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Israel Rescue Team To Philippines

NOVEMBER 15, 2013 FROM THE EDITOR

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Israel sent a team of rescue workers to join UN agencies in the Philippines, where hundreds of thousands of people were affected by Typhoon Haiyan, which hit last Friday. See Page 93

Where Is Senator Schumer? The question posed in the above headline was asked on most of these last few days, as reports ﬁltered out of Washington and Geneva that an agreement was close to being Continued on Page 8

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HEARD IN THE BAGEL STORE BY LARRY GORDON

Equal-Opportunity Modesty See Page 45

Dear Editor, How praiseworthy it is that Rabbi Yair Hoffman takes the time on a weekly basis to help enhance the spiritual development of Klal Yisrael through his articles. That being said, I was very disturbed by last week’s article targeting women’s tzniyus (“The Gym and the Carpool”), and in my conversations with

other women I ﬁnd that I am not alone. I am not here to disagree with Rabbi Hoffman’s assertions that frum women are perhaps pushing the envelope with what they otherwise never would have worn in public a decade ago. But what is bothersome is that in his article he leaves out a whole population that is also pushing the tzniyus envelope: Men. Continued on Page 16

TORAH IS OUR LIFE

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The annual Dirshu Kinnus HaTorah took place last weekend, Parashas Vayeitzei. Special Coverage, Page 33

November 15 – 4:18 PM November 22 – 4:14 PM See Luach, Page 18

Features Index, See Page 10

Planning Israel As the readers know, this year there is an anomaly, if you will, on our calendar, with the convergence of Chanukah and Thanksgiving. Sure, it has happened before, but the extremely unusual occurrence is that this year, Turkey Day is the ﬁrst day of the Festival of Continued on Page 15

Rabbi Nachman Kahana

WITHHOLDING A IT’S NOT GET: IS IT EVER OK? A WITCH HUNT BY RABBI YAIR HOFFMAN

Genuine Concerns Over YCT

Most people are already sensitized to how horrible it is to withhold a get from one’s (would-be) ex-wife. It causes needless pain and suffering, not to mention major chillul Hashem. Recently, this author posed the following question

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FROM THE EDITOR Continued from Front Cover reached that would decrease sanctions on Iran. Those who have heard Senator Chuck Schumer—a product of the New York Jewish community and a great friend of Israel and the Jewish people—speak at functions have heard how he eloquently expresses the idea that his name describes who he really is. According to his explanation, he is a “Shomer,” a guardian of Israel. So why wasn’t Chuck Schumer outspoken last week, standing up there and telling President Obama directly that this is the absolute wrong time to decrease or even freeze sanctions in place? As Iran feels squeezed and pressured to come to the negotiating table, it would have been nice to hear the protector of Israel question such a reduction in sanctions. Leading senators like Foreign Relations Committee head Bob Menendez (D-NJ) had no problem advocating on ABC News on Sunday for increased sanctions. But Senator Schumer was nowhere to be found, apparently fearful of applying too much pressure on the president, who now, more than ever, is desperate for any kind of diplomatic or political victory to distract from his serious problems here at home. To address important issues like this is why Chuck Schumer was elected. Why hasn’t he spoken up and spoken out in Israel’s defense? Let’s not even discuss at this point the fashion in which, apparently at Mr. Obama’s behest, Secretary of State John Kerry is urging—or, shall we say, threatening—Israel’s Prime Minister Netanyahu to capitulate to the unworkable and ridiculous Arab demands for so-called peace with Israel. Let’s stick with Iran for now. Supporting Barack Obama and his illogical and unthinking positions that weaken America and our allies is not a position that a man like Chuck Schumer should be taking. Schumer should have spoken out vociferously against lessening sanctions, but instead he remained silent, thereby providing support for the president. But don’t think this is just about Israel or the way in which the American Jewish community supports Israel— which in its own right is troubling to many in the Obama administration. Aligned with Israel against allowing Iran to develop nuclear technology are Saudi Arabia, the United Arab Emirates, Turkey, and Jordan—just to name a few. So while Mr. Schumer might be concerned that he will be

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accused of improperly supporting Israel simply because he is a Jew, that is obviously not a valid concern. So we are waiting for our senator to speak out and take a stand. We are waiting for Chuck to stand up and boldly speak out as the Obama administration repeatedly attempts to diplomatically abuse Israel. I reached out to the senator’s Washington ofﬁce late Monday for comment, and was offered the following statement on the negotiations with Iran: “I’m going to be briefed by Vice President Biden this afternoon, so I’m withholding ﬁnal judgment until then. But from what I’ve heard of the potential agreement, my initial reaction is to be dubious. I think we are giving Iran

much more than we get in return, and so while I’m withholding ﬁnal judgment until I get briefed by the administration, my initial reaction was dubious. A rare moment in foreign policy where at least, if you know what’s in the papers, I agreed with the French.” I sent a follow-up question as to the senator’s position on Tuesday and Wednesday but did not receive a response. According to news reports emanating from Geneva last weekend, it was the French who stood up to the desire to race to announce that an agreement had been reached with the Iranians. According to those familiar with

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FROM THE EDITOR Continued from Page 9 the details of the process and who saw the draft agreement, it was a one-sided document that left European and Middle Eastern leaders very unhappy. But if France hadn’t spoken up on Saturday night, the document might have been signed—all so President Obama could declare a foreign-policy victory where so many presidents had failed over the last 30 years. The Obama administration would have liked to use the vitally important issue of sanctions against Iran to distract the critics from scandals and problems with the IRS, the Benghazi attacks, and Obamacare, but the Europeans were more concerned with international security than with Obama’s domestic public-relations headaches. The point to consider in the second Obama administration is the ease with which defeat and rejection are packaged as a victory and accomplishment to be celebrated. So where was Senator Schumer? According to a press release issued by his ofﬁce on November 11, the senator was busy urging the government not to allow the automobile industry to delay the requirement that all new autos be equipped with rearview cameras, so that drivers will have a better view of what is going on behind them when they are backing up. There is no question that this is important and will indeed save lives, but, at the same time, why didn’t Senator Schumer feel it important to urge his buddies John Kerry and Barack

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Obama—perhaps through a similar press release or news conference—to be leery of Iranian deception? Back on November 1, Senator Schumer met personally with Secretary of State Kerry to urge the State Department not to return Judaica artifacts discovered by American forces in Iraq back in 2004. According to the senator’s press release, the State Department had already decided to return 2,700 Judaica books, documents, and parts of Torah scrolls to the Iraqis instead of handing them over to members of the Iraqi Jewish community—their rightful owners—who were expelled from Iraq decades ago. So Senator Schumer actually met with Secretary Kerry prior to the Secretary of State’s departure for Israel, where he excoriated Prime Minister Netanyahu for continued rightful and legal building in settlement communities in Israel. Kerry called settlement “illegitimate,” and while it is unclear what that really means, it is clearly not complimentary. Why didn’t the senator see ﬁt to talk to Mr. Kerry about not laying the blame for failure in Geneva in Israel’s lap, and ask Kerry to refrain from warning Israel about a third violent intifada, as if it were warranted under the present circumstances? Again, a senator—regardless of where he is from—has the right to pursue the issues that are important to him, but shouldn’t he focus on the concerns of a large number of his constituents? On the other hand, I’m sure there are many Jews in New York who are critical

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FROM THE EDITOR Continued from Page 12 of Israeli policy in the current government and—from a safe distance, anyway—would like to see a peace treaty signed between Palestinians and Israelis. This group, and perhaps many oth-

State John Kerry’s dreams come true, he “will be remembered as a self-deceiving bumbler.” My belief is that Kerry feels that he is living in the shadow of former Secretary of State Hillary Clinton, who accomplished seriously little during her four years at the State Department. Kerry apparently feels he can achieve a mass

The one senator who did stand up and speak out for Israel at the time was Al D’Amato. ers, would also like to see the Iranian nuclear-bomb threat dealt with in a calm and effective diplomatic fashion. And that is all ﬁne and good, but the Iranians—like the Palestinians—are experts in dealing in deception and double-talk. A Washington Post deputy editor said on Sunday that, if none of Secretary of

public forgetfulness that Hillary was ever a Secretary of State if he can ring up an agreement with Iran and a peace deal—in both cases no matter how bad or shaky—between Israelis and Palestinians. Kerry, like Obama, is so all over the place, he’s like a kid in a candy store who cannot ﬁgure out what to grab ﬁrst: the gum, the chocolates, or the lollypops.

In 1981, when Prime Minister Menachem Begin ordered the destruction of the Iraqi nuclear facilities in Osirak, Israel was roundly condemned for its actions. Back then, there were six Jews serving in the Senate (Howard Metzenbaum, Edward Zorinsky, Rudy Boschwitz, Carl Levin, Warren Rudman, and Arlen Specter), with not even one standing up to defend the Israeli action. The one senator who did stand up and speak out for Israel at the time was New York Senator Al D’Amato. This is the man who Chuck Schumer said had to be replaced, and whom Schumer beat to get his Senate seat. But this is serious business that needs to be approached with greater seriousness and without consideration of how it will impact on the president’s favorability rating (which, as you know, is plummeting). And that is where our senator—Chuck Schumer—needs to come into the picture. Schumer is in Washington to look after and represent our interests—not those of the distracted president and secretary of state.  Comments for Larry Gordon are welcome at editor@5tjt.com.

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BAGEL STORE Continued from Front Cover Lights (as it is sometimes referred to). We are leaving for Israel a few days before then, ostensibly to bring ourselves up to date and report on matters that are near and dear to us all. We are not leaving on Chanukah itself, so I doubt that the airport lounges will be decked out in paper menorahs or that they will be serving sufganiyot at check-in counters the way they have in the past. I feel certain that, although it may have been discussed at corporate El Al levels, they will not be serving the passengers turkey dinners on the plane. That would be much too complicated. So I am trying to develop a schedule for the nearly two weeks that we are planning to be there. My goal, as I have tried to do in the past, is to balance simple everyday things with some unusual and fascinating things—which is not so difficult in the magnificent miracle called Israel that we know and love. As I wrote a couple of weeks ago, I hope to be able to be present at one of the Chanukah menorah lightings in S’derot. It is a long ride from Jerusalem but, if the weather cooperates, it is something to experience and behold. So beyond that, these are some of the plans that are still evolving and developing. There is a great deal that I would like to get done on this visit. On the first night of Chanukah, United With Israel—an organization that was created by former Lawrence resident and current Bet Shemesh resident Michael Gerbitz—is hosting a Chanukah party with 200 IDF soldiers on their base in Shechem. The city of Shechem—or Nablus, as the Arabs and a good deal of the world refer to it—has long been a hotbed of Palestinian nationalism. The tentative plans, according to Michael, are to go on bulletproof buses to Kever Yosef, which is located in Shechem, where there will be a menorah lighting. Following the lighting, the group— which Michael hopes will be a large one—will proceed to the army base to celebrate with the soldiers. Everyone visiting Israel is cordially invited to join. There is a small fee for the bus ride from Jerusalem, and you can contact Michael Gerbitz through his website at Unitedwithisrael.org. One of the many meetings that I have set up that I am looking forward to is with Rabbi Nachman Kahana, the rabbi of the Young Israel of the Old City of Jerusalem. I did not know until a couple of years ago that such a place existed or that Rabbi Kahana was the rabbi. I became better acquainted with the rabbi, his outlook, and his philosophies through his weekly e-mails, which I usually receive on Friday morning. The e-mails are usually about that week’s Torah reading, but Rabbi Kahana has a tendency to wander off topic into interesting directions. Though, as a Jew who resides in the Diaspora, I am a target of the rabbi’s verbal frontal assaults for sitting in this galus at a time when Eretz Yisrael needs all of us Jews so desperately. Rabbi Nachman Kahana (that’s the way he spells it) is the brother of the late great Rabbi Meir Kahane (that’s how his

family spells the name), the founder of the notorious Jewish Defense League in the 1960s and a former member of Knesset in Israel. Meir Kahane was assassinated by an Arab terrorist here in New York 23 years ago this past week—on November 5, 1990.

His brother, Nachman, is outspoken in his own right but, unlike his older brother, he has never sought to express his ideas in the international arena. I understand that though he is bold in many of his intense essays that ridicule American Jews for our seeming compla-

I have always considered the Knesset to be the ﬁnest and most magniﬁcent illustration of organized chaos. I knew Rabbi Meir Kahane well and hosted radio programs where he was a guest many times during the 1970s and 1980s. His outspokenness and creative thought process were unparalleled in those times and, if he were still alive today, there is no doubt that he would be one of the erudite leaders of this generation.

cency, he mostly conﬁnes himself to weekly e-mails and books that are read by the people who genuinely care. Here is an excerpt of the piece he wrote last week on Parashas Vayeitzei: “At this time in our history, Hashem has placed before His children of Israel the huge historic challenge of restoring our national independence within

the borders of Eretz Yisrael, in preparation for the next stage of world history. This stage will witness the execution of Divine justice upon those nations that dealt so cruelly with Am Yisrael, while the Jewish people will be under Hashem’s protective wing in Eretz Yisrael. “But confusion is king. Not much different from the time of Chanukah, which we will be celebrating this month. Then as now, Am Yisrael was faced with an existential threat. A large percentage of our people were drawn to Hellenism and discarded the Torah. Each Jew was faced with the personal challenge to the depths of his faith— to join with the Maccabim at the risk of his life or be a bystander in the lifeand-death struggle for the soul of Am Yisrael.” Needless to say, there are many things I would like to discuss with him and I am looking forward to that opportunity. And then, at some point, I am planning to spend an afternoon in Bnei Brak. I hope to be able to spend a few min-

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LETTERS TO THE EDITOR Continued from Front Cover All of the prohibitions Rabbi Hoffman cites—“the general prohibition to appear in immodest attire,” “do not walk in their [gentile] ways,” and “do not place a stumbling block”—could easily all be applied to the recent overwhelming trend of men wearing tight pants that leave little to the imagination. Yet no rabbanim are blaming world catastrophes on men’s tzniyus or seem to be raising the issue publicly. The lack of conversation speaks to the continual scapegoating of women as “bringing down the team,” when in reality, there are tzniyus issues on both sides of the mechitzah. It’s time to be equal opportunity in gender focus. Tamar Tabachnik

Missing The Bigger Picture Dear Editor, Thank you for your wonderful publication and for keeping the Five Towns community up to date on relevant top-

ics. I pick up a copy of your paper every week, and read through it on Shabbos. I count on the Five Towns Jewish Times to keep me informed about what’s going on around town. However, as a member of this community, I feel a personal responsibility to point something out. In today’s day and age, the so-called frum world is missing the bigger picture. We are so focused on the little details, that we miss the general idea of what it means to be a frum Jew. I would like to explain what I mean by using two articles recently published in the Five Towns Jewish Times as an example. The ﬁrst one is about not being allowed to use the Rainbow Loom on Shabbos. I am not attempting to argue the halachos; I don’t know if it’s allowed or not, but that is not really my point. My point is as follows: We live in an age of technology, whether we like it or not. Our i-accessories are an integral part of our lives. Today’s generations feels the constant pull to instantly communicate, via text or e-mail, or by posting pictures on Instagram, Tweeting, checking Facebook,

and many other ways. While I agree that it’s nice to have a break from all this on Shabbos, it is hard for children (and adults, myself included!) to put away their iPods, iPads, iPhones, etc. It can lead to a lot of resentment in our children. I fear this generation is at risk of dreading this part of Shabbos so much, that it may lead them off the derech. Wouldn’t it be more pertinent for a publication such as yours, which reaches so many readers in our community and others, to print an article focusing on ways to add enjoyment to our Shabbos? I feel we are missing the greater picture! Shabbos is supposed to be for family time, a break from work and everyday lives, time to be together without distractions or stress. We should be encouraging parents to sit down on the ﬂoor and play with their children, for families to eat their meals together, discuss the parashah and talk about their week, for a general sense of family enjoyment. Take a walk together, go to the park, take an interest in your children’s daily lives. Build memories for

your children to associate with Shabbos, so that when they have families of their own, they will want to instill the same values in their own children. By printing the Rainbow Loom article, we are focusing on the wrong aspect. Don’t focus on what we cannot do, but rather let’s try to focus on encouraging families to spend enjoyable time together. There is another example I would like to reference, the article this past week about wearing leggings under skirts. Firstly, if this was intended to be mussar about tzniyus, it should really come from a woman. It’s offensive to hear a man saying things like “the shape and form of the thigh” and such. But my main point is, tzniyus is not only about the clothes we wear. Tzniyus is also about the way we act. We should encourage the readers not to draw attention to themselves by the way they act. A small example of this would be not screaming in the streets, not acting rude, not pushing in grocery aisles, not talking on your phone while at a checkout counter. A greater example would be not to call attention to ourselves by appearing in newspapers on a regular basis because of crimes we are committing. In general, to stop with the crazy amount of chillul Hashem in the news lately. We, as Orthodox Jews, need to make a bigger effort to stop drawing attention to ourselves. And it has nothing to do with gym clothes. As the editor, you have a responsibility to your readers. And I, as your reader, have a responsibility to you. Can we work together to produce articles which encourage the community to focus on real issues? Thank you, Malky Mendel

Are Men The Victims? Dear Editor, It hardly seems “tzniyus” to me to discuss, in a public forum (see “The Gym and the Carpool” by Rabbi Yair Hoffman), the shapeliness of women’s legs and the threat of the tantalizing pencil skirt. This reafﬁrms my long-held belief that discussions of tzniyus are very often not really about what they claim. Is it just the thrill of being able to openly discuss risqué topics, if only under the pretext of Jewish Law. Or does the public condemnation of women following a certain fashion trend raise less-innocuous issues of dominance and control? Modesty is an overarching concept, meant to softly color the way we think, speak, and act. That discussions of modesty have become hyperfocused on women’s bodies and hypercritical of women’s dress is a deeply unnerving development. Many of us are familiar with the popular refrain about not putting a stumbling block before a blind person. Many of us are also familiar with the way this verse is used to explain why women shouldn’t dress in a manner that might draw male attention. Yet do we ever really stop and explore the corollary beliefs that go along with this interpretation? We are promoting the idea that women’s bodies are dangerous to men. That a woman dropping her child off at school while wearing a skirt over her gym clothes is somehow a threat to the

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utes with one of the venerated sages of this generation, Rav Chaim Kanievsky. How I am going to manage that is a story unto itself. About seven years ago, on a visit to Bnei Brak, I met Rav Matisyahu Lessman, who is a rosh yeshiva and quite a personality. Ever since then, on our many trips to Israel, he has asked me to give him a little advance notice to set up a meeting with Rav Chaim. Well, Rav Matisyahu was here in New York a few weeks ago, and we set up a time for that meeting. I will keep the readers posted.

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And then there will be meetings with political leaders in the Knesset, to ascertain a sense of the events taking place that involve the state of Israel. In more than 30 years of traveling to Israel, I cannot recall a lack of eventful predicaments on the agenda and in the headlines; there is always a crisis. This time around, the list includes the sustained crisis with Iran, the negotiations with the international community over their nuclear capabilities, the pressure being applied by the U.S. on Israel to capitulate to unreasonable Palestinian demands, and so on. It is an endlessly turning carousel of critical choices. So I am hoping to hook up with my new old friend MK Dov Lipman of Yesh Atid, and to survey a cross-section of views on what is in store going forward in meetings with Deputy Defense Minister MK Danny Danon and MK Nissim Zeev of Shas. I have always considered the Knesset to be the ﬁnest and most magniﬁcent illustration of organized chaos. Like the country itself, it exists on miracles. And I still haven’t gotten to the time we will spend with Marc Prowisor in Shiloh, surveying the area of the Mishkon, and a visit to Itamar overlooking Shechem with Mayor Moshe Goldsmith. For those reports, we will have to wait until I get there, with G-d’s help. I don’t know about you, but I’m anxious to get going.  Comments for Larry Gordon are welcome at editor@5tjt.com.

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LUACH November July 15–November 1–July 9 23 ZIP Code: 11516 12 Kislev – Erev Shabbos Friday, November 15 Daf yomi: Yoma 7 Z’manim*: Earliest tallis/tefillin:

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Sunrise:

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Latest Shema: M. Av.

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Gr’a

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13 Kislev – Shabbos Saturday, November 16 Parashas Vayishlach Shabbos ends**: 5:25 pm 72 min.

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5:53 am

Sunrise:

6:50 am

Latest Shema: M. Av.

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Gr’a

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P’lag ha’minchah:

3:31 pm

Candle Lighting

4:14 pm

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5:49 pm

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LETTERS TO THE EDITOR Continued from Page 16 piety of religious men. That she is to blame for the sin of her femininity. Do we also consider how this view demeans and infantilizes men? Are we OK with promoting the idea that men are victims of “immodestly dressed” women, that they lack control and are (because of her!) somehow less to blame for their own lascivious thoughts or deeds? On a darker note, if we accept that she is the stumbling block and he is the victim, then don’t we also accept that a man is within his rights to try and protect himself? Shouldn’t a man be able to control his environment as best he can? Isn’t he then justiﬁed in telling a woman what she can and can’t wear, what she can and can’t do, what she can and can’t say? This behavior is no longer seen as controlling of women but as self-protective for men. Modesty in thought, deed, and appearance is an important value for men and women. The preoccupation with women’s bodies and dress, however, does not reﬂect the esteemed place that women hold in our society. There are certain ideas that have insidiously made their way into our collective thought process. There comes a time when these ideas need to be brought to light and reexamined to determine if they best serve our community. Elana Kleinman

A Call For Help Dear Editor, I wish to bring to the attention of your readers the urgent medical situation of Fallon Mirsky. Some years ago, Fallon came down with a series of illnesses, and she has become progressively weaker. Fallon’s medical bills are not entirely covered by insurance, and she has ancillary expenses (such as travel to out-of-state hospitals for her and her father) that are not covered at all. She is now facing major surgery, and she does not know how it will be paid for. If your readers can ﬁnd it in their hearts to help Fallon, donations (not tax-deductible) can be made at gofundme. com/fallonmirsky. Fallon writes often on the side, and her deteriorating condition can be observed from the increasingly desperate tone of her posts. Kindly pray for Fallon as well; her Hebrew name is Frollick Esther bas Marta Gittel. Avi Goldstein Far Rockaway

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Homeland Security Dear Editor, All of us are very disturbed by Israel’s release of terrorist monsters. Our hearts ache for all those families who have lost loved ones to these murderers. The Israeli government, despite their views to the contrary, is telling the world that Jewish blood is cheap. These actions have a terrible demoralizing effect on the Israeli army. Soldiers are asking, What is the point of putting our lives in danger in arresting these monsters, if the Israeli government is going to release them in a few years? As parents of an Israeli soldier whose unit is tasked with arresting murderers, we ask the question as well. We need to be mispallel and beseech the Ribbono shel Olam to impart to our Israeli leaders the focus and clarity to make the right decisions for Klal Yisrael. This Hoshanna Rabbah, I drove my son back to his army base in the northern Shomron after spending a few wonderful days together over Sukkos. As we were approaching his base, his commander phoned him and said that he had to be on duty in 30 minutes. His job was to keep watch at a roadblock (machsom) to check cars and passengers that were passing through and make sure they weren’t carrying weapons or explosives. We were allowed to go inside the base. It was small and isolated. I passed a sukkah that had three long rows of cots inside. From there, I went into his dirah (barracks). Inside were four bunk beds, each with a two-inch-thick foam rubber mattress. (The foam rubber in your esrog box was thicker than the mattress.) He immediately began changing out of his dress uniform and into his combat uniform. At that moment, reality hit me. My son was preparing for potentially fatal encounters with the enemy. This scene has been playing in my mind over and over again. I watch as Uri checks his gear. A fellow soldier gives him extra magazine clips for his assault rifle. Each magazine clip is packed with 32 bullets. He packs his helmet. I fill his canteen. He checks the pockets of his tactical vest and removes items that are considered muktzeh. He shuts his cell phone and places the items in his locker. I give him a berachah and watch as he walks away. His shift will take him well into the night, when it is already Shemini Atzeret/Simchat Torah. He will be wearing a bulletproof vest and holding a rifle in his hand, while at the same time I will be wearing a suit and dancing with a sefer Torah. I carry my grandson over my shoulders during hakafos, but my thoughts are elsewhere. My son is one of thousands of soldiers who are being mekayem the mitzvah of protecting their fellow Jews—with their lives, if necessary. My son calls us on motzaei yom tov and tells us that on Simchat Torah night, shortly after his shift ended, three Molotov cocktails were thrown into the machsom. The terrorists apparently thought there were soldiers

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Siyum At White Shul PHOTO BY IVAN H. NORMAN

Congregation Kneseth Israel (The White Shul) made a siyum on Maseches Shekalim at Cho-Sen Island Restaurant in Lawrence. Pictured here is Rabbi Elozer Kanner, maggid shiur of the 6:45 a.m. daf yomi, and Matty Cohen, maggid shiur of the 10:15 a.m. daf yomi.

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LETTERS TO THE EDITOR Continued from Page 20 inside, since the lights had been left on. We speak to our son shortly after we come back to New York, and he tells us that his unit was called to investigate a rock-throwing incident. They arrived on the scene and noticed a roadside bomb, which miraculously did not explode on impact. They quickly called the bomb squad to detonate the bomb. Several days later, our son tells us that during roadside checks two long knives were found in a car . . . Modim anachnu lach Hashem Elokeinu al nisecha sheb’chol yom imanu . . . . He says these incidents are such regular occurrences throughout the country that they are no longer deemed newsworthy. Our soldiers are putting themselves in jeopardy in order to protect the lives

of their fellow Jews. On behalf of all those parents whose children are serving in Tzahal, we would like to thank all of you who are saying Tehillim for our chayalim. We would like to thank all those batei k’neisios who make a “Mishabeirach” for chayalei Tzahal. If your shul doesn’t say the mishabeirach for Tzahal before Musaf (or any other time), then why not start to say it after Aleinu? Why not say it on your own? Isn’t it appropriate to show appreciation to those boys who are helping keep the streets of Eretz Yisrael safe? Please include teﬁllos for chayalim in some manner and show that we do care. What better way to express hakaras ha’tov for what they are doing for you and the members of your family living and studying in Eretz Yisrael, than to daven for their safety! Ezra and Millie Fried

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YCT CONCERNS Continued from Front Cover at him and his school. Surprisingly, his response was along the lines of “Can’t we just all get along?” and “Who is to judge who is or isn’t Orthodox?” Failing to address serious concerns that have been raised, he instead portrayed the growing chorus of opposition he faces as a kind of witch hunt, thereby missing the boat entirely. I, and a number of my colleagues, responded to this misguided rebuttal with an open letter in Haaretz, declaring that our concerns are real. Unlike what Rabbi Lopatin claims, we are not motivated by a desire to circle the wagons and write people out of Orthodoxy. Instead, we are very concerned about the transmission of our most deeply held beliefs, values, and traditions to our lay constituents and to our future leaders. And so, here is my explanation of why I signed that open letter. What arouses my concerns is the saddening realization that evidently, lead-

ing lights of YCT and Open Orthodoxy either do not appreciate the centrality and necessity of certain basic tenets of Orthodoxy, or willfully ignore them in the name of an excessive, unbridled, and therefore philosophically perverse openness. This expression may strike the modern reader as odd. After all, the

Orthodoxy is no different, and when push comes to shove, Open Orthodoxy, too, has limits. But what are those limits? Are those limits within what can be considered conscionable by the Orthodox mainstream? And are Open Orthodox leaders willing to talk about those boundaries?

Open Orthodoxy must recognize the boundaries of Orthodoxy word “open” has a positive aura, so how could it be “philosophically perverse”? Every ideology has its purpose and its boundaries. The purpose is its driving force, its raison d’être; the boundaries are its laws. The two concepts are intimately linked, as the laws and boundaries give a concrete form to the ideology: what is in and what is out, what may be tolerated within and what can no longer be considered conscionable.

