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Over 200 youth rocked the first ever LGBT Network Queens/NYC Youth Summit On, April 20th, over 200 youth flooded CUNY School of Law in Long Island City to make history at the first ever LGBT #GetJustice Youth Summit! The LGBT activism and advocacy conference educated and empowered students, educators, professionals, health and human service providers, and other members of the community. The Summit offered attendees an in-depth education on Sexual and Reproductive Justice (SRJ), and how to employ an SRJ (Sexual & Reproductive Justice) lens and approach to advocate and organize for the needs and rights of the LGBT community, particularly LGBT youth. Workshops ranged from LGBT Healthcare Bill of Rights, LGB101, GSA activities, to Understanding Transgender Experiences and Sexual & Reproductive Justice & Advocacy Campaigns.

LGBT Network Launches #GetJustice Day of Action After an informative and energetic Youth Summit in Long Island City, the LGBT Network kicked off the planning stages of LGBT #GetJustice Day, the LGBT Network’s Sexual and Reproductive Justice Day of Action planned for June 1st. LGBT #GetJustice Day is a day for young people to organize together with the support of their adult allies to raise awareness of the Sexual and Reproductive Justice (SRJ) needs of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, & Transgender (LGBT) youth. This is a day to fight back against the discrimination, bias, and violence that LGBT youth face. By organizing together on this day, participants can bring forward so many issues that are often swept under the rug. This day is the beginning of creating a world where LGBT young people have the power and resources to live healthier, more fulfilled lives without inference from repressive organizations, groups, or individuals. Attendees of the LGBT Network #GetJustice Youth Summit all received a #GetJustice Toolkit which includes visibility stickers, posters, palm cards, and an organizing manual to implement the campaign at their school. School districts from Queens, Brooklyn, Manhattan, and The Bronx will all be participating in the effort to raise awareness about often ignored issues in the LGBT community, taking necessary steps to create change, and empowering our young people to organize for justice. To learn more about the LGBT Network’s LGBT #GetJustice Day, visit lgbtnetwork.org or email the Queens LGBT Center at qcenter@lgbtnetwork.org. 4

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Loud & Clear: Youth break the ‘Wall of Hate’ at Night of Noise More than 150 youth packed the LGBT Network’s Center at Bay Shore for the 2018 Night of Noise block party. Youth from across Nassau, Suffolk and the East End spray painted a Wall of Hate, had a SpeakOUT, a jello eating contest, face painting, LGBT Talent Auditions and a dance party complete with DJ. Night of Noise allows students to break their silence and empowers them to do something about the barriers LGBT youth face. One of the most powerful activities during Night of Noise is the building of, and destruction of a large cinderblock wall. This year, youth lined up by the dozens and patiently waited to spray paint on the wall words that they have either been bullied with, or heard others be bullied with. As youth kneeled down and painted the words fag, sissy, freak, and other words they’ve heard or been called, they were met with an embrace from the next person in line to let them know that they are not alone and have all the support they need. Then, in a positive and supportive environment, the youth broke the wall with a sledgehammer to signify the breaking of the silence, as well as breaking the bullying that so many youth face each day. The overall and important message the LGBT Network aims to convey is clearly that remaining silent while witnessing an act of bullying can be just as bad as actually being a bully. It is important to remember that even one voice can save a life. On this night, over 150 youth made sure their voices were heard across all of Long Island.

LGBT Network awards anti-bullying grants at 22nd Annual LGBT Conference On May 1st, A record-breaking 450 youth from 30 School Districts across Long Island attended the 22nd Annual LGBT Conference at Stony Brook. The day-long conference is Long Island's only LGBT-specific conference that educates and empowers students, educators, professionals, health and human service providers, and other members of the community to address the needs of LGBT people throughout the lifespan in their schools, and communities. A total of $5,500 in grants was awarded to Plainview, Uniondale, Central Islip, Bethpage, East Hampton, East Islip, Walt Whitman, Bay Shore, Lindenhurst, Mattituck, Wantagh, Northport, Pierson, Lynbrook, Sachem East, John Miller-Great Neck, and Sayville school districts to assist their GSA clubs in activities to combat bullying. “No Long Island parent should have to worry about their child going to school, being bullied or afraid they might drop out,” said LGBT Network President/CEO, David Kilmnick. Presiding Officer DuWayne Gregory (D-Copiague) of the county legislature attended the day’s programming and offered words of support to the nearly 500 youth in attendance, saying the conference is important as a way to help students find their way to their “true selves.” “If our children can be their true selves it’s all we as parents really want.”

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Illinois Senate passes bill that requires LGBT history in public schools

LGBT Alarm as President Trump Signs ‘Religious Liberty’ Executive Order (The Daily Beast) - LGBT advocates say the latest executive order—backing ‘faith initiatives’ in federal agencies—is yet another action that could encourage discrimination against LGBT people. The order—first reported Wednesday night by Religion News Service—will “help ensure that faith-based organizations have equal access to government funding and equal right to exercise their deeply held beliefs,” Trump said. But if those last three words—“deeply held beliefs”— sound familiar, it’s because they are often used to justify anti-LGBT legislation in the name of “religious freedom.” Indeed, LGBT advocates say that the executive order is yet another federal action that could potentially encourage discrimination against LGBT people in the name of religion. “We’re very concerned because this administration has a pattern of inviting discrimination in the name of religion,” Camilla Taylor, director of Constitutional Litigation for the LGBT legal advocacy group Lambda Legal, told The Daily Beast shortly before the Rose Garden event. Based on its reported description, Taylor said that the new “faith initiative” seems to be “actively seeking out opportunities to facilitate discrimination.” Rachel Laser, president of the watchdog group Americans United for Separation of Church and State, said in a press release that the order was “one more attempt by Trump, cheered by his Evangelical Advisory Board, to redefine religious freedom to mean the freedom to discriminate against those who do not share your religious beliefs.” 8

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The Illinois Senate passed a bill that would require public schools in the state to teach lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) history, as well as use inclusive and “non-discriminatory” textbooks. The bill, which passed with a 34-18 vote, would require “all elementary and high schools to teach a unit studying ‘the role and contributions of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people in the history of this country and this State,’” The Associated Press reported. Supporters of the legislation, such as Democratic Sen. Heather Steans said that teaching LGBT history in schools is important to “increase compassion and understanding as well as to provide historical role models for LGBT students." “This measure is consistent with how Illinois public schools teach children about other marginalized communities and ethnicities, and it is one more step toward offering students a complete and accurate historical perspective,” she added. The measure is not unlike the state's school code, which “already ensures inclusion in history curriculum of the contributions and experiences of other historically marginalized communities, including of people of color, women, immigrant communities and people with disabilities,” LGBT advocacy group Equality Illinois said in a statement. However, how much time is spent on the subject would be left up to school districts to decide. Opponents argue that the bill contradicts Judeo-Christian beliefs and have raised concerns regarding religious freedom. "Schools should teach that we should be respectful of each student and each person. This is what we all agree on. However, schools should not be used to advocate for lifestyles that are against the religious values of the students and parents,” Illinois Family Institute lobbyist Ralph Rivera told legislators in a memo, according to The State Journal Register. But Steans said she has “worked with opponents and have addressed their concerns about whether it is appropriate for children to learn about LGBT history and the implications for religious freedom.” “This bill is about historical facts,” she added. The measure will now head to the House, where Steans said she is “hopeful” it will pass. If enacted, Illinois would become the second state to approve an LGBT inclusive curriculum.

