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HOME BUYING TIPS Honing in Your Perfect Home.

SPECIAL HOME FEATURE Contractor Spotlight Q&A. HERE BIRDY, BIRDY!!

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HOME PROJECT S.O.S. Projects You Can Do Yourself.

A DAD’S EYE VIEW Perfect Crimes, Imperfect Children.

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ASK-A-DOC Pandemic Anxiety in Kids.

HOMESCHOOL HELP Resources in Lane County.

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HEALTHIER LIVING Minimizing Food Waste.

GOOD SPEAK How What You Say Affects Baby.

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DECLUTTER YOUR HOME A Simple Approach.

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Charting the course for a healthy childhood, we are with you every step of the way.

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EARTHTALK from the Editors of “E” the Environmental Magazine

The Oregon & California Wildfires Are Not the New Normal— It’s Going to Get a Lot Worse.

by Dan Lennon

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he 2018 California wildfire season was the most destructive in recorded California history, with just under two million acres burned. Now here we are again, setting yet new records. It should come as no surprise. More frequent and more intense wildfires have long been predicted by scientists as but one consequence of climate change.

So far in 2020, California has seen six of the largest twenty wildfires in its history, including the largest wildfire on record, the Mendocino Complex Fire which burned 410,000 acres. These and other smaller fires have destroyed a record 3.1 million acres of forest in the state so far this year, and, as this is being written, seven wildfires are still burning. The largest of these, the Bear Fire north of Sacramento (the same area devastated by the 2018 Camp Fire) has already burned through one quarter of a million acres and is only 23% contained.

In Oregon at least 50 wildfires have burned over half a million acres. As this is being written, four major wildfires each larger than 100,000 acres, are burning southeast of Portland causing the

state to put half a million people under evacuation warning. Three small Oregon communities were substantially destroyed.

Governor Kate Brown described rescue teams saving evacuees by pulling them from rivers where they had taken refuge from the flames.

The unusual character of these fires was underscored by Jacob Bendix, a Syracuse University geography and environment

professor, who said: “We have seen multiple fires expand by tens of thousands of acres in a matter of hours, and 30 years or more ago that just wasn’t fire behavior that we saw.”

Climate change deniers are quick to point out that climate change didn’t cause these fires. It’s true, but only in a technical sense. The fires were caused by drought, lightning, and hot, dry, windy weather – all conditions that can occur without climate change. But the increasing prevalence of these conditions is due to climate change, so the deniers’ statements ring increasingly hollow as the disasters get worse.

(Note: Multifactorial disasters like this are what scientists call compound disasters which have also been predicted to occur with greater frequency and severity due to climate change.)

“Experience keeps a dear school, but fools will learn in no other.” This Ben Franklin proverb sums up why we are

now beginning to confront what is in store for us from climate change. We have ignored science for thirty years and now they are going to pay for it. Who are “they”? They are the children and grandchildren of the generation that caused this slow-motion train wreck to happen. But the slow-motion part is quickly coming to an end as the pace of climate change accelerates, driven by the immense accumulation of carbon dioxide and other greenhouse gases in the atmosphere. Sometime in the not too distant future we’ll look back on the year 2020 and it will seem like halcyon days compared to what we will be living through then. Crisis management will no longer be an occasional event; it will be our constant companion.

EarthTalk® is produced by Roddy Scheer & Doug Moss for the 501(c)3 nonprofit EarthTalk. See more at https://emagazine.com. To donate, visit https://earthtalk.org. Send questions to: question@earthtalk.org.

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by Kimberly Blaker

Home Buying Tips to Find Your Perfect Home

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uying a home is often a highly emotional experience. It begins with the exciting prospect of finding your perfect home and the exhilarating idea of new beginnings. But as the hunt progresses, it can also become an emotional roller coaster – with the ride testing every emotion possible… After viewing several homes, you may feel you’ll never find what you’re looking for. You might experience anxiety over whether you’ll find something within your budget – or because you’ve fallen in love with one outside your budget. If you do find the perfect house, it can be frustrating if another buyer beats you to the punch. And, when you do make an offer, you may be worried you offered too little or too much. You’ll also experience disappointment if your offer is rejected. What a ride!!

But, once you’ve closed on your new home and you’re confident you made the right decision, you’ll rejoice – and bask knowing it was worth every bit.

Still, there’s no greater stress than making the mistake of buying a home that, for any number of reasons, you later come to regret. These recommendations will get you started on the right foot, and help you stay on course finding your perfect (or near-perfect) home.

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and homeowner’s insurance.

Also, consider whether there’ll be a substantial difference in your monthly utilities. Include an allowance for home repairs and maintenance as well.

Second, it’s a good idea to get pre-qualified through your bank or a mortgage company. Despite what you think you can afford; a lender will ultimately determine the maximum you can afford.

Don’t risk getting your hopes up on a particular home until you know how much a lender will loan you.

Another reason to get prequalified is that many realtors won’t show homes to prospective buyers until they’ve been prequalified.

Before You Begin Shopping First, make a list of your objectives. Are you trying to reduce your commute? Is there a particular school district you’d like your kids to attend? What about proximity to shopping or recreation?

Also, think about the specific features you want in a home. Would you like a larger garage, finished basement, fenced yard, low maintenance lawn, certain number of bedrooms and bathrooms, a walk-in shower, an updated kitchen, ample closet space, or a home that’s turn-key ready? Make your list as detailed as possible.

Now, go through the list again. Next to each item, mark if it’s a must-have, prefer-to-have, or nice but not necessary.

The reason for creating this list, and then breaking it down, is twofold. First, buying a home is a significant investment. The home you ultimately choose is going to affect your lifestyle. Since there’s seldom a home that has every feature a buyer wants, you should prioritize what’s most important to you.

As you begin your search, you can always add to your list or amend it. But it serves as a blueprint to narrow your search and help keep you on track.

When you find a home that wows you, look at your criteria to make sure the house has all or most of your must-haves. If it doesn’t, maybe you’ll decide your criteria have changed, and this home is just what you want. On the other hand, it might also bring you back down to earth and encourage you to continue searching for a home that better suits your needs.

How Much Home Can You Afford?

Determining this is a two-step process.

First, prepare a budget and figure out how much you can comfortably spend each month on a mortgage, interest payments, property taxes,

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Getting Started in Your Search Now you’re ready to find a realtor! Working with a real estate agent has multiple advantages. First, realtors have access to the MLS system, the database in which all homes listed by real estate agencies appear.

They’re only able to access the MLS for listings within their own MLS region, however. If you’re moving to a new area, choose a realtor in or near the city where you’ll be relocating.

Another important reason to work with an agent is so you’ll have someone to represent you and advance your interests. It’s true if you find a home and want to put in an offer, in many states you can ask the listing agent to write and submit your offer. In states that allow this arrangement, the agent becomes a dual agent. But be careful - a dual agent is required to treat both parties with fairness and honesty. But in this capacity, the agent cannot always be equally loyal and advance your interests, because the agent is also working for the seller.

When choosing a realtor, a couple of factors to consider are customer reviews and whether the real estate agent is willing to sign an Exclusive Buyer’s Agency Contract. Under an exclusive buyer’s agency contract, the realtor is representing only you, the buyer, rather than both buyer and seller.

When you meet with an agent, make sure the agent feels like a good fit for you. The agent should ask plenty of questions to gain a solid understanding of what you’re looking for in a home. Also, find out if the agent is available to show homes during your hours of availability.

Finally, be cautious of high-pressure tactics to get you to sign an exclusive contract. Ultimately, you’ll want to do this when you find the right agent. If you’re not comfortable with an agent, be prepared to ask for some time to think about it… then listen to your gut, stay true to your interests, and stand your ground.

The Home Inspection Once you’ve made an offer, getting a home inspection is crucial.

This will help ensure you’re making a sound decision. Unfortunately, too many homebuyers learn the hard way that inspectors are neither required to be licensed nor, in some states, have no special skills or training. Read reviews and look for a reputable company. You can also ask your agent for a recommendation. Do your homework! Ask about their qualifications and how long they’ve been in business. Also, check with the Better Business Bureau and read online reviews.

A knowledgeable, skilled inspector will look at every aspect of the home, including windows, foundation, attic, roof, plumbing, electrical components, and much more. Your inspector should alert you to all defects, big and small. He should also note any aging components that could require repair or replacement in the not too distant future.

Don’t Make a Decision You Regret Regardless of what the bank says you can afford, or an agent tries talking you into, you’re the best judge of what’s really within your budget. Don’t make a decision you’re not confident in. Remember, your financial well-being and lifestyle are on the line.

Be Patient. Sometimes it takes a while to find just the right home.

Although you may never find a home that has everything you’ve ever dreamed of, make sure it meets enough of the right criteria so you can live happily in your home for some time to come.

When you do find the perfect home, don’t drag your feet. If it’s a

buyer’s market in particular, or merely a desirable home, it could get snatched up before you act.

If you see flaws that’ll require costly repair, weigh it carefully before making an offer.

Finally, once you make an offer, try not to get your heart set on the home until it has been inspected. If the report comes back reflecting costly repairs, you’ll be able to make an educated decision as to whether to proceed or not.

Kimberly Blaker is a freelance lifestyle and business writer. She’s also founder and director of KB Creative Digital Services, an internet marketing agency, at kbcreativedigital.com

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Can gas fireplaces run during a power outage?

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Yes! Gas fireplaces, inserts, and stoves can operate safely during a power outage. The fireplace will continue to produce radiant heat and warm up the home. If your unit has a blower it will no longer work, Stephani Nash however, a blower is not necessary for the operation or safety of the fireplace. Because gas fireplaces have battery backups or ignition packs that ignite the fireplace in case of power loss, your gas fireplace will continue to operate safely.

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YES! Even though your air conditioner, furnace, heat pump, ductless and gas fireplace are working fine…this doesn’t mean they are. It's often the most expensive Theo Carroll equipment in your home so maintenance is critical. To extend operating life, heating/cooling equipment should be serviced at least once a year to ensure it operates safely, at maximum efficiency, and to manufacturer’s specifications.

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Make Your Yard a Safe Haven for Birds

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ithout a few measures in place, your home and garden could be hazardous to birds. Here are some great ways to create a safe haven for flying visitors.

• Garden Organically: Conventional pesticides can be toxic to birds, so ditch the dangerous chemicals. Did you know there are essential oils you can use instead that will do the job of warding off pests without harming birds -- or people for that matter?

Protecting birds is not only the right thing to do, but their health and safety helps ensure their ability to feed on the very pests you’re trying to eliminate.

• Make Windows Visible: Each year,

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by StatePoint millions of wild birds are killed in the U.S. alone by striking windows. Fortunately, there’s an easy solution proven to substantially reduce the likelihood of bird strikes – which is applying decals that reflect ultraviolet sunlight to your home’s windows, particularly those reflective of open sky. WindowAlert features patterns that give the appearance of slightly frosted translucent glass, but glow like a stoplight for birds. The brand also makes WindowAlert UV Liquid, a high-tech liquid that offers even greater protection when applied between decals.

• Introduce Birdfeeders Mindfully: Birdfeeders attract birds and give them a place to rest and refuel. However, it’s important

not to unintentionally create a safety hazard.

Because birds are easily frightened and apt to take wild, evasive flight, the risk of birds striking windows can be elevated near birdfeeders. By positioning feeders closer than three feet or farther than 30 feet from windows and using window decals, you can create a safer space. Already have birdfeeders?

Take a look at their current placement and make changes as needed. “ This season, becoming a better environmental steward starts right in your backyard. By making a few small updates to your home and garden, you can protect the lives of wild birds,” says Spencer Schock, founder of WindowAlert.

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Home Projects That Don’t

by StatePoint

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hile spending more time at home, you may have noticed the little things that need to be fixed, and small ways you can improve the appearance and functionality of your home. So why not use this time to test your skills with a few DIY projects?

Here are some easy, affordable tips to fix those items that have been nagging at you, as well as check off small projects that will boost your home’s aesthetic.

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First impressions are everything.

From your family and friends to the mail carrier, your front door greets everyone who comes to your home. But it can take a beating

from weather and constant use, so revitalize it with a fresh coat of paint. Once the paint has dried, accent it with a new door knocker, hardware, or address plate. Worried about drilling into the door? Secure these items with T-Rex Mounting Tape. Mounting tape is a strong, weather-resistant tape for heavy-duty projects that replaces nails, screws, and staples.

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Trim the walls. Accenting a room with wood trim is a quick way to add another level of depth and detail to the interior of your home, and it won’t cost a lot. Your local home improvement store can provide the best trim to fit your budget. For a smooth installation,

ditch the nail gun and runny glues, and opt for a fast-adhering super glue tape, which sticks on contact and works just as well as traditional nails.

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Bolster your security. Feeling safe at home is important, and security cameras are a quick and easy solution to deter unwanted visitors and offer you peace of mind. If you’ve been toying with the idea of adding smart devices and cameras to the exterior of your home, look to install them above high-risk entry points, such as the front door, back and side doors, and the garage.

There are many great security cameras that can be easily mounted to the exterior of your home without professional installation.

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Effortless gutter repair. One project to check off your list is fixing that leaky gutter you’ve been ignoring. Don’t worry, it’s not as daunting a task as it might seem. Simply wrap waterproof tape around the leak and smooth it around all of the gutter ridges for a tight seal. Formulated to withstand extreme temperatures from -70 to 200 degrees, the UV-resistant formulation will prevent the tape from breaking down under harsh sunlight. Now how simple was that?

During these uncertain times, staying active and checking those to-dos off your list will give both you and your home a much needed refresher.

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A DAD’S EYE VIEW Humor by Rick Epstein

Perfect Crimes, Imperfect Children I

t was not a case for Sherlock Holmes. The physical evidence made one of those telltale little still-lifes that appear in the wake of active kids. It consisted of scissors and a handful of 4-year-old Sally’s fluffy blonde hair on the floor behind our bedroom door.

The classic crime-solving model – motive, weapon, opportunity – wasn’t necessary. With Sally, opportunity and weapon were all the motive she ever needed.

Not wanting to trap Sally into a lie, my wife Betsy confronted our little beauty operator by saying, “Sally, I know you cut your hair.”

Sally responded with apparent surprise: “Did I?!” It was hardly the remorseful confession that parents and police detectives like to elicit.

Her little sister at age 4 was less effective at deceit. One day while seated at the kitchen table for lunch, she announced, “There’s no spoons in MY underpants.”

I looked at her and she gave me a guilty smile. I picked her up and gave her a light shake. Clink. Clink.

Our oldest daughter Marie was usually too much of a pessimist to think she could get away with anything. But around age 10 she pulled off a neat series of forgeries. She would take a marker and write her own name on a banister or door, but she’d simulate Sally’s handwriting, drawing the “i” so it looked like a lollipop. Of course we thought Sally was trying to frame Marie. How did we figure out Marie was indeed the culprit? She told us last week. At age 24 she likes to reminisce.

“Why are kids so deceptive?” I asked my wife. “Or is it just OUR kids?”

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“I think it’s ALL kids,” she said. “Sometimes they’re just testing our minds, and sometimes they act on impulse and then try to stay out of trouble. Didn’t you ever try to fool your parents?”

Suddenly I remembered The Incident of the Easter Candy.

When I was 7, Mom was commandant of my Cub Scout den, which meant that for a short time our rec room was the warehouse for 10 boxes of Easter candy. The Scouts would be dropping by to get the candy for delivery to the people who’d ordered it. Alone in the rec room and feeling curious, I opened one of the boxes. It contained a dozen chocolate eggs individually wrapped in cellophane. Who’d miss one? With heart thumping, I unwrapped one of them and took a bite.

The inside was white, creamy and coconutty, and some confectionary genius had found a way to color the center yellow to simulate a yolk.

It was exquisite.

By the end of the day, I’d been through all 10 boxes, devouring one egg from each and loosely rearranging the 11 survivors to conceal my theft. Wasn’t that a lot of candy? Not for a pig like me. Besides, how would it look to have 11 candies in some boxes and 12 in others? After my feast, I took all the cellophane outdoors and threw it into the storm sewer that received all kinds of evidence produced by the dark ops of my childhood.

The next day Mom said to Dad, “There are supposed to be 12 eggs in each of those boxes, but I’m counting only 11. I’m going to have to call the candy company and get this straightened out.”

I hesitated, then said, “Mom…” I could steal candy, but I could NOT let my mother embarrass herself.

Mom already knew about my gluttony, but she was pleasantly surprised by my loyalty. She was grateful for my well-timed confession.

I didn’t know it , but I was preparing for adolescence when I would lead a secret life of adventure. It is part of a process called “individuation,” which covers everything parents don’t like about teenagers. And it wasn’t just me; it’s most kids. Think of every kind of mischief you got into as a teenager. Then imagine what you could have arranged if you and all your friends had cell phones.

I’m glad to say that two of my three daughters have lived through it and joined me on the other side as adults. The 17-year-old is doing OK, but it would be naïve to say that her underwear is 100% spoon-free.

Rick can be reached at rickepstein@yahoo.com.

Family Health

Q&A with Leslie Pelinka, MD

Q: My youngest, who just started kindergarten, seems to be struggling the most in the pandemic. I feel like she’s clinging to how things used to be. She talks about how after COVID, she’ll get to go back to preschool and see her friends. But now she’s in kindergarten, doing school online, with no friends around and no real sense of back to school. We’ve been dealing with a lot of angry outbursts and tears. How do we support her when she hasn’t yet developed the coping skills to deal with this type of change and trauma?

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This is hard and while there aren’t easy answers, there are a few principles that will help you and your little one through this time. First, children this age are amazingly resilient and adaptable.

It may not seem that way now, and it may take time, but she will recover from the disruption and move on—much more easily than the adults around her. What seems like a BIG problem to a 5 year-old is likely to be completely forgotten in a few years. This doesn’t mean she’s not affected now— but rest assured, she should be able to move on without long-term effects.

Second, young children are very astute in sensing the emotions around them. If they sense anxiety, fear and uncertainly, their emotions will reflect that. If they sense calm and gratitude, they’ll reflect that as well. So it’s very important for you to practice self-care. Take time for your own activities, social connections, sleep, exercise and healthy eating. Try deep breathing, meditation or regular journaling to help clear your mind and bring you calm. This isn’t selfish—your whole family will benefit from you being at your best.

Third, young children thrive on structure. So without being rigid, be consistent with times for sleep, meals, school and

play. Continue evening routines like bathing, teeth brushing, story time and other activities.

Fourth, even if you have a very precocious child, their reasoning ability is still limited. Keep things simple. No need to delve deeply into the challenges and complexities of COVID, wildfires or online learning. Messages like “I’m sorry you’re sad that you can’t see friends right now,” or “I’m sure we’ll hear from your teacher soon” are enough. Complicated discourse is confusing to children.

Simple, straightforward, positive messages are what they need.

Hang in there. Trust that your love and support are all that she needs right now to feel reassured.

Leslie Pelinka, MD is a PeaceHealth Medical Group pediatrician based at the RiverBend Pavilion in Springfield.

To make an appointment with PeaceHealth Medical Group Pediatrics call 541-222-8500.

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his guide to free and affordable programs to complement your homeschool studies has it all.

Spend the night at a nearby hotel and create a fun “education staycation” experience in Eugene - Springfield which is the perfect basecamp for trying any of the activities below.

Cascade Raptor Center Choose to have a Zoom session with an owl, hawk, osprey or kestrel and a knowledgeable handler from the Cascade Raptor Center. Plan at-home projects using their online resources.

Cascades Raptor Center also partnered with Eco Kids Village to create a birds of prey craft kit.

If you want a tour in-person, reservations are required.

Expand your study exploring the Oregon Department of Fish & Wildlife’s birding resources.

Whole Earth Nature School Coyote Kids is bringing a homeschooler’s version of their popular camp to Mount Pisgah. For one day a week, your student can enjoy nature along with a small pod. Choose courses that highlight stealth and forest integration, naturalist studies, or socio-

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emotional community building. Whole Earth Nature School also offers an extensive online curriculum and more.

Nearby Nature Nearby Nature is offering Nature Schooling in your neighborhood. For Fall 2020 you can also register for in-person programs. These half or fullday sessions are held once or twice a week at Nearby Nature’s “LearnScape” in local parks.

There is also a pre-school option prioritizing enrollment for essential workers.

Eugene Science Center Eugene Science Center is a g re a t p l a c e t o e x p l o re homeschooling topics on astronomy and science. Learn about the Earth, Moon and Sun or about planet Earth’s volcanos, earthquakes, and tsunamis on a 360-degree screen at the planetarium. You can also browse their website for online science resources.

Adventure! Children’s Museum Promptly at 3pm., login in for an Afternoon Online Day Camp for painting, writing, and crafting. Even learn how to create dollhouse miniatures! Participants will receive a delivery of needed camp supplies the week prior.

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Museum of Culture & Natural History Explore the Museum of Culture & Natural History in-household groups of ten or less or virtually via their online collections’ gallery. Homeschooling families can utilize the museum’s extensive teaching resources.

Learn more about the climate, landscapes and natural events that shaped Oregon.

Singing Creek Educational Center This fall this non-profit is rolling out an entirely online history curriculum. Watch videos on how to churn butter and how to write with a quill pen.

Sea Lion Caves Information-rich packets designed for school field trips can be downloaded on the Sea Lion Caves website. From learning about scientific principles to geology to history, there are many opportunities to tie-in grade school and middle school curriculum. One fun exercise requires an ice cream sandwich (pick one up in Historic Old Town Florence at Milk & Cookies) to simulate plate tectonics!

More Coastal Education Participate in Oregon State University’s self-guided “Quests” along the Oregon Coast.

Siltcoos Lagoon Quest and Historic Florence Quest are both in Lane County.

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EAT SMART • WASTE LESS • GROW STRONG • SAVE MONEY

Minimize Food Waste for a

Healthier Family

by Sarah Grimm

If

you’re looking for ways to protect your children from the worst of what climate change will bring--without turning your life upside-down, you need look no further than your refrigerator.

Simply commit to not letting anything go to waste – which will naturally reduce what you need to buy. This small act is effective because food production worldwide is responsible for well over one-third of all greenhouse gasses -yet only 60% of that food actually gets eaten.

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Studies have shown the average American household ends up tossing out $128.00 worth of food – every month!

Check out these tips to save money and reduce waste to see which ones make sense for you. And be sure to check out Lane County’s Food Waste Challenge Program that teaches, and then challenges, families to set goals and learn new habits in food waste prevention.

Give it a try! It’s free, of course, and will likely help reduce your grocery bills overall. www.eatsmartwasteless.tips

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Shop the Bulk Bins In my own kitchen, to prevent packaging waste I’ve had to unlearn the “Buy in bulk” adage I was raised with. While it’s true that buying only what you need from bulk bins is a successful way to prevent waste, the opposite is true when we buy the mega quantities of individually packaged foods popularized by Costco and other retailers. Nine times out of ten my small household would not be able to finish a product before it went bad and had to be thrown out—along with all the packaging

waste it came with. I found myself spending and wasting more money when I purchased these types of bulk items; so now my adage is “shop the bulk bins” and buy only what you can use in a reasonable amount of time.

Meal Planning Feeling a bit like a failure every time I had to throw away food gone bad in the fridge, I have learned to plan meals around what needs using now, before it goes bad. This is a fun way to keep meals interesting and varied. I also plan meals using items from my long storage pantry every week, so I can be sure to use up the old before buying new.

Another new habit I find fun and fascinating is using foods we are inclined to think are not edible, but really are!

Forgotten Greens Did you know carrot tops deliver a flavorful and nutritional punch to cooking? Try the tender leaves chopped fine in tabbouleh salad or pureed into a pesto recipe. Other forgotten leaves, such as beet, turnip, and radish greens— even when limp— are very tasty sautéed or added to casseroles, soups, and quiches.

Cilantro stems A staple in Thai curry pastes, cilantro stems are packed with as much flavor as the leaf. Waste-conscious chefs use both leaves and the thinly sliced stems in practically any dish. Parsley stems can be used in the same way, or left whole to add flavor to homemade soup stock.

croutons, bread pudding, or eggs strata. Toss them in the freezer if you don’t need them right away. Or let the bread completely dry, and use a rolling pin to crush bread into breadcrumbs.

No need to buy Panko breadcrumbs for coating fish, chicken, eggplant and making au gratin dishes anymore!

Bruised or Old Fruit Smoothies are a great option for using up old or blemished fruit while packing in great nutrition. Have more than you can prepare?

Cut and toss them in the freezer for later, make fruit popsicles or whip up a quick batch of refrigerator jam or compote—a delicious condiment that will keep for months.

You’ll find more tips and inspiration at www.eatsmartwasteless.tips Sarah Grimm, Waste Reduction Specialist for Lane County Public Works Waste Management Division, is passionate about how waste prevention can lead to a healthier world for all of us. You’ll find more of what she’s up to at www.lanecountyor. gov/waste

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Positive Communication Habits with Your Baby

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ll babies cr y—some more than others—and it can be distressing for new parents.

Meeting your baby’s needs isn’t always easy, especially when you’re not sure what’s wrong. In these moments, you may find yourself responding to your baby with frustration or anger: “Are you hungry?

Are you cold? What’s wrong with you???”

But the words you use to communicate with your child matter, and shape the way you and your baby bond. Choosing, in difficult moments, to use positive language that soothes both you and baby go a long way in building a healthy relationship between you and your child.

Respond with Concern Rather than Frustration Imagine your baby is crying and you say: “What’s wrong with you? Nothing I do is ever good enough!” Consider the effect these

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words could have on your baby—especially when repeated over-and-over again. How would you feel if someone said this to you?

Would it help you feel calm?

As a loving parent, pay attention to how you use words and get into positive communication habits that help you and your baby feel good. You could say things like, “I am sorry you are sad. I wish I knew what was wrong.” In this conversation, you are viewing your baby’s upsets as normal. It’s a message that soothes both you and your baby.

A message like, “I am so sorry your tummy hurts,” says “it’s the gas that’s the problem, not you.” You could try rubbing your baby’s belly and saying, “Is that better?” This message says, “I care about you.” If your baby is crying because they are cold, you could say, “Let’s wrap up in another blanket and get you warm.” This message says, “I’m trying to make you feel better.”

Even when you’re not sure what is upsetting

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your baby, you can always hold them, rub their back, and say, “I know, I know.” In this moment, you are sending the message that “I’m on your side.”

Your words are like magic in helping your baby cope with difficult situations and these caring words and actions will help you feel better too. Best of all, caring words and caring actions help your baby feel confident that the world is a safe and nurturing place. And that confidence leads to healthy development.

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Decluttering W

hen my husband suggested we move the blocky wood v e n e e r t a b l e f ro m h i s bachelor condo to our shared home, I agreed, mainly because I assumed we’d replace it soon enough. But eight years and two kids later, I find it hard to imagine our home without it.

The table is covered in nicks and scratches.

It’s orange-brown but the imperfections show up in light yellow. It comfortably seats the four of us, but we can easily squeeze a couple more chairs in when Grandma and Grandpa come for dinner. For special occasions, it expands to fit twelve. We can barely open the refrigerator door when all twelve seats are full, but that’s okay. Limited fridge access has never interfered with the conversations and laughter we’ve shared with family and friends over Thanksgiving dinners, Passover seders, or birthday parties.

I’ve grown to love that table and the memories it holds.

Wa bi- S a bi is the Japanes e ar t o f finding beauty in imperfection. Wabi-Sabi acknowledges that objects are beautiful, not in spite of signs of wear and tear, but because of them. Wabi-Sabi appreciates the way an object’s aesthetic appeal develops over time and with repeated use, inextricably linking the concepts of beauty and utility.

Though I never intended to embrace WabiSabi—I’ve only recently become acquainted with the term—I’ve inadvertently adopted this aesthetic not just in my kitchen but throughout my home. I regularly toss things I don’t use. I like how favorite jeans are have thinned at inner thighs. I delight in watching my daughters play with my Cabbage Patch doll. Thinking about creating a Wabi Sabi home of your own? Here are a few tips:

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Limit what comes in. According to Wabi-Sabi, the beauty in a piece is not in it’s shiny newness. Just the opposite, an object’s radiance is in the meaning and

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memories it holds, as well as its utility.

Actions you can take to avoid letting new and unnecessary items into your home include: • Keeping a running list of things you’d like or need to acquire to help you stay focused and avoid impulse purchases when you’re shopping.

• Unsubscribing from the email newsletters that stay in your inbox unopened, or those that you immediately delete.

• Putting catalogs you never shop immediately into your recycle bin or your kids’ art bin for future collages.

• Self-imposing a “waiting period” when shopping online. Be honest with yourself; If you can live an extra day without the items in your shopping cart, leave them there for 24 hours before checking out. You might decide you don’t need them as urgently as you thought you did.

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De-clutter what you already own.

Most of us have more stuff than we need or want. We hang onto things we’re saving for a special occasion, items we might need someday, and dust-collectors with sentimental value. For one reason or another, most of us have trouble letting our extras go.

Here are a few tips for embarking on a decluttering mission: • Start small. In her book “Better Than Before,” Gretchen Rubin recommends committing to spending just ten minutes of any imposing task. Set a timer for ten minutes. If you’re drained after ten minutes, give yourself permission to stop for the day.

Your Home A SIMPLE APPROACH

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If you feel energized and you have time, keep going.

• Toss anything you haven’t used in the past year.

• Remember that Grandpa wouldn’t want you feeling bogged down by the birdfeeder you made together, which is now taking up valuable real estate in a closet. Take pictures of sentimental items before letting them go.

• Limit duplicates. If it’s hard to be objective about how many scarves (or shoes, hammers, or guitar picks) you actually need, ask yourself how many your neighbor needs and let that number guide you.

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Find beauty in what you have.

Leonard Cohen wrote, “There is a crack, a crack in everyt hing. That’s how the light gets in.” Though he may not have had home decor in mind when he penned those famous lines, the idea behind them is consistent with the principles of Wabi-Sabi. Take another look at your things. Ask yourself if they are useful. Then ask yourself if they are beautiful, remembering that beauty isn’t necessarily the perfect home featured on your favorite design blog. According to Wabi-Sabi, an item’s beauty is in its scratches, its dings, its story.

When my husband and I were newlyweds, I created a Pinterest board called “home decor” and filled it with images of the kitchen tables of my fantasies. They were modern and sleek, with smooth reclaimed wood surfaces and hairpin legs. Unblemished, they beckoned me, promising a life just as perfect as they were if only I owned such a table. I haven’t pinned

any new tables to that board since our first child was born.

I’ve come to appreciate our Wabi-Sabi table.

Not only is it a functional table, but it’s where my kids have sat in their bouncy seats and their bumbo seats. We’ve clipped high chairs to that table and pulled booster seats up to it. We’ve fed our kids their first bites of banana and their first chocolate chips at that table. We’ve blown

out the candles celebrating the first year, the fortieth year, and lots of years in between. I look forward to all the future birthdays we have yet to celebrate at that table.

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Children Thrive Through Music

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by Holly Spencer

s we all continue to adjust to the uncertainties around us, there is one thing we can be sure of: MUSIC HELPS! Learning an instrument and growing through music is even more beneficial during times of stress and unease. Now is a perfect time to start.

That’s where String Academy comes in!

This year, classes will look a little different so students can stay safe. Our wonderful teachers have created an online program for the fall that will continue to bring these special classes to your home. And we will still provide the instrument!

The long-term benefits of music education are well known, especially for children.

Putting small instruments into small hands opens the door to a new world! ESYO provides half and three-quarter size instruments to fit any child, and our scholarship program makes it possible for children of all backgrounds to learn violin, viola, cello or bass.

Decades of research has shown the positive connection between active participation in music and increased aptitude in many other areas of learning. Recently, a 7-year study

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by the University of Southern California indicates that musical training is beneficial for children’s brains – and the study focused on children who were learning to play the violin!

Findings showed that this can strengthen language and communication as well as engaging areas responsible for decisionmaking, focusing attention and inhibiting impulses.

Students learn quickly! Even children who are shy or unsure in the beginning become quickly absorbed with these mysterious “things with strings.” Pluck? Sure, I can do that! Hold it with just my chin? No problem!

The transformation we see in children between when they open a violin case for the first time in October and perform for an audience by February is nothing short of remarkable! By the end of the school year, these new young musicians can read music, follow their conductor, and play over 100 songs. Families delight in their concerts, (often with looks of disbelief!), as they witness the obvious joy radiating from their children’s faces.

For our community, it’s so important for

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children to start young in order to re-build school music programs. Most secondary schools in Eugene are unable to support robust orchestras, partly for lack of strings instructions at the elementary school level.

Children also benefit from many social skills learned through participation in musical groups. Cooperation, discipline, responsibility, and self-awareness are all part of the package. Expressing themselves through music can help children feel safe with their feelings, and have a place to share their creative energy.

All of these benefits can last a lifetime.

Since its very beginnings in 1934, ESYO has heard from countless youth orchestra alumni that their experience was a precious time, if not a turning point, in their lives.

From first-year String Academy classes to top-notch symphony orchestras, ESYO gives children and youth a chance to learn, grow, lead and PLAY! If you are interested in trying String Academy for your child, take a look at the Eugene-Springfield Youth Orchestras (ESYO) web site: http:// esyorchestras.org/programs/string-academy-i/

MOVIE TIME for Stay-at-Home Streaming!

by Bonnie L. Harris

Loyal, Brave & True Walt Disney Studios Rated: PG-13 Streaming on Disney Plus

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he much anticipated liveaction remake of Mulan is finally here, and it’s well worth the Disney Plus subscription and fairly hefty streaming fee.

Expertly directed by Niki Caro, who also helmed McFarland USA and Whale Rider, which are terrific family movies, Mulan 2020 stars several celebrated Chinese actors who bring deeper nuances to the Disney generated characters. The film bypasses the familiar songs, but adds a symbolic phoenix, to play up the

dramatic story of a young girl who disguises herself and joins the Imperial Army to save her father.

Comparison to the animated Mulan is understandable, but suffice to say that Caro’s version stands on its own with just as much action, adventure, intrigue, and focus on family honor.

There’s also just enough comedy to lighten the tension as Mulan trains with a battalion of smelly, sweaty, nosy men and learns to be a superior warrior. As Mulan the daughter, she was constantly told to curb her energy and was an embarrassment to her

The girl becomes a warrior.

parents. But as Mulan the brave, she discovers that her life force paired with her unyielding determination are exactly what’s needed to save the Emperor from a hostile invasion by the Black

Rouran. Caro skillfully stages events from the animated film, like the battle field avalanche and the Emperor’s kidnapping, then takes them a step further

with new twists, amazing choreography, and impressive sword play. When Mulan duels with an evil Sorceress, who is the Black Rouran’s secret weapon, she’s unmasked and almost killed. But in the end, the Sorceress admires her loyalty and sacrifices herself so Mulan can lead her brigade to victory.

When she returns home, Mulan finds a warm welcome and a surprise offer from the Emperor. Which sets up the sequel, no doubt, and ensures that the Mulan franchise has many great adventures ahead.

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ith so much that’s happened in Oregon lately, it seems like things can’t get worse.

But All Together Now, the indie feature starring spunky newcomer Auli’i Cravalho, proves that life can go from bad to worse in the blink of an eye. Set in the Portland suburbs, the film follows a cheerful teenager who works two jobs, volunteers as a teacher, organizes school activities, and cares for an autistic friend.

But underneath Amber Appleton’s upbeat exterior, there’s a homeless girl who hides

Amber still dreams of auditioning for drama school and she encourages everyone she the truth of her circumstances and is terrified meets to be a better person. The lesson Amber of losing her alcoholic mother to an abusive needs to learn is to accept help, but it isn’t boyfriend. Although her life is falling apart, until her dog, Bobby, gets sick that she finally reveals how close she is to losing everything. Her Amber’s dream comes true. dedicated friends spring into action, and Amber discovers a wealth of love and support she n eve r ex p e c te d . Al l Together Now blends the bad with the good in a sweet story that’ll tug at your heart and leave you with a smile. Keep the Kleenex handy!

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GAS • WOOD • PELLET • ELECTRIC

Which Fireplace or Stove Is Right for You?

by Lisa Bruckner

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eople love the look, feel and ambiance a warm fire provides. And with all the uncertainties and challenges 2020 has brought, people are spending more time at home and want to increase their comfort. Here we’ll look at some options to help you decide which best suits your need.

For an existing, wood burning fireplace that is outdated, messy

to use, and doesn’t heat well, installing an insert can transform the look of your fireplace and deliver efficient warmth and ambiance with the touch of a remote.

I f yo u ’re re mo de l i n g or building a new home, this is the perfect time to install a gas fireplace. With a variety of sizes, styles, and features, they are often the focal point of a room.

For a more traditional look and feel, gas, wood, and pellet stoves are a great option. They can even be installed in homes without access to natural gas or electricity.

L a s t l y, e l e c t r i c fireplaces provide easy to install, plugand-pl ay ambi ance for homeowners who aren’t concerned about heating or realistic flame requirements.

Let’s break it down….

Wood Stove

Wood-Burning Stoves Wood burning stoves provide the romantic crackling fireplace look and feel, but do require more maintenance efforts than a gas burning stove, fireplace or insert.

Pellet Stoves & Inserts Pellet stoves and inserts look like a traditional fireplace or stove, with flickering flames, however, they burn higher efficiency (low moisture) pellets instead of wood.

PROS:

• Wood pellets burn cleanly and

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Wood burning stoves provide unrivaled authenticity of a wood-burning smell and look that elicits the warm, nostalgic feel of days past.

CONS:

• A chimney is necessary, and

requires regular cleaning and maintenance to prevent soot build up which can be flammable.

PROS: efficiently (highest efficiency option).

• Offer relatively good warmth.

• Ash pans at the bottom of the stove make cleanup easier.

• Can be installed on most

exposed walls, giving homeowners tremendous flexibility.

CONS:

• Each gorgeous fire requires

• Pellets are sold in large, heavy

• Wood-burning fireplaces

• Ash clean-up after each

post-fire ash clean-up.

don’t efficiently heat homes.

Most of the heat travels back up the mandatory chimney.

bags that require ample, dry storage space. burning session is required.

• Requires weekly maintenance to ensure the firepot is cleaned and maintained.

Gas Stoves, Inserts and Fireplaces Gas inserts and fireplaces offer beauty, warmth, and ambiance with the push of a button. The ease of no-mess, no-chimney required, efficient, direct heating capabilities makes this an attractive option. A gas insert can be installed into an existing fireplace and chimney, whereas a gas fireplace or freestanding stove is a great option to install in any room with access to an outside wall (for ventilation).

They come in a wide variety of styles, varying from ultramodern to very traditional.

PROS:

• Offers direct heating with

remote control flame height, ceramic log lighting and fan blower control options; no kindling or lighting required.

• Higher efficiency heating

than wood burning options.

• All components are enclosed

in a burn chamber behind a sealed piece of glass - no post burn ash clean up.

• If you don’t have an existing

fireplace to install an insert into, or don’t want to remodel an existing wall, a freestanding gas stove is a good option.

• If you want the visual

ambiance of a crackling fire without the heat, some models come with venting options to exhaust heat out.

• Electric ignition models

either come standard or can be retrofit with a backup battery system to operate if power is lost.

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• For some homeowners,

natural gas is not available

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Pellet Insert

in their area, so they need to install an outdoor propane tank if they want a gas heating option.

• Some people are concerned

it’s not a “real fire” but modern ceramic log-sets are very realistic looking now.

Electric If you are just interested in ambiance without the need for heat, an electric fireplace is a great option.

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PROS:

• Minimal installation requirements.

• No wood, pellets, or gas required.

CONS:

• When power outages occur, the fireplace will not work.

• Minimal heating can be

a disappointment when weather is cold and people expect the fireplace to generate warmth.

• Electricity costs can be

expensive if running the appliance frequently.

• Least realistic-looking option.

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RESCUE SPOTLIGHT

URGENT! DO YOU LOVE CATS? VOLUNTEERS NEEDED AT CRAN “TLC” FACILITY Do you have a soft spot for young, injured, scared or ill animals? Cat Rescue and Adoption Network (CRAN) needs volunteers for our new intake/medical facility called “TLC”. Tasks include but are not limited to: general care for cats (feeding, socializing, scooping litter), laundry, cleaning floors etc. (Some lifting may be required). Training provided, and protocols must be followed. This is a medical facility as well as intake, so some cats have needs that require special handling.

If interested please fill out an application here: https://catrescues.org/ volunteer (mark it TLC), or call 541-225-4955, Option 3.

T

ofu is a handsome boy looking for his perfect home. He is such a LOVER and his tail has lots of wiggles.

When he arrived at the shelter as a stray, he was very nervous and sensitive to handling.

Our team helped him gain confidence & get comfortable around strangers. Now, he’s very friendly and loves to meet new people! He loves adventures but will also gladly cuddle up on the couch for a movie marathon. He walks well on leash, has a medium energy level, and loves the attention! A staff member described him as “a big meatball that’s ready to party! He so deserves to find his people and LOVES to give kisses (even if you’re wearing a mask)!”

Tofu is a 6 year old pitbull mix and weighs between 60 – 65 lbs.

He should meet any doggie friends in the shelter before going home and would probably do best with mature children who can respect his space. Tofu is looking for his forever family to give him unconditional love and care.

If you are interested in adopting a dog, or would like to learn more about adding a dog to your family, please visit Greenhill Humane Society. Greenhill Humane Society is open for adoptions by appointment seven days a week, 11 am – 6 pm at 88530 Green Hill Rd in Eugene. For more information call (541) 689.1503 or visit www.green-hill.org

Let Worms Eat Your Kitchen Waste!

Compost Specialists lead this online workshop on how to use worms as a fun and easy way to create an excellent fertilizer from food waste. Designed to get you off to a good start, all supplies are included.

Grows Great Gardens!

The Eugene Extension office is closed to visitors, but Master Gardeners are working remotely to answer your questions. Leave a phone or email message at 541-344-0265 or lanemg@oregonstate.edu

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