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appy New Years! Woo Hoo!! It’s 2019! So excited! How are you feeling about 2018? Have you taken stock of the amazing things you learned, and how you and your sweet family grew? Are you like me, and get a brand new planner in order to write down your myriad of “BIG PLANS” for the new year? Or are you confident in your ability to wing it and things always turn out fine? Whatever your approach- you can’t deny that the clean slate of a new year is so exciting and hopeful.
Jan/Feb 2019 PUBLISHER Yvette Tripp
It’s my hope that with this issue, you can implement small steps that will help you reach your ultimate goals for the upcoming year. Healthier eating? See the article on Superfoods for Kiddos: Page 22.
yvette@willamettekidsandfamily.com
How about recognizing and implementing gratitude for the amazing life around you? Moms chime in about what they appreciate in the men in their life, on page: 8. If you’re hoping to accomplish more- I’m excited to share with you a morning routine that can get you there. Check out The Perfect Morning Routine on page 10. It works for me! One area of our lives, that I know we all want to excel in is to raise healthy, happy kids. Jenifer Trivelli gives us three keys to grow in our relationships with our family. I also put together a list of 50 ways that we can encourage our amazing little people this year, so that they too, can reap the benefits of an open mindset to encourage perseverance. Hooray for brave kiddos learning to set goals and persevere! 2019 is going to be a great year for us all in the Willamette Valley. Thank you for your support in the past year and Cheers to a wonderful new year!
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EDITOR Yvette Tripp
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by Jenifer Trivelli M.S.
How Your Most Challenging Kid Can Be Your Greatest Teacher {Key#1} Brains in pain cannot learn.
must change for us to be happy. That is a big lie - a lie we don’t want our children to adopt: other people’s behavior has to change in order for me to be ok.
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our attention to soothing our kiddo’s emotional pain invites us to attend to our own in ways we may have not considered before. And a truly soothed parental brain means a more flexible, creative, connected approach to relationship challenges with our children.
Some examples of things we wish our kids would change so THEN we’d be happy: -they don’t do their chores -their room is a disaster -they don’t listen to the wisdom I bestow on them -they’re lazy and don’t help out around the house -they don’t want to spend time together or want all of my attention all the time -they only want me around when they want something from me -they’re disrespectful, ungrateful, and selfish
Said differently, a kiddo who is overwhelmed by a big feeling isn’t neurologically able to rationalize, understand your perspective, or solve problems. Focus your efforts on soothing the emotional pain they’re experiencing before trying to talk about what went wrong - much as you would if they had a physical injury that needed immediate care.
{the BIG lie}
There’s a big lie we sometimes buy into as parents, and that is that children have to do what we want them to, when we want them to, to make us/our family happy. Said another way – we sometimes believe children’s behavior
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Try completing this sentence starter, thinking of the child who inspired you to read this article: “ (Child’s name) should: ____________ “ Did you come up with something? Does any part of it have to do with the big lie – that if they changed, THEN you’d be happy or you’d have a good relationship?
Think about the child who inspired you to read this article and the sentence you completed above. What is this mirroring to you about yourself? What is out of balance or you are not allowing yourself that makes it so challenging to deal with in this other person? Spend a few moments reflecting on this - maybe writing about it or talking with a friend.
The truth is that our children do not have to change these behaviors for us to be happy. We may not be Ghandi, but we can tap into a sense of inner peace, regardless of the external situation happening around us. And a beautiful parenting goal is for our children to be empowered to do the same.
{Key #3} Mind your aliveness. How alive do you feel in this moment? Write a percentage here: ___% How do you feel about this number?
{Key #2} What upsets us about others teaches us about ourselves. Here’s a real life example many people have experienced: My child (or partner or parent or friend) is so selfish. They never think about anyone but themselves. They’re consumed by their own interests. They have no problem sitting around doing nothing while the house is a disaster zone. When I find something that needs to be done, I get it done right away, while they couldn’t seem to care less. I initiate everything we do together – if it weren’t for me, I don’t think we’d talk or spend time together at all!
What makes you feel alive? Gardening? Talking with friends? Spiritual practice? Exercise? Holding someone you love? Your new grandbaby? Tending to our aliveness gives us more resources to navigate our challenges within our relationships. As mothers, fathers, partners, managers of income and household, sometimes by ourselves and sometimes with support from others, our roles and responsibilities demand our time, attention, and resources.
Now for the hard part: if this is my truth, what could this relationship be mirroring to me about myself? What might be stifled or out of balance in my own life that makes my child’s “laziness” so challenging? The answer often has something to do with lacking self-care or downtime of your own. And you may think if you don’t do it, no one will, which may or may not be true. And in either case, everyone needs downtime to function at their best and to feel healthy.