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Oklahoma passes adoption bill critics say is biased against gay couples OKLAHOMA CITY (Reuters) - The Republican-controlled Oklahoma legislature approved an adoption measure that critics say discriminates against same-sex couples, non-Christians and single parents. The bill would allow faith-based adoption agencies, including those that receive public funds, to turn away would-be parents on the basis of their marital status or religion and religious beliefs. The bill’s proponents said the legislation would open the door for more child placement partnerships. The state House of Representatives approved the bill by a 56-21 vote without discussion or debate, despite vocal objections and attempted parliamentary maneuvering from the Democratic caucus. Opponents of the bill could mount a legal challenge. The Supreme Court in June 2017 reversed an Arkansas Supreme Court ruling and ordered all states to treat same-sex couples the same as heterosexual couples in the issuance of birth certificates. This and other court rulings have made adoption by same-sex couples legal in all 50 states. As members of both parties shouted insults at each other during the abruptly called vote, the presiding officer threatened to remove one Democratic lawmaker from the floor for refusing to take his seat. “The abomination of process & justice in the OK House of Reps makes me weep for democracy, ” Oklahoma Representative Cory CIH Ad_Layout 1 1/15/18 10:21 PM Page 1 Williams tweeted after the vote. “The

priorities of bigotry and hate, under the guise of religious freedom, are truly heartbreaking.” Earlier in the day, the Senate passed the bill by a 33-7 vote. The measure now goes to Governor Mary Fallin, who has not publicly indicated whether she will sign it. Leaders with Human Rights Watch and Oklahoma’s gay community criticized the bill, calling the measure unnecessary and divisive. “What happened on the floor of the Oklahoma House and Senate today was a disgrace,” Freedom Oklahoma Executive Director Troy Stevenson said. “Leadership of both houses forced an unneeded, unwanted, and un-American bill onto the Governor’s desk. This measure does nothing but keep Oklahoma’s most vulnerable youth out of loving and committed homes.” But Republican State Senator Greg Treat, who introduced the bill, told Oklahoma City TV station KFOR the language of the bill has been misconstrued. “It doesn’t do anything ... to prohibit same-sex couples from adopting,” Treat said. “All it does is protect faith-based institutions who wish to participate, and some are sitting on the sideline right now, and I hope to get them involved to help us take care of the huge need.”

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UK campaigner eyes final push with 'genderless' passports hear HELTENHAM, England (Thomson Reuters Foundation) - In a 25-year battle to have the identity of genderless people recognized in British passports, Christie Elan-Cane fought depression and unemployment. The campaigner, who was born female but identifies as neither male nor female, wants the government to change its passport policy and introduce a third category for people who regard themselves as genderless. The current system allows applicants to tick only a male or female option, and does not provide for a genderless alternative, which is usually symbolized with an ‘X’. It is the first legal challenge against that policy, Elan-Cane said. “I’m quite apprehensive because it could go either way, and the future direction of what I’m doing and the lives of a lot of people will be dependent on this,” Elan-Cane said. The 60-year-old first started campaigning for awareness of genderless people in 1992 after shedding a female identity and taking on a gender-neutral one.

Although Britain recognized the gender identity of trans people in the 2004 Gender Recognition Act, Elan-Cane said the decision to identify as non-gendered had drastic consequences, including being forced out of work and facing discrimination. “I find it very degrading that I have to fight to achieve (a) legitimate identity that most people can take for granted within gendered society,” Elan-Cane said. After initially raising the issue of ‘X-passports’ with the British passport office in 1995, the campaigner went on to seek support from a local parliamentarian in 2005. In 2013, London-based law firm Clifford Chance took on the case pro bono and has since represented Elan-Cane. Narind Singh, a partner at Clifford Chance who is leading the legal team, said in a statement that X-passports were “a crucial step” in protecting the rights of genderless people. Without such documents, Singh said, they faced an “unacceptable choice between forgoing a passport, and making a false declaration, and

using a passport which misrepresents their identity”. The British-based charity Stonewall, which advocates for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) rights, said it supported a move for X-passports, and wanted government documents accurately to reflect gender identity. “Many trans people are afraid to travel abroad for fear of intrusive questioning or difficulties at passport control,” said Laura Russell, head of policy at Stonewall, by email. Britain would join Australia, New Zealand, Denmark, Germany, Malta, India, Nepal, Pakistan, Ireland and Canada if it were to issue genderless passports.

For South African gay star, defiance is key to survival LONDON (Thomson Reuters Foundation) - It was the level of hate from his own Xhosa community that took South African gay artist Nakhane by surprise. He never expected to face death threats for playing a man in a same-sex relationship in a movie, “The Wound”, which unfolds in the secret world of a Xhosa male initiation ceremony - but it was the setting that appeared to anger people the most. “I know my people because I come from them and I know about the passion they have about protecting this part of the culture,” Nakhane, 30, told the Thomson Reuters Foundation in an interview in London, where he is currently living. “But I didn’t know it was going to be as violent as it became.” The actor, who underwent the month-long Xhosa circumcision ritual at the age of 20, said his own experience was similar to that shown in the film, including having other men make sexual advances on him during the bush retreat. South Africa is generally regarded as supportive of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people and is the only African country that has legalized gay marriage. However, being openly gay can be taboo, particularly among traditional communities. Although the movie has won several awards at film festivals in London, Durban and Palm Springs, it is the dialogue it has sparked around LGBT issues in South Africa that Nakhane is most proud of. “This film became what it became because of those conversations,” he said. “Suddenly the volcano just (erupted) and it takes the right time, right film, right thing, for it to happen.” 10

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STRONGER It was only when Nakhane’s life fell apart five years ago that he was finally able to accept he was gay. Homeless and broke, the up-and-coming South African actor and singer had just released his first music album, a deeply personal account of his life. “I was just so tired of hating myself every day. I was exhausted. And from that point in time, it took me about two years really to not be afraid anymore,” he said. “I call it the moment where my life literally fell apart: when I’d left the church, I was living with friends, I was homeless to all intent purposes. I had nothing. I had nothing to lose.” In London, he spends his time in recording studios and rehearsing with band members for upcoming shows in Europe. Although Nakhane does not see himself as an activist, his work as an actor and musician is attracting acclaim and putting him under the spotlight. is second album, which came out in March, blends traditional sounds with soulful melodies, and reflects on his childhood and teenage years. “With this album, I felt like I needed to go back to my formative years,” he said. “Going back to my formative years meant going back to some traumas and some joys.” Some of the scars are still evident and Nakhane says it is taking time to get used to living in the British capital. Simmering tensions over his film mean it will be some years before he can return to visit his family in the Eastern Cape. He does, however, plan to go back to South Africa in the future and says he is not afraid. “How much worse can it get than someone detailing to you how they want to kill you?” he aske “You can either slink down and die from that or you can be even more defiant. If anything, those people made me stronger.”

