Mendo Lake Family Life August 2023

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hhh. That’s the sound of parents across the country breathing a collective sigh of relief. The school year is almost here! And that means no more long summer days trying to figure out how to entertain the kids.

But the start of school can bring its own issues. Like how do you get your kids out the door without meltdowns and power struggles? First, feed little ones a healthy breakfast. Check out “No-Fuss Breakie” (page 8) for grab-and-go oatmeal that’s perfect for school days. Then read “Smooth Mornings” (page 12) for evidence-based advice on how to help your children stay calm.

AOnce your students are actually attending classes, new questions may emerge. For instance, how do you connect with your children’s teachers? Educator and parent Janeen Lewis has you covered, offering effective strategies in her “Building Bridges” (page 14). And if you’re wondering how to best support a child who has just joined a sport, “The Power of Sports” (page 20) has some ideas.

As your family transitions into the new school year, don’t forget to make room for fun! Check out our Calendar of Events (page 22) for local ways to spend quality family time.

Happy School Days!

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No-Fuss Breakie

Grab-and-Go Meal for School Mornings

By Momma Chef

Want a great way to kick-start your family’s busy day? I have you covered! Wake up to a delicious and healthy oatmeal breakfast. This recipe was definitely a hit with my boys, and it didn’t hurt that they thought it was cool to eat breakfast out of a mason jar. The look is so beautiful that this grab-and-go oatmeal even can be served at a fancy brunch. I like to make several at a time—they keep for about two days in the refrigerator. Nothing beats using fresh fruit. I love to add blueberries, banana, and strawberries. Feel free to switch up the fruit according to what’s in season and your kids’ tastes. ❖

Karen Nochimowski is the author of 6-Minute Dinners (& More!), a newly released cookbook filled with more than 100 simple recipes with six or fewer ingredients, including nut-free and allergy-friendly options. Gloria Estefan, Alex Borstein, Katie Couric, Howie Mandel, Margaret Cho, Barbara Corcoran, and many others have written testimonials for it. Karen also started and runs Momma Chef’s Soup Kitchen and Momma Chef’s Little Free Pantries. Part of the proceeds from the cookbook will go towards feeding those facing food insecurity.

5-Minute Overnight Oats

Ingredients

• 1 16 oz. container of strawberries

• 2 small packages of blueberries

• 2 cups milk of your choice (I like using plain almond milk.)

• 2 cups old-fashioned rolled oats (Use gluten-free oats if making a gluten-free recipe.)

• ¼ cup maple syrup

• 2 teaspoons chia seeds, optional but highly recommended

Instructions

1. This recipe makes 4 mason jars, so remember to divide ingredients above into 4 jars.

2. Slice the strawberries into quarters.

3. Layer the oats, milk, chia seeds, blueberries, strawberries, and maple syrup into 4 mason jars with lids.

4. Cover and let sit in the refrigerator overnight or for at least 6 hours.

5. When ready to eat, stir and enjoy. Serves: 4

Do the Hustle

The image of a white-suited John Travolta posing on an illuminated dance floor is forever associated with disco. While wide-lapel jackets and polyester pants are definitely out, disco music still has retro-appeal. Those who are into the beats that drove the era can get their fill at Hot August Nights, which features Andre Williams and his All-Star Band. The audience is encouraged to bring out the bell-bottoms, platform shoes, and sequined dresses and hit the dance floor with the Bump, the Hustle, and Saturday Night Fever–inspired routines. The event will be held on August 12 at 7 p.m. at Soper Reese Theatre in Lakeport. Tickets are $30. For more information, go to soperreesetheatre.com/events

Native Performers Take Center Stage

Fourteen hours. That’s how long ten Native American dance groups will perform at the Scotts Valley Band of Pomo Indians Annual Big Time. The yearly free cultural event, which will be held August 25, 6–10 p.m., and August 26, 10 a.m.–10 p.m., will feature not just dancers but also Native American contemporary musicians, such as country singer Steven Hayes, as well as vendors selling Native art. There also will be activities for kids, including basket weaving demos, traditional storytelling, and bounce houses (one with water). Last but not least, a free traditional lunch will be served on August 25, and free lunch and dinner will be offered on August 26. The event will be held at 7130 Red Hills Road in Kelseyville. See tinyurl.com/3h42m9r3.