Sometimes it takes a life or health crisis for us to know unequivocally that minding our own aliveness is the most important thing we can do to survive life challenges and thrive in our relationships and our lives. “Our relationships with our children can be some of the most challenging opportunities for personal growth we can experience in our lifetime. They can also be the most rewarding. Trying any one of these keys can create a positive momentum in the direction you want to go. Jenifer Trivelli (WiseMind Educational Services, LLC) has a Master’s degree in Counseling and is a Registered Yoga Teacher of adults and children in Salem, Oregon. Find her on LinkedIn, Facebook, or shoot her a note at wiseminded@yahoo.com.
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TANYA SAYS: I love that my sons dad is such a hard worker, and even after a long exhausting day at work he still finds the time and energy to spend time with our son! I know as our son grows up I never have to worry about the man he looks up to, because his role model ( my sons father) is the man I hope my son becomes one day!
SAMANTHA SAYS: We have foster kids and I love that even though these kids aren’t biologically his, you wouldn’t know that by the way he cares for them. He is a firefighter, and will come home from working 24 hours and will cook them breakfast, take the older one to school and stay home with the younger one.
AMANDA SAYS: When I’m at the end of my day and the candle is almost out, he knows to step in and mix it up a bit. He is the Cobra Bubbles to my Stitch.
SARAH SAYS: He is totally selfless and my partner in crime. Plays the good guy and the bad guy with our boys and is always there for them-sports, academics and good old “boys nights”.
MONICA SAYS: I love the father that my boyfriend is. We have one toddler together, he has two girls that are my bonus babies and I have three “babies” that he’s taken to be his own. He works 6 days a week, twelve hour days. He then goes to teach a few nights a week at a local community college. He handles all of this with only love and care for our children. He reads books to them at night, and helps them with their homework. He loves selflessly to his kids, and never declines that extra moment with them even when he’s had a long day. And he’s surrounded by all females except for my son. Most of whom are teenagers that right there deserves a gold star. He isn’t perfect. But he’s present. Involved. And dedicated.️
KRISTIN SAYS: My husband takes the time to explain everything to our girls. If they ask what he's doing on the car, he explains it to them. If they ask for more details about something in the night sky, he gets the telescope and shows them. If they ask how something works, he takes it apart if possible and shows them. It requires more time and patience then I often have to do that.
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SHAY SAYS:
ERIKKA SAYS: I love that my husband is the calm in our crazy home. He is affectionate with them, and me. He is FUNNY - so funny! And he wants them to experience all the things! He wants them to try any sport, have any hobby, and see every movie! He loves life and our whole family feeds off of that! He works hard, long days. Sometimes 7 days / week but he still makes time to tell me how beautiful I am, snuggle the kids, change diapers, help with homework,
My husband is always willing to play. I am good at crafts, board games, and such, but I have never enjoyed getting on the ground to play. He has filed that need with our kids. By getting to their level, he has forged amazing relationships.
LOGAN SAYS:
He makes everything an adventure and his patience challenges me to really stop and enjoy our children at every stage.
SHAWNELL SAYS: l Iove that my husband is a stay at home dad. I didnt have a connection like he does with my dads. And i love that even when im home he is so in sync with my kids, our life is so much easier for it.
AMY SAYS: My fiancée is amazing to my 3 girls and his son. He is patient, he is loving, kind, hard working and coparents so well. When my youngest tries to play sides he is able to calm her without playing sides. He loves them as his own.
DANIELLE SAYS:
My husband has always put his kids first! He was recently diagnosed with hashimotos and had insane thyroid levels (on the spectrum that leaves you exhausted). Despite that, he would work all day then come home and play with and wrestle the kids, make us all dinner, and put the kids to bed. I don’t know how he did it.
ROBYN SAYS: I love that he is a kid himself with the kids! He plays whatever ridiculous game they have created and encourages them to just be themselves.
JENNIFER SAYS: My husband is an amazing teacher to our girls. In every moment, he finds a way to show them how to do something or talk through a subject so they understand. For example, he taught our five year old how to do multiplication just by chatting over dinner one night, he taught her how to chop vegetables, and he’s done woodworking projects with them. He uses every chance he gets to show them the world.
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The Perfect MORNING ROUTINE ...to ......................... win the day.
If I were to tell you that I squeezed six things into my already busy morning routine and it actually ADDED more goodness to my life, you might think I was crazy... but take a second and hear me out. This really, really works!
His story is a lot more interesting than mine, but his message was one that I found hard to believe: that by ADDING things to my schedule and getting up earlier, I would be able to achieve more, relax more, and be more apt to feel accomplished at the end of the day.
As a single mom and business owner, I am always reading up on ways that I can manage to get everything done that needs to be done and still feel like I am moving forward in my life. It can be such a challenge, and I know that ALL parents are busy and overwhelmed, and most of us want to do better and feel better. My research lead me to a movement based on a book called Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod.
