Letters Between Christopher Isherwood and Don Bachardy (Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 2014), Kathleen Bucknell she writes about one of the greatest true gay love stories of all time which gives readers another intimate glimpse into their lives through this collection of correspondence.

Influential (and somewhat controversial) 20th century “cultural impresario” Carl Van Vechten is the subject of The Tastemaker: Carl Van Vechten and the Birth of Modern America by Edward White (Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 2014). A familiar face during the Harlem Renaissance, Van Vechten’s circle included Langston Hughes, Gertrude Stein, and F. Scott Fitzgerald.

Edited by Robert Kirby, Qu33r: New Comics from 33 Creators (Northwest, 2014) includes Diane DiMassa, Ed Luce, Justin Hall, Jennifer Camper, Steve MacIsaac, Amanda Verwey, David Kelly, Jon Macy and Eric Orner, providing personal essays in images.

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Over the course of the 12 “Essays on the Body” in You Feel So Mortal (University of Chicago, 2014), Peggy Shinner touches on subjects ranging from feet to shoplifting to selfdefense and places in between and beyond.

You probably got plenty of reading done during the Polar Vortex because who in their right mind would leave the house? But just because the weather has improved doesn’t mean that you should skimp on your reading. Here are a few suggestions for the Pride season.

Consisting of 26 personal essays, In A New Century: Essays on Queer History, Politics, and Community Life (University of Wisconsin, 2014) by John D’Emilio, looks at history and its lessons.

Anyone who has encountered straight breeders pushing SUV strollers through Chicago’s Boystown or NYC’s Chelsea neighborhoods will find something to relate to in sociologist Amin Ghaziani’s There Goes The Gayborhood? (Princeton, 2014).

For Safe Space (Duke, 2014), Christina B. Hanhardt, Associate Professor of American Studies at University of Maryland, College Park, drew on research in Manhattan and San Francisco to trace the way queer activism and the development of urban communities have intertwined for the past 40 years.

In her latest publication, TransCuba, (Daylight Books, 2014), Mariette Pathy Allen shows the growing visibility and acceptance of the trans community in a country transitioning into a relaxed model of communism. An interview with Mariela Castro talks about the passage of a law allowing trans individuals to legally change their gender.

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Long Island Gay and Lesbian Youth, Inc. (LIGALY) is seeking a full-time Safe Schools Coordinator to be based at its Suffolk County GLBT Community Center. The Safe Schools Coordinator is responsible for the coordination and delivery of LIGALY’s Safe Schools Initiative and Community Education and Training Program to create safer, more supportive GLBT-affirming spaces for GLBT people. The Safe Schools Coordinator reports to the Regional Director for Youth Services. Qualifications include: Bachelor’s degree in social work, human services, public health, or related field preferred; Commitment to and knowledge of the GLBT youth community as well as principles of youth development; Experience working with youth, GLBT individuals, public speaking, and/or community organizing; Strong written and verbal communication skills; Excellent interpersonal skills, ability to work with a wide range of people and flexibility; Some nights and weekends required.

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Long Island Gay and Lesbian Youth, Inc. (LIGALY) is seeking a part-time HIV/STD Outreach and Testing Program Leader for an average of 10-12 hours per week. Will conduct a variety of activities to promote getting tested for HIV and STDs and educating gay and bisexual men about how to reduce risky sexual behaviors. Will provide HIV/STD testing, deliver counseling, testing and referral services, distribute safer sex materials, conduct outreach in bars, clubs, commercial sex venues, community events and other locations and engage young people for HIV/STD prevention programming. Preferred qualifications include someone with HIV Counseling, Testing and Referral (CTR) experience or a willingness to be trained; willing to work flexible hours; outgoing personality; active NYS Driver’s License; reliable transportation. Preferences: bilingual English/ Spanish and phlebotomy training and High School degree or GED.

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CARE COORDINATOR Responsibilities: The Care Coordinator is responsible for providing case management services to clients with chronic illnesses. To promote linkage to the full range of needed services and ensures the coordination of these services through advocacy and promoting integration of community providers in Queens, Nassau and Suffolk counties. The Care Coordinator promotes client’s compliance to medical and behavioral health services and addresses barriers to connecting and maintaining care while encouraging self-sufficiency and empowerment. Requirements: Masters or Bachelor’s degree and one year of qualifying experiences in the health field, or Associates degree and two years of qualifying experience in the health related field. Must own car & car insurance for daily commute. Salary up to $40,000 per year commensurate with experience. Mail/Fax resume to: LIAAC 60 Adams Ave., Hauppauge, New York 11788 Attention: Robert Nicoletti, Chief Human Resources Officer Email: rnicoletti@liaac.org • Fax: 631-656-7235 Excellent benefits. Mileage reimbursement. Hours: Monday - Friday, 9:00am - 5:00pm. Please check our website at www.liaac.org for other open positions and services and follow us on Facebook. WORLD AIDS DAY – DECEMBER 1ST LIAAC is an Equal Opportunity Employer

