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Two lgbt murders within 24 hours leaves community in ‘state of emergency’ The incidents of murder among transgender women in the US continue to rise. Keisha Jenkins, 22, was killed on a Philadelphia street on Oct. 6, after reportedly being assaulted by five or six men when she got out of a car. When Jenkins fell to the ground, someone fired two shots into her back. Jenkins is the 21st transgender or gender nonconforming murder victim in the US this year, and the 18th transgender woman of color to be killed. Pedro Redding was arrested and charged with murder, conspiracy, and weapons charges, but police stopped short of calling it a hate crime, according to News One, Redding was allegedly known for committing robberies in

Gay family featured in soup commercial A new ad for Campbell Chicken Noodle Soup features two dads. In the 30-second spot, the dads are feeding their son a new Star Wars-themed soup while fighting over who gets to say Darth Vader’s famed “I am your father” line. The commercial is part of Campbell’s current “Made for Real, Real Life” campaign. One Million Moms, a media watch group arm of the American Family Association, is calling for a boycott of the soup because the commercial “push[es] the LGBT agenda” by “glorifying this unnatural marriage.”

the neighborhood where the shooting occurred. Just one day earlier, on Oct. 5, a man was found shot dead on a street in the Palmer Park area of Detroit. The victim, Melvin 30, was wearing women’s clothing at the time of his murder, Fox News Detroit reported that he identified as a gay man who would “cross dress from time to time in order to make a living.” So far this year, there have been 21 murders of transgender and gender non-conforming people, according to the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs (NCAVP) – an advocacy group tracking such deaths. Transgender homicides have risen by 11% from the previous year.

uniform policy changes aims to promote acceptance Students in Puerto Rico now have more freedom when deciding what to wear to school. As long as they are dressed in uniform, students can wear pants or skirts regardless of their gender without being punished. Education Secretary Rafael Roman said that the new regulation he recently signed is meant to be inclusive of gay, lesbian and transgender students, the Associated Press reported.

man claims he lost job at catholic home because he’s gay A Virginia man says he was fired from the top job at a diocese-owned assisted living home because he's gay and married to his partner of 30 years. John Murphy alleges the bishop of a local Catholic diocese forced his removal, and he filed a discrimination claim against the Catholic Diocese of Richmond with the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission last month.

The US-territory has made significant changes within the past couple months to become more inclusive of LGBT people. In mid-July, the socially conservative island legalized same-sex marriage and Governor Alejandro Garcia Padilla recently made executive orders that benefit LGBT communities, one of which allows transgender citizens the right to change the gender on their driver’s license.

hiv vaccine begins in human trials Dr. Robert Gallo, the man who first proved that AIDS was triggered by the HIV virus more than 30 years ago, has a potential vaccine that began human testing in October, Science Alert reported. Gallo has been working on the vaccine for 15 years. The first round of testing will involve 60 volunteers and only look at the safety and immune responses of the patients. Testing for effectiveness will come later.

According to the Associated Press, Murphy said he had been told by the president of the home's board of directors that his relationship wouldn't be a problem, but he only served as executive director of the Saint Francis Home in Richmond for about a week before two deputies of Bishop Francis Xavier DiLorenzo told him that he was being fired because his marriage goes against church doctrine.

Southern baptist leader calls for same-sex marriage boycotts Rev. Albert Mohler, the president of the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, is urging Christians to not attend a same-sex wedding, even of their own child, because it signals “moral approval” of the union, in his new book. 6

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He also contends that transgender people who are “saved” should consult with their pastors about whether to have surgery to return to their original gender.

Rand paul says lgbt discrimination laws are unnecessary Sen. Rand Paul (R-Ky.) and GOP presidential hopeful said the government shouldn't step in to protect workers against anti-gay discrimination by their employers, arguing that such protections are unnecessary and would expose businesses to legal problems. Paul was speaking to students at Drake University in Des Moines. In 2013, Paul voted against the Employment Non-Discrimination

Act, which would make it illegal for employers to discriminate against LGBT workers. Paul later explained his vote in a CourierJournal op-ed, saying he did so in part to protect religious groups against “discrimination.” In the same op-ed, he said it is “offensive to compare the civil rights struggle of the 1960s to the issues associated with ENDA.”

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Italian legislatures debate civil unions, adoption laws Italy has finally begun debate on a bill that allow gay and lesbian couples to enter into civil unions. It is anticipated that the bill, which has support of Premier Matteo Renzi, will be debated for months, as the issue is a contentious one. Included in the law would be partial pension rights, automatic inheritance and would enable same-sex partners to adopt each other’s children, if the child only has one legal parent. Italy remains the only major country in Western Europe that does not have legal protections for cohabiting same-sex couples, or same-sex marriage.

British athlete comes out on national television Tom Bosworth, Britain’s No. 1 Race Walker, is an Olympic hopeful and the holder of three British records in the sport, has announced that he is gay on BBC Two’s Victoria Derbyshire show. He is the first British track and field athlete to come out and said he did so in the hope it would make it easier for other athletes in his position.

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Electroshock therapy used in conversion therapies A new documentary exposes the practice of controversial “conversion” methods that promise to “cure” gay and lesbian people in China. Produced by U.K. television network Channel 4, “Unreported World,” follows John, 22, and other members of China's largest LGBT rights group, the Beijing LGBT Center, as they take viewers behind the scenes for a close-up look at a few of the horrifying techniques – including electroshock therapy – used in clinics across the country. Less than a year ago, a Chinese psychological clinic was ordered to pay 3,500 yuan ($560) to a gay man for administrating such treatments, the Huffington Post reported. The court ruled that such "conversion" treatments were illegal.

Amnesty demands action on trans killings Amnesty International has demanded action to address the shockingly high transgender murder rate in South America, after a renowned activist was stabbed to death in her Buenos Aires home. The charity issued a strongly worded message to the Argentinian government demanding that better steps be taken to document and investigate trans killings. Diana Sacayán is the third transgender woman to have been murdered in Argentina in the last month. Marcela Chocobar and Coty Olmos were also murdered, and were heavily involved in transgender equality activism and causes.

Priest fired after coming out The Vatican fired priest Krzysztof Charamsa after he publicly announced that he is gay. Charmasa (pictured above with his boyfriend, Eduard), a 43-year-old monsignor had been at the Vatican's Congregation of the Doctrine of Faith since 2003 and came out after getting hate mail for publicly criticizing an anti-gay Polish priest, the Associated Press reported. The Vatican claims it didn't fire Charamsa for being gay – which in itself isn't a sin – but for making his announcement immediately before international bishops were set to meet as part of a synod to discuss outreach to gay Catholics, Reuters reports.

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Selena Gomez talks lesbian rumors, (maybe) dating gay men and how she’s proud of Nick Jonas’s ‘love for everyone’

An interview by Chris Azzopardi

elena Gomez is alive, revived and relieved.

