Miami Dade Family Life December 2018

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departments 8 MIAMI & MORE News about the people, places and events in our community.

22 MOM MATTERS How to avoid weight gain during the holidays.

24 FAMILY MAN A different kind of holiday present from Dad.

26 FAMILY FINANCES 10 free apps that introduce kids to the world of finance.

28 CALENDAR OF EVENTS Entertaining and noteworthy things to see and do in every corner of Miami-Dade County.

30 WORDS OF WISDOM Living in the moment of our hurried, harried lives.

ON THE COVER: Michael and Mila Zapata, 6, of Southwest Ranches, Cover Angel runners-up Photographer: Lisa Nalven

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24-HOUR ENERGY GUIDE

JOY FOR THE HOLIDAYS

A daylong regimen to keep your energy level — and spirits — high.

Oh, the weather outside is delightful, and so is the lineup of local holiday festivities.

Here is an abundance of joyful ways to celebrate the season both indoors and out.

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of both established and emerging artists. And this year, for the first time, those emerging artists will include — wait for it — kids!

WONDER, billed as “The First-Ever Kids’ Exhibit and Interactive Installation During Art Basel Miami” will provide the entire family an opportunity to enjoy the arts during Miami Art Week. From 10am-7pm Dec. 6-8, the exhibit will highlight the works of a variety of artists 18 years and younger from across the country at the downtown Miami Worldcenter.

Among WONDER’s wonders is Aelita Andre, an 11-year-old Australian who will debut her new collection of acrylic mixed-media paintings. Having already exhibited around the world and hailed as “The Prodigy of Color,” Aelita will also be present during the exhibit to meet with young art lovers and their parents.

All artwork will be for sale with proceeds benefiting non-profit Youth Entrepreneurs’ innovative curriculum for middle or high school. Tickets are $25 for adults, $15 for kids, and free for 5 and under.

Miami Worldcenter is at 1010 NE Second Ave., across from American Airlines Arena. For more information, please visit www.kidsbasel.com or www.facebook.com/artbaselkids.

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SPICING IT UP AT THE SEAQUARIUM Miami Seaquarium has been a local landmark for over 60 years, and this month one of the city’s oldest attractions is trying something new: it’s first music and food festival — with a spicy twist.

From Dec. 26-30, Tastes of Miami will celebrate the Latin and Caribbean flavors and cultures that make Miami a unique international city.

While mom and dad are sampling savory dishes from local Caribbean and Latin American restaurants and food trucks, the Kid’s Zone will keep the young ones entertained with arts and crafts, bounce houses and games with prizes.

The whole family can learn dance moves like salsa and Zumba with some of the best local artists, as well as enjoy music by live local bands and a deejay. And, of course, a Latin-flavored festival wouldn’t be the same without cigar rolling demonstrations. There will be other local vendors, too.

Festival hours are 11am-4pm. Admission is $47.99 for adults, and $37.99 for children. The Seaquarium is at 4400 Rickenbacker Causeway. For more information, please visit www.miamiseaquarium.com.

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FAMILY FESTIVAL LIGHTS UP MIAMI Holiday lights aren’t the only ones bringing a special glow to Miami this season. There are also the dazzling illuminations of the Lantern Light Festival, a six-week celebration of Chinese culture featuring massive, luminous lanterns at the Miami-Dade Fairgrounds.

Complementing the lanterns, which can be over 30 feet high and up to 300 feet long, there are performances by Chinese acrobats and a variety of children’s activities: an inflatables playground, mini-golf, dragon and dino rides, a scavenger hunt, mining for emeralds and the Forbidden City Maze.

And, of course, fireworks.

A 2,000-year tradition, the lantern festival is China’s most important celebration, with the lighting of lanterns symbolizing a bright future and the reunion of family. Though Chinese lanterns often evoke images of smaller lights being released into the night sky, these enormous lanterns don’t leave the ground. Appearing to be three-dimensional stained glass, they are custom-built and handmade by Chinese artisans, typically taking four weeks and a team of seven to complete out of hundreds of pieces of silk.

The festival is open through Jan. 20 from 5pm-10pm Thursdays and Sundays, and 5pm-11pm Fridays and Saturdays. Admission is $18, children 3-12, and $23, adults;

under age 3, free. The $28 children’s activity package includes one child admission, unlimited inflatables and mini-golf, one dragon or lion ride and the maze. Thursday is Family Night, when the activity package is just $24 if purchased online at www.lanternlightfestival.com. The fairgrounds are at 10901 SW 24 St., Miami.

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f you get tired of seeing your children spending their holiday break staring at small screens, here’s a jolly idea: Take them to the big screens!

Hollywood knows the holiday season is prime time for family film-going, and right now movie listings are flush with kidfriendly features. So if you want to give the kids a treat and indulge yourself in a couple of hours of family time, here are 10 new movies — listed in order of release date — that should provide a theater experience worth the popcorn.

earn a place on Santa’s team and possibly save Christmas.

6. Mirai of the Future (Nov. 30, PG) This animated Japanese adventure centers on a 4-year-old boy who learns important lessons on how to be a big brother after discovering a mysterious garden that lets him time-travel to meet young versions of his mom and great-grandfather.

7. Spider-Man: Into the Spider-verse (Dec. 14, not yet rated) The six-film superhero franchise gets an animated addition as Spidey crosses parallel

1. The Grinch (Nov. 9, PG) The story of this animated take on the Dr. Seuss classic is familiar — a grumpy Grinch plots to ruin Christmas for the village of Whoville. But what’s different is hot actor Benedict Cumberbatch’s role as the voice of the title character.

2. Fantastic Beasts: The Crimes of Grindelwald (Nov. 16, PG-13) The second installment of the fantasy series set in J.K. Rowling’s Wizarding World features the adventures of “magizoologist” Newt Scamander, played by Oscar-winner Eddie Redmayne, who must help thwart powerful dark wizard Gellert Grindelwald on his mission to lord over all non-magic beings.

3. Ralph Breaks the Internet (Nov. 21, PG) Picking up six years after the events of Wreck-It Ralph, the story follows now-friends Ralph and Vanellope as they discover that a wifi router in their arcade is actually a door into the internet world of tweets, hashtags and the sassy Disney princesses community.

4. Robin Hood (Nov. 21, PG-13) This action-packed adventure brings to life the timeless story of Robin Hood, now a war-hardened Crusader revolting against the corrupt English crown with his Moorish commander, played by Jamie Foxx. With gritty battlefield exploits and stunning fight choreography, it’s probably not the best choice for younger movie-goers.

5. Elliot the Littlest Reindeer (Nov. 30, PG) A better choice for the younger set, this animated family flick takes off when Blitzen decides to retire right before the big day, giving a miniature horse a shot at the reindeer tryouts to fulfill his lifelong dream,

dimensions where multiple Spider-men exist and teams up with them to stop a threat to all reality.

8. Mary Poppins Returns (Dec. 19, PG) Starring Emily Blunt in the title role, this long-awaited sequel promises to be the family-film blockbuster of the season.

Decades after her original visit, the magical nanny and her catchy tunes return to help a grown-up Jane and Michael Banks through a difficult time in their lives. Can you say supercalifragilisticexpialidocious?

9. Bumblebee (Dec. 21, not yet rated) Here’s a holiday gift for Transformers fans. A battered and broken Bumblebee, hiding in a beach town junkyard for years, is discovered by a local teenager trying to find her place in the world, and together they embark on a journey of friendship and recovery.

10. Aquaman (Dec. 21, PG-13) Based on the DC Comic, this the story of an ordinary boy who learns he is heir to the underwater kingdom of Atlantis. Will he become the superhero his kingdom needs?

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CONNECTING PEOPLE AND PARKS “Connecting people and parks for life.” That’s the Miami-Dade County Parks motto — and the country’s third-largest county park system takes it seriously.

One way it brings people and parks together is by encouraging residents to participate in a variety of volunteer opportunities for individuals or groups in special events or ongoing service capacities.

And with 270 parks within its 13,000-plus acres, the multifaceted system offers plenty of places to get involved — from marinas to Zoo Miami — and plenty of activities, too.

Volunteers can help by building a playground or beautifying a park, by playing basketball with children in an inclusive setting or teaching a child to play an instrument, by coordinating activities for seniors programs or providing ranger duties for golf courses.

