Sonoma Family Life June 2024

Four Fun-Filled Days

Thrilling Carnival by Midway of Fun

The Canine Stars - As seen on America’s Got Talent

Balloonacy l Trixie the Magical Clown l Salsa Steel Cutest Show on Earth l Michael Mezmer - Hypnotist

Bring your Family to the Fair!

The Sonoma-Marin Fair is a favorite summer tradition that celebrates agriculture, youth development, and community engagement. Providing entertainment for all ages, the fair brings us all together!

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Carnival & Entertainment

FREE with Fair Admission

Discounted tickets available until June 19th

Adult: $22 pre-sale ($25 value)

Kids (4-12): $15 pre-sale ($18 value)

Seniors (65+): $13 pre-sale ($14 value)

The Hollywood On Wheels Comedy Show feat. The Balloon Man

Wild Science l All Smiles Petting Zoo

Headline Concerts

FREE with Fair Admission

Concert Pit-Pass: $25 - limited availability

Thursday: Wonder Bread 5 l Friday: LANCO l Saturday: Easton Corbin

Sunday: Fiesta Latina with... Lalo y los Descalzos, Los Traviesos de la Costa, & Rosio y su Sonora

Wine Garden l Fair Food l Community Exhibits Contests, Games & More! (707) 283-3247

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Special Events

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Friday: World’s Ugliest Dog® Contest

Saturday: Farm Olympics

Outlaw Mariachi Car Show on the Gardenway

Ballet Folklorico Petaluma

Sunday: Cars & Coffee at the Fair The Pitchforks

Ballet Folklorico Petaluma

MLK/Juneteenth

with Potter the Otter

Agriculture through Fair

the Solar System

Summer Reading

Online resource explains application process.

Advice to ease kids’ and co-parents’ experience.

Understand the history of freedom celebration.

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For June, we’re giving a nod to Father’s Day, kicking off the issue with a yummy Donuts for

And although summer is just beginning, now is the time for incoming high school seniors to begin giving consideration to their post-graduation plans. Our college admissions feature (page 14)

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4-Ingredient Family Treat

By Momma Chef

Just in time for Father’s Day, these cake donuts are not fried but baked! Use a donut pan and this recipe to create your choice of donuts that are super easy to whip up. Batter is made with simple ingredients that most people already have on hand. And the batter can be mixed by hand making the process much simpler.

Easy Bake Donuts Donuts for Dads

Treat Dad to donuts! Fill a donut pan and prep freshly baked donuts in less than 20 minutes that are so much healthier. They are best when eaten the same day but can be covered and stored at room temperature up to two days. You can also freeze donuts for up to two months. If frozen, warm in the microwave for 30 seconds when ready to serve. Add sprinkles or frosting as desired! ❖

Karen Nochimowski is the author of the cookbook 6-Minute Dinners (& More!), featuring more than 100 simple recipes. Karen started and runs Momma Chef’s Soup Kitchen and Momma Chef’s Little Free Pantries. Part of her cookbook proceeds go toward feeding those facing food insecurity.

Prep Time: 5 minutes

Cook Time: 11-14 minutes

Yields: 15-18 donuts

1 box vanilla or chocolate cake mix (my favorite is the Duncan Hines Devil’s Food)

3/4 cup milk (can use water instead if making these dairy-free)

1/4 cup avocado or vegetable oil

2 large eggs, beaten Instructions

Preheat oven to 350 F. Lightly spray 2 donut pans with cooking spray.

In a large bowl, mix all ingredients until well combined.

Fill each donut cup three-fourths full. Bake 11-14 minutes or until toothpick comes out clean.

Cool in pan about 5-10 minutes then remove and cool completely on wire rack.

Be a Child in the Wild

Kids

of all ages will enjoy this free family event featuring inflatables, facepainting, hula hoop events, nature activities, food trucks, and more. Live entertainment includes Music Time with Megan, the Sonoma County Pomo Dancers, Danza Xantotl, Grupo Folkloriko Quetzalen, Redwood Empire Chinese Association Dragon Dancers, and Jeffrey Whitebear & the Wild Ones. Decorate your bikes and helmets and join in the 11 a.m. family ride from Doyle Park to the future Southeast Greenway path to Howarth Park. Sunday, June 2. Noon–4 p.m. Howarth Park, 630 Summerfield Rd., Santa Rosa. tinyurl.com/mrxwswdw

MLK/Juneteenth 54th Festival

Recognize MLK/Juneteenth

Featuring performers, vendors, and a basketball tournament, this MLK/Juneteenth 54th Festival recognizes Juneteenth, the “oldest celebrated commemoration of the ending of slavery in the U.S.”

According to juneteenth.com, these events emphasize achievement, education, reflection and celebration of African American freedoms. “In cities across the country, people of all races, nationalities and religions are joining hands to truthfully acknowledge a period in our history that shaped and continues to influence our society today. Sensitized to the conditions and experiences of others, only then can we make significant and lasting improvements in our society.”

Saturday, June 15. 10 a.m.–6 p.m. Martin Luther King Jr. Park, 1671 Hendley St., Santa Rosa. tinyurl.com/3etw7tyb

Adventure with Potter the Otter

Families with children 5 and under are invited to join the Children’s Museum, in collaboration with the Sonoma County Library, and the Coddingtown Mall, for Potter the Otter: A Healthy Adventure. This free hands-on interactive pop-up exhibit is based on the book series Potter the Otter, published by First 5 Santa Clara County and created by the San Joe Children’s Discovery Museum. Wednesday, June 12–Tuesday, August 9. 10 a.m.–3 p.m. (Sonoma County Library, along with the Redwood Empire Food Bank, will provide free lunches to children in the exhibit space at Noon, Monday–Friday, thanks in part the to California State Library Grant, Lunch at the Library.) Coddingtown Shopping Center, 1300 Coddingtown Center, Santa Rosa. tinyurl.com/yz6s3wv8

Potter the Otter : A Healthy Adventure

Child in the Wild

Observe the Solar System

Created specifically for families with children 12 and under, this Family Day Observatory Program offers several special activities that will teach children about the solar system and our nearest star, the sun! There must be at least one adult chaperone per family and a daytime State Park parking fee is required. Guests should leave enough time to park and walk up to the observatory from the lower parking area as the event begins promptly. Saturday, June 22. 12:30–3:00 p.m. Robert Ferguson Observatory, 2605 Adobe Canyon Rd., Kenwood. Advanced tickets $8–$12: tinyurl.com/24yb2kpm