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Explain stand on gay sex: India's top court issues notice to government NEW DELHI/MUMBAI(Thomson Reuters Foundation) - India’s government must explain its stand on consensual sexual relations between same sex adults, the Supreme Court said, setting a July deadline for a response. The court had heard petitions demanding the abolition of Section 377 - a colonial-era law that prohibits “carnal intercourse against the order of nature with any man, woman or animal” - widely interpreted to refer to homosexual sex. The court’s notice to the government “is a watershed in the whole fight against Section 377,” said petitioner Ashok Row Kavi, chairperson of Humsafar Trust, a charity that works with India’s LGBT community. “The government will have to decide whether this colonial law should still stand relevant in a country that has its own constitution that protects fundamental rights of its citizens,” he told the Thomson Reuters Foundation. The Supreme Court had in a surprise ruling in 2013 reinstated a ban on gay sex after a four-year period of decriminalization, but it announced in January this year that it would reconsider the 2013 decision. Those who submitted petitions to the court in the past couple months said they were living in constant fear of police due to their sexual orientations, and argued that the ban was unconstitutional.

Although the law banning homosexuality is rarely enforced in India, it is used to intimidate, harass, blackmail and extort money from gay people, activists say. All forms of non-penile vaginal sex are also criminalized under Section 377. Gay sex is punishable by up to 10 years jail under the law. There is no official data on the LGBT population in India, but the government estimates there are 2.5 million gay people, reflecting those who have declared their sexuality to the health ministry. Campaigners say real numbers are far higher, as many conceal their identities fearing discrimination in a country where most marriages still take place within the boundaries of caste and religion.

Kenya bans lesbian love story film 'Rafiki' set to open at Cannes NAIROBI (Reuters) - Kenyan authorities have banned a film that tells the love story of two women on the grounds that it promotes lesbianism but activists said the ban would only promote interest in the movie. “Rafiki”, a word that means friend in KiSwahili, was this week invited to premiere at the Cannes Film festival — the first Kenyan film to receive such an invite. The Kenya Film Classification Board announced the ban on Friday and said in a tweet: “Anyone found in its possession will be in breach of law”, referring to a colonial-era Kenyan law under which gay sex is punishable by 14 years in jail. Board spokeswoman Nelly Muluka tweeted: “Our culture and laws recognize family as the basic unit of society. “The (board) cannot, therefore, allow lesbian content to be accessed by children in Kenya.” Film director Wanuri Kahiu said: “I’m really disappointed because Kenyans already have access to watch films that have LGBT content, on Netflix, and in international films shown in Kenya and permitted by the classification board itself.” “So to then just ban a Kenyan film because it deals with something already happening in society just seems like a contradiction,” she told Reuters. Homosexuality is taboo across Africa and people who are gay face discrimination or persecution. In recent years, however, campaigners for lesbian, bisexual, gay and transgender rights have become increasingly vocal. “It’s appalling, it’s a shame ... Kenyans will view the film whether it has been banned or not, they will find a way to view it,” Lorna Dias, a lesbian, bisexual, gay and transgender rights activist, told Reuters. “In fact, Ezekiel Mutua has probably created enough of a platform to make even the least interested people curious.” The ban coincides with a landmark case brought by gay rights campaigners to repeal Kenya’s law on gay sex on the grounds that it deprives sexual minorities of basic rights.

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Country-pop icon on being ‘inspired by the spirit’ of the LGBTQ community, equality (it’s a ‘no-brainer’) and her unifying hit songs

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ontrary to popular belief, some things do impress Shania Twain. The country-pop icon and paragon of leopard print has great admiration for her LGBTQ fans, who she says have become guiding lights in her own life. Twain’s inspiring story is one of survival, from her childhood hardships while growing up in the small town of Timmins, Ontario, where she raised her three younger siblings after her parents died in a car accident in 1987, to her 2009 divorce from Robert “Mutt” Lange, producer of Twain’s 1997 crossover behemoth Come on Over. The best-selling country album of all time was a game-changer with an impressive track record – 40 million copies sold globally, 50 weeks atop the Billboard country charts over three years, 11 singles released – that Twain still champions in the female-artist arena. Fifteen years after dropping her last juggernaut, 2002’s Up!, Twain, 52, is again demonstrating slay status to her legions of loyal, boot-stompin’ queer fans. Even a neurological voice disorder called dysphonia couldn’t keep the genre subverter, who once thought she’d never sing again, from recording her long-overdue fifth LP, Now. Released in September, Twain wrote every song, and her shiny résumé got even shinier when the album instantly seized the No. 1 spot on the Billboard albums and country charts. Country-pop’s comeback queen was an open book during our recent conversation, speaking passionately and candidly about her LGBTQ activism at the onset of her country career in 1993, having to “agree to disagree” with those who aren’t pro-gay, and bringing drag queens and Bud-guzzlin’ bros together with “Man! I Feel Like a Woman!” 14

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But, also, you don’t get Shania Twain on the phone without reminiscing on 1998’s VH1 Divas, when Twain shared the stage with an epic mix of icons – Aretha Franklin, Mariah Carey, Celine Dion and Gloria Estefan – for one of the most legendary, gay-loved nights in diva (and hair) history. Do you have enough leopard print gloves to go around for all the gays to partake in celebrating your comeback? (Laughs) I should make them, right? What do you think would be the preferred fabric? Silk or…? Velour. Yeah, like, velvet. We need a million of those by tomorrow. But first, Shania, after all these years, how do you explain your connection to the LGBTQ community? I can’t really explain my connection in any sort of theoretical way to anyone. But I would say my intentions are to inspire and connect with people, to be relatable then and now. I think that it is what resonates – we relate to one another, we relate to struggle, and then surviving struggle and celebrating who we are and what we are and appreciating that as a community of people regardless of what it is. Just celebrating together to the anthemic nature of some of those songs, and on this new album there are several like that as well. Is there something specific you hope to convey to LGBTQ audiences

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with this album? Surviving against the odds. A song like “I’m Alright” – just that statement there and telling yourself, “I’m alright. I’ve made it through. I’ve survived.” And with a fist-in-the-air attitude, with conviction. What was your introduction to the gay community? I work with a lot of gay people and they’re just a part of my almost daily family world. So, they’re just part of my friends and my community. I guess more when I started to become successful, I was really surrounded by more creative people, and there are so many creative people in this industry who are gay, both men and women. It just becomes the norm.