Fair Hosts Kids’ Contests

On your mark, get set, peddle! Tikes on bikes will tap into their competitive spirits at the Lake County Fair Tricycle Race. It’s just one of the kids’ activities the fair will host. Others will include a Hula-Hoop Contest, Bouncy Ball Race, and petting zoo. Of course, the fair also will feature its usual carnival rides, livestock exhibit, and grandstand entertainment. The latter will include a Mexican rodeo, called a jaripeo, which will feature bull riding, horse dancing, and live music. There also will be a Mini Destruction Derby, including boat races, as well as Mudd Boggs, and Drifters and Burnouts. The fair will run August 31–September 3. Events are included in fair admission, which is $8–$12 (ages 5 and younger, free); on Kids’ Day, August 31, ages 11 and younger get in free. For a schedule of grandstand events, go to lakecountyfair.com/?page_id=1262

Monster Mayhem at the Fair

To the uninitiated, a boat race may sound like an event that occurs on water. But that’s not the kind of boat race that happens at the Redwood Empire Fair. There, cars drag boats through dirt as drivers try to destroy each other’s trailing vessels. The last driver left with a boat wins. Joining the popular races will be Monster Trucks, Mudd Boggs, and Truck and Tractor Pulls, among other events. There also will be the usual fair activities, including livestock shows, art and flower exhibits, vendors, and, of course, a carnival. The fair will happen August 3–6 at the fairgrounds in Ukiah. Admission is $7–$9 and free for ages 5 and younger; parking is $10. Carnival wristbands are $30–$37. For more information, including an event schedule, go to facebook.com/RedwoodEmpireFair

Gardens Host

Mariachi & Mozart

Mariachi is integral to Mexican culture. And part of ensuring it continues is teaching it to young students, like those who comprise the Luther Burbank Center’s Mariachi Cantares de Mi Tierra. The ensemble has performed in front of thousands at Fiesta de Independencia. But on August 13 at 2:30 p.m. they will give a more intimate concert at the Mendocino Coast Botanical Gardens in Fort Bragg. Joining them will be Cuban classical pianist Elena Casanova and her string trio, who, at noon, will perform the work of Mozart, Fauré, and Brahms. Sponsored by the Symphony of the Redwoods, these bilingual concerts are free with gardens’ admission: $8–$20; free for ages 5 and younger. Tickets for EBT- and WIC-card holders are $2. Seating is first come, first served; picnics are encouraged. Find out more at tinyurl.com/ mv2ntkmv

Walking Dads Build Community

It’s difficult being a father. One in ten dads suffers from Paternal Postpartum Depression and up to 16 percent have anxiety. In order to keep mental health strong, dads need community, says the National Institute for Children’s Health Equality. Enter the Dad’s Walking Group. Dads, grandfathers, uncles, social workers, and any other male-identifying caregivers are invited to bring their kids to Mendo Leap, a children’s educational center in Ukiah, and then walk to the Great Redwood Trail with their strollers, skates, scooters, and wagons. From the trailhead, they will travel to the trail’s music installation and then back to Mendo Leap. The walk will be held on August 3, 9–10 a.m., and is free; post-walk play (not required) at Mendo Leap is $15 per child and includes free admission for two adults. Admission for babies younger than six months, without siblings, is $5, or free if infants attend with a sibling. For more information, go to mendoleap.com/Calendar

Mariachi Cantares de Mi Tierra

Monster Trucks

Smooth Mornings Science Reveals the Secret

By Pam Moore

My five-year-old daughter and I tend to get into major power struggles in the morning. I make her the “wrong” breakfast. She wails like I’m torturing her as I attempt to brush her tangled curls. We are running late (again) but I take a minute to lock the bathroom door, turn the vent on, and cry. Why is this so hard? What am I doing wrong?

According to experts, my error is obvious. I’ve forgotten to start the day with connection. Instead of “making a deposit” in my child’s bank—in the form of cuddles, reading to her, or even asking how she slept, I’ve attempted to make a number of “withdrawals.” I’ve forgotten that my daughter’s brain is just not wired to accommodate that. As Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson explain in their groundbreaking book The Whole-Brain Child (Random House,

2012), not only are the structures of a child’s brain still forming, so are the pathways connecting them. The connections between the various parts of the brain are what allow adults to function like adults. You can credit those connections every time you use logic to push through fear, or hold your tongue in a meeting with your boss.

On the other hand, when you’re wondering why your kid loses his mind when you cut his carrots into

slices instead of matchsticks, much of it has to do with the fact that his brain is still immature. Though it takes at least 20 years for the brain to fully develop, there are steps parents can take to make life more bearable in the meantime.