So I set out to experiment on my own. The Facebook group I found was full of so many positive people, I was a bit taken aback. How can so many people be THAT excited about the morning? Gross! I lived to roll over and hit snooze. I figured it was time for me to try it out for myself. The premise of this morning routine reminds me of my mom, actually. I remember her saying when we were kids that all she really ever wanted was some time to herself. By implementing these next five steps, I got exactly that: ME TIME. I found that I actually looked forward to it, and in turn, became more patient, more relaxed, and more focused. That makes for a much more fun and happy mom. Before you begin, pick a special place just for your routine. Good try, doing it in bed... but we both know you’re just going to fall back to sleep! Make sure it is comfortable, and makes you feel good: a favorite chair, a sunlit corner, etc.
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These steps can be done in any order that makes the most sense to you.
Step One: Peace
This can be 15 minutes of prayer, meditation, silence, deep breathing, etc. Just a nice quiet way to bring you calmly into your day. Meditation takes some practice! If you have difficulty calming your mind, try guided meditation from YouTube to get you started. If thoughts enter your mind, just let them pass through as if you were watching them through a window. Set a timer if you need to, so you don’t stress about when the fifteen minutes are up. If fifteen minutes seems too long, try to build up to it gradually.
Step Two: Affirmations
Ok, I am NOT a woo-woo kind of girl, and standing in front the mirror telling myself “I am smart, personable, capable and gosh darn it, people like me” is SO not my style. So instead I made cards that reaffirm my strengths, and I read those to myself every morning. Just some positive self-talk to let my inner critic know that I was onto her, and I wasn’t about to listen to her garbage.
Step Three: Visualization
See the “woo woo” comment above. This felt really strange to me at first, but then I realized that we visualize things that what we want all the time. We sit at work and dream about Starbucks. We can almost taste it. How did we know we wanted it? We visualized it. This is the same way to approach other things you want in your life. Of course, visualizing them is followed by hard work to achieve them, but getting a clear picture of yourself with whatever it is that you want to manifest is the best first step toward knowing and getting what you want from this life.
Step Four: Exercise
Augh! You knew I was going to say it, didn’t you? This was the part I felt the most anxiety about. Get up and exercise? Are you kidding? Where’s that snooze button? If you can get through the first week and stick with it, even 15 minutes on the treadmill or a walk around the block does your body and mind SO good, trust me. I actually found that this helped me the most and was what I most looked forward
to. I would find some great playlists on Spotify, and load up on the positive, blood pumping music to work out to, or I would opt for a walk around the neighborhood. Doing this before you are immersed in the crazy morning shenanigans seems almost otherworldly, almost like they’re two different lives.
Step Five: Reading
There’s a bit of a controversy around self improvement books that specifically target areas of your life that you may be feeling insecure about. Some people feel that by reading up on how to fix it, you can lower your esteem by feeling that you need to be “fixed”, but I feel that we can all use a little self-improvement in one area or another. Whether it’s related to health, business, personal life, financials, or something else, reading up on ways to improve your life can never be a bad thing. I really enjoyed You are a Badass by Jen Sincero, and Girl, Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis. I also made it through some budgeting books, business books, and some other great ones that improved life in myriad ways.
Step Six: Journaling
Oooh I love a pretty journal, a nice warm cup of coffee, a blanket... ahh. Journaling doesn’t have to be long, involved and full of too many feels if you don’t want it to be. Bullet journals are perfect for go-getters who love to plan out their day, week and life. Gratitude journals can go a long way to help remind us that we have a lot in this life to look forward to. Or mix it up! If you don’t know what to write, begin by doodling and filling the page with whatever you desire. Getting what’s on the inside out and onto paper can really relieve stress and give you a completely different outlook. I know that mornings are crazy, and the thought of sleeping in is so tempting. But I challenge you to try creating your own magical “me time”, and see if it makes a difference for you too! Happy 2019!
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6 side hustle ideas for busy moms
SIDE JOBS You can start with VERY LITTLE MONEY. I did it and so can you! 2. You’re worried about time.
If you’re wanting to increase your income in 2019, and are considering a second job or side hustle; Listen up!
You already feel strapped as far as time goes. Maybe you work full time and after dinner and bedtime, all you want to do is collapse. Maybe you stay home and after dinner and bedtime, all you want to do is collapse. I get it!
This can certainly be your year. If you’re worried about the cost of start-up, or feel that you don’t have enough time, considering these service based side jobs could be a perfect answer! Service based side hustles are great for busy parents, because you can set your own schedule and take time off when needed for your family.
Here’s the “tough love“ speech. Do it anyway. If you’re looking to get ahead financially this year- you’re going to have to summon up the grit to get it done. Setting clear guidelines and scheduling your side business is imperative. Family time is for family time and work time is for work. Setting these boundaries will ensure you are able to give both your family and your business the time it deserves. YOU drive your side business, and you don’t let IT drive you.
First, let’s talk about the things that are holding you back.
1. You’re worried about cost. Side hustles can cost very little to start. If you’re considering a service based business in your area, you can advertise on local facebook groups for free! Need a website? GoDaddy.com has domain names for $2.95 for new users and Wix. com is what I use for the Willamette Kids and Family Website and I pay a whopping $12.95 a month.