views, could we speak as openly as we are now about LGBTQ issues at the beginning of your career? I mean, I did. You know what this is really about? This is about pro-equality, this is about pro-mutual respect. And if you’re really for those things in life, then why would there be any boundaries? Why would you side where there are? Why would you draw a line there?

would say my intentions are to inspire and connect with people"

During some of your rough patches, did you get any sage advice from your gay friends? Oh, I get good advice from gay friends all the time! (Laughs) I think more than anything I’m inspired by the spirit of where the gay community is right now and that conviction to be who you are. I love standing up for that. It’s just so important to be transparent and open about who you are and to not hide behind fear. Have you clung to that sentiment as a way to push past your own personal pain? Completely! I mean, my whole transition into where I am now in this moment has been facing fears and taking that leap of faith myself, and that would be my advice to anyone out there. A gay person who has been living behind their fears and then makes that courageous decision to start living as who they really are and stop pretending and embrace it – it takes a lot of courage. For me, I’ve just learned that there’s no time to waste. You need to take that leap and be who you are, and we’re in a society now that is making it easier. We still have a long way to go, but there are a lot more outlets. But the gay community – and minority communities in general – are always fighting. I have a song on the album called “Swingin’ with My Eyes Closed” and it’s a fun party song, but the true depth of the song is about even when you can’t see what is in front of you, you still have to move forward. You can’t move backwards; you gotta keep moving forward and fighting for that freedom to exercise independence and courage.

In the country community, I think it comes down to the fear of potentially alienating conservative fans. I think everybody has the right to their opinion, and that I would never argue with. That is a huge part of freedom of speech and mutual respect, having the right to your own opinion. If you’re not pro-gay, then you’re not pro-gay, and we just have to agree to disagree. I would never get into a fist fight with somebody who didn’t agree. I just think that would be counterproductive. So, I think we all have to respect each other’s opinions on these issues. But, listen, with a song like “Man! I Feel Like a Woman!” – and this is, what, 20 years ago? – I’m over that come a long time ago. A lot of straight men sing “Man! I Feel Like a Woman!” just for the sheer entertainment of it. So, I think songs like that have been great, maybe, contributors to bringing us together, if not for anything than just for the common denominator of music and owning that for whatever it means to them, and that breaks down barriers. How do you reflect on your gender-bending style, when you donned menswear, in that video? I like to have a sense of humor about everything, especially things that can have a lot of tension. A song like “Man! I Feel Like a Woman!” just smacks it dead for me. The audience issue is not something I worry about. I’m respectful to my audience and I appreciate them for relating to my music regardless of their point of view on whatever it is, whether it’s politics or social issues. I’m not here to judge.

There couldn’t be a better time for a song like that. In 2013, you tweeted about the Supreme Court overturning the Defense of Marriage Act, saying, “Congrats to everyone celebrating equality today in the U.S. #loveislove.” Why is it important for you to take a stand on gay rights and other LGBTQ issues? I just feel very saddened by any kind of oppression in our society in today’s day and age. I mean, it’s so negative. Equality should be a nobrainer, automatic, all the way around. We need to have mutual respect all the way around. Supremacy of any sort is just poison. I just feel like we’re not above each other in any way and mutual respect and an admiration for an individual’s abilities, talents, heart, commitment – I mean, what does that have to do with any minority status that we might be labeled with today, whatever that may be? Certainly, I know that gays feel that. How does it feel knowing that your songs “Forever and For Always” and “From this Moment On” have probably been the first dance at a number of same-sex marriages? Awww! That’s lovely. It’s so lovely. But love is beautiful, and music is very much a part of our lives and monumental moments of our lives. Because country music has long been deemed conservative in its

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Tell me about the first time you encountered a Shania drag queen. I went to an imposter show in Las Vegas and it was incredible. You brought up the country world and maybe how that might be more conservative, but it’s funny, three of the artists that were in the show were myself, Reba McEntire and Dolly Parton. I thought that was so wonderful. It’s like, “OK, we’re country artists, and we’re in there!” Any artist that is, on a visual level, very expressive would make a great imposter night subject! What is the one thing a queen cannot go without if they truly want to feel like Shania Twain? Probably something leopard print, and I would say a top hat. The boots, for sure! For gay men everywhere, 1998 was one of the best years as it was the inaugural VH1 Divas, the best and most iconic. It doesn’t get any better than you, Mariah Carey, Gloria Estefan, Celine Dion, Aretha Franklin and guest performer Carole King. Of them, who are you still in touch with? Mariah Carey. Celine Dion. We still cross paths – it’s great. I always like to catch Mariah when she is live, and Celine too. It was such a wonderful group of ladies, really terrific. Who most lived up to the diva title during the show? I think Mariah had the biggest hair, so probably her. (Laughs) You were second, I think. I was! I said, “OK, I gotta look at Mariah’s hair. I want to try for it to be as big as hers,” because she has this naturally big, amazing hair. So I’m like, “Come on, let’s go for it. I know Mariah’s gonna have bigger hair than me, so I’m gonna go for it and have fun with it.” She has that hair that I want, that naturally big hair with this gorgeous wave and those ringlets. When you all performed “Natural Woman” as your encore, I wasn’t sure who was stealing the spotlight: Mariah’s hair or Aretha. (Laughs) I know! Nobody can kill Aretha’s spotlight. If you did another Divas, what other diva would you want to sing alongside? Rihanna, for sure. She’s just so awesome. I love her voice; I never get tired of it. Never, never. And we hear it so much on the radio, right? She’s every second song on the radio and I just never get tired of it. Even with “Love on the Brain” – I mean, it just doesn’t get better than that. So, she’d definitely be on my list. I’m hoping for you and Taylor to team up – our two country-gone-pop queens. Taylor would be a good one. She’d be a must on Divas, for sure. She’s awesome. She’s such a great creative person and a super songwriter and really uses her brain, so it’s lovely to watch her. Lastly, how many costume changes can gay audiences look forward to when you hit the road? (Laughs) How many would a gay audience find ideal, do you think? At least 15. (Laughs) Whoa. OK, that is a friggin’ high demand. I’d have to change every two songs! As long as you bring out the iconic ensembles, no harm, no foul. Gotta have a little flashback moment here and there, yeah! 16

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CALENDAR OF EVENTS 22nd Annual Long Island LGBT Conference Tuesday, May 1st, 8:30a.m-2:00p.m. Stony Brook University Charles B. Wang Center 100 Nicolls Road, Suite 302, Stony Brook

The annual Long Island LGBT Conference is Long Island’s only LGBT-specific conference that educates and empowers students, educators, professionals, health and human service providers, and other members of the community to address the needs of LGBT people throughout the lifespan in their schools, and communities.

