Miami Dade Family Life November 2018

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departments 8 MIAMI & MORE News about the people, places and events in our community.

20 FAMILY MAN Lessons learned in teaching kids kindness.

22 HOME TECH Patience is a virtue when sharing about your family on social media.

24 MOM MATTERS Part-time jobs for full-time parents.

28 CALENDAR OF EVENTS Entertaining and noteworthy things to see and do in every corner of Miami-Dade County.

30 WORDS OF WISDOM The problem with parties — who to invite?

ON THE COVER: Aurora Gomez, 6, of Miami, shown here with her sister, Annabella, 3 Photographer: Lisa Nalven Special thanks to Karen Greer Models and Talent, Hollywood and Coccadotts Cake Shop, Fort Lauderdale

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From gender-reveal revelry to birthday bashes, it’s all about the extreme theme.

Raising empathetic kids in a self-centered society.

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MIAMI

Fired Up for Books MIAMI FAIR IS KINDLING NEW GENERATIONS OF READERS

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n this video-centric age where kids are continually tempted with ever-new electronic diversions, the Miami Book Fair, now in its 35th year, continues to attract them to the

time-honored joys and rewards of reading. From Nov. 11-18, the fair will open wide the wonderful world of books and reinforce the fun and excitement of reading for tots, tweens and teens.

The event’s kid-conscious programming, primarily Nov. 17-18, features a variety of Children’s Alley presentations for ages up to 12 — like Mr. Wembly Wordsmith’s Storytorium and hands-on activities in the pop-up fun rooms. There is also music and dancing on the Once Upon a Time Stage, as well as live presentations like theater pieces and circus acts for all ages.

And for the tween/teen set, appearances by an eclectic lineup of authors, including Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor and The New York Times best-selling author Megan Shepherd, will engage young book-lovers with a chance to ask questions and get their books signed.

A reflection of the event’s commitment to kids is a ticket price that’s hard to beat: free for children and only $5 for older youngsters. Here is a sampling of the weekend’s offerings:

• The Rhythm Factory. Take a musical journey around the world, trying instruments from Brazil to Australia.

• The Paintbox. Create unique art inspired by seven children’s books.

• Healthy Bodies, Happy Kids. Learn good nutrition, how to get rid of germs and the right way to brush.

Author appearances for tweens and teens. All are held in the MDC Mr. Wordsmith’s Storytorium and his tall-tale-spinners: Live Arts Lab in the Chapman Building, 300 NE Second Ave., except • Susie Jaramillo, author-illustrator and creator of bilingual entertainment Meg Cabot (Room 2106) and Sonia Sotomayor (Room 3210): baby brand, Encantos. 11:30am, Nov 17-18.

• Kate Schatz and Miriam Klein Stahl, Rad Girls Can, profiles of • Eva Chen, Juno Valentine and the Magical Shoes picture book. young women advocating for girls’ rights. 11am, Nov. 17.

2:30pm, Nov. 17.

• Ibtihaj Muhammad, Proud: My Fight for an Unlikely • Zack Bush, the fatherhood-inspired Made for Me. American Dream, a memoir from the first African12:30pm, Nov. 18.

American Muslim to win an Olympic medal for • Margaret Cardillo, Just Being Jackie, a picture fencing. 11am, Nov. 17. book about Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis.

• Kiersten White, The Dark Descent of Elizabeth 1pm, Nov. 18.

WHAT: Miami Book Fair Frankenstein, a reimagining of the horror classic.

• Dylan Thuras, The Atlas Obscura Explorer’s Guide WHEN: 10am-7pm, Noon, Nov. 17. for the World’s Most Adventurous Kid. Sunday, Nov. 11-Sunday, Nov. 18; • Megan Shepherd, Grim Lovelies, an epic YA fantasy.

1:30pm, Nov. 18. children’s events, Nov. 17-18.

Noon, Nov. 17.

• Erin Estrada Kelly, You Go First, a middle-school WHERE: Miami Dade College, • Justice Sonia Sotomayor tells her own story for tale by the Newbery Medalist author.

Wolfson Campus, 300 NE young readers. 1pm, Nov. 17.

2pm, Nov. 18.

Second Ave., Downtown Miami • Meghan McDonald, exploring a family tree in the • Molly Brooks, Sanity and Tallulah, a space HOW: Tickets are free, 12 and children’s book Judy Moody and the Right Royal adventure. 3pm, Nov. 18. under; $5, 13-18; $8, adults.

Tea Party. 2:30pm, Nov. 17.

Visit www.miamibookfair.com • Sylvia Acevedo, Path to the Stars, a memoir for young Pop-Up Fun Rooms, open all day both days for tickets and more information. readers about a Latina rocket scientist. 4pm, Nov. 17. for ages 4-12: • Meg Cabot, Royal Crown: From the Notebooks of • One World, Many Stories. Create a map of the a Middle-School Princess, a new spinoff of the Caribbean, design a Japanese kimono, paint popular Princess Diaries YA book series. 11am, Nov. 18. a Mexican Sugar Skull mask.

• Jason Reynolds, Lu, the climactic final novel in award-winning • Tinker, Make, Innovate! Create your own laser-etched illuminated YA Track series. 11am, Nov. 18. bookmark, and learn how to use virtual reality and 3D-modeling techniques.

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For many of us, this season of giving thanks means giving back — and that often means donating food or other goods to families who may not have as much as we do. In South Florida, that could be any of over 700,000 people — over 237,000 in Miami-Dade county alone — who do not know where their next meal will come from, no less a Thanksgiving feast.

Feeding South Florida, which recently opened a 33,000-square-foot warehouse and administrative office in Miami, is a regional food bank that helps the community help the hungry. Distributing over 500,000 pounds of food monthly, it serves about 300 food pantries, soup kitchens, shelters and child-care centers in Miami-Dade, as well as Monroe, Broward and Palm Beach counties.

One way it comes up with the goods is by relying on the community to host food drives — but it lends a hand there, too. For those who register at www.feedingsouthflorida.org, the organization will send a Food + Fund Drive Kit, which includes a list of needed items, signs for collection boxes and a list of Q&As and team member contact information to help along the way.

