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JAMIE OLIVER’S SECOND-CHANCE E DING!

KATE GETS CANDID Monarchy, motherhood & making it work

HOW EMBARRASSING!

Kerre McIvor, Suzanne Paul & John Hawkesby tell all Cooking with passion!

HEALTHWATCH Don’t let snoring DAME KRISTIN’S NICI’S TROPICAL ruin your health… or your marriage!

DELIGHTS DARKEST HOUR

Swiss freeze: Sophie, Edward and Louise look snug and happy as they set out.

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IT’S SNOW HOLIDAY FOR THE WESSEXES!

here’s no day like a snow day! The Earl and Countess of Wessex, along with their children Lady Louise (16) and James, Viscount Severn (12), hit the slopes at the exclusive St Moritz resort in Switzerland last week.

The Wessexes have made their skiing holidays something of a tradition, jetting off every year around this time to glide down the slopes, with James especially showing a knack for snow sports.

The trip will be a welcome break for Sophie (55) and Edward (55), who have had a busy year already as they’ve rallied to fill in for Edward’s nephew Prince Harry and his wife Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, who have stepped back from royal engagements as they settle in to their equally wintry life in Canada. #

ARE YOU A COUNTESS? The royals were joined by family friends, and Sophie played babysitter on the chairlifts.

The refreshingly down-to-earth couple enjoyed some quality time with their children, who were on a break from school.

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A winter break in St Moritz has become a tradition for the seasoned skiers.

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MARCH 2, 2020

ON THE COVER CELEBS REVEAL: OUR WORST TV MOMENTS! 10 PARENTING & THE PALACE Kate’s candid motherhood chat 14 BACK FOR SECONDS Jamie’s getting married again!

20 A DAME’S DARKEST HOUR Why Kristin’s making a comeback 36 COOKING WITH PASSION Nici’s tropical delights 52 HEALTHWATCH Don’t let snoring ruin your life 55 CONSUMER 56 GARDEN 59 CRAFT 60 TRAVEL 63 HEY JUDE

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12 DIVORCE DOMINOES Another royal couple call it quits 13 SUSSEX TV SPECIAL Harry and Meghan’s news series 16 THE WRAP UP Why Fran Drescher’s just fine; Brad’s biggest win; Shannen’s toughest cancer battle yet 18 J-LO’S WEDDING JOY Why I’m going to go all out!

24 QUICK FICTION Part two of Love, Virtually

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28 WORDS TO THE WISE Ann’s keeping the faith 30 GAINING TRACTION Cat and Phil’s trek of hope 32 FLORA’S BOOT CAMP She’s got her foot in the door!

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64 PUZZLES 72 WEDDINGS & TEACUPS 73 HOROSCOPES 75 WEEKLY CONVERSATION 76 KERRE MCIVOR 77 COLIN HOGG 78 ENTERTAINMENT 79 BOOKS

STAR WEEKLY 2 STAR NEWS 80 STAR WEEKLY

FROM THE EDITOR I trul t ly takke my hat off to anyone who can make a career doing live telly. I immediately get a pit in my stomach and sweaty palms whenever I’m asked on and start imagining all the worst-case scenarios that could happen. What if I’m suddenly tongue-tied? What if I manage to fall backwards off my chair?

What if I say something ridiculous and it goes up on YouTube and I’m forever known as that person? What if I look as afraid as I really am?!

Thankfully, after experiencing pretty sensational nerves, when the camera turns to me sometho h ught of the fact that a million thing comes over me – maybe peo ple were watching – until I’ve got them out of my system, or maybe it’s an acceptance that I couldn’t remember that Fergie is the Duchess of York. it’s too late to run away – and What was likely only a second I’m fine. So far none of the or two felt like an eternity as I above situations have ever played out (touch wood!) either. desperately wracked my brain Time really seems to slow down for a word I knew as well as anything. In hindsight, I’m though, and each second after probably lucky that was the you’re asked a question feels worst thing that happened. like it’s stretching on forever.

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FOUR LOCAL CELEBRITIES REVEAL THEIR ON-SCREEN SCREAMERS

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ust because you’re on telly, doesn’t mean you’re always happy about what you see yourself do!

For many of our on-screen celebs, life in front of the camera can mostly be fun, always entertaining and occasionally a bit embarrassing.

The Weekly talks to four TV personalities who aren’t afraid to admit that, sometimes, it really can go horribly wrong!

have never watched myself [on TV] even from the first advert I ever did because you never look and sound how you think you will.

Right from the start I was highly criticised for my accent.

Everywhere I went people would say, ‘Oh my God, you’re the lady with the strange voice and the weird accent.’

When I saw myself on the telly I had to agree. I do sound terrible and I don’t like the look of myself. When I did Dancing with the Stars my dance partner, Stefano Oliveri, and I sat down after the first week to watch the episode and I was mortified.

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COVER STORY to change the channel as quickly as I could but there I was on that channel selling something else.

Oh my God, it was a nightmare, so I switched again and there I was for a third time. I broke out in a cold sweat and had to switch the telly off in the end.

I know I am too rough on myself. I did an interview with Anika Moa last year and everyone said it was hilarious but I’ve still never watched it. My lovely partner, Patrick, keeps saying to me, ‘Watch it, you’ll love it!’ But I’m not ready yet.

Funnily enough, now, nearly 13 years later, I can watch myself on Dancing with the Stars. And when I look back at the show I don’t know what I was worried about. I looked lovely, I was amazing! I don’t know what was wrong with me.”

I didn’t look how I felt.

In my head I was young and slim and gorgeous. When I saw myself I was distraught. Oh, look at my stomach! Oh, look how short my legs are! Even though I won the competition and everybody said I looked gorgeous I just couldn’t see it.

I completely lost my confidence and thought I looked like a complete idiot. Stefano said I wasn’t to watch myself anymore because it wasn’t good for my confidence, so I didn’t.

With my adverts, the problem is I never know when they’re coming on. I was in a Sydney hotel room last year and always have the TV on in the background (I don’t like being in an empty room by myself) and an advert came on. I realised it was me and panicked. I was trying

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ost of the telly I did was live, the sort where you can see yourself out the corner of your eye and watch your own slow death.

When I hosted It’s in the Bag, I worked with Hilary Timmins as my co-host for six years. As you will recall, the show was about taking the money or the bag − which could include a brand machine, a trip to oby prize, such m the Two as in full flight to really ramp sm and shouting y voice, ‘The big ne, I’m offering London for two or you could finish up with one of Hilary’s boobies.’

There was a thunderous silence. Hilary just about fell out of her gear and could not sober up. I just wanted to kill myself.

We were filming live though so I didn’t stop and kept on going, warts and all.

Another time, when I was doing Top Half in the early 1980s, I was all set to interview a punk rocker called Wreckless Eric who’d had one hit called

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Whole Wide World. It was a live interview and in walks Eric during the commercial break, the archetypal punk rocker with more stuff in his nose, eyebrows and ears than I’d ever seen. He was a disgusting looking person and I don’t think he knew what deodorant was because the whole studio stunk. He looked at me with venom, as if I was the enemy. I thought I’d go straight to the heart with this guy, no pussyfooting around.

He sat on the couch between me and Judy Bailey and when the commercial was over I leapt in and welcomed him to the studio, then said, ‘Tell me, is it all drugs and sex on the rock’n’roll road?’ There was a pause as he looked at me, then replied, ‘Well if it was I wouldn’t be here would I?’ He then spat on the carpet and walked out.

My favourite story is another day on Top Half with Judy. The

Rubik’s cube was the big new craze in the early 1980s, and some kid in Norway got the world record by doing it in 13 seconds. It was Judy’s story and she was holding up a cube, explaining how it all worked.

She started turning it to demonstrate and every time she turned it, a piece flew off. There were bits flying off everywhere and I’m sitting next to her, off camera, wetting my pants as this thing disintegrates. Lovely Judy is all prim and proper trying to do it correctly and kicking me out of [view of the] camera to stop me laughing. Finally the thing is almost completely demolished and she beams down the camera, ‘My co-host John Hawkesby will continue to demonstrate,’ and hands me what’s left of the Rubik’s cube.

I had to hold that damn thing until we could end the show and re-join the network.”

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KERRE MCIVOR NEWSTALK ZB RADIO HOST

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elebrity Squares was not a great show for me. You may remember it was based on the game noughts and crosses, and in each box was a different celebrity. The host would ask each celebrity a question and the contestant had to guess whether the answer was right or wrong.

I was cast as the dumb, blonde bimbo. The host was Richard Wilkins, who is a really handsome New Zealand-born, Australian celebrity. In those days game shows gave away a lot of household stuff, and in this case it was a lovely queen-sized bedroom suite with a headboard and matching bedside tables.

Richard announced it and then said, ‘Here’s something Kerre would love, you must have worn a few of these out over the years Kerre.’ I replied, sitting up in my little square, ‘Ha, ha, ha Richard.’ There were no hard feelings because all our lines were scripted, so he wasn’t being mean − he was just doing his job.

It was a different time in the early 1990s − what are you going to do?

I turned up for the gig and played the dumb blonde, that wasn’t really me. I was waitressing at the time and got $600 for doing it, so it was very useful.

Another show I worked on was Ready Steady Cook, which I actually hosted in the late 1990s. It was one of the first cooking-game shows and we worked really hard, filming five shows in one day. On this one day cricketer Martin Crowe was busily chopping tomatoes when I realised, with horror, that he had chopped the tops of his fingers off. I was looking at them and saying, ‘Gosh, these tomatoes look nice and juicy,’ and then noticed all this blood spurting everywhere and he was looking really pale. Like a trooper, Martin kept talking to the camera but I eventually had to tell them to stop filming. It was too much.

I have done so much terrible TV in the past, such as turning up for the Pascal Celebrity Challenge dressed as Wonder Woman and sliding down poles.

Horrendous. Jude Dobson was very good at all that! But I’ve escaped the worst TV humiliation because I said no to Celebrity Treasure Island every year from the age of 32 to 54. I say no to quite a few reality shows. I’m not great real − I’m much better packaged.”

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BRIAN EDWARDS BROADCASTER & AUTHOR

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uriously, the worst thing I remember of my early TV appearances on the Christchurch edition of Town and Around was my really (really!) strong Belfast (Northern Ireland) accent.

I recall [publisher] Christine Cole Catley in an early review referring to me as ‘a newcomer’ and singling out my ‘intriguing Irish accent’. To me, this intended compliment was an insult and a slap in the face. I hated my accent and, over the years, worked hard to lose it. I think I was reasonably successful in that effort. I’d like to think of my current accent as more of a ‘brogue’ − soft and lilting.

In the 1960s I headed off to the West Coast of the South Island to file some stories for Town and Around. I discovered they had a new PR officer so I thought, ‘This is a good idea, who better to talk to for a story.’

We thought we’d do some colour stuff, maybe in a pub.

Down I go to the West Coast, and the weather is unbelievably awful, pouring with drenching rain. The new PR man was happy to do an interview so I did it outside. There was an unbelievable amount of rain coming down and this man was wearing an English-style hat which had a rim. He’s standing in the rain and could barely see

me, and the rim of his hat kept gradually collecting water so that every time he leaned forward the water would pour down his face and his front. All the while, I’m saying, ‘So tell me, what is so good about this place?’ It was awful and so naughty and evil and bad to do to the poor fellow, who’d only been there a few days.

That night we went down to the pub in Greymouth for the second story and there was a marvellous woman there who got up to sing. She had a fantastic voice and sang this song which was so plaintive, with the words, ‘It’s dark as a dungeon down in the mine,’

and she was standing on the table, having had a few drinks.

So my two stories were the crucifixion of the new PR man down on the West Coast and the drunken woman singing dark-as-a-dungeon-down-inthe-mine on a table.

The people on the West Coast didn’t like it and wrote unpleasant letters to me saying extremely nasty things and making extraordinary suggestions about what I could do with myself. I felt I could never go back there for fear of what they would do to me. But last year my wife, Judy, and I did venture there and had a lovely time in lovely weather.” # New Zealand Woman’s Weekly

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ROYAL UPDATE

PARENTING

& the palace CANDID KATE OPENS UP!

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THE DUCHESS REVEALS ALL ON MUM GUILT AND MOTHERHOOD

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t’s her most personal interview ever. And just when it seemed she couldn’t endear herself to the public any more than she already has, Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge has impressed people by talking honestly about the challenges of pregnancy and motherhood.

The mum-of-three spoke for 30 minutes on UK podcast Happy Mum, Happy Baby about moments all other parents can relate to, such as the guilt she feels about times when she can’t be there for Prince George (6), Princess Charlotte (4) and Prince Louis (22 months). But Kate (38) also opened up about the demands being a member of the royal family puts on her parenting, including being expected to present her babies to the world just hours after giving birth.

In the nine years since she married Prince William (37) and became a fully-fledged royal, Kate has only spoken publicly a few times, in short interviews

Posing for pictures with William and George just a day after giving birth in 2013 (left) was “terrifying”, Kate admitted to Giovanna (above).

and prepared speeches. So her half-hour chat with host Giovanna Fletcher (35) – partly to publicise a survey on early childhood that she’s promoting – was groundbreaking. Kate’s admissions about pregnancy and parenthood provided a real insight into her life and the kind of person she is.

The duchess admitted that presenting her newborns to the world outside the Lindo Wing of London’s St Mary’s Hospital shortly after giving birth was “terrifying”. When George was born in 2013, both she and William were keen to do the obligatory shot with their new addition in front of the media and gathered crowds, just as William’s parents Prince Charles and Diana, Princess of Wales, had done with him and Prince Harry, but it was stressful.

“Everyone had been so supportive and both William and I were really conscious that this was something everyone was excited about, and you know we’re hugely grateful for the support the public had shown us.

“For us to be able to share that joy and appreciation with the public, I felt was important.

“But, equally, it was coupled with a newborn baby, and inexperienced parents, and the uncertainty of what that held, so there were all sorts of mixed emotions.”

Kate also confessed that she preferred labour to pregnancy, thanks to suffering from a severe form of morning sickness called hyperemesis gravidarum with each of her babies.

“I’m not the happiest of pregnant people,” she revealed.

“It was definitely a challenge, not just for me but also for loved ones around me. William didn’t feel he could do much to help and it’s hard [for loved ones] to see you suffering without actually being able to do anything about it.”

She added, “[It was] utterly rotten. I was really sick. I wasn’t eating the things I should’ve been eating and yet the body was able to take the goodness from my body and grow a new life, which I think is fascinating.”

Because pregnancy had been so awful, labour was much easier in comparison.

“I actually really quite liked labour… because actually it was an event that I knew there was going to be an ending to!”

Kate also talked about how she tried hypnobirthing during labour, after realising during

firstborn baby, that everything is going to go back to how it was.

“I totally underestimated the impact and the change that it had on us from that moment really. No amount of planning and preparation can get you ready for that moment.”

When asked whether she struggles with “mum guilt”, Kate’s response was an emphatic, “Yes, absolutely, and anyone who doesn’t as a mother is actually lying! Even coming here this morning…

George and Charlotte were like, ‘Mummy, how could you possibly not be dropping us off at school this morning?’

It’s a constant challenge.”

If she could give her younger self advice, it would be that spending quality time with your children is what matters.

