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IS YOUR COMPUTER WRECKING YOUR LOVE LIFE? A SURVIVOR STORY

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Uneventful, yes, this month’s deadline was in fact uneventful for a change. With one big exception, letting Calvin in from outside, back outside ,in again and out again —about 20+ times during the day. Sure enough once Calvin has settled down it’s time for Millie to go out. Dogs chasing cats and cats chasing dogs… gotta love deadline. But minus anything earth shattering we do seem to survive deadline each month. October is packed with great articles. I don’t know about you but my allergies are terrible, check out p17, also read about Tiffany a young breast cancer survivor p14. Don’t forget the JDRF Walk see p7 for details, but before you do, read Amelia’s story on page 13. Don’t stop looking for Valentino, this month we are back to giveaways, so you better get started! Be sure to check out, Not Just Pretty in Pink in theshopbydesign for beautiful things with just a touch of “pink” and a lot of love; some of these companies are donating a portion of the sale of these items and addtional items not shown, to benefit different Breast Advertising Inquiries: Cancer organizations, in honor of Breast Cancer Survivor Month. Super Brian Strauss -Publisher fun recipe on page 42 for a cheese ball that looks like a pumkin...perfect Sales@livingwellmagazine.net for Halloween! Oh don’t forget our huge jammed pack Holiday Gift Guide 302-355-0929 coming next month, you may want to wait to see all the great new gifts ideas we found! Lita Latham - Account Executive Lita@livingwellmagazine.net

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False Sense of Food Safety? First-Ever Overview of Inconsistent and Poorly Regulated ”Dating Game” Across All 50 States; New Standardized Labeling Plan to be Outlined.

Antibiotics used on Organic Apples & Pears? Most of us thought that antibiotics weren’t allowed in certified organic foods? That’s mostly true, with one important exception: Organic farmers are allowed to spray apple and pear trees with antibiotics, in order to prevent a bacterial disease called fire blight. But in 2011, concerned about the impact on human health associated with the overuse of antibiotics, the National Organic Standards Board (NOSB) informed organic apple and pear growers that antibiotics would no longer be allowed to be used after October 21, 2014. Now, due to pressure from the organic apple and pear industry, the NOSB is considering pushing back that date until 2016. It’s a shocker,I know to discover that antibiotic use in organic apple and pear orchards is routine. In fact, tetracycline has been on the national list of synthetic production materials allowed in organic farming since the mid-’90s. Even so, antibiotic use in fruit production has largely gone unnoticed by the public, until now. With more focus on the larger issue of antibiotics in animal production—which accounts for nearly 80 percent of the antibiotics sold every year in the U.S. Fire blight is caused by the bacterium Erwinia amylovora. It kills the shoots of apples, pears, and some ornamental trees, giving them the appearance of having been scorched by fire. The two antibiotics used to prevent fire blight are streptomycin and tetracycline. source:http://www.ams.usda.gov

Check your roof before it gets cold! As the winter months approach, our homes first measure of protection against rain and snow is the Roof. 1. Start off by checking the roof framing structure. Visually scan the roof for any sagging or uneven areas. If you do see an area that looks uneven, this may mean damage to the roof deck below the shingles. 2. Inspect the gutter systems to make sure they are not clogged with branches, leaves. This is important to ensure that rain water and snow have a way off of the roof. If the water or snow is left standing on the roof, there is an increased likelihood of leaking or ice damming.

Here’s a well-kept secret: You know all those dates on food products —“sell by”, “use by” and “best before”? The truth is that the vast majority of “expiration” dates you find on food do not tell you when your food will spoil. In fact, virtually none of those food date labels indicate the safety of food and they’re not defined or regulated in the way most people believe. A first-ever legal analysis on the current U.S. system of expiration dates and the loose federal and state laws related to food date labeling across all 50 states will be released at 11 a.m. Eastern on Wednesday, September 18, 2013, by the Natural Resources Defense Council (NRDC) and Harvard Law School. Find out why food date labels are so misleading and what the resulting mass confusion is costing American consumers and businesses. The report is a follow-up to NRDC’s groundbreaking 2012 Wasted report (http://www.nrdc.org/food/ wasted-food.asp), which revealed that Americans trash up to 40 percent of our food supply annually, equivalent to $165 billion. www.nrdc.org/food/wasted-food.asp)

can end up causing damage not just to your roof, but to your interior walls, as well. 4. Check the valleys of the roof to ensure that they are also free and clear of debris that can add weight to the roof and also act as a barrier to rain and snow. Leaks frequently occur in the valleys. 5. One of the most common causes for roofing leaks is due to problems with flashing. Flashing is the metal materials that is used in roof to wall transitions. Metal flashing should also be used around roof vents, pipes, skylights, and chimneys. One of the most common causes for roofing leaks is due to problems with flashing. 6. Inspect the shingles on the roof – look for curling edges, missing granules, and certainly for missing shingles or damage

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LWM TRENDS

CARRAGEENAN

If it’s natural then what’s the problem?

A friend from high school contacted me after liking a post about GMO’s on LWM’s Face book page. Being very health conscious herself, always taking the time to read the ingredients labels on products, she asked if I was familiar with a commonly used additive called carrageenan. Very honestly my answer was no. Therefore, I was prompted to know more about this product that she explained had already been banned in many European countries. This is what we found… Carrageenan is a compound extracted from red seaweed, popularly known as Irish moss. Carrageenan is a highly processed additive extracted from red seaweed. The controversial ingredient, carrageenan contributes no nutritional value or flavor, but is added to enhance the texture of a wide range of foods and beverages. The use of carrageenan as an additive in foods began in the 1930s. Initially in chocolate milk, and has now it is found its way into yogurt, ice cream, soy milk, almond milk, deli meats, and meal replacement shakes. Several independent groups and scientists have been trying to get the FDA to ban carrageenan as a food additive due to potential damage that it can cause to the digestive tract. Scientists have raised concern about its safety for decades, based on research linking food-grade carrageenan in the diet of laboratory animals to gastrointestinal disease, including colon tumors. Most of the carrageenan used in food processing comes from Indonesia, Vietnam, the Philippines, and other Pacific Islands. It’s classified as GRAS by the United States Food and Drug Administration. GRAS stands for “generally recognized as safe”. It’s been used safely in food processing in the United States for more than fifty years. However, some studies indicate that consumption of carrageenan can be dangerous.

down into poligeenan during food processing or during digestion. However, several independent groups and scientists have been trying to get the FDA to ban carrageenan as a food additive due to potential damage that it can cause to the digestive tract. Scientists have raised concern about its safety for decades, based on research linking food-grade carrageenan in the diet of laboratory animals to gastrointestinal disease, including colon tumors. An excerpt from an article of an interview by Lynn Buske from The Cornucopia Institute “Carrageenan has a unique chemical structure, and research has shown that this chemical structure may trigger an innate immune response in the body,” says Dr. Pradeep Dudeja, Professor of Physiology in Medicine at the University of Illinois – Chicago, who has co-authored nine studies on carrageenan. “The immune response leads to inflammation, which is a serious public health concern since chronic, low-grade inflammation is a well-known precursor to more serious diseases, including diabetes and cancer,” he adds. The argument has recently been reignited by a consumer report and petition from the advocacy and food policy research group, Cornucopia entitled, “How a Natural Food Additive Is Making Us Sick”. However, the FDA has yet to reopen the review to reevaluate the safety of carrageenan, citing that there is no new data to be considered. Just last year the FDA did consider but subsequently rejected a petition by Joanne Tobacman, M.D., a professor at the University of Illinois, to ban carrageenan. Dr. Tobacman has been researching the additive and its impacts on inflammation and inflammatory diseases in animals and cells for the last 10 years.

In 2001, there were questions raised about the potential for carrageenan to be a health danger because lab tests showed that exposure to large amounts of degraded carrageenan caused intestinal damage in some species of rodents and primates. However, it’s important to recognize that degraded carrageenan isn’t the same as the carrageenan used in food products. Degraded carrageenan is properly referred to as poligeenan, which doesn’t have the same properties as carrageenan, and isn’t used in food products. While continued studies and research reveal more negative health threats from ingesting carrageenan, other research has indicated that food grade carrageenan exposure doesn’t cause any damage to intestinal walls, nor does it break 8

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LWM TRENDS Could it even have health benefits? Is it possible that carrageenan could be beneficial? For centuries, the seaweed was boiled in water or milk and the extract was used to soothe the digestive system, to treat ulcers, and taken as a laxative. It may also have the potential to lower cholesterol and triglycerides, but very little research has been done so far. As an educated consumer, you need to keep in mind when reading product labels, just because a label states or implies that a product is or its contents are natural1 doesn’t mean that you can automatically assume that it is therefore a healthy and or safe ingredient. I can also assure you that in the past we have suggested items containing carrageenan as well as products having other disputed ingredients and we will continue to do so, always welcoming suggestions, knowledge and facts. Therefore, when it comes to carrageenan you decide based on the evidence or lack there of.

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Sources: Borowitzka M, Critchley A. “Nineteenth International Seaweed Sympotsium: Proceedings of the 19th International Seaweed Symposium.” Springer. 2007. Hui YH. “Handbook of Food Science, Technology, and Engineering.” Volume 2. CRC Press. 2006. Imeson A. “Food Stabilisers, Thickeners and Gelling Agents.” WileyBlackwell. 2011. Natural Standard Professional Monograph. “Carrageenan (Chondrus crispus). Tobacman JK. “Review of harmful gastrointestinal effects of carrageenan in animal experiments.” Environ Health Perspect. 2001 Oct;109(10):983-94. United States Food and Drug Administration. “Database of Select Committee on GRAS Substances (SCOGS) Reviews - Carrageenan.” Accessed May 24, 2012. http://www.accessdata.fda.gov/scripts/fcn/ fcnDetailNavigation.cfm?rpt=scogsListing&id=76.

The term natural is too broad of a term allowing many ingredients that aren’t necessarily healthy ones to fall within the term natural simply because they are derived from a natural source. 1

This Halloween try something new. Hand out fruity SparX. Nturally flavored little candy “dots” that are rich in *Xylitol. Kids love the great taste while parents can feel confident that they are giving their kids a treat that won’t give them a sugar high and is actully good for their teeth. Not only are these candies rich in xylitol, but also in healthy calcium. *Xylitol is just as sweet as table sugar (sucrose), it has about 40% fewer calories and 75% fewer carbohydrates. Importantly, xylitol is slowly absorbed and metabolized, resulting in very negligible changes in insulin. Xylitol therefore won’t raise your blood sugar like regular sugar, which puts tremendous strain on your system, causing negative health effects. A healthy choice for many diabetics due to its insulin-independent nature, xylitol has been used in Germany, Switzerland, Russia and Japan as a preferred sweetener for diabetic diets since the 1960’s. If you do have diabetes, however, it’s important to consult your doctor or diet professional before incorporating xylitol into your daily diet. Our research on Xylitol proved that it was a good choice for children suffering with Type 1 Diabetes rather than regular sugar. The only negative result we found for Xylitol, is that in large amounts it can cause diarrhea.