After photos turned up in 2014 of Gomez scrub-a-dub-dubbing with gal pal Cara Delevingne, who's openly bisexual, what transpired? Gay gossip, of course. Gomez doesn’t care, she says, “because they weren’t talking about other people in my life for once, which was wonderful.” In fact, regarding the blogosphere buzz, Gomez, 23, tells me she "loved it," a testament to the entertainer’s true-to-herself, not-really-caringwhat-you-think-anymore persona. That same perspective is reflected in all the dizzying late-night pillow talk throbbing throughout her sexually liberated and self-reflective second studio album, Revival. For a small-screen darling who grew up under the watchful eye of Disney, Gomez's openness both on the album and in conversation is refreshing. After recently revealing that she was diagnosed with the autoimmune disease lupus in 2013, she concurs that, yes, this is her coming out party of sorts. (Actually, the way she puts it is, “werk!”) And so it is, as Gomez speaks candidly about other aspects of her life: "absolutely" questioning her sexuality, growing up around her mom's gaggle of mimosa-sippin' 10

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gays and – cue the awws – her admiration for ex-flame Nick Jonas' "love and compassion for everyone.” Growing up in Grand Prairie, Texas, what was your introduction to the gay community? You have to understand: My mother is absolutely fantastic and she worked at a modeling agency when I was a very young girl, so every Sunday I would have brunch with her and all of her gays, and I just remember a lot of mimosas. It was the best. So, I’ve been around it my whole life and, you know, I love it. I have to tell you: On my 16th birthday my mom had a bunch of drag queens come out and they sang “Sweet Dreams (Are Made Of This)” and it was sooo funny. As someone raised Catholic, accepting the LGBT community was never an issue for you then? Not at all. Look: There’s a huge difference in how I was brought up; the word “religion” is a very complex thing. It’s something you have to follow, and that’s not what faith is. Anybody who has a higher power, anybody who has anything they believe in: If you don’t know how to love other people, I don’t believe in it. It doesn’t work that way.

Photos Courtesy of Interscope Records Have you ever met a Selena Gomez drag queen?

Have you ever questioned your sexuality?

Yes! I had one who did one of the viral videos of “Love You Like a Love Song” (Willam Belli’s “Love You Like a Big Schlong”). (She) did a nasty version of it, which was hysterical, and I went to the Logo NewNowNext Awards and I got to meet her, which was amazing. Honestly, I feel like that’s when I made it – genuinely! I emailed it to my mom and she emailed it and CC’d everybody.

Oh, I think everybody does, no matter who they are. I do, yeah, of course. Absolutely. I think it’s healthy to gain a perspective on who you are deep down, question yourself and challenge yourself; it’s important to do that.

You say Selena drag queens were the true measure of success for you. But isn’t it true that you’re not truly famous until you’ve been the subject of a gay rumor? And last year, the tabloids had a field day with photos of you and Cara Delevingne. I’ve made it! How did you react to those rumors? Honestly, I loved it. I didn’t mind it. Especially because they weren’t talking about other people in my life for once, which was wonderful. Honestly, though, she’s incredible and very open and she just makes me open. She’s so fun and she’s just extremely adventurous, and sometimes I just want that in my life, so I didn’t mind it. I loved it.

Your friend Demi Lovato played a lesbian on Glee, starring as Naya Rivera's love interest. Who would you choose as an onscreen lesbian love interest? That’s a long list! Suki Waterhouse – she’s a model; she was Bradley Cooper’s girlfriend. As a performer, when were you first aware you had an LGBT following? My first single was when I was 16 and that went to No. 1 on the Dance Club charts so that was my introduction. I don’t think people really knew me, so I don’t know if it was a following necessarily, but once I hit “Love You Like a Love Song” status, that’s really when I started realizing it. And it was the best! My concerts used to be little kids, and then seeing the entire front row being all these guys who were wearing neon T-shirts and just losing their minds – it’s incredible. And then you see the jocks in the

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out Front other corner throwing their boxers on stage. It’s like, “Oh gosh.” It’s amazing. You say “oh gosh” like it’s a problem. (Laughs) Well, it is a little bit; come on. Do you keep your gay fans in mind when you create music, particularly with Revival? Absolutely. One-hundred percent. Even with my earlier stuff, I’ve always tapped into it, and at the end of the day I’m a full-on pop artist, so I wanted the tracks to be incredible because I know how important that is. But on top of that, having the lyrics be equally as important was something I needed to do for this album. I think it just kind of came together really well. I spent a year on it and I poured everything I had into this album, and I was thinking of everyone. I was thinking of my diehard fans from everywhere. Have you ever dated or fallen for a gay man? Honestly, I don’t have that story, but two of my best friends do and it’s very Will and Grace-like, which I love. But no, I haven’t actually experienced it – wait, maybe that’s not fair to say. Maybe I won’t know? Maybe I don’t know? (Laughs) I just

thought about that. Oh my gosh. I’m thinking about my whole life now. Nick Jonas, Justin Bieber, Taylor Lautner: Aesthetically speaking, you have good taste in men. How jealous do your gay guy friends get of the people you’ve dated? Oh gosh, they’re more into it than I am. Honestly! Part of the reason I probably went out on a few dates is because of them. They’re just like, “Go! Go!” I’m like, “No!” They’re all about it, for sure. So your gay friends are your matchmakers? All the time. Whoever I’m with or like or don’t like, they’re all about dissecting it and putting me with other people. It must be fascinating for you to see Nick Jonas become such a gay icon. His outreach… his underwear pics… And his (gay) characters that he’s been playing! Scream Queens and the other show, Kingdom, which I thought was super rad. We actually talked about it at dinner one time. He’s incredible, and I think it’s amazing. I’ve known him for years – we were 14 when we met – so it’s crazy, because I actually knew him at a different time in his life.

– Selena Gomez, on questioning her sexuality

who I am. It was exciting for me while also being a little complicated; I had dealt with certain body issues and things like that. Once the album was put together and I went through so many different emotions, I knew that this was my moment to really share my heart, because there are so many people who follow or look up to me who are dealing with so much in their own life. I just want to give my all to it – give all of myself literally. Are there any gay people in your life currently who helped you on your journey to selfactualization? Yes, one of my dearest – his name is Gweny. He’s been on my Instagram many times – featured on my Insta! (Laughs) But he’s very sweet and unbelievably confident. He’s a dancer, so he knows how to move his body. Even when I dance, sometimes I’ll ask him to dance with me in the mirror so I can be comfortable in my movements. Sometimes I get a little selfconscious and don’t think I’m a great dancer and he’s able to pull me out of my head instantly. Also, I’ll wake up one morning and he’ll be cooking breakfast, and all of a sudden _The Sound of Music_ is on and it just makes my life happy. He’ll just run into my room and cheer me up and yeah, he’s been a huge part of the last four years of my life. He’s changed my life. You have had to become an adult in front of the whole world. For you, how hard is it to grow up in the limelight?

Now, to see him have this amazing perspective on life is awesome. I’m really proud of him. Are you surprised by the way he’s connected with the gay community? Yeah, for sure! Not in a bad way, but I was like, “Thank you.” It was kind of incredible for somebody to step out of their zone for a minute. It’s really incredible to see what he’s done. It’s incredible to not really be in a judgmental place and to really let down all of your guards. I just think you have to really let go, and you do have to find this in your heart. He clearly has had a love and compassion for everyone, and I think that’s great. The cover of your album, where you’re basically naked, is pure empowerment. You seem very comfortable in your own skin. Every other day it changes, but this year is a very important year for me. A lot of discovering and exploring

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The worst part about it is the lack of forgiveness. When you’re a quoteend quote “child star,” it’s just unfair to be able to throw things at people when they don’t even know who they are yet. So that’s the only frustrating part, because, ultimately, that’s life. Everybody goes through things, and more than anything, I think it’s just the judgmental part. But I enjoy it. I love my life, and I’m so thankful for it. I have been able to experience life in a different way, and even though there are some low moments, it’s incredible to do what I do. You’ve credited Taylor Swift as not just a friend but someone you admire. How often do you and her shake it off at the gay clubs? Oh my gosh – how chic! And all the time. Taylor and I literally will have mini dance parties with all of her dancers who are 100 percent gay (laughs) – and it’s the best feeling ever! It is so fun, and we just lose our minds. So wherever you and Taylor are, it’s always a gay club? Even in her apartment? LIVING OUT

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Yeah, in New York! On tour! Backstage! The whole thing.