According to Siegel’s concept of interpersonal neurobiology, secure attachments in childhood facilitate the brain’s ability to function as an integrated system. In other words, focusing on the relationship with your child, rather than all of the tasks she must complete, will not only make your mornings easier, but it will also promote your child’s optimal brain development in the long run. One of the key takeaways from The Whole Brain Child is that it’s crucial to connect with your child on an emotional level before trying to reason with him. The best way to help a kid through a tantrum is to first hug him or offer some other non-verbal sign of affection, like a loving, concerned look, a gentle pat on the arm, or a squeeze of his hand, and talk to him after. Only after the child has calmed down enough to engage in conversation or to quietly listen, can he actually absorb anything you’re saying. According to Siegel and Payne Bryson, pausing to establish a connection serves a dual purpose. First, it strengthens the bond between you and your child, connecting you to each other. Second, this connection facilitates the building

Laura Markham, PhD, recommends snuggling with your kiddo for five minutes as they wake up.

of connections between the distinct areas of the child’s brain. Parents find taking a moment to connect can circumvent much morning stress.

Clinical psychologist and parenting expert Laura Markham, PhD, recommends snuggling with your kiddo for five minutes as they wake up. If five minutes of snuggling feels unreasonable, try two minutes, or even one. If snuggling in bed as your child rouses doesn’t fit with your routine, try something that does. It could be reading together, scratching her back, or simply holding her hand and making eye contact as you say good morning.

In my own quest to make mornings more bearable, I’ve been pleasantly surprised to find how far even the

the time to enter her room slowly, greet her with a smile, rest my hand on

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One friend said that even if she’s already dressed, she gets back into bed with her son as soon as he’s up and spends a minute or two doing a simple gratitude ritual with him, where they say a couple things they’re thankful for. Whatever way you choose to connect with your child, make sure it’s part of your morning routine. According to parent educator Kelly Pfeiffer, routines and connection work best when they’re used together. She suggests parents begin the day with some form of connection (i.e. two minutes of snuggle time) and intersperse other forms of connection throughout the morning, such as creating a silly morning song together, giving high fives, or sharing the joke of the day.

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Clases pequeñas para los grados 7-12

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Supportive, highly qualified educators Profesores amables y acreditados

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Archery and other athletics Tiro con arco y otros deportes

• Centrally Located at the Fairgrounds

• Clubs & Electives, Student Council

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It’s crucial to connect with your child on an emotional level before trying to reason with him.

to come in or videoconference and answer questions.

Keep communications open and positive. Teachers welcome questions and concerns and are proactive. As a teacher, I would much rather know about a problem early so that I can deal with it in the best way. Your children’s teachers should be open to your questions and suggestions, so don’t be too intimidated to ask.

Building Bridges Connect with Your Kids’ Teachers

By Janeen Lewis

Do you feel intimidated when you think of talking with your children’s teachers? What if your children complain about problems with their teachers? What do you do then?

I’m a parent and a teacher, so I’ve been on both sides of the teacher’s desk. Here are some tips to help you communicate and connect.

Meet and greet the teacher. Teachers like to meet parents at the beginning of the school year so that if a problem does occur, a teacher’s first encounter with a parent isn’t a call about misbehavior or academic struggles. If your school hosts a Back-to-School Night, make it a priority to attend. Introduce yourself and show your support. Making this initial contact helps break the ice.

Be involved. One of the best ways to get to know your child’s teacher is to be involved with the school and

classroom. Because the beginning of school is a busy time for teachers, wait the first couple of weeks until the class has settled in, and then contact the teacher and ask, “How can I help?”

If you can’t volunteer during the day, offer to organize donations or supplies for projects by setting up a parent sign-up list online. Ask if you can cut out items the teacher has laminated, or track down supplies for a lesson. Come to after-school events, school productions, and parent-teacher conferences so that you are visible and can touch base with your child’s teacher.

If your career is related to something your child’s class is studying, offer

Keep up with written teacher notes, permission slips, report cards, and any other written communications the teacher sends home. Sending a quick response to a teacher’s requests makes the teacher’s job easier.

Remember to keep communications positive. If you have concerns or think the teacher has dealt unfairly with your child, don’t dash off a negative note. For sensitive conversations, call and set up a time to meet after school.

Of course, encouraging notes brighten a teacher’s day!

Get to know the teacher’s digital platform. Familiarize yourself with teachers’ digital platforms. Make sure teachers have your email and other contact information so you do not miss any electronic notifications. Tap into free trainings or tutorial videos about the digital tools the teacher uses. Investing time at the beginning will pay off throughout the school year.

Try to help your child see the teacher’s point of view.

Try to understand both sides. Teachers have a lot to manage in their classrooms, and with several students to supervise, sometimes they make mistakes or don’t see every problem. Your child may think something happened in class that wasn’t fair, and it’s easy as parents to react emotionally and blame the teacher. But support the teacher as much as possible while you gather information about what happened. Try to help your child see the teacher’s point of view, and talk about how people can have differences and still work together to succeed.