And the bonus for students is that high-school or college community service requirements can be fulfilled by volunteering in areas such as these: Signature service day events: Hundreds of community volunteers help out at special annual events, such as MLK Day of Service, Youth Service Earth Fest, Summer Service Bash, and 9/11 Day of Service & Remembrance.

On-going service events: Saturday volunteer events at nature centers and parks across the county include EcoAction Days and Community Action Days — such as the one Dec. 1 at Haulover Park, where volunteers help to beautify the coastal park by removing trash and micro-plastics from 9:30am-12:30pm. Participants receive an all-day parking pass (a $7 value) and are encouraged to enjoy the rest of the day at the beach.

Park beautification projects: Groups of five or more friends, work colleagues or loved ones gather together to participate in park cleanups.

Groups can also Adopt-A-Park.

Park site volunteers: Placements help volunteers learn more about and assist in park operations at various golf courses and marinas and even Zoo Miami, as well as in the divisions of Natural Areas Management, Disability Services and Arts and Culture.

For more information on volunteer opportunities, click the Get Involved tab of www.miamidade.gov/parks or call 3-1-1.

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24-HOUR A daylong regimen to keep your energy level — and spirits — high

BY SA N D R A G O R D O N

Fantasy: You give everyone gift cards for the holidays, let the dust bunnies gather and forget all about cooking, cleaning, shopping and wrapping.

Reality: You’ve got more to do than ever, with hundreds of holiday cards to address, tons of family and friends to shop for and parties galore to attend.

Sound familiar? Then maximize your energy level by tweaking your daily habits. This 24-hour energy guide can help you power up your holiday prep so you can multitask more efficiently and feel calmer within the chaos.

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EnergyGUIDE 7am: Let in the light When you wake up in the morning, your circadian rhythm, an alertness cycle, peaks. Cells in your brain that influence vigilance fire rapidly.

“They tell your brain: ‘Get going! Get things done!’” says sleep-disorders specialist Alejandro Chediak. Still, it generally takes an average of about 25 minutes to go from groggy to fully awake.

To get going faster, open the shades and turn on the lights.

When sunlight or bright artificial light enters through your eyes and travels to the suprachiasmatic nucleus — the brain’s internal clock — it triggers alertness at any time of day. Morning light

exposure is especially important, though, because it sets your 24-hour circadian cycle so you’ll be sleepy at bedtime. You function best on a good night’s sleep.

More on that later.

8am: Eat protein for breakfast Breakfast raises blood sugar (glucose), which fuels your brain and body. But a low-fiber carbfest of donuts or a plain bagel can cause glucose to spike. A subsequent surge in the hormone, insulin, will then pull too much glucose from your system.

“Glucose peaks and valleys can make you feel tired,” says Douglas J. Paddon-Jones, a nutrition researcher. To stabilize that energy-zapping hormonal roller coaster, pack a protein punch at breakfast. He recommends 25 to 30 grams at every meal, in addition to high-fiber carbs like oatmeal and healthy (unsaturated) fats. Easy grab-and-go protein picks include low-fat cottage cheese (11g/4 oz) or yogurt (7g/6 oz), a tall non-fat latte or one cup of skim milk (10g), a Luna bar (8g) or an egg (6g).

And keep in mind that kids who eat breakfast can concentrate better and have healthier diets. So emphasize how important breakfast is and be a role model.

“If you’re not eating breakfast yourself, it’s going to be hard to get your child to value it,” says Elizabeth Ward, author of The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Feeding Your Baby and Toddler.

9am: Get your first caffeine fix Caffeine is as potent as breakfast in revving a morning at the mall. According to a recent study in the International Journal of Neuroscience, those who consumed a 440-calorie breakfast or 200 milligrams of caffeine (roughly two cups of coffee) had more mental energy and performed better on two separate computerized cognitive tests than those who had neither.

But don’t gulp your daily dose in one sitting. A study involving U.S. Navy Seals found that an average of 300mg of caffeine (equivalent to three cups of coffee) consumed throughout the day is optimal for mental and physical performance. So save your ammunition and have one cup now and more later, if necessary. Besides boosting brain power and memory, caffeine makes you feel more vigorous and improves mood, says Harris R. Lieberman, a research psychologist with the U.S. Army Research Institute of Environmental Medicine.

10am-12pm: Tackle A-list to-do tasks All morning, your circadian cycle is on the rise, so take advantage of your natural alertness and tackle your most mentally challenging projects before lunch — whether that’s organizing your child’s toy room before a party or drafting your annual holiday letter. Need a motivation lift? Get another 100-mg hit of caffeine or head to a window or a bright light. Studies show that even just 50 seconds of light exposure throughout the day can jolt your brain and make you feel more attentive. continued on page 14

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Noon (or so): Eat protein, high-fiber carbs for lunch Your goal is to keep your blood sugar constant. So it’s time to eat again, especially if it has been at least three hours since your last meal. For lunch, think lots of vegetables, lean protein, whole grains, fresh fruit and a small amount of healthy fat. How about sliced turkey on whole-grain bread with a smear of mayo and a pear with a glass of skim milk? Other ideas: whole-grain crackers, baby carrots, half a cup of hummus and an orange; a whole-grain roll, one cup of lentil soup, grape tomatoes and a peach. Don’t skip lunch no matter how busy you are.

1pm to 3 pm: Nab a short nap…

Whether you eat or not, your circadian rhythm will take a dip at this time, so you’ll feel a natural drop in alertness. “The need for a short nap is actually part of our hard-wiring,” says Chediak.

So grab at least 20 minutes of shut-eye now if you can. When your kids go down for their nap, take their cues and recharge, too. …or another dose of caffeine If napping isn’t an option, a 100-mg caffeinated beverage like a cup of coffee or a diet cola can help you power through the slump, which will be stronger if you’re sleep-deprived. Caffeine generally takes eight to 12 hours to get out of your system, so cut yourself off after this so it doesn’t disrupt your sleep later. If you still feel caffeinated at bedtime, push up your last caffeine hit to noon. Blood levels of caffeine peak about 30 to 45 minutes after you’ve consumed it.

Another option: Light exposure (again) or physical activity. At any time of the day, exercise will pep you up because it increases your body temperature and the release of epinephrine, the adrenaline level in your brain. Even a walk around the block with your kids or a few on-the-spot push-ups can help.

3pm: Take a water break By now, your circadian cycle is rising again so now’s the time to dive back in to mentally demanding projects, such as tallying your holiday budget. Need a motivation boost? Try drinking some water. Being mildly dehydrated — losing 1 to 2 percent of your body weight, which can happen if you go for long periods without drinking — can sour your mood and contribute to fatigue and confusion, according to a recent study in Perceptual and Motor Skills.

“Even if you’re just sitting at your desk and feeling a little droopy, drinking a glass of water couldn’t hurt,” says Kristen D’Anci, the study’s lead researcher. In general, women need 2.7 liters or roughly 11 cups of fluid daily, which they can get by consuming anything watery, including coffee, soup, oranges and watermelon. You’re drinking enough to optimize your energy level if your urine is pale or clear.

4pm: Sniff rosemary To help yourself power through the rest of the afternoon of holiday madness, keep a bottle of rosemary essential oil handy and give it a sniff. In a recent study in the International Journal of Neuroscience, subjects who sniffed a cotton ball doused with the essential oil reported feeling more alert with corresponding brain activity to back it up.

“What you smell goes directly to the brain so you get an immediate effect,” says Miguel A. Diego, the study’s lead researcher at the University of Miami School of Medicine.

Peppermint and eucalyptus essential oils may be equally as effective.

The purest essentials oils have the most potent effect so buy the most concentrated you can find, he advises. They’re available at health food stores and the mind/body section of organic/natural supermarkets.

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5pm to 6:30pm: Get in a major workout A vigorous workout will initially make you tired because it depletes glycogen, the stored form of carbohydrate in your muscles and liver, and muscles require energy for repair.

“But in the long run, as you build up more muscle and stamina, exercise gives you more energy,” says Susan Roberts, author of The “I” Diet. Ideally, it’s best to get a major fitness fix in this time window — four to six hours before going to bed. The good news?

You don’t have to head to the gym. Shopping at the mall and vigorously cleaning your house counts.

“Falling asleep is easier when your body is internally going from warm to cold. That happens about four to six hours after exercise,” Chediak says.

