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The Voice of Ohio’s GLBT and Ally Community

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news: Columbus Pride critics

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polisigh: PG Sittenfeld

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snapshot: Dayton Pride

snapshot: Youngstown Pride

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snapshot: Columbus Pride

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snapshot: Cincinnati Pride

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snapshot: Springfield Pride, Yellow Springs Pride

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marriage! Ohio celebrates

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marriage! Timeline

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marriage! The Right Reacts

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marriage! Meet the Victors

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marriage! Where to Wed

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bookmark: Billy Bean

deep inside hollywood interview: pearl

interview: ginger minj

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the divine life

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Marriage Equality Is Ours I came out almost two decades ago. At this year’s Coming Out Day, I’ll be celebrating 20 years of my big gay life.

why I thought marriage equality was so important. My answer had to do with my oldest nephew, Alex, and how he should be able to grow up in a world always knowing that our Most of us come out and then continue on government respected him marrying with our jobs at the bank or the drive-through whomever he chose. or the oil change place down the street. Not me. I packed up, moved to New York, volunAlex was around 6 at the time. And I knew teered for HRC and got a job at the gayest that if we could get marriage equality before place I could find: Next Magazine. he was taught to think of being gay as something bad, or a burden, or not normal, When I said big gay life, I wasn’t kidding. that he would grow up thinking the way I’ve always thought about interracial marriage.

I am what you would Why was it ever such a big call a Professional Gay. deal? In America, you My life - professional should be able to marry and personal - since I any person you love, recame out has been gardless of race. about being gay. I am not one of those people I wanted Alex to know that who talks about being in America, you also should this, this and that first be able to marry any perand then flippantly son you love, regardless of throws in that I also gender. It wouldn’t be “just happen to be something a family had to gay.” Those people, to “deal with.” His uncle be honest, irk me. being gay wouldn’t require Especially on days like a special conversation, or a today. right time, or an explanation about how even though I’m different, We just witnessed the biggest civil-rights everyone still loves me “anyways.” achievement of our lifetime, and that victory didn’t just happen to happen. It took decades That day is finally here. of work from LGBT people and allies alike who understood that in this time and in this place Yes, of course, we still have a long way to go. in history, if you are an L, G, B or T, to everyone But isn’t it nice to taste victory for a change? else that’s first and foremost what you are.

Alex, you can marry anyone you love. And so Today we won marriage equality. Today was can I. 100 percent about being you being gay, lesbian, bi or trans.

This is America.

I remember one conversation in particular with my mom when we were talking about

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PUBLISHER Christopher Hayes

ASSOCIATE PUBLISHERS Bob Vitale / Chad Frye

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Columbus naitive Bam, aka Bryan Grey, is a visual dude and all-around rock star. His work can be seen in a variety of forms, including murals in businesses, on custom denim at What the Rock?! in Columbus and in a variety of publications. This is Bam’s second cover for Outlook.

Here, in order of adoption, is how marriage equality came to each state...

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Give Them a Toaster “I hope that the fans, the promoters and everyone else don’t change their opinions of me. I was the same person yesterday as I am right now, just now, I have a bit more weight lifted off of my shoulders,” he wrote.

Cage, whose real name is Matt Hullum, previously had identified as bisexual.

Matt Hatzke, a former professional soccer player with the San Jose Eathquakes, came out as gay in an Outsports essay on June 24.

“I am deeply sorry I didn’t address this earlier,” said Councilwoman Deneese Owen, sponsor of the measure that prohibits discrimination in employment, housing and business services based on sexual orientation and gender identity.

Owen called on members of the Ohio General Assembly to act.

Pete Buttigieg, the first-term mayor of South Bend, Ind, came out as gay in a June 16 commentary in his hometown South Bend Tribune.

“It’s clear to me that at a moment like this, being more open about it could do some good,” he wrote. “For a local student struggling with her sexuality, it might be helpful for an openly gay mayor to send the message that her community will always have a place for her. And for a conservative resident from a different generation, whose unease with social change is partly rooted in the impression that he doesn’t know anyone gay, perhaps a familiar face can be a reminder that we’re all in this together as a community.”

About 80 people - nearly all supporters of the civil-rights measure - attended the Bexley City Council meeting. The Columbus suburb made national news in March when a local videographer told a lesbian couple that she didn’t offer services to same-sex couples. Next Door Stories owner Courtney Schmackers later cited “the biblical definition of marriage” as her reason.

Council members rejected several proposed amendments to the ordinance that would have allowed business owners to cite religious beliefs as a reason to refuse service; that would have allowed landlords to reject anyone they dislike if they also live on the

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Council President Richard Sharp, who proposed the amendments, abstained on the final vote for the ordinance. It was approved, 6-0.

“I moved to Bexley … knowing it was a community of inclusion and diversity,” said Carol Fey, an openly gay attorney and former Bexley School Board member.

Fey and other Bexley residents congratulated council members for taking a stand against anti-LGBT bias, but council members praised Jenn Moffitt and Jerra Knicely, the couple who shared their rejection by Schmackers on social media until local and national media picked up their story.

- US Sen. Rob Portman, R-Ohio

Massachusetts: May 17, 2004 (state Supreme Court ruling)

The women sat in the first row as the ordinance was approved.

“You’ve been brave,” said Councilman Steve Keyes, another who fought back tears as he explained why he was voting for the ordinance. “You’ve been authentic. We stand with you against discrimination.”

After the meeting, Moffitt and Knicely said they were relieved that the issue has been put to rest in Bexley. The couple endured insults and threats after taking their story public.

“We finally get to exhale after four months,” Moffitt said.

“Well, I’m obviously disappointed because I’ve always felt that marriage is one of these traditions between a man and a woman.”