The donations can be dropped off at its Miami warehouse at 5850 NW 32 Ave. or at its 72,000-square-foot Main Warehouse, 2501 SW 32 Terrace, Pembroke Park.

The organization will also pick up donations, but due to the high volume of food drives conducted between October and December, it is only able to pick up donations of 1,000 pounds or more. (The rest of the year, the minimum is 500 pounds.)

Feeding South Florida also helps organize virtual fundraisers by letting people create their own food drive page and track donors under its Virtual Food Drive event page.

Visit the website for more information or call 954-518-1818.

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In the aftermath of Hurricane Michael, Feeding South Florida jumped into immediate action by sending trucks filled with food, water and other supplies up to Florida’s Panhandle. The organization’s support is ongoing and donations continue to be accepted at its Main Warehouse, 2501 SW 32 Terrace, Pembroke Park.

Most needed items include: • Diapers • Personal-hygiene items • Cleaning supplies • Pop-top cans • Peanut butter • Instant soup mixes For more info, call 954-518-1818 or visit www.feedingsouthflorida.org

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Explore the World of Art An adventurous expedition into the arts for over 50 years in Miami Beach, The Bass Museum of Art today invites children and their families along on the adventure through several programs just for them.

The most accessible of these is Family Days, when on the last Sunday of the month museum admission is free all day and families with children of all ages are engaged by activities that encourage conversation, exploration and experimentation through art.

Held in the Creativity Center from 2-4pm, art activities include a Design Challenge and action guides for gallery touring, along with performances and special guests.

Design Challenges center on a different theme each month.

Inspired by the museum’s exhibitions, the Global Art challenge on Nov. 25 lets families discover art and artists from all over the world and learn about their art-making process. There’s no Family Day in December due to the holidays, but on Jan. 27, 2019, from 4-6pm, there will be a free park concert by the Miami Symphony Orchestra and a family art activity. On Feb. 24, a series of design multi-sensory art challenges will ignite imaginations using all of the senses.

Other Bass programs with kids in mind include summer art camps for ages 5-12, teen art classes, and Bass Babies, a twice-weekly program of hands-on activities for ages 2-4 designed to foster new discoveries in sensory awareness, creativity and pre-literacy skills. The fee is $10.

Opening in 1964 in what had been the first public exhibition space for art in South Florida, The Bass began with the donation of a 500-piece private collection from Jewish Viennese immigrants, John and Johanna Bass. The museum is at 2100 Collins Ave. For more information, call 305-673-7530 or visit www.thebass.org

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The music of Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire will come dancing off the screen at the Knight Concert Hall on Nov. 24 — but it won’t be a wizard’s spell that makes it happen.

It will be the magic of the Miami Symphonic Studio Orchestra, which will perform the entire award-winning score as the film is shown in high-definition on a 40-foot screen.

In this fourth film in the series, Harry is mysteriously entered into the Triwizard Tournament, a grueling contest among three wizarding schools in which he confronts a dragon, water demons and an enchanted maze only to find himself in Lord Voldemort’s grasp, facing challenges beyond his imagining. Patrick Doyle’s score, which brings emotional depth to Harry’s adventures, won both the International Film Music Critics Award and ASCAP Film and Television Music Award.

Since the world premiere of Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone in Concert in 2016, more than half a million wizards and non-magical Muggles alike have enjoyed this mashup of live music and cinematic magic from J.K. Rowling’s Wizarding World. Six of the eight films in the series have been presented in this concert format, and the other two are coming soon.

Tickets for Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire in Concert, at 2pm and 8pm, are available from $39-$109 at the Adrienne Arsht Center Box Office by calling 305-949-6722 or online at www.arshtcenter.org. For more information on the Harry Potter Film Concert Series, please visit www.harrypotterinconcert.com.

A TASTE TRIP TO THE ISLANDS Seafood-lovers young and old can take their taste buds on a weekend cruise to the Redland Tropical Island Festival, 10am-5pm, Nov. 3-4.

As well as shrimp, fish, conch fritters, crab and other popular dishes, the Fruit & Spice Park festival offers a full menu of fun for the kids, too. There will be pony rides, face-painting, henna tattoos and interactive demonstrations by the Everglades Alligator Farm.

Formerly known as the Seafood Fest and Fish Fry, the festival features a variety of specialties from Jamaica, the Bahamas, Haiti and Nicaragua, as well as arts and crafts vendors and live Caribbean music.

Admission is free for children 11 and under and $8 for others.

The park is located at 24801 SW 187 Ave., Homestead. For more information, call 305-247-5727 or visit www.redlandfruitandspice.com

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SHES, A B Y A D H T IR B O T Y R L E REV FROM GENDER-REVEAL THEME E M E R T X E E H T T U O B A L IT’S AL E- SE VE RA NC E

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ack in the day, kids’ birthday parties were simple. The “theme”: birthday cake. The guest list: grandma, grandpa and a couple of neighborhood friends. Entertainment: pin the tale on the donkey. The menu: pizza.

Voila! – instant party.

Now, fast forward to today, the era of the epic party. It becomes virtually impossible to have a basic birthday party for your kids when you start searching sites like Instagram, birthday blogs and, dare we say, Pinterest. Whether you are planning a DIY party, or hiring a party planner, the options for an extremethemed birthday bash are seemingly endless.

Gender Reveal

The idea of celebrating in an ultimate way strikes early, before baby is even born. The big announcement for moms and dads determined to know whether to decorate the nursery pink or blue used to be delivered in the ultrasound room. The tech would announce: “You are having a boy. Congratulations!” Not anymore.

These days it’s gender-reveal revelry. Have the sonogram results placed in a sealed envelope, pass it along to a baker, and 350 degrees and 40 minutes later, expectant parents can discover their baby’s gender by biting into a cupcake or cutting into a custom confection while surrounded by family and friends. Everyone finds out the sweet results when either blue or pink frosting seeps out. Gender-reveal piñatas, sports balls, silly string and confetti-filled balloons are some other ways to share the news.