Advocate for your child. Don’t be afraid to speak up if a problem in your children’s class becomes pervasive. If your children’s grades start to slip, they are continually

unhappy, or you suspect they are being bullied, work with their teachers to devise a plan to help.

a conference with the teacher and an administrator, and discuss your options.

Make a change as a last resort. Sometimes children have personality conflicts with their teachers. This actually offers a growth opportunity if teachers and students can work together in a respectful and productive manner. After all, this is what children will need to be able to do when they grow up. But if problems persist, it may be time to request

Understand that teachers are human. Most of the teachers I know are caring individuals who want to make a difference in the lives of the children they teach. Often, they are parents too, and although it is hard to imagine, at one time they were students who lived through awkward growth spurts, problems with peers, lost homework, and braces. They understand what parents and kids are going through, and they strive to build a positive connection between school and home. ❖

Janeen Lewis is a teacher, writer, and mom. She has been published in several parenting publications, and in Chicken Soup for the Soul: Teacher Tales

Your children’s teachers should be open to your questions and suggestions.

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The Power of Sports

Nurturing the Champions of Tomorrow

By Beth Brown

In a world dominated by digital distractions and sedentary routines, the significance of sports in children’s lives has never been greater. Let’s dive into the boundless advantages of sports. And let’s also explore creative ways parents can actively engage in their children’s sports journeys.

The Benefits of Sports

Physical Health Sports help children to develop strong bones and muscles, maintain optimal weight, and improve cardiovascular fitness. Engaging in physical activities at an early age sets a strong foundation for a lifelong commitment to a healthy and active lifestyle, mitigating the risks of obesity and other health issues.

Motor Skills and Coordination

Activities such as running, jumping, throwing, and catching enhance

children’s hand-eye coordination, balance, agility, and overall physical dexterity, shaping youth into agile athletes.

Social Interaction and Teamwork

Team sports cultivate essential social skills. Collaborating, communicating, and cooperating with teammates foster a sense of camaraderie and teamwork. As they learn the values of fair play, sportsmanship, and respect for others, both on and off the field, children

develop into compassionate and empathetic individuals.

Self-Confidence

and Self-Esteem Sports provide a breeding ground for children to set goals, surmount challenges, and achieve personal triumphs. Each milestone they conquer fuels their self-confidence and self-esteem, empowering them to face the world with resilience and a positive mindset.

Discipline and Time

Management Sports demand discipline and commitment. Engaging in regular practice sessions and effective time management imbues children with crucial life skills. These attributes and skills can permeate other aspects of their lives, such as academics and personal responsibilities.

Mental Well-Being

Physical exertion results in a flood of endorphins—chemicals that enhance mood—and this helps diminish stress, anxiety, and depression. Sports can become a sanctuary where children can find solace, joy, and a healthy outlet for their emotions.

Creative Parental Involvement Be the Ultimate Cheerleader

As parents, we are provided with the extraordinary opportunity to inspire and motivate our children. So bring your brimming enthusiasm to their games and practices. Applaud their endeavors, irrespective of the outcome.

Encourage your children to explore a diverse range of sports and activities.

Spark the Flame of Inspiration

Parents are role models for their children. By immersing ourselves in physical activities and maintaining a healthy lifestyle, we ignite a spark of inspiration within our children. Let them witness the joy and fulfillment that emanate from participating in sports. Engaging in shared activities, such as family hikes or friendly games of catch, will instill a lifelong passion for sports.

Tune into the Journey Engage in regular conversations with your children about their sporting experiences. Ask open-ended questions that unlock their thoughts, feelings, challenges, and goals. Actively listen, providing guidance and support when needed. By nurturing an environment of open communication,

we forge unbreakable parent-child bonds, amplifying the significance of children’s pursuits.

Cultivate Resources Ensure your children have access to necessary sports resources. Equip them with appropriate gear, comfortable attire, and a safe playing environment. Encourage them to explore a variety of sports, helping them discover their true passions. Find suitable coaching or training programs that will amplify their skills and unleash their potential.

Embrace Balance While sports hold immense value, striking a harmonious balance between academics, extracurricular activities, and leisure time is important. Encourage your children to explore a diverse range of sports and activities.

This holistic approach nurtures a well-rounded personality and shields against burnout.