Seventeen years ago, Rabbi Avi Weiss prepared the grounds for the emergence of Open Orthodoxy with a program for supplementary education for rabbinical students at Yeshiva University, called Meorot. In 1997, he expanded the groundwork with a program for women called Torat Miriam, and that same year he published his manifesto, entitled Open Orthodoxy! A Modern Orthodox Rabbi’s Creed. In that article, he laid out

a vision for his enthusiastic religious vision full of compassion and devotion to traditional Judaism. Back then, no one imagined how, or even whether, Open Orthodoxy would develop. In fact, some of Rabbi Weiss’s statements were positively reassuring: “As a Modern Orthodox rabbi, I profess an unequivocal commitment to the truth, validity and eternal applicability of the Halakhic system. . . . I believe in Torah mi-Sinai, the law given by G-d at Sinai, to which the Jewish people committed itself. . . . Human thinking tends to be relative. What is unethical to one person is ethical to another. If, however, the law at its foundation comes from G-d, it becomes inviolate. No human being can declare it null and void. . . . All those who hold to Orthodoxy contend that ‘new Halakha,’ which emerges constantly from the wellspring of the halakhic process, must always be based on the highest caliber of religio-legal authority. There must be an exceptional halakhic personality who affirms the new ruling on the grounds of sound halakhic reasoning.” The above statements convey important shared notions that were meant to ensure that his Open Orthodox vision, resting on the six pillars of openness, always remained within the boundaries of classical Orthodoxy. Those six pillars are (a) seeing value in secular knowledge, (b) seeing religious value in involvement in general society, (c) seeing religious and even messianic significance in the emergence of the modern state of Israel, (d) commitment to expanding women’s roles and involvement in Jewish institutional life, (e) strengthening the ties to all Jews, even across denominational boundaries, and (f) favoring visible action and including public protest as part of the Jewish political toolbox. Unfortunately, while in 1997 Rabbi Weiss could confidently profess belief in and adherence to Torah mi-Sinai and the inviolate nature of the halakhic process, where every innovation needed vetting by a prominent exceptional scholar, the same can no longer be said of several rising stars within Open Orthodoxy. Arguably, Rabbi Weiss himself has subsequently veered from at least one of his stipulations, at least as his audience would have understood them back in the 1990s: that innovations be vetted by an exceptional scholar. In 1999, no longer content with influencing a select group of young future leaders, Rabbi Weiss founded YCT as a yeshiva mainly consisting of male undergraduates at Columbia University and Barnard College. Were he to consider that his crowning achievement, few would have protested Open Orthodoxy, for what is not admirable about offering an Orthodox haven to study Torah at an Ivy League school with a significant Jewish population? However, soon after, he turned YCT into a rabbinical school, now a fledgling flagship institution of Open Orthodoxy, where he could implement his vision resting on six pillars. Ever since, Open Orthodoxy has maintained a remarkable track record. During those ensuing years, there have been several controversies within the

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YCT CONCERNS Continued from Page 24 Modern Orthodox community, and in every single case, YCT or its students predictably and repeatedly chose the liberal politically correct creed over traditional custom. While liberal policies do not necessarily violate the Torah, this statistic raises suspicion. If, as Rabbi Weiss once affirmed, “Human thinking tends to be relative. What is unethical to one person is ethical to another. If, however, the law at its foundation comes from G-d, it becomes inviolate,” shouldn’t we presume that occasionally, Divine Law will conflict with what’s trendy, and practitioners will be forced to take a stand against prevailing mores, in favor of tradition? In light of Rabbi Weiss’ sixth pillar, the willingness to engage in public protest, we should have expected YCT and its graduates occasionally berating people on their left, but that has rarely if ever been the case. Instead, we were treated to a steady stream of innovations, some of which, in the eyes of even many Modern Orthodox rabbis, were still lacking the kind of exceptional halakhic support Rabbi Weiss had once professed adherence to. Other innovations were even more worrisome, as they undermined the other basic tenet, of Torah mi-Sinai. In rapid succession, YCT and Open Orthodoxy have plowed ahead with, among others, the following innovations. They have not only endeavored to deepen the love for all Jews regardless of stated denomination (which is generally admirable), but also turned to non-Orthodox rabbis as teachers, a phenomenon that became most pronounced when non-Orthodox rabbis were the star speakers at Rabbi Lopatin’s recent investiture as YCT’s new president. Open Orthodox leaders have proclaimed support for conversions which do not meet the minimal requirements of most halakhic decisors, that converts sincerely accept upon themselves to live by the Torah’s commandments, thus also doing many sincere converts a disservice, as they are insufficiently prepared for a life of full halakhic observance and their conversion is not widely recognized. Rabbi Weiss then ordained a woman as rabbi, against millennia of practice that Jewish religious leaders were exclusively male. Though he did invent a new title so as to claim she wasn’t becoming a woman rabbi, this was but a play on words, and indeed, the following year, he adjusted her title, in a very public ceremony, to Rabba. Rabbi Weiss also organized a Friday-evening service led largely by a female cantor, which would be considered by most Orthodox rabbis to overstep the boundaries of halakha. Amidst the ensuing massive controversy, the rabba promptly became the founding dean of a new rabbinical school to ordain women, Yeshivat Maharat. Another source of controversy related to the attitudes towards homosexuals and same-gender marriage. While the Torah unequivocally con-

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Coming Together To Honor The Torah BY N. AARON TROODLER One of the hallmarks of Judaism is the unique attachment that all Jews shares with one another. We may come from diverse backgrounds, different locations, and divergent paths in life, yet there is a common factor that ties us together and connects us in an extraordinary and unparalleled fashion: Limud HaTorah. A love of Torah and a deep understanding and appreciation of Torah is the foundation upon which Judaism is built. That love of Torah was on full display this past weekend as nearly a thousand men, women, and children gathered at the DoubleTree by Hilton Hotel in Somerset, New Jersey, for Dirshu’s Shabbos Kinnus Olam HaTorah. This special sold-out event drew people from far and wide. In addition to the large contingent from the Greater New York and New Jersey area, there were participants from across the United States and from around the world, including Los Angeles, Atlanta, Detroit, and Cleveland and Eretz Yisrael, England, and Canada. The Dirshu organization has truly revolutionized Limud HaTorah. Dirshu encourages Torah study in a wide variety of subject matters, with a particular emphasis on review and retention of the material. Through an innovative and unique model, Dirshu provides participants with a schedule of learning, which is followed by the administration of regular exams on the material. Currently tens of thousands of people throughout the world study Torah as part of the Dirshu program and participate in the tests. The Shabbos Kinnus Olam HaTorah, organized under the skilled leadership and guidance of Rabbi Ahron Gobioff, Dirshu’s North Ameri-

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can Director, featured an impressive array of Gedolei Torah and Lomdei Torah, who thoroughly enjoyed spending time with one another and basking in the glow of the Limud HaTorah that permeated the hotel. The underlying theme of the weekend was achdus, ruchnius, and aliyah la’Torah. Each of the distinguished speakers and maggidei shiur that addressed the crowd expounded on those ideas and spoke about the critical importance of Kavod HaTorah. HaGaon HaRav Reuven Feinstein, shlita, Rosh Yeshiva of Yeshiva Staten Island, gave a major address on Erev Shabbos. As the crowd listened intently to this Gadol HaDor, Rav Feinstein conveyed to them a message that was well received and well understood. Learning is something that you bring home with you, said Rav Feinstein. Limud HaTorah is something that you have to make an integral part of your everyday lives. Because of the large crowd that participated in Dirshu’s Shabbos Kinnus Olam HaTorah, a massive heated tent was set up outdoors to serve as the shul, and the davening there was nothing short of spectacular. The world-renowned Reb Isaac Honig and his singers from the Shira Choir greatly enhanced the teﬁllos and zemiros throughout Shabbos, beginning with Kabbalos Shabbos on Friday night. HaGaon HaRav Yitzchok Sorotzkin, shlita, Rosh Yeshiva, Telz Cleveland and Mesivta of Lakewood, gave a stirring speech on Friday night that centered on the idea that true avdus—service of Hashem— is achieved when one uses all of his

potential. That is what Dirshu is all about, said Rav Sorotzkin. It is a program that encourages and enables people to fully maximize their potential. L’Avdo—to serve Hashem—means to learn Torah and to daven. Rav Sorotzkin also discussed some of the current events in Israel and stressed the importance of being mispallel for the people in Eretz Yisrael. One of the more beautiful features of the Dirshu Shabbos Kinnus Olam HaTorah was the presence of so many families who came to participate in the event and the special emphasis that was placed on the critical role that the spouses of the Dirshu participants play in the Limud HaTorah of their husbands. The vital role that the women play in the Torah growth of their spouses and families was discussed by a number of the speakers, including HaGaon HaRav Yehoshua Fuhrer, shlita, Mara D’asra of Bobov in Toronto, who discussed the important partnership between the husband and wife that exists when one participates in Dirshu’s learning program. In addition to the many programs over Shabbos that were offered for women by wonderful female speakers such as Mrs. Chany Feldbrand, Mrs. Chani Juravel, and Rebbetzin Dina Fink, there was one address in particular that stood out for many as the most spiritually uplifting and emotional. On Friday night, Mrs. Weisz addressed the crowd. She gave a heartfelt account about her husband, Reb Avrohom Weisz, who takes part in the Dirshu learning programs. Reb Avrohom suffers from ALS, which is commonly known as Lou Gehrig’s disease. As a result, the only muscles in his body that he is able to control are those that move his eyes.

Using a computer and controlled eye movements, Reb Avrohom Weisz takes the Dirshu tests, taking well over 14 hours to complete each test because of the painstakingly slow process. His wife told the crowd about the time when her husband was nearing the end of the test when the electricity went out and the computer he was using shut down. As a sign of his deep devotion to Dirshu and his determination to take the test, Reb Avrohom proceeded to begin the test again from the beginning when the lights came back on. As the crowd listened to this brave woman recount her husband’s story, there was not a dry eye in the room. Another powerful story was told about Reb Avrohom and his connection to Dirshu. Following a major surgical procedure, he fell into a coma. Everyone—the medical professionals and his family—kept talking to him and hoping and praying that he would wake up. The passionate pleas of his wife and children failed to rouse him from the coma. It was only when one of his non-Jewish caregivers yelled “Abraham—Dirshu!” that Reb Avrohom Weisz came out of his coma. Watching Rav Dovid Hofstedter, shlita, the Nasi of Dirshu, grab hold of Reb Avrohom Weisz’s wheelchair during the Melave Malka on Motzai Shabbos and dance with him was a sight that none of us will easily forget. The focus on Kavod HaTorah was on full display during the entire Shabbos. The Bais Medrash was open 24 hours a day and it was always being used by people who were learning. At 7:10 on Shabbos morning, Rav Hofstedter gave a shiur in Daf Yomi. Yet even earlier, the hotel lobby was ﬁlled with people with a sefer in hand. Despite getting to sleep very late the night before as a result of all the Friday-night programming, people did not miss an opportunity to learn a bit more and awake early to hear an extra shiur.

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Coming Together Continued from Page 35 The words of Torah and Mussar from the mouths of great Gedolei Torah and Talmidei Chachamim were enjoyed all throughout Shabbos. HaGaon HaRav Chaim Cohen, shlita, Rav D’Chasidei Gur D’Flatbush, noted that learning in and of itself is a great thing. However, when you begin reviewing the material in a substantive way in order to prepare yourself for a test, as is done in the Dirshu program, that is a tremendous thing. HaGaon HaRav Yeruchem Olshin, shlita, Rosh HaYeshiva Bais Medrash Govoha, spoke at Shalosh Seudos about how Dirshu uplifts people as they strive to achieve great heights in their learning. There is a constant yearning to go further and to keep making progress in one’s learning. HaRav Olshin noted that he sees ﬁrsthand the positive impact that Dirshu has, by watching the incredible growth of his Talmidim in Lakewood who participate in the Dirshu learning program. HaGaon HaRav Shmuel Yaakov Berenstein, shlita, who came from Eretz Yisrael to participate in Dirshu’s Shabbos Kinnus Olam HaTorah, spoke about the positive attributes of Dirshu’s unique program of daily learning in Halacha. After he was given an enthusiastic introduction at Shalosh Seudos by HaGaon HaRav Zev Smith, shlita, Maggid Shiur Daf HaYomi B’Halacha and Irgun Shiurei Torah, who served as the Master of Ceremonies, Rav Dovid Hofstedter, shlita, the Nasi of Dirshu, picked up on the endorsements of the Gedolei Yisrael for Dirshu’s daily limud of Halacha and discussed the program in greater detail. Reb Dovid talked about the importance of incorporating practical Halacha into our daily lives and the special feeling of being part of Mishpachas Dirshu. A number of other prominent Gedolei Torah participated in Dirshu’s Shabbos Kinnus Olam HaTorah as well, including HaGaon HaRav Yechiel Mechel Steinmetz, shlita, Dayan, Khal Toldos Yakov Yosef of Skver; HaGaon HaRav Moshe Morde-

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chai Lowy, shlita, Mara D’Asra of the Agudas Yisroel of Toronto; Rav Eliezer Ralbag, shlita, Rav D’Kehilla Lakewood Courtyard; HaGaon HaRav Shlomo Zafrani, shlita, Rosh HaKollel Khal Bnei Torah; HaRav Avrohom Reit, shlita, Maggid Shiur Daf HaYomi B’Halacha; HaGaon HaRav Dovid Yitzchok Shapiro, Rosh Yeshiva Be’er Yaakov; HaRav Ephrayim Greenbaum, shlita, Rosh HaKollel D’Shikun Skver; HaRav Moshe Pruzansky, shlita, Rosh Yeshivas Chemdas HaTorah; HaRav Shmuel Shmelka Schwartz, shlita, Rav Dkhal Shefa Chaim D’Klausenberg, Lakewood; and

“When I come home after taking a test, it is the best feeling.” HaRav Chaim Krause, shlita, Maggid Shiur Daf HaYomi B’Halacha. The elongated Shalosh Seudos program was truly a sight to behold. After the z’man, the entire program, including the speeches and the music, was broadcast live on the Nachum Segal Network and on Kol Haneshama Radio for the entire community to enjoy and take part of. After the words of Torah and Chizuk from the Gedolei Torah, Reb Isaac Honig and the Shira Choir treated the crowd to great music and tremendous ruach. The men all got up and danced with great exuberance. The scene in the ballroom as the men danced and shared in their collective simcha was a microcosm of the entire Shabbos. Everyone joined arms and danced with one another. It did not matter one iota that this person was Chassidish, this man was Litvish, or this guy was Yeshivish. Everyone in attendance was part of the Dirshu family and the unity and excitement that they felt as they danced together was evident to all.

On Motzai Shabbos, I had the opportunity to speak with a number of individuals about their participation in Dirshu and what the program means to them. Reb Shlomo Lichtenstein, a Rosh Kollel in Williamsburg, noted that although he had been giving shiurim in Halacha for some time, he still felt somewhat of a lack of accomplishment. He talked to me about how Dirshu uplifted his learning and changed his life. “The monthly tests from Dirshu give me a great sense of pleasure and accomplishment,” he said. “With Dirshu, I am finding that I have time which I never thought I had. The Dirshu tests force me to do chazarah and to study and learn wherever I am.” Pinchas Elbaum of Williamsburg also spoke with me about his thoughts on the Dirshu tests. “When I come home after taking a test, it is the best feeling,” he said. Yanky Herbst of Lakewood told me about his experiences with Dirshu’s Kinyan Halacha program. He noted that there are approximately 50 to 60 guys in Lakewood who participate in the Kinyan Halacha program and take the Dirshu test every six months. “If you walk into the Bais Medrash in Lakewood during Bain HaZemanim and you see guys sitting there and learning, it is probably guys who are doing Dirshu.” Yosef Frank of Far Rockaway has been participating in Dirshu’s Kinyan Halacha program for over ﬁve years. “The Dirshu tests force me to review and help make certain that I retain the information and remember all the Halachos that I learn,” he said. “I feel good after I take the tests and ﬁnd them to be extremely helpful.” It was quite apparent that the common denominator for the Dirshu Shabbos Kinnus Olam HaTorah was Achdus and Kavod HaTorah. It was incredible to see the tremendous unity in every aspect of the event. It was an Achdus that is established by people who are all involved in the same thing, namely, Limud HaTorah and Kavod HaTorah. It was clear that when you are part of Dirshu, you are not only part of a movement or an organization. When you are part of Dirshu, you are part of one big Torah family. 

“Torah Is Our Life!” BY ESTHER RUBIN The invitation was appealing, beckoning us to attend the Dirshu Shabbos Kinnus Olam HaTorah—a Shabbos that promised to rejuvenate my husband and me, physically and spiritually. Yet I was hesitant. Having somewhat of a shy personality, I could not imagine finding common ground with the other women who would attend. It did not even occur to me that I would find myself among sisters in arms, among women who were living similar lives to mine, busy lives with nary a moment to spare, but lives that were fulfilled by one unifying factor—that all of our husbands were lomdei Dirshu! Now, I am sitting here reliving the Shabbos, wanting to grasp the inspiration and hold on to it forever! “Ki heim chayeinu—Torah is our life! Torah keeps us alive!” That was the heartfelt message that resonated from the heart and soul of a woman who lives with a husband whose every second of life is another second of Torah; whose husband is imprisoned by a body that no longer functions other than the muscles of his eyes through which he learns and conveys his love of learning; whose husband can derive no possible pleasure from this world, his physical body being kept alive with life support, feeding tubes and constant medical care, and yet whose life still had meaning and who still had reason to want to live! Nine years ago, Rav Avrohom Dovid Weisz was diagnosed with the dreaded illness known as ALS (Lou Gehrig’s disease), a disease that slowly robs a person of all bodily functions, imprisoning the brain in a body that won’t obey it. The heart continues to beat, the eyes to see, the ears to hear, the mind to comprehend, but the rest of the body slowly shuts down. The stricken person is left with only his eyes to communicate. When the Weiszes heard the diagnosis, they were devastated, but

they were determined. “We chose life—‘Ki heim chayeinu.’” Mrs. Weisz exclaimed, “Can this be more crystal clear than in our situation? ‘U’vahem nehgeh yomam va’laylah and in them [Torah] we toil day and night,’ we were in the dark, the darkness of illness, yet we still had the Torah, the mainstay of our existence—reason enough to want to live!” Indeed, over the course of these nine years, Rav Weisz and his wife have fought for his right to live, fought like lions for his right to do the one thing that he holds most dear—to learn Torah! Despite everything, despite all of the medical doomsayers, his life has been revived, time and again. And each time, they joyously praise Hashem for granting him additional time on this world to learn. Mrs. Rachel Weisz’s uplifting words to the women after the Friday-night seudah at the Dirshu Shabbos Kinnus Olam HaTorah electriﬁed the entire audience, leaving not a dry eye among the crowd. Even more than the emotions that were running high was the feeling that indeed, Torah is life, Torah is our life. The feeling came across loud and clear: The Torah of our husbands who are maximizing their time by learning, whose Torah learning we are supporting, their Torah is our Torah, it is our crowning glory. “Sheli v’shelachem shelah!” “At one point,” Mrs. Elbaz, a working wife and mother whose husband devotes every spare moment of his time to his learning with Dirshu, explained, “I just felt that I couldn’t continue. It had been a very difﬁcult day. I came home from work exhausted, my colicky baby had not let me put her down. . . . I sat down and said, ‘I just can’t.’ My husband promptly closed his Gemara and with a deep sadness in his eyes, but a surety in his movements, he replied, ‘OK. I will stop.’ As I watched, he then began turning pages in his Gemara, one page, another page, another. . . . He

then grasped the entire pile of pages and paraphrased the words of Rabbi Akiva, “Sheli v’shelachem shelah—These pages of Gemara that I have learnt until now are yours!” “That was a turning point. I insisted that he continued learning with Dirshu and yes, although life has gotten increasingly busy I have never turned back. The greatest reward that I feel is when he comes home in a celebratory mood, exclaiming, ‘Mazal Tov! I ﬁnished another perek!’ When I congratulate him, he looks me in the eye and congratulates me—on having ﬁnished another perek!” Chizuk for the Neshamah; relaxation for the Guf. The Dirshu Shabbos Kinnus Olam HaTorah offered a rare opportunity for the wives of Dirshu members, many of whom are busy wives and mothers with very limited time for either physical or spiritual rejuvenation, the opportunity to enjoy a Shabbos with all the physical amenities for a peaceful, relaxing Shabbos combined with a potpourri of speakers who offered chizuk for the neshamah. Peanut-butter sandwiches and tests. Rebbetzin Dina Fink captivated the audience with her message of how pivotal a woman’s role is in preserving the treasure of Yiddishkeit for her family. Her personal examples, and the divrei Torah to elucidate her point, brought home the fact that, although it is much easier to feel spiritually connected to Torah and Yiddishkeit by engaging in spiritual pursuits, caring for a house and children and encouraging husbands and sons to learn Torah are no less spiritual pursuits. She referred to Rav Dessler’s explanation of the words in Eishes Chayil, “Vatischak l’yom acharon—and she will laugh at the last day.” Rav Dessler explains that laughter generally comes after a surprise. What surprise is this referring to? When the end of days comes and the wife will see the reward she earned for every peanut-butter sandwich, she will burst into laughter!

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It was very late on motzoei Shabbos. The son of Rav Avrohom Dovid Weiss came to Rav Dovid Hofstedter and gave him the letter contained below, saying, ‘My father was very tired after the whole Shabbos but he wouldn’t go to sleep until he sat down and wrote this letter, a letter that took him two hours to write!” To Rav Dovid Hofstedter, shlita, Ah gutteh, freilichen voch. It is impossible to describe the pleasure that I, my wife, and [our] children had on Shabbos Parshas Ki Seitzei. It was a pleasure of both ruchniyus and gashmiyus. Yasher koach for the Shabbos and for the tests that were the catalyst for me to spend many hours learning and [giving me the ability] to clarify many areas [of Torah]. May Hashem bentsch you and your Rebbetzin to see much nachas from your children and from lomdei Dirshu. In truth, it would be appropriate for me to detail at length my tremendous pleasure and the great chizuk that I received from the Shabbos, but it is difﬁcult for me to write . . . but my heart says a tremendous amount. With love and hakoras hatov, Avrohom Dovid ben Sara Bluma Weisz and family

Our Life! Continued from Page 37 Throughout the Dirshu Shabbos Kinnus Olam HaTorah, there were countless opportunities for the wives of all the lomdei Dirshu to share with each other the many stories of how they partner with their husbands to enable them to learn; of the joys and the difﬁculties of trying to raise their “peanut-butter sandwiches” from the mundane realm to the spiritual realm. The knowledge that there are so many other women out there who share their goals, difﬁculties, and aspirations was enough of a spiritual booster shot to help them forge ahead. Accepting our nisyonos and elevating ourselves. Mrs. Chani Feldbrand explored the topic of how nisyonos are a springboard for growth and how each person’s nisayon is tailor-made for that person. “Isn’t it beautiful to think that HaKadosh Boruch Hu looks at each person as an individual and

creates the speciﬁc package that she needs to grow?” She continued by explaining that what exactly the ten nisyonos of Avrohom Avinu were is a subject of debate. The Rambam does not count Ur Kasdim and recognizing Hashem among the nisyonos. Rav Yitzchok Kirzhner, zt”l, clariﬁes that if the person

remember that they are a matanah from Hashem and if we try to understand the message Hashem is sending us, it will elevate us and our families to a higher, spiritual plateau. A foolproof method: Bring Hashem with you wherever you go. In addition to the many inspiring speeches by Mrs. Chani Juravel, Rebbetzin Dina Fink, and Mrs. Chani Feldbrand through-

Encouraging husbands and sons to learn Torah is no less a spiritual pursuit. being tested understands what is being demanded from him, it is not considered a nisayon! Avrohom Avinu recognized that everything else was hevel havalim. Therefore recognizing Hashem could not constitute a nisayon!” We all have nisyonos, but if we

out the Shabbos, there was a wonderful chinuch panel on motzoei Shabbos chaired by these star mechanchos. The questions, taken from the audience, covered such topics as sibling rivalry, controlling one’s anger, relationships, and helping our children maintain tzniyus standards. Mrs. Chani Juravel told a story of a friend of hers whom she always admired as being both tzniyusdig and appropriately dressed. “When I asked her how she managed to successfully ﬁnd the perfect clothing for herself and her daughters, she laughed and divulged her secret: ‘When we enter the car on our way to the store, we each take out our Sifrei Tehillim and daven—“Hashem, we want to dress in a way pleasing to You; please help us ﬁnd the right clothes at the right prices!” This method has never failed us!’” Mrs. Juravel concluded, “Bring HaKadosh Boruch Hu with you wherever you are, whatever you are doing!” she urged. “That method can never fail!” 

And [Yaakov] prostrated himself to the ground seven times, until he came close to his brother . . . And the maidservants and their children drew near and prostrated themselves. And Leah and her children drew near and prostrated themselves, and after [them], Yosef and Rochel drew near and prostrated themselves (Bereishis 33:3–7) When Mordechai refused to bow to Haman, they said to him: “You’re going to get us all killed! How dare you go against the decree of the king?” Said Mordechai: “I am a Jew.” Said they to him: “Did not [our] forefathers bow to his forefather?” Replied Mordechai: “I am a descendant of Benjamin, who was in his mother’s womb at that time. Just as my forefather did not bow, so, too, I shall not kneel nor bow.” (Midrash)

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THE DISH By Elke Probkevitz

All Hail Kale! Kale is all the rave in healthy eating. It’s a nutritional powerhouse, great for detox and filled with cancer-fighting antioxidants, vitamins, minerals, and filling fiber. So good for you and so delicious, kale can be braised, sautéed, baked, marinated, shredded and even puréed into smoothies. Add some kale to your diet and you’ll feel good from the inside out. Kale is a leafy green vegetable in the same family as cabbage and Brussels sprouts. It can grow in cooler temperatures, which produces a sweeter kale. There are several varieties, including curly kale with ruffled leaves or Tuscan kale with dark bluegreen leaves that are slightly sweeter and more delicate. Kale is low-calorie, low-carb, and full of antioxidants and vitamins. It contains vitamin K, calcium, vitamin C, vitamin A, potassium, and lutein. Kale has more iron than beef, more calcium than milk, and 10% more vitamin C than spinach. It contains nutritional benefits that are good for the eyes, skin, bones, lowering cho-

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lesterol, weight loss, and reducing the risk of heart disease and cancer.

Uses Smoothies. Kick off your day with a nutrition-packed smoothie with kale and fruit like apples or mixed berries. The detox properties will jump-start your digestive system for the day. Salad. Use as your greens in salads for a healthy and hearty meal. Use baby kale or add torn kale to your other greens. You can also massage kale with olive oil and lemon juice, without cooking them, to reduce the bitterness. Add almonds, avocados, and a balsamic vinaigrette or cherry tomatoes, red onion, pine nuts, and a lemon vinaigrette. Add it to a wheat berry, lentil or faro salad, too. You can also shred the kale and make it into a slaw instead of cabbage. Add shredded carrots and bell peppers and toss with a peanut dressing. Chips. The dish that is the most in vogue using kale is kale chips. You may have seen them sold in snack bags, but you can make them at home. They are a delicious crispy alternative to potato

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chips. Add any combination of spices or ingredients to flavor your chips: Parmesan, Cajun spice, cinnamon and sugar, you name it! Soup. Added into any kind of soup, it will make it more filling from all the fiber. Kale and white bean soup, sausage and kale soup, sweet potato, or butternut squash kale soup are all great options. Pesto. Kale is great made into a pesto instead of or added to fresh herbs. Top the pesto onto pasta or use as a dressing for veggies or proteins. Sautéed. Great hearty side dish that complements chicken or fish. Quickly sauté kale with olive oil, fresh garlic, and some crushed red pepper. Splash with a little balsamic vinegar to finish it off. Or spice sautéed kale with Indian flavors like garam masala and cumin and add chickpeas to the mix. 

1 Tbsp. minced shallot 1 garlic clove, sliced ½ jalapeño pepper, minced Salad: 12-oz. boneless rib-eye steak, 1” thick 1 tsp. canola oil salt freshly ground pepper 1 Tbsp. butter substitute 1 clove garlic 1 sprig thyme 5 oz. baby kale ½ small red onion, thinly sliced 1 small Japanese cucumber, peeled and thinly sliced 1 tomato, cut into wedges Directions: Combine dressing ingredients into a bowl and set aside. Rub steak all over with oil and season with salt and pepper. Heat a cast-iron or other heavy skillet over moderately high heat. Add steak and cook 2 minutes until well browned. Add butter substitute, garlic, and thyme to skillet, spooning butter substitute over steak as it melts. Flip steak and cook another 2 minutes. Remove steak to cutting board and let rest 5 minutes. Thinly slice steak and place in large salad bowl. Add baby kale, sliced onion, cucumber, and tomato. Toss with dressing to coat.

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Ingredients: Dressing: 1½ Tbsp. soy sauce ¼ cup coconut water 1 Tbsp. freshly squeezed lime juice 1½ tsp. cider vinegar

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Primary Colors The Job Hunter BY RABBI MORDECHAI KRUGER All parents think their kids are special. But there’s one way that I always knew my kids were different. Back when they were in school, they would come home and tell me about it. Unlike just about all the other kids, they knew what their parents do for a living. Through the years that my kids were small, I was a middle-grade yeshiva rebbe and my wife was (and still is) a nurse. Both professions that small children understand because they’re part of a child’s world. But when teachers would ask the class, as they often do, “What does your mommy or daddy do at work?” most of the kids would give a little shrug and say something like, “I don’t know . . . he goes to work.” I’m not saying that we need to raise our kids on the Wall Street Journal. But there is a serious downside to this naiveté, which seems to endure even through high school. It masks one of the most important things that anyone entering the workforce needs to know: that “going to work” means using speciﬁc skills, thinking about certain things, and working towards deﬁned goals. Because our kids don’t know this, they don’t have a framework for thinking about their own skills and goals and how they might match a job description that would be the best one for them. And because their parents—indeed,

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most of the adults around them—aren’t accustomed to talking about what their work life is really all about, an ongoing conversation that could help young people make one of the most important decisions of their lives gets lost. Many of our young people choose the career they want to pursue soon after ﬁnishing high school, or upon return-

elements. All three are always present, but the differing degrees are what make each job different. The three primary work elements are working with people, with information, and with things. One of these is the focus of the work; the other two will always be involved in some way. So the young career chooser needs to start there: Do you feel most satisﬁed when you spend your time with people, information, or things? And what goals do you aspire to accomplish? Many will argue that this approach can’t be relied upon. After all, what does a 19-year-old know about the world?

Do you feel most satisﬁed when you spend your time with people, information, or things? ing from a year in Israel. At that point, they survey the offerings available to them, or ask a few classmates, and they choose whatever seems current or popular. Because no one ever talked about a job ﬁtting the person who does it, they follow the latest fad, go along with the herd. Picking what’s popular is a reasonable strategy at a pizza shop. In shopping for a career, there has to be something better. Like the three primary colors, which can be mixed to produce all the others, every career involves mixing three

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That is why this self-analysis is only the ﬁrst step of a career-choice process. It must be followed with a well-organized plan that will guide the research needed to make a truly informed decision. I recommend that my young clients carry out short interviews with at least 15 people who are working in diverse ﬁelds. Keeping a record of the responses they hear, they ask: 1. What is your job called, and what do you actually do during your workday? 2. What are the most important skills you use, and how did you learn them?

3. Do you like what you do, and why? As the notebook fills up, the outline of what people really do at work and why it matters begins to emerge. And somewhere in that picture, our young career-chooser may see a space where he could fit right in. This round of information-gathering isn’t enough to reach a conclusion. The researcher needs to find more people that work in that field and gather their responses to the same questions. Each iteration sharpens the picture, showing the combination of skills, talents, values, and goals that make each job unique. Armed with the information that really matters, a young person can truly make a career choice.  Rabbi Mordechai Kruger is the founder and director of Pathways to Parnassa, an organization providing job-search and career coaching to our community. He can be reached at myparnassa@gmail.com.