Parents-to-be can decide if they prefer to be surprised with their guests or find out the results in advance and share the news with loved ones during the celebration. Some fun ways to get guests involved are to play games like predicting the baby’s gender based on old wives tales, or giving guests a sneak peek at the sonogram and having them vote on which gender they think baby will be.

Birthday Parties

So what happens when that little guy or girl turns 1? Well, there was one California mom who gained national attention recently for her son’s first birthday bash. After seeing a resemblance between her 1-year-old and the TV host of Diners, Drive-Ins and Dives, mom planned a Guy Fieri-flavored first birthday extravaganza for her little look-alike.

Guests got to pose with Fieri-themed cut-outs and munch on “Flavortown” themed food. Of course, all this comes with a cost, but that photo with the little spiky-blonde-haired baby, sitting among a hoard of over-sized gourmet burgers, pizza and cake, is priceless. continued on page 16

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Then there is the celebrity scene in which moms like Kim Kardashian and sister Kourtney opt for all things glitter and glitz for their girls. Their recent unicorn-themed combo bash for their kiddos is said to have included unicorn horn headbands, rainbow robes and a selection of sparkly, hand-crafted baked goods that looked more like works of art than edibles.

Some local families have certainly proven that they too can keep up. Teresa Blumberg with Blumberg Events in Plantation offers full-service event production nationwide for those seeking that “wow” factor.

Blumberg plans high-end weddings and other functions, including teen parties and bat and bar mitzvahs with prices starting in the thousands and soaring into the six-figure range.

“There is no such thing as a general budget,” she says. “It all depends on who the client is and what their vision is and desires are for their celebration.”

For teen parties, she takes the kids’ personal interests and transforms them into a breathtaking scene. Blumberg’s portfolio includes extravagant sportstheme parties for both boys and girls.

For a 13-year-old boy and basketball buff, Blumberg transformed a space at Gallery of Amazing Things in Dania Beach into a half-basketball court complete with a hoop, bleachers, backdrop mural with players and fans, and food stations resembling concession stands with servers dressed as referees.

And for a female fan’s bat mitzvah, Blumberg converted The Bath Club on Miami Beach into a chic, neon-pink space featuring towering basketball-filled centerpieces, themed food stations and detailed decor for the birthday girl and 350 guests.

Themes

Jennifer Wilson, owner of All About Entertainment in Pembroke Pines, said some of the current party trends for pint-sized birthday boys and girls are unicorns, mermaids, club the themes, candy, emojis and dinosaurs.

Wilson and her staff assist with every

detail, from linen, chair and prop rentals to activities and entertainment. Parties these days, says Wilson, are “micro-themed.”

“The activities are detailed,” she explains. “It’s not just decorating a cupcake. If it’s a unicorn theme, we have horns, ears and eyes that get put on the cupcake.”

The same holds true for other types of parties they create. Those who are having a dino-themed day have the option of a paleontologist show or a dinosaur bones dig (with the dirt delivered). Having a ballerina or princess party? Chairs can be wrapped and tied with tulle, feathers and ribbons galore for a dainty effect. If you’re clowning around with a circus theme, then a big-top-style tent and circus performers might be the perfect pick for you.

Elaborate dessert tables as backdrops are also popular right now, as are oversized thrones for the guest or guests of honor, Wilson says, adding there are ways to achieve these stunning settings without busting the budget.

“They want those big cake and dessert tables with themed props,” she says.

“Rental gives them that look for a fraction of the cost.”

Cindy Soto with Sweet Servings Events in Lake Worth specializes in candy and dessert stations, edible party favors and décor. In the business since 1999, she says party trends have certainly changed, but one thing remains the same.

“Cakes are always the center of attraction,” she says.

Some of Soto’s clients have chosen to use

birthday cakes more like décor, displaying them as a focal point as guests enter the home. Some, she says, add cascading balloon backdrops and specialty tablecloths to make their cake display pop. Every client’s wishes and celebration is unique, she adds, but they all share a common goal.

“As long as they are satisfied and happy at the end, then that’s a memory forever.”

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The Gift of RAISING EMPATHETIC KIDS IN A SELF-CENTERED SOCIETY

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e live in the age of the selfie. It is socially acceptable to believe that we are the center of our own worlds. Societal messages tell us that our worth is tied not only to material possessions but also to the superficial approval and envy that we obtain

good to do the right thing, so it’s easier for them to say no to the wrong things. Since their personal worth is affirmed by their kindness toward others, they don’t need to search for worth in material possessions or in poor choices. Volunteering as a family can provide important quality

from social media “friends,” who sometimes barely know us.

Ironically, experts tell us that the acceptance and achievement we crave can actually come from helping others instead of focusing solely on ourselves. Since one key factor for future success is empathy, our children may be better-served by cultivating a giving spirit instead of chasing recognition or developing an individual “brand.”

Michele Borba, who wrote Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me-World, says that “the ability to empathize affects our kids’ future health, wealth, authentic happiness, relationship satisfaction, and the ability to bounce back from diversity.”

So with empathy being so vital, how do we encourage our children to identify with causes larger than themselves? Experts say that not only is this task not as difficult as we might think, it can also be an enjoyable experience that offers the elusive family time that we all want.

family time while uniting members toward a common goal. Away from video games, social media and television, families come to know and appreciate each other in new and valuable ways.

Children who volunteer with their families are twice as likely to volunteer as an adult and to pass it on to their own children. Mary Thoele, author of Family Serve: Volunteer Opportunities for Families, says that “volunteering is one of the ‘loudest’ actions you can take to show children what it truly means to be a contributing member of a community. By role-modeling this type of behavior, caregivers are beginning a tradition of compassion that can be passed on from one generation to the next.”

CHILDREN ARE BORN TO CARE Children are born hard-wired with the spirit of giving. That’s apparent in the toddler who weeps at the sight of an upset playmate, the preschooler who offers his teddy bear to a sick sibling, or the school-aged child who grabs a sponge when mom is washing the car.