What is the craziest thing you’ve read about yourself?

What is the most common misconception people have of you?

What have I not read about myself at this point?! My gosh. I think I’ve been pregnant 15 times. That’s always been the craziest thing for me, which is my favorite. I’ll be at the beach and have the flattest stomach or not, and regardless, I’ll be pregnant. It’s the most hysterical thing to me.

Lack of credibility. I understand that I come from Disney or whatever, but I feel like I’ve just scratched the surface of what I wanna do in film and music, to be honest. Even though I’ve been doing it for a while, I don’t feel like I have really gone there yet, and that’s fine. I think I gotta grow into it and make mistakes and learn and whatnot, but I do feel like that (credibility) is the one thing that people don’t give me enough of.

To debunk any rumors of a 16th baby – are you pregnant right now? No, nope – definitely not! (Laughs)

Do you ever Google yourself? I have, yes. It’s very dangerous. I can’t do it often. I didn’t do it after the album came out because I didn’t know what the reviews were gonna be, and I mean, I can’t do anything about it now – the album is out – so I have to be confident in what I released. But yes, I have, of course. If people text me things or if I hear people talking about stuff, yeah, I’ll do it.

It’s incredible to not really be in a judgmental place and to really let down all of your guards.

Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at www.chris-azzopardi.com and on Twitter (@chrisazzopardi).

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ACCOUNTANTS

Howard E. Sayetta

ATTORNEYS

Attorney at Law 235 Southwood Circle Syosset, NY 11791 tel. ��(516) 921-0556

Robert A. Corsentino, CPA, PC

105 Maxess Rd. S124 Melville, NY 11747 tel. ��(631) 574-4500 fax. ��(631) 574-4501 email. . . . . . . bob@corsentinocpa.com web. . . . . . . . . . . . . corsentinocpa.com All tax services for married and unmarried LGBT taxpayers. Look for our ad on the previous page

Steven M. Ostrer, J.D., MBA

20 Crossways Park Drive N., Ste. 110 Woodbury, NY 11797 tel. ��(516) 448-4714 email. . . . . . . . . . . s.ostrer@yahoo.com

Capell Barnett Matalon & Schoenfeld, LLP

Gregory Matalon, Partner 100 Jericho Quadrangle, Suite 233 Jericho, NY 11753 tel. ��(516) 931-8100 email. . . . . . . gmatalon@cbmslaw.com web ��cbmslaw.com Look for our ad on this page

Reproductive Possibilities

Melissa B. Brisman, Esq. 1 Paragon Dr., Suite 160 Montvale, NJ 07645 tel. ��(201) 505-0078 tel. ��(201) 505-0994 email �� info@reproductivelawyer.com

web �� reproductivepossibilities.com Full service Surrogacy Agency, put your dreams in our hands!

Law Office of Adam B. Grossman

Adam B. Grossman, Esq., Sole Practitioner P.O. Box 155 120 Court Sreet Riverhead, NY 11901 tel. ��(631) 727-4200 fax. ��(631) 369-4080 email. . . . . . . . . . . agrossman2@verizon.net

web. . . . . . . . . adamgrossmanlawyer.com

Providing tax, financial & estate planning services for the LGBT community

ADOPTION

Adoptions, Family Court, Business and Real Estate Closings, Wills, Estates, and Consumer Disputes - 35 Years Experience Serving the LGBT Community

Estate planning for LGBT couples and singles, Real Estate, Probate

Law Office of Vishnick McGovern Milizio, LLP

Pegalis & Erickson Attorneys at Law

Annamarie Bondi-Stoddard 1 Hollow Lane Lake Success, NY 11042 tel. ��(516) 684-2900 fax. ��(516) 684-2939 email . . . . . . . . . info@pegalisanderickson.com

web. . . . . . . . . pegalisanderickson.com Representing Plaintiffs in Medical Malpractice Actions Look for our ad on the next page

Joseph G. Milizio, Esq., 3000 Marcus Avenue, Suite 1E9 Lake Success, NY 10042 tel. ��(516) 437-4385 email. . . . . . . . . . . . jmilizio@vmmlegal.com web ��vmmlegal.com Vishnick McGovern Milizio LLP, with offices in Lake Success, NYC, and New Jersey, is a full service law firm with a dedicated LGBT practice area, lead by the firm's Managing Partner, Joe Milizio.

Meltzer, Lippe, Goldstein & Breitstone, LLP

Larry R. Martinez, Esq. 190 Willis Ave. Mineola, NY 11501 tel.. . . . . . . . . . (516) 747-0300, Ext. 155 fax. ��(516) 237-2893 email . . . . . . . . . lmartinez@meltzerlippe.com

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Quatela, Hargraves & Chimeri, PLLC

Christopher J. Chimeri, Esq., 888 Veterans Memorial Hwy., Ste. 530 Hauppauge, NY 11788 tel. ��(631) 482-9700 email ��cjc@qhclaw.com web. . . . . . . . . longislandlawyerny.com Personally servicing Long Island's LGBT community for over 25 years and assisting in meeting its diverse and unique legal needs, including family matters, employment issues, and business matters.

Sandra E. Rovira

Attorney at Law West Babylon, NY tel. ��(914) 815-1651 email. . . . . . . . srovira1448@gmail.com web �� longislandwillattorney.weebly.com Lesbian owned law firm specializing in wills, trusts and estates, proudly serving the LGBT community Look for our ad on the previous page

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Last Wills and Testaments and Trusts Estate Administration Business and Contracts Tax Planning Asset Protection Elder Advocacy Not-for-Profit and Religious Corporations Offices on Long Island and in New York City www.cbmslaw.com (516) 931-8100

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Representing Plaintiffs in Medical Malpractice Actions 1 Hollow Lane, Suite 107 • Lake Success, NY 11042 (516) 684-2900 • (718) 567-7177 • (212) 517-9995 Toll Free (866) MED-MAL7 or (866) 633-6257 www.pegalisanderickson.com

Call for a free consult at (516) 684-2900 or (718) 567-7177 We advocate for those suffering from life changing injuries as a result of medical errors. We have helped thousands obtain justice. From those mistreated or misdiagnosed, to children with birth injuries, to adults whose disease diagnosis should have been made earlier.

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Tayne Law Group P.C.

Leslie H. Tayne, Esq. 150 Broadhollow Road, Ste. 213 Melville, NY 11747 tel. ��(631) 470-8204 fax. ��(631) 470-8211 email. . . . . . . . . . . . info@taynelaw.com web ��taynelaw.com Debt Resolution and Bankuptcy Alternatives

AUTOMOTIVE

Porsche Roslyn

Sam Gadkar 22 Mineola Avenue Roslyn Heights, NY 11577 tel. ��(516) 476-0167 email �� sam@porscheroslyn.com web �� samgadkar.com I am proud to serve the Porsche needs for the community to which I belong.

BANKING

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Nardy Honda

Khalid Syed 559 Middle Country Road St. James, NY 11780 tel. ��(631) 724-0300 fax. ��(631) 724-5981 email ��syed@nardyhonda.com web ��nardyhonda.com Stands the test of time Look for our ad on page 8

tel ��(888) 751-9000 web �� tdbank.com America’s most convenient bank Look for our ad on the next page

CATERING

Competition Subaru Smithtown

Vincent Battista 463 Middle Country Road St. James, NY 11780 tel. ��(631) 361-4500 fax. ��(631) 361-4550 email . . . vbattista@competitionsubaru.com email . . . ckelleher@competitionsubaru.com web ��competitionsubaru.com

TD Bank

The BBQ King

Mario Spirou 87 Carlough Road Bohemia, NY 11716 tel �� (866) 800-FOOD(3006) fax ��(631) 589-2918 email �� thebbqking@outlook.com web �� thebarbequeking.com “We do it all, while you have a ball!"

CRUISE & TRAVEL Mediterranean Manor Caterers

Bethpage Federal Credit Union

Robert Suarez, AVP Community Development 899 S. Oyster Bay Road Bethpage, NY 11714 tel ��(516) 349-6826 email. . . . . rsuarez@bethpagefcu.com web �� lovebethpage.com Built to give you more. Look for our ad on page 2

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East Wind Long Island

5720 Route 25A Wading River, NY 11792 tel ��(631) 929-3500 fax ��(631) 929-4975 email. . . . weddings@eastwindlongisland.com web �� eastwindlongisland.com

Long Island Convention & Visitors Bureau & Sports Commission

Janet Clark 330 Motor Parkway, Suite 203 Hauppauge, NY 11788 tel ��(631) 951-3900 email. . . . . jclark@discoverlongisland.com web �� discoverlongisland.com Ocean beaches, wineries, history, more. Free Long Island Travel Guide.

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Mediterranean Manor

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At TD Bank, we’re proud to celebrate the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender community.

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EMPLOYMENT AGENCY

Mickey - Spiritual Reader

tel ��(516) 582-9809 email. . . . mickeyread1953@gmail.com

GIFT SHOP Electrolysis and Full Body Waxing

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Robert Half

Gabrielle Petitto 522 RXR Plaza, 5th Floor Uniondale, NY 11556 tel ��(516) 357-2010 email. . . gabrielle.petitto@officeteam.com web �� roberthalf.com Worldwide Leader in Specialized Consulting & Staffing Services Look for our ad on this page

wit & whim

960 Brush Hollow Road Westbury, NY 11590 tel ��(516) 334-0800 fax ��(516) 333-7991 email �� infotaw@livenation.com web. . . . . . . thetheatreatwestbury.com Long Island’s Best Concert Venue – Comedy, Rock, Pop, Variety

The Paramount

370 New York Avenue Huntington, NY 11743 tel ��(631) 673-7300 email. . . . . . marketing@paramountny.com web �� paramountny.com

ENTERTAINMENT & NIGHTLIFE

6 Carlton Avenue Port Washington, NY 11050 tel ��(516) 944-9200 email ��witandwhim@gmail.com web �� wit-and-whim.com A unique philanthropic gift shop where edgy meets chic & artsy meets affordable Look for our ad on the next page

HEALTH & WELLNESS

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FINANCIAL SERVICES

Drew Patrick Spa

Drew Patrick Allt 128 West Main Street Bay Shore, NY 11706 tel ��(631) 206-3739 email ��info@drewpatrickspa.com web �� drewpatrickspa.com

The Space at Westbury

Bruce Michael - Executive Director 250 Post Avenue Westbury, NY 11590 tel ��(516) 283-5567 email. . . . bruce@thespaceatwestbury.com web ��thespaceatwestbury.com The Space at Westbury is Long Island's state of the art concert hall and special event center, the perfect place to see your favorite stars and to stage your next special event. From corporate meetings to holiday parties, product launches to weddings, we welcome you to make The Space your space, the venue of your dreams.

DJ SpinDetta Music Enterprises Inc.

Dineen Sigona – DJ SpinDetta 2 Cadman Avenue Babylon, NY 11702 tel ��(631) 539-9577 fax ��(888) 725-6449 email �� detta@spindetta.com web ��spindetta.com Spinning from Pride to Radio to Your Party!

Mass Mutual Long Island Metro

Mercedes Delgado 35-16 Bell Boulevard Bayside, NY 11361 tel . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . (718) 819-2933 email. . . . . . . info@reveriespanyc.com web. . . . . . . . . . . . . . reveriespanyc.com Massage, electrolysis, full body waxing, facials; Professional hair removal for the LGBTQIA community. Electrolysis and laser consultations - free of charge. Look for our ad on the next page

Electrolysis

Nelida Papadimitriou Westbury, NY 11590 tel . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . (917) 656-1785 email. . . . . . . . . nelidatwin@gmail.com Electrolysis services for all, specializing in PCOS, Transgender and the entire LGBT community. All services provided in a private one on one setting. Permanent make-up. Over 25 years of experience. Fluent in Spanish.

Laser & Electrolysis Hair Removal

Aleya Located in Great Neck, NY tel . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . (516) 551-8194 web. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . laserbyaleya.com Proudly serving the LGBT community for all hair removal needs. Look for our ad on page 10

Natalia M. Zimnoch 6800 Jericho Turnpike, Suite 202W Syosset, NY 11791 tel ��(631) 579-9469 tel ��(631) 789-1332 email �� nzimnoch@financialguide.com web . . . . . . . . financialguide.com/natalia-zimnoch Catering to the insurance and planning needs of the LGBT community; offices in both Nassau and Suffolk Look for our ad on the next page

Wells Fargo Advisors, LLC

Paul Pitsironis, CMT 888 Veterans Memorial Hwy., Ste 230 Hauppauge, NY 11788 tel ��(631) 382-3807 tel ��(631) 979-3154 email . . . . . . paul.pitsironis@wfadvisors.com web . . . . . . thepminvestmentgroup.com Financial Services - CAR #0415-00029

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Port Jefferson Chiropractic Office, PC

Michael S. Horney, DC, DABCO 416 Route 25A East Setauket, NY 11733 tel . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . (631) 751-7700 fax ��(631) 751-7096 email �� michaelshorney@aol.com web. . . . . . . . . portfeffersonchiropractic.com Chiropractic, hypnosis, weight loss and nutrition. The right path to good health naturally.

Rejuvenna Spa

at O'Bella Salon 555-2 Hallock Avenue Port Jefferson, NY 11776 tel . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . (631) 834-5626 email ��kenneth@rejuvenna.com web ��rejuvenna.com Full service spa serving the LGBT community; skincare, body grooming, male and female waxing, body treatments - all in a private, intimate setting with separate entrance.

HOME SERVICES

Sunation Solar Systems

Tammy Lea, Marketing Director 1217 Montauk Highway Oakdale, NY 11769 tel ��(631) 750-9454 fax ��(631) 750-9455 email. . . . tammy@sunationsolarsystems.com web. . . . . . . sunationsolarsystems.com Solar Panel Installation Look for our ad on the next page

Custom Closets Direct

145 East Merrick Road Freeport, NY 11520 tel ��(516) 223-2232 fax ��(516) 223-2143 email. . . . . curt@customclosetsdirect.com web �� customclosetsdirect.com Custom closets, home offices, entertainment centers, built-ins & more!

Realm Furnishing Design Studio

John Rocco 116 West Main Street Babylon, NY 11702 tel ��(631) 620-3838 fax ��(631) 620-3840 email �� john@realmfurnishing.com web �� realmfurnishing.com Realm - the jewel of Babylon Village - a boutique furniture store, design studio, carpet, and window treatment center - we do it all!

Symmetry Closets

Bill Kahn, Vice President 104G Allen Blvd. Farmingdale, NY 11735 tel ��(631) 608-8999 fax ��(631) 824-9282 email �� bill@symmetryclosets.com web �� symmetryclosets.com By appointment please. LGBT owned & operated. Custom designed & installed just for you.

