OnQ Carolina Edition Issue 008 (Extended Electronic Version)

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Bunch We could ramble on all day about OnQ Carolina Editon.

We could tell you that we’re the only gay publication in the Carolinas that prints 100% full color. We could slip in the fact that we’re the only ones who print on glossy recycled paper. We’d be boasting if we said that we are the only gay publication that had a large electronic distribution of over 6,000 subscribers on top of our 5,000 issues in print. You may call it bragging when we slip in that over 27,500 sets of eyes saw our last issue. Actually, I don’t think we need to say any of that at all. The covers from our first eight issues seen above, our ad rates to the right, plus our 25% donation to pride through August 31st pretty much says it all.

So, I guess the only thing we can say is... Are You OnQ? Contact us today to see real results. (202) 567.8947 -or- jamie.seabolt@ruOnQ.com

OnQCarolina

The Bi-Weekly Guide to GLBTIQ Life in North & South Carolina ••••••••••••••• june 5th, 2009, issue 008 •••••••••••••••

publisher Jamie Seabolt

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executive editor Jamie Seabolt

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cover design Jamie Seabolt

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04 editor’s rave & review

06djplay

This issue DJ Middleground talks about The. E.N.D.

08feature column

Oh yea, I can tell he’s a flamer. This issue W.J. Moody looks into Gaydar.

Is it science or is it simply science fiction?

10 Drag Up The Dirt 12 iQ Fitness & Wellness

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In this issue, Matt sits for a one-on-one with Will

14 north carolina nightlife maps & directory 17 south carolina nightlife maps & directory 18 random rants

Opinions expressed by advertisers, columnists, feature writers, or other contributors are not necessarily the opinions of OnQ Carolina Edition, the OnQ Network, it’s affiliates, or staff. All advertisements, sponsored features, pictures, text, and illustrations, are published with the understanding that the advertisers are fully authorized and have secured proper written consent for use thereof. OnQ Carolina Edition shall not be held responsible for any errors, loss or expense, or liabilities on advertisements accepted after the issue deadline. Publication of the name, photograph of any person, or advertisements, contained in this issue is not to be construed as any indication of the sexual orientation of such person, advertiser, or organization. Partial or incomplete reproduction of any advertisement, column, feature, or photograph from OnQ Carolina Edition is strictly prohibited. OnQ Carolina Edition is part of the OnQ Network and protected by trademark. All rights reserved.

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Matt Culberson • OnQt

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W.J. Moody • Feature Column wj.moody@ruOnQ.com

contributors DJ Awsum DJ Duck DJ Mad Manny

DJ Cub DJ Ghost

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what’s happening • OnQ Carolina •

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in my own opinion

by Jamie Seabolt, Executive Editor

Mr. Gay.com Community Leader 2008 jamie.seabolt@ruOnQ.com • www.ruOnQ.com/seaboltjamie

editor’s rave&review I can ramble all day (and miss catching a few typos)...

Ouch that freaking hurts!

Oh sorry, that’s just another growing pain. Who would have thought we would have grown faster than we could keep up with? We may have only been sixteen pages last issue and only twelve pages this issue (with eight more online of course), but the response from the general public as been astounding.

As of Midnight June 1st, we had 4,918 Myspace friends, thats up from 3,552 on May 8th. Almost 1,500 new friends since our first issue hit the street. Better yet, our number of e-mails with kind words and our electronic distribution list flew the roof. Even though we have had our distirbution hiccups, 5,000 copies in print, over 6,000 electronic copies distributed, with an industry passa-long rate of 2.5 readers per copy, that means over 27,500 people saw OnQ Carolina last issue. I am also pleased to know that locations throughout the Carolinas such as Greensboro and Columbia can’t keep issues in the bar! Two clubs actually distributed every copy they had on hand on the very first day! I have to thank everyone, and I do mean EVERYONE, for welcoming us into the community and sharing us with others. Just make sure you tell your favorite gay bar or business how much you LOVE OnQ Carolina (because it’s their ads that make it all happen). You know, once you get passed all the math above, it certainly shows that things are moving in the right direction.

pen to paper with just an idea I knew that OnQ Carolina Edition would be different. It would be fresh, witty, sexy, but smart. Again in September 2008 when we put distributed our first electronic issue and yet again last month with our first print edition, that original path never changed.

