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Summer is just around the corner, but don’t stress! It is not the end of the world. Instead of trying that new diet all of your friends are trying to get their “beach body” ready; listen to your body: eat intuitively and be active.

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Eating a variety of colorful fruits and vegetables nourishes your body with essential vitamins and minerals. Colorful fruits and vegetables also contain antioxidants which are molecules beneficial to the body in the process of fighting off harmful free radicals. Free radicals are byproducts of oxygen metabolism and can damage living cells resulting in diseases such as cancer, cardiovascular disease, diabetes, and the list goes on.

2. Don’t Take The “Magic” Pill No pill can replace a healthy lifestyle of eating clean and mindfully, and being active. Many weight loss pills also have adverse health effects and use products banned by the FDA that increase heart rate and raise blood pressure. Not to mention that although weight is lost while taking a weight loss pill, taking the pill is temporary and all the weight that was lost during the course of the medication, if not more, is gained back once the individual stops taking it. This just goes to show that unfortunately there is no easy way out and losing weight takes patience and effort.

3. Everything in Moderation Restricting yourself from eating something you want leads to more intense cravings and food binges. Instead, eat everything in moderation. Of course, be aware of serving sizes and keep portion control in mind. But don’t beat yourself up for eating that piece of cake on your sister’s birthday or whatever the situation/occasion!

4. Eat Your Calories, Don’t Drink Them Eating your calories rather than drinking them increases the feeling of being full. The reasoning behind this is that whole foods are bulky and contain fibers which together fill up more space in your stomach. In addition, most beverages such as soda and juices are high in calories with most of the calories coming from sugar. Drinks like artificially flavored fruit beverages and sodas have no nutritional value, and in the U.S., sugar is already consumed in excess and we get sugar from plenty of other sources.

5. Take Your Time It takes about 20 minutes from the time your stomach is full until signals reach your brain making you actually feel full. Slow down while eating and listen to your body to know when you are no longer hungry and to prevent feeling stuffed after eating.

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I think we can safely say that: Winter is NOT coming. It’s time for SUMMER! Finally.

It felt like an extra-long winter this year. Serious cold spells, successive Nor’easters, and a lot of nights with the heat on high. But, now, we’ve made it across the finish line this year. Time to enjoy everything Spring and Summer have to offer. With Memorial Day Weekend just around the corner, start thinking about bringing the grill out of hibernation (although we like to grill during the winter months, too) and getting some good poolside beverage ideas on deck.

Start planning now for how you are going to make it a point to be active this Spring and Summer. Delaware is filled with one-ofa-kind outdoor activities: Flower Market, Point to Point, great trails to Hike, beach-going, and everything in between!

The summer is always special for our family. But this year is going to be extra special: My youngest son, Michael, and his wife, Jonelle, are having their first baby in August – it’s a boy! We are going to be grandparents (names: TBD). We are filled with joy to be welcoming our first two-legged grandbaby in August.

This issue has plenty of fun stuff to get you in the summer mood. Liz Abel from First State Health’s Integrative Center discusses supplements starting on page 12. We have some ideas for Mother’s Day presents since it’s just around the corner – check out Trends on page 20. We’re also prepared to help you find that perfect fitting bathing suit with our annual bathing suit guide which is on page 25. And, of course, we have a great line up of summer recipes for your to try – many are recipes in forthcoming cookbooks! You’ll be the first to serve some unique dishes if you flip to page 28.

Parting thought: Summer is a great time for you to slow it down, enjoy the outdoors, relax with family, and find time to try new things. Enjoy it. It’s fleeting for us in the Northeast and Midatlantic.

—Enjoy & Share Everything! Diane Strauss

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Why do cans and other food storage containers contain toxic BPA that can make us sick?

Is there a way to avoid it?

If you like the occasional can of tomato soup or diced pears, chances are you’re walking around with trace amounts of bisphenol A (BPA) in your bloodstream. According to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), 90 percent of us are walking around with trace amounts of this toxic synthetic chemical—commonly used as a constituent component in the epoxy resins lining the inside of cans, boxes and other food storage containers to prevent corrosion and breakages—in our bloodstreams.

One of a class of so-called “hormone disrupting” or “endocrine mimicking” chemicals, BPA fools the body into thinking it’s the naturally occurring hormone estrogen. The result can be negative effects on brain development, metabolism and the reproductive system. BPA exposure has also been linked to cancer, heart disease and other serious health disorders.

“Evidence suggests the developing fetus and young child are most at risk, but adolescents also appear uniquely vulnerable,” reports the Environmental Working Group (EWG), a leading non-profit research and advocacy group. Of course, the harm isn’t limited to children and teens; adults can suffer the ill effects of a lifetime of bio-accumulated BPA coursing through their veins as well.

According to EWG, we can cut down on the amount of BPA we ingest by steering clear of canned and processed foods and replacing them with fresh, frozen and dried options. Get your tomato soup from the hot prepared foods section of your local natural foods market or, better yet, make it yourself from scratch from organic ingredients. And instead of buying diced pears in a can, buy a real pear and dice it up yourself.

“For those who cannot avoid foods in BPA-lined cans, rinsing the food in water may help lower the level of BPA in the food,” reports EWG, adding that rinsing cuts back on other unhealthy additives—such as sodium on beans or sweet syrup on fruit—as well. EWG also warns never to heat up food directly in a can: “Transfer it to a stainless-steel pot or pan for stovetop cooking, or microwave in glass – not plastic.”

If you’re not sure whether your favorite foods are at risk of containing BPA, you can search EWG’s Food Scores database to find out, and also to look for safer alternatives that don’t contain hormone disruptors.

The U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) banned BPA in baby bottles, sippy cups and infant formula packaging, but the vast majority of us are still at risk. Environmental and health advocates are calling on the agency to ban BPA outright from any packaging materials that come into contact with foods, drinks or water, but so far officials don’t seem inclined to take the now ubiquitous chemical off the market completely.

In 2014 and again in 2016, Democrats in Congress floated legislation that would have banned BPA and other potentially dangerous food additives in all food storage containers, but neither bill ever made it out of committee.

Without any help from the government, then, it’s up to us to wean ourselves off of BPA by making smart choices about what we buy and what we eat.

CONTACTS: CDC Bisphenol A Fact Sheet, www.cdc.gov/biomonitoring/BisphenolA_FactSheet.html; EWG’s Food Scores, www.ewg.org/foodscores.

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Is there a potential toxic danger from particle board purchased 30 years ago used to construct my bedroom furniture?

Sadly, much of the furniture we enjoy every day is “off-gassing” toxins into the air, especially if it’s made out of particle board, which traditionally relies on formaldehyde—a colorless, flammable, strong-smelling chemical and known respiratory irritant and carcinogen—to bond the wood chips and other filler together. If you’ve had the furniture for many years, the good news is that most or all of the formaldehyde fumes have long off-gassed out. Of course, the bad news is that you’ve likely been breathing it in for years.

“New particleboard presents the biggest health concern, making installation of new materials the most dangerous,” reports DoItYourself.com. “As the material ages, any formaldehyde gas emissions are reduced, but cutting it can release toxic dust into the air.”

Formaldehyde isn’t something to mess with. According to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control & Prevention (CDC), its exposure can make you sick, with symptoms including sore throat, cough, scratchy eyes and nosebleeds. And it’s been linked to an increased risk of allergies and asthma in children.

The U.S. Agency for Toxic Substances and Disease Registry (ATSDR) adds that “chronic exposure to formaldehyde may also cause general damage to the central nervous system, such as increased prevalence of headache, depression, mood changes, insomnia, irritability, attention deficit, and impairment of dexterity, memory and equilibrium.”

Furthermore, the American Cancer Society reports that exposure to formaldehyde—classified by the federal government as a “known human carcinogen” since 2011—has caused cancer in laboratory

test animals, and that humans exposed to relatively high amounts of formaldehyde in medical and occupational settings are at greater risk for cancers of the nose and throat, among others.

“Scientific research has not yet shown that a certain level of formaldehyde exposure causes cancer,” reports CDC. “However, the higher the level and the longer the exposure, the greater the chance of getting cancer.” CDC researchers also worry that exposure to formaldehyde “might increase the chance of getting cancer even at levels too low to cause symptoms.”

One precaution is to apply sealant designed to lock in potentially harmful fumes (AFM Safecoat’s Safe Seal is one). Or to just make the problem go away, maybe it’s time for new, greener furniture anyway. Avoid the formaldehyde trap and look for products made out of solid wood, no resin required.

