Miami Dade Family Life December 2019

COMPLIMENTARY

DECEMBER 2019

FESTIVE FAMILY CELEBRATIONS

SURVIVING

theSEASON MUST-HAVE APPS FOR STAYING SANE

FINDING

FORGIVENESS HOW TO LET GO OF GRUDGES

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departments 6 MIAMI & MORE News about the people, places and events in our community.

22 FAMILY MAN Whether creating or maintaining holiday traditions, it’s important to keep it simple.

24 HOME TECH 15 handy app ‘elves’ to get you through the holidays.

26 SPECIAL NEEDS How to lighten the overload for holiday-challenged families.

28 CALENDAR OF EVENTS Entertaining and noteworthy things to see and do in every corner of Miami-Dade County.

30 WORDS OF WISDOM It takes growing up to discover the true gifts of the holidays.

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JOY FOR THE HOLIDAYS

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Holding on to grudges can hurt you — and your kids.

From frosty festivals to playful parades, here’s our guide to the many ways to celebrate the season.

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Kids of Character NEW TV SERIES FOSTERS KINDNESS IN CHILDREN

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est-selling author Brad Meltzer had three good reasons to start writing his fantastically successful “Ordinary People Change the World” series of children’s books: his daughter and two sons.

“I wrote these books because I just was tired of my own kids looking at people who are famous for being famous and reality TV show stars and loud-mouthed athletes and thinking that those were heroes,” said Meltzer, who lives in Fort Lauderdale. “I have so many better heroes that I could give to them.”

He collaborated with award-winning illustrator Chris Eliopoulos to make “Ordinary People Change the World” one of the most successful children’s series of the last decade. “These books are our way of fighting back, to help kids build character, kindness and compassion, one real hero at a time,” Meltzer says on his website.

Now a new PBS KIDS TV show is bringing the books to life. Xavier Riddle and the Secret Museum, an animated adventurecomedy series that recently began airing on WPBT-Ch. 2 weekdays at 9am, is about a boy (Xavier), his sister (Yadina) and their best friend, Brad (uh-huh, that Brad). In each episode, they encounter a problem (like being bullied), then go to their secret museum. There they can go back in time to meet an inspiring historical hero — Rosa Parks, for example, who teaches them how to deal with bullies.

Meltzer, who serves as executive producer of the five-episode series, is no stranger to success. Every one of his thrillers for adult readers has made The New York Times bestseller list, and his first non-fiction book, The First Conspiracy, was kept out of the top spot only by Michelle Obama’s Becoming earlier this year.

For more information, please visit www.pbskids.org/xavier or www.bradmeltzer.com

BEYOND BELIEF Awe-inspiring acrobatics. Jaw-dropping fire jugglers.

Hold-your-breath high-flying acts. All elaborately costumed and choreographed to spell-binding live music. Oh, and did we mention… clowns!

Cirque du Soleil’s “Alegría: In a New Light” is an ooh-ahh-a-minute revival of its iconic show that will have Miami-area audiences on the edge of their seats for six weeks Dec. 14-Jan. 26.

Under the Big Top next to Hard Rock Stadium in Miami Gardens, the 25th-anniversary production celebrates the spectacle that solidified Cirque’s worldwide reputation and that’s been seen by over 14 million people in 40 countries.

The revival of “Alegria,” the Spanish word for “joy,” features new costumes, set design, acrobatics and musical arrangements.

Tickets start at $42, with discounts of up to 30 percent available on children’s tickets, as well as family packs on select dates. For tickets and more information, please visit CirqueDuSoleil.com/Alegria

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The little thinkers who’ll become tomorrow’s big thinkers may experience their first “eureka!” moment at a new interactive exhibit that explores modern science’s most important principles from a historical perspective.

At Phillip and Patricia Frost Museum of Science, “Building Science: Great Minds in Time” showcases works inspired by some of history’s greatest figures.

Following the footsteps of innovators like Greek mathematician Archimedes and Renaissance master Leonardo da Vinci, the exhibit highlights inventions from some of the most important eras in history.

Opening Dec. 7, the exhibit features over 40 interactive educational exhibits.

Examining the science of three important scientific periods, the exhibit lets visitors experience the scientific leaps on which modern science is based. A variety of hands-on inventions invite guests to explore topics such as engineering, art, physics, mathematics, geometry and architecture.

“Building Science: Great Minds in Time” will be on view through Feb. 17, 2020, in the Ocean Gallery on the museum’s first floor. Admission is included with all museum admission tickets.

The museum is at 1101 Biscayne Blvd., Miami. For more information, please visit www.frostscience.org

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Fresh air fun for Kendall families

Two new park playgrounds inspired by nature have become birthplaces of childhood memories for Kendall’s children.

Located at 10400 SW 122 Ave., Devon Aire’s 12,800-square-foot playground is set within a mini-forest that features a tree house with built-in play panels, log-steppers, a spinner, climbers, slides, spring riders, and a “woodsy” swing set. New gardens filled with butterfly-attracting plants and 20 new trees complement an existing canopy of shade trees.

“This is a great example of how Miami-Dade Parks is revitalizing its playgrounds, so that kids can find new ways to explore outdoors, experience the many health and wellness benefits of being surrounded by greenery and learn to appreciate the environment,” said Maria I. Nardi, Miami-Dade Parks director.

The 12.5-acre park also contains three basketball courts, three ball fields with a batting cage, two lighted football fields, a recreation center, two tennis courts, and a walkway.

“Devon Aire Park is a very active recreation hub for this community,” said County Commissioner Levine Cava. “Parks improve neighborhood livability. They are where childhood memories are made and neighbors’ friendships bloom.”

At Forest Lakes Park, 16351 SW 99 St., the new playground is designed to inspire children to explore the great outdoors, surrounded by new native butterfly-attracting greenery and an existing large oak tree canopy. At 8,000 square feet, it adds three times more play space than its predecessor.

Play elements include slides with built-in rock panels, a climbing net, swings, spring riders and musical instruments to play. The 5.5-acre park also contains basketball and fitness courts, a multi-purpose field and a pedestrian walkway.

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Redland’s Rare Riches Redland is not like other Miami-Dade communities.

An agricultural oasis in the sweep of South Florida development, it is home to many farms, U-pick’ em fields and original clapboard houses of early settlers. It has been a unique source of interest to the world’s agriculturalists, botanists and naturalists, including John James Audubon and David Fairchild, and has been designated a Wild Bird Sanctuary.

Also, Redland raises a wide variety of tropical fruit crops that cannot be commercially grown elsewhere in the United States. All of them can be sampled for free at Fruit and Spice Park, where Redland’s rich history and traditions can also be sampled at the Redland Heritage Festival and Craft Fair on Dec. 14-15.

At the 44th-annual event, there will be vendors showcasing traditional natural arts and crafts; a kids’ area with pony rides, face painting and old-time games; nurseries selling a large selection of native plants and tropical fruit trees; and a variety of entertainment for the whole family.

The festivities, from 10am to 5pm, also will include a classic-car display and special historical exhibits and lecturers from The Florida Pioneer Museum.

On the corner of Redland Road and Coconut Palm Drive at 24801 SW 187 Ave. in Homestead, Fruit & Spice Park is the only tropical botanical garden of its kind in the country, growing more than 500 varieties of subtropical fruits, herbs, spices, vegetables and nuts from around the world on 39 lush acres.

Festival admission is $10/adult and free/12 and younger. For more information, please visit www.redlandfruitandspice.com or call 305-247-5727.

SPLASHTACULAR BIRTHDAY PARTIES! Make new friends when you party with Lolita the Orca, TV superstar Flipper, Salty the Sea Lion and all your marine animal friends. It’s the no-hassle way to give your birthday child the party of a lifetime! For reservations, call 305-365-2507 today.

Party package includes a party area with decorations, kid-friendly lunch, personalized cake, costumed character visit (weather permitting), admission to all shows and exhibits and much more.

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ou may be at work, at home, or in a waiting room when the mental video clip starts rolling — the one highlighting the slights behind that grudge you hold tight.

Painful memories cycle before your mind’s eye, reminding you of just how justified your grudge is — from the time the relationship-assailant started flinging barbs your way to the final affront that became the proverbial last straw in your association with him or her.