“It’s not whether you’ve done every single drop off and every single pick up but actually it’s those quality moments when you’re properly listening to them, properly understanding what they feel.”

And what she’d like George, Charlotte and Louis to most remember about their childhood are the ordinary but special moments such as, “the family going to the beach, getting soaking wet, filling our boots full of water.” #

bad days of her pregnancy how effective harnessing the power of the mind could be.

“It was through hyperemesis that I realised the power of the mind over the body because I really had to try everything to help me through it. I’m not going to say that William was there chanting sweet nothings at me – he definitely wasn’t, I didn’t even ask him about it – but it was just something I wanted to do for myself. I realised that this was something that I could take control of, I suppose, during labour.”

The moment she held George in her arms f r t first time was magic.

“It is extraordinary.

How can the human body do that? It is utterly extraordinary, actually. And he was very sweet.

And [we were] relieved he was a happy, healthy boy.”

Kate was keen to get home from hospital because sh associated it with being horribly ill wit morning sickness.

“It wasn’t a place I wanted to hang around in. So I was really desperate to Kate often spends quality time with her get home and get children, snapping back to normality. moments such as But you think, this one of Charlotte particularly with your smelling a bluebell.

David and Serena married in 1993 at Westminster’s St. Margaret’s Church (left) and have two children together, Margarita and Charles (above).

THE QUEEN IS LEFT RATTLED BY DIVORCE DOMINOES

ROYAL FLUSH ANOTHER COUPLE BITES THE DUST

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orget about an “annus horribilis” – for the Queen it was a horrible week when two members of her family publicly announced just six days apart that they were divorcing.

After the shock news about grandson Peter Phillips splitting from his wife Autumn, the royals were again rocked when the Queen’s nephew, the Earl of Snowdon, revealed he and wife Serena were going their separate ways after 26 years of marriage.

A statement released last week said, “The Earl and Countess of Snowdon have amicably agreed that their

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marriage has come to an end and that they shall be divorced.”

The couple wed in October 1993 and have two children, Charles Armstrong-Jones (20), now Viscount Linley, and Margarita Armstrong-Jones (17).

David (58), who became the Earl of Snowdon in 2017 after the death of his father Antony Armstrong-Jones, is the eldest child of the Queen’s late sister, Princess Margaret. He’s believed to be close to his aunt.

Known by his professional name of David Linley, he is a furniture maker whose company produces high-end bespoke pieces. He has created the

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interiors for a number of British mansions, written books about home styling and given lectures around the world. Serena (49), the daughter of the Earl of Harrington, had her own shop selling scented candles and

soaps from France, but it closed in 2014.

A source says, “David and Serena have agreed that their marriage has broken down, they have in effect been living separate lives for some time.”

Another royal insider adds, “The news will be a bitter pill to swallow for Her Majesty as the family continues to suffer from a tumultuous start to the year.”

Peter (42) and Autumn (41) pulled the plug on their 12-year marriage after deciding “it was the best course of action for their two children and ongoing friendship”, according to their spokesman. The couple are parents to daughters Savannah (9) and Isla (7).

“The decision to divorce and share custody came about after many months of discussion and Right: Peter and Sir John Key at the Halberg Awards. Below: With the Silver Ferns, ISPS Handa’s Team of the Year.

Sussex special!

Harry and Meghan have joined forces with Oprah for the mental health TV series.

although sad, is an amicable one,” their spokesman said.

Despite rumours that Canadian-born Autumn wanted to return to her homeland, the pair will both stay in Gloucestershire, where they have been based for many years, to bring up their girls.

Just days after the announcement was made, Peter was a special guest at the Halberg Awards in Auckland.

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HARRY & MEGHAN’S NEW TV SHOW!

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he Duke and Duchess of Sussex have been keeping a low profile since they decamped to Canada, but that doesn’t mean they’re sitting around twiddling their thumbs.

Prince Harry and wife Meghan, who are now based on Vancouver Island with son Archie (9 months), have been working on a number of projects, including a series on mental health in collaboration with Oprah Winfrey.

The TV show, expected to screen on Apple TV+ later this year, is being made in conjunction with Combat Stress, a charity that helps military veterans struggling with anxiety, depression and post-traumatic stress disorder.

It’s believed Harry (35), who has been candid about his own mental health struggles in the past, has already filmed visits to UK-based hospitals and health centres, and that Meghan (38) is also involved with the production.

Meanwhile, the couple have again copped flak for taking a private jet to Palm Beach, Florida, where Harry was the guest speaker at a private summit of wealthy investors arranged by bank JP Morgan Chase. He’s believed to have pocketed a fee of around $1.5 million for his time.

Harry’s also said to be in talks with another major US investment bank, Goldman Sachs, about getting involved in a series of videotaped conversations with celebrities considered to be “leading thinkers” who can “share insights and ideas shaping the world”.

The couple also jetted to California (on a commercial flight) for a hush-hush brainstorming session with professors at Stanford University as part of their efforts to launch their new Sussex Royal charity. Academics at the university in Palo Alto, near San Francisco, are said to be helping them work on the concept of their organisation, which has already been dealt a

blow with the Queen reportedly deciding last week the couple can’t use the word ‘royal’ in their brand given they’ve stepped back from official duties.

The visit has raised speculation over whether the couple are planning to move to California – Meghan’s home state. The fact that they recently closed their Buckingham Palace office and axed 15 of their staff − including their communications chief and their head of social media − is a sure sign that a return to the UK is not on the cards.

“By getting rid of their entire team, it’s clear that their future is in North America,” says royal biographer Katie Nicholl.

“In all likelihood, they will make appearances, then get straight on a plane and we won’t see them in the UK again in the foreseeable future.”

Meanwhile, the couple aren’t saying yes to every offer they get. They apparently turned down an invitation to present the Best Picture Oscar at the Academy Awards. #

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CELEB UPDATE THE CHEF AND HIS WIFE ARE GOING BACK FOR SECONDS

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second-chance wedding

I’m more in love than ever!

amie Oliver hasn’t had much to celebrate in recent years. The collapse of his restaurant empire last year devastated the celebrity chef, who poured millions of his own money into the business but was unable to save it.

“The past four-and-a-half years have been the hardest of my life,” he admits, especially after having to come to terms with the closure of 22 of his 25 restaurants, and the loss of 1000 jobs. Helping him through it though has been the love and support of his family, who he says “are the best antidote to the world”.

Dad to Poppy (17), Daisy (16), Petal (10), Buddy (9) and River (3), and husband to Jools, he cherishes the normal, everyday moments with his brood.

“When you’re tested like I’ve been, all that matters is friends, family and health.”

Now he’s looking to the future, and finding something to celebrate for the first time in ages. “Me and my missus are getting married again!” he says, all smiles about his and Jools’ plan to renew their vows in June for their 20th wedding anniversary.

“I’m going to cook some amazing food, maybe try to get people a little drunk and

definitely have a little disco.

My wife loves to dance.”

It’ll be an intimate gathering, he tells, with around 100 close friends and family. The kids will play a pivotal part. “It’s about the people we love most, our nearest and dearest. It’s an opportunity to get everyone together to say thanks.”

Jamie (44) and former model Jools (45), who runs a children’s clothing company, are high-school sweethearts.

On their first date, he crashed his souped-up Ford Fiesta into the back of another car.

“Jools felt sorry for me,” he says now. “She thought, ‘The way he drives, he needs support in life.’”

Jamie was smitten right from the start, and when Jools went to Tokyo to work for three months not long after they got together, he sent her a romantic letter or fax every single day.

Jools was also a big part of Jamie’s life when, aged 22, he was noticed by a BBC producer after making an unscripted appearance in a documentary about the London restaurant where he was working as a sous-chef. Two years later he was given his own TV show, The Naked Chef, and his career took off. They married a year later, in 2000.

Along with TV success (he’s presented more than 30 series and documentaries) and writing cookbooks (he is the second-

Forced to close a majority of his restaurants, Jamie’s family (far right) Daisy, Petal, baby River, Jools, Buddy (also above right) and Poppy were his respite from the world.

best-selling author in the UK behind JK Rowling), Jamie wanted to make his mark on the restaurant business, opening a chain of Italian restaurants as well as Fifteen, a non-profit eatery, which trained young adults from disadvantaged backgrounds to work in the hospitality industry.

Jamie puts the demise of his restaurants down to trying to sell high-quality ingredients at a mid-market price, and the economic slowdown caused by Brexit. Extremely upset about all the staff who lost their jobs, he says after the stress it caused he’s now more appreciative of the simple things in life, such as hanging out with his family.

The chef credits the longevity of his relationship with Jools to the fact that neither holds

grudges, plus his ability to give excellent foot rubs.

“I take pleasure in just trying to spoil her a bit.”

He knows life with him isn’t easy − “She probably hates me 40% of the time, but 60% it’s pretty good” − but after 20 years together, Jamie and Jools are, proudly, still going strong.

“I’ve enjoyed my journey with Jools. I definitely think I’m more in love with her now than I was then. You know, yesterday I grabbed her bum and said, ‘Lovely!’ She said, ‘P*** off!’”

Parenting has its ups and downs, he admits.

“It’s the yin and yang of enjoyment and pain. And it’s different pain at different stages of one’s life. It just so happens that I have each stage in my life at this moment. I’ve got Jamie and Jools married in 2000 (left) and will renew their vows in June.

teenagers, nine and 10-yearolds, and I’ve got a three-yearold... But look, I love it. We’re a very close family.”

Jamie recently shared an adorable clip on social media of his mini-me, Buddy, cooking spaghetti bolognese in an attempt to inspire young people to get interested in cooking. He’s continuing his crusade to get kids eating healthier foods with a project called Bite Back 2030, which aims to cut childhood obesity in the UK in half in the next 10 years.

“I want to be useful,” he says.

“Hopefully I won’t make the same mistakes, and I’ll keep being creative and trying to # make positive change.”

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he’s back and happier than ever – but with an emotional plea to women everywhere.

After finally conquering her demons following a horrific assault and a battle with cancer, The Nanny star Fran Drescher says she’s taking her life back one day at a time, and she finally loves the woman she’s become.

She’s also busy taking both Hollywood and Broadway by storm, with a new sitcom, Indebted, and the development of The Nanny into a musical.

“Getting really connected to myself has been a great journey,” she says. “Now I’m not even feeling like I have to be in a relationship, because I’m in a relationship with myself. And it’s going quite well!”

Relying on her Buddhist teachings – as well as a gentleman friend “with benefits” – Fran (62) says she’s got to her place of contentment through a little bit of selfishness, as well as by learning to ask for help.

“For me to be well-rounded, I have to sometimes make it about me,” she says.

“I have to be able to ask for help. I have to be vulnerable.

I can’t just be strong.”

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It’s a lesson learnt through decades of hardship, including a terrifying sexual assault in 1985, a divorce, and a fight against uterine cancer in 2000.

Previously too afraid to ask for support, she now urges women not to make the same mistakes.

“Don’t ignore something and hope it goes away, or drive yourself into an early grave because you feel like you have too much stuff to do for everyone else. That is a pitfall women often experience. I’m here to say, ‘Stop that!’”

And with her return to TV in Indebted, in which two broke parents move in with their son, she says she feels like she’s “back in the major leagues”.

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e’s claimed almost ever tr hy ossible this awards season.

But though Brad Pitt’s ma antelpiece is well decked ou ut with accolades, he’s ma anaged to win something farr greater – the love of his eld dest son, Maddox (18).

After a confrontation be etween the pair on a prrivate jet in 2016, which led to the collapse of his marriage to Angelina Jolie, Brrad and Maddox have ba arely spoken.

But after receiving a phone call from his son, who had flown back to Los Angeles from university in So outh Korea, Brad (56) at th he last minute cancelled his scheduled appearance att the BAFTA awards, citing a “family obligation” to “Maddox gave Brad th he chance to talk and he dr d ever hi ,” a frriend says.

“Being a father is the m most important thing in h his life and he would do a anything to repair the elationsh . Maddox has b been away at university so

when Brad found out he was in to be around and they could have a conversation, he cancelled the UK trip.”

Brad did, however, make it to the Academy Aw ds, where he picked up an Oscar for Best Supporting Actor – and at the end of his speech, he gave a h hi n– he also has Pax (16), Zahara (15), Shiloh (13) and twins Vivienne and Knox (11), with Angelina (44).

“This is for my kids, who colour everything I do.

I adore you,” Brad said, much to their delight.

A family friend noted, “The loved that he ve them a shout-out. That was a sweet moment for everyone. The older they get, the more they appreciate what incredible talents their parents are.

Th know th are blessed and lucky to have Brad as their dad. But at the end of the day they’re still kids and he’s still just dad, not Brad Pitt the Oscar winner.

Th definite keep his feet on the ound.”

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The wrap up...

The once-close father and so seen here in 2006) are trying to rebuild their bond.

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he beat breast cancer in 2017, but Charmed and Beverly Hills, 90210 star Shannen Doherty has revealed her cancer is back, and this time it’s stage four.

The actress opened up on Good Morning America about her diagnosis, saying she’d rather people “hear it from me” and revealing she’d been given the bad news at the end of last year, and hadn’t fully processed it.

“It’s a bitter pill to swallow in a lot of ways,” she says. “I definitely have days where I say, ‘Why me?’ and then I go, ‘Well, why not me? Who else besides me deserves

this?’ None of us do.”

Following her revelation, Shannen (48) says she’s been inundated with messages of support from fans, and has posted her gratitude to Instagram.

“I want to thank you all for your love, prayers and support. It’s an odd time right now and I find my feet not completely under me. To say I have stress is an understatement.

To say I’m struggling is mild.

But I believe that I will find my footing. I’ll dig deep for the inner strength I need to face it all. I pray I do it all with dignity and grace.”

Left: Shannen has been open about her traumatic journey.

Above left: In her breakout TV role in Beverly Hills, 90210.

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ou’d think it’d be hard to top the year Jennifer Lopez has just had.

Finally accepted by the Hollywood elite after her star turn in Hustlers – with critics agreeing she was unlucky to miss out on an Oscar nomination – and lauded for her incredible Super Bowl half-time show, Jennifer’s been riding high.

She and fiancé Alex Rodriguez are determined to keep the good times rolling this year by planning the wedding to end all weddings.

“Jennifer was on such a high after the Super Bowl that she and Alex decided, ‘Why not keep it going?’” says an insider.

Their close circle of friends is buzzing after revelations that the singer and the baseball star have rented an ultra-luxurious mega-yacht for the reception, to follow a church ceremony.

The whole day is said to be costing north of $4.5 million, but that’s pocket change for the couple, whose joint net worth is said to be more than $1 billion.

Taking a break from the pressures of work, the singer posted a stunning bikini photo

on Instagram last week and declared herself “relaxed and recharged”.

Now, pals say she’s launched into full wedding planning mode, and “no expense is being spared”.

“Jennifer and Alex plan to get married in the summer, and can’t wait for the big day. [They] already do everything together and are basically married, but are excited to make it official,” a source reveals.

“The wedding will be gorgeous but not huge. The couple want it to be a fun celebration of their love with their closest family and friends.”

All four of their children will play a big part in the wedding, with Jennifer’s son Max giving her away.