Keep an eye out for products made with sustainable alternatives to particle board, like Uniboard’s woodchip-based NU Green Zero, Environ’s newsprint and soy waste Biocomposite, and Pfleiderer’s renewable wheat straw PrimeBoard. These greener choices are bound with a polyurethane base free of formaldehyde and are popping up increasingly in the Targets and Walmarts of the world for those willing to read labels and ask questions in the quest to find the greenest versions of what’s available.

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Listed below you'll find basic steps to responsible dog ownership, and many of them are just common-sense rules of the road.

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1. Selecting Your Dog – Turn to a local animal shelter or rescue operation to select a puppy or dog. Remember that older dogs need loving owners too. Refuse to purchase a puppy or dog that started life in a puppy mill.

2. Test Your Dog – Contact a veterinarian and ask him to run the usual series of tests on your new companion.

3. Spay or Neuter Your Dog – Responsible pet owners always spay and neuter their dogs and cats. There are far more dogs waiting for adoption than there are owners to adopt them.

4. Provide Medical Care – Aside from the annual physical examination and vaccinations, protect your dog from heartworm, ticks and fleas.

Talk with your vet about the many options available today. Contact your vet at the first sign that something is wrong with your dog.

5. Provide Adequate Food and Water – Provide food suited to your dog's age, size and condition.

6. Walk Your Dog – Your dog will let you know when it needs to be walked.

Responsible Dog Ownership With all the companionship and love that our dogs give so freely, it’s hard to imagine that some owners just don’t take responsibility for their dogs.

But it’s true. Millions of dogs—healthy dogs—are euthanized every year. Whether through owner neglect or owner ignorance, millions of healthy dogs will endure the same fate this year. So what’s a responsible dog owner to do? The best thing you can do, as a dog owner, is to ensure that your dog doesn’t become a statistic, and you do that through responsible pet ownership.

Welcoming a new dog into your house means taking on additional long-term responsibility. Many new dog owners find something cute or romantic about bringing that puppy in the window home until they realize that there’s a modicum of work involved in caring for that cute, adorable little face, and a price to pay for those wet, slobbering kisses.

You wouldn’t expect to return a baby. Its’ no less wrong to return a dog when the novelty wears off, and it ought to be criminal to leave a dog somewhere on its own. In many ways, dogs are as vulnerable as newborn infants are, but dogs are dependent upon their owners for their entire lives.

7. Provide Exercise and Recreation – Provide ample space, dog toys and opportunity for your pet to exercise. If you haven't thrown a Frisbee in twenty years, you'll be surprised at how much fun it is to try to outsmart your dog—unlikely!

8. Protect Your Dog from Abuse – Animal cruelty is serious business, and in some states, it's a felony. Even the FBI acknowledged that animal cruelty is a known marker (future indicator) of violence against humans.

If anyone in your house intentionally mistreats your dog, seek help immediately. You could thwart the next school shooting.

9. Discourage Aggressive Behavior – You'll know the difference be-

tween hearty play and aggressive behavior. Contact your vet at the first sign of aggressive behavior to discuss your options.

10. Coping with Serious Illness and Geriatric Dogs –Geriatric dogs are prone to many of the same illnesses that plague geriatric humans. You'll want to do everything in your power to keep your dog comfortable at the end, but at some point, it may become necessary to end the suffering. If you've been a responsible dog owner throughout the dog's life, you'll want to end that life just as responsibly as you cared for it.

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Supplements: Worth the Money?

Liz Abel, LDN, CNS, MS, MA

I worked in the pharmaceutical industry for ten years, and I learned a lot about quality assurance and regulation during this time. Did you know that the supplement industry is not regulated? This is a pretty scary concept, considering it was a $36.1 billion dollar industry in 2017(1).

Does it surprise you when you see sensational headlines that suggest you are pouring your money down the drain, or that what you think you are buying really isn’t what you are getting?

Let me share a few pieces of information that I believe are critical in your decision of if you should take supplements.

I believe supplements should be targeted, short-term and for a specific purpose. In every intake, I ask clients two questions, “why do you take it?” and “what effect does it have for you?” If you can’t answer these questions, and/or the effect is non-existent, I propose you stop taking the supplement (unless recommended by your physician).

Look at the ingredients in your supplements. If they contain dyes, throw them away. This is a cosmetic tactic and could potentially be harmful as many people have delayed reactions and hypersensitivity to dyes.

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probably you’ll find more dyes, too). Sugar is a neurotoxin and is limited to 40 grams, or 10 teaspoons, a day for people without any blood sugar or weight trouble. Some gummies are 10 percent of the daily maximum allowed dose.

Did you know that many vitamins and minerals work synergistically together? When you are low in vitamin D, dosing vitamin D alone is only part of the story. It loves vitamin K2, Calcium and Magnesium.

Understanding what ratios to take can be daunting indeed.

Did you know there are many different “forms” of Calcium? Magnesium?

B12? Just to name a few. Each form has different properties. Here’s an example of why it’s important to be educated on what “form” you need: If you want to try Magnesium at night because you heard it might help you sleep better, you need a different formula if you tend to be constipated 3 or 4 days a week versus someone who has daily bowel movements or even tends to have loose bowel movements. Magnesium has many effects on the body and understanding the totality of this can inform the right choice for you.

Most inferior products use inexpensive ingredients that the body cannot convert into usable substances. Here’s an example: Vitamin B6 is important for energy. Many individuals have trouble methylating.

That means, they need the methylated version of B6 (because the body cannot do it alone). If you keep pouring non-methylated Vitamin B6 into the body, nothing is going to change and you are literally peeing

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your money away. However, if you are an individual that has trouble methylating and you take a supplement with pyridoxal-5’-phosphat and pyridoxine HCl (the methylated version of Vitamin B6), your world might just change in a few days with increased energy.

And the probiotics…which always feel like an expensive trial. The reality is we’re still learning a lot about probiotics and the gut microbiome.

There are now really fun at-home test kits to assess your gut microbiota.

This is super cool, especially if you love data and learning about yourself.

The gap is in the answer to the question, “so what?” Here’s the truth: we don’t actually know what bacteria should be in your gut. These tests are literally naval gazing! Here’s what we do know about probiotics: most probiotics are often destroyed by our stomach acid, so we need a superior delivery system. Most probiotics are cultured in dairy, which many people have sensitivity to, so we need a soil-based culture. Most probiotics are a combo of a bunch of different strains, yet there is actual research that suggests if you tend to be constipated, you may benefit from a particular strain versus someone who tends to have loose bowel movements multiple times a day may benefit from a different strain.

Understanding these nuances will get you closer to finding the best probiotic for your symptoms.

In sum, I don’t want you to waste your money. If you have found supplements that work for you or have been advised to take by your doctor, please continue them. If you want some help targeting what you might need, please call us so we can arrange a time to discuss your individual concerns. Until then, continue to educate yourself. I know you’re reading labels and comparing and contrasting. Continue your good investigative work!

Retail sales of vitamins & nutritional supplements in the United States from 2000 to 2017 (in billion U.S. dollars). (n.d.). Retrieved April 12, 2018 from The Statistics Portal at www.statista.com

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Women’s Wellness: Reducing Appearance Of Cellulite

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DEAR MAYO CLINIC: Is dry brushing effective for getting rid of cellulite? What about creams with caffeine? Is there anything else that works? I’m willing to try anything to make the cellulite on my thighs less noticeable, other than going under the knife. But I don’t want to waste money on things that don’t work.

ANSWER: You’re smart to be wary about claims that certain creams or other products will get rid of cellulite. There’s no way to completely eliminate cellulite. Some treatments are available that may reduce its appearance, though. To achieve the best results, work with a reputable health care provider to decide which therapies may be right for you.

Cellulite is lumpy, dimpled flesh that most often develops on the thighs, hips and buttocks. When skin is affected by cellulite, it’s sometimes referred to as having an orange peel or cottage cheese appearance.

Cellulite forms just below the skin when fibrous connective cords that tether the skin to the underlying muscle break, stretch or pull down, while fat cells accumulate and push up against the skin.

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The reason some people develop cellulite and others do not isn’t clear.

Women are much more likely than men to have cellulite, and it tends to run in families, so genetics may play a role. Cellulite is more common in people who are overweight and in older adults.

Cellulite doesn’t pose any health risks, and it doesn’t need to be treated.

But, if the appearance of cellulite bothers you, there are a few therapies that may help.