6:30pm to 7:30pm: Dinner time Eating dinner now is important, especially if you’ve just exercised. Researchers say that eating within 30 minutes of working out helps your muscles refuel and repair so you won’t feel depleted the next day. It also ensures that you won’t go to bed on a full stomach, which can interfere with a good night’s sleep — the ultimate fatigue-fighter.

7:30pm to 9pm: Wind down with a hot bath Now, after the kids are in bed, is the perfect time to not only get some presents wrapped, but to take time for a hot shower or bath. Like exercise, hot water raises your body temperature.

As it falls, you’ll feel sleepier so you’ll be primed to hit the hay in an hour or so. On the other hand, if you need to burn the midnight oil with more holiday prep, take a cold shower.

“It gets you going because cold water causes your brain to release epinephrine, which increases vigilance,” says sleep researcher Kingman P. Strohl. A study of 149 resident physicians found that showering was one of the main strategies they used to cope with on-the-job fatigue.

9:30pm to 7am: Get your zzzs By around 9:30pm, your circadian (alertness) drive plummets and the pressure to sleep, which builds up the longer you’re awake, is strong. Go with it, and go to bed.

“Even just a single night of disrupted sleep or a few hours of chronic sleep loss each night can influence how vigorous and how alert you feel the next day,” Lieberman says.

Aim for seven to nine hours of solid shut-eye each night. Seem impossible when you’ve got little kids? Try moving your bedtime. A recent study in the journal Sleep suggests that you can get in the extra-energizing sleep your brain craves by simply turning off the TV 40 to 78 minutes earlier.

It worked for Maureen Brady, a stay-at-home mom of two boys, ages 4 and 7.

“I used to go to bed around 10:30pm, but because both my kids still wake me up occasionally because of nightmares or whatever, and they’re both early-risers, I now go to bed at 9:30pm or earlier. I decided that getting enough sleep was more important than staying up to watch my favorite shows.”

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HOLIDAYS Oh, the weather outside is delightful, and so is the lineup of local holiday festivities. Here is an abundance of joyful ways to celebrate the season both indoors and out.

AVENTURA THE NUTCRACKER Friday-Sunday, December 7-9 Arts Ballet Theatre of Florida performs the story of the Nutcracker. $45. Showtimes vary. Aventura Arts & Cultural Center, 3385 NE 188 St., www.aventuracenter.org

COCONUT GROVE TREE LIGHTING CEREMONY Saturday, December 1 Ring in the holidays with a celebration featuring family activities, music, performances and photos with Santa, culminating with a tree lighting at 8pm.

4-8pm, Florentine Plaza, 3444 Main Highway, www.coconutgrove.com

CORAL GABLES MERRICK FESTIVAL CAROLING COMPETITION Wednesday-Sunday, November 28-December 2 & Tuesday, December 4 The festive sound of children’s voices will fill the air as kids from 30 different schools compete with free performances. The event culminates with an awards show on Tuesday.

See website for a schedule. The 550 Building, 550 Biltmore Way, 305-491-4180 www.carolingcompetition.org

TREE LIGHTING & SANTA’S PARK Friday, December 7 Celebrate the season with a fun filled evening of music, carnival rides, games, food, photos with Santa, arts and crafts, a bounce house and more.

The tree lighting and arrival of Santa takes place at 7pm. 5-10pm, Merrick Park, 405 Biltmore Way, www.coralgables.com

VOICES OF ANGELS Sunday, December 16 Miami Children’s Chorus captures the spirit of the holidays through a cappella singing, piano and orchestral accompaniment. $25/adult, $10/child.

4-6pm, First United Methodist Church of Coral Gables, 536 Coral Way, 305-662-7494 www.miamichildrenschorus.org

THE NIGHTGARDEN Through January 6 Experience the fantasy and wonderment of effects including wise talking trees, flying fairies, a sunflower maze and holographic butterflies at this magical light spectacular. $28/adult, $20/child. Fairchild Tropical Botanic Garden, 10901 Old Cutler Rd., 305-667-1651 www.fairchildgarden.org

CUTLER BAY THE NUTCRACKER Friday-Saturday, November 30-December 1 This classic Christmas ballet about a little girl’s journey to the Land of Sweets is performed by the Miami Youth Ballet. $26-$41. 8pm, South Miami-Dade Cultural Arts Center, 10950 SW 211 St., 786-573-5300 www.smdcac.org

A CHRISTMAS CAROL Sunday, December 1 Enjoy a live performance of a timeless tale about a miser who learns the true meaning of Christmas. 2:30pm, South Dade Regional Library, 10750 SW 211 St., 305-233-8140 www.mdpls.org

WINTER FESTIVAL Saturday, December 1 Join the fun at this community holiday event that includes Christmas carolers, games, kids activities, an ugly sweater contest, eggnog and cookies and more. Free. 10am-2pm, Florida Technical College - Cutler Bay Campus, 205 S. Dixie Highway, www.ftccollege.edu/winter-festival

WINTER HOLIDAY CELEBRATION Friday, December 7 A festive event for the whole family with holiday crafts, food trucks, a visit from Santa and an outdoor screening of the movie Unaccompanied Minors. Free. 6pm, South Miami-Dade Cultural Arts Center, 10950 SW 211 St., 786-573-5300 www.smdcac.org

HOLIDAY GOLF CART PARADE, TOY DRIVE AND WINTER CELEBRATION Saturday, December 15 It’s a unique take on a typical parade as a procession of decked out golf carts glide by. Additional activities include photos with Santa, food trucks, a photo booth, a bounce house, arts and crafts, music and more. Bring along a new, unwrapped toy to be donated to a child at the Holtz Children’s Hospital. Golf Cart Parade begins at 7pm.

6-10pm, Cutler Ridge Park, 10100 SW 200 St., 786-573-5577 www.cutlerbay-fl.gov

DORAL PARK & TREE LIGHTING Friday, December 7 Be dazzled as twinkling lights add holiday cheer to the night. While there, the family can watch performances, sip some hot chocolate and write a letter to Santa. 6:30-9pm, Downtown Doral Park, 8395 NW 53 St., 305-593-6611 www.cityofdoral.com

HOLIDAY LIGHTS & ICE Friday, December 14 Doral Central Park is transformed into a winter wonderland with snow, rides, food and live music. All ages. 6-10pm, Doral Central Park, 3000 NW 87 Ave., 305-593-6611 www.cityofdoral.com

HIALEAH SANTA’S SNOWBLAST Saturday, December 8 The kids can have lots of wintery fun at this event that includes 50 tons of snow to play in, carnival rides, games, live entertainment and more. $18/all access wristband, $15/rides, $6/snow pile and bounce houses. 6-10pm, Milander Park, 4700 Palm Ave., www.hialeahfl.gov

SNOW ANGELS Monday, December 10 Create a snow angel drawing using oil pastels, glitter, pattern paper, fabric and colored sand.

Ages 7-12. 3:30pm, Palm Springs North Branch, 17601 NW 78 Ave., 305-820-8564 www.mdpls.org

HOMESTEAD A CHRISTMAS CAROL Fridays-Sundays, December 21-23 & 28-30 Based on the Charles Dickens novel, this holiday performance reminds us all of the spirit of the season. $15. Showtimes vary. Seminole Theatre, 18 N. Krome Ave., 786-650-2073 www.seminoletheatre.org

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KENDALL WINTER WONDERLAND EXTRAVAGANZA Saturday, December 1 Have some wintertime fun with Kendall Regional Medical Center in a new location. Festivities include snow, cookies and milk, musical entrtainment by local schools, crafts, games and more. Free by calling 305-222-2200 to register. 4-8pm, Kendall Regional Medical Center at Town & Country Mall, 11800 Sherry Lane.