The more your thoughts stir up old wounds, the more you grow from annoyed to seething. The clip ends with you declaring that you are “mad as hell and not going to take it anymore,” or some other line-in-the-sand proclamation. Pulse racing and teeth clenched, you steel yourself to strike back hard if someone dares to utter the overly simplistic suggestion to “just let it go.”

Why should you “let it go” when you’ve been wronged — and perhaps wronged for a long time — by a relative, friend, or co-worker?

Well, you may just want to let go of your grudges, not for the sake of letting the offenders off the hook, but to stop the damage that grudges can cause to your emotional and physical well-being.

Moreover, reclaiming your sense of wellness helps to ensure the same for your children, who are watching the way you handle adversity and taking cues from you on how to manage their own conflicts.

HOLDING ONTO GRUDGES HURTS YOU On the surface, nursing a grudge can feel like the right thing to do. After all, grudges signal that someone has crossed a line with us, that our dignity matters, and that we had the strength to stick up for ourselves, either by distancing ourselves from the offender or being guarded and combative whenever the offender is near.

FORGIVENESS CAN HURT YOU — AND YOUR KIDS However, once we shed the armor of our indignation, we find that holding a grudge doesn’t heal the underlying injury. In fact, stewing over past slights causes us to remain stuck in feelings of anger, resentment and vengefulness.

These feelings of unforgiveness then compound the emotional harm by leading to anxiety, depression or stress that, in turn, can cause us to approach new relationships with defensiveness and distrust.

Moreover, the negative feelings sustained by our long-held grudges can take an enormous toll on our physical health.

Research has found that people who maintain long-term grudges experienced higher rates of a host of ailments, like heart disease, cardiac arrest, high blood pressure, stomach ulcers, arthritis, back problems, headaches and chronic pain.

Given this profound mind-body connection, holding onto a grudge (no matter how seemingly justified) is not worth the damage to our relationship with others, our emotional well-being or our physical health. If that isn’t reason enough to let go of our rancor toward a transgressor, consider that the harmful effects of long-standing grudges also hurt those we most want to protect: our children.

OUR GRUDGES HURT OUR CHILDREN, TOO Choosing to nurse a grudge can induce such stress and depression that it can negatively affect the way we parent our children.

“Make no mistake, parental stress has an impact on kids,” advises Katie Hurley, a child and adolescent psychotherapist who notes how often her young patients tell her how stressed out their parents are.

In particular, stressed parents exhibit less patience with their children and are quicker to yell at them. They are also quicker to yell at each other, at times within earshot of the kids. As a result of this heightened tension in the home, children experience their own stress, anxiety and other negative emotions.

If your grudge is also causing you to be depressed, consider that studies have shown that depression also negatively affects our parenting. Depressed parents are less emotionally engaged with their children and less likely to adequately socialize children. This, in turn, puts the children at a disadvantage in achieving normal emotional development.

BY DOLORES SMYTH Even if a parent isn’t stressed or depressed by a grudge, the time that a parent spends dwelling on a grudge means less time spent on fostering an emotionally positive home for a child.

According to Dr. Gail Gross, a family and child development expert, emotionally engaged parents who create a home that is “deliberately filled with warmth” enhance a child’s emotional well-being, temperament and ability to cope with stress.

Aside from being impacted by a parent’s disposition, children are also significantly influenced by the way their parents interact with others. Children watch how their parents react to difficult people, and often imitate parental behavior when they find themselves in similar situations. This is a sobering thought for any parent bent on maintaining grudges.

Considering the influence we have as parents in shaping our children’s emotional well-being and behavior, it is incumbent upon us to serve as better examples by adopting an attitude of forgiveness.

WHAT FORGIVENESS IS — AND ISN’T Whether you decide to forgive for your children’s sake, your own sake, or because of your spiritual beliefs, forgiveness does not mean excusing the harm done to you. Forgiveness also does not require associating with the person who harmed you.

Instead, forgiveness means consciously choosing to let go of hostility towards an offender, whether or not the person apologized, for the sake of moving on from the offense.

Importantly, as you shift your thinking away from anger and toward forgiveness, you will stop viewing your past through the lens of how you’ve been victimized.

Adopting a forgiving attitude brings with it significant benefits. Among them: • Reduced anxiety, stress and depression • Lower blood pressure • Improved heart health • A stronger immune system • Reduced hostility toward others • Improved self-esteem • Healthier relationships • A greater sense of peace, hope and joy • More restful sleep continued on page 12

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ADOPT AN ATTITUDE OF FORGIVENESS No matter your age, you can choose to reap the benefits of a forgiving attitude at any time. The following tips can help you start incorporating forgiveness into your thoughts and actions: • Reflect on the totality of the circumstances surrounding the grudge.

Have a final “sit down” with everything the offender did that upset you, reflect on why it hurt you so much, and examine how you’ve reacted to the wrongdoing since.

The goal here is not to re-traumatize yourself, but to fully understand your reaction to the offense and give yourself the compassion your offender did not.

• Consider that the offender might actually deserve your empathy. Is the offender herself a victim of abuse or mistreatment? If so, the offender’s behavior toward you may have been less about hurting you and more about the offender’s misunderstanding of what constitutes acceptable behavior.

• Accept that the offender may never own up to the pain he caused you. If the offender is aware of how deeply he upset you and still has not sought amends, let go of the expectation that he will — or can — take responsibility for his behavior. Letting go of this expectation frees you from being disappointed each day that your much-owed apology doesn’t materialize.

• Choose to genuinely forgive. When you forgive someone to please your spouse or to keep others from feeling uncomfortable, true forgiveness cannot take root. Instead, forgive because you are determined to move on from past hurts — whether or not you choose to reconcile with the offender — and because you want to stop any emotional or physical damage the grudge may be causing.

• Commemorate the forgiveness.

Forgiving someone who caused you pain is a big step forward that deserves commemorating. If contacting the person who wronged you is unwise or impossible, commemorate your decision to forgive by confiding in someone else whose guidance you trust, or by writing down your reasons for choosing to forgive.

• Forgive yourself for holding a grudge.

Whether you’ve recoiled from a hurtful situation for several weeks or several years, forgive yourself for taking as long as you took to consider forgiveness as a way of dealing with the offense at issue.

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• Seek help if the grudge you want to let go of won’t let go of you. If you are unable to release a grudge after sincere effort, consider seeking guidance from a spiritual leader, a confidante or a mental health provider.

Releasing your hostility toward someone who hurt you can help you see that transgressor as human and flawed, potentially leading you to regain affection for that person, says Karen Swartz, M.D., director of the Mood Disorders Adult Consultation Clinic at The John Hopkins Hospital. In some instances, this may pave the way for a reconciliation.

In other cases, reconciliation may be impossible because the offender has passed away, or undesirable because the offender is still abusive or refuses to admit the wrongdoing occurred. Even if reconciliation is not the goal, however, adopting an attitude of forgiveness is a worthy pursuit for its bounty of benefits.

MANAGE YOUR TRIGGERS An ounce of (grudge) prevention is worth a pound of (forgiveness) cure. To prevent foreseeable slights from accumulating into the basis for a new grudge, take proactive steps to avoid situations you know will end up making your blood boil.

For example, if you have a friend who is consistently and unapologetically late, avoid planning time-sensitive activities with her. If a relative habitually makes comments at your expense, avoid being alone with him, call him less, or put him on speaker when he calls if you think doing so will discourage him from making insulting remarks. If a co-worker has a reputation for stealing credit from others in the office, document all of your hard work and loop your boss into your progress as often as possible to claim all credit due to you.

People will do things we find offensive or downright infuriating all of the time, whether those people mean to upset us or not. It’s easy to make these slights larger than life by replaying them in our thoughts until our sense of indignation practically screams that a grudge is justified.

However, you can choose to stop the reel, take steps toward forgiveness, and consider how to better manage your triggers going forward. Think of the health benefits that forgiveness brings to you. If that’s not enough, think of the health benefits that forgiveness brings to your children.

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Ah, the magic of the holidays...

From frosty festivals to playful parades, there are so many ways to celebrate the season.

AVENTURA THE NUTCRACKER

Friday-Sunday, December 6-8 Arts Ballet Theatre of Florida performs the story of the Nutcracker. $40. Showtimes vary. Aventura Arts & Cultural Center, 3385 NE 188 St., www.aventuracenter.org

COCONUT GROVE SNOWFLAKE CRAFT Saturday, December 7

Celebrate the winter season by creating a beaded snowflake. Materials provided. Call to pre-register.

Ages 5-12. 11am-noon, Coconut Grove Branch Library, 2875 McFarlane Rd., 305-442-8695 www.mdpls.org

CORAL GABLES

MERRICK FESTIVAL CAROLING COMPETITION Wednesday-Sunday, December 4-8 & Tuesday, December 10

The festive sound of children’s voices will fill the air as kids from 30 different schools compete with free performances. The event culminates with an awards show on Tuesday. See website for a schedule.

The 550 Building, 550 Biltmore Way, 305-491-4180 www.carolingcompetition.org

TREE LIGHTING & PHOTOS WITH SANTA Friday, December 6

Celebrate the season with a fun-filled evening of music, carnival rides, games, food, photos with Santa, arts and crafts, a bounce house and more.

The tree lighting and arrival of Santa takes place at 7pm. 5-10pm, Merrick Park, 405 Biltmore Way, www.coralgables.com

THE CORAL EXPRESS AT MCBRIDE PLAZA

THE NIGHTGARDEN Through January 11

Experience the fantasy and wonderment of effects including the wise talking tree, flying fairies, and holographic butterflies at this magical light spectacular. $19-$55. Fairchild Tropical Botanic Garden, 10901 Old Cutler Rd., 305-667-1651 www.fairchildgarden.org

CUTLER BAY WINTER HOLIDAY CELEBRATION Friday, December 6

A festive event for the whole family with a visit with Santa, holiday crafts, an outdoor screening of The Grinch and more. 6pm, South Miami-Dade Cultural Arts Center, 10950 SW 211 St., 786-573-5300 www.smdcac.org

THE NUTCRACKER

Friday-Saturday, December 6-7 This classic Christmas ballet about a little girl’s journey to the Land of Sweets is performed by the Miami Youth Ballet. $26-$41. 8pm, South Miami-Dade Cultural Arts Center, 10950 SW 211 St., 786-573-5300 www.smdcac.org

HOLIDAY GOLF CART PARADE, TOY DRIVE AND WINTER CELEBRATION

SANTA’S SNOWBLAST Saturday, December 7

The kids can have lots of wintery fun at this event that includes a mountain of snow to play in, carnival rides, games, live entertainment and more. 6-10pm, Milander Park, 4700 Palm Ave., www.hialeahfl.gov

HOMESTEAD

IT’S A WONDERFUL LIFE

Friday-Sunday, December 20-22 Experience this holiday classic based on the 1946 film. Friday 8pm; Saturday, 2pm & 7pm; Sunday, 3pm & 6:30pm. Seminole Theatre, 18 N. Krome Ave., 786-650-2073 www.seminoletheatre.org

KEY BISCAYNE WINTERFEST

Sunday, December 2 Get into the holiday spirit by listening to local choirs and bands, watching live performances and spending a little time with Santa. 4-7:30pm, Village Green, 450 Crandon Blvd., www.keybiscayne.fl.gov

WINTERFEST BOAT PARADE

Saturday, December 14

Saturday, December 8

It’s a unique take on a typical parade as a procession of decked-out golf carts glide by.

Additional holiday activities included. Bring along a new, unwrapped toy to be donated to a child.

6-10pm, Cutler Ridge Park, 10100 SW 200 St., 786-573-5502 www.cutlerbay-fl.gov

Celebrate the holidays South Florida-style by watching decorated boats float by. 6-8pm, Bill Baggs Cape Florida State Park, 1200 Crandon Blvd., www.keybiscayne.fl.gov

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SING MIAMI “FA LA LA”

PARK & TREE LIGHTING

Bring your singing voice and holiday cheer for a holiday sing-along presented by Miami Children’s Chorus. 2-3pm, Adrienne Arsht Center, 1300 Biscayne Blvd., 305-949-6722 www.miamichildreschorus.org

Friday, December 6

A fun holiday event for the family featuring ugly sweater contests, holiday caroling, trolley rides, a festive film, treats and more. 2-10pm, McBride Plaza, 150 Miracle Mile, www.shopcoralgables.com

Be dazzled as twinkling lights add holiday cheer to the night. While there, the family can watch performances, sip some hot chocolate and write a letter to Santa. 6-9pm, Downtown Doral Park, 8395 NW 53 St., 305-593-6611 www.cityofdoral.com

VOICES OF ANGELS

HOLIDAY LIGHTS & ICE

Sunday, December 15

Friday, December 13

All three ensembles of the Miami Children’s Chorus present a captivating holiday performance. $25/adult, $10/child. 4-6pm, First United Methodist Church of Coral Gables, 536 Coral Way, www.miamichildrenschorus.org

Doral Central Park is transformed into a winter wonderland with snow, rides, food and live music.

All ages. $10, cash only. 6-10pm, Doral Central Park, 3000 NW 87 Ave., 305-593-6611 www.cityofdoral.com

Saturday, December 14

HIALEAH

Saturday, December 7

THE NUTCRACKER

Saturday, December 7 Miami’s oldest presentation of the holiday classic is performed by The Thomas Armour Youth Ballet and features TAYB students, advanced dancers from New World School of the Arts and special guests. $20-$40. 7pm, Miami-Dade County Auditorium, 2901 W. Flagler St., 305-547-5414 www.miamidadecountyauditorium.org

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WINTERLAND AT THE FARM December 8-January 7

Have some old-fashioned holiday fun with snow, hot chocolate, holiday treats, an illuminated forest and more. $20. Pinto’s Farm, 14890 SW 216 St., 305-258-6067 www.pintofarm.com

MIAMI BEACH

an environment created especially for children with sensory processing disorder and general development delay along with their families.

9-11am, Miami Children’s Museum, 980 MacArthur Causeway, 305-373-5437 www.miamichildrensmuseum.org

MOSCOW BALLET’S GREAT RUSSIAN NUTCRACKER Monday, December 30

A holiday spectacle featuring world-class Russian artists, stunning sets, towering puppets, soaring birds and more. All ages. 3pm & 7pm, The Fillmore Miami Beach at the Jackie Gleason Theater, 1700 Washington Ave., 305-673-7300 www.fillmoremb.com

HANUKKAH CELEBRATION

HOLIDAY MARKET AND TOYS FOR TOTS

Sunday, December 15

Sunday, December 8

A holiday extravaganza featuring more than 20 craft vendors, holiday lights, Santa, a toy drive and more. 11am-6pm, Cauley Square, 222400 Old Dixie Hwy., 305-258-2565 www.cauleysquare.com

YULETIDE CAROLERS

Celebrate Hanukkah by making marshmallow dreidels, creating Hanukkah-themed crafts and listening to stories, music and more.

11am-4pm, Miami Children’s Museum, 980 MacArthur Causeway, 305-373-5437 www.miamichildrensmuseum.org

MIAMI LAKES JINGLE BELL JOG 5K Saturday, December 21

HOLLY, JOLLY HOLIDAY EVENT

Sunday, December 8 & Saturday, December 21

Through December 24

Get into the holiday spirit as The Yuletide Carolers evoke the memory of yesteryear with their authentic Victorian costumes, harmonious voices and infectious holiday spirit. Free. Sunday 4-5pm, Saturday 1-2pm, Mall of the Americas, 7795 W. Flagler St., 305-261-8772 www.malloftheamericas.com

MIAMI CITY BALLET’S THE NUTCRACKER December 13-22

The Miami City Ballet presents George Balanchine’s dazzling choreography. Showtimes vary. Adrienne Arsht Center, 1300 Biscayne Blvd., 305-949-6722 www.arshtcenter.org

‘TIS THE SEASON

Saturday, December 14 A Sensory Friendly Saturday seasonal event with

Celebrate the holiday season with storytelling, live entertainment, holiday characters, performances and more. Select evenings through Dec. 24. $30. 6-10pm, Gold Coast Railroad Museum, 12450 SW 152 St., www.gcrm.org

Participants of this themed race receive Santa suits to run in, jingle bells for their sneakers and a holiday- themed finishers medal. The event also includes a Little Elf Dash for kids. $35/adult, $20/child. 5K begins at 7:30am, Little Elf Dash at 8:30am. 6701 Main St., www.jinglebelljog.net/miami-lakes

ZOO LIGHTS

MIAMI SHORES

During select nights in December, visitors can see the zoo twinkle with dazzling lights. See website for details. $15.95/person. Zoo Miami, 12400 SW 152 St., 305-251-0400 www.zoomiami.org

WINTERFEST

Through December 29

SANTA’S ENCHANTED FOREST Ongoing through January 5

Lights, rides, food, games, entertainment and more make this holiday wonderland glow. Tropical Park, corner of Bird Road and the Palmetto Expressway, 305-559-9689 www.santasenchantedforest.com

Friday, December 6 A community festival featuring a tree lighting, photos with Santa, rides, inflatables, crafts and other family-friendly activities. Miami Shores residents only. $8/advance, $11/day of event.

6:30-9pm, Field House, 9825 Park Dr., 305-758-8103 www.miamishoresvillage.com

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Holiday Happenings Tropical Holidays

Hanukkah Celebration

December 14th – 24th

December 15th | 11:00am-4:00pm

Tis the Season Sensory Friendly Saturday December 14th | 9:00am-11:00am

Mini Merry Monday December 16th | 10:00am-6:00pm

Noon Year’s Eve Celebration December 31st | 11:00am-4:00pm

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THE YULETIDE CAROLERS

CHECK MALLOFTHEAMERICAS.COM FOR DATES & TIMES

This holiday season get delighted by The Yuletide Carolers at Mall of the Americas as they evoke the memory of yesteryear with their authentic Victorian costumes, harmonious voices and infectious holiday spirit.

SATURDAY, NOV. 30

CELEBRACIÓN NAVIDEÑA 1 P.M. - 3 P.M.

On Saturday, November 30th from 1 p.m. to 3 p.m., celebrate with us and St. Nick to start getting into the Holiday Spirit. Enjoy music, giveaways, face painting and fun activities for the kids. Special performance by Marci Poppins at 2 p.m.! Bring your own camera to take free photos with Santa during event.

FRIDAY, NOV. 29

BLACK FRIDAY

OPEN EXTENDED HOURS

Stop by Mall of the Americas to take advantage of the extra Black Friday savings and for all your holiday shopping needs! Mall of the Americas will be open 8 a.m. -10 p.m. on Black Friday.

Like us on Facebook and Follow us on Instagram & Twitter to find out more about holiday happenings, sales, and special events.

www.malloftheamericas.com 7795 West Flagler Street, Miami, FL 33144

MONDAY, DEC. 2 – SUNDAY, DEC. 8

BE REWARDED: SPEND $200, GET $25 GIFT CARD 1 P.M. - 3 P.M.

Spend $200 across three stores/restaurants at Mall of the Americas between Dec. 2-8 and receive a $25 Be Rewarded Gift Card to Old Navy, Marshalls or Ross, while supplies last. Bring qualifying receipts to the Mall Management Office (10 a.m. - 4 p.m., Mon-Fri).

Redeem your receipts by Wednesday, December 11 at 4 p.m.

Visit malloftheamericas.com for details.

SATURDAY, DEC. 14

COOKIES & MILK WITH SANTA 1 P.M. - 3 P.M.

Children are invited to spend an early afternoon with Santa & Mrs. Claus during our Cookies & Milk with Santa event on Saturday, December 14 from 1 p.m. to 3 p.m. Enjoy a nice story time with the Jolly Old Man and Mrs. Claus and participate in fun holiday activities and giveaways. Bring your own camera to take free photos with Santa during event. Must RSVP, please visit www.malloftheamericas.com for details.

BARRY SPECIAL CHRISTMAS Saturday, December 7

A winter wonderland awaits with a holiday marketplace, seasonal fare, live performances a Santa’s Village with children’s activities.

Free admission. Noon-4pm, Barry University, 11300 NE Second Ave., 305-899-3057 www.barry.edu/special-christmas

CAROLING HAYRIDE & LIGHT UP THE VILLAGE Wednesday, December 18

Bring the family and a flashlight and join the fun by taking a hayride to sing at neighborhood homes. Miami Shores residents only. Luminaries for those who would like to light up their lawn for caroling visits are $8 at the Community Center. 6:30-9pm. 305-758-8103 www.miamishoresvillage.com

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Holiday festivities include a tree lighting ceremony and photos with Santa. 6-8pm, Gazebo at Curtiss Parkway, 305-805-5075 www.miamisprings-fl.gov

SANTA’S PARADE AND FESTIVITIES AT THE GAZEBO Saturday, December 7

See Santa, a holiday parade and participate in festivities featuring rides, snow and more. $15/non-resident, $5/resident. 5:45-9pm.

Parade begins at City Hall, 201 Westward Dr., and proceeds to the Gazebo. 305-805-5075 www.miamisprings-fl.gov

NORTH MIAMI BEACH SNOW FEST & COMMUNITY SAFETY DAY PARADE Saturday, December 14

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A winter wonderland of children’s activities, music, rides, rock climbing walls, games, a snow mountain and more. Free admission. 6-11pm, North Miami Beach City Hall, 17011 NE 19 Ave., www.citynmb.com

MENORAH LIGHTING CEREMONY Monday, December 23

Bring the family for a Hanukkah event that includes a Menorah lighting, traditional music, Kosher refreshments and children’s activities.

7:30-9pm, North Miami Beach City Hall, 17011 NE 19 Ave., 305-948-2957 www.citynmb.com

PALMETTO BAY HOLIDAY LIGHTS AND DINE

Children, ages 6-14, can explore and learn from nature at Deering Estate’s Winter Camp!

Six, one-day sessions: December 23, 26, 27 & 30, 2019; January 2 & 3, 2020 7:30 am – 5:00 pm Cost: $45 per session. Register online or call 305-235-1668 ext. 233.

Deering Estate 16701 SW 72 Avenue Miami, FL 33157

To request materials in accessible format, sign language interpreters, and/or any accommodation to participate in any Miami-Dade Parks-sponsored program or meeting, contact Mary Palacios, 305-755-7848 or Mary.Palacios@miamidade.gov, at least 7 days in advance to initiate your request. TTY users may also call 711 (Florida Relay Service).

Friday, December 6

Have a magical night with holiday lights, food, music, and a family show under the stars. $10/adult, $5/child, plus one unwrapped toy per family. Pre-register online. 7-9pm, Village Hall, 9705 E. Hibiscus St., 305-259-1234 www.palmettobay-fl.gov

STORY TIME & PHOTOS WITH SANTA Saturday, December 14

Stop by for a photos with the big guy, holiday arts and crafts and a story time with Santa’s elves.

Included with paid admission of $15/adult, $7/child. Additional fee for photos. 10am-noon, Deering Estate, 16701 SW 72 Ave., 305-235-1668 www.deeringestate.org

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HISTORIC HOLIDAY DECOR

MOUSE KING

See the historic houses of the Deering Estate decorated in elegant holiday decor. Included with paid admission of $15/adult, $7/child.

10am-4pm, Deering Estate, 16701 SW 72 Ave., 305-235-1668 www.deeringestate.org

This family-friendly performance is a unique take on the story of The Nutcracker as told from the point of view of the mice. $25 and up. Showtimes vary.