Teresa's Family Cleaning

341 Route 25A Rocky Point, NY 11778 tel ��(631) 744-4201 fax ��(631) 744-4208 email �� mopheadtfc@aol.com web. . . . . . . teresasfamilycleaning.com How dirty are you?

HOTEL, CATERING, & CONFERENCE

LANDSCAPING Silverleaf Landscaping

Kevin Keyser tel ��(516) 768-6741 email. . . . silverleaf.keyser@gmail.com web �� hamptonssilverleaf.com Landscape Designs – Masonry, Decks, Irrigation, Lighting, Maintenance

MEDIA

Atlantis Banquets & Events

Tony Cotignola 431 East Main Street Riverhead, NY 11901 tel ��(631) 574-8008 fax ��(631) 208-3012 email ��tony.cotignola@hyatt.com web. . . . . atlantisbanquetsandevents.com Located within the Aquarium, a unique setting for your special events.

Danfords Hotel & Marina

Therese Coppola, Director of Sales 25 East Broadway Port Jefferson, NY 11777 tel ��(631) 928-5200 fax ��(631) 928-9082 email �� tcoppola@danfords.com web �� danfords.com

NON-PROFIT

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Nada Marjanovich 1 Terry St., Suite 1 Patchogue, NY 11772 tel ��(631) 289-4315 email ��nada@lipulse.com web ��lipulse.com dining - the arts - lifestyle - business Look for our ad on page 13

Family Residences and Essential Enterprises Inc. Christopher Long, Ed.D. 191 Bethpage-Sweet Hollow Road Old Bethpage, NY 11804 tel ��(516) 870-1648 email ��clong01@familyres.org web ��familyres.org

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HOUSING SERVICES Lake Shore Assisted Living

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William Klein 211 Lake Shore Road Lake Ronkonkoma, NY 11779 tel ��(631) 585-8800 fax ��(631) 585-0716 email �� thelakeshore211@aol.com web �� lakeshoreli.com Long Island's LGBT friendly assisted living community.

INSURANCE

Prudential

Allyson Swidler 530 RXR Plaza, 5th Floor, West Tower Uniondale, NY 11556 tel ��(516) 507-5093 fax ��(516) 357-8891 email. . . . . allyson.swidler@prudential.com web �� prudential.com

Leslie J. Larson M.S., Ed., PD, CAS, LUTCF

576 Broad Hollow Road Melville, NY 11747 tel ��(516) 972-4463 fax ��(516) 221-3729 email. . . . . ljlarson@ft.newyorklife.com web �� leslielarson.com Serving the LGBT community for all Life & Health Insurance Needs.

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LGBT Network

20 Crossways Park Drive N., Ste. 110 Woodbury, NY 11797 tel ��(516) 323-0011 fax ��(516) 750-4715 34 Park Avenue Bay Shore, NY 11706 tel ��(631) 655-2300 fax ��(631) 665-7874 7 Crossway Boulevard Patchogue, NY 11772 Opening Fall/Winter 2016 44 Union Street Sag Harbor, NY 11963 tel ��(631) 899-4950 58-20 Little Neck Parkway Little Neck, NY 11362 tel ��(516) 323-0011 email �� info@lgbtnetwork.org web ��lgbtnetwork.org The LGBT Network is an association of nonprofit organizations, Long Island Gay and Lesbian Youth (LIGALY), Long Island LGBT Community Center (The Center), Services and Advocacy for LGBT Elders - Long Island (SAGELI), & Q Center: Queens LGBT Community Center – serving the LGBT community throughout the lifespan and across Long Island and Queens. For more information, visit page 19

PHYSICIANS & HEALTH SERVICES

New York State Department of Health P.O. Box 2052, Empire Station Albany, NY 12220-0052 tel ��(800) 542-2437 tel ��(518) 459-2749 web. . . . . health.ny.gov/diseases/aids/ general/.resources/adap Helps pay for medications, healthcare, and insurance premiums for HIV-positive New Yorkers with income below $50,765 (higher for families)

IslandCare Pharmacy

John F. Civitello, RN - Principal 1860 Walt Whitman Road, Suite 700 Melville, NY 11747 tel ��(516) 822-6300 email ��johnc@islandcarerx.com web ��islandcarerx.com HIV/HCV/Oncology, Specialty Pharmacy Look for our ad on this page

REAL ESTATE & MORTGAGE Daniel Gale Sotheby’s International Realty

Edie Esposito, Associate Real Estate Broker 364 Plandome Road Manhasset, NY 11030 35-16B Francis Lewis Blvd. Flushing, NY 11358 tel ��(516) 946-8082 fax ��(516) 627-7045 email. . . . . edieesposito@danielgale.com web ��edieesposito.com Helping Sellers & Buyers - Queens, Long Island “North & South Shores”

FCU Holdings

Long Island IVF

8 Corporate Center Drive, Suite 101 Melville, NY 11747 tel ��(631) 752-0606 fax ��(631) 752-0623 email �� lmontello@liivf.com web �� longislandivf.com “Building families every day” Look for our ad on page 14

RELIGIOUS INSTITUTIONS Temple Tikvah

Rabbi Randy Sheinberg 3315 Hillside Avenue New Hyde Park, NY 11040 tel ��(516) 746-1120 fax ��(516) 746-7408 email ��office@templetikvah.org web �� templetikvah.org A liberal reform temple that welcomes the LGBT community

TECHNOLOGY Network Solutions & Technology

Diana Santariello 81 Larkfield Road East Northport, NY 11731 tel ��(877) 678-8080 fax ��(631) 368-1164 email �� dsantariello@nst-li.com web ��nst-li.com Technology Services

THERAPISTS & COUNSELORS Michele A. Cipriano, LCSW-R

538 Route 25A, Suite 5 Rocky Point, NY 11778 tel ��(516) 297-0704 email ��firstbtru2u@optonline.net Hours by appointment, individuals, couples - LGBT

Dennis Damato Psychotherapy

Frank C. Ullman 44 South Bayles Avenue, Suite 210 Port Washington, NY 11050 tel ��(516) 250-6804 email ��fullman@fcuholdings.com web ��fcuholdings.com

Dennis Damato, M.ED, LCSW 221 Woodycrest Drive Holtsville, NY 11742-1714 tel ��(631) 758-0418 fax ��(631) 654-4726 email ��dentomato@hotmail.com

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Treating adults, children, teens, families, and couples

Doris Starr, LCSW

500 Old Country Road, Suite 300 Garden City, NY 11530 tel ��(516) 484-3326 Specialist in Therapy for LGBT People, Couples and Families

Joan Rubinstein, M.D.

60 North Country Road, Suite 205 Port Jefferson, NY 11777 tel ��(631) 331-0974 email ��drjoanr@verizon.net General psychiatry for adults and adolecents: Evaluations, medications and psychotherapy

John Bottone, LMHC

535 Broad Hollow Road, Suite A-14 Melville, NY 11747 tel ��(631) 680-3609 email �� jbottone2@gmail.com Psychotherapy and Counseling for LGBT Individuals and Couples. Trained in Gestalt Therapy and Internal Family Systems Therapy

Long Island Institute of Sex Therapy (LIIST)

Rosara Torrisi, LCSW, MEd, CST 100 Manetto Hill Road, Suite 205 Plainview, NY 11803 tel ��(516) 690-6779 email. . . . rosaratorrisilcsw@gmail.com web. . . . . . . sextherapylongisland.com Individual, relationship, and AASECT Certified sex therapist. Reignite passion, avoid divorce, rebuild intimacy.

Veronica Harkins, LCSW

360 Ira Place Bayport, NY 11705 tel ��(631) 617-4443 email ��vharkins1@optonline.net Psychotherapist helping LGBT individuals & couples with trauma, anxiety, and depression. Look for our ad on this page

Karen A. Petrik, MSW, CASAC

1050 Hallock Avenue Port Jefferson Station, NY 11776 tel ��(631) 235-9140 email �� K.Petrik@yahoo.com Specializing in, but not exclusive to, substance abuse.

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SAGE-LI Health Series: Transgencer (T) 101 Tuesday, Nov. 10th, 1 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury Monday, Nov. 23rd, 1 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore Learn about the "T" in LGBT and how gender identity differs from sexual orientation. Myths and stereotypes about transgender individuals, the negative effects of transphobia and bullying, ways to create safer spaces for transgender individuals, as well as issues facing transgender people, risk factors, supportive factors, and best practices will be discussed. Lunch is provided for attendees! www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

SAGE-LI OUTdoors Trip & Restaurant OUTing: Oheka Castle & Golden Dolphin Friday, Nov. 20th, 12:30 p.m. Oheka Castle 135 West Gate Dr., Huntington Golden Dolphin 365 Main Street, Huntington Oheka Castle (135 West Gate Dr., Huntington) is one of the many Gold Coast mansions that historical Long Island has to offer. Join us for a guided tour of the estate and the formal gardens. Admission is $20 per person and the tour starts at 12:30 pm. Following the tour we are having lunch at the Golden Dolphin (365 Main Street, Huntington) at 2:30pm. The menu varies from $7-$20 with breakfast, lunch, and dinner options. RSVP and payment required by Wednesday, November 18th. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

SAGE-LI Munch & Mingle Monday, Nov. 23rd, 11 a.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore Join us for a very special Mingle with your SAGE-LI family as we gather and enjoy a delicious Thanksgiving lunch. Lunch includes turkey, vegetables, stuffing, and gravy! RSVP with $10 payment required by Thursday, November 19th. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

Ending the Epidemic Regional Meeting Friday, Nov. 13th, 9a.m. -1 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore LGBT Community As part of New York State’s Ending the Thanksgiving Potluck Epidemic initiative, a series of Statewide Saturday, Nov. 21st, 12 p.m. East End: The Hamptons Regional and Borough discussions LGBT Center, 44 Union St., are scheduled to engage community Sag Harbor partners in moving the Ending the Epidemic Blueprint to Action: Receive updated information about HIV/AIDS in your region; Provide input on identified service gaps in your region; Participate in regional discussions about ending the epidemic. The meeting will end with a Call to Action for all participants to be part of the plan to End the AIDS Epidemic by the end of 2020. Please register online at lgbtnetwork.org/ endingtheepidemic. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

Festive Family Potluck Sunday, Nov. 15th, 12 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore

Advisory Board (SAGE-LI) Monday, Dec. 7th, 1-2 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore Tuesday, Dec. 1st 1-2 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury We want to hear your voice! This group provides feedback on current SAGE-LI programming, offers ideas for additional programming, and helps plan future events. All are welcome! www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

Alcoholics Anonymous Tuesdays, 8-9 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore Closed group for all ages. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

Drop-In Health Insurance Enrollment: Wednesdays, 5-8 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore Thursdays, 5-8 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury 1st & 3rd Mondays, 9am -1 pm East End: The Hamptons LGBT Center, 44 Union St., Sag Harbor www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

Drop-In HIV/STD Testing: Wednesdays, 5-8 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore Thursdays, 5-8 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury By Appointment. East End: The Hamptons LGBT Center, 44 Union St., Sag Harbor

Get your favorite holiday dish ready and join us for an afternoon of delicious food, good company, and giving thanks! We encourage you to bring friends, family, and loved ones. RSVP required by Thursday, November 19th, along with the dish you are bringing, to Christopher Polistena at 631.899.4950 Free and confidential testing for HIV, Syphilis, Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, and or cpolistena@lgbtnetwork.org. Hepatitis C. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300 www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR) Wednesday, Nov. 25th,7 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore

Transgender Day of Remembrance Bring a dish and gather around our table (TDOR) memorializes individuals who for a festive celebration of family and have died throughout the world in togetherness. It is a potluck style meal, so the previous year(s) because of antimake sure to let us know what goodies transgender bias and hatred. Annually in you are bringing and we will plan the rest! November, the transgender community, To register, go to family, friends, and loved ones turn their lgbtnetwork.org/familypotluck. attention to those lost to violence and www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300 prejudice. TDOR reminds everyone that we are their sons, daughters, parents, friends, and lovers. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

20 Something 2nd & 4th Fridays, 7:30-9 p.m Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury Discussion and support group for LGBT people in their 20’s. A safe and affirming space to share their experiences. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

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LITE Social and Discussion Group 1st & 3rd Mondays, 7:30-9 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury Wednesdays, 7:30-9 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore 1st, 3rd, 5th Wednesdays are closed. 2nd & 4th Wednesdays are open. 2nd & 4th Thursdays, 6:30-8 p.m.

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1st & 3rd Mondays, 12 - 1 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore

A support group for LGBT and allies living with HIV/AIDS. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

Monday Mingle Mondays, 11 a.m.-1 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore SAGE-LI’s weekly social for LGBT seniors 50+ at The Center at Bay Shore. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

Nassau County Mingle Tuesdays, 11 a.m.-1 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury SAGE-LI’s weekly social for LGBT seniors 50+ at The Center at Woodbury www.lgbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

LIFE in Nassau 2nd Thursday, 7-9 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury LIFE in Nassau meets every second Thursday. Open to adults of all genders and orientations with an interest in BDSM topics.

LIGALY Advisory Board Mondays, 6-8 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore Youth help plan new programs and events at LIGALY. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

admission, transportation available. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

Parent Support Group 1st & 3rd Thursdays, 6-7 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore 1st & 3rd Mondays, 6-7 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury If you workand/or have engag Discussion group for parents of LGBT children. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

TRUE Calling Tuesdays, 6-8 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury

Interactive leadership program promoting sexual health for LGBT young LIGALY is offering a great opportunity for LGBT youth and their friends to show off people. their skills! Sing, act, dance, or perform. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300 www.lgbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

Safe Schools Team Wednesdays, 6-8 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore Youth leadership program for young people committed to creating safer schools on Long Island. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

SAGE-LI Evening Mingle 3rd Wednesday, 7-9 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury

If you workand/or have engagements A closed discussion group for transgender during the day that limit you from people and their friends and family. attending the fabulous SAGE-LI daytime www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300 programming, this is the program for you. All are welcome! Living PositHIVly www.lgbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

OUTlet Hampton Bays Mingle Fridays, 8 p.m.-Midnight 2nd & 4th Thursdays, 3-5 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, Hampton Bays Senior Center, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore 25 Ponquogue Ave., Friday night social program for LGBT Hampton Bays youth and their friends ages 13-21. $2

SAGE-LI’s bi-monthly social for LGBT seniors 50+ on the East End. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

PEP Teams – Suffolk Thursdays, 6-8 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore

SAGE-LI Women at Nassau Wednesdays, 7:30-8:45 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury

(SWAN) A social and discussion group for lesbian, bisexual, & transgender women as well as women questioning their identity. There is no SWAN Wednesday, October 21st. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

Senior Focus Discussion Group Last Monday, 1-2 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore Last Tuesday, 1-2 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury

Women 2 Women Tuesdays, 7:15-8:45 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore W2W is dedicated to providing a safe and supportive space for lesbians age 40+.