Understand Agriculture through Fair

Cow-A-Bunga

Sonoma Marin Fair displays the talents of California residents, particularly the youth of its two counties, through agriculture. The public is invited to enjoy educational and recreational opportunities meant to preserve the state’s agricultural heritage. This year’s acts and attraction include a barnyard ag exhibit, carnival, petting zoo, pony rides, balloon man, clown, hypnotist, carnival midway, and 3,000 square feet or brainteasers, puzzles, and more. There are two stages of live music and entertainment, plus a wine garden for adults. Guests can also enter pets into the World’s Ugliest Dog contest by registering online. Tickets are on sale now, ranging from $13–$25 by age. Thursday–Sunday, June 20–23. Hours vary by day. 4th District Agricultural Association, 175 Fairgrounds Dr., Petaluma. sonoma-marinfair.org

Kick-Off Summer Reading

Summer

Reading Challenge 2024 runs June 1–Aug. 10 with activities, books, and prizes at your local library. Expand your knowledge by reading and attending events all summer long. Everyone is welcome, events are free, and you don’t need a library card to attend. Sign up for Summer Reading at the kick-off event and enjoy ice cream, balloons, face painting, and dancing with live music by Los Cenzontles. The kick off is Saturday, June 1. 1–3 p.m. Healdsburg Regional Library Meeting Room, 139 Piper St., Healdsburg. Students can sign up for the Summer Reading Challenge at the library or by visiting sonomalibrary.org/summer.

Sonoma Marin Fair

Family Day Observatory Program

Unique Birthdays

Opt for experiences over parties

By Calleen Petersen

Traditional birthday parties can be difficult for our family as we have a son with special needs. I struggled with how to make his day a success without the typical “having friends over” party and finally hit on the perfect solution: We would have “birthday experiences” rather than parties.

My son, LOVES pirates. So, I planned a pirate-themed day for the family. I found a “pirate cruise” on a local lake that I bought tickets to surprise him with. The latest Pirates of the Caribbean movie had just come out before his birthday,

so with a pirate cruise, a pirate movie, and lunch, we had a birthday planned. We spent the day with our pirate loving every minute of it and he was SO happy.

My daughter, whose birthday was coming up, decided she also needed

an experience activity because of how well her brother’s birthday had gone. As her special day approached, we discussed lots of possibilities. (She is someone who likes having all her options open.) Finally, she settled on having her hair highlighted and a spa day. I took her to a local beauty school and had her hair done for $50. I didn’t have to deal with a dozen preteen girls and all the drama that comes with, or cleaning up after, a party. We painted each other’s nails and picked up her favorite takeout for dinner. For me it was a win-win situation. My daughter was thrilled with her hair and spa day, it wasn’t too expensive, and I enjoyed the quality time it allowed us to have together.

The next year for my son’s birthday, his requested experience was to go to a Renaissance fair. There were a couple in our area. It’s a great way to

help him experience and learn new things, as well as a cool adventure for the whole family. While we looked forward to it, he got busy planning his own costume.

Birthdays don’t have to be the traditional party, cake, and presents. Make new traditions and memories if the old ones don’t work for your family. The most important part of a birthday is making that special someone feel seen on their day and that can be done in lots of ways.

Here are a few other suggestions for an “experience birthday” …

Tea Party Experience: Dress up and take your child to the local tea shop.

Cowboy Experience: Spend the day at a ranch learning how to rope and ride.

Fisherman Experience: Wear your best fishing duds, pack a picnic lunch, and get out on the water. Take Grandpa, too, because chances

Make new traditions if the old ones don’t work for your family.

are he’d love to show you how to cast that line.

On-Ice Experience: Channel your inner Elsa and go ice skating in princess attire or locate a Disney on Ice! show.

Educational Experience:

Is there something your child is passionate about like art, cooking or sports? Find local classes, exhibits or camps to enroll them in as their gift. Spend a day leading up to those activities prepping for them, like making a meal at home with them choosing the menu and overseeing the cooking, drawing together in the park or having a family pickup game!

Take your child’s interests and turn them into a day they will never forget. Birthdays don’t have to be expensive and huge. They should be about making memories and celebrating the life of that special person. ❖

Calleen Petersen is a writer, an aspiring therapist, and a parent of two children, one of whom has special needs.

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4-10 years old Monday-Friday, 9am-1pm, $300/week, per person; 2nd person $275

JUNE

June 10-14: Frozen

June 17-21: Encanto

June 24-28: Moana

July

July 8-12: Frozen july 15-19: trolls july 22-26: little mermaid july 29-aug 2: Tinkerbell&peter pan

Kids will have a blast playing sword-fighting games like Knight’s Melee and Castle Bombard. Plus, we provide the space so you don’t have to fret over cleaning up your house after the big battle.

College Admission Decoded

Preparing to Apply and More

By Angel Jenkins

The Guide to the College Admission Process is a free online resource published by The National Association for College Admission Counseling for anyone considering seeking higher education. It is periodically updated to share tips and trends around the college search and application experience. The document is said to offer “sound advice on every step of the process, from getting in the right mindset, to researching universities, to completing application materials.”

This 100-page guide features 15 chapters ranging in topics from “The College Search Process” to “How to Apply.” Chapter 1 reminds high school seniors that while many of their peers are also applying for college, everyone’s experience is different. Some students already have firm ideas of where they hope to go to college, while others want to explore

all their options. College admissions follows a generally predictible timeline that is only somewhat within your control (such as meeting application deadlines).

Chapter 2 shares terminology that can help high school juniors and seniors better understand what they are researching, like the difference between types of colleges and

universities. The chapter also helps students outline their goals around higher education and explains how to determine what schools may most align with those plans. “Developing a list of specific criteria should always come before choosing colleges to add to your list,” the Guide advises. “To decide on specific schools without a solid sense of your wants and needs is a backward and unhelpful approach, often leading students to focus solely on colleges they have already heard of.” Campus visits and interviews are the subject of Chapter 3, with tips on acing any in-person college interviews. Chapters 4 and 5 present comprehensive details on national college fairs as well as admissions testing (including timelines and test prep ideas).

Chapter 6 provides a detailed breakdown of the types of fees and

applications colleges might require and how students can best present themselves within those applications. According to the Guide: “Most institutions are very explicit about what they want and what they don’t want as part of your application—this is your opportunity to demonstrate that you know how to understand and follow directions.” Chapter 7 offers an application review process timeline, and what students might do while they await decisions.

“Financial Aid for College” is the title of Chapter 8, where types of aid— from grants to loans—are explained. Financial aid terms are defined and various aid programs are shared. “The cost of college is a source of stress or overwhelm for many students and families, and the process for applying

for financial Aid can be confusing and cumbersome in and of itself,” the Guide notes. “All the more reason to make cost and affordability a built-in part of your initial research process so you are as informed as possible when it comes time to apply.”

Chapter 1 reminds high school seniors that while many of their peers are also applying for college, everyone’s experience is different.

Chapter 9 looks at choosing between colleges once accepted, and how to enroll after that choice is made. And if a student finds they do not get accepted to their school of choice,

waitlists and late openings are discussed in Chapter 10.

Chapter 11 touches on the transition from high school to college, including navigating the academic front as well as campus life. “Budgeting time and establishing priorities are among the most difficult challenges new college students face,” according to the Guide. Understanding class schedules and campus structures can help. Being prepared for the responsibilities of life as an independent college student can ease some of the natural stress of freshman year, too.

Chapter 12 discusses transferring from one college to another (which is an option if a student doesn’t at first get accepted to their dream college, or an option if they discover a college to which they are accepted doesn’t turn

out to be a fit for them). Or, perhaps a student wants to complete their general education requirements at community college, then transfer to complete their undergraduate degree.

Alternative higher education options are outlined in Chapter 13, where students may discover ways of earning a degree they had not considered. Last but not least, Chapter 14 focuses on inernational students applying to U.S. colleges and universities.

Chapter 6 provides a detailed breakdown of the types of fees and applications colleges might require …

As an added bonus, the Guide provides advice and encouragement for families in Chapter 15. “Your student may feel uncertain about the decisions they must make, fearful of rejection from colleges, or anxious about meeting deadlines for their college applications and school work,” the Guide underscores. “The best thing you can provide … is unconditional reassurance and regular reminders that where they go to college matters far less than what they choose to do and who they hope to become once they get there.”

The Guide to the College Admission Process is available for download at no charge, here: nacacnet.org/ nacacs-guide-to-the-college-admissionprocess ❖

Angel Jenkins is feature editor for Family Life magazine and a freelance writer and editor for a number of other publications across the U.S.

S Y O U R C H I L D R E A D Y F O R K I N D E R G A R T E N ?

California law requires children entering TK or kindergarten to have these immunizations:

Diphtheria, Pertussis, and Tetanus (DPT)

Measles, Mumps, and Rubella (MMR)

Varicella (Chickenpox)

Hepatitis B Polio

Summer Squabbles

Helping Siblings Manage Battles

By Gina Rich

Warm sunshine. Ice cream. Lazy days splashing around the pool. After a soul-crushing winter and a spring that felt like a second round of winter, parents and children alike are ready for summer to arrive. But what happens when kids who’ve been in separate classrooms all year long are suddenly together for several hours every day?

My children are 20 months apart in age, and their bickering reaches an alarming intensity once summer hits. Sometime during the month of May, as I watch the remaining school days dwindle on the calendar, my stress level rises exponentially, and I start loading up my Amazon cart with chocolate and earplugs.

But maybe this summer will be different, I always tell myself. I’ll plan ahead. My kids will be so busy they won’t have time to fight. I’ll regale them with enriching

activities. I’ll perfect my arsenal of slime recipes, choreograph regular play dates, and thrill the neighborhood kids with my expertise in creating backyard water blobs.

Realistically, I know I’ll do none of this. So I’ve scaled back my expectations. Below are some strategies that I’m hoping will help me preserve my remaining sanity from June until September.

Let each child create a personal “calm down” space at home. When tensions are high,

having a designated special area for each child allows for personal space and provides a fun alternative to the tired refrain, “Go to your room.” In our house, my oldest daughter commandeered a comfortable chair in the living room and stocked it with a few books, stuffed animals, a blanket, and a water bottle.

Consider separate eating areas during particularly challenging times. While it’s important for families to share meals together whenever possible,

Instead of aiming for perfection, set mini goals for behavior throughout the day, and reward success.

sometimes less is more. If the mere act of making eye contact with each other across the breakfast table sparks an argument between your kids, consider allowing them to dine in separate rooms just for one meal. I’ve observed that once my kids are more awake and appropriately fueled with food, they are less likely to push each other’s buttons—and mine.

Plan special dates with each child on a regular basis. Even a brief amount of 1:1 time together—away from siblings and the temptation to compete—can be like hitting the reset button on a child’s behavior. These occasions need not be lengthy and can be incorporated into the family schedule. Examples include playing a card or board game after dinner, or shopping together for favorite

meal ingredients. Perhaps designate which day and time these will happen each week, so kids can look forward to, and help plan, what they want to do together. Plus, it allows for some routine in the otherwise lazy days of summer.

Set mini goals. Let’s face it: There is no universe in which siblings can refrain from bickering 100 percent of the time. It seems to be hardwired into their DNA. Instead of aiming for perfection, set mini goals for behavior throughout the day, and reward success. For example, if my kids can peacefully stay on task in the morning, they get to choose a show to watch together after everyone is ready.

Retire your role as the referee. Too often, I inject myself into my children’s squabbles when the best course of action was to simply refrain from getting involved.

Decide in which situations you’ll intervene—for example, if the argument becomes physical or if

there is hurtful name-calling—and let your kids know these guidelines. Remind yourself that sibling disagreements are normal and can help kids practice conflict resolution skills. When the invariable bickering arises, brew yourself a cup of coffee or tea and calmly inform your kids that, unless it’s a true emergency, you’re unavailable to hear their grievances until such-and-such time. If you have to, leave the room in order to get your point across. If all else fails, earplugs are always an option. ❖

Gina Rich lives in Wisconsin, where she writes about parenting, health, and the natural world for publications including the Washington Post , Notre Dame Magazine , and others.

Capturing Your Special Moments

Summer Visitation

Tips for Custodial and Non-Custodial Parents, Stepparents

By Kimberly Blaker

With a visitation trip on the horizon, both kids and adults may feel a spectrum of emotions. When kids spend extended time with their non-custodial parent, everyone must shift from regular routines and structures. Other emotional challenges may also be involved.

Whether it’s the first summer visitation or another of many, each brings new changes. If the parents’ separation is recent, the situation may be tense. Even if your family has been doing summer visitations for some time, each year is different. New people may be involved, such as partners, stepparents, stepfamilies, or new half-siblings. One or both households may have moved to a new location. People can also change over a year, especially kids, as they grow, and relationships shift.

The best way to ensure a successful visit is to work together to plan,

prepare, and create a positive environment around the visitation.

Children may feel a multitude of emotions about spending summer visitation with their non-custodial parent. They may feel bad about leaving their other parent behind, not want to spend time away from friends, pets, other siblings or family members, or just miss the familiarity of their primary room and possessions.

Kids may also worry about spending time with people living in the non-custodial home, particularly if kids don’t know those individuals well. Different households have different

rules and expectations, which may cause conflict. The following can help reduce anxieties and provide a more positive experience.

Maintain the relationship between kids and the non-custodial parent during physical separations. Stay in touch through text, phone calls, video chats, and shorter visits when possible. That way, everyone feels secure in their connection. Include stepparents and step- or half-siblings to build positive relationships.

Kids have more difficulty understanding and regulating complicated emotions in family dynamics.

Involve kids in planning visits. A visual calendar may be helpful, especially for younger kids. Talk to them about the itinerary and expectations in the other household. Coordinate with the other parent to keep consistencies where possible.

Give kids an opportunity to safely voice their feelings about the visit before, during, and after— while helping them see positives in the situation.

Children will probably experience homesickness. Talk to them about this ahead of time, so they expect it and know it’s normal. Also, make a plan, so they know what to do when they feel homesick. Allow kids to take some comfort items with them.

Custodial parents may feel more negative emotions like stress, anxiety, or sadness about their

kids leaving for an extended period. As the custodial parent, you may be worried about your kids.

Recognize your emotions, both positive and negative, but try to avoid inflicting negative feelings, like guilt, onto your children.

Make plans for yourself, so you have things to look forward to and ways to stay busy. Take advantage of extra time to focus on your relationship with yourself, friends, partner, or other children.

Help your kids pack to ensure they have everything they need. Don’t forget essential items like medications, glasses, retainers, and other personal care items. Keep a record of important information about your children to

share with their other parent. Not just health or medical information, but any other struggles or things going on with the child or their life that would be helpful to know.

Allow kids to take some comfort items or pictures with them and plan regular calls into the schedule.

Have a copy of the itinerary and contact information so you can reach your ex or children in an emergency.

Non-custodial parents may feel excited and apprehensive about everything going smoothly and making sure their kids enjoy their stay.

Have a special room or space for your kids when they visit and either prepare it for them with things they like or allow them to choose decorations or special items to help them feel at home.

Focus on quality time over expensive or extravagant gifts or experiences.

Find ways to connect with your children and participate in their interests or those that you share to help your kids feel seen, heard, and valued.

Expect an adjustment period and big emotions from your kids when they arrive. Understand it’s likely not about you, but instead about their own complicated feelings.

Prepare other children living in your house, stepchildren, or ones with a

new partner, and support them in connecting with your children without forcing it. Make time for them and include them, so they don’t resent the visiting children for taking your attention.

Ensure you have all the vital information about your children’s health and medical needs in case of an emergency.

Stepparents may be unsure how to prepare for summer visitation with their stepchild and worry it might be difficult if the relationship is new or tense. Stepkids may see you as an interloper in their relationship with their parent. If the relationship is challenging, try not to take it personally. Kids have more difficulty understanding and

regulating complicated emotions. They may feel more comfortable taking their frustrations out on you instead of their parents.

Remember, you chose to be with someone who has children. Find things that you love about your partner

Suggest opportunities for your partner and their child to have special time to themselves, especially at the beginning of the visit.

in their children and ways to connect with them or their interests.

Be open to creating a relationship with your stepchildren, but don’t force it. They may take a while to warm up to someone new, especially if they’re jealous of your relationship with their parent.

When parents have a shared custody arrangement, it’s good for everyone to support children in having positive interactions and building healthy relationships with both parents as well as stepparents. With a bit of preparation and cooperation, summer visitation can be a special part of creating a stronger bond and helping children thrive. ❖

Kimberly Blaker is a freelance writer. She also owns an online bookshop, Sage Rare & Collectible Books, specializing in out-of-print, scarce, signed, and first editions; fine bindings; ephemera and more at sagerarebooks.com

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Juneteenth Lessons

Introducing Children to Important

By Rebecca Hastings

THoliday

he holiday popped up on the calendar almost as suddenly as my kids asked what it was. I had a mom moment when I realized I had two choices: I could choose to dismiss the question and move on or I could admit that I didn’t know and suggest we find out more. I must have gotten a good night’s sleep because finding out more seemed like the best option.

It can be hard when kids ask about something that we don’t know a lot about. The good news is that it’s the perfect way to connect and learn about something together. Try these ideas to help your family understand and recognize the importance of Juneteenth.

What is Juneteenth and Why Does It Matter? Juneteenth celebrates the freedom of enslaved African Americans in the United States. Despite the Emancipation

Proclamation freeing slaves on January 1, 1863, it took more than two years for the decree to free slaves in the Confederate state of Texas.

“Freedom finally came on June 19, 1865, when some 2,000 Union troops arrived in Galveston Bay, Texas.

The army announced that the more than 250,000 enslaved black people in the state, were free by executive decree. This day came to be known as ‘Juneteenth,’ by the newly freed people in Texas.” (Smithsonian)

Juneteenth became a holiday the following year. While Juneteenth was just added as a federal holiday in 2021, it is considered the oldest African American holiday in the U.S. The name Juneteenth is a combination of the words June and nineteenth.

This holiday offers opportunities to consider what freedom looks like in our world. We can use Juneteenth as a way to look back at how far we’ve come and look forward to continuing the work of ensuring freedom for generations to come.

How Do We Celebrate? The most important way you can celebrate this holiday, regardless of your race, is by showing honor and respect. Learning about black culture, supporting black organizations, and fostering an atmosphere of learning are the best places to start.

Begin with Books This is always a great place for families to start learning more together. It provides a culturally- and age-appropriate way for everyone to learn more. Start with books such as: Juneteenth by Vaunda Micheaux Nelson, All Different Now: Juneteenth, the First Day of Freedom by Angela Johnson and Juneteenth for Mazie by Floyd Cooper.

Beyond the holiday itself, choose books that highlight the black experience and black culture to help your family better understand what the celebration represents. Even exploring President Abraham Lincoln’s Emancipation Proclamation speech and music such as freedom songs will create a more vivid understanding for kids.

Have a Red Cookout Celebrating outdoors represents freedom. The key

to the foods you choose may be to step outside of your comfort zone. Red foods like watermelon, red velvet cake, strawberry pie, and even hot sauce on Juneteenth often symbolize resilience and strength, while foods like brisket, beans, and bread round out the celebration menu. This is a great way to have fun with everything from meat to spicy tea!

Show Support Juneteenth serves as an important reminder of our nation’s history. Supporting black-owned organizations and businesses is a wonderful way to continue the work that started so many years ago. Whether you shop in a local black-owned business or send a donation online, this type of support is a tangible way to link

arms for the prosperity and freedom Juneteenth represents.

Say It Wish black friends and family a Happy Juneteenth as you celebrate and recognize the holiday. This simple phrase goes a long way in fostering respect. “The easiest way

Juneteenth serves as an important reminder of our nation’s history.

to wish someone a is by messaging them and wishing them a fulfilled day. Similar to Black History Month, and other important anniversaries to Black Americans, it is important to acknowledge it as an

American holiday, even if you do not celebrate it.” (Logan)

Keep Working The best way we can all work to celebrate Juneteenth is to keep doing the work needed for racial freedom in the U.S. and beyond. Have honest and respectful

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June Calendar of Events

Experience Santa Rosa Symphony

The Santa Rosa Symphony presents “Road to 100: The Complete Beethoven Symphonies, Year 1.” Conducted by Francesco Lecce-Chong, the orchestra is showcased in unique configurations to reflect how the symphonies may have been played in Beethoven’s time. Making use of modern-day acoustics, this performance showcases Beethoven’s Symphony No. 1 and the celebrated Symphony No. 3, “Eroica,” which created a whole new world of symphonic possibilities. Sunday, June 9. 3-5 p.m. Weill Hall, Green Music Center on the Sonoma State University campus, 1801 E. Cotati Ave., Rohnert Park. Tickets are $32-$110: tinyurl.com/zv7kkypd

Saturday 1

Dino Dental Lab Grand Opening. A variety of fun dental activities

including viewing your own teeth, animal teeth, tooth fairy pillows, & more. Members free. Non-members:

$16. Infants 11 months & younger: Free. Discounts available for qualifying guests. 10 a.m.–2 p.m. Children’s Museum of Sonoma County. 1835 W. Steel Ln., Santa Rosa. cmosc.org.

FREE Cornerstone Sonoma Summer Music Series. June 1: Ellie James. June 8: Chance McCauley. June 15: Jacob Philip Benning Band. June 22: JMCO. June 29: The Henry Coopers. Saturdays. 11:30 a.m.–2:30 p.m. 23570 Arnold Dr., Sonoma. cornerstonesonoma.com.

FREE Party on the Plaza. Live music, food, local artisan crafts & more. Fridays 5–8 p.m. Rohnert Park Library, North Parking Lot. 500 City Center Dr., Rohnert Park. Schedule coming soon: rb.gy/cm36s7.

FREE Summer Nights on the Green Concerts. Family lawn games, live music, food vendors, & farm fresh produce. June 1: Pride & Joy (Pop/R&B). June 8: Mustache Harbor (Soft Rock). June 15: Orquesta son de Caña (Latin Salssa). June 22: Anthony

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Santa Rosa Symphony

Paule Soul Orchestra featuring Terrie Odabi (Blues). June 29: Skynyrd & Frynd (Southern Rock). Thursdays. Farmers’ Market: 5–8 p.m. Live Music: 6–8 p.m. Windsor Town Green. 9291 Old Redwood Hwy., Windsor. townofwindsor.com.

Lavender Labyrinth Daze. Tour flower fields & walk the labyrinth. Bring a picnic. $15-$20. Ages 12 & younger: Free with adult. Fridays–Sundays. 10 a.m.–4 p.m. Bees & Blooms. 3883 Petaluma Hill Rd., Santa Rosa. Registration required: beesnblooms.com.

Ribbit Exhibit. Nationally-touring exhibition. Whimsical presentation of 20+ human-sized frog characters placed in vignettes throughout the Garden. $8–$15. Ages 4 & under: Free. Discounts available for teachers & active military. Open Daily: 10 a.m.–5 p.m. Extended hours Wednesdays: 5-8 p.m. Runs thru Aug. 31. Sonoma Botentical Garden. 12841 Hwy. 12, Glen Ellen. sonomabg.org/visit/ ribbit-exhibit

FREE Rialto Cinemas Family Matinees. Wizard of Oz. Family Matinees held the first Saturday & Sunday of the month. May 1 & 2: 11 a.m. 6868 McKinley St., Sebastopol. rialtocinemas.com/sebastopol

FREE Forestville Youth Park BBQ. BBQ chicken, beans, steak & oysters. Live music, vendor & craft booths. No pets or coolers. Proceeds benefit the Youth Park. June 1 & 2: 11 a.m.–8 p.m. Parade: June 3: 10 a.m. 7045 Mirable Rd. Forestville. forestvilleyouthpark.org

FREE Child in the Wild. Sonoma County Pomo Dancers, Redwood Empire Chinese Dragon Dancers,

Jeffrey Whitebear & the Wild Ones, bounce house, nature activities, & much more. Noon–4 p.m. Howarth Park (lower lawn). 630 Summerfield Rd., Santa Rosa. sonomalandtrust.org/ events/child-in-the-wild

FREE Sonoma County Pride Parade & Festival. Parade: 11 a.m.

(Kicks-off at 4th St. & Mendocino Ave.) Festival: Noon–5 p.m. Courthouse Square at 4th St., Santa Rosa. sonomacountypride.org/parade

Sunday 2

FREE Club: Pokemon & Magic the Gathering. Trading Card Game. For ages: 10–17 yrs. Sundays. 2:30–4 p.m.

Nature Camp

Sonoma Library. 755 W. Napa St., Sonoma. rb.gy/lz79fh

Tuesday 4

Early Release Enrichment at Veronda-Falletti Ranch. Provides farm, nature & art-based experiences, snacks provided. For elementary school-aged children who have 1/2 days on Tuesdays & Wednesdays. $10 a day & up. 1–4:30 p.m. Early Extended Care available on Wednesdays. Veronda-Falletti Ranch. 175 W. Sierra Ave., Cotati. Registration required: sandyloam.org

FREE Santa Rosa Taco Tuesdays Rides. Family event. All cyclists welcome to roll through downtown Santa Rosa (8-miles round trip). Taco trucks will be on hand to sell tacos & drinks. Tuesdays: Meet up 5:30 p.m.

Pedals up 6 p.m. Ride: 5:30–8:30 p.m. Franklin Park. 2095 Franklin Ave., Santa Rosa. tinyurl.com/yvytx69u.

FREE Luther Locals Live. June 4: Hunka Hunka Hula Revue. June 11: Twin Soles. June 18: Everything Taken. All ages welcome. No pets. Bring low-back lawn chairs or blankets. Tuesdays. 5:30–7:30 p.m. Nelson Family Grand Plaza. Luther Burbank Center. 50 Mark Springs Rd., Santa Rosa. lutherburbankcenter.org

FREE Tuesdays in the Plaza. Live music, food vendors, & farm fresh produce. Tuesdays. 6–8 p.m. Healdsburg Plaza. Healdsburg Ave. & Matheson St., Healdsburg. ci.healdsburg.ca.us/335/ tuesdays-in-the-plaza.

Wednesday 5

FREE Summer Campus Tour. Visit 38-acre campus, biodynamic farm & learn how Summerfield integrates the campus into its curriculum at every grade. Parents only. 10 a.m –11 a.m. Summerfield Waldorf School & Farm. 655 Willowside Rd., Santa Rosa. Register: summerfieldwaldorf.org

FREE Future Club Career Ready

After-school Program. Homework, art, music, dance, & entrepreneurship. Snacks/refreshments provided. 2–6 p.m. Sebastopol Community Cultural Center, Main Hall. 390 Morris St., Sebastopol. seb.org/future-club.

Learn to Ride a Bike. Ages 5-11. Step-by-step guided instruction, how to balance & get rolling. Bring bicycle with training wheels removed, &

JUNE 22 • 12:30-3PM

Created for families with children 12 and under. Children will have an opportunity to participate in several special activities that will teach them about our solar system and our nearest star, the sun! Click here for more information and to purchase tickets.

helmet. Petaluma June 5 & Santa Rosa June 12. Hosted by Sonoma County Bicycle Coalition. $10. 3:30–4:30 p.m. For full schedule: tinyurl.com/y7bpzsaf.

Everybody Dance Now! The Dance Center’s annual dance performance ages 7-12 & adults, performing ballet, tap, jazz, hip hop, contemporary, musical theatre, & acrobatics. $16–$29. Ages 3–5: $10. Under age 3: sitting on lap free. June 5–8: 7:30 p.m. Spreckels Performing Arts Center. 5409 Synder Ln., Rohnert Park. To register & for a full schedule: tinyurl.com/ybkm37tx.

Thursday 6

Pacific Air Museum Hot Dog Thursday. Family event that takes place on the field among the airplanes & helicopters. $8–$10. Held first Thursday of the month. 11:30 a.m.–1:30 p.m. Pacific Coast Air Museum, One Air Museum Way, Santa Rosa. pacificcoastairmuseum. org/events.

FREE Art at Sonoma Clean Power. In support of local art and artists, Sonoma Clean Power presents a small exhibit at its Santa Rosa Headquarters, featuring some talented local artists. Artwork will encompass a range of styles and mediums and is available to view by appointment only. Visitors will have the opportunity to view and purchase works. 3-6 p.m. Sonoma Clean Power Business Office, 431 E St., Santa Rosa. Tickets: tinyurl. com/2vkfrmtv

FREE Thursday Summer Nights on the Green Concerts. Family lawn games, food vendors, & more. June 6: Dustin Saylor & the Stowaways (Country). June 13: Kalimba (Earth,

Wind & Fire tribute). June 20: The Purple Ones (Prince Tribute). June 27: Apple Z (Rock). Farmers’ Market: 5–8 p.m. Live Music: 6–8 p.m. See website for parking instructions. Windsor Town Green. 9291 Old Redwood Hwy., Windsor. townofwindsor.com

Friday 7

FREE Bodega Marine Laboratory Tours. Docent-led. Explore the dynamic biodiversity of the Northern California coast. Fridays 2–4 p.m. Bodega Marine Laboratory. 2099 Westshore Rd., Bodega Bay. Reservations: tinyurl.com/yc4ekye4.

FREE Friday Night Live at the Plaza. June 7: Con Brio (Psych Rock/Soul/Funk). June 14: Banda Pacifica (Banda, Mexican). June 21: Hot Buttered Rum (Bluegrass). June 28: Scythian (Celtic, Gypsy Folks).

Street Fair: 6 p.m. Live music: 7-9:30 p.m. Downtown Cloverdale. cloverdaleartsalliance.org.

Funky Friday Music Series. June 7: Anthony Paule Soul Orchestra. June 14: Onye & the Messengers. June 21: Big Brother & the Holding Company. June 28: Soul Fuse. Picnicking $15–$25. 12 & younger: Free. Bring low-back lawn chairs or blankets. Gates open: 6 p.m. Music: 7–9 p.m. Hood Mansion. Hood Regional Park. 389 Casa Manana, Santa Rosa. fridaysatthehood.com.

Saturday 8

FREE Lectura Fest! A celebration of reading, music, & culture. Fun activities with the Children’s Museum of Sonoma County, a photo booth, & much more. For ages 0–17 yrs. 10:30 a.m.–3 p.m. SR Central Library. 211 E. St. Santa Rosa. tinyurl.com/32w3s8x4.

FREE Family Day at the Museum of Sonoma County. Art activities held the second Saturday of the month. Noon–2 p.m. Sonoma County Museum. 425 7th St., Santa Rosa. museumsc.org.

FREE Cotati Music Festival. The Sorentinos head a line-up of 4 bands. Bring blanket or low-back chairs. No animals. Noon–6 p.m. La Plaza Park. Old Redwood Hwy. & W. Sierra Ave., Cotati. cotati.org.

Second Saturday Cartoonist. Meet, watch, and talk to Georgia Dunn, creator of the comic strip & book series Breaking Cat News Cost included with Museum admission. $5–$12. Age 3 & under: Free. Discounts available for qualifying guests. 1–3 p.m. Charles Schulz Museum. 2301 Hardies Ln., Santa Rosa. schulzmuseum.org/ georgia-dunn.

Public Star Party. Astronomical topics & telescopes open for viewing. $5–$15. Ages 5 & under: Free, but still requires a ticket. Parking $10. 9 p.m.-Midnight. Robert Ferguson Observatory. 2605 Adobe Canyon Rd., Kenwood. tinyurl.com/2s4b627n.

Free Lunch for Kids! ¡Almuerzo gratuito para niños!

Sunday 9

Peggy Sue Car Show. June 9, 3–7 p.m.: Music, food & screening of the movie, Grease, at sundown. June 10, 8 a.m.–4 p.m.: Classic car show with live music. 9 a.m.–2 p.m. Admission

$10. Ages 12 & younger: Free. Parking $10. Sonoma County Fairgrounds. 1350 Bennett Valley Rd., Santa Rosa. (Cruise-in June 10, 5:30–8:30 p.m. in downtown Santa Rosa.) cruiseforpeggysue.com.

Sunday Fundays. Froggy-themed scavenger hunt, face-painting, arts & crafts, family yoga, music, lawn games, & more. Members: Free. Non-members: Cost included with Museum admission. $8–$15. Age 4 & under: Free. 1–4 p.m. Sonoma Botanical Garden. 12841 Hwy. 12, Glen Ellen. tinyurl.com/y3pwczsb

FREE Erica Ambrin: Ever- Evolving Hip-Hop Soul Artist. Ambrin’s eclectic taste in music influences her writing – giving vibes of Erykah Badu, The Fugees, & The Alabama Shakes. For ages 10–17 yrs. & adults. 2–3 p.m. Rincon Valley Library. 6959 Montecito Blvd., Santa Rosa. Rincon Valley & Guernville Branches will host this event. Full schedule: tinyurl.com/yb76rtcu.

Monday 10

Movies on the Courthouse Square. June 10: Barbie. June 17: The Little Mermaid (2023). June 14: Hook. Bring chairs & blankets. Food & drinks available for purchase. Preshow entertainment: 6 p.m. Movie starts at dusk. Courthouse Square. Fourth St. and Santa Rosa Ave., Santa Rosa. downtownsantarosa.org

Tuesday 11

FREE Family Movies on the Green. Outdoor film screening. June 11: The Lion King. June 18: A Million Miles Away. June 25: Barbie. Bring blanket or low back chair. No blankets on lawn before 4:30 p.m. There is no shuttle for this event. Movie begins 15 minutes

after Sunset. Windsor Town Green. 9291 Old Redwood Hwy., Windsor. tinyurl.com/mtnpwfc7.

Friday 14

Country Summer Music Festival. Featuring Old Dominion, Little Big Town, Jordon Davis, plus many more artists. $89–$399. More for

Every Thursday 12pm-3pm & 4-6:30pm

Free to Join in May and September Willard Libby Park, Sebastopol CA

Every Friday 12pm-3pm & 4-6:30pm

Free to Join in May and September Lucchesi Park, Petaluma CA

• June (10th-14th) All Skill Level Camp! New player training available. Basic crafting available.

• June (24th-28th) All Skill Level Camp! New player training available. Basic crafting available.

• July (22nd-26th) All Skill Level Camp! New player training available. Basic crafting available.

• August (5th-9th) Existing Characters Camp - No training at this event. This event does not include basic training, and players must know the core rules already. Crafting available.

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VIP tickets. Runs thru June 16. Sonoma County Fairgrounds. 1350 Bennett Valley Rd., Santa Rosa. Tickets: countrysummer.com

Saturday 15

FREE MLK/Juneteenth 54th Festival. Live entertainment, arts & crafts, basketball tournament, vendor & food booths, & much more. 10 a.m.–6 p.m. MLK Park. 1671 Hendley St., Santa Rosa. tinyurl.com/38spbnjs

FREE Wilikos Through the Ages Walk. What would life be like thousands of years ago in Wilikos (today known as Sugarloaf Ridge SP)? Join Desi Harp, member of the Mishewal-Wappo tribe in this easy family hike of storytelling & reflection through time. $5–$12. Ages 12 & under: Free. 10 a.m.–1 p.m. Sugarloaf Ridge State Park. Meet-up: White Barn parking lot, 1/2 mile past the entrance kiosk. Register: tinyurl.com/ mwz6zzk6.

Father’s Day BBQ, Brew & Cars. Live music, classic cars. Lunch available for purchase at Folktable Restaurant (reservations required). Noon–2 p.m. 23570 Arnold Dr., Sonoma. Tickets & reservations: tinyurl.com/35u29tr6.

FREE 5 & Under Meet-up. For parent of a child under 5 with a disability, medical complexity, or any sort of unique need. Enjoy snacks & companionship with other CGS families. Siblings welcome. 10 a.m.–Noon. Common Ground Society. 85 Brookwood Ave., Ste. 12, Santa Rosa. (Entrance west side of building). tinyurl.com/wujarb53.

Sunday 16

FREE Father’s Day Show & Shine Car Show. Vendor & food booths. 9 a.m.–4 p.m. Juilliard Park. 227 Santa Rosa Ave., Santa Rosa. nceca.org.

Father’s Day at the Museum. Free admission for fathers. All others: $5–$12. Ages 3 & younger: Free. 10 a.m.–5 p.m. Charles Schulz Museum. 2301 Hardies Ln., Santa Rosa. tinyurl. com/mr3crdes

Monday 17

Potter the Otter : A Healthy Adventure Grand Opening. Interactive pop-up Museum exhibit based on the book series Potter the Otter, published by First 5 Santa Clara County & created by the Joe Children’s Discovery Museum. Members: Free. Non-members: $16. Infants 11 months & younger: Free. Discounts available for qualifying guests. 10 a.m.–3 p.m. Children’s Museum of Sonoma County. 1835 W. Steel Ln., Santa Rosa. cmosc.org

FREE Crafting with Creativebug. Make personalized dishware using plain ceramic pieces & porcelain pens. Material provided. For grades 7–12. 4–5:30 p.m. Roseland Library. 470 Sebastopol Rd., Santa Rosa. Healdsburg & Cloverdale Branches will host this event. Registration & schedule: tinyurl.com/59v5z3fc.

Tuesday 18

FREE Hands-on cooking & nutrition. Education class led by Ceres Community Project teens & staff. For grades 7–12. 2–3:30 p.m. Windsor Library. 9291 Old Redwood Hwy., Windsor. Healdsburg Library Branch will host this event.

Registration & schedule: tinyurl. com/25r9m75y

Thursday 20

FREE Safari Encounters. Part of the Summer Reading Challenge 2024. Books, prizes, & events. Ages 8 & younger must be accompanied by an adult. 11 a.m.–Noon. Sebastopol Library. 7140 Bodgea Ave., Sebastopol. Other Library Branches will host this event. Full schedule: tinyurl.com/ yb76rtcu

Sonoma-Marin Fair. $12–$25. Ticket includes carnival & concert. $15 for preferred parking. June 20–23. Thursday: Noon–11 p.m. Friday & Saturday: Noon–Midnight. Sunday: Noon–11 p.m. Gates close at 10 p.m. Sonoma-Marin Farigrounds. 175 Fairgrounds Dr., Petaluma. sonoma-marinfair.org.

Summertime! Broadway Under the Stars. A musically theatrical event celebrating Sonoma County community through song & dance. $35–$190. Beverages available for purchase (no food trucks). Thursday–Sunday. Gates open 5:30 p.m. with VIP tickets. 6:30 p.m.: All other ticket levels. Showtime: 7:30 p.m. Runs thru June 23. Sonoma Field of Dreams. 151 1st St. W., Sonoma. Tickets: tinyurl. com/464jvy44

Friday 21

FREE Common Ground SocietyIEP Study Hall. Informal community get-together to work on IEP, 504, IFSP, IPP, or any other medical, special education, disability, or advocacy plan. Bring your IEP binder, or your documents. Snacks, supplies, & reference materials provided. 9 a.m.–Noon. Common Ground Society. 85

Brookwood Ave., Ste. 12, Santa Rosa. Registration accepted up to 24 hours in advance: tinyurl.com/wujarb53.

Sierra Nevada World Music Festival. Summer Solstice, Peace Celebration, & Full Moon Gathering. Top Reggae & world music artists perform in a family-friendly atmosphere. Camping, vendors, workshops, kidzone, & more. Single & 3-day tickets, camping passes. Payment plans for tickets & camping. June 21–23. Mendocino County Fairgrounds, Boonville. Tickets & full schedule: snwmf.com.

Saturday 22

FREE Family Bike Workshop. Tips, tricks, & tools for bicycling safely. Children & parents must participate & bring their own bikes & helmets. 10 a.m.–12:30 p.m. Lucchesi Park. 320 N McDowell Blvd., Petaluma. To register/full schedule: tinyurl.com/ y7bpzsaf

Family Day Program @ RFO. Activities teach children about the solar system and our nearest star, the sun. Created specifically for ages 12 & under. At least one adult chaperone per family required. $8–$12. State Park parking fee required. 12:30–3:30 p.m. Robert Ferguson Observatory. 2605 Adobe Canyon Rd., Kenwood. Registration required: rfo.simpletix.com

Russian River Rodeo. $7–$15. $40 Family-Pack (2 adults & kids). Ages 5 & under free. Discounts available for qualifying guests. June 22–23. Gates open: Noon. Rodeo: 1 p.m. 23450 Moscow Rd., Duncan Hills. Tickets: russianriverrodeo.com.

Family Fun Night. Screening of the movie, Surf’s Up. Bring lawn chairs, blankets, or something comfortable to sit on. Popcorn/drinks provided. Members: Free. Non-members: $10/ family (2 adults & 2 children living in the same household). 5 p.m. YMCA. Activity Room. 1111 College Ave., Santa Rosa. Register: tinyurl.com/ bd7dp7x2

Monday 24

FREE City of Sonoma Community Swim Day. Families are invited. Locker rooms & showers available. Lifeguards on duty. Adults must accompany children under 14. 6 a.m.–8 p.m. Sonoma Valley High School. 20000 Broadway, Sonoma. tinyurl.com/cuabvrhr.

Tuesday 25

FREE Sick Tree Day. Groups of horticulture experts from the Department of Forestry & Windsor Tree Board will visit properties around Windsor for advice on trees that have diseases or pests. 5–8 p.m. Call 970-674-3500 for an appt. Space limited. Registration required: tinyurl. com/5eyevhzw.

Friday 28

FREE Movies in the Park. Outdoor film screening of Kicking & Screaming Bring blanket or low back chair. 8:30–10:30 p.m. Eastman Park. 7025 Eastman Park Dr., Windsor. tinyurl. com/2vrrt5b9.

Interpreting Dad’s Stance

How Pop Poses Tells a Story

By Shannon Carpenter

In honor of Father’s Day, Family Life’s resident stay-at-home dad explains some standard Pop poses … Classic Yard Stance Hands on hips with khaki yardwork shorts sagging in back, the “classic” is seen every spring weekend. Accompanied by oversized sunglasses to help dad feel he’s still cool but a wide-brimmed hat confirming otherwise, this dad stance bodes the question: What is Dad thinking about? There is only one correct answer: The Roman Empire.

Where’s My Tools? Stance Arms crossed in his garage, Dad stares at a lonely Phillips head screwdriver. Where is the rest of the set he got for Christmas? They were here just a minute ago! The slotted screwdriver,

the hexagonal screwdriver, and the weird little jeweler’s screwdriver are all gone. No, it is not possible that Dad didn’t put his tools back where they belonged. It had to be one of the children. But which one? It’s best if he just sits back and thinks about the Roman Empire before hashing out this mystery.

The Past Curfew Stance Oh, you’ve done messed up now. The clock reads 12:01 a.m. and you were not home. You walk in to find Dad not in a stance at all, but sitting. There is no sound, the room is dark, and Dad appears calm but your defenses go up. You check your phone, now it’s 12:02 a.m. How long will you be grounded for causing your father such worry and heartache? His life is harmed every

second you are late. The visions that haunted him will last a lifetime. It’s best to distract him by asking about the Roman Empire.

Arms Wide Open Stance Your heart beats faster as you see your Dad stand tall. Every time you go out, this happens. And it happens with everyone you have met since the day you were born. It’s so embarrassing. Dad doesn’t care that he wears black socks with sandals. He pays no attention to the cuts and scrapes on his arms he got retrieving your favorite toy from behind the thorn bush. What he does care about is telling everyone how awesome you are. To anyone within earshot, the speech begins, “Let me tell you about my kid: Friends, Romans, Countrymen—my kid found my screwdriver today.”

Take on a Tornado Stance The weather turns foul and clouds begin to circle. Tornado alarms have started. Dad stands on his front porch, calm as a Roman soldier heading into battle. Deep down, he knows he can’t take on a tornado. At the same time, this is his family, and they are scared. Fists balled next to his sides, he thinks he could tackle a tornado if he had to. Dads can do anything because their kids believe they can. Lasso the moon, ride the wind, tackle a tornado. He breathes deep, gives up the thought, and instead uses those wide arms to hug his kids. That stance keeps them safe during scary times. ❖

Shannon Carpenter is a professional humorist and the author of The Ultimate Stay-at-Home Dad: Your Essential Manual for Being an Awesome Full-Time Father

4th

of July

Fireworks Spectacular

Santa Rosa Symphony

Transcendence Theatre Company Thu, July 4 at 7:30 p.m.

Niko Moon

Sat, July 13 at 7:30 p.m.

Chiquis – Diamantés Tour

Sun, July 14 at 7 p.m.

UB40 Red Red Wine Tour

with special guest Inner Circle Sun, July 28 at 7 p.m.

Colbie Caillat & Gavin DeGraw Fri, August 9 at 7:30 p.m.

The Beach Boys

Wed, August 28 at 7:30 p.m.

The Voice of Whitney A Symphonic Celebration Sat, September 7 at 7:30 p.m.

Global Roots Sonoma Lila Downs DakhaBrakha Caña Dulce y Caña Brava Canzoniere Grecanico Salentino

Sam Reider & Jorge Glem Sat, September 21 | 12 p.m. – 7:30 p.m. World Music Festival | 4 Stages

Festival del Sole August 1–4

Weill Hall

Plus, a special screening

Featuring performances by Olga Kern, Nina Kotova, Viktoria Mullova, Pinchas Zukerman, Amanda Forsyth, Michael Stephen Brown, and Joseph Calleja.

Szaggars Redford’s multidisciplinary work

Way of the Rain: Hope for

narration by Robert Redford.

Robert Redford Joseph Calleja

Viktoria Mullova Nina Kotova

Pinchas Zukerman Olga Kern