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Marathon Eating BY MORDECHAI SCHMUTTER Kosherfest is an annual event in which manufacturers, retailers, and kashrus organizations get together to talk about food and offer each other samples, or, if they have no food samples, then at least pens with logos on them. I come to Kosherfest every year, because if I’m going to leave my house to cover something for an article, it had better be something with food. And Kosherfest is all about food, for two days straight. Well, not straight. Some of us deﬁnitely go home in between, to pick at our supper and react in horror to how many toothpicks we have ﬂoating around in our pockets. But it is tiring. There’s also a lot of walking involved, to balance out all the weird things we eat. It’s basically like a two-day, thirteen-hour mara-

I thought of something else, I’d reach into my pocket, and, “Ow! How many toothpicks do I have in there?” And I’d take another pen. One ice-cream company, for example, gave out air fresheners for the car. You know those things that you hang from your mirror that smell like pine, so that people can come in and wonder if you have an actual tree in your car? This one smelled strongly of ices. I put one in my minivan, and every time I got in, it was like getting punched in the face with a Popsicle. But to be fair, I sit in the front, right next to it. The smell had to be strong enough to reach my kids, who sit in the back under a layer of potato chips and coloring books. And anyway, the whole point of the souvenirs is that every time you get into the car, you’re

Isn’t “flavored water” just another term for “bland juice”? thon, if you had people on the sides handing the runners gefilte fish. But I always go, to see what’s new. One new thing was that instead of a little Kosherfest book that tells you where to find all the exhibitors, they gave out a huge foldout map, so you could block entire aisles staring at it with a question mark over your head. “How do I get to the little side room so I can catch 30 consecutive Minchahs?” you could ask passersby. Or, “How do I get to the water cooler full of Moscato?” Yes, one booth had a water cooler full of that delicious blue-bottled wine that almost has a lower alcohol content than orange juice. They weren’t just doing this out of the goodness of their hearts; it was a company that actually sold wine. But you have to admit, this would be a great idea for the office. And here I’m specifically talking to my editors at the 5TJT. The wine came in handy, because some booths display milchig products, and some display fleishigs. So unless you want it to be Treiffest (which isn’t held until June), you have to go in with a plan. Plan A is to be born into a Dutch family. But the plan that most people go with, because they didn’t think ahead, is that first you eat your milchigs and your pareve meats, and then you wash out your mouth, because let’s face it, we have a long way to go with pareve meats. Then you eat your real meats, as well as your meats pretending to be other meats. Not everything is about food. A lot of the souvenirs were about getting people to remember the brand names via items that they could keep forever, such as pens. Every time I thought of something funny, I would take a pen from a booth, write it down, and put the pen in my pocket. And then when

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reminded. (“What is that smell? Oh, it’s Klein’s. The one that sells ice pops, not the one that sells Natural Foods. Such as Jelly Bellies.”) At least it wasn’t the stinky cheese booth handing these out. Klein’s was also handing out bottles of water, which they don’t even make, as far as I know, so that people could continue their marathon, and so other people could say, “Klein’s has water? Where’s their booth?” “Just follow the smell of ices.” And also so that when you’re done with the water, you can get a refill at the Moscato cooler. Speaking of water, there was a company there that made a “flavored spring water beverage.” I don’t know why they had to call it a beverage. What else would flavored spring water be? A gravy? It kind of tasted like someone took some water and stuck in an air freshener. But not in a bad way. But isn’t “flavored water” just another term for “bland juice”? I guess they couldn’t just call it “bland juice beverage.” With bland juice, people complain that they barely taste the juice. With flavored water, they say, “Yeah, I can kind of taste the flavor! Which one is this?” And speaking of water, there was a big surge in the “things you add water to” industry—things that you add water to and they magically become a food. One item in particular was a challah mix, which two brands were selling. You just add water (and in the case of one brand, also eggs, oil, and yeast) and voilà! You can just eat it! Though you also have to make it into a shape. And bake it. It’s like a cake mix, but not as sweet. I wonder what would happen if you added the flavored water beverage. There were also several innovations in the world of fish. You’d think that

with animals in general, how could there really be new products? Are they still finding parts of the cow they didn’t know were there? “Whoa! Where did that come from?” But apparently, they’re now finding parts of the fish that taste like meat. Well, salami, anyway. I tasted a pareve salami made out of fish, and it was way better than some of the other things a pareve salami can be made out of. There is also a gefilte fish loaf now with the carrot already built in. Because for years, the biggest pain of gefilte fish has been boiling the carrot. (“Oh, man! I forgot the carrot! Now I have to start a new pot of water!”) So this way you get it done at once, thereby saving you valuable time you can spend pouring challah mix out of a box. And people who don’t want the carrot can pull it out, thereby defeating the entire halachic purpose of gefilte fish. Another big trend was snack foods. (I say “trend,” like all these companies are getting together and figuring out what kind of food is going to be in style. They’re not. But somehow, every year, several companies suddenly come up with the same item, such as challah mix. Maybe it’s something in the water.) In recent years, the big trend was health foods. We try to be good. But then we go to Kosherfest, eat a ton of health-food samples, come home, and, “Hey, I gained weight today! They must not work.” So now we’ve all given up and gone back to snack foods.

For example, one trend was “things dipped in chocolate.” I ran into two companies that came up with a chocolate-covered potato chip, which I think might actually make the chip healthier. One of them was pareve, in case you have a craving for both potato chips and chocolate at once but you’re still fleishig from the meat made out of other meat. There were a ton of innovations in the world of chips. I saw beet chips, protein chips, hummus chips, okra chips, lentil chips, and pomegranate chips. What part of the pomegranate are they slicing? Another company had chocolate flowers, which come on a two-foot stem, because that’s what you want to teach your kids to do: eat flowers. It wasn’t clear, though, whether the chocolate flowers were made out of chocolate, or they were actual flowers dipped in chocolate, like the chips. In general, Kosherfest is kind of like a smorgasbord, except that you find yourself going, “Whoa! What’s this?” more than at your average smorgasbord. But they’re definitely similar, in that you have to balance a plate and a cup and a clipboard and a pen and a voice recorder and a bag of samples and a two-foot flower, and try to eat a chicken wing with a toothpick.  Mordechai Schmutter is a weekly humor columnist for Hamodia and is the author of four books, published by Israel Book Shop. He also does freelance writing for hire. You can send any questions, comments, or ideas to MSchmutter@gmail.com.

OUR ALIYAH CHRONICLE By Shmuel Katz

To Stay Or Go? I hate politics. I hate the whole lead-up to elections, when many of my friends and neighbors whip themselves into a frenzy about who the best candidates are and why all other candidates represent total evil. I hate the seemingly never-ending run of e-mails, posts, letters—all geared toward telling everyone what to do come election day. Having gone through three election cycles (U.S. presidential, Israeli national, and Israeli municipal) in the past year, I am quite tired of the whole thing—and this does not even include the calls from Nassau County on my U.S. home phone, asking for my vote. There comes a time when enough is enough. Yet, despite my reluctance to comment upon them and my general discomfort with the whole process, we continue to ﬁnd out more and more about the “Chicago-style” politics that came into play in the recent mayoral election in Bet Shemesh. I believe that much of what is “reported” (usually by an Internet post or a message to local e-mail lists) is either inaccurate due to

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gross exaggeration or is outright false. Yet the parts that are true are truly disheartening. As I reported on election night, there was a well-publicized incident in which poll workers became suspicious of a woman who had come to vote. She knew the major details on her identity card, but could not name her children and had difﬁculty coming up with other answers. The police were brought in and they became aware that she was part of a group of people falsely voting on behalf of people who were out of the country. In general, absentee balloting is not permitted here in Israel. I think diplomats vote abroad through a special ballot, and soldiers have an option to vote at alternate sites (on military bases), with a process designed to make sure each casts only one vote. But no one else has that option. In order to vote, you must be not only in the country, but at your polling place. People who are away on business, or for any other reason, simply cannot vote.

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ALIYAH CHRONICLE Continued from Page 47 Apparently, this group (and the details are unclearâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;there are different reports on how they operated) somehow knew the identities of people who were abroad on election day, and (it is reported) they either printed up fake identity cards or obtained their identity cards. They then put together a group of accomplices who would take the card, memorize a few details, and head off to vote. The police raided an apartment in a chareidi neighborhood, which was the base for this particular group. While many attempted to scurry out the windows and back door, some successfully, the police arrested several people, conďŹ scating over 100 identity cards (along with disguising props) they found in the apartment. A second apartment was also raided and a reported total of over 200 identity cards were found. We found out this past week that one of those arrested is apparently the son of a member of the Knesset. Addi-

tional reports came out this week that an â&#x20AC;&#x153;aideâ&#x20AC;? (and I have no idea what that means) to the current mayor was also brought in by the police for questioning about voter fraud issues. Additionally, e-mail allegations of other voting irregularities have been circulating for weeks. One poll watcher

only to be told that they had already voted. I have only seen these allegations in third-hand reports via e-mail, so I am not claiming they are conďŹ rmed. Yet, where there is smokeÂ .Â .Â . Immediately after the elections, the losing candidate and his supporters protested. There have been several

They worry about the cityâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s future, but they are not quite ready to give up. reports that in his precinct, they had more ballot envelopes in one of the voting boxes than voters who had voted. Not one or two more, but something like 50 or 100 more. There was a report that in one precinct a poll worker was seen tampering with ballots and had to be removed by the police. There were reports of people who came to vote

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public protests since the elections and a heated exchange on the Knesset ďŹ&#x201A;oor when Rabbi Dov Lipman called for a revote in light of all the allegations of fraud. Predictably, both sides are calling the others cheaters. The mayorâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s supporters are accusing Eli Cohenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s side of trying to overturn the democratic process in which the mayor won

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reelection. They are in turn being called cheaters because, well, they cheated. Outside politicians want to avoid this issue. Politicians from the Left who call for new elections are lumped in as anti-chareidi. Any member of the Likud calling for a new ballot, especially those who can actually institute a revote, will essentially alienate themselves from the chareidi public, a voting bloc which has historically aligned itself with the Likud when it forms a ruling government (although not in the current Knesset). Any Likud member thinking of leading the party in the future will therefore not openly take sides. So it is up to the courts. The Eli Cohen camp has stated that it is going to ďŹ le a motion with the Supreme Court to dismiss the election results. Yet, with a winning margin of around 900 votes, they will have to show proof that at least that many fraudulent votes were cast. In an election of 32,000 or so votes, that is around 3% of all ballots cast, which I donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t think happened. The only other way a revote is possible is if the police come out and say that the mayor encouraged or knew about his aides and supporters committing fraud. If he knew about it and let it happen, or even worse, if he encouraged that they do so, then I think that either the courts or the politicians will have no choice but to act. Otherwise, I think it is time for us to move onâ&#x20AC;&#x201D; whatever that may mean. Several people have come out and said they are leaving Bet Shemesh within the year. The ďŹ rst to do so was a chareidi activist who was at one time closely afďŹ liated with the Eidah Chareidis. Over time, discouraged by extremists, he moderated his stance. In the recent election, he supported Eli Cohen, and the day after the elections he posted a statement that he was leaving Bet Shemesh. Others, from the Religious Zionist camp, have followed suit. Yet many, the vast majority, are publicly saying that they like the city too much to just abandon it. They are incredibly disappointed with the election results, but they are not quite ready to abandon ship. They worry about the cityâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s future, but in the end it is still home to them and they are not quite ready to give up. As for us, we have no idea what the future holds in store. As renters, we are much freer to make a change than many of our neighbors. Our lease ends in July, and we may need to relocate. As the yeshiva grows, it may also be beneďŹ cial to my career for us to relocate closer to the yeshiva. Yet we like Bet Shemesh. Our kids are happy in their schools and we do not think we could duplicate that same success elsewhere (but perhaps we are fooling ourselves). They are doing well socially. They ďŹ t in here. And that is why this decision is so daunting for us and our neighbors. ď ś Shmuel Katz is the executive director of Yeshivat Migdal HaTorah (www.migdalhatorah. org), a new gap-year yeshiva. Shmuel, his wife Goldie, and their six children made aliyah in July of 2006. Before making aliyah, he was the executive director of the Yeshiva of South Shore in Hewlett. You can contact him at shmu@migdalhatorah.org.

Annoying Photographers Photo Prose BY GARY RABENKO Years ago, a few photographers were using a hard-to-find old magnesium ladder made by the White Metal and Stamping Company. It was super lightweight and very strong. More importantly, the steps and top were at the perfect height, and the ladder had no back or rail. Thirty-four years ago, I was introduced to that gem of an unavailable ladder. They never needed replacing, so the company folded! I was assured they were unavailable, so I redoubled my efforts and ended up with a collection. Gradually, it seems all the photographers who use a posing ladder have started using a boxy, clunky, cumbersome eyesore—a trip hazard that is neither practical nor pleasurable. That is an annoyance I never would consider even if it were the only ladder on the planet. It’s annoying. ••• Once, two photographers were at an event on the North Shore. One of them, an excellent photographer, had only a black suit. The invitation specified black tie. The client had a fit during the smorgasbord and banished the photographer to places unseen. Later the poor chap had to borrow an ill-fitting waiter’s jacket for the party! Today, photographers wear short sleeves, striped shirts, sneakers, and T-shirts. It seems that people like a paparazzi look. How it aids in the decor by the chuppah, I will let readers decide.

••• Whenever I see event photographers at work, it seems they are saying, “One more photo.” It’s always one more. It would be so refreshing to hear “Folks, we will need to do a bunch of these!” There are many reasons for creating more than just one. But, for those who participate in a three-hour photo-shoot, hearing “Just one more” even one more time can be nerve-racking. ••• How many event photographers really look like they are enjoying their work? I ask this not to make the point that most look either spaced, distracted, or disinterested, even though they do. That is a whole other issue. Here, I would like to know why anyone would want, expect, require, or accept crewmembers in their shots. Yet even in published work and advertisements it has become fashionable for crewmembers to be in the shots. This bugs me. Maybe it is unavoidable and that is why it is tolerated. But the reason it is unavoidable is that there is no discipline, training, teamwork, or caring. Each person on a shoot cares only about getting his or her shot, and is not interested in the whole situation and all the production issues involved. With the crazy-low packages that desperate photographers are selling now, certainly there can be no attention to this type of detail. It means the public is getting used to it. As crews get larger and larger, with more doing less, they are also getting more obtrusive with faces in your albums and video. That is espe-

cially annoying when those faces do not look like they are in the moment, or even aware of a moment! It’s annoying. ••• How do you feel when you get that perfect shot? Don’t you feel great and want to look at it right away to be sure? And then it is either a good feeling or a disappointment—right? Well, I would think that photographers should be more disciplined. On the job is not the time to enjoy the shot they just made. That is the time to be working towards the next shot, right? So why is it that most photographers miss important shots, just after they get a great shot? You guessed it! That is not as annoying to me as the daydreamers. Most photographers somewhere during the job will . . . space out. It usually is when they are on top of everything and there is nothing to do. So that is the moment I keep telling myself, “Something important is just about to occur.” That is what I sometimes find myself reminding my crew . . . just to be sure. And invariably something great always does happen—if not immediately, immediately afterwards! ••• Light is everything to a photographer. Years ago, I could count on the fingers of one hand photographers who set up large room lights at events. We had to modify garage-door openers into remote flash controls, and run hundreds of feet of extension cord back then. Each decade saw more sophisticated radio remotes, and more portable flash units. Today most photographers set up additional lighting. But the funny thing is that once

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it is set up, they do not use it with any skill, do not notice when it is malfunctioning, and often block their own lights as well as other photographers’ lights. This is annoying. Light is everything and the angle, direction, and intensity of the light are critical. None of that is important to the videographers who cannot beneﬁt from the electronic ﬂashes. But it would be a good idea if they were trained and disciplined not to block the photographer’s lights. After all, the photographer went to the trouble of buying them, bringing them, and setting them up, ostensibly to do something. And then, they get blocked! This is really annoying. ••• I wrote about ladders before. I am sure every caterer and venue owner hates photographers who come in with ladders, only to immediately lean them up against the wall—not the photographer’s wall, the owner’s wall. Certainly that is annoying and they just keep doing it. ••• I am always early. That is the only way to be on time. An assistant begged for more work and was eventually hired. Punctuality was discussed, and assured. Two days before the gig: “9:00 a.m. seems so early.” “OK, come a half an hour later.” Soon it’s 9:30. No assistant. At 9:45 he calls and is lost. Arrived at 10:00 a.m. Guess 9:00 a.m. was the right time to meet. Planning to arrive only on time, not early, is really annoying.  Gary Rabenko can be reached at gary@rabenko. com. Rabenko Photography & Video Artists is located at 1001 Broadway in Woodmere.

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that’s the WAY IT IS By Hannah Reich Berman

Evens Only When we’re young, we sometimes hear older people say, “It’s too bad that youth is wasted on the young!” Older folks often make the claim that as they age they pretty much get to say and do as they please. As a younger person, I didn’t quite understand either of those concepts. But, having arrived at (and passed) seventy years of age, I understand it now. Seventy seems to be a “magic age” when one feels secure and empowered with a sense of freedom. While age doesn’t give one a license to be rude or disrespectful, and it doesn’t give one permission to hurt others, it does allow one to speak one’s mind without worry about what others might think. This might be a subconscious assessment on the part of a septuagenarian or it might be a conscious one. Either way, it’s great! We won’t be harshly criticized or argued with and we won’t be abandoned, or even avoided, if we choose to express an unpopular opinion. And if we are criticized, or argued with, we don’t care. With a few exceptions— there are always exceptions—most of us don’t have that same sense of secu-

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rity when we’re younger. It’s a journey, and it takes time to get there. Of course, others may roll their eyes and do the criticizing behind our backs because of some opinion we express. But the good news is that we don’t care about that either! That is the meaning of true freedom. For all I know, even my children may do it. They may tell one another that I said this or did that (something they disagree with) but that it’s because of my “age.” And here too, once again, I don’t care. Aging isn’t a free pass to do the wrong thing, but it does come with some latitude. If only I had gotten here sooner. However, some things are worth waiting for. My good friend Dr. Phil says it best when he says, “No matter how ﬂat a pancake is, it has two sides!” And that is true here as well. On one hand (the ﬁrst side of the pancake), age often brings with it a lack of patience and tolerance. On the other hand (that of course would be side two), it also brings with it more patience and tolerance. We have zero tolerance for evil and for disrespect, but we have an abundance of patience and toler-

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ance for those who are inexperienced and who might need our help. We think more and, within reason, we do as we please. (Just for the record, and to play it safe, I hope nobody asks Dr. Phil about me, because he doesn’t know that he’s my good friend. But, without apology, that is how I think of him.) I could offer myriad examples, but this one comes to mind: I love to socialize. I admit to being a talker as well as a listener. I like to participate

furthest from me, were engrossed in conversation; and Esther and Penina, who happened to be seated on either side of me, were in the process of getting better acquainted. They were playing Jewish Geography and asking personal questions of each other. And I, Hannah, the ultimate schmoozer, sat there bored out of my skull! I felt as if I were watching a tennis match as my head swiveled from left to right and then back again. As I knew both Penina and Esther well,

Aging isn’t a free pass to do the wrong thing, but it does come with some latitude. in the exchange of ideas. And the key words here are to participate. I am not great at sitting and listening to others chat. That only works for me if I go to a movie or a play. It’s also fine when I watch television or go to a lecture. But at other times, just listening doesn’t work for me. Six months ago, I went out to dinner with friends. Normally we are four close friends, but on this occasion a fifth gal was invited to join us. That fifth person is someone I am very fond of. She’s a delightfully friendly and funny gal with much to offer. But for me, the evening was a total bust. Risa and Anat, who were seated the

none of the information they were exchanging was news to me. And neither of them seemed to notice that I was being excluded. The only ones who were happy about the situation must have been my vocal cords. That evening they got a well-deserved vacation because, aside from “hello” when we met, “so long” when we parted, and the words I spoke when giving my order to the waiter, I don’t think I uttered a word all evening. That was half a year ago, and recently I once again got caught in the same web. My cousin said she was coming out to visit me and, knowing that she and my friend Batya like

each other a lot but rarely got to see one another, I had the bright idea of giving them both a treat: I called and invited Batya to join us for lunch. She did. And it was the same scenario. Everything my cousin told my friend, I already knew. And everything my friend told my cousin was also something I already knew. Once again I was relegated to that netherworld of silence. Since my husband passed away, I live alone, so I have enough silence in my life. When I get out, I want to hear and be heard. Luckily I had a window seat at the restaurant, so I entertained myself by watching people walk by. Occasionally I glanced around to see if anyone I knew had walked into the restaurant. That would have given me an excuse to get up and walk over to another table to say hello and to have a brief chat. I would have kept it brief, because when people go out to lunch one does not intrude. There are some who don’t know this, but that is a deﬁnite no-no. Unfortunately, nobody that I knew came in, so I was stuck in my seat and had to endure two boring hours. It wasn’t the worst thing in the world, but as we were leaving, my predominant thought was “Hmm, there went two hours of my life that I can never get back!” Then I had another thought, which was that from now on, I am staying away from uneven groups. I will go out with one other person or three others, but for me there will be no more taking a chance of being the odd man out. This is where the joy of aging comes in. As all of the aforementioned people read this column, they are likely to recognize the scenario and realize that I am referring to them. Then again, maybe they won’t. People often don’t recognize themselves. But either way, I don’t care. I offer no apologies for my feelings, and if I am asked my answer will be “Yessiree, you are correct. It was when I was with you that I was bored to death!” Aging has a plus side, because it means speaking one’s mind. That’s just the way it is.  Hannah Berman lives in Woodmere and is a licensed real-estate broker associated with Marjorie Hausman Realty. She can be reached at Savtahannah@aol.com or 516-902-3733.

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MINDBIZ By Esther Mann, LCSW

Dear Esther, My in-laws are a big part of my life. My own parents are no longer alive, so they are the only parents I have. I think they are wonderful people, and though our relationship has had some ups and downs, basically we get along very well. My husband has one sister, who is married, with four children. Though I consider myself close to my in-laws, my sister-in-law is even closer to her mother, as one would expect. They are like best friends. They see each other constantly, go shopping together, have lunch together, etc. Once in a while they’ll invite me to join them, but they both live in the same neighborhood, and I’m a good 45-minute drive away, so obviously I can’t be as involved. But something tells me that even if I lived near them, I’d still be only an in-law. I would love to be one of them, but bottom line is I’m not. Am I jealous of their relationship? I have to admit, a little. But I’m writing to you because of a more serious matter. I don’t know how much money my in-laws have in the bank, but I’ve always been under the impression that they are “comfortable.” Though they are not fancy-schmancy people, they live a nice lifestyle, take an occasional trip, and don’t seem to really want for anything. My sis-

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ter-in-law Susan’s husband is an attorney and one would think that he makes a good salary. But somehow I happen to know that my in-laws tremendously help them out financially. When they go shopping together, my mother-inlaw buys clothing for Susan and her children. I know that they help with yeshiva tuition. Most recently, my sister-in-law made an extremely lavish bas mitzvah for her daughter. It was totally over-thetop and it turns out that my in-laws paid for it entirely. I know that paying for such things is their prerogative. The problem is that my husband—their son—and I really struggle financially to support ourselves and our three children. My husband is an accountant with a small firm and doesn’t make anywhere near what my brother-in-law earns. We struggle to pay our bills every month and sometimes even fall behind. Recently, we had one catastrophe after another in our home, and had to replace a number of appliances and our boiler. Our oven, which is on its last legs, really needs to be replaced, but we’re holding off because our credit-card bills are staggering. I know that my mother-in-law knows about our added expenses, because I’ve spoken to her about all the things that

have broken. What’s so crazy is that they haven’t offered to pay for anything. I can’t understand how they can spend money on frivolous extravagances like clothing and a bas mitzvah for my sister-in-law, and not offer to pay for some of our basic needs. They occasionally give us a little gift here and there. Birthdays, anniversaries, and Chanukah are always acknowledged with checks, which we desperately need and appreciate. But it doesn’t come close to helping us keep our heads above water most of the time, while they are helping their daughter spend on nonsense. Besides the practical aspect, which doesn’t make sense to me, I’m feeling uncared for and unloved. It makes me think that a daughter is a daughter is a daughter, and I’ll never come close to being as important to my mother-in-law as her own flesh and blood is. It hurts. Especially since I haven’t had my own mother for many years. It makes me feel so abandoned. I’m wondering if you think I have the right to tell my mother-in-law how I feel and to just come straight out and ask for the money that we need to cover our extra recent expenses. I don’t want to risk her being angry at me and distancing herself from me. I appreciate what we have, and if I lost that, I’d be devastated. On the other hand, besides feeling like a second-class citizen, we really need the money! What do you think? Strapped Dear Strapped, It would be nice to believe that all daughters-in-law are perceived the same way as daughters. There are some families in which both daughters and daughters-in-law find themselves treated with the same amount of affection and togetherness. And I’ve even seen families in which mothers actually feel closer to their in-law daughters than they feel toward their own daughters. So anything is possible. But it doesn’t really surprise anyone when a mother has a stronger bond with her flesh and blood than she has with her in-law daughter. A mother bonds with her child from the moment she is placed in her arms after the delivery, and has a long history of togetherness. It’s a longterm, powerful connection. Nevertheless, it sounds as though your mother-in-law treasures you for you and, through your marriage to her son, has grown to feel close to you, but maybe in a different way than she feels toward her daughter.

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insights on THE TORAH Vayishlach: Survival Skills BY RABBI YITZCHOK D. FRANKEL AGUDATH ISRAEL OF THE FIVE TOWNS

“And the remaining camp will survive.” — Bereishis 32:9 Yaakov Avinu prepared for battle and split his camp into two. If one of his camps would be severely attacked, at least the second camp would survive. The way Rashi explains the scenario, Eisav was already on the way, ready for battle, and the war was expected to take place right where they were. Yaakov foresaw a vicious war, and wanted to ensure that at least one group would be spared destruction.

“‘And the remaining camp will survive’—against his (Eisav’s) will, since I will battle with him.” (Rashi, Bereishis 32:9) If this really was Yaakov’s plan, the course of events is mystifying. Who was in this other camp—the one granted highest chances of survival? We might assume that Yaakov would have split his family and his property equally between the two camps. Yet we must admit that the most important thing to save was the family members themselves. The

common notion is that he had half of his family in one camp and the other half with him in the other camp. However, if this is true, how are we to explain the fact that everyone was together in one place? Yaakov lifted up his eyes and saw Eisav coming, and he bowed to Eisav, and Eisav saw the women and children, and they

his sheep and goats? In order to solve this enigma, we could say that a great change occurred after Yaakov had the nighttime battle with Eisav’s guardian angel and triumphed over him. Let us posit that right away in the morning, when he no longer feared a war with Eisav, he brought everyone back together and

If the entire family was continuously together, who did Yaakov place in the other camp? all bowed to Eisav (33:1–7). None of the family members was in another camp; all the wives and children were there, bowing down and graciously greeting their mortal enemy Eisav. If everyone was together with Yaakov, then what or whom was Yaakov hoping to save through the other camp—

that is why we find everyone in one place. However, this easy explanation cannot be reconciled with the verses: “And he arose that night and took his two wives and his two handmaidens and his eleven children and he passed over the Yabbok crossing.” (ibid., 32:23) Long before there was any inkling of a coming confrontation with an angel, we find Yaakov Avinu together with the entire family crossing the Yabbok stream. It is clear, then, that even before meeting the angel, the entire family had remained together. Then we find: “And the sun rose for him as he passed Penuel . . . and Yaakov raised his eyes and saw, and behold, Eisav is coming.” (ibid., 32:32, 31:1) Almost immediately after Yaakov parted with the angel, Eisav was upon him. So when did Yaakov Avinu split up everybody and then gather them back together? Except for when Yaakov was alone with the angel, they were together at all times. So if the entire family was continuously together, who did Yaakov place in the other camp? Simply speaking we could answer as follows: Yaakov had originally planned to have two camps. One camp was to consist of the whole family with the sole exception of himself. Of course he would have wanted to save the entire family. Yaakov was going to fight Eisav alone and allow them to escape and be saved. That is what Rashi meant when he said: “‘And the remaining camp will survive’ against his (Eisav’s) will, since I will battle with him.” At that point, Eisav was looking to kill just Yaakov. He came looking for him alone, not for anyone else. Eisav probably did not even know about Yaakov’s family, as we find later that he asks who all of these people are: “Who are these to you?” (ibid., 33:4). It is clear that it would have been in everyone’s best interest to keep the family away from Yaakov in another camp. Yaakov would be alone, perhaps with servants, to face Eisav. However, once he emerged victorious over Eisav’s guardian angel, he then went back without fear and rejoined his family to greet Eisav.  Rabbi Frankel can be reached at rav@agudah5t.org. At local stores: Machat shel Yad Bereishis, Sh’mos, and Vayikra.

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MINDBIZ Continued from Page 53 Firstly, I would like to validate your feelings. It has to hurt to watch your in-laws spend money without giving it a second thought on luxury items for their daughter, while you and your husband are scratching to make ends meet. Which brings me to the part of your letter that puzzles me most. Where is your husband in all of this?

think your husband earns more than he actually does, or maybe they just have never taken the time to think about how you two are managing ﬁnancially. It’s so obvious to you, but maybe not to them. Perhaps if they are made to understand how truly strapped you two are, it’s likely that your in-laws would be anxious to help you out. But since they can’t read your minds, they possibly do not know the facts of your ﬁnancial life. And

It makes me think I’ll never come close to being as important to my mother-inlaw as her own ﬂesh and blood is. He is their ﬂesh and blood as well. What is he feeling about this sense of inequality that you are justly reacting to? Does he also feel like a second-class citizen, particularly because they are his actual parents? Why hasn’t he spoken to his parents and asked for the help that the two of you seem to need, particularly at this time? Until I understand this missing link, it’s hard for me to give you any worthwhile advice about whether it’s your place to approach your in-laws for money. Under normal circumstances, I would say it’s your husband’s duty to talk to them and explain your needs. It’s possible that they don’t know how tight money is for you most of the time and particularly right now. Maybe they

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these facts should come from your husband—not from you, unless there are some circumstances regarding his relationship with them that I’m not privy to. So, assuming your husband has a good relationship with his parents, and assuming he’s not too embarrassed or uncomfortable being honest with them, I hope that you’re able to discuss with him how important it is for him to succeed in getting the help you need. Sometimes it’s as easy as just asking for what we need. Not always, but hopefully in this case it will be. Esther Esther Mann, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Lawrence. Esther works with individuals and couples. She can be reached at mindbiz44@aol.com or 516-314-2295.

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Family First BY FIVE TOWNS MARRIAGE INITIATIVE This week’s parashah is Vayishlach. The pasuk says that Yaakov arrived in the city of Shechem, and, upon pitching his tent, he set up an altar for Hashem (Bereshis 33:18-20). The Meshech Chochmah compares this pasuk to what we

was deﬁled by Shechem. From this Meshech Chochmah we can learn about prioritizing. In this situation, Yaakov’s priorities were skewed. While Avraham went and took care to make sure his wife was settled and

Neglecting to notice our spouse and his/her needs does not have to be part of the equation when it comes to serving G-d. learned in Lech Lecha, when Avraham built a tent for his wife, then he built one for himself, and then he went and made an altar for Hashem. On the other hand, when Yaakov went and made an altar for Hashem, it was before pitching a tent for his wives. The Meshech Chochmah says that for this reason Yaakov was punished that his daughter Dina

comfortable before pitching his own tent, and certainly before building an altar for Hashem, Yaakov did not do so. As soon as he pitched his tent he went ahead and built an altar, neglecting to prioritize properly. While serving Hashem is of the utmost importance, a husband has an obligation to his wife, and he must be mindful of it.

There was a man who was on his way to shul when he saw a woman struggling to carry a handful of shopping bags to her car. He pulled over and jumped out to help her. As he got closer, he saw it was his wife. She looked all excited to see him, but with a wave of his hand he said, “Bye, I am on my way to Shacharis” and he hopped back into the car and drove off. There is a balance of priorities that is important to get right. A husband has obligations as a husband and also as a servant of G-d. Finding the proper medium between the two is where Yaakov erred, and it is up to us to get it right. Yes, we must go to shul, and that’s usually not optional. Nor should we skip lighting Chanukah candles in the proper manner. At the same time, we can take out the garbage for our spouses even while running to shul, or stop for a second to say hello before making a beeline for the menorah. Neglecting to notice our spouses and their needs does not have to be part of the equation when it comes to serving G-d. There is a way to do both, and do both well. We should merit to succeed in making our spouses feel noticed and cared for, while simultaneously serving G-d in a total and complete manner.  Five Towns Marriage Initiative provides educational programs, workshops, and referrals to top marriage therapists. FTMI will help offset counseling costs when necessary and also runs an anonymous shalom bayis hotline for the entire community Sunday, Tuesday, and Thursday evenings, 10:00–11:00 p.m. For the hotline or for more information, call 516-4305280 or e-mail dsgarry@msn.com.

real estate & mortgage financing By Anessa V. Cohen

Sometimes We Just Have To Laugh • My buyer told me that he has lived in the same house for 10 years. When I checked, I found out he’d still be there today if the governor hadn’t pardoned him. • OMG! The co-op board just notiﬁed me that the nail polish I am wearing is not an approved color and if I want to continue living here, I will have to change it. • When I asked my seller why they set up the dining room at the entrance by the front door, they replied, “So my relatives won’t have to waste any time.” • To the question “Where does my property line end?” the answer is, “Just watch where your neighbor cuts the grass.” • The broker said to the house hunter, “Yes, the kitchen is a bit small, but with working to pay off a mortgage like this, you won’t have time for much cooking anyway.” • Realtor sign: We have “lots” to be thankful for. • I recently listed a maintenance-free house—in the last 25 years, there hadn’t been any maintenance. • This country is great. It’s the only place where you can borrow money

for a down payment, get a ﬁrst and second mortgage, and call yourself a homeowner. • They have an all-electric home. Everything in it has been charged. • “I found happiness in my own backyard, but my neighbor claims it is on his side of the property line.”