Volunteer! Coach, manage teams, or organize events. Engage in fundraising efforts or help orchestrate sports-related activities. By actively participating, you not only become an unwavering pillar of support for your child, but also contribute to the creation of a flourishing sporting ecosystem for all children. ❖

Beth Brown, PhD, is the author of the children’s book series Adventures with Divot & Swish, which aims to inspire kids to engage in sports. Her youth sport participation paved the way for her success as a member of the University of Oklahoma basketball and conference champion women’s golf teams. She currently serves as Senior Player Development Advisor for the recently launched United States Golf Association’s (USGA) National Team.

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August Calendar of Events

Tuesday 1

FREE The Traveling Toy Library. Families are welcome to check out toys & materials for children ages 0–5. Sponsored by Easterseals Northern CA. Lakeport: 1173 11th St. (next to post office). Clearlake: Early Learning Center. 14085-2 Lakeshore Dr. (next to WIC). Send email to schedule time & location for pick up: earlyintervention referrals@esnorcal.org

FREE Virtual Circle Times. Songs, storytime, activities & socialization opportunities for little ones. English & Spanish versions available.

facebook.com/First5ELC. Sign up via email: earlyintervention referrals@esnorcal.org.

FREE Water Tower Wonderland. Using historic photographs, art from local artists & small-scale models, the exhibit explores the majesty & functionality of many well-known towers. Free; $5 donations accepted. Thursdays–Mondays. 11 a.m.–3 p.m. Kelley House Museum. 45007 Albion St., Mendocino. tinyurl.com/5n927apa

FREE Storytime. Tuesdays–Fridays. 10:30–11 a.m. Willits Library. 390

E. Commercial St., Willits. tinyurl. com/3akavbxt

FREE Game On! Family Game Time. All ages. Play board games, card games & chess. Feel free to bring games from home. Tuesdays. 2–4 p.m. Lake County Library. 1425 N. High St., Lakeport. tinyurl.com/2a3extrt

FREE Storytime. Stories & songs. Tuesdays. 10:30–11:30 a.m. Middletown Library. 21256 Washington St., Middletown. Registration required; call 707-987-3674. tinyurl.com/ mz6fx9mx . Schedule of storytimes

at other Lake County libraries: library.lakecountyca.gov

Wednesday 2

Gadgets Galore! Exhibition. Traveling, hands-on exhibit reveals hidden histories of everyday objects in American households. $2–$5; ages 4 & younger, free; families, $10. Wednesdays–Fridays: 10 a.m.–5 p.m. Saturdays: noon–4 p.m. Sundays: noon–4 p.m. Runs thru Aug. 13. Mendocino County Museum. 400 E. Commercial St., Willits. tinyurl. com/2jcreptn

FREE Queer & Trans Parent Online Support Group. Open to queer/trans people who are expecting, adopting &/or parenting babies up to 2 years of age. Wednesdays. 11:30 a.m. postpartum.net/get-help/queer-parents

Thursday 3

FREE Men’s Walking Group. Open to fathers, grandfathers, uncles, social workers & any other male-identified caregivers. Meet at Mendo Leap, walk to Great Redwood Trail, proceed to trail’s music installation, go back to Mendo Leap to play. Walk is free. Post-walk play at Mendo Leap (not required): $15/child includes 2 adult admissions. Babies younger than 6 months free with paid admission for an older child. Solo babies: $5. Thursdays. 9–10 a.m. Mendo Leap. 203 S. State St., Ukiah. mendoleap. com/Calendar.

Redwood Empire Fair. Carnival rides, livestock shows & vendors. Entry: $7–$9; 5 & younger, free. Carnival wristband: $30–$37. Parking: $10. Aug. 3*: 3–10 p.m. (*from 3–6 p.m. free admission for ages 12 & younger & 65 &

older) Aug. 4: 3–10 p.m. Aug. 5–6: noon–10 p.m. Redwood Empire Fairgrounds. 1055 N. State St., Ukiah. redwoodempirefair.com

Friday 4

Art Class: Messy Sensory. Kids get messy with guided sensory crafts. All

ages & abilities welcome. $20/child, with 2 adults free per child. Fridays. 1 p.m. Mendo Leap. 203 S. State St., Ukiah. mendoleap.com/Calendar

FREE KXBX 98.3 Summer

Concerts in the Park. Aug. 4: Petty Rocks. Aug. 11: Dirty Cello. Aug. 18: Funky Dozen. Bring blanket & chairs.

6:30 p.m. Library Park. 225 Park St., Lakeport. thebloom.news/big-calendar

FREE Walk & Roll Movement Moai. A moai is a group of people who walk together for 90 minutes once a week for 10 weeks. Open to all. Trail is less accessible than previous walks, so it is not recommended for walkers or

manual wheelchairs. Noon–1:30 p.m. Ford House Visitor Center & Museum. 45035 Main St., Mendocino. tinyurl. com/yy5bzd3j

FREE Shakespeare at the Lake. Lake County Theatre Company performs Measure for Measure. Bring low-back chair or blanket. Donations

suggested. Aug. 4–6: 7 p.m. Austin Park. 14077 Lakeshore Dr., Clearlake. laketheatre.org/shakespeare-at-the-lake.