Yet, as they grow, children receive society’s not so subtle message that it’s sometimes unsafe or unwise to care.

Fortunately, families are paramount in encouraging the behaviors that foster empathy. Research shows that caregivers who openly express warmth and compassion raise more empathic children.

This process begins at birth and is often intuitive. Routinely giving a patient, timely and consistent response to an infant’s cries or to a toddler’s skinned knee gives that child the message that helping others is important. Once a child is secure that the world is a safe and loving place, it’s easier for him to develop empathy.

Experts say that often the first opportunity for a child to help others is in his own home, so they recommend assigning household responsibility. “Children need jobs,” says popular author and pediatrician Dr. William Sears. “Once a child learns a sense of responsibility for the household, a sense of responsibility to society will come naturally in the next stage of development.”

others is easier than you may think. The key, she says, is to take

KIDS WHO HELP OTHERS HELP THEMSELVES Children who reach out to others enjoy an increased sense of well-being, self-worth and optimism. Helping others builds up a child’s defense system against temptation and stress. Kids learn that it feels

Developing their innate giving spirit will arm a child

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FITTING GIVING INTO BUSY SCHEDULES Jenny Friedman, author of The Busy Family’s Guide To Volunteering: Doing Good Together, says that finding time to help a careful look at your current activities and then find ways to incorporate volunteering into those events. For example, families who already enjoy crafts can make get well cards or toys. Supplies for a neighbor in need can be gathered while running your own errands. Families who are animal lovers may enjoy fostering an animal for deployed military personnel.

Experts suggest starting small, with a one-time commitment that requires no further obligation.

If all family members enjoy the small experience and want to repeat the process, consider adding on, but always be conscious of over-committing. Studies show that when giving to others becomes too large of a commitment or an obligation, the potential benefits are lost. It’s much easier and more comfortable to increase your commitment if you find that you have more time than to have to cut back and feel guilty because you’ve taken on too much.

Teaching children to care and to offer their time, their talents and their aid to others is a win-win situation. with skills that will defend him against the world’s stresses and will benefit him and future generations of your family for years to come.

Giving

HOW TO BEGIN CHARITY AT HOME CREATING FOR OTHERS Kids usually enjoy making crafts, designing cards or writing letters. Many organizations are actively seeking families to provide lovingly crafted items, handwritten letters, heartfelt drawings and cards. Most even offer easy step-by-step instructions. Typically, families complete the items and mail them to the organization, which in turn distributes them where they are needed. Here are a few ideas to get you started.

Make a Hospitalized Child Smile: This site allows families to make handmade cards for distribution to hospitalized kids. More than 100,000 children have received cards from all over the world. Although families can use their own creativity to make the cards, the site offers many helpful suggestions. www.cardsforhospitalizedkids.com Provide Comfort to Children Facing Challenges: Project Linus provides handmade blankets to children who are ill, traumatized or who might benefit from the security of a comfort item. They offer many easy, “no sew� patterns. Although adults may need to cut the fabric for younger children, kids of all ages can choose the fabric and tie off the edges. www.projectlinus.org Give Words of Encouragement and Gratitude to Our Military and FirstResponders: Organizations like Operation Gratitude encourage families to send cards, drawings and letters for the military, veterans and first-responders. The cards are added to care packages, and many of the recipients say that handwritten items are the most cherished part of the package. www.operationgratitude.com

BECOME A SPONSOR FAMILY Your family might consider sponsoring a less fortunate family, child or animal during the holidays, in emergencies or year-round.

Adopt a Family: The Box Project matches sponsor families to families in need. Families regularly mail household and school supplies, clothing or other needed items. www.boxproject.org Sponsor a Child: Many organizations can match sponsor families with a child in poverty. Families provide monetary support, school supplies and letters. One example: www.children.org Foster a Pet for Someone Deployed or Hospitalized: Organizations like Pact for Families and Dogs on Deployment match foster families to care for dogs whose owner is deployed or hospitalized. www.pactforanimals.org www.dogsondeployment.org

FAMILY man

Teaching Kids Kindness A FATHER LEARNS SOME LESSONS OF HIS OWN ALONG THE WAY

BY GREGORY KEER

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t was a simple gesture. At the third-quarter break of a soccer game that his squad was losing, my youngest son heard his teammate announce he might not be able to play because of an injured ankle. Without skipping a beat, my boy went to his backpack, pulled out an ankle brace and handed it to his teammate.

“Try this,” he said. “It works for me.”

It was not a big deal for my son to do this. It was just something

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that occurred to him in the moment. But he did smile a little as he watched this kid he had only met recently put on the brace.

Later, when I made mention that what he had done was especially kind, he rolled his eyes.

“Dad, please. It’s not a big deal.”

In uncharacteristic fashion for me, I backed off and let it be.

It didn’t matter what I thought about it. What mattered was that my son voluntarily did something compassionate. And he felt good about it for his own sake.

Sure, I take some credit for my kid’s kindness. As one half of a hard-working parenting team, I have been teaching my sons to share their toys, pick up a friend when they fall off the swing, give up lunch food for someone without much in their own bag, write thank-you notes, and call a friend when he’s sick.

I have also done this with a relentlessness that rivals a dog that won’t let go of a treasured bone. You might say (my kids certainly do) I nag the heck out of my children in counseling them about giving to others. I nitpick them about all sorts of things in what I often falsely perceive as attentive parenting.

“Why do you always tell me to help Cammie with her homework,” my middle child once asked when I overheard him tell his friend he was too busy to stay on the phone to explain the English assignment.

“You should do it because it’s the nice thing to do,” I replied flatly.

“But she never helps me,” he said. “She’s so competitive about grades.”

That was a good point, but not the one I wanted to make.

“So you be the better person,” I said. “Think about it this way: The love you take is equal to the love you make.”

“That’s a stupid thing to say! Stop telling me what to do!” he yelled, then stomped to his room.

Undeterred, I followed him and kept cajoling, shouting and reprimanding him about being selfish and rude. Eventually, my

the kindness of those who see them as loving humans.

But the other cut, perhaps the deeper one, is about learning to trust my kids’ character decisions. Teaching them is one thing, but hounding them is another. It’s vital for me to allow my children the space to make their own decisions about giving to others. In this way, they can take pride in their actions as opposed to relying on me for approval. If I’m the reason they do the right thing, then how will they develop their own moral compass?

As a case in point, I offer the example of my eldest child, who endured 18 years of being pestered about giving. As the quietest of my three boys, he seldom protested my badgering, but also ignored a lot of my advice. Or so I thought. In a speech to the entire school, a friend of my son’s spoke of the kindness my boy had shown in being one of the few this friend could speak to when the friend was deeply depressed. I was in the audience to hear that, and it took my breath away to know how my son acted without me around to guide him.

With the November holiday here to remind us of the power of thanksgiving, it seems appropriate for me to express my own gratitude. To my sons, although I complain vigorously that they

wife interceded and sent me to my own room.

Two hours later, of his own volition and behind a closed door, my son called Cammie back and assisted her with the homework.

As always seems to be the case, the lessons of parenting cut two ways. There’s the direction that supports my touting the benefits of giving to others because it’s the right thing to do. And that giving will have a karmic impact that will come back to my kids via

rarely thank me for all of my care and counsel, I offer my thanks for the giving people they are. For their own sake — and for the sake of so many others.

Gregory Keer is a father of three boys, teacher, and award-winning columnist. He also is the founder of www.familymanonline.com, where he shares more of his tales of the highs and lows of being a dad.

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Postpone the Post PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE WHEN SHARING ABOUT FAMILY ON SOCIAL MEDIA

BY KATHRYN STREETER

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s social-media mamas, we want to be remembered. Often emotional, zesty personal anecdotes are the best way to connect with our friends online and drive a post’s popularity. But when it comes to sharing about our significant other and children, the line of decency can often be blurry.

My personal habits on sharing family-related content start with timing. I allow time to pass before I post about an experience that directly involves either my husband or children. Looking back on an experience affords many advantages.

Waiting to share publicly helps me to more completely understand and process what happened in the first place. When I have a family-related post idea, I’ll write a rough draft, revisiting it as my thoughts mature and clarify.

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Mulling is a very good thing; at the very least it keeps me honest about my culpability in a personal family anecdote I’m considering sharing. For starters, it gets me thinking: What is my motivation for sharing?

Waiting to release personal content enables me to discover the real message and the deeper meaning of an experience. Instead of offering my friends and followers a trite personal anecdote that makes them laugh or roll their eyes with me, I’m now able to hand them a meatier blog post with a coherent message.

I once wrote a story on potty-training my son. My first attempts amounted to yet another tale of a frustrated parent. Perhaps it was funny but it wasn’t original. As time passed, I realized the main take-away from the story centered on my insecurities and pride, not my son’s poor aim.

Sharing a personal experience before I come to terms with what I’ve learned will rob me of the chance to craft the best possible post, one which will offer lasting impact. For me, emotional settlement needs to happen to write from a grounded posture.

When I’m simmering with emotion from an argument with my kids or husband, this isn’t the optimal time to write.

When I’m hurt or angry, my word choices, phrases and story are more likely to resemble a vanity project. I’m the center of attention, desiring empathy or applause.

Because I’m still smarting, I have zero perspective. But if given time, a flippant post can morph into a deeply felt story.

Time yields a better product.

Most importantly, waiting provides cover for my marriage and children. No amount of post popularity is worth bringing injury to those I love best. Everything online is forever available to my husband and kids. Even when my kids were young and unplugged, I didn’t write about their maniacal moments not only because the passing of time allows for a truer story but because I didn’t want to unintentionally cause future shame.

Today my teenagers — and their friends — have access to anything I’ve ever posted about them. Had I shared carelessly, there would be no taking things back.

Apologies would ring false; relational damage would be tough to repair. Today as ever, writing about humiliating experiences for a cheap laugh is at odds with everything I’m trying to do as a parent. From tot to teen, my kids have always deserved to be treated like I’d like to be treated: with respect.

Building a strong relationship with my husband and kids is like a major construction project — the effort and time is immense. I am unwilling to destabilize this structure with insensitive oversharing.

Finally, my family knows that before I post anything that mentions them, I’ll have them review it. If my husband feels I’ve crossed a line and waded into our personal life as a couple, my work is to rewrite in a way that honors him and ultimately, us.

In the previously mentioned potty-training story posted recently, my now-teenage son read it and laughed.

However, he would have felt deeply humiliated had I posted it a few years earlier, even if the point of the story wasn’t his bathroom drama.

The by-product of this practice is that it’s brought my husband and kids into my social-media life.

And my conscience is clear.

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Job Prescriptions PART-TIME WORK FOR FULL-TIME PARENTS

BY LELA DAVIDSON

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t won’t be long — if it hasn’t happened already — till the holiday-shopping blitz begins bombarding us with commercials, ads and all manner of incentives to spend, spend, spend. You won’t be alone if you find yourself wishing you had a little extra cash to put toward your family’s ever-expanding gift lists. And you wouldn’t be alone if you find yourself thinking that a part-time or temporary job might fit the bill.

If that sounds like you, know that there are plenty of great part-time jobs for parents. What you really want is a gig that benefits you and your family, instead of simply adding to your already heavy load. The trick is to find a job that fits your personality and provides a sense of satisfaction — and one that won’t leave you feeling drained after your shift. Here are some suggestions to fit the type of parent that you are.

FOR THE SOCIAL PARENT If you love play dates and the PTA, you may excel in sales.

Even with a limited amount of time available to work, you can earn maximum cash in this field. Salespeople often control their own schedules. And talking to other adults is a welcome break from toddler conversation.

Daytime salespeople pitch everything from advertising to retail products. However, don’t despair if your sunlight hours are consumed in parental chores. Jobs like home party sales leverage your social personality in the evening. These companies sometimes get a bad rap, but most are extremely reputable, offer a quality product and equip novice salespeople with every tool to earn extra cash.

FOR THE HIGHLY ORGANIZED PARENT If you love a good spreadsheet, consider becoming a real estate appraiser. Depending on where you live, that may involve completing a minimum number of education hours and working under the supervision of a licensed appraiser. This work can often be done in off-hours. continued on page 26

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Another often-overlooked job is that of notary, but not just an ordinary notary — a mobile notary. There are very few requirements to become a notary, so as long as you have not been convicted of a felony, you should qualify. Sites like Indeed.com and GetNotaryJobs.com can help you connect with companies that need notaries to witness signings of various legal documents.

Reliable and professional mobile notaries set their own schedule and take as many, or as few, assignments as they like.

childcare or education are a natural choice. These positions put your vast parenting skills to use while providing valuable benefits. Free tuition is often worth more than the actual paycheck.

Other great perks include school-day schedule and sometimes medical and retirement benefits. For super flexibility, check out substitute teaching. A good place to start is www.teachercertificationdegrees.com.

FOR DEAL-SEEKING PARENTS These parents have virtually unlimited part-time employment options depending on where they want to save. Going broke buying kids clothes? Sign on at The Gap. Need to redecorate?

Take a few hours at Pottery Barn. Like to travel? Flight attendants aren’t the only ones with airfare benefits. Airline ticket agents and even call center employees travel on the cheap, too — from free or reduced fares to discounts on resorts and attractions.

Airline gigs are the ideal solution for those who have extended family in far-away places.

If none of these options excite you, you can still save a lot of money by working through a temp agency to get retail inventory jobs. You can “earn” a lot by being the first to know what’s about to hit the clearance rack.

FOR CRAFTY PARENTS If you like to work with your hands, you can probably find a local florist, caterer or decorator who needs help. While this can provide some hourly wages, don’t overlook the opportunity to create your own part-time business. It has never been easier to start and nurture a business based on your love of tinkering, painting or gluing stuff together.

These are only a few of the many options available for part-timers today. Whatever your style, take the time to match it to your job search. It may not only pay off financially, it could also make you happier — and that almost always makes for better parenting!

FOR PARENTS WHO CAN’T GET ENOUGH Some parents love cuddling babies, others live for wrangling toddlers, and some just can’t get enough of settling schoolyard disputes. If other people’s children don’t drive you insane, jobs in

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Include the name of the event, location, address, date, time, brief description, price and telephone number for the public.

FALL FESTIVALS

Beauty and the Beast

Fall Garden Festival

FRIDAY-SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 9-11

This annual festival featuring the 77th Ramble event, includes a plant sale, cooking demonstrations, an antiques and collectibles market, handcrafted items, music and a KidWay with carnival style games, face painting and environmental learning activities. $25/adult, $12/child.

9:30am-4:30pm, FAIRCHILD TROPICAL BOTANIC GARDEN, 10901 Old Cutler Rd., Coral Gables, 305-667-1651 www.fairchildgarden.org

Turkey Trot

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 13

Children between the ages of 6-13 race to the finish line during this annual holiday 1K run that awards top winners a turkey. 3pm, MILANDER PARK, 4700 Palm Ave., Hialeah, 305-883-5800 www.hialeahfl.gov

Celebrate Thanksgiving Day SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 17

IT’S SHOWTIME! Beauty and the Beast

BROWARD CENTER FOR THE PERFORMING ARTS,

THROUGH NOVEMBER 10

An adaption of the classic love story about a bookish princess and beastly prince is told through live theater.

2pm, Actors’ PLAYHOUSE AT THE MIRACLE THEATRE, 280 Miracle Mile, Coral Gables, 305-444-9293 www.actorsplayhouse.org

Once Upon a Mattress Jr. FRIDAY-SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 2-4

Miami Childrens Theater performers put a new twist on the classic tale of The Princess and the Pea. Showtimes include a sensory-friendly performance at 3pm Saturday. $15/adult, $12/child, $10/sensoryfriendly. Friday 7pm, Saturday 3pm & 7pm, Sunday 3pm. PINECREST GARDENS, 11000 Red Rd., Pinecrest, 305-274-2103 www.pinecrestgardens.org

WWE

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 3

WWE presents wrestling extravaganza NXT Live at the Fieldhouse at Watsco Center. $20-$75. 7:30pm, WATSCO CENTER, 1245 Dauer Dr., Coral Gables, www.watscocenter.com

So You Think You Can Dance SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 10

With original performances, this stage spinoff of the TV show captivates with the season’s most popular dancers and routines. $34.50 and up. 8pm, BROWARD CENTER FOR THE PERFORMING ARTS,

201 SW Fifth Ave., Fort Lauderdale, 954-462-0222 www.browardcenter.org

Koo Koo Kanga Roo TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 13

An all ages dance-a-long comedy show featuring songs such as Gobble Gobble Turkey Wobble and Bubble Wrap Rap. $17-$22.6:30pm,

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Tough Turkey in the Big City: A Thanksgiving Odyssey SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 18

Find out what happens when Tom the Turkey leaves the farm to travel to the big city during this Family Fun Concert presented by Orchestra Miami. $18/adult, $12/child. 3pm, PINECREST GARDENS, 11000 Red Rd., Pinecrest, 305-274-2103 www.pinecrestgardens.org

Artistry of Youth

SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 18

Listen to the melodies of current and alumni singers with the Miami Children’s Chorus. $20/adult, $7/child. 4-5:30pm, ALL SOULS EPISCOPAL CHURCH, 4025 Pine Tree Dr., Miami, www.miamichildrenschorus.org

Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire in Concert SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 24

Be transported into a mystical world of wizards and magic through this captivating concert and show. $39 and up. 2pm and 8pm, ADRIENNE ARSHT CENTER FOR THE PERFORMING ARTS, 1300 Biscayne Blvd., Miami, 786-468-2000 www.arshtcenter.org

The Nutcracker

FRIDAY-SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 30-DECEMBER 1

An enchanting ballet about a little girl, a Nutcracker Prince and their journey to the Land of Sweets, performed by the Miami Youth Ballet. All ages. $26-$41. 8pm, SOUTH MIAMI-DADE CULTURAL ARTS CENTER, 10950 SW 211 St., Cutler Bay, 786-573-5300 www.smdcac.org

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Get an early start to Turkey Day with themed stories and crafts for kids.