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Whether you are willing to admit it or not, we know everyone has searched for Waldo at least once or twice in his or her lifetime. Actually, we have a complete set of the “Where’s Waldo” Books and have successfully found him in all of them, ...Well almost all of them, except for one. We have made up our minds that the one page that we cannot find him on must be a mistake, a misprint maybe, and he is not on there at all. Looking and re-looking over the years has never allowed us to rest, and we occasionally pull the book out for what we profess to be the very last search…of course until the next time we feel compelled to look. We desperately needed something to take our minds off Waldo and that page; you know the one they forgot to place him in anyway, because what other logical reason could there possibly be for us not being able to find him? Therefore, we decided to create something that would divert our energy away from you know who, and brilliantly came up with “Where’s Valentino?” Only thank goodness we are not the ones that have to find him... you do. So you see we can drive everyone else crazy looking for Valentino and we can relax because of course we know where he is.

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ow! There are thousands of readers who search for Valentino. He is hiding somewhere on the pages of each issue. The entries keep pouring in. We hope you have had fun looking and will continue your quest to find Valentino. When you find him email us at: info@livingwellmagazine.net [Please type “Valentino” on the subject line]. Thank You! for all of the love, support, prayers and thoughts! The outpouring of love and friendship for Valentino has been amazing! We will be buying a Large Brick at Delaware Humane in honor of Valentino and all of his fans! We will share the details! But don’t despair, Valentino left us specific notes, instructions and clues for us to be able to continue Where’s Valentino! So it is Game On!.. — keep searching and entering the “Where’s Valentino!” Contest every month for your chance for some great LWM gifts, subscriptions, T-shirts, mugs etc. —Starting in November we will be giving away products that will be featured in our Holiday gift guides! Now you can also enter on our Facebook page as well www. facebook.com/LWMlivingwellmagazine make sure you like the page first. Please remember to share our page with your friends! Did you know that we also have an online version as well? This way if you favorite location is out, you do not have to miss an issue! Just go to www.livingwellmagazine.net and on the right side you will see a link to the most current issue. Some of us still like the feel of holding a magazine in your hand, those electronic devices for some just don’t cut it. Now you can buy a print subscription for yourself and your friends! LWM subscriptions makes a great gift! Every month your friends will remember that you want them to Live Well too!

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OLAR GEO ENGINEERING

olar geo-engineering is a term describing any of various techniques for reducing the amount of sunlight that reaches the Earth and its atmosphere. Researchers are exploring the feasibility of utilizing solar geo-engineering to reflect some of the sun’s heat back into space before it can reach the Earth and further contribute to the greenhouse effect that is causing our climate to warm. Some ways of doing this include pumping sulfur aerosols into the atmosphere, sending huge space mirrors or reflective balloons into Earth’s orbit, enhancing the reflectivity of clouds by spraying water into them, and even just painting everybody’s roofs white.

Will it work? 10 million metric tons of sulfur into the atmosphere and caused a reduction in global temperatures by about one degree Fahrenheit for more than a year. While employing such techniques might seem like a no-brainer, there are inherent risks. Alan Robock, an atmospheric scientist at Rutgers University, warns that adding sulfur to the skies, for instance, could shift rainfall patterns and hasten the thinning of the ozone layer. “We are going to put the entire fate of the only planet we know that can sustain life on this one technical intervention that may go wrong?” he asks. Another issue is the so-called “abrupt cessation” risk whereby shutting off whatever solar geo-engineering techniques are in effect could cause a sudden rise in global temperatures to previously unforeseen levels.

While solar geo-engineering can’t do anything about the carbon dioxide already in our atmosphere that will be causing more warming for decades to come or longer, it can help reduce the planet’s carbon load moving forward, and is thus generally viewed as part of the climate solution but not the whole enchilada. That is, no matter what it is still in our best interest to reduce our carbon footprint as much as possible regardless of the whiz bang technologies scientists are developing to help. The most practical of the solar geo-engineering techniques involves sending a specially modified fleet of jets around the globe spraying sulfates into the atmosphere that would combine with pre-existing water vapor to form aerosols. When dispersed by the wind, these sulfates would cover the globe with a haze that could reflect an estimated one percent of solar radiation back out into space. The model for such a scenario occurred naturally in 1991 when the eruption of Mt. Pinatubo in the Philippines sent some

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Given reticence about applying quick technological fixes for our climate problem, proponents of solar geoengineering are calling for the federal government and other concerned parties to fund more research. “The balance of evidence so far suggests that solar geoengineering could reduce climate risks, but early science might be wrong,” he says. “We need experiments, which might show that it does not work.” But perhaps the biggest hurdle to implementation of solar geo-engineering is getting the nations of the world to agree on the need for it. “With solar geoengineering, at some level you’ve got just one knob,” says Harvard energy and climate researcher David Keith, a big proponent of solar geo-engineering. “That demands collective global decision-making.”

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re Walk to Cu DRF J s e t e b a i D 27th r e b o t c O Sunday tration s i g e R M A 9 ark Rockford P I am a normal girl. I like hanging out with my friends, photography, riding my bike, First Lego League, playing piano and blogging. I have four blogs: Team LegMOE (teamlegmoe. blogspot.com), Peace. Love. Hope. Diabetes (peacelovehopediabetes.blogspot.com), Walking To Washington (walkingtowashington. blogspot.com), and AGR Photography (agrphotographyjustmeandmycamera. blogspot.com).

Hi! My na me is Amelia Re hrman. JDRF and the Special Diabetes Program (SDP), which provides $150 million in funding for diabetes research each year. During Children’s Congress we learned that half of the money that JDRF received each year is from Congress and half is from people participating in diabetes walks and other fundraisers - like my Diabetes Dash!

Well, there is one thing that is different about me: I have Type 1 Diabetes. I was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes when I was four and a half years old. I was drinking a lot. My mom dropped me and my twin sister, Maddie, off at preschool and called the doctor. The doctor said to bring me in right away so my mom picked me up from preschool and brought me to the doctor. The doctor took a urine sample and then told my mom that I had type 1 diabetes and had to go to the hospital. My mom brought me to the hospital and we had to stay there for 3 nights because we had to learn how to care for my diabetes. From then on my life was changed.

I started my Diabetes Dash in 2008, two years after my diagnosis. I ask people to come to a park with their bikes, scooters, roller skate, or their own two feet and give a donation of their choice to JDRF. The past couple of years I have raised $300-$400 for JDRF! This year, my Diabetes Dash will

be held on Saturday, October 19th at New Garden Township Park. It is a lot of fun and we raise money for JDRF!

Well, that’s me. Amelia Rehrman. A normal 11 year old girl living with Type 1 Diabetes.

I wear an insulin pump which makes life with type 1 diabetes a little bit easier. Instead of having a bunch of needles every day, I only have to put needles in every three days. I still have to prick my fingers to test my blood sugar, but my insulin pump makes having type 1 diabetes a lot easier. This past July, I went to Washington D.C. and participated in JDRF’s Children’s Congress. Every 2 years JDRF chooses 150 children who have type 1 diabetes, ages 4-17, to go to Washington D.C. and tell their senators and representatives their stories. The delegates are there for three days and sing a song called “Promise To Remember Me” with American Idol singer Crystal Bowersox, have a Town Hall where a bunch of celebrities with type 1 diabetes talk about their diabetes and answer questions from the delegates, meet celebrities with type 1 diabetes, eat meals with other diabetics, talk to senators and representatives and ask them to support funding for JDRF. It was an amazing experience! The object of Children’s Congress is to tell your senators and representatives your diabetes story and ask them for money for www.livingwellmagazine.net

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A SURVIVOR STORY

Tiffany Nardella was just 35 years old when she was diagnosed with Breast Cancer. After college, I worked for a few years in the sexual health field with an emphasis on women’s health. Since I had a heightened awareness of women’s health issues, I took special care to make sure I had my annual exams and knew my own body. Towards the end of 2009, I felt a lump in my right breast during a random self-exam. With my background in women’s health, you would think that I would have called the doctor right away. I did not. I thought it was probably nothing. After all, young women don’t get breast cancer, so I decided to watch it. For three weeks I watched, and it did not go away. When there was no change, I made an appointment with my general practitioner (GP) to have it examined. When my doctor felt the lump, she wasn’t overly concerned, but agreed that we should have it checked out. She sent me to have an ultrasound and a mammogram. The week before Christmas, I had my ultrasound. I went alone to the appointment; I wasn’t expecting to have any more tests or to need anyone with me. After the tech completed the ultrasound, they told me they wanted me to have a biopsy of the mass. I was told I could have the test right then or wait until after the holiday. 14

I figured since I was already in the office, and already taking time off of work, that I would have the test done. Looking back, I wish I’d waited until I could have had someone with me during the appointment. I wasn’t expecting the test to be painful and was surprised by how much pain I experienced. After the biopsy, I was sent to wait in another room until someone could talk to me about what to expect next. Right after Christmas, I got the call from my general practitioner (GP). I was told I had invasive ductal carcinoma (IDC), stage 3, that was estrogen positive (ER+), progesterone positive (PR+) and Her2 negative. I’d been living in Philadelphia and working there since August 1997, right after college. I wasn’t living near my family and I was in shock. Since locally my boyfriend was the closest thing I had to family (we had been planning on getting engaged) I called him to tell him the news. I then called my mom and my best friend. I was afraid to give them such bad news. I was scared and trying to figure out how I would deal with this.

I wasn’t exactly sure what to do next. When I received a call from the breast care navigator at the hospital, I was still in shock. She helped guide me in making the important decisions I was facing. She recommended a breast surgeon and even came to my first appointment with me. She really held my hand through the process since my best friend and family were so far away at the time. She was incredibly helpful.

