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STEP INTO A WORLD OF HOLIDAY FUN. Immerse yourself in a world of holiday spirit with the return of WinterFest at Carowinds. The park will be transformed into a glittering winter landscape with ice skating, festive characters, family rides, live shows and more. And don’t miss the brand-new New Year’s Eve Celebration. Visit carowinds.com to learn more.

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12 Clash of Parenting Styles Create harmony parenting together, plus tips to survive a hectic holiday season

16 Retro Toy Rewind From Teddy Ruxpin to Garbage Pail Kids, 1980s classics are making a comeback

18 Holiday Light Shows Top picks for light shows across the state that are worth the drive

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23 Our Picks 24 Daily Calendar 25 On Stage 26 Santa Sightings 28 Parades and Tree Lightings

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The Dual Role of Parents

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does, right? I remember saying more than once “be careful” as he learned to climb on the playground. In hindsight, I realize I was projecting my own fear of him getting hurt and possibly watering down his confidence. With my second child, I’ve learned to let go a bit more. I don’t follow behind my 3-year-old as he climbs the ladder to the big slide. I’m not trailing behind as he tots around in our backyard picking up sticks and scooting around on his trike. I feel more confident to let him explore on his own. As my big kid becomes an independent soul with his own opinions, likes and

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dislikes, I’m learning to change my dialogue from telling him what he needs to do, to putting out a statement and following with a question that makes him think and make decisions for himself. I still fall into the habit of serving as a verbal checklist, but he’s reaching a point that he doesn’t want to be told what to do. Who does? In contrast, his dad is certainly not reminding him of all the things he needs to do. Some call it overparenting versus underparenting. Underparenting allows a child time and space to

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figure things out. Overparenting means you’re doing the thinking for your child, and that doesn’t help him or her learn to weather life’s pitfalls. Parenting is an ongoing learning process. It’s important to be on the same page with your parenting partner about how to approach childhood dilemmas and development. For example, even if you agree on positive reinforcement for things well done, what rewards are doled out and what are the expectations for those rewards? Having the power of two parents working together as a team with a plan and goals not only helps the child, but also the parents. With this in mind, the feature on page 12 delves into how to open up the conversation with your parenting partner about what to do when you disagree, as well as

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how to navigate the holidays as a team. Speaking of the holidays, whether it’s a parade, tree lighting or visit with Santa, we’ve rounded up where to kick off the season this month, beginning on page 23. For a fun read, the feature “Retro Rewind” on page 16 spotlights some childhood favorites from the 1980s that are making a comeback with 21st-century updates. Here’s hoping you can relax into the holiday season.

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Toymaker Schleich Launches Pop-Up Shop at SouthPark Mall Schleich Toys has been winning the hearts of kids and families for decades with high-quality, detailed animal figures — each still painted by hand — and innovative play sets. With its U.S. headquarters located in Charlotte, Schleich is celebrating its local community connection this holiday season with its first-ever standalone pop-up store at SouthPark Mall. The pop-up offers unique handson play and fun-filled, animalinspired events and activities that give kids the opportunity to act out adventures and engage with the company’s newest toys in the “Playzone” area. The space is also home to a 15-foot Tyrannosaurus Rex perfect for photos. Check it out through January.

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See a cast of characters, floats, marching bands and Segwalloons at the 71st annual Novant Thanksgiving Day Parade in uptown. Photo by Charlotte Center City Partners

Novant Thanksgiving Day Parade Marches Through Uptown The Novant Thanksgiving Day Parade, the largest Thanksgiving Day parade in the Southeast, celebrates the season with its annual march through uptown Charlotte. The parade features unique floats, local marching bands, giant balloons and Segwalloons like Sesame’s Street Super Grover, a visit from Santa, plus special tributes throughout the parade to honor the city’s 250th anniversary. The parade starts at 9 a.m. on Nov. 22 and marches along Tryon Street from 10th Street to Stonewall Street. Reserved seats in sections along Tryon Street are available for purchase. Each section has two general admission rows. Tickets are $25 in advance, $30 day of the parade and can be purchased online or through the Novant Health Thanksgiving Day Parade app, or via get. crowntickets.com. The parade app also has information on performers, bands and floats, and maps of the parade route. Families can volunteer together as costume walkers in the parade. Children must be at least 8 years old to march in costume with parents. Costume choices include elves, scarecrows, storybook characters and farmers. Costume fittings take place the week of Nov. 5-9. Register to volunteer at paradevolunteer.com. If you can’t make it uptown, watch the parade Thanksgiving Day on WBTV Channel 3 beginning at 4 p.m. Find more details about the parade at novanthealththanksgivingparade.com.

Author Jeff Kinney Brings ‘Wimpy Kid’ Humor to Charlotte Jeff Kinney, author of the book series “Diary of a Wimpy Kid” is coming to Barnes and Noble, The Arboretum, Nov. 6, as part of his new book tour for “Diary of a Wimpy Kid: The Meltdown.” To attend, purchase a copy of the newest book to receive a wristband. Wristbands will be handed out beginning at 9 a.m. on Nov. 6 at Barnes and Noble. The event takes place that evening beginning at 6 p.m. Kinney is also making an appearance at a local elementary school and giving each student a copy of “Diary of a Wimpy Kid: The Meltdown.” (The school he’s visiting is a secret surprise!) For die-hard fans, consider a trip to Raleigh to see “Wimpy Kid Live: The Meltdown Show,” an interactive performance filled with Wimpy Kid humor, trivia and audience participation, happening Nov. 5 at Ravenscroft School. Learn more at wimpykid.com/appearances.

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Students, including eighth grader Anniesha Dunbar, were at the Verizon Innovative Learning Lab ribbon-cutting ceremony to test some of the new technology in the lab.

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Curb Emotional Outbursts in the Classroom Dr. Jason Kahn, co-founder at Mightier, a behavioral health company that uses bio-responsive video games to help kids build and practice calming skills, offers these tips to work with the school to help your child stay calm in the classroom.

Whitewater Middle School Debuts One of the First Verizon Innovative Learning Labs in the Country Charlotte-Mecklenburg Schools and Verizon unveiled the Verizon Innovative Learning Lab at Whitewater Middle School with a ribbon-cutting celebration in October. The lab gives students and teachers access to emerging

1. Don’t be ashamed. Teachers and school psychologists can seem a bit cold, which can seem unnerving as a parent. Their suggestions can feel like they are putting you on the spot, but everyone is on the same team and wants your child to succeed. 2. Be honest. If you are working with a school psychologist, you will likely be asked to fill out a written assessment. This survey helps in the diagnosis process. Diagnoses can be scary, but they ensure that your child is getting the services he or she is entitled. 3. Ask questions. Bring a list of prepared questions to meetings to help you understand behaviors that are being seen and the plan going forward.

technology, such as augmented and virtual reality, coding and circuits, 3D design and a sound production room. Verizon Innovative Learning provides free technology, free Internet access and hands-on learning experiences. Powered by a next-gen, technology-infused curriculum that fundamentally changes the way teachers teach and students learn, Verizon Innovative Learning is giving students the ability to do more in the developing technology world. Whitewater Middle School and the Charlotte-Mecklenburg School District have been part of Verizon Innovative Learning since 2016. As a Verizon Innovative Learning school, students and teachers are equipped with tablets, two-year data plans and a technology infused curriculum.

Kids’ Music Superstar Laurie Berkner Launches Audible Original Series: ‘Laurie Berkner’s Song and Story Kitchen’ On Nov. 2, best-selling children’s recording artist and preschool television favorite Laurie Berkner kicks off the original series “Laurie Berkner’s Song and Story Kitchen.” The series is set in a fun-filled kitchen where Berkner whips up yummy food, songs and stories along with her sidekick, Thelonius Pig (Josiah Gaffney). Each chapter in the multi-hour audio series revolves around a different food and story from the world of Juniper Fields — the magical home of Berkner’s friends Oscar Beebee the bumblebee, Layla Meeska the mouse, Tallulah Jones the dinosaur, and ferret cousins Victor Vito and Freddie Vasco. The series also includes some of the greatest hits by The Laurie Berkner Band, new recordings, and story-based entertainment for kids age 3-8. Important lessons and takeaway themes include: choose to be kind, express yourself, find a way to help, self-confidence and be curious. Laurie Berkner’s Song and Story Kitchen is available to Audible members at no cost during the month of November, and $5.95 for nonmembers for the entire series. After November, the series price is $5.95 for members and nonmembers.

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Stay Safe During Emergencies

Father and author James A. DeMeo recently published the book “What’s Your Plan? A Step-by-Step Guide to Keep Your Family Safe During Emergency Situations.” Below are preparedness tips from DeMeo to ensure family safety at home and in public places. Plan in advance. Have a conversation as a family prior to an emergency situation so you know what to do. This puts you in a position of strength to meet challenges. Take a proactive stance in terms of your own personal safety. Have a go-to spot. Designate a predetermined meeting place for you and your family in case you become separated in a public place. Create a unique code word for your family only. And always follow law enforcement’s direction and guidance. Pay attention. Be aware of the world around you by being vigilant and maintaining a personal situational awareness. If something does not feel right, trust your instincts and tell someone in a position of authority to check it out. The mantra of “see something, say something” makes perfect sense. Don’t assume someone else will notify the authorities. It’s better to be safe than sorry.

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When Your Pediatrician Changes Practices If you really love your doctor then stick with him or her, says Dr. Andrew Schulman, with Pediatric Surgical Associates. And if you choose to stick with your pediatrician, you do not have stay with the health system or practice with which your doctor was formally affiliated. If you decide to follow your doctor and change practices, keep the following in mind. Be sure your doctor remains in-network with your insurance plan, especially if you’re from out of state, as some plans have a very narrow pool of providers. In order to verify in-network status, call the new practice and give them the exact name of the provider and type of policy. Your child will be a new patient at the practice regardless of how well your doctor knows him or her, which means filling out the requisite paperwork and registering on the practice’s preferred patient portal. If the new office does not have access to the old practice’s medical records, you will have to provide a release so they can obtain that information. The office and nursing staff do not always follow the doctor. Make sure you are comfortable with the office staff of your doctor’s new practice. Bad service might be a deal-breaker.

Positive Family Experiences Shape Later Romantic Relationships Research shows that modeling positive partnerships can have an affect on children’s future romantic relationships. A team of researchers at Penn State surveyed 974 participants about family dynamics. In middle school, participants were asked about their assertiveness, positive engagement with their families, family climate and effectiveness of their parents’ discipline methods. When they were between the ages of 18 and 21, they were asked to rate the violence levels, problem-solving skills, and amount of love they felt in their romantic relationships. Researchers found that young adults from families that were cohesive, organized and without much conflict were less likely to be in romantic relationships with violence or poor problem solving. Family factors also seemed to affect specific interpersonal skills. More effective parenting and a positive family climate appeared to increase the participants’ assertiveness — the ability to respectfully advocate for their needs in a relationship and have positive interactions with their families.

Samantha Busch with her husband, NASCAR driver Kyle Busch, and their son Brexton Busch. Photo courtesy of Samantha Busch

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Get to Know: Samantha Busch BY MICHELE HUGGINS

amantha Busch, wife of NASCAR driver Kyle Busch, and mom to Brexton Busch, 3, is the head of the Kyle Busch Foundation and owner of Murph Boutique. She took a minute to discuss how she handles the fast lanes of life. Where in Charlotte do you live? Where did you grow up? We live in Denver on Lake Norman. My husband grew up in Las Vegas and I grew up in Northwest Indiana, right outside of Chicago. Tell us about your job. What do you like most about it? What are the challenges? I am the owner of Murph Boutique, an online contemporary women’s boutique that has trendy and affordable fashion for all sizes. We carry fun pieces in sizes extra small to 3X. My favorite part of this job is that I handpick the clothing for the store. My biggest challenge is figuring out ways to set the store apart from others and

continuously draw new clientele. My other job is the executive director of the Kyle Busch Foundation. We started a branch of this called the Bundle of Joy Fund over three years ago when my husband Kyle and I struggled to have our son and ultimately had to go through in vitro fertilization (IVF). There are so many physical and emotional struggles with infertility, but what many people don’t realize is the cost for one cycle of IVF is around $20,000 and most people‘s insurance does not cover it. Bundle of Joy Fund helps other couples pay for their IVF treatment at the Reach clinic in Charlotte, North Carolina. To date we have helped 31 families

What is your favorite thing about raising a family in Charlotte? The weather. We love to get outside to swim, hike, race — whatever it is and the weather is Charlotte is great for that. Best advice ever received: I think the best advice that I’ve received and could give is to surround yourself with a great team. You have to accept that you can’t do everything by yourself and it’s about finding the right group of people, especially on the business side to collaborate with and be able to trust to handle responsibilities and to see your vision. On the family side, time flies so you really have to enjoy every moment. It feels like not that long ago Brexton was an infant and then in a blink of an eye he’s suddenly an independent toddler. Proudest parenting moment: There are many proud parent moments, but one that sticks out is one day at the park. There was a bunch of kids playing, including a

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child with special needs. Everyone was running around, playing and having fun. This little girl, who was around 6 or 7, fell down, scraped her knee and was crying. Brexton instantly ran over to her and gave her a hug and told her it would be OK, and that he and I would go find her mommy. Just seeing that in an instant he knew to go comfort her and take care of her was such an amazing moment to witness as a mom. Lowest parenting moment: When Brexton was about 5 months old, he decided that he was going to wake up every 45 minutes in the middle of the night. This was torture for my husband and me. I remember one night in particular we were just yelling at each other. I was crying and we couldn’t soothe Brexton. It just felt so hard and overwhelming. When you are sleep deprived, it’s easy to lash out at one another as husband and wife but when you’re so tired you should keep your mouth shut and help each other because fighting only makes it worse. What are three things you can’t live without? 1. My fitness equipment for working out. 2. iPhone 3. My GHD curling iron. What is your favorite Instagram account? @kelseywells Last book read? “An Unwanted Guest” by Shari Lapena What inspires you? That feeling when you see someone’s face light up with a new way of thinking. Whether that’s giving hope to a woman struggling with infertility or inspiring a woman to step outside of her comfort zone.

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GROWING UP the puppy won’t jump on the child during feeding and create negative habits.” While dog training is important, it’s equally vital to ensure that your child knows how to behave around the dog, Howell says. “Far too many children (and plenty of adults) get away with completely unacceptable behavior toward dogs. Pulling ears, climbing and jumping on, or any invasion of space isn’t a position a lot of dogs want to be in, even if they don’t always give a clear sign they are annoyed. When dogs do show teeth, growl or even nip, we need to take a step back and examine what triggered the behavior.” Teach children to observe and respect a dog’s cues, and they’ll be safer not only around your family dog, but any other dog they meet.

Bringing up Puppy Helping kids and canines safely cohabitate BY MALIA JACOBSON

iving with a pet can help curious little ones begin to develop empathy and kindness toward others. New research shows that kids even prefer their pets to their siblings, with dogs scoring the highest in relationship satisfaction. Here’s what to know to help kids and dogs peacefully live together from birth through the teen years.

EARLY YEARS

Pup Prep For many dog owners, a smooth transition to new parenthood involves plenty of pet preparation. Start by taking your dog to the veterinarian for a routine health examination and necessary vaccinations. While you’re there, make plans to spay or neuter. The Humane Society reports that sterilized pets are healthier, calmer, and less likely to bite making them better companions for little humans. If your dog isn’t exactly a model canine citizen, now’s the time to act. Consult with an animal behavior specialist to address problems like yipping, whining, leash pulling and jumping. Although the thought of dog training may seem exhausting during new parenthood, your dog benefits from the extra attention and will be better prepared for life with an active toddler. Even older

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dogs can learn new tricks, so to speak, says Brad Howell, owner and head trainer of Red Beard Dog Training in Greensboro, North Carolina. “Training an 8-year-old dog to stop pulling on its leash is going to take more patience, but older dogs can settle into new, more desirable habits,” he says. ELEMENTARY YEARS

Behavior Basics By grade school, kids may be ready for a larger role in walking, training and feeding the family dog. Dogs pay attention to the people who feed them, so it’s a good idea to involve kids if possible, says certified trainer Wynona Karbo of Seattle’s Ahimsa Dog Training. “When a young child feeds a puppy or boisterous young dog, keep the dog behind a baby gate while the food is dispensed so

TEEN YEARS

Teen’s Best Friend Whether you’re ready to add another canine to the family, or your older child wants his or her first puppy, the teen years can be a great time for a new, or new-to-you, family dog. Teens are old enough to independently walk and feed a dog, participate in dog training, even pick up pet food and ferry the dog to the vet or groomer. What’s the right dog for your family? Your local climate, favorite pastimes and activity level should factor into your choice, Howell says. Families with a passion for sailing or watersports should look for breeds that enjoy the water. If you or your teen wants to hike or run with your dog, don’t choose a toy breed or one that can’t handle heavy exertion. If your teen’s heart is set on a large, active breed or a puppy, plan to commit hours to training, socialization and exercise. Don’t overlook an older dog as a companion for a busy teen, Howell says. “Sweet, lazy old dogs are the most underrated and overlooked adoptable dogs.” Malia Jacobson is an award-winning health and parenting journalist and mom of three. Her latest book is “Sleep Tight, Every Night: Helping Toddlers and Preschoolers Sleep Well Without Tears, Tricks, or Tirades.”

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FAMILIES MANAGING MEDIA Gift ideas: board games (Clue, Settlers of Catan, Ticket to Ride), Legos, and crossword puzzle books. READING Teaching your child to love reading is priceless. He will never be lonely with a good book, and he’ll learn to use his imagination as he immerses himself in far-away places. He will also learn how to feel empathy when he connects with the characters in the book. Gift ideas: book series, comic books, or a magazine subscription. FASHION Most kids don’t get excited over new underwear and robes, but many love team jerseys, college logo wear, and trendy attire. Don’t underestimate the power of a superhero costume or nice jewelry. Gift ideas: clothes, shoes, costumes, purses, hair bows, pajamas and team gear.

Rethinking Your Gifting This Holiday Season Gifts that spark imagination, inspiration BY MELANIE HEMPE

PETS Pets provide hours of entertainment for your kids and tons of love. Dogs especially provide a daily lesson in what unconditional love looks like, and the added bonus of the responsibility of having to care for something other than himself. Gift ideas: fish, hermit crab, hamster, rabbit, cat or dog.

hat parent doesn’t want to give their child gifts they will love? While digital screens and video games may be at the top of your child’s list this season, there are other great gift

ideas when you think outside the box. Instead of following the latest tech trend, give gifts that empower your kids, grow their brain, teach responsibility and shape their character. ART Children are explorers, and art provides a world where they can color outside the lines and discover new ideas, create their own world, see that problems have more than one solution, and allow their imagination to flourish. Gift ideas: art supplies, clay, sketch pads, stickers, Tinker Crate, and craft kits. MUSIC Music makes everything more fun, including cleaning your room and shooting hoops in the driveway. It is soothing for the soul and awesome for those neuronal connections. Play it often in your home and make music a part of your child’s — and your —daily routine. Gift ideas: instrument, music lessons, CDs, portable speaker, and headphones. SPORTS Children may not win every game or even be good at sports, but they are meant to move

a lot. Your child’s brain needs movement to properly develop. Gift ideas: balls, Frisbee, sports equipment, trampoline, and ping-pong table. HOBBIES A hobby is not necessarily an organized, scheduled activity, but we all need an activity to call our own. It evokes a feeling of ownership that allows us to grow at our pace, to find rest, relaxation, and joy in doing. Gift ideas: cooking supplies, camera, photo printer, scrapbook, sewing machine, and yarn. CRITICAL THINKING Every child needs to be challenged. When you give the gift of critical thinking, you are giving a gift that can pay off huge dividends later. Competition is good too, but strategy games can be done alone (Rubik’s Cube) or with another player (chess). They teach the art of planning an action to reach a certain outcome.

YOUR TIME The most valuable gift you can give your child is the gift of your uninterrupted non-tech time. Think in terms of talking, building your relationship, and relaxing or playing with your child one-on-one. Gift ideas: coupon book for ice cream trips or one-on-one dinners out, camping trip, or painting your child’s room. Childhood is gone in the blink of an eye. It’s a time when life-long memories are made and bonds are formed that can keep families close for years to come. Melanie Hempe is the founder of Families Managing Media. For more information, visit familiesmanagingmedia.com

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What to Do When Parenting Styles Clash And tips to navigate the holiday experiences as a team BY CHRISTA MELNYK HINES

We all come to parenthood with a certain set of expectations and assumptions about raising kids. We assume our partner shares our healthy outlook. That is, until we find ourselves butting heads in the midst of a heated child-rearing dilemma. How do you navigate a parentingstyle conflict without confusing our kids and harming the relationship with your partner?

DISCUSS YOUR UPBRINGING “In a perfect world, we would have these conversations when we are dating,” says adolescent and family therapist Melissa Perry. How we raise our kids is often dictated by how our parents raised us — or how we wish we’d been raised. As a couple, discuss each other’s childhoods. For example, what was your parents’ disciplinary style? How did they interact with you? Listen to understand and empathize with each other’s experiences.

“Most people know that it doesn’t feel good to scream at their kids. Most people know it doesn’t feel good to hit them, but they do it because they say ‘I turned out OK,’” says Cati Winkel, a wellness coach who works with individuals and families. “Once we start figuring out what that’s created in their lives, how they interact, and how they have relationships with people, they start to recognize ‘oh, maybe things could have been a little bit different.’” Holiday tip! To best understand your partner’s attitude about the holidays, talk and listen to each other’s childhood experiences. For some people, the holidays can bring up nostalgic, happy memories. For others, the season can trigger painful ones. Ask each other: what special traditions would we like to start with our family? What do we want our family’s holiday experience to feel like?

PARENT AS A TEAM Even if you are divorced or separated, focus on presenting

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a united front when it comes to parenting. “It’s fine for parents to each have their own way of interacting with their children. As a matter of fact, it’s healthy because it teaches children to be more flexible and to adapt better in different environments,” says Colleen Huff, a certified parent educator. Discuss the ideal home environment you want to create, the types of family rules that are important to each of you, and zero in on common goals. Holiday tip! Decide together what you want your family’s holiday to look like. Are gifts a priority or do memorable experiences matter more? Is it possible for you to purchase gifts together for your kids to avoid situations where one parent tries to outdo the other?

COME UP WITH A PLAN Agree on age-appropriate rules and consequences in your home. For a toddler or preschooler, you might have two or three rules like no hitting or throwing toys, while a 5-year-old might have up

to five rules. “If kids know the expected behavior, then they’re free to do something else, which is going to be exploring and learning, playing and engaging and feeling self-confident versus feeling timid, inward and insecure,” Huff says. Establish reasonable consequences for unacceptable behavior, but be flexible. For example, you might use the corner for a timeout for your child, while your partner may prefer that your child sits in a time-out chair. By agreeing on a plan of action for common scenarios and remaining consistent with consequences, you can avoid reactive parenting. Holiday tip! The holidays can be an over stimulating time of the year for kids, which can lead to more behavioral issues than usual. If you plan to visit relatives or travel, plan ahead with your partner about the rules you’d like the family to remain consistent on. For example, you might agree to prioritize a consistent bedtime or healthy meals if you know that

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lack of sleep and too much sugar can lead to challenging behavior.

MANAGE CONFLICT Authoritative • Provides structure to a child’s daily routine, including regular bedtime. • Establishes clear household rules and reasonable consequences. • Healthy, open line of communication between parent and child.

Neglectful • Doesn’t support child’s emotional and/or physical needs. • Unaware of what is happening in child’s life. • Leaves child alone for long periods of time. • Uninvolved with child’s life outside of home.

Permissive • Loving and nurturing, but not demanding. • Lenient to avoid confrontation with child. • Lack structure, unclear rules and consequences. • May bribe kids to do things with large rewards.

Authoritarian • Demanding, strict and inflexible. • Lack of healthy dialogue between parent and child. • Limits child’s ability to make decisions or choices. • Uses punishment instead of positive reinforcement. Source: Developmental Psychology, Vanderbilt University

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Vastly different approaches to parenting can send mixed messages to your child. “Your child might start to identify one parent as the parent to avoid and the other parent as the parent to get what they want to out of them — or use parents against each other,” Perry says. “If your goal is to both love your child and both parent them, then you can probably come to some sort of compromise.” Suppose you want your child to do homework right away after school to free up the evening for other interests. Then your partner comes home, dismisses this rule and lets your child play before homework. A good way to address the situation might be for you to say: “I’ve noticed that Johnny struggles to complete his homework if he puts it off until later in the day. This structure in our afternoons seems to help. I could really use your support on this.” Then, give your partner an opportunity to respond without interrupting them. “Focus on the problem, not the person and focus on the actual issue at hand in the moment, not what the parent or child did or didn’t do in the last week or week before, ” Perry says. Also, use reflective listening to validate what your partner says, which shows that you care about their perception or opinion. In reflective listening, you restate in a non-condescending way what you think you heard: “I think I’m hearing you say______. Is this what you mean?” “Oftentimes we misunderstand, and we base our next answer on an assumption of understanding,” Perry says. Holiday tip! The holidays can put a strain on a relationship, especially

if one partner goes overboard purchasing gifts, which makes the other feel stressed or uncomfortable. Before shopping gets underway, discuss your priorities and goals for the holiday and agree on a budget. Come up with gift game plan. Consider questions like: Who is on the list and who is not? How much do we want to spend on the kids? What about for each other and for various relatives?

CONFLICT VERSUS CALM If you can remain calm, it’s healthy for kids to see their parents work out a conflict and come to a resolution. “If we teach children from a young age how to properly deal with conflict, that’s only going to set them up for success,” Winkel says. But, if you are too angry to discuss the situation immediately, give yourselves permission to cool off before working through the issue. “Agree to walk away, but have a set, specific time that you are going to come back and talk about it again,” Perry says. “A lot of times people fight, then they cool down, but they don’t ever come back and resolve what was said in the heat of the moment.” Without coming to resolutions for problems that arise in our relationships, resentment and disengagement from each other can set in, potentially harming your partnership. Need help strengthening your communication skills with your partner or ex to resolve parenting differences? Consult with a licensed family therapist for helpful support and strategies. Christa Melnyk Hines is a nationally published freelance writer. Her latest book is “Happy, Healthy & Hyperconnected: Raise a Thoughtful Communicator in a Digital World.”

AA flashback flashback to to toys toys from from the the 1980s 1980s and and their their 21st-century 21st-century updates updates BY MANDY HOWARD We may not have had Fortnite dances or our own smartphones, but many Gen Xers would say there was no better time to be a kid than the 1980s. We dreamed that we were “Like Mike.” All of our shows had morals to every story and, more than anything, we didn’t want to grow up. We were Toys ‘R’ Us kids. Though we’re no longer able to shop at “the biggest toy store there is,” we can still find many of the era’s top hits and some newer versions of popular toys from the 1980s. Nintendo Nintendo Entertainment Entertainment System System The original Nintendo unit jumped into our lives in 1985 and quickly became a top-selling toy during the second half of the decade. There have been quite a few system updates since then, but if you’re craving the nostalgic feel of the original, check out the newly released NES Classic Edition. The console is smaller, but the controllers are classic, as are the games included with the system, like Super Mario Bros., Pac-Man, Donkey Kong, Metroid, The Legend of Zelda and Kirby’s Adventure. The set with Super Mario Bros. cost $199.99 in 1985, but you can get this classic console for $59.99 at Target. nintendo.com/nes-classic. «2018 UPGRADE: Nintendo Switch, $299.99, nintendo.com.

Glo Worm What child doesn’t think, “You know what would make me sleep better? Worms!” As odd as it may sound, Glo Worm — the green, worm-shaped doll with a light-up face — was all the rage in the 1980s, inspiring a cartoon and menagerie of “Glo-Friends” you could also collect. It was introduced in 1982 by Hasbro’s Playskool division for less than $20. «2018 UPGRADE: Fisher-Price Soothe ‘N Glow Seahorse, $15.99, fisher-price.mattel.com.

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Barbie With just one Google search you can go down a rabbit hole of Barbie’s past, present and future. Discover her careers, shape, weight, color, politics and even age, which have all been reinvented over the years to keep up with popculture trends. Although sales of Barbie products have dropped in recent years, it’s still a toy for the ages, according to media resources such as the Financial Times and CNN Money. Back in 1988, you may have purchased “Game Show Host” Barbie for $11.95. Today, get Robotics Engineer Barbie for around $14 at Target. barbie.mattel.com. «2018 UPGRADE: Robotics Engineer Barbie, $14, target.com.

Hot Wheels Race Set There’s nothing quite like the gleeful squeal of diecast cars zipping around and crashing into each other. Mattel’s Hot Wheels cars have been feeding the thirst for toy car collisions for over 50 years. In 1989, you could get the Hot Wheels Criss Cross Crash Set for $39.99. «2018 UPGRADE: Hot Wheels Criss Cross Crash Trackset, $47.99, hotwheels.mattel.com.

Micro Machines Remember, “if it doesn’t say micro machines, it’s not the real thing.” Shop for these smallscale styles of playsets and vehicles from popular TV and movie series like “Star Trek” and “Star Wars” in the Amazon Micro Machines store. The brand, originally created in the mid-1980s by Galoob, is now part of Hasbro and going strong after a few reboots over the years. Often sold as sets, Micro Machines prices varied wildly in the ’80s, and still do today. For example, you can buy a Micro Machines Star Wars Droids set on Amazon for $40, while The Amazing Spider-Man collection costs just $8. amazon.com.

The Real Ghostbusters Action Figures The cartoon “Real Ghostbusters,” a spinoff of the 1984 blockbuster comedy movie, created a gold mine of toys. Kenner created the Real Ghostbusters line of toys in 1986, which offered everything from Ghostbusters action figures to the firehouse headquarters to slime and proton packs. Back then, you could purchase a Venkman/Spangler combo pack for $11.99 through the Sears Wish Book. Today, you’ll need to scour Etsy or eBay and you’ll pay anywhere from $15 to $120 per figure. etsy.com and ebay.com. «2018 UPGRADE: Get a 6-inch Abby Yates, Erin Gilbert, Jillian Holtzmann or Patty Tolan figure for $19.99, amazon.com or walmart.com.

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Teddy Ruxpin Everyone’s favorite talking bear is making a comeback — with updated technology. In 1985, we were amazed as Teddy Ruxpin came to life and asked us, “Do you want to be my friend?” and then read to us from his signature storybook. He quickly became the best-selling toy by 1986, at a cost of around $70. You can get an updated version of Teddy Ruxpin that now comes with interactive features that sync to the Teddy Ruxpin app. wickedcooltoys.com. «2018 UPGRADE: Teddy Ruxpin, $99.99, wickedcooltoys.com.

If you’re concerned that Monster High dolls are a little too bizarre, here’s a reminder of some of the disturbing toys we played with during the 1980s, all of which are still available. Most of these toys are available on eBay or Amazon as collectibles. MY BUDDY This doll toy for boys created by Hasbro was viewed in a whole new light once it inspired the infamous “Chucky” doll for the 1988 movie, “Child’s Play.” Thanks to its hard-toshake reputation, Hasbro dropped the brand. Playskool picked it up, modifying his looks to break away from the “Chucky” stigma as much as possible. Find originals of the doll on eBay for around $50. The original song is still nice, though. ebay.com/bhp/my-buddy-doll. MIDGE, THE PREGNANT BARBIE The Barbie Midge and Baby Happy Family doll set originally required kids to pry Midge’s new baby off her body. A later version went to a simpler, magnetic system. Find her on eBay. MADBALLS: What was a hit in the 1980s is back on shelves. With names like Slobulus, Fist Face and Buzz Off, Madballs are a series of foam balls with facial characteristics to match their names. Find them at most major retailers. GARBAGE PAIL KIDS: These trading cards produced by the Topps Company, originally released in 1988, included pictures with disturbing looking children with names like “Up Chuck” and “Adam Bomb.” The series relaunched in 2003 and has continued to make original cards ever since. Newer cards take jabs at pop culture stars and politicians. Find them at walmart.com.

Mandy Howard is a freelance writer and mother of three in Raleigh. charlotteparent.com | NOVEMBER 2018

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Holiday Light Shows Top picks of light show extravaganzas worth the drive BY MYRA WRIGHT

’Tis the season for dazzling light displays. Here are our top picks of holiday light shows across the state to help bring out your family’s holiday spirit. Christmas Wonderland of Lights at Zootastic Park zootasticpark.com 385 Ostwalt Amity Road, Troutman Admission: $7 for ages 2 and older; free for children under age 2. Dates: Nov. 21-Jan. 1, 2019. Sunday-Thursday, 6-9 p.m; Friday-Saturday, 6-10 p.m. Choreographed light show, petting zoo, s’mores, carousel, wagon rides and animal encounters. New this year is a Ferris wheel and train ride, plus an additional 2 miles of lighted trails. Santa will be taking photos after Thanksgiving until Christmas Eve. Photos with Santa and the baby kangaroos are available for an additional cost, or take your own photo with Santa only at no additional charge.

Country Christmas Train at Denton Farm Park dentonfarmpark.com/countrychristmas-train 4259 Handy Road, Denton Admission: $5-$15 ages 5 and older; free for ages 4 and younger. Additional fees for photos with Santa, wagon and pony rides. Dates: Nov. 23-25 and 30, Dec. 1-2, 7-10, 13-16, 19-23 and 26-27. Friday-Saturday 4:30-11 p.m.; other nights 4:30-10 p.m. Enjoy a lighted walking tour of the park. Stop at the church to hear a Christmas story and then take a ride on the Handy Dandy Railroad. Enjoy a nativity movie, Christmas carols, a petting zoo, Santa’s cabin, arts and crafts exhibits, gingerbread house, doll museum and general store.

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Holidays at the Garden dsbg.org Daniel Stowe Botanical Garden, 6500 S. New Hope Rd., Belmont Admission: Monday-Thursday, $7.95 for ages 2-12, $12.95 ages 13 and older. Friday-Sunday, $8.95 for ages 2-12, $14.95 for ages 13 and older. Dates: Open nightly Nov. 23-Jan. 6, 5-9 p.m. More than 600,000 lights and illuminated displays will light up Daniel Stowe Botanical Garden. Roast a marshmallow, take a horse-drawn carriage ride, enjoy music and sip a warm beverage as you tour the displays, visit with Santa and more. New for 2018, enjoy the musically orchestrated topiary display and wander through the new illuminated prairie garden.

Lights Before Christmas riverbanks.org/events/lights-beforechristmas.shtml Riverbanks Zoo & Garden, 500 Wildlife Pkwy., Columbia, South Carolina Admission: $10-$12. Ages 2 and under, free. Dates: Nov. 17-Dec. 30, 5-9 p.m. Closed Nov. 22 and Dec. 24-25. Enjoy nearly one million lights, animated images, visits with Santa, a bonfire, hot cocoa and s’mores. McAdenville (Christmas Town USA) mcadenville-christmastown.com Downtown McAdenville Admission: FREE Dates: Nov. 30-Dec. 26. MondayFriday, 5:30-9:30 p.m.; and Saturday-Sunday 5:30-11 p.m. Experience the wonder of the season in Gaston County’s

Christmas Town USA, a tradition since 1956. Walk or drive by the awe-inspiring displays of more than 375 decorated trees, 200 lit lamp-post wreaths, music, a life-size Nativity scene and lake fountain. Speedway Christmas charlottemotorspeedway.com/ events/speedway-christmaspresented-by-disconnect-and-drive 5555 Concord Pkwy. S., Concord Admission: $20-$30 for cars; $40$50 for vans Dates: Nov. 18-Dec. 31, 6-10 p.m. Closed Dec. 25. Experience more than 3 million lights synced to music while driving the 3.5-mile track at Charlotte Motor Speedway. Christmas Village is open Thursday-Sunday and includes a petting zoo, Bethlehem village and photos with Santa. You can also enjoy watching holiday movie classics drive-in style on a 16,000-square-foot screen on nights when Christmas Village is open. Movies begin at 6:30 p.m. Tanglewood Festival of Lights forsyth.cc/parks/tanglewood/fol 4061 Clemmons Road, Clemmons Admission: $15 for cars, $35 for vans, $100 for buses Dates: Nov. 16-Jan. 1, 2019, 6-11 p.m.; and Dec. 31, 6-10 p.m. To see one of the largest and most spectacular light shows in the Southeast, drive through Tanglewoodâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s rolling countryside, which is transformed into a winter wonderland. Be sure to stop at the Gift Village to roast marshmallows. See the website for more information about horse-drawn carriage rides and visits with Santa and Mrs. Claus.

WESTERN NORTH CAROLINA Biltmore Candlelight Christmas Evenings biltmore.com One Lodge St., Asheville Admission: $70-$90. Purchase tickets online. Dates: Nov. 3-Jan. 5, 2019 but not available Nov. 13, Nov. 22 and Dec. 24-25. See the Biltmore Estate adorned in its holiday splendor during an evening visit. A lit towering Norway spruce decorates the grand front lawn. Enjoy the many decorated Christmas trees inside the Biltmore House. In addition, there are 135,000 LED and mini lights sparkling around the estate. Visit Antler Hill Village and Winery, included with admission, for an extraordinary display of holiday lights and wine tastings. Festival of Lights at Chetola Resort chetola.com 185 Chetola Lake Drive, Blowing Rock Admission: FREE Dates: Thanksgiving through mid-January, 2019. Chetola Resort is known for its sparkling display of lights each winter season. Drive or stroll around Chetola Lake and enjoy a bonfire by the water. Winter Lights at the North Carolina Arboretum ncarboretum.org/exhibits-events/ winter-lights 100 Frederick Law Olmsted Way, Asheville Admission: $18 for ages 12 and older; $12 for ages 5-11; free for ages 4 and younger Dates: Nov.16-Dec. 31, 6-10 p.m. Stroll through the arboretum

gardens to enjoy this annual holiday light exhibition. More than 500,000 LED lights shine to light your way through a festive winter wonderland. Listen to favorite holiday tunes and sip warm beverages along the way.

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Island of Lights Christmas Flotilla pleasureislandoflights.com/ christmas-flotilla.html Carolina Beach Admission: Free to spectators Dates: Dec. 8, 6 p.m. Boats decorated with thousands of lights cruise the Intracoastal Waterway for a festive display.

Chinese Lantern Festival boothamphitheatre.com/nc-chineselantern-festival-cary Booth Amphitheatre, 8003 Regency Pkwy., Cary Admission: $15 for ages 13 and older; $10 for ages 3-12; free for ages 2 and younger Dates: Nov. 23-Jan. 13, 2019. Tuesdays-Sundays 6-10 p.m. Closed Mondays except for Dec. 24 and Dec. 31. Booth Amphitheatre is transformed into a dazzling walkthrough display with larger-thanlife lanterns. Enjoy holiday treats and beverages from venue stands.

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Enchanted Airlie airliegardens.org/events-news/ enchanted-airlie 300 Airlie Road, Wilmington Admission: $30 per car; $55 for large passenger vans Dates: Nov. 23-24, Nov. 30-Dec. 1 and Dec. 7-22. There are two runtimes each evening, 5-7 p.m. and 7-9 p.m. Take a festive self-guided walking tour through Airlie Gardens to view a spectacular display of lights and holiday displays. Visit with Santa and enjoy hot chocolate, popcorn, cookies, beer and wine for purchase. Advance tickets only. Tickets often sell out in early December.

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meadowlights.com 4546 Godwin Lake Road, Benson Admission: FREE, but train/ carousel tickets are $2. Dates: Nov. 16-Dec. 30. SundayThursday, 5-10 p.m.; and FridaySaturday, 5-11 p.m. Meadow Lights is the largest and oldest Christmas light show in eastern North Carolina with lights on more than 30 acres. Visit the Old Country Store for old-fashioned candy, ride a train or carousel, and visit with Santa. North Carolina Holiday Flotilla Wrightsville Beach Admission: FREE Dates: Nov. 23-24 Enjoy Thanksgiving weekend at the beach during this two-day celebration. The fun kicks off Friday night with a tree lighting and visit with Santa at 5:45 p.m. at Wrightsville Beach Town Hall. On Saturday, take the kids to Festival in the Park from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m., and enjoy inflatable slides, bounce houses, a coloring contest, a train ride, festival food and more. The lighted boat parade begins Saturday at 6 p.m. and is followed by a fireworks show. The best viewing is along Banks Channel.

Myra Wright is a North Carolina-based freelance writer. She enjoys traveling and finding educational opportunities for her three kids. charlotteparent.com | NOVEMBER 2018

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10 Reasons to Plan a Holiday Visit to the Omni Homestead Resort BY ADRIAN H. WOOD

Join a class to make a gingerbread house throughout the holiday season at the Omni Homestead. Photo courtesy of Omni Homestead

ucked in the Allegheny Mountains of Virginia is The Omni Homestead Resort, a historic hotel that opened in 1766. Today it caters to families throughout the year, but is especially magical in the winter. Less than five hours away from Charlotte, my family visited for a long weekend when the Allegheny Mountains were blanketed in snow. 1. Skiing and snowboarding. With more than 45 acres of wide, well-maintained trails, the Omni Homestead’s slopes are perfect for beginners and those with experience on the slopes. Group and private lessons are offered for children and adults. Little ones ages 5-11 can also learn the basics of skiing by participating in the Little Penguins Program, which includes hot cocoa and plenty of fun in the snow. 2. Snow tubing. The Penguin Slides Tubing Park is next door to the slopes, and it’s where your entire family can enjoy all the classic thrills of sledding without having to trudge back up the hill. The Omni Homestead Resort’s tubing park features well-groomed lanes and the Penguin Express, a new tubing area conveyor. Participants must be age 5 or older and 48 inches or taller to tube. 3. Snowmobiling. A new offering this year is snowmobiling at Mountain Lodge. Children ages 6-12 are welcome to take a whirl around the lodge on mini snowmobiles made just for them. 4. Zip lining. The Red Tail Racer, for ages 8 and older, is a dual zip line extending 1,300 feet from the ski area mid-station to the resort’s lodge, providing an opportunity for

solo zips or side-by-side racing through the incredible Allegheny Mountains at speeds of up to 35 miles per hour. The Red Tail Racer is part of The Ridge Runner Zip Tour that offers eight zip lines spanning more than 4,000 feet at heights up to 79 feet off the ground. 5. Popcorn and movie nights. Watch football in the family-friendly bar area near the lobby, or go bowling in the game room before taking advantage of nightly popcorn and movies in the turn-of-the-century Homestead Theater, which typically offers showtimes at 7 and 9:30 p.m. 6. Indoor pool. The Homestead’s historic indoor pool was built in 1904 and is fed by naturally warm mineral spring waters where the resort was founded. Open year-round and located adjacent to the resort’s spa, the indoor pool is the perfect place to wrap up a day on the slopes. During warmer months, enjoy a large outdoor pool and the resort’s Mountain Rush, featuring two 100-foot water slides (for riders at least 48 inches tall). You can also take a leisurely float along the 400-foot lazy river. Kids can enjoy the water play zone and sandy beach as well. 7. Homestead Holiday Express Hayride. Take a trip on the Homestead Holiday Express Hayride, offered between Thanksgiving and New Year’s Day. Participants can enjoy singing, hot chocolate and s’mores.

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8. Santa Claus fun. Santa is on location during Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays awaiting your child’s letters. Be sure to get a family keepsake photo with Santa and join his elves in the lobby every evening for bedtime stories during a pajama party that will not disappoint. 9. Holiday arts and crafts. Families can choose from a variety of fun holiday items to create and take home, and you can sign up the entire family for the jigsaw puzzle contest or gingerbread house decorating event. Each gingerbread house is made from scratch in the resort’s pastry shop, where festive cookies are also baked and made available for decorating — and eating, of course. 10. Omni Homestead Resort KidsClub. For children ages 3-12, The Omni Homestead Resort KidsClub offers a variety of fun and well-supervised activities. Families can sign up children for half- or full-day activities, as well as a Kids Night Out if a parents’ date night is on the agenda. Learn more about the The Omni Homestead Resort and its holiday itinerary at omnihotels.com/blog/homestead-forthe-holidays. Adrian H. Wood, Ph.D., is a North Carolina writer who lives in Edenton with her husband and four children.

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Enjoy the whimsy and magic that surround fairies at Daniel Stowe Botanical Garden’s Fairy Fest, happening Nov. 11. Photo courtesy of Daniel Stowe Botanical Garden

Backcountry Harvest Day | Nov. 17 Watch hearth cooks and bakers at work preparing a traditional holiday feast in the spirit of Thanksgiving. Visit with the craftspeople and farm folk as they demonstrate early American skills and crafts, including flintlock firing demonstrations. 1-5pm. $3 in addition to museum admission. The Schiele Museum of Natural History, 1500 E. Garrison Blvd., Gastonia. 704-866-6900. schielemuseum.org.

Speedway Christmas | Nov. 18 It’s opening night for one of the most spectacular holiday light displays of the season. Load up the kids and drive the track at Charlotte Motor Speedway to see more than 3 million lights synced to music. Ongoing through Dec. 31. 6-10pm. $20+ per car. Charlotte Motor Speedway, 5555 Concord Pkwy. S., Concord. charlottemotorspeedway.com.

Fairy Fest | Nov. 11 Let imaginations soar at Daniel Stowe Botanical Garden’s Fairy Fest. Enjoy activities and crafts, create a natural fairy house in Lost Hollow Children’s Garden, listen to fairy stories and create a fairy wand. Fairy wings encouraged. $7-$13; members and children under age 2 admitted free. Daniel Stowe Botanical Garden, 6500 S. New Hope Road, Belmont. 704-825-4490. dsbg.org.

EpicFest Family Festival | Nov. 3 EpicFest connects children, books, authors and illustrators through activities that encourage a love of reading and learning. Enjoy live music by Lucky Diaz and the Family Jam Band at noon in the McColl Family Theatre. The family festival takes place from 10 a.m.to 4 p.m. with the young adult author panel to follow until 6:30 p.m. FREE. ImaginOn: The Joe and Joan Martin Center, 300 E. 7th St. 704-416-0804.foundation.cmlibrary.org/epicfest.

EpicFest Family Festival at ImaginOn entertains with stories and performances. Photo Courtesy of Charlotte Mecklenburg Library Foundation charlotteparent.com | NOVEMBER 2018

› CALENDAR 1 THURSDAY Dia de los Muertes. Davidson Library, 119 S. Main St., Davidson. Ages 5-11. 4-7pm. FREE. Families are invited to learn more about the Day of the Dead holiday, explore the exhibit and take part in fun activities. cmlibrary.org. Toddler Time at Big Air. Big Air Trampoline Park, 2408 Sardis Road N. Ages 6 and younger. 10am-1pm. $8. Little ones can jump at their own speed and comfort level without the older kids around. bigairusa. com/charlotte/toddler-time.

2 FRIDAY Kids’ Night Out: PJ Breakfast Party. Flour Power Kids Cooking Studio, 9826 Sandy Rock Place, Suite E. Ages 5-12. 6-8pm. $39. 704-246-6069. Come in your pjs and make pancakes for dinner. flourpowerstudios.com. Music with Holly. ImaginOn: The Joe and Joan Martin Center, 300 E. 7th St. Ages 18 months-5 years. 11:30am-noon. FREE. 704-416-4630. Enjoy a fusion of learning and listening to all types of songs, playing instruments and expressing feelings through movement. cmlibrary.org. On Stage: Disney’s The Little Mermaid Jr.; Double Dare Live!; The Last Stop on Market Street. See page 25.

3 SATURDAY #STEAMSaturdays: Coding for Kids. Hygge Coworking West, 2128 Remount Road. Ages 5-13. 9-10:30am. $25. Explore LEGO WeDo 2.0 robotics at your own pace and level. Register online. digi-bridge.org. Family Friendly Clay Workshops at Hickory Grove Library. Hickory Grove Library, 5935 Hickory Grove Road. Ages 5 and older. 1pm. FREE. 704-416-4400. Join a Clayworks teaching artist and learn how to roll, pinch, poke, slip and score clay into a ceramic project. Preregistration required. charlottecultureguide.com. Full STEAM Ahead. Carolinas Aviation Museum, 4672 1st Flight Drive. Grades 1-8. 11am-noon. Free for members, $3 for nonmembers. Join Carolinas Aviation Museum every first Saturday of the month for an hour of hands-on learning. This month, explore gliders in the natural world and lessons that aviation has gained from them. carolinasaviation.org. I Can Be Anything Fair. Discovery Place Kids, 105 Gilead Road, Huntersville. 10am-noon.

$10 admission, free for children younger than 1. Includes museum admission. Meet police officers, firefighters, teachers and more. kids.discoveryplace.org. Pawsitively Matthews. Stumptown Park, 120 S. Trade St., Matthews. 10am-4pm. FREE. Pet-friendly vendors and food trucks line the park, plus live music. matthewsnc.gov. Turkish Festival of Charlotte. Extravaganza Depot Banquet, 1610 N. Tryon St. 11am-5pm. $5; children younger than 6 admitted free. Experience and savor Turkish culture through Turkish food and coffee, fortune telling, live performances of music and dance, cooking demos and children’s activities. charlotteturks.org. On Stage: Disney’s The Little Mermaid Jr.; Prelude to the Holidays; The Last Stop on Market Street; The Real Christmas Story. See page 25.

4 SUNDAY Day of the Dead/Dia de Muertos Festival. Levine Museum of the New South, 200 E. 7th St. Noon-4pm. FREE. 704333-1887. Celebrate the traditional Mexican holiday with music and dance performances, traditional foods, sugarskull workshops, and arts and crafts. museumofthenewsouth.org. Indian Land Fall Festival. Indian Land Schools Complex, 8063 River Road, Indian Land. FREE, $5 parking. Enjoy familyfriendly activities, carnival rides, music and entertainment. 10am-8pm; Sun., Nov. 4, 11am-6pm. indianlandfallfest.com. On Stage: Disney’s The Little Mermaid Jr.; The Last Stop on Market Street. See page 25.

5 MONDAY Preschool Community Programs. Anne Springs Close Greenway, 194 Adventure Road, Fort Mill. Ages 2-5. 10-11am. $2; additional $5 entry fee for nonmembers. Preschoolers engage in nature-themed literature activities, plus crafts and hikes. Meet at the Adventure Center. ascgreenway.org. Pretty as a Picture. Tuckaseegee Recreation Center, 4820 Tuckaseegee Road. Girls ages 8-14. 6-7pm. FREE. Discuss age-appropriate beauty tips, self-image, appropriate relationships with other girls and cultural awareness. parkandrec.com.

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6 TUESDAY Family Storytime: Pajama Storytime. Matthews Library, 230 Matthews Station St., Matthews. 7-7:30pm. FREE. Bring the whole family out to enjoy stories, songs, and movement activities. Wear pajamas! Milk and cookies served. cmlibrary.org. Hickory Grove Happy Heart Girls. Hickory Grove Recreation Center, 6709 Pence Road. Girls age 8-12. 6:15-7:15 pm. FREE. 980-314-1122. Girls can express themselves, gain experience in developmental growth through socialization. parkandrec.com.

7 WEDNESDAY Child Safety Seat Inspection Station. Matthews Police Department, 1201 Crews Road, Matthews. 8-11:30am. FREE. Certified technicians check and help families install car seats. Bring your vehicle, seat and if possible the child for the most assistance. No appointment necessary. safekidscharmeck.org. Homeschool Science: STEM 101. West Boulevard Library, 2157 West Blvd. Ages 10-18. 4-5pm. FREE. Participate in a variety of hands-on science experiments, engineering projects or math puzzles. cmlibrary.org.

8 THURSDAY Family Friendly Creative Clay Workshops. Wallace Pruitt Recreation Center, 440 Tuckaseegee Road. Ages 5 and older. 6pm. FREE. Join Clayworks for a hands on clay workshop. Learn how to roll, pinch, poke, slip and score clay. parkandrec.com. Preschool Explorers. McDowell Nature Preserve, 15222 York Road. Ages 2-5. 10-10:45am. $4. 980-314-1128. Little ones and adults discover nature together through crafts, games, songs, animal encounters and outdoor exploration. Preregistration is required. Time slots are 10-10:45am and 11-11:45am. parkandrec.com.

9 FRIDAY Bird is the Word. Latta Nature Center, 6211 Sample Road, Huntersville. 10:30-11:30am. Ages 5-11. FREE. Explore the feathery world of birds and create a sweet “tweet” for bird friends. Child registration and parent attendance required. parkandrec.com.

It’s Game Night: Family Trivia. Indian Trail Town Hall, 315 Matthews-Indian Trail Road, Indian Trail. Ages 8 and older. 6pm. FREE. Test your trivia knowledge as a team. indiantrail.org. On Stage: On Stage: Disney’s The Little Mermaid Jr.; The Last Stop on Market Street. See page 25.

10 SATURDAY 2nd Saturday at NASCAR Hall of Fame: Under the Hood. NASCAR Hall of Fame, 400 E. Martin Luther King Jr. Blvd. 10am-4pm. $12-$25, included with admission. Break down the pieces and parts of a race car before discussing how they work together to get drivers into high gear. nascarhall.com. ASC Culture Blocks: Drums4Life. West Boulevard Library, 2157 West Blvd. 11am-1pm. FREE. Join Drums4Life (D4L) drum circle to experience the spontaneous creation of music on a variety of percussion instruments. No prior experience or instruments are necessary. D4L provides instructions and instruments. cmlibrary.org. Greenway Fall Horse Show. Anne Springs Close Greenway, Lake Haigler Entrance Riding Ring, Fort Mill. 9:30 am. $5. Come see the fall horse show on the Greenway that showcases riders of all levels. ascgreenway.org. Super Saturday. ImaginOn: The Joe and Joan Martin Center, 300 E. 7th St. 1-1:45 pm. FREE. See Liz, Holly and the Jolly Lollies perform a variety of kid-friendly, interactive songs. cmlibrary.org. Veterans Day Parade and Ceremony. Veterans Park, Main St. and Maxwell St., Huntersville. 9am-noon. FREE. Parade begins at 10am with the ceremony to follow at 11am. Live music and free activities from 9am-noon include Bounce Boot Camp, card-making for the veterans, airbrush tattoos, balloon twisting and booths by local organizations. huntersville.org/parks. Visual Art and Music Community Experience. University City Regional Library, 301 E. W.T. Harris Blvd. 1-3pm. FREE. Join Community School of the Arts for a visual art workshop and live music. charlottecultureguide.com. On Stage: Disney’s The Little Mermaid Jr.; The Last Stop on Market Street. See page 25.

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VETERAN’S DAY Fairy Fest. Daniel Stowe Botanical Garden, 6500 S. New Hope Road, Gastonia. 11am-3pm. $7-$13; members and children under 2 free. Build a fairy house, listen to fairy stories, create a fairy wand and more. dsbg.org. Rural Hill SheepDog Trials. Historic Rural Hill, 4431 Neck Road, Huntersville. 10am-5pm. $11; $8 for ages 5-12; free for ages 4 and younger. 704-875-3113. Watch skilled border collies in action as they herd the sheep though gates and in a 40-acre field. Merchant and food vendors on site. ruralhill.net. On Stage: Disney’s The Little Mermaid Jr.; The Last Stop on Market Street - Sensory Friendly Performance. See page 25.

Itsy Bitsy Music Time. Lanti Music, 323-E Unionville Indian Trail Road, Indian Trail. Ages 5 and younger. 11am-noon. $5 per child; $10 per family. Instruments, parachutes, balls, bean bags and other props are used with music, movement and story time followed by open play. Preregistration is required, and payment is cash only. lantimusic.com. Little Aviators. Carolinas Aviation Museum, 4672 1st Flight Drive. 9-10am. $5. Ages 3-5. Explore aviation through stories, crafts and hands-on experiences that are STEM-focused. carolinasaviation.org. Nature Detectives: Turkey Tales. Latta Nature Center, 6211 Sample Road, Huntersville. 1:30-4pm. Ages 4-6. $5. Become a nature detective, and explore the amazing world around us through stories, crafts and activities related to the topic.

12 MONDAY Fairy Houses and Gnome Huts. McDowell Nature Preserve, 15222 York Road. Ages 3 and older. 1-3pm. FREE. 980-314-1128. Collect sticks, pebbles, bark and leaves to build a whimsical fairy or gnome house. Preregistration required. parkandrec.com. Survival Basics. Reedy Creek Nature Preserve, 2900 Rocky River Road. Ages 10-13. 9am-4pm. $40. Learn how to build a fire, make a shelter, purify water, make rope, and signal for rescue. parkandrec.com.

13 TUESDAY Dakota and Friends. ImaginOn: The Joe and Joan Martin Center, 300 E. 7th St. Ages 3-11. 11am-2pm. FREE. Meet and interact with Dakota, pet a baby T-Rex or maybe watch an egg being hatched. cmlibrary.org. Victory Bounce Sessions at BounceU. BounceU of Charlotte, 10624 Metromont Pkwy., Suite 300; and BounceU of Matthews, 9129 Monroe Road, Suite 145-150. Children with special needs age 2 and older and siblings. FREE. 704-9218771. Children with special needs are invited the second Tuesday of each month for free bounce sessions. Call for times. bounceu.com.

15 THURSDAY ASC Culture Blocks and CM Library Present: Clayworks. Scaleybark Library, 101 Scaleybark Road. Ages 10-18. 5:307pm. FREE. A hands-on workshop to learn how to texturize and manipulate clay to create artwork. cmlibrary.org. Rookie Science: SLIME! South County Regional Library, 5801 Rea Road. Ages 5-11. 4-5pm. FREE. Discover the world of science through books, hands-on educational activities, and experiments. Register online. cmlibrary.org. On Stage: Peppa Pig Live! See page 25.

16 FRIDAY Holidays at the Hall. NASCAR Hall of Fame, 400 E. Martin Luther King Jr. Blvd. It’s opening day for Holidays at the Hall that includes the Holiday on Ice skating rink, the ceremonial tree lighting, Breakfast with Santa and Undeck the Hall. holidaysatthehall.com. Winter Wonderland. Southpark Mall, 4400 Sharon Road. $12-$17. It’s opening night for the Winter Wonderland ice -skating rink at SouthPark Mall. Hours are Mon.-Thurs., 3-11pm; Fri. 3pm-12am; Sat. 11am-12pm; Sun. 11am-11pm. southpark.com.

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ON STAGE Double Dare Live! (Nov. 2). Ovens Auditorium, 2900 E. Independence Blvd. $93. 704-372-3600. Nickelodeon’s Double Dare Live, the multi-city live stage tour inspired by the iconic TV game show, features original host Marc Summers and his beloved sidekick Robin Russo. 7:30pm. ovensauditorium.com. Disney’s The Little Mermaid Jr. (Nov. 2-11). Armour Street Theatre, 307 Armour St., Davidson. Ages 4 and older. $12. 704-8927953. Journey under the sea with Ariel for an enchanting look at the sacrifices we all make for love and acceptance. Performances at 1, 4 and 7pm. davidsoncommunityplayers.org. The Last Stop on Market Street. (Nov. 2-18). ImaginOn: The Joe and Joan Martin Center, 300 E. 7th St. Ages 6 and older. Tickets start at $16. In this powerful look at the beauty all around us, Nana helps CJ experience the world from a new perspective. See website for performance schedule. ctcharlotte.org. Prelude to the Holidays. (Nov. 3). Fullwood Theater at Matthews Community Center, 100 E. McDowell St., Matthews. $12. Watch classic ballet featuring works from “The Nutcracker,” and enjoy the cupcake meet-and-greet with the dancers following each performance. 1 and 4pm. charlottecityballetcompany.org. Peppa Pig Live! (Nov. 15). Ovens Auditorium, 2900 E. Independence Blvd. $40+. 800-745-3000. Peppa Pig Live! is back with an action-packed live show that features life-size puppets and costume characters in Peppa Pig’s Surprise! 6pm. ovensauditorium.com. Home Alone: Movie in Concert. (Nov. 23-24). Belk Theater, 130 N. Tryon St. $29+. “Home Alone” is a quintessential holiday favorite. The whole family can delight in John Williams’ beloved score performed live, while the full-length film is projected on a big screen above the orchestra. 7:30pm. charlottesymphony.org. The Best Christmas Pageant Ever: The Musical. (Nov. 23-Dec. 23). McColl Family Theater, 300 E. 7th St. $19+. This holiday

comedy, adapted from Barbara Robinson’s book, showcases how the Herdman children manage to change everything at the annual church Christmas pageant. ctcharlotte.org. The Nutcracker at Matthews Community Center. (Nov. 24-Dec. 2). Matthews Community Center, 100 E. W. McDowell St., Matthews. $5-$7. Presented by Matthews Ballet and Dance. matthewsnc.gov. Potted Potter: The Unauthorized Harry Experience. (Nov. 27-Dec. 2). Blumenthal Performing Arts, 130 N. Tryon St. Ages 6 and older. Tickets start at $25. See Harry Potter books and a real life game of Quidditch condensed into 70 hilarious minutes. See website for performance schedule. blumenthalarts.org. PlayPlay! Theatre: Wee. (Nov. 29-Dec. 2). Levine Jewish Community Center, 5007 Providence Road. $12. 704-3665007. An interactive show designed for babies to preschoolers about the joys of being little. 10am and 4pm performances. charlottejcc.org. The Best Christmas Pageant Ever. (Nov. 29-Dec. 16). Armour Street Theatre, 307 Armour St., Davidson. $12-$20 (additional $3 per ticket if purchased at the door). Adapted from the best-selling book, this play features some favorite Christmas carols, lots of mayhem and fun for the whole family. See website for performance schedule. davidsoncommunityplayers.org. Miracle on 34th Street. (Nov. 30). Matthews Playhouse, 100 McDowell St. E., Matthews. $14-$16. 704-846-8343. Based on the Christmas classic by the same name, a story about believing in Santa and holiday magic. matthewsplayhouse.com. Charlotte Youth Ballet Presents The Nutcracker. (Nov. 30-Dec. 2). Dale F. Halton Theater, 1206 Elizabeth Ave. $20+. 704-3306534. Featuring more than 100 performers, with unique twists, lots of snow, laughter and surprises. tix.cpcc.edu.

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SANTA SIGHTINGS Southern Christmas Show. (Nov. 8-18). The Park Expo and Conference Center, 800 Briar Creek Road. 10am. $4-$15, children age 5 and younger admitted free. Shop from more than 475 exhibitors. Also enjoy collector’s village featuring dollhouses, miniatures and model trains; the holiday entertainment stage, and of course, Santa. southernchristmasshow.com. Santa Arrival. (Nov. 9). Concord Mills, 8111 Concord Mills Blvd., Concord. 4:30-6:30pm. Enjoy festive activities and special guest appearances. Santa Claus arrives in style around 6pm followed by a parade down to Santa’s workshop in the Dining Pavilion. simon.com/mall/concord-mills. Breakfast with Santa at SouthPark Mall. (Nov. 10). SouthPark Mall, 4400 Sharon Road. 8:30-10am. FREE. Enjoy light breakfast bites with music and a craft, and a story with Santa. southpark.com. Cookies with Santa and Holiday Artisan Fair. (Nov. 10). Baxter Village YMCA, 857 Promenade Walk, Fort Mill. 9am-3pm. $10-$12. Take a digital photo with Santa, and shop local craft vendors while the kids bounce in an inflatable and make crafts. upymca.org/locations/fort-mill-baxter. Breakfast with Santa at Northlake Mall. (Nov. 17). Northlake Mall, 6801 Northlake Mall Drive. 8:30-10am. Families are invited to breakfast and visit with Santa at the food court. Enjoy music, games and crafts led by Mr. Nigel. shopnorthlake.com. Santa Paws. (Nov. 17). Moxie Mercantile. 2008 Commonwealth Ave. 11am-2pm. $10, includes photo. Bring children or fur babies to see Santa. All proceeds go to North Mecklenburg Animal Rescue. Refreshments and adoptable dogs on site. moxiemercantile.com. Charlotte Christmas Village. (Nov. 22-Dec. 24). See Santa Nov. 22, Nov. 23, Dec. 21, Dec. 24, and Saturdays and Sundays. Romare Bearden Park, 300 S. Church St. 11am. Free admission. A German-inspired Christmas Market

and includes traditional German foods and treats, homemade crafts and gifts, and other featured programming such as local musical performances. Closed Mondays. Tues.-Wed., 11am-7pm; Thurs.-Sat., 11am-9pm; Sun., 11am-6pmSee website for Santa’s schedule. cltchristmasvillage.com. Christmas Wonderland of Lights. (Nov. 23-Dec. 23). Zootastic Park, 385 Ostwalt Amity Road, Troutman. $7 per person. 704-245-6446. Visit with Santa, take a pony ride, pet animals and roast marshmallows over a fire. Light displays Nov. 21-Jan. 1. Santa visits after Thanksgiving until Christmas Eve. Sun.-Thur., 6-9pm; Fri.-Sat., 6-10pm. zootasticpark.com. Holidays at the Garden. (Nov. 23- Jan. 6). Daniel Stowe Botanical Garden, 6500 S. New Hope Road, Gastonia. 5-9pm. $8-$17, children younger than 2 admitted free. Experience new features, including a musically-orchestrated topiary display in the Four Seasons Garden, illuminated prairie garden, extended lights of fire and ice in the perennial gardens and an expanded display of the Dickens’Village series. See Santa Nov. 26, Dec. 3, Dec. 10 and Dec. 17 (additional fee, reservations required) and Tues.-Thurs., Nov. 27-Dec. 20 (no fee). Mrs. Claus visits the garden Friday, Saturday and Sunday evenings Nov. 23-Dec. 24. Event closed Christmas Day. dsbg.org. Christmas in Davidson. (Nov. 29-Dec. 1). Downtown Davidson. 6-9pm. FREE. This annual three-day festival includes local arts and crafts vendors, horse-drawn carriage rides, a live nativity, an ugly sweater contest, a doggie fashion show, and live entertainment. Santa arrives via carriage at 6:29pm Nov. 29 before Santa’s House opens at 7pm. christmasindavidson.com. Weihnachtsmarkt (Christmas Market). (Nov. 30-Dec. 15). Olde Mecklenburg Brewery, 4150 Yancey Road. Free admission. Olde Mecklenburg Brewery’s annual Weihnachtsmarkt features vendors, food, spiced wine, world-class beer and plenty of holiday cheer. Santa makes two visits: Nov. 30, 4:30-8pm and Dec. 15, 2-5pm. oldemeckbrew.com/events.

SANTA AT THE MALLS Birkdale Village Nov. 17-Dec. 24* 8712 Lindholm Drive, Huntersville. birkdalevillage.net Carolina Place Mall Nov. 10-Dec. 24 11025 Carolina Place Pkwy., Pineville. carolinaplace.com Concord Mills Nov. 9-Dec. 24 8111 Concord Mills Blvd., Concord. simon.com/mall/concord-mills. Northlake Mall Nov. 9-Dec. 24 6801 Northlake Mall Drive shopnorthlake.com Southpark Mall Nov. 2-Dec. 24 4400 Sharon Road southpark.com Waverly Winter Wednesdays Dec. 5, 12 and 19, 5-7:30pm waverlyclt.com

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17 SATURDAY 2018 Charlotte International Auto Show. Charlotte Convention Center, 501 S. College St. $10; children under 12 admitted free. See hundreds of vehicles, demonstrations and exhibits. Thurs.-Fri., noon-9pm; Sat., 10am-10pm; Sun., 10am-6pm. charlotteautoshow.com. Bilingual Stories and Music. Mint Museum Randolph, 2730 Randolph Road. Recommended for ages 6 and younger. 11:15am-noon. FREE. Criss Cross Mangosauce presents a Spanish/English story time with music, plays and stories. mintmuseum.org. Know Your Nature Family Day. The Museum of York County, 4621 Mount Gallant Road, Rock Hill. 10am-4pm. $5-$8, free for children younger than 3. Includes museum admission. Explore the new nature-themed exhibit packed with fun, hands-on activities that highlight ways for kids and families. chmuseums.org. Natural Ornament Making. Latta Nature Center, 6211 Sample Road, Huntersville. 10:30-11:30am. Ages 5 and older. FREE. Create holiday decorations using natural materials. Preregistration and parent attendance are required. On Stage: The Last Stop on Market Street. See page 25.

18 SUNDAY Stories in the Woods. UNC Charlotte Botanical Gardens, 9090 Craver Road. 2-3pm. FREE. Enjoy picture books and literacy activities. Meet in the Susie Harwood Garden, and bring a blanket. gardens.uncc.edu. WinterFest. Carowinds, 300 Carowinds Blvd. 5-10pm. Included with admission. 704-5882600. Opening weekend for WinterFest. See the theme park transformed into a winter wonderland. carowinds.com. On Stage: The Last Stop on Market Street. See page 25.

19 MONDAY Candy Art. Town Hall, 315 Matthews-Indian Trail Road, Indian Trail. Ages 5-10. 6:308pm. $10. Turn wafers of chocolate and other sweet treats into beautiful candy art. indiantrail.org.

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20 TUESDAY ASC Culture Blocks: Clayworks for Teens. Independence Regional Library, 6000 Conference Drive. Teen. 2-3pm. FREE. Clayworks offer hands on clay workshops. Projects created during a workshop are brought fired and glazed before being returned to the workshop location for pickup. cmlibrary.org. Story Time and More. Children’s Garden at Wing Haven, 260 Ridgewood Ave. Recommended for ages 10 and younger. 10-11am. Free for members; $10 per family for non-members. Enjoy a seasonally themed story and craft in the Children’s Garden. Children can water plants, dig for worms and explore the sensory and butterfly gardens. winghavengardens.org.

21 WEDNESDAY Play the Day Away. Tom Sykes Recreation Center, 1501 Euclid Ave. Ages 5-12. 9am-5:30pm. $30. Spend the day playing games, doing arts and crafts and just having fun. Field trips, which are included in price, may occur during this event. parkandrec.com. Wee Wednesday at Main Street Children’s Museum. Main Street Children’s Museum, 133 E. Main St., Rock Hill. 3 and younger. 10:30-11:15am. $6, children younger than 1 admitted free. Includes museum admission. 803-327-6400. Enjoy stories, movement with music, and a seasonal craft. chmuseums.org.

22 THURSDAY THANKSGIVING DAY Novant Health Thanksgiving Day Parade. Tryon Street. 9-11am. FREE. See the giant balloons, floats, Segwalloons, marching bands and special tributes throughout the parade to honor the city’s 250th anniversary. The parade marches south on Tryon Street, from 9th Street to Stonewall Street. novanthealththanksgivingparade.com. Southpark Turkey Trot. SouthPark Mall, 4400 Sharon Road. 8:3 am. $10-$45. This familyfriendly event features a Fun Run, 8K run, 5K run and Tot Trot. charlotteturkeytrot. racesonline.com. University City Turkey Trot 5K. 3024 Prosperity Church Road. 8am. $15-$30. Run or walk in the 5K and Fun Run. Costumes are encouraged. universitycityturkeytrot.com.

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TREE LIGHTINGS AND PARADES NOV. 9 Santa Arrival and Tree Lighting at Northlake Mall. Holiday-themed entertainment provided by local artists and musicians. 6pm. FREE. Northlake Mall, Entry One near H&M, 6801 Northlake Mall Drive. shopnorthlake.com. NOV. 16 Concord Tree Lighting and Art Walk. Enjoy live music, children’s activities, visits with Santa and activities. At 8:30pm, see the tree lighting and fireworks. 6-9pm. FREE. Downtown Concord. cabarrusartscouncil.org Piedmont Town Center Tree Lighting. Train rides, visits with Santa and Mrs. Claus, arts and crafts, balloon art, a magician and face painting. 6-9pm. FREE. Piedmont Town Center, 4725 Piedmont Row Drive. piedmonttowncenter.com. NOV. 17 Santa’s Arrival and Tree Lighting at Birkdale Village. A parade to celebrate Santa’s arrival, live entertainment and vendors. 3-8pm. FREE. Birkdale Village, 8712 Lindholm Drive, Huntersville. 704-895-8744. birkdalevillage.net. NOV. 20 Mooresville Christmas Parade. Floats, marching bands, dance and tumbling troupes, vintage and modern modes of transport, and of course Santa. 3-5pm. FREE. Marches down Main Street, beginning at Statesville Avenue and ending just past Mills Avenue. downtownmooresville.com. NOV. 22 Novant Health Thanksgiving Day Parade. The largest Thanksgiving parade in the Southeast marches through uptown Charlotte with huge balloons, magical floats and marching bands. The parade runs a new route this year from Ninth to Stonewall street. novanthealththanksgivingparade.com.

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NOV. 24 Light Up Cornelius. Stop by for refreshments, the annual tree lighting, choir and dance performances, holiday crafts, carriage rides, vendors and a visit from Santa. 4-7pm. FREE. Cornelius Town Hall, 21445 Catawba Ave., Cornelius. cornelius.org. South End Tree Lighting. Enjoy holiday performances, sip hot beverages and see Santa. 5:30-7pm. FREE. Atherton Mill, 2000 South Blvd. historicsouthend.com. NOV. 28 Annual Christmas Parade in Downtown Mount Holly. Parade begins at 4pm with the tree-lighting ceremony at 5:30pm. FREE. Downtown Mount Holly. www.mtholly.us. NOV. 29 Fort Mill Tree Lighting. The annual light up the town with help from the community. 7pm. FREE. The Bandstand on Main Street, Fort Mill. fortmillsc.gov. Lights on the Square: Uptown Tree Lighting. Watch the lighting of Charlotte’s uptown Christmas tree and enjoy holiday music. After the tree lighting, Santa will be available to listen to wishes and for photogrpahs. FREE. The Square at Trade and Tryon streets. charlottecentercity.org. Mint Hill Christmas Tree Lighting. Meet Santa, and enjoy hot chocolate, cider and delicious cookies. Bring a gender-neutral toy to support the Mint Hill Police Department’s Toy Drive. 7-8pm. FREE. 704-545-2335. Mint Hill Town Hall, 4430 Mint Hill Village Lane, Mint Hill. minthill.com. NOV. 30 Harrisburg’s Annual Christmas Tree Lighting. Meet Santa and Mrs. Claus, and enjoy horse-drawn carriage rides, children’s crafts, a live nativity and performances by local dancers and musicians. 6-9pm. FREE. Veterans Park, 4100 Main St., Harrisburg. harrisburgnc.org.

Lighting of Christmas Town USA. Join the annual tree-lighting ceremony in McAdenville. The ceremony begins at 5pm, and lights go on at 6pm. FREE. Pharr Family YMCA, 208 Main St., McAdenville. mcadenville-christmastown.com. Town Center Tree Lighting. Come out for free pictures with Santa, rides, bounce house, s’mores, and entertainment. Tree lighting at 7pm. 6-9pm. Town Center, 105 Gilead Road, Huntersville. huntersville.org. Rock Hill Christmas Parade. Enjoy this nighttime parade with floats decked out in holiday lights. 6:30pm. FREE. Downtown Rock Hill, Oakland Avenue to Main Street, Rock Hill. cityofrockhill.com/parade. DEC. 1 Fort Mill Christmas Parade. Come enjoy this yearly tradition. 11am. FREE. Tom Hall Street, Fort Mill. fortmillsc.gov. Holiday Festival of Lights. Downtown Waxhaw is decorated with 500,000 lights. Enjoy the live Christmas concert, carnival games and rides, live nativity, carriage rides, and the arrival of Santa. 4-8pm. FREE. Downtown Waxhaw. waxhaw.com. North Mecklenburg Christmas Parade. See high school bands, horses, dance and tumbling groups. Starts at 1pm. FREE. Parade starts in Davidson at the intersection of Griffith Street and Highway 115 and goes into Cornelius at the intersection of Highway 115 and Catawba Avenue. davidsoncommunitycalendar.org. Town of Matthews Hometown Holiday and Tree Lighting Celebration. Enjoy holiday crafts, activities, entertainment and tree lighting. 3-6pm. FREE. Town Green Park, 232 Matthews Station St., Matthews. matthewsnc.gov.

› 23 FRIDAY Black Friday Fun Day and Campfire. Latta Nature Center, 6211 Sample Road, Huntersville. 1-4pm. FREE. Roast marshmallows, bring a picnic or snacks, and enjoy activities. Meet at the Waterfront Parking Lot. parkandrec.com. One Hundred Years of Christmas. Historic Latta Plantation, 5225 Sample Road, Huntersville. 10am-4pm. $8-$9; children 5 and younger admitted free. 704-875-2312. This living Christmas history event features the 1800 period plantation home decorated in traditional holiday decor. lattaplantation.org. Take Off the Turkey Hike. McDowell Nature Preserve, 15222 York Road. 2-3:30pm. FREE. Ages 8 and older. Take a 2-3 mile leisure hike through McDowell Nature Preserve. Discover our native flora and fauna along the way. Preregistration required. parkandrec.com. On Stage: Home Alone: Movie in Concert; The Best Christmas Pageant Ever: The Musical. See page 25.

24 SATURDAY Family Fort Building. McDowell Nature Preserve, 15222 York Road. 3-4:30pm. FREE. Work together with a McDowell Naturalist, using materials found in the woods to build a sturdy, weather-resistant fort. Preregistration required. parkandrec.com. Gingerbread House Class. SAS Cupcakes, 9941 Rea Road, Suite C. 3:30pm. $9 per child; parents free. 704-2951777. Graham cracker houses will already be formed, so all participants have to do is decorate. sascupcakes.com. On Stage: Home Alone: Movie in Concert; The Best Christmas Pageant Ever: The Musical; The Nutcracker at Matthews Community Center. See page 25.

25 SUNDAY All Ages at Abari Game Bar. Abari Game Bar, 1721 N. Davidson St. Noon-5pm. 980-430-4587. This bar and arcade hybrid has more than 20 pinball machines, 30 arcade games and other games rotating monthly. On Saturdays and Sundays from noon-5pm all ages are welcome with a parent or guardian present. abarigamebar.com. Holiday Tea with American Girl. American Girl Southpark Mall, 4400 Sharon Road. 2-4:30pm. $22. Ages 8 and older. Enjoy a selection of delectable treats and delicious drinks for both kids and adults. Reservations required. americangirl.com/retail/charlotte.php. On Stage: The Best Christmas Pageant Ever: The Musical; The Nutcracker at Matthews Community Center. See page 25.

26 MONDAY Budding Adventures. Reedy Creek Nature Preserve, 2900 Rocky River Road. Ages 3-6. 10-11am. FREE. Explore

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nature topics inside before going outside to uncover the wonders of the natural world. Parent participation required. Register online. parkandrec.com. Yoga Storytime. Cornelius Library, 21105 Catawba Ave., Cornelius. 6-6:30pm. FREE. Enjoy stories coupled with fun and easy yoga moves. cmlibrary.org.

27 TUESDAY Toddler Time at Sky Zone. Sky Zone, 10200 Centrum Pkwy., Pineville. Ages 5 and younger. 10-11am. $8. Let little ones to discover the joy of being active while bouncing under the supervision of their parents and without interference from bigger kids. skyzone.com/ charlotte. Toddler Time Tuesdays. Discovery Place Kids, 105 Gilead Road, Huntersville. Ages 18-36 months. 10-11am. $12. Toddlers and a caregiver can enjoy sensory, art, movement and music activities. kids.discoveryplace.org. On Stage: Potted Potter: The Unauthorized Harry Experience. See page 25.

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28 WEDNESDAY Rookie Science Jr: Food. Morrison Regional Library, 7015 Morrison Blvd.. Ages 4-6. 4-5pm. FREE. Discover the science of food through books, hands-on educational activities and experiments. cmlibrary.org. Young Explorers: Turtles Tales. Latta Nature Center, 6211 Sample Road, Huntersville. 10:15-11am. Ages 2-3. $4. Discover nature with you little one through stories, crafts, and activities centered on a new topic each week. parkandrec.com.

29 THURSDAY CM Library Presents: Puppet Show. ImaginOn: The Joe and Joan Martin Center, 300 E. 7th St. 11:30am-noon. FREE. Enjoy puppet shows, songs and movement that supports early literacy. cmlibrary.org. Kitchen Chemistry: Mug Desserts. Mountain Island Library, 4420 Hoyt Galvin Way. Ages 10-18. 5-6pm. FREE. Just in time for the holiday season, learn how to make quick, easy desserts using a mug and a microwave. Registration required. cmlibrary.org. On Stage: PlayPlay! Theatre: Wee; and The Best Christmas Pageant Ever. See page 25.

30 FRIDAY Game Night at Southview Rec Center. Southview Recreation Center, 1720 Vilma St. Ages 6-12. 5:30-7pm. FREE. 980-314-1105. Spend the evening socializing, playing games and participating in friendly competition. parkandrec.com. On Stage: Charlotte Youth Ballet Presents The Nutcracker, Miracle on 34th Street, The Best Christmas Pageant Ever: The Musical; and The Real Christmas Story. See page 25.

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Building on Imagination BY DEREK JAMES

’m thankful for builders. Although I have improved my fix-it abilities somewhat since becoming a homeowner 12 years ago, I am still terrible at making things. If there’s a way to screw up putting together even the most basic piece of IKEA furniture, I will find it. In the build-it department, I’m awkward, clumsy and slow. While I realize that you have to be bad before becoming good, I’m not sure there will ever be enough time for me to make that jump. That’s why I’m so impressed by builders — from people who construct homes to people who make furniture and crafts. For those reasons, I want my sons to be better builders than their dad. Given the opportunity, kids are natural builders and makers. Be it those first wooden blocks that are soaked in drool before getting used, or those intricate 500-plus piece Lego sets, kids love to put things together, take them apart, and build them up again. When the kids turned 5, my wife and I started taking them to the kids’ building classes at Home Depot and Lowe’s, where kids have a free opportunity to build bird houses, picture frames, race cars and planters. Similar kits that you can take home are also available for purchase. We keep a couple of those kits in the garage for rainy days. It’s definitely a program that I wish had been around when I was a kid. Now that my sons Chase and Tyler are age 7 and 10, there’s plenty of Lego building at our house. Whenever they say, “we’re bored,” my wife Kristen challenges them to a Lego building challenge. She gives them a general theme or item

Beat boredom and build imagination with Lego building challenges like this one between brothers Chase (left) and Tyler. Photo courtesy of Derek James

she’d like them to construct, along with a certain amount of time they have to complete the build. They both have completely different visions and styles when it comes to tackling the challenge, whether it’s a schoolhouse or a spaceship. In the end, Mom or I have to judge and critique their designs reality-show style, which means lots of interesting looks while judging and very long dramatic pauses before revealing the winner. My boys also enjoy building forts in their playroom. They got into this at a young age when their favorite babysitter started building them indoor forts on rainy days so they had somewhere special to eat lunch and play games. The building happens outdoors too. In late summer, they built their own version of a Ninja Warrior course. Luckily, they haven’t asked how to build a Warped Wall or the Cliffhanger yet. Then there’s the digital building that occurs with Minecraft and Roblox. While

I prefer they develop real-world building skills, these two games help with math skills, thinking and reasoning, problemsolving and collaboration. I’m as bad building digitally as I am in the real world. Somehow, I have no problem building a really nice looking weather map at WCCB or editing a complex video, but I can’t make a house out of digital bricks. The blocks are all the exact same size and shape after all. How hard can it be? But I digress. Jokes aside, I hope my kids continue to love building and making, and get better and better at these practical skills. And I kinda, sorta hope one day that they can design and build a mountain home for me in the High Country of North Carolina. Derek James is host of WCCB News Rising. He and his wife live in Charlotte with their sons who are ages 7 and 10.

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