Mendo Lake Family Life June 2024

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For June, we’re giving a nod to Father’s Day, kicking off the issue with a yummy Donuts for Dad recipe (page 7) and wrapping things up with an interpretation of those dad stances we have all seen a time or two (page 30). In between, we take a look at a relatively new federal holiday celebrated June 19—Juneteenth—and why it’s important to explain this one’s history to kids (page 22).

This edition offers some pointers for quashing sibling squabbles that invariably crop up now that school is out and boredom arrives (page 16), as well as some advice for making summer visitations between co-parents and kids less stressful (page 18).

And although summer is just beginning, now is the time for incoming high school seniors to begin giving consideration to their post-graduation plans. Our college admissions feature (page 12) shares application advice for high school seniors whose goal is higher education after graduation.

Family Life also gives some ideas for making children’s birthdays special through experiences rather than traditional parties (page 10). No matter when your child changes age, these ideas help you celebrate their interests in most unique ways!

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Donuts for Dads

4-Ingredient Family Treat

By Momma Chef

Just in time for Father’s Day, these cake donuts are not fried but baked! Use a donut pan and this recipe to create your choice of donuts that are super easy to whip up. Batter is made with simple ingredients that most people already have on hand. And the batter can be mixed by hand making the process much simpler.

Treat Dad to donuts! Fill a donut pan and prep freshly baked donuts in less than 20 minutes that are so much healthier. They are best when eaten the same day but can be covered and stored at room temperature up to two days. You can also freeze donuts for up to two months. If frozen, warm in the microwave for 30 seconds when ready to serve. Add sprinkles or frosting as desired! ❖

Karen Nochimowski is the author of the cookbook 6-Minute Dinners (& More!), featuring more than 100 simple recipes. Karen started and runs Momma Chef’s Soup Kitchen and Momma Chef’s Little Free Pantries. Part of her cookbook proceeds go toward feeding those facing food insecurity.

Easy Bake Donuts

Prep Time: 5 minutes

Cook Time: 11-14 minutes

Yields: 15-18 donuts

1 box vanilla or chocolate cake mix (my favorite is the Duncan Hines Devil’s Food)

3/4 cup milk (can use water instead if making these dairy-free)

1/4 cup avocado or vegetable oil

2 large eggs, beaten

Instructions

Preheat oven to 350 F. Lightly spray 2 donut pans with cooking spray.

In a large bowl, mix all ingredients until well combined.

Fill each donut cup three-fourths full. Bake 11-14 minutes or until toothpick comes out clean.

Cool in pan about 5-10 minutes then remove and cool completely on wire rack.

Join the Pollination Investigation

Free pollination-themed family fun day presented by the Smithsonian Institution Traveling Exhibition Service. The event will include a fruit taste test, making seed balls, decorating butterfly masks and decorating pollinators. Saturday, June 29. 11 a.m.–3 p.m. Courthouse Museum, 255 N. Main St., Lakeport. tinyurl.com/5n7cj57y

Have Fun on Fridays

Presented by the City of Ukiah Recreation Department, these family-friendly events range from art exhibits to live music, movie presentations, and a touch-a-truck experience on various Fridays June–August. Various vendors on site. Activities kick off Friday, June 14. 5–8 p.m., Alex Thomas Plaza, 310 S. State St., Ukiah. Lilo & Stitch showing Friday, June 28. 7–9 p.m. Ukiah Municipal Pools, 511 Park Blvd., Ukiah. tinyurl.com/4uc46yus

Walk Through History

Kelley House docents lead guests on a beautiful and informative walking tour through the preserved-in-time 19th century town of Mendocino. Visit New England-style homes, find out why Mendocino is known as the city of water towers, admire 100-year-old roses, and marvel at how an art renaissance in the 1960s led to the town’s preservation. The tour starting point is the Kelley House Museum, built in 1861 and owned by the Kelley family for 114 years when it was sold and converted into a research center. Saturdays and Sundays through June 29. 11 a.m.–1 p.m. Tickets are $25 for adults and $15 for youth (under 12). Learn more at kelleyhousemuseum.org/visit-walking-tours

Walk Through History

Keep Reading This Summer

Join the local library’s summer reading challenge. After 15 books, readers receive a halfway prize; another prize after 30 books. Children can also cross out squares on an activity grid toward prizes. Fun options include telling your librarian a joke, donating gently-used toys, and writing or drawing your own short story! This summer’s kick-off event is Saturday, June 15. 1–2 p.m. Other activities throughout the summer include LEGO hour, Kids’ Farmer’s Market, Build-a-Robot event, and more. Saturday, June 15–Saturday, August 10. Mendocino County Library Ukiah Branch, 105 N. Main St., Ukiah. Sign up: mendolibrary. beanstack.org to participate online.

Go Searchin’ for Urchin

Running through June 16, the Third Annual Urchin/ Uni Festival welcomes a new and exciting addition to this unique coastal experience for 2024 ... KelpFest! The North Coast KelpFest! will encompass a month-long exploration of the beauty and benefits of kelp forests on the North Coast, an irreplaceable underwater ecosystem, through art, education, food, and film. Things kick off with the Kelp! Film Program: Saturday, June 1, 10 a.m.–Noon. Mendocino Film Festival Tent, 10701 Palette Dr., Mendocino. Tickets: mendofilm.org. Urchin Fest: Friday, June 7. Local restaurants get creative in the kitchen with purple urchin. Other events include the Seaweed Science Social, Art & Algae Talks, an Open House at the Urchin Ranch with wild and farmed uni tastings at Noyo Center Marine Field Station, a Walking Tour of Noyo Harbor, and more. Additional details and schedule of events: urchinfest. com or northcoastkelpfest.org.