With all that said, let me pick my jaw up for a second, catch my breath and say that I was caught very off guard to see a staple of 24 years in gay media make a sharp 360 degree turn in it’s own direction. A traditional gay resource that people have came to respect; a newspaper professional businesses feel comfortable with; produced a SEX issue?!? If you’ve ever been to Atlanta, this kind of image would be

once you get passed all of the math, it shows we’re moving in the right direction

Speaking of direction, let me just say that from the very beginning I knew what OnQ would be and what path it would take. In March 2006 when I put

that of seeing Southern Voice (SOVO) putting the top 10 public sex spots on the front cover. And funnier yet, seeing David Atlanta running CSPAN style politics & news on their cover. Remember kids... Oil and Water. They dont mix.

Now that we are cooking, let me tell you about two amazing things we’ve cooked up here at OnQ this Summer.

First off, Pride season is now underway and we all need to remember the 40 year anniversary of the Stonewall riots. Unfortunatly funding for a lot of our Pride Events on such an important year is short due to the economy. With that in mind, OnQ Carolina Edition is donating 25% of the ad purchase price on EVERY ad we sell in OnQ Carolina to area pride.

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That’s right. Not only can your favorite bar or business be seen in full-color, glossy print, but now they can help us to help build bigger, stronger prides here at home. So between now and August 31st every ad counts. You can learn more on the back cover of this issue.

Next, what better way to keep things fresh then by having a fun OnQ “gayme” this issue? What am I talking about? Well, we are playing “Secret Phrase” and the winner walks away with a Magellan GPS Navigation System courtesy of OnQ Carolina Edition.

It’s very simple to play. We are hiding two words that make up the secret phrase. One is hidden in our print edition (the one you can pick up and touch at your favorite nightlife destination), the other word is hidden in our electonic edition (that you get in your e-mail, on Myspace, and our website). Find both words, put them together, and e-mail that Secret Phrase to us. A winner will be announced in our Independence Day Issue. For more details check out the details on Page 11.

Well, I can ramble on all day (and miss catching a few typos), but i’m gonna sign off this issue. I just hope i’m not inadvertently creating yet another blueprint.

Oh, and one final note. Be sure to visit the new OnQ Carolina Edition Viewer and our enhanced archive at www.OnQcarolina.com - it is well worth the look.

Cheers! • Jamie Seabolt was named a Top Five Gay Entreprenuer in 2004 by Gay.com for his creation of two tabloid gay newspapers GOGayGuy and Get Out Pittsburgh. Most recently, Jamie was awarded Mr.Gay. com Community Leader 2008 with over 55,000 Gay.com member votes. He presently resides in Myrtle Beach, SC.

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The E.N.D. (The Energy Never Dies) is the BLACK EYE PEAS’ fifth studio album after a nearly 4 year break dated to be released 06/09/09.

The BLACK EYED PEAS also known as BEP are a Hip Hop/Pop force consisting Apl.De.Ap, Fergie, Taboo and group leader Wil.I.Am. The E.N.D. is creating some heavy buzz on the web as Will.I.Am is hard at work to bridge the gap between the Hip Hop world and the underground dance scene.

The first single “Boom Boom Pow” selling over 450,000 digital downloads the first week making it the third largest weekly total ever. The E.N.D. is slated to be the most anticipated album of the summer. “Boom Boom Pow” is a high energy, futuristic auto-tuned delight for dancers everywhere. Their second single “Imma Be” starts out as a bouncy hip hop club banger that builds into a smooth and sexy electrofide house track. On the third single “I Got A Feelin” the BEP teamed up with DJ/Producer David Guetta.

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feature column

by W.J. Moody

wj.moody@ruOnQ.com www.ruOnQ.com/mbfire

gaydar:

is it science or science fiction?

It has long been known that many homosexuals have a well tuned sixth sense that is able to detect the presence of another homosexual;

this inner voice has been coined gaydar ever since, which is short for gay-radar. The function of gaydar relies on usually non-verbal sensory information and intuitions. These include the sensitivity to social behaviors and mannerisms; for instance, acknowledging flamboyant mannerisms, overtly rejecting traditional gender roles, a person’s occupation and grooming habits. While most anyone can identify an overtly effeminate limp wristed male or a butch denim clad work boot wearing female as the quintessential stereotypical homosexual; the vast majority of gays fly under the casual radar of many.

There has been considerable social and psychological debate on whether or not gaydar does in fact exist. In order to fully determine if gaydar is indeed validated by scientific fact, or simply a popular social game, we must understand some basic concepts of sexual orientation, including, but not limited to the mannerisms of some gay men and lesbian women. There has been considerable scientific proof that these factors can be attributed to the levels of testosterone and estrogen which are present in men and women. Given the fact that men and women will have varying levels of these two hormones, it stands to reason that one would be able to determine if a person is gay or lesbian by mere casual or in-depth observation. Scientists are examining how homosexuality may affect everything from penis sizes to how one navigates new cities, reports the Los Angeles Times. Innate differences between gays and straights rooted in biology could lead researchers to discover the biological origins of sexual orientation.

08 • OnQ Carolina • feature column: GAYDAR

RECENT STUDIES: Do you know what a hair whorl is? If you have ever looked at the back of a man’s head you may have noticed that there is a circular pattern in which the hair grows. This is called a hair whorl. Researchers have found that in a large number of homosexual males the hair whorl pattern goes counter clockwise which is in contrast to the majority of heterosexual males having a clockwise hair whorl. Ever since hearing this I have been checking the hair whorl on the back of every heterosexual male that I know and guess what - all have a clockwise hair whorl.  Another common trait has to do with the length of the index finger compared to the ring finger. This one is really interesting to me. On heterosexual women the index finger is usually either the same length or slightly shorter than the ring finger in lesbians? The opposite in that Lesbians typically have a ring finger that is longer than their index finger.

Their ring finger is usually longer than the index. Het-

erosexual males usually have ring fingers that are longer than the index finger and homosexual males are just the opposite.

There is also research that shows that the thumb and little finger on the left hand of homosexual males and heterosexual woman have thicker fingerprint ridges than that of heterosexual males and homosexual woman.

OH, BROTHER: Each older brother will increase a man’s chances of being gay by 33%, says Ray Blanchard of the University of Toronto, an expert on the “big-brother effect.” That’s not as dramatic as it might sound. A man’s chance of being gay is pretty low to begin with -- perhaps as low as 2% (lowered from 10% by researchers in the early 1990s). So having one older brother ups the chance to only about 2.6%.

PENIS SIZE: One study that supports the hyper-masculinity theory of male homosexuality involves penis size. An Ontario-based psychological researcher named Anthony Bogaert re-sorted Kinsey Institute data—in which 5,000 men answered detailed questions about their sex lives, practices, fantasies, and, it turns out, measurements of their erect organs—along sexual-orientation lines. Gay men’s penises were thicker (4.95 inches versus 4.80) and longer (6.32 inches versus 5.99). The measurements, it should be noted, were self-reported and perhaps involve reporting bias, but no one has done a study investigating whether gay men are more prone to exaggerating their assets, so, well, draw your own conclusions.

FINGER LENGTH RATIO: The relative lengths of our fingers offer another hint: The index fingers of most

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straight men are shorter than their ring fingers, while for most women they are closer in length, or even reversed in ratio. But some researchers have noted that gay men are likely to have finger-length ratios more in line with those of straight women, and a study of self-described “butch” lesbians showed significantly masculinized ratios.

FINGERPRINT: A string of other studies, most of them conducted quietly and with small budgets, has offered up a number of other biological indicators.

According to this research, for instance, gay men, like straight women, have an increased density of fingerprint ridges on the thumb and the pinkie of the left hand; and overall their arms, legs, and hands are smaller relative to stature (among whites but not blacks).

HANDEDNESS: At first read, their findings seem like a string of unlinked, esoteric observations. Statistically, for instance, gay men and lesbians have about a

GAYDAR continued on page 11

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drag up the dirt

by Pat Patterson

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Lau r en S

This North Carolina native with his love for makeup got his start on stage in the eastern part of the sate. “Starting in Greenville was a blessing. I was traveling to Raleigh, Charlotte, and Wilmington and had access to many well known entertainers.

I’ve never had a ‘drag mother’ but I do have several good sisters! I’d like to say Lauren is a creation of many good talents”. Scott likes to think Lauren as a female impersonater on stage... but the true drag queen comes out with the radio in the car.

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By day, Scott is a successful hair stylist with great friends and family; however, growing up, Scott aspired to be an entertainer. “I actually pursued my career as a dance/choreographer and found a love of hair and make up while backstage. Dancer, hairdresser, drag queen... DAMN i’m gay!” His family back home is also very accepting of Scott and his persona, “actually my parents are more accepting that I am sometimes”. However, no matter what Scott does in life, he likes to keep everything professional.

Whether idolizing Rock Husdon, “who was the ultimate diva” for Scott, or Bette Davis, Lauren Scott is an Easter lily all her own. Be sure to check her out when she is on stage at Ibiza or any of the other area clubs. Don’t forget that Red Headed Slut (not HER, but her favorite shot). And what’s one of her most recent titles? “Well in the living room last night I let the kids HAVE IT!” As you can tell, Lauren is always a site to see.

A little bit of dirt on Lauren...

Stage Name? Lauren Scott Real Name? R. Scott Sellers Hometown? Wilmington, NC Current Home? Wilmington, NC Favorite Drink? Appletini Favorite Color? Blue in every shade Favorite comfort food? Chocolate Favorite Broadway show? A Chorus Line Favorite Board Game? Anything with alcohol Home Bar? Ibiza Signature song/routine? I don’t really have a “signature” song. Although had been digging Jennifer Hudson’s “Pocketbook” shug!

If you went by the formula of name of first pet and name of the first street you lived on... what would your stage name really be? Mitzi Pumpernickle What non-profit organization do you insist people in our community to get involved with? Any HIV/ AIDS awareness/benefit organization. Get out and get involved!

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“Life, especially with me, is a pissing contest. I find strength in doing what I do well”. This 6’1” semiathletic build and a big ol’ bald head is all man by day, but on stage the true Diva shines. Whether Lauren is toasting her favorite drink (Jack and Coke with a twist of lime) to her friends or to her life philosophy, she always lives by her credo: “People first, then money, then shoes!” • Are you an entertainer who strives to make a difference in our community both on and off stage? If so, contact Pat Patterson at pat.patterson@ruOnQ.com for consideration of Drag Up The Dirt.

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Secret PHRASE gayme!

One lucky person will win a

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There is no purchase required and no limit to who can participate. There are two (2) words that make up this issue’s secret phrase. The first word is hidden somewhere in our Print Edition (our issue that you can pick up from your favorite nightlife destination), the second word is hidden somewhere in out electronic edition (the issue you can view from your e-mail, Myspace and OnQcarolina.com). FIND BOTH WORDS THAT MAKE THE SECRET PHRASE and e-mail your answer to jamie.seabolt@ruOnQ.com.

If you are correct, you will be entered in the drawing to win the prize! The winner will be announced in our Independence Day issue.

Game ends June 30th, 2009.

GAYDAR continued from page 9

50 percent greater chance of being left-handed or ambidextrous than straight men or women.

VOICE PITCH: The same goes for the way we hear, the way we process spatial reasoning, and even the ring of our voices. One study, involving tape-recordings of gay and straight men, found that 75 percent of gay men sounded gay to a general audience.

While most of us believe that we are in full control over our lives and the choices we make, psychologists suggest that we use a mere 15% of our conscious brain at any given time, these leaves a whopping 85% of our choices, attractions to our subconscious minds. So, it is a good assumption that gaydar is comprised of about 15% of what we consciously see, think, or hear, thereby suggesting that 85% of our detection of other homosexuals is mostly subliminal. If we believe this to be true, that would mean that there is a vast level of subliminal communications and interactions that take place in our everyday life that we are mostly unaware of.

Researchers at Karolinska University in Sweden have added to Wysocki’s findings, identifying a potential reason why gay men find the smell of other males so enticing. They found that androstenone, a steroid compound men secrete in their sweat, excited brain areas that control sexual behavior in gay men but left the brains of straight men unaffected. This suggests the chemical may be an integral part of the scent-driven signaling mechanism that attracts gay men to each other.

The old adage of, a liar knows a liar; a thief knows a thief has validity, and then a homosexual knows

a homosexual when he encounters one. However sometimes our intellect can confuse our gaydar in that when it goes off and we find ourselves in the presence of a homosexual masquerading as a heterosexual; sometimes the decoys they use to distract our gaydar and to camouflage themselves:. wife, children, position in the community, etc. to avoid detection can throw our gaydar into turmoil. We always must listen to our gut instincts and rely on our intuitions as our early warning detection systems; they are the same sensors that told us we shouldn’t have picked “that shirt and those pants” to wear out, only to have that be confirmed by our dearest of friends later that evening. The body is comprised of the head that intellectualizes, the heart that romanticizes, the groin that lusts, and our gut that tells the truth; however like any good democracy where the majority rules, so is usually the case when the head, heart, and groin join forces and overrule our belly barometer.