A procedure that doesn’t involve surgery called cryolipolysis has been approved by the U.S. Food and Drug Administration to reduce the appearance of cellulite. It uses cold therapy to freeze the lipids in fat cells, causing the cells to die. Not everyone sees benefits from this treatment. In those who do, it usually requires several treatments, and it can take three to four months to receive the best results.

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Another nonsurgical approach to treating cellulite uses lasers and radiofrequency systems.

These systems improve cellulite after a series of treatments. The results are not permanent, however, typically lasting no longer than about six months. New treatments involving lasers are being developed, and they may offer better longterm results.

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You mention that you don’t want to have surgery, but some people try liposuction to treat cellulite.

During liposuction, a surgeon inserts a narrow tube under the skin and suctions out fat cells.

Though liposuction can be used to shape the areas of the body affected by cellulite, liposuction won’t remove cellulite. And it needs to be used carefully in people who have cellulite because, in some cases, it may actually make the appearance of cellulite more noticeable. Laser-assisted liposuction — a newer form of treatment that destroys fat cells while tightening the skin — might be more effective for cellulite, but more study is needed.

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You can take some self-care steps that may make cellulite less noticeable. For example, weight loss and exercise keep your muscles toned and make dimpled skin less obvious. That said, if the skin is stretched, weakened or lays a particular way on the muscle after weight loss — including after bariatric surgery or delivery of a baby — the cellulite can be just as noticeable, which can be frustrating after working so hard to lose weight.

Palate: Well-balanced acidity with notes of red raspberry and strawberry and fine persistent perlage

Not smoking and eating a diet centered around fruits, vegetables, whole grains and fiber can improve the appearance of your skin overall.

Living.Well Mionetto Gran Rosé No over-the-counter remedy has been shown to be effective in treating cellulite. That includes creams marketed to cure cellulite that have ingredients such as caffeine, antioxidants and herbal supplements. You need to be cautious about using these creams, too, because they may contain products that could trigger a rash or other skin reaction. Dry brushing, massage and skin wraps don’t work as cellulite treatments either.

Frozen Strawberry Margarita 1 ounce Don Julio Tequila 1 ounce Chambord The juice from 1/2 fresh lime Juice 1/2 cup Fresh Strawberry Puree or a Strawberry Daiquiri / Margarita Mix 1/4 cup Ruffino Rose Sparkling Wine (If you prefer it sweeter add either more chambord or triple sec)

Source: Mayo Clinic News Network If you want to pursue treatment for cellulite, make an appointment to see a board-certified dermatologist or plastic surgeon. He or she can assess your situation and work with you to decide on the most appropriate approach. — Dawn Davis, M.D., Dermatology, Mayo Clinic, Rochester, Minnesota

4 to 5 Ice cubes (add more if you want it more like a water ice consistency) Combine all ingredients in blender, except sparkling wine. Add ice and blend. Pour into glass and top with Ruffino Rosé.

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Colorful Caladiums Brighten Shade Gardens All Season

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Tuck them into the garden, pop some in a container or dress up a window box. Then water as needed, add a bit of fertilizer and wait for the color explosion.

The showy heart-shaped leaves of caladiums come in combinations of pink, red, white and green. These heat-loving plants provide beautiful color all season long. Best of all, no deadheading is needed.

Caladiums can be used to create a stunning garden almost anywhere around your home.

These tropical beauties grow well in full to partial shade, and some varieties grow equally well in full sun. Choose varieties that will provide the color, size and look you want to achieve, and that match the light conditions in your yard.

Compact caladiums, such as lime and dark pink Miss Muffet, grow about 12” tall and are perfect for lining a pathway, edging a flowerbed or dressing up a container. Florida Sweetheart’s bright, rose-pink leaves have ruffled green edges, and Gingerland has creamy white leaves that are decorated with splashes of green and red. All of these miniature varieties combine nicely with larger caladiums and elephant ears.

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big splash of color in a garden bed or container.

Combine caladiums with shade-loving annuals like begonias, coleus, and mildew-resistant impatiens or other summer bulbs like cannas and elephant ears. Visit Longfield Gardens (longfield-gardens.com) for a bit of inspiration and container design ideas. You’ll find simple combinations that provide big impact on a deck, patio or entryway.

When planting caladiums directly into the garden, wait until at least two weeks after all danger of frost has passed. Nights should be warm, and the soil temperature should be at least 65 degrees F. Prepare the soil before planting. Add compost or other organic matter to improve drainage in clay soil and the moisture-holding ability in fast draining soils.

Plant tubers about six inches apart and two inches below the soil surface. Water thoroughly and often enough to keep the soil moist, but not soggy.

Those gardening in cooler climates may want to start the tubers indoors for an earlier show outdoors. Plant indoors four to six weeks before moving them into the garden. Set the tubers near the surface of a shallow container filled with a well-drained potting mix. Grow them in a warm sunny spot indoors, keeping the soil barely moist. Move outdoors once the danger of frost has passed and the soil has warmed. www.livingwellmagazine.net

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As the summer temperature rises, watch your caladiums shine while many other flowers fade in the summer heat and humidity. Continue to water as needed and fertilize throughout the summer to encourage new growth.

Those gardening in zones nine through eleven can leave their caladiums in place year-round.

Others can either treat these colorful beauties as annuals or dig up the tubers and overwinter them indoors. Dig tubers in early fall when soil temperatures drop to 55 degrees. Spread them out in a warm, dry location for at least a week. Label each variety, remove the foliage and place tubers in a mesh bag or pack loosely in dry peat moss. Store in a cool, dark location at around 60 degrees.

Make this the year you add caladiums for beautiful splashes of color throughout your landscape all season long.

Gardening expert, TV/radio host, author & columnist Melinda Myers has more than 30 years of horticulture experience and has written over 20 gardening books, including Can’t Miss Small Space Gardening and the Midwest Gardener’s Handbook She hosts The Great Courses “How to Grow Anything” DVD series and the nationally syndicated Melinda’s Garden Moment segments. Myers is also a columnist and contributing editor for Birds & Blooms magazine. Myers’ web site, www.melindamyers.com, offers gardening videos and tips.

The science of floating is based in a concept known as REST (Restricted Environmental Stimulus Therapy). Floating triggers a deep state of relaxation, much more than during typical sleep. The body is able to access Theta brainwaves, a state not typically reached during a normal sleep cycle. This allows the body to gain nearly 4 times the rest in the same amount of time. Floating initiates a parasympathic response, giving the central nervous system a break from external stimuli that continually bombard our brains.

Float Therapy: Float Therapy, or Floating, was invented by American neuro-scientist, Dr. John Lilly, in the 1950s. Dr. Lilly was fascinated by the “conscious activity” of the brain, and discovered that during float therapy, people experienced a “freeing of the physical world”, which then made the mind, in a sense, limitless.

Lilly discovered that if people were submerged in water, both the mind and body reached a relaxed state. After two decades of tinkering, Epsom salt water was found to provide an even more enjoyable experience, allowing the person to float freely, weightless, while providing tremendous therapeutic effects on the body.

Once called Isolation or Sensory Deprivation Tanks, the original tanks were constructed as pine wood boxes and filled with salt water.

As you can imagine, floating has advanced significantly since the 1950s, as scientists have studied modifications to light, temperature, and sound, all of which add to the experience.

Now, with colored LED lights, water warmed to the exact temperature of your skin, and soft meditation music, we think of floating more as Sensory Enhancement. Modern tanks are egg/pod shaped, much like an oversized bathtub with a lid (that you are welcome to leave open if you’d like). Despite being founded in the United States, for years, floating has been much more popular in Europe, and just recently catching on in the US. www.livingwellmagazine.net

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Floating is great for anyone with musculoskeletal and rheumatic issues, sinus and allergy problems, and chronic pain. Or, if you are a busy mom like me, it’s an hour to close the lid and shut out the world for a little while. Research continues to discover more health benefits from floating, such as depression, anxiety, and PTSD. While we, of course, encourage you to check with your doctor with questions, floating is also safe during pregnancy. In fact, many women come in during their last trimester just to provide their body with some relief and, yes, float on their backs!

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The Epsom salt combined with the cozy environment of the tank have many known health benefits.

Not only does it promote a deep relaxation and meditative state, but it helps with circulation, promotes wound healing, improves skin, boost the immune system, helps the respiratory system, and provides relief to joints and muscles. Floating also reduces inflammation while allowing the body a way to naturally detox.

References: http://www.floatyaletown.com/how-it-all-started/ http://www.thefloatcenter.com/history.html

Dr. Cheryl McClea, Co-owner Aspire Wellness, LLC, Doctor of Education, MS Exercise Science, MBA, ACE Health Coach, NASM Certified Personal Trainer & Behavior Change Specialist, Member of the Medical Fitness Network, AAAI Certified Stress Reduction, Relaxation & Meditation Instructor, Reiki and ThetaHealing Practitioner.