Parents Paint Night Out Saturday, May 12th, 6-8p.m. Pinot’s Palette 61 W Main St, Bay Shore

Discover a new way to unwind. Reconnect over your favorite beverages while a local artist guides you through painting your own masterpiece. $38 per person. Reserve and pay online at pinotspalette.com/bayshore

SAGE-LI Restaurant | Mingle Tuesday, May 15th, 11a.m.-1p.m. Texicana Grill 2713 Merrick Rd, Bellmore

Join us for lunch at Texicana Grill (2713 Merrick

Long Island Pride Volunteer Info Session Rd, Bellmore, NY 11710)! RSVP to Arny Angelone, LMSW SAGE-LI Program Coordinator by Friday, Wednesday, May 2nd, 6-7:30 p.m. May 11th. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Center Families Coffeehouse Suite 110, Woodbury Sunday, May 20th, 12p.m.-4p.m. Long Island Pride is a success because of the dedication of hundreds of volunteers like yourself! Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, Join us for an information session to learn more 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore about the events planned and how you can help make this year Long Island’s best Pride ever!

It’s game night at Center Families Coffeehouse! Clasic family fun with board games at the Center at Bay Shore!

Long Island Pride Volunteer Info Session Thursday, May 3rd, 7-8:30 p.m. Hamptons Summer Kick-Off Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, Saturday, May 26th, 6p.m.-8:30 p.m. 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore Bridgehampton Tennis & Surf Club Long Island Pride is a success because of the dedication of hundreds of volunteers like yourself! 31 Midocean Or, Bridgehampton Join us for an information session to learn more about the events planned and how you can help make this year Long Island’s best Pride ever!

SAGE-LI East End Restaurant Mingle Thursday, May 3rd, 6:00 p.m. Sunday’s on the Bay 369 Dune Rd, Hampton Bays Join us for a nice dinner on the water at Sunday’s on the Bay in Hampton Bays. Our dinner reservations are for 6 pm. Please provide RSVP information to Anly Angelone, LMSW, SAGE-LI Program Coordinator, by Friday, April 27th at 631665-2300 or at aangelone@lgbtnetwork.org

The LGBT Network once again welcomes the Hamptons LGBT community and supporters to kick-off the Summer at the Bridgehampton Tennis and Surf Club. Proceeds benefit The Hamptons LGBT Center which provides a range of life-saving and community building services that provides support, reduce isolation, and ultimately give home to the East End’s LGBT community. It is the only LGBT community center on the East End of Long Island. To purchase your tickets or sponsorships, please visit lgbtnetwork.org/ summer kickoff

Friday Night OUT 4th Fridays, 7-9 p.m. East End: The Hamptons LGBT Center, 44 Union St., Sag Harbor

Friday Night OUT is the place to be for East End LGBT youth and their allies on the Fourth Friday of every month at the Hamptons LGBT Center. Dance, play games, and have fun! www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.899.4950

Hampton Bays Mingle 2nd & 4th Thursdays, 3-5 p.m. Hampton Bays Senior Center, 25 Ponquogue Ave., Hampton Bays SAGE-LI’s bi-monthly social for LGBT seniors 50+ on the East End. Dinner is served on the 4th Thursday of the month. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

LIFE in Nassau 2nd Thursday, 7-9 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury

LIFE in Nassau meets every second Thursday. Open to adults of all genders and orientations with an interest in BDSM topics.

LIGALY Advisory Board Mondays, 6-8 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore

Youth help plan new programs and events at LIGALY. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

LITE Social and Discussion Group 1st & 3rd Mondays, 7:30-9 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury

SAGE-LI Movie Mingle Tuesday, May 29th, 11a.m.-1p.m. All Nassau County meetings are closed for Nassau: Center at Woodbury, transgender individuals only. 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Long Island Pride Volunteer Info Session Suite 110, Woodbury Wednesdays, 7:30-9 p.m. Monday, May 7th 6-7:30 p.m. Join us for another Movie Mingle as SAGE-LI Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, watches the PBS Independent lens documentary Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore Real Boy, which follows the journey of trans teen 1st, 3rd, and 5th meetings are closed for 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore Bennett as he navigates adolescence, sobriety, and Long Island Pride is a success because of the dedication of hundreds of volunteers like yourself! Join us for an information session to learn more about the events planned and how you can help make this year Long Island’s best Pride ever!

Long Island Pride Volunteer Info Session Monday, May 10th 7-8:30 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore Long Island Pride is a success because of the dedication of hundreds of volunteers like yourself! Join us for an information session to learn more about the events planned and how you can help make this year Long Island’s best Pride ever!

SAGE-LI Health & Wellness | Communication Strategies Tuesday, March 13th, 11a.m.-12 p.m. Museum of Manor St. George 467 William Floyd Pkwy, Shirley

Join SAGE-LI as we tour the historic home & grounds of William Tangier Smith family and descendants. The estate contains colonial-era documents, furniture, and portraits. In addition, the home is also the site of a 1780 Revolutionary War battle. Admission is free. Afterwards, we will have lunch at 1:30 pm at the William Floyd Diner. Please RSVP to Anly Angelone, LMSW, SAGE-LI Program Coordinator at 631-665-2300 or aangelone@lgbtnetwork.org by Wednesday, May 9th.

Long Island Pride Volunteer Info Session Saturday, May 12th 10-11:30 a.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore Long Island Pride is a success because of the dedication of hundreds of volunteers like yourself! Join us for an information session to learn more about the events planned and how you can help make this year Long Island’s best Pride ever!

the physical and emotional ramifications of his changing gender identity. Through the process, his mother Suzy makes her own transformation - travelling a difficult road toward accepting that the daughter she raised is now her son Bennett .

David Bohnett CyberCenter Monday-Thursdays, 4-8 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore

The David Bohnett CyberCenter at LIGALY offers hands on experience and classes in various software environments from productivity to creative design on the PC and Mac platforms. The classes range from introductory, intermediate, and advance levels.

Drop-In HIV/STD Testing: Wednesdays, 5-8 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore Thursdays, 5-8 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury By Appointment. East End: The Hamptons LGBT Center, 44 Union St., Sag Harbor

Free and confidential testing for HIV, Syphilis, Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, and Hepatitis C. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

PLEASE NOTE THERE WILL BE NO PROGRAMS AT ANY OF THE LGBT NETWORK COMMUNITY CENTERS ON MONDAY, MAY 28TH.

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transgender individuals only. 2nd and 4th meetings are for transgender individuals and partners, family, friends, or loved ones.