FREE Kids Art & Talent Show. Children & teens perform noncompetitively—music, dance, comedy, magic, etc. 2–3 p.m. Fort Bragg Library. 499 E. Laurel St., Fort Bragg. No auditions but advance sign-up required: fortbragglibrary@ gmail.com. fortbragglibrary.org.

FREE Mothers’ Support Group & Family Spirit. Mothers come together for support & access to information about family planning, prenatal & infant care & integrating cultural family living. Via Zoom or in-person. Fridays. Noon–1 p.m. Zoom: us06web. zoom.us/j/81981267068. In-person: Consolidated Tribal Health Project. Wellness Center. 6991 N. State St., Redwood Valley. cthp.org/events.

Saturday 5

Arts in the Gardens. Arts exhibit in the garden, along with music, beer, wine & food. Admission: $10–$30; free for ages 5 & younger. Wine tasting: $35. Aug. 5–6. 11 a.m.–5 p.m. Mendocino Coast Botanical Gardens. 18220 Hwy. 1, Fort Bragg. tinyurl. com/2kcwerpp.

FREE Art Walk. Gallery openings, museum events & pop-up creative happenings. Held first Saturday of each month. 5:30–8:30 p.m. E. Commercial St., Willits. willitscenterforthearts.org

FREE Junior Ranger Program. Ages 7–12. Kids explore natural & cultural resources via hands-on activities & guided hikes. Saturdays (except Aug. 12). Two sessions: 10–11 a.m. & 11:30 a.m.–12:30 p.m. Clear

Lake State Park. Visitor Center. 5300 Soda Bay Rd., Kelseyville. tinyurl. com/5n7jkhuy.

Grillin’ on the Green. Tastings from grillers along with sides of beans, salad & desserts. Attendees vote for their favorite griller, the best decorated booth & favorite car. $10–$30; 4 & younger, free. 5–7:30 p.m. Westside Community Park. 1401 Westside Park Rd., Lakeport. tinyurl.com/29zw3haw.

FREE Noyo Harbor Fish Market. The fleet will be selling their catches off their boats. Local vendors. Noon–4 p.m. Noyo Harbor. Grader Park. 19101 S. Harbor Dr., Fort Bragg. noyoharbordistrict.org/ fishermens-markets

FREE Farmers’ Market Storytime. Presented by Ukiah Library. Saturdays. 10–11 a.m. Ukiah Farmers’ Market. 399-359 S. School St., Ukiah. tinyurl. com/5aepwd8m.

FREE Rising Through Resilience: Sister to Sister & Brother to Brother Wellness Gathering. Topics: Domestic Violence Prevention/ Education; Motherhood & Fatherhood Is Sacred; Substance Abuse Prevention; Mental Wellness. 10 a.m.–5 p.m. Ukiah Valley Conference Center. 200 S. School St., Ukiah. To register, contact Kashia Williams, 707-472- 2100 ext. 1105, or David Fetzer, 707-472-2102. tinyurl.com/ by3jjff5.

Sunday 6

FREE First Fiddlers’ Jam. Listen to fiddle tunes played by members of the Northern California Old Time Fiddlers Group. Noon–2 p.m. Ely Stage Stop & Country Museum. 9921

Soda Bay Rd. (Hwy. 128), Kelseyville. elystagestop.com

FREE Family Fun at Alex Rorabaugh Recreation Center. Open gym. Kids younger than 12 must be accompanied by an adult. Sundays. Noon–4 p.m. 1640 S. State St., Ukiah. tinyurl.com/yyh6n4vx

Monday 7

FREE National Lighthouse Day. Free admission to indoor & outdoor museums & Light Station store. Tower Tours for ages 6 & older: $5 per person. 10 a.m.–4:30 p.m. Point Arena Lighthouse. 45500 Lighthouse Rd., Point Arena. tinyurl.com/ya7xt6uz.

Friday 11

FREE Summer Fridays & Moonlight Madness. Aug. 11, 4–9 p.m.: Art in the Park at Todd Grove Park (600 Live Oak Ave., Ukiah). Aug. 18, 7 p.m.: Screening of ET at Observatory Park (432 Observatory Ave., Ukiah). Bring blankets & low-back chairs. cityofukiah.com/ moonlight-movie-madness.