3. You worry about failing. Well, you won’t know if you don’t try, and think of all the valuable skills you will learn along the way. Talk about personal growth! It won’t be in vain. You’ll grow and learn and become better in so many ways.
There are tons of How-To videos for website building on Youtube. Instead of binge watching Vampire Diaries, why not learn how to build a website? BONUS: Why not learn how to make a website for you and then you can then make websites for others. I know Wix designers who make $1200 a website! All it costs you is... TIME.
Utilizing an organization like SCORE.org can be just the support you need. SCORE is FREE and I used their support to start this magazine. And it was FREE. They paired me with an amazing counselor, who was a retired banker and businessman. He met with me downtown whenever I needed him and we wrote a business plan, registered my business, prepared spreadsheets for my profit and loss statements, discussed marketing and more. I couldn’t have done
You absolutely CAN start a new business.
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it without him. Check out SCORE.org and set yourself up a meeting. Bring your ideas, a great attitude, pen and paper and the sky is the limit!
Errands Mobile Notary Public Service Events Planner Handyman Elder Care Doula or Birth Coach Window Washing Kids Party planner Appliance Repair Small Engine Repair Carpet Cleaning
I’ve compiled a list of side job ideas for you that are primarily service based, which means you need very little to get started. Choose a hustle, check out your competition (It’s not spying or stalking, it’s research and fact gathering!) Google “How to start a ( insert service here )” and get ready for adventure! Next, prepare a cost analysis spreadsheet to figure out how much you need for startup. Remember that you don’t have to be perfect to get started. You can build your business as you get more clients. I started this magazine with zero dollars. I went out and sold some ads to cover my printing costs, and even made a profit on the first issue! I’ve learned a lot since then and continue to learn so much with every new client, interaction and magazine issue. So I want to encourage you. If you’re wanting more money- Get out there and make it! You can do it; I believe in you!
There are so many websites out there with lists such as these, google it and make some exciting new decisions this year. While some require special licensing, you can find information online about how to acquire what you need. Most of these just require an internet connection, a little know how, a website or facebook page, and some elbow grease. Check out your local Small Business Development Center for free guidance, and give SCORE a call. You won’t regret it! Have a happy and prosperous 2019!!
Here are some great ideas to get you started.
How about starting a service like these? Auto Detailing House Cleaning Pet Sitting Poop Scooping Pressure Washing In Home Daycare Tutoring Catering Alterations Computer Repair Computer Tutoring Website Building Wedding Officiant Bookkeeping Organization Sales Copywriting Virtual Assistant
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January 1
January 7
12pm-4pm The Carousel is offering free rides. They suggest bringing a canned food donation, benefiting the MarionPolk Food Share. Come ride, shop and celebrate the new year with us! Salem’s Riverfront Carousel 101 Front St. NE Salem, OR 97301 503-540-0374 www.salemcarousel.org
10:30 AM – 11:30 AM The Friendship Brigade is starting a new program at Avamere Transitional at Sunnyside. We want to create an inter generational storytime where the young and old have opportunities to interact and learn from each other. Come enjoy the magic of this new recurring program! 4515 Sunnyside Rd SE, Salem, OR 97302-3928 www.facebook.com/friendshipbrigade/
Salem- Sunnyside Storytime
Salem- FREE Carousel Rides
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Salem- Public Saturday Market
Corvallis- Toddler Storytime at Osborn Aquatic Center
Saturday, 8:30am to 2:00pm REPEATS EVERY WEEK EVERY SATURDAY UNTIL SAT DEC 25 2021. Salem’s oldest Public Market has a wide variety of locally produced Items. From crafts to food, to seasonal items! We operate year-round. Salem Public Market is indoors, come see us rain or shine. Salem Public Market 1240 Rural Ave. SE Salem, OR 97302 503-559-4294 http://salempublicmarket.com/
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We’re taking our popular storytime on the road! On the first Monday of every month through June 2019, we’re hosting a storytime at Osborn Aquatic Center. Storytime is free as always. If you would like to swim afterward, regular admission charges apply. cbcpubliclibrary.net
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January 10
chants, stunting and a dance! Family and friends are invited to join us for a special Pep Rally at the end of camp. The Little Olympian cheerleaders will showcase the material learned. Bring your cameras! Visit our website for info and to register! COST: $40 for participants grades K-5 Sprague High School 2373 Kuebler Blvd S, Salem, Oregon 97302 https://sites.google.com/site/spraguecheersite/
Salem- Zumbini with Sarah FREE Trial Class
Thursday, 10 AM – 11 AM PST Created by Zumba® and BabyFirst for kids ages 0-4, the Zumbini® program combines music, dance and educational tools for 45 minutes of can’t-stop, won’t-stop bonding, learning, and fun! Young Singers Club Salem, 890 Saginaw Street, Salem, Oregon 97302 www.zumbini.com
January 12
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Salem- Little Deer Cupcake Workshop
Saturday, January 12, 1PM $30 Little deer cupcakes Workshop brought to you by Country Cake Shop! Fun workshop for all skill levels, ages 8 to adult! All supplies provided, 3 cupcakes to take home. Gift voucher available. Uptown Insurance and Lounge 349 State St, Salem www.countrycakeshop.com/
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January 19
Salem- KROC Health Fair
Saturday, 11:00am to 3:00pm The Salvation Army Kroc Community Center’s hosts this exciting event focusing on health and wellness in the new year! The Salvation Army Kroc Community Center 1865 Bill Frey Dr. NE Salem, OR 97301 503-798-4782 or 877-748-4357 www.salem.kroccenter.org
January 19
Salem-Lego Party for Kids
Saturday, 2:00 PM - 3:30 PM PST Kids with their grown-ups are invited for an hour of unstructured Lego play in Story Rooms A & B. Legos are provided. Bring your imaginations! No sign-ups are necessary. Salem Public Library 585 Liberty St SE www.salemlibrary.org
January 30
Salem- Little Olympian Cheer Clinic
Wednesday, 4:30 PM – 6:45 PM Clinic attendees will be learning new cheerleading skills such as motions,
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February 1
February 9
Corvallis-School’s Out Adventure: Creatures and Climate Change
Portland- PJ Masks LIVE!