Mandelstam Theater, 8530 SW 57 Ave., www.mousekingtickets.com

PINECREST

MONROE COUNTY

THE MOST WONDERFUL TIME OF THE YEAR

Friday, December 6

Through January 3

Fridays-Sundays, December 13-15 & 20-22

HOLIDAY FESTIVAL

Sunday, December 8

Get in the holiday spirit with a Christmas medley sing-along, live symphonic music, and a narration of T’was the Night Before Christmas featuring illustrations drawn by local fifth grade students. $15/adult, $5/child. 4pm, Pinecrest Gardens, 11000 Red Rd., Pinecrest, www.pinecrestgardens.org

NIGHTS OF LIGHTS

Bundle up to play in 30 tons of the frozen stuff at this Islamorada tradition that includes a holiday parade, tree lighting, a gift bazaar, Santa’s Sweet Shoppe, a silent auction of hand-crafted ornaments and more. 4-10pm, Founders Park, 86800 Overseas Hwy., Islamorada, 305-664-4503 www.islamoradachamber.com

BROWARD COUNTY

December 13-January 1 Be enchanted as Pinecrest Gardens transforms into a holiday wonderland featuring thousands of sparkling lights, rides, Christmas music, storytelling and pony rides. Stop by December 13-24 for a visit with Santa. $7. 6-9pm, Pinecrest Gardens, 11000 Red Rd., 305-669-6990 www.pinecrestgardens.org

SOUTH MIAMI

A CHRISTMAS STORY THE MUSICAL December 13-29

Have some laughs and warm your heart as this holiday movie is brought to life on stage. Showtimes vary. $49-$65. Broward Center for the Performing Arts, 201 SW Fifth Ave., Fort Lauderdale, 954-462-0222 www.browardcenter.org

SANTA’S PARADE OF THE ELVES

SANTA’S LITTLE HELPERS

See a procession of elves and entertainment wend their way through South Miami. 2pm, Sunset Drive from US-1 to Red Road, 305-668-3873 www.southmiamifl.gov

Help Mrs. Claus pass out gifts to all the good critters, visit with Santa and play in the snow from 2-5pm. Stick around after 5pm to see the Garden

Sunday, December 1

Saturdays-Sundays, December 14-15 & 21-22

of Lights display. Included with daytime admission of $19.95/adult, $12.95/child. Flamingo Gardens & Wildlife Sanctuary, 3750 S. Flamingo Rd., Davie, 954-473-2955 www.flamingogardens.org

SOUTH FLORIDA CHASSIDIC CHANUKAH FESTIVAL Wednesday, December 25

Music, free Chanukah gelt and goodies for children.

Free admission; food available for purchase. 7pm, Gulfstream Park, 901 S. Federal Hwy., Hallandale Beach, 954-458-1877 www.chanukahfestival.com

ROCK’N NOON YEAR’S EVE PARTY Tuesday, December 31

A New Year’s Eve party with kid-friendly activities including a Balloon Drop at noon, entertainment, New Year’s activities and more. Free with admission of $12/Broward resident. 10am-3pm, Young At Art Museum, 751 SW 121 Ave., 954-424-0085 www.youngatartmuseum.org

SYMPHONY IN LIGHTS Through December 31

A spectacular dancing light show with thousands of animated lights and a 50-foot Christmas tree all synchronized to music. Free. 6-11pm, Gulfstream Park, 901 S. Federal Hwy., Hallandale Beach, 954-454-7000 www.gulfstreampark.com

Every effort has been made to provide up-to-date information, however changes and cancellations do occur, especially due to weather. Please double check details before setting out for your celebration.

December 23, 2019 January 3, 2020 ‘Tis the season for wonder and adventure! Kids 4 - 12 will enjoy hand-on activities, animal encounters and making memories, all while learning about wildlife and nature.

Week 1: December 23, 26 & 27 $135 per child Week 2: December 30 & 31, January 2 & 3 $180 per child Daily Registration also available! $50 per child

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Enjoy heartwarming visits with Santa, Snow Tubing, Cirque Dreams Unwrapped stage show, Mrs. Claus’ Christmas Traditions, and our signature 9-degree attraction ICE! featuring THE POLAR EXPRESS™.

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FAMILY man

A time for tradition IT’S THE LITTLE THINGS THAT BRING FAMILIES TOGETHER

BY PERRY P. PERKINS

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grew up with a mom who was really, really into Christmas — not like normal people are into Christmas, but more like from Thanksgiving to New Year’s our home looked like the Mall of America Christmas Town stuffed into a two-bedroom apartment.

Think: crazy cat lady, but with carols instead of calicos, and twinkle lights instead of tabbies. (There were cats, too… don’t even get me started.)

Traditions were a big deal to Mom. From setting up the all-important lazy Susan with nuts and hard candies (the good stuff didn’t come out until Christmas Eve… it’s like she didn’t trust me or something) to hanging everyone’s stocking in front of the (sometimes faux) fireplace. There was the same stack of records, the Christmas village on the coffee table and, of course, the tree with the old-fashioned fat lights

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and thick drape of “icicles” that we’d still be pulling out of the vacuum cleaner until the next July.

Once everything was in place, the garlands hung and the living room bathed in the soft red and green glow of the tree, then it was Christmas.

Whether it’s reading “The Night Before Christmas” in front of the fire on Christmas Eve, lighting the Hanukkah menorah, or leaving out cookies and milk for Santa, traditions have been a part of the holidays since, well, since there have been the holidays — and for good reason.

Throughout history, traditions have built a sense of stability and safety.

Regardless of whatever else is happening, we look forward to coming together in these familiar rituals. It tells us that our traditions, our families, are stronger and more important than the events of

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the outside world, that they will live on, regardless of what changes life brings. This understanding builds trust and security.

Children especially feel accepted within their “tribe” when they’re welcomed to take part in traditions. Ritual helps them to bond with one another and with the rest of the family. Kids who feel connected with their family are less likely to seek out that connection, and the acceptance they desperately need, in other places. In our increasingly digital world of “Facebook friendships,” this human connection is more important than ever.

Equally important, our traditions connect us to our past. Whether it’s Great-Great-Grandma’s gravy boat brought from the “old country” and saved for Christmas dinner, or retelling the story of Grandpa going out in a blizzard to get a tree, traditions are a physical and

spiritual link to our heritage — a way to pass along the oral traditions of us, who we are and where we came from, as families have been doing for thousands of years.

Whether creating or maintaining holiday traditions, it’s important to keep it simple.

Having every member of the family over for a feast was a lot easier back when it was two families who lived on the same street or in the same building. Give that family three or four generations to grow and you’ll find yourself with a logistical nightmare of flight schedules, hotel reservations and conflicting ideologies.

If planning the “perfect holiday” ruins our holiday, we’re missing the point. It’s the little things: Hanging ornaments together, and remembering the special meaning or memory of each. Trudging out, Griswoldstyle, to find the family tree. Gathering in the kitchen to create that special stuffing or mashed potatoes that Grandma used to make.

And don’t forget to bring in the little ones and teach them, too — that’s how traditions get passed on!

Still looking for ideas? How about: • Find a local light show you can visit each year.

• Pick your “Family Christmas Movie” and snuggle up with a big bowl of popcorn. We like White Christmas, It’s a Wonderful Life and A Muppet Christmas Carol.

• Call a local homeless shelter and find out what it’s running low on, then go shopping as a family and deliver your gift together. FYI: Going out for pie or ice cream afterwards will make this a more appealing tradition to the youngest members of the family.

• Let each child pick out a new tree ornament or decoration that has special meaning to that year in their lives.

(This is a favorite of ours.)

At my house, growing up, it was cookies — specifically, Sugar Cookies on page 232 of The Betty Crocker Cookbook.

I know this because I still have the cookbook, and while the rest of the book is “like new” (Mom didn’t do a lot of cooking), that page is folded, wrinkled and spotted with 40-year-old cookie-dough smudges.

Every year, a week or so before Christmas, Mom and I would turn the kitchen into a bomb-zone of flour,

eggshells and candy sprinkles. We’d dig out Grandma’s old tin cookie cutters and cut out the same bells, trees and stars that Mom grew up making. A simple powdersugar frosting and some red and green food coloring, and we’d bake up enough cookies to feed a small army (a.k.a. me) while Bing crooned on the record player (yes, I’m that old) and the house would fill with the lovely smell of… Christmas.

Mom’s been gone for three decades, but she’s still right there in the kitchen, every year, as we’ve helped our baby girl roll dough, press out shapes and spread frosting on the cookies… and the walls, and sometimes the dog.

We hum along to the same old songs, tell the same old funny stories as we hang the old ornaments, and reconnect with our generations, with our tribe.