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Durig the first two weeks after I was diagnosed, I felt like I was in one doctor or another’s office every day. In fact, I needed to take nearly two weeks off from work to go to every appointment. I was fortunate that I had a great job. I’d earned my Masters of Library Science degree and was working in the Philadelphia City Library system. I truly enjoyed my job and worked at one of the busier branches. Though I had a stable job, I was still concerned about how much time I would need to take off. I was already burning through my paid time off and worried about all of the co-pays that would start to accumulate quickly. I tried not to take too many days off. I had a mortgage I was responsible for, and that concerned me. I didn’t want to be a sick person. I didn’t want people at work to see me that way either. When I began treatment, my boss suggested I transfer to a slower branch but I wasn’t ready to let breast cancer force me to take a back seat. My first chemotherapy regimen was physically challenging for me and did cause me to take some sick time. When I was starting chemo and making decisions about the rest of my treatment and reconstruction, my long-term boyfriend ended our relationship. I was struggling with having been told I had breast cancer, figuring out how I was going to manage this news and then the person I assumed would be my caregiver suddenly disappeared. I needed to regroup. Since I was a librarian, my first thought was to do some research. I went online and starting looking at websites for cancer organizations. One day I was using the group message board on the American Cancer Society website and someone posted that I should check out Young Survival Coalition’s website and its community message boards. I looked into it right away. I was eager to talk to other young women who had also been diagnosed with breast cancer. Through the online community on YSC’s website, I found an affiliate group near me and went to one of its meetings. It was incredible to be in a room with other young women who understood what I was going through. People I didn’t have to explain the vocabulary to or watch how much information I shared. These were strong women, some who had completed chemo, most of them working. They gave me encouragement and strength.

but no real connections with anyone. Just as I was about to close down my account, someone caught my eye. I decided to give it one more shot and to send one more email. I’m so glad I did. I’d been leery of how and when to tell someone new about cancer. Dating is hard enough without having to throw breast cancer in the mix. This time, I wasn’t leery. I was immediately upfront about it. My ex couldn’t handle it. I needed any potential partner to know and make their choice. I decided to tell this guy that night. He was wonderful, very understanding and didn’t seem at all scared by the news. He became a willing caregiver as I underwent my reconstruction and continues to provide amazing support. We got engaged this year, and I’m looking forward to the years ahead with happy memories, hoping that much of the hard stuff is behind us. Recently , I was married in May and live in South Philly with our 3 rescued pets. I am continuing to train for the YSC Tour De Pink; 3 years in a row! (It is a 200 mile bike ride fundraiser for YSC). My first Tour de Pink was 2 weeks after my last chemo. With hills! I am now an avid long distance cyclist, participating in many charity and group rides throughout the year which also is keeping me active and hopefully in good health. I’m still a librarian, running the same branch and things are going great with work. My biggest passion regarding breast cancer is to find a cure and to make sure that no woman goes through it alone. I also co-lead a local Philadelphia support group for Young survivors and will speak at schools and events in order to get the word out.

I am getting used to my “new normal” but in the back of my mind I find that the hardest part is worrying that my Breast Cancer will come back. I have made many wonderful friends throughout this process and unfortunately several friends have gotten a re-diagnosis. IT needs to end, it often feels like we are just waiting for who is next.

In addition to the support I received from the YSC group, my mom was able to come and stay with me twice, once during chemo and then again as I underwent my unilateral (single) mastectomy and began my Latissimus Flap reconstruction. In the spring of 2010, I decided I needed more in my life than cancer. I was single now, and I pushed myself to start meeting people. I tried online dating, which led to a few nice evenings out, www.livingwellmagazine.net

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THE ISSUES

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• Pregnancy: Breast cancer is the most common form of cancer in women who are pregnant or have recently given birth,8 occurring once in every 3,000 pregnancies.9 An estimated 30 percent or more of all breast cancer in young women is diagnosed in the few years after a woman has had a baby.10•

Despite misconceptions that young women don’t get breast cancer, the reality is that they can and they do. Here are some important and startling facts about breast cancer in young women: • Breast cancer is the most common cancer in women ages 15 to 39.1

Early Onset Menopause: Chemotherapy and hormonal treatments can sometimes bring on premature menopause which can significantly impact quality of life.

• There is currently no effective breast cancer screening tool for women 40 and under. • Nearly 80 percent of young women diagnosed with breast cancer find their breast abnormality themselves.2 • The American Cancer Society projects 230,480 new cases of invasive breast cancer among U.S. women annually, as well as an estimated 57,650 additional cases of in situ breast cancer.3

• Fertility: Breast cancer treatment may affect a woman’s ability and plans to have children. • Child Rearing: Many young women are raising small children while enduring treatment and subsequent side effects.

• It is estimated that 13,110 cases of breast cancer will be in women under age 40.3 Approximately 26,275 women will be under 45 years of age when diagnosed.4

• Financial Challenges: Breast cancer can dramatically impact a young woman’s financial stability when it pertains to workplace issues, lack of health insurance or being underinsured and the cost of cancer care.

• Every year, nearly 1,200 women under age 40 die from breast cancer.5

• Body Image: It may be challenging for some women to embrace their new body after breast cancer-related surgery.

• Young women are more likely to have aggressive subtypes of breast cancer, including triple negative and HER2+ disease5, larger tumor sizes and higher incidence of lymph node involvement.6

• Relationships & Dating: Whether married or single, intimacy issues may arise for women who have been diagnosed with breast cancer.

• Today there are an estimated 250,000 breast cancer survivors living in the U.S. who were diagnosed at age 40 or younger.7 Young women diagnosed with breast cancer face a myriad of issues that may significantly impact their quality and length of life. These issues are often amplified for women diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer. Some of these concerns include:

About Young Survival Coalition (YSC) Established in 1998, Young Survival Coalition (YSC) is the premier global organization dedicated to young women diagnosed with breast cancer. YSC offers free resources, connections and educational materials so young women with breast cancer feel supported, empowered and hopeful. Through action, advocacy and awareness, YSC seeks to educate and influence the medical, research, breast cancer and legislative communities to address breast cancer in young women, and ensure that no young woman faces breast cancer alone. For more information, visit youngsurvival.org.

• Lack of Research: As the incidence of young women with breast cancer is much lower than in older women, young women are often an underrepresented population in research studies.

1. Archie Bleyer et al., “The distinctive biology of cancer in adolescents and

young adults,” Nature Reviews Cancer 8 (2008).

2. Ruddy, K. et al., “Presentation of breast cancer in young women,” Journal of Clinical Oncology 27:15S (2009). 3. American Cancer Society. Breast Cancer Facts & Figures 2011-2012. 4.“SEER Stat Fact Sheets: Breast,” National Cancer Institute, accessed May 21, 2013 http://seer.cancer.gov/statfacts.html/breast.html

5. Carey K. Anders et al., “Breast Carcinomas Arising at a Young Age: Unique Biology or a Surrogate for Aggressive Intrinsic Subtypes?” Journal of Clinical Oncology 29:1 (2011). 6. Carey K. Anders et al., “Young Age at Diagnosis Correlates with Worse Prognosis and Defines a Subset of Breast Cancers with Shared Patterns of Gene Expression,” Journal of Clinical Oncology 26:20 (2008) 7. Based on U.S. Census, 2000.

8. “Pregnancy and Breast Cancer,” American Cancer Society, accessed April 26, 2013, http://www.cancer.org/cancer/breastcancer/moreinformation/pregnancyand-breast-cancer. 9. “General Information about Breast Cancer and Pregnancy,” National Cancer Institute, accessed April 26, 2013, http://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/pdq/ treatment/breast-cancer-and-pregnancy/patient/ 10. Eryn B. Callihan et al., “Postpartum diagnosis demonstrates a high risk for metastasis and merits an expanded definition of pregnancy-associated breast cancer,” Breast Cancer Res Treat 138 (2013).

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2013 ALLERGY SEASON COULD BE THE WORST EVER, THANKS TO CLIMATE CHANGE The 2013 fall allergy season is starting sooner and will last longer, which is bad news for the more than 40 million Americans suffering from seasonal allergies, Heavy precipitation levels this past winter, along with a rapid surge of warmer weather is expected to result in a long and miserable allergy season. Experts also suspect that higher-than-normal carbon dioxide emissions are fueling pollen production, causing plants to produce three to five times more pollen. Hay fever is mainly caused by the pollen spores of ragweed plants, which are found in large numbers in the Philadelphia area. Mold is another autumn allergy culprit. Until temps dip into the freezing digits, mold spores maintain a prolific presence outdoors. Allergies occur when the body’s immune system overreacts to a substance that generally doesn’t bother other people. Seasonal allergies can cause nasal congestion, watery eyes, runny nose and irritated sinuses. Allergies can affect school and work performance. They can also interfere with sports, sleep and relationships.

Get a diagnosis. To determine whether you’ve got seasonal allergies, and how severe they are, make an appointment with your doctor. Treat early. If you use nasal antihistamines, steroids, oral antihistamines, or eye drops for seasonal allergies, don’t wait until your symptoms are unbearable to start treatment. Dress appropriately. Wear oversized sunglasses to block airborne pollens and use a wide-brimmed hat or cap to keep pollen and other allergens from landing in your hair or eyes. Stay indoors. Try to stay indoors during the early morning hours when pollen is at its highest concentration and on windy days, which can stir up additional pollen spores. Manage irritants at home. Vacuum regularly, eliminate dustcollecting knickknacks, use filters on your dehumidifiers and air conditioners, and keep windows and doors closed.

As the fall allergy season begins to make many in the Delaware Valley miserable, there are ways to minimize the effects of allergy symptoms:

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sense of style, and how it exemplifies your personality? I like classic styles paired with an accent piece of jewelry or other accessory that makes the look my own. A classic style is timeless and the accent pieces keep the look fresh yet professional. This blends well with my personality and lifestyle because I am often out in public representing Hagley and our tourism industry.

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 Is your wardrobe based on current fashion trends? Are you comfortable sporting your own style, regardless of what is “in style” at the time? I love clothes, so I always have a few pieces, or more (!), that reflect current styles. These are blended with items that may be 10 years old. I save what I love and what looks good. Some of my jewelry are family pieces, so they are one-of-a-kind and help define my style. I don’t believe in getting rid of clothes that I haven’t worn in the last year, as many people are advised to do. If a piece of clothing is well made and has classic lines, it will hold up over time.  What is the one piece of clothing or accessory from you wardrobe that you could not live without? Scarves/pashminas. My neck gets cold and a scarf is essential. I am so thankful that they are really popular and I can find them in all colors and fabrics. When I was in Paris a few years ago the textile boutiques were as important to me as visiting the Louvre. My mother still shakes her head about that. — continued on next page

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you wish you owned, but would never buy yourself? A Hermes Birkin bag. Totally gorgeous and totally too expensive!

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Does a designer name mean anything to you? If so, who are your favorite designers? I am not driven by designers other than by the fit and feel of their clothes. Right now the designers I wear are Nina McLemore, Nick and Zoe, and I love shopping at White House Black Market.

 Do you look for a bargain or is price not an issue if you really love it? It depends, a bargain may drive me to buy something I might not normally buy, but if I love it, I will buy it regardless of price. Please don’t let sales people know this about me!

 What are your favorite local and online shopping spots? White House Black Market, the Country Store, Talbots, and JJill. I believe my world is a better place since DSW came to town. I get hand-written notes from the DSW store manager thanking me for being one of their 20 best customers. This summer, I may have moved up in the ranking!

 What wardrobe essentials do you think are vital to pull off the perfect look for you? I really like dresses for work paired with a tailored jacket and heels. Since I never know where my day may lead me, my motto is to always be a little over dressed rather than under dressed.

 What is the best piece of style advice you would like to share with our readers? Be comfortable in your clothes. Wear clothes that fit well otherwise you’ll spend your time pulling and tugging, and that’s what people will remember about you.