Saturday, February 9 2 PM – 4 PM Tickets start at $20. Tickets are available by calling 800-325-7328. **Ages 1 & up require a ticket. All Ages | Reserved Doors at 1:00 PM | Show at 2:00 PM Keller Auditorium 222 SW Clay St, Portland, Oregon 97201 https://www.portland5.com/
9 AM – 12 PM We’ll be highlighting 25 of the most climate change susceptible species including animals like polar bears, pika, penguins, whales, coral, and many others. We’ll run our own experiments to understand the changes and effects of climate, while discovering what we can do to help the planet too. $50/day or $95 for 2 days. Corvallis Environmental Center 116 SW 4th Street, Corvallis www.corvallisenvironmentalcenter.org
February 10
Salem- Family Day at Ticket to Play Board Game Cafe
February 5-19
Every Sunday! Kids up to 12 years old play free, 13-17yrs are $2.50 each! Eat at our delicious cafe and play some of our over 350 board games! 5008 Commercial St SE www.salemtickettoplaycafe.com
Portland- Chinese New Year at Lan Su Chinese Garden
Tue, Feb 5, 10 AM – 5 PM Celebrate Chinese New Year, the most colorful and joyous of all Chinese festivals during Lan Su’s two-week celebration featuring lion dances, cultural performances, martial arts, calligraphy, family-friendly craft activities and much more! . www.lansugarden.org
February 12
Salem- 2 hours for the price of one at SuperBounce
Every Tuesday! Enjoy our indoor inflatable park with 7 large inflatables in a safe and clean environment. Relax in the air conditioning while your kiddo enjoys jumping. 3160 Blossom Dr NE, Salem www.superbouncesalem.com
February 6
Salem-Preventing Teen Suicide
Wed 5:30 PM PST Talking to your children about suicide isn’t easy. Join SKPS and mental health professionals for a listening session and focus group to identify strategies that facilitate conversations with loved ones and young people about mental health. Dinner provided from 5:30-6, and the program runs 6-8. Free childcare also will be provided. South Salem High 1910 Church St SE https://salkeiz.k12.or.us/
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February 12
Salem- Stewards of Children® Sexual Abuse Prevention Training Wed February 13, 10 AM – 12:30 PM Hosted by Liberty House Child Abuse Assessment Center. Welcome to the only nationally available program proven to increase knowledge, improve attitudes and change child-protective behaviors.
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This is for any responsible adult who cares about the welfare of children. It is also appropriate for youth-serving organizations (sports leagues, day care centers, after school programs, children’s clubs, church groups and more). Registration required. RSVP to Kelley Parosa at 503.540.0288 or kparosa@libertyhousecenter.org. $10 suggested donation to cover cost of materials. Liberty House Child Abuse Assessment Center 385 Taylor St NE, Salem www.libertyhousecenter.org
Salem- Read to a Pet
1-2:30 p.m. This program offers a relaxing, non-threatening way for young readers to improve their reading skills. Visiting dogs and cats have been trained and certified as therapy animals by Paws for Love and are mellow and friendly. This is a drop-in program, and sign-ups are not necessary. Salem Public Library, 585 Liberty St. https://www.cityofsalem.net/Pages/ library-events-for-children.aspx
February 16-17
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Portland- KidFest! NW’s Largest Family Expo
Feb 16 – Feb 17 10 AM to 5 PM Events featured: Live Stage Entertainment, Interactive Sports Demos, Inflatable Fun Zones, Laser Tag, Star Wars BlastA-Trooper, Iron-Kid Chef Competition, Robotics, Mad Science, Extreme Big Air Jump, Paintball Arena, Petting Zoo, Exotic Animals & Reptiles and more. Parents can enjoy shopping the various exhibits while the kids are entertained and find resources in Education & Youth Enrichment, Camps, Sports & Fitness, Health & Wellness, Cooking & Healthy Eating, Family Recreation, Eco-Family and so much more! Portland Expo Center- Tickets $5-$20 family pass. Bring cash for parking! www.babyfestnw.com
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February 18
Salem- 2019 Lobby Day in Salem
Mon 9 AM - 4PM Over 1.2 million voters supported Measure 98 in 2016.Now we are laying the groundwork for the most significant investment in our students in decades. Help us ensure Measure 98 is a new beginning of a hard-earned campaign. Join us in Salem this year and share your Measure 98 story with Oregon lawmakers. Stand for Children’s work is driven by parents, students, educators and advocates to ensure every student graduates high school on time, prepared for college, a career, or both. Start at St. Mark’s in Salem 790 Marion Street NE S http://stand.org/
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My twin sister came for Thanksgiving this year. A few days prior, she asked me if she could cook dinner for the kids and I. You would think I would jump at the chance, right? No cooking! Well- I wasn’t so keen on it, to be honest. She said she wanted to make an italian soup for us with spicy sausage and kale. KALE. As in healthy, leafy, and green. I’ve tried to love Kale. I’ve tried it a million and one ways and it still tastes like the way your lawnmower smells when you’re finished mowing. Uhm. I didn’t want to hurt her feelings, and the kids were excited so I figured I would just bite the bullet ( or the kale in this instance ) and say yes. Oh. My. Palate. SO delicious. SO Potatoe-y, Cream-y, delicious and dream-y. I just had to share it with you all. We halved the hot italian sausage with regular italian sausage because I’m a wimp. And even with Kale- I lived. Not only did I live- I had two bowls. And all the leftovers. :)
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INGREDIENTS 1 lb. ground Hot Italian sausage 1 large onion, chopped 3 cloves garlic, minced kosher salt Freshly ground black pepper 6 c. low-sodium chicken broth 4 large russet potatoes, diced 1 bunch curly kale, leaves stripped and chopped 3/4 c. heavy cream 4 slices cooked bacon, chopped 1/4 freshly grated Parmesan, for serving DIRECTIONS In a large pot over medium heat, cook sausage, breaking up with the back of a wooden spoon, until browned and no longer pink, 5 to 7 minutes. Transfer to a plate to drain. Add onion to pot and let cook until soft, 5 minutes, then add garlic and cook until fragrant, 1 minute more. Season with salt and pepper. Add chicken broth and potatoes and cook until potatoes are tender, 23 to 25 minutes. Stir in kale and let cook until leaves are tender and bright green, 3 minutes, then stir in heavy cream, sausage, and bacon and simmer 5 minutes more. Season with pepper, garnish with Parm, and serve. 19
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BOOK REVIEW Books to encourage Goal Setting, Perseverance and Positive Thinking Giraffes Can’t Dance
by: Giles Andr and Guy ParkerRees Ages: 3-7 Gerald the giraffe longs to dance, but his legs are too skinny and his neck is too long. His knees buckle whenever he tries to twirl. At the Jungle Dance, the warthogs waltz, the chimps cha-cha, and the lions tango. Gerald steps onto the dance floor, the other animals start laughing at him before he even starts dancing. Gerald feels embarrassed and sad “Giraffes can’t dance,” they all jeer when it’s Gerald’s turn to prance. But there is one little creature who believes in Gerald. “Everything makes music,” the cricket explains,” if you really want it to.” So Gerald starts swaying to his own sweet tune and gains some confidence and is finally able to dance. With light-footed rhymes and highstepping illustrations, this tale is gentle inspiration for every child with dreams of greatness.
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A Chair For My Mother
by: Vera B. Williams Ages: 4-8 Caldecott Medal Nominee This is such a memorable and wonderful way for easy readers to learn of altruism and family life, saving, hard work, and surviving hardship. Vera B. Williams is a talented author who does a wonderful job telling the story of a young girl and her mother and their committment to returning their lives back to normal following a fire that burned all their possessions in their home. Kids understand the idea of having your home catch on fire and losing all your possessions as a common fear. This shared realistic fear and questioning make this book a perfect example of contemporary realistic fiction. “A Chair for My Mother” teaches readers lessons in hard work, empathy and appreciation throughout the story. The pages of this book are filled with bright, beautifully crafted illustrations, outlined by frames that connect one page to the next. The story being told from the point-ofview of a child is compelling and rich, and the payoff at the end is very sweet and satisfying. It’s a classic for a reason.
