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Every kid is unique. When you have children of your own, each one’s individuality becomes illuminated like a marquis board on the Vegas strip. In my case, I’ve got The Trailblazer, The Timorous and The Valiant. And each child’s first day of school read like a Merriam-Webster definition.

The Trailblazer. When that first day of kindergarten came, she held her little head up high and, with a look of determination, took a deep breath and let any glimmer of fear go. She smiled, waved and climbed those three giant steps onto the big yellow bus that would carry her to the first day of school. And her little 5-year-old-self did it on her own. (Looking back, I really should have driven her to school and given her a proper send-off. But considering how my next two experiences would go, I don’t really carry much guilt.) She tackled high school and college in the same manner. Paving the way for her sisters to follow. Or at least one of them…

Next, the easily frightened: The Timorous. She never wanted much to do with school. Or leaving home for that matter. We tried preschool. It was a small school, housed in a beautifully remodeled barn just minutes from our house. There were only six kids and she knew two of them (as well as the owner/instructor). Unless she was distracted, allowing me to run for the door without being seen, she would chase my car down the gravel driveway. It was a truly pitiful and heartbreaking sight. So, preschool didn’t last long. And the first day of kindergarten was no different. Wearing her favorite fuzzy black winter jacket (in August) she clung to me as we arrived to meet her saint of a teacher. This child climbed my body like a tree and landed a death grip on my neck. Almost as bad as watching her run for me in my rearview mirror was the moment her teacher lovingly peeled her from my body. Dropoff went like this for a few weeks. Weeping, gripping, peeling. And, she didn’t emerge from her fuzzy black hoodie until sometime in early October. She still doesn’t like leaving home, although I don’t think I factor into that as much these days.

The Valiant. My adventurous, independent, bold and courageous one. She would have taken the bus, walked, biked or been driven by the devil himself. She didn’t care. I was abandoned in the school parking lot as she ran toward her classmates. My attempts at a photo of us, or just her, were dodged with looks of embarrassment and invariably ended in a group class shot. She’s been running her own show ever since.

My kids are now 20, 17 and 15. Looking back on those first days of school I see how distinctly those personalities were already shaped and I can trace their growth like a Zodiac calendar. No matter how that first day of school goes, whether it’s kindergarten or college, I hope you and your Vegas headliner have a great one.

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Takeaways from Our First Year in Public School

School’s almost here and you might be wondering if homeschool, unschool, public school or alternative school may be the right fit for you and your family.

But, first, let me acknowledge what an amazing community we have, that provides us with so many choices! There are great public schools, fabulous outdoor schools, great homeschooling communities and so many more options to explore. Whatever you choose, trust you’re making the right decision and you can always reevaluate.

I am a bit of an anomaly among my friends in sending my daughter to public school this past year instead of homeschooling or enrolling her in something more intimate. So, I wanted to share some of my biggest takeaways, because our experience going from a Montessori kindergarten of eight kids to first grade at a public school of 500 kids was a powerful and positive one.

Ç A little adversity can be good for kids. One of my favorite parenting mentors, Wendy Mogul, talks about kids truly needing some of the more mundane

experiences of life. It’s OK to have a boring fourth grade teacher, because one day they will probably have a really drab boss, and part of life is learning to be OK with that and not letting it rob you of your joy. And I agree! I think it’s a valuable life lesson, to not always have to be doing something mind-blowingly awesome, and still feel contentment with your day to day.

Ç Wendy also talks about how kids not having exposure to healthy risk is one of the most damaging things happening to our youth’s confidence and mental and emotional well-being. In fact, I’ve even read that a lot of teen mental health issues stem more from lack of healthy independence than social media. To me, allowing my child to have experiences outside of our immediate bubble is huge. She’s learning how to figure things out on her own. She’s creating her own world, learning from her own mistakes, building her own friendships and becoming the true leader of her life. Those things provide the type of confidence we all want our children to have.

As my friend Sarah says, our kids are always on the “path to independence.” Or as I less eloquently put it, we’re teaching our kids to leave us, and to thrive when

they do. To me, that meant keeping my daughter really close and providing a healthy attachment during the first five years of her life, but letting her have some of her own experiences now that she’s a bit older. Kids need to try things out for themselves so they can learn. They need positive mentors other than their parents. And they need to be able to learn to trust their own decisions.

Ç Dr. Mogul also did a massive study on children of varying ages, and the number one thing the kids wanted their parents to know: “Chillax!” As parents nowadays, we expect to be our kids’ best friend and their parent. We’re incredibly involved in their lives. It’s beautiful, however this also puts an inordinate amount of pressure on them. Kids are starting to feel like our happiness is dependent on their performance. That sort of blew my mind! Our kids have so much pressure on them. To do all the things. To be extraordinary. Sometimes they need to know we have a life and relationships of our own and that our whole world isn’t focused on how well they’re doing. I feel more relaxed just writing that – imagine how they feel!

Ç People pleasing is real, but you can help your child navigate it. We had to

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work a lot around my daughter knowing she is loved and worthy, even when she doesn’t get the homework right all the time or if someone doesn’t like her on the playground that day. One day I flat out told her we could throw the homework out the window and never do it again, just to invite in some play and not be so serious all the time. We all need that reminder. We also talk a lot about Brene Brown’s brilliant metaphor for our inner candle. We let our daughter know she has an inner candle or flame, and to really notice who makes that candle shine brighter, and who brings it down. Then we practice giving more of our energy to the people who make it shine brighter. In my opinion, most of us adults need help with that too, and I find school to be a really healthy arena for feeding into that.

Ç At the end of a day, kids need a safe space to come home to. After all the growing, the adversity, the figuring out their own world, the greatest gift we can give our children is a space to simply be. A safe space to get their emotions out (which yes, sometimes involves outbursts that we have to try to not take personally). I try to create space for our daughter to decompress with me, by watching a show together, going for a walk, having dinner together or even doing her homework together. If I ask about her day, it tends to be crickets, but if I just sit with her, she usually opens up so beautifully. As our kids get older, we really do become the wide space holders for them, as we help them navigate being the leaders of their own lives.

No matter how you decide to raise and school your children, to me it’s about finding that sweet spot between the right amount of healthy autonomy and independence, mixed with the knowing that they have a safe place to always come home to and parents who love them unconditionally.

So whatever choice you make for your family, hopefully you can incorporate some of these takeaways. I also hope we can really lean into trusting our gut instincts and our decisions, and then just relax a bit. Our kids are doing just fine. And, ironically, it turns out the less we stress about it, the better off they happen to be.

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Rock the Back-to-School Transition

As summer comes to an end, your family may have a variety of feelings about returning to school. For both children and parents, preparation and creating a good back-to-school routine will help make this transition as seamless as possible.

Dealing with Feelings

For many families, thinking about the upcoming school year can stir up feelings of great excitement. Thoughts of making new friends, participating in new activities and anticipation of tons of fun will hopefully usher in a positive start to the school year. This is not, however, everyone’s experience. It is not uncommon for children to feel nervous about the beginning of the school year, particularly if they are starting a new school or making a big grade transition, from middle school to high school, for instance. If your child’s school

offers a sneak peek or open house, attending this event may be helpful. Your child can meet her new teacher there, see her new classroom and potentially meet some of her classmates. This can all help lend familiarity to her new surroundings and hopefully help your child feel more comfortable. Talking through what the school day will look like can also be helpful for your child, so she knows what to expect on her first day.

Establish a Routine

Summer can be such a special time for families. Maybe you have explored new places, had wild adventures, and spent quality time together this summer. Without the rush to be up and ready with homework done and bags packed first thing in the morning, it is easy to deviate from your child’s normal routine. It is important that, as the start of the school year approaches, your family considers what your child’s school day will look like. This may include getting up earlier than your child did during the summer. Allow extra time in the mornings, especially as your family is navigating the back-to-school

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transition. It may take more time than you realize, and you don’t want your kiddo to miss out on a healthy breakfast, time to use the restroom or time to prepare for the day. It is also important that your child gets to bed early so he can get a good night’s sleep. Having a nighttime routine that is calming can be very helpful and can include bath or shower time, brushing and flossing teeth, and reading time. Ideally, your family will start this transition one to two weeks prior to the start of the new school year. A gradual transition in sleep schedule will be much easier on your child compared to an abrupt change. Consistency here is key.

Medical Issues

Ensuring your child is medically set up for success at school is also essential. The American Academy of Pediatrics strongly recommends keeping your child up-to-date with routine immunizations. This is important for school entry as well as keeping your child safe and healthy. If you have any questions about whether or not your kiddo is up-to-date on her immunizations, please contact your pediatrician. It is critical that your child’s school is aware of any serious medical conditions your child may have. If your child has not already had his annual well-child exam, please schedule a visit with his pediatrician. The pediatrician can complete paperwork relating to your child’s health condition, such as an Asthma Action Plan if he has asthma or an Allergy Action Plan if he has food allergies. This paperwork will provide guidance for how the school can handle concerns related to your child’s medical condition, and will allow the school to keep potentially life-saving medication for your child, should he ever need to use it. Last, if your child has an individualized educational plan (IEP) or 504 plan, the school needs to have an updated copy to ensure he gets the support he needs in school.

Final Takeaways

Most of all, kids need to feel supported and loved, regardless of how well they perform in school. Encourage your child to work hard and do their best. Please also try to be positive about the upcoming year. Children are always watching, and modeling a positive outlook will hopefully set the stage for a wonderful school year.

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Providing Our Kids with a Truly Nutritious School Lunch

As parents and caregivers, our main goal is to always provide what our children need to be happy, healthy and successful throughout their school years and beyond. So, what does that mean when it comes to a nutritious school lunch during their formative years?

Research from No Kid Hungry has demonstrated that optimal nutrition is associated with improvements in school performance and supports a student’s ability to stay on task. The April 2023 study from No Kid Hungry on how hunger affects learning1 reported a direct correlation between the level of nutritional content a kid consumes throughout the day and their level of concentration, behavioral management and overall academic performance.

Summertime routines, particularly when it comes to making meals, can often feel vastly different than the chaos of back-to-school, especially when it comes to preparing a lunch to send with your kids for a full day at school. Having some key items on hand will ensure that you’re not only sending them off with a balance of foods but will ease your family’s transition from summer to school.

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I recommend starting with the "Healthy Eating Plate2" from Harvard’s TH Chan School of Public Health. When building a nutritious lunchtime meal, look at a balance of fruits, vegetables, grains and proteins with the recognition that not all foods within each group are equal – some, like vegetables, should be consumed in higher quantities, as they help to ensure your child has fuel to focus in their classes and others, like fiber-rich whole grains, help kids stay full throughout the remainder of the school day.

This approach helps with planning for your “main four:” fruit, vegetables, whole grains and protein. I like this framework as it helps give a roadmap for adding, not restricting, the nutrients that we provide to our children to get them through the day.

Some of my favorite lunch inspirations stem from a classic “brown bag” concept. But, by paying special attention to the key ingredients, you can take a simple, tried-andtrue lunch to a healthy meal with a few slight changes. For example, use whole grain bread, pasta and tortillas and include foods that are

high in fiber like fresh fruits and vegetables. As a nutritionist and father of two, here are a few favorites I like making my own children for lunch:

Ç A sandwich with turkey, lettuce and cheese with apple slices and carrot sticks

Ç A turkey and cheddar cheese wrap, fresh berries with yogurt and trail mix

Ç Pita bread with hummus, tomatoes, cucumbers and orange slices

Ç Pasta salad, yogurt, granola bar and fresh raspberries

Ç Cheese quesadilla, guacamole, salsa and fresh strawberries

Of course you can add in their favorite, smallportioned sweet snack, and don’t forget a big serving of water to keep them hydrated. With this approach, we can adjust for what our kids want, too. Your kid doesn’t like turkey in their sandwich? Swap for a slice of lunch meat they do love, or integrate PB&J instead for a vegetarian-friendly protein kick. Focusing on foods that we know they like within some

of these core lunch ideas ensures that we are making small tweaks that make a big difference. It all adds up to a well-balanced meal.

Above all, we want our kids to eat well and feel good. As the 2023-2024 school year gets underway, there is no better time to start preparing for these meals so that the transition is easy once school starts.

Matthew Larsen, RDN, LN, CDCES is the Diabetes Program Manager at Montana Pediatrics. As a dietitian-nutritionist focused on diabetes care and an education specialist, he engages people where they are to assist them in getting to the next steps in their healthy lifestyles. A Montana State University graduate, Matthew has more than 10 years of experience leading preventive healthcare teams and positive patient and family outcomes.

1 How Does Hunger Affect Learning? (2023, April 24). [web log]. Retrieved July 5, 2023, from https://www.nokidhungry. org/blog/how-does-hunger-affect-learning#:~:text=In%20 a%20pre%2Dpandemic%20survey,to%20tackle%20their%20 evening%20homework.

2 Healthy Eating Plate. The Nutrition Source. (2023, January 31). https://www.hsph.harvard.edu/nutritionsource/healthyeating-plate/

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Thriving In Kindergarten: Kids and Parents

Getting ready for the transition to kindergarten can present some big feelings for both children and their parents. Feelings like excitement, nervousness and maybe even bewilderment might be swirling inside you. As with most new life experiences, though, preparation and a positive attitude can tame the wild butterflies inside and set everyone up for a fun and successful start to school. Here are some valuable tips for parents to support their child with this important milestone:

1. Familiarize your child with the school environment: Take your child to visit the school and spend time playing on the playground during the summer. This will help them get acquainted with the dropoff area and the recess location, easing their anxiety about the new surroundings.

2. Read relevant books together: Engage your child in reading books that address the emotions and experiences associated with starting school, such as First Day Jitters

by Julie Danneberg, The Invisible String by Patrice Karts, The Kissing Hand by Audrey Penn, The Night Before Kindergarten by Natasha Wing and Wemberly Worried by Kevin Henkes. These books can normalize their jitters and emphasize the enduring bond between you, even when you’re apart during the school day.

3. Acknowledge and validate their feelings: Empathize with your child’s emotions and let them know you understand the challenges that come with embarking on something new. Express your confidence in their strength and skills, reinforcing a positive mindset as they approach this transition.

4. Establish a consistent nighttime routine: Starting a consistent nighttime routine in early August will help your child adjust to the changes in their schedule. Remember that 5-year-olds typically require 10-12 hours of sleep each night, so ensuring they get enough rest will contribute to their overall well-being and readiness for the school day. Your child’s teacher will thank you!

5. Understand the demands of kindergarten: You may have gone to kindergarten for half a day in yesteryear but your child will be in school all day. Help them understand that part of why kindergarten days can feel long is because they are filled with new experiences. Explain that they will be learning many new things in addition

to academics, such as forming lunchroom lines, practicing patience, making new friends, hearing bigger words, following instructions and managing emotions. Comparing this learning process to a new job in a different field can help them (and you!) appreciate the effort required. Let them know you are proud of them and all they will be accomplishing.

6. Model emotional self-regulation: Set a positive example by practicing emotional self-regulation yourself. Show your child how to manage reactions and emotions calmly, even in challenging situations. Instead of losing it when someone cuts you off in traffic, take a deep breath and show your children that you can acknowledge frustration or fear and stay calm. Remember that children are always observing, even when it seems they are not actively listening.

7. Encourage a growth mindset: Teach your child about the power of a growth mindset, emphasizing that intelligence and abilities can be developed through effort and perseverance. Provide examples of individuals who have overcome challenges by demonstrating resilience and the willingness to learn from mistakes. Tell them about things that were initially hard for you but got easier when you persevered.

8. Offer small choices: Recognize that there are many aspects of their daily routine

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that your child may not have control over. To foster independence and reduce frustration, provide them with small choices, such as deciding between pasta or a sandwich for lunch or choosing whether to pick up toys in five or 10 minutes. These opportunities for decision-making empower them and serve as practice for making more significant choices as they grow.

By following these tips, you can help ensure a smoother transition into kindergarten for your child, promoting their confidence, independence and positive mindset. Remember that parental support and encouragement play a crucial role in shaping a child’s experience and outlook on school.

If your child attends elementary school in Bozeman or at Saddle Peak in Belgrade, you can contact your school’s Thrive Liaison for additional information and a friendly ear. The Liaison program supports a strong link between home and school. Liaisons also facilitate parenting classes, provide parent coaching, connect parents to school and community resources and encourage parent-teacher collaboration. The Liaisons also coordinate the mentoring program for students called the Child Advancement Project (CAP). Call 406-587-3840. If your school doesn’t have a Liaison, you can call the Parent Educator at the same number.

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Better Together: Getting the Best from Your Early Childhood Experience

You will always be your child’s first and most important teacher. From the very first time you felt a kick to that very first cry, you have been there for your little one. And you’ll be there through so many more firsts in the months and years to come. Picking out a child care placement is a momentous step. Suddenly you will be working with a partner to meet your child’s daily needs. This requires considerable trust and communication. Building a relationship (or partnership) with your child’s classroom teacher will allow them to better meet your child’s needs. And the partnership that you form will not only support your child in having the best early learning experience possible, but it will also be mutually beneficial for all. So how can we support this important partnership?

Learn About Your Child Care

Take advantage of tours, family handbooks and back-to-school nights to learn more about your child care’s philosophy, policies and procedures. Every classroom will have slight differences in the way they do things. Meeting the classroom teacher and ensuring that you are aware of their expectations helps everyone to get off on the right foot. Make sure you know what you need to bring with you on the first day of school and ask about opportunities to be part of classroom life. Maybe they welcome families coming to read to children or share in mealtime. If your job

keeps you busy throughout regular child care hours, maybe there are materials that you could cut out or laminate. Offering a helping hand goes a long way in developing a partnership with your child’s teacher.

Communicate – Frequently and Often

Every child and family is unique. You may think that there is nothing very special about the way you offer your child a bottle (for example) but the way you hold your baby and the temperature of the milk (to name just a few) can be the difference between a happy, well-fed baby and a hungry, cranky one. Small changes in family life can also impact children’s behavior in the classroom, so it can be helpful to share any information that you are comfortable sharing.

Some families develop their own “language” for things that are meaningful to their little one. Make sure to share this language with your child’s teacher so that they can communicate more effectively, and your child feels like a valued part of the classroom community. If you speak a language other than English at home, share key words with your child’s teacher so she can incorporate your home language into the classroom and offer an enriching learning experience for everyone.

Take Your Time During Pick-Ups and Drop-Offs

Taking your time during drop-off gives you the opportunity to share with your child’s teacher how the night and morning went. It also gives you time to share any concerns you may have about your child’s development or child care experience. Even better, it gives you time to get your child settled in the classroom before goodbyes need to be said, offering a great start to everyone’s day.

Taking your time during pick-up gives your child’s teacher the opportunity to fill you in on how the day went, what your child is learning and any questions they may have to better support your child. Remember that young children move at a different pace, and transitions (no matter how wonderful) can be challenging. Giving your child time to move through the transition at their own pace successfully sets your whole family up for the most important part of the day – the time that is shared together as a family.

Engage in Social Functions

Our lives are busy, and it can be challenging to find time to join in your child care’s family functions. You might wonder if it’s really all that important to go out of your way to attend these events. Of course it's a priority to meet the needs of your family but, whenever possible, it is also important to come to child care social functions. Attending these events offers an opportunity to get to know your child’s teacher even better. These events also offer an opportunity to develop relationships with the children and families that are part of your child’s classroom community. At the same time, it gives your child the message that their child care is a good place to be and that the learning they are engaging in is important. It lets your child know that they matter, even when they cannot be with you.

Talk to Your Child About Their Day

As your child gets older, take some time to talk about their day. Who did they play with? What was their favorite toy that day? Talk to them about the learning and events that their classroom teacher shares with you. By revisiting the day, your child is able to deepen their learning and, most importantly, they will know that their whole world matters to you and that you and their classroom teacher are partners in loving them and helping them to learn and grow.

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Sara Silva is a STARS Coach at Child Care Connections, where their work is all about quality child care. For more information, visit www.cccmontana.org or call 406-587-7786.

Thrive’s Child Advancement Project

Seeking Adult Volunteers

Since 1986, Thrive has been supporting families in the Gallatin Valley. With two of its four main programs focused on schools, Thrive is intensifying its efforts to raise awareness and recruit volunteer mentors for the benefit of schoolchildren in our community.

One of their prominent initiatives, the Child Advancement Project (CAP), matches adult volunteers from the community with children enrolled in Bozeman and Big Sky Public Schools. This fall, the program will be launched in the Belgrade school district, starting at Saddle Peak Elementary School. Dedicated mentors work individually with students from pre-k to 12th grade, offering support, encouragement and helping kids recognize and nurture their unique strengths to shape their own futures.

To meet the increasing demand from students, Thrive is channeling extra energy and resources into growing the CAP program. Prior to the pandemic, more than 600 students were regularly meeting with their mentors across Bozeman and Big Sky, but by the end of the 2022-2023 school year, the program had

approximately 420 matches. Thrive aims to achieve an ambitious, yet attainable, goal of reaching 750 active matches by the end of the 2023-2024 school year.

As an organization committed to evidencebased practices and data-driven approaches, Thrive was delighted to see the recent CDC report reaffirming the effectiveness of the flagship CAP program. The CDC’s Youth Risk Behavior Survey, covering the period from 2011 to 2021, included insightful arguments in support of Thrive’s school-based programming. For the first time, the study examined “social determinants of health and factors that are protective for students.” One section highlighted three actions to support schools through partnerships, and Thrive’s programs encompass two of them. The first action, “increasing school connectedness,” aligns with the CAP school-based mentoring program. In 2012, Thrive’s CAP Mentor program was added to the National Registry of Evidence Based Programs and Practices—only the third mentor program at the time to receive this level of recognition.

Thrive currently has a waiting list of more than 300 students in Bozeman alone. These students have either been referred to the program by teachers or community partners, or have personally expressed their desire for a mentor. However, there is a shortage of local adults available to be matched with them. The children and teenagers in our community need your help to achieve our goal of serving at least 10% of the district by 2024. The good news is the CAP program requires minimal time commitment and achieves maximum impact. Volunteer mentors need only commit ONE HOUR per week during the school day, and only for the duration of the school year. Matches might play board games, shoot baskets, walk and talk around the school campus or work on homework together.

If you are interested in learning more about the CAP program, how to support students in the Valley and WHY support for students in the Valley is needed, please reach out by emailing Thrive@allthrive.org today. Connect with us, ask questions and discover how you can make a difference.

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Back-to-School Eye Exams

It’s here – the time of year when parents begin acquiring essentials on the annual school supply list to ensure the year starts off on the right foot. Do you have everything you need?

Ç Backpack

Ç Lunchbox

Ç Gym shoes

Ç School supplies

Ç Comprehensive Eye Exam

Wait, what?

Comprehensive eye exam?

Yes, you read that correctly. A comprehensive eye exam is critical for back-to-school success. According to the American Optometric Association, up to 80% of a child’s learning in school is processed through what they see. Further, it is estimated that one in four schoolaged children has a vision problem significant enough to inhibit learning.

How do visual issues inhibit learning?

Myopia (often called nearsightedness) makes it difficult to gather information from around

the classroom. It also presents a challenge when tracking a moving ball, or makes riding a bike feel daunting. Hyperopia (often called farsightedness) causes blurry vision up close, which can make reading and writing and other academics challenging. Children with visual issues may experience fatigue and headache as well. When learning is difficult, self-esteem is affected, which can lead to avoidance and other behaviors. Additionally, development of critical visual processing and perceptual skills may be delayed.

Does my child still need to have a comprehensive eye exam if he passed a vision screening?

Yes. A vision screening performed at school or in the pediatrician’s office is not the same as a comprehensive exam performed by a doctor of optometry (optometrist). During a comprehensive exam, the optometrist will assess three areas that contribute to vision: refractive status (glasses prescription), binocular vision (how well the eyes work together) and the overall health of the eye. An eye exam may also allow the optometrist to detect other serious health conditions, including diabetes, high blood pressure, autoimmune disorders and cancers. A screening, on the other hand, is a brief test that checks only how well one can see up close and far away. It is not uncommon that an optometrist will uncover a visual condition that is not detected during a screening.

My child doesn’t complain about her vision. Why does she need an exam?

Children often don’t realize that what they see isn’t “normal,” or different from what others see. Such was the case with Bozeman siblings Henry, age 7, and Eleanor, age 4. At a recent visit to their grandparents’ house, their grandmother noticed that Eleanor was standing directly in front of the TV while watching a movie. She suggested to mom, Libby, that Eleanor might be having trouble seeing things up close. Henry had already learned how to read and hadn’t complained about his vision at all. However, upon questioning him, Libby realized Henry may have not been seeing clearly either. Recalling her own blurry vision as a child, Libby scheduled vision appointments for all three of her children. Comprehensive exams by a local optometrist revealed both Henry and Eleanor have significant myopia, and both were fitted with glasses. Immediately both children were surprised by the clarity and detail of the world around them. Henry noted ceiling fans at the optometrist’s office for the first time, and Eleanor was in awe over the freckles on her older sister’s face.

Henry and Libby are already benefitting from clear vision, and experience tells us this is just the beginning. Many times, with proper correction, non-readers become voracious readers; children experience fewer physical

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Good vision is vital to academic success

accidents, fewer headaches, increased ability to attend, improved comprehension and academic performance—all resulting in a surge of selfconfidence.

When should children start getting their eyes checked?

Even infants and toddlers can and should have eye exams. The American Optometric Association recommends the following comprehensive exam schedule for children:

Ç 1st eye exam – 6-9 months

Ç 2nd eye exam - 3 years

Ç 3rd eye exam – 5 years, or prior to the child entering kindergarten

Ç Routine annual exams thereafter, even for those with 20/20 vision

Comprehensive exams are particularly important if there is a family history of vision problems.

Of course, if at any time a parent suspects their child is experiencing visual issues, an exam is prudent. Behaviors that may indicate a vision problem include:

Ç Sitting close to screens or holding material close to face

Ç Fatigue and/or discomfort

Ç Squinting

Ç Tilting or turning head

Ç Rubbing eyes

Ç Short attention span

Ç One eye turns in or out

Ç Sensitivity to light

Ç Difficulty with age-appropriate eyehand-body coordination activities

Ç Avoiding detailed activities i.e., reading, writing, small toys like Legos

Ç Seeing double

Ç Losing place when reading

Ç Difficulty remembering what was read

Prepare for success in school with annual comprehensive eye exams with one of the many amazing optometrists in Bozeman and the greater Gallatin Valley.

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After-school & PIR-DAY activity guide

fall 2023

bozeman

Hybrid Motion PIR Day Camp

Ç 141Baxter Ln. W., Suite 9

Ç HL@hybridmotionmt.com

Ç 406-991-1005

Ç www.HybridMotionMT.com

Ç www.facebook.com/profile. php?id=100093274673827

Ç www.instagram.com/hybridmotionmt

Keeping the kids busy while teachers are in pupil-instruction-related courses and school is out. For ages 5 and above, the day includes beginner level dance, gymnastics, PE games, crafts, lunch and two snack-times.

Rhythm Kids®

Held at Pilgrim Church

Ç 2118 S. Third Ave.

Ç sarah@wildartsbozeman.com

Ç 818-621-3031

Ç www.musictogetherbozeman.com

Ç www.facebook.com/musictogetherbzn

Ç www.instagram.com/musictogetherbzn

Classical Ballet

Instruction

for All Ages

Montana Ballet Company

Ç 2304 N. 7th Avenue, Suite C-3

Ç info@montanaballet.org

Ç 406-582-8702

Ç www.montanaballet.org

Ç www.facebook.com/montanaballetco

Ç www.instagram.com/montanaballet

Montana Ballet Company offers fine classical ballet instruction for all ages and levels in a fun, educational and nurturing environment.

Classes are held Monday through Saturday, with performing opportunities available. MBC is a nonprofit arts and education organization in its 40th annual season. Classes are taught by a professional faculty with a focus on health and wellness and the whole dancer.

Rhythm Kids® is a high-energy, interactive group music class for children ages 5-9 (K-Second). In each weekly music class, participants will drum, sing and move. Each semester brings a new song collection with drumming patterns and tunes inspired by musical traditions from around the world, adapted for children to learn through playful phrases about animals that children love. Rhythm Kids® sets kids on the path to independent music making. It’s the perfect ‘next step’ in your child’s music development. Classes run year-round in 10 week sessions.

Science Day Camp

Montana Science Center

Ç 2744 W. Main St.

Ç info@montanasciencecenter.org

Ç 406-522-9087

Ç www.MontanaScienceCenter.org

Ç www.facebook.com/MontanaScienceCenter

Ç www.instagram.com/montanasciencecenter

Stay curious and come discover science during Day Camps at Montana Science Center. Hands-on activities, STEAMlab high-tech time and discovery on MSC’s exhibit floor are included in a full day of science fun.

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Best Beginnings Child Care Scholarship Program

New Sliding Fee Scale

The Best Beginnings Child Care Scholarship Program has updated its policies to align with HB 648*, which was passed during the 2023 legislative session. These updates include a new sliding fee scale, reduced copayments as well as a new child care attendance policy.

These policies went into effect on July 1, 2023. You can read the full announcement on the Department of Health and Human Services website here: www.dphhs.mt.gov/ecfsd/childcare/ bestbeginningsscholarships.

Child Care Connections strongly encourages families who have been denied scholarships in the past due to income to reapply at this time. For more information visit www.cccmontana.org or call 406548-7786.

* https://leg.mt.gov/bills/2023/billhtml/HB0648.htm

Montana Shakespeare in the Parks

Montana Shakespeare in the Parks' 51st summer tour productions feature performances of William Shakespeare’s Measure for Measure and Alexandre Dumas’ The Three Musketeers. This is the company’s first time performing Measure for Measure since the year 2000. Categorized by scholars as one of Shakespeare’s “problem plays,” neither neat comedy nor tragedy, the play will captivate audiences with the way it explores themes of power, class dynamics and justice through a modern and inclusive lens.

A swashbuckling tale filled with action and adventure, The Three Musketeers will enthrall all generations of audience members as they get swept away to 17th century France, following a young hero’s journey as he embarks to fulfill his lifelong dream of becoming a Musketeer. Adapted by Robert Kauzlaric, this play is sure to delight audiences of all ages. This is the company’s first year producing The Three Musketeers

For a complete tour schedule visit www.ShakespeareInTheParks.org.

Ç August 1 ~ Helena, 6-8 p.m. ~ Measure for Measure

Ç August 3 ~ Butte, 6-8 p.m. ~ Measure for Measure

Ç August 4 ~ Bozeman, Sweet Pea Festival, 3:30-5:30 p.m. ~ Three Musketeers

Ç August 6 ~ Bozeman, Sweet Pea Festival, 5:15-7:15 p.m. ~ Measure for Measure

Ç August 7 ~ Big Sky, 6-8 p.m. ~ Measure for Measure

Ç August 12 ~ Dillon, 6-8 p.m. ~ The Three Musketeers

Ç September 5 ~ Anaconda, 5:30-7:30 p.m. ~ Measure for Measure

Ç September 8 ~ Whitehall, 5:30-7:30 p.m. ~ The Three Musketeers

Ç September 9 ~ Livingston, 5-7 p.m. ~ The Three Musketeers

Ç September 10 ~ Three Forks, 5-7 p.m. ~ Measure for Measure

Ç September 11 ~ White Sulphur Springs, 5:30-7:30 p.m. ~ Measure for Measure

Ç September 12 ~ Bozeman, 5:30-7:30 p.m. ~ The Three Musketeers

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Farmers Markets

HELENA FARMERS MARKET

Ç Fuller Avenue

Ç Saturdays, through October 28, 2023

Ç 9 a.m. to 1 p.m.

BIG SKY FARMERS MARKET

Ç The Fire Pit Park in Town Center Plaza

Ç Wednesdays through August 30, 2023

Ç 5-8 p.m.

Featuring fresh produce, herbs, plants and flowers, baked goods, woodworking, log furniture, antler art, photography and fine art, jewelry, clothing, food vendors and kids’ activities.

BOZEMAN FARMERS MARKET

Ç Lindley Park

Ç Tuesdays through September 12, 2023

Ç 5-8 p.m.

The Market Creatives commit a portion of the market’s revenues to the preservation and improvements of all Bozeman parks.

CAPITOL SQUARE FARMERS MARKET

Ç Capitol south oval parking lot, Helena

Ç Tuesdays, 2:30-6:30 p.m.

GALLATIN VALLEY FARMERS MARKET

Ç Gallatin County Fairgrounds

Ç Saturdays through September 9, 2023

Ç 9 a.m. to noon

One of the longest-running markets in the state of Montana, the Helena Farmers Market celebrated 50 years this June. Local farmers, crafters, food vendors and other artisans bring their Montana-made products downtown for the local Helena community to see and purchase. While they browse, shoppers can enjoy the serenade of local musicians and smell the fragrant aroma of fresh floral arrangements and kettle corn.

UPTOWN BUTTE FARMERS MARKET

Ç West Park Street between Gamer’s Cafe and the Imagine Butte Resource Center in the Phoenix Building

Ç Saturdays through October 7

Ç 8 a.m. to 1 p.m.

Since 1995, the Butte Farmers Market has blossomed and grown, earning a reputation for providing shoppers with colorful and hardy hanging and bedding plants, farm-fresh eggs, chickens, fruits and vegetables from many gardens in the Butte area and the Hutterite colonies near Choteau, and Hmong vegetable gardens in the Missoula and Bitteroot area.

Vendors provide a wide variety of baked goods, packaged sausages, fresh produce, cut flowers, salsa and other prepared foods. A variety of arts and crafts by craftspeople from throughout southwest Montana are available each Saturday as well.

WEST YELLOWSTONE MARKET

Ç Museum of the Yellowstone

Ç Every Thursday from 3-9 p.m.

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ART • DANCE • MUSIC NATURE EXPLORATION

Full Day 9 a.m.-3 p.m. or Half-Day 9 a.m.-12 p.m.

Options - Monday through Friday

Year round Art and Nature based Preschool for 3-5 year olds

346 Gallatin Park Drive, Bozeman (406) 579-7692

www.creativeartspreschool.org

Music in the Mountains

For more than a decade Music in the Mountains has been Montana’s finest free outdoor concert series, featuring the best up-and-coming touring musicians in the country as well as established, well-known artists. Center Stage at Town Center Park provides the perfect backdrop for locals and visitors to come together and enjoy incredible live music under the Big Sky. These family-friendly concerts are held every Thursday from June through September (the park opens at 6 p.m. and music starts at 7:15 p.m.). No dogs or glass containers are allowed in the park. For more information visit www. bigskyarts.org.

JULY 27 FUNK YOU

AUGUST 3 TK & THE HOLY

KNOW-NOTHingS

june 22 MIDNIGHT NORTH

AUGUST 10 MATT NATHANSON +

JUNE 29 JOSLYN & THE SWEET COMPRESSION

FREDDY JONES BAND

AUGUST 17 AJ LEE & BLUE SUMMIT

JULY 4 THE TINY BAND

AUGUST 24 FUTUREBIRDS

JULY 6 PACO VERSAILLES

AUGUST 31 JESSE DANIEL

JULY 13 JENNIFER HARTSWICK BAND

SEPTEMBER 7 PINKY AND THE FLOYD

JULY 20 MADELINE HAWTHORNE

JULY 27 FUNK YOU

AUGUST 3 TK & THE HOLY

KNOW-NOTHingS

AUGUST 10 MATT NATHANSON +

FREDDY JONES BAND

AUGUST 17 AJ LEE & BLUE SUMMIT

all concerts are free and take place in len hill park music starts at 6:30 with opening bands

AUGUST 24 FUTUREBIRDS

AUGUST 31 JESSE DANIEL

SEPTEMBER 7 PINKY AND THE FLOYD

please no dogs • food and beverage vendors available

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Speech Therapy

NOW AVAILABLE at PEDIATRIC THERAPY CLINIC

Pediatric Therapy Clinic in Bozeman is now offering speech therapy thanks to Speech Language Pathologist, Karly Terrell, who has joined their therapy team. Karly has returned to Bozeman after spending four years in San Diego working at Rady Children’s Hospital. She completed her undergraduate degree in Psychology at Montana State University and went on to earn a Master’s of Science in Communicative Sciences and Disorders at the University of Montana, followed that with a graduate internship at Rady Children’s Hospital and then continued as an employee for four years.

While in the hospital setting, Karly vastly expanded her clinical skillset working with a wide variety of developmental and acquired language disorders in children from 18 months to 18 years of age. She has extensive experience working with children on the autism spectrum across a range of speech and language skills. At Rady Children’s, Karly not only facilitated individual family sessions, but also coordinated peer groups for children with autism to support social communication from early play skills to school-age conversational skills. Her clinical experience also includes treatment of acquired disorders from traumatic brain injuries, training and use of AAC devices, treatment of voice and resonance disorders, fluency and articulation and language delays.

Karly Terrell is currently accepting new clients in the Bozeman area. Please call 406-624-6669 to initiate services.

LOCAL BOZEMAN FAMILIES NEEDED for Foreign Exchange Students

Ever considered hosting foreign exchange students? This is your chance to make a dream come true for a lucky international student. Learn about another country and culture without leaving your house. Share your love of Montana and open your heart to a new family member. All family dynamics are welcome to apply (no kids, young kids, teen kids, single parent…OK!)

Ç Students will arrive in August for the upcoming 2023-24 school year

Ç Option to be a short-term Welcome Family (6-8 weeks) or Host for the full year

Ç Exchange students will attend local high schools in Bozeman, Belgrade, Manhattan, Three Forks and Livingston

Ç Local families provide a loving home with a bed and meals for our students

Ç Students speak English, have their own spending money and health insurance

Ç Family application process includes: complete online application, check references, background checks and a home visit interview

Ç Host families can hand-select a student to welcome into their family

Ç Students are 15-18 years old and come from Europe, Asia and South America

To learn more about becoming a host family, please contact Sierra at 406-570-2218 or sdrake@icesusa.org

J.Crew

Factory at THE GALLATIN VALLEY MALL

J.Crew Factory, the brand known for its fun, classic and colorful styles for women, men and kids, is moving into Gallatin Valley Mall. Customers can celebrate their love of shopping with frequent drops of new arrivals, exclusive in-store-only events and incredible deals on styles for every occasion. Shoppers are invited to explore the brand’s very own collection of J.Crew Factory–exclusive styles, all at an incredible value. They will also receive a surprise grand-opening offer when visiting the new store.

Perks are offered through J.Crew Passport, the brand’s free-to-join loyalty program. Members earn points on every purchase, a $5 reward for every 200 points, a birthday surprise, early access to discounts and more. Additional discounts are offered for teachers, college students, health-care workers, first responders and military personnel.

J.Crew Factory is currently under construction and plans to open later this year next to The Bay Bar & Grille, which will also undergo renovation.

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23 rd Annual

Music on Main

August 3 & 10, 2023

The Downtown Bozeman Association presents the 23rd Annual Music on Main summer concert series on Thursday nights, on Main Street from Rouse to Black Avenue. Live bands, both local and touring, are featured in this series. Bring the kids to the Coca Cola “Kids’ Zone” from 6:30-8 p.m. on South Bozeman Avenue for inflatables and other interactive activities provided by the Gallatin area’s best nonprofits. Grab a bite to eat from one of the many rotating food vendors and of course, enjoy live music starting at 7 p.m.

Music on Main 2023 Lineup:

Ç August 3 – Paige & the Peoples Band

Ç August 10 – Kimberly Dunn

46 th Annual Bozeman Sweet Pea Festival

August 4-6, 2023

The Sweet Pea Festival, an annual three-day festival of the arts, features entertainment in many forms – music of all genres, performances by local theater and dance troupes, workshops, family-friendly entertainment and activities, a flower show, a beer and wine garden featuring Montana microbrews and over 100 arts and crafts vendors to stroll through and purchase unique gifts for yourself, family and friends. Visit www. sweetpeafestival.org/sweetpea-events for a full schedule.

SLAM

Summer Festival

August 5 & 6, 2023

The 2023 Summer SLAM festival will be held at Bogert Park on August 5 from 10 a.m. to 7 p.m. and August 6 from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Showcasing the amazing talent Montana has to offer, this family-friendly event features an artists’ market, artist demonstrations, live music and performances, a culinary delights food court, Montana-made libations garden, silent auction and family activities. The SLAM festival is free to attend.

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MSU Community Cat Walk

August 18, 2023

The Montana State University Cat Walk will be held from 11 a.m. to 1 p.m. on Friday, August 18 before fall classes begin. MSU President Cruzado, Champ, the MSU Spirit of the West Marching Band, MSU Spirit Squad and other MSU representatives and community members will make their way down Main Street to create some “Bobcat Buzz.” They will be visiting businesses and stores, playing the fight song and passing out exclusive Bobcat swag along the way.

Summit New Musical Heights with the Bozeman Symphony

The Bozeman Symphony is thrilled to announce the availability of individual concert tickets for the highly anticipated 2023/24 concert season. Music Director Norman Huynh has curated a spectacular lineup of concerts featuring internationally acclaimed guest soloists, conductors and local talents. From the timeless classics of Beethoven and Brahms to the mesmerizing sounds of living composers, each performance promises an unforgettable experience for attendees of all backgrounds.

This season features six unforgettable Classical Series concerts that showcase a wide range of musical monuments. The “Bozeman Symphony Presents” series is also returning with the annual Holiday Spectacular and At the Movies: The Music of John Williams. This series delights the audience with iconic music they know and love, brought to life by the Bozeman Symphony Orchestra and Symphonic Choir. Following last season’s success and multiple sold-out concerts, patrons are encouraged to secure their tickets early to avoid disappointment.

Individual tickets for the 2023/24 season can be purchased starting August 7 at bozemansymphony.org, or by calling the Bozeman Symphony Box Office at 406-585-9774. For patrons interested in the full season, the Bozeman Symphony also offers subscription packages, allowing music enthusiasts to experience the full range of artistic expressions throughout the season.

All performances will be held at the Willson Auditorium (404 W. Main St.) in downtown Bozeman. Performances would not be possible without strong community support and sponsorship. The Bozeman Symphony wishes to thank Conductor’s Circle Sponsors Cal & Tricia DeSouza for supporting the 2023/24 season.

Cruisin’ on Main Car Show

August 20, 2023

The “Cruisin’ on Main” Car Show takes place on Main Street in downtown Bozeman between Wilson and Rouse Avenue. Car enthusiasts are invited to enter their vehicles in the show – all makes and models are welcome. Preregistration is open the day of the show. All proceeds from “Cruisin on Main” go to Cancer Support Community. Gift Bags and Dash Plaques will be given to all registered vehicles; trophies will be awarded in more than 10 car categories including a “People’s Choice” and “Best of Show.”

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helena

On Display Until September 3

MBC’s Shape Up for Nutcracker

August 21-24, 2023

and MBC’s 40 th Anniversary Nutcracker Auditions

September 8 & 9, 2023

Summer is winding down and Montana Ballet Company has Nutcracker on the mind. Prepare for MBC’s 40th Anniversary Nutcracker auditions by attending Shape Up for Nutcracker, August 21-24. This fun program will offer students the opportunity to get back into the studio and start learning MBC’s Nutcracker choreography. There will be two levels for ages 9 to 18.

995 Carousel Way

Helena, Montana

explorationworks.org

406.457.1800

Nutcracker auditions for ages 6 and up (must be 6 years old by September 9) will take place on Friday, September 8 and Saturday, September 9. Shape Up for Nutcracker and auditions are open to all community dancers. Preregistration is required. To register, visit www. montanaballet.org. For questions or more information, email info@montanaballet.org or call 406-582-8702.

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Helena Summer Walk Series

Tuesdays and Thursdays, August 1-17, 2023

This summer, local Helena conservation groups will collaborate to host a series of summer education walks. Every Tuesday and Thursday through August 17, one of the partner agencies will be leading a onehour outdoor educational walk in the Helena area. August walks will start at 7 p.m. Each walk will focus on a different topic including fire history, bear safety, water quality, geology, local history and more. Locations will vary with each presentation. Attendance is limited to 20 people per walk and signup will be open to the public 14 days before each event. Visit www.register-ed. com/programs/montana/241summer-walk-series/page:2

Alive at 5 in downtown Helena

August 2-23, 2023

The Alive at Five Summer Concert Series celebrates 26 years in 2023. Music will rotate every Wednesday between various sites in downtown Helena, including Women’s and Pioneer Parks. Each weekly event runs from 5-8:30 p.m. with live music beginning at 5:30 p.m. For the lineup and concert locations, visit www. downtownhelena.com/events.

Harvesting Helena Workshop

August 10, 2023

Farm to School Workshop: Harvesting Helena will provide general training on farm-to-school programs and Montana Harvest of the Month, which promotes Montana foods in Montana communities. Each month, sites taking part in Harvest of the Month spotlight a product grown in the state and serve it in at least one meal, snack or à la carte offering.

The National Center for Appropriate Technology (NCAT) coordinates Montana Harvest of the Month in collaboration with Montana Team Nutrition. Helena Food Share, Old Salt Co-op, St. Peter’s Health and Helena Public Schools are among the other partners hosting the workshop.

Anyone with an interest in locally grown food is encouraged to attend the event on Thursday, August 10 from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. at Central Elementary School, located at 402 N. Warren St.

Sunflower Days

August 4-27, 2023

Sunflowers Days, held from 5-8:30 p.m. at the Applestem Corn Maze and Pumpkin Patch in Wolf Creek, features four acres of sunflowers with more than 20 varieties. Explore the sunflowers in search of gnomes, dragon eggs and other surprises. And don’t forget giant bubbles! Entry cost is $11.

*Please note that, due to growing conditions, wildlife peak bloom is not guaranteed every weekend. No two weekends or season is the same. For more information, visit www.applestemcornmaze.myshopify.com/ products/sunflower-days-2023

The workshop will include tours of Old Salt Co-op’s new processing facility, school gardens, Helena Community Gardens and Helena Food Share’s pantry and mobile kitchen. Along with the tours and training opportunities, there will be time for networking, tasting local foods and action planning.

The cost for the Farm to School Workshop is $25 for an individual, and some scholarships are available. Registration includes lunch and snacks made with local foods. For more information on the workshop, scholarships and to register visit www. mtharvestofthemonth.org/ harvestinghelena/

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Family Yoga in Lockey Park

August 12, 2023

Bring the whole family to Yoga in the Park – kids are encouraged to join or they can play on the playground. Parents can come and go from their mats as needed. Small children are free to crawl around. This is a very informal, relaxed class in order to allow parents to attend to their kids as needed.

Family Yoga in Lockey Park (look for the Eclipse Community Yoga yard sign or a lady with yoga mats), is held one Saturday a month from 10:30-11:30 a.m. This is a Gentle Flow class, so poses will be adjusted for beginners. Cost is $16 and kids are free. Register online or pay when you arrive (cash, card, Venmo). If you would like to attend, but cannot afford it, contact Emily (406-282-4921 / eclipsecommunityyoga@gmail. com) about a sliding scale payment or scholarship.

If you need to borrow a mat or blocks, contact Emily ahead of time so she can bring them along. Please dress for the weather and bring a water bottle with you. For more information visit www. eclipsecommunityyoga.com/ community-yoga.

Dark Knight 5k

August 19, 2023

Runners who have participated in BQuickRunning’s South Hills Annual Trail Series (or “SHATS”) in the past will recognize this as the night race formerly known as “Goats in the Dark!” Starting at 9 p.m., it follows the same 5k course as before, starting at the intersection of LeGrande Cannon Boulevard and Silverette Street, on Helena’s far west side. However, it will be held a month earlier than in past years, making for more pleasant nighttime temperatures and beautiful sunset views before full darkness descends upon the course. Headlamps are required — don’t forget yours! For more information visit www.bquickrunning.com.

Helena Kiwanis

Family Music & Food Fest

August 26, 2023

Enjoy a day of listening to music, eating, drinking…and eating some more at the Helena Kiwanis Club fundraiser, HKC Family Music & Food Fest. Some of Montana’s finest musicians and food trucks will gather on Saturday, August 26, from 11:30 a.m. to 9:30 p.m. at Memorial Park. Music lineup includes: Max Hay, The Teccas, Counting Coup and John Roberts y Pan Blanco. Drinks will be poured by the Helena Exchange Club.

There will be a food truck contest (with prizes) for “Best Food” judged by local chefs and/or restaurateurs as well as a “People’s Choice” voted on by attendees at the event. Proceeds support local Helena youth and Kiwanis service projects such as Head Start Christmas Gifts, PAL High School Mentoring, Youth Service Clubs (Circle K at Carroll College and Key Clubs at local high schools) and encouraging local fourth and fifth grade students to excel in school.

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A Montana Learning Center Fundraising Event

September 23, 2023

We all know the importance of making sure Montana’s K-12 and college students are adequately prepared to be the employees and entrepreneurs of the future. To make that happen, teachers must have the tools they need to do their jobs well.

Support Montana Learning Center by attending An Evening Under the Stars on September 23 and be a part of furthering both of these critical priorities. The evening begins at 5 p.m. with cocktail hour, followed by a dinner reception at 6 p.m., facility tours, a live/silent auction, and an evening under the stars with Montana’s largest publicuse telescope.

Tickets are $75 each and include a catered meal with unlimited drinks.

For Students: In the last few years, MLC has expanded the number of unique, hands-on summer science camps it offers to K-12 students, which has led to year-after-year record breaking attendance. It also offers several NASAaffiliated programs for Montana middle and high school students available only through MLC.

For Teachers: MLC offers online and live continuing education courses for science teachers on how to incorporate Next Generation Science Standards into their curriculums, how to use MLC’s remote robotic telescope with their students and more.

To learn more about MLC and its programs, go to www. montanalearning.org/. To buy tickets to the fundraiser visit www.forms.gle/93NvUfB2ZrQD5wZZA.

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Fee-Free Yellowstone National Park Entrance Days 2023

Ç August 4: Anniversary of the Great American Outdoors Act

Ç September 23: National Public Lands Day

Ç November 11: Veterans Day

West Yellowstone Rod Run and Car Show

August 4-5, 2023

Come watch classic cars parade through the center of town to Pioneer Park for the annual must-attend Yellowstone Rod Run. Gathering in one of the most beautiful settings in the world, West Yellowstone, is reason enough to visit, but it is the festival atmosphere that prevails during this popular West Yellowstone Car Show that makes it truly unique.

The annual Rod Run event draws 400-600 street rods and classic cars from all over the United States. Enjoy music, food, beverages and more. This event is open to the public and free to attend.

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Keeping it Real

Blair Meets the Smith River, Part Two

In my last column, I wrote about winning the Montana Golden ticket with a Fourth of July Smith River permit; I focused on the massive amount of prep work involved in taking six adults and six kids on the five-day, off-grid float trip. I could write an entire book on the experience; it was a once-in-a-lifetime memory-making journey, not without its challenges, but one I would do over and over.

I returned from the week with a newfound appreciation for running water, my comfy bed, warm showers and my toilet. On the trip, my biggest struggle was the latrine. Pooping and peeing in pit toilets, most of which were nearly full in the middle of the woods, is not for the faint of heart. I wasn’t sure if I should be afraid of something coming up from below to grab me or something out in the wild attacking me in my vulnerable state. I was not alone in this inability to use the loo. Two of my three kids flat-out refused to “go,” and as we all know, kids not regularly pooping comes with challenges, including stomachaches and grouchiness. By day four, we finally found a way through our backlog, so to speak, and the sailing was smoother the final two days.

Now that I’ve shared my family’s bathroom habits with the world, shall we talk about the eagle that dove down between the boats to pluck a baby duckling away from its mother? Nature is great and all, but for the remainder of the day (several hours...several), the only thing that consumed my 4-year-old was asking why an eagle would do such a thing, or wouldn’t the mama duck be sad.

I learned to be more patient with my husband because, in fact, he really does have us covered. My nitpicking or backseat oaring is more annoying than helpful (don’t tell him I am admitting to that), and throughout the trip, I came to appreciate all his hard work, preparation and dedication to making this experience enjoyable.

I saw the kids in a new light. My 9-and 7-year-old boys became so much older to me. Helping set up camp without needing to be coaxed, bribed or threatened and looking out for the other kids, leading in games, holding their hands in the rougher water, catching crawdads, taking a turn on the oars. It was a stark realization that we need to double down on these types of trips because they will be off living young adult lives that may or may not include my husband and me in just a few short years.

These are the memories that build the foundation of what types of adventure seekers and travelers our kids will be as they grow up; this is where curiosity about the world around them is nurtured, and if we as parents don’t facilitate it, who will?

I can’t say I wasn’t relieved to be home in my bed (and with a toilet with running water) because I am, but I’m also now highly aware of the weight that cell service, internet, screens and work obligations have on our lives, and I need to find more balance.

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Blair Fjeseth is a working professional and proud Montana mom. You can reach her at blairparker.inc@gmail.com. Follow her Instagram @blair_mt for more adventures.

Mother/Daughter Duo Befriend a Local Senior

Intergenerational relationships can be beneficial for all ages

The global impact of the COVID-19 pandemic resulted in isolation and a widespread sense of loneliness experienced by individuals of all age groups. While isolation and loneliness have always been present, especially among at-risk populations such as older adults, the dangers have intensified and become more prevalent than ever. This past spring, the U.S. Surgeon General’s Advisory released findings that loneliness can be as harmful as smoking 15 cigarettes a day and increases the likelihood of developing dementia by up to 50%. Other physical and mental health disparities caused by loneliness include heart disease, diabetes, anxiety, depression and early death.

Fortunately, there are several ways for individuals and communities to combat loneliness, including the Befrienders program in the Gallatin Valley. Befrienders is a nonprofit organization that matches seniors with community volunteers for companionship. The program asks their volunteers to commit to spending at least one hour per week with their “befriender” for a year, with encouragement to increase time as the relationship develops. The program aims to improve quality of life for everyone involved and foster intergenerational connections while forming new friendships.

While volunteers are typically 18 years or older, Befrienders was approached last summer by a very motivated 10-year-old girl named Abby who was inspired to befriend a senior herself. Befrienders agreed, as long as Abby was joined by a parent in her volunteer effort.

Abby and her mom, Kaylee, have been matched with their senior, Carol, since the Fall of 2022 and it could not be a more perfect match. When the mother/daughter duo get together with Carol they enjoy reading together, having conversations and eating out at local

restaurants. Carol describes Abby as “a smart little girl. She reads books to me a lot and she’s very good at it. Abby knows how to treat people and be with them in kindness. She made me a bracelet the other day that says ‘Befrienders’ on it.”

Carol has absolutely adored her time with Abby and greatly benefits from the Befrienders program. She was pleasantly surprised with the generosity and friendship that Abby has provided her. She emphasized how “It’s been so nice to see a young child her age with the qualities needed to care for an elderly person who she didn’t know before. She has treated me like family from the very beginning. Kaylee and Abby just came in and made it a warm, touching, affectionate environment.”

While Carol is the recipient of the Befrienders services, she is not the only person benefiting from their relationship. Abby’s motivation to join Befrienders was to provide company to an older adult, engage in fun activities and read to her older friend. She describes her experience with Carol as impactful because it gives her another person in her life to care for and spend time with.

One of Abby’s favorite memories with Carol was celebrating Cinco de Mayo, enjoying tacos and Mexican ice cream together. Carol always has a snack ready for Abby and tea for Kaylee when they visit her home. Abby’s younger sister also gets to join them occasionally, which is pleasant for Carol to watch the two sisters together.

Kaylee observes her daughter not only enjoying these moments with Carol, but also growing from their interactions. “I would absolutely recommend doing Befrienders with your kids,” she said. “It is such a valuable experience to

connect generations while building a friendship. We all like to feel listened to and valued, no matter our age. I have seen my daughter begin to develop leadership in planning and organizing the activities each week, and it is neat to watch her feel empowered. It is an hour well spent each week!”

According to the Surgeon General’s Report, strong connections can increase an individual’s lifespan by 7.5 years. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) also highlights several key factors that contribute to and alleviate loneliness. It is estimated that onethird of U.S. adults aged 45 years and older feel lonely. Both younger and aging populations are particularly vulnerable to the dangers of loneliness, which is why Abby and Carol are so great for one another. To avoid isolation, the CDC recommends investing time in meaningful relationships, sharing common interests and hobbies, and finding ways to be responsive, supportive and grateful to others.

The Befrienders program exists so that people of different generations can form and nurture a mutually enriching relationship. By “enhancing lives through friendship,” Befrienders is helpful in reducing loneliness for all populations. For more information or to apply as a volunteer or senior with Befrienders, visit their website at Befriendersbozeman.org. The Befrienders office is located on the second floor of the Bozeman Senior Center at 807 N. Tracy Ave., and they are always happy to answer questions at 406522-8169.

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Kathleen Maehl is the Program Coordinator at Befrienders. She has been managing the program and facilitating volunteer and senior matches since January 2022. She is a recent graduate of Montana State University and will be attending Gonzaga University this Fall to study her Masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling.

One-room Schools Alive and Well in Rural Montana

To people dwelling in urban and suburban areas, the thought of a oneroom schoolhouse is a relic from the past. It is a white clapboard building with schoolmarms and buggies tied up outside. Jump to 2023 in rural Montana, however, and the one-room schoolhouse survives.

Jacob and Michelle Dauenhauer’s ranch lies 40 miles south of Miles City and only slightly closer to Broadus. Their children—10-yearold Lander, 8-year-old Caleb and 6-year-old Grace, attend the SY school, which is just five miles north of the ranch. Michelle works on the ranch during the school year and as a fire dispatcher for the BLM out of Miles City in the summer.

During the 2022-2023 school year, five students attended the SY school ranging from kindergarten to seventh grade. Once students graduate from eighth grade, they can opt to attend high school in Broadus or Miles City, or home school, as some former students have done. This fall six students, covering eighth,

seventh, fifth, third, first and a kindergartener, will matriculate at SY and will all be taught by Jerica Schatz.

Michelle believes that a one-room schoolhouse requires a special teacher who is creative and flexible. “A teacher might teach the same lesson to all the grades at once,” she explained, “but they expect different learning out of each of them. If they are teaching a science lesson, the kindergartner might learn two words whereas the eighth grader is expected to have a good grasp of the concepts.”

The reading and math lessons are individualized, and the teacher spends time with each level, each day.

“The fact that the kids receive individual attention is one of the things that I think is best about a small school,” Michelle said. “The teacher can teach to each student's level. I think children learn to work on their own because when she is teaching one level, the other ones need to be doing something. As the students get older, they assist the younger children. This gives the older ones plenty of opportunity to teach younger students and reinforce what they have already learned.” Michelle explained that her son, Lander, paid

attention to what the older kids were learning in their lesson and was thrilled when it was his turn to study multiplication because he already understood it.

The ranch mom indicated that the only drawback with a small school is difficulty with extracurricular type activities.

“My kids are all in wrestling and that has worked out well, but it is tough to drive back and forth to town that much. Also, they do not have the same relationships and socialization that their wrestling teammates have who do other sports together.”

Still, she feels that the education her children receive is excellent as they get one-on-one attention, have done well in school, experience field trips and have flexibility in their schedules.

“We have a four-day week, but if we have a teacher sick on Monday, or we have a snow day, we can just say, ‘Let’s go to school Friday instead,’” Michelle noted.

She added that a smaller school forces a parent to be involved. “I have been on the school board since my son started school and I do not foresee getting off the board anytime soon. I like it

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because I have more input in some things, such as helping to hire a teacher and know what she is like. You can struggle to have that kind of input in other places. In my case, if there are any issues, they can be addressed quickly; there isn’t a ladder of different people you must go through. Just bring your issues to our school board and the three of us will figure it out.”

Michelle said her kids love their school and are good friends with everyone there.

“There are no bullies. Everybody must get along,” Michelle said. “Grace is head over heels that there is going to be a kindergarten student this fall. She was a kindergartner by herself last year, but she is just instant best friends with this girl.”

Being in the country does not mean the kids will be behind with technology; there is internet and the students do plenty of computer work.

All the Dauenhauer children are involved in 4-H, with Grace and Caleb in the early stages with the Clover Buds.

“I didn’t grow up with 4-H and it’s been a learning experience for all of us, but we are really enjoying it,” said Michelle. “It’s also great because it gets them socializing.”

Rebecca Colnar is Director of Public Relations for Montana Farm Bureau and a freelance writer from Custer, Montana.

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In this column, you can ask your questions about parenting kids from ages 2 to 10 to Flora McCormick, Licensed Counselor & Parenting Coach.

Q: “I need some help with my daughter stealing. She’s 8 and has always been sneaky – taking my makeup, sneaking food, etc. She also takes food/toys out of her friends’ backpacks at school. It’s now gotten to the point where if a friend’s toy goes missing, they immediately think she took it. In the last six months, we have caught her shoplifting.

Today I found that she hid a yo-yo in her pants and was covering it up with the books I had just bought her. I did make her take the Yo-yo back to the owner and apologize. We have talked to her about the consequences: i.e., losing trust with family and friends, and getting arrested when she gets older. It’s as if she doesn’t care and is begging for the attention. I feel like I’m with her 24/7 and allow her to do a lot. It just feels so confusing. I find myself asking, “WHY on earth would she be doing this?!” I’m trying to find a psychologist or therapist for her, but everything is booked until next year.

A: First, I can tell you this is really normal. It’s very common for kids to test out getting things for free, without realizing the full ramifications of stealing. The biggest thing I see is that the outcome is too far away, such as having her think about getting the police called in the future.

It may seem harsh, but I think you need to come up with consequences in the present that fit the crime. Stealing is a pretty big offense, so I think a big consequence is needed for her to take ownership of that choice in a meaningful way. If she’s taking a toy from a friend, perhaps she has to pick five toys of hers and give them to that friend. (Make sure they aren’t her least favorite toys). Or maybe she could line up her five favorite toys and allow the friend to come over and pick two that she wants. Basically, we want to have a consequence that feels like it matches the intensity of the behavior.

As for her doing this for attention, I think it may actually be more about power. She may not feel she has much agency in earning money to buy things she wants. This could be a great opportunity to talk to her about options for making money (like a lemonade stand or mowing neighbors’ lawns).

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Q: What is a realistic response to a 15-year-old spending lots of time in their room? Just give them space because it’s part of the teen years?

A: I think it’s a balance of respecting that and having expectations of family time. Maybe make an agreement in advance that you’d like her to be out of her room at least two hours a day. Or you’d like her in the family space at least from dinner until bed...or whatever feels like a good compromise and clear expectation.

I’d go to her letting her know you’d like time with her AND you want to respect her space, so you want to see how you can make an agreement together that works for her and you. Then ask, “What suggestions do you have that could work, in terms of an agreed time of day or amount of time that you spend in the family space? If you’re looking for a good resource on how to have these collaborative problemsolving discussions with your kids, I recommend reading Raising Human Beings: Creating a Collaborative Partnership with Your Child by Ross Greene, PhD.

It’s also a good idea to keep an eye on things in terms of noticing if she is not sleeping well, or sleeping excessive amounts or not eating much. These can be signs of depression, and in that case, I definitely recommend talking to her about the option of seeing her pediatrician and/or a counselor to begin medication and/or counseling.

SUSTAINABLE PARENTING

FLORA MCCORMICK, LCPC

To get more sanity-saving strategies for parenting young kids, join Flora’s Free Facebook Group: Sustainable Parenting. Questions for the next issue or wins/questions from this issue can be submitted to contactflora@gmail.com. A special thank you to those who submit monthly questions. FLORA McCORMICK, LCPC, 406-224-0031 / www.sustainableparenting.com / www.facebook.com/groups/sustainableparenting

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