Ages 5-12. 11-11:45am, SOUTH MIAMI BRANCH LIBRARY, 6000 Sunset Dr., Miami, 305-667-6121 www.mdpls.org

Native American Heritage Celebration SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 17

Kids can learn about Native American cultural traditions through games, stories and arts and crafts activities including Navajo sand painting. Noon-4pm, MIAMI CHILDREN’S MUSEUM, 980 MacArthur Causeway, Miami, 305-373-5437 www.miamichildrensmuseum.org

Thanksgiving Signing Stories SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 17

Bring the family for games and activities and stories in American Sign Language presented by Waving Hands South Florida. All ages. 11am-1pm, WEST DADE REGIONAL LIBRARY, 9445 Coral Way, Miami, 305-553-1134 www.mdpls.org

Harvest Festival

SATURDAY-SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 17-18

Old-fashioned fall fun featuring arts and crafts, pony rides, train rides, games, live music, cutest baby contest, exhibitors and more. 10am-5pm, MIAMI DADE FAIR EXPO, 10901 SW 24 St., Miami, www.miamiharvest.com

Autumn Craft

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 24

Make a festive fall leaf sun catcher to bring home and decorate your window. Materials provided. Ages 4-12. Free. Noon, LEMON CITY BRANCH LIBRARY, 430 NE 61 St., Miami, 305-757-0662 www.mdpls.org

FAIRS, FESTIVALS & SPECIAL EVENTS Santa’s Enchanted Forest

The Polar Express Train Ride

Lights, rides, food, games, entertainment and more make this holiday wonderland glow.

TROPICAL PARK, corner of Bird Road and the Palmetto Expressway, Miami, 305-559-9689 www.santasenchantedforest.com

Kids can dress in their pajamas and join the fun on a family train ride bound for the North Pole. Set to the sounds of the motion picture The Polar Express, the magical journey includes hot cocoa, a sing-along and visit with Santa.

Select evenings. Tickets start at $34.99. GOLD COAST RAILROAD MUSEUM, 12450 SW 152 Ave., Miami, www.goldcoastrailroadmuseum.org

OPENS SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 10

OPENS THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 1

Miami International Children’s Film Festival

Founders Day

FRIDAY-SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 2-4

Bring the kids for a variety of films, workshops, events and family fun. An opening reception with refreshments takes place at 5pm on Friday. $5. CORAL GABLES ART CINEMA, 260 Aragon Ave., Coral Gables, 786-385-9689 www.gablescinema.com

Zoo Lights

OPENS NOVEMBER 23

Celebrate the city’s 23rd anniversary with a day filled with free games, music, food, arts and crafts and activities. Noon-5pm, FOUNDERS PARK, 3105 NE 190 St., Aventura, www.cityofaventura.com

For 12 select nights through December 29, visitors can see the zoo twinkle with a million animal-shaped lights and dazzling tree lights. See website for details. ZOO MIAMI, 12400 SW 152 St., Miami, 305-251-0400 www.zoomiami.org

Veteran’s Day Parade

Lantern Light Festival

SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 11

Gamer Comic Expo

SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 11

Immense gaming tournament and comic convention featuring games, comics, anime, cosplay fashion show, vendors and meet and greets. Friday noon-8pm; Saturday and Sunday 10am-10pm; Monday 10am-5pm. MIAMI AIRPORT CONVENTION CENTER, 711 NW 72 Ave., Miami, 305-456-9156 www.gamercomicexpo.com

ALONG LUDLAM ROAD FROM BULL RUN ROAD TO EAGLES NEST, Miami Lakes, www.miamilakes-fl.gov

FRIDAY-MONDAY, NOVEMBER 9-12

workshops and activities at a variety of locations throughout the week and culminates with a weekend Street Fair with entertainment and activities for all ages. Street Fair is held from 10am-7pm, November 16-18. Street Fair admission is free on Friday and $10 Saturday-Sunday/adult, $5/teenager, free/child.

MIAMI DADE COLLEGE, 300 NE Second Ave., Miami, 305-237-3258 www.miamibookfair.com

Wear your red, white and blue to this long-running parade that salutes veterans and active-duty military. 10am-noon,

Miami Book Fair NOVEMBER 11-18

Instill a love of reading at this popular book fair that includes scheduled author presentations,

THURSDAYS-SUNDAYS, NOVEMBER 30-JANUARY 13

See a kaleidoscope of colors in a variety of themes, structures and sizes as hand-crafted lanterns light up the night during this six-week celebration of Chinese culture. $23/adult, $18/child, discounts and activity packages available. Thursday and Sunday 5-10pm, Friday and Saturday, 5-11pm. THE FAIR EXPO CENTER, 10901 SW 24 St., Miami, www.lanternlightfestival.com

COMMUNITY ACTIVITIES Gold Coast Free First Saturday

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 3

Bring the kids for a hands-on history lesson the first Saturday of every month when admission and museum exploration is free. GOLD COAST RAILROAD MUSEUM, 12450 SW 152 St., Miami, 305-253-0063 www.goldcoastrailroadmuseum.org

Teen Venture Excursion SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 10

An active adventure where teens take a bike ride around the village of Palmetto Bay and are then introduced to the terrestrial ecosystem of South Florida. Ages 13-17. $25. 9-11am, THALATTA ESTATE, 17301 Old Cutler Rd., Palmetto Bay, 786-732-6719 www.naturepostings.com

Barnacle Under Moonlight Concert

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 10

Kick back and listen to music by the bay the second Saturday of every month through May. $10/adult, $3/ child. Gates open at 6pm. 7-9pm, BARNACLE HISTORIC STATE PARK,

3485 Main Hwy, Miami 305-442-6866 www.thebarnacle.org

HistoryMiami Free Family Fun Day SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 10

Explore the museum with the family while learning about the history

and culture of Miami through interactive activities. Free. 10am-5pm, HISTORYMIAMI MUSEUM, 101 W. Flagler St., Miami, 305-375-1492 www.historymiami.org

Veterans Day Ceremony and Family Day in the Park MONDAY, NOVEMBER 12

Bring the family for a day at the park that includes a salute to service members, a family-style picnic and games. Free. 10am, GRIFFING PARK, 12220 Griffing Blvd., North Miami, 305-895-9840 www.northmiamifl.gov

Mother & Son Game Night

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 16

Moms and their sons ages 5-12 can spend some quality time together playing video games, board games, and enjoying dinner. $20/person.