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as reviewed by: Justin Tripp age 16
Brave Irene
combination of third-person narrative with Brian’s inner thoughts engages the reader to invest themselves into the story. Brian’s angst over a terrible secret-he’s seen his mother with another man-is undeveloped and doesn’t contribute much, except as one item from his previous life that he sees in better perspective. High interest, a fairly easy read. Both my kids declare this book a winner.
by: William Steig Ages: 6-10 1986 New York Times Book Review Best Illustrated Book of the Year This is a tried and true story; and I loved to read aloud to my children in their early years. From the author of Shrek, Brave Irene shows that persistance and perseverance can save the day. When her mother, a seamstress becomes ill, Irene fights a raging snowstorm to deliver a dress in time for the duchess’s ball. Colorful and engaging illustrations show Irene’s plucky courage as she braves the elements and brings joy to those who are around her. The strong female courage is portrayed in a way that elicits sympathy from young readers, which will have them cheering till the end.
Some Parents Concerns: There is mention of his mother having an affair, divorce and an attempted suicide. Readers may be traumatized by the scenes witnessing a heart attack, crashing a plane and experiencing a tornado and use of the Lord’s name in vain. Have a book you’d like to share or review? Email and let us know! yvette@willamettekidsandfamily.com
Hatchet
by: Gary Paulsem Ages: 13+ *Newberry Honor Book A prototypical survival story: after an airplane crash, a 13-year-old city boy spends two months alone in the Canadian wilderness. Eventually, he builds a shelter, finds berries and turtle eggs to eat,, starts a fire, makes a bow and arrow to catch fish and birds, and learns to live amongst the larger wildlife. He battles despair and learns to become more patient and prepared to learn from his mistakes. Paulsen’s writing style conveys Brian’s stress; the author’s
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SUPERFOODS
TO FEED YOUR
HEALTHY FAMILY
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1. Berries. Naturally sweet, and their 5. Olive oil. Olive oil is a good source rich colors mean they are high in antioxidants and disease-fighting nutrients. Berries are a great source of fiber. How to include them: Talk about a low hanging fruit! Berries are the easiest superfood to give our kids, because they’re bite sized, yummy and just plain cute. Living in Oregon, berries are plentiful, but FYI: frozen is just as healthy. Add to yogurt, cereals, and smoothies, or eat plain for a snack.
2. Fish. Protein and omega-3 fatty
acids help prevent heart disease. Fish is a great source of both, and easy to prepare. How to include it: Buy fresh, frozen, or canned fish. Fish with the highest omega-3 content are herring, trout, salmon, tuna steaks, mackerel, and sardines. Don’t assume your kids won’t like it. Try some anchovies on pizza!
3. Leafy greens. Popeye knew the importance of Spinach in the diet. Dark, leafy greens are a great source of vitamins A and C, and calcium, as well as several phytochemicals (chemicals made by plants that have a positive effect on your health). How to include them: Throw out the iceberg lettuce! Try varieties such as spinach, swiss chard, kale, collard greens, or mustard greens. Toss them into salads or sauté them in a little olive oil. You can also hide greens to soups and stews.
4. Nuts. If your family has no nut
allergies, this superfood is such a handy, convenient food to feed your kids. Hazelnuts, walnuts, almonds, pecans — nuts provide a good source of plant protein. They contain monounsaturated fats, which may actually reduce the risk of heart disease. How to include them: Add a handful to oatmeal or yogurt, or have as a snack. Nuts are high in calories, so limit to a small handful. Try various types of nut butters such as peanut, almond, or cashew. Pay careful attention to the amounts of sugar added to nut butters! Nuts are also a great accompaniment to cooked veggies or salads.
of vitamin E, polyphenols, and monounsaturated fatty acids, all which help reduce the risk of heart disease. Filled with Omega acids, olive oil is a great way to promote your kid’s brain development How to include them: Kids this age usually love fried food. If you use olive oil, you’ll be making fried food a healthier option. It can even be used for baking. If your child is more adventurous, you can use extra virgin olive oil as salad dressing and serve up a bowl full of health.
6. Yogurt. A good source of calcium
and protein, yogurt also contains live cultures called probiotics. Known as a “good bacteria”, it can protect the body from other, more harmful bacteria. How to include it: Watch out for fruited or flavored yogurts, which contain a lot of added sugar. Buy plain yogurt and add your own fruit. Look for yogurts that have “live active cultures” such as Lactobacillus, L. acidophilus, L. bulgaricus, and S. thermophilus.
7. Cruciferous vegetables.
Maybe the most difficult of the superfoods to introduce, broccoli, Brussels sprouts, cabbage, cauliflower, collard greens, kale, kohlrabi, mustard greens, radishes, and turnips are always a healthy choice. An excellent source of fiber, vitamins, and phytochemicals which may prevent against some types of cancer. How to include them: Steam or stir-fry, adding healthy oils and herbs and seasonings for flavor. Mrs. Dash has some great ones! Add a frozen cruciferous vegetable medley to soups, casseroles, and pasta dishes. Keep trying!
8. Legumes. This broad category
includes kidney, black, red, and garbanzo beans, as well as soybeans and peas. Legumes are an excellent source of fiber, folate, and plant-based protein which can help reduce the risk of heart disease. How to include them: Add to salads, soups, and casseroles. Make a chili or a bean- based spread such as hummus. Try adding them to your sloppy joes even!