The couple’s blended family – her twins Max and Emme (12), and his daughters Natasha (15) and Ellie (11) – all get along famously, with Jennifer’s soon-to-be stepdaughters gushing about her Super Bowl performance on Instagram, and pals say they can’t wait to welcome J-Lo into their family.

Jennifer (50) and Alex (44)

EMME WINNER! She may have wowed millions of viewers with her Super Bowl performance alongside her mum, but Emme Anthony doesn’t look like she’ll be taking up a singing career anytime soon – at least, not if Jennifer can help it!

The then-11-year-old showed off some impressive pipes as she sang along with mum Jennifer to a rendition of the hit Let’s Get Loud, but Jennifer’s just focused on her daughter’s happiness.

“For us, it’s not about putting her out into the spotlight, it’s about doing things together that bond us,” Jennifer says.

“I don’t put her in everything. She’s not going to work professionally – a lot of people have asked me that. It’s something we connect on, singing,” says Jennifer, adding rather modestly that Emme gets her abilities from her father Marc.

“She floors me every time. She’s an angel.”

are also shaking things up by inviting their former partners to the wedding – with Alex saying “the more the merrier!”

Jennifer especially is still close to crooner Marc Anthony (51), the father of her twins, whom she describes as her “best friend”. Alex’s ex-wife Cynthia Scurtis (47) is also said to be on the guest list.

“We’re just in a really great place, and the kids get to spend time with the two of us together more and see us working together,” Jennifer says.

“Remaining close is just good for the family. We share something very special in the kids, and we know that. We’re there for them, that’s the main thing.”

But for the Jenny from the Block singer, sealing the deal with former athlete Alex will be a long time coming. In fact, her 11-month engagement is the longest she’s had – and she’s been engaged four times previously!

Jennifer and Alex started dating in 2017, with Alex popping

Jennifer and Alex put their family first – her twins Emme and Max, and his girls Natasha and Ellie. Above right: Looking fierce and fabulous at 50.

the question in March last year.

“Everything feels healthy and different,” she confides. “We’re very similar, we’re really alike in our drive, in our ambition. He’s an athlete. He wanted to be the best. I’m the same way. I just want to be great at what I do.”

And that apparently includes the nuptials, with Jennifer having very set ideas as to how she wants her fourth wedding to proceed. She’ll be wearing white, for starters, and custom Versace at that. “[It’s] spectacular… form-fitting and long, with a leg slit that will have Alex

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Jennifer was spotted in a huge ball gown-style dress during filming for her new movie Marry Me, but laughed off the suggestion she could get married in it for real.

“It’s too big!” She has said she doesn’t want a big poofy number but a slim-lined and dramatic look.

And she knows what kind of ceremony it’ll be.

“I’d like to get married in a church this time,” she says. “I’ve never been married in a church!” #

HER FOURTH CEREMONY WILL BE HER BEST YET!

Love don’t cost a thing?

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CELEB UPDATE

KRISTIN’S

DARKEST HOUR

And how she pulled through

Above: With Colin Firth in 1996 war epic The English Patient.

Left: Arriving at a Valentino fashion show in Paris last year.

THE PATIENT ENGLISHWOMAN IS ENJOYING A DRAMATIC COMEBACK

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legant, articulate and radiant, Dame Kristin Scott Thomas tends to have a mesmerising effect on audiences. Her critically acclaimed performances in the Oscar-nominated The Darkest Hour and The Party a few years ago were potent reminders that she can deliver captivating performances.

Though she periodically threatens to quit acting, she nevertheless manages to pop up every other year or so in one remarkable film after another.

And as part of the wave of actors flocking to TV as part

of the streaming boom, Kristin made a surprise appearance in season two of irreverent British comedy Fleabag.

Now she’s about to be seen in Rebecca, Netflix’s highly anticipated remake of the Daphne du Maurier Gothic novel set in the 1930s.

Kristin plays the part of the forbidding Mrs Danvers, the wicked head housekeeper who runs the castle belonging to the brooding Maxim de Winter (Armie Hammer), the wealthy widower who marries a shy, naive young woman (Lily James).

Alfred Hitchcock famously directed the 1940 version, which earned the Oscar for Best Picture and starred Laurence Olivier and Joan Fontaine as Mr and Mrs de Winter while Judith Anderson played the pivotal role of Mrs Danvers.

For Kristin, Rebecca marks yet another chapter in a career resurgence that has outstripped her expectations after she entered into self-imposed retirement in 2014. She didn’t work again until Sally Potter asked her to work in 2018’s The Party, which she followed with a stirring turn in The Darkest Hour as Winston Churchill’s wife.

But what prompted Kristin to walk away from movies, and what brought her back?

“Over the course of things, I think I made some very good films, but the work just didn’t satisfy me anymore,” recalls Kristin, who will turn 60 in May.

r r while and tanked up energy there. And when Sally Potter asked me to do The Party, my re-entry into the film business, it was irresistible because the shooting time was so short.

Just 12 days of shooting.

I had a great time there. It reminded me of how much I love filmmaking.”

She’s now working at a faster pace than at any other time in her 35-year film career. She has six projects in the pipeline, including Military Wives, which opens next month, and Tomb Raider 2, starring Alicia Vikander, for which she reprises her role in the 2018 film.

Over the course of her distinguished career, Kristin has earned an Oscar nomination (for her performance in The English Patient), and a BAFTA (for her supporting role in Four Weddings and a Funeral).

After growing up in England, she moved to Paris to work as an au pair while pursuing drama studies. It didn’t take long for her to master French on her way to becoming a leading French film star. Some of her most important French films include Suite Française (co-starring Michelle Williams and Margot Robbie), Philippe Claudel’s Before the Winter Chill, François Ozon’s In the House, Alain Corneau’s Love Crime, and Guillaume Canet’s Tell No One. It was in Paris that she met and married François Olivennes, a noted French gynaecologist and obstetrician with whom she has three children. They separated in 2005.

In November, Kristin

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was named the head of the Women’s Forum for the Economy and Society in her adoptive hometown of Paris, and presided over the event despite proclaiming, “I’m not a feminist, I’m not a politician.”

We caught up with Kristin to discuss her silver-screen revival, her life in France and her career-defining roles.

You’re enjoying a fabulous career resurgence. Are there more parts opening up for women now, including for middle-aged women?

It’s easier in France. There, the filmmakers are still very interested in adult women. This is partly thanks to people like Catherine Deneuve and Isabelle Huppert. And in England? Let’s think who’s there? Dame Judi Dench, Dame Helen Mirren...

And even though the French market is much smaller, there are still so many films being made there. Catherine Deneuve plays in two films a year. We want to see women of all ages and it’s important to show the lives of older women. In France they’re not afraid of wrinkles.

You’re quite comfortable working in both French and American films. Do you prefer one kind to another?

I’ve preferred making films in

Paris where I’ve bee living for most of the past 40 years becaus it’s been so much easier to work from home and be able t come back to your own bed at night.

Is it different working in Englishlanguage films versus French films French films are very different because film is considered to be an art form and the directors prefer to tell stories that are deeper and more character-driven than American or British films.

Film is deeply rooted in French culture and the public tend to be cinephiles who want to see films that explore emotions and relationships between people, whereas English-language films tend to be centred around events and where the emphasis is much more on plot rather than character or feelings.

When you look back at Anthony Minghella’s The English Patient, does it still feel like a career-altering role?

Absolutely. I remember feeling like the luckiest person in the world to do this. It was such a rich, beautiful role. I was so

With her former husband François.

The pair separated in 2005.

, even though we’d done this beautiful [screen] test, this kind of audition with Ralph [Fiennes], and it was evident that it was a total no-brainer that this would be fabulous.

Just working with Ralph and Anthony even for half a hour, we got all excited about it.

At last something you’re excited about actually happens, comes true and makes you happy.

It’s a rare thing.

Has living in Paris over the years made it easier for you to escape the intrusions on private life that London or LA-based celebrities suffer, and live a more normal life?

Normality is a relative concept. I lead a very mundane and quite boring life. There is nothing exciting about it. What has helped me to escape feeling that I’m living in a bubble as an actor is having been able to move in different worlds, not only in the film business.

Although many of my friends work in the cinema, it’s been important for me to have many other interests in life and spend time with people who don’t live in my unreal film world.

All that gives you perspective.

What do you like to do when you’re not on a film set?

I don’t have any hobbies. I don’t go paragliding or anything like that. But I like to go out and have fun. I enjoy meeting friends for lunch. I love to shop around Regent’s Park when I’m in London or go out early in the morning to walk around Paris. I like to be active and take advantage of all the time actors have on their hands in between films.

Can you explain the kind of frustration you experienced

w your ac ng career, w c led you to take a break for several years?

Everyone’s career has its ups and downs, and the two or three years before I decided to distance myself from the business was a particularly frustrating time for me. I’ve been lucky enough to do some good work and be part of some very good films, about which I felt absolutely enthusiastic and I remain very proud of, but for the most part my work hasn’t been as interesting as I had hoped.

And of those projects that have been successful, very often I felt that I really hadn’t made that much of a difference.

So what made you finally step away for a while?

I made a kind of pact with myself to spend some time away from film and that when I did feel like working again it would only be for pleasure and I’d do something that appealed to me on an artistic level rather than just take a job as part of what one does to earn a living.

I have always regarded acting as my day job and after a while I was fed up and burnt out. I knew it was time for me to take a break and wait until the thrill that should be part of making a movie would return. If you don’t have that feeling, it’s very hard to spend several months preparing and then playing a character. You feel empty.

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Working on The Darkest Hour was a special experience for you, was it not?

Yes. Sometimes everything just falls into place on a film.

In this case, working with Gary Oldman was so much fun and we just got along very well.

A film like that shows how big a difference it makes when everything falls into place and you feel part of something exciting and an atmosphere that absorbs, which is what we had on that set and because of Joe [Wright], the director.

You become part of that world, you feel absorbed into the set. You feel it’s all there to create this other world, this whole other world we’re magically creating that people will be able to watch and be moved by. You feel boosted in some way because there’s something fabulous about these characters. You feel you can have faith in humanity, that there are marvellous people out there.

That film was a morale booster.

What was your biggest challenge in that film?

Above: In Suite Française.

Top: The movie that brought her back into the industry, The Party.

Above left: With Gary Oldman in acclaimed film The Darkest Hour.

Playing someone who really existed. That was all before we started shooting. Before we started shooting I was very nervous because there seemed so much information to absorb.

There’s been a lot written about Clementine Churchill – almost as much as about Winston. There’s a lot of stuff to read about her – and to absorb all of that and digest it, and then put it in a film where I have maybe five scenes, that was the challenge. But that’s the kind of thing I like doing.

I love playing these supporting roles where you just have to nail it. Because you have to be able to create a fully rounded character in five or six scenes.

I find that very challenging.

Looking back, can you recall what your feelings were when as a young woman you decided to leave London and live in Paris?

I left London because I had the

‘One teacher told me that I had no talent and should do something else with my life’ feeling that if I stayed there I would never really try to become an actress. I had studied acting in London but my teachers were very dismissive of me and one told me that I had no talent and should do something else with my life.

That left me very discouraged and I decided to move to Paris to get away from acting. I found work as an au pair for a pair of opera singers, but after a while I realised that I still had this dream of wanting to become an actress and that somehow I had to follow that dream.

So I summoned the courage to apply to study at the École Nationale Supérieure des Arts et Techniques du Théâtre. That was the beginning of my career.

What inspired you to become an actress?

I don’t know. I come from a middle-class military family.

[Both her father and stepfather

died piloting military aircraft.]

My mother had wanted to be an actress. Actors come from all kinds of different backgrounds; it doesn’t matter whether you come from a highly privileged background or a very underprivileged background. We all share that desire to explore what it means to be another person, what it’s like to be someone else.

What remains special to you about working in French films?

Many things. I started focusing on working mainly in French cinema because I was really fed up with playing snooty, cold, distant characters that I was being offered to play in English movies. I also discovered that in France I was being offered roles that were a lot gutsier and intense. They were much more alive and real and it was easy to fall in love with those characters. #

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virtually THE FINAL INSTALMENT OF A NEW SHORT STORY BY KIWI NOVELIST BRONWYN SELL

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stole the grandbaby from her cot 10 minutes after my daughter left – just long enough that I could be sure she wouldn’t circle back to grab some forgotten item.

Bad, bad babysitter.

There were precious few opportunities in life to lie on a sofa with a baby sleeping on your chest, and I would take them where I could.

Next week this smooshed-up sleeping face would be slightly different, and the week after that, different again, and so on until she was 60-something and her late mother haunted the bathroom mirror, peering out at her while she peered in. In my memory, it seemed like my girls had been babies for a day.

The grandbaby sucked on her lips. (I wasn’t yet calling her by her name. Adeline was a name a child had to grow into. And I liked “grandbaby”. It was what all the cool grandparents were saying.) I adjusted my hold. My arms would be sore tomorrow, but this was worth every ache.

Everyone warned you how life zipped by. At some point I’d taken to warning my own girls – yes, it turned out I was that age – but they would just look back at me with a mixture of pity and impatience. By the time you truly understood, it was already too late.

I tsked. Too late? What would a 95-year-old have to say about that? (And would I listen?)

“Life is short,” I whispered to the grandbaby, literally a captive audience. “Take your chances while you can.”

Cars passed along the road outside. Crickets sang. Dreams crossed the grandbaby’s face in twitches and snuffles and sighs.

When the ache got too much, I risked changing position, which put my phone in my direct line of sight. The phone in which James Brewer lived. Did I dare release him, like a genie? What would I even wish for?

“One snuffle for yes, two for no,” I told the grandbaby. She didn’t snuffle. “I’ll take that as a yes.” These days Nana made all her own decisions.

Before reason had time to

prevail, I grabbed the phone and released the genie. Well, accepted James’ friend request, which was surely the 21st century equivalent.

And cue the pleasant flush.

This time I closed my eyes and enjoyed it. The wellbeing mags I’d become addicted to since the separation would probably quote some study about the physiological benefits of romance. Between that and grandbaby cuddles, my serotonin levels had to be off the charts.

My phone beeped, vibrating in my hand. I let out a squeak.

The internet messaging beep.

James: Well hello, stranger!

My face heated. With an armful of stolen grandbaby, I couldn’t hold the phone and type, so with some difficulty (and most things were done with some difficulty now) I laid it on the sofa beside me and hovered my fingers over the screen. After considering multiple options, I settled on “Hi!” Even so, it took me several minutes to get up the nerve to press send, after which I snapped my hand back fast enough to get wrist whiplash.

I snorted at my ridiculousness.

James: Are you still living in Auckland? I’ve just moved back. Want to catch up?

Uh-oh. Shizz was getting real, as Alex would say, though she wouldn’t use the word shizz. I started to reply, but couldn’t get past, “Yes, still in Auckland.”

I backspaced. Typed it again. Backspaced.

Tried something jauntier: “Yep, still trucking along in the big smoke!”

Backspaced. Who was I trying to be?

I needed back-up.

Alex. I’d given her the rundown that afternoon on the actual phone, taking advantage of the 10-minute window when I knew she’d waiting outside the school gate in her car.

Me: Are you there? James has messaged to ask if I want to catch up. I don’t know what to say.

I’d learned that phone messages to the girls could take days to return, if they ever were. Internet messages were returned within the hour, if not the minute. This one took two minutes.