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Is Your Computer Wrecking Your Love Life? Do you spend significant amounts of time on your computer, tablet or Smartphone? If you do, then like an increasing number of people, you may rely so fully upon one or all of these modes of communicating and connecting with the outside world that you might not be able to envision life without it. While you no doubt have a very real need for these devices in your daily life and work, is it possible that your reliance on them could be eroding the quality of your life, and in particular, your love life? Is the time you spend online having an effect on your face to face connections? What happens to relationships when one partner finds themselves flirting with Facebook friends while the other partner would prefer to spend time with them? And how do relationships fare when one partner is late to bed because they would rather find romance online? To know whether your online activities are harming your love life, it’s important to understand the crucial distinctions between sexual shame and sex addiction. Although both terms are used frequently in the media and in everyday conversation, few people seem to understand what they truly mean and how they differ. In fact, sexual shame is often used as “proof ” or evidence of sex addiction . And while the National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity defines sex addiction as “engaging in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior acted out despite increasing negative consequences to self and others,” this definition leaves a lot to be desired. For instance, many gay and lesbian people 20

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suffer from sexual shame due to the judgments of others and they continue to be gay and lesbian despite “increasing negative consequences to self and others” such as angry family members, loss of employment, etc. But as we know, being gay or lesbian does not make you a sex addict and it would seem that the presence of sexual shame is not proof of sex addiction either. How then would you know if either sexual shame or sex addiction was effecting your life? Perhaps a couple of real life stories can help us explore this further. Al runs the family business, a gas station franchise in South Carolina. His work days begin and end with masturbation. Sometimes he comes home for lunch just so he can masturbate a third time that day. -Although his masturbation schedule requires him to be home alone - when he’s not at work, he will occasionally venture out to eat dinner at the local diner. But it’s not for the food. There is a waitress at the diner whom he enjoys thinking about while he masturbates. So he will eat dinner while ogling her and making a few shy flirtations in her direction. Then he will hurry home before the feelings of arousal pass and masturbate furiously while concentrating on his mental image of the waitress. Al has never asked a woman out on a date. He has never been in love. He has never been married, and has no close friends. In his mid 40’s, he spends all his free time viewing online porn. Sometimes he will pay a girl to talk dirty to him while she masturbates online for his viewing pleasure.

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Al has tried to stop his compulsive masturbation without success.. Sometimes he cries about his porn and masturbation addiction. But no matter how much agony he suffers, Al has not been able to derail his daily ritual of masturbating at every conceivable opportunity while viewing online porn. Max is married but his wife is threatening to divorce him. In the last year, Max has been terminated from three separate jobs due to masturbating to online porn during work hours and on work premises. His addiction to masturbation is so powerful that he can’t stop it long enough to function in the workplace. Eventually he gets caught, and after a few warnings his employers give up on him and he loses his job. Max still enjoys sex with his wife. In fact he craves sex with his wife in a way which makes her feel frightened at times. She wants Max to connect with her by looking into her eyes and telling her that he loves her. Max does this during foreplay, but when their activities switch to oral sex or intercourse, Max seems like a different person. He becomes more distant and demanding. Often, Max will insist that porn is playing in the background so that he can watch while having sex with his wife. - It is the only way he can achieve an orgasm. Although I’ve changed their names, both “Al” and “Max” are actual people. They were clients of mine who came to see me for their addiction to online porn. I regret that neither of them continued with their sessions, preferring instead to return to their compulsive masturbation. But they each gave me a candid window into the emotional pain caused by their compulsions, and I came to see how devastating sexual addiction can be. Before that, I had thought the concept of sex addiction was just an - attempt to shame and control. After all, anyone who deviates from the monogamous, heterosexual sex which most religions and many laws seem to champion could be considered fair game. And in fact, I often see the words “sex addiction” used to shame people who simply enjoy sex, often sex which is not condoned by the mainstream culture or the majority of people. Treating sex addiction has become a very lucrative business. Most of the treatment websites I have visited cast such a large net for potential clients, that almost anyone could qualify as a sex addict in need of their expensive treatments. Many sex addiction experts use shame and guilt as the litmus test for diagnosing sex addiction which doesn’t allow for the fact that a lot of otherwise emotionally healthy people feel guilt and shame surrounding sex. . In fact sexual shame is so pervasive that most of us suffer from it in one form or another, making it a very poor indicator for possible sex addiction. Every time a public figure finds himself or herself implicated in a sex scandal, there seems to be an immediate rush to label them a sex addict. Ironically, it seems that many politicians, religious leaders, sports figures and celebrities who are publicly shamed for their — continued on next page www.livingwellmagazine.net

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sexual activities, welcome the “sex addict” designation. Given that rehab is actually socially acceptable and the public seems to love “sinners” who “repent,” it makes great sense from a public relations standpoint. But while claiming one has a “disease” may garner sympathy while avoiding social ostracism, it does not constitute an authentic diagnosis. Sex addicts who masturbate compulsively, and celebrities caught in sex scandals, suffer greatly. And there are far more people who suffer because they have lost interest in having sex with their partners. Preferring to meet a lover online or view online porn while “rubbing out” a quickie before bed, they grow less and less desirous of relating face to face. This takes a huge toll on the relationship, of course, creating what are increasingly being called “porn widows.” How common has viewing online porn become? It may surprise you that online porn is increasingly ubiquitous for both genders. And to the consternation of many parents, the average age of first exposure to online porn is eleven. Over 40 per cent of internet users view online porn on the 4.2 million pornographic websites which comprise 12 per cent of all websites on any topic worldwide.

The extraordinary and skyrocketing use of online porn raises many important questions. While the multi-billion dollar industry may be good for the economy, is online porn good for us? When does a preference for the uncomplicated immediate gratification of online entertainment - sexual or otherwise - constitute an addiction?Where is the line between pleasurable pastime and sex addiction? More importantly, perhaps, why does digital love in some cases supersede face to face, skin to skin lovemaking? Perhaps recent scientific research can shed some light on these questions. For instance, it is now known that online porn can cause Erectile Dysfunction (ED). What is important about the recent findings, is that this effect does not extend to all pornography but ONLY online pornography. And the resulting erectile dysfunction is not due to the refractory period which occurs after sexual satiation nor it is just about developing a preference for pornographic images and scenarios. Instead, it seems that something quite disturbing is happening to the human brain while viewing online pornography which leads to the desensitization of the brain to dopamine, the chemical responsible for creating sensations of pleasure. “. . . too much dopamine stimulation has a paradoxical effect. The brain decreases its ability to respond to dopamine signals — continued on next page

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(desensitization). This occurs with all addictions, both chemical and natural. In some porn users, the response to dopamine is dropping so low that they can’t achieve an erection without constant hits of dopamine via the Internet.” 1 Apparently, the internet delivers so much visual stimulation in such a rapid fire manner that the brain literally becomes overwhelmed by all the input and consequently reduces its response to the stimulus. This is particularly problematic for young people whose brains are still developing. And amazingly, the speed of one’s internet connection can determine how entrenched the resulting desensitization will be. In other words, if you are fifteen and using high-speed internet you are likely to become more addicted than someone who is older and has slow internet. While these findings are disturbing, it is important that we don’t label everyone who enjoys internet porn a sex addict. We also need to be careful that we don’t indulge in shaming techniques in order to redirect addictive patterns.

A recent article in Science Daily reported the scientific findings of Jessica Tracy and Daniel Randles of the University of British Columbia who have documented the connection between shame and addiction. According to Tracy and Randles, “One reason that certain sobriety programs may be effective, is because they encourage people to see their behaviors as something they should feel guilty, but not necessarily shameful, about.” The article goes on to say “Feeling guilt about previous behavior, as opposed to shame about being a “bad” person, may be an important component of recovery.” Furthermore, Tracy and Randles assert “Our research suggests that shaming people for difficult-to-curb behaviors may be exactly the wrong approach to take. . . Rather than prevent future occurrences of such behaviors, shaming may lead to an increase in these behaviors.”2 Shame not only confuses us when we attempt to distinguish sex addiction from sexual pleasure, but it also fuels addictive and 1 Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships by Marnia Robinson, Douglas Wile Ph.D. 2 www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2013/02/130204114246.htm

compulsive patterns. Therefore, one effective way to gain clarity as well as heal destructive behaviors is to lessen shame. Whether you are simply engaging in sex or sexual fantasies which you feel ashamed or conflicted about, or if you truly have an uncontrollable compulsion, eliminating sexual shame is essential to restoring emotional and sexual well-being. I work with sex addicts and can attest that it IS a very really affliction. However, too many health professionals are quick to apply this diagnosis to anyone who deviates from the norm sexually and that is not a definition of addiction. Instead it is an indicator of prejudice and ignorance. Increasingly, there is a cultural norm which says “I am addicted” but fails to comprehend the depth of despair of true addiction. Slapping the sex addiction label on anything which deviates from the monogamous, heterosexual norm not only indicts individual sexual diversity and freedoms but serves to water down the suffering of true sex addicts and sexual compulsives. When we carelessly label activities we may disapprove of as addictions, we devalue the term and its original meaning as applied to compulsions which lead to the destruction of lives. We oversimplify the human condition and insult the people who are suffering from the agony of a true addiction. Veronica Monet, ACS, CAM: Author, Couples Consultant and Radio Host Veronica Monet’s perspective on sex, anger and relationships may challenge your old beliefs but you are sure to find her insights uniquely helpful to your personal life. Veronica is a highly visible spokesperson for sexual rights and has appeared on every major network as well as CNN, FOX, CNBC, WE, A&E and international television programs. She has been profiled in many publications including The New York Times and has lectured at a variety of academic venues including Kent State, Stanford and Yale Universities. As a Certified Sexologist (ACS), Certified Sex Educator (SFSI), Certified Anger Management Specialist (CAM), and a Trained Volunteer for the Center Against Rape and Domestic Violence (CARDV) Veronica Monet coaches clients over the telephone and in-person at her Northern California office. You are invited to contact her at veronica@TheShameFreeZone.com, call toll free at 888.903.0050 and listen to her online radio program, The Shame Free Zone, at http://www.sextalkradionetwork.com

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Magic Trees and Angry Bees —Happy Adventures in Low-Carbon Living By Karen Verna Carlson, N.D., Ph.D. (Hon.)