KEY BISCAYNE WINTERFEST Sunday, December 2 Get into the holiday spirit by listening to local choirs and bands, watching live performances and spending a little time with Santa. 4-7:30pm, Village Green, 450 Crandon Blvd., www.keybiscayne.fl.gov

WINTERFEST BOAT PARADE Saturday, December 8 Celebrate the holidays South Florida-style by watching decorated boats float by. 6-8pm, Bill Baggs Cape Florida State Park, 1200 Crandon Blvd., www.keybiscayne.fl.gov

MIAMI GIANT HOLIDAY CARDS Saturday, December 1 Kids ages 8-15 can create a unique holiday card for a loved one. All materials provided. 11am, Main Library Branch, 101 W. Flagler St., 305-375-2265 www.mdpls.org

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THE NUTCRACKER Saturday, December 1 Miami’s oldest presentation of the holiday classic is performed by The Thomas Armour Youth Ballet and features TAYB students, advanced dancers from New World School of the Arts and special guests. $20-$40. 7pm, Miami-Dade County Auditorium, 2901 W. Flagler St., 305-547-5414 www.miamidadecountyauditorium.org

JOLLY LOLLY STORY TIME Saturday, December 1 Bring the kids for a morning of holiday-themed magic, storytelling and puppetry. 11am, Shenandoah Branch Library, 2111 SW 19 St., 305-250-4688 www.mdpls.org

HANUKKAH CELEBRATION Sunday, December 2

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Celebrate Hanukkah by making marshmallow dreidels, creating Hanukkah-themed crafts and listening to stories, music and more.

11am-5pm, Miami Children’s Museum, 980 MacArthur Causeway, 305-373-5437 www.miamichildrensmuseum.org

’TIS THE SEASON Saturday, December 8 A Sensory Friendly Saturday seasonal event with an environment created especially for children with sensory processing disorder and general development delay along with their families.

9-11am, Miami Children’s Museum, 980 MacArthur Causeway, 305-373-5437 www.miamichildrensmuseum.org

WINTERLAND AT THE FARM December 8-January 7 Have some old-fashioned holiday fun with snow, hot chocolate, holiday treats, an illuminated forest and

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more. $20. Pinto’s Farm, 14890 SW 216 St., 305-258-6067 www.pintofarm.com

SANTA CLAUS IS COMING TO CAULEY SQUARE Sunday, December 16 A holiday extravaganza featuring balloon art, trackless train rides, pony rides, photos with Santa, live holiday entertainment and more. $5.

11am-6pm, Cauley Square, 222400 Old Dixie Highway, 305-258-3543 www.cauleysquare.com

MEET SANTA CLAUS Saturday-Monday, December 22-24 A special opportunity awaits at the museum, when Santa pays a visit. Stop by to tell him what you want for Christmas, or to pose for a photo.

11am & 3:30pm, Miami Children’s Museum, 980 MacArthur Causeway, 305-373-5437 www.miamichildrensmuseum.org

ZOO LIGHTS Through December 29 During select nights in December, visitors can see the zoo twinkle with a million animal-shaped lights and dazzling tree lights. See website for details.

Zoo Miami, 12400 SW 152 St., 305-251-0400 www.zoomiami.org

THE POLAR EXPRESS TRAIN RIDE Through December 30 Kids can dress in their pajamas and join the fun on a family train ride bound for the North Pole. Set to the sounds of the motion picture The Polar Express, the magical journey includes hot cocoa, a sing-along and visit with Santa. Select evenings. Tickets start at $34.99. Gold Coast Railroad Museum, 12450 SW 152 Ave., www.goldcoastrailroadmuseum.org

SANTA’S ENCHANTED FOREST Through January 6 Lights, rides, food, games, entertainment and more make this holiday wonderland glow. Tropical Park, corner of Bird Road and the Palmetto Expressway, 305-559-9689 www.santasenchantedforest.com

MIAMI BEACH MOSCOW BALLET’S GREAT RUSSIAN NUTCRACKER Saturday, December 29 A holiday spectacle featuring world-class Russian artists, hand-painted sets, snow maidens, nesting dolls and more. All ages. 3pm, The Fillmore Miami Beach at the Jackie Gleason Theater, 1700 Washington Ave., 305-673-7300 www.fillmoremb.com

MIAMI LAKES JINGLE BELL JOG 5K Saturday, December 1 Participants of this themed race receive Santa suits to run in, jingle bells for their sneakers and a holidaythemed finishers medal. The event also includes a Little Elf Dash for kids. $35/adult, $20/child.

5K begins at 7:30am, Little Elf Dash at 8:30am.

6700 Main St., www.jinglebelljog.net/miami-lakes

MIAMI SHORES JINGLE BELL DOG WALK Saturday, December 1 Bring Fido to a holiday frolic that includes a free community dog walk and doggie giveaways.

9am, Constitution Park, 9825 Park Dr., www.miamishoresvillage.com

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BARRY SPECIAL CHRISTMAS Saturday, December 1 A winter wonderland awaits with a holiday marketplace, seasonal fare, live music and a Santa’s Village with face painting, cookie decorating, storytelling and more. Free admission.

Noon-4pm, Barry University, 11300 NE Second Ave., 305-899-3000 www.barry.edu/special-christmas

WINTERFEST Friday, December 7

CAROLING HAYRIDE & LIGHT UP THE VILLAGE Wednesday, December 19 Bring the family and a flashlight and join the fun by taking a hayride to sing at neighborhood homes.

Deadline to sign up for hayride caroling is Dec. 17.

Luminaries for those who would like to light up their lawn for caroling visits are $8 at the Community Center. 6:30-9pm. 305-758-8103 www.miamishoresvillage.com

LIGHT UP YOUR HOLIDAYS CELEBRATION Saturday, December 1 Have a magical night with musical performances, a tree lighting, holiday light displays, rides and inflatables, snow, and more. 5-9pm, Village Hall, 9705 E. Hibiscus St., 305-259-1234 www.palmettobay-fl.gov

FESTIVAL OF TREES Through January 5 See the historic houses of the Deering Estate decorated in elegant holiday décor. Included with paid admission of $12/adult, $7/child. 10am-4pm, Deering Estate, 16701 SW 72 Ave., 305-235-1668 www.deeringestate.org

STORY TIME & PHOTOS WITH SANTA Saturday, December 8

MIAMI SPRINGS TREE LIGHTING CEREMONY Saturday, December 1 Holiday festivities include a tree lighting ceremony and photos with Santa. 7-9pm, Gazebo at Curtiss Parkway, 305-805-5075 www.miamisprings-fl.gov

SANTA’S PARADE AND FESTIVITIES AT THE GAZEBO Saturday, December 8

Stop by for a photos with the big guy, holiday arts and crafts and a story time with Santa’s elves.

Included with paid admission of $12/adult, $7/child.

Additional fee for photos. 10am-noon, Deering Estate, 16701 SW 72 Ave., 305-235-1668 www.deeringestate.org

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See Santa, a holiday parade and participate in festivities featuring rides, snow and more. $15/non-resident, $5/resident. 5:45-9pm. Parade begins at City Hall, 201 Westward Dr., and proceeds to the Gazebo. 305-805-5075 www.miamisprings-fl.gov

HOLIDAY TREE FESTIVAL & TEDDY BEAR TEA Saturday-Sunday, December 8-9 Little ones can bring their favorite bear to share in the fun that includes children’s shows and readings

by Mrs. Claus, a tea party (at 11am, 1pm & 3pm) and tree festival. Ages 3-8. $10/adult, $5/child for Tree Festival only, $10/child for Teddy Bear Tea (includes Tree Festival). 10:30am-5pm, Curtiss Mansion, 500 Deer Run, 305-869-5180 www.curtissmansion.com/holiday

POLAR EXPRESS STORYTIME Saturday, December 15 Journey to the North Pole by taking a Polar Plunge in the heated pool at noon, holiday stories at 2:30pm and winter crafts from 3-4pm. First 30 participants are free. Admission is $10/non-resident adult, $5/resident adult, $5/non-resident child, $3/resident child. Noon-4pm, Miami Springs Aquatic Center, 1401 Westward Dr., 305-805-5078 www.miamisprings-fl.gov

NORTH MIAMI BEACH MENORAH LIGHTING CEREMONY Monday, December 3 Bring the family for a Hanukkah event that includes a Menorah lighting, traditional music, Kosher refreshments and children’s activities. 6-8pm, North Miami Beach City Hall, 17011 NE 19 Ave., 305-948-2957 www.citynmb.com M I A M I - D A D E F A M I LY L I F E

A winter wonderland of children’s activities, music, rides, rock climbing walls, games, a snow mountain and more. Free admission. 6-11pm, along NE 19th Avenue between 164 and 171 streets, 305-948-2957 www.citynmb.com

PALMETTO BAY

A community festival featuring a tree lighting, photos with Santa, rides, inflatables, crafts and other family-friendly activities. $8/resident, $11/non-resident. 6:30-9pm, Field House, 9825 Park Dr., 305-758-8103 www.miamishoresvillage.com

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NIGHTS OF LIGHTS December 14-January 1 Be enchanted as Pinecrest Gardens transforms into a holiday wonderland featuring thousands of sparkling lights, rides, Christmas music, storytelling and pony rides. Stop by December 14-24 for a visit with Santa. $5. 6-9pm, Pinecrest Gardens, 11000 Red Rd., 305-669-6990 www.pinecrestgardens.org

SOUTH MIAMI SANTA’S PARADE OF THE ELVES Sunday, December 2 See a procession of elves and entertainment wend their way through South Miami. 2pm, Sunset Drive & 57th Avenue, 305-668-3873 www.southmiamifl.gov

MOUSE KING Fridays-Sundays, December 7-9 & 14-16 This family-friendly performance is a unique take on the story of The Nutcracker as told from the point of view of the mice. $25 and up. Showtimes vary.