Alex: How about yes?

As I was reeling from that outlandish suggestion, James messaged. Again!

James: (I’m assuming you’re no longer married, seeing as you’re using your maiden name. Apologies if I’ve got that wrong.)

I switched back to Alex.

Me: Help, he’s just messaged again and I haven’t replied to the first one.

Alex: Ooh. Copy the conversation to me (but only if it’s G-rated). Do you know how to do a screenshot?

I melodramatically rolled my eyes, which was of course lost on the phone. Yes, Baz had done all the techie stuff pre-separation, but the girls had no idea what it was to tune

an analogue TV or programme a video recorder. Technology today was so intuitive, when you got used to it. And for anything else, there was Google. I sent the screenshot.

Me: I’ve tried to reply a few times but I keep deleting it without sending.

Alex: You know he’ll know you’re doing that, right?

Me: What?

Alex: Watch the screen…

Me: ???

Alex: Did a flashing dotdot-dot come up just then?

Me: Yes, for a few seconds.

Alex: It was telling you I was typing.

Me: No! Really?

‘I grabbed the phone and released the genie.

Well, accepted James’ friend request, which was surely the 21st century equivalent’

Alex: Dating in the 21st century, Mum. Me: It’s hardly dating. There’s probably nothing in it at all.

Alex: Oh, there’s something in it.

Me: You can tell that from 40 words, can you?

Alex: Sounds like he only wants to catch up if you’re single…

Me: You’re reading too much into it. He might just be checking he’s not stepping on Baz’s toes. It’s like that couple-friends rule. The men can catch up. The women can catch up. But one of the husbands can’t meet the other wife for a coffee, no matter how well you get along.

That would just feel wrong.

Alex: My money’s on my theory. Have you seen this?

It’s him, last year.

A photo loaded. A man in a wetsuit. I tried zooming in but my phone wouldn’t let me. He looked trim but I couldn’t make out facial features below the silver hair – shorter now, but at least there. The wetsuit bode

well – the beach was my happy place. There was otherwise no sign of the boy I knew. He was a different person. I was a different person. So why did I find myself hoping Alex was right on the whole checkingI-was-single thing?

Alex: He looks good.

I waited for the disclaimer...

Alex: For his age.

Me: But what if he does want something and it doesn’t work out?

Alex: But what if it does?

Me: But what if it doesn’t?

Alex: But what if it does?

Me: But what if it doesn’t?

Alex: Mother!

Me: Daughter!

Alex: Just say yes. It’s not like he’s proposing – yet!

Me: Just when I was talking myself into a life on my own…

Alex: Hey look on the bright side – maybe it won’t work out.

Me: BUT WHAT IF IT DOES? Alex: LOL. I see what you did there. The will-they-won’t-they is the fun bit. Enjoy it. Take the risk.

Me: This is supposed to be fun?

Alex: Gotta run, soz.

Takeaways are ready. Say yes xxx

I inhaled deeply, getting a hit of eau-de-baby, and flicked back to my conversation with James – just in time to see the flashing ellipses. My stomach flipped, which wasn’t something I had experienced outside of gastroenteritis for decades.

I waited but the dots disappeared, and no message arrived. Was he unsure too?

Interesting. Maybe Alex was right. Maybe this was a little bit fun. Maybe something would happen, maybe it wouldn’t, but I had to find out, right? And maybe I needed to quit thinking about the maybes and take that tiny terrifying step.

“If you’re sure?” I whispered to the grandbaby. She looked pretty relaxed about the idea.

“Here, I go!” I said, calling her bluff. “That’s it, I’m doing it!

You’d better stop me now!”

No reaction. It was decided.

Me: I’d love to catch up...

Where and when?

No, I didn’t want another husband. But a boyfriend # might be fun.

‘Maybe this was a little bit fun. Maybe something would happen, maybe it wouldn’t, but I had to find out, right?’

Bronwyn’s romantic comedy Lovestruck is out on February 24 from HarperCollins/HQ (RRP $33).

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t’s a unique record of Jewry in Aotearoa but for nonagenarian author Ann Gluckman, her latest book is a two-year labour of love that she credits for rescuing her from the depression of older age.

As the former Weekly contributor and travel writer celebrates the launch of the third volume of Identity and Involvement: Auckland Jewry Past and Present, she’s proud of the legacy it leaves for future generations.

Packed with personal essays from more than 120 members of Auckland’s Jewish communities, the work is a snapshot of modern Judaism in the city.

It’s been more than a quarter century since the first volumes were published, in 1990 and 1993, and Ann says today’s community is marked by diversity, with contrasting ideas of what it means to be Jewish in the modern age, and people more relaxed about sharing personal thoughts.

But for the 92-year-old greatgrandma, who didn’t discover her own mother’s history until 13 years after she died, this latest editorial project went beyond writing and curating.

“The book came along because my back got worse and I had to retire from public speaking. I became depressed, my voice started to go and my back bent badly. I said to my doctor, ‘I really feel like I’ve hit old age. I can no longer chase Ann grew up unaware of her family history.

Below: With late husband Laurie and son Philip.

my grandchildren around and do walks at Piha, which I love.

I think I’m depressed.’

“He said to me, ‘What do you feel passionate about?

I know you used to write. Have you ever thought of doing another book?’

“And this is where I’ve spent the last two years, pretty much,” Ann says, her hand sweeping across the light-filled study at her Remuera retirement village apartment.

“My aim was to show that we are New Zealanders and that we’ve contributed much to the country in many ways.

“I’m trying to bring this forward to present day because there’s been very big changes in all religions post-war and this has accelerated, with people knowing more about evolution and realising there are worlds beyond ours, and the total concept of religion and God has changed for numbers of people in many religions,” explains Ann. “There’s a marked change between the first volumes to present day, with people openly discussing their Jewish heritage and beliefs, which range along a wide spectrum from the ultraorthodox to the almost purely secular. And this comes through very much in the essays.”

She says the breadth of contributions to the book went beyond her wildest hopes and dreams. The book has a foreword by former Prime Minister Sir John Key, whose Jewish mother escaped Austria just prior to the 1938 Nazi occupation, and contributions from noted politicians, civil servants, dames and knights – including Ann’s son, former chief science advisor Sir Peter Gluckman, each telling their unique stories of faith

intersecting with life in Aotearoa.

As one of the book’s oldest contributors, with an 84-year association with the Auckland Hebrew Congregation, Ann shares a touching essay into her road to belief after her youngest son David was killed in a car accident in 1979.

“David’s death was the huge tragedy of my life,” she says. “My husband Laurie and I were in bed when we heard a car cras about midnight. It was an awful bang. David was out at a 21st birthday party. At three o’clock there was a bang on the door. I answered it and there was a policeman.

A car had come around a corner on the wrong side of the road and David ha gone into a lamppost. He was just about to graduate with his law degree. I suppose after his death I lost religion.”

The essay recalls the special chance encounter she had with a young hitchhiking soldier on a visit to Israel a year after her son’s tragic accident and how a series of unplanned events led her to renew her shattered faith.

The former school principal and renowned educator tells the Weekly the latest volume, co-edited by Deb Levy Friedler and Lindy Davis, and the earlier works stand out as a trove of information that will keep the history of the community intact.

“It’s definitely a legacy work.

The synagogue has never had an archivist and when it shifted from its Princes Street site, a lot of material was lost, and then there was a flood in the basement. These three books are really the only works specifically about Auckland Jewry told by each writer in their own words.”

While Ann had to piece together her mother’s history through letters stashed in an attic, she says there’s been a generational shift in people sharing their family stories.

“We never spoke about

ings a o e, nn says. y questions went unanswered.

I didn’t find my mother’s story until she was dead.

“When workmen were pulling down the old family home in Remuera, they found a large cardboard box stuffed full of letters wedged in the rafters.

“A workman said to my son Peter, who had been living there, ‘Do you want all this?

There’s a box of old letters here with funny stamps on them.’

Peter said, ‘My God, they’re in my grandmother’s handwriting!’

In them I found out her whole life story.”

Ann remains hopeful that the community, despite its small size, will remain a resilient and productive force.

“The people who are here...

Well, you can see from the book what they’ve done. The Jewish community is minuscule in comparison with other religious groups in New Zealand but what it lacks in numbers it more than compensates for in terms of its contribution to the country.

“This book is a celebration of the many and varied achievements this community has accomplished.“ # Lynley Ward

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Ann in 1944 as an Epsom Girls Grammar School student.

She was both head prefect and dux.

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Ann’s keeping the faith Identity and Involvement: Volume III (Renaissance Publishing, RRP $50) is at stores nationwide.

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GAINING TRAC Cat & Phil’s trek of Cat and her dad Phil (left) are teaming up with comedian Mike (below) on a drive to promote mental health in rural communities.

A CHANCE MEETING KICKS OFF AN EPIC 2700KM QUEST

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pon boarding a flight from Auckland to Christchurch, professional speaker Cat Levine found herself seated between a politician and mental health advocate Mike King.

It was an easy choice of who to strike up conversation with. “Mike seemed more interesting,” she says with a laugh.

They quickly got chatting, connecting over a shared passion for helping youth, and the chance encounter with the comedian couldn’t have had better timing.

A year on, Mike, who is

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recovering from a serious motorbike crash, is joining forces with Cat and her dad, retired farmer Phil Aish, as they begin a month-long Tractor Trek from Bluff to Cape Reinga in the lead-up to mental-health fundraiser Gumboot Friday on April 3.

The trio will focus on rural communities, which face concerning rates of poor mental health and suicide, while raising awareness and money for counselling for any young person in need.

“On that flight, Mike showed me texts on his phone from kids who had reached out to him, saying how much his talk

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at their school had helped them,” recalls Cat (45).

“We exchanged numbers and I had a deep sense that something positive would come from meeting him.

“Then later that week, Dad told me he’d just finished The Resilient Farmer, a book

by Blenheim farmer Doug Avery about his struggles with mental health.

“Dad said, ‘I know what I want the 2020 Tractor Trek to fundraise for – rural mental health and suicide prevention. But I don’t know what charity to align with for that.’ So I replied that I’d give my new best friend Mike a call!”

Weekly readers might remember Phil, whose original Tractor Trek in 2016 was borne from his desire to give back to

the hospice that had cared for his dying wife, Janice.

Feeling that it was time for something new to get behind, he searched for a cause deserving of support.

“Gumboots, tractors, farmers… It’s such a perfect alignment,” says Phil, who has 16 grandchildren and one great-grandchild.

“I’m nearly 81 and if I can drive a tractor from one end of the country to the other, and one person, whether young or old, can realise there is hope, I’ll do it.”

When asked if he’s known other farmers who’ve felt isolated, there’s a long pause.

“Not that they would tell me,” he says, admitting he had his own dark days after Janice

MIKE’S CRASH

TION hope

Mike is recovering after a serious motorcycle accident in January left him with broken bones and a punctured lung.

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For more information, visit: gumbootfridaytractortrek.org

passed away, “but never to the point where I would consider taking my life.

“Farmers are naturally quite private people. This is the problem. They don’t share.

Yet I hear of many tragic stories – one small town has lost three of its young shearers in recent years – and Statistics NZ revealed that suicide rates are higher in rural areas.”

He explains that farming communities face physical isolation, economic instability and limited access to health services, all of which contribute to poor mental health.

“Mike King is a champion for getting stuff out in the open.

My hope is to live long enough to see that rising suicide graph go down and dispel this dark

cloud that covers Aotearoa.”

With the comedian on the mend after losing control when his bike hit an oil slick north of Paeroa on January 3, leaving him with broken bones and a punctured lung, the cavalcade of 30 will travel 2700km on a fleet of 20 tractors and stay at campgrounds while hosting free community and school events.

“Every one of these tractor drivers is taking a month off work to serve the cause,” Phil says.

Cat will speak to primary school students, teaching them healthy habits for mental health – without talking about depression and suicide – while Mike carries out community talks at Farmlands and Farm Source stores.

The aim is to raise $5 million to provide free counselling for children and young people.

“While government agencies are doing their best, some young people are stuck waiting up to six months to receive the counselling they so urgently need,” says Cat, a mum-of-three and former youth worker.

“While on the trek, the main point I want to share with kids is that feelings aren’t forever.

“A huge part of mental health is emotional ‘literacy’ – being able to express feelings and not just explode with emotion and act out, but be able to say, ‘I feel sad because I’m embarrassed or unsafe or rejected.’

“It’s giving them the language to be able to name their feelings, and showing them

how to ask for help.

“Additionally, Mike and I will be teaching both children and adults how to watch out for your mates. To voice, ‘I can see you’re a bit stuck there, so together let’s get help.’

“It’s having an awareness of others who are overwhelmed by big feelings but may not be able to articulate it.”

The father-daughter duo are looking forward to spending a month on the road together, albeit travelling at 25km/h.

“Seriously, how special is it to be doing something like this with your daughter?” says Phil. “It’s off the scale.

I couldn’t wish for a better person to do this with. I’m a rich man.” # Fleur Guthrie

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I

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was born in Ontario but my family moved to Dunedin when I was six after my dad got a job at Otago University.

When I left school I wasn’t really sure what I wanted to do. I did a couple of arts papers and messed around for a year – let’s just say I wasn’t really focused – before moving to Lyttelton and playing fiddle full-time with Christchurch alt-country band The Eastern for about three years.

I’d played since I was little and had all but given it up.

But I became obsessed with Appalachian pp fiddling g– traditional old-time Amerrican fiddling – and really wanted to find ou ut more abo out it, so over the next few years I was back and forth betw ween Canada, tthe US, Austrralia and New Zealand.

There’s ’s this aesthetic that goes with h the music; bo oots go hand in hand with h it.

During my time in Christchu urch, I would ta ake my bootss to a little rep pair shop and d talk

to the owner about wanting to Lisa experienced some make shoes. They gave me challenges when she started my first job, part-time on the out; she is very generous in boot patcher, which is like an wanting to make it easier for old treadle sewing machine, today’s young bootmakers. replacing zips in ladies’ boots.

I guess you could call it a I was doing similar work back four-month self-funded study in Dunedin when Lou Clifton, period. Lisa offered her space who had set up a shoemaking and resources and gave me free school, came in. We started to rein to work independently. At chat and Lou offered to teach the same time she would guide me the basics in exchange me through things. for me volunteering my time.

To have this person showing It was through her I got to make me how to do something that the ladies’ Victorian boots for I’d had to scrape the bottom of The Luminaries mini-series. the barrel of the internet trying They were pearl-buttoned to find answers to was amazing. with scalloped edges.

There’s so much you have to When Lou moved her shoe learn that you just can’t learn school to Wellington, I was left from a book – how a tool feels, to my own devices so I started how there’s an emotion in which trolling the internet, writing to your hands work. bootmakers overseas, reading There’s no room for messing books... It was pretty frustrating it up with cowboy boots. You because I really value the oldhave to be very exact about the fashioned hands-on teacher/ fitting because they pull on, apprentice style of learning. whereas with other styles, such as lace-up boots, you have room I felt like I was at a bit of a to tighten or loosen them. standstill with my skills.

Lisa’s boots – works of art Lou knew I had interest in cowboy boots and put me onto really – start at $10,000 a pair.

Lisa Sorrell in Oklahoma, one of That’s not necessarily a market I’m trying to corner, or one the best custom bootmakers I’d be capable of cornering at in the world, who has made any point soon! I want to go boots for people like Arnold somewhere in between art and Schwarzenegger. She names practicality – so something that all her boots after classic is beautiful but that’s also very country songs, so that was totally up my alley!

It was a bit scary, but Flora traded a pair of custom I emailed her and asked , about learning opportunities. boots for a Harley having being It was about 18 months taught to ride by from the time I wrote to her US boyfriend. her to the time I got there.

Flora at work.

Top: Her beloved fiddle is a gift from her father.

A once rundown garden shed is now a workshop filled with bootmaking gear, including lasts and industrial sewing machines.

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hard-wearing and long-lasting.

Bespoke bootmaking requires quite a big investment. I’ve got two industrial sewing machines, grinders, finishing and sanding machines, lasts, various irons for finishing, dyes, glues, thread, leather…

My workshop is a little brick garden shed at the back of my house. It was in ruins but I replaced the dirt floor with a wooden one and had friends come over for a re-mortaring party to fix the walls. It’s a pretty grassroots little place. I run an extension cord from the house, and I’m constantly blowing the mains by plugging in too many sewing machines.

Coincidentally, a worldfamous fiddle player who I had listened to since I was a teenager had a music store two doors down from Lisa’s.

I couldn’t believe my luck.

This town in the middle of Oklahoma had this vibrant little world for me! I told him I’d pay him to teach me, but he said no, so we did a trade. I made him a custom pair of boots and he taught me some fiddle.

I also fell in love with someone while I was there, so there’s even more of an incentive to go back!” # As told to Julie Jacobson

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Quick-fire:

The person you’d most like to make a pair of boots for? My mother. She

is an incredible artist and craftsperson who taught me so much about creativity, and I would love to see her wearing something that she inspired.

Your favourite campfire meal? A cup of tea made from

river water after sleeping under a blanket of stars.

How I live...

FIDDLER AND BOOTMAKER FLORA KNIGHT (28) WENT TO OKLAHOMA LAST YEAR TO LEARN TO MAKE COWBOY BOOTS. SHE ALSO FELL IN LOVE

Your most treasured possession? My fiddle. It was

a gift from my father who taught me to play music, and music is responsible for most of my friendships and good times in my life. It was made in Dunedin by friend and luthier, Peter Madill.

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Banish cat hair from your clothes with this simple trick

nici WICKES I’m passionate about passionfruit and this week I’ve raided Mum’s vine (it’s dripping with fruit this year) to whip up a versatile and divine curd, a tray-bake cheesecake, a ceviche from Peru (where they favour this fruit to marinate fish in), and Mum has paired passionfruit yoghurt with an easy cake to fill the tin with.

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Passionfruit curd MAKES ABOUT 1½ CUPS 2 small eggs 2 small egg yolks

¾ cup caster sugar 11 passionfruit ¼ cup lemon juice 130g unsalted butter 1 Whisk the eggs, yolks, sugar, passionfruit and lemon juice in a bowl until combined. Scrape into a medium-sized saucepan and cook over a medium heat, stirring, until the sugar dissolves.

Reduce the heat to low, add the butter in chunks and continue cooking, stirring, for 6-7 minutes or until the curd has thickened and won’t thicken any more.

2 Pour into sterilised jars and allow to cool for 10 minutes before securing the lids tightly.

3 Store in the fridge and use in ice-cream sundaes with crushed meringues, on toast or for dipping shortbread or biscuits into… whatever you fancy!

FOOD EDITOR Send your foodie thoughts and questions to Nici: nwickes@bauermedia.co.nz

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touch!

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• Stirring constantly and cooking low and slow prevents any chance of the eggs curdling.

Nici’s note...

• I often want my cheesecake to be more ‘cheesy’, hence using low-salt feta instead of ricotta in this recipe – try it, you’ll love it!

Passionfruit cheesecake slice MAKES 16 SQUARES

2 medium eggs

Simple to make and quick to cook, this passionfruit cheesecake slice is a winner!

100g each gingernuts and oat crackers 1 tbsp sugar 110g butter, melted 250g cream cheese, at room temperature 100g low-salt feta ½ cup caster sugar 1 tsp lemon zest

/3- /2 cup fresh passionfruit pulp 1 Heat oven to 160oC. Line a 18cm x 25cm tin with baking paper.

2 Process the biscuits and the regular sugar in a food processor until fine crumbs form. Add the melted butter, mixing to combine. Press this mixture into the base of your prepared tin. Chill 1

1

while you prepare the filling.

3 Beat the cream cheese and feta until smooth – I’m okay with the odd little lump. Add the sugar, lemon zest, eggs and passionfruit pulp, continuing to beat until combined, scraping down the sides if needed. Pour over the chilled base and bake for 25-30 minutes or until just set. Allow to cool completely before slicing with a hot, wet knife if you want ‘clean’ edges.

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Nourish Nici’s note...

• This makes for a great, highprotein, nutritious lunch or light meal that’s packed full of vitamin A, which is great for your skin, hair and immune system.

Gluten

FREE

Dairy

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Peruvian ceviche SERVES 2-4

If you love Pacific-style ceviche that uses coconut milk or cream and lemon juice to marinate raw fish, try this lighter variation from Peru. The passionfruit gives it a beautiful flavour.

2-3 fillets super fresh gurnard, trevally or snapper 4 tbsp lemon juice 4-6 passionfruit, pulp scooped out ½ tsp sea salt Small handful cherry tomatoes, halved ½-1 red chilli, thinly sliced

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Few sprigs of fresh coriander 2-3 tbsp coconut flakes, toasted 1 Slice the fish, across the grain, into cubes or slices. Lay out in a single layer on a serving plate.

Pour over the lemon juice and passionfruit pulp, then sprinkle with salt. Chill for up to 1 hour, then gently toss and leave for another 30 minutes. The fish ought to be partially ‘cooked’ from the acidity of the lemons and passionfruit.

2 Scatter over the tomatoes, chilli, coriander and coconut flakes, then serve.

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um’s

Rapide cake with passionfruit yoghurt MAKES 23CM CAKE

This recipe is based on the amazingly simple cake from In a French Kitchen where it is attributed to Madame Korn under the title “Gateau au citron rapide de Madam Korn”.

As Mum says, “You don’t even have to understand French to understand the beauty of this quick cake.”

2 large eggs 250g sugar 1 cup flour 1 tsp baking powder 75ml milk Zest of 1 lemon 1 tsp vanilla extract 60g melted butter Yoghurt, to serve Fresh passionfruit, to serve 1 Preheat oven to 180oC. Grease

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a 23cm cake tin and line the base with baking paper. Beat the eggs and sugar until very pale and creamy – this can take up to 10 minutes. Add the dry ingredients in two lots, alternately with the milk. Fold in the zest, vanilla and butter, then pour into the prepared tin. Bake on a lower rack in your oven for approximately 35-40 minutes, testing at 25 minutes for done-ness. If it’s browning too much on top, cover with foil.

2 Remove from the oven and cool for 10 minutes before running a knife round the edge.

Place a wire rack over the tin and flip. It ought to drop out easily.

3 Serve either warm or at room temperature with yoghurt and fresh passionfruit.

Nici’s note....

• Mum’s secret to making very light cakes (that always seem to turn out perfectly) is that she takes the time to really beat the eggs and sugar until they’re thick and creamy.

Patience, in other words!

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foodEXTRA

Super burrito bowls with broccoli guacamole SERVES 4 1 tbsp olive oil 1 onion, finely chopped 500g beef mince 2 tsp smoky paprika 375g jar chipotle tomato salsa 250g packet microwave brown

rice with quinoa (available from supermarkets) 400g can black beans, rinsed and drained 50g baby spinach leaves 1 beetroot, peeled, grated 100g feta, crumbled Chargrilled tortillas, to serve BROCCOLI GUACAMOLE ½ head broccoli, cut into florets

1 tbsp water 1 avocado, seeded, peeled 2 tbsp lime or lemon juice,

plus wedges, to serve 1 tbsp pickled jalapeño 1 In a large frying pan, heat the oil on high. Sauté the onion for 3-4 minutes or until tender.

2 Add the mince and brown for 5-6 minutes, breaking up any lumps. Stir in the paprika and cook for 1-2 minutes or until fragrant. Mix in the salsa.

Reduce the heat to low and simmer until thickened.

3 For the guacamole, place the broccoli and water in a

microwave-safe bowl. Cover and microwave on high for 2 minutes or until tender. Rinse under cold water and drain well.

In a food processor, combine the broccoli, avocado, lime juice and jalapeño. Process until smooth and season to taste.

4 In a microwave-safe bowl, combine the rice and beans.

Microwave on high for 2 minutes.

5 Divide the rice mixture and spinach between four bowls.

Top evenly with the mince mixture, beetroot and feta.

Dollop with broccoli guacamole and serve with tortillas.

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• Toast tortillas on a preheated char-grill for 20-30 seconds each side or until soft and warm, and grill marks appear.

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Feta & prosciutto chicken breast SERVES 4 4 small chicken breast fillets 200g marinated feta

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Handful of basil leaves 8 slices prosciutto 1 red capsicum 1 courgette, sliced lengthways Extra virgin olive oil and balsamic vinegar (or balsamic glaze) Toasted pine nuts, to serve 1 Using a sharp knife, butterfly the chicken and press flat.

Top each with an even amount of feta and a few basil leaves. Season.

2 Roll the fillets up to secure filling. Wrap each in prosciutto and secure with a toothpick.

3 Preheat oven to 180oC. Preheat a char-grill to high.

4 Char-grill the capsicum for 7-8 minutes, turning until charred.

Cool and peel off the skin. Cut into chunks. Transfer to a bowl to cool. Grill the courgette slices

for 1 minute each side.

5 Char-grill the chicken for 3-4 minutes each side or until grill marks appear. Transfer to an oven tray. Bake for 8-10 minutes or until cooked through. Rest, loosely covered, for 5 minutes.

6 Combine the capsicum and courgette with the remaining basil leaves. Season and drizzle with olive oil and balsamic vinegar. Sprinkle with pine nuts.

Top tip...

• To save time, purc hase char-grilled marinat ed capsicum in jars from the deli.

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weeklyFASHION How do you wear trousers with the weather so consistently hot? Here are ways to keep cool and chic.

Trouser time!

Leigh Matheson STYLE DIRECTOR

Palazzo pleasures Nothing beats the drama of a palazzo pant and these snakeprint beauties from Portmans will have you slinking through the day in style.

Wear them, as here, with this satin tank from Witchery in a rich, coppery hue and black accessories to complete your look.

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For a timeless and chic combination, complete your look with crocodileembossed accessories.

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Safari style Wh h you’re Whether ’ h heading on an expedition or not, these Seed Heritage coordinates, including this belted shirt-jacket and classic trouser, are a stylish combo for your wardrobe.

Give the ensemble a modern spin by wearing these standout sneakers from Witchery and a retro-inspired tinted frame from Glassons.

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TYING IT UP TOO MUCH Why it’s bad: Pulling hair back tightly all the time can put too much tension on the scalp and ultimately cause a condition called traction alopecia.

Especially common around the hairline and temples, it can lead to permanent hair loss.

Break the habit: Avoid wearing the same hairstyle, especially if it’s tight. Alternate hair-up days with wearing your hair out and loose.

BAD HABIT #2 B

USING THE WRONG HAIR TIES Why it’s bad: Hair ties that have no give in them, are joined with a metal clasp, or have no slip (aka rubber bands), can actually create tiny fractures in the shaft that can weaken it and lead to breakage.

Break the habit: The softer and more flexible the hair tie, the better. And try not to wear your hair tied in the same place a all the time.

BA AD HABIT #3

Never brush wet hair. Instead, detangle with a wide-tooth comb.

HE EAT-STYLING DA AMP HAIR Why it’s bad: The exxtreme heat from a sstraightening iron orr curling wand on ha air with moisture in it literally has a bo oiling effect – th hat’s why you’ll offten see steam.

The only way back from burnt hair is to o have it cut off.

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NEVER WASHING YOUR HAIRBRUSH Why it’s bad: Brushes can quickly build up with dead skin cells, oil and styling product residue, not to mention hair. If it’s not removed, all that gunk ends up being brushed back onto your clean hair and scalp.

Break it: Remove excess hair and wash your brush once a week in a basin of warm water that has shampoo or antibacterial liquid soap added.

Leave it to air dry, bristles down, or use the cool setting on your hairdryer to get rid of moisture.

BAD HABIT #5

NEVER GETTING A TRIM Why it’s bad: As the ends of your hair age, they can look untidy and fray. If any splits are not cut off, they can travel further up the hair shaft.

Break the habit: Book in for a regular trim every six weeks, depending on your style, to keep ends healthy and strong.

BAD HABIT #6

HOT SHOWERS Why it’s bad: Yes, we all love a hot shower, but when it comes to your hair, hot water can fade colour and dehydrate your strands, as well as your scalp.

Break the habit: Instead, wash hair in lukewarm water, adding a blast of cold water for your final rinse to help seal the cuticles for extra shine.

BAD HABIT #7

TREATING WET HAIR BADLY Why it’s bad: When hair is wet, it’s in a very fragile state, so if you vigorously towel dry, squeeze, or God forbid – brush it while it’s wet, you’ll not only encourage frizz by roughing up those cuticles, but you’ll potentially damage it as well.

Break the habit: Gently blot excess moisture from your hair with a towel, and detangle with a wide-tooth comb. If blowdrying, rough-dry your hair until it’s about 80% dry before using any sort of brush to continue styling with.

BAD HABIT #8

TOO MUCH ‘DRY’ CLEANING Why it’s bad: Your scalp needs to be freed from product build-up, sweat, oils and dead skin cells so it can breathe and flourish, so too much dry shampooing can be harmful.

Break the habit: Substitute only one real wash per week with dry shampoo, and invest in a scalp scrub to use every few weeks to eliminate any build-up.

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GODDESS Make your own beachhair spray, spoil your dog with homemade food, spruce up your salad, and kill ants without chemicals.

It’s easy being green!

Wendyl Nissen OUR GREEN GODDESS

READER LETTER OF THE WEEK Dear Wendyl, I’ve been thinking about making my own dog food as it is getting expensive to buy. I know in the old days they used to make their own food and I was wondering if you have a good recipe you could share?

Joan Dear Joan, This recipe was given to me years ago by a radio listener who said it kept her 12-yearold German shepherd in great shape.

500g beef mince 1 /2 to 3/4 cup wheatgerm 1 /2 to 3/4 cup bran flakes 1 /2 to 3/4 cup brewer’s yeast (when I can get it) 11/2 cups wholemeal flour 1 tbsp garlic flakes 1 /2 to 3/4 cup linseed 1 tbsp beef or chicken stock, dissolved in water 2 eggs (optional) – I only use these when I have enough Vegetable peelings and any veges that are going off in the vege bin Mix together and add just enough water to make it paste-like but not too wet.

Cook in the slow cooker for about 5 hours. Put into 250g containers and freeze.

My cats will also eat it if it doesn’t have too many veges.

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Do you have a question or a tip for Wendyl? Email her at nzww@bauermedia.co.nz with the subject line “Wendyl”.

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MAKING YOUR OWN PET’S FOOD IS EASY!

DID YOU KNOW? You can mak

e a quick bathroom cleaner by dissolv ing 40 drops of lavender essent ial oil in a tablespoon of whi te vinegar.

Mix thoroughly w ith half a litre of water. Store in a spray bottle and use with a soft dry cloth.

BEACH-HAIR SPRAY

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Those of us with curly hair know how great a bit of salt water is for holding the curl.

If you can’t get to the beach, bring the beach to you with this beach-hair spray.

2 tsp sea salt 1 cup warm water 6 drops essential oil (orange, lemon or grapefruit is good) Mix ingredients in a spray bottle and shake well to dissolve the salt. Spray on damp hair and distribute with your fingers. Let dry naturally.

You can also spray it on dry hair for extra effect.

Here’s an easy way to clean the barbecue when you get it out of winter storage.

Screw up a ball of foil and rub the grill until clean.

Ant killer

GETTING RID OF PET HAIR

If you have pets who leave hair on your clothing when you give them a cuddle, these two ideas are for you!

The first idea is to put a fabric softener in the washing machine, which seems to loosen the hairs. Here’s my natural recipe: 1 cup washing soda 1 cup white vinegar 10 drops essential oil of your choice (I use lavender) Mix together and store in a

bottle. Use as you would a commercial softener.

My other tip is something I learned from stylists on magazine shoots. Wrap a piece of masking tape around your hand with the sticky side facing out. Rub your clothes with it and the hair will attach itself to the tape. Or get a lint roller, which is just the same.

I keep one in my car because it isn’t until I’m going somewhere that I notice the hair!

TRY THIS

In the old days, milk was often used as a household cleaner.

This is a great old recipe that works really well on wallpaper, upholstery, floors and whiteware. Just wipe with a cloth – no need to rinse off.

1 bucket hot water 1 cup full cream milk 1 cup kerosene Mix together and get cleaning!

Ants are everywhere at the moment. This is a very easy recipe to make if you can find borax at your chemist or online. It means you’re not laying out traps with powerful chemicals in them. Borax is a naturally-occurring salt that can be toxic in high doses so

keep this away from children and animals. ¼ cup honey ¼ cup borax Mix together and place in a saucer or jar lid in the middle of an ant trail. You may need to replenish as your ant trap gets filled with dead ants.

COOKED MAYONNAISE

2 tsp flour

By the end of summer I start getting a little tired of the same old salad from the garden, so I go in search of a new dressing to spruce it up a bit. I found this lovely recipe for a cooked mayonnaise in an old book by former Weekly food editor Tui Flower. It tastes amazing and is a nice new addition to my salads.

1 tsp dry mustard ½ cup water 2 eggs, beaten 3 tbsp sugar

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½ tsp salt 1 tsp pepper 1 cup malt vinegar 1 Mix the mustard to a paste with a little of the water. Add the remaining water and mix well. Add this to the beaten eggs and beat mixture again.

2 Pour into a saucepan and add the remaining ingredients. Bring to the boil slowly, stirring constantly – do not allow to boil rapidly.

Remove from heat and allow to cool a little before putting into a jar. Keep in the fridge.

health&FAMILY DID YOU KNOW?

Around 30% of women regularly snore, compared with 40% of men.

WHAT TO DO WHEN SNORING IS DISRUPTING YOUR SILENT NIGHTS

LOSING sleep?

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Sleeping on your side can help prevent snoring.

noring – it’s the night-time behaviour no-one likes to admit they do even though it really isn’t that unusual.

“Nearly everyone snores occasionally,” says sleep expert Dr Carmel Harrington, “and the older we get the more we snore.”

This is especially true for women, who are more likely to start snoring after menopause, when lower levels of the hormones oestrogen and progesterone reduce your ability to breathe during sleep. You may not even know you do it.

“While some women snore like troopers, others go undiagnosed because they snore so quietly,” Carmel says.

But even the sweetest of snores can disrupt your sleep.

And a regular lack of sleep can lead to weight gain, heart disease and metabolic disease.

“Snoring truly is a sleep

disorder because we’re meant to have enough sleep to wake up feeling energised.”

And yes, your sleep can be equally “disordered” when it’s your partner’s snoring that keeps you from getting the rest you need. Either way, here’s what you need to know about snoring and when to seek help for the sake of your health.

UNDERSTANDING SNORING “Whether or not you snore comes down to a combination of things including the muscle tone and structure of your upper airways,” Carmel says.

As your body relaxes during sleep, so too do the muscles in the roof of your mouth, tongue and throat, which form your upper airways (also called the upper respiratory tract).

“When your airways aren’t open enough, air can’t pass through smoothly.”

This results in laboured breathing, which causes the surrounding tissue to vibrate and make that dreaded sound.

Men have a much louder and deeper snore because of the shape of the upper airway around their larynx [or Adam’s apple]. But other physiological factors don’t discriminate by gender – you might just have narrow internal passages in your face. Having narrow upper airways means your muscles have to work much harder so you’re more likely to snore.

It’s exactly the same reason why you snore when you have a cold or a sinus infection, when inflammation can make the airways smaller.

The first sign that snoring might be affecting your health is if you feel fatigued when you wake up. If you’re getting eight to nine hours’ sleep a night but

Snoring is often joked about, but unsettled sleep can affect the health of you and your partner.

WHEN SNORING BECOMES A MORE SERIOUS PROBLEM indicates sleep apnoea but when snoring is accompanied by brief periods when you’re not breathing, that sudden decrease in oxygen in your body causes you to wake up quickly.

Called hypoxia, this can happen hundreds of times a night as your body fights desperately for breath, even if you never completely wake up.

“With sleep apnoea, the upper airways are completely closed off so no air is getting to your lungs,” Carmel says.

“This in turn puts the body under a lot of stress and it you’re exhausted the next day, talk to your doctor. He or she will want to know if anyone else has noticed your snoring and how it sounds. They’re particularly interested in whether you ever stop breathing then gasp for air because this can indicate a more serious condition called sleep apnoea.

TRY LIFESTYLE TWEAKS Even if your snoring isn’t related to apnoea, lifestyle changes may still help put a stop to the snoring, improving your body’s nightly cycle of rest and repair.

One of the easiest ways to reduce snoring is to avoid sleeping on your back.

Losing weight can also reduce snoring, especially if you carry extra weight across your abdomen, chest and neck, which puts pressure on your airways to close up.

Avoiding sleeping tablets

and certain analgesics can make a difference too.

“Any medication that’s a muscle relaxant can definitely cause snoring,” Carmel cautions. “Likewise, limit your alcohol intake before bed because this affects muscle tone in your upper airways.”

Other proactive measures include learning singing or a woodwind instrument, which can help strengthen the muscles in your upper airways.

You may also like to try using a humidifier in your bedroo om – your body doesn’t like the If you’re losing sleep because of a partner’s snoring, something has to change.

upper airway to be too dry so it might start producing more mucus, narrowing airways. And if you’re looking for a push to quit smoking, giving up tobacco can reduce inflammation in your upper airway.

IF YOUR PARTNER SNORES Telling a loved one your health is suffering because they’re snoring can be tricky. “A lot of people are resistant to being told they snore,” Carmel says.

“I always tell my patients, ‘You’ve got to take back your l ’ sleep.’

Because

d i inflammatory proteins, which can lead to developing cardiovascular disease, metabolic disease and type 2 diabetes.”

If you’re worried your snoring might be a sign you have sleep apnoea, see your GP and consider getting a referral to a sleep expert.

Treatment options include wearing a specially fitted mouthguard that shifts the jaw forward to keep your airways open, or even a medical mask attached to a pump that forces air through the nose to stop the back of the throat from collapsing. not sleeping can make you more likely to develop a range of issues, including depression.”

While some people may take offence at the suggestion that their snoring is disrupting their partner’s sleep, others may be unaware of how bad it’s become and happy to seek a solution.

While earplugs can help if your partner occasionally snores, Carmel says sleeping elsewhere is the best solution.

If you’re exhausted because your partner is snoring, then you may need to sleep in different rooms.

This could actually help rather than hinder your love life. “Both women and men can lose their libido due to lack of sleep,” she adds.

“This is a good reminder that your sleep is very important and without it your health can really suffer.”

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WHAT TO DO WHEN SIBLING TENSION SPILLS INTO ADULTHOOD

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ur siblings can provide great joy, love and memories throughout our lives, but it’s normal to have difficulties with a brother or sister from time to time.

Psychologist Dr Lissa Johnson says sibling issues are common, but you can improve your family dynamic, even when reconciliation is more difficult than you’d imagined.

YOU DON’T GET ALONG Our childhoods and the way we were raised shape how we see and behave in the world as adults. Studies show we’re sensitive to how we were treated in relation to our siblings from a year old.

So sibling rivalry is real, starts young and may never end.

As grown-ups, it’s natural for any competitiveness, conflicts or emotional pain to simmer beneath the surface – and sometimes out in the open.

“Family dynamics run deep and become ingrained,” Lissa says.

IF THE PAST CATCHES UP As you get older, you’re faced with new or more complicated scenarios that can trigger those same emotions from your

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childhood and adolescence.

For instance, discussing aged-care facilities for a parent might bring out a sibling’s controlling ways, or ironing out a financial problem could remind you of how much a sibling buries their head in the sand when it comes to important issues. Despite the emotional damage these problems can cause, Lissa says it’s rare for siblings to seek professional help together to bury the hatchet.

“There isn’t a cultural template to help siblings through this, like there is with couples therapy,” she says.

“Instead, people tend to seek help privately and try to work it out on their own later on.”

However, if relations have been strained between you and your brother or sister for years, working through those problems with a professional could be very beneficial.

YOU’LL REGRET A BUST-UP There’s no denying family gatherings can bring out the good, the bad and the ugly for siblings. It can also throw everyone back into their old childhood roles – but now

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that everyone’s grown up, parents aren’t always in a position to play referee!

Lissa suggests you try to avoid going in with a “glasshalf-empty” approach in which you expect the worst from someone, even if previous get-togethers have been tricky.

TALKING POINTS If you’re determined to end a feud, consider your approach.

While a formal, “Can we catch up to talk?” scenario may be needed if you’re not regularly in touch, a more relaxed discussion is often ideal.

“Conversations about difficult subjects can work well if you’re doing an activity or trivial task together at the same time,” Lissa says. “That way, you’re relaxed and achieving something together.”

Take ownership of your part in the feud. “Acknowledge your mistakes and express that you’re sad you’re not as close as you could be, as well as your wish to have a good relationship with them,” Lissa says.

Go into the conversation with no expectations, and steer clear of blame.

WHEN MAKING UP FEELS IMPOSSIBLE Not all families get along.

If you feel you’ve done all you can to try to mend a toxic relationship, don’t despair!

Here are some options: • Do some soul-searching.

Remember, you can only control what you do, not what they do.

• Allow time to heal. It’s normal to feel sad if you don’t have an ideal sibling relationship. In time, it will feel less painful, overwhelming and intense.

• Adjust your expectations. It might feel as though the path to reconciliation will never be smooth, but never say never. In the meantime, pour your energy into your own happiness.

• Accept the reality. Has your relationship with your sibling left you emotionally worn down after years of drama?

Accept that maybe it’s better to stay apart.

Consumer Know your rights if a hair stylist gives you the unkindest cut; and learn what you can do to protect yourself when booking flights and holidays through a travel agent.

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BAD HAIRDO? HERE’S HOW TO FIX IT

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hat can you do if you get a terrible haircut or colour from a stylist? Can you get the job fixed by another salon and get the first salon to pay for it?

When you visit a salon, you have the right under consumer law to expect the work to be carried out with a reasonable degree of skill and care. (This is the Consumer Guarantees Act.) Firstly, front up with your concerns. This can be while you’re still in the salon or after you’ve got home. It may be even days after your appointment.

Give the salon manager the opportunity to put your hair right, preferably by a more senior stylist. If it’s a small place and there’s no-one else to fix it, ask if they’ll pay to get it fixed elsewhere. They should do that.

If they won’t accept there’s anything wrong, you could take them to the Disputes Tribunal. But at that point it may be best to put it down to experience and change salons. The last salon I visited stated on the receipt that if I wasn’t “completely delighted” I could return within seven days and they’d take care of me. I was impressed.

the chase

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ou’ve read warnings about losing money booking your holidays through dodgy travel agents, mainly online. That’s all very well, but how do you identify a dodgy travel agent? They don’t put a “Dodgy” sign on their front door or website.

Yes, fair point. But there are a couple of commonsense rules to stick by. Firstly, use wellestablished, well-known travel

companies, not just a name you’ve never heard of that appears to be offering the lowest fares. This particularly applies to online travel sites.

I prefer to use companies based in New Zealand – it’s easier to sort out issues locally and even face-to-face. But I accept that if you’re travelling internationally, there are highly respected online sites.

The other rule is to check if

the company you’re about to send your money to belongs to the Travel Agents Association of New Zealand (TAANZ). They state that anyone who books through a member is covered if the firm goes bust.

Of course, a rip-off merchant may tell you they are a member.

They may have even concocted a fake sign. So if you have any doubts, contact TAANZ and check the agent out.

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weeklyGARDEN

In this clever colour scheme, the aggregate under the jigsaw picks up the colour of the stone-edged steps and wall.

It’s also used in the beanbag, which in turn features a dark maroon that mimics the foliage of the Leucadendrons.

There are times when I wish the word ‘style’ had never been invited into the modern design world. It’s often prescriptive and stops you from having what you really want. So the next time you’re inclined to buy a gnome to brighten up a minimalist space, go for it.

Easy add-ons!

Lee Ann Bramwell GARDEN EDITOR

Star jasmine is one of the best low-growing plants for softening anything. Here, it relaxes the transition from pavers and riverstones to the house. It’s happy to be trimmed too.

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There’s a lot going on in this courtyard, but because it’s well designed, it retains its modern look. Subtle colours, level changes and a combination of sculptural and soft planting work to make it an inviting outdoor room.

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Placing minor structures – planters, gabion boxes or seats – in a big, minimalist square will give the space some intimacy.

The uncompromising lines of this angular space are softened by a frothy papyrus.

omeone was looking around our garden the other day and complimented me on my success at softening the hard lines of our front terrace which, if you were being kind, you might call ‘contemporary’.

I imagine he was referring to the shaggy blue rugs outside the French doors which are there solely for the benefit of the dog, and a pile of throws and cushions in hues of blue, green and apricot slung in a corner awaiting transfer to an exterior decorating job.

But in a way he was right – the rugs and cushions did have a softening effect.

It reminded me of a friend who recently moved into a new house and didn’t love the landscaping. She found the materials, design and planting unforgiving and uninviting.

She said the whole thing was desperately trendy and made her want to rush out and buy a garden gnome.

tly DOES IT HOW TO MAXIMISE MINIMAL SPACE

I really liked it. I’m a fan of straight lines, level surfaces and well-organised square spaces, but the Partner likes a softer, more relaxed look.

Happily, marrying the two is easier than you’d think. Here’s how you could do it...

• Many designers and gardeners like to use tidy lines of stiff, sculptural plants in a contemporary hardscape and while they do look appropriate and well-organised, it can all seem a bit strict.

So, in addition to using some ‘architectural’ plants to complement the architecture, introduce a few relaxed varieties (sasanqua, Lomandra grass, calliandra, small palms, grevillea) for a sense of relaxation and playfulness in the area.

• Another way to soften an area is with colour. Suppose you have a large area of concrete paving in its natural hue, you could colour the concrete at the outset – perhaps subtle taupe or dusty grey-green.

Look at the other elements in the garden and take your cue from them. Since we introduced timber fencing to our landscape, we’ve decided that when we next re-gravel the driveway, we’ll use an aggregate in very light brown tones. Garden furniture painted just one or two shades lighter or darker than the main colour of your hardscape is another way to add a layer of colour without it looking garish.

If your house features concrete, corrugated iron or black cladding, introduce warmth with timber. It could be fencing, built-in bench seating or planter boxes, and you could stain, oil or leave it to weather.

• The layout of the landscape can make a space warm or cold. A big square (much as I like them) is a big square and throwing a bit of outdoor furniture into it doesn’t change that. See if you can incorporate level changes – for example, an area of slightly raised decking over the paving where a dining

setting could be placed, corner them alongside one another seating around one of the right and hid their water pumps with miniature timber decks. angles or planter boxes placed The water, its source unseen, not along a wall but at right flows out from under the angles to it. These tricks will enhance the feeling of intimacy decks and gives us that good splashing noise. and enclosure in the space.

Then, the Partner will tell you, • The biggest challenge for I messed it up by wanting a bit some homeowners is adding more personality and adding personality to an area of hard miniature diving boards. I am landscaping without messing currently waiting for two funky with its style. However, you ceramic model divers in 1950s can create a focal point without bikinis and goggles to arrive too much of a clash if you from the UK as we speak. choose carefully.

If the Partner says they look We wanted a water feature idiotic, I’ll be happy. in our very linear courtyard but had to make one to suit – Timber has a wonderful softening balls atop basins effect and in this predominantly grey courtyard it picks up the various didn’t work and shades of brown in the exposed neither did aggregate concrete. anything remotely folksy.

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• Fabric cut-offs of your choice • Wadding (for insulation) • Scissors • Cotton thread • Sewing machine

Step 1: Cut out two

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Step 2: Place the fabric squares on top of each other, right sides facing. Place the wadding on top and pin.

Sew the pieces together, leaving a 10cm opening on one side. Trim the corners and reach into the opening to turn it right-side out.

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Clockwise from this photo: Fiona at Fenua Mata’i’oa; the Coral Gardeners; lush island surrounds; Captain Taina.

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Fiona (left) and Captain Taina get to know the local stingrays and sea turtles.

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Captain Taina shows how to harvest giant clams.

ust a 45-minute ferry ride from the main island of Tahiti, Mo’orea’s verdant mountains and bright blue waters feel a world away from French Polynesia’s bustling point of entry. As soon as we arrive on the laid-back isle, we know we’ve come to the right place for unwinding and exploring on our own time.

We’re staying in the island’s north-west, at Fenua Mata’i’oa, a small lagoon-front resort with a maze of canopy-like gardens connecting its five rooms.

Breakfast here is a feast worth experiencing. On our first morning we gaze out at the ocean as platter after platter arrives on our table. There’s more pineapple, papaya, croissants, pain au chocolat, banana jam, eggs, ham and cheese than we could ever get through. And unfortunately, we don’t have all day – we’ve got a date with Captain Taina.

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An insider’s guide to… Mo’orea BEST SANDWICH: Casse-croûte chow mein is more of an experience than a sandwich – a melding of French, Chinese and Polynesian cuisines, consisting of a baguette filled with noodles.

Grab one from Golden Lake, which you can visit on a Mo’orea Food Adventures tour.

FLY WITH: Air Tahiti Nui will get you from Auckland to Tahiti in five hours, while Air Tahiti is the domestic airline for travel between the outer islands – you can fly to 47 of the country’s 118 islands.

LOCAL ETIQUETTE: Join the locals in a greeting with either the Tahitian phrase “ia

ora na” or the French “bonjour”.

BEST PHOTO OP: Drive up any of the country’s mountains for stunning views of the ocean – which really is as blue as the postcards proclaim – or use an underwater camera for friendly stingray snaps.

WHAT TO PACK: Along with the usual beach essentials, be sure to throw in some reef-safe sunscreen and insect repellent. If you’re staying on a rocky beach, you may want to bring reef shoes too.

BEST DRINK: The locals love Tahiti Drink, a mix of pineapple, passionfruit, orange juice and rum made at Manutea.

PHOTOS: TANYA WONG

OUT in Tahiti glass-bottomed boat tours of Mo’orea’s lagoon for 16 years.

Just minutes after boarding her small boat, we’re swimming with turtles, stingrays and sharks.

It’s amazing how clear the water is, and how close you can get to these beautiful creatures.

Suitably waterlogged, we pull up to Taina’s private motu (island) for a rest and long lunch. She shows us how to make poisson cru (raw fish in coconut milk), then barbecues tasty fish and chicken kebabs, before going in search of a giant clam for us to taste.

Once back at the hotel, we treat ourselves to a three-course chef’s choice meal of local seafood with a dessert infused with vanilla, one of the country's most famous exports.

After dinner, we take in the moonlit lagoon views, before clocking an early night in anticipation of filling our stomachs again tomorrow.

We’ve been warned to have

a light breakfast, as our Mo’orea Food Adventures tour starts early.

Run by local chef Heimata Hall, it’s entertaining and informative, and most importantly, delicious.

We sample foods from the country’s three main cuisines – French, Polynesian and Chinese – try island-style Italian at Allo Pizza, taste locally made rum and juice at the Manutea distillery, fill up on Chinese delicacies at Snack Rotui and Golden Lake, and stop on the side of the road for fresh coconuts and roasted mape, a local chestnut.

Afterwards, we stop at Coral Gardeners for an eco tour that also helps to restore coral reefs.

The seas are too choppy for us to plant our own coral, but we adopt a piece (and receive a certificate later that week showing where our coral has been planted).

The inspiring founder of this non-profit, 21-year-old Titouan Bernicot, talks us through the

work the organisation is doing to protect the reefs around the island.

As well as acting as the ocean’s lungs, by absorbing carbon dioxide, coral reefs offer coastal protection, a food source, and a livelihood for fishers and tourism m operators – and they’re in dire straits. It’s a sobering finale to a couple of days of indulging in seafood and exploring the ocean, and it’s with full hearts and stomachs – and a renewed passion for protecting the ocean n – that we board our ferry back to Tahiti, ready for our flight back down to earth.

Italian-inspired food served island-style at Allo Pizza.

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“Is this a priority?” the teen queried. “Will they notice?”

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They got dusted in the end – in fact, it took less time to wipe down the surfaces than it did to argue with the teenager about “best practice”.

In hindsight, I was probably being a bit fussy but we did collectively make a good dent in an hour, even if I did turn into a grumpy mother.

But now there are the windows with puppy nose marks – not just down low, but at higher levels now as her legs have grown longer. Ah, that’s a job for another day.

READER LETTER OF THE WEEK Dear Jude, My 25-year-old son still lives with my husband and me.

Of course we love him, and we know that it’s hard out there for young adults trying to make a living. However, we feel like this is our time to live after bringing him and his siblings up for 35 years, and he is rather dependent on us.

How can we encourage him, gently, to leave the nest?

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and changing his sheets?

If so, stop! What night is he cooking? Does he cook? If he was flatting, his flatmates would not expect to do all that for him.

Can you have a gentle chat about his plans without it sounding prescriptive? Can you voice thoughts about downsizing? Like, “Dad and I aren’t always going to be living here, and I’m wondering if you’ve thought about where else you’d like to live your life?”

It’s a tricky one, but I think you’ll know how to have that chat without it sounding too harsh.

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Ray Romano, Denis Leary and John Leguizamo did the voices for which 2012 movie?

Which two actresses starred as the character Rachel Singer in the 2010 thriller The Debt?

Which popular Australian actor portrays Wolverine?

In the US TV series, Will Smith played the Fresh Prince of where?

Name the man who won Best Director at this year’s Oscars.

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Your Weddings BRIDE of the WEEK

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It was certainly a case of amore for Jessica and James, who wed in front of family and friends in an intimate ceremony on February 1 at Poderi Crisci Restaurant and Vineyard on Waiheke Island. “The day wass literally perfect,” Jessica tells. “It felt like we transported our guests to Tuscany for the day. We had a long lunch with incredible food and wine, and finished off the night on the dance floor with a live band.”

Wearing a stunning, custom-made Trish Peng gown, Jessica reveals the highlight of the day “was seeing James get up on stage and perform a ‘first song’ with the band that he’d been practising with. He sang Hero by Foo Fighters and got everyone up on the dance floor!”

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SCRATCHY SAFETY

I have been telling Miss Four that you always have to lock the front door and shut the windows when leaving the house, so burglers can’t steal anything. Recently, she went to the garage and found a solid trailer chain. She tied it around the car and through the spoiler then asked her dad to come and have a look. Miss Four said she had locked it “so no-one can take it!” Great security for a $2000 paint job!

Vanessa, Christchurch, September 11, 2006

JUST LIKE NAN

A cute dog seen in a magazine had so much flab young Trista said, “Isn’t he lovely, Nana? He has a double chin just like you!”

La, Auckland, June 19, 1995

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Lorraine Downes featured on our Weekly cover for the issue of July 29, 2013.

PERFECTLY POISED!

New Zealand’s very own Miss Universe reflected on her win almost 30 years to the day after it happened in an exclusive interview with the Weekly.

Lorraine also explained why it was motherhood, and not the beauty competition, that really defined her.

PISCES

Feb 20 – Mar 20

It’s in the

STARS YOUR HOROSCOPES FOR THE WEEK FEBRUARY 24-MARCH 1 ARIES

Mar 21 – Apr 20 It will be noted that you’re being feisty.

There’s nothing wrong with that. You have a point to prove and you’ll make sure people get the message. They need to see that you’ll fight for what you want and you’ll not be content to sit at the bottom of the ladder.

Enjoy the momentum. Feisty works for you.

TAURUS

Apr 21 – May 21 If someone says they can deliver the ocean, understand that all you’ll get is a bucket of water. You’ll be intrigued by someone who makes amazing promises. Don’t give your money, time or resources until you see the ocean delivered to your backyard! This is especially vital when it comes to new love.

GEMINI

May 22 – Jun 21 Do you find yourself always picking up the bill? You don’t mind paying when it’s your choice and you offer. But this week it will seem as if people are taking advantage of your good nature. Make it clear that you only have enough cash for you, and let other people pay their share first.

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CANCER

Jun 22 – Jul 23 There’s a sense of being grounded, of knowing you need to get into a routine of earlier bedtimes, more home-cooked dinners, reading books and establishing new habits.

These simple things will bring great pleasure.

You will find you have more time, energy and cash, and you can relax more easily.

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You need to push your boundaries. People will scream and throw up their hands about your intentions. For them it’s over the top, but for you it’s a little push. Their reactions will be entertaining and you’ll probably push yourself further just to see those responses.

There will be limits, though.

Don’t go eating deep-fried sheep’s eyes, or drinking fermented camel’s milk!

LEO

Jul 24 – Aug 23 Keep your friends close and your enemies closer, especially if you’re in a competitive sport, game or interest. Check out the competition – their mood, their training, their strategy.

If you’re in business, keep ahead of the game. If you know pandas are the next big thing, get pandas now – don’t wait!

VIRGO

Aug 24 – Sep 23 A conversation will touch your heart this week. Something about this person and their situation will resonate, and the good thing is that you can help. To you it may be a small thing but it’ll give them something they need to move forward. Just know that this week you will make a difference.

LIBRA

Sep 24 – Oct 23 There’s a great deal of work to do, and if you’re in your own business it’s even more important to get it done. But friends and family seem to be in a text and email frenzy, and your social media is buzzing every few minutes. Don’t get sucked in. Turn it all off. You might find that you like switching off now and then.

SCORPIO

Oct 24 – Nov 22 You won’t want to go out of the house this week!

There’s nothing wrong with being in your cave for a few days and shutting out the world, for whatever reason. Sometimes it’s the perfect cure for what ails you, and sometimes it’s simply a great pleasure. Visitors can take you as they find you – and bring snacks!

SAGITTARIUS

Nov 23 – Dec 22 You might feel an urge to move house, change your environment.

Seriously consider it – look at your lifestyle and ask if you’re really living the way you want to. Sometimes we fall into a lifestyle that should have only been temporary, but it has become a habit or the norm. Change that right now.

CAPRICORN

Dec 23 – Jan 20 A situation or problem will come up and the best thing to do is pull the plug, walk away and regain your composure. You don’t have to make decisions just because someone else wants you to. Make decisions in your own good time. Your mantra is: unplug, reboot, download and decide at your own pace.

AQUARIUS

Jan 21 – Feb 19 Something is being organised and you can see it’ll be a disaster.

You could be the buzzkill and let everyone know exactly what they’re doing wrong – or you could get in there and do your best to make it successful. You might actually enjoy it. It’s not always about the outcome but how you handle the journey.

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Former prime minister Helen Clark turns 70 on Wednesday and may feel an urge to push her boundaries.

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as I hear of it I’ll have my name down for it as a request at my What a delightful story about Judy Bailey (24.02.20.) I’m sure local library. Perhaps she could also try to squeeze in the time many of us must have been wondering what happened to to write a book of tips on style for older women. I’d pay good her. Judy will be the perfect money for that! person to narrate New Zealand’s first-ever military Di, Auckland tattoo. Her ‘familiar dulcet The writer of our winning letter receives $100. Our other letter tones’ are well loved and wins a copy of Mr Nobody so recognisable. The big (HarperCollins, RRP $35) by question is: How does Catherine Steadman. When a she keep herself man is found on a Norfolk beach, drifting in and out looking so good? of consciousness, with no She’s in her late identification and unable 60s but you show to speak, people are baffled. Neuropsychiatrist her looking as Dr Emma Lewis is asked gorgeous as ever. to return to the home If Judy ever gets she left as a 14-year-old around to writing for the case, but if she does, will the past she’s that book about worked hard to forget her dad, as soon catch up with her?

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KERRE McIVOR

Paradigm SHIFT WHERE TO START WHEN A DOWNSIZE IS ON THE HORIZON?

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e’re thinking of selling our family home – the home we’ve lived in for 22 years. Kate grew up here, Toby the Border collie lived and died here, and among the many parties we’ve hosted, I had my 50th in the backyard. We thought we’d never leave.

But … times change. People change.

We’ve thought about it before. A few years ago we put a deposit down on a flash new apartment being built in Grey Lynn. It had a high stud (important for the Irishman), three bedrooms, magnificent views, no lawn or garden or swimming pool to take care of – it was perfect. So we rang the bank and got the deposit and signed the contract – and then in the middle of the night, I woke up in a cold sweat.

The apartment was ridiculously expensive and it hadn’t even been built. It was a couple of years from completion. And we’d have to sell our house and we had no idea what we’d get for it, and we loved our house really, and we were only flirting with the apartment...

I lay awake for the rest of the night, staring at the ceiling like a possum in the headlights, and in the morning, to the husband’s great relief, I rang the lawyer.

Thanks to a clause in the contract that allowed a cooling-off period, we were able to get out of the agreement with no harm done. But the seed was sown then, I think, and now I look at our place and think how much better it would be for a family with young children.

My friends and their two small children came round recently, on a sweltering Saturday, and it was wonderful to hear the children laughing and splashing in the pool. This house has missed that.

If my London-based family was coming home in the near future, we would have tried to find a way for them to move in here while we went elsewhere. But we can’t put

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our lives on hold for the kids or expect them to move home because it suits us.

And so, we’re looking at selling up. Just as so many other baby boomers have done before us. It’s time for a new chapter and who knows where that will take us?

But dismantling the household is difficult. Neither of us is what you might call a neat freak. We keep stuff: Kate’s old school reports, medical records, boxes and boxes of paperwork from the accountants, and books – hundreds and hundreds of books.

We love the books and see them as old friends. When we renovated, we had custom-made bookshelves put into the office and the lounge, and they are piled high with our favourites, some of which I’ve carried with me since my teens.

Kate’s childhood classics are here, and although I’ve taken some to England so she can read them to her children, I can’t bear to part with them all, so they have a dedicated shelf.

And I shudder to think how I’m going to sort through my clothes. Thanks to my fluctuating size, three wardrobes are groaning under the weight of all my dresses.

There’s also weird stuff I have no idea what to do with – the real detritus of households.

Some kind of handle off something long forgotten, nuts and bolts in a dish... I have no idea where they should go. Nothing’s fallen down yet so presumably they’re not needed. And lots of cables and wires that mean absolutely nothing to me.

So, yes. I’m relieved we’ve made the decision to have The Great Clearout of 2020. It will be enormously useful whether we sell or not. The only problem? I have absolutely no idea where to begin.

MAN

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in the house COLIN HOGG

STRUNG IT’S A GALLING MOMENT WHEN YOUR GRANDCHILD COMES OUT ON TOP

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y 12-year-old grandson Kobey now stands six feet tall in his basketball boots, I’m told. He lives in Melbourne so I don’t see him in the flesh much.

And next time I do, I imagine he’ll be looking down on me.

I’m experiencing mixed feelings about this. Up till now, despite some close calls, I’ve been the tallest in the family.

I won’t like losing the crown. I come from a heightist background.

When I say “heightist”, I mean that I grew up a child of tall parents, fed on a bit of an attitude about short people. I’ve done my best to shake it off, but some of it clings.

I recall, years back now, becoming a little alarmed when Jamie, the only boy in my pack of six kids, started sprouting upwards towards my altitude, but he stopped growing just an inch or so short. Then Maddy, the youngest, launched a late challenge, going up at an alarming rate in her mid-teens, but, again, stopping just shy of my eye.

And the sons-in-law all seem as if they were specifically and sensitively chosen. They’re all tallish, but not too tall. Though now, probably, they’re all waiting for me to start shrinking. My dad shrank as he became really old, dropping from six foot two to shorter than me.

The evidence is in the old photos from family gatherings.

But I hadn’t thought about the grandchildren challenging me. Well, not until now with the six-foot 12-year-old situation. But there’s nothing I can do about it, except perhaps pop over for a visit

– and I’d better make it soon, while I can still look the kid in the eye.

Maybe I can catch him in action with his basketball team. Kobey’s a bit of a rising star, apparently, along with being a rising presence, which is a happy coincidence.

In other news, we have now not only managed to sell our house in Wellington, but we’ve bought one in Auckland. The outrageousness of the price we got for the Wellington place didn’t quite match the outrageousness of the price we had to pay for the Auckland one, but we did it anyway, telling ourselves that this one’s a keeper, which I surely hope it is.

Packing, which we’re in the middle of, is a slow torture, as you pass all your possessions through your hands while the boxes rise around you.

The darling wife reckons I’ve started the packing a bit soon, making it a difficult and dangerous thing getting in and out of some rooms.

Also, I seem to have packed a few things that we still need.

And when I said back there that “we” are in the middle of packing, I actually meant that I am. I don’t think she’s packed a thing at this stage, which isn’t any sort of accusation. She’s a flat-out full-time executive and I’m in more of a stay-at-home, semi-employed arrangement, quite able to get on with packing a few boxes, while considering what to make for dinner, or writing a column.

I still haven’t told the cat about the move. She’ll be livid, though she is enjoying playing in the boxes in the meantime.

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MEL’S FILM SPARKS A WAR ON WORDS

t’s the book-to-screen adaptation we’ve all been waiting for – The Oxford English Dictionary: The Movie. Although this isn’t the movie’s title, nor is it as straightforward as it may sound, Mel Gibson and Sean Penn have teamed up to make The Professor and the Madman, the story of the creation of one of the most important and foundational books in history.

Based on true events, this flick may not be the action-packed or romantic story you were hoping for, but there is enough scandal and mystery to capture any audience.

The Braveheart star plays James Murray, a Scottish philologist (someone who studies language) and the primary editor of the Oxford English Dictionary.

He shares the screen with criminally insane counterpart William Chester Minor (Sean Penn), who became one of the dictionary’s largest contributors.

The two form a bond over a love of the English language (and The Professor and a penchant for the Madman is in big beards!) cinemas now.

REVIEWS

THE CURRENT WAR FILM RATING M For all that it tries to do, The Current War fails to create a lasting spark.

Detailing the origins of electric power in the US and the rivalry between inventor Thomas Edison (Benedict Cumberbatch) and entrepreneur George Westinghouse (Michael

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and must overcome naysayers to complete a seemingly impossible task – chronicling every English word in one book.

The film also proved a challenging prospect, with Mel and director Farhad Safinia becoming locked in legal trouble with the production company. Mel expressed his disappointment that he wasn’t able to finish the film as he’d wanted.

Still, there’s a story to be told here – and never before has a dictionary-based movie sounded so enthralling!

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Shannon), the film has all the makings of a powerful historical drama. By the end, though, we were left thinking, “Watt?”

Saturated with extensive subject matter – perhaps too extensive – and a general lack of cohesion in the script, the film fails to capitalise on a real-life story that is truly riddled with backstabbing and drama. With standout performances from Benedict and Michael, and impressive cinematography, the film looks visually enlightening – the rest, however, left us in the dark.

Chris Glavovic

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TV A GAME IS AFOOT! If you thought you knew about the genius, creativity and madness that went into video game development, think again. Mythic Quest: Raven’s Banquet features an office of incredibly talented yet dysfunctional colleagues as they strive to release the latest expansion of their ever-popular video game.

If gaming is a foreign language to you, don’t worry,

Mythic Quest: Raven’s Banquet is on Apple TV+.

the show is not geek-saturated.

The relationships are the pivotal part of the series, and the central characters could be seen in any real-life office – the egotistical boss, the snarky co-worker, and the silent and mysterious IT guy.

Nerdy or not, this show is hilarious and has been praised as showing off the game development industry in a positive light. Game on!

‘A fun fest!’

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Nicky Pellegrino BOOKS EDITOR

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THE CLASSIC BONKBUSTER GETS A MODERN REVIVAL

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he bonkbuster is back!

Do you remember those novels, hugely popular in the 1980s, and full of womanising rogues, money, and lashings of glamour? I had thought their era was well and truly over but Olivia Hayfield has managed to reinvent the genre, endowing the old-fashioned bonkbuster with a fresh outlook and a clever twist.

The twist is that the plot is based on the life of King Henry VIII, who reigned in 1500s England and was famous for having six wives, many of whom met unhappy ends.

The updated version of this historical figure is Harry Rose, a young media mogul. It is the mid-’80s, the magazine industry is booming and handsome, and naughty Harry is getting rich.

His home life isn’t going so well. His marriage to lovely, maternal Katie (Catherine of Aragon) is marked by sadness as she struggles to have a baby.

Very soon he starts to look

elsewhere for fun and it is not too long before he has fathered a child by another woman.

Jettisoning her, Harry takes a mistress, only to become obsessively attracted to her serious-minded, ambitious sister Ana (Anne Boleyn).

And so it goes on, with Harry falling in and out of love, breaking hearts and behaving badly. Since he is just as irresistible as he is appalling, it is a struggle not to like him.

The story sprawls through the ‘90s and into the new century, right up to 2018, when men like Harry are starting to be held accountable.

Wife After Wife is brimming with drama, deceit, romance, tragedy and passion. It reminded me of Jilly Cooper or Jackie Collins at their best, except this book is designed for an audience with different attitudes from those of the 1980s.

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much about the life of King Henry VIII to enjoy this novel but the historical parallels do add an extra layer of interest. I also really loved the nostalgia trip of reliving the end of last century.

Apparently, there’s a sequel on the way. If it’s going to be as much of a fun fest as this, I can’t wait.

BOOK CLUB DISCUSSION Don’t miss out on the Weekly’s new book club.

This month we’re enjoying the latest Marian Keyes novel, Grown Ups (Penguin Random House, RRP $37), a rollercoaster read about what’s really going on beneath the happy façade of a large Irish family. Sign up at womansweekly.co.nz/ bookclubsignup.

Meanwhile, here’s this week’s discussion point: • Why do you think Jessie feels the need to overspend and be so generous with her family?

WEEKLY BOOK CLUB Email yo

Wife After Wife by Olivia Hayfield (Hachette, RRP $34.99)

ur thoughts, answers and com petition entries to bookc lub@nzww.co. nz or post to Bo ok Club, NZWW, Private Bag 92512, Wellesley St, Auckland 1141

About the author… Olivia Hayfield Her real name is Sue Copsey. She lives in Auckland where she works as a freelance book editor and children’s author. Wife After Wife is her first novel for adults.

This novel was inspired by … “The #MeToo movement. A certain gingery powerful man with bad attitudes to women brought to mind Henry VIII, and I wondered, what if Henry lived today? I decided it was time he got his come-uppance, so I reincarnated him as Harry Rose, media mogul.”

The most fun I had working on it was …

“It was wonderful to pitch reincarnated Henry-Harry against his modern-day wives and watch the outcome. Harry

Rose really came alive as I wrote. I found myself holding imaginary conversations with him, telling him off, shaking him by the shoulders, chuckling at his bad jokes.

And then, yes, it is indeed possible to fall in love with your protagonist, no matter how bad his behaviour.”

My writing habits are … ”I have a writing hut at the bottom of my garden, and I escape there whenever I can. Taking myself away from distractions works like a dream, and something magical happens down there. I make a coffee, start writing, and then it’s dinnertime.

I honestly have no idea how time passes that quickly.”

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You can take Forest and Jennifer’s transformations as gospel!

JENNIFER’S PORTRAYAL DEMANDS RESPECT!

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roovy baby! Jennifer Hudson and Forest Whitaker seemed to have stepped straight out of the swinging sixties when they were spotted shooting scenes for the upcoming Aretha Franklin biopic, Respect, on the streets of New York last week.

With her bouffant hairstyle and fabulous vintage coats, the American Idol alum was the spitting image of the Queen of Soul, while Forest (58) looked dapper taking on the role of Aretha’s father, CL Franklin.

Before her death in 2018, the legendary performer hand-picked Jennifer to play her in the film, prompting the 38-year-old to say then, “She is one of the most iconic and talented artists of all time and what a dream come true it is to portray her extraordinary life on screen.”

Respect hits our cinemas later this year.

Soul sisters Aretha (right, with her father in 1971) started her career singing at church.

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e’s wheelie far from home! Hugh Jackman enjoyed rolling his errands as he zipped around New York City on his bike last week. There was no hint of showmanship as the 51-year-old whizzed around though, with the Wolverine star opting for glasses, a comfortable tracksuit and a helmet, of course!

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The Beckham boys almost looked as Posh as their mum when they, along with sister Harper (8), took in Victoria’s (45) show at London Fashion Week.

Romeo (17) and Cruz (14) were effortlessly cool sitting in the front row beside dad David (44) and their sister, who at one point delighted famously frosty Dame Anna Wintour (70) with some cute conversation.

OUT OF THE BLUE

DINNER DATE So much fabulous in one photo! Burlesque star Dita von Teese (47) and Dame Joan Collins (86) made for an unlikely, but lovely, double act as they posed for a quick snap before heading into an exclusive Los Angeles restaurant. Oh, to be a fly on the wall for that conversation!

ALL THAT GLITTERS!

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Cate Blanchett (50) was as bold as she was beautiful taking in the Roksanda show at London Fashion Week last week. While chic and powerful-looking in a powder-blue suit and yellow scarf, Cate’s appearance stunned organisers, as she’d pulled out of attending Victoria Beckham’s show earlier that same day.

Jane Seymour (69) was at risk of stopping many hearts recently in this spectacular sparkly get-up! The Dr Quinn, Medicine Woman star was only too happy to strike a pose at her Open Heart Foundation 10th anniversary gala in Los Angeles. And as a special treat, the eternally youthful actress was joined by all four of her kids on the red carpet.

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Stroke of genie-ous I dream of making my flight on time! I Dream of Jeannie star Barbara Eden (88) offered a cheeky wave as she hurried through LAX last week. The actress was on her way to San Francisco, where she was honoured by the San Francisco Conservatory of Music for her immense body of acting and voice work.

A CLOWN LIKE ALICE Flamboyant as ever, Alice Cooper certainly rocked the stage at the Fire Fight Australia bushfire relief concert.

The Poison singer (72) wore his iconic black eye make-up, an array of skull belts and a stylish cane. We wouldn’t have expected anything less!

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FAMILIAR FACES! W e want to talk about it! Sir Rod Stewart and Faces gave a stellar performance at The Brit Awards. The 75-year-old hit the red carpet with (from left) Kenney Jones (71), Ronnie Wood (72), Ronnie’s wife Sally Humphreys (42), and Rod’s wife Penny Lancaster (48). Rod, who always gives us a Reason to Believe, has announced he’ll do not one but two shows at Napier’s Mission Estate later in the year!

SHE’S SCOT TALENT Susan Boyle’s come a long way since that magical moment when she belted out I Dreamed a Dream on Britain’s Got Talent. But the reality star is continuing to shine, with the singer preparing to embark on another tour of her native Scotland. “I’m very excited,” she says. “This is where it all began.”

I’ve had enough of being an adult now, thanks.

YOU’RE THE VOICE!

She’s always the one we want!

Dame Olivia Newton-John graced the stage for the first time in two years at the Fire Fight Australia bushfire relief concert in Sydney. The Grease actress (71) says she never planned to sing live again, but when the opportunity came up to sing with John Farnham (70) she couldn’t turn it down.

Gloriously, poignantly, hilariously Marian.

Princess perfect!

The similarities between Emma (above and right, during filming) and Diana (below, in 1980) are uncanny!

Diana’s double!

EMMA WOWS ROYAL FANS AGAIN

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he’s a sheer beauty! Donning that skirt while filming scenes for The Crown, actress Emma Corrin was the spitting image of the late Diana, Princess of Wales as she strode down a London street.

Wearing an almost identical outfit to the one the princess was famously snapped in as she looked after her charges at a London nursery before becoming engaged to Prince Charles, Emma (24), a relative newcomer to acting, made for a very convincing Lady Di. The fourth and final season will be released on Netflix later this year and is expected to cover events from 1977 through to 1990, with milestones such as Charles and Diana’s wedding, the Falklands War and apartheid included.

For now, however, Emma’s blast from the past has us royally excited!

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