Lately I have been making most of my decisions influenced by the quest to find enjoyable ways of reducing my carbon emissions while raising quality of life (QoL). {It would not be enough to decrease my footprint and maintain my quality of life because my human programming moves me ever toward seeking QoL upgrades. At this stage, I’m more of a human becoming than a human being.} The news is I’m very surprised at the rising number of truly satisfying moments in daily doings that don’t add to my carbon footprint. I stated that last month. What’s happened since then might surprise you, too. Fortuitous Fig Tree Here’s an example. A four-year-old fig tree at my friend’s house was loaded with more fruit than ever this year. Nick planted it as a light-hearted experiment because this is the northern most edge of its growth zone. It faces south and stands in the apex where two walls meet to form a 120-degree-angle. The hundred or so little green pouches that had been forming for more than a month were still hard on Labor Day. They hadn’t grown or softened for more than two weeks, and our concern rose that the crop was doomed due to the late season caused by this year’s climate change. Friendly Conversations We watched day by day, for we were powerless to do anything to help the figs themselves. “Serenity to accept the things we cannot change.” But we have certainly been proactive in altering our lifestyles to reduce CO2e (shorthand for all greenhouse gases) in order to restore healthy climate. “Courage to change the things we can.” That fig tree served as our focus in many friendly conversations that touched topics in philosophy, meteorology, culinary arts, spirituality, environmentalism, and frogs who were always talking and singing in the boggy pond beyond the house. (Referring to frogs as ‘who’ rather than the grammatically correct ‘that’ has been our way of respecting frog level intelligence and acknowledging them as beings. FROG can be an acronym for Fully Relying on God.’) 26

Rare Indulgence That fig tree gave us and several more of our friends sumptuously extravagant taste treats right up to the equinox. The flavor and texture of eating a ripe fig freshly picked is a rare indulgence. Up to eight or ten hours later, without refrigeration, it is still a thrill. One night in the fridge, its rating settles at ‘good’ for a couple days. What you buy commercially is ‘fair.’ Fig Humor That fig tree inspired me to indulge in some wholesome humor with a client who had planted a fig sapling last fall. Its five-foot frame had about eight to ten branches, all of which were vibrantly healthy. One very small, very green, very hard fig hung from a central branch. Natural law: no fig crop the first year. I giggled as I secretly tied on with string four or five or six lusciously ripe figs. I regarded this as a blessing for a prolific future. I know my client found them, but his busy travel itinerary has not given us a chance to chat. Meanwhile I feel delighted to be a catalyst for uplifting experiences (random acts of kindness). QoL Definitely Higher All of the above enjoyment and nourishment added hugely to QoL, but nothing to my carbon footprint. Nobody waters the fig tree. It stands in a pebbly area off the driveway, so there’s no weeding. No one has seriously researched fig culture. My friend hand-pruned it with guesswork last autumn and evened out that pruning with another in spring. It has not been fed or sprayed with chemicals. Picking the fruit is good for the tree. And for me! Do you know any fresh fig recipes? Savings Bond, No CO2e Here’s another example of life-enriching decision-making towards a low carbon lifestyle. For a baby shower gift, I opted to purchase a U.S. Savings Bond. I like the idea of a gift that also conveys support for our government (even though there is much government activity that I don’t support). I like the idea that it

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won’t be used up before Phoebe starts school. I like the idea it may help her learn about money management. I like the idea that that document costs almost nothing to print, and almost nothing to store. I like the idea of being spared a box store trip.

kitchen until then. Commercial extermination seems violent, which distresses my conscience.

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I began to consider how I could handle the first segment of the problem: clearing the interlopers from my living space. The image of a bee keeper wearing a netted hat came to mind, followed by the epiphany that I could use a square-dancing crinoline. I rubber banded the waistband to drape it over my head. I laughed delightedly as I stabilized all that swoshy net by lightly tying a string around it near my neck. Heavy shirt, jeans, gloves completed my ensemble. I was not afraid, though my two stings were throbbing painfully.

This next example shows that even an emergency doesn’t override my quest for lower carbon options. As I am writing this, nine hornets are buzzing just 12 feet away, knocking themselves silly against the jars and deli containers in which I caught them an hour ago as they flew around my kitchen. A week ago, two hornet interlopers in my kitchen caused me to scout around outside for signs of a nest. I saw it within a vent just above my kitchen window, which is about 15 feet above ground level. Yup, a few wasps leisurely flying in and out. Figured I would deal with it safely after winter settled into the New Year. What Is That? Four o’clock yesterday morning, as I rinsed out my water glass after a drink I saw a brown rivulet oozing down the sink side. Foggy with sleep and planning on more, I gazed up a few minutes to see a brown drop leave the light fixture and join the stream. “Do I hear buzzing?” It was easy to remove the fixture. The flat cable containing multiple wires hung a few inches down with some brown dripping globby debris poking out through the two-inch ceiling aperture. I’ve installed a few light fixtures and know that there’s always extra cable length that stores nicely shoved into the space between rafters. Then I look at the ceiling side of the fixture plate and see the ickiest blob of yuk that I dump into the sink. Fortunately I don’t smell much because my olfactory function has declined with age, but it looks like it should stink. I’m definitely awake. I pull on the cable and more soggy debris clumps down. I pull a few inches more and try to get a better look. Don’t Try This at Home And out they came. One after another after another like those black and white WWII movies of bombers taking off. These were more than an inch long—head, thorax, wasp waist and abdomen. Two bites on my forehead! Duck and dodge as I grab a napkin and stuff it in the hole. By that time there are 30 or 40 zooming around at all altitudes, following different flight plans. I step into the hall, shut the kitchen door, and get a dose of homeopathic apis mellifica (Latin for honey bee) to support healing. I forgot how much pain happens from a sting, and feel confident this remedy is the best first-aid. Calculate Carbon Price Tag

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Turning over this problem to a commercial exterminator has a pretty big carbon price tag for reasons other than the obvious copious application of toxic chemicals. That company’s waste disposal procedures, fleet of vehicles, office facility and staff, tools and uniforms, advertising, legal counsel, etc. represent a sizable carbon footprint most people are not aware of. In addition, I would have to reschedule the day’s commitments to be available for the service call, but I’d have to stay out of my bedroom and

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Taking Prisoners I couldn’t find my fly swatter, so I attempted to clap them dead with a National Geographic in each hand. Not a good idea with so many zooming around. Besides, I’m squeamish about squishing things to death. I stood in the kitchen watching and listening to the dive bombers. There were a few deli containers in the dish rack. I took one and its lid and trapped a walking hornet against the window. I had to jiggle and slide the container around the glass to maneuver the lid into place. Success. My prisoner ricocheted with fury as I went after the next one. Soon I was able to clap a flying one into the container. When I ran out of deli tubs, I used canning jars. I put these several dozen coffins into a big trash bag and put it outside because the buzzing was so loud, and went back to bed to finish my night’s rest. I slept peacefully, and felt quite satisfied with phase one. When I returned home this evening there were nine new comers, whom I’ve incarcerated. To Be Continued If you’d like to know the rest of this low-carbon-living adventure, read Part II next month. Perhaps you’ll discover new levels of creativity paring down your carbon footprint as we all move towards greater sustainability.

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joint compression and poor postural alignment. The resultant friction in the joints of this whole downward spiral, can create arthritis or gmisdiagnosed as a reoccurrence. Ultimately, until the fascial restrictions are released, space created, posture improved and craniosacral function restored symptoms will be present. Fascial treatment should be second to the first administration of antibiotics followed by diet change to alkaline and low sugar because spirokytes love acid and sugar,, herbs, homeopathy and ayurvedics for a complete cure.

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I often see status post Lyme’s’ Disease clients. It seems as though reoccurring symptoms most often come from a complication of fascitis or inflammation of the fascia rather than a reinfection. Many times people medicate repeatedly only to find themselves in a pattern of returning to the same suffering state. It eventually becomes obvious that reoccurring symptoms are fascial in origin. This happens because any disease that involves systemic infection can cause inflammation of the fascia. The inflammation causes a response by where the fascia becomes sticky and adheres to bones or underlying muscles. The adhesions are pulled on in everyday activity including trying to stand upright. The battle of the muscles trying to properly function versus the fascial restrictions encourages a scarring down reaction as a stabilizing protection mechanism. This vicious cycle cause a corkscrew affect on the craniosacral system of the body. The corkscrew affect causes

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There Is No Other Shoe By Suzanne Eder

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any of you know that, last year, I experienced a real highlight of both my personal and professional lives, which was the opportunity I had to interview bestselling author Anita Moorjani, author of Dying to Be Me: My Journey from Cancer to Near Death to True Healing. Here is the story of how it all came about…and the deepened insights I gained into how we create our own realities. It all began when a friend of mine forwarded to me a video of Anita being interviewed, which had been posted on YouTube. I was profoundly moved by it and, after reading her book, had the impulse to reach out and see if she’d be willing to talk to me, a writer for Living.Well Magazine. I had a strong desire to connect with her personally - and a sense of intuitive “rightness” about it. So I acted on the impulse and sent an interview request through her website. My so-called reasoning mind tried to protect me from disappointment by reminding me that she must get thousands of such requests, and the chances of her spending quality time for an interview with an unknown writer, writing for a regional magazine published halfway around the globe she’d not yet heard of, were slim to none. After all, she was an internationally known bestselling author on a world tour! It wouldn’t be wise to get my hopes up, said the sober one within me, with her backhanded brand of comfort. In effect she was saying, “Don’t feel bad if she doesn’t respond, you’re not important enough to garner a response.” Yet deep within me I knew the interview was “supposed” to happen. Even with the voice of caution hissing in my ear, I felt an odd sense of destiny about the interview. And sure enough, within days I received a response from Anita’s assistant. She told me Anita would be delighted to schedule an interview with me, and we proceeded to email back and forth to work out the specifics of when, where and how the interview would be conducted. I was, quite simply, thrilled. Each email was kinder and more generous than the last. I felt I was establishing genuine rapport with Anita’s assistant when, suddenly, all communication stopped. It happened after I sent the email with my list of specific questions for the interview. No response. I sent it

A heated conversation bubbled up within me. The seemingly “spiritual” part of me recommended I just let it go; clearly it wasn’t meant to be, and we all know that attachment to a specific outcome is the biggest recipe for unhappiness in life. Another part of me went over the sequence of communications and steps, looking for the mistake I must surely have made. Maybe the interview questions were somehow offensive. Maybe I had done something else wrong. If I could just figure it out, perhaps I could somehow correct it. Another part of me was simply angry and hurt and prone to dramatic brooding. Thankfully, deep in the eye of the swirling hurricane of confused thoughts and emotions, sat a very calm and centered part of me who offered the reminder that the sense of “rightness” I had initially felt was real and true. That sense, that knowing, was what I could trust. So I gave myself time to simply feel the chaos of emotions that the other parts of me had churned up. After they subsided, and I sat in the blessed silence following the storm, a crystal-clear insight floated upward into my awareness. I suddenly realized that the sober voice who had tried to caution me from getting too excited about all of this was vibrating strongly within my energy field. She was the one proclaiming a very commonly held belief in mass consciousness that the whole thing was simply too good to be true. She had waited expectantly for the other shoe to drop. And so it had dropped. I could see with new eagle-eye vision that I had created the whole experience. The initial positive response from Anita’s assistant reflected my own initial enthusiasm and sense of destiny about the interview. The sudden halt in communication mirrored back the deeply held expectation that it was simply too good to be true. In that moment of recognition I declared, “Nothing is too good to be true!” It became my new mantra, and as I repeated it to myself I felt better and better. And from that better-feeling place I decided to email Anita’s assistant one more time. I boldly ignored the worrier within who — continued on next page