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Mind Training Changes: The Way You Experience Life Have you ever felt so blind sided by some event that you dropped into a chasm of despair?

If the answer is no, I’d really like to interview you. Suffering disappointments starts early for most of us and puncture our good time bubbles or disrupt an okay status quo. That’s life, right? We learn to develop thick skins, roll with the punches, repress emotions, distract from pain with substances and activities adding no real value to our quality of life. Life may become flat line numbness, torpor. It may become a drama roller coaster: episodes of sufferingbased reactivity alternate with periods of relief. When your life’s ledger does not show a preponderance of satisfaction/fulfillment, you may be ready to consider how you are experiencing life.

Dismantle Conditioned Patterns Attention is used to dismantle habituated conditioned patterns that obscure presence. McLeod gives some examples: “conventional notions of success and failure, reactive emotional patterns, passivity, an inability to open to others, and misperceptions about the nature of being.

Dismantling these is not a smooth process. Things don’t unfold in a neat progression. Attention is the one principle on which we can always rely. We meet every problem encountered in practice (and there will be many) in the same way: do the practice and bring attention to what arises in experience….

Attention Raises Energy

Reactive Patterns Create Suffering “The purpose of [mind training] practice is to move out of the reactive patterns that create suffering,” states Ken McLeod, who directs Unfettered Mind, a Buddhist program in L.A. where the Times declared his book “an invaluable guide for anyone serious about developing a meditation practice.” (WAKE UP TO YOUR LIFE; Discovering the Buddhist Path of Attention, HarperSanFrancisco, 2001.)

See Things as They Are McLeod announces, “In these pages, you will find no descriptions of alternative states of mind, different realities, or marvelous mystical states. I will not recommend that you retire to a monastery, give up your job, or make other radical changes in the form of your life. Instead you will find practical tools with which to change the way you experience life…. Remember, the point is to see things as they are, not as you would like them to be.”

Inner Work Instills Understanding Learning to live in the present, McLeod explains is inner work that “instills a deep understanding that expresses itself in life….To glimpse what is ultimately true is not difficult, but to stabilize that understanding takes years of effort.” Along the way we discover and dismantle internal patterns that prevent us from being present in our lives. As presence increases, suffering decreases.

Active Attention Is the Key “The essential tool is attention—not the weak, unstable reactive attention that is part of our autonomic functioning, but the strong, stable volitional attention cultivated in such disciplines as meditation,” he says.

“Active attention, composed of mindfulness and awareness, is the key.

Attention, in this sense, is not intellectual or physical. It is energy, the same kind of energy that powers emotions.”

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“Attention acts on the wall of habituated patterns in the same way the energy of sunlight acts on a block of ice. Heat from the sun raises the level of energy in the water molecules until they can no longer remain in the compact crystalline structure of ice. The crystal breaks up, and ice melts into water. In the same way, attention penetrates habituated patterns and raises the level of energy so that the patterns have to break up. The energy locked up in the patterns is released and is used to power attention to higher levels. Step by step, attention increases in energy,” writes McLeod, [to fuel] “the vitality and immediacy of lived experiences.”

Experience Breathing Develop attention skills with seated practice 2x/d for 10-20 minutes by focusing on your own breath. Direct your attention to your nostrils and the sensation of the air coming in and going out. After a few breaths, move your attention to include your chest expanding and releasing for a few more breaths. Silently recite, “I am breathing in” during the inhale and “one, one, one…” for the duration of the exhale, followed by “I am breathing in” then exhaling with a string of twos. Next round is threes on the exhale. Fourth round it’s fours. The fifth round starts with fours on the exhale as you recite your way back to ones. After that string of ones, “I am breathing in,” then begin another cycle with ones.

Activate Attention Daily Further strengthen attention during simple daily activities like walking or washing dishes or the car. Observe where you lose attention and fall into reaction. McLeod affirms that this enlivens the work of inner transformation. “What happens, for instance, when another driver slips into a parking spot in a crowded mall just as you are about to back into it? Can you observe the arising of your reaction as the movement of mind, or do you jump out of your car and let the other person have it?”

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See More Clearly McLeod continues, “The practice of attention and the operation of habituated patterns are incompatible. As we practice attention, we see more and more clearly the conditioning that runs our lives…creates difficulties and suffering for everyone, including us. At first we are not able to change our behavior, but continued work in cultivating attention eventually opens up the possibility of acting differently.”

Discover Ideal Responses The benefits of practicing attention are cumulative. “One day, instead of reacting to a situation, we see another possibility and do it. Everything changes. With this first cut into a pattern of reactive behavior, we realize we can live and function in the world without relying on conditioned behaviors and the self-images underlying them. We can live in attention.

Now, as soon as we are aware that habituated patterns are operating, we use attention to cut through them and then do what the situation requires….We are able to act in ways that serve the reality of the situations we encounter in life….When an action comes from attention and presence it is always the ideal action,” says McLeod.

Open Possibilities for Others I can attest to having a few such experiences. They are happening more frequently. Breakthroughs recur. New breakthroughs gain momentum.

But the big wowie, zowie payoff from consistent practice is, “Every moment in which you are present opens the possibility of presence in those around you.” Now THAT’S something to look forward to. Oops, another opportunity to practice presence. I am breathing in….

Karen Verna Carlson, N.D., Ph.D. (Hon.) is a naturopathic physician and professor credited with “the first major breakthrough in Swedish Massage—research demonstrating energetic interconnections”—since Peter Ling systemized it in the early 19th century. After 35 years running her own nationally accredited school of holistic healing and massage she has retired to provide a new kind of holistic care for individuals and families. In addition to her specialties of healing massage and bodywork, she provides sensitive, timeand cost-effective services for home or office, family members and staff, that include diverse holistic problem solving for garden, pets, children and elders.

She has received international recognition for holistic healing and educational work, an honorary degree, silver medal, and Who’s Who listing. She’s appeared on TV and radio and has been featured in professional publications and mass media. kvc@livingwellmagazine.net Phone (302) 777-3964 www.livingwellmagazine.net

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Your Inner Alchemist

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Last month I wrote about Love as a potent alchemical force to create the kind of fundamental, deeply fulfilling change we long for on our journeys of personal transformation.

If you haven’t yet read it, I hope you will; it provides a helpful background perspective for what I’m offering this month.

How This Inner Alchemy Works The key elements of this process express several distinct aspects of Self-Love, which has become the foundation of all my work: Self-honoring Self-responsibility Self-validation

The alchemy of Love is not a mere concept but an actual means through which we can effect change. It’s particularly helpful and relevant in the realm of emotion. Through this alchemy, we can learn to harness the power of strong negative emotion and direct it toward the life-enhancing experiences we want, rather than suppressing it or projecting it on others.

Alchemy, or transmutation, is the changing of one state of being into an entirely different state of being. On the journey of personal transformation, we can learn to transmute the expressed quality of anger, which significantly diminishes our quality of life, into one of empowerment.

That’s because anger is, essentially, creative life-force energy that has been distorted or transmuted by fear. And the good news is, it can be transmuted back again.

Fear transmutes our powerful, creative life-force energy into anger.

Love transmutes anger back to its pure, powerful essence: creative life-force energy.

Love is the most potent alchemical force in the universe, perhaps the only one. It changes everything. But as I wrote last month, this potent alchemy cannot be realized simply by thinking about it or talking about it. It has to be intentionally directed by our minds, guided by our hearts and experienced in our bodies.

In last month’s column I shared with you a mind-blowing, life-altering experience I had as a sophomore at the Barbara Brennan School of Healing (BBSH), during which I directly experienced the transmutation of rage into joy. It was, to put it mildly, incredible.

Over the years I have reflected and meditated deeply on the experience, and I’ve experimented with re-enacting it on my own. I have also shared my insights and experiments with clients, and over time I’ve developed a basic process through which anger can be harnessed in a healthy, lifeenhancing way.

As promised last month, I’ll share it with you here. And although I’ll describe it in a linear, step-by-step way, I hope you’ll read this with a relaxed mind and an open heart, allowing your inner wisdom to guide you toward the alchemical core of it.

Here is the basic process with respect to harnessing anger: When anger surfaces, triggered by thoughts about or experiences with someone else, take a deep breath and fully acknowledge it. “I feel angry!”

You are honoring yourself by acknowledging your emotion rather than judging it, dismissing it, trivializing it or suppressing it.