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Black Pride: Distinct and Emblematic Pride reaffirms our identity. And it dances to a different beat. What started out in Los Angeles in 1988 as the only Black Gay Pride event in the country has grown to over 35 gatherings nationwide. Each year celebrations start in April and continue to October. Over 300,000 LGBTQ people of African descent rev up for a weekend of social and cultural events celebrating their queer uniqueness. In 2007 alone over 350,000 attended Black Gay Pride events throughout the U.S. The largest events are held in Washington, D.C., Los Angeles and Atlanta, and smaller Black Pride events (like Boston’s) provide an important sense of identity and cultural heritage. Friday evening fashion shows, Saturday night Poetry slams, Sunday gospel brunches, bid whist tournaments, house parties, the smell of soul food and Caribbean cuisine, and the beautiful display of African art and clothing are just a few of the cultural markers that make Black Pride distinct from the dominant queer culture.

of color focus on LGBTQ issues, but also on social, economic, and health issues impacting their entire community. The growing distance between our larger and white LGBTQ community and these communities of color is shown in health issues like HIV/AIDS, which was once the problem of the entire LGBTQ community but now predominately effects communities of color.

Federation of Black Prides, Inc. (IFBP). The IFBP is a coalition of twenty-nine Black Pride organizations across the country. It formed to promote an African diasporic multicultural and multinational network of LGBTQ/ Same Gender Loving Pride events and community based organizations dedicated to building solidarity, health, and wellness and promoting unity throughout our communities.

Also, with advances such as hate crime laws, the repeal of the military’s “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” the legalization of same-sex marriage in many states, and with homophobia viewed as a national concern, the LGBTQ movement has come a long way since the first Pride marches four plus decades ago. Many note that the perceived distance the LGBTQ community has traveled in such a short historic time — from a disenfranchised group on the fringe of America’s mainstream to a community now on the verge of equality. But not all members of our community have crossed the finish line. Some are waving the cautionary finger that within our community not all are equal.

Cultural acceptance and inclusion of LGBTQ communities of color in larger Pride events is hard to come by.

Just like in the mainstream of American society, cultural acceptance and inclusion of LGBTQ communities of color in larger Pride events is hard to come by. Many can experience social exclusion and invisibility in the big events. Segments of our population will attend separate Black, Asian, and Latino Gay Pride events in search of the unity that is the hallmark of Pride.

Mainstream Prides have themes focused on marriage equality for the larger community where Prides organized by and for LGBTQ people of African descent have focused not only on HIV/AIDS but also unemployment, housing, gang violence, and LGBTQ youth homelessness. After decades of Pride events where many LGBTQ people of African descent asked to be included and weren’t, Boston Black Pride was born.

The themes and focus of these smaller events are different from the larger Prides. Prides of communities

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Also in understanding the need to network and build coalitions beyond its immediate communities, IFBP created the formation of the Black/ Brown Coalition. Boston Black Pride this year will neither be a formal gathering of folks nor will there be a display of scheduled festivities. But it will

groove on as it always has for the community, with more individual and impromptu events. Black Pride is an invitation for community. Like the larger Pride events that go on during the month of June throughout the country, Black Pride need not be viewed as either a political statement or a senseless non-stop orgy of drinking, drugging and sex. Such an “either-or” viewpoint creates a dichotomy, which lessens our understanding of the integral connection of political action and celebratory acts of songs and dance for our fight for our civil rights. While Pride events are still fraught with divisions, they, nonetheless, bind us to a common struggle for LGBTQ equality. Black Pride contributes to that struggle for equality, demonstrating an African diasporic aspect of joy and celebration that symbolizes not only our uniqueness, but it also affirms our commonality as an expression of LGBTQ life in America. Happy Pride!

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Taking Pride in Your Religion Ahhh, June! Time to get your Pride on! Gay Pride celebrations are happening every weekend in the tri-state area and beyond. For those of us who have been around a while (you know who you are!), this era of unprecedented acceptance of gays in the mainstream media, pro sports, politics and entertainment is both humbling and empowering. Today’s gay youth will never truly understand the struggles of those who came before them; the drag queens who fought back at Stonewall, the radical dykes whose in-your-face attitudes helped advance women’s rights, and those who quietly blended into straight society, changing the public’s perception of gays to the point where many of those formerly opposed to the concepts of tolerance and inclusion, became allies to the LGBT community.