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cautioned that I was being a pest. (She is such a killjoy.) Within hours a response came back. Her assistant thanked me profusely for emailing again, explaining that their server had crashed and they’d lost many emails, including mine. They had no record of my email address or even the correct spelling of my name and were unable to contact me. Our warm and friendly communications resumed, and the interview was scheduled. In one of the last emails I sent, I told Anita’s assistant that it had been a real pleasure communicating with her. What came back was a response from Anita herself, saying the pleasure had been all hers. It turns out her assistant had copied Anita on all of our emails, and Anita had actually read them. She was genuinely looking forward to our interview. Just as my inner sense of “rightness” had predicted she would. If you haven’t already, I hope you’ll take the time to listen to our amazing conversation, which is posted on my website. And the articles I wrote based on our interview were published in the June, July and August, 2012, issues of this magazine. I’ve received so many positive comments about the interview and the articles, and I feel honored to have been part of something that

has such tremendous potential to support radical healing and transformation across the globe. And here’s what is so amazing to me as I reflect on the experience: it was created through love and trust in that deep sense of “rightness” I’ve mentioned several times. Powerful old beliefs such as, “It’s too good to be true” and “The other shoe is going to drop” almost prevented the interview from taking place – but love is always stronger than fear. When we dare to trust love, when we dare to honor our inner sense of “rightness,” we can move mountains. (Or at least, we can remediate the effects of a failed server.) Of course, I’m also struck by how entrenched those fear-based beliefs are, and how powerfully the deeper expectations they generate can affect our experience. Yet the more aware we become of them, the less power they have over us. Be willing to acknowledge those ancient beliefs and let them go. Be willing to declare a new reality for yourself, such as my “Nothing is too good to be true!” mantra. In a Facebook post I made shortly after gaining my newfound insight, I commented on the power of letting go of the fear-based beliefs arising from mass consciousness: — continued on next page

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“Sometimes we’re afraid to let ourselves be happy; there’s an underlying fear in mass consciousness that if we feel too good, the ‘other shoe’ is going to drop and something unwanted will happen. But what if there is no other shoe? What if the happier you are, the more fulfilled and generous and secure you become?” One of my friends posted back a couple of weeks later: “Suzanne, I have been trying to stay with the concept of enjoying the moment and not looking at good things with the underlying thought of “when will the other shoe drop?” I find that I am enjoying the good stuff even more than I had before, and that the snafus are actually LESS affecting, because I am riding on a higher life line…” YES! Let’s all declare that there is no other shoe! The more deeply we appreciate all that is good, and the more we expect good to flow into our lives, the better our lives get. And the better our lives get, the greater is our gift to the world through our very example and presence.

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Prevent High School Sports Injury Watching your children compete in sports is exciting; nothing is better than enjoying the great weather, fun conversations from other parents and cheering for your team and yelling at the refs. But are your children really prepared to compete? Is their conditioning and training on track with their athletic abilities? Do a few weeks of practice really get their bodies prepared? Each sport is unique in the way we have to move and use our bodies to perform the required activity. Some injuries are so specific that they have become the actual diagnosis, such as tennis or golfers elbow, runner’s knee, etc. The most common sport injuries are knee injuries, Achilles tendon sprains, shin splints, damage to the rotator cuff muscles, and listed at the top of all of all of these are muscle strains. In fact, out of each of these reported sport’s injuries there are always varying degrees of damage to the surrounding muscles. According to Boston Children’s Hospital, almost one-third of all childhood injuries are sports related muscle strains. The best way to prevent these injuries is to properly stretch the muscles. Most student athletes have the mentality that they are invincible. And yes, the young naturally have more flexibility that is eventually lost as we age. It is only once they have a serious injury that they understand the need to properly take care of their bodies. As a former athlete within the Delaware school systems, I can attest to the idea that stretching in a nut shell is boring, tedious, and uncomfortable. It especially seems annoying after having to wait all day in school to finally get outside and play. Stretching is perhaps the most important part of any sport. Not only does it reduce the risk of injury, but it can increase performance. Some general tips to properly stretch include: Warm up. First warm up the muscles with 5-10 minutes of light cardio, especially when working out in the morning

conditioning trainers to assist them in their stretches, but for the high school athlete as well as the rest us, stretching is a solo endeavor. There is a form of stretch called Active Release Technique (ART) which was developed, refined, and patented by a chiropractor named P. Michael Leahy, DC, CCSP.--This type of stretch is a hands-on approach performed by a certified professionals including chiropractors, physical therapists, massage therapists, certified athletic trainers, medical doctors, and others who are licensed to work on soft-tissue conditions/injuries. The Active Release Technique incorporates the patients actively stretching the muscle while the provider applies pressure into the muscle. Think of a string being pulled at either end, the string will get stretched. That’s the equivalent to the amount of stretch that someone can achieve on their own. Now imagine that string with a weight in the middle of it. The string will begin to bow and thus increase the stretch. This is the general idea behind Active Release Technique. The technique works for every single muscle in the body, including the small intricate muscles along your spine and neck. The technique is performed for one muscle at a time. The technique is used to help people achieve that extra bit of stretch they just can’t seem to achieve on their own, but is primarily used for muscle strains and other injuries. The technique is widely used by professional athletes and Olympic athletes due to the repetitive use of their muscles, but you don’t have to be an Olympian to benefit from Active Release Technique. Most of us have become “weekend warriors”. We sit all day long, I’m sorry, all week long and once the weekend comes we try to push ourselves to make up for it. This extreme of going from a sedentary lifestyle to an extreme burst of activity is a potential risk for injury. Without properly stretching your muscles, injury is inevitable.

Take your time. Don’t rush the stretch and concentrate on moving slowly and in control through the stretch. Breathe. Extend the stretch slightly with each exhale of breath. Contract the opposite muscle. For example, when reaching to your toes to stretch your hamstrings, if you engage the quadriceps muscles you can add to your stretch. In college and professional sports, the athletes with the longest careers attribute their success to their ability to stay healthy. Most players will go to great lengths to keep their bodies in the best shape possible. Fortunately these athletes have strength and 34

Dr. Kris Kondrad is a native Delawarean. He graduated from the University of Delaware with his Bachelor’s Degree in Biological Science. Dr. Kondrad graduated from Palmer College of Chiropractic in Port Orange, FL.. Dr. Kondrad received several certifications in Active Release Technique and is a Full Body Certified A.R.T. provider. Dr Kondrad also practices acupuncture therapy Dr. Konrad can be reached at First State Wellness Center across from Stanley’s on Foulk Rd Please call 302-475-4200 to schedule an appointment.

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I read in a recent magazine about pet health that it would be Ok to feed my dog some pumpkin. Is this statement true or a fallacy?

Pumpkin is an excellent source of carotenoids, fiber, iron, zinc, potassium and vitamin A. It is first very important to pick the correct kind of pumpkin. You DO NOT want to use pumpkin pie filler from the baking section of the supermarket. You want to use only canned pumpkin. Pumpkin’s high fiber content allows it to be of benefit in cases of constipation, diarrhea and also for losing weight. The easiest way to help lose some weight is to decrease, by a small portion, the amount of regular food you are giving your dog and to replace it with the pumpkin. Amounts range from 1/4 cup in smaller dogs to a full cup in larger dogs, generally once a day. I actually have one client who brings in a combination of organic plain yogurt, mixes it with some pumpkin and freezes it in a small ceramic bowel. She then allows her dog to eat it as he is getting his acupuncture treatment. It takes awhile to be consumed and lasts about the same amount of time an acupuncture treatment lasts ( 15 -20 minutes). It works very well and provides a great, healthy treat to give your dog as well!

A friend of mine said that her veterinarian ran a “fecal” test on her dog. What exactly does that mean and should I have my dog and cat tested. Is this something important?

the ability to cause havoc in your pet’s body. Extremely good testing exists to determine if infections are present. This allows the veterinarian to implement treatment early and reduce the potential transmission of such parasites to humans (in some cases) or to other pets. Often times your veterinarian will give you a sample cup to place your pet’s sample in. Only a very small amount of feces is required to run most of these test. The first morning stool is the best sample. All samples should be kept cool until they can get to the veterinarian’s hospital. Stool samples more than 20-24 hours old will not reveal accurate interpretation or results. Getting a stool sample checked at least once or twice a year is VERY important to the health of your pet. Intestinal parasites can cause severe intestinal disease and often can result in damage to other organs and tissues in the body. Some of these parasites are zoonotic, meaning that they can be transmitted to humans. Most transmission is the fecal- oral route. Cleanliness greatly reduces the chance of transmission. Treatment is usually given in the form of a liquid or tablet and may last a few weeks. At that time your veterinarian will request that you bring in another sample for analysis. Generally, any pet that presents with a soft stool or diarrhea should have their stool checked.

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Love Isn’t Made of Plastic By Karen Jessee

There’s the start of a college education in the back of my car. There’s been a small down payment on a house and a gently used vehicle back there too. I’ve carted away a cleaning service, a couple of moving men, and a contractor who could have done some serious home repairs. Futures have ended up in the back of my car and have been carried off to charities and day care centers in the form of plastic: children’s toys. We want to make our children happy. We seek to find what tweaks and delights their imaginations. And as we can’t know what that might be, we buy everything. We buy the toys and games that require screens and thumbs, ones that will make them exercise and move, that came from those sci-fi movies and fantasy films, that are manipulative and crafty, that are educational, ones that are simply great family fun. The first problem of so much and so many is we buy in bulk and we buy big. We treat toys, games, dolls, Beanie Babies and giant stuffed animals as though they were our emergency supplies of paper products and canned food. The second problem is that as adults, we have to schedule play time, and when that’s not possible we buy another game or toy and hope the kids will 36

automatically know how to enjoy it. The third problem, and I tread carefully here, are the grandparents. In every home that I have encountered where toys have been strewn throughout the house, piled high in corners, and unapologetically covered every bit of visible floor space, I have had the client whisper to me, “It’s my mother-in-law…it’s my ex-mother-in-law…it’s my mother… it’s my stepmother. They just won’t stop. It’s not like they wrap a present or two for Christmas or birthday. They come with something every time they visit. They send things from wherever they are. They shop and send all year long.” And so, in showing their love for the children, in gleefully whipping out cash and credit cards for the newest bits of plastic, grandparents have unknowingly destroyed the very homes they would like to visit. They could have opened a savings account for that child or bought services for their families, but that just doesn’t come with the wrappings and trappings of what we expect at those parties and holidays. They think a practical gift won’t get squeals of delight and hugs and kisses or label them “the best” in the category of grandmas and moms. Think again.