Mandelstam Theater, 8530 SW 57 Ave., www.mousekingtickets.com

KEY LARGO BOAT PARADE Saturday, December 8 Celebrate the holidays South Florida-style by lining up along the waterway to watch a procession of decorated boats float by. 7:30pm, Blackwater Sound, MM 104, Key Largo, www.keylargoboatparade.com

BROWARD COUNTY SOUTH FLORIDA CHASSIDIC CHANUKAH FESTIVAL Monday, December 3 Music, free Chanukah gelt and goodies for children.

Free admission; food available for purchase. 7pm, Gulfstream Park, Hallandale Beach, 901 S. Federal Hwy., 954-458-1877 www.chanukahfestival.com

DISNEY IN CONCERT: TIM BURTON’S THE NIGHTMARE BEFORE CHRISTMAS Thursday, December 13 Immerse yourself in the sights and sounds of this concert performance and film featuring the South Florida Symphony Orchestra. $35-$155. 8pm, Broward Center for the Performing Arts, 201 SW Fifth Ave., Fort Lauderdale, 954-462-0222 www.browardcenter.org

TRANS-SIBERIAN ORCHESTRA WINTER TOUR Friday, December 14 The Trans-Siberian Orchestra presents rock opera, The Ghosts of Christmas Eve. 8pm, BB&T Center, One Panther Parkway, Sunrise, www.thebbtcenter.com

WINTERFEST BOAT PARADE Saturday, December 15 Line up along Fort Lauderdale’s waterways to enjoy the dazzling annual boat parade, from downtown Fort Lauderdale to Lake Santa Barbara in Pompano Beach. Free. 6:30-9pm, reserved grandstand seating at Hugh Taylor Birch State Park, Fort Lauderdale, 954-767-0686 www.winterfestparade.com

SANTA’S LITTLE HELPERS Saturdays-Sundays, December 15-16 & 22-23 Help Mrs. Claus pass out gifts to all the good critters, visit with Santa and play in the snow from 2-5pm.

Stick around after 5pm to see the Garden of Lights display. Included with daytime admission of $19.95/adult, $12.95/child. Flamingo Gardens & Wildlife Sanctuary, 3750 S. Flamingo Rd., Davie, 954-473-2955 www.flamingogardens.org

SYMPHONY OF LIGHTS Through December 31 A spectacular dancing light show with thousands of animated lights and a 50-foot Christmas tree all synchronized to music. Santa will pay a visit Dec. 23 from 5-10pm. Free. 6-11pm, Gulfstream Park, 901 S. Federal Highway, Hallandale Beach, 954-454-7000 www.gulfstreampark.com

MONROE COUNTY HOLIDAY FESTIVAL Friday, December 7 Bundle up to play in 30 tons of the frozen stuff at this Islamorada tradition that includes a holiday parade, tree lighting, a gift bazaar, Santa’s Sweet Shoppe, a silent auction of hand-crafted ornaments and more. 5-9pm, Founders Park, 86800 Overseas Highway, Islamorada, 305-664-4503 www.islamoradachamber.com

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Jingle Jangle Jiggle HOW TO AVOID HOLIDAY WEIGHT GAIN

BY GAYLA GRACE

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et the parties begin. The holidays are upon us and for many that means unwanted pounds begin creeping in, too.

But it doesn’t have to be that way. You can combat your natural tendency toward weight gain and do something different this year.

Why not incorporate a few easy habits to avoid those unwanted pounds? It could be the solution for maintaining your weight throughout the holiday season and modeling healthy behaviors your children will learn from in the process.

“The key is balance and moderation — plan ahead to keep from overeating,” says Barbin Lewis, registered dietician and mom of two boys. She suggests small changes to help curb the calories, such as: • Share a dessert when you’re out to eat.

• Consume five or six small meals per day instead of three large ones.

• Drink water and eat a salad or large piece of fruit before going to a party.

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• Stop eating when you feel full.

• Be mindful that sugary foods make you crave more sugary foods.

Lewis also emphasizes keeping your exercise routine in place and, when shopping, selecting parking places that require extra walking. But remember: It takes a lot of exercise to burn an overload of holiday eating.

Cindy Hendricks, a mom of four who recently lost 60 pounds, says her best tool to keep from overindulging at holiday social functions is to make up her mind to eat one unhealthy thing. That keeps her from feeling deprived but doesn’t destroy a healthy eating plan. She also chews gum when tempted to eat things she shouldn’t.

It’s also possible to avoid holiday weight gain if we train our minds differently. Our behaviors follow our thinking. I’ve heard it said that almost 90 percent of our thoughts are negative! So it’s no wonder we struggle with behavior change. Replace that negative thinking and gain inner strength to overcome temptations.

Positive affirmations go a long way in keeping us on track.

When that negative self-talk begins — “You know you always gain weight this time of year. Why do you think this year will be any different?” — banish it with an affirmation: “I can control what I eat and choose to make positive healthy choices.” Training your mind to replace negativity with positive affirmations will help you make better eating decisions.

The holidays are also a great time to incorporate a walking or running program that will also help combat the stress you may be feeling. All you have to do is get off the couch and step outside. If the weather’s not cooperating, find a nearby mall or gym where you can walk laps. Take your child with you and model the importance of exercise, even amidst a busy schedule.

Drinking plenty of water also helps flush out toxins and fats that come with holiday eating, in addition to filling your stomach and offsetting hungry urges.

Drinking water instead of alcohol at social gatherings also greatly decreases your calorie consumption.

Another healthy eating tip includes replacing everyday pantry snacks with healthy holiday treats. Cristal Reynolds, mom of two, says she keeps seasoned nuts, party mixes and dried fruits in her pantry for snacking. By keeping healthy snacks available instead of sugary sweets, we’re more likely to make good choices and teach our children to do the same.

She also suggests using non-fat and low-fat ingredients in holiday recipes when possible.

When you cave to your temptations, Lewis suggests one last tip that’s especially helpful: “If you overeat at a meal, don’t get discouraged and give up. Pick up with your healthy eating at the next meal.” Don’t let it drag on. It’s easy to fall off the wagon and stay there. But if you choose to immediately pick yourself back up, the pounds won’t pile on.

Holiday weight gain isn’t inevitable.

And teaching our children how to maintain healthy habits through the holiday season is important, too. It takes intentional effort, but the benefits of healthy choices far outweigh the costs of holiday indulgence.

Gayla Grace is a freelance writer and author of Stepparenting With Grace, A Devotional for Blended Families.

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The Gift of Compliments A DIFFERENT KIND OF HOLIDAY PRESENT FROM DAD

BY GREGORY KEER

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y wife and I had modest ambitions about decorating our home before our children arrived. Given our overstuffed work lives, we wanted our home to have clean lines, an emphasis on negative space, and blues and greens to give a feeling of serenity.

By the time our third child reached elementary school, it was clear he had different design ideas. The clean lines have been replaced by shelves full of outsized Lego masterpieces and the negative spaces filled with craft materials and tools.

Serenity? No, that went the way of not having one clutter-free tabletop, cabinet or couch.

“Unless you put some of this junk back in your room, I’m taking it all to the garage,” I said to my son one day in a fit of fastidiousness.

“I promise I’ll put it away tomorrow,” he replied, not looking up from the newly assembled cardboard doghouse he was installing next to our couch.

As I stared at the giant canine box with an irritated look, my wife, who has

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developed a disturbingly higher tolerance for messiness, pulled me aside.

“It’s a pretty good piece of work, isn’t it?” she reasoned.