Merry Christmas, Mamma… we won’t forget the lazy Susan.

Perry P. Perkins is a chef and awardwinning writer whose stories have appeared in hundreds of publications.

His Christmas tradition will be going into the oven any day now.

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Parents’ little helpers 15 HANDY APP ‘ELVES’ TO GET YOU THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS

BY PAM MOLNAR

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urviving the holiday season requires a little super power, a little creativity and a lot of organization.

While it wouldn’t hurt to have Martha Stewart’s number in your phone contacts, most of us are not that lucky. Instead we have come up with 15 must-have apps that will make your holiday more organized, more helpful and more fun.

1. ELFSTER. If you are doing a Secret Santa gift exchange between friends, coworkers or family, this app is for you. Simply add your groups’ emails and it randomly chooses your exchange.

It also includes wish lists so you know everyone’s preferences.

This free app is available for iPhone and Android.

2. JUSTWINK. If holiday cards have become a chore, download the justWink app for iPhone or Android. Developed by American Greetings, this app offers cards that can be sent directly from the app as email, text, social media greeting and even snail mail.

Bonus features include voice recordings and gift card attachments.

3. THE ADVENT APP. Available for iPhone, this app allows you to create personalized Advent calendars for 99 cents for family and friends. Every day they will receive a free personalized photo, text or a gift selected by you.

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4. ELF YOURSELF. Make silly dance videos of up to five people with images from your phone or Facebook. The app is free, but downloading and sharing the videos costs from 99 cents to $6.99.

5. AMAZON SHOPPING. Wouldn’t it be great to do all your shopping from your phone? This app is also great for price comparisons while shopping locally. With a subscription to Amazon Prime, you can also get free shipping and free access to Prime Video and Music.

6. ALLERGY EATS. This is a great guide for finding allergyfriendly restaurants in your area. Simply type in the allergen and your location in the search. The results are ratings based on actual experiences by other families. You have the option to leave comments, too.

7. ONE TODAY. This generosity app showcases a non-profit cause daily with a video and story. You can also browse for those causes that are closer to your heart. Make a donation of at least $1 with all proceeds going to the cause. Inspire others by encouraging them to match your donation or pay it forward by matching theirs.

8. PINTEREST. Looking for a last-minute recipe while you are shopping? Pinterest offers millions of ideas for recipes, crafts, games and so much more. Pins will take you directly to the recipe or directions so you will have everything you need while at the store.

9. SIGN UP GENIUS. It takes a village to get through holiday planning and Sign Up Genius is a great way to divide up the tasks. Use it for bringing food to a potluck, driving the carpools or shift schedules at work.

10. CHRISTMAS RINGTONES. Get into the spirit of the holidays by assigning Christmas ringtones to your frequent callers, texts and other alerts. There are several free versions available for iPhone and Android.

11. CAPTURE THE MAGIC. This is a great app for kids who are questioning the reality of Santa. Take a picture of a room in your house and add Santa, elves or reindeer to the picture to “prove� they exist. The free app is available for iPhone and Android.

12. HEADS UP. This fun app will be the hit of your next party or even just a timekiller while you wait in line at the store.

Hold the phone up to your forehead facing the other players. They give you hints as to the word or phrase on the screen and you have to guess what it is.

13. ARRIVE. With all the online purchases being made, it is hard to keep track of the packages. Download Arrive, which syncs your email with Amazon, eBay, Walmart and many other online stores, to track all your package deliveries in one place.

14. SHUTTERFLY. What do you do with all those photos you take during the holidays? Get them off your phone and store them on Shutterfly for free.

In addition, get free 4 x 4 or 4 x 6 prints through the app version only.

15. MINT. Keep track of your spending with this budget app. By having all your financial information in one place, you can track spending, investments and create a budget. Mint is made by Intuit, who created Turbo Tax and QuickBooks.

Pam Molnar is a freelance writer and mother of three. She knows parents need more than just the magic of the season to get them to the New Year.

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SPECIAL needs

Season’s heedings HOW TO LIGHTEN THE OVERLOAD FOR HOLIDAY-CHALLENGED FAMILIES

BY RACHAEL MOSHMAN

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e’ve entered the season of Merry and Bright. People ringing bells in front of the grocery store, carolers bursting into song, bright lights, smells of cookies, and festive sweaters are part of daily life.

But the most joyful time of the year can be more like a nightmare for many children with special needs and their parents. Here are a few of the challenges: It’s too much. Seasonal festivities can be over stimulating and overwhelming. My daughter deals with anxiety and sensory issues. Just a trip to the grocery store is a lot for her to handle during the holidays. There are heavier crowds, louder music, strong smells of pine and cinnamon and well-meaning strangers offering holiday greetings.

Parties, playdates and family gatherings offer even more stimulation.

It highlights differences. Seeing other families enjoy the season so seemingly easily can add a bit of sadness to the holidays. Parents of children with special needs don’t know what life is like without needing to plan out everything they need to bring to make the day comfortable for their child and without having multiple backup plans for challenges that may arise. We often feel judged by friends and family who don’t understand the situation, which can make the holidays feel lonely.

It’s just more to do. Decorating, buying gifts, baking cookies, going to parties, wrapping, etc., are fun for lots of people, but often parents of children with special needs already have overflowing plates. Adding just one more task might just make all those juggled plates crash — or at least that’s what it feels like.

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So how can you help these families? just too challenging for their sibling.”

Parents of children with special needs • “Listen to the mom. If she tells you shared some thoughts: something, believe her. If she says no to Parents of children with • “The loud, fun, awesome party is bringing her child to a party or event, special needs don’t know overwhelming. We love you, we like to trust her. Don’t badger. It may be that what life is like without leave while the party is still fun. This means for her child that fun event would be a needing to plan out going home to quiet before our daughter nightmare. Don’t take a ‘no’ as a rejection.” starts to melt down. Please don’t try to talk • “Please just leave my child alone everything… us into staying or feel like you did something until he feels comfortable to come out of wrong. We’re glad you invited us.” his shell. Calling, teasing, picking up, • “Just because it isn’t a toy that’s hugging, bribing with food, and calling age-appropriate to physical age doesn’t him a brat does not help and actually mean it’s not age- appropriate to mental and makes it very difficult for his parents emotional age.” and siblings who have to deal with the fallout.”

• “We can’t eat all your Christmas goodies. Don’t take offense, • “There’s a lot of grief around the holidays. Be sensitive to but the sugar stuff and other food allergies make eating everyone — adult and child. You don’t know everything anyone many treats a no.” is going through.”

• “It’s really hard for us to go to parties or other people’s • “Always ask the parent before giving a child food or drink. houses. We want to see you. Offer to come to us instead.”

You don’t know their allergies or limitations.”

• “It’s really hard for my child to open wrapping paper because of limb differences. They appreciate your gift, and gift bags make it much easier for them to experience without frustration.”

• “Gifts can be overwhelming. Experiences for the family are great, such as gift certificates to go bowling or to the zoo.”

• “My child isn’t a behavior problem. Please don’t judge my parenting because my kid is tired and overwhelmed.”

• “I love it when people offer to take my other children to do the big, fun holiday activities like festivals and parades that are

We still want to be invited. We want to spend the holidays with people we care about. It’s just not always possible in the way others expect. Ask what would make it easier and be flexible and understanding. And if all else fails, one mom said, “Please just bring me wine. And pie.” Or in my case, coffee and cookies.

Rachael Moshman, M.Ed., is a mom, writer, early childhood education specialist and family advocate. Her favorite cookie is snickerdoodle.

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Please e-mail listing information to calendar@miamidadefamilylife.com by the 5th of the month prior to the event date.

Include the name of the event, location, address, date, time, brief description, price and telephone number for the public.

MUSEUMS & EXHIBITS

Miami City Ballet’s The Nutcracker

Sunday Stories

SUNDAY, DECEMBER 1

Story hour revolves around the book Maybe Something Beautiful and includes a hands-on art project with tempera and mural painting.