“But” says the meshulach, “It says here that you’re Jewish, and my records are never wrong.” “For the last time, sir, I am not Jewish, my father is not Jewish, and my grandfather, alav ha’shalom, wasn’t Jewish either!” • A woman walks into the post office looking to buy some pretty stamps for Chanukah. After showing the desk clerk which stamps she wants to purchase, the desk clerk asks her, “In what denominations do you want them?” The woman looks at him in shock and answers, “Wow, has it come to this? Okay, whatever. Give me 50 Orthodox, 30 Conservative, and 3 Reform!”

Realtor sign: We have “lots” to be thankful for. • A meshulach comes knocking on a door and, when the owner of the house answers, the meshulach greets him, “Shalom Aleichem, Mr. Goldstein. I’m collecting for the Lotsa Gelt Yeshivah, and I’m wondering, as a nice Jewish person, wouldn’t you want to make a little donation?” The homeowner replies, “The name is Gold, not Goldstein, and I am not Jewish.” “Are you sure?” asks the meshulach. “Sir, I’m positive,” replies the homeowner.

As you all can see, today, with the ﬁrst snow of the year, was “Be a little corny day,” so all of you can share and be a little corny together with me!  Anessa Cohen lives in Cedarhurst and is a licensed real-estate broker (Anessa V. Cohen Realty) and a licensed N.Y.S. mortgage originator (First Meridian Mortgage) with over 20 years of experience, offering residential, commercial, and management real-estate services as well as mortgage services. You are invited to visit her website, www.avcrealty.com. She can be reached at 516-569-5007 or readers are encouraged to send questions or comments to anessa.cohen@AVCrealty.com.

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BY RON JAGER “We’re eyeball to eyeball, and I think the other fellow just blinked,” Secretary of State Dean Rusk famously said about the Cuban missile crisis. In global strategic diplomacy, rule number one has always been Don’t blink. In recent months, President Obama has been doing a lot of blinking, forfeiting hardwon leverage and losing out on America’s interests in the Middle East. In global hardball, blinking is perceived as weakness and will always provoke a wider diplomatic conﬂict. Obama’s inclination seems to be to support Muslim terror organizations—and not simply terrorists, but the descendants of the same Wahhabi organization that was trained and employed by the Third Reich in World War II, like the Muslim Brotherhood, al-Qaeda, Hamas, and others. The pro-Western coalition that has been the backbone of American inﬂuence in the Middle East based on Saudi Arabia, Egypt, Turkey, and Israel is slowly but surely crumbling, with Russia ready in the wings to take center stage and become the dominant superpower in the Middle East. Due to Obama’s bumbling and zigzagging, America has lost the Middle East. America is no longer perceived as a reliable and credible ally, forcing pro-Western allies to fall in line with Russia. In recent years, Russia has dealt

with the Muslim terror organizations based in Chechnya, implementing a brutal and uncompromising military response to the terrorists themselves and the communities that supported and harbored terrorists in their midst. Ground forces, airships, and special-operations forces unleashed their military might against Chechen terrorists and civilians alike. Yet despite this uncompromising policy against Muslims, Islamic nations are welcoming President Putin with open arms. Egypt, a nation that threw the Russians out over 40 years ago, is welcoming it back, sending military and diplomatic missions to Russia and turning its back on Obama. The only nation that is sticking by America, the only nation that has not given up on America’s status as the world’s leading superpower, the only nation that represents American interests in the Middle East without question, is Israel. Despite the shockwaves of Obama leaving behind destroyed relationships and empowering enemies, Israel, being a true ally of America, has not encouraged Russia’s role in the Middle East. Rather, Israel has taken steps that have fueled renewed speculation of behindthe-scenes links between Israel and the Gulf monarchies. Netanyahu, speaking at the UN, said that “the dangers of a nuclear-armed Iran and the emergence of other threats in our region have led many of our Arab neighbors to recog-

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Tidbits From Israel Continued from Page 58 nize, finally recognize, that Israel is not their enemy.” He added: “This affords us the opportunity to overcome the historic animosities and build new relationships, new friendships, and new hopes.” Israel, Egypt, Jordan, and the key states of the Gulf Cooperation Council (most importantly, Saudi Arabia) have discovered that they share the same core views on the nature of the regional threats to their own national interests. The prospect of a nuclear Iran has forced the emergence of this quiet alliance between Arab nations and the State of Israel. Not the Palestinian Arabs, not the two-state solution, not even the imaginary “occupation,” has prevented this new alliance from taking root to fill in the strategic gap created by President Obama. Most likely, the nine-month negotiation period with the Palestinian Authority is about the time needed to conclude and put in place this new alliance. While the Palestinian Arabs are preoccupied with celebrating the release of murderers, they will soon find themselves out in the cold, with only the Iranians willing to support their deceitful political demands. Just recently, Vladimir Putin knocked Barack Obama off the top spot on Forbes’ 2013 World’s Most Powerful People list. The magazine explained that Putin earned the number-one ranking “because he so frequently shows his strength at home and on the global

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stage,” citing his involvement in negotiations with Syria over chemical weapons and NSA leaker Edward Snowden’s asylum in Russia. This is the first time Putin has been at the top of the list. Obama fell to the number-two spot out of 72 “heads of state, financiers, philanthropists, and entrepreneurs who truly run the world.” This is one of Obama’s few accomplishments, so to speak. Obama has been described by Charles Krauthammer as a thoughtful and engaging man, being able to come across as charming in private as he can be on the big screen before large audiences. But let’s not ignore the recent phenomenon of labeling Obama as the first “bystander president,” a title that encapsulates much of what’s wrong with his presidency. He has caused a major strategic realignment in the Middle East, and America is out. He has more or less brought American influence to a dead end in the Middle East. Evidently, Obama’s lame-duck period has set in earlier than usual. Israel and probably Egypt and Saudi Arabia have no choice but to simply wait Obama out till he leaves office.  Ron Jager is a 25-year veteran of the Israel Defense Forces, where he served as a field mental-health officer and as commander of the central psychiatric military clinic for reserve soldiers at Tel-Hashomer. Since retiring from active duty in 2005, he has been providing consultancy services to NGOs, implementing psychological trauma treatment programs in Israel. Ron is a strategic advisor to the Office of the Chief Foreign Envoy of Judea and Samaria. To contact him, e-mail medconf@netvision.net. il or e-mail www.ronjager.com.

Going High-Tech For Maximum Weight-Loss Results BY DR. BO ROSENBLAT CHIEF PHYSICIAN, DR. BO’S DIET

For many of us, using our smartphone, iPad, Xbox, and computer has become second nature. We rely heavily on our electronics to carry us through the workweek, entertain our children, and help us relax. However, technology has an emerging new benefit: weight loss. Many new apps, devices, and games are being specifically designed to make eating healthy and working out easy, fun, and effective. There are many options available to help you kick-start a healthier lifestyle. From free to frivolous, here are my top technology picks: MyFitnessPal. This free and userfriendly website allows subscribers to easily track their caloric intake. A growing food database of almost three million items allows you to easily calculate the calories in almost any food and store them in your personalized profile. In addition, you can even enter and store your own recipes and diet staples for easy future access. There are also apps for your mobile devices and smartphones that make it as simple as possible to journal your consumption in real time, which many of us fail to do. Food journaling can be one of the most successful tools to aid in weight loss or weight management, but only when done in real time. Trying to recall every nibble after a long exhausting day is generally a difficult feat. Seeing and storing

your daily nutrition choices will help to give you a better handle on what, when, why, and how much you eat. Fitbit One. This multitasking gadget, about the size of a beeper (remember those?), not only counts steps taken, distance traveled, stairs climbed, and calories burned, but it also tracks your sleep patterns to aid in better rest for increased beneﬁts and results. As a small bonus, it has a built in alarm clock that will gently and silently wake you with a gentle vibration. What I like most about the Fitbit One is that it not only tracks the duration of your sleep, but the quality as well. Each night’s rest is given a sleep score based on the length of time, as well as the number of times you wake during that period. Sleep is the most commonly discounted contributor to weight loss, and this device helps users remember that it’s not only the activity

you expend daily that is important, but also the rest you redeem nightly. The information tracked by this tiny device is wirelessly synced to your computer in real time, appearing in clear graphs and charts to help you stay educated and motivated. HAPIfork. The market has more than its fair share of gizmos and apps to help you track calories burned, and even log those consumed. But what about tracking the way you consume those calories? Enter the HAPIfork. Introduced in January 2013, this eating utensil is poised to be the next big thing in weight management. With built in sensors to track the pace of your bites, this electronic fork sends you a gentle vibration to let you know when you are eating too fast. The fork’s designers built it based on the proven science that shoveling your food too quickly results in higher caloric intake. The fork is designed to train you to take smaller bites and slow down in order to trim down. Since the fork isn’t available just yet, another piece of advice I give patients is to eat with an appetizer fork, not an entrée fork. This small trick will help eat less food per bite and ultimately slow your meal down. Xbox + Kinect. With its emphasis on fun and ﬁtness, this pricey console may be just the thing to get you and your family moving. The Kinect system uses your body as the controller, making you an active participant in the games you’re playing. Once you see the workout you get, you may actually ﬁnd yourself encouraging your kids to play videogames. With games including sports like football and skiing to Zumba and

dance classes, you will be able to work up a sweat in your own home and have fun in the process. More recently, Kinect partnered with Nike for an interactive personal training program. The results are an effective program that tracks your progress, including strength and endurance, from day one. Trainers provide you with motivation and direct feedback regarding your movements and form, giving you tips for improvement. While the device and games are definitely on the expensive side, if used regularly, they can substitute the need for a personal trainer or a trip to the gym . . . but that’s a big if. Just like you get too busy to go to the gym, you will let this item collect dust in your living room unless you schedule time to exercise. Put your workouts into your calendar and treat them as if you are paying for them each time. You wouldn’t likely ditch your trainer if you had to shell out cash each time you did, so remember that when you work out at home. While new advances in technology make weight-loss tracking devices more accessible and easier to use, the one thing they can’t do is make you use them. With everything in the marketplace, there are still no tools to do the work for you. The same archaic need for human intervention exists, so even if you buy the products or sign up for the programs, the key is still using them.  Dr. Bo Rosenblat is a board-certified medical doctor and Chief Physician of Dr. Bo’s Diet Center with office locations in Hewlett and Manhasset. For more information about Dr. Bo’s Diet program, please call 516-284-8248 or visit www.DrBosDiet.com.

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5TJT Puzzle: Kosher Kuisine

BY YONI GLATT Across 1. Seed cover 5. Wedding part 9. (Un)kind of lawyer? 14. Wayne portrayer 15. Nobel Peace Prize city 16. Two Women Oscar winner 17. ___ Minor 18. Part of a holy duo 19. Gastroenteritis cause 20. Gorges 22. Yield 24. Fire starter? 25. Kosher cuisine 26. Kosher cuisine 28. MFA, e.g. 30. Caustic chemical 31. Dennis the Menace’s mother 35. Holy Land head? 38. Camera setting 42. Kosher cuisine 45. Great Talmud Rav 46. Great Talmud Rav 47. Consumers 48. Young ’un 50. Neon, e.g. 52. Kosher cuisine 57. Pan chases it 62. Nasser’s org. 63. Go down 64. Kosher cuisine

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that she is OK with her 19-year-old sister dating, that is great as long as she has not given up on her own chance for happiness. The worst thing that any person in the shidduch parashah can do to themselves—regardless of their age—is to make peace with the idea that they will forever remain single. Even more detrimental is when

Question In looking for a shidduch for our oldest daughter, my husband and I tried very hard, but she is now 24 and still single. When she came home from seminary, we put together a résumé for her. But she rarely got any dates, and the dates she did get were not for her, because they didn’t match who she was at the time. We kept changing her résumé as her education and hashkafah naturally changed. But the shadchanim kept sending her original résumé to the guys they suggested. We now have a 19-year-old daughter who will be coming home in January after spending a year and a half in a seminary in Israel. Our older daughter told us that she is OK with her

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younger sister dating. So, we went ahead and put our 19-year-old “on the market.” We are now sending résumés and speaking to shadchanim on her behalf. What can we do so that our daughter who is now in the parashah ends up more successful in the shidduch system than her older sister?

I and many other shadchanim receive frantic calls from mothers every chol ha’moed Pesach requesting to meet their daughters who have come home for vacation. They do so because they expect shadchanim to line dates up for them, so that by June, when they are done with their year in Israel, they can immediately start dating.

You need to ﬁnd new shadchanim who have never met her before to help her ﬁnd her bashert.

Response By Baila Sebrow Although your letter makes it appear as though you might have written off your older daughter from the shidduch parashah, with due respect to her I will address her situation first. While it is chivalrous and selfless of your 24-year-old daughter to state

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parents communicate their sense of hopelessness to the single child. The shidduch crisis has placed an almost demonic fear into parents, to such an extent that they believe that potential dates need to be lined up for their daughters before the plane from their year in Israel has landed.

Some shadchanim go along with this absurdity—falsely believing that they are doing a wonderful thing in making sure that there will be fewer older single girls. This school of thought is harmful to the future of the dater. Back in the day when society did not mandate that every girl go to Israel after graduating from high school, some girls attended the local seminaries while working part-time, and others immediately attended college or vocational training. There were even those who went on to join the workforce as a secretary, receptionist, or assistant teacher. As a result, by the time these girls were 19 years old, their emotional level of maturity was usually developed as much as that of women in their twenties, or nearly so. When 19-yearold girls of that day dated, there was very little difference in their outlook from that of their 24-year-old unmarried counterparts. Times are different today. Despite their physical maturity and intellectual talk, the 19-year-old girl who returns from a year or a year-and-ahalf of study, like your daughter, is still a child. Furthermore, the spirituality that engulfs seminary girls from the holiness of their surroundings also generates within their personalities an aura of innocence and unquestioning trust. In addition, these girls are naturally inclined to be more idealistic and less materialistic when they first come home. That said, when the résumé of a 19-year-old girl is written, it describes a very specific type of girl. Within a year or two, if she is not married yet, this girl may be vastly different from who she was when she first stepped off the plane. Education, life, and dating will naturally contribute to her change in viewpoint and attitude. The type of guy suitable for the newly arrived seminary girl will be very different a few years later. I compliment your astuteness as parents in recognizing the character transformations in your daughter, and adjusting her résumé as needed. Unfortunately for her, the shadchanim you dealt with sent the original résumé that accurately described who she was at the time. Not surprisingly, this has kept your daughter single. What you need to do now is compose a new résumé on behalf of your eldest daughter, and find new shadchanim who have never met her

before to assist and hopefully help her find her bashert. To ensure that your younger daughter does not suffer the same experience in the shidduch system, my advice is that which I give to all mothers of 19-year-olds: Wait a few months. You read that correctly. Unless your daughter is dying to get married, give her the chance to emotionally unwind and find herself. There is nothing wrong with a girl starting to date when she is close to 20 years of age and above. There are many boys who refuse to even date a 19-year-old who has never previously dated. The advantage of waiting a little is twofold. Not only will you eliminate the need to continually fiddle with and update your younger daughter’s résumé, but you will also have fewer burnout issues to deal with. I meet countless girls who by age 20 are burnt out from a full year of their horror stories in dating. Dating burnout is dangerous, as the burnt-out person in all likelihood becomes jaded. Worse still, she oftentimes requires a long break from dating. Depending on the reason for the burnout, such as pain from recurrent rejection, the sufferer may need a longer period for the healing process. And because young daters today are prone to frequent changes in hashkafic outlook, they typically find that they cannot connect with those whom they date. Whether your daughter is planning to attend college or a seminary/college program, allow her to settle in emotionally before pushing her into the shidduch dating scene. Wait until she tells you that she is ready and wants to start dating. May her path to finding her bashert be smooth, uncomplicated, and trouble-free. Baila Sebrow is president of Neshoma Advocates, communications and recruitment liaison for Sovri-Beth Israel, executive director of Teach Our Children, and a shadchanis. She can be reached at Bsebrow@aol.com.  Questions and comments can be submitted to 5townsforum@gmail.com.

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Remembering Gio: HAFTR Honors Beloved Teammate An electrifying aura permeated the HAFTR Elementary School’s Hawks’ Nest Gym on Wednesday evening, November 6. With the crowd going wild on every shot, it was clear from the ﬁrst moment that this was no ordinary basketball game. At the end of a game that was intense, exciting, and actionpacked from start to ﬁnish, the crowd rose to its feet as the HAFTR Hawks came from behind to defeat the Inwood Buccaneers, 41–38. On that special night, our community came together to remember and celebrate the life of Giovanni Cipriano. Giovanni suffered a severe allergic reaction after eating a food containing peanuts. Despite efforts to save Gio, he passed away a few weeks later. He was just 14 years old. A treasured son, grandson, and brother who was beloved by his family

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and friends, Gio was a gift to his family—bright, personable, talented, great at sports, and just about the nicest kid you could have the pleasure of meeting. Blessed with a heart of gold, Gio Cipriano was devoid of pretense or attitude; although he excelled in a multitude of areas, he was a fun-loving, wholesome teenager and a loyal, sincere friend whose megawatt smile could brighten the most dismal day. Gio was a baseball player and an honor student— described as “a beautiful young man with a great sense of humor who made the world a better place, ﬁlling it with smiles and laughter.” In a heartfelt show of support for the Cipriano family, over 400 people attended the Tribute to Gio, a memorial basketball game organized by the Inwood Buccaneers and the HAFTR basketball team.

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BY ROCHELLE MARUCH MILLER

Working in tandem with a group of volunteers, Frank deCicco, president of the Inwood Buccaneers, organized the event with the hope of raising public awareness about food allergies. “An entire community was recently devastated by the loss of Gio,” said Frank

deCicco. “Not only was Gio taken from his family and friends at the young age of 14, but in a tragic way that affects so many of us today. Allergic reactions are something far too many parents deal with on a daily basis, but when one’s life ends so tragically, and in so devastating a manner as this, it is not just a wake-up call but frightening.” Jake Greenberg, an eighth-grader at HAFTR, remembers that every time he saw Gio coming into the gym for a basketball game, he had a big smile on his face and was excited to play. Shai Laniado, also a HAFTR eighthgrader, recalls the good advice Gio gave him while Shai was warming up to play. Shai and Jake were two of a group of HAFTR students who ﬁrst met Gio as opposing team players, then teammates, at the Inwood Buccaneers. Shai—whose father, Dave, orchestrated the event together with Frank De Cicco, as coach of HAFTR’s eighth-grade boys’ basketball team—is a sports enthusiast and member of HAFTR’s teams. Seeking additional opportunities to participate in challenging team sports that would be within the parameters of a Shomer Shabbos player, Shai—and several of his HAFTR teammates—were glad to discover the Inwood Buccaneers’ Sunday schedule. As the boys’ respective relationships with Gio evolved from acquaintance to friendship, a close bond developed between them. “When they heard what had happened to their friend Gio, the boys were heartbroken,” said Dave Laniado. “They immediately told me, ‘We have to do something; organize a fundraiser to help cover the tremendous expenses being incurred by Gio’s family.’ They brainstormed and came up with the idea of a basketball game in Gio’s honor” at HAFTR. “As a team, we were able to raise close to $6,000 for the Cipriano family to help cover the cost of medical bills and

other expenses, and educate over 400 people in food allergy awareness and EpiPen use. Dr. Alisa Hersh provided hands-on EpiPen training. Sami Groff coordinated the event between HAFTR and Buccaneer parents, and otherwise ran and emceed the event.” He adds, “This event brought the community together. It was a very special and meaningful night as well as an entertaining game.” For Gio’s family, this heartfelt endeavor has been a source of solace, succor, and support. “I want to express my deepest gratitude to all who have been with us to show their support, shared their love, prayers, and friendship,” said Gio’s mother, Georgina Cornago, a teacher’s aide specializing in special education, whose years of expe-

rience include working in Kulanu and HAFTR. “My family and I are so grateful to you for your kindness and generosity in celebrating Giovanni’s life in such a beautiful and meaningful way and for heightening public awareness about food allergies and the importance of EpiPens. To everyone who has helped me, for every act of kindness from my family, my friends, my peanut butter group, the Inwood Buccaneers and HAFTR, Lawrence Middle School, and Holy Trinity, you all help us get up in the morning. Thank you so much! “So many people have told me that they always remember seeing Giovanni with a smile on his face, what a good friend he was; how they valued his

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Remembering Gio Continued from Page 69 friendship,” Cornago added. “And he was so caring—even as a little boy. He would love to come to work with me and play with my students. Even then he had the ability to make others feel good. Giovanni was great with special students. He loved puppies and was so caring. He made friends easily and got along with everyone.”

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When Gio was in the fifth grade, he wrote a book called The Small Boy, about a boy who was great in all sports but just starting out in basketball. Although he was good at basketball, he wasn’t as confident, because he wasn’t as tall as the other players. He was, however, determined to make sure everyone realized that despite being short, he could be an excellent player. Two years later he wrote: “My name is Giovanni Cipriano and I am in the seventh grade in the Lawrence Middle School. I am currently five feet tall and I decided to write this book because of how it reflected on me when I was in fifth and sixth grade. I want every kid who is reading this to never let anyone get in your way. Try hard to achieve your goal!”

“When they heard what had happened to their friend Gio, the boys were heartbroken.” “HAFTR is grateful to be in a position to assist members of our community in a time of need,” said Joseph Hoenig, HAFTR athletic director. “Although Gio was not a HAFTR student, he was a teammate of many of our eighth-grade students in local baseball, basketball, and football teams. I am really proud of our boys for taking the initiative to help the family of a friend and teammate.” 

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A Five Towns Simcha PHOTO BY IRA THOMAS CREATIONS

AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS Rambam Mesivta Rallies Against Last Known Nazi In Area November 10, 2013 was the 75th anniversary of Kristallnacht, “The Night of Broken Glass.” On that infamous night in 1938, the Nazis vandalized thousands of Jewish owned stores . . . and the world was silent. They destroyed and set ﬁre to over 1,000 synagogues . . .

and the world was silent. They arrested 30,000 Jews and sent many of them to Dachau . . . and the world was silent. They murdered over 2,000 Jews, shooting many of them in public . . . and the world was silent. This year, students from Rambam Mesivta rallied outside the home of Nazi war criminal Jakiw Palij and chanted in unison . . . “We will not be silent!”

Amichai Portnoy, son of Sarah and Tanchum Portnoy of Lawrence, and Tamar Grunhaus, daughter of Miriam and Levy Grunhaus of Boca Raton, celebrated their engagement with a l’chayim at the Essex House on October 30. Holocaust survivors being interviewed at the rally

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Rabbi Zev Meir Friedman, rosh mesivta of Rambam Mesivta, explained to all assembled why Rambam Mesivta organized the rally. “It is outrageous that the killers of our people are able to live freely within a 30-minute drive or less of the Jewish community. Furthermore, tomorrow is Veterans Day; hundreds of thousands of veterans gave their lives ﬁghting Nazis and were unable to come back to the shores to build homes and families, and yet Nazis like Palij came to this country, collect Social Security, enjoy mail delivery and police protection, and walk the same streets that we do. Palij has no right to be here!” declared Rabbi Friedman. His words were punctuated with chants such as “No SS in the US!”; “Kick him out!”; “Your neighbor is a Nazi!”; and “His hands are drenched in blood!”

Palij served as a Nazi camp guard and was involved in the murder of men, women, and children in a 24-hour period on November 3, 1943. According to the Justice Department, “During a single nightmarish day in November 1943, all of the more than 6,000 prisoners of the Nazi camp that Jakiw Palij had guarded were systematically butchered; by helping to prevent the escape of these prisoners, Palij played an indispensable role in ensuring that they met their tragic fate at the hands of the Nazis.” Letters of support by members of Congress were read at the rally. Sophomore Ellie Marcus read a letter from Congressman Joseph Crowley, who wrote, “As the member of Congress representing Jackson Heights, I will continue to work for justice for Holocaust

victims. We must never forget the horrors of the Nazis nor turn our backs on those seeking accountability. Please share my thanks for your efforts with the students at Rambam Mesivta.” Shai Yastrab, a senior at Rambam, read a letter from Congresswoman Carolyn McCarthy, who wrote, “On the 75th commemoration of Kristallnacht, the day the Holocaust began, the world is still feeling the Holocaust’s effects. We must remember these painful events in order to prevent another Holocaust ever occurring again. Thank you for the work that you and your students are doing.” Evan Edelstein, a sophomore at Rambam, read a letter from Congressman Gregory Meeks, who wrote about Palij, “He has been stripped of his US citizenship and ordered deported. If legal technicality prevents war criminals from being tried in the United States for crimes perpetrated in Europe, this is no reason why he should be allowed to act as if he is a citizen with all the beneﬁts of citizenship—including the liberty to walk our streets or travel on highways and byways, perhaps even crossing the path of World War II veteran or a Holocaust survivor or descendent. I commend those who continue to shine the light of public awareness on Kristallnacht, on how the Holocaust is set in motion, and for their continuing commitment to never forget.” Assemblyman Dov Hikind joined the rally and spoke out forcefully against Palij and other Nazi war criminals living freely in the United States. Palij, who happened to open the door just

as the buses arrived, refused to answer the door when Rabbi Friedman and the Assemblyman began to knock on his door. Students from Rambam began to chant “Show your face!” and “What a coward!” when Palij refused to open the door and acknowledge his heinous past. Students were involved in planning and coordinating every aspect of the rally. They contacted Congress for letters of support, were involved in writing the press release, and contacted members of the media. According to Assistant Principal Hillel Goldman, “Their involvement speaks volumes about their character and their commitment for Klal Yisrael. They understand that the message of ‘Zachor,’ to remember and never forget, is more than just a theoretical one—it propels them to act in concrete ways.” Active involvement on behalf of the community has been a core educational value of Rambam Mesivta since its inception 22 years ago. The students once again demonstrated that they have learned that lesson well. Members of the media were out in force with print, web, radio, and TV stations reporting on the only protest in the United States to take place on Kristallnacht outside the home of a Nazi war criminal. 

Pittsburgher Rebbe Visits Long Beach The entire Long Beach community was spiritually uplifted by the visit of Rabbi Mordechai Leifer, the Pittsburgher Rebbe, on Shabbos Parashas

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lished a magniﬁcent Torah center consisting of several mosdos in Kiryat Pittsburgh in Israel. The Rebbe and his entire entourage, consisting of over 100 chassidim and friends of Mosdos Pittsburgh spent November 8th and 9th in the community. The Rebbe davened and conducted his tischen both Friday night and Shabbos afternoon at the Young Israel of Long Beach. This visit, which has become a biannual tradition, is especially signiﬁcant to the mara d’asra of the community, Rabbi Chaim Wakslak, Rav of the

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Young Israel. Rabbi Wakslak grew up in Newark, New Jersey, where the Rebbe’s father established a beis midrash in 1950, prior to his move to Pittsburgh. Rabbi Wakslak was extremely close to the previous Rebbe and attributes much of his rabbinic vision and outlook to that very strong source of inﬂuence.

A reception and opportunity for private consultation took place on Motzaei Shabbos at the home of Rabbi and Rebbetzin Wakslak. 

Shulamith Girls Enjoy Fun Day At Aviator On Tuesday, October 29, the students of Shulamith Middle Division embarked on a thrilling team-building trip to the Aviator. The trip was originally scheduled for early October, but due to the government shutdown, had been indefinitely postponed. After three weeks of being reassured that the trip would

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indeed be rescheduled just as soon as the government reopened, students arrived on Tuesday morning, brimming with excitement to join their friends and teachers for their long-awaited day of fun. After morning teﬁllah and their regular ﬁrst-period lessons, the girls hurried outside to the waiting buses. Accompanied by a full contingent of faculty members, everyone quickly boarded, and they were on their way. As the buses wended their way through the Rockaways and over the Marine Parkway bridge, the eager girls repeatedly asked, “When will we be there?!” They soon found out that the Aviator is just a half-hour ride away, and when they arrived, they split up into two

groups. The fifth- and sixth-graders had the opportunity to engage in all sorts of gymnastics. They began with warm-up exercises, and proceeded to swing off the high bars into a sea of foam squares, swim through them, run and jump across a bouncing floor, and then launch themselves off of a pommel horse back into the foamy sea. The girls also had the opportunity to run and tumble on the floor mats, and try their hands (and feet!) at the balance beam. Meanwhile, the seventhand eighth-graders went to a different area, where they had an exhilarating game of tug-a-war, played dodge ball, and participated in a zany game of “Steal the

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YCT CONCERNS Continued from Page 32 ion leaders have for either submitting their ideas for peer review across the Orthodox spectrum, or for any reverence toward centuries of rabbinic legislation. The upshot of all the above is that a schism is developing within the Modern Orthodox community. Lopatin and his mentor Rabbi Avi Weiss are quick to try to manipulate the facts and arrogate Modern Orthodox support for themselves, claiming that the opponents are just antediluvian Haredim. Weiss already employed that technique in his seminal 1997 article, labeling all those who disagree with him “the Orthodox Right,” as if no normal Modern Orthodox rabbi could ever disagree, unless he were to forfeit his modern credentials—a circular argument. However, in reality, it is precisely in the Modern Orthodox community where many people are very concerned. At the core of the matter is the definition of Orthodoxy and how to keep it vibrant. Open Orthodoxy doesn’t seem to appreciate that Orthodox practice is not just a set of dry legal expectations, but rests upon a construct that gives meaning to its legal system. If halakha is there to be circumvented, then halakha is not seen as either normative or desirable, and over time, perforce, interest in halakha will wane. Likewise, to put it crudely, if we accept higher Biblical criticism and claim that we do not descend from Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, that Moses did not ascend Mount Sinai, and that G-d did not reveal Himself to all of Israel then and to successive prophets during the centuries that followed— as Farber indeed concludes—then why feel bound by a human Torah that is at most vaguely inspired by some people who felt a sense of divinity well up in them? How could we demand that people sacrifice the fulfillment of some of their desires for the sake of ideals that are no more imbued with sanctity than Harry Potter, Shakespeare, or, if you prefer older texts, Homer and Gilgamesh? Of course, Farber’s is an extreme case, and surely most Open Orthodox leaders are not all that extreme in their beliefs. People do occasionally doubt and grapple with certain issues. However, those doubts should not be seen as legitimate expression of a healthy Orthodoxy. The future of Orthodoxy is not in accepting Bible criticism. Yet for Tablet Magazine, Farber’s musings are the sign that we have finally arrived, finally recognized the Big Truth. And Open Orthodox leaders legitimize this, while Farber takes not the briefest leave of absence. This is why many people are concerned about where YCT and Open Orthodoxy are going. Rabbi J.B. Soloveitchik emphasized that religion, the service of G-d, involves a measure of submission or surrender. His example was what to do when a sincere couple comes for advice and it turns out he is a kohen and she is one who may not marry a kohen (a convert, a divorcee, someone who has been in an intermarriage, etc.). In such

cases, one lifts hands up to Heaven and submits. That submission is not apparent in the statements and writings coming out of Open Orthodoxy. In fact, recent rumor has it that some Open Orthodox rabbis are doing the exact opposite in the precise case through which Rabbi

to remain loyal to G-d’s Torah and mitzvot even in our turbulent, demanding times. This is about how to inspire the next generation to remain within or return to Orthodoxy in deed and spirit, in heart and soul, to study Torah and live according to her everlasting values. Can something be done? When

They do not see themselves as Sarah Schenirers, but rather as Rosa Parkses and Gloria Steinems. Soloveitchik had illustrated the needed submission, and arrange the wedding of a kohen to a convert anyway. Nobody cares to read Rabbi Lopatin, Rabbi Weiss, or even Rabbi Farber out of Orthodoxy, but this isn’t about their souls (though friends do care about that, too). It is about how to educate tomorrow’s leaders and laity, and how

it was announced that Rabbi Lopatin, a gentle, very knowledgeable person, would become the new YCT president, opinions were divided. On the one hand were those who saw it as a ﬁg leaf, and that with his charm, Rabbi Lopatin would call for friendly contacts while continuing business as usual. Others, me included, were hope-

ful that he could and would have the courage to take a few steps back and turn back toward tradition, towards Sinai. Sadly, recent years have seen an upsurge of controversies emanating from YCT and Open Orthodoxy. So far, it looks like the naysayers were right. But it is not too late to prove them wrong. YCT and Open Orthodoxy can still turn back, and Rabbi Asher Lopatin can make this happen. But for that, words do not sufﬁce; actions are needed. Open Orthodoxy must recognize the boundaries of Orthodoxy and become more passionate about observance and tradition than about change. And they should hold back from instituting or continuing de facto innovations until the mainstream of Orthodoxy approves, at least begrudgingly, those changes.  Rabbi Arie Folger is a member of the RCA’s Executive Committee, of the Standing Committee of the Conference of European Rabbis, and of the advisory board of the Conference of Orthodox Rabbis of Germany. For more, see ariefolger.wordpress.com.