7-9pm, WAR MEMORIAL YOUTH CENTER, 405 University Dr., Coral Gables, 305-460-5600 www.coralgables.com

Movie Night

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 17

Bring your family for a twilight, flashlight-led stroll through the winding garden paths followed by a screening of Sing in the Banyan Bowl. $5. Gates open at 6:30pm, movie begins at 8pm. PINECREST GARDENS, 11000 Red Rd., Pinecrest, 305-669-6990 www.pinecrestgardens.org

Storytime at PAMM

tree lighting ceremony. Free. 6-8pm,

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 24

NORTH MIAMI BEACH CITY HALL,

Every fourth Saturday of the month kids ages 3-5 with a caregiver can build on foundations of literacy with a gallery experience, a story reading and related art activity. 11am-noon,

17011 NE 19 Ave., North Miami Beach, 305-948-2957 www.citynmb.com

Mini Monday

PÉREZ ART MUSEUM MIAMI,

1103 Biscayne Blvd., Miami, 305-375-3000 www.pamm.org

Seal Super Powers

WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 28

Mommy and me program encourages parents and their little ones to explore and learn about unique animals through animal interactions, presentations and arts and crafts. Ages 2-5. $10/adult, $5/child. Optional park entrance is offered to participants at a reduced fee. 10am & 1pm, MIAMI SEAQUARIUM, 4400 Rickenbacker Causeway, Miami, 305-361-5705 www.miamiseaquarium.com

Movies at the Park FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 30

Bring lawn chairs or blankets to watch a screening of The Greatest Showman on a giant inflatable movie screen.

7:30-10pm, DOWNTOWN DORAL PARK, 8395 NW 53 St., Doral, 305-593-6611 www.cityofdoral.com

Tree Lighting Ceremony FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 30

Celebrate the season with Christmas carols, refreshments and a grand

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MONDAYS

The first day of each week is geared toward the pint-size lot (birth through age 5) when the museum is free of group visits, offering a low-key environment for little ones to explore. $15/Florida resident with ID, free/under 1. 10am-6pm, MIAMI CHILDREN’S MUSEUM, 980 MacArthur Causeway, Miami, 305-373-5437 www.miamichildrensmuseum.org

Food Truck Tuesdays TUESDAYS

Skip the cooking and choose from an array of food trucks, with selections sure to please the entire family. The evening also includes bounce houses and a children’s train ride. Weather permitting. 5-9:30pm, HAULOVER PARK, 10800 Collins Ave., Miami Beach, 786-287-6688 www.miamifoodtrucksevents.com

WANT MORE FUN? For additional local events, check our online calendar at www.miamidadefamilylife.com

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The Problem With Parties FOR THIS MOM, INVITATIONS ARE THE HARD PART

BY PAIGE WOLF

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t’s all or nothing — that’s the philosophy I’ve tried to follow when it comes

to birthday party invitations.

But with 30 kids in a class, friends from a variety of activities, and our friends’ children who’ve been bound into forced kinship with our own, it’s nearly impossible to invite everyone to a child’s birthday party. City kids in particular rarely have large backyards, and playspace parties come with hard attendance caps and lofty per-child fees.

That said, the idea of only inviting a select group of children from the same social circle makes me deeply uncomfortable. I’ve been able to mostly avoid this conundrum in two ways.

For my son’s fifth birthday party we did a huge blowout.

We rented and decorated a local recreation center for less than $100 and had the playground mostly to ourselves. We hosted more than 30 kids — it was cheaper than a bounce gym and felt warm, inclusive, personalized and ours.

His sixth birthday occurred the week after he finished preschool. We had another simple solution — no party. We spent the day at the beach and posted an open invitation for anyone inclined to join us. Two families were able to make it and the celebration was perfect.

I’ve always said that in the future we could go by the rule: birthday age = number of friends. For his seventh, he could choose seven friends to go to the movies or out for pizza. But in reality, I just don’t think I could do that with a clear conscience.

Like most children, my son’s idea of his “seven best friends” changes on a daily basis — sometimes hourly. More importantly, how could I not invite my best friends’ children, the ones he’s grown up with and sworn marriage to? How would I explain those Facebook photos, because even if I didn’t post them, somebody else would.

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Look, I get it. We should teach our children to have thick skins and accept that they can’t always be invited to everything. Not everyone is going to want to be their best friends, and we need to prepare them for the real world.

But while the real world may pull no punches and we are all bound to be left out in various ways throughout our lifetimes, I still want to do what I can to avoid being the cause of anyone else’s hurt feelings — child or adult. When I host a party at my home, I pretty much invite everyone I know within a 10mile radius. I’d rather run out of spinach dip than run into an uninvited acquaintance at the playground.

When it comes time for parties to become smaller and play dates to be capped, I will make every effort to be conscious of other people’s feelings. And I will try to enforce in my children that same kindness — maybe they can’t be invited to everything, but no one who wants to join in a game should be excluded.

I haven’t yet sorted out my plan for “7.” Maybe we’ll just skip town or post an open invitation to a large public space. Or maybe I’ll eat my words, invite seven friends for cake, and feel hopelessly guilty for the next seven years.

Paige Wolf is the author of Spit That Out: The Overly Informed Parent’s Guide to Raising Healthy Kids in the Age of Environmental Guilt. She has two children and, at the moment, may be stressing about a guest list.

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