2nd & 4th Thursdays, 6:30-8 p.m. East End: The Hamptons LGBT Center, 44 Union St., Sag Harbor

All East End meetings are closed for transgender individuals only. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

OUTlet Fridays, 8 p.m.-Midnight Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore

Friday night social program for LGBT youth and their friends ages 13-21. $2 admission, transportation available. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

Parent Support Group 1st & 3rd Thursdays, 6-7 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore 1st & 3rd Mondays, 6-7 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury

If you workand/or have engage Discussion group for parents of LGBT children. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

PEP Teams – Suffolk Thursdays, 6-8 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore

Interactive leadership program promoting sexual health for LGBT young people. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

POZ Experience 1st Monday, 2 - 3 p.m. 3rd Monday, 6:30- 7:30 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore

POZ Experience is a support group for all people living with HIV/AIDS. Facilitated by an experienced social worker, this group is designed to offer support, listen and share stories of our experience, whether individuals are newly diagnosed or have been living with HIV/AIDS for years. This group is intended to foster peer support, in an LGBT affirming space, that promotes living one’s life to the fullest and healthiest For more information, call 631.665.2300 or email poz@lgbtnetwork.org

Q Center Senior Advisory Board 2nd Thurday, 12-1p.m. Q Center: 37-18 Northern Blvd, Suite 107 Long Island City, NY 11101 This group provides feedback on current Q Center Senior Programming and offers ideas for future programming. All are welcome! Contact lsmith@lgbtnetwork.org www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

Q Center Senior Mingle Thursdays, 11 a.m.-1 p.m. Q Center: 37-18 Northern Blvd, Suite 107 Long Island City, NY 11101 Pack a lunch and join other LGBT older adults for great conversation over coffee. Contact lsmith@lgbtnetwork.org www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

Safe Schools Team Wednesdays, 6-8 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore

Youth leadership program for young people committed to creating safer schools on Long Island. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

SAGE-LI Evening Mingle 3rd Wednesday, 7-9 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury

If you workand/or have engagements during the day that limit you from attending the fabulous SAGE-LI daytime programming, this is the program for you. All are welcome! www.lgbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

SAGE-LI Monday Mingle Mondays, 11 a.m.-1 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore

SAGE-LI’s weekly social for LGBT seniors 50+ at The Center at Bay Shore. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

SAGE-LI Nassau Mingle Tuesdays, 11 a.m.-1 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury

SAGE-LI’s weekly social for LGBT seniors 50+ at The Center at Woodbury. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

SAGE-LI Nassau Mingle Potluck First Tuesday, 1 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury

Bring your favorite dish and enjoy lunch over light refreshments and great conversation with friends. Please let us know if you plan on joining us and what you are going to bring to share . www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

SAGE-LI Women at Nassau Wednesdays, 7:30-8:45 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury

(SWAN) A social and discussion group for lesbian, bisexual, & transgender women as well as women questioning their identity. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

Senior Advocate First Monday, 11a.m.-1 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore

A Senior Advocate from Suffolk County Office for the Aging is on-site each month to offer SAGE-LI members benefits and entitlement counseling. From Social Security to Food Stamps to Medicare Part D and everything in between, the Senior Advocate will be available during the Mingle to answer your questions and point you in the right direction. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

Senior Focus Discussion Group Last Monday, 12pm-1 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore

Part of a monthly series of coed peer-led, issuefocused discussion groups. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

TRUE Calling Tuesdays, 6-8 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury

LIGALY is offering a great opportunity for LGBT youth and their friends to show off their skills! Sing, act, dance, or perform. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

Women 2 Women Tuesdays, 7:15-8:45 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore

W2W is dedicated to providing a safe and supportive space for lesbians age 40+.

You Gotta Believe Mondays, 6-9 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore

The Long Island LGBT Community Center has partnered with You Gotta Believe, a non-profit organization that places teenagers into permanent adoptive homes, to provide Adoptive Parent Preparation Classes! If you are interested in participating, please call 631.665.2300. www.lgbtnetwork.org

Youth Squad Tuesdays, 5-7 p.m. East End: The Hamptons LGBT Center, 44 Union St., Sag Harbor

All East End youth should come check out this new hot LGBT spot. Every Tuesday is a fun interactive youth group: hang out with others in the lounge. You won’t want to miss it! www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.899.4950

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On April 14th, more than 100 North Fork community members gathered at The Tap Room at Corey Creek for an afternoon of artisanal wines, craft beers, fresh oysters, food trucks, and mingling.

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#GetJustice LGBT YouTH SUMMIT FRIDAY APRIL 20. 2018, CUNY SCHOOL OF LAW IN LONG ISLAND CITY On, April 20th, over 200 youth visited CUNY School of Law in Long Island City for the first ever LGBT #GetJustice Youth Summit. The LGBT activism and advocacy conference offered attendees an in-depth education on Sexual and Reproductive Justice.

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FRIDAY APRIL 27, 2018, LGBT NETWORK CENTER AT BAY SHORE More than 150 youth attended the annual Night of Noise block party held at the LGBT Network’s Center at Bay Shore. LGBT and allied youth took part in a jello eating contest, speakOUT, outdoor games and more. Youth waited patiently on line to spray paint the ‘Wall of Hate’ with words they have been bullied with and eded the nighy by breaking down the wall with a sledgehammer.

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TUESDAY MAY 1, 2018 STONY BROOK UNIVERSITY CHARLES B. WANG CENTER On May 1st, a record-breaking 450 youth attended the LGBT Network held its 22nd Annual Long Island LGBT Conference at the Stony Brook University Charles B. Wang Center. The annual Long Island LGBT Conference is Long Island’s only LGBT-specific conference that seeks to educate and empower students, educators, health and human service provides, and other member of the community to address the needs of LGBT people through the lifespan in their schools and communities.

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by gregg shapiro

Seasonal Gaiety It’s been said before, but it bears repeating. LGBTQ musicians are making some of the most captivating and inspiring music out there. Since the beginning of 2018, new releases by queer artists such as Jim Andralis, Lucy Dacus, H.C. McEntire and Sarah Shook rank among the best to be heard. Beginning with the release of her eponymous 2005 debut recording, Brandi Carlile has consistently delivered outstanding albums, including The Story and Bear Creek, that have earned her a devoted following. With a goose-bump raising vocal range and the ability to write songs with immense emotional impact, Carlile doesn’t disappoint with her latest disc By the Way, I Forgive You (Low Country Sound/Elektra). From the personal lesbian mom tune “The Mother” to the queer empowerment anthem “The Joke”, Carlile has created her most far-reaching set of songs. The country-tinged “Every Time I Hear That Song” (from which the album gets its title), the stomp of “Hold Out Your Hand”, the heartbreaking political statement of “Fulton County Jane Doe”, the addiction story-song “Sugartooth”, the back-to-back forgiveness theme of “Most of All” and “Harder To Forgive”, and the breathtaking album closer “Party of One” all contribute in making this Carlile’s best album to date. Ezra Furman describes his brilliant and unforgettable new album Transangelic Exodus (Bella Union) as “not a concept record, but almost a novel, or a cluster of stories on a theme, a combination of fiction and a half-true memoir… a personal companion for a paranoid road trip. A queer outlaw saga.” Regardless of how you feel about that description, you would be remiss if you didn’t give the disc a spin. A dizzying and exhilarating experience, Transangelic Exodus will leave you reeling in the best possible way. Opener “Suck The Blood From My Wound” morphs from pure pop exuberance to static rage in under five minutes. “Driving Down To L.A.” sounds like a lost experimental Rufus Wainwright number and if “No Place” doesn’t make your heart race you should check your pulse. “The Great Unknown” (with what we can only hope is a sampled scream) has anthem written all over it and “Maraschino Red Dress $8.99 at Goodwill” is one of the most remarkable songs you will hear this year. “Love You So Bad” and the delirious “I Lost My Innocence” are retro pop filtered through 21st century speakers. 22