Indulge Dad at Baconfest

Perfect for your Father’s Day celebration, Kelseyville Business Association presents the 6th Annual Lake County Beer, Wine, & Swine Baconfest in downtown Kelseyville. Taste bacon treats, craft beer, cider, and wines. Enjoy the music of Austin and Owen and the Aki Kumar Band. Craft vendors and a car show round out this event. Tickets are $40 in advance (limited tickets available the day of the event while supplies last). Sunday, June 16. 11 a.m.-4 p.m. Along Main Street, Kelseyville. tinyurl.com/yc6nrk4h

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Unique Birthdays

Opt for experiences over parties

By Calleen Petersen

Traditional birthday parties can be difficult for our family as we have a son with special needs. I struggled with how to make his day a success without the typical “having friends over” party and finally hit on the perfect solution: We would have “birthday experiences” rather than parties.

My son, LOVES pirates. So, I planned a pirate-themed day for the family. I found a “pirate cruise” on a local lake that I bought tickets to surprise him with. The latest Pirates of the Caribbean movie had just come out before his birthday,

so with a pirate cruise, a pirate movie, and lunch, we had a birthday planned. We spent the day with our pirate loving every minute of it and he was SO happy.

My daughter, whose birthday was coming up, decided she also needed

an experience activity because of how well her brother’s birthday had gone. As her special day approached, we discussed lots of possibilities. (She is someone who likes having all her options open.) Finally, she settled on having her hair highlighted and a spa day. I took her to a local beauty school and had her hair done for $50. I didn’t have to deal with a dozen preteen girls and all the drama that comes with, or cleaning up after, a party. We painted each other’s nails and picked up her favorite takeout for dinner. For me it was a win-win situation. My daughter was thrilled with her hair and spa day, it wasn’t too expensive, and I enjoyed the quality time it allowed us to have together.

The next year for my son’s birthday, his requested experience was to go to a Renaissance fair. There were a couple in our area. It’s a great way to

help him experience and learn new things, as well as a cool adventure for the whole family. While we looked forward to it, he got busy planning his own costume.

Birthdays don’t have to be the traditional party, cake, and presents. Make new traditions and memories if the old ones don’t work for your family. The most important part of a birthday is making that special someone feel seen on their day and that can be done in lots of ways.

Here are a few other suggestions for an “experience birthday” …

Tea Party Experience: Dress up and take your child to the local tea shop.

Cowboy Experience: Spend the day at a ranch learning how to rope and ride.

Fisherman Experience: Wear your best fishing duds, pack a picnic lunch, and get out on the water. Take Grandpa, too, because chances are he’d love to show you how to cast that line.

Make new traditions if the old ones don’t work for your family.

On-Ice Experience: Channel your inner Elsa and go ice skating in princess attire or locate a Disney on Ice! show.

Educational Experience:

Is there something your child is passionate about like art, cooking or sports? Find local classes, exhibits or camps to enroll them in as their gift. Spend a day leading up to those activities prepping for them, like making a meal at home with them choosing the menu and overseeing the cooking, drawing together in the park or having a family pickup game!

Take your child’s interests and turn them into a day they will never forget. Birthdays don’t have to be expensive and huge. They should be about making memories and celebrating the life of that special person. ❖

Calleen Petersen is a writer, an aspiring therapist, and a parent of two children, one of whom has special needs.

College Admission Decoded

Preparing to Apply and More

By Angel Jenkins

The Guide to the College Admission Process is a free online resource published by The National Association for College Admission Counseling for anyone considering seeking higher education. It is periodically updated to share tips and trends around the college search and application experience. The document is said to offer “sound advice on every step of the process, from getting in the right mindset, to researching universities, to completing application materials.”

This 100-page guide features 15 chapters ranging in topics from “The College Search Process” to “How to Apply.” Chapter 1 reminds high school seniors that while many of their peers are also applying for college, everyone’s experience is different. Some students already have firm ideas of where they hope to go to college, while others want to explore

all their options. College admissions follows a generally predictible timeline that is only somewhat within your control (such as meeting application deadlines).

Chapter 2 shares terminology that can help high school juniors and seniors better understand what they are researching, like the difference between types of colleges and

universities. The chapter also helps students outline their goals around higher education and explains how to determine what schools may most align with those plans. “Developing a list of specific criteria should always come before choosing colleges to add to your list,” the Guide advises. “To decide on specific schools without a solid sense of your wants and needs is a backward and unhelpful approach, often leading students to focus solely on colleges they have already heard of.” Campus visits and interviews are the subject of Chapter 3, with tips on acing any in-person college interviews. Chapters 4 and 5 present comprehensive details on national college fairs as well as admissions testing (including timelines and test prep ideas).

Chapter 6 provides a detailed breakdown of the types of fees and

applications colleges might require and how students can best present themselves within those applications. According to the Guide: “Most institutions are very explicit about what they want and what they don’t want as part of your application—this is your opportunity to demonstrate that you know how to understand and follow directions.” Chapter 7 offers an application review process timeline, and what students might do while they await decisions.

“Financial Aid for College” is the title of Chapter 8, where types of aid— from grants to loans—are explained. Financial aid terms are defined and various aid programs are shared. “The cost of college is a source of stress or overwhelm for many students and families, and the process for applying

for financial Aid can be confusing and cumbersome in and of itself,” the Guide notes. “All the more reason to make cost and affordability a built-in part of your initial research process so you are as informed as possible when it comes time to apply.”

Chapter 1 reminds high school seniors that while many of their peers are also applying for college, everyone’s experience is different.