One of my clients is not well. She requires numerous doctors and medications. She is young and pretty and should not be battling this illness. She has two young daughters and a husband who is working long, hard hours. They have all been in the house for several years and not everything is yet unpacked from their former apartment… or their wedding. She’s tired, and she’s battling for space, clarity and her health every day. Clutter is everywhere. It’s been that way since she was diagnosed. She’s one of many women facing nightmares with a smile. * She not only needs my services and the storage units, hangers, and shelving I will be hauling in, she needs someone to come in and move out some furniture. She needs a flat screen installed that’s been lying around for a few years. She needs the leaks fixed. She needs the walls painted. She needs a rug pulled up. She needs bureaus for her daughters. Most importantly, she needs to set an example for her daughters, a basic rite of motherhood that is currently impossible.

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In a house where someone is ill, where someone is aging, where people are busy, where trips to the doctor vacuum up what time there is, where fatigue and confusion reign, things and stuff will fall and be left to stay where they may. People desperately need help. Instead, love comes through the front door in the form of plastic and bits of silly. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if she had someone come in once a week to do the laundry, to tackle that growing pile of dishes and do a bit of cleaning so she didn’t face this daily confusion? Wouldn’t it be great if those leaks were fixed and the mold would stop, so she could have a room to call her own? Unable to work, wouldn’t she have peace of mind if she knew someone had started a savings account for her daughters’ education?

the school supplies, and we know that December’s holiday colors and characters are already vying for retail space. Grandmothers, I know you’ve been holiday shopping since things went on sale last January. I know you’re willing to stand in line or live by your computer for the newest toys and games. I ask you to unite in love and common sense to make this a different holiday for your families. See their situation for what it is. Ask how you can help. Change lives. Give them what they really need and want. You’ll be the favorite. I promise. *In any personal story, the family structure has been changed as to maintain client privacy.

I remind you of a story I shared a few years ago of a gentleman who ran a clean-out business in Philadelphia. When I asked him what his most challenging job was, he replied that he had just removed one ton, 2,000 pounds, of books and toys from one home that had only two children. It was all still in his trucks and vans and he didn’t know what to do with all of it. I suggested that he look into day care centers, and after-school programs in a five-mile radius and share the wealth. Having done this myself from the back of my own car, I knew he would be treated like a hero. He was. Glittery pumpkins and spicy candles were on the shelves with

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SETTLING (3 Keys To Avoid The Trap of Settling) By Joe White

I was at the beach this summer and went into the ocean. I was enjoying the waves and water and seemingly lost track of time. I started to make my way back to my umbrella only to realize that I could not visually locate my stuff. It got worse when I noticed everything looked different. I panicked for a brief moment until I saw my umbrella... about 50 feet to my right. I thought, “Who moved my stuff?”... But no one moved anything. While I was enjoying the water, the undercurrent pulled me away from where I started; but what I found even more interesting is that I did not even notice I was drifting away.

standard such as: It may not get any better than this so I might as well take what I have. This is not exactly what I want but it will do for now. It is more than I had in the past.

Settling is a lot like my beach fiasco. No one plans to settle. It just kinda seems to happen. One day you are growing and reaching and seemingly the next you are stuck right in the middle of “Settleland.”

Solutions: Be clear on your standards, write them out and read them regularly.

The truth is that just because it feels like it happens overnight, does not mean that it does. That is good news for you because you can now begin to notice the signs for when you are settling or how to break free if you find yourself stuck in the dreadful place of having settled.

What is E - Squared? E - Squared is a Get Life Coaching phrase that means Empowering Environment. In other words, who you spend time with is who you become. Lets be honest, if your peer group is a group of individuals that consistently settles, there is a good chance you are the same or you are not close behind them. Imagine this, what if you had a group of individuals that were committed to growing and changing, pushing forward and breaking through? You would create an extraordinary life.

KEY 1 - Resting Is OK, Stopping Is Not You may have remembered me saying this: Whatever does not grow, will die. This is true whether we are talking about nature or your life. The nature of growth requires you to consistently step out of comfort and into uncertainty. After a while, it is human nature to want a break or a little rest. We all crave a little comfort. Ahhh, the trap is now set. You take a little well deserved break and next thing you are stuck in the proverbial Lazyboy recliner of comfort. Comfort is addictive and seductive and settling is often the by product of the addictive side of comfort. We all deserve a chance to rest but we must ensure that the rest stop remains just that; a temporary place instead of a permanent destination.

These are fear based standards. The fear is that what you really want you will be unable to obtain, so you should get what you can now. That is settling. I am not saying life it not about compromise, but we cannot lower our standards out of fear. Fear robs you of your passion for life. Standards are the mechanism that prevents this from occurring.

KEY 3 - E - Squared

Solution: Build a team of like minded individuals who would never settle and are committed to growth. Remember this, settling is a choice. No matter how comfortable it may feel, you deserve more. No matter how many times you have failed or been unsuccessful, you deserve more. No matter whatever happens, you deserve more! Until next time, I wish you love and passion! Live Free!

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FINANCIAL FOCUS: How Should Your Risk Tolerance Influence Investment Decisions?

Karen Jessee:

As an investor, how much risk can you tolerate? It’s an important question — because the answer can help you make the right investment choices. Before you know your risk tolerance, you’ll want to make sure you first understand the nature of investment risk — the risk of losing principal. This risk is especially prevalent when you invest in stocks, because stock prices will always fluctuate — and there are never any guarantees about performance. Of course, a decline in value does not mean you need to sell; you can always hold on to the stock with the hope that its value will bounce back. And this can certainly happen, but again — no guarantees. How you respond to this type of investment risk will tell you a great deal about your own risk tolerance. Of course, no one, whether he or she has a high tolerance for risk or a low one, particularly likes to see declines. But people do react differently. If you’re the sort of person who can retain your confidence in your investment mix and can focus on the long term and the potential for a recovery, you may well have a higher tolerance for risk. But if you find yourself losing sleep over your losses (even if, at this point, they’re just “paper” losses), becoming despondent about reaching your goals, and questioning whether you should be investing at all, then you may have a low tolerance for risk. This self-knowledge of your own risk tolerance should help inform your investment decisions — to a point. Even if you determine you have a high tolerance for risk, you almost certainly should not load up your portfolio exclusively with stocks. If the stock market enters a prolonged slump, you could face heavy losses that may take many years to overcome, causing you to lose significant ground in the pursuit of your financial goals. Conversely, even if you discover you don’t have much tolerance for risk, you won’t want to invest only in supposedly “safe” vehicles, such as certificates of deposit (CDs). During those periods when rates on CDs and similar instruments are low, as has been the case in recent years, your interest payments from these investments may not even keep up with inflation — meaning that, over time, you could end up losing purchasing power, which, over the long term, can be just as big a risk as market declines. Ultimately, then, you’ll probably want to let your risk tolerance guide your investment choices — but not dictate them with an “iron hand.” So, if you believe you are highly tolerant of risk, you might have a somewhat higher percentage of stocks in your portfolio than if you felt yourself to be highly risk-averse — but in any case, you’ll likely benefit from building a diversified portfolio containing stocks, bonds, government securities, CDs and other investments. While this type of diversification can’t guarantee profits or protect against loss, it can help reduce the effects of volatility on your portfolio. By knowing your own risk tolerance, and the role it can play in your choices, you can help yourself create an effective, suitable investment strategy — one that you can live with for a long time and that can help you avoid the biggest risk of all: not reaching your long-term goals. Aaron C Leonard Edward Jones Financial Advisor: (302) 654-1548 3801 Kennett Pike Ste 206e Wilmington, DE 19807 www.livingwellmagazine.net

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CAN STRETCHING MAKE YOUR BACK PAIN WORSE? By Dr. Scott E. Rosenthal

Are you like so many of my new patients - suffering from severe, one-sided lower back pain that came on abruptly? Are you anxious because it’s not getting better and pills hardly touch the pain? Are the muscles in your lower back and buttocks gripping with an aching persistence that is only interrupted by periodic jolts of sharp pain? Does your pain surge when you change positions, such as going from lying to sitting or sitting to standing? Is your tail bone tender or hot to the touch or feel swollen on the edges? If so, chances are you may have a significant problem that makes you think stretching will give relief. BEWARE- most types of stretching can prolong and worsen the condition! Ladies and gentlemen, I would like to introduce you to the sacroiliac joint (SI joint). Made famous for contributing to the “cute” dimples of Venus seen in the upper derriere, this large L-shaped joint is formed by the connection of your hip bone or ilium and your tail bone or sacrum. Strong connective tissue bands called ligaments hold the bony structures together and allow for slight movement. The sacrum is a triangular shaped bone that is made up of five smaller bones that normally fuse in adulthood. The point or tip of the triangular-shaped tail bone points downward while the wide base forms a platform for the spinal column. The ilium is the large hip bone on each side. The main function of the SI joint is that of shock absorption and distribution of the forces of the body to the hips and legs. When all is well, this joint is a hard-worker that shows up on time, does what you ask and never complains. At other times, you are literally aching for relief. I remember the facial expression and unbearable movement of the first person who came to see me with severe pain caused 40

by sacroiliac joint misalignment and instability. Seeing him suffer with such pain and dysfunction made me feel very eager to help! Since then, hundreds of similar cases have walked or crawled through my office door. This is one of the most common problems helped by chiropractic. The cause often eludes the sufferer. He or she would often state, “But I didn’t do anything?” Many would tell me that they tried heat, ice, over-the-counter and/or prescription drugs and STRETCHING. But the problem was unrelenting! I would then ask them, “Did the stretching help?” The response was almost always the same. Most of the sufferers told me that they believed the problem was a “tight butt muscle,” but the stretching only felt good while they were doing it. I have found that tight muscles are rarely the cause. When they are, the pain usually resolves by itself within days. Being a large joint held by thick rubber-band-like ligaments, in most cases, the joint was over-stressed. Common causes include traumatic injury, poor posture, improper lifting techniques, weakened muscles, being out of shape, sedentary life styles and/ or pregnancy. The connective tissue becomes stretched and no longer holds the joint together, thus allowing for too much movement and misalignment. Pain and inflammation result. Like a boxer contracting his abdominal muscles in order to protect the vulnerable organs beneath, the body responds by engaging the back and pelvic muscles in order to protect from aggravating movement. A tight muscle is your friend. Unfortunately, like a good friend, when asked to do too much, it starts to complain. The extra workload required of the muscles to stabilize the injured SI joint

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causes fatigue, and dull pain is the result. Despite the secondary pain that the muscle guarding produces, it is important to remember that the tightness is a directed and intelligent response of the body to immobilize and allow for healing to take place. This is why treating the muscle tightness and pain by stretching can be counter-productive. It can be aggravating and may deepen the injury. I have found that the fastest and most comfortable way to resolve sacroiliac dysfunction and pain is to start by gently adjusting the tail bone and hip into proper alignment. I next analyze to determine if there is connective tissue twisting or pulling. Think of the times when you get up from sitting and have to readjust your clothing into position. When your shirt or pants become crooked, it’s harder to walk or move your arms. As with bony misalignment, imbalanced connective tissue prohibits correct function and can disrupt the healing process. Abnormal pelvic, hip and lower back muscle function is assessed to determine irregularity. Various techniques are employed to bring back normal muscle support and movement. Cold laser therapy is useful to decrease inflammation and pain. In this way, the laser accelerates the healing process. Herbal anti-inflammatory supplements offer a non-invasive aid. When the problem is very severe, I have found it helpful to fit the patient with a specific SI belt for short-term use that provides a protective compression and immobilization. Homework may involve ice and/or strengthening poses from yoga (not stretches). Office visits are repeated through the week to allow the healing process to take place. Although most patients feel relief on the first day, it can take several weeks to fully resolve. As a certified yoga teacher and doctor of chiropractic, I find stretching to be a valuable tool for many conditions, as well as for prevention of injury. However, when there is a problem, recognizing that your muscle tightness and pain may be related to your body’s response to a severe underlying sacroiliac condition can avoid causing further harm. With proper treatment and care, you can soon return to a pain-free and active life. In other words, seek other solutions because stretching sacroiliac conditions can be a real pain in the… don’t ask!