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For many, Pride month is tinged with sadness because, despite advances, they still feel unwelcome in the churches, synagogues or mosques where they worshipped as children.

In the past, being ostracized by one’s religious institution could be seen as a generally accepted consequence of coming out. Today, however, GLBT people are reclaiming their place in houses of worship in large numbers. For some, it’s the sense of community

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So, how does a GLBT person reconcile his or her sexuality with the perceived Biblical prohibitions of homosexual identity or expression? For those whose personal religious upbringing puts their or their family member’s, sexuality at odds with the core doctrine of their chosen

religion, I highly recommend the documentary, “For The Bible Tells Me So.” Director Daniel Karslake’s awardwinning film, takes on Leviticus and some of the other verses of scripture that are often quoted in anti-gay rhetoric espoused by radicals like Fred Phelps as well as those who are sincere in their concern for how GLBT people will be judged by God.

that comes with membership in a congregation that they want for themselves or their children. For others, it’s a realization that being gay and being religious need not be mutually exclusive. And for many, it’s the desire to carry on a family tradition of First Holy Communions, Bar or Bat Mitzvahs and other comingof-age celebrations and religious holidays and to honor the spiritual origins of holidays like Christmas, Passover and Ramadan.

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Acceptance of gay people into organized religions has been slowly increasing since the 1970’s. “Open and Affirming,” a term used to describe gay-inclusive congregations, has become much more common over the past decade. This indicates full acceptance of gay people into a particular affiliation, and differs from the traditional “Love the sinner, hate the sin” approach taken

by some denominations. There are many options available to today’s GLBT singles and families seeking full acceptance, not mere tolerance, into a religious community. For those searching for a religious home, a quick Google search for an “Open and Affirming (Church, Synagogue, Mosque, etc.) will produce many results. But welcoming congregations abound, and with a little persistence, it is possible to find a spiritual home that fits your needs and those of your family.

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Out Destination: Birmingham Those looking to get away for the summer should look no further than Birmingham, Alabama. Located in Central Alabama, Birmingham’s climate is characterized by hot summers, mild winters and abundant rainfall. The warm weather and rich history of this city are sure to keep any family entertained as there are numerous outdoor activities to indulge in. Birmingham has forever cemented its legacy as one of the foremost cities of the Civil Rights movement. The Alabama capitol was at one time the most segregated city in the United States, but is now home to the Birmingham Civil Rights Institute which gives visitors a chance to see what life was like in the South during segregation. Guests begin their journey with an 8-minute video which highlights the foundations of the movement. At the end of the video, the screen rises into the ceiling and visitors are transported back in time. Replicas of “Black Only” water fountains, school desks and other everyday items are compared next to “White Only” items, showing the drastic dichotomy between the races. The institute is truly a multimedia experience, giving patrons the opportunity to see, feel, touch and hear what it felt like to live as an African American during slavery. The institute even boasts a replica of the bus which Rosa Parks rode on when she refused to give up her seat to a white passenger.

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Just a few minutes away from the institute is the historic Five Points neighborhood, a wonderful collection of retail shops, restaurants, art deco buildings and nightlife venues. This part of town has become popular amongst LGBT locals.

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Feeling zen? The 67-acre Birmingham Botanical Gardens is a great place to relax and unwind.

Animal lovers should spend the following morning visiting the Birmingham Zoo. Exhibits of interest include: Rhino Encounter, Lorikeet Aviary, Predator Zone and the Sea Lion Splash Show. The zoo recently celebrated the opening of its latest elephant exhibit, Trails of Africa. The initiative designates the Birmingham Zoo as a national leader in the care and conservation of threatened elephants. Trails of Africa is a mixed-species exhibit that includes a bull elephant herd, red river hogs, giraffes, wildebeest, and zebras. Fans of the zoo will also enjoy the Birmingham Botanical Gardens, a sprawling 67-acre living museum featuring more than 10,000 different plants. The gardens also have more than 30 works of original outdoor sculptures as well as the largest public horticulture library in the United States and their renowned Japanese Gardens has a traditionally crafted tea house.

Visit the Vulcan Park & Museum atop Red Mountain to see the 56-foot tall statue of Vulcan, the Roman god of fire and forge.

Art enthusiasts should visit The Birmingham Museum of Art which houses more than 24,000 pieces of art, making the museum one of the largest collections in the South. The artwork from around the world highlights artists from Asia, Europe, Africa, and the America’s and its collection of Vietnamese ceramics is considered one of the finest. The museum also possesses a remarkable collection of Renaissance and Baroque art as well as a worldrenowned collection of Wedgwood china, the largest outside of England. With an abundance of great art, history, food and culture, there is much to see and do in The Magic City. For more information, go to www.VisitBirmingham.com

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The road to homeownership part two: When to apply and what to expect The Road to Homownership Part One, in last month’s Living Out, told you what you should know before you apply for a home and now you’re ready to start the application process. However, don’t go in blind. Educate yourself on the process and the different types of mortgages there are available to you.