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HALACHIC MUSINGS Continued from Front Cover to a major posek: “Is it ever permitted to withhold the giving of a get?” The posek responded that it was never permitted to withhold a get in order to try to negotiate better divorce terms, but it is permitted to do so in response to false legal accusations that are causing a continuing negation of the father’s rights to see his children. The posek claimed that when a false report has been filed against a husband and the husband is not allowed to see his children as a direct result of the false report, he may, with the permission of a reliable posek, withhold the get as leverage to ensure that the situation is rectified. The reason behind the ruling is not, heaven forbid, to punish the woman, but rather to effectuate the relief of an untenable ongoing situation. Halachically, this dispensation is a form of the Talmudic concept of Rav Nachman in Bava Kamma (27b), cited by the Beis Yoseph (Choshen Mishpat 4), Avid inesh dina lenafshay, a person may under certain circumstances effectuate unilateral action. When asked who should be the arbiter as to whether accusations are false, the posek responded that it definitely cannot and should not be the husband. It must rather come from the ruling of a competent rav or beis din, and only after a forensic evaluation has been conducted, where both parties have been spoken to, and after the determination that there doesn’t exist any other evidence that corroborates the accusations.

But who is to choose the rav or beis din to rule on the case? It should not be the wife, because she may choose rabbis or dayanim who are biased and on her side. It cannot be the husband, because he will choose people who are biased toward him. And, in a society where there are no longer any kehilos to speak of, it is very difﬁcult to come up with a nationwide A-list of competent and reliable rabbanim and batei dinim. As a society, we have become more tolerant and accepting of repulsive behavior. This is a most unfortunate state of affairs that must be changed. A person who pursues false criminal allegations against a spouse, resulting in arrest and legal consequences where the other parent cannot see the children, has crossed a horrifying and abominable line in conduct, and has placed his or her very own Olam Ha’ba in jeopardy (see Rambam Hilchos Chovel UMazik 8:9 regarding the repercussions of mesirah where there is no pikuach nefesh involved). The further prohibitions of motzi sheim ra and lying are also not inconsequential. Several lawyers have informed this author of the unfortunate reality that false accusations abound in contemporary divorces. The need for resolving this quandary of making sure that we do not create agunos and at the same time ensuring that false accusations are not made against a spouse is most acute. Both scenarios are very serious, for just as causing an arrest on false abuse charges jeopardizes Olam Ha’ba, so too does the notion of making agunos.

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HALACHIC MUSINGS Continued from Page 77 The Chezkuni (Bereishis 3:16) cites a Midrash and writes that if someone is betrothed to a woman and leaves her stuck as an agunah, then he is a denier of the World to Come. Consequently, he loses his share in it. The Baalei HaTosfos cite the same exposition and come to the very same conclusion. Making an agunah causes one to lose Olam Ha’ba. In the case they discuss, the status of the agunah began at the very beginning of a marriage—upon halachic betrothal. Nevertheless, the idea is the same—these Rishonim hold that the husbands have lost their share in Olam Ha’ba. Their fate and future no longer lie with Avraham, Yitzchak, and Yaakov and their grandparents and great-grandparents for generations. Rather, the fate of these husbands is with the likes of the evil Bilam and Gechazi. But what if it was the woman who caused the marriage to fall apart? Is there then a rationale for holding back the get? There is a fascinating Chasam Sofer (Nedarim 29) that even in an extreme case where a wife sinned with an extramarital relationship, “Ein lanu l’agein osa—we are not to make her into an agunah.” The Chasam Sofer continues that this is both obvious and clear. What should our reaction be when we see an agunah? In the Responsa Yeshuas Malko (EH #54), Rabbi Yisroel Yehoshua Trunk of Poland (1820–1893) writes, “All of Israel is obligated in trying to help such a woman.”

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Rav Moshe Shternbuch of the Eida HaChareidis in Jerusalem (Teshuvos v’Hanhagos Vol. V #44) writes regarding someone who is refusing to give a get to his wife that it is “permitted and proper to publicize” that no one should have anything to do with him. The posek mentioned at the very beginning of this article would qualify this ruling of Rav Shternbuch as applicable only when the husband is not trying to have the spouse remove false charges, and only when the charges have not been accompanied with corroborating evidence.

steps should be taken to avoid this tragic reality of agunos from coming about. It is our communal responsibility. Rav Moshe Feinstein, zt’l, in a letter to Rabbi Chanina Simcha Posner written in the summer of 1976 (Igros Moshe YD Vol. IV #15), writes categorically that no one party has the right to be me’agein the other party for ﬁnancial purposes. (Me’agein is the verb form of making someone into an agunah.) Elsewhere, the Shulchan Aruch rules that it is generally forbidden to judge on Shabbos (Orech Chaim 339:1). The Rema

The notion of husbands making their wives into agunos as a means of retaliation is not new. The Shulchan Aruch (Even HaEzer 1:11) rules that it is proper to enact laws and stipulations regarding marrying an additional wife (this was according to those who had not adopted the ban of Rabbeinu Gershom on polygamy). The Vilna Gaon explains that the Shulchan Aruch writes this in order to avoid situations which may cause or tempt the husband to make his ﬁrst wife an agunah. We can make two observations regarding this explanation of the Vilna Gaon. The ﬁrst is that the notion of husbands making their wives into agunos as a means of retaliation is certainly not new. The second is that we see clearly that

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adds that even if someone needs to be punished it is forbidden to place him in jail so that he not run away. The Mishnah Berurah (329:14) rules that this ruling of the Rema does not apply to husbands who are refusing to give their wife a get. He writes that one is allowed to put such a husband in jail over Shabbos so that he will not run away and will thus be present on Motzaei Shabbos to give a get to his wife. Not one of these sources is denying the right of a husband to present his side of the story to a beis din. What these sources all do, however, is demonstrate that the refusal to come to the table—and the

withholding of a get to inflict psychological harm or pressure to capitulate in other matters—is an abominable form of behavior that causes people to lose their share in the World to Come and justifies jailing them on the Sabbath itself. There are only two justifications for withholding a get, according to the posek. First is if the wife has falsely accused and filed charges against the husband and the husband is therefore suffering legal repercussions. And even then, it is only if there is a rabbinic finding that the charges are false. In a further discussion, the posek delineated one other situation wherein the husband would be justified in withholding the get, and that was when the wife had vindictively taken the children without his assent and began living far away from the husband. This too, however, may only be done under the advisement of a posek or beis din, and only after rigorous investigation that the facts are correct. What we need to do is create a protocol where neither party is in charge of figuring out which rabbis or which beis din will determine whether the charges are true or false, or whether the facts of the vindictive relocation are true. Until then, we should carefully warn both parties that filing false accusations and causing a wife to be an agunah are actions that cause the violator to lose his or her share in the World to Come. May Hashem relieve the suffering of all parties involved—especially children caught in the middle.  The author can be reached at Yairhoffman2@gmail.com.

News From The Hills BY CHANITA TEITZ Wow! What amazingly talented women we have right here in our community. The annual Erna Lindenfeld Hachnosas Kallah Tea took place last Tuesday night at the Electric Industry Building and was packed to capacity. Everyone always looks forward to this yearly event to help needy kallahs, in memory of Mrs. Erna Lindenfeld, and to enjoy the delicious food and the original skit. The evening began with greetings by Mrs. Tova Well and Mrs. Shifra Witty, president. Rebbetzin Ruth Schonfeld spoke about Erna Lindenfeld, and then Mrs. Lindenfeld’s son, Shelly, spoke about his mother on behalf of the family. This year’s tea was sponsored by the Korn family in memory of Ethel Korn. Her daughter, Karen Zimilover, spoke movingly about her dear mother. And then, on with the show! This year’s skit was funny as always; the actresses’ portrayals of their characters and their magniﬁcent singing captivated the audience. We were laughing at the characters and laughing at ourselves, too. “HaKol B’Seder” was a spoof about a rich family going to a 5-star hotel for Pesach and, in contrast, a simpler family making Pesach at home. The “hoity-toities” got lost and realized that they wouldn’t get to the hotel in time for yom tov, so they called the rabbi of the nearest town

and were graciously hosted by the rabbi and his family. At first, the accommodations didn’t quite measure up to what they were expecting, and they made a rude and poor impression on their hosts, even sending their hostess crying from the table. Later, they realized that they should have been much more grateful for finding a family willing to take them in at the last moment and share their humble home. They realized that all Jews are one and they began helping and enjoying each other’s company. The humor and sheer enjoyment of the evening notwithstanding, there is a lesson to learn here. We, all of us, are one. Jews are one family and we should accept each other graciously, no matter our financial status, country of origin, or customs. Unfortunately, we often see Jews discriminate against other Jews. How sad. When we see how much anti-Semitism is growing all around us, we need each other. In the end, what counts most is family.

Bais Yaakov News In honor of Rosh Chodesh Kislev, the Junior High at Bais Yaakov of Queens was treated to a special guest speaker from Eretz Yisrael, Mrs. Raize Guttman. Mrs. Guttman, herself an alumnus of BYQ, spoke to the girls

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This is a reminder that Yeshiva Kesser Torah’s 29th annual melaveh malkah will be held Saturday evening, November 16, 7:45 p.m., at the Young Israel of Queens Valley, 141-55 77th Ave (corner of Main Street) in Kew Garden Hills. Harav Rosenblatt will speak and sing his own nigunim, accompanied by live music. Guests of honor will be Mr. and Mrs. Yaakov and Malka Gandjian. Divrei berachah: Harav Igal Haimoff shlita. Guest speaker: Harav Aryeh Sokoloff, shlita. Admission is by contribution ($100 per person). RSVP. As mentioned previously, in conjunction with the memorial for Rabbi Tropper, zt’l, at this years’ chag hasmicha dinner, the yeshiva would like to present the Tropper family with a collection of remembrances written by talmedei hayeshiva from all the various tekufos. Much thanks to all those who have already responded. If you haven’t already, we would appreciate if talmidim would write something and forward it as soon as possible to rabbitroppermemories@gmail.com. Contributions will be reviewed and prepared by a family member. A few minutes from your busy week will yield, be’H, a great deal of nechamah to the family. A new frum group for the elderly, in conjunction with B’Kavod, recently began in Congregation Degel Israel, 68th Drive and Main St. on Mondays and Wednesdays, 11:30 a.m.–3:30 p.m.

about a mitzvah that is special for women—hafrashas challah. The first part of her presentation included the hashkafos and kavanos women and girls should aspire to focus on when involved in the physical tasks of running a home. Every chore is a mitzvah, just as it was for the kohanim in the Beis Hamikdash. And just as Sarah’s dough was blessed, and the lechem haponim in the Mishkan stayed fresh, women have the ability to bring the Shechinah into their homes by infusing their housekeeping with positive thoughts and gratitude to Hashem for the opportunity to care for a family. The second part of the presentation was an actual challah-making demonstration. As Mrs. Guttman added each ingredient, she explained its signiﬁcance and unique qualities. As she kneaded the dough, each girl was given a chance to say the name of someone who needed a yeshuah, and what that yeshuah would be. Everyone answered Amein to each bakashah! Lastly, Mrs. Guttman showed the girls how to make different challos: some common and some more unique. The hour ﬂew by as the girls sat with perfect decorum, fascinated by Mrs. Guttman’s hashkafos, stories, and demonstrations. We thank Mrs. Guttman for giving us her precious time to share with us these beautiful, practical lessons for life.

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News From The Hills Continued from Page 80 There is no charge for anything. A hot meal, plus fresh fruit and snacks, is served. There are crafts, divrei Torah, and other activities. Aides and family members are welcome to assist if necessary. It is located on the lower level of Rabbi Sheinfeld’s shul. There are two ways to get in: via the driveway from Main St., which has no steps, so it is wheelchair accessible, or from the

ish Home: A Chanukah Story.” Monday, November 18, 8:00 p.m. at Congregation Ahavas Yisroel, 147-02 73rd Avenue, Kew Gardens Hills. For men and women. Rabbi Nissel has the rare ability to translate lofty concepts into practical daily living, spiced with irrepressible British humor. He is a senior lecturer for Ner LeElef (Jewish Leadership Training) and teaches in yeshivas and seminaries in Jerusalem. He is the Rabbinic Resource for NCSY, a popular worldwide youth group. He has

They realized that all Jews are one and they began helping and enjoying each other’s company. Main St. entrance, which takes about eight steps down to the hall. For more information, e-mail bkavod@gmail. com or call 646-543-9818. Bnos Malka. For those who were unable to attend the Open House last week during the work day, there will be a mini open house at the home of Binyomin and Slava Deitsch on November 18 at 8:00 p.m. (137-77 75th Rd). Rabbi Menachem Nissel, renowned lecturer and author of the Hebrew and English editions of the highly acclaimed Rigshei Lev: Women and Teﬁllah (Targum/Feldheim 2001) will speak on “The Battle For The Jew-

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an MBA from the London Business School. Free admission. Donations to Queens JInspire are welcome. JInspire, which was launched in 2011, is a grassroots organization of communities committed to sharing inspiring Jewish education and spirituality with others, across the spectrum of Jewish afﬁliation. It is a volunteer-based national initiative, with local afﬁliates in various Jewish communities across America. Programs include Israel trips for mothers, one to one learning opportunities, and a variety of inspiring educational initiatives, on-line and in person. Programs focus upon personal growth, spiritu-

ality, and ethical advancement, to strengthen the family unit. The Queens branch was launched in 2012 with an inaugural mothers’ mission to Israel. For more information, visit jinspire.org. NYC Council Member James F. Gennaro invites you to a street renaming for Rabbi Dr. H. Joel Laks Way, in memory and honor of Rabbi Laks of blessed memory on Sunday, November 17 at 12:15 p.m., at the corner of Parsons Boulevard and 78th Road. Reception will follow at Congregation Toras Emes, 78-15 Parsons Boulevard in Fresh Meadows. For questions, contact Councilman Gennaro’s office at 718-217-4969. The Kew Gardens Hills Civic Association presents a talk about mortgages and credit for homeowners. We are bombarded daily by information and suggestions affecting our financial wellbeing. When does it make sense to refinance a mortgage? What is the importance of your credit score? How is it compiled by credit reporting agencies? How can your credit score affect your ability to buy a car or remortgage your home? When should a senior citizen consider a reverse mortgage? These and other topics will be addressed by Michael E. Diaz, vice president and product relationship manager of the TD Bank on Main Street, on Tuesday, November 19 at 7:45 p.m. at the Young Israel of Kew Gardens Hills, 150-05 70th Road. Light refreshments will be served. Havurat Yisrael presents the National Yiddish Theatre–Folksbiene in Lies my Father Told Me Saturday, November 16 at 8:00 p.m., Baruch Performing Arts Center, 55 Lexington Avenue, New York, NY. Lies My Father Told Me is a new coming-ofage musical based on the

1975 Academy Award-nominated, Golden Globe-winning film. National Premiere. Following three generations in an immigrant family living in Montreal during a xenophobic 1920s, Lies My Father Told Me recounts protagonist David’s childhood memories of the people and occurrences that would shape his life. In English; any use of Yiddish will have English and Russian supertitles. Tickets $45. To order tickets, contact Alicia at Havurat Yisrael, 718-261-5500, or e-mail hyoffice18@yahoo.com. On the heels of the booming success of last year, the Avos UBonim Program has resumed once again. The program starts approximately 40 minutes after Shabbos ends (R’T zman), in Yeshivas Ohr Hachaim. The program is aimed for boys ages 5–14. For ages 5–9, the schedule will be half an hour of learning, followed by half an hour of gym, followed by pizza and raffles. For ages 10–14, the schedule will be one hour of learning, followed by half an hour of gym, followed by pizza and raffles. Early comers will get an extra ticket towards the raffle. Visitors are asked to treat the yeshiva with the dignity and respect that it deserves. Remember, it is not a playground! Thanks go to the program directors, Dr. Ari Walfish and Mr. Elisha Hisiger, and to program coordinator Shloimie Pollack. Also, much appreciation to the yeshiva for allowing use of their facilities. Sponsorships are available; please feel free to help out in any way that you can. For any questions, comments, or suggestions, please e-mail avosbonim@gmail.com. A weekly women’s chaburah will be meeting on Monday nights at 8:30, on 70th Avenue focusing on classic Rambans in the parashah, and

a few minutes of machshavah. It is a great way to add a little Torah into a busy week for young wives and moms. If you would like more information, or would like to be on the weekly distribution e-mail, e-mail Lme824@gmail. com. Save the Date! Congregation Ahavas Yisroel Women’s League invites the KGH community to an Ice Skating Extravaganza on Motzaei Shabbos, November 23. Women, girls, and boys through second grade 7:158:45 p.m. Men and older boys 9:00–10:30 p.m. at the Port Washington Skating Center, 70 Seaview Blvd., in Port Washington. Total cost including skates: $5 per person. Shevach High School is having a pre-Chanukah Carnival for the Queens community this Motzaei Shabbos. November 16. The event, which will include a large array of exciting games and prizes, is for girls of all ages, and for boys up to age 7. Admission is $6 a child, and

pizza and cotton candy will be sold separately. A fun time is sure to be had by all at Shevach which is located at 75-09 Main Street. The 12th annual community wide breakfast honoring the Jaffa Institute will be held on Sunday, November 24 at 9:00 a.m. at the Young Israel of Hillcrest, 16907 Jewel Avenue, Hillcrest, NY. The Jaffa Institute has been dedicated to the State of Israel for 31 years as a premier educational and social service institution serving over 4,000 underprivileged youth. The guest speaker will be Dr. David J Portowicz, founder and director. The breakfast chairman is Mark Dayan. The director of international affairs is Dr. Eliyahu Hartman. For more information, or to RSVP, call 718-5913595.

Condolences To Rena Goldman on the petirah of her father, Mr. Unger. HaMakom yenachem eschem b’soch sh’ar aveilei Tziyon v’Yerushalayim.

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Mazal Tov To Mr. and Mrs. Moishe Itzkowitz on the marriage of their daughter Batsheva, to Zalman Pollack. Mazal tov to grandmother Mrs. Bernice Metzger.  Chanita Teitz is a real-estate broker at Astor Brokerage in Kew Gardens Hills, serving the entire Queens vicinity. For all your real-estate needs, call her at 718-263-4500 or e-mail chanita@astorbrokerage.com.

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Tractate Shekalim And The Chassidim/ Misnagdim Divide BY RABBI YAIR HOFFMAN As students of Jewish history know, Jews have lived under three very different groups of Christians. When the Roman Empire fell in 476 CE, Christianity was soon to split in half. The Byzantine Empire, which lasted another thousand years after the fall of Rome, developed into the Eastern Orthodox church. The Roman Catholic Church also developed independently and soon began to wield signiﬁcant temporal power as well. Only in the latter sixteenth century did a non-Catholic third type of Christianity emerge from the western church, inspired by Martin Luther. Jews, for centuries a weak minority in the exile, have had to navigate their way between these three different types of Christianity as well as among Islamic and other groups.

The Printings of Shas In the mid-sixteenth century, the Roman Catholic Church set its eyes upon blocking the Talmud and began its program of systematically burning copies of it. Notwithstanding the technological advances brought about by Guttenberg and his press, the printing of Shas was limited and curtailed. But the Torah Jew would not give up. Jews were aware that, in the former Byzantine Empire, the Talmud could still be printed. They utilized the Shas that their brethren—now under the Ottomans—were printing in the presses of Salonika and Constantinople. Soon though, opportunity opened when Polish kings deﬁed the hand of the Polish Church, and the Shas was allowed to be published in the city of Cracow. It was published twice, unedited by the Catholic Church’s censors, in 1602-1605 and 1616-1620. The Chmielnicki massacres soon took place but, within the next century, a further edition of the Talmud was published in Amsterdam. Two more editions were printed in Germany, now that the Germanic lands were no longer under the control of the Catholic Church and had become Protestants.

The Slavuta Shas Jewish history and Jewish Talmudic study continued to ﬂow. The Chassidic movement was born, and soon the Pale of Settlement developed. A new edition of Shas was to emerge. The Slavuta press was founded by a son of Rav Pinchas of Koretz, a prominent Talmid of the Baal Shem Tov, at the turn of the century in the Ukraine. His name was Rabbi Moshe Shapira, and three editions of the Talmud ensued. Rabbi Shapira was a descendant of the Megaleh Amukos, and was steeped in the in-depth study of the Talmud. Slavuta was in the Ukraine between the Chasidic capitals of Lvov and Kiev. Rabbi Shapira’s printing of the Talmud Bavli in Slavuta also included the Yerushalmi’s tractate Shekalim in 14 pages. Shekalim is the only tractate missing in the Moed section of the Bavli. The Slavuta edition was wildly

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popular, among a large population of fervently observant Russian Jews.

The Competition A Litvish press, however, emerged in Lita. The Romm Press soon published the Vilna Shas, and a ﬁerce competition developed. The Shapiras claimed that the Romm printing house was in violation of Hasagas G’vul. They had received a rabbinically approved special license to be the sole publishers of the Talmud for 25 years. Rabbonim on both sides issued rulings and letters. The competition was to last for well over a century, even past the lifespan of the original Slavuta printing house. Oh, and by the way, the Romm edition had 21 blatt for tractate Shekalim. How did the Slavuta Press close? A worker in the printing house, a bookbinder, was found dead by the Russian authorities. It is said that this bookbinder had reported to the Russian authorities that the printing house had printed material that the government had not sanctioned. There are two versions of the story. One has it that he was found hanging in the shul in Slavuta, an apparent suicide. Another version has it that he had fallen in the Slavuta Press and hit his head and died. Regardless, the Shapiras were taken into custody and tortured severely by the Russians. (As a parenthetical note, the Steipler Gaon once related to a friend of this author that the bookbinder was the son of a once-childless couple, chassidim of the Shpoler Zeide, who had received a bracha from Rav Pinchas of Koretz to have children. The Shpoler Zeide had refused to give the couple a bracha. Ironically, the Steipler pointed out, the two owners who were informed upon were the grandsons of Rav Pinchas of Koretz.) In 1836, the Czarist government closed all Jewish printing houses in Russia save two: one in Vilna and one in Zhitomir. The Shapira children and nephews rented the printing house in Zhitomir and were back in business by 1847, completing the printing of Shas in 1864. Romm completed another edition two years later, in 1866. The competition was in high gear.

DAFYOMISHIURIM In the 5 Towns Far Rockaway Area 4:30 am 5:00 am 5:15 am 5:30 am 5:45 am 6:00 am

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@ Yeshiva Sh’or Yoshuv – Mishnah Berurah: Rabbi Shmuel Grossman @ Yeshiva Sh’or Yoshuv – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Shmuel Grossman @ Y.I. of Woodmere – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Rafael Fink @ Chofetz Chaim Torah Center – Cedarhurst @ Rabbi Neiman’s Shul – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Yossi Schonkopf @ Agudah of L.I. (Rabbi Reisman) – Magid Shiur: Rav Shmuel Witkin @ Kehillas Bais Yehudah Tzvi (the Red Shul) @ Agudah of L.I – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Dr. Mermelstein @ Aish Kodesh – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Sholom Fried, Rabbi Daniel Fink @ Rabbi Blumenkrantz’s shul @ CBEY- Island Ave., Woodmere – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Shalom Rosner @ Yeshiva Sh’or Yoshuv – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Dovid Greenblatt @ Beis Medrash of Cedarhurst – Rabbi Spiegel @ Cong. Beis Avraham – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Henoch Grumet @ Beis Haknesses of North Woodmere @ Agudah of West Lawrence – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Moshe Brown @ Young Israel of Law./Cedar. Maggid Shiur: Yale Fishman/Yaakov Shalev @ Y.I. of Oceanside @ Rabbi Katz's Shul in Far Rockaway – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Pinchas Birnhack @ Y.I. of Woodmere – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Aron Glatt

@ Congregation Beth Shalom – Maggid Shiur: Rabbi Yechiel Weberman

6:45 am @ Shaaray Tefila – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Kalish @ The White Shul – Magidei Shiur: Rabbi Kanner @ Agudah of the Five Towns – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Ephraim Edelstein @ Agudas Yisroel of Long Island – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Tzvi Flaum 7:00 am @ Agudah of L.I. – Sunday ONLY – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Dr. Mermelstein @ Congregation Beth Avraham – Sunday ONLY @ Yeshiva Gedolah of 5 Towns – Magid Shiur: Rav Yitzchok Knobel @ Young Israel of Law./Ced. – Sunday ONLY – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Yale Fishman 7:09 am @ Far Rockaway LIRR 3rd car from the end – Direct to Penn Station Magid Shiur: Rabbi Kodesh

7:10 am @ Agudah of Bayswater @ Mesivta Ateres Yaakov, 131 Washington Avenue 7:15 am @ Aish Kodesh – Sunday ONLY @ Kehillas Bais Yehudah Tzvi (the Red Shul) @ Chabad – Maple Avenue, Cedarhurst 7:30 am @ Agudah of L.I. (Rabbi Reisman) In Library – Magidei Shiur: Rabbis S. Kohn, N. Schweid, R. Flegman @ Congregation Heichal Dovid – Sunday ONLY 7:35 am @ Y.I. of Woodmere – Sunday ONLY – Magid Shiur: Rabbi R. Fink 7:45 am @ Kehillas Bais Yehudah Tzvi (the Red Shul) – Sunday ONLY @ Beth Sholom – Sunday ONLY – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Yale Fishman @ Rabbi Blumenkrantz’s shul - Shabbos ONLY 7:50 am @ Far Rockaway LIRR front section of the last car – Direct to Penn Station 7:55 am @ Lawrence LIRR – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Pesach Lerner 8:00 am @ Shaaray Tefila – Sunday ONLY – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Kalish @ Agudas Yisroel of Long Island – Sunday ONLY – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Tzvi Flaum @ Mesivta Ateres Yaakov, 131 Washington Avenue (Shabbos Only) 8:10 am @ LIRR Far Rockaway Branch, in the last car of the train, which makes stops at Inwood, Lawrence, Cedarhurst and Woodmere at 8:22 am Magid Shiur: Rabbi Menachem Adler 8:15 am @ Beth Sholom – Shabbos ONLY – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Yale Fishman 8:45 am @ Agudah of L.I. – Sunday ONLY in library @ Sunday mornings at Beis Tefilah – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Shaya Richmond 10:15 am @ The White Shul – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Matt Cohen 12:50 pm @ Cedarhurst Center – Ground Floor Conf. Room – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Lichtenstein 8:00 pm @ Agudah of L.I. – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Nochum Katz @ Aish Kodesh – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Simcha Weingott @ Y.I. of Far Rockaway – Magid Shiur: R’ Daniel Martin and R’ Avraham Bachrach 8:15 pm @ Cong. Beis Medrash of Cedarhurst – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Dovid Spiegel 8:30 pm @ Y.I. of Oceanside @ Congregation Heichal Dovid 8:45 pm @ Yeshiva Sh’or Yoshuv – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Y. Weberman @ Rabbi Blumenkrantz – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Yosef Friedler 9:00 pm @ Agudah of L.I. – Magid Shiurim: Rabbi Lichtenstein/Rotating Chaburah @ Agudah of West Lawrence – Rabbi Brown’s Shul @ Agudah of Bayswater @ Beis Tefilah – (Tues.– Thurs.) Maggid Shiur: Rabbi Ephraim Edelstein

The Birth Of Agudah In the early 20th century, after Germany had taken sections of Poland from Russia, the German government asked some of its German Jewish citizens for advice and assistance in now to administer such sections as Warsaw, now under German control. One such expert was Ludwig Haas, a Reform Jew and member of the German Reichstag, who had succeeded in doing away with traditional Jewish education and implementing far-reaching reforms in education in his hometown of Baden, Germany. The Polish rabbis were very concerned and reached out to the Orthodox Jews of Germany for advice and help. Somehow, the German government appointed two Orthodox Jewish experts to assist them, Rabbi Dr. Pinchas Cohn and Rabbi Emanuel Carlebach. These two individuals, of decidedly non-Chassidic lineage, reached out to Polish Jewry and helped them organize. Rabbi Dr. Cohn was able to befriend Haas, and changes began to take effect.

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Tractate Shekalim Continued from Page 85 Thus, Agudath Israel in Poland, started by two decidedly non-Chassidish Jews in Germany and backed by the Gerrer Rebbe and others, was born. Agudath Israel of Poland was a remarkable experiment. It combined the organizational and logistical talent of German Jewry— of pure Ashkenazic temperament—with the masses of voters that Chassidishe Jewry would bring to the table. Soon Agudath Israel of Poland morphed into a political party in the newly formed Second Republic of Poland. It began to take an active role in ensuring that the secularization processes that existed in Russia and in Germany did not develop in Poland too. The Knessiah Gedolah held in Vienna, Austria, featured an idea by a cousin of the Shapiras, an idea embraced by none other than the Chofetz Chaim himself.

14 blatt allotted for Shekalim. Of that, there was no question. But soon, the Nazis y’sh devastated Poland, wiping out more than 90 percent of Polish Jewry—more than in any other country. A half century after the very ﬁrst Knessiah Gedolah had passed, Polish Jewry was no more. The once mighty yeshiva of Chachmei Lubin was now gone, and its building was now used by the medical school in Lublin, Poland. And tractate Shekalim? In an era before the ArtScroll Schottenstein and the Mesivta Gemara, 14 blatt was just too dense. In 1975, after seven cycles, the Daf Yomi Commission of Agudah—with the approval of the Chassidish Gedolim, I am told—changed Shekalim to 21 blatt. The change was initially resisted by some of the former students of Yeshiva Chochmei Lublin, but to no avail. Slavuta had lost its ﬁnal battle. 