Shift your focus from whomever or whatever made you angry to your own heart. Keep breathing evenly and deeply. Place one hand on your heart and intend for your heart to open. Say silently or aloud, “In Love and through Love I gather my power to me.”

Keep repeating it as a mantra with your breath, rhythmically and powerfully. Stay with it until the emotion has crested and begins to subside.

Another effective mantra to use, especially when the emotion is particularly strong and Love seems out of reach, is this: “This energy is FOR ME.” Or simply, “This is FOR ME.” If space and privacy permit, embody this declaration by using your right hand and arm to make counterclockwise circular movements as you repeat the mantra.

You are taking responsibility for the power of your emotional energy by gathering it to yourself rather than projecting it on someone else.

When the strong emotion has subsided, ground yourself and see if you can identify the quality that seemed to be missing from the experience that triggered your anger in the first place. Perhaps someone ignored you or otherwise diminished you and you felt disrespected. The missing quality is respect. Say to yourself silently or aloud, with quiet conviction, something such as, “I am worthy of respect.” Say it until you feel an inner shift, perhaps a sense of relief or spaciousness or even peacefulness.

You are validating yourself.

In this example, as you continue to strengthen and stabilize the vibration of self-respect within you, you naturally begin to think and speak about yourself with more respect. And you vibrationally invite others to treat you with more respect, as well. The power of your own emotional energy, aligned with self-respect, naturally shifts your experiences toward what you want.

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The three steps I’ve described can’t always be done in the moment the emotion is triggered, but a modified version of them can be done internally in just a few seconds. As soon as you feel the negative emotion arise, ground yourself by focusing on the soles of your feet as you acknowledge your feeling. Shift your focus to your heart, then slow and deepen your breathing as you say to yourself silently, “In Love and through Love I gather my power to me” or “This energy is FOR ME” or more simply, “This is FOR ME.” Give yourself whatever time you need before responding, or excuse yourself and go to a place where you can be alone, even if it’s the restroom. Finish the practice there.

You can also do this alchemical practice later, when you have time and space and privacy. Take just a moment to recall the experience until the emotion is triggered again, then go through the steps. Speaking out loud generally creates a more powerful experience than speaking silently to yourself, so practice using your voice.

Stay Focused and the Magic Can Flow I have personally enacted this alchemical process during moments of explosive anger and moments of mild frustration, and I’ve taught it to many of my clients. It works.

And when I say it “works,” what I mean is that it transmutes anger into a sense of peaceful empowerment and, with it, the ability to both think more clearly and feel your intuitive guidance more strongly. From there your responses are more respectful and creative. They are constructive rather than destructive.

Another possible and wonderful outcome of this practice is that the other person makes a shift that is more loving, fair or peaceful without you having to say or do anything else. I’ve experienced that many times.

And it can happen because, interconnected as we all are energetically and given the Law of Attraction, the shift in your energy, if it’s stable enough, can influence a shift in theirs.

Note that I used the word influence, not manipulate or control! Please don’t take this on with the specific goal of changing the other person; that isn’t yours to do. And in truth, if you think you need the other person to change in order for you to be okay, then you’re still disconnected from your own power.

Energy follows attention. When you focus on someone else in anger, you project that anger – your life-force energy – to them. When you focus on your heart as anger arises, you gather your emotional energy to you and, with an open heart, transmute it back to the creative life-force energy it truly is.

Like most things that are worth doing, this takes practice. You don’t need to be perfect at it. In fact, your simple willingness to practice – and your intention to harness your own anger in service of what you want, rather than using it to oppose what you don’t want – are more than enough to begin the alchemical process of reclaiming your heart-centered and creative personal power.

And from that more empowered place of peace and clarity, you can better understand, accept and appreciate some essential things: People who act in ways that are hurtful to others are, in those moments, disconnected from Love and from their own sense of creative, lifeenhancing personal power.

Angrily pushing against those people, or any conditions we don’t want, disconnects us from Love, too. It draws us into a fear-based game of volleying blame back and forth, where no one wins and everyone loses.

Anger that has been transmuted back to its essential nature as our creative life-force energy is a potent force for creating the positive change we desire.

This alchemical practice I’ve evolved from that long-ago experience at BBSH is just one way of embracing and embodying your intention to be a positive force for change in your life and in our world. I hope you’ll experiment with it. My clients and I have experienced welcome shifts in perspective and surprisingly positive outcomes when we use it.

As with any technique, of course, its real power is in the love and sincerity with which you infuse it. And I know you’ve got a heart full of that. Direct it toward what you want and see what kind of magic you can create.

Never doubt the potent alchemy of your own great Love to change the world.

Take it on with the intention to change yourself – to come into alignment with the best of who you are – and let Infinite Intelligence orchestrate the specifics of the resulting change in this attraction-based universe.

Perhaps the most challenging step in the process is shifting your focus from whoever triggered your anger to your heart. It’s very tempting to make this all about the other person, to keep feeding your anger with reasons why he or she is wrong.

And yet, inflaming the anger and projecting it outward, which initially feels satisfying, is ultimately depleting because you’re literally giving your power away. Be very committed about this step! It doesn’t have to be hard; just focus gently on your heart while the strong feelings are coursing through you.

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Suzanne Eder is an award-winning writer, teacher and transformational life coach. She started her professional career as a CPA and enjoyed a highly successful corporate career in both Finance and Human Resources. She is a graduate of the Barbara Brennan School of Healing’s intensive four-year program in mindbody-spirit healing, and was also a fitness instructor for 16 years.

She founded Solid Ground Transformational Life Coaching in 2003 to help others awaken to their magnificence and create lives that light them up. Her first book, 10 Ways To Find Peace Rather Than Panic (When The World Has Gone A Little Crazy), earned a full 5-star rating on Amazon. Through her writing, retreats, classes and private mentoring she offers inspired and practical counsel in all areas related to personal growth and transformation. Suzanne can be reached at see@ mysolidground.com or 302-888-2138.

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Full Bust Support is a priority. Flatter or minimize with dark backgrounds, higher underarm and side coverage.

Choosing A Swim Suit That Suits Your Body

Short Torso If you want a shorter torso to appear longer, vertical stripes or a continuous solid color insets will work.

Small Bust Enhance a small bust with ruffles, gathers, prints and bright colors and of course padding and or push-up.

Full Hips & Thighs Downplay these areas by choosing suits with dark panels or angled stripes that run just above the hips to the bottom of the suit.

The Mid-Section Minimize with dark backgrounds and diagonal stripes that are good about diverting attention from the midriff.

Tummy control panels are another good solution.

Behind it all A Longer Torso Add curves to a straight, long torso with designs that accent the waist. This can be done with horizontal stripes, a belt or a sash.

Halter Not a good look for someone with broad shoulders.

Sraight Back A straight high back will cover most love-handles, a give a very nice smooth flattering look.

Legs: More or Less

Lower Back A lower scoop back really requires no love handles.

It can also help give the appearance of a longer torso.

Skirted The suit of choice for those looking for the absolute most coverage.

Whether this particular style is in style or not for this summer, consider it anyway, because it is too flattering to ignore.

High-Cut A higher cut leg can help give you the appearance of a longer, slimmer leg.

Moderate This leg can help give you the appearance of a longer, slimmer leg without being as drastic as the high-cut leg.

It has a more conservative look and offers a bit more coverage.

Mid-Scoop The mid-scoop back can offer some extra coverage, allowing just a bit of the back to remain open.

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What Is a Food Allergy?

Are chicken eggs good or bad for my cholesterol ?

A food allergy is an immune system reaction that occurs soon after eating a certain food. Even a tiny amount of the allergycausing food can trigger signs and symptoms such as digestive problems, hives or swollen airways. In some people, a food allergy can cause severe symptoms or even a life-threatening reaction known as anaphylaxis.

Food allergy affects an estimated 6 to 8 percent of children under age 3 and up to 3 percent of adults. While there’s no cure, some children outgrow their food allergy as they get older.

Researchers estimate that up to 15 million Americans have food allergies, including 5.9 million children under age 18. That’s 1 in 13 children.

More than 170 foods have been reported to cause allergic reactions.

Eight major food allergens – milk, egg, peanut, tree nuts, wheat, soy, fish and crustacean shellfish – are responsible for most of the serious food allergy reactions

Chicken eggs are high in cholesterol, but the effect of egg consumption on blood cholesterol is minimal when compared with the effect of trans fats and saturated fats.