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CeCe McDonald

No Fairy Tale Some stories just don’t have happy endings. A transgender teenager only identified as “Jane Doe,” has been in the custody of the Connecticut Department of Children and Families for roughly 11 of her 16 years. Her father was in prison, her mother was heavily involved in drugs, and she was physically abused. The state stepped in, taking her into their custody. I like to think that – after being removed from a dangerous, abusive household – she would by now have a “sweet sixteen” party or something with her loving adoptive parents. I want to believe in that Cinderella story of the ill-treated child being rescued by a fairy godmother in the guise of a court-appointed social worker. It’s a good fantasy that is nothing like the truth. Instead of escaping abuse, “Jane Doe” has faced rape, physical assault, and other abuse as a ward of the state. She’s seemingly faced much worse in custody than in the environment she was pulled from. She was sent home to her mother at age 15, and ended up in sex work to survive. She again found herself in DCF custody. Then at the beginning of 2014, things changed and “Jane Doe” ended up in a quarrel with a staff member of the DCF. Things got very physical, and the staff member was reported to have suffered a broken jaw and temporary blindness due to the attack. The story doesn’t get better here, however. At this point, the DCF decided to simply throw in the towel. They determined they could not provide care for “Jane Doe” within their facilities. She was placed at the York Correctional Institute for Women for evaluation, which has included days of prison lockup and isolation.

reading closely, I have not mentioned. She has not been convicted of a crime and there are no charges against her, including for the assault of a DCF staffer in January. She should not be facing a prison sentence. Also, should be sent to prison – again, without any charges being held against her – this 16-year-old transwoman would be sent to an adult prison. All because the Department of Children and Families decided they cannot do their job in regards to “Jane Doe.” “While in DCF custody, I have suffered immensely,” “Jane Doe” was quoted in the Advocate. “I feel that DCF has failed to protect me from harm, and I am now thrown into prison because they have refused to help me.”

I want to believe that some sort of justice will prevail. I find myself baffled by this story. Who is being served by locking her away? Being locked up certainly does not help “Jane Doe” herself. I fail to see how sending her to an adult, all-male prison, without so much as being charged for a crime, will improve her life. If anything, I see this being yet another situation that will lead to yet more abuse. I cannot help but think of the story of Jewlyes Gutierrez, another 16-year-old transwoman. While at her high school in Hercules, California last November, she was assaulted by a number of other girls at the school. This was part of a pattern of bullying that went back over several years – and one that school officials seemingly turned a blind eye to.

In Connecticut, prisoners – including transgender prisoners – are segregated based on their genitals. While “Jane Doe” has been housed at York at current, it is quite likely she would be transferred to an all-male prison in the near future.

This last time, Gutierrez fought back against her tormentors. As a result, she was charged with battery for defending herself while her attackers did not face any charges.

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I also think of CeCe McDonald, a 25-year-old transwoman of color living in Minnesota. She and

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Jewlyes Gutierrez several friends of hers passed a local tavern, where a group of people shouted homophobic, transphobic, and racist sluts at McDonald and her friends. A fight ensued, instigated by the individuals in front of the tavern. In the course of the altercation, one of the tavern goers, Dean Schmitz, was fatally stabbed. In the aftermath, McDonald ended up with a 41-month sentence in a men’s prison. McDonald and Gutierrez – both young transwomen – were defending themselves from violence. Both ended up on charges for their troubles. Their prison stories, however, have happy endings. Gutierrez has seen the battery charges against herself dropped with her completion of a conflict resolution program. This program included her working through some of the issues with one of the girls who bullied her. McDonald was released in January, just 19 months into her sentence. She is now working with transgender actress and advocate Laverne Cox on a documentary on her experience. She’s also been busy advocating on behalf of others in prison – including “Jane Doe.” Perhaps with the help of McDonald and so many others, “Jane Doe” will also get a happy ending. Like I said, I want to believe that some sort of justice will prevail. As of this writing, Connecticut Governor Dan Malloy has issued a statement, asking that “Jane Doe” be moved out of prison “as quickly as possible.” Yet I also wonder how many John or Jane Does we have never heard of. With the prevalence of social media now, it is harder for such cases as these three to fall through the cracks -- yet I cannot help but assume more are out there. How many other stories have no happy end? We may never know – but I’d like to see a world were more of them do: a world where transpeople don’t end up incarcerated simply for defending themselves or – worse yet – because someone decides they just don’t care about them.

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