“It’s great,” I said sarcastically. “Let’s do the whole room in storage containers.”

Ari heard this. “If you don’t like it, I can take it down — even though I worked on it all day,” he said, a tad hurt.

Feeling sheepish — which happens so often I might as well join a woolly herd in New Zealand — I walked over to inspect the structure. Indeed, it was surprisingly welldesigned. It had a geometrically balanced pitched roof, a circular window that used a clear plastic take-out top instead of glass, and an accurately measured opening perfect for our small dog. It was even painted with a cool blue that satisfied my color preference. Frankly, I was so impressed by my 12-year-old’s ingenuity, I forgot my stuffy intolerance to his messy creations.

“This is cool, kiddo.”

To this, my son nodded and walked away.

I turned to my wife. “What was that?”

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I asked. “I said I liked it.”

“Truthfully, after hearing you complain all the time, the compliment gets a little lost.”

So, I went to my son’s room to talk to him where he was already busy playing around with some string and an old climbing carabiner to create a pulley. He did something similar at sleep-away camp, where he made a system connected to his top bunk to pick up dropped items below.

“Sorry, kiddo. I really do like the doghouse.”

“OK,” he said.

“I’m proud of all your clever stuff,” I continued, gesturing at the new pulley.

He shrugged. And I realized this was more than just about being immune to my complaints. This was part of a pattern.

I would go to his orchestra concerts and praise his trombone work, only to get a mumbled “thanks.” I would see his report card and remark on the improvement in math, which would be followed by an “I should do better” response.

What I came to realize was that my

son honestly did not know how to take a compliment. Moreover, neither did my two elder sons or, for that matter, most of the high-school students I taught.

While I haven’t delved too deeply into the psychological research that explains this phenomenon with today’s kids, I am making a goal of giving my sons a different kind of gift this holiday season.

I want to teach them how to take a compliment.

Part one is something I refer to a lot regarding my parenting habits. That is, I have to be better about reducing my criticisms and targeting my constructive advice so that, when I do give a compliment, it is not drowned out by negativity.

Part two is giving a proper compliment.

In a generation of parents who have given out more than our share of participation trophies and praise for doing basic human things like pooping and making a rudimentary finger-painting, I need to focus my positive feedback on achievements that require serious effort.

This includes taking risks by trying difficult tasks, standing up for friends when others won’t, and hitting a tough high note on a really difficult instrument like a trombone. The key is specificity, citing a particular action, and not just saying, “You’re great!” Kids trust a compliment and actually know how to build off of it when they know exactly where they have gone right.

Part three is trickier. It involves coaching my kids to receive praise with grace and the appreciation that someone is taking the time to notice them. We all crave validation, but if we don’t make eye contact with the person complimenting us and if we don’t drink it in when it’s served to us — especially since it gets rarer as we get older — then we will self-inflict more ego suffering than we should.

Although I still plan to give my boys a couple of material gifts I hope they’ll like, my true hope is that I can help them accept the gift of a compliment and, most of all, teach them how to savor praise as a validation for the hard-working, unique people they are. If I can do this just a little, I can live with all the messiness they wreak upon my living room.

Gregory Keer is a teacher and columnist.

He and his wife have three sons... and consequently, a messy house.

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Right on the Money 10 FREE APPS THAT INTRODUCE KIDS TO THE WORLD OF FINANCE

BY TANNI HAAS

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f you want your kids to learn about the value of money in a way that’s both educational and fun, then encourage

them to download an app — or three. Below are 10 of the most popular and kid-friendly money-management apps available, and the best part is that they are all free. Have your kids try different ones until they find the one they like the most.

1. ADVENTURE CAPITALIST (Available at Apple App Store, Google Play; ages 5-12) This app lets kids experience what it’s like to be a virtual investor. They start off with a single lemonade stand and, depending on how successful they are at managing this business, they can acquire more complex companies. They also learn important management lessons by having to hire managers and employees for their various companies.

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Apple App Store, Google Play; ages 9-12) Created by 11-year-old Dani Gafni and

them with prepaid and re-loadable debit cards. Other useful features include the ability to give your kids loans, and then

her father, Etay, for their own family’s

teaching them how to pay back those loans

needs, this app teaches kids how to save

in installments.

and budget their allowances and other sources of income. Kids open up virtual bank accounts where they set specific

4. GREEN$TREETS: UNLEASH THE LOOT! (Available at Apple App Store; ages 5-8) Created by Neale Godfrey, the best-

savings goals and then track their ability

selling author of several books on money

to reach those goals. It simulates real bank

management, this colorful app teaches

accounts by registering allowances as

kids about the value of money through fun

recurring payments and encouraging kids

game play. Set in the imaginary town of

to balance their accounts.

“Green$treets,” kids select an endangered

3. FAMZOO FAMILY FINANCE (Available at Apple App Store; ages 5-18) This app functions as a virtual bank.

animal to rescue. They earn and save money to take care of it by planting a beautiful garden and tossing items into a tree house,

Parents are the “bankers” and the kids

among other things, while teaching them

are the “customers.” The whole family

about earning, saving and budgeting

is connected, so it’s easy to move money

money.

around. Aside from teaching kids how to save money and track their spending over time, parents can transfer real money to

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5. PIGGYBOT (Available at Apple App Store; ages 5-8) This app functions like a virtual piggy

bank where kids save for a special

their parents and how much money is still

bank accounts, it includes charts and data

purchase. They can post pictures of it and

owed to them. Kids set savings goals and

visualizations that display past spending

keep track of how close they are to making

then see, through easy-to-use charts, how

patterns and information about their

that purchase. They open virtual accounts,

close they are to reaching those goals.

current finances, which help kids identify

with unique PIN numbers, to give them a

The app includes a so-called “safe” option

potential areas for savings. This also lets

sense of responsibility for and ownership

with which kids can send money to a

them create more realistic budgets for the

of their money. As kids get closer to their

virtual safe, thereby teaching them to

future. Other useful features include bill

goal, parents can contribute virtual money

distinguish between short-term and

due-date reminders and a receipt database.

to help them achieve that goal.

long-term savings goals.

6. RENEGADE BUGGIES (Available at Apple App Store, Google Play; ages 13-18) In this app, developed by the National Center for Families Learning, kids

10. YUBY (Available at Apple App Store,

8. STAR BANKS ADVENTURE (Available at Amazon Apps; Apple App Store, Google

Google Play; ages 5-12) Designed to teach kids how to manage their money, this app includes a “wish list”

Play; ages 5-12) This app teaches kids more complex

that helps them compare the cost of items

maneuver a buggy down a street while

money-management principles, including

they would like to purchase, and track how

picking up items from a shopping list. At

asset allocation, diversification and the

much progress they have made toward

the end of the street is a General Store

dangers of risky investments. Kids act as

making those purchases. This helps kids

where they try to get the best deals,

space aliens who perform various “jobs”

not only learn to save money but also to

including by comparing unit sizes,

for which they are paid. Other useful

budget for and prioritize different goals.

buying in bulk, and using coupons and

features include frequent, short quizzes on

They are also encouraged to be generous

promotional offers. The goal is to save as

financial literacy concepts that allow them

by setting aside money for charity.

much money as possible. If they make any

to earn extra money. Kids will learn how to

wrong choices, a pop-up message steers

save, spend wisely, invest and set financial

them in the right direction.

goals.

7. ROOSTERMONEY (Available at Amazon Apps, Apple App Store, Google Play; ages 5-12)

Tanni Haas, PhD, is a professor in the

9. TOSHL FINANCE (Available at Apple

Department of Speech Communication Arts

App Store; Google Play; ages 13-18)

& Sciences at the City University of New

This app is targeted toward teenagers

York – Brooklyn College. He is the father of

This app teaches kids to keep track of

who want to learn how to better budget

one son, who’s no doubt learning how to

how much money they have earned from

their money. Linked to one or more real

manage his money.

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DecemberEvents HOW TO SUBMIT CALENDAR LISTINGS

Please e-mail listing information to calendar@miamidadefamilylife.com by the 5th of the month prior to the event date.

Include the name of the event, location, address, date, time, brief description, price and telephone number for the public.

MUSEUMS & EXHIBITS Fiesta Colombia

SATURDAY, DECEMBER 1

Ensemble Puerta de Oro de Colombia takes the audience on a journey through different regions of Colombia through a lively performance featuring music, dance and traditional costume. Included with museum admission of $10/adult, $5/child.