Family History Fun Day. 10 a.m.–2 p.m. Courthouse Museum. 255 N. Main St., Lakeport.

Pomo Cultural Fun Day. 10 a.m.–2 p.m. Schoolhouse Museum. 16435 Main St., Lower Lake.

Saturday 12

FREE StoryWalk & Crafting Party. Take a short walk while reading a

StoryWalk® book with your kids. Crafting activity afterward. Bring picnic lunch. Held second Saturday of the month. 11 a.m.–2 p.m. Clear Lake State Park. Visitor Center. 5300 Soda Bay Rd., Kelseyville. tinyurl.com/ mhp8yxvj.

FREE Anderson Marsh Guided Nature Walk. Walks are 1.5–3 hours, depending on the route. Bring water, sturdy shoes & binoculars. Rain cancels walk. Held second Saturday of the month. 8:30 a.m. Anderson Marsh State Historical Park. Anderson Ranch Pkwy., Lower Lake. andersonmarsh.org

Chats at Gibson. 3 p.m. C. Gibson Museum. 21267 Calistoga St., Middletown.

FREE Clearlake Campfire Program. Families learn about cultural & natural resources through educational talks, demonstrations, music, art & storytelling. Features local expert guest speakers. Aug. 12 & 26. 8–9 p.m. Clear Lake State Park. Education Pavilion. 5300 Soda Bay Rd., Kelseyville. tinyurl.com/3jypme62.

FREE Clearlake Concert Series. Aug. 12: Dead Love & Red Voodoo. Aug. 26: Tone Loc & Color Me Badd. Bring blankets & chairs. 7 p.m. Austin Park. 14077 Lakeshore Dr., Clearlake. tinyurl.com/2p8mahbj.

FREE Movies in the Park. Raya & the Last Dragon. 7:30–9:30 p.m. Middletown Square Park. (Park at the library/senior center: 21266 Calistoga

SUMMER FRIDAYS

June 16 - 5 - 8 pm

Summer Kick-off Oak Manor Park

June 30 - 7 pm

Moonlight Movie Madness: The Sandlot Anton Stadium

July 14 - 7 pm

Moonlight Movie Madness: Minions: Rise of Gru

Vinewood Park

July 28 - 5 - 8 pm

August 11 - 4 - 8 pm

Art in the Park Todd Grove Park

August 18 - 7 pm

Moonlight Movie Madness: ET Observatory Park

For more information, For more information, contact (707) 463-6231 contact (707) 463-6231

Rd., Middletown.) thebloom.news/ big-calendar

Caspar Beach Concerts. Aug. 12: Surfsquatch. Aug. 26: Mixed Nuts. Bring lawn chairs & coolers. 2–5 p.m. Caspar Beach RV Park. Garden Stage. 14441 Pt. Cabrillo Dr., Mendocino. tinyurl.com/3xjye78m

Hot August Nights. Andre Williams

Farm. 655 Willowside Rd., Santa Rosa. Register: tinyurl.com/4s9xb9my

Thursday 17

FREE Kickin’ in the Country Street Dance. Featuring Breaker One 9 & the Tex Pistols. Bring chairs & dancing shoes. 6–10 p.m. Main St.,

Kelseyville. tinyurl.com/mk2rrr2j.

Flynn Creek Circus: Desert Myth. A rurally based, award-winning circus bringing international talent to the North Bay. $18–$416. Aug. 17: 7 p.m. (Family Special, $15 off tables). Aug. 18: 7 p.m. Aug. 19: 4 p.m. & 7* p.m. (*adults 21+ only). Aug. 20: 1 & 4

p.m. Next to Calfire, under the big top. 24001 S. Hwy. 1, Point Arena. tinyurl. com/tdav9tx8.

Saturday 19

FREE Round Valley Blackberry Festival. Arts & crafts, blackberry delicacies, live music, square dance & children’s games. Thru Aug. 20. Covelo. roundvalleyblackberry festival.com

FREE Summer Music Series. Featuring Big Mountain & Top Shelf (reggae). Bring seating. Food & drinks for purchase. 6–9 p.m. Konocti Vista Casino. 2755 Mission Rancheria Rd., Lakeport. tinyurl.com/455r4psk

Expression & the Arts in the Back to the Land Movement. Hear from J. Holden, who worked with

the Mendocino Grapevine newspaper; Bob Dress, who created handcrafted homes; & Laura Hamburg, who will talk about education as a form of art. Free with admission: $4–$5; families, $12. Free for Native Americans & military (with ID). 2–3:30 p.m. Grace Hudson Museum. 431 S. Main St., Ukiah. gracehudsonmuseum.org.