The risk of heart disease may be more closely tied to the foods that accompany the eggs in a traditional American breakfast — such as the sodium in the bacon, sausages and ham, and the saturated fat or oils with trans fats used to fry the eggs and the hash browns.

Most healthy people can eat up to seven eggs a week with no increase in their risk of heart disease. Some studies have shown that this level of egg consumption may actually prevent some types of strokes.

But the story may be different for people who have diabetes. In this ever-growing population, some research shows eating seven eggs a week significantly increases the risk of heart disease. Other studies have shown that egg consumption does not affect heart disease risk factors. More research is needed to prove the association between egg consumption and developing heart disease in people with diabetes.

Dietary Guidelines for Americans recommends eating only 100 to 300 milligrams (mg) of cholesterol a day depending on your caloric level.

According to the U.S. Department of Agriculture, one large egg has about 186 mg of cholesterol — all of which is found in the yolk.

If you like eggs but don’t want the extra cholesterol, use only the egg whites. Egg whites contain no cholesterol. You may also use cholesterolfree egg substitutes, which are made with egg whites. mayo.org

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For some people, an allergic reaction to a particular food may be uncomfortable but not severe. For other people, an allergic food reaction can be frightening and even life-threatening.

Food allergy symptoms usually develop within a few minutes to two hours after eating the offending food.

The most common food allergy signs and symptoms include: Tingling or itching in the mouth Hives, itching or eczema Swelling of the lips, face, tongue and throat or other parts of the body Wheezing, nasal congestion or trouble breathing Abdominal pain, diarrhea, nausea or vomiting Dizziness, lightheadedness or fainting Food allergies are on the rise. the prevalence of peanut or tree nut allergy appears to have more than tripled in U.S. children.

The majority of food allergies are triggered by certain proteins in: Shellfish, such as shrimp, lobster and crab Peanuts Tree nuts, such as walnuts and pecans Fish In children, food allergies are commonly triggered by proteins in: Peanuts Tree nuts Eggs Cow’s milk Wheat Soy May 2018

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GRILL BASKET HALIBUT WITH MAPLE TERIYAKI

Here’s a New England riff on a Japanese favorite: teriyaki sweetened with maple syrup. You might think that the fish will stick to the grill grate. It won’t. You might think that the sugar in the maple syrup will burn. It will—but just enough to impart a sweet-smoky caramel crust to the fish. Teriyaki comes from the Japanese words teri, meaning “luster” or “shine,” and yaki, meaning “grilled.” Rarely do four simple ingredients deliver such a big dividend of flavor.

INGREDIENTS For the marinade

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1/2 cup soy sauce or tamari (a high-quality soy sauce brewed exclusively from soy beans)

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1/2 cup sweet rice wine (mirin), sake, or white wine 1/2 cup pure maple syrup 1/2 cup Asian (dark) sesame oil

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1 scallion, trimmed, white part smashed (reserve the green part, thinly sliced on the diagonal, for serving)

Drawing on a combination of classic and boldly contemporary techniques, are 100 inspired recipes that capture the full range of what grillers want to cook today. Consider your basic steak. Raichlen starts with the iconic—Tbone grilled over direct heat, smartly tattooed with grill marks and lavished, the way the pros do it, with sizzling beef fat. Then he teaches a technique new to most of us— reverse-searing, which allows you to grill a monster steak, like a beef tomahawk, to perfection while also imparting a haunting smoky flavor. Of course, there’s a Caveman Sirloin—meat seared right on the coals, as dramatic as grilling gets. Plus here’s how to blow-torch a veal chop.

Spit-roast whole cauliflower on a rotisserie. Grill mussels in hay, squash on a salt slab, salmon steaks on a shovel over a campfire.

Vegetable oil for oiling the grill grate

From breakfast (Bacon and Egg Quesadilla) to cocktails (Grilled Sangria), from veggies (Caveman Cabbage and Smoke-Roasted Carrots) to dessert (Grilled “Piña Colada” and Cedar Planked Pears with Amaretti and Marscapone), Project Fire offers a radically righteous new take on live-fire cooking from the man who reinvented modern American grilling.

Excerpted from Project Fire: Cutting-Edge Techniques and Sizzling Recipes from the Caveman Porterhouse to Salt Slab Brownie S'Mores by Steven Raichlen (Workman Publishing). Copyright © 2018. Photographs by Matthew Benson."

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For the fish 1 1/2 to 2 pounds fresh halibut, cut into 4 even pieces Cooking oil spray for the grill basket

1. Make the marinade/sauce: Combine the soy sauce, mirin, maple syrup, sesame oil, and scallion white in a saucepan and whisk to mix.

2. Arrange the halibut in a baking dish just large enough to hold it. Pour the marinade over the halibut, turning it a few times to coat well. Marinate the fish, covered, in the refrigerator for 1 to 2 hours, turning two or three times.

3. Drain the halibut well, pouring the marinade back into the saucepan. Place the fish pieces in a grill basket that you’ve oiled well with oil spray.

4. Boil the marinade over high heat until syrupy and reduced by about one third, whisking often. You should have about 1¼ cups. Set this glaze aside for serving.

5. Set up your grill for direct grilling and heat to high. Brush or scrape the grill grate clean and oil it well. Lay the grill basket with the fish in it on the grate and grill the halibut until sizzling and browned on the outside and cooked through, 3 to 5 minutes per side. After 3 minutes, start basting the fish with some of the teriyaki glaze. Baste several times. 6. Carefully open the grill basket and transfer the fish to a platter or plates. Reboil the remaining glaze, whisk well, then strain it over the fish. Sprinkle with the scallion greens and serve. FYI, our food stylist, Nora Singley, likes to serve the halibut with grilled scallions.

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YIELD: Serves 4 METHOD: Direct grilling PREP TIME: 10 minutes, plus 1 to 2 hours for marinating GRILLING TIME: 6 to 10 minutes GRILL/GEAR: Can be grilled over charcoal, wood, or gas. You also need a hinged grill basket and oil spray.

SHOP: Halibut is a semi-firm white fish with a mild sweet flavor. And it’s one of the rare wild fish you find on both the East and West Coasts. Can’t find halibut in your area? Teriyaki goes equally well with salmon, bluefish, and bass.

You’ll need to know about a couple of special ingredients for this dish. Asian sesame oil—pressed from roasted sesame seeds—has an alluring nutty flavor. One good brand is Kadoya from Japan. Mirin is Japanese sweet rice wine—you can substitute sake or white wine plus a little extra maple syrup.

INSIDER TIP: So how do you grill a delicate stick-prone fish, like halibut, without leaving half of it stuck to the grill grate? One solution— used by grill masters in Europe and Central Asia—is to cook it in a grill basket. The beauty of this method? You turn the basket, not the fish. www.livingwellmagazine.net

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PORK LOIN “REUBEN”

RUSSIAN DRESSING Yield: Makes 1 1/2 cups Sure, you could buy commercial Russian dressing, but it’s easy to make your own. The advantage: less sugar and fewer chemical additives.

INGREDIENTS 1 cup mayonnaise, preferably Hellmann’s or Best Foods 1/3 cup chili sauce or ketchup 1/4 cup sweet pickle relish Place the mayonnaise, chili sauce, and pickle relish in a bowl and whisk to mix. Cover and refrigerate until using; it will keep for at least 3 days in the refrigerator.

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PORK LOIN “REUBEN” The pork loin is one of those blank canvas meat cuts—mild tasting and a great foil for whatever big-flavored ingredients with which you choose to stuff it. Notice I said “stuff”: Thanks to its clean cylindrical shape and lack of bones, a loin is easy to butterfly and stuff. It’s also lean, so I like to wrap it in bacon to keep the outside moist. The following pork loin channels a Reuben sandwich, and I think you’ll find the pastrami, Swiss cheese, and sauerkraut stuffing as delectable as it is unexpected.

INGREDIENTS 1 center-cut pork loin (about 3 pounds) Coarse salt (sea or kosher) and freshly ground black pepper 3 tablespoons Dijon mustard 6 ounces lean pastrami, thinly sliced 1 cup sauerkraut (not canned), drained well and wrung dry 6 ounces Gruyère cheese, thinly sliced 3 tablespoons chopped fresh chives 4 strips artisanal bacon, like Nueske’s Vegetable oil for oiling the grill grate Russian Dressing

YIELD: Serves 6 to 8 METHOD: Indirect grilling PREP TIME: 20 minutes GRILLING TIME: 1 to 1 1/2 hours GRILL/GEAR: Can be grilled over charcoal or gas. You also need butcher’s string and an instant-read thermometer.