Rav Meir Shapiro introduced the idea of Daf Yomi. And, from the beginning, it too included tractate Shekalim. But which version? Would the Agudah-sponsored program adopt the litvisha Romm version of 21 blatt, or the Chassidish version of 14 blatt? At ﬁrst, the answer would seem to be obvious. Poland was teeming with burgeoning numbers of Chassidic Jews. The founder of the Daf Yomi, rosh yeshiva of Yeshiva Chochmei Lublin, was a cousin of the Slavuta/Zhitomir owners. So, yes, the Daf Yomi had

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Continued from Page 74 Salami Soccer.” The excitement continued as students and teachers formed teams for a variety of invigorating and competitive relay races. Next, the entire Middle Division reconvened in a large lunch area and enjoyed a pizza lunch. After a spirited bentching, the girls then went down-

stairs and laced up their skates for an enjoyable hour of ice-skating. By the time they returned to school at 2:30, students and teachers were happily exhausted, and chattering contentedly about their memorable outing. 

SKA Students Win Emunah Essay Contest Congratulations to Stella K. Abraham High School for Girls eleventh-grader

The author can be reached at yairhoffman2@gmail.com.

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Eliana Nachman and Zehava Fertig

Eliana Nachman, who won ﬁrst place, and ninth-grader Zahava Fertig, who won third place, in the Jossi Berger Holocaust Essay Contest run by Emunah of America. Congratulations also go to eleventh-grader Racheli Moskowitz, who received an Honorable Mention. On Tuesday, November 5, the winners were presented with their awards at a beautiful ceremony held at the Fifth Avenue Synagogue in Manhattan following a moving program in commemoration of the 75th Anniversary of Kristallnacht. 

Annual DRS Shabbaton A Huge Success! It is likely the most anticipated event of the DRS school year: The Annual Shabbaton. This past Shabbos, DRS sophomores, juniors, and seniors, accompanied by their rebbeim and their families, spent the weekend at the

Bridgewater Hotel in Somerset, New Jersey. The students arrived at the hotel on Thursday evening. Upon arrival, the students checked in to their rooms, and then headed to the Shiur vs. Shiur Trivia Challenge, during which the students’ knowledge of Torah, DRS history, music, and pop culture were put to the test. Following the game, everyone was treated to a lavish BBQ with all the “ﬁxings.” But the night was still young, as the students entered the grand ballroom which was transformed into a full-out game room, replete with ping pong tables, basketball hoops, and six big screens for the Madden Xbox tournament. On Friday morning, after Shacharit and some divrei halachah, the students headed over to the beautiful grounds of Colonial Park to partake in the annual Shabbaton Flag Football Tournament, where 15 games were played simultaneously.

The pre-Shabbos festivities came to an end as students returned to the hotel to prepare for the holiness of Shabbat. After an inspiring Kabalat Shabbat, and moving zemirot during dinner, students were privileged to partake in two incredibly enjoyable educational programs. DRS hosted Rabbi Lawrence Hajioff, a noted entertaining and captivating speaker who spoke to the boys about the Jewish perspective of pleasure. In another room, two DRS rebbeim took to the stage in a mock debate that revolved around the heated issue of whether or not to draft chareidim into the Israeli Army. Both sessions were immensely engaging, and the students truly gained a lot from both. After an incredibly inspiring shalosh seudot program, and a lebedik melaveh malkah, many students commented that this year’s Shabbaton was a most memorable one. 

Mesivta Yam HaTorah’s Ninth-Grade Shabbaton This past week, Mesivta Yam HaTorah had its annual ninth-grade Shabbaton. The Shabbaton began with indoor rock climbing, which was followed by an inspiring Shabbos ﬁlled with divrei Torah and zemiros. The Shabbaton offered an opportunity for the boys to bond with their rebbeim and peers. The menahel, Rabbi Zoldan, stressed the uniqueness of the rebbe-talmid relationship at shalosh seudos by relating a story: Rabbi Simcha Wasserman was once asked by a college professor, “What is the difference between me and you, since we are both teachers?” In response, Rabbi Wasserman said, “I have never had a student who did not invite me to their wedding.” On Motzaei Shabbos, the Shabbaton concluded with a drum rhythm workshop, led by Motti Shanet, which focused on teamwork and leadership skills. The boys had a great time jamming together while at the same time learning the importance of listening to each other and working together as a team. 

Lawrence Kids Help Make A “Change” In Israel What does the average kid do with the loose change in his pocket? Get pizza. Hold on to it for next time. Forget about it until it starts clinking around the washing machine. Meet Lexi and Jack Golomb. In their opinion, spare change was destined

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AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS Continued from Page 87 for a higher purpose. After a day at the mall, all those nickels and dimes ﬂoating around their purses and pockets are dropped in the pushke, the charity box. Every trip to the grocery adds another few coins to the growing pile. The Golomb kids even siphon off a share of their allowance for charity.

Lexi and Jack Golomb with their Kupath Rabbi Meir pushke

Their dad, Berel, is proud of their initiative. “Just recently, I gathered the change they had accumulated and took it into Kupath Rabbi Meir Baal Haness,” he said. “It was a pretty heavy bag.” When the Golomb kids realized that their contribution totaled $280, they were very excited. “It’s enough money to really make a difference in a child’s life,” they explained. “And giving it didn’t make a difference to our ﬁnances at all.” It did, however, make a lasting impact on the Golombs themselves. Both Lexi and Jack feel that now they’re more aware that not all kids have what they need, and they’ve developed a deeper sensitivity towards these children. Lexi and Jack chose to entrust Kupath Rabbi Meir Baal Haness, a 215-year-old tzedakah organization helping children and their families in Israel, with distributing their donation. Now the yellow Kupath Rabbi Meir pushke holds a place of honor in the Golombs’ kitchen, and Lexi and Jack urge you to join their venture. When you drop those coins into your yellow Kupath Rabbi Meir pushke, you get that amazing feeling of knowing you’re helping another Jew in a very real way. You’re also maintaining a robust Jewish presence in the Holy Land and supporting Torah learning. The recent slashes in government aid have pushed many Israeli families into crisis mode. Families that were doing okay are now discreetly requesting food packages, and they’re hoping someone will care. How about emulating the shining example of chesed set by Lexi and Jack? You can do that by ordering your very own Kupath Rabbi Meir pushke today! Use it the way the Golombs do, or follow the custom of dropping a few coins in the pushke on erev Shabbos, right before candle lighting. Try it. It’ll transform your candle lighting experience. Getting your own yellow Kupath Rabbi Meir pushke is easy! Just call 718-871-7807 or e-mail info@ kupathrabbimeir.org and they’ll take it from there.

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Kids who are super-caring are invited to join the junior gabbaim program, which helps distribute and collect the pushkes. Let’s show everyone that Lawrence cares! 

Ossie Schonfeld Toy Drive Helps Children In Fight For Life The Ossie Schonfeld Memorial Chanukah Toy Fund works with Chaiyanu, an organization in Israel that supports families of children with cancer. They have no medical expertise, but are experts at understanding what the critical illness of a child does to every member of the family. Everyone becomes a victim. They acknowledge that by giving every sibling an age-appropriate Chanukah gift. The Fund was established as a living memorial for Robbie’s beloved father, Reb Yosef ben Avraham Chaim Neta, a’h, whose greatest enjoyment in life was to bring pure joy into the lives of every person he came in contact with, adult or child. In addition, his love for Eretz Yisrael was deep-seated in his heart and soul, so what could be a better way to honor and memorialize him than to have a Chanukah toy fund for children in Israel with cancer, to light up their lives with the fulfillment of their wish list and inject pure joy once again into their home? The Fund provides every child the opportunity to provide a wish list of things they would like to receive for Chanukah. With your support, the fund makes a gigantic effort to fulfill their wishes. Some years ago the card came back from a young boy. All choices said “bike.” The mother was apologetic, but her son was determined. The family and the Schonfelds knew that he would never ride that bike, but bikes and boys are about more than riding. That Chanukah, the Ossie Schonfeld Memorial Chanukah Toy Fund volunteers, together with partners Lev Leytzan, delivered that bike amid a sea of tears and smiles. The process is grueling. They need to raise the money with partners around the world. They need to find and order the toys. They need to come in time. They need to be identified, sorted, and routed for delivery. They need a maximum number of volunteers. Their staff and volunteers are working 18 hours day and night, packing, driving, singing, dancing, and celebrating the joy of a child who wants to be joyous. They prepare for Chanukah all year long at the Ossie Schonfeld Memorial Chanukah Toy Fund. It gives them strength for all the days and times they need it. Chanukah requires all the energy of a small staff and a large number of volunteers. They start early because the children need something special to look forward to. Their parents and siblings help with these difficult decisions. Together with Lev Leytzan, New York’s premier medical clowning organization and its troupe of medical clowns, they transcend the delivery of the toys into a magical and joyous experience. “Lev Leytzan is proud to be associated with such wonderful, caring, and

devoted partners such as Chaiyanu and the Ossie Schonfeld Memorial Chanukah Toy Fund,” noted Noach Gordon, director of development of Lev Leytzan. Founded in 2002 by Dr. Neal Goldberg; “We are a professional medical clown organization,” explains Dr. Goldberg, its founder and a psychologist who lives and works in the Five Towns. Each year Lev Leytzan recruits area teens selected to be professionally trained as medical clowns who volunteer to interact with patients empowering them to help ease their pain and discomfort by offering doses of playful engagement. Now in its 10th year, the “Chanukah Mission” is purely funded by its volunteers and once on the ground in Israel, the toys, and the people, from the Ossie Schonfeld Memorial Chanukah Toy Fund routinely work 14–18 hours a day delivering the childlike essence of Chanukah, and what is second, only to a complete refuah . . . a smile. Chanukah is all made with your donations. Without your donations and volunteering, it cannot happen. The fact that it does happen year after year is another miracle of a festival of miracles. There are no words to describe what they see and feel—what it feels like, at that moment, to celebrate Chanukah in a child’s home late at night. Until the time when every child has a positive prognosis, the mission is clear. Support the family, and lend our strength to theirs. Their strength is your strength, passed on. This year’s melaveh malkah for the Ossie Schonfeld Memorial Chanukah Toy Fund will take place on Motzaei Shabbos, November 16, at 8:15 p.m. at the home of Robbie and Judy Schonfeld, 850 Broadway in Woodmere. A very special program is planned, including the famous Ossie’s Sushi Bar. This year they will also have a wine-and-cheese tasting. Please join in making this Chanukah the best Chanukah ever, because where there is joy there is hope! For more information please call 516-791-2158 or e-mail ossiestoyfund@aol.com. 

call 516-374-2665, visit www.lylibrary. org, or e-mail lisa@lylibrary.org or info@lylibrary.org. Library hours are Sundays 11:00 a.m.– 5:00 p.m., Mondays closed to the public but open for class trips, Tuesdays 11:00 a.m.–7:00 p.m., Wednesdays 11:00 a.m.– 5:30 p.m., and Thursdays 11:00 a.m.–7:00 p.m. 

JCCRP–JCC Chanukah Toy Drive Well Under Way By Raizy Goldberg Even before the schach is rolled away, eager young children await the glory of Chanukah and the promise of colorful and exciting gifts and toys. This autumn we are b’H enjoying beautiful weather, a rainbow of fall foliage and hopefully a wealth of nachas and good health. But last year was not the case, as Hurricane Sandy wreaked havoc around us. Many of our friends and neighbors experienced devastation beyond words, yet an equal number of capable donors and volunteers heroically ensured that all children in need experienced a Chanukah of joy and light.

In that spirit of giving, this year our community looks to spark the seeds of generosity once again, through the joint efforts of the JCCRP/JCC Rochel Baron a’h Toy Drive, lzecher nishmas Aaron Tepfer, a’h. With three weeks to Chanukah, the toy drive is in full swing. At the helm are Nathan Krasnovsky, executive director of JCCRP, in conjunction with Joel Block, executive director of the JCC of the Greater Five Towns, and Ettie Schoor, who spearheaded Nivneh and was recruited by Nathan Krasnovsky for this project. Together with the incredible JCCRP/JCC dedicated staff members, Elisheva Trachtenberg, social worker at JCCRP, Naamah Adelman, case manager at Met Council/JCCRP, and Stacey Feldman of JCC, there are nine amazing volunteer coordinators working on a daily basis, and over 50 additional volunteers already lined up for packaging. Much gratitude and appreciation go to a number of key volunteer coordinators who are working very hard to make this a successful endeavor: Bukie Cohen, Ilana David, Ester Feuer, Chaya Gibber, Chana

Hoch, Fraidy Osina, Aviva Paneth, Rocky Stern, and Miriam Vegh. Toys are pouring into Brach’s Supermarket, a primary drop-off location in the neighborhood. There are beautiful signs posted in the store, a huge collection bin and anyone who brings in a toy can get a Chanukah treat from customer service. Since more space was needed because of the number of toys expected, Mr. Brach approached Rabbi Neuman, who graciously agreed to provide space at Bais Yaakov Ateres Miriam. Mr. Brach is installing special shelving in the rooms where the packaging will take place. Deliveries will be made to Bayswater, Far Rockaway, Five Towns, Oceanside, Long Beach, and Belle Harbor. The toys will be organized by the recipients’ age and gender, and packages will be color coded by neighborhood to make the delivery process as streamlined and manageable as possible. In order to maximize privacy, the packaging committee will be receiving a sheet by neighborhood with no

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“The Stunt Show” Live Broadcast From LY Library, November 19 Be a part of the “studio audience” as the Levi Yitzchak Library and Manischewitz team up with the Nachum Segal Network (NSN) “The Stunt Show” for an exciting Race Around the Clock stunt. The “stunt” will take place at the Levi Yitzchak Library, located at 564 Central Avenue in Cedarhurst, at 6:00 p.m. Daniel Gordon, one of the four hosts of The Stunt Show and Deputy Chief of Staff for YU President Richard Joel, will be the host of the race. Five NSN hosts/ personalities will be paired with ﬁve elementary-school students in a competition, to see which team can assemble “Chanukah House Kit” before time runs out, and before the other teams ﬁnish. Setting the stage at the Jewish library is ideal since the colorful and child-centered environment is perfect for this stunt. Everyone from the community is invited to cheer on the teams and join for some pre-Chanukah excitement. For dedication, donation, or volunteer opportunities, or to learn more,

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AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS Continued from Page 89 names. Each volunteer will get families to package for but will not have any access to who the family is. Everything is coded with a number to ensure maximum privacy for all. Community residents are so excited to participate and contribute toys to this very meaningful project. Amazingly, families who last year were on the receiving end of Hurricane Sandy relief are now so happy to be on the giving end. Families are going on Chanukah shopping sprees to buy gifts for others less fortunate. What a special feeling that is for the children who are lucky enough to get their own special Chanukah gifts year after year. If you can’t make it to the store, you can contribute online to the JCCRP website by clicking “donate to toy drive” and picking out gifts. There have been incredible, anonymous donors who have funded large segments of the project, as well as the Red Cross and the UJA-Federation of NY who are also contributing towards the drive. The center used to store the toys was graciously donated l’zecher nishmas Naama Chana Markovits, a’h. Naama’s pure neshamah was returned to Hashem upon her passing on June 23, 2010, two days after her fourth Hebrew birthday. Her sweet and pleasant nature shone through all her deeds and actions, which she performed with excitement. Naama had a friendly, outgoing personality and was very sensitive to other people’s feelings, a truly special child who touched everyone she met and

illuminated her surroundings every day. Hopefully the mitzvos created through this project, by young and old, will be a z’chus and aliyah for her neshamah. Together, we can create a Chanukah of perfect simcha for those in need, parents and children alike. Please join us in this extraordinary communitywide effort to light up Chanukah for countless families in our area. New, unwrapped gifts in their original packaging and/or donations can be dropped off at Brach’s Supermarket or at the JCC of the Greater Five Towns, 207 Grove Avenue in Cedarhurst. For more information, to volunteer, or to submit a name of a family who you believe would beneﬁt from this project, please e-mail jcctoydrive@jccrp. org or call 718-327-7755 and ask for Elisheva, ext. 6112 or Naamah, ext. 6124. Tizku lmitzvos! 

HANC High School’s Worldly Programs Israel Advocacy. Several HANC highschool students recently had the opportunity to join 400 other students from across the country and attend the AIPAC Schusterman High School Summit. Robyn Awendstern, Victoria Kalmanowitz, Eliana Kaufman, David Sroka, and Judah Wolkenfeld traveled with AP History teacher Mrs. Laura Eisner for a three-day conference in Washington, DC. The conference focused on both educating the students on Israel’s situation in the Middle East and developing the students’ political advocacy skills. It also emphasized the role that U.S. citizens can play in strength-

ening the America–Israel relationship. The Summit included several keynote speakers such as Matt Nosanchuck, White House liaison on Jewish affairs, and IDF Sgt. Benjamin Anthony, from Our Soldiers Speak. The students also interacted with Israel activists from college campuses across the country, including alumna (’11) Marissa Young from Columbia University. The trip culminated in a visit to Capitol Hill to lobby the ofﬁce of Congresswoman Carolyn McCarthy on the issues discussed during the conference. The students learned so much on this trip and they are eager to bring their activism and ideas back and implement them in school. This is one of many opportunities that HANC High School affords its students in leadership and in Israel Advocacy.

Adopt A Survivor. HANC High School has designed an elective class for its seniors in Holocaust Studies. On Wednesday, November 6, a select group of students had the privilege of meeting Mr. Irving Roth, the founder of the Adopt A Survivor Program. This renowned program will give students the opportunity to interview and befriend Holocaust survivors. Along with their teacher, Rabbi Aharon Friedler, and assistant principal, Ms. Tziporah Zucker, the class visited Temple Judea of Manhasset Holocaust Center. There they listened to Mr. Roth’s informative overview of the background of the Holocaust, viewed the museum’s exhibit, and learned more about the program. A special thanks to senior Alex Sachs for videotaping the session with Mr. Roth.

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For the first time in the Adopt A Survivor Program, HANC High School was selected to film the process and journey of meeting with survivors while taking an interactive approach to learning about the Holocaust. The instructor of the course, Rabbi Aharon Friedler, is diligently working with the students on this film which will be produced as a documentary and published. The film is set to debut on Yom HaShoah. 

Cedarhurst Winter Festivities In The Andrew J. Parise Park This winter season, the mayor and the board of trustees of Cedarhurst invite you to participate in the lighting of the Chanukah menorah and the Christmas tree in the scenic Andrew J. Parise Park.

“Our park is the heart of our beautiful village and it is ﬁtting to invite the community there to commemorate and share their respective traditions. Each year, the two festivities bring a special joy to our village since we have an opportunity to learn more about each other’s customs and beliefs,” said Mayor Andrew J. Parise. The celebration of the wonders of the Chanukah miracle begins on the first night, Wednesday, November 27 through Wednesday, December 4. For each of the eight nights of the holiday, Rabbi Wolowik of the Five Towns Chabad Center is leading the Chanukah festivities. The schedule for the menorah lighting is as follows: each day will be at 6:00 p.m.,

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AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS Continued from Page 90 except Friday, November 29 at 3:00 p.m. On Sunday, December 15, at 4:00 p.m., Msgr. Paul F. Rahilly of St. Joachim’s Roman Catholic Church and Pastor Rev. Mary Chang of the Lutheran Church of the Incarnation will host the Christmas Caroling Celebration. They will gather around the traditional bonﬁre, and enjoy chestnuts roasting on an open ﬁre, hot chocolate, and cookies as

For more information on these and other Cedarhurst events, call Cedarhurst Village Hall at 516-295-5770 or visit the Incorporated Village of Cedarhurst website at www.cedarhurst.gov.

Cedarhurst Welcomes Warren Levi Martial Arts To The Community With the snip of some giant shears, Warren Levi Martial Arts & Fitness opened for business on Friday, November 1 and a new addition to the Village of Cedarhurst was ushered in.

ees would like to wish Warren Levi and his family and staff much success in their new venture, and they are grateful that he moved into Cedarhurst. 

Naftali Bennett At YIW, November 16 On Saturday night, November 16, at 7:15 p.m., the Young Israel of Woodmere will be hosting, live and in person, Knesset Member and Minister Naf-

tali Bennett. Mr. Bennett is head of the Bayit HaYehudi (Religious Zionist political party), an MK; Minister of Industry, Trade, and Labor; Minister of Religious Services; and Minister of Jerusalem and Diaspora Affairs. Everyone is welcome to hear him address current issues and Israel’s future on the topic of “Not by the Sword Alone: Israel’s Security and Economy in a Changing Middle East.” 

And Rochel died, and was buried on the road to Efrat, which is Bethlehem (Bereishis 35:19) What was Yaakov’s reason for burying Rochel at the roadside? Yaakov foresaw that the exiles from Jerusalem would pass that way. Therefore he buried her there so that she might pray for mercy for them. Thus it is written (Yirmiyah 31:15): “A voice is heard in Ramah . . . Rochel weeping for her children . . .” (Midrash Rabbah)

And it came to pass when Israel sojourned in that land, that Reuven went and lay with Bilhah, his father’s concubine, and Israel heard [of it], and so, the sons of Yaakov were twelve (Bereishis 35:22) L–R: Therapist Gail Usher, BID Executive Director Teri Schure, Mayor Andrew J. Parise, Warren Levi, Village Administrator Sal Evola, and Levi Vice-President Rebecca Obstfeld

they wait for a surprise visitor! Carolers in the decorated gazebo will lead hundreds in song and it is recommended that all who attend bring ﬂashlights to read the song sheets that are provided. Mayor Parise will continue the exciting tradition of inviting the crowd to count down to the dramatic lighting of the splendid Park Christmas tree.

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“This is an important addition to our ever-growing community. Kids and adults have a place to learn, teach, and improve their physical ﬁtness,” Mayor Andrew J. Parise said. “This groundbreaking event is another sign of Cedarhurst’s growing economy and we’re honored to be here today.” Mayor Parise and the board of trust-

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Whoever maintains that Reuven literally sinned is simply making an error. For the Torah immediately states, “and the sons of Yaakov were twelve,” teaching that they were all equally righteous. How, then, do I interpret, “and he lay with Bilhah, his father’s concubine”? It means that he relocated his father’s bed, for which the Torah faults him as if he had lain with his father’s wife. (Talmud, Shabbos 55a)

In what way did Reuven violate his father’s bed? When Rochel died,Yaakov took his bed, which always stood in Rochel’s tent, and placed it in Bilhah’s tent. Reuven resented his mother’s humiliation. Said he: “If my mother’s sister was a rival to my mother, shall the handmaid of my mother’s sister be a rival to my mother?” Thereupon he arose and removed Yaakov’s bed. (Rashi)

IDF In Philippines To Assess Typhoon Damage Representatives of the Israeli military landed in the Philippines to evaluate the situation on the ground and determine how Israel can best assist in the wake of Typhoon Haiyan.

The team, including search-and-rescue experts, doctors, and representatives of the Home Front Command, arrived Monday. A representative of the Foreign Ministry arrived with the team, according to Ynet. The Israel Defense Forces plans to send additional doctors and other officers once it receives the go-ahead from the government. The Israeli team plans to set up a field hospi-

tal to treat wounded survivors of the typhoon. The Jewish Federations of North America, Union for Reform Judaism, and American Jewish Joint Distribu-

tion Committee are collecting donations to help the survivors. The ofﬁcial death toll in the typhoon, which made landfall in the central Philippines on Friday, stood at 2,357 on Thursday morning. At least half a million people also have been left homeless by the devastating typhoon. An emergency-response team sent to the Philippines by the Israeli disas-

ter relief organization IsraAID to the areas hardest hit by Typhoon Haiyan also arrived Monday and will be working primarily in Tacloban City in Leyte, one of the areas hardest hit by the typhoon. A larger team is expected to land by the end of the week, according to IsraAID. “On behalf of the government and the people of Israel, I extend heartfelt condolences to the families of those who lost their lives as a result of the horriﬁc typhoon, and I send best wishes for a speedy recovery to those who were injured,” Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu said in a letter to Philippines President Benigno Simeon Aquino III. “I hope Israel’s assistance will help alleviate the suffering of those affected by this disaster.” (JTA) 

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Celebrate Bet El, December 8 One might refer to retired U.S. Army Lt. Col. Ralph Peters as a military Renaissance man. The strategic analyst for Fox News has authored 29 books. He is a columnist for the New York Post, the Wall Street Journal, USA Today, and many other publications. A Pennsylvania native, the son of a coal miner, Peters is also a passionate supporter of Israel. He states quite proudly that his career success has been colored by Jewish formative inﬂuences. “I started reading about Maimonides and other Jewish ﬁgures and when I was at Penn State, Jewish teachers took extra time with me—they saw something.” One thing Peters is certain of is the need to protect Israel. “After the Holocaust, the grimmest and most savage event in history, the survivors, sick and emaciated, struggled their way to Israel and joined the Zionist settlers. They proved that even with sand, with dirt, with fallow earth, they could build a wonderful postmodern state in a matter of decades.”

He said of Israel’s battle for independence, “They were fighting with homemade weapons against tanks and modern arms. There are few David and Goliath stories in history that are so inspiring. Israel is a miraculous success story, and its neighbors share humiliation over watching the Jewish state ascend from a collection of kibbutzim to what it is now.” Some of these patriots came to the United States and are doing all they can for Israel. There are many who took on this great challenge. All you have to do is look at the lives of Jean and Eugen Gluck. Look at their never-ending devotion to Israel and Bet El. Look at the great roles they and other patriots played in the creation and continued flourishing of Bet El. Ralph Peters talks and writes about such devoted individuals every chance he can. If there is only one dinner you can go to this year, it should be the 31st annual American Friends of Bet El

Jean and Eugen Gluck

Yeshiva Center at the Marriott Marquis, December 8. There you will witness, firsthand, the brilliant words of

Ralph Peters concerning Israel, the entire Middle East, and the important role of the United States. You will also rejoice with the all the supporters of this wonderful place called Bet El. With all the news being dominated by Arab propaganda about “Israeli occupation” and “settlements” impeding the “peace process,” here is the true story of what is taking place in Biblical Judea and Samaria. Here there are Jewish communities who are doing nothing but bringing light and warmth to the world, promoting social justice and compassionate values that we can all learn from. Bet El’s extraordinary story began 4,000 years ago, when the patriarch Abraham established it as a camp along his divinely inspired trek through the land of Canaan. Two generations later, Bet El became the site of Jacob’s famous dream and dramatic wrestling match with an angel— the site where the name “Israel” was coined. Beth El has transformed from a tiny community of eight families in 1977 to a vibrant Jewish center, which now houses an ethnically diverse Jewish population of 1,300 families. Bet El is home to the world-renowned Bet El Yeshiva Center, which provides a comprehensive education to students from preschool through post-college. Their graduates have become the leading teachers in yeshivas and high schools across Israel, bringing the spirit of Torah to all. The Raaya Girls High School Academy is celebrated as one of the premier learning centers in all of Israel and can’t accommodate all the girls who want to attend. The National Media Network— Arutz Sheva—with parallel websites in Hebrew, English, and Russian brings a message of optimism and hope to supporters of Israel worldwide. It is a major force in the media today combating the delegitimatization of the State of Israel. BeSheva is the third largest newspaper by circulation in all of Israel, with engaging articles that focus on accomplishments of outstanding individuals

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SERVICES PROVIDED Piano lessons — Qualified piano teacher with 10-years’ experience offering music lessons in your own home. For children of all ages. Beginners and advanced welcome. Contact Gila 347-362-0447 “Kosher” Yoga & Licensed Massage Therapy The Peaceful Presence Studio 436 Central Avenue, Cedarhurst Separate men/ women Women’s aerobic, cardio-strength training; Tai Chi. www.peacefulpresence.com, 516-371-3715 Experienced Rebbe available to learn any limudei kodesh subject with you or your son. References available. 917-842-2587, PrivateRebbe@gmail.com Gemach special for simcha. We provide for you excellent speaker plus MP3 full of Jewish music, plus excellent mike system. Call 718-600-4559 Beautiful business-size cards with Kiruv websites, are available for free (to give to not-yet-Frum people). Please text or call 718-501-2110 “Used or Abused” Before you buy a used car, come in for a free frame (structural) check. Precision Auto Body 691 Burnside Ave, Lawrence. 516-371-1137. Friends don’t let friends drive junk! Boro Park Ladies & Children Coat Gemach accepting gently used coats in excellent condition. Woodmere drop-off. 718-972-3699 Simchas Naava Share your simcha flowers! Be m’sameach other simchas! Donate your fresh flower arrangements! We will match your simcha date with simchas following yours or deliver them to nursing home residents. To donate or obtain flower arrangements call 516-239-6066 In memory of a special friend, Naava Wassner Katlowitz

Small beginners Siddurim, and Shabbos guidebooks, both in Russian, are available for you to distribute. Please call Tashbar Publications at 718-438-9025 (leave message with address, IY”H we will mail them to you for free.) New Table and Chair Gemach for shortterm simchas. 740 Mador Ct., Far Rockaway. Call 718-471-0368 G’Mach Chasdei Yisroel — Lending money to people in Klei Kodesh & for Klei Kodesh purposes. In the Far Rockaway-Five Towns area. Please call 917-822-9910 for more info. Or email shaimag@gmail.com. In Memory of R’ Yisroel Ben Binyamin, a”h.