FREE Sinister Science Saturday. For ages 5–12. Hands-on science experiment with Professor Shirley Knott & Dr. Shirley Seau. Wear grubbies because it’ll get messy. 2–3 p.m. Fort Bragg Library. 499 E. Laurel St., Fort Bragg. fortbragglibrary.org

Sunday 20

Anderson Valley Lions Club BBQ. Tri-tip, chicken BBQ, live music, corn hole tournament, games, silent auction

it only takes taking a walk in the park

& raffles. $15–$20. 4–7 p.m. Anderson Valley Senior Center. 14470 Hwy. 128, Boonville. tinyurl.com/yjcwcx9b.

Community Street Faire. Music, food trucks & local vendors. 3–8 p.m. Twin Pines Casino. 22223 CA-29, Middletown. twinpine.com.

FREE Sundays in the Park Concert Series. Aug. 13: Los Pingous (Latin rhythm). Aug. 20: Poor Man’s Whiskey (bluegrass & rock hootenanny). Blanket or low-back chairs only. 6–8 p.m. Todd Grove Park. 600 Live Oak Ave., Ukiah. tinyurl. com/592s7628.

Thursday 24

FREE Blue Zones Project: Purpose Workshop. Led by a certified facilitator who helps people find clarity of purpose. Designed in partnership with Richard Leider, author of the book The Power of Purpose. Dinner provided. Space limited. 5–7 p.m. Alex Rorabaugh Recreation Center. 1640 S. State St., Ukiah. Register: tinyurl.com/ bdffsnsj

Friday 25

FREE Scotts Valley Band of Pomo Indians Annual Big Time. Tribal cultural event featuring Pomo dancers, kids’ activities, art vendors & food. Aug. 25: 6–10 p.m. Aug. 26: 10 a.m.–10 p.m. 7130 Red Hills Rd., Kelseyville. tinyurl.com/3h42m9r3.

Thursday 31

Lake County Fair. Admission: $4–$12; ages 5 & younger, free.

Carnival unlimited rides wristband: $30. Aug. 31: 6–11 p.m. Sept. 1: 4–11 p.m. Sept. 2 & 3: 11 a.m.–11 p.m. Lake County Fairgrounds. 401 Martin St., Lakeport. lakecountyfair.com.

Watch Out for the Curb!

An Open Letter to My Teen Driver

By Shannon Carpenter

Dear Beloved Teenager:

Aaaaa! Sorry, I feel like I had to get that out of my system right here at the start. You should in no way take that as an indication of your driving ability.

But also, CURB! Watch out for the CURB!

You and I have been through a lot together, and I wanted to take a minute to tell you how proud I am. When you were a toddler, you and I had so much fun on our little adventures. We went to the World War I museum, toured a coffee factory, and always stayed in our lane.

Yup, always stayed in our lane. Which in case you are wondering, is on the right side of the road. The right side, honey. THE RIGHT SIDE! Ignore my flop sweat. That

stay out of them.

happens when you get old and your life flashes in front of your eyes.

In kindergarten, I could see the woman you would become. A woman who was strong-willed and never let her ambition drift. A woman that always knew that it was not okay to let her responsibilities slide. I guess what I’m saying here is: Stop drifting out of your lane and aiming for other cars.

I loved watching you thrive in middle school. I was so proud of how well you got along with everyone. For example, you never hit anyone. You didn’t hit kids that were getting off the bus. You didn’t

hit adults that were crossing the street. I appreciate that kindness and so do my insurance deductibles. Now that you are in high school and learning how to drive, I find myself with mixed emotions. Some days I’m terrified that you are growing up and running stop signs. Other days I’m just scared of other people on the road. But mostly I find myself missing the time we spent together. And also, I miss undented rims. I know, driving in snow is hard.

Now as you go out into the world, please remember just a few things that your dear old dad learned over the years:

1. Confidence is key to becoming the person you want to be. For example, be confident that taking a speed bump at 50 miles per hour will wreck your suspension.

2. The road to life is full of ditches. Do your best to stay out of them.

3. Stop! Stop! Stop! For the love of all that is good, please stop! And smell the roses from time to time.

I know that it’s hard to listen to your old man as you grow. We have had our ups and downs. You don’t like me telling you what to do, and I don’t like hit-and-run lawsuits.

Now go out and live the life that you’ve worked so hard to build. I’ll always be here to help you along the way—and bail you out of jail. Get Luck Everyone, Dad ❖

Shannon Carpenter is a professional humorist, co-host of The Dadhouse Pod , and the author of The Ultimate Stay-at-Home Dad Manual (Penguin, 2021).

The road to life is full of ditches. Do your best to