2-4pm, HISTORYMIAMI MUSEUM, 101 W. Flagler St., Miami, 305-375-1492 www.historymiami.org

Discovering Design SATURDAY, DECEMBER 1

Kids can create a pop-up greeting card to give to someone special during this free family day.

Noon-3pm, THE WOLFSONIAN - FIU, 1001 Washington Ave., Miami Beach, 305-531-1001 www.wolfsonian.org

Cirque du Soleil Crystal

IT’S SHOWTIME! A Christmas Carol, The Musical DECEMBER 3-23

The Charles Dickens classic is told with a musical twist in this heartwarming adaption. Showtimes vary. ACTORS’ PLAYHOUSE AT THE MIRACLE THEATRE, 280 Miracle Mile, Coral Gables, 305-444-9293 www.actorsplayhouse.org

Miami City Ballet’s The Nutcracker

DECEMBER 7-9, 14-24 & 28-30

Disney in Concert: Tim Burton’s The Nightmare Before Christmas THURSDAY, DECEMBER 13

Immerse yourself in the sights and sounds of this concert performance and film featuring the South Florida Symphony Orchestra. $35-$155.

8pm, BROWARD CENTER FOR THE PERFORMING ARTS, 201 SW Fifth Ave., Fort Lauderdale, 954-462-0222 www.browardcenter.org

The Miami City Ballet presents George Balanchine’s dazzling choreography. Dec. 7-9,

Cirque du Soleil Crystal

BROWARD CENTER FOR THE PERFORMING ARTS, 201 SW Fifth Ave., Fort Lauderdale,

Cirque explores the artistic limits of ice with breathtaking skating and acrobatic feats. Prices and showtimes vary. AMERICANAIRLINES ARENA, 601 Biscayne Blvd., Miami, 786-777-1000 www.aaarena.com

954-462-0222 www.browardcenter.org; Dec. 14-24, ADRIENNE ARSHT CENTER, 1300 Biscayne Blvd., Miami, 305-949-6722 www.arshtcenter.org; Dec. 28-30, KRAVIS CENTER, 701 Okeechobee Blvd., West Palm Beach, 561-832-7469 www.kravis.org

Wizard of Oz

SATURDAY, DECEMBER 8

Take a trip down the yellow brick road with Dorothy, Toto and the rest of the crew.

2pm, JAMES L. KNIGHT CENTER, 400 SE Second Ave., Miami, 305-416-5978 www.jlkc.com

Harlem Globetrotters

THURSDAY-SUNDAY, DECEMBER 13-16

A Seraphic Fire Christmas SUNDAY, DECEMBER 16

Seraphic Fire brings a unique sound to the stage with a performance of traditional English carols and Gregorian chants. Recommended for ages 7 and up. $20-$55. 4pm, SOUTH MIAMI-DADE CULTURAL ARTS CENTER, 10950 SW 211 St., Cutler Bay, 786-573-5300 www.smdcac.org

The Zachary Star SUNDAY, DECEMBER 16

SATURDAY, DECEMBER 8

The iconic Harlem Globetrotters feature an unrivaled show with amazing athletes, rim-rattling dunks and trick shots, side-splitting comedy and unmatched on-court fan interaction. $20-$150.

2pm, WATSCO CENTER, 1245 Dauer Dr., Miami, 305-284-8686

The Legend of Frosty

This world premiere musical with a holiday twist tells the story of a young boy who learns about love and the belief that we are all unique, bright stars. $18/adult, $12/child. 3pm, PINECREST GARDENS, 11000 Red Rd., Pinecrest, 305-274-2103 www.pinecrestgardens.org

Hamilton

DECEMBER 18-JANUARY 20

Join Frosty and friends for a classic holiday adventure that includes tappers, magicians, Santa and more. $17-$38. 10am & 7pm,

A hit musical that tells the story of America’s Founding Father, Alexander Hamilton.

Recommended for ages 10 and up due to some strong language. $78-$498. Showtimes vary.

MIAMI-DADE COUNTY AUDITORIUM,

BROWARD CENTER FOR THE PERFORMING ARTS,

TUESDAY, DECEMBER 11

2901 W. Flagler St., Miami, 305-547-5414 www.miamidadecountyauditorium.org

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Wonder

THURSDAY-SATURDAY, DECEMBER 6-8

Part of Art Basel, this inaugural exhibit features mixed media works by talented artists ages 18 and under. $25/adult, $15/child. 10am-7pm, DOWNTOWN MIAMI WORLD CENTER,

1010 NE Second Ave., Miami, www.kidsbasel.com

PAMM Free Second Saturdays SATURDAY, DECEMBER 8

Families can enjoy art-making, hands-on activities and guided tours for free every second Saturday of the month. Admission is free all day, art-making hours are from 1-4pm. PÉREZ ART MUSEUM MIAMI, 1103 Biscayne Blvd., Miami, 305-375-3000 www.pamm.org

Sensory Friendly Saturday SATURDAY, DECEMBER 8

Great sensory experiences await at this special event designed for children with sensory processing disorder and general development delay and their families. Includes sensory-based activities, a sensory-friendly stage performance, calming movement groups, and dimmed lights and sounds. 9-11am, MIAMI CHILDREN’S MUSEUM, 980 MacArthur Causeway, Miami, 305-373-5437 www.miamichildrensmuseum.org

Frosty Flurries

SATURDAY, DECEMBER 15

Little ones can create a one of a kind snowflake during this Mini-Me Science program.

Pre-registration required. Ages 4 and under. $12/child. 10:30-11am, FROST MUSEUM OF SCIENCE, 1101 Biscayne Blvd., Miami, 305-615-6840 www.frostscience.org

The Polar Express Train Ride THROUGH DECEMBER 30

Kids can dress in their pajamas and join the fun on a family train ride bound for the North Pole.

Set to the sounds of the motion picture The Polar Express, the magical journey includes hot cocoa, a sing-along and visit with Santa. Select evenings.

Tickets start at $34.99. GOLD COAST RAILROAD MUSEUM, 12450 SW 152 Ave., Miami, www.goldcoastrailroadmuseum.org

FAIRS, FESTIVALS & SPECIAL EVENTS Lantern Light Festival THURSDAYS-SUNDAYS THROUGH JANUARY 13

Art Basel

Heritage Fest and Craft Fair

Leading galleries from North America, Latin America, Europe, Asia and Africa display multi-media work of modern and contemporary artists. Thursday 3-8pm, Friday noon-8pm, Saturday noon-8pm, Sunday noon-6pm. MIAMI BEACH CONVENTION CENTER, 1901 Convention Center Dr., Miami Beach, www.artbasel.com

Make it a family fun day at this festival that features arts and crafts, historical exhibits, vendors and children’s activities including a petting zoo and pony rides. $8, free/11 and under.

10am-5pm, FRUIT & SPICE PARK, 24801 SW 187 Ave., Homestead, 305-247-5727 www.redlandfruitandspice.com

Barnacle Under Moonlight Concert

Botanical Bazaar

THURSDAY-SUNDAY, DECEMBER 6-9

See a kaleidoscope of colors in a variety of themes, structures and sizes as hand-crafted lanterns light up the night during this celebration of Chinese culture. $23/adult, $18/child, discounts and activity packages available. Thursday and Sunday 5-10pm, Friday and Saturday 5-11pm. MIAMI-DADE COUNTY FAIR & EXPO, 10901 SW 24 St., Miami, www.lanternlightfestival.com

Free Family Fest

SATURDAY-SUNDAY, DECEMBER 8-9

SUNDAY, DECEMBER 16

ARSHT CENTER FOR THE PERFORMING ARTS,

Bring the family to enjoy the winter weather while listening to music by the bay. $10/adult, $3/child.

Gates open at 6pm. 7-9pm, BARNACLE HISTORIC STATE PARK, 3485 Main Hwy, Miami 305-442-6866 www.thebarnacle.org

Annual event features local artisans selling botanically-themed and garden-inspired creations, orchids and plants, cooking demo and more. All ages. Free admission. 11am-4pm, MIAMI BEACH BOTANICAL GARDEN, 2000 Convention Center Dr., Miami Beach305-673-7256 www.mbgarden.org

1300 Biscayne Blvd., Miami, 305-949-6722 www.arshtcenter.org

Beach Clean Up

Tastes of Miami

Help keep our community and waterways beautiful by participating in a Beach Clean up. Participants should wear closed toe shoes, bring a refillable water bottle, sunscreen, hat and bug spray. Snacks and ice water provided. Free. 9-11am, BILL BAGGS CAPE FLORIDA STATE PARK, 1200 Crandon Blvd., Key Biscayne, www.floridastateparks.org

Inaugural Latin and Caribbean food and music festival features Latin and island dishes, local music artists and a children’s play area. Entrance included with paid admission of $47.99/adult, $37.99/child.