- Gov. John Kasich, R-Ohio

Wrong Side of History

“In 2013, I decided to support marriage equality after I came to understand this issue better in the context of my own family. I can’t help but view today’s Supreme Court decision through that same lens. And as a father, I welcome today’s decision.”

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premises; and would have allowed businesses to deny services for weddings, funerals and baptisms they oppose.

“It’s time for you to take action,” she said.

Right Side of History

“Money” Matt Cage, a pro wrestler on the indie circuit, came out as gay in a June 18 Facebook post titled, “Here Goes Nothing...”

A majority of Bexley City Council members voted on June 22 to bar discrimination against LGBT people, and a near-majority shed tears while doing so.

The new law also bars discrimination based on race, gender, religion and other factors covered by state and federal law.

Ohio and the federal government are silent on bias against LGBT people.

“If I have one regret it’s that I didn’t live my life and share the real me with my teammates when I had the chance,” wrote Hatzke, who played one year of Major League Soccer and left the sport because of the pressure he felt in the closet.

In his essay, Hatzke described a 2008 victory celebration in Columbus after defeating the Crew. He snuck out and returned to his hotel, he said, after teammates kept pushing him to hit on various women.

Bexley City Council Approves Non-Discrimination Ordinance

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Happy Campers: LGBTQ+ Kids Save the Date Get Summer Spaces of Their Own Pride Night at the Clippers Red Columbus

by Louis Baragona

half will be spent in workshops at Blue Jacket Bookstore in Xenia about topics such as femFor most people, the idea of a summer camp inism, gender, movement-building, evokes images of bonfires, mosquito bites, music and poetry. swimming and the new experience of “roughing it” in a rural environment. Ri The camp is scheduled for July 7-30. “The Molnar is hoping to expand on the imagery of camp combines sustainable farming, artistic camp for a diverse group of youth this month expression and political education,” Molnar with their QT* Liberation Camp. said.

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“The main goal of the camp is to help young Queer and Trans* youth find their creative voices and skills, develop lasting relationships with each other built on mutual support, gain an empowered sense of self and an expansive sense of possibility to create a beautiful future for themselves and the world,” Molnar said.

The QT* Liberation Camp is one of several taking place this summer in Ohio for LGBTQ kids. Others include:

2015 Gay Softball World Series gsws2015.org Aug 17-22, Columbus

Grrrls Rock Columbus Music & Creative Arts Camp @ Fort Hayes Career Center, 546 Jack Gibbs Blvd, Columbus, 43215; 513.254.1366; grrrlsrockcolumbus.com: A day camp for teen girls and gender-variant youth takes place from Sunday, July 19Saturday, July 25. It teaches participants electric guitar and bass, drums, keyboard and vocals; campers form bands, write original songs and perform at the end of the week. 9a-5p; $50-$150, based on ability to pay (no one turned away for lack of funds).

Cleveland HRC Gala FB: Human Rights Campaign Cleveland Aug 22, Cleveland

The QT* Liberation Camp, which will gather in Greene County east of Dayton, combines the experiences of a traditional camp with a more socially responsible twist, offering campers a chance to socialize and share insights at a sometimes-vulnerable period in their lives. Its goal is to make an often-marginalized group of young people feel included through a camp experience they might never had been able to have.

Transgender/Gender Fluid Teen Mini Campout @ Camp Paradise, 4283 Paradise Rd, Molnar’s camp began with the idea of giving Seville, 44273; 330.241.1281; 16- to 22-year-olds some tools for adulthood: outsupport.org: Medina County’s OutSupport sustainable living, social justice and a mu- is sponsoring a morning minicamp on Saturtual-support system as they journey into the day, Aug 1, for transgender teens. Activities “real world.” include arts and crafts, journaling and outdoor games (bring a T-shirt to tie-dye). From To fund the camp - and pay the campers, 2p-6p, families will gather for OutSupport’s who will work as interns at Pay-It-Forward annual picnic. 8a-1:30p; $10.

Farm in Sugarcreek Township - Molnar set up a GoFundMe that raised nearly $1,000 by late Louis Baragona grew up in Akron and is a senior at Ohio June. Half of each day at camp will be spent University majoring in journalism. You can follow him on Twitter at @Lounicorn_. farming (campers will get to take home as much organic produce as they wish), and

Camp Sunrise sunrisekids.org Aug 9-15, Clarksville Party in Plaid & Paisley Caracole Inc. Fundraiser Aug 15, Cincinnati

Toledo Pride toledopride.com Aug 28-30, Toledo Pride Night @ Kings Island cincyglbt.com/pride-night Sept 11, Cincinnati

Around Ohio

Ohio Lesbian Fest ohiolba.org Sept 18-20, Pataskala Kaleidoscope Youth Center Garden Party kycohio.org Sept 27, Columbus International Sovereign Queen City Court of the Buckeye Empire Coronation XXIV isqccbe.org Sept 30-Oct 4, Cincinnati Dayton LGBT Film Festival daytonlgbt.com Oct 9-11, Dayton Masquerage ARC Ohio Fundraiser Oct 17, Dayton

Cincinnati: The Queen City Rainbow Band is thinking about a new name. You can offer your ideas on the LGBT band’s Facebook page. One of the submissions so far: Rhine, Rhythm & Sound.

Cincinnati: Club Glitter, an LGBT nightclub in Over-the-Rhine that opened in late April, closed in June. The shortlived club was the scene of two shootings in a five-day span in May.

Cleveland: Bounce is back! The

Detroit-Shoreway nightclub that closed in January made a comeback on Pride weekend with new owners and management.

Columbus: Tickets are now available for Kaleidoscope Youth Center’s annual Garden Party fundraiser, scheduled for Sunday, Sept 27. