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Letter from the Editor THE POWER OF BEING THANKFUL April is here, we have sped through three whole months of 2012 already and I hope you are a step closer to the goals you have set yourself for this year. Your financial goals, family goals, fitness goals and also spiritual goals. I hope you have set these goals and are still working them out until now. Because as you may have heard it from the motivational, management and business gurus that “if you fail to plan, you are planning to fail”. Many times we are overwhelmed with the size of our goals, that’s why often we give up on them too soon. Just like those New Year’s resolutions you made year after year. Come on, it’s time to be brutally honest with ourselves and do a life review on ourselves. We can’t keep on doing things that we know do not work. Einstein said it’s INSANITY! LOL. It’s not that we are INSANE, but sometimes we feel like we are going crazy with all the stuff that is happening around us. But the thing is, we do not know the art of being “thankful”. Recently, I just celebrated my 10th year anniversary being married to my wife. We took the time to celebrate by staying at one of the hotels in the CBD. We had a nice lunch together, checked into the hotel and got upgraded to a deluxe room on the 40th floor, had a feast for dinner, explored the city and then finished up by having a late night coffee at the hotel. We had a wonderful time! But, one of the most memorable moments was when we were talking to one another about how thankful we are for our marriage, our family and our friends. We also feel so blessed that we can experience life the way we did. That includes the good, the bad and the ugly! It just suddenly dawned on me that no matter how much money we have, the kind of status we have or all the luxuries and glamour of life... but if we are NOT THANKFUL, we will not be happy, we will not be content or joyful. We will be complaining and grumpy with everything. I just realised that the key of our great marriage and a great life is because we choose to stay THANKFUL in spite of circumstances and situations. We all have challenges, we all have valleys and we all have bad days. But when you choose to be thankful, you will begin to have hope and strength to go on another day, another week and another year. Sometimes, we give up on our dreams, our marriage, our business too soon! It may even be, just a step away, a day away or a week away from our breakthrough! But when we choose to be thankful, we will know that there are times and seasons for everything. When you go through the storms, you know the storms will pass and soon the sky will clear and you will see a beautiful rainbow. When you go through the darkness of night, you know the sun will arise again in the morning. When you go through winter, you know soon spring will come. It may be like Easter Friday for you, when you feel death is coming for you... but you know Easter Sunday is coming when you can embrace the POWER OF RESSURECTION! It’s not how you start, it’s about how you finish. Choose and know the POWER OF BEING THANKFUL! Happy Easter!!! Cheers, Ben Irawan Editor of NEW CITY Magazine editor@newcitymagazine.com

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Keeping Sweet: Secrets to Relationship Success

Lying buried in the myriad of ‘important things’ in life lie the little gems that really do make the world go around: Relationships. You most likely don’t spend much time thinking about how important they are until they start to go awry. Oh the stress! Oh the angst that can strike when a harmonious relationship turns sour. If you are edging on the next big step of a big relationship, an engagement or a wedding perhaps, it might be easy to keep the rose coloured glasses on and not even think about what could possibly go wrong. But in relationships, as in business, people don’t plan to fail. They fail to plan. How many times have we heard the following lines? “We just grew apart.” “We were just at different places in life.” Or this zinger: “There was just too much left unsaid between us.” In amongst the excitement of planning a wedding, setting up house and booking the all important overseas honeymoon, my fiancé and I took a little time out to chat to some veterans of this whole marriage caper and ask about their secrets of success. I have to say, the answers weren’t as romantic as perhaps one would have hoped. There was no “Make sure you make time for each other even when life gets busy,” though I am absolutely convinced that is important. There were no reiterations of the importance of date night, although I am personally campaigning for that one.

Nope. Nothing like that. They weren’t even answers per se. They were in fact questions: Questions every couple needs to take some time to ask themselves. I am a firm believer that if a relationship is worth having, it is worth investing in.

So here are a few ways you can make sure that you are able to ‘keep sweet’ in your relationship. 1. Ask yourself, “What are the aspects of my character/

personality that can sabotage my relationship?” No, this is not an opportunity to look at your partner and nit-pick. It is purely an opportunity to look at yourself and ask the hard questions. My fiancé and I were encouraged to go away and have a think. Now because I am an open kind of person, I am happy to spill. Two of mine were conflict (I don’t need to be right. I am

right) and stress (Hello!). Other people’s lists might include mood, money, communication or anything else that one can list as a character flaw. I thought I was home free after I had identified the problems. Surely awareness of potential pitfalls is a preventative measure that one can use to maintain relational harmony, right? Anyone can look at their list, go away and do some work on their weak areas. It’s not just for you this time. It is for your partner and family as well. If ever there were incentives to change and grow, these are big ones.

2. The next question was much harder to answer. “How can you pre-

vent these things from causing trouble in your relationship and how do you recover once it does?”

Okay, so prevention is better than cure right. For the stress-head, it might be recognising your capacity for busyness or pressure and making sure you don’t exceed it. It might be recognising the physical signs of stress and stopping at that point. For the control freak, it might be giving your partner room to not do things your way. The prevention side was easy for me to answer. But the other side of it, how do you recover from it if it causes trouble, was a lot harder. This is something that you might need to sit with your partner and talk about. No one likes to have conflict, but it is virtually inevitable. Knowing how to recover from it is an important thing. What are some strategies you and your partner can have ready to go? It is something every couple should think about. I can’t give you the answers on this. It is something that is unique to each couple.

Be quick to apologise. I have heard it said that “Love means never having to say you are sorry.” Uh, wrong! Love means always having to say you are sorry. Even if you are right about something, if you enter into an argument and refuse to ‘kiss and make up’ you can do irreversible damage to the fragile balance of a relationship. Sorry doesn’t always have to mean “Sorry for being wrong.” It might simply be “Sorry that we argued.”

4. Talk about the money. A minister I know once said “There are three main problems couples have: Relationship troubles, Money troubles and Money/Relationship troubles.” However statistically true or untrue this statement may be, it pays to recognise the importance of your hard earned cash in your relationship. The money conflict is an extremely personal one.

Take it from me, men and women think about money a lot differently! For instance, a friend of mine is married to an accountant. To him, commodities and property are investments. To her, a good quality coat or high end hand bag is the definition of investment. Another couple I know agreed to cut out luxury spending in order to get the budget under control. Three months down the track, one hapless husband had a teary wife on his hands. “I feel frumpy! I need some pretty things!” she cried. Whatever your financial priorities, it is important that they are shared and mutually observed. If it isn’t working, reinvent. Your partner might work by direct debits and allowances all in their head. You might work better with a system of envelopes so you know what you can spend on what. Find a way that works for you. I am an envelope girl. Forget cards! I like to be able to really see what I am spending. Cash feels real. Cards feel like make believe to me.

Know what to do when you just can’t agree. Some people pledge not to go to bed angry with each other. This might be confused for actually resolving the issue before going to bed. But you can’t always do this. There will be times when you and your partner are so far apart on an issue that you just can’t resolve it by dinner time like they do on the Brady Bunch.

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Sometimes you might have to go for a walk around the block, take a breather, watch a few hours of comedy and calm down, vowing to discuss it when you are both feeling a bit more level headed. Sometimes you might have to say “I can’t agree, but I will let you take the lead on this one because you are more emotionally invested in this course of action than I am.” Sometimes you might have to come back and say “Honey, I got it wrong. I am so sorry.” But most of all, you have to know that the most important thing is the preservation of your relationship. You will be wrong sometimes. You will be right sometimes.

Don’t just say sorry, be sorry. My brother was once told to go and apologise for saying something that turned out to be quite a hell raiser! His question to Dad was this: Do I have to say sorry or be sorry? Dad’s answer – you best be both. It doesn’t matter who is right or wrong. It matters that the relationship lasts. This is what relational success is made of.

7. Be quick to forgive. Sometimes the ‘sorry’ is the easy bit. The difficul-

ty is in the forgiving. Brick by brick we can be building the great wall of resentment in our relationship if we don’t keep a watch on this. Once built, this great divide takes a lot of effort and time to un-build. Remember what first attracted you to your partner? Keep these things at the back of your mind. There might be times where you don’t feel like you like them. It helps to remember why you love them. (CH)

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peido Italian restaurant is where I continue my hunt for really good Italian food. Situated on the top floor of Westfield in Pitt St mall, it is one level up from the food court but you can’t help the fact that it feels like you’re still eating in a food court environment, with its open dining area which shares its space with a small cafe. You would almost wonder if it was worth going to, but having an open kitchen in such an open space brings a certain entertainment value that we are so used to when watching shows like Hell’s Kitchen, but you won’t find any yelling or screaming in this kitchen. Everyone seems to know what their role is and they get on with the job. The decor at Speido is very modern, sleek and very inviting. The first thing you notice is the large open kitchen and the wooden tables which give it a homey feel and if you look closely you can see the chefs hand making their own pastas. Onto the food, I wouldn’t say it’s your typical Italian menu and thank God it isn’t, because there are so many of them! But what you will find is typical northern Italian style dishes such as handmade gnocchi with wild boar ragout, handmade veal and pork cansoncelli (they look like dumplings) with sage and burnt butter and sliced poached veal with a tuna sauce. All the dishes come with the option for sharing which I think is always the best way to go and the Italians do this best. The food, when presented does have a fine dining feel to it and looks great. The freshness of the pasta is the best I’ve had in a while but it lacks the “how mamma used to make” feel. Pricing is reasonable and won’t hurt the wallet, entrees are no more than $15 each or you have the option to get two entrees for $25, three for $39 and four for $50. For main course most prices are under $30. If I was to nitpick about the food, there are two things that came to mind. First, the most important in any form of cooking was the seasoning. One of our pastas was under seasoned and would have been better with it. The other was the lavosh which tasted a little stale, but for the time being Speido is on top of my favourite Italian restaurants to dine at. (SY)

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Lana Del Rey: Born to Die It’s hard to believe that after the soul capturing sound of hit song, ‘Video Games’ that was a great metaphor about disconnect and detachment of our own desires. Also a great showcase of her captivating voice as it had great chord progression and a fantastic melody to boot! But that’s where the joy stops, on listening to her new album, I was quite disappointed as it lacked the freshness and truth that was captured so well in her hit song. This new album literally feels so out of touch with the world around it and I scarcely felt any connection to the songs either. It’s the classic square peg in a round hole and sad because the album was promoted as getting to know the “Real” Del Rey. This is big budget lolly- pop at best, the initial taste is ok but then leaves you realising that it was all sugar coated and lacked substance altogether. Having said all that the one plus of the album would have to be the atmosphere felt through songs like, ‘Radio’ and ‘Born to Die’ that have some truth to it about current world problems which include sex, drugs and glitz and glamour. In a nut shell this album is a dark, brooding take on Del Rey’s own twisted fantasy that’s in serious need of C.P.R! The take on self image vs. inner self is honestly lame and is a serious dream killer to say the least. (MR)

I have always been a fan of Whitney ever since I was a boy, I remember watching the Bodyguard with Kevin Costner and Whitney Houston and falling in love with the song, “I Will Always Love You”. That is probably her most loved and well remembered song! ☺ It really showcased her full range and expressed how subtle yet powerful her voice was. I know she received a lot of negative media for her meltdown after her huge success of selling over 170 million albums worldwide. But, with her recent death I like to remember the Whitney of my youth and if that’s what you’re after, you’ll be happy to know all of her chart topping hits are included in this great compilation. With 21 songs that include wonderful tracks like, ‘Saving All My Love For You’, ‘I Wanna Dance With Somebody’, ‘Greatest Love Of All’, ‘I’m Every Woman’, ‘I Have Nothing’ and ‘Queen Of The Night’ to name a few. You’re in good hands and will have a blast reminiscing those meaningful moments from your past and enjoying fresh ones with the people you love now. One word sums up this album, “Timeless” and it’s a great reminder of Whitney at the peak of her career and who she really was deep down, a sensitive woman with a huge heart and a voice that was nothing short of a gift from Heaven! (MR)

MOVIE REVIEW

Battleship

Based on America’s most popular board game of the same name and with a star studded cast of some of Hollywood’s finest, this surprise of a movie has enough bang for your buck to make it a summer blockbuster smash! To be honest though when I first heard of a movie based on the Battleship game, I laughed. But, I was then pleasantly surprised with the pretty cool story, great acting and lush visuals. Producer/Director Peter Berg is at the helm of this massive production from the same studio that brought us the wonderful Transformers movies. With that in mind you know you’re in for some amazing CGI action scenes. The alien ships look great and the aliens’ themselves are quite unique with Halo (Xbox game) styled battle suits and attitudes to boot.

An international naval fleet stationed at Pearl Harbour happen to stumble across an alien species know as “The Regents”. A fierce and intense battle then rages on and one of the cool aspects of this movie is that we get to see both sides of the story, from the humans and aliens’ perspective. This way we know exactly where the opponent’s ships are! We also have a world first with popular singer Rihanna acting as Petty Officer, “Cora Raikes” (weapon’s specialist aboard the USS John Paul Jones). Other great actors include, Liam Neeson (Admiral Shane), Alexander Skarsgård (Stone Hopper) Commanding officer of USS Sampson and Taylor Kitsch as Lt. Alex Hopper (Naval Officer assigned to the USS John Paul Jones) to name a few. (MR)

The Avengers I loved the comics as a kid and am amazed at the level of detail that has gone into this highly anticipated blockbuster that takes what all the other Marvel movies have done, and then somehow fuses the best elements of each singular film into a visual masterpiece of heart stopping, pulse pounding action! This movie has it all, from Ironman’s (Robert Downey Jr.) classic one liners to Thor’s (Chris Hemsworth) brute strength and attitude. There’s more though... We also get to see a new Hulk (Mark Ruffalo) join the mix with a sensitivity that better represents the original Hulk that we have come to know and love. Captain America (Chris Evans) is also back in all his Pectoral glory and as leader of ‘The Avengers’,

he has a huge assignment. But hey, with the likes of Black Widow (Scarlett Johansson) and Hawkeye (Jeremy Renner) joining the ensemble too, they may just stand a chance in the wake of Loki’s (Tom Hiddleston) fury! Awe inspiring special effects, great storytelling by director Joss Whedon and a collaboration of epic proportions, strap yourselves, enjoy the ride and spectacle that is ‘The Avengers’. Loki (Thor’s Adopted brother) is somewhat of a devil character and his intensions are clear, world domination with him ruling it as their king! Well it’s obvious that Loki is the jealous younger brother with issues, but when he harnesses absolute power it looks as though he may very well pull it off. (MR)

The Jet Setting Life:

Is It All It’s Cracked Up To Be?

For those who have a lifestyle of travelling overseas on business, organizing and participating in conferences, closing deals, attending conferences, speaking in conferences, learning and seeing new techniques and technology, to name but a few, will often hear comments like – ‘Wow, how cool!’ or ‘Yeah, I wish. Life’s tough for some.’ But to actually be one of those who live this kind of lifestyle, let me tell you that it is not all the glamour that many may think. Let me lay it out for you and then you can decide for yourself. Living continually out of suitcases, endless hours of travel, lack of sleep, jet lag, very long hours in conferences either as a speaker of as a listener or organiser, lonely and boring hotel rooms, restaurant or fast food (or trying to find the kind of food you like or can eat – especially if you have food preferences and allergies), wearing the same type of clothes, packing and unpacking, visiting dangerous countries at times, trying to keep up with laundry and other necessary tasks between travel (or as you travel), and even just to keep close contact with friends

and family – all of these things and more are the life of a regular traveler. Some may think they could easily cope with all this, but I assure you that the novelty soon wears off. So is there a good side? Absolutely - we get to see and make lots of new friends and see some of the old ones at times. We get to experience lots of different countries and cultures and it doesn’t usually cost us much if anything. You can also learn a lot when you travel if you have your ears and eyes open. If you are a keen shopaholic you can get to purchase all kinds of really cool stuff at a good price. So there you have it. Is the life of a jet setting traveler all it’s cracked up to be? Is it for you or will you prefer to stay put and just travel every now and then? You decide. (DG)

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Body Shape: Apple Your Perfect Dress: is a wrap dress. This will help create a waist and the V-neckline will enhance your bust area. An empire line will skim over your curves and attract attention to your top area.

several different styles of dresses are well suited to your figure. The 1950s style, fitted top, full-skirted and tailored waistline perfect for your hourglass shape. Be careful of any dress too loose as this hides your curves so add a belt for extra definition. Remember to always showcase your waist.

Body Shape: Pear Your Perfect Dress:

Pear shapes need to have all the focus on your upper half, especially your neckline. Look for wide necklines such as a boat neck. Wrap dresses will flatter your figure by cinching in your slim waist and have your gorgeous décolletage on show.

Body Shape: Rectangle Your Perfect Dress:

Create curves with your rectangle figure by adding details like, ruching, peplums (which is on trend right now), draping and ruffles. Princess line dresses have a fitted bodice and a full skirt – this gives the illusion of curves, perfect to soften your angular features.

These are just the very basic of body shapes to help guide you in the right direction. The key is to get to know what your best attributes are and highlight. Remember, if you look good you feel confident and confidence looks great on everybody. (KA)

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All the wrong reasons On Facebook last week, I went to look at a sports/gym wear page (which shall remain nameless) and was shocked at what I saw. The page was spruiking a new line of product that showed sexually suggestive images that had nothing to do with fitness. I was appalled but the brand was asking for feedback. So feedback they got! I said that I was disgusted at the sexualisation of fitness and the objectification of women that these products portrayed. Imagine my amazement when my comments and those of other people expressing their aversion were deleted without reference or apology. Ladies and Gents, we have a fight on our hands. The fight is not against a brand or against a product. It is against an idea: An idea that fitness is about being sexually desirable and that objectifying anyone, male or female, like this is right. This is the idea our children and teenagers are confronted with every day in advertising and media yet we wonder why self esteem and body image is such an issue! Yes, we do have a fight on our hands. What is the healthy lifestyle and fitness industry becoming? When I ask guys why they work out, I get all sorts of replies: “Gotta look good for the ladies.” “I am going to a music festival and want to look hot so I can take my shirt off.” “Working out by itself doesn’t do the job quick enough so I take stuff, steroids included, to get bigger faster.” What for?: “The ladies and the bedroom.”

‘relationship’ part altogether and makes it all about the physical and the physical for you only. It is not healthy. My gosh, we have become selfish! We cannot let this taint us or our own relationships that should be about so much more than the physical. The physical side of a balanced relationship should come as a result of relational intimacy and integrity. How back the front we have got it!

When I ask the girls, it is usually because they think they are fat even when they are healthy according to body fat percentage. Music festivals again rate a mention among the motivators. The girls want to show off the midriff, the *ahem* décolletage and the shorts so short that they resemble undies or the smaller version of Kylie Minogue’s famous hotpants. What for? To ‘have fun’ (AKA to pick up), to be seductive and to do what popular, albeit much sexualised, culture deems attractive. These, my friends, are all the wrong reasons for fitness. My concern is that everything is pointing towards perversion here. When I hit up dictionary. com for the definition of Pornography, this is what it comes up with: “Obscene writings, drawings, photographs or the like especially those having little or no artistic merit, causing uncontrolled sexual desire, abominable, disgusting and repulsive.” Just one of the many concerns around pornography is that it creates an unrealistic, often violent, picture of what relationships should be. In fact, it removes the

But let me ask you something: Has your mind been brainwashed by the media and yes, even the fitness industry, into a pornographic way of thinking? Just putting it out there. Society is becoming so used to it that we promote it without even realising. Some of us are against it outwardly but then when we find ourselves alone and we see things like this, it doesn’t disgust us like it should because we have become numb to it having fallen for the devaluation of human relationships, the human form and even sexuality itself. When I look at a man and begin to objectify him then I am devaluing and disrespecting him no matter how ‘ok’ the media says this is. Just an aside, the Dove Foundation has done some fantastic work on Body Image. But the same company that owns Dove owns Lynx. Look at their ads to see

how even one corporation that understands the impact of media on body image, especially on women and girls, still resorts to the ‘sex sells’ attitude that I believe is so dangerous to society. How should we be viewing the opposite sex? We do not undress them in our mind. We do not desire ‘friendship’ because of the way they look or what we can get from them physically. We need to honour people, see their character and integrity, and seek to build them up rather than devaluing them even in the secrecy of our own minds. Why? Because what we allow in the secrecy of our own mind eventually affects what we believe and how we act. What is integrity my friend? Let me paint a picture for you. I love watermelon. But when I look at watermelons, they all look good to me. They look good on the outside, nice and lush, so I choose one because I think it has integrity. I cut it open and something has gone off and there is a horrible taste in my mouth. This is a demonstration of someone who does not have integrity and who has been poisoned by a perverted culture. It is time to stand up to this in every area of life, not just fitness. I seek and strive to be a person of integrity. I seek out friendships with people who have integrity. I seek to build people up. But I will not judge someone on their faults because I believe that with the right motivation and accountability change is possible. In finishing, I ask you this: “Are you who you claim to be?” (AH)

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You have to be a friend to find a friend. Contrary to popular thinking, we don’t have to be alone to be lonely, sometimes we can even be in a crowded room yet still feel lonely. So how does this happen? Basically it comes down to relationship and one person making an effort to be a friend first. Put a person into any kind of group setting and you will soon see how friendly they really are. Some will find a quiet corner to ‘hide’ in, or they will gravitate to those they already know. Yet there are a few who are really friendly who will boldly go and introduce themselves to others and endeavor to strike up a conversation. They purposely look around a room or gathering to see who might be sitting or standing off by themselves not talking to anyone and they will go out of their way to get to that person to talk to them. If we think about it they are prob-

ably feeling pretty vulnerable, just as much as you and I probably have at some stage before we got used to talking to people. Sometimes this can be where some great relationships and friendships can begin. Taking the time to show you care and that you are interested in that person and in what they are saying to you can all be good places to start building good friendships. For those that you seem to get along well with and ‘click’ with, try to arrange another get together for coffee or some such thing before you leave, or at least get their contact details. Keep in touch with them through text, phone and in person but be careful not to smother them. I always try to make contact by phone within the first week after meeting them. Then a week or two later I will phone them and try to arrange a face to face meeting with them to do something together. In any, and all conversations I have with this person I am always careful to pay attention to what they are saying and to be a friend. I have made and found some wonderful friends this way, just by being a friend so I know that it works. (DG)

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As the capital of Greece, Athens is bound to get a lot of attention. But here, you’ll see why it is a popular tourist destination and reasons why it probably deserves the attention.

trip to Athens is practically invalid if you don’t see the Parthenon and Acropolis (unless you’re visiting family or something… then that’s okay). The Parthenon is a temple dedicated to the Greek goddess Athena, and the Acropolis is the hill on which it is built. The Parthenon is in its current state due to time, an explosion and fires. The Parthenon is a historical example of architecture back in the day, and it does make for an amazing photo. The New Acropolis Museum is located nearby and features many artefacts found in the Parthenon and Acropolis. Athens is said to be one of the safest cities to wander about the streets at night… So if you’re willing to give it a go, check out Athens by moonlight. Syntagma Square is the host of various free public events and holiday celebrations, so check what’s on before you go! You don’t want to miss out on anything! If you’re hungry, grab a bite to eat at one of the many restaurants. Their dishes are beautifully presented and will leave you with a satisfying experience. Syntagma Square also provides a nice atmosphere for a stroll, and if you’re there at the right time, you just might witness a ceremony between the guards outside the Parliament Building (located at Syntagma Square). The Plaka area of Greece is lit up by nearby monuments, so enjoy the view! If you’re looking to treat yourself or someone special, jewellery is available in shops located in this area. Tavernas can also be found in this old neighbourhood. Flea markets are located at the Monastiraki, selling items at a reasonable price. The National Garden is a nice place to relax and enjoy nature. A trip to the Agora is another must. Here you can see a variety of ancient buildings and sites, each with their own unique and interesting history. The National Gallery (Alexandros Soutsos Museum) is the home to many artworks by Greek artists. Special art exhibitions and sculpture galleries are always worth a visit, especially if you love Greek art. The Old Parliament (National Historical Museum) displays items like weapons, paintings, memorabilia and portraits from various periods of time. If you do wish to go, make sure you don’t go on any significant holidays because it’ll be closed! Are you convinced of Athens’ beauty yet? No? Guess you’ll just have to make a trip there to see for yourself… Let us know how that goes ;) (SF)

Tesla Model S This is the car you have been waiting for! Now when we measure a car as to why is it good or bad. We review things like; 1. Is it Safe? The Model S is rated as 5 star in every category, front, side and rear impact. 2. Is it Spacious? The Model S has no large gas tank, no large engine and a fully integrated flat floor battery pack. This equates to one of the most spacious four door sedans out there. 3. It is good to drive? With the lowest centre of gravity, bespoke suspension and full aluminum and magnesium body structure, it is a very dynamic car to drive.

4. Is it fast? This four door sedan is faster than a the Porsche 911 we reviewed last month with a 0-100km time of 4.6 seconds to the finish line. That’s super fast. 5. Is it economical? Well, here is the kicker, it uses no petrol at all, this is a fully electric car and will do 600km on a single charge. That is a great range considering you can charge you car at home over night without the thought that it will die in traffic. So this is the car to buy, this is the dream electric vehicle we’ve all been waiting for, the messiah of cars if I could be so brave. To put the nail in the proverbial petrol car coffin, is a 17inch touch screen dash that has internet connectivity, Sat-Nav, voice control recognition, internet radio (all the worlds radio) and a whisper, ‘no sound of an engine’ cabin to listen to your favourite song in all its crystal clear glory. All this for $50,000 US dollars, great value petrol or electric. Tesla the biggest thing in car since Ford I think.. (JY)

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Cut Paste

Many of us are familiar with the copy and paste function on our computers, but have you ever thought about it in regards to life? Some people call it ‘gleaning’, some call it ‘copying’, and still others like me call it ‘learning.’ Everywhere we go we can learn so much if only we are paying attention. Even if I am sitting in the mall with a coffee updating my schedule planner, I am watching and observing people – observing how they talk, how they dress, how they treat their spouse and their children… It’s like I have a computer screen in my brain that cuts and pastes so much useful information. You learn a lot of what not to do, but you also learn a lot of good things to do as well. I love to see older couples in their 70’s and 80’s still holding hands when they are out together shopping or walking – it makes me determine in my heart to continue to work hard on my marriage to keep developing our relationship into everything it can be. When I see parents lovingly correcting their children instead of yelling abuse at them, I take note. It’s kind of like being a fly on the wall in many situations. I’m not that great with knowing what clothes to wear or what should go with what so I watch and observe everywhere I go. ‘Wow, that looks great,’ or ‘Oh, I never would have thought of putting those two colors or styles together, but it looks amazing.’ ‘I love that haircut.’ Whatever it is, copy and paste. Go and emulate it, make it your own. When we taste someone’s amazing cooking that we really enjoy don’t we often ask for the recipe? Yes and this is cut and paste… and can be such fun – home decorating, hairstyles, clothing, speech, how to deal with different issues, how to budget, cooking, craft are just a few areas where we can cut and paste. What areas can you cut and paste? (DG)

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No woody cabins! How much wood would a woodchuck chuck, If a woodchuck could chuck wood? Say that ten times fast and you will feel just as annoyed as I am seeing wood used in the worst of ways.

Wood is a natural material that should not only be used by people who are obsessed with wood cabins and people who love nature. Wood in essence is a material that has great texture, warmth and a sense of quality to it. Lets see creative ways to utilize wood spaces without the termite buffet look.

1 White painted

walls, give a clean and rather sophisticated look without the pretentiousness of perfection.

2 Two tones of finish,

in this picture you see a white wash floor with white paint ceilings.

3This cabin is finished

in 3 types of woods, the non uniformity works to help separate dining, living and storage areas. (JY)

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Are You a Delegator, DIYer or Collaborater? Benchmark your current financial reality! To get somewhere tomorrow you need to know where you are today. To reach your destination you need to not only know where you are going , but know where you are today. Action: Take out all your financial statements and categorise Do it Yourselfers write their own plans, conduct their own research, make them into 4 categories and add up the totals a) Cash Reserves b) Investments/ Super c) Debt- personal and business d) Insurance- write down all your insurances you own

their own financial projections, set up their own accounts. You are better off on your own if you simply don’t want to work with someone else. Therefore you should train and invest into yourself so you can be suitably qualified in the areas above.

Educate yourself or seek a Values Based Financial Adviser to Collaborators want to do it themselves guide you in creating and implementing a plan. but they also want a relationship with a

professional so they can have someone to lean on for information and occasionally for advice. The Collaborator tries to balance the control of a Do-it-yourselfer with the peace of mind of a Delegator, and uses professional support as a safety net.

Delegators comprise an entirely dif-

ferent breed. They decide what they can confidently hand off to someone else from what they must take care of themselves. They are not remotely interested in doing the research and strategising, although most could do it if they wanted to.

The 1st step is knowing yourself: Deciding whether or not you need help. There is no right or wrong answer to this question. You shouldn’t have to know it all – unless you want to and you really have the time for it. So if you are going to do it yourself, at least be sure not to sacrifice what’s really important in the long run. If you are going to do your plan yourself, you will need to become at least as educated as a professional, so you can give yourself financial advice based on the same body of knowledge.

3 Types of People- Do it Yourselfers- Collaborators and Delegators. In general, there are three types of people, Do it Yourselfers- Collaborators and Delegators.

Delegators choose not to do their own planning because they believe they benefit from the value a Trusted Financial Adviser provides: to free them

from having to worry about their money so they can focus on the important things in life. They are do it yourselfers only in the realms where it counts: family, friends, career, physical health and spiritual life. Otherwise they are happy to pay competent professionals to do the rest. If you are a Financial Delegator or a Collaborator who would like the help of a Trusted Adviser to help you put your financial house in order, please email us on justin@jirehfinancialservices.com or call us on 04038 54734. Best wishes for building your Ideal Life! (JP)

Justin Pagotto is the business owner of Jireh Financial, a financial advice firm that is passionate about helping people get their financial house in order so they can be free to pursue the things that really matter. For more information please call Justin on 02 93456 888 or visit www.jirehfinancialservices.com General Advice warning: The advice provided on this document is General Advice Only. It has been prepared without taking into account your objectives, financial situation or needs.

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Coping With Success “Weird title” I hear you say. “Why on earth would you talk about coping with success? Don’t you mean coping with loss?”

“my partner is supportive.” It is a slow moving glacier but it can catch us by surprise.

No, I seriously mean coping with success. Who of us have not seen loss? We cope with it because we have to. Life must go on. We must look at the empty space in our lives and figure out a way to find the new normality that we must eventually live with. Grief and loss is the topic of much study and discussion.

It is time to pay some attention to how we cope with success. When my business partner and I first set up our little venture, we were given two pieces of advice from another business owner. They said “You need a plan for failure. You always need a plan for success.” Planning in case of failure is focused on impact minimization and recovery. But the effects of success are different, varied and sometimes subtle. You might think that success means less pressure, less worry and less stress. In actual fact it can create exactly the opposite if you don’t handle it well. There are actually things you will need more of. What are they? Common advice I have gleaned from websites, business magazines and business veterans includes this: Make room for more communication, more planning and more experts. Never lose the balance. Don’t let success change YOU.

Success, however, is a different beast. How often have we heard the ‘rags to riches to rags again’ story of lottery winners who couldn’t cope with the fallout of their sudden wealth? How often do we see the young athletes or entertainers thrust into the spotlight by a talent far more honed and developed than their young characters are? Soon they are not famous for their talent but for their off-duty antics. They are trained to succeed in the field, in the pool, on screen or otherwise. They are not, however, trained to succeed in life.

Success can bring an extra demand on your time. You are training more, working more, travelling more and hopefully receiving more praise or recognition for your work. How do you keep control of it? You remember why you worked so hard for success in the first place. That’s the easy bit. The not so easy bit is keeping the communication lines open with the partner (business partner or otherwise), significant other or family that you share your success with. Your spouse and family might not be seeing as much of you if you are putting in longer hours. The time that you do spend with them becomes more important. Look for quality communication when quantity becomes more scarce. Point the finger at the celebrities, we can. But are we really any different? We get the promotion we wanted. We swear that it won’t cut into our family life. We swear that we will observe work-life balance (whatever the hell that is) and that it won’t impact. Soon we swear it won’t cut into family life much. Soon it is

More planning is required. As a business owner, I have discovered that with business growth comes an exponential growth in the dreaded foe of ‘Paperwork’. If you don’t keep on top of that and adapt the budgets, the invoicing systems and the tax obligations, you soon find yourself drowning in a sea of

stress and unmet obligations. It can all get too hard too quick if you take it for granted. The answer is in planning – organisational forward thinking that allows you to maintain control. The same can be said for success on a personal level. You are dealing with increased demands on your time but the trade off is the monetary reward. You might be revelling in the ability to spend cash a little more liberally but put in the planning structures before you lose control. Your personal finances are kind of like a business too. It is healthy to plan for growth. You don’t want to be running at a loss. The idea is to move forward not back. But again, you have to plan for it. So you got the success you worked so hard for. Now what? And what if you keep on climbing that corporate ladder? How do you maintain the work life balance that you want? How do you maintain balance? Balance is the big key. I got another gem from a business mentor in the early days of our little cafe: “If I don’t see you in the gym and if I catch you eating rubbish, I am going to kick your butt!” Tough line! But what the explanation is this – Look after you. Look after your family. Don’t let success take you away from the people and things you love. Don’t let it take you away from the activities that make you happy. Life will never be all about the work you do. There is always more to it than that. More experts? You probably feel pretty smart right about now. But even elite athletes have coaches. Who are your coaches? No matter how far up the ladder of success you grow, there is always room to grow. Someone always knows more than you. Find them and pick their brains. Not only that, you might need more experts on your team. Coaches, employees, staff? The demands of your life change as your success grows. You may buckle under the pressure if you try to do it all alone. But in amongst all the seriousness that comes with success, make sure you have more fun. Isn’t that why you worked so hard for success after all? (CH)

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