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Talent show competitor Calum Scott’s exquisite reimagining of Robyn’s “Dancing On My Own” as a ballad hinted at his great taste in music. That song, as well as a reading of Bob Dylan’s “Not Dark Yet” can both be found of Scott’s full-length debut album Only Human (Capitol). In addition to being indicative of his interpretation skills, they also demonstrate his vocal abilities – the guy can sing! But, so can Sam Smith, and therein lies the problem. We already have one Sam Smith, do we need another? The original songs (co-written by Scott and a team of collaborators) tend to be indistinguishable. There are a few exceptions, including the Leona Lewis duet “You Are The Reason” and the rhythmic “Give Me Something”. Worst of all is “Stop Me (Only Human)”, featuring a lazy borrow from the Human League song “Human”. An interesting musical experiment if ever there was one, World Beyond (Mute) by Erasure is a “classical reworking” of the 10 tracks from the duo’s 2017 World Be Gone disc in a chamber music setting backed by Echo Collective. Given the subject matter of the album, the current chaotic political mood, songs such as “Be Careful What You Wish For!”, “Oh What A World”, “World Be Gone”, “Take Me Out of Myself” and “Lousy Sum of Nothing” in particular actually benefit from these new renditions. It’s not all doom and gloom as you can hear on “Love You To The Sky” and “Just A Little”. Nevertheless, it’s “Still It’s Not Over”, Erasure’s queerest and most overtly political statement, that is sure to have the greatest impact on LGBTQ listeners. It’s virtually impossible to write about queer music and not include a reference to showtunes. Gay musical theater composer Stephen Flaherty, along with his longtime collaborator Lynn Ahrens, has created an impressive string of Broadway hits including Ragtime, My Favorite Year, Seussical and Anastasia. One of Flaherty and Ahrens’ earliest shows, Once On This Island, is in the midst of a Broadway revival (making it one of two shows the pair has on Broadway – the other being Anastasia). In addition to songs by Flaherty, the cast features queer actor Alex Newell as Asaka, Mother of the Earth, all of which can be heard on Once On This Island: New Broadway Cast Recording (Broadway Records). Christmas may be a long way off, but that’s no reason not to listen to Kris Kringle – The Musical: Studio Cast Recording (Yellow Sound). A new Christmas musical featuring music and lyrics by Tim Janis and Angelo Natalie with original story, book and additional lyrics by Maria Ciampi. Out actor Andrew Keenan-Bolger plays the lead role of Kris Kringle.

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To Tell The Truth: Spring/Summer 2018 Non-fiction for LGBTQ Readers

Now that most of the country has thawed out from one of the lengthiest winters on record, everyone is anxious to get outside and enjoy the nice weather. The following titles are suggestions for reading on a park bench, at the beach or anywhere the sun is warmly shining on you.

Thanks for the memoirs

Not only is Jake Shears a talented singer/songwriter and all- around magnetic performer who is, shall we say, easy on the eyes, but he’s also a marvelous writer as he proves with his first book, Boys Keep Swinging: A Memoir (Atria, 2018).

Following the extraordinary success of his epic 2016 bestselling novel Queen of the Night, Alexander Chee returns with the essay collection How to Write an Autobiographical Novel (Mariner, 2018) in which he touches on his own personal evolution, as well as love and loss, including the AIDS crisis and the 9/11 tragedy.

Anyone who has ever read any of memoirist and educator Barrie Jean Borich’s previous books (Restoring the Color of Roses, My Lesbian Husband and Body Geography) knows that the arrival of each new one is an event, and Apocalypse, Darling (Mad Creek Books, 2018), which ventures into toxic landscapes and wastelands, both personal and environmental, is no exception.

Hiding Out: A Memoir of Drugs, Deception, and Double Lives (Dey Street, 2018) is queer actress/playwright Tina Alexis Allen’s “audacious” story in which she untangles the knot of her upbringing, closely tied to a shared secret with her strict and religious father.

I Can’t Date Jesus: Love, Sex, Family, Race, and Other Reasons I’ve Put My Faith in Beyoncé (Atria, 2018) is Michael Arceneaux’s timely, humorous and deeply considered essay collection told from the perspective of an African-American gay man. In Michael Goddart’s unique memoir In Search of Lost Lives: Desires, Sanskaras and the Evolution of Mind & Soul (Epigraph, 2018) the writer shares the details of his recovery of more than 80 past lives, including more than 10 homophile lives.

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You’ve probably seen Claire L. Evans give a TED Talk or in music videos by YACHT (she’s one half of the musical duo) and now is your chance to read her writing in her Broad Band: The Untold Story of the Women Who Made the Internet (Portfolio/Penguin, 2018). 26

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Marion Ross, who played everyone’s favorite Midwestern TV mom on Happy Days, and later made an appearance on the gay `80s Showtime series Brothers, tells her story (with help from David Laurell) in My Days: Happy and Otherwise (Kensington, 2018). LGBTQ folks have long been a presence in and fans of reality TV shows, from PBS’ An American Family to MTV’s The Real World and Bravo’s The Real Housewives series, and Lucas Mann’s Captive Audience: On Love and Reality TV (Vintage, 2018) gives them something to read about.

Cultural affairs

Just in time for Pride month, and ideal for readers of all ages, the colorful Pride: The Story of Harvey Milk and the Rainbow Flag (Random House, 2018), written by Rob Sanders and illustrated by Steven Salerno, tells the story of social activist Milk and designer Gilbert Baker. Almost everything you need to know about Feminist Weed Farmer: Growing Mindful Medicine in your Own Backyard (Microcosm Publishing, 2018) by Madrone Stewart, featuring sections on “Creating A Good Growing Environment”, “Protecting your Plants” and “Harvesting your Medicine”, can be found in the title of the book.

Arriving on bookshelves around the same time as Julie Cohen and Betsy West’s RBG doc opens in theaters, Ruth Bader Ginsburg: In Her Own Words (B2 Books, 2018), edited by Helena Hunt, features a multitude of quotes from the trailblazing Supreme Court Justice, including those on the subject of same-sex marriage. Also focused on legal issues and the LGBTQ community, Gay Priori (Duke, 2018) by Libby Adler is “a queer critical legal studies approach to law reform”. In addition to a couple of pages on “homosexuality”, Mark Kurlansky’s Havana: A Subtropical Delirium (Bloomsbury, 2017), queer folks such as Reinaldo Arenas, Allen Ginsberg, Josephine Baker, and Federico García Lorca, as well as the gay film Strawberry and Chocolate, also appear in the book.