You Gotta Believe Mondays, 6-9 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore The Long Island LGBT Community Center has partnered with You Gotta Believe, a non-profit organization that places teenagers into permanent adoptive homes, to provide Adoptive Parent Preparation Classes! If you are interested in participating, please call 631.665.2300. www.lgbtnetwork.org

Youth Group Tuesdays, 5-7 p.m. East End: The Hamptons LGBT Center, 44 Union St., Sag Harbor All East End youth should come check out this new hot LGBT spot. Every Tuesday is a fun interactive youth group: hang out with others in the lounge. You won’t want to miss it! Themes for November include: Game Show Night (11/10); LGBT Movie Night (11/24). www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.899.4950

Part of a monthly series of coed peer-led, issue-focused discussion groups. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

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groundwork that The Bird and The Bee has already laid for itself on songs such as “Young And Dumb,” “Jenny,” “Doctor” and “Will You Dance?” And, yes, we will dance. Wow, what a comeback! On Born in the Echoes (Virgin), its strongest album in more than 10 years, The Chemical Brothers are back to set the record straight about the out-of-control EDM trend that it helped to launch 20 years ago with Exit Planet Dust. Kicking things off with the beat and buzz-driven “Sometimes I Feel So Deserted,” The Chemical Brothers stake their claim with some invited guests. Q-Tip provides the voice for “Go” giving the song its direction, while St. Vincent illuminates “Under Neon Lights.” That’s Cate Le Bon on the title cut and Beck chimes in on the strangely pretty “Wide Open. The deluxe edition contains four bonus tracks, including extended mixes of the distorted track “Reflexion” and “Go,” as well as the psychedelic “Let Us Build A City” and the breathy “Wo Ha.” Attractive Australian brothers Keith and Michael Jeffrey of Atlas Genius made a splash with “Trojans,” a song from its debut disc When It Was Now. The album mixed electronic dance and rock sensibilities for an intriguing result. Inanimate Objects (WB) sticks with a similar formula but is not as immediately agreeable. You have to wait until the second track, “Molecules” (from which the album gets its title), for a measurable burst of energy. Atlas Genius does what it can to maintain the momentum on “Refugees” and “A Perfect End,” but the remainder of the songs are too generic to be memorable. Caitlyn Jenner isn’t the only one who went through a significant name-change and transition this year. Formerly known as Dale Earnhardt Jr. Jr., the duo of Josh Epstein and Daniel Zott have shortened their moniker to JR JR. To further simplify matters, the first album

released on Warner Brothers under the new name is self-titled. As for the 12 songs on the disc, it proves that not even a new name can stifle these guys’ creativity. Opener “As Time Goes” is a timely piece of over-the-top dance pop and “In The Middle” will keep dancers stuck to the (dance)floor as soon as they hear it. “Gone,” story song “Philip The Engineer,” the pleasing “In My Mind (Summertime),” and “Listening To Outkast, June 23, 2013” are all worth mentioning. If you miss the music of duo known as The Civil Wars then you will probably find something to like about mixed-gender Americana/bluegrass duo Mandolin Orange (left) and its new full-length disc Such Jubilee (Yep Roc). The title is a bit of a misnomer because there isn’t much jubilation to be found. That’s not a bad thing, because what is here is, including the domestic bliss of “Settled Down,” “From Now On” and “Daylight,” as well as the powerful antigun violence tune “Blue Ruin,” is quite special. Finally, birds of different feathers take flight on a couple of new releases. Heavy metal is not a genre known for its humor, but thanks to Eagles of Death Metal (hot Josh Homme of Queens of the Stone Age and pal Jesse Hughes) that is no longer the case. On Zipper Down (T-Boy/UMe), featuring 10 originals, including the brilliantly sarcastic “Silverlake (K.S.O.F.M.),” and great cover of Duran Duran’s “Save A Prayer,” Eagles of Death Metal soar. Working again with producer (and music legend) Chris Stamey, North Carolina duo Birds and Arrows (Andrea and Pete Connolly) return with Edge of Everything (birdsandarrows.com) as they prepare to make a new nest for themselves in Tucson, Arizona. In fact, you can hear more Southwest influence than Southeast on this disc in songs such as “Desert Home,” “Trainwreck,” “Wolf,” and “Edgewood.”

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by Jennifer Nyx

Fast food:

It’s fast, but is it really food? Have you ever really taken a close look at a Chicken McNugget? Do you know what it really is? I’m not sure anyone really can say. But I’m going to try. A McNugget is only 50% “chicken” – loosely defined when you consider it’s comprised of pulverized chicken skins and mechanically reclaimed meat, harvested from a processing plant where the chickens have been injected with hormones and raised in cages and don’t even really resemble anything close to a real, live, natural, normal

chicken. So, that’s the chicken part. The other 50% of the nugget is – well – here’s the ingredient list, from the McDonald’s website itself: Ingredients: White Boneless Chicken, Water, Food Starch-Modified, Salt, Seasoning (Autolyzed Yeast Extract, Salt, Wheat Starch, Natural Flavoring [Botanical Source], Safflower Oil, Dextrose, Citric Acid), Sodium Phosphates, Natural Flavor (Botanical Source). Battered and Breaded with: Water, Enriched Flour (Bleached Wheat Flour, Niacin, Reduced Iron, Thiamin

Mononitrate, Riboflavin, Folic Acid), Yellow Corn Flour, Bleached Wheat Flour, Food Starch-Modified, Salt, Leavening (Baking Soda, Sodium Acid Pyrophosphate, Sodium Aluminum Phosphate, Monocalcium Phosphate, Calcium Lactate), Spices, Wheat Starch, Dextrose, Corn Starch. A few questions come to mind – such as, what in the heck are most of these ingredients? Is it supposed to be food? Research on your own some of these ingredients that are difficult to pronounce and you will be surprised as to what you will find out!

Every day, 64 million people eat at McDonald’s. 64 million. Every day. It’s hard to say how many of them order this particular foodstuff, but then, it’s not like the rest of the menu carries the healthy options. There are no healthy options on the menu. It’s all processed stuff that tries to pass for food, laden with chemicals that no sane human being would consciously put in their bodies or the bodies of the ones they love if they really knew what they were consuming. And yet, 64 million of us do it, every day. Fast Food, for some people, are an addiction not unlike cigarettes, heroin, or cocaine. So many efforts over the years have worked with some success to get people to quit smoking. The new campaign includes disturbing photographs on cigarette packs of people who bear the consequences of making that particular choice. The

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point is, to paraphrase one tobacco executive, “to arouse disgust and revulsion for picking up cigarettes.” I wonder if a similar tactic applied to fast food chains would bring about the same result. There should be more outrage about how our society has been schemed into believing this is food. Problem is, the Big Food industry has more power and influence than Big Tobacco ever did. It won’t ever happen. You need to know what’s in the things you put in your mouth. Fast food is simply disgusting. It’s 90% fake food, and the few things on the menu that are real food certainly aren’t healthy and have no place in anyone’s healthy eating plan, no matter what some nutritionists have been paid to claim about fast food restaurants. Eating fast food simply puts you on the fast track to possibilities of disease and decay. It’s simple to walk away from that fast track. If You Cannot Pronounce, Don’t Eat It. There is good news though! Chipotle was the first national restaurant company to disclose the GMO ingredients in their food, and they are the first to cook only with non-GMO ingredients. Have you ever been to a Chipotle? It is always super busy, prices are reasonable and you are eating good clean food. Take Care Of Your Body. It Is The Only Place You Have To Live. ABOUT THE AUTHOR: JENNIFER NYX is a Holistic Health Coach and Personal Trainer dedicated to support her clients with their health goals and empower them to make lasting changes in their behavior and lifestyle. You can find her at nyxwellness.com LIVING OUT

