How Do You Relate to Your Siblings?

By Rebecca-lee

Whether you have siblings, “half” siblings, siblings by marriage or you are an only child, the relationship you have with your siblings is the blueprint for all your relationships in life. This includes your friendships, your work colleagues and the dynamics you experience in any group situation. It also affects your capacity to “find your tribe” and therefore also affects who you end up to our with in relationship. When you are in a room full of people; you may find yourself scanning the room; feeling it out; maybe looking for a familiar or friendly face. Seeing who you may or may not connect with. When this happens, you are unconsciously often looking for your projected siblings. That is what we do in groups; we re-create our family. We carry our siblings everywhere, whether we know it or not. The subject of siblings is very close to my heart; being the eldest of 9 siblings that are both earth and spirit bound. My love for my siblings is one that is deep and different to any other relationship I have. Our relationships with our siblings and our feelings for them are often complex, whether you are close to them or you are all estranged and have challenges. Growing up, we typically spend more time with our siblings then we do with our parents, particularly if there are a lot of siblings or our parents are working or otherwise occupied. These relationships are incredibly significant in socialising us. Our siblings can be a constant source of support or they can be cruel and viscous enemies. Our experience with them shapes how we feel about ourselves and others and influences how we are with friends and colleagues. Even only children may have fantasies about dream siblings. Whilst siblings may come from the same family system, they develop different personalities and have different destinies, and often find it hard to get along. This can be very upsetting for some people. We all have a birth order too, and experience things differently depending on what number sibling we are. The eldest often holds different energies, with different expectations on them than say the youngest; the second child has different experiences to the fifth child and so on. Regardless of the relationship you have with your siblings, there is an energetic bond that connects siblings that last forever no matter what you think about them or even if you have never met them. Conflicts between siblings is not....read page 43 via flip magazine.

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