Dr. Scott E. Rosenthal is a second-generation Doctor of Chiropractic and a past president of the Delaware Chiropractic Society. His undergraduate degree is in Nutrition and he is a Certified Yoga Teacher. In his Wilmington practice, he offers the cutting-edge Koren Specific Technique (KST) as well as other contemporary and traditional approaches. KST comfortably integrates gentle adjustments of the spine, cranial bones, TMJ, arms and legs (including the wrists and feet). Dr. Rosenthal specializes in pain relief, auto or work injury recovery and natural ways to boost whole body wellness. To contact Dr. Rosenthal please visit rosenthalchiropractic.com or 302-999-0633. www.livingwellmagazine.net

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Easy Pumpkin Fudge EASY! Just bring to a boil, and pour into a pan! 1 1/2 cups sugar 2/3 cup evaporated milk 1/2 cup canned pumpkin Pumpkin pie spice (optional) 2 Tablespoons butter 2 cups mini marshmallows 11 oz package white chocolate chips 1 teaspoon Nielson-Masssey vanilla extract 8 oz chopped walnuts (optional) Combine sugar, milk, pumpkin, butter and pumpkin pie spice in a medium saucepan over medium heat. Bring to a boil, and keep there for 12 minutes, stirring constantly. Line an 8x8â&#x20AC;? dish with wax paper. Turn off heat and add the marshmallows, white chocolate chips, and vanilla. Stir until melted. Pour into the dish. Refrigerate for about 2 hours. Lift fudge out with the wax paper, and use a pizza cutter to slice into squares. These are rich so keep the squares small! Store in an air-tight container in the fridge. You can make two stacks of the fudge by placing a wax paper piece between the slice layers

The Great Pumpkin Cheese Ball 3 C. shredded Monterrey jack or pepper jack cheese 1 cup of orange cheddar cheese Finely shredded 1 cup of Cheezit crackers crushed (or a healther cracker) 8 oz. package cream cheese, softened 1/2 C. solid pack pumpkin (unsweetened) 1/2 cup orange marmalade or can substitute Apricot or Peach preserves Decorations: be creative, candy corn, black olives,grapes, red peppers, and pickles can be used to embellish or make a face. Assorted crackers or chips for serving. 42

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Beat cheeses, pumpkin, preserves and spices in a medium bowl until smooth. Cover; refrigerate 2-3 hours or until cheese is firm enough to shape. Shape mixture into a round pumpkin. Roll into the crushed Cheezits crackers (or healthier cracker). Put on a serving plate. Using knife, score vertical lines down pumpkin. You can use a pretzel rod or a pickle for the stem. Be creative! make your own pumpkin face Slice olives or grapes half for the eyes and mouth. Donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t be afraid to get more create with this. Cover loosely; refrigerate until serving time. October 2013

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Apple Cider 9-10 Apples Use a variety of apples, such as Honeycrisp, Fuji Mutsu, and Courtland 4 cups water 1 cinnamon stick

Brian’s Ez Applesauce 9-30+ apples (Courtland,fuji, Honeycrisp, Jonathan, etc 6 cups old-fashioned rolled oats (not instant) 1 cup sliced almonds 1/3 cup coconut 1 cup hulled, raw green pumpkin seeds 1/8–1/4 teaspoon salt (to taste)

We usually use a combination, if you go to an apple orchard try a few to see which combination you will like Most of the time we do not add any sugar or sweeteners but we have used: Maple syrup, Honey, Agave, Brown Sugar, etc

Preheat oven to 325°F.

Wash Apples - Boil until soft Use a “Foley Mill” and mash apples. We highly recommend buying a “Foley Mill” lt will take all the skin and seeds etc and just give you applesauce, (cost is about $30 for a small one or $70 for a big one, but it takes away all the work! (Check your local Kitchen Store)

In a large bowl stir dry ingredients together, Oats, almonds, coconut, and pumpkin seeds.

Put into containers Applesauce freezes well so we make enough to last a few months.

In a small saucepan melt butter with honey over low heat, stirring. Pour butter-honey mixture over oat mixture and stir until combined well.

The apple water is great to drink,

1 stick (unsalted) butter 5 tablespoons honey or Agave (to taste) 1 cup raisins 1 cup chopped dried apricots 1 cup craisins (optional)

Cover large baking tray with aluminum foil for quick cleanup. Spread granola evenly on pan and bake in middle of oven, stirring halfway through, until golden brown, about 20 minutes. Cool granola in pan on a rack and stir in dried fruits. Store in an airtight container

Wash the apples, core and slice them. Place them into your crock (keep the peel on) with the 2 cups of water. Cook on LOW for 7-8 hours or on HIGH for 4 hours. Scoop out all of your apples into a colander and let the juice drain into a bowl. Pour the juice back into your crock with the remaining juice left from scooping the apples out. Place the cinnamon stick into the juice and let it simmer on low for an hour or two. You can either serve it warm, or refrigerate it and serve it cold. Enjoy!

Spike it: with dark rum!

Optional- (you can add a cinnamon stick into the water) and or sprinkle cinnamon on top when serving. Note: Last year we had habanera peppers (cut stems and seeds out,(wear gloves) from our garden, so we used the remaining juice to cook down the habaneras peppers added brown sugar, orange peel, oranges, lemons and a no sugar pectin to create a jelly/Jam, which later we turned into BBQ that lasted all year.

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The odds are not good. According to the American Cancer Society, breast cancer is the most common cancer among women, other than skin cancer. Most people have a close friend or relative that has suffered or is suffering from it. Worse, it is also the second leading cause of cancer death after lung cancer. The only upside is that breast cancer death rates are going down. Breast cancer is a malignant tumor that develops from cells in the breast and our best defense is early detection and prevention. Cancer is mysterious and there is no surefire way to prevent it, but there are things that will reduce the likelihood of getting breast cancer and/or improving survival if you get breast cancer. We don’t know all the causes of breast cancer, but we do know some of the risk factors. These risk factors include excess alcohol consumption, having few children and not breast feeding them, limited physical activity, and excess weight. If you are past the child bearing age, there is not much you can do about having more children or breast feeding them, but if you are starting a family it is an extra reason to breast feed. Additionally, age, race and family history are risk factors we can not control. Therefore, it is important to improve the risk factors that can be controlled, like alcohol consumption, weight, activity and most importantly a healthy diet. Eating a well balanced diet including at least five daily servings of fruits and vegetables is the easiest way to improve your health in general and lower your risk for cancer. In fact, vegetarians have been found to have an overall lower cancer rate compared with the general population. It is unclear how much lower for breast cancer specifically and so far there is no 44

Nutrition for Breast Cancer definitive link between meat or dairy consumption and breast cancer. But it is clear that increasing fruit and vegetable consumption would improve most people’s health, whether from their fiber and phytonutrients or all their vitamins and minerals. Yet, most American’s do not come near their recommended servings of five fruits and vegetables a day. Try adding some blueberries or strawberries to your cereal in the morning, keep some apples on your desk for a midday snack or some fruit cocktail cups in their own juice, unsweetened of course. Bring along baby carrot sticks with dip for lunch or eat soups made with a lot of vegetables like gazpacho in the summer or minestrone in the colder seasons. Five a day is easier than you think, you just have to try it. As part of a healthy diet, soy foods have gotten a good rap for aiding in breast cancer prevention, but it seems the evidence may not be as strong as once believed. Most of the studies do not show a significant decrease in risk for getting breast cancer in those who ate large amounts of soy. Soy has been established to reduce cholesterol and thereby improve risks for cardiovascular disease, but so far there is no proof that it will protect you from breast cancer. Still moderate amounts are a good idea to include in your diet to improve overall health, especially if it is used as a meat replacement. There is some evidence that animal products have cancer causing agents. Since there is no clear evidence of soys benefits it is not recommended that people take soy supplements until soy’s role in breast cancer prevention is clearer. In terms of alcohol consumption there is also some mixed information. While the American Cancer Society has found that people who consume more alcohol have a www.livingwellmagazine.net

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higher risk of breast caner especially if they combine it with tobacco, the American Heart Association states that moderate amounts of alcohol is associated with a decreased risk for cardiovascular disease. The benefits of alcohol may be more important for those over 60 and the real key is moderation. Definitely don’t start drinking just for the benefits. But if you already drink moderately, men no more than 2 drinks per day and women no more than one, you don’t need to stop. As a part of a healthy diet it is also important to choose healthier fats. Some studies have shown that low fat diets help prevent breast cancer. Other studies disagree, but all agree that a diet low in saturated and trans fats is healthier all around. Whether a low fat diet lowers the risk for breast cancer on its own or does so by avoiding weight gain it is clear it offers many positive health benefits. This means use olive oil or canola oil instead of butter or margarine. Eat fish and lean chicken instead of red meat. Choose skim milk and low fat cheese to replace whole milk. A few easy steps makes a world of difference. The role of diet in breast cancer prevention has not been proven conclusively, but eating a well-balanced diet has been proven to help ensure health and longevity. Try eating more fruits and vegetables, limiting your alcohol intake and choosing unsaturated fats over saturated ones. At worst, you are improving your overall health. At best you are improving your chances of avoiding breast cancer. Tamar Genger RD,MA is the Founder and Food Editor at Joy of Kosher, LLC . joyofkosher.com As well as a contributor to Living.Well Magazine.

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With over 100 years of collective experience, Kirkwood Dental continues to provide the most advanced dental care possible, at a reasonable cost to our patients. Evening and Saturday Appointments.

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