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Saving Money on Auto Insurance

With winter right around the corner, many of us are preparing for the weather ahead. We may be buying clothing for the cold weather and stocking up on hot cocoa, but it’s important for us to also think about getting around in that weather. With that in mind, many of us obtain auto insurance for our vehicles when we first get a new vehicle, but afterwards, we never think to take a second look and review it. Below are some tips on how to save some additional money on your auto insurance:

Choosing the Right Car Before even buying auto insurance, we need a car to cover! If you’re currently in the market for a vehicle, here are some questions to ask yourself: What do you plan on using the car for? Do you need to commute to work, and if you do, how far is the commute? The primary function of the car does make a difference on your insurance rate, as you’d be using it more if you need it to commute to work, and even more if you need to use it to drive a further distance to and from work. In addition to the use of the vehicle, the type of vehicle you are insuring makes a difference on the cost. Fancier, more expensive highperformance vehicles and larger SUVs usually cost more to insure than a less expensive sedan. The difference between the cheapest and most expensive insurance premium could be more than $2,000 annually.

Combining Insurance Policies If you happen to have another type of insurance besides auto insurance, such as homeowner’s insurance, usually combining the policies under one insurance carrier will give you some bundle savings. Another way to potentially save money is if you have multiple vehicles- if you insure them all under the same insurance company there may be potential savings there as well. 40

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Maintain a Good Credit History Having a good credit history is actually beneficial to your insurance premium. Most insurance companies use credit information to price their insurance policies, and your credit history is considered a measure of responsibility. If you have a strong credit history, you’re less likely to file an insurance claim, and thus, your rates tend to be lower. To protect your credit history, be sure to pay our bills on time, don’t take on more credit/ loans than you need, and keep your balances as low as possible.

Check Your Coverage on Older Vehicles If you happen to have an older vehicle, it may not be beneficial to have full insurance coverage when it may be on its last leg. You can potentially save by checking and dropping features you no longer need on your coverage for the vehicle. Usually, comprehension (damages from outside forces such as theft, weather, etc.) and collision (damages from your car hitting something) coverage are the first two things to drop when reviewing coverage on older vehicles.

Raising Your Deductible Raising your deductible on your insurance is something you can consider to help lower your overall insurance costs, but it is important to understand the consequences. If you raise your deductible from a low amount, such as $500, to a higher amount, such as $2,000, you now would have to pay a substantially larger amount in the event you file a claim and/or if you get into an accident. If you raise your deductible, be sure that you have enough savings to handle the amount you’d need to pay if something unfortunate happens with your vehicle.

Check for Unnecessary Add-ons & Discounts A lot of insurance companies may have additional features added into their policy, such as towing, rental insurance (for when you rent a car), roadside assistance, and more. If you do not need these add-ons, you could save some money by cutting them out of your insurance plan. If you are a AAA member, for example, you may already have some of these benefits and could be paying for them on your insurance as well; drop them off your insurance! There are many discounts you can obtain on your insurance. Some include insuring a vehicle with safety features such as daytime running lights, antitheft devices, and more. Other discounts include taking a defensive driving class, having a good driving record, being a long-time customer, and being a college student away from home.

In the end, everyone has different uses for different vehicles they own. Whether it’s for leisure use or for work use, it’s important to have the appropriate coverage on your vehicle so you can save your money!

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by Rev. Irene monroe

My Disappointment with the Pontiff’s Visit Pope Francis continues to send seismic shock waves across the globe, and the rapturous reception he received from his historic sixday US visit gave us a glimpse as to why.

The pontiff, like Jesus, walked among the masses, kissing babies, visiting prisoners and the homeless, speaking out on climate change, poverty, immigrations, church sex abuse, religious liberty, the family and re-tweeting “Black Lives Matter,” to name just a few of his pastoral highlights. The Pope Effect brought throngs of Catholics and admirers out to see him wave to them from his “Popemobile” and to hear him celebrate Mass. And his effect not only brought Republican John Boehner of Ohio to tears, but it also brought Boehner to the realization he should step down as House Speaker. However, for many religious conservatives the Pontiff’s remarks and actions during his visit were viewed as heretical, desecrating century-old church doctrine, and diminishing his authority as the head of the church. But as the Pontiff aptly stated in his 2013 interview “the moral edifice of the church is likely to fall like a house of cards” should the Catholic Church, in this 21st Century, continue on its anti-modernity trek like his predecessor. With that statement I thought Francis was going to reformed, if not reinvent, an out-of-step

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institution, but at the end of his visit the Pope was selling sadly the same product—Catholic orthodoxy. “Nothing more, nothing less,” Francis warning reporters on his trip from Cuba to Washington, DC,. “I may have given the impression of being a little more to the left, but it would not be a correct interpretation.” And he’s right. While Francis gave a well-deserved shoutout of praise to nuns – the backbone and housekeepers of the church – the ecclesiastical doors are still shut to ordaining women priest. Sadly, Francis doesn’t view the ban as a gender bias. When asked why the Pope remarked, “That can’t be done…The Church is female…it’s the spouse of Jesus Christ.” I recall Pope Francis’s remarks when flying home after a weeklong visit to Brazil in 2013 when he was queried about the much talked about “gay lobby” in the Vatican. “If they accept the Lord and have good will, who am I to judge them,” Francis said. This public statement is the most LGBTQ affirming remarks the world has ever heard from the Catholic Church.

But Francis’s words don’t match his actions. The Meeting of Families in Philadelphia included only one

workshop on LGBTQ issues —a panel with a celibate gay Catholic and his mother, and no workshop on LGBTQ families. But his point about LGBTQ families and marriages got across loud and clear during his talk to Congress with his subtle jab at gay marriage: “I cannot hide my concern for the family, which is threatened, perhaps as never before, from within and without. Fundamental relationships are being called into question, as is the very basis of marriage and the family.“ Francis’s trip to Our Lady Queen of Angels School in Harlem was important. The structural racism in the Catholic Church has made it an unwelcoming place of worship. African American Catholics are one of the smallest demographic groups in the church (of the 3 million black Catholics only 250 are priests among 40,000 priests, and only 16 bishops among 434.) Francis visited the Our Lady Queen of Angels School because the church by the same name was forced to close in 2007, and against the resistance, pleadings and prayers of its parishioners. Today the parishioners congregate in the park across from the church to worship. In Francis’s effort to reach out to Latin Americans with the canonization of Junipero Serra,

he opened old wounds with Native Americans. Serra, a Spanish missionary, left a horrific legacy trying to decimate California Native American culture. Letters to stop Serra’s canonization were written to both the Vatican and Francis but these pleas fell on deaf ears. “This letter serves to document the many reasons for our opposition to the canonization of Serra. Serra was the architect of the mission system; he developed the brutal inhumane policies that had no regard for our ancestors…We also requested a meeting with your Holiness to share our knowledge and oral history of Junipero Serra, the California mission system and the continuing impact of our historic trauma that continues within our Tribe today, Valentin Lopez, Chairman of the Amah Mutsun Tribal Band wrote to the Pope Francis. Pope Francis is a complicated, if not confusing pontiff. On the surface Francis displays a pastoral countenance to his papacy that seemingly extends to all. But rather we clearly see the geopolitics of a soft church bureaucrat evangelizing to today’s shrinking American Catholic Church - an institution that is less churched, less married, less white, and less conservative. And his welcoming demeanor is not enough, in my opinion, to bridge the diversity and divisions the American church face. LIVING OUT

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