Food available for purchase. MIAMI SEAQUARIUM, 4400 Rickenbacker Causeway, Miami, 305-361-5705 www.miamiseaquarium.com

SATURDAY, DECEMBER 8

SATURDAY, DECEMBER 1

Miami Music Project celebrates its 10th anniversary with an afternoon of family-friendly youth performances by local musicians. 1pm, ADRIENNE

SATURDAY, DECEMBER 8

Junior Orange Bowl Parade SUNDAY, DECEMBER 2

A community tradition, this 70th annual event celebrates local children, community and culture with a parade of floats, cars, bands and more.

5pm, THROUGH DOWNTOWN CORAL GABLES, 305-662-1210 www.jrorangebowl.org/parade

WEDNESDAY-SUNDAY, DECEMBER 26-30

COMMUNITY ACTIVITIES Family Movie Matinee

Song and Spoken Word

Stop by the library to see a screening of Sherlock Gnomes. The branch shows a family-friendly movie once a month. 2pm, NORTH SHORE BRANCH LIBRARY, 7501 Collins Ave., Miami Beach, 305-864-5392 www.mdpls.org

Join Miami Children’s Chorus for a free community event highlighting the power of words through song.

11am-noon, PINECREST BRANCH LIBRARY, 5825 SW 111 St., Pinecrest, 305-662-7494 www.miamichildrenschorus.org

Skygazing

Art in the Park

Peer through a telescope and view the planets, moons and satellites in the nighttime sky. Weather permitting. All ages. 7pm, NORTH DADE REGIONAL LIBRARY, 2455 NW 183 St., Miami Gardens, 305-625-6424 www.mdpls.org

Children can release their inner Picasso by creating arts and crafts under the palms using a variety of mediums and materials. Pre-registration required. Free. 10am-1pm, MIAMI

SATURDAY, DECEMBER 1

TUESDAYS, DECEMBER 4, 11 & 18

Kast Away Kids Night Out

SATURDAY, DECEMBER 8

Drop the kids off for an independent night filled with animal encounters, kayaking, hiking and more. Ages 5-12. $35/child. 4-8pm, CORAL REEF PARK, 7895 SW 152 St., Palmetto Bay, www.naturepostings.com

Holiday Door Hanger SATURDAY, DECEMBER 8

Children can get crafty and make a festive winter door hanger to bring home. 12:30pm, LEMON CITY BRANCH LIBRARY, 430 NE 61 St., Miami, www.mdpls.org

SATURDAY, DECEMBER 8

SUNDAYS, DECEMBER 9 & 23

BEACH BOTANICAL GARDEN,

2000 Convention Center Dr., Miami Beach www.mbgarden.org

Teen Club Makers TUESDAY, DECEMBER 11

Explore the basics of electronics as you build flashlights, alarms and a flying saucer. Ages 12-18. 3:30pm, MAIN LIBRARY BRANCH, 101 W. Flagler St., 305-375-2265 www.mdpls.org

Family Movie Night FRIDAY, DECEMBER 14

Bring your family for a special holidaythemed movie night. Price includes admission to the Nights of Lights winter display on the grounds of Pinecrest Gardens. $8. Gates open at 6:30pm, movie begins at 7:30pm.

PINECREST GARDENS, 11000 Red Rd.,

Pinecrest, 305-669-6990 www.pinecrestgardens.org

Family Kayak Adventures

SATURDAY, DECEMBER 15

Learn the basic techniques of kayaking and paddling while taking a guided tour around Biscayne Bay. $15. 9amnoon, THALATTA ESTATE, 17301 Old Cutler Rd., Palmetto Bay, www.naturepostings.com

Manatee Tea Time

WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 19

Mommy and me program encourages parents and their little ones to explore and learn about unique animals through animal interactions, presentations and arts and crafts. Ages 2-5. $10/adult, $5/child. Optional park entrance is offered to participants at a reduced fee. 10am & 1pm, MIAMI SEAQUARIUM, 4400 Rickenbacker Causeway, Miami, 305-361-5705, www.miamiseaquarium.com

Winter Solstice Creatures of the Night FRIDAY, DECEMBER 21

Take a nighttime naturalist-led tour as you search for nocturnal residents like screech owls, raccoons and other creatures that lurk in the park after dark. $6. 7-9pm, GREYNOLDS PARK, 22nd Avenue and Miami Gardens Drive entrance, www.miamidade.gov

Every effort has been made to provide accurate information. Changes and cancellations do occur. Please double check the details before setting out on your adventure.

Kids Can Cook

SATURDAY, DECEMBER 22

Children ages 6-12 learn about cooking tasty, nutritious meals in a fun-filled atmosphere. Pre-registration recommended. Space is limited.

10-11am, NORTH MIAMI PUBLIC LIBRARY, 835 NE 132 St., North Miami, 305-891-5535 www.northmiamifl.gov

Movies in the Park FRIDAY, DECEMBER 28

Bring your blanket and chairs for a screening of Rise of the Guardians under the stars. Free. 8:30pm, BARNACLE HISTORIC STATE PARK,

3485 Main Hwy., Miami; 305-442-6866 www.thebarnacle.org

WANT MORE FUN? See our extensive list of holiday happenings on page 16 and check our online calendar at www.miamidadefamilylife.com

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WORDS of wisdom

Embrace the Chaos LIVING IN THE MOMENT OF OUR HURRIED, HARRIED LIVES

BY PAM MOLNAR

D

id you ever have one of those weeks where you look at your calendar and wonder how it’s all going to work out? A family has to carefully balance work, social activities, tutoring, family obligations and athletic commitments. Throw in a sick kid, dinner meeting or game reschedule and your carefully plotted plan topples like a Jenga tower. We are at a crazy time of our lives.

I know the empty-nesters are saying: “Enjoy this time. It goes so fast.” I get it. It was just yesterday that I was a mom with three kids, 4 and under. As I was stressing over daycare, baths, diapers and the terrible twos, the people with teenagers were telling me how much they miss those days. I thought they were crazy. It took me several years to realize that the terrible twos don’t look so bad when you are living with teenagers.

But the truth is, when it’s happening to you, time moves a lot slower than it does for those with older kids strolling down memory lane. Isn’t it funny how when you see a pregnant friend only a few times during her pregnancy, you think, “This pregnancy is going so fast.” I am sure you will get another perspective from the woman herself.

That’s the problem. In the heat of it, parents are so busy getting from moment to moment that it is long over before they can enjoy it. I try to slow down and live in the moment.

When my kids are at a sporting event or concert, I am the one sitting on the aisle snapping pictures. It may be years before the photos are organized, but at least I have them.

Our family time would be frowned upon by June Cleaver, the quintessential ’50s sitcom mom. We eat dinner together most nights, although it may be drive-thru food in the car on the way to and from practice. I always give my kids time to talk to me about their day, but it’s hard to listen when everyone is talking at once and interrupting each other.

So it’s not perfect. But you know what? Perfect is boring.

What kind of stories are you going to tell your friends at Bunco? Who wants to read a blog that talks about how they

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figured it all out?

That’s just showing off.

The good stories and the happy memories are in the chaos.

When the next generation is up to bat, you want to be able to make them laugh at your experiences when they really feel like crying. Tell them that you, too, made mistakes and yet everyone survived. And yes, for a while, it gets worse before it gets better.

This holiday season, instead of running from sunrise to sunset, take some time to embrace that chaos.

As melodies of joy and peace fill the air and families come together for those special seasonal celebrations, take a breath, cherish your loved ones and reflect for a moment on the important things.

And, no — not whether or not you forgot someone on your gift list.

Pam Molnar is the imperfect mother of three living in a fast-paced world. She hopes to get her family’s photos organized before her youngest child goes to college.

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NOV 23 - DEC 29 FRI & SAT NIGHTS @ 7PM #ZooLightsMiami

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