Chapter 9 looks at choosing between colleges once accepted, and how to enroll after that choice is made. And if a student finds they do not get accepted to their school of choice,

waitlists and late openings are discussed in Chapter 10.

Chapter 11 touches on the transition from high school to college, including navigating the academic front as well as campus life. “Budgeting time and establishing priorities are among the most difficult challenges new college students face,” according to the Guide. Understanding class schedules and campus structures can help. Being prepared for the responsibilities of life as an independent college student can ease some of the natural stress of freshman year, too.

Chapter 12 discusses transferring from one college to another (which is an option if a student doesn’t at first get accepted to their dream college, or an option if they discover a college to which they are accepted doesn’t turn

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out to be a fit for them). Or, perhaps a student wants to complete their general education requirements at community college, then transfer to complete their undergraduate degree.

Alternative higher education options are outlined in Chapter 13, where students may discover ways of earning a degree they had not considered. Last but not least, Chapter 14 focuses on inernational students applying to U.S. colleges and universities.

Chapter 6 provides a

As an added bonus, the Guide provides advice and encouragement for families in Chapter 15. “Your student may feel uncertain about the decisions they must make, fearful of rejection from colleges, or anxious about meeting deadlines for their college applications and school work,” the Guide underscores. “The best thing you can provide … is unconditional reassurance and regular reminders that where they go to college matters far less than what they choose to do and who they hope to become once they get there.”

The Guide to the College Admission Process is available for download at no charge, here: nacacnet.org/ nacacs-guide-to-the-college-admissionprocess ❖

Angel Jenkins is feature editor for Family Life magazine and a freelance writer and editor for a number of other publications across the U.S.

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Summer Squabbles

Helping Siblings Manage Battles

By Gina Rich

Warm sunshine. Ice cream. Lazy days splashing around the pool. After a soul-crushing winter and a spring that felt like a second round of winter, parents and children alike are ready for summer to arrive. But what happens when kids who’ve been in separate classrooms all year long are suddenly together for several hours every day?

My children are 20 months apart in age, and their bickering reaches an alarming intensity once summer hits. Sometime during the month of May, as I watch the remaining school days dwindle on the calendar, my stress level rises exponentially, and I start loading up my Amazon cart with chocolate and earplugs.

But maybe this summer will be different, I always tell myself. I’ll plan ahead. My kids will be so busy they won’t have time to fight. I’ll regale them with enriching

activities. I’ll perfect my arsenal of slime recipes, choreograph regular play dates, and thrill the neighborhood kids with my expertise in creating backyard water blobs.

Realistically, I know I’ll do none of this. So I’ve scaled back my expectations. Below are some strategies that I’m hoping will help me preserve my remaining sanity from June until September.

Let each child create a personal “calm down” space at home. When tensions are high,

having a designated special area for each child allows for personal space and provides a fun alternative to the tired refrain, “Go to your room.” In our house, my oldest daughter commandeered a comfortable chair in the living room and stocked it with a few books, stuffed animals, a blanket, and a water bottle.

Consider separate eating areas during particularly challenging times. While it’s important for families to share meals together whenever possible,

Instead of aiming for perfection, set mini goals for behavior throughout the day, and reward success.

sometimes less is more. If the mere act of making eye contact with each other across the breakfast table sparks an argument between your kids, consider allowing them to dine in separate rooms just for one meal. I’ve observed that once my kids are more awake and appropriately fueled with food, they are less likely to push each other’s buttons—and mine.

Plan special dates with each child on a regular basis. Even a brief amount of 1:1 time together—away from siblings and the temptation to compete—can be like hitting the reset button on a child’s behavior. These occasions need not be lengthy and can be incorporated into the family schedule. Examples include playing a card or board game after dinner, or shopping together for favorite

meal ingredients. Perhaps designate which day and time these will happen each week, so kids can look forward to, and help plan, what they want to do together. Plus, it allows for some routine in the otherwise lazy days of summer.

Set mini goals. Let’s face it: There is no universe in which siblings can refrain from bickering 100 percent of the time. It seems to be hardwired into their DNA. Instead of aiming for perfection, set mini goals for behavior throughout the day, and reward success. For example, if my kids can peacefully stay on task in the morning, they get to choose a show to watch together after everyone is ready.

Retire your role as the referee. Too often, I inject myself into my children’s squabbles when the best course of action was to simply refrain from getting involved.

Decide in which situations you’ll intervene—for example, if the argument becomes physical or if

there is hurtful name-calling—and let your kids know these guidelines. Remind yourself that sibling disagreements are normal and can help kids practice conflict resolution skills. When the invariable bickering arises, brew yourself a cup of coffee or tea and calmly inform your kids that, unless it’s a true emergency, you’re unavailable to hear their grievances until such-and-such time. If you have to, leave the room in order to get your point across.

If all else fails, earplugs are always an option. ❖

Gina Rich lives in Wisconsin, where she writes about parenting, health, and the natural world for publications including the Washington Post , Notre Dame Magazine , and others.

Summer Visitation

Tips for Custodial and Non-Custodial Parents, Stepparents

By Kimberly Blaker

With a visitation trip on the horizon, both kids and adults may feel a spectrum of emotions. When kids spend extended time with their non-custodial parent, everyone must shift from regular routines and structures. Other emotional challenges may also be involved.

Whether it’s the first summer visitation or another of many, each brings new changes. If the parents’ separation is recent, the situation may be tense. Even if your family has been doing summer visitations for some time, each year is different. New people may be involved, such as partners, stepparents, stepfamilies, or new half-siblings. One or both households may have moved to a new location. People can also change over a year, especially kids, as they grow, and relationships shift.