Ages 1-5. Free. 11:30am-12:30pm, MUSEUM OF CONTEMPORARY ART NORTH MIAMI,

770 NE 125 St., North Miami, 305-893-6211 www.mocanomi.org

We Wednesday: Astonishing Air WEDNESDAYS, DECEMBER 4 & 11

Little ones can swish and whoosh their way through activities and investigations while exploring the presence of air. 10:30-11:15am, PHILLIP AND PATRICIA FROST MUSEUM OF SCIENCE, 1101 Biscayne Blvd., Miami,

www.frostscience.org

Free Family Day

SATURDAY, DECEMBER 14

IT’S SHOWTIME! Peter Pan Jr.

Cirque du Soleil

Fly away to the Neverland with the boy who won’t grow up and his mischievous fairy sidekick, Tinkerbell. Fridays, 7:30pm; Saturdays, 2pm & 7:30pm; Sundays, 5pm. AREA STAGE COMPANY, 1560 S. Dixie Hwy., Coral Gables, 305-666-2078 www.areastagecompany.com

Head to the Big Top to experience the breathtaking feats and awe-inspiring scenery of Cirque’s Alegria. Showtimes vary. UNDER

A Christmas Carol, The Musical

Harlem Globetrotters

The Charles Dickens classic is told with a musical twist in this heartwarming adaption. Showtimes vary.

The iconic Harlem Globetrotters feature an unrivaled show with amazing athletes, rim-rattling dunks and trick shots, sidesplitting comedy and unmatched on-court fan interaction. $25-$152. 3pm, WATSCO CENTER, 1245 Dauer Dr., Miami, 305-284-8686

FRIDAYS-SUNDAYS, DECEMBER 6-15

DECEMBER 7, 14, 21 & 22

ACTORS’ PLAYHOUSE AT THE MIRACLE THEATRE,

280 Miracle Mile, Coral Gables, 305-444-9293 www.actorsplayhouse.org

Trans-Siberian Orchestra Winter Tour FRIDAY, DECEMBER 13

The Trans-Siberian Orchestra presents rock opera, Christmas Eve and other stories. 8pm, BB&T CENTER, One Panther Parkway, Sunrise, www.thebbtcenter.com

Miami City Ballet’s The Nutcracker The Miami City Ballet presents George Balanchine’s dazzling choreography. Showtimes vary. ADRIENNE ARSHT CENTER, 1300 Biscayne Blvd., Miami, 305-949-6722 www.arshtcenter.org

A Christmas Story The Musical DECEMBER 13-29

Have some laughs and warm your heart as this holiday movie is brought to life on stage. Showtimes vary. $49-$65. BROWARD CENTER FOR THE PERFORMING ARTS, 201 SW Fifth Ave., Fort Lauderdale, 954-462-0222 www.browardcenter.org M I A M I - D A D E F A M I LY L I F E

THE BIG TOP NEXT TO THE HARD ROCK STADIUM, 347 Shula Dr., Miami Gardens,

www.cirquedusoleil.com SUNDAY, DECEMBER 15

A Seraphic Fire Christmas SUNDAY, DECEMBER 22

Seraphic Fire brings a unique sound to the stage with a performance of traditional English carols and Gregorian chants. Recommended for ages 7 and up. $20-$55. 4pm, SOUTH MIAMI-DADE CULTURAL ARTS CENTER,

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10950 SW 211 St., Cutler Bay, 786-573-5300 www.smdcac.org

Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer: The Musical MONDAY, DECEMBER 23

See all your favorite holiday characters including Santa, Rudolph and the Abominable Snow Monster come to life during this musical adventure. $25 and up. 2pm & 7pm, ADRIENNE ARSHT CENTER FOR THE PERFORMING ARTS, 1300 Biscayne Blvd., Miami, 305-949-6722 www.arshtcenter.org

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Learn about what makes our local National Parks unique through craft activities, stories and more.

10am-5pm, HISTORYMIAMI, 101 W. Flagler St., Miami, 305-375-1492 www.historymiami.org

PAMM Free Second Saturdays SATURDAY, DECEMBER 14

Families can enjoy art-making, hands-on activities and guided tours for free every second Saturday of the month. Admission is free all day, art-making hours are from 1-4pm. PÉREZ ART MUSEUM MIAMI, 1103 Biscayne Blvd., Miami, 305-375-3000 www.pamm.org

Tis the Season Sensory Saturday

SATURDAY, DECEMBER 14

Great sensory experiences await at this special event designed for children with sensory processing disorder and general development delay and their families. Includes sensory-based activities, a sensory-friendly Grinch storytelling, calming movement groups, and dimmed lights and sounds. 9-11am, MIAMI CHILDREN’S MUSEUM, 980 MacArthur Causeway, Miami, 305-373-5437 www.miamichildrensmuseum.org

Holiday Evening at Vizcaya WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 18

See the main house decorated for the holidays as it might have been 100 years ago, and participate in family activities including art making. $10. 6pm, VIZCAYA MUSEUM & GARDENS, 3251 S. Miami Ave., Miami, 305-250-9133 www.vizcaya.org

Holly, Jolly Holiday Event THROUGH DECEMBER 24

Celebrate the holiday season with storytelling, live entertainment, holiday characters, performances and more. Select evenings through Dec. 24. $30. 6-10pm, GOLD COAST RAILROAD MUSEUM, 12450 SW 152 St., Miami, www.gcrm.org

FAIRS, FESTIVALS & SPECIAL EVENTS Santa’s Enchanted Forest

Holiday Concert

MIAMI BEACH CONVENTION CENTER,

ONGOING THROUGH JANUARY 5

Lights, rides, food, games, entertainment and more make this holiday wonderland glow.

TROPICAL PARK, corner of Bird Road and the Palmetto Expressway, Miami, 305-559-9689 www.santasenchantedforest.com

Luminosa Chinese Lantern Festival

1901 Convention Center Dr., Miami Beach, www.artbasel.com

SUNDAY, DECEMBER 15

Enjoy holiday-themed musical performances by local and regional students. Free. 6-8pm, GATEWAY PARK, 151 Sunny Isles Blvd., Sunny Isles Beach, www.sibfl.net

Winter Holiday Celebration FRIDAY, DECEMBER 6

A festive event for the whole family with a visit with Santa, holiday crafts, an outdoor screening of The Grinch and more. 6pm,

Heritage Fest and Craft Fair

SOUTH MIAMI-DADE CULTURAL ARTS CENTER,

THROUGH JANUARY 8

See the bright lights and breathtaking displays that span 13 lush acres. $35/adult, $30/child.

JUNGLE ISLAND, 1111 Parrot Jungle Trail, Miami, 305-400-7230 www.jungleisland.com

10950 SW 211 St., Cutler Bay, 786-573-5300 www.smdcac.org

The Biggest Baby Shower Ever Miami TUESDAY, DECEMBER 10

The NightGarden THROUGH JANUARY 11

Experience the fantasy and wonderment of effects including wise talking trees, flying fairies, and holographic butterflies at this magical light spectacular. $19-$55. FAIRCHILD TROPICAL BOTANIC GARDEN, 10901 Old Cutler Rd., 305-667-1651 www.fairchildgarden.org

Art Basel

Expecting and new parents can test out the latest gear, learn from the experts, meet other parents and receive giveaways at this fun-filled event. Tickets available online. 4:30-9pm, HILTON MIAMI DOWNTOWN, 1601 Biscayne Blvd., Miami, www.bigcitymoms.com

Leading international galleries display multi-media work of modern and contemporary artists. Thursday 3-8pm, Friday noon-8pm, Saturday noon-8pm, Sunday noon-6pm.

Make it a family fun day at this festival that features arts and crafts, historical exhibits, vendors and children’s activities including a petting zoo and pony rides. $10, free/11 and under. 10am-5pm, FRUIT & SPICE PARK, 24801 SW 187 Ave., Homestead, 305-247-5727 www.redlandfruitandspice.com

Junior Orange Bowl Parade SUNDAY, DECEMBER 15

A community tradition, this annual event celebrates local children, community and culture with a parade of floats, cars, bands and more.