SHOP: Here, too, an heirloom pork variety, like Berkshire, Duroc, or Red Wattle, will reward you with an uncommon depth of flavor. One good source for heirloom pork is 1. Butterfly the pork loin: Place the pork loin on a cutting board. Using a long, slender, sharp knife, Heritage Foods USA. There cut the loin almost in half lengthwise through one side, but not all the way through. Leave both sides are some wonderful new attached. Open up the loin as you would a book. Lay a sheet of plastic wrap on top and pound the artisanal sauerkrauts that meat with the side of a cleaver to flatten it slightly. Season the inside with salt and pepper and spread are traditionally fermented with mustard. in small batches. Check your 2. Arrange the pastrami over one side of the pork loin, followed by the sauerkraut and cheese slices. local farmers’ market.

Sprinkle with chives. Fold the roast back together (like closing a book).

INSIDER TIP: Unlike a pork 3. Position four 12-inch pieces of butcher’s string on your work surface so that the strings are parallel shoulder, which you can cook and roughly 2 inches apart. Lay a bacon strip across the strings so that it runs perpendicular to and in half to death so it will shred, the center of them. Set the pork loin on top of the bacon so that the bacon runs down the length of you want to cook a pork the pork. Place a second bacon strip on top of the loin. Press the remaining 2 strips against the long loin to temperature: 145°F sides of the loin. Bring the end strings and then the middle strings over the roast and tie it back into if you like it with a blush of a tight cylinder with the bacon strips in place. Breathe a sigh of relief: The hard part is over. The pork pink (don’t worry: the USDA loin can be stuffed to this stage several hours ahead, covered, and refrigerated. now says it’s safe); 155°F if 4. Set up the grill for indirect grilling and heat to medium. Brush or scrape the grill grate clean and oil you like your pork cooked it well. through. Use an instant-read 5. When ready to cook, place the pork roast on the hot grate, over the drip pan and away from the thermometer to guide you. heat, and cover the grill. Cook the roast until cooked through, 1 to 1 1/2 hours. To test for doneness, insert an instant-read thermometer into the center of the meat; the internal temperature should be about 150°F. Transfer the cooked roast to a cutting board and let it rest for a few minutes, then remove and discard the strings. Cut the pork loin crosswise into 1/2-inch-thick slices and serve with the Russian Dressing.

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Tie the pork loin into a tight roll with butcher’s string.

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THAI GRILLED KALE How did we live without kale? Once the province of Italian and Portuguese cooks (who boiled it in soups and stews), kale has become the “it” veggie of the millennials. We consume it by the ton in chips, salads, rice bowls, and even smoothies. So it was only a matter of time until kale hit the grill. At first glance, this broad leafy vegetable would seem like an odd candidate. You’d think the leaves would wilt or burn. They don’t. Instead, the high dry heat of the grill delivers a smoky char and potato chip crispness. Think barbecue health food loaded with calcium, potassium, B vitamins, and fiber.

And don’t think of firing up your grill without trying it.

INGREDIENTS 2 bunches dinosaur kale (12 to 16 ounces in all) 2 tablespoons Asian (dark) sesame oil or vegetable oil 2 tablespoons soy sauce or Asian fish sauce 1 clove garlic or a small shallot, peeled and minced 3 tablespoons sesame seeds or chopped peanuts Hot red pepper flakes, to taste Vegetable oil for oiling the grill grate

Yield: Serves 3 to 4 Method: Direct grilling Prep time: 10 minutes Grilling Time: 6 to 10 minutes Grill/Gear: Can be grilled over charcoal, wood, or gas. You also need a vegetable grid or grill basket (optional) if grilling small kale leaves.

Shop: Kale comes in many varieties, including the common curly and red Russian varieties. All are good grilled, but my favorite is dinosaur kale (aka cavolo nero, lacinato kale, and black kale), recognizable by its long, slender, dark blue-green crinkly leaves and sweet earthy flavor. This is the easiest kind of kale to clean and grill. Note: Kale becomes sweeter after the first frost, so this is one vegetable that’s great for grilling in autumn or winter.

Insider tip: Kale stems are noticeably more fibrous and chewy than the leaves—especially in curly varieties. Remove them following the directions in Step 1. When grilling small kale leaves (like red kale), place them in a grill basket.

Arrange larger leaves directly on the grate.

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1. Wash the kale and spin it dry in a salad spinner or shake it dry. Lay a leaf on a cutting board and, making an elongated V-shaped cut, remove the thick part of the stem. (You can leave the tender part of the stem near the top intact.) Repeat with the remaining leaves— you may not need to stem the tender inner leaves. Blot off any excess water with paper towels.

2. Combine the sesame oil, soy sauce, and garlic in a small bowl and mix with a fork. Lightly brush each kale leaf on both sides with this mixture using a pastry brush. Sprinkle the kale on both sides with sesame seeds and hot red pepper flakes.

3. Set up your grill for direct grilling and heat to medium-high. Brush or scrape the grill grate clean and oil it well.

4. Arrange the kale leaves in a single layer on the grate, working in several batches as needed. If the kale leaves are small, you can grill them on a vegetable grid or in a grill basket (page 14). Grill the kale until browned and crisp, 3 to 5 minutes per side, turning with tongs. Transfer to a platter and serve. I like to eat grilled kale with my fingers. It’s messy—it’s supposed to be, so provide napkins. The kale should be sufficiently salty from the soy sauce, but don’t hesitate to add salt if you want to.

HANDS ON HEALTH by: Ann Wilkinson P.T.M.S,

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It is important to strengthen the vastus medialis. It is important to very specifically train it to track properly so as not to pinch that tissue between the kneecap and the lower leg bone, the tibia. Ask your therapist how do I strengthen the vastus medialis?

cells to discharge toxic substances is critical. Very good hydration and eating plenty of antioxidant rich food is essential for cellular recovery.

Satisfying the bodies needs concerning proper nutrition reduces cravings of all sorts. Homeopathic remedies are an essential adjunct in that a constitutional remedy helps to align the body in a way to reduce the emotional and mental distractions. Enough symptoms can be alleviated to help the body work to be received better. Meditation and breathing techniques are ways to combat feelings of depression, aloneness and boredom. Gentle stretching and gentle bodywork with manual traction and lengthening techniques are most helpful for muscle tightness and pain. Manual lymphatic drainage, sauna and moderate exercise such as hiking, swimming, and therapeutic horse back riding all positively affect the lymphatic mechanism as well nature has its own inherent healing affects. Moving lymph speeds up the detoxification process. Keeping the body aligned and grounded during this very unsettling time improves chances of success. The education you get from your bodyworker, allows one to take back ownership. The body gets forgotten in the using phases of this journey. Improving body awareness and self care is very beneficial in the restoration of the relationship between the body, mind and soul. One must be aware and responsible for the health of their own body. The osteopathic bodyworker reminds you to be more present and knowledgeable. Increasing confidence in yourself in this phase of this healing journey is key. There are many natural ways to support you on this journey back to yourself, back to Wholeness.

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The 7-Year Itch Dr. Dianna Palimere

The “7-year itch” is a psychological concept used to describe the phenomenon in which couples report experiencing a significant decrease in the level of happiness and satisfaction at or around the seventh year of their relationship. Furthermore, according to the U.S. Census Bureau’s data, the average length of first marriages that end in divorce is seven years. More recent research has shown that, in fact, more married couples who get divorced tend to do it around the fourth year (the mode duration) and that divorce after seven years is the average (the mean duration). While studying the predictors of change in marital quality, Lawrence Kurdek’s research provided evidence of two “dips” in marriage satisfaction, the first at four years and the second at seven years. Whether it’s a four-year itch or a seven-year itch, experts who have studied this phenomenon lack a consensus for why this happens for so many couples.

Anthropologists, such as Helen Fisher, have looked for possible biological explanations. In her 1992 research, which gathered data from 58 different human societies, she found that when married couples got divorced, it tended to be around the fourth year and typically after having a single child. Fisher compared this data to the mating patterns of mammals that pair bond for the purposes of reproduction and stay together throughout the rearing of offspring. She notes: “Although some species of birds and mammals bond for life, more often they stay together only long enough to rear their young through infancy and early toddlerhood.” Her explanation is that humans tend to stay together only long enough for their child to be fully weaned off of breastmilk, able to walk and talk, become potty-trained, and become less and less reliant on their parent’s for survival.