The best way to ensure a successful visit is to work together to plan,

prepare, and create a positive environment around the visitation.

Children may feel a multitude of emotions about spending summer visitation with their non-custodial parent. They may feel bad about leaving their other parent behind, not want to spend time away from friends, pets, other siblings or family members, or just miss the familiarity of their primary room and possessions.

Kids may also worry about spending time with people living in the non-custodial home, particularly if kids don’t know those individuals well. Different households have different

rules and expectations, which may cause conflict. The following can help reduce anxieties and provide a more positive experience.

Maintain the relationship between kids and the non-custodial parent during physical separations. Stay in touch through text, phone calls, video chats, and shorter visits when possible. That way, everyone feels secure in their connection. Include stepparents and step- or half-siblings to build positive relationships.

Kids have more difficulty understanding and regulating complicated emotions in family dynamics.

Involve kids in planning visits. A visual calendar may be helpful, especially for younger kids. Talk to them about the itinerary and expectations in the other household. Coordinate with the other parent to keep consistencies where possible.

Give kids an opportunity to safely voice their feelings about the visit before, during, and after— while helping them see positives in the situation.

Children will probably experience homesickness. Talk to them about this ahead of time, so they expect it and know it’s normal. Also, make a plan, so they know what to do when they feel homesick. Allow kids to take some comfort items with them.

Custodial parents may feel more negative emotions like stress, anxiety, or sadness about their

kids leaving for an extended period. As the custodial parent, you may be worried about your kids.

Recognize your emotions, both positive and negative, but try to avoid inflicting negative feelings, like guilt, onto your children.

Make plans for yourself, so you have things to look forward to and ways to stay busy. Take advantage of extra time to focus on your relationship with yourself, friends, partner, or other children.

Help your kids pack to ensure they have everything they need. Don’t forget essential items like medications, glasses, retainers, and other personal care items. Keep a record of important information about your children to

share with their other parent. Not just health or medical information, but any other struggles or things going on with the child or their life that would be helpful to know.

Allow kids to take some comfort items or pictures with them and plan regular calls into the schedule.

Have a copy of the itinerary and contact information so you can reach your ex or children in an emergency. Non-custodial parents may feel excited and apprehensive about everything going smoothly and making sure their kids enjoy their stay.

Have a special room or space for your kids when they visit and either prepare it for them with things they like or allow them to choose decorations or special items to help them feel at home.

Focus on quality time over expensive or extravagant gifts or experiences. Find ways to connect with your children and participate in their interests or those that you share to help your kids feel seen, heard, and valued.

Bringing up the topic of child support can be hard. The Mendocino County Child Support Services office is here to help you understand the child support process and file all the paperwork involved. We are a neutral party, and assist both moms and dads!

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Locating the other parent and assets

Obtaining child support orders

Enforcing child support orders

Modifying child support orders

Establish parentage including genetic testing

Enforcing spousal support orders in conjunction with child support

Providing a monthly accounting of what is owed and due

Providing individualized case management/help with navigating the child support and spousal support arena

new partner, and support them in connecting with your children without forcing it. Make time for them and include them, so they don’t resent the visiting children for taking your attention.

Ensure you have all the vital information about your children’s health and medical needs in case of an emergency.

Stepparents may be unsure how to prepare for summer visitation with their stepchild and worry it might be difficult if the relationship is new or tense. Stepkids may see you as an interloper in their relationship with their parent. If the relationship is challenging, try not to take it personally. Kids have more difficulty understanding and

regulating complicated emotions. They may feel more comfortable taking their frustrations out on you instead of their parents.

Remember, you chose to be with someone who has children. Find things that you love about your partner

Suggest opportunities for your partner and their child to have special time to themselves, especially at the beginning of the visit.

in their children and ways to connect with them or their interests.

Be open to creating a relationship with your stepchildren, but don’t force it. They may take a while to warm up to someone new, especially if they’re jealous of your relationship with their parent.

When parents have a shared custody arrangement, it’s good for everyone to support children in having positive interactions and building healthy relationships with both parents as well as stepparents. With a bit of preparation and cooperation, summer visitation can be a special part of creating a stronger bond and helping children thrive.

Kimberly Blaker is a freelance writer. She also owns an online bookshop, Sage Rare & Collectible Books, specializing in out-of-print, scarce, signed, and first editions; fine bindings; ephemera and more at sagerarebooks.com

Juneteenth Lessons

Introducing Children to Important Holiday

By Rebecca Hastings

The holiday popped up on the calendar almost as suddenly as my kids asked what it was. I had a mom moment when I realized I had two choices: I could choose to dismiss the question and move on or I could admit that I didn’t know and suggest we find out more. I must have gotten a good night’s sleep because finding out more seemed like the best option.

It can be hard when kids ask about something that we don’t know a lot about. The good news is that it’s the perfect way to connect and learn about something together. Try these ideas to help your family understand and recognize the importance of Juneteenth.

What is Juneteenth and Why Does It Matter? Juneteenth celebrates the freedom of enslaved African Americans in the United States. Despite the Emancipation

Proclamation freeing slaves on January 1, 1863, it took more than two years for the decree to free slaves in the Confederate state of Texas.

“Freedom finally came on June 19, 1865, when some 2,000 Union troops arrived in Galveston Bay, Texas.

The army announced that the more than 250,000 enslaved black people in the state, were free by executive decree. This day came to be known as ‘Juneteenth,’ by the newly freed people in Texas.” (Smithsonian)

Juneteenth became a holiday the following year. While Juneteenth was just added as a federal holiday in 2021, it is considered the oldest African American holiday in the U.S. The name Juneteenth is a combination of the words June and nineteenth.