The aforementioned poets Ginsberg and Arenas are also written about in Orchids, Rosebuds, and Sweet Flags: Reflections on Gay Poetry (Lethe, 2018) by Drewey Wayne Gunn, along with notable gay poets such as Mark Doty, J. D. McClatchy, W. H. Auden, Oscar Wilde, Walt Whitman and Langston Hughes.

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What To Do When Your Medical Diagnosis Is Inconclusive

When you have a clear-cut diagnosis, your course of action may seem clear. What happens, however, when your diagnosis is inconclusive? Living with an uncertain medical verdict can be extremely stressful, because you may have no way of knowing when you will get a more conclusive diagnosis. A recent study found that as many as 12 million people in the United States get an inconclusive—or faulty—diagnosis annually. Here are some steps to take after you have received an inconclusive diagnosis: Be proactive, not passive. Many patients assume that the medical practitioners who see them always know best, and that they are always in safe hands. Unfortunately, this isn’t always the case. By being an active, engaged, and informed patient, you can help to ensure that you get quality care. Seek out a second opinion. If your first diagnosis was inconclusive, it goes without saying that you should try again. Go to a different doctor for a second consultation. To ensure objectivity, it’s best to avoid telling this doctor what the first diagnosis was, at least until you have received the second opinion. Talk to your primary care physician. You should always start by seeing your usual doctor, who will have a better sense of your overall health than anyone else will. While your diagnosis may be made by a specialist, it’s still important to keep your primary care physician in the loop. Keep yourself informed. In today’s world, it’s easier than ever for patients to get educated about their health and get the accurate information they need to make smart choices. Always do your research before going to any medical practitioner so you’ll be better equipped to ask useful questions. If you are concerned about a misdiagnosis or possible medical error, contact the law firm of Pegalis & Erickson, LLC in New York. For 45 years, we have advocated for people of all ages, in order to help our clients financially and make healthcare safer for everyone. You can reach us today by calling (516) 858-2194.

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May 2018

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Aries – Focus on sports, law and higher education.

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Use a practical viewpoint to translate abstract beliefs into concrete principles to live by. It’s also a good time to deal with facts, figures and timetables. Leo plays a major role.

Scorpio – Rely on your intuition. Someone from your past comes back into your life, requiring a decision. Emotions play a heavy role. If torn between a new love and an old love, play the waiting game. You’ll feel less restricted by this situation later.

Taurus – A change of scenery is on schedule.

Sagittarius – You’ll be able to pull yourself

Someone who talks and moves fast wants you to keep up. You’ll go far possibly in a direction you hadn’t expected. An exchange of views with a foreigner gives you a new thought to consider and absorb.

from out of an emotional situation by going places and doing things. Ignore secret doubts; you will be accepted by the public or friends. A social obligation will require travel and cost money, but is worth it! Another Sagittarius plays a vital role.

Gemini – A relative will pull strings for you. A long distance call or message leads to career advancement. Keep a balanced, low-key attitude in discussions with a VIP. Your ability to keep composure adds points to your reputation. Good luck!

Cancer –Recognition arrives through work done behind the scenes. TV, movies and radio may be involved; in any field, you deal well with make-believe and illusion this month. Don’t be overly sensitive to criticism.

Leo – A power move can be made. You’re in a position to assume a leadership role and reorganize a commercial project. Nothing happens half way. Action leads to money and prestige. A loved one stands behind you, but wants more assurances of long-term care and devotion.

Capricorn – You attract an Aquarian in your life. There could be instant rapport, even a psychic tie. A sense of restriction, however, surrounds all efforts to follow your impulses. You’ll be tied down to routine; make the best of it.

Aquarius – Your personal life is ready for expansion or greater freedom. Be ready for change, travel or variety, plus a public appearance. You’ll break away from recent confinement and will express yourself in creative, intellectual ways. Romantic plans will work out. Ask a Libra.

Pisces –The spotlight is on you, your artistic talents and appearance. Make the most of your personal assets. Opposition will melt where a relative is concerned. A possible move or rearrangement of your living quarters may have to be made.

Virgo – The accent is on hopes, dreams and wishes. Something you longed to accomplish may seem presently out of reach. Re-evaluate your goals and let go of any friend or group tie that seems to limit you. An Aries spurs you onward.

Libra – A new romantic prospect wants to wine and dine you. You’ll exude special appeal and could ask for almost anything you want. You’ll relate better as lovers if you become friends first. Inventive ideas will be welcomed in the area of entertainment or dining out. 30

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HOROSCOPES

June 2018

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Aries – A puzzling financial situation will be

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cleared up. You’ll find items recently misplaced. Keep moving ahead; don’t dwell on little problems. Focus instead on spiritual values and helping others in a compassionate way. Pisces plays a prominent role.

Scorpio – A love affair takes a spectacular turn, offering a chance to travel, see new places and expand your mental horizons. You’ll entertain or be entertained in style. Your ability to communicate well is favored; so is fortunate speculation.

Taurus – Your feelings of self-worth will be

Sagittarius – Focus on health, beauty, a

enhanced. A pat on the back from someone whose opinion you respect helps. So does the prospect of better earnings, more prestige and a promotion. You can make an important purchase.

better balance in your life-style. If you’ve recently gone to extremes in eating or drinking, you get a chance to rectify matters. A daily associate will cooperate in your plans if you accent diplomacy and good manners. Libra plays a role.

Gemini – Pay attention to brothers, sisters or other close kin. It’s time to insist on your own rights. You’re ready to expand your influence in a dramatic way; don’t allow yourself to be held back by one with a limited viewpoint. Aries and Libra people are in the picture. Cancer –Love and romance are spotlighted. Show your feelings to one who is attracted by your new charisma and magnetism. You’ll have an original, creative idea that can be put into motion. A relative is involved in dramatic party plans. Leo – This month’s emphasis falls on a domestic situation. You’ll be especially concerned about security, money and property values. Stick with what is tried and true rather than plunging into new arrangements. A parent or parental figure conveys a meaningful experience to you.

Capricorn – You’ll operate best behind the scenes. Be content with your own company or an individual project that gives you personal pleasure and inspiration. Much can be accomplished if you avoid escapist tactics and running away from tasks.

Aquarius – Get out and circulate in public. You’ll run into prestigious people who can be of value in business matters. A love relationship deepens if you show you are loyal, ambitious and ready for long-range commitments. A Capricorn is in the picture. Pisces –Emphasize love and hope. Your partner, mate or associate needs inspiration, not criticism. Be generous with your time and talents, but don’t carry a heavy burden that is not rightfully yours. Cooperation is essential to your relationship.

Virgo – Social activities increase around your base. A desire to spread good cheer will make you popular, but could interfere with your normal routine. Hand the details over to someone else; you’ll probably overlook everything but the big picture.

Libra – The day of reckoning has arrived where a creative project is concerned. You can’t continue to slide by on superficial efforts. Get down to work; consult with an expert with solid experience. Don’t be distracted by someone who is just out for a good time. >>