Economist Robert Frank offers a different possibility in his book Passions within Reason: The Strategic Role of the Emotions. Frank describes the “commitment problem” as being primary reason a couple stays together or separate. The commitment problem occurs when “the costs of being in a relationship outweigh the benefits for one of the partners.” In addition, he theorizes that “love is an irrational force that makes people want to be together, no matter what the circumstances are, no matter how bad the cost-benefit ratios are.” And he concludes: “Relationships motivated by irrational love are more successful than those motivated by material self-interest or exchange and cooperation.” Given that for most couples, the “crazy in love” stage of the relationship tends to only last the first six months to two years of the relationship, there seems to be a gap between when that might naturally fade and the four-to-seven year marks (when we’re seeing couples separate). Obviously, there is an issue with commitment, but it seems there is more to it than “irrational love” as being what ultimately makes or breaks a relationship.

Australian early 20th century philosopher and teacher Rudolf Steiner created a theory of human development based on seven-year cycles and linked those cycles with astrology. He explains that every seven years, our “body, soul and spirit” go through a new developmental stage. While fascinating, I can’t give the descriptions of each stage here. However, as an example, Thomas Armstrong gives a brief summary of Steiner’s life stages, describing the seventh 7-year segment of one’s life, age 42-49, as “associated with Mars when the soul works hard to impress the full forces of its personality upon the world. At this time, the soul has the opportunity to attain higher state of consciousness, called Spirit Self.”

(See Armstrong’s full article for a summary of all of the stages at institute4learning.com).

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In a Huffpost article, Jennifer Nagy gives a modern view of the stages.

While not addressing the astrological aspect of Steiner’s theory, nor the more mystical aspects, her interpretation of Steiner’s Life Stages, as they relate to marriage and divorce, seems quite logical. She explains, “According to his theories, humans experience changes physically and mentally every seven years. It makes some sense that if we experience large changes in personal growth, experience, knowledge and goals every seven years, that these changes will make a marriage less stable and increase the probability of divorce.”

Human change must certainly be at the center of why so many relationships seem to have a four-to-seven year shelf life. In fact, consciously or not, we are all constantly changing! Scientifically speaking, we know that most of the cells in our body die and regenerate over various periods of time. For example, each hair on our head is replaced every two to seven years. As each hair falls out, it’s replaced with a new hair. Our skin is completely renewed every few weeks and, every ten years, we have a new skeleton, as special cells breakdown old bone, while others rebuild new bone. We are literally changing throughout our lifetime. In fact, there are only three parts of the body that aren’t completely replaced by cell regeneration: “About half of your heart stays with you from birth to death because those cells are replaced very slowly. Certain parts of your brain add a few new neurons over the course of your life, but the vast majority of your neurons developed before you were born. But the connections between those nerves—the circuits that store memories—those are constantly changing. And there’s one more part of you that lasts your whole life: Months before you were born, a little cluster of cells stretched and filled themselves with transparent protein as you grew, even after birth, more and more fibers were added but the center endured. This is your [eyes] lens; the window through which you are [reading this article] right now and its core has remained the same since the moment you first opened your eyes” (Adam Cole, NPR, 2016).

is what our eye doctor tests to see if we have 20/20 vision. If you don’t, you have a “refractive error.” A refractive error means that the light is not bending properly when it passes through the lens of your eye. In other words, we’re not seeing things properly or as other people may see them. In a relationship, this is our perception—how we perceive one another. Certainly, if we perceive our partner as loving, kind, supportive, appreciative, affectionate, etc., we are more likely to want to remain in partnership with them, right? But it’s elasticity that is the final key to bringing this all together. Elasticity is being adaptive, flexible and resilient. Being adaptable keeps us open to hearing new ideas and trying new things. Resiliency is our ability to recover from or adjust easily to change. Perhaps remaining in a relationship becomes untenable when it begins to lack transparency, refraction, and elasticity. That’s my theory, anyway…

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So, we only have one part of the body that remains cellularly the same from birth until death. This seems oddly important. In a study of the cellular and molecular mechanism of lens development, researchers offer their definition of our ocular lens. “The lens, which is characterized by transparency, refraction and elasticity, is composed of a bulk mass of fiber cells attached to a sheet of lens epithelium” (Cvekl & AsheryPadan, 2014). And it’s through this window that we experience the world around us—including our partner.

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And I believe that it is these three characteristics that will determine how well our relationships withstand the tests of time. If we think about transparency as being clear, as in communicating clearly, openly and honestly with one another; that is definitely a requirement. Refraction

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When the Chiropractor Hurts His Back

To conclude, I had a traumatic subluxation caused by a heroic attempt to save a well hit volleyball. This caused great pain and dysfunction.

Instead of treating the pain, spasms and inflammation, I chose to have my spinal and pelvic bones gently realigned by my chiropractor. I started to feel better immediately. My condition never needed to go into a compensated state. I was pain-free in a few days, functioning normally and back to life as usual.

Dr. Scott E. Rosenthal

After a long and cold winter, spring break finally arrived and I headed to the Caribbean with the family. Our itinerary consisted primarily of lounging on the beach, sipping variations of coconut drinks and playing beach volleyball.

Despite the pain of waking up at 4 a.m. to catch an early flight, I felt fantastic and ready to go.

Days went by and all was going as planned. I was serving strong, hitting and enjoying the occasional dive on the sand.

On Thursday, my family was joined by others at the net to play four-on-four for about two hours. Reaching for a hard-hit ball, I felt a tiny pull in my lower back and hip area on the right. It lasted less than a minute and I thought little more of it.

I hope that my pain can help you understand what needs to be done to end yours. When bones misalign, the only long term solution is to have a chiropractor adjust them back into place. There is no pill, cream, stretch or exercise that can do this. Give me a call—I guarantee that when I say I understand what you are going through, I MEAN IT!

The next morning I was extremely tight and could barely get out of bed. Jolts of pain shot through my lower back with every movement.

This was the real deal. I had a sports injury that caused acute low back and pelvic pain—something I see in the office every day. I was not at all happy about gaining this first-hand experience, nor did I appreciate the irony.

With the help of my wife (a gifted massage therapist), I was able to get out of bed and slowly move. Our last day of vacation came to a painful close and we left the next morning. I needed help getting my shoes on and my wife became the designated suitcase lifter.

It was a few days before I was able to see one of my chiropractor friends.

Once adjusted, the unrelenting pain immediately began to subside. I felt as if a vice had loosened, relieving a massive pressure. I could stand and walk easier. The next day I had a second adjustment and felt even better. After my third adjustment over a four-day period, the pain was reduced by 70 percent.

I would like to explain why this chiropractor is grateful to also be a chiropractic patient. Acute low back pain is often thought of as a condition that simply resolves in time and does not require intervention beyond pain medication. Like the thousands of patients with acute back pain that I have helped over my 25 years in practice, I had several severe subluxations (the chiropractic term for misalignments of the joints of the spine and pelvis). Medications are unable to realign the bones. It’s a physical condition requiring a physical solution. After all, you don’t fix the tire alignment on your car with a chemical!

The danger of drugs in this scenario goes far beyond the many side effects that may occur. They make you believe that your pain is the problem and not a symptom (alarm signal that something is wrong). In time, your body will compensate and the alarm will shut off. The drugs will no longer be needed, but you will likely be left with underlying imbalances (subluxations) that have been compensated for internally with changes in posture and muscle and connective tissue tension. It’s like having a pebble in one shoe. It causes pain which drugs can mask until you learn to walk more on the other leg and build up a callus to protect your foot against the stone.

The change in mechanics required by the compensation of an unresolved physical issue comes with a price. Beyond abnormal wear patterns that contribute to accelerated arthritic degeneration (such as narrowing of the disc spaces and build-up of calcified bony spurs), you are left with a ticking time bomb that will one day explode into a severe back pain episode. Think of your car again— continued driving with misaligned tires will cause extreme tire wear and a potentially devastating blow-out.

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Dr. Scott E. Rosenthal is a second-generation Doctor of Chiropractic and a past president of the Delaware Chiropractic Society. He graduated with honors from Life University in 1993. Dr. Rosenthal has an undergraduate degree in nutrition and he is a Registered Yoga Teacher. Dr. Rosenthal is an expert in the field of health and wellness and a member of the Delaware Chiropractic Society, American Chiropractic Association and International Chiropractic Pediatric Association. He practices state-of-the-art care with modern forms of chiropractic and is the first to offer the Koren Specific Technique and Biotensegrity Restoration Technique in Delaware. Also offered are chiropractic pediatric and prenatal techniques (including Webster Technique certification). Dr. Rosenthal practices in Wilmington, Delaware where he took over his father’s practice which was founded in 1965.

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