This holiday offers opportunities to consider what freedom looks like in our world. We can use Juneteenth as a way to look back at how far we’ve come and look forward to continuing the work of ensuring freedom for generations to come.

How Do We Celebrate? The most important way you can celebrate this holiday, regardless of your race, is by showing honor and respect. Learning about black culture, supporting black organizations, and fostering an atmosphere of learning are the best places to start.

Begin with Books This is always a great place for families to start learning more together. It provides a culturally- and age-appropriate way for everyone to learn more. Start with books such as: Juneteenth by Vaunda Micheaux Nelson, All Different Now: Juneteenth, the First Day of Freedom by Angela Johnson and Juneteenth for Mazie by Floyd Cooper.

Beyond the holiday itself, choose books that highlight the black experience and black culture to help your family better understand what the celebration represents. Even exploring President Abraham Lincoln’s Emancipation Proclamation speech and music such as freedom songs will create a more vivid understanding for kids.

Have a Red Cookout Celebrating outdoors represents freedom. The key

to the foods you choose may be to step outside of your comfort zone. Red foods like watermelon, red velvet cake, strawberry pie, and even hot sauce on Juneteenth often symbolize resilience and strength, while foods like brisket, beans, and bread round out the celebration menu. This is a great way to have fun with everything from meat to spicy tea!

Juneteenth serves as an important reminder of our nation’s history.

Show Support Juneteenth serves as an important reminder of our nation’s history. Supporting black-owned organizations and businesses is a wonderful way to continue the work that started so many years ago. Whether you shop in a local black-owned business or send a donation online, this type of support is a tangible way to link arms for the prosperity and freedom Juneteenth represents.

Say It Wish black friends and family a Happy Juneteenth as you celebrate and recognize the holiday. This simple phrase goes a long way in fostering respect. “The easiest way to wish someone a Happy Juneteenth is by messaging them and wishing them a fulfilled day. Similar to Black History Month, and other important anniversaries to Black Americans, it is important to acknowledge it as an American holiday, even if you do not celebrate it.” (Logan)

Keep Working The best way we can all work to celebrate Juneteenth

is to keep doing the work needed for racial freedom in the U.S. and beyond. Have honest and respectful conversations about racial issues (even when it feels difficult), seek to learn more about races other than your own, and be part of a solution of healing and hope as we move forward. ❖

Rebecca is a published author and former teacher passionate about authenticity, faith, and family. In real life, she can often be found typing words, driving her kids places, or wherever there is chocolate. Connect with her at RebeccaHastings.net and on Instagram.

June Calendar of Events

Anticipate Adventure at Camp

Set among Cache Creek’s Anderson Marsh, Adventure Camp is hosted by Childrens’ Museum of Art and Science. Free for students age 7–16, the one-day event introduces participants to the beauty of the natural environment through plant and animal track identification, bird watching, fishing, scavenger hunts, team-building activities, and more. Students will also participate in a camp cooking activity. Camp concludes with music activities with a drumming circle where teams will compete to keep the beat. Sunday, June 23. 11:30–5 p.m. Clearlake Campgrounds, Cache Creek Rd., Clearlake. To learn more, email: cmaslakecounty@gmail.com.

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Ribbit Exhibit. Nationally-touring exhibition. Whimsical presentation of 20+ human-sized frog characters placed in vignettes throughout the Garden. $8–$15. Ages 4 & under: Free. Discounts available for teachers & active military. Open Daily: 10 a.m.–5 p.m. Extended hours Wednesdays: 5–8 pm. Runs thru Aug. 31. Sonoma Botentical Garden. 12841 Hwy. 12, Glen Ellen. sonomabg.org/visit/ ribbit-exhibit.

FREE Pastels in the Plaza Fundraiser. Local artists create artwork on pavement. Hosted by the River Oak Charter School. Live music, food/drinks available for purchase. 10 a.m.–3 p.m. Alex Thomas Plaza. 300 State St., Ukiah. tinyurl.com/kt7v26jp

FREE Events at the Museum of Lake County. New exhibition: Chinese Pioneers: Power & Politics in Eclusion Era Photographs. Thursdays–Saturdays. 10 a.m.–4 p.m. Sundays. Noon–4 p.m. Runs thru June 9. Lake County Historic Courthouse Museum.

255 N. Main St., Lakeport. tinyurl. com/mtnyhmzk.

FREE Wings of Hope Registation for Family Camp. Three-day Family Bereavement Camp July 15–17. For Lake County families with children 5 & older that have experienced the death of a loved one. Horse therapy, music, art, swimming, hikes, & more. No cost, but a refundable $25 deposit to hold your space will be returned upon arrival. Hospice Service of Lakeport. Limited space, register early: 707-263-6222 or lakecountyhospice.org

Mendocino Film Festival. A diverse line-up of over 60 films, special events, & visiting filmmakers. Live music Friday & Saturday night. $13–$15. 10 a.m.–10 p.m. Tickets & full schedule: mendofilm.org/films

Redwood Empire Spring Fair. Rides, agriculture, livestock, nightly entertainment. Carnival wrist band: $30. Monster trucks races: $18–$23. Parking $10. Food/ drinks available for purchase. Gates

open: Noon. Redwood Empire Fairgrounds. 1055 N. State St., Ukiah. redwoodempirefair.com

Lighthouse Lens Tours at Point Cabrillo. Tours are first-come, first-served, no reservations. $5–$10. Children 42” & taller only. Tours last 15–30 minutes. First weekend of each month. June 1–2. 11 a.m.–2 p.m. Point Cabrillo Lighthouse. 45300 Lighthouse Rd. pointcabrillo.org/visit/ events.

Sucre: An Evening of World Music & Dance. Featuring Sweet Music & Dance from the World: Flamenco, Middle Eastern, Central Asian, Sephardic, Irish, Folk, Turkish Roman Bellydance, & more. $35. 5–9 p.m. Caspar Community Center. 15051 Caspar Rd., Caspar. casparcommons.org

Summer Concert Series. Family friendly. A Tribute to Tom Petty & Creedence Clearwater Revival. $30–$35. Food & drinks, beer/wine available for purchase. Outside food/ drinks prohibited. Gates open at 6

Adventure Camp

p.m. Cache Creek. 250 New Long Valley Rd., Clearlake. tinyurl.com/ fmp5bbx5.

Sunday 2

FREE Family Fun at Alex Rorabaugh Recreation Center. Open gym. Kids 12 & younger must be accompanied by an adult. Activities for the whole family to enjoy. Sundays:

Resource Center. Wednesdays. 2–4 p.m. MCCP Family Resource Center. 244 N. Franklin St. (corner of Redwood St.), Fort Bragg. tinyurl. com/ycm8a6ez.

Thursday 6

FREE Operation Tango Mike Open House Packing Party. Join in the

fun & prepare care packages for deployed military personnel. Free food provided. 5–8 p.m. Thursdays. 5 p.m.: Social. Packing Party: 6 p.m. Umpqua Bank. 805 11th St., Lakeport. thebloom.news/ big-calendar.

Friday 7

Yoga at the Gardens. Led by certified yoga instructor Tracey Green. All-levels welcome. $15 in addition to Museum admission: $8–$20. Bring mat. Sundays. Noon–1 p.m. (Arrive at 11:30 a.m. to allow time to reach Event Lawn). Mendocino Coast Botanical Gardens. 18220 N. Hwy. 1, Fort Bragg. gardenbythesea.org.

Urchin Festival. Beach demos, diving for sea urchins, tidepooling, campfires, & loads of opportunities to eat uni. Multiple locations on the Mendocino Coast. Thru June 16. urchinfest.com

FREE Middletown Farmers Market. Locally fresh produce, crafted goods, & artisanal treats. Double your EBT benefits up to $30. Fridays. 5–8 p.m.

21256 Washington St., Middletown. tinyurl.com/ykx8b896

Skate Nights@MCRPD. $5 with your own skates & $8 to rent. Fridays. Younger kids: 5-7 p.m. Older kids: 7–9 p.m. All are welcome any time. Old Recreation Center. 213 E Laurel St., Fort Bragg. mendocoastrec.org/ skate-night.

FREE RCRC Autism Parent Virtual Group. Hosted autism specialists Dr. Wendy White and/or Jillian Guevara, BCBA, Redwood Coast Regional Center. The first Friday of the month via Zoom. Meeting ID: 995 2860 5123. 10–11 a.m. tinyurl.com/t3u746e3

Saturday 8

Lake County Wine Fest Amateur Wine & Beer Competition. Tastings

from Lake County’s wineries & breweries. Food & art vendors. Live music. Tasting tickets: $30–$35. Proceeds benefit Lake County Symphony & Youth Orchestras. Noon–5 p.m. Library Park. 222 Park St., Lakeport. lakecountywinefest.com.

FREE Innaugural Lakefest

Cannabis Cup. Highlighting the history & education of cannabis in the County & State. Full day of art, music, food, crafts, vendors, & much more. $33. 21+ only. 10 a.m.–10 p.m. Lakeport Fairgrounds. 210 Martin St., Lakeport. tinyurl.com/yc3bhd6x.

Sunday 9

FREE Sundays in the Park Concert Series. June 9: Diggin Dirt with Soulevity (West Coast Funk/Soul). June 30: Chris Cain (Blues Guitar Master). Blanket or low-back chairs only. Food/drinks for purchase or bring picnic. Sundays. 6–8 p.m. Todd Grove Park. 600 Live Oak Ave., Ukiah. cityofukiah.com/sundaysinthepark.

Sunday Funday at The Mercantile. Play giant Jenga, Connect 4, giant Yahtzee, darts, disc golf putter, & cornhole yard games. Blistery days board games, cards & dice inside. Large selection of local wine to enjoy. Outside food/drinks prohibited. Sundays. Noon–5 p.m. Lunch: Noon–3 p.m. The Mercantile. 4350 Thomas Dr., Kelseyville. lakeportmainstreet.com/events.

Friday 14

FREE Summer Fridays & Moonlight Madness. June 14: Summer Kick-off 5–8 p.m. Alex Thomas Plaza. 300 State St., Ukiah. June 28: Screenng of Lilo & Stitch. Bring blankets & low back chairs. Gates open: 7 p.m.

Ukiah Municipal Pools. 511 Park Blvd., Ukiah. tinyurl.com/39dbmdhp

Country Summer Music Festival. Featuring Old Dominion, Little Big Town, Jordon Davis, plus many more artists. $89–$399. More for VIP tickets. Runs thru June 16. Sonoma County Fairgrounds. 1350 Bennett Valley Rd., Santa Rosa. Tickets: countrysummer.com

FREE Summer Concerts. Live music & dancing. Different band every Friday evening throughout the summer. June 14: Michelle Lambert. June 21: The Undercovers. June 28: GX Band. 6:30–8:30 p.m. Library Park. 222 Park St., Lakeport. thebloom.news/big-calendar

FREE Summer Kick-Off Concert & Vendor Fair. Featuring Dylan Schneider (Country & Pop). On hotel lawn. Bring your own seating. Food/ drinks available for purchase. All ages welcome. 4–10 p.m. Austin Park. 14077 Lakeshore Dr., Clearlake. tinyurl.com/5a3mj4uc.