Personal Chavrusa available for learning and growing understanding the beauty of our Torah. Experience of many years in delivering shiurim to Baalei Batim and all those interested in learning. Reasonable hourly rate. This is a project of Kollel Tiferes Avos. Call 718- 316-3874 or call Rabbi Dov Bressler 718- 327-8903. (Payments are tax deductible.) Retired public school teacher available to tutor men and boys in Hebrew, English, and/or Yiddish in the 5 Towns. Recession buster. Call 718-552-5525 Study with Steve. One-on-one tutoring. SAT Math prep, regents, high school and elementary math, high school physics. Call 516-371-5522 SBG Moving — Prompt, professional, and reliable moving service available for local & long distance moves. Lowest rates between NY and Lakewood. Small jobs welcome! We are insured! 347-276-7422 Menadvim — Furniture and Appliances. Like new to Donate and Receive. Call 718-MEN-ADVIm (718-636-2384) We deliver. Boro Park Ladies Hat Gemach accepting your gently used weekday and Shabbos hats. Woodmere and Kew Gardens Hills drop-offs. 718-972-3211

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HELP WANTED Seeking compassionate and dedicated individuals to work with men who have developmental disabilities within a residential setting in Long Island. Positions include Sunday through Thursday afternoon hours and Thursday, Friday & Saturday overnight hours and Senior Counselor positions. Excellent benefits package, including a free health insurance option for full time employees. Good English communication and writing skills required. Please contact Ohel Bais Ezra 718-686-3213

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Lawrence — New on market large C/H col on beautiful cul-de-sac, oversized property, low taxes, dry finished basement, all systems . . . $1.49M principals only Call Eva 516-984-8769

Valley Stream/Gibson — Co-Op Sd# 14. Open House By Appointment Sunday, November 17th. Please Call Irene. Huge 3 Bedroom, 2 Full Bathroom First Floor Apt With Formal Lr, Formal Dr, Kitchen, Dinette and Many Many Large Closets. In Elevator Building With Private Parking Spot. Reduced!! . $199K neg. Irene Steiner Direct — 516 652-7099 Pugatch Realty Corp Email— isteiner@pugatch.com Lawrence — Open House By Appointment Sunday, November 17th. Please Call Irene. Brand New Exclusive. Prime Block! Large & Elegant Center Hall Colonial With 5 Bedrooms On One Level. 6 Bedrooms in Total, 5.5 New Bathrooms, Large Formal Dr, Large Formal Lr, Large Den W/ Fplc, Large Wood and Granite Eat In Kitchen, Huge Finished Bsmt With Play Room, Wet Bar and Movie Theater And Lots Of Walk In Storage. Reduced . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$1.275M Irene Steiner Direct — 516 652-7099 Pugatch Realty Corp Email— isteiner@pugatch.com Lawrence — Brand New Exclusive! Open House By Appointment Sunday, November 17th. 3/4 Bedroom Center Hall Colonial with Wood & Granite Eik, Formal Living Room W/Fplc, Large Formal Dining Room, Finished Basement. Set Back With Beautiful Golf Course Views . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$1.299M Irene Steiner Direct — 516 652-7099 Pugatch Realty Corp Email— isteiner@pugatch.com Lawrence — 315 Mulry Lane Open House Sunday, November 17th 2 - 3:30 PM. Please Call Irene. Updated 3/4 Bedroom Center Hall Colonial W/Wood and Granite Eat In Kitchen, Hi Ceilings, Front Enclosed Porch, Large Finished Basement. Bring Offers! Reduced! . . . $429K Irene Steiner Direct — 516 652-7099 Pugatch Realty Corp Email— isteiner@pugatch.com

Hewlett Neck — Open House By Appointment Sunday, November 17th. Please Call Irene For Appointment. Amazing New Construction On 275 Hewlett Neck Road. 7 Bedroom, 5,900 Sq Ft Colonial on 35,000 Sq Ft Lot. Double Height Entry Hall, Hi Ceilings, Large Rooms, 2 Laundry Rooms, Magnificent Master Bedroom Suite With Room Size Walk In Closet & Private Terrace, Second Laundry Room, Fireplace, & Luxurious Master Bathroom. High End Finishes Throughout . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$2.250M Irene Steiner Direct — 516 652-7099 Pugatch Realty Corp Email— isteiner@pugatch.com Far Rockaway/Arverne — Brand New Listing! Lovely 2 Bedroom First Floor Condo For Sale, Built in 2009. Steps Beach. Beautiful Water Views! . . . . . . . . . . . . .$285K Also For Rent . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $1325 month Irene Steiner Direct — 516 652-7099 Pugatch Realty Corp Email— isteiner@pugatch.com Woodmere Park — Open House By Appointment Sunday, November 17th. Please Call Irene For appointment. Spacious & Beautifully Renovated 5 Bedroom Split, Large Wood/Granite Eat In Kitchen W/ SS Appliances, Den. Large Living Room and Large Formal Dining Room, Circular Drive With Attached 2 Car Garage. Reduced!! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$899K neg. Irene Steiner Direct — 516 652-7099 Pugatch Realty Corp Email— isteiner@pugatch.com

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Lawrence — Grand prestigious classic col. 5-6BR, huge kitchen, den, basement, attic space private property, great location, convenient to all . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $1M+ Call Norma 516-239-8870 or 516-410-8870 Cedarhurst — 5BR, 3bth, EIK/ LR/ DR, large den, 2-car garage, large backyard with in-ground pool. Near Shuls, shopping, and LIRR. Asking . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$725K Call/ text 718-612-1300 Cedarhurst — Co-op. Elevator building, 2BR, 2bth, terrace, second floor, fully alarmed, bright, 1240+ sq.ft., new refrigerator, 2 new A/C, parking available . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$298K negotiable Call 516-374-4047 Bayswater — 4224 sq.ft. house, split-level, 4BR, cathedral ceiling living and dining rooms. Asking . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $425,000 Joe Hersh, Noam Realty 212-431-1234 Stunning luxury new penthouse on exclusive Alharizi St. Quiet, green, 4-5BR, 3bths, 170 SQM on two floors, 3 succah balconies. Situated in a beautiful classic building with one apartment per floor, with shabbat elevator, private parking and private storage. 516-589-4935, 972-52-331-1321 Split for sale in North Woodmere on an oversized lot in SD#15. For sale by owner . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$679K Call 347-632-7504 Lawrence — New To Mkt., Exclusive Area, Fully Renovated, 5BR, 4Bths, 2 Dens, 2 Decks. all systems, large Prop., Playrm. Mint, Call: 516-322-4360

Woodmere— Open House By appointment. 942 Carol Ave. Call Joan First show, ours alone, split level, LR, FDR, EIK with skylights, 4BR, den, SD#14, prime location. Walk all . . . . . . . . . . . . .$479K 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 or call Joan 516-319-4482 Lawrence — Co-op. First floor. Beautiful, spacious, light and bright 2BR, 2bth (1 Jacuzzi), new kosher granite kitchen, FDR, sunken LR, high ceilings, in prestigious elevator building. Low maintenance, walk all . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$379K 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 Cedarhurst — Open House By Appointment. Call Joan 516-319-4482. New to market, beautiful total renovated 1BR, 1.5bth, first floor co-op with private patio and garden, top of the line everything, w/d, low maintenance, parking, great location, walk all asking . . . . . . . . . . . . $299K 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710, or call Joan 516-319-4482 Lawrence — Co-op. First floor. Beautiful, spacious, light and bright 2BR, 2bth (1 Jacuzzi), new kosher granite kitchen, FDR, sunken LR, high ceilings, in prestigious elevator building. Low maintenance, walk all . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$379K 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 Flatbush in the mid 30s— 1-family, semi-attached, 3BR, 1.5bths, large EIK, FDR, finished basement, private drive/ garage, large nice backyard, price reduced! Call Yehuda 718-501-4003 Cedarhurst — New construction. First show. Col. 9’ ceilings, 5BR, 2.5bths, full basement, on quiet tree-lined street. Call for details . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$950K 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 Far Rockaway: Coop, 3Br, 1Bth Lr/Dr, Walk to All . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$179K Call 516-322-3555

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Lawrence/Far Rockaway — Co-op Freshly painted large 2BR, 2bth, kosher kitchen, LR, FDR, terrace, 24-hour doorman, Shabbos elevator. Walk all. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$329K 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710

Cedarhurst — No fee. 5BR, EIK/ LR/ DR, 2-car garage, no water damage from Sandy, great location. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$4,000/month Call/ text 718-612-1300

Woodmere/Cedarhurst Oppty! 12,000 sq. ft. approx. 90’x150’, Colonial, 17 rooms, full bsmt. with hi ceilings, clean 2 car garage plus storage, 6 space parking, 2 family, professional use, accountant, Esq., medical and/or educational and religious uses. Grand colonial with charm and great possibilities. Available at once . $875K Negotiable. Owner 516-322-3555

Lawrence — First show. Large 1BR, garden apt on first floor, new kitchen, bth, LR/ DR, parking, heat & storage included. Prime location, walk all . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$1450 5 Towns Homes 516-569-5710

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REAL ESTATE FOR SALE Old Woodmere — Open House by appointment Classic 3BR CH col. on huge country-like property. Exquisite custom kitchen, oversized den. Great open flow. Walk to all. Must see. present all offers! No flood! Reduced to . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $599K Old Woodmere — Grand 5 bedroom expanded ranch on cul-de-sac with huge basement. Oversized double lot, must see . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$800’s Woodmere — Open House by appointment Traditional all brick CH col. 4BR on 1 level. LR with Fpl.Formal DR. Large EIK. Full finished basement. Across the street from Aish. No flood! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$649K Woodmere —Walk To Irving Place Minyan New Construction. Walk to all. Classic custom built CH col. Grand two-story entry foyer. 5BR, 4.5Bths. 9’ ceilings. Huge open flow. Full Basement. Too much to mention. See the plans & specifications. If you are dreaming of the perfect home, call Susan for all the possibilities. Academy area, Woodmere — New Construction. Classic 7BR, 4.5Bth. CH col. Fabulous entry foyer. 9’ ceilings. LR with fireplace. Large FDR. Huge Kosher EIK. Top-of-the-line. 2-car garage. Huge oversized property. Walk to Young Israel and Aish. Come view the plans and specifications. South Shore Estates 516-569-4980 Cedarhurst Co-op — Open House Sunday 11/17 12-1:30 545 Central Ave. Apt. 39B Call Joan 516-319-4482. Co-op. Gorgeous. Totally renovated, pristine condition, spacious, 2BR, 2 new bths, custom granite kitchen, terrace, just move right in, great location, walk all. Price reduced! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $285K 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 Cedarhurst — New construction. First show. Col. 9’ ceilings, 5BR, 2.5bths, full basement, on quiet tree-lined street. Call for details . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$950K 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 Lawrence — Open House BA. Call Joan 516319-4482 Brick, C/H COL, Stately brick, w/old world charm, Hi ceilings, 6Br, 4.5 bths, Kosher EIK, Lg. FDR, Library, Fin. Bsmt., Lg Prop., walk all. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $875K 5 TOWN HOMES 516-569-5710

Lawrence/Far Rockaway — 833 Central Ave. Spacious 1 BR, light and bright, doorman/elevator building, walk all. Price reduced . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$179K 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 Far Rockaway — 2 Family. All NU, 3 over 1 Bdrm, 3 full baths. Great Location . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $599K Call 516-322-3555

FOR RENT Lawrence —Newly renovated Center Hall Colonial on culde-sac. Cent’l location/Walk to all shuls. New EIK w/ stainless steel appliances. Hi Ceilings. Wood floors/moldings. 5 large BR, Library/Den, FDR, Backyard. Avail. Immed . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $4,500 per/mo 917-455-7376 Apt for Rent. New to market, available immediately, beautiful 3BR, 2bth. Great location, Meehan and Beach 6th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $1950 including heat. Please call 718-471-8444 ext. 213 Far Rockaway — Rental New to Market 4BR duplex, brand new everything! New appliances, modern baths, wood floors, new deck, A must see! Asking . . . . . . . . . . . . $2,500 516-506-3447 Chaya Moller Bayswater Rental — New To Market! 3 Bedroom, 2 Full Bath Hi Ranch House Rental With Large Basement For Storage, Garage And Pvt Driveway. Beautiful Water Views . . . $1850/month Irene Steiner Direct — 516 652-7099 Pugatch Realty Corp Email— isteiner@pugatch.com

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Kew Gardens — Furnished apt. 2.5 rooms in private house, private entrance. E & F trains & LIRR, Suitable for single, references required. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $1100 w/utilities. 718-846-2957 Far Rockaway — Newly renovated apts in 2-family houses, 2BR & 3BR apts. Call for details. 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 or call Joan 516-319-4482 Far Rockaway — New to market. Renovated 3/4BR apt in private house. New kitchen, LR, DR, 1.5bths. Walk all. Call Joan 516-319-4482 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 Lawrence — Renovated 2BR for rent. Central Ave. location. New kitchen, terrace. Call Sherri @ Weissman Realty 516-297-7995 Far Rockaway — Lg. Hse Rental: 4br, 2bth, bsmt., hiceilings, NU bths, W\D. Call 516-322-3555 Cedarhurst — House for rent. LR, FDR, kosher kitchen, den, 4+BR, basement. On quiet street. . . . . . . . . . . .$3,400 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 Belle Harbor — Beach 136th Street— 4BR, 2bth, Sept.-June. Unfurnished or furnished. Ideal for family that goes to Mountains for summer. $2,000 plus utilities, negotiable. 917-749-9060 Lawrence/FR border — Large 3BR Apt available for rent, 1st FL Private entrance in 2Fam house, Separate large LR and DR, Prime location, Excellent condition. Please call 516-322-3555

VACATION RENTAL Sharei Chesed — Enjoy this beautiful cozy studio. Private house, Under floor heating, A/C, beautiful linen, kitchen. Book now! Puzzles Property Management: puzzlesisrael@gmail.com, 052-484-2481, 914-294-3919 Alexander Hotel, Miami Beach — Recently updated. 2BR apt. Breathtaking views, 2bths, southern exposure, 10th floor. 516-581-2058, 516-374-4001

COMMERCIAL REAL ESTATE FOR SALE Cedarhurst — 3,000SF beautiful office space only . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $18 psf Call For Details. Randy Green 516-295-3000, info@Pugatch.com Valley Stream — Free Standing Office Bldg For Sale, Corner Lot, 2000SF, Only. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$245K Call For Details. Randy Green 516-295-3000, info@Pugatch.com Lynbrook — Full Equipped Deli/Bagel, Great Exposure & Location & Parking, High Traffic, Call For More Details. 516-295-3000, info@Pugatch.com The best Location in town!!! Central Ave, Cedarhurst Corner 1900SF 516-295-3000, info@Pugatch.com

COMMERCIAL REAL ESTATE FOR RENT Woodmere — Retail and office space for rent. Main street location, will divide. First floor, 25,00 sq.ft. + basement $3900 per month. Second floor 3500 sq.ft. . . . . . . . . . $4400 per month Village Plaza 516-840-5124

COMMERCIAL REAL ESTATE FOR RENT Store for rent— Boro Park— Two stories ideal for bank or high-volume business. 4406 and 4408 16th Ave. Each store $3500, together . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$6000 Also, 976 McDonald Avenue between Webster &18th Ave. with basement and yard . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$2000 Call owner 917-806-2206 2000SF Storage Warehouse Lynbrook $2750 Per Mo. O’h’ New Bath 1 Block To Sunrise Hwy 516-295-3000, info@Pugatch.com 380SF office in nice offic e bldg. Broadway, Lynbrook by Sunrise Hwy . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $800 includes all 516-295-3000, info@Pugatch.com Valley Stream — Former dental office all plumbed great location Central Ave . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$3700 per mo. 516-295-3000, info@Pugatch.com Lawrence — Rockaway Tpke former pizzeria $3500 mo great location great parking no key money 516-295-3000, info@Pugatch.com Inwood — 12,000SF Warehouse W/O’h’ Door & Offic es. Minutes To JFK very reasonable 516-295-3000, info@Pugatch.com Cedarhurst—Professional Office Space for Rent. Prime Location 125 Cedarhurst Ave, Public Parking Lot, Next To HSBC Bank, Best Location in Town. Fully Air Conditioned. Open Layout. Plenty of Sunlight 325 Sq. Ft.$1200 Per Month Call Diana 718-762-2233 Rockville Centre — 3,500 sq. ft., fully wired for Web, partitioned, will divide. Call 516-322-3555

VACATION REAL ESTATE FOR SALE Income Producing Shopping Center for Sale in Sullivan County 100% Leased with Long Term Leases In Place & Additional Air Rights Available $1,900,000- 9.7% CAP Contact Yosef Katz @ 212-837-4629 or ykatz@gficap.com

VACATION REAL ESTATE FOR SALE Vacation Village 2 fl, 4 BR, LR, 3 new bth, playrm, WD, beautiful view. 516-967-8370

MISCELLANEOUS Yeshiva of South Shore has some membership openings in its burial society. By purchasing an individual, couple or family membership, you will be ensured of select plots in one of several New York area cemeteries of your choosing. For more information on burial society membership, call the Yeshiva at 516-374-7363 x12 or societies@yoss.org

LEGAL NOTICE Ari Emmanuel LLC, a domestic LLC, filed with the SSNY on 9/10/2013. Office location Nassau County. SSNY is designated as agent upon whom process against the LLC may be served. SSNY shall mail process to: The LLC, 35 Derby Street, Valley Stream, NY 11356. General Purposes.

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865/13. - 866/13. INWOOD - Gregory & Francine Mantovani, Variances, lot area, height, front yard average setback, side yard, rear yard, maintain 2-family dwelling (2nd kitchen located in basement); Maintain detached 3-car garage with storage above (not permitted), less than required side & rear yard setbacks & higher than permitted., S/s Narrow La., 95’ E/o Wahl Ave., a/k/a 156 Narrow La.

Pursuant to New York State Town Law Article 16, New York State Public Officers Law Article 7, and the Town of Hempstead Building Zone Ordinance, NOTICE is hereby given that the BOARD OF APPEALS of the Town of Hempstead will hold a public hearing in the Town Meeting Pavilion, Town Hall Plaza, One Washington Street, Hempstead, New York on 11/20/2013 at 9:30 A.M. to consider the following applications and appeals: ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------THE FOLLOWING CASES WILL BE CALLED STARTING AT 9:30 A.M. 857/13. MERRICK - David A. & Lynn R. Dreifuss, Maintain 4’ high fence forward of dwelling which may substantially obstruct line of sight., N/s Oliver Way, 180’ W/o Wynsum Ave., a/k/a 2127 Oliver Way 858/13. OCEANSIDE - Carol Radin, Variance, lot area occupied, construct 1-story addition with deck above & 2nd story addition, all attached to dwelling., W/s Carrel Blvd., 1,812.94’ W/o Candee Ct., a/k/a 4024 Carrel Blvd. 859/13. ELMONT - Angelo Pironi, Variances, subdivision of lot, lot area, construct dwelling with garage., W/s Lucille Ave., 260’ S/o Russell St. 860/13. ELMONT - Angelo Pironi, Variances, subdivision of lot, lot area, construct dwelling with garage (demolish existing dwelling & garage)., W/s Lucille Ave., 310’ S/o Russell St 861/13. MERRICK - Jill Wexler, Install 6’ high fence forward of the dwelling which may substantially obstruct line of sight., N/s James St., 70’ W/o Covered Bridge Rd., a/k/a 1677 James St. 862/13. - 863/13. FRANKLIN SQUARE - Yodhapattie Bripnauth, Use variance, maintain 3rd kitchen as religious use in legal 2-family dwelling; Variance, side yard, maintain a/c unit attached to dwelling., W/s Catherine Ave., 100’ N/o Park Ave.,

867/13. BELLMORE - Gary Anderson, Variance, lot area occupied, construct dwelling., W/s Shore Rd., 371’ S/o Navy Pl., a/k/a 406 Shore Rd. 868/13. - 869/13. BELLMORE - Meadow Properties, LLC., Use variance to maintain the conversion of office space to apartment (totaling 8); Waive off-street parking., S/E cor. N. Jerusalem Rd. & Sterling St., a/k/a 2510 N. Jerusalem Rd. (Negative Declaration issued under S.E.Q.R.) 870/13. - 872/13. BELLMORE - Meadow Properties, LLC., Use variance to maintain 1-family dwelling converted to 2-family dwelling & maintain retail building converted to 2-family dwelling both on same lot; Variance in off-street parking & insufficient maneuvering aisle; special exception to park in Res. “B” District; Special exception to maintain accessory structure (shed)., S/s N. Jerusalem Rd., 65.12’ W/o Sterling St., a/k/a 2492 & 2496 N. Jerusalem Rd. (Negative Declaration issued under S.E.Q.R.) 873/13. - 876/13. NR GARDEN CITY - 750 Zeckendorf, LLC, Special exceptions to use premises for place of public assembly & amusement & exceed floor area ratio (proposed fitness complex & parking garage) (demolish existing structure); Variance in off-street parking & special exception to park in the front yard setback on Zeckendorf Blvd.; Install illuminated double-faced monument sign (not permitted) setback 5’ on Zeckendorf Blvd.; Install illuminated doublefaced monument sign (not permitted) setback 3’ on East Gate Dr.(a/k/a Dibblee Dr.), S/W cor. Zeckendorf Blvd. & East Gate Dr., a/k/a 750 Zeckendorf Blvd. (S.E.Q.R. determination not made) ALL PAPERS PERTAINING TO THE ABOVE HEARING ARE AVAILABLE FOR INSPECTION AT THE BOARD OF APPEALS, TOWN HALL, 1 WASHINGTON STREET, HEMPSTEAD, NY 11550.

a/k/a 300 Catherine Ave. (Negative Declaration issued under S.E.Q.R.)

Interested parties may appear at the above time and place. At the call of the Chairman, the Board will consider decisions on the foregoing and those on the Reserve Decision calendar and such other matters as may properly come before it.

864/13. MERRICK - Jerome Rosen, Variance, side yards ag-

By order of the Board of Appeals,

gregate, maintain bi-level wood deck attached to dwelling., E/s Monterey Dr., 150’ S/o Glenn La., a/k/a 3153 Monterey Dr.

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Bet El Continued from Page 94 and institutions throughout Israel. It encourages all Israelis to be better citizens. The People of Bet El are also blazing a trail for the military struggle for the defense of the land and people of Israel. The mission of the Israeli Defense Forces Gluck Preparatory Academy is to strengthen the adolescent spirit and character before young adults enter the Israeli army. There are hundreds of students who changed their lives for the better at Bet El and went on to serve Israel filled with spiritual strength, and with a desire to serve in elite units and as officers. How was this spiritual oasis created? What makes it thrive? We have to go back over 30 years ago when Yom Kippur War hero and Knesset Member Yaakov “Ketzaleh” Katz, along with a few families and yeshiva students, had a vision of what Bet El could be. With three decades of tireless help from Jean and Eugen Gluck and the American Friends of Bet El, the town is now a vibrant center of Jewish life that nurtures all of Israel in a way that no other center of learning matches. Because Bet El is not just a learning center, it is a way of life. The story of Bet El is the story of the heart of Israel. It is where Avraham first proclaimed the Oneness of G-d, and it is where Avraham’s children now nurture the passion of Israeli life. When you look at the people of Bet El today, you see in spirit the people of 4,000 years ago and all the generations in between, with the glow of G-d around them. You see people smiling with the knowledge of the meaning of their existence: to help one another, to further the teachings of Torah, to help Israel live, and to be the foundation of Jewish life in the entire world. The establishment and flourishing of this community is a tremendous accomplishment for the entire Jewish people. All who support Israel should support the heart of Israel—Bet El. On December 8, at the Marriott Marquis Ballroom in Manhattan, American Friends of Bet El will honor the residents and supporters of the northern Samarian town who have toiled selflessly for the survival and growth of their community and the State of Israel. Now in its 31st year, the American Friends of Bet El dinner has become one of New York City’s largest and most prestigious Jewish events, with last year’s dinner attracting an astounding 1,500 attendees. The American Friends of Bet El will honor these deserving supporters: Shomer Yisrael Honorees: Barbara and David Bortniker Aishet Chayil Honoree: Sylvia Freyer Shomer Bet El Honorees: Rachel and Joshua Goldsmith Young Leadership Honorees: Aliza and Elchanan Romanoff The event will begin with a 5:00 p.m. with a smorgasbord, leading into dinner at 6:00 p.m. Tickets are $500 per couple. To make your res-

Barbara and David Bortniker

Sylvia Freyer

Rachel and Joshua Goldsmith

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ervation, call 718-482-4134 or 718-2688291. Bet El today is living up to its legacy established thousands of years ago—a Divine home, where G-dly lives are being built and are flourishing. Just as Yaakov wrestled and prevailed over Eisav’s archangel over three millennia ago, Beth El today serves as a reminder of Jewish pride and perseverance—prevailing over all our current enemies. Israel will survive, prosper, and grow because of the brave souls who inhabit it and its friends and supporters all over the world who will never turn their backs on it. A key reason that Israel will be all these things is there is a place called Bet El. Come join building Bet El today, and continue the tradition established by Avraham and Yaakov over 35 centuries ago. 

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DAF YOMI INSIGHTS By Rabbi Avrohom Sebrow

K’vyachol Many times in the course of divrei Torah and conversation, the Hebrew word “k’vyachol” is used. I conducted an unscientiﬁc study and concluded that people generally understand the word to convey that the statement referenced is merely allegorical. When people ascribe human attributes to Hashem, they add in the word “k’vyachol.” However, those that learn the daf came across the word this week, and Rashi offers two precise explanations that differ from the simple deﬁnition of allegorical. There is an argument (Yoma 3b) regarding how we are to understand the pesukim in the Torah when Moshe is told by Hashem “kach lecha.” Rebbe Yoshiya understands the directive to mean that Moshe Rabbeinu should use his own funds to purchase whatever items were mentioned in the pasuk. Therefore, when Moshe Rabbeinu was told to take the spices that are used for the ketores, he was to purchase them from his own funds. The Rashash explains that generally the spices are purchased from communal funds, but the ketores used during the inauguration of the Mishkan was paid for by Moshe Rabbeinu.

Rebbe Yonason disagrees and says that even the spices used for the ketores during the Mishkan’s inauguration had to be purchased with communal funds. The use of the phrase “kach lecha” was meant to convey a message. “K’vayachol, I want yours more than theirs.” Rashi’s ﬁrst explanation of the word “k’vyachol” is that the word means “if it were possible.” Hashem told Moshe “If it were possible for the funds for the ketores to come from an individual, I would prefer that they come from you instead of from Klal Yisrael.” However, it is not possible since the funds for the ketores have to come from communal sources. It is interesting to note that according to this understanding, the word “k’vyachol” was said by Hashem. According to Rashi’s ﬁrst pshat, the word “k’vyachol” means if it were possible and may have many possible usages. The second explanation mentioned in Rashi is that the Gemara is mentioning the word “k’vyachol” as an introduction to the quote that is about to be ascribed to Hashem. Hashem was conveying that He was upset at Klal Yisrael on account of their aveiros and therefore preferred Moshe Rabbeinu’s funds to theirs. The Gemara adds the word “k’vyachol” to convey the message that we are able to say this only because this is what

the Torah says. On our own, we would never want to utter such a derogatory statement about Klal Yisrael, but we are able to say it, k’vyachol, because that is what is said in the Torah. Tosfos Rabbeinu Peretz says that the word “k’vyachol” is actually a synthesis of two terms. “K’v” and “yachol.” The numerical value of the Hebrew term “KV” is 22. On account of the Torah which is written with 22 letters, we are able, yachol, to say the statement. In a similar vein, Tosfos Shantz says that the word “k’vayachol” is an abbreviation of the words “kasuv baTorah yachol lomrah,” “since it is stated in the Torah we are able to say it.” The Maharsha offers another explanation of the Gemara. He seems to follow Rashi’s ﬁrst explanation. Hashem told Moshe k’vayachol that he prefers his funds to Klal Yisrael’s. The “fallacy” is that all funds really belong to Hashem anyway. Hashem was intimating that if anyone would merit to actually have ownership of their own funds it would be Moshe Rabbeinu. To connect this idea to the masechta we just completed, it is worth noting that

The Cry Of Eisav: A Lesson For The Ages Yaakov fears for his life as he’s preparing to finally meet his brother Eisav after 34 years, knowing his brother has been plotting to kill him all this time. The tension builds as the inevitable encounter approaches and Yaakov is preparing both physically and mentally. When they finally meet, the Torah tells us (Vayishlach 33:4) that Eisav runs towards Yaakov, hugs him, falls on his neck, and kisses him, and he and his twin brother cry together. There is a discussion in the Midrash cited in Rashi (d’h Vayishakeihu) about whether or not Eisav’s hug and kiss were sincere. But all seem to be in agreement that his cry was genuine. While the affection in a hug and a kiss can be feigned, crying is a natural reaction to a deep-felt emotion that is difficult to fake. R’ Samson Raphael Hirsch explains that despite the person Eisav became, the cry exhibits the fact that he was a grandson of Avraham Avinu. There was a humaneness to the wild hunter. We begin to see the “good” side of Eisav. But how did Eisav suddenly change his course and decide not to murder his brother after all the years of planning to do so? What exactly was Eisav crying about? What internal emotion evoked such a response? Whatever it was, it seemed to relate to Yaakov as well, as the pasuk states “and they cried.” Rashi cites an opinion in the Midrash regarding what caused Eisav’s mercy to become suddenly aroused. It was due to seeing the number of times Yaakov and

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Rabbi Avrohom Sebrow leads a daf yomi chaburah at Eitz Chayim of Dogwood Park in West Hempstead and is a rebbi at Mesivta Kesser Yisroel of Willowbrook. He can be contacted at ASebrow@gmail.com.

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the Rashba holds that when someone gives his machatzis hashekel during the times of the Beis HaMikdash he does not make a berachah. This is due to the fact that he isn’t actually giving anything. The funds belong to Hashem regardless. The daf yomi just ﬁnished masechta Shekalim (Yerushalmi) and proceeded to Yoma. Although in the Vilna Shas, Rosh Hashanah precedes Yoma, Rabbi David Feder said that in the Slavuta Shas, Yoma comes after Shekalim. The founder of the daf yomi, rosh yeshiva of Yeshiva Chochmei Lublin, HaRav Meir Shapiro, zt’l, was a cousin of the Slavuta/Zhitomir printing press owners. Therefore he followed their order. Further, the mishnayos also have Rosh Hashanah later, and this accords with the Rambam and Rav Sherira Gaon, who explain that Rosh Hashanah is not before Yoma. 

his family bowed to him out of respect. Eisav saw how Yaakov still respected him despite the decisions he had made, and he could not hold back tears. Eisav was an apple that fell far from the tree but was able to feel connected again to his family, and it was the unconditional positive regard which Yaakov showed him that evoked such an emotional response. Unlike the first time Eisav cried, when he missed out on his father’s berachah, this time Eisav’s cry was heard. Yaakov joined in the cry with his brother, as he too longed for a rekindling of the relationship. Towards the end of the parashah, the Torah tells us that Eisav left Eretz Yisrael with his family, not as a result of any hatred or conflict with Yaakov’s family, but rather due to practical considerations regarding living space. Furthermore, when his father Yitzchak dies, he joins his brother Yaakov to help with the burial. Despite the destiny of their children to be at arms for generations to come, it seems that Yaakov and Eisav are at peace as a result of this meeting. Whatever the reasons were that Eisav chose the direction he did, despite their differences, Yaakov never gave up on his brother and continued to treat him with proper respect. May this be a lesson to all of us, as Bnei Yaakov, to realize that no matter what decisions others make, they always deserve our respect and we should always be ready to welcome them home.  Rabbi Chesky Gewirtz is the rabbi of Congregation Beis Tefillah of North Woodmere. For questions or comments, contact cheskyg@gmail.com.

Community News From Around The World Historic Sales: Over $1 Billion In Israel Bond Investments Annual Israel Bond investments in the U.S. domestic market exceeded $1 billion for the first time, as 2013 sales broke through the historic threshold in early November and continue to surge. With six weeks remaining in the year, it is anticipated domestic investments in Israel bonds will surpass $1.1 billion. By comparison, U.S. Israel bond investments for 2011 were $634 million. For 2012, they reached $816 million, which, at the time, represented an all-time high for domestic Israel bond sales. In praising the record results, Sigalit Siag, Israel’s chief fiscal officer for the Western hemisphere, applauded the Bonds organization for “proving itself once again as a reliable source of funding for Israel’s economy.” She cited the organization’s “unique ability to raise capital,” as well as its success in securing sales from “a strong, diverse investor base.” Bonds Chairman of the Board Richard Hirsch said the record sales “solidify the reputation of the Bonds organization as a dependable economic and strategic resource for Israel.” Added President and CEO Izzy Tapoohi: “The $1 billion achievement dispels the notion that Israel bonds are bought in great numbers only when Israel confronts a crisis. Today, Israel bonds are perceived not only as a gesture of solidarity, but as an opportunity to become a stakeholder in one of the world’s most resilient economies.” The Development Corporation for Israel, commonly known as Israel Bonds, offers investments that diversify portfolios and preserve capital. Capital realized through the sale of Israel bonds has developed every aspect of Israel’s economy, enabling cutting-edge innovation that saves lives and changes the world on a daily basis. Recognized as a valued economic and strategic resource, the Bonds organization has secured global sales exceeding $35 billion since the first bonds were issued in 1951. 