4pm, IN FRONT OF CITY HALL, 405 Biltmore Way, Coral Gables, www.jrorangebowl.org/parade

Barnacle Under Moonlight Concert SATURDAY, DECEMBER 14

THURSDAY-SUNDAY, DECEMBER 5-8

SATURDAY-SUNDAY, DECEMBER 14-15

Bring the family to enjoy the winter weather while listening to music by the bay. $10/adult, $3/child. Gates open at 6pm. 7-9pm, BARNACLE HISTORIC STATE PARK, 3485 Main Hwy., Miami 305-442-6866 www.thebarnacle.org

Tastes of Miami

THURSDAY-MONDAY, DECEMBER 26-30

Latin and Caribbean food and music festival featuring a variety of cuisine, entertainment and family fun.

MIAMI SEAQUARIUM, 4400 Rickenbacker Causeway, Miami, 305-361-5705 www.miamiseaquarium.com

COMMUNITY ACTIVITIES The Avengers Drawing Workshop

Family Movie Matinee SATURDAY, DECEMBER 7

101 W. Flagler St., 305-375-2265 www.mdpls.org

Stop by the library to see a screening of Captain Underpants. The branch shows a family-friendly movie once a month. 3pm, NORTH SHORE BRANCH LIBRARY, 7501 Collins Ave., Miami Beach, 305-864-5392 www.mdpls.org

Mythological Sea Monsters

National Letter Writing Day

THURSDAY, DECEMBER 5

SATURDAY, DECEMBER 7

Mommy-and-me program encourages parents and their little ones to explore and learn about unique animals through animal interactions, presentations and arts and crafts. Ages 2-5. $10/adult, $5/child. Optional park entrance is offered to participants at a reduced fee. 10am, MIAMI SEAQUARIUM, 4400 Rickenbacker Causeway, Miami, 305-361-5705, www.miamiseaquarium.com

Forgo a text message or email and take the time to hand-write a letter to a loved one or someone in need of a kind word. Materials provided.

Call to pre-register. All ages. 3:30pm, LEMON CITY BRANCH LIBRARY, 430 NE 61 St., Miami, www.mdpls.org

TUESDAY, DECEMBER 3

Learn to draw your favorite Avengers characters during this artist-led workshop. 3:30pm, MAIN LIBRARY BRANCH,

DIY Essential Oil Ornament

THURSDAY, DECEMBER 5

Teens can create a one-of-a-kind lightweight pendant, ornament or magnet that holds an essential oil fragrance. Ages 12 and up. 6pm,

Family Movie Night FRIDAY, DECEMBER 13

Bring your family for a special holiday-themed movie night. Price includes admission to the Nights of Lights winter display on the grounds of Pinecrest Gardens. $10. 6-9pm, PINECREST GARDENS, 11000 Red Rd., Pinecrest, 305-669-6990 www.pinecrestgardens.org

Parents Night Off

PINECREST BRANCH LIBRARY,

FRIDAY, DECEMBER 13

5825 SW 111 St., Pinecrest, 305-662-7494 www.mdpls.org

Drop the kiddoes off and have a night on the town as they participate

in fun-filled activities including games, arts and crafts and socializing with friends. $45/non-resident, $36/resident.

6-9pm, WAR MEMORIAL YOUTH CENTER, 405 University Dr., Coral Gables, 305-460-5600 www.coralgables.com

Holiday Door Hanger SATURDAY, DECEMBER 14

Children can get crafty and make a festive winter door hanger to bring home. 12:30pm, LEMON CITY BRANCH LIBRARY, 430 NE 61 St., Miami, www.mdpls.org

Gables Bike Tour SUNDAY, DECEMBER 15

Take a guided bike tour to view the architectural styles from around the world that exist in our own backyards. $10/adult, $5/child.

10am-noon, CORAL GABLES MUSEUM, 285 Aragon Ave., Coral Gables, 305-603-8067 www.coralgables.com

Family Craft Time WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 18

Beach Cleanup

SATURDAY, DECEMBER 21

Give a gift to the environment this holiday season by participating in a beach cleanup starting at the Ellen Wynne beach access location.

Gloves, garbage bags and water will be provided. Free. 8-10am, ELLEN WYNNE BEACH ACCESS,

192 Street and Collins Avenue, Sunny Isles Beach, 305-792-1706 www.sibfl.net

Movies in the Park FRIDAY, DECEMBER 27

Bring your blanket and chairs for an outdoor movie. Free. 8-10pm, BARNACLE HISTORIC STATE PARK, 3485 Main Hwy.,

Miami, 305-442-6866 www.thebarnacle.org

WANT MORE FUN? See our extensive list of holiday happenings on page 14 and check our online calendar at www.miamidadefamilylife.com

Bring the family and get crafty making a homemade masterpiece together. 5pm, NORTH DADE REGIONAL LIBRARY, 2455 NW 183 St., Miami Gardens, 305-625-6424 www.mdpls.org

Every effort has been made to provide accurate information. Changes and cancellations do occur. Please double check the details before setting out on your adventure.

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WORDS of wisdom

Sweeter than snow cones IT TAKES GROWING UP TO DISCOVER THE TRUE GIFTS OF THE HOLIDAYS

BY KARA MARTINEZ BACHMAN

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used to think the ultimate holiday gift was a Snoopy Sno-Cone Machine. I not only wanted one, I dreamt of having one. I coveted that little machine, with its image of the “Peanuts” character and its shaved ice topped with syrups.

It was kind of ridiculous for a kid who grew up in New Orleans to be obsessed with this thing. As the sno-ball capital of the world, the city did to the snow cone what it does with most food — it elevated it to new culinary heights. A fine-iced, creamy, exotic-flavored sno-ball in New Orleans doesn’t even resemble the hard, too-chunky, boring-flavored snow cone found in the rest of the world.

Little me, however, would not be deterred. For several years, I asked for the stupid thing, and each time I was denied. Santa was never interested either, despite the fact that snow-ish gifts must have been very much up his alley.

“That thing is garbage,” Mommy and Daddy would say.

“What kinda sno-ball could it possibly make?” I had to concede they had a point. “Plus, it’s expensive. And you have to always buy more of the expensive syrups. FOREVER.” Once I became a parent, I realized it’s not so simple as that. The recipe of parenting doesn’t involve simple math; it requires convoluted computations. It involves weighing things.

Measuring things. Sometimes, we parents even feel as if we’re mad scientists: We’re forced to weigh emotional costs, benefits, sacrifices, values, lessons learned. Sometimes the readings on the scale are fuzzy, or the scale isn’t calibrated correctly.

Sometimes we make mistakes. Sometimes love has different weights, different measures, unexpected outcomes, and the results are difficult to interpret until we’re fully grown.

For most of my young life, I was angry because my parents never made me feel loved via shaved ice. But instead of spending money on us, they’d focus time and energy on family traditions and things that don’t cost, that don’t require buying extra syrups.

For instance, my mother would make Christmas crafts with us for hours. It’s been 17 years since she died, but each year I still place on my holiday tree a clothespin we turned into a toy soldier when I was a child. I remember her helping me draw on the soldier’s eyes and nose with a felt-tipped pen.

My father would take us to chop down a Christmas tree. Not

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on a lot, but on someone’s vacant land. It would be ugly and small and look very much like Charlie Brown’s unlovable tree, but I have exciting memories of getting a tree from an actual forest instead of from a tree lot.

There are no toys better than the excitement of getting an ugly tree you waited all year to make pretty with ornaments that you’d made with your mother.

We’d participate in spiritual activities, lighting advent candles and following advent calendars. Some years, we’d attend Mass every night during Holy Week, wearing simple cotton dresses my mother had spent many hours hand-sewing for each of us. Although I don’t raise my own children in a faith tradition, I still recall those as the best of weeks, since the church was decorated with poinsettias and the air was filled with incense.

No sno-cone syrups could ever fill the air with incense.

I only saw the light when I had kids myself and they asked for ridiculous, expensive things I knew would break or soon get tossed unwanted into the garbage. I understood that gifts are nice, of course, but aren’t the be-all and end-all of the holidays for children.

Holiday love is more about traditions, and sights and sounds, and dotting eyes on a soldier while held in your mother’s arms.

Kara Martinez Bachman’s writing has appeared in numerous publications. She’s learned there are many holiday treats sweeter than even the finest New Orleans sno-ball.

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