Roller Skating Nights@Laytonville. $2 Admission + $2 skates or blades rental. June 14 & 28: 6–8 p.m. Harwood Hall. Harwood Rd., Laytonville. tinyurl.com/3hvmc6ky.

Saturday 15

FREE Ukiah Community Yard Sale. Vendor: $35/space. 8 a.m.–2 p.m. Todd Grove Park. 600 Live Oak Ave., Ukiah. cityofukiah.com/communityyardsale.

FREE Summer Music Series. Reggae at the Lake featuring Hector Roots Lewis & SGV Vibes. On hotel lawn. Bring your own seating. Food/ drinks available for purchase. All ages welcome. Gates open: 5 p.m. Music: 6–9 p.m. Konocti Vista Casino. 2755

Mission Rancheria Rd., Lakeport. thebloom.news/big-calendar

Sunday

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Father’s Day at the Museum. Free admission for fathers. All others: $5–$12. Ages 3 & younger: Free. 10 a.m.–5 p.m. Charles

Providing opportunities on the Mendocino Coast that promote physical and mental well being for everyone, through active play, community enrichment, programs and events.

JUNE 2024 HIGHLIGHTS

Pickleball Clinic

June 18th-20th

Fort Bragg Middle School Courts

Skate Nights

June 14,21, & 28

The old rec gym in Fort Bragg

Adult Open Mat-Martial Arts

June - Every Monday & Thursday

Fort Bragg High School Wrestling Rm

South Coast Hoopstars

June & July - Saturdays

Point Arena High School Gym

Contact Us 707-409-0760

More Information www.mendocoastrec.org

Schulz Museum. 2301 Hardies Ln., Santa Rosa. schulzmuseum.org/ happy-fathers-day-2024.

Beer, Wine & Swine Baconfest. Vendors, live music, local breweries, & wineries. Tastings from chef competition: $40. Not necessary to buy a ticket to enjoy live music,

Check our website for full details and stay tuned for soccer, beach volleyball, disc golf, kickball, flag football, and SO MUCH more!

& individually purchased food/ drink items. 11 a.m.–4 p.m. Tickets must be purchased by 2 p.m. Main Street, Kelseyville. facebook.com/ LakeCountyBaconfest.

The “Murder, She Wrote” Walking Tour. Landmarks that appeared in the hit TV show, starring Angela Lansbury. $25. June 16 & 25: 11 a.m.–12:30 p.m. Kelly House Museum. 45007 Albion St., Mendocino. kelleyhousemuseum.org

Tuesday 18

Blue Wing Father’s Day Brunch & Dinner. 11:30 a.m.–2 p.m.: Twining Time Duo. 6–8 p.m.: Steve Winkle. Blue Wing Restaurant. 9520 Main St., Upper Lake. tallmanhotel.com.

Nor Coast Rodders Car Show. Raffle, poker walk, & hot dogs. 9 a.m.–3 p.m. Franklin & Laurel Streets, Fort Bragg. norcoastrodders.com.

Thursday 20

FREE I.D.E.A. Monthly Parent Group. Community support with other parents & guest speakers. Snacks provided. Led by Annie Bone RCRC’s I.D.E.A. specialist. Third Thursday of the month. 6–7 p.m. RCRC Lakeport Office. 180 3rd St., Lakeport. 707-445-0893, ext. 360 or tinyurl.com/53cprm58/.

FREE Kickin’ in the Country Summer Concerts. Live music by Zydeco Flames. Food/drinks available for purchase. 7–9:30 p.m. Main St., Kelseyville. visitkelseyville.com.

Friday 21

Sierra Nevada World Music Festival. Summer Solstice, Peace Celebration, & Full Moon Gathering. Top Reggae & World Music

artists perform in family-friendly atmosphere. Camping, vendors, workshops, kidzone, & more. Single & 3-day tickets, camping passes. Payment plans for tickets & camping. June 21–23. Mendocino County Fairgrounds, Boonville. Tickets & full schedule: snwmf.com.

FREE Willits Frontier Days

Hometown Celebration. Parade, live music, entertainment. Food/drinks available for purchase. 5–9 p.m. Main St., Willits. willitsfrontierdays.com/ events.html.

Full Strawberry Moon Night Tour. Snacks/drinks provided. $50. Reservations must be made by phone no later than 3:30 p.m. 3 days before event. Gates open: 8:30 p.m. Tour: 9 p.m. Point Arena Lighthouse. 45500 Lighthouse Rd., Point Arena. 877-725-4448 or pointarenalighthouse.com.

Saturday 22

Nature Walks. Guided tour led by MCBG Horticulturist Paul Ruiz-Lopez. Cost included with Museum admission: $8–$20. Ages 5 & under: Free. Discounts available for qualifying guests. Held 4th Saturday of the month. 10 a.m–Noon. Mendocino Coast Botanical Gardens. 18220 N. Hwy. 1, Fort Bragg. Reservations required: gardenbythesea.org/calendar/ nature-walks

Festival of Fools. Family Entertainment. Noon–1 p.m.: Richy Bee One-Man Circus. 3–4 p.m.: 7(ish) Tricks Magic. 6–7 p.m.: Chase the Entertainer. Each show: $11.50. Kelseyville Event Center. 5245 3rd St., Kelseyville. Tickets: tinyurl.com/ yksvwptc

Music in the Redwoods. Performances by the Steven Bates Band & Boonfire. Mexican cuisine, beer/wine for purchase. $25–30. Bring lawn chairs & blankets. Proceeds benefit Noyo Center for Marine Science. 3–8 p.m. 25209 N. Hwy. 1 at Charlene Ln., Fort Bragg. Tickets: noyocenter.org/music-in-the-redwoods.

FREE 75th Anniversary Boggs

Mountain Demonstration. 9 a.m.:

Forester Bucherr relates the history & current forest practices utilized by Cal Fire. Raffles, prizes, & music. Free lunch provided. Beverages for purchase. Children under 18 must be accompanied by an adult. No dogs. Calso Camp. Boggs Mountain Demonstration State Forest, Cobb. Must RSVP by June 12 for both hike & lunch. Email: fobm@boggsmountain.org or tinyurl. com/24escw2s.

Sunday 23

FREE 4th Annual CMAS Adventure Camp. Ages 7–16. Art & Science, outdoor hands-on activities. Limited to 60 students & spaces fill up fast. Parent volunteers & students earning community hours welcome. 11:30 a.m.–5 p.m. Clear Lake Campground. 7805 Cache Creekway, Clearlake. (Parking at the top of the hill upon entrance.) Register: tinyurl. com/2te2vx7y

FREE Movies in the Park.

Screening of The Goonies. Bring chairs, blankets, & picnic. Food/ drinks also available for purchase. Pre-movie activities. Movie starts at dusk. Middletown Square Park. 21257 Calistoga Rd., Middletown. middletownareamerchants.com

Saturday 29

FREE Family Fun Day at Courthouse Museum in Lakeport. Pollination themed. Fruit taste-test, seed ball, butterfly mask, & pollinators making. 11 a.m.–3 p.m. Courthouse Museum. 255 N. Main St., Lakeport. tinyurl.com/ycyz3a2m.

FREE Pride Prom. “A Night in Wonderland” theme. Music & dance for LGBTQ youth & allies. Ages 14–25. No drugs or alcohol allowed. ID at door to enter event. 5–9 p.m. Soper Reese Theatre. 275 S. Main St., Lakeport. Must RSVP: 707-994-5486 or tinyurl. com/359jrbz6

Fort Bragg Quilt Show. Quilts of all

& more. $10 entry fee. Ages 12 & under: Free. June 29–30. 10 a.m.–4 p.m. Dana Grey Elementary. 1197 Chestnut St., Fort Bragg. tinyurl.com/ mw7p6r8v.

Flynn Creek Circus. The Heavy Lift. A rurally based, award-winning circus bringing international talent to the North Bay. $18-$81. Under age 3: Free (if sitting on parent’s lap). Doors open 30 minutes before each show. Arrive early for best seats. June 29: 3 & 7 p.m. July 30: 1 & 4 p.m. Runs thru July 7. Friendship Park. 998 School St., Mendocino. Full schedule & tickets: flynncreekcircus.com.

Interpreting Dad’s Stance

How Pop Poses Tells a Story

By Shannon Carpenter

In honor of Father’s Day, Family Life’s resident stay-at-home dad explains some standard Pop poses … Classic Yard Stance Hands on hips with khaki yardwork shorts sagging in back, the “classic” is seen every spring weekend. Accompanied by oversized sunglasses to help dad feel he’s still cool but a wide-brimmed hat confirming otherwise, this dad stance bodes the question: What is Dad thinking about? There is only one correct answer: The Roman Empire.

Where’s My Tools? Stance Arms crossed in his garage, Dad stares at a lonely Phillips head screwdriver. Where is the rest of the set he got for Christmas? They were here just a minute ago! The slotted screwdriver,

the hexagonal screwdriver, and the weird little jeweler’s screwdriver are all gone. No, it is not possible that Dad didn’t put his tools back where they belonged. It had to be one of the children. But which one? It’s best if he just sits back and thinks about the Roman Empire before hashing out this mystery.

The Past Curfew Stance Oh, you’ve done messed up now. The clock reads 12:01 a.m. and you were not home. You walk in to find Dad not in a stance at all, but sitting. There is no sound, the room is dark, and Dad appears calm but your defenses go up. You check your phone, now it’s 12:02 a.m. How long will you be grounded for causing your father such worry and heartache? His life is harmed every

second you are late. The visions that haunted him will last a lifetime. It’s best to distract him by asking about the Roman Empire.

Arms Wide Open Stance Your heart beats faster as you see your Dad stand tall. Every time you go out, this happens. And it happens with everyone you have met since the day you were born. It’s so embarrassing. Dad doesn’t care that he wears black socks with sandals. He pays no attention to the cuts and scrapes on his arms he got retrieving your favorite toy from behind the thorn bush. What he does care about is telling everyone how awesome you are. To anyone within earshot, the speech begins, “Let me tell you about my kid: Friends, Romans, Countrymen—my kid found my screwdriver today.”

Take on a Tornado Stance The weather turns foul and clouds begin to circle. Tornado alarms have started. Dad stands on his front porch, calm as a Roman soldier heading into battle. Deep down, he knows he can’t take on a tornado. At the same time, this is his family, and they are scared. Fists balled next to his sides, he thinks he could tackle a tornado if he had to. Dads can do anything because their kids believe they can. Lasso the moon, ride the wind, tackle a tornado. He breathes deep, gives up the thought, and instead uses those wide arms to hug his kids. That stance keeps them safe during scary times. ❖

Shannon Carpenter is a professional humorist and the author of The Ultimate Stay-at-Home Dad: Your Essential Manual for Being an Awesome Full-Time Father