Danny Ayalon Appointed Visiting Professor Israeli diplomat and politician Danny Ayalon has been appointed the Rennert Visiting Professor of Foreign Policy Studies at Yeshiva University

for the spring 2014 semester. A former deputy foreign minister, Ayalon will teach on both the Wilf Campus at Yeshiva College and the Israel Henry Beren Campus at Stern College for Women, and will participate in public lectures and events. “Ambassador Ayalon will surely bring to his professorial role at Yeshiva the same commitment to the State of Israel, to integrity, to thoughtful discourse and careful analysis of the geopolitical world, that he brought so successfully to his assignments in the foreign service and foreign ministry,” said YU President Richard M. Joel. “We are delighted to welcome Danny as a visiting professor.” Ayalon served in Israel’s Foreign Service for over 20 years, most recently as deputy foreign minister from 2008 until 2012. During his diplomatic career, Ayalon was a political advisor to three different prime ministers: Ehud Barak, Benjamin Netanyahu, and Ariel Sharon. In 2002, he was appointed by then Prime Minister Sharon and Foreign Minister Shimon Peres as Israel’s ambassador to the United States, a time during which Israel–U.S. relations significantly improved. Upon his retirement from diplomatic service in 2006, Ayalon joined Nefesh B’Nefesh, an organization committed to revitalizing aliyah, and the Or Movement for settlement in the Negev and the Galilee. In February 2009, Ayalon was sworn in as a member of Knesset representing the Yisrael Beiteinu party. Ayalon recently founded The Truth About Israel, a nonprofit organization to combat attempts to delegitimize Israel and strengthen its political status and image. He also serves as chairman of the advisory board of Gisa Singer Even, a leading Israeli investment-banking firm. “I am honored to join the distinguished faculty of Yeshiva University, led by President Richard Joel,” said Ayalon. “This institution is exceptional in its support of the State of Israel and in spreading knowledge and education that have always made it a center of excellence. I look forward to a fruitful, insightful, and stimulating dialogue with our students.” Ayalon received his undergraduate degree in economics from Tel Aviv University and an MBA from Bowling Green State Univer-

sity. In 2005, he received the Brandeis Award from the Baltimore Jewish community and in 2008 he received the Builder of Jerusalem Award from Aish HaTorah. 

The Great Vintage Event, November 20 Never before have golden oldies been so enticing. With the first-of-its-kind Great Vintage Event set to take place this month, benefiting the Shidduch Initiative at Ohr Naava, fashion-conscious women and girls will have the unique opportunity to sift through stunning vintage styles, snag brand-name bargains, and spend quality time with friends. They’ll get to shop the past, while building the future. Founded in February 2012, the Shidduch Initiative at Ohr Naava has generated a virtual matchmaking revolution. Masterfully headed by Rabbi Chaim Tuvia Hanson and a team of volunteer shadchanim, including Zipporah Ginsburg, Judy Bodner, and Lisa Elefant of Binyan Adei Ad, this groundbreaking program offers dating girls personalized guidance, continuous encouragement, and extensive networking opportunities. With monthly “meet the shadchan” get-togethers, oneon-one appointments, and fun singles events, the Shidduch Initiative provides critical emotional and practical support at this often difficult life juncture. Now, at the Great Vintage Event scheduled for Wednesday, November 20, Ohr Naava has gathered under one roof the most sought-after vintage vendors, enabling women from across the tri-state area to savor the most fabulous trends of the past few decades while assisting the Shidduch Initiative. Sponsored by Day Five Sushi, The Madison Wig Company, and My Mother’s Armoire, a popular Brooklyn vintage shop anxiously awaiting their storefront grand-opening later this month, proceeds from the event will allow the shidduch division to grow and offer more services to the singles of our community, as well as recruit more volunteers to help with the cause. “We are avid fans of Ohr Naava, and particularly their shidduch program,” say Shevy Goldman and Eva Muller, the chic mother–daughter team behind My Mother’s Armoire, whose mantra is to keep the past ever present. “What bet-

ter way to combine our expertise in vintage and love for the cause?” Also set to showcase at the event—which will run from 11:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m. and then 7:00–10:00 p.m. at 815 Kings Highway in Brooklyn—are exclusive vintage shops like Bella Chic Vintage, The Frock Swap, Nitzarella, The Pink Rack, Red Feather Vintage, Riki Wagh & Design, The Stubborn Bow, The Vintage Basement, Vintage Is In, and Viv and Bea. As visitors browse through the handpicked sartorial offerings (after enjoying valet parking), they’ll be presented with authentic gourmet sushi and salads for sale from Day Five, plus a rare in-person appearance by Adi Heyman, the wildly popular stylist and founder of Fabologie.com, a unique blog that highlights the season’s latest fashions while emphasizing dignity and class. Admission is $20 in advance and $25 at the door, and each admission ticket enters visitors into a rafﬂe to win a vintage Chanel bracelet donated by Adi Heyman herself. But whether you’re a seasoned fashionista or aspiring couturiere, The Great Vintage Event volunteer coordinator Nitza Loketch asserts that the Great Vintage Event is one dayand-night experience you don’t want to miss. “When has shopping ever been this fun?” she says. “It’s fun, it’s fashion, and it’s a powerful z’chus—all mixed in one.” 

Ohel Marriage Webinar Draws Hundreds Over 200 participants, from New York to Los Angeles, Toronto to Israel, attended Ohel’s recent live and free webinar “Enhancing the Marital Relationship.” Leading Ohel marriage and family experts Dr. Hindie M. Klein and Simcha Feuerman, LCSW-R, provided professional insights into the spousal relationship and practical steps to uplift any marriage. The “12 Transformational Tools to Defuse Marital Conﬂict” that were presented were based on Rabbi Feuerman’s new book Marriage 911, which he coauthored with his wife, Chaya Feuerman, LCSW-R. Dr. Hindie Klein, Ohel’s director of clinical projects, commented, “The number and diversity of attendees— from spouses to mental-health professionals, and from geographical locations around the globe—reﬂects a universal understanding of the increasing everyday challenges that can strain any good marriage. To see such proactive engagement by couples and professionals is highly commendable.” Some of the tools discussed included how to properly manage anxiety, and how to root out passive-aggressive behavior. Another key tool emphasized was never turn down an

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Community News Continued from Page 103 apology, as well as to take full responsibility for your part of the problem. Simcha Feuerman, Ohel’s director of operations, conveyed that “with over 44 years of experience in the community, Ohel is the go-to source for expertise and experience in mental health, and now, via the Web, is reaching an audience far and wide.” For those that missed the live webinar, the entire session was recorded, and is live on ohelfamily.org. On Tuesday, November 19, at 7:30 p.m., Ohel will be hosting another free, live webinar, directed towards caregivers in the “sandwich generation”. The webinar is in part sponsored through a grant from the Claims Conference. As the baby-boom generation comes of age, more and more people ﬁnd themselves confronted by the challenges of caring for their aging parents, while simultaneously supporting their own children. The webinar will provide practical advice on how to address the many issues and ensure a high quality of life for our loved ones. Harriet Blank, LCSW-R, a noted expert in gerontology and Ohel’s director of geriatric services, will be co-leading the webinar with Dr. Hindie M. Klein, Ohel’s director of clinical projects. Dr. Klein notes, “Today, parents and loved ones are living longer. As the generation of aging adults continues to grow, caregiving becomes more and more of a universal concern. Many in the sandwich generation know how overwhelm-

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ing caregiving can become. Who comes ﬁrst, your children and husband or your aging loved one? And is there ever any room left for you? How can you learn to juggle successfully? This webinar will provide a wealth of information on one of the most important topics of today, and will include practical suggestions on how you can take care of everyone, including yourself!” You can register for free at: www.ohelfamily.org/webinar. Since 1969, Ohel Children’s Home and Family Services has served as a dependable haven of individual and family support, helping people of all ages surmount everyday challenges, heal from trauma, and manage with strength and dignity during times of crises. Driven by service excellence, Ohel’s professional staff meet the myriad social service needs of the general community, while at the same time providing culturally-sensitive services to the Jewish community, including Yiddish, Hebrew, and Russian speakers. Through highly-rated foster care, developmental disability, mental-health, and other programs and services, Ohel provides supportive housing, treatment, care coordination, education, outreach, and much more to elevate lives and strengthen individuals and communities in New York City, Long Island, New Jersey, Florida, California, and worldwide on the Web. 

Cheryl Mandel In Oceanside On Monday night, November 11, men and women at the Young Israel of Oceanside were greatly inspired by the words of Cheryl Mandel, a visiting guest

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Cheryl Mandel with Miriam Baum Benkoe

speaker bought to the U.S. by One Family Fund Together. One Family Fund (www.onefamilyfundtogether.org) is Israel’s premier organization that supports and rehabilitates victims of terror and bereaved families in Israel. Cheryl’s son Daniel, a 24-year-old lieutenant in the IDF, was killed by Hamas terrorists while leading his troops into Shechem just 36 hours before Pesach. Cheryl has traveled the world speaking publicly about her beloved son and the signiﬁcance of his life and death, inspiring communities around the globe. Cheryl presented a bird’s-eye peek into the life of her beloved and brave son, Lt. Daniel Mandel, whose motivation, smarts, love of Israel, and great sense of humor propelled him to become a leader in the IDF.

In speaking to her audience, Cheryl asked, “Is there anything in your life that means enough to you, that is important enough to you, that you are willing to ﬁght for? Because for Daniel, and all the soldiers in the Israel Defense Force, the State of Israel means enough. . . . And they are not doing it just for those of us, who either by accident of birth or by choice, are living in Israel today They are doing it for Jews all over the world, including every single one living in America today,” she continued. “They are doing it because they know what happened when there wasn’t a Jewish state.” Cheryl stressed that Israel’s existence is essential and that strong and fortunate communities, like those on Long Island, have an obligation to support those less fortunate in Israel. Cheryl’s positive attitude that “life is good” impressed her audience. A Zionistic and idealistic Anglo-Israeli mother, Cheryl has been speaking throughout the tri-state area on behalf of OneFamily, the organization that currently provides assistance to 17,000 Israeli victims of terror. Cheryl came to Oceanside to speak in honor of YIO Sisterhood CO-President, Miriam Baum Benkoe. About eight years ago, Miriam with the help of friend Shellie Schiff, produced United We Cook, The American Jewish Community Cooks for Israel, a collection of kosher recipes for use throughout the year and the sales of this book raised over $25,000 for One Family Fund. To order, contact Miriam at miriambaumbenkoe@gmail.com or call her directly at 516-678-1585.

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Community News Continued from Page 104 One Family presented Miriam with a copy of newly published, Longing for a Hug: Personal accounts of living life without their loved ones as told by child victims of terror in Israel (soon to be published in English). For more information on One Family, Overcoming Terror Together, or to make a donation, contact infoUS@onefamilyfund.org or visit www.OneFamilyTogether.org. 

Ohel’s Project Hope Still Rebuilding Lives Project Hope at Ohel has served thousands of individuals and families across all demographics and communities that were directly impacted by the devastation of Hurricane Sandy. In addition to individual, family, and group counseling sessions, Project Hope at Ohel has teamed up with various institutions in numerous neighborhoods and communities to help rebuild what was lost by so many during Hurricane Sandy—a sense of emotional and personal stability. The Breezy Point community was one of the hardest-hit locations, and to honor the resilience of the community, a team from Project Hope at Ohel spent the day in Roxbury alongside survivors as they planted trees and built sand dunes to protect their remaining homes. Project Hope at Ohel has also recently partnered with the Million Trees Initiative of the NYC Restoration Project and the JCCRP, and will provide public edu-

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cation workshops that address stress management at The West End Temple. Million Trees Initiative is giving away 100 trees in Neponsit to area residents who lost their trees in Sandy. At the end of October, Dr. Norman Blumenthal, Ohel’s director of trauma, bereavement, and crisis, gave a special address in Staten Island on surviving and striving in the aftermath of Hurricane Sandy. Ohel’s director of Project Hope, Tzivy Reiter, said about Project Hope’s ongoing work, “The first anniversary, with its expected media coverage and visual images of the hurricane’s destruction, can be a trigger event for many people who suffered devastating losses. Many communities have chosen to commemorate the anniversary by acknowledging their losses while focusing on their collective strength in rebuilding and reclaiming their lives. This is an important step in helping people find meaning in their experiences and moving them forward in their recovery.” Project Hope at Ohel has been instrumental in helping the various neighborhoods devastated by Hurricane Sandy recover. They have helped nearly 15,000 people in group sessions, close to 5,000 participants in family crisis counseling, and they have been in direct contact with over 33,000 people to provide various types of support. While no one can erase the devastating losses people have sustained, Ohel’s Project Hope stands alongside them, and helps them find the inner strength to manage and move on. To find out more about all of the

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work and special projects Ohel’s Project Hope has been involved with, please contact Tzivy Reiter at 718-686-3294, projecthope@ohelfamily.org, or visit www.ohelfamily.org. 

Gefen Brings Café Flavor Into Your Kitchen In the hands of a true addict, there is nothing more exhilarating than the morning’s ﬁrst cup of coffee. Except maybe for the afternoon pick-me-up of iced coffee, cappuccino, frappes, or latte.

Coffee just got a whole lot more exciting with the launching of Gefen’s newest product. Years in the making, the research and experimenting have finally paid off with a product of unmatched excellence. Sure to become an instant staple, Gefen Ice Coffee Mixer is perfection in a bottle. Top-grade coffee flavors and additives are expertly combined to create the intense, richly flavored syrup

bound to upgrade any cup instantly. When you’re aiming for something more than your ordinary beverage, just add a splash of Gefen Ice Coffee Mixer to a cup of hot or cold milk or water for that upscale café ﬂavor in the comfort of your kitchen. It is available in three delicious ﬂavors—vanilla, hazelnut, and caramel—for your favorite magical cup. The magic doesn’t end in the cup, though. Give homemade cakes and ice creams that extra zing with a dash of Gefen’s syrup, and turn ordinary yogurt into an extraordinary treat. In Irish coffees or with vodka on the rocks, the syrup’s versatility earns it a place of honor in every pantry. Since 1995, Gefen has made it their mission to bring the kosher consumer high-quality and innovative products. Gefen Ice Coffee Mixer is just an extension of this ongoing desire for innovation and growth. With hundreds of successful products, from canned goods to fresh juices, Gefen continues to uphold a tradition of excellence, and the newest Ice Coffee Mixer just proves that again. Your morning cup of coffee might be a real necessity. This is a real treat. 

Teens JUMP In To Make A Difference By Hanna Schlager New York NCSY recently held its annual Jewish Unity Mentoring Program (JUMP) Conference at the Hilton Huntington Hotel in Melville, which kicked off this school year’s JUMP Challenge. The JUMP Conference and Challenge has experienced unprecedented

growth since its initial establishment just five years ago. The comprehensive two-day seminar hosted hundreds of Jewish high-school students from across the United States, including 19 JUMP teams representing both yeshiva and public high schools, and offered them a wide array of intensive leadership workshops given by prominent and influential speakers. NCSY is the international youth movement of the Orthodox Union. “The students came to the conference ready to learn how to become leaders and were actively engaged in the workshops and discussions, asking thoughtful questions and giving insightful feedback,” said Carol Rhine, director of JUMP and chief operating officer of New York NCSY. “They displayed intense professionalism and truly exemplified the future leaders of our Jewish communities.” During the conference, the 2013–2014 JUMP Challenge was unveiled—each team was charged with the mission to successfully create and execute four events relating to Israel advocacy, Jewish values, Holocaust remembrance, and bullying, as well as a fundraising event for their school and community. The JUMP Challenge is carefully designed to develop and build critical aspects of leadership that can be applied throughout life and more specifically, while serving the Jewish community. “The speakers and presentations at the JUMP Leadership Conference prepared me and my teammates for the challenges ahead of us, not only in the JUMP Challenge, but also in life’s chal-

cational initiatives, teens learn critical leadership skills, while networking with peers from across the country. Participants develop crucial skills such as problem solving, team building, public speaking, marketing, and fundraising. These acquired skills are put to the test with the launch of the JUMP Challenge. For more information about JUMP please contact Carol Rhine at rhinec@ ncsy.org or call 516-569-6279. 

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lenges,” said Yitz Milworm of Rambam Mesivta in Cedarhurst. The JUMP Challenge will culminate in March, in a Manhattan boardroom, where the best-performing teams present executive summaries of their accomplishments to a panel of distinguished judges. In the past, JUMP judges have included Donald Trump, Ivanka Trump, Phil Rosen, Esq., David Friedman, Esq., Charlie Harary, Esq., and Rabbi Steven Weil. The winning JUMP team will receive a trophy to display in their school and an exclusive evening in Manhattan including dinner and a private excursion in the city. “I was incredibly impressed with the caliber of the kids this year,” noted Allen Fagin, chair of NCSY Youth Commission and guest presenter at the JUMP Leadership Conference. “Their curiosity, their

maturity, their inquisitiveness, how articulate and mature they were—I was really proud to be among them. There is a world out there of remarkably impressive kids, the future leaders of our people.” The participating JUMP schools and teams include Central–YUHSG, HAFTR, HANC, Oceanside High School, Rambam Mesivta, Shalhevet High School for Girls, SKA, Syosset High School, Upper West Side JUMP, and Westchester Hebrew High School. The main vision of JUMP is to train Jewish high-school students to become leaders and make positive changes in their schools and communities, while broadening their understanding of global issues facing the Jewish people today. Through the JUMP Leadership Conference’s collaborative and edu-

By Joseph (Yossi) Fein Next Sunday, OU/JLIC Director at NYU, Rabbi Gideon Black and a group of six NYU students are gearing up to run the Rock’n’Roll Half-Marathon in Las Vegas. The team aims to raise $25,000 for Yachad: The National Jewish Council for Disabilities. The challenge of fundraising pales in comparison to the training and intense physical challenge of running 13.1 miles in desert heat for a group of typical runners and busy students. “I have friends in my community who have enjoyed support from Yachad, which is why I felt instantly connected to this mission. I am inspired by the incredible families of people with special needs, and of course, the people themselves, who garner strength, love, and empathy that undoubtedly has inﬂuenced a wave of kindness in the lives of people they touch,” noted NYU Sophomore, Tali Kuhel, who is running her ﬁrst marathon.

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journey, and bring hope, comfort, and understanding to those racked by fear of death or dealing with a crippling loss. One’s impression of life and its inevitable end will be forever changed. 

Continued from Page 107 Tali shares the sentiments of all seven of her fellow runners when she insists, “To be a part of a team that supports a mission like this is inspiring and exciting—and a sureﬁre way to elevate the Vegas Strip!” Team NYU will be spending Shabbat at the Young Israel Aish Las Vegas, and are being generously hosted during their stay by proud NYU alum, Dr. Jay Selznick. Led by Rabbi Gideon Black, the team’s spiritual leader and training motivator, the goal of running 13.1 miles offers these students something more than just a serious workout.” Yachad does G-d’s work, and we are honored to be supporting their efforts,” said Rabbi Black. “These students are incredible— incorporating the training and fundraising into their already packed academic calendars and community commitments is no easy task, but being the best person you can, rarely is.” The race is November 17 and you can support the team by visiting their team site at http://miami.teamyachad.com/team/ nyu-las-vegas/53. 

Back To The Afterlife: Uncovering The Mysteries Of What Happens To Us Bernie Kastner, a noted author and 5TJT columnist, has recently had another book published. The fear of death has possessed most of us at one time or another, sometimes in a moment of crisis, at other times in a moment of silent thought. But what if we had answers to

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the mysteries surrounding the afterlife? Would that fear be alleviated? Could we find some solace in that knowledge? And, most importantly, might we live our lives differently? “Back to the Afterlife” demystifies one of humanity’s greatest enigmas, and, in doing so, helps us gain a new perspective on the lives we lead today. Using scientific research, kabalistic sources, and other references in Judeo-Christian philosophy, the book explores the soul’s travels, from 30 days before dying through the actual transition, as well as the various stations along its journey. None of the ancient or even more modern religious or secular texts delineate this journey in stepby-step detail. For the first time ever, this book does just that in an accessible and fascinating way. Reading this text will illuminate the soul’s continued

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As Jewish causes face more fundraising challenges than ever before— including increased competition both within the Jewish world and with other nonprofits and donors hit hard by the economic recession—Yeshiva University’s Wurzweiler School of Social Work has launched a new Certificate Program in Jewish Philanthropy to provide talented Jewish communal professionals with the tools they need to succeed in the modern philanthropic arena. “Meaningful philanthropy will ensure the Jewish future both through raising funds and raising sights,” said YU President Richard M. Joel. “This certificate program seeks to train the best and brightest to do both.” The Certificate Program kicked off this semester with 20 participants from a wide range of Jewish organizations and professional backgrounds, including the UJA Federation of NY, Joint Distribution Committee, American Jewish World Service, Yachad, and American Friends of Shalva, among others. Classes meet twice a week and are offered in two key areas: The art and science of fundraising and the Jewish philanthropic tradition. Both are frequently guest-taught by leaders in the field, including Jeffrey Solomon, president of The Andrea and Charles Bronfman Philanthropies; Ruth Messinger, president of the American Jewish World Service; and Yossi Prager, executive director for North America at The AVI CHAI Foundation. The program also features a 56-hour internship with top-level professional mentoring in a Jewish development office, either within the institutions where Fellows currently work or as an independent project. “We aim immediately to address the chronic shortage of skilled, knowledgeable, and committed fundraisers for Jewish organizations by preparing professionals who are firmly grounded in fundraising skills as well as the most current and effective strategies for resource development,” said Dr. Saul Andron, Hausman Chair in Communal Social Work and associate professor at Wurzweiler, the certificate program’s coordinator. “Fundraising has become increasingly sophisticated and complex, with new methods of raising money and cultivating and inspiring prospects. Any job-finding site in the Jewish world will starkly demonstrate the lack of and need for fundraisers trained like this in Jewish organizations today.” “Modern professionals need this kind of program because there are hundreds if not thousands of Jewish nonprofits competing for the Jewish philanthropic dollar in New York alone,” said Dan Forman, vice president for institutional advancement at YU, who helped design the program and will lead several of its class sessions. “There is a science to what Jewish fundraising could and should be—for instance, how you communicate and develop a relation-

ship with a donor to balance meeting a need of the organization with fulﬁlling the wish and desire of the donor.” The two courses will hit on all the key elements of modern Jewish fundraising from the inside perspective of successful professionals. Sessions on the annual and capital campaigns, major gifts development, legacies and endowments, and women’s philanthropy will go hand-in-hand with sessions about how to harness technology and social media for maximum impact and the changing nature of fundraising and motivations of younger generations of donors. To learn more about the Certiﬁcate in Jewish Philanthropy, contact Dr. Saul Andron at sandron@yu.edu. 

Join Ohel And “See The Star In Everyone,” November 24 Moishe Hellman and Mel Zachter, co-presidents of Ohel Children’s Home and Family Services, announced that the organization’s annual gala will be held on Sunday, November 24, at the New York Marriot Marquis. The gala event kicks off with a reception at 5:00 p.m., followed by dinner at 6:00 p.m. The focus of this year’s gala is “Ohel Sees the Star in Everyone.” Over 1,000 friends and supporters are expected to attend. Guests of Honor: Chani and Jay Kestenbaum. The Kestenbaums, of Lawrence, have been actively involved at Ohel for over two decades. Jay is vice president of the board of directors and is the chairman of the development committee. He is also a member of the Camp Kaylie and Etta at Ohel (Los Angeles) boards. Chani has devoted countless hours driving Ohel children back and forth to appointments with various professionals. Corporate Guest of Honor: investorsBank. Headquartered in Short Hills New Jersey, investorsBank now has nearly 150 branches throughout New Jersey and New York and is a supporter of Ohel’s work. Tribute to Ohel Golf Chairpersons. Ben Englander, Izzy Kaufman, Michelle Sulzberger, Jonathan Marks, and Jeffrey Schwartz—all residents of the Five Towns—are responsible for an outstanding decade of successful and soldout golf events at the annual Ohel Omni Golf Classic. Celebrating All Stars Of Camp Kaylie. For the ﬁrst time, Ohel will be celebrating two all stars of Camp Kaylie, Ohel’s premiere summer camp—Nina Bernheim, daughter of Malkie and Josh Bernheim of Bergenﬁeld, and Malkie Rubin, daughter of Tzivia and Yossie Rubin of Teaneck. Ohel is proud to pay tribute to each of these worthy honorees. Chani and Jay Kestenbaum share their reason for agreeing to be honored: “We are proud to be strong and passionate advocates for Ohel’s children. We are awed by the breadth of Ohel’s programming. But, really, year after year, despite being involved in business, other communal activities, and in caring for our family, we stay involved with Ohel. And we always will. Why? Because Ohel is constantly there, 365 days a year, 24/7 to serve the community.” For almost 45 years, Ohel has provided critical programs and services to help ensure that children are protected,

well cared for, loved and encouraged to thrive. Ohel’s legendary foster care program, its domestic abuse shelters, Camp Kaylie, programs for the siblings of children with developmental disabilities, and its residential facilities serving 450 clients from New York, New Jersey and beyond are just some of the many ways in which Ohel has ensured that all individuals of all abilities are able to shine. Support for the annual gala will give children with developmental disabilities the opportunity to attend summer camp alongside their typically developing peers; respite and support to the parents of children diagnosed with autism

spectrum disorders; access to the best medical care for children living with Ohel foster families; all among many other important programs and services. Friends of Ohel’s children and families together recognize and uplift the many people among us who can seem invisible—a child who has been neglected, a teen with autism who struggles to communicate with peers, a young mother who ﬁnds herself in an abusive marriage, a Holocaust survivor suffering with mental illness and afraid to seek counseling, a “sandwich generation” couple coping with the needs of both young children and aging parents. For nearly 44 years,

Ohel has worked every day to ensure that those who feel invisible receive the support they need to thrive and shine. Hence the theme of the Gala—Ohel sees the “star” in everyone. Ohel looks forward to welcoming you on November 24. Visit www.ohelfamily. org/gala or call 718-972-9338 to make your reservation or submit a journal ad today. Ohel’s children and families are counting on YOU! Since 1969, Ohel Children’s Home and Family Services has served as a dependable haven of individual and family

support, helping people of all ages surmount everyday challenges, heal from trauma, and manage with strength and dignity during times of crises. Driven by service excellence, Ohel’s professional staff meet the myriad social service needs of the general community, while at the same time providing culturally-sensitive services to the Jewish community, including Yiddish, Hebrew and Russian speakers. Through highly-rated foster care, developmental disability, mental health, and other programs and services. 

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The Way We Are BY RABBI AVI SHAFRAN While those of us here south of the border (the Canadian one, that is) were focused on our own local elections, a Chassidic woman candidate in a Montreal borough was busy making history. Mindy Pollak, from the Vizhnitz community, became the first Chassidic person to be elected to the Montreal borough council of Outremont, where there have been running tensions for years between non-Jewish residents and the growing number of Orthodox Jews living there. Her opponent, journalist Pierre Lacerte, had supported a borough councilor widely considered anti-Chassidic (if not anti-Semitic) in an attempt to undermine the construction of an eruv and new shuls in the neighborhood. According to one report, supporters of Mr. Lacerte went knocking on doors without mezuzahs, distributing flyers and announcing, “We’re here to talk about the Jews.” Ms. Pollak’s political ally and friend was, and is, Leila Marshy, a filmmaker of Arab ancestry who describes herself as a “militant Palestinian.” An article in the Globe and Mail before the recent election quoted Ms. Pollak as saying that “If we focus on what we have in common rather than what divides us, then we can work toward solutions.”

sight of the dozing lady and slightly befuddled but unmoving bearded rabbi. But I’m glad the subway guy was snapped in action (or, better, inaction); I suppose that even doing something simple and decent is impressive in our selﬁsh, rude times. And then we have the ﬁnally ended saga of Sarah Shapiro, a respected Orthodox writer in Israel, whose work had been shamelessly plagiarized by another writer, Naomi Ragen. In December 2011, a district court judge in Jerusalem ruled that, in a novel she wrote, Ms. Ragen had intentionally used passages, often copied word-for-word, from a book written by Ms. Shapiro, ordering Ms. Ragen to pay Ms. Shapiro damages and court costs, and to omit the copied sections from future editions of her book. Ms. Ragen appealed to the Supreme Court, which last week brokered an agreement that requires her to abide by the lower court’s order that she remove the plagiarized material from any new editions and translations of the novel, and stipulates that 97,000 shekels of the 233,000 shekels in damages and court costs awarded to Mrs. Shapiro be donated to charity. Ms. Ragen’s response was to claim victory at that “compromise,” wish herself mazel tov, and rail against “people like Mrs. Shapiro.” For good measure, she also accuses the woman she plagia-

I suppose that even doing something simple and decent is impressive in our selﬁsh, rude times. So begins this week’s roundup of heartening Orthodox Jewish news. Unfortunately, the media tend to go for the negative or scandalous. And so it’s good every now and then to highlight what—in a bad pun referencing one of the New York tabloids that see their role as highlighting real or exaggerated bad behavior—I call the “Daily Jews.” That is to say, the vast majority of observant Jews, who live their lives in consonance with their religious convictions. Exhibit B is the “subway guy,” the middle-aged man wearing a yarmulke whose shoulder became the makeshift pillow of a young black man in a hoodie who dozed off sitting next to him on the Q train. Someone snapped a photo of the pair and posted it on the Web, where, within days, it garnered over one million “likes” and nearly 200,000 “shares” on Facebook. Providing that courtesy to a fellow passenger on New York City transit shouldn’t be as surprising as it apparently was to so many. I remember once when my own shoulder served to provide a fellow citizen the same service, on a bus. And I’m glad no one had thought to aim a phone then at the

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rized of being a plagiarist (for including in a character’s ruminations the words of a well-known popular song from the 1970s, clearly assuming that readers would recognize them). And Sarah Shapiro’s reaction to the closing of the case? She offered “a profoundly felt thank you” to the justices “for protecting my work” and called their “peaceful resolution” of the case “quintessentially Jewish.” She had words for her adversary too, embracing her “fellow American immigrant to the Land of our Fathers” as someone who “has done so much, with passion . . . to defend this country with her power of words . . .” “I look forward to meeting you again someday, G-d willing,” her statement concluded, “as fellow writers.” And she quoted Dovid Hamelech in Tehillim: “Then we will be as dreamers. . . . May we reap in joy what was sown in tears.” And that wraps up our survey of this week’s “Daily Jews.”  © 2013 Rabbi Avi Shafran. “It’s All in the Angle” (Torah Temimah Publications), a collection of selected essays by Rabbi Shafran, is available from Judaica Press.

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