While psychologist, sociologist, and science try to determine and prove or disprove that gaydar exists; we that have this sixth sense of being able to detect who the “Friends of Dorothy” are and those who owns more hair care products than any women alive, know that gaydar is very much real indeed.

It can serve a useful purpose in many situations, whether looking for your next Mr. Right or Mr. Right now; it is a gay given gift that one should never leave home without, for one never knows when it might come in handy next. • W.J. Moody, is a native New Yorker whom relocated to South Carolina nine years ago. Amongst being a passionate writer, W.J. is a professional Firefighter & EMT. He presently resides in Myrtle Beach, SC.

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iQ fitness & wellness

if you live in Houston you’re probably a bottom atleast that is what the latest statistics are telling us...

According to gawker.com, a gay blog (The Sword) recently compiled some Craigslist data, and figured out that when men are looking online to do sex with other men, certain cities trend heavily toward the receiving end. Chief among them is Houston—where 70% of folks are looking to fill the void.

Francisco, all seem rife with untended bottoms all reaching out across the cyber tundra, hoping to find some fleeting relief.

Yes of the ten cities surveyed, only three, in fact, had a higher ratio of tops to bottoms, and even then the numbers were almost even. But Miami, Houston, Los Angeles, and (surprise surprise) San the second word of the secret phrase is...

Could this be a sign that most men are afraid to admit they like taking the bottom role? Do they see this as being weaker? Less masculine? The female role? Regardless of the reasoning, men are reaching out online to satisify their inner-bottom urges.

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Wha t box of cereal wou ld we find in the cabi net?

Special K.

Favorite Vacation Spot?

So far... Londolozi Game Reserve in South Africa.

Favo rite Colo r? Black.

What are you most grateful for? Life.

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N1 • CLUB HAIRSPRAY • (828) 258-2027 • www. ruOnQ.com/clubhairspray • 28 N. French Broad Ave, Asheville, NC 28801 • OPEN 7 Days a Week • N2 • LaRUE’S BACKDOOR • (828) 252-1014 • www. ruOnQ.com/laruesbackdoor • 237 Haywood St, Asheville, NC 28801 • N3 • O’HENRY’S • (828) 2541891 • www.ruOnQ.com/ohenrys • 237 Haywood St, Asheville, NC 28801 • N4 • SCANDALS • (828) 252-2838 • www.ruOnQ.com/scandals • 11 Grove St, Asheville, NC 28801 • N5 • SMOKEY’S AFTER DARK • (828) 253-2155 • www.ruOnQ.com/smokeysafterdark • 18 Broadway St, Asheville, NC 28801 • OPEN 7 days a week 4p to 2a, CREDIT CARDS Visa & Mastercard, MEMBERS & GUESTS ONLY, 21 & up, Pool, Jukebox, Darts, Video Games • N6 • STRAPS • (828) 254-1891 • www.ruOnQ.com/ohenrys • 237 Haywood St, Asheville, NC 28801 • OPEN Fri/Sat only, Levi/Leather • N7 • TRESSA’S DOWNTOWN • (828) 254-7072 • www.ruOnQ.com/tressasdowntown • 28 Broadway St, Asheville, NC 28801 • Martini, Jazz/Blues

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Carrot Cake. (splurging being the calorie intake).

If your sexual prefe rence we’re a bunk bed, wou ld you be the top or bottom bunk ? California King.

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N8 • WEEKLY GAY EVENT • STIR @ EAST END MARTINI BAR • (919) 929-0024 • www.ruOnQ.com/stir • 201 E Franklin St, Chapel Hill, NC 27514 • OPEN Sunday, Martini, Lounge

CHARLOTTE SEE MAP ON NEXT PAGE

N9 • CENTRAL STATION • (704) 751-1599 • www.ruOnQ.com/centralstation • 2131 Central Ave, Charlotte, NC 28202 • OPEN 7 days a week, 5p to 230a, CREDIT CARDS Debit Only, MEMBERS & GUESTS ONLY, 21 & up, Jukebox, Pool, Video Games • N10 • CHARLOTTE EAGLE • (704) 679-9901 • www. ruOnQ.com/charlotteeagle • 4544-H South Blvd, Charlotte, NC 28209 • Details: Men, Levi/Leather, Dance • N11 • CHASERS • (704) 339-0500 • www. ruOnQ.com/chasers • 3217 The Plaza, Charlotte, NC 28205 • GoGo Boys • N12 • CLUB MYXX • (704) 525-5001 • www.ruOnQ.com/clubmyxx • 3110 S Tryon St, Charlotte, NC, 28217 • OPEN Fri/Sat only, Hip Hop, Dance • N13 • GAY FRIENDLY • G & G CLUB • www.ruOnQ.com/gandgclub • (704) 246-1752 • 820 Hamilton St, Charlotte, NC 28206 • OPEN Fri/Sat/Sun only 10p to 2a, CREDIT CARDS All Major Cards Accepted, MEMBERS & GUESTS ONLY, Upscale lounge, dance, patio, 11,000 sqft, free secure parking • N14 • 100% NON-SMOKING • HARTIGAN’S IRISH PUB • (704) 347-1841 • www.ruOnQ.com/hartigans • 601 S Cedar St, Charlotte, NC 28202 • OPEN Upstairs 7 days a week (Sun 12p to 8p, Mon 11a to 2p, Tues/Wed/Thu 11a to 10p, Fri 11a to 2a, Sat 6p to 2a) Downstairs Fri/Sat only 10p to 2a, CREDIT CARDS All Major Cards Accepted, 21

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& up Downstairs, Full Service Restaurant, Wii, Video Games, Free Wi-Fi, Pool, 100% Non-Smoking • N15 • LIASONS • (704) 376-1617 • www.ruOnQ.com/liasons • 316 Rensselaer Ave, Charlotte, NC 28203 • OPEN 7 Days a Week • N16 • PETRA’S PIANO BAR & CABARET • (704) 332-6608 • www.ruOnQ.com/ petras • 1919 Commonwealth Ave, Charlotte, NC 28205 • Piano Bar, Non-Smoking Section • N17 • SCORPIOS • (704) 373-9124 • www.ruOnQ.com/ scorpios • 2301 Freedom Dr, Charlotte, NC 28208 • OPEN Wed/Sun only, Drag • N18 • SIDELINES • (704) 525-2608 • www.ruOnQ.com/sidelines • 4544-C South Blvd, Charlotte, NC 28209 • Sports Bar, Billiards • N19 • WOODSHED LOUNGE • (704) 3941712 • www.ruOnQ.com/woodshedlounge • 4000 Queen City Dr, Charlotte, NC 28208 • OPEN 7 Days a Week, Men, Dance

DURHAM

N20 • STEEL BLUE • (919) 596-5876 • www.ruOnQ. com/steelblue • 1426 S Miami Blvd, Durham, NC 27703 • Mixed, Dance, Non-Smoking Lounge • N21 • VISIONS • (919) 688-3002 • www.ruOnQ.com/visions • 711 Rigsbee Avenue, Durham, NC 27701 • Lesbian, Dance, Lounge

FAYETTEVILLE

N22 • CLUB ALIAS • (910) 484-7994 • www.ruOnQ. com/clubalias • 984 Old McPherson Church Rd, Fayetteville, NC 28303 • OPEN Wed/Fri/Sat Only, Dance, Drag • N23 • CLUB EMAGES • (910) 797.4494 • www.ruOnQ.com/clubemages • 107 Swain St, Fayetteville, NC 28303 • Dance, Drag • N39 • GAY FRIENDLY • JACK’S TAP • (910) 485.5600 • www.ruOnQ.com/jackstap • 2920 Fort Bragg Rd,

CHARLOTTE

OAKLAWN

LAKEWOOD

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BELMONT

BANK OF AMERICA STADIUM

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CHARLOTTE DOUGLAS INTERNATIONAL AIRPORT

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Favo rite cartoon show as a kid? Care Bear s.

Who is your dream guy?

I’m awake... & he knows.

Mos t unusual place you’ve had sex? I’m as pure as a Jonas brother.

Fayetteville, NC 28303 • Neighborhood Bar

GASTONIA

N24 • NIGHT OWLS • (704) 866-7333 • www.ruOnQ. com/nightowls • 420 W Main Ave, Gastonia, NC 28052 • OPEN Thu/Fri/Sat/Sun only, Drag, Dance

GREENSBORO SEE MAP BELOW

N26 • Q LOUNGE •(336) 272-2587 • www.ruOnQ. com/qlounge • 708 W Market St, Greensboro, NC 27401 • OPEN 7 Days a Week • N27 • TIME OUT SALOON • www.ruOnQ.com/timeoutsaloon • (336) 272-8108 • 330 Bellemeade Ave, Greensboro, NC 27404 • Lesbian • N28 • WAREHOUSE 29 • www.ruOnQ.com/warehouse29 • (336) 333-9333 •1011 Arnold St, Greensboro, NC 27405 • OPEN Fri/Sat/Sun only, Dance, Drag

GREENVILLE

N29 • GREAT AMERICAN MINING COMPANY • (252) 353-2623 • www.ruOnQ.com/gamc • 1008 Dickinson Ave, Greenville, NC 27834 • Dance, Drag

HICKORY

N30 • CLUB CABARET • (828) 322-8103 • www.ruOnQ.com/clubcabaret • 101 N Central St, Hickory, NC 28601 • OPEN Thu/Fri/Sat/Sun only, Drag

RALEIGH

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N31 • CAPITAL CORRAL / CC’S • (919) 755-9599 • www.ruOnQ.com/capitalcorral • 313 W Hargett St, Raleigh, NC 27601 • Dance, Non-Smoking Piano Bar • N32 • FLEX • (919) 832-8855 • www.ruOnQ.

What did you want to be when you grew up?

Famous.

Favorite Cocktail?

Xcellence. Stoli Raz & Tonic with double lime.

What is something amazing you plan to do within the next year?

Work on a TV show.

com/flex • 2 S West St, Raleigh, NC 27603 • Men, Drag • N33 • LEGENDS • (919) 831-8888 • www.ruOnQ.com/legends • 330 W Hargett St, Raleigh, NC 27601 • OPEN Everyday except Tuesday, 9p to 2a (or later), CREDIT CARDS Accepted at door, Cash Only bar, MEMBERS & GUESTS ONLY, Dance • N34 • VIEW • www.ruOnQ.com/legends • (919) 831-8888 • 119 S Harrington St, Raleigh, NC 27603 • OPEN 7 days a week, 5p to 2a, CREDIT CARDS Accepted at door, Cash Only bar, MEMBERS & GUESTS ONLY, Pool, Darts, Video Cafe, Drag, Lounge

WILMINGTON

N39 • GAY FRIENDLY • COSTELLO’S PIANO BAR • (910) 362-9666 • www.ruOnQ.com/costellos • 211 Princess St, Wilmington, NC 28401 • OPEN Thur/Fri/Sat/ Sun only, Piano Bar • N35 • IBIZA • (910) 251-1301 • www.ruOnQ.com/ibiza • 118 Market St, Wilmington, NC 28401 • OPEN Thur/Fri/Sat/Sun only, Mixed, Dance, Drag, GoGo Boys • N36 • LUNA LLENA • (910) 251-8624 • www.ruOnQ.com/lunallena • 4418 Market St, Wilmington, NC 28401 • N37 • TOOLBOX • (910) 343-6988 • www.ruOnQ.com/toolbox • 2325 Burnett Blvd, Wilmington, NC 28401 • OPEN Wed/Thur/Fri/Sat only, Pool

WINSTON-SALEM

N38 • CLUB ODYSSEY • (336) 774-1077 • www.ruOnQ.com/clubodyssey • 4019-A Country Club, Winston-Salem, NC 27104 • Mixed, Dance, Drag

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AIKEN

S1 • MARLBORO STATION • (803) 644-6485 • www. ruOnQ.com/marlborostation • 141 Marlboro St NE, Aiken, SC 29801

CHARLESTON / N. CHARLESTON

S23 • GAY FRIENDLY • CHART • (843) 225-9948 • www. ruOnQ.com/chart • 1078 E Montague Ave #D, North Charleston, SC 29405 • S2 • DE’JA VU II • (843) 554-5959 • www.ruOnQ.com/dejavuii • 4634 Spruill Ave, Charleston, SC 29405 • S3 • DUDLEY’S PUB • www.ruOnQ.com/dudleyspub • (843) 5776779 • 42 Ann Street, Charleston, SC 29403 • S4 • PANTHEON • www.ruOnQ.com/pantheon • (843) 577-2582 • 32 Ann Street, Charleston, SC 29403-6212 • OPEN Fri/Sat/Sun only, Dance • S5 • PATRICK’S PUB & GRILLE • www.ruOnQ.com/patrickspub • (843) 571-3435 • 1377 Ashley River Rd, Charleston, SC 29407

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CAYCE

S6 • L WORD • www.ruOnQ.com/lword • (803) 7942111 • 625 Fink St, Cayce, SC 29169 • Lesbian

CLEMSON

S7 • GAY FRIENDLY • YOU NEVER KNOW (YNK) • (864) 654-2354 • www.ruOnQ.com/youneverknow •

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COLUMBIA/W. COLUMBIA

SEE MAP NEXT PAGE

S8 • GAY FRIENDLY • ART BAR • (803) 929-0198 • 1211 Park St, Columbia, SC 29201 • Underground Dance • S9 • CAPITAL CLUB • (803) 256-6464 • www.ruOnQ.com/capitalclub • 1002 Gervais St, Columbia, SC 29201 • S10 • H20 • (803) 794-8443 • www. ruOnQ.com/h20sc• 220 State St, West Columbia, SC 29169 • Dance • S11 • PT’S 1109 • (803) 253-8900 • www.ruOnQ.com/pts1109 • 1109 Assembly St, Columbia, SC 29201 • Dance • S12 • THE CABARET • (803) 758-6090 • www.ruOnQ.com/thecabaret • 1101 Harden St, Columbia, SC 29205 • Drag

FLORENCE

S14 • THE ANNEX • www.ruOnQ.com/theannex • (843) 662-6528 • 3015 E. Palmetto St, Florence, SC 29506 •18 & Up, Dance

GREENVILLE

S15 • CLUB 621 • (864) 281-1234 • www.ruOnQ. com/club621 • 621 Airport Rd, Greenville, SC 29607 • OPEN Everyday except Sunday, 8p to 230a • S16

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• SUGAR SHACK • (864) 242-0294 • www.ruOnQ. com/sugarshack • 424 Laurens, Greenville, SC 29607 • Lesbian • S17 • THE CASTLE • (864) 2359949 • www.ruOnQ.com/thecastle • 8-B LeGrand Blvd, Greenville, SC 29607

HILTON HEAD

S18 • TWIST RETRO BAR • (843) 341-6933 • www.ruOnQ.com/twistretrobar • 32 Palmetto Bay Rd, Hilton Head, SC 29928 • Lounge, Video, Wi-Fi

MYRTLE BEACH

S19 • RAINBOW HOUSE • (843) 626-7298 • www. ruOnQ.com/rainbowhouse • 815 N Kings Hwy, Myrtle Beach, SC 29577 • Neighborhood Bar, Drag, Dance • S20 • TIME OUT • (843) 448-1180 • www.ruOnQ.com/timeout • 520 8th Ave N, Myrtle Beach, SC 29577 • Dance, Drag, Pool

NORTH AUGUSTA

S21 • THE SHACK • (803) 441-0053 • www.ruOnQ. com/theshack • 425 Carolina Springs Rd, N. Augusta, SC 29841

ROCK HILL

S22 • THE HIDE-A-WAY • (803) 328-6630 • www.ruOnQ.com/thehideaway • 405 Baskins Road, Rock Hill, SC 29730

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Wanna learn more on Will? Visit Will’s profile at the OnQ gayborhood.

Want to be considered for the next OnQt? Guys and gals are encouraged to participate. Just e-mail Matt at matt.culberson@ruOnQ.com

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random rants

submitted by readers like you have something to say? hop online. www.ruOnQ.com

Poor Eminem got a face full of Just because I like white dick doesn’t butt at the MTV awards and is mean i am “hating” against my own now all mad about it. Get over it! people of color.

Some of us would be quite pleased to have a hot butt in our face!

If idiots could fly this damn place would be an airport.

If there is manipulation going on in your relationship, get out now! I know from personal experience.

Isn’t pride supposed to bring everyone together and not be just another excuse to hang out with the same people from the bar?

how many men can you sleep with and still be “curious”?

you twenty-somethings with six packs, smooth skin, and muscular physique who laugh at us mature men... there is only one word to say to you... wait.

you are 50 years old and you still use the word boi in yoru Guys, take my advice. if he lives with his EX, screen name. am i the only person who sees a problem then he is NOT available! with that???

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pride can be shown in many ways and this year to help our community show theirs, 25% of our adverisement revenue will serve as

donations.

A lot of hard work goes into the privileges we take for granted in our GLBTIQ community today. Since the historic 1969 stand at the Stonewall Inn, we’ve gained many rights, but as we know the fight is not over. Today’s pride events are just as important as the pride shown forty years ago. Festivals, parades, and community centers, are all priceless yet come with a heavy price tag. To help those that help us, OnQ Carolina Edition is giving back. For every advertisement sold between today and August 31st, OnQ Carolina Edition will donate 25% of the ad purchase price to an area pride organization of the advertisers choice. It’s that simple.

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