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0WAYS TO 5ENCOURAGE YOUR CHILD THIS YEAR!
Kids do their best when you expect their best.
Here are some samples of ways to encourage your kiddos. 1. I love the way you figured that out! 2. You came up with a solution! By using the right encouraging words, parents and caregivers can: - Improve kids’ self-esteem. - Boost natural motivation to achieve. - reward perseverance and patience.
4. You handled that so well. 5. I like the way you think! 6. What a super star you are! 7. I see great improvement!
BE SINCERE- Blanket statements can hurt. Kids know when you are not sincere. Encourage children using descriptive praise. The more specific the praise, the more likely it is sincere.
8. You’re on the right track now! 9. I see you are a creative thinker. 10. I’m proud of you for trying. 11. You did it!
Point out a specific aspect of the child’s performance and describe what behavior led to good results. Specific comments signal you have paid attention and you really care. Find us on facebook! /willamettekidsandfamily
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31. You figured it out! 32. That took a lot of patience. 33. That’s the way to use your brain! 34. Sweet! 35. Excellent way to use your words. 15. That took a lot of bravery. 16. Look! You solved the problem. 17. Good remembering! 18. I know that was hard for you. 19. Great way to use your words! 20. You must have practiced a lot! 21. You handled that so well. 22. You are almost there! 23. I love the way you did that. 24. What a great idea! 25. I love hearing your ideas. 26. High five! 27. You worked really hard on that. 28. Your brain is working hard! 29. Now you’ve figured it out! 30. Nothing can stop you now!
36. You used ingenuity and it works! 37. Great focus! 38. We did it together! 39. You make the day better when... 40. How did you think of that? 41. I’m so proud to be your parent! 42. You made that really colorful! 43. I love how hard you are trying. 44. I know you are frustrated but you’re making great progress. 45. I believe in you, always! 46. You make me proud. 47. I love doing this with you. 48. You’ve come such a long way. 49. Way to go! 50. You are making a great effort, keep trying- you’ll get it! 25
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Marion County currently has over 620 children in Foster Care. These children can feel frightened and alone. Currently 70% of these neglected and abused children have a CASA (Court Appointed Special Advocate) volunteer helping them. CASA’s stand up for and support foster children as they wait for a safe and permanent home. Now please stand, let’s welcome Lilly Mae, the latest sworn children’s court appointed special advocate. She is a very good girl. She sits, she heels and she shakes on command. Lilly Mae is a Boxer rescue that when requested, can accompany foster youth into court to provide comfort to them during a time that can be very stressful. Find us on facebook! /willamettekidsandfamily
Lilly Mae was rescued by Shaney Starr, Executive Director of CASA Marion County. CASA of Marion County recently had Lilly Mae sworn in as it’s CASA dog, the first in the state of Oregon. After having her temperament tested, Lilly Mae and Shaney started rigorous training to be prepared for the courtroom. In September, CASA had a special ceremony for her swearing-in by Marion County Circuit Judge Cheryl Pellegrini. Lilly Mae has completed training and has been requested for her first case in January. Lilly Mae will make a child feel more comfortable in a courtroom, but we need volunteers like you to help keep the kids in care top priority. Become a voice for them in the courtroom!
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CASA of Marion County
CASA Volunteers are a caring and consistent adult presence for abused and neglected children:
A Powerful Voice in a Child’s Life
For many abused and neglected children facing multiple challenges, a CASA volunteer may be the one constant adult presence in their lives. Advocates stay with each case until it is closed and the child is placed in a safe, permanent home.
Marion County currently has over 640 children in Foster Care. The need for CASA’s is only getting greater. CASA of Marion County has the important mission of advocating, with volunteers, for the abused and neglected children that need safe and permanent homes.
CASA Programs use effective evidence-based practices: Independent studies have established that a child with a CASA volunteer is more likely to find a safe and permanent home; more likely to be adopted; half as likely to re-enter foster care; and substantially less likely to spend time in long-term foster care than children without a CASA volunteer.
What is a CASA?
A CASA is a Court Appointed Special Advocate. CASA’s are members of the community that volunteer their time to advocate and support children in foster care.
CASA’s are community members that speak for those who can’t always speak for themselves. CASA of Marion County cannot exist without the amazing volunteers.
A child with a CASA: • Is more likely to find a safe and permanent home • Spends an average of 8 months less in foster care
The CASA volunteer is a person the child can count on and is often the only consistent person in the child’s life during their time in foster care. Help us achieve our goal of 100% - a CASA for every child in foster care.
• Is half as likely to re-enter foster care • Does better in school
How you can help:
Become a CASA volunteer, like Lilly Mae, and you too can make a difference, be a powerful voice in a child’s life! While we need a CASA for every child, you can donate to CASA, or let friends, family, or co-workers know about us. For more information, contact Nicki Marazzani at 503-967-6420 or email Nicki@CasaMarionOR.org
• Become a CASA • Attend a CASA Event • Become a Donor • Share CASA with your friends, family and co-workers
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