F%ck the wins. Let’s celebrate the failures

I AM SO GOOD AT SHOUTING OUT THE WINS AND CREATING A SPACE THAT HAS EVERYONE CELEBRATING. I AM AN EXPERT AT POPPING THE BUBBLY, PLAYING MY FAVOURITE SONGS AND DANCING AROUND THE LOUNGE.

It is a beautiful feeling and excitement, knowing that my next mentor catch up that I have something positive to share.

It is effortless to celebrate the wins and talk about them. I’m not shy to say to my circle about the something extraordinary that has just happened or receiving the accolades on something I have been working on. I don’t need to stop and think if this story will embarrass me, do I calculate the risks in sharing. Not at all. It’s just great news, and my circle wants me to win so it flows off my tongue and there are happy claps.

How do people think winning occurs? It is the failing a few times first, falling flat on my face then getting back up and persisting to finally one day a win. As a new person in business or even taking on a new role – what am I noticing? I see only the successes, no one is showing me their fails. It has created a comparative baseline, what I need to achieve, the unrealistic expectation I put on myself that I will win the first time around.

Why then, with all that we learn from failing that we don’t want to talk about it. Why am I not dancing and celebrating the huge lesson that I have learnt? So the next time I am dealing with a similar experience, I am confident knowing what failure taught me.

I want to celebrate the failures like they are the wins and create a culture where people are not scared to try.

Kylie Michelle

Kylie Michelle is an Author, Motivational Speaker and Life Educator. Recipient of Townsville Business Women’s Circle Empowering Woman Award for 2019 and a finalist for the AusMumpreneur ‘Women who will change the world’ award in 2020.

She is a veteran with 19 years of military experience. A soldier who has deployed to Afghanistan, Timor and on Humanitarian missions. Across her career, Kylie received various awards and medals, her most memorable is a Silver Commendation for her work in Kabul, Afghanistan. The award received officially for her professionalism and rapport established with coalition personnel and improving the morale and welfare of the headquarters.

Which in her own words means hugging a soldier in and being the one someone can lean on.

Passionate about welfare taking on many additional roles so she could work with individuals or teams to help them become their best self. Her final posting in Defence was a Specialist Recruiter for Women which aligned with her passion for Diversity.

Her purpose is to create a community of champions of change that will create safe spaces for real conversations. To have individuals remove the mask, and help them be real, raw and authentic within work and life.