RAM | Issue Seven
YOUR YARNS
[by Kate Lambarth]
Hey guys! This month I'm here to give you some sweet tricks that have come to my attention recently, and while they may not be 100% effective, they have still been proven to be a 'thing' you could say. I always forget these tricks exist during times they would actually be handy, so, as not to waste them, hopefully you guys will find more use out of them than me! Two Ways to Find Out Who Feels Close to You. When you are sitting next to someone and having some good old banter, start slowly moving how you position your body, if they mimic what you are doing, this means they feel close to you. The second one, and my favourite…. When you are with a group of people or colleagues and everyone is having a laugh, take note of who people look at when they are laughing, people will naturally look at who they feel closest to within the group, or who they have a crush on. This one makes me so nervous that I just end up looking at everyone like a total psycho. Handshakes. When meeting someone for the first time, especially if it’s a person of higher authority, make sure your hands are warm! This is more likely to make the other person trust you. If your hands are cold, this can sometimes make you come across as a cold person and not as friendly. Eye Contact. We all know what its like to meet someone new and be in that awkward position of how much to look at them. This is where this handy trick comes in!
when meeting someone for the first time, take note of their eye colour, this will help you in retaining the perfect amount of eye contact while speaking. Remembering Someone’s Name. I am the WORST at this. When you first meet someone, use their name a couple of times when speaking to them. This will not only help you to not forget their name, but it will also make them feel more important, and what a good deed that is. Noticing Feet. This one is important if you’re not the type of person to ‘get the hint’ if you know what I mean… when joining in on a group of people, look at the way their feet are facing, if they face towards you then you are welcome. If the feet are turned away, it means you are not welcome, and you may have interrupted a private conversation. Stay Silent. This is a good one to pull on your other half if you need more of an explanation! If you have asked a question and the answer is brief, stay silent and they will feel awkward which puts pressure on them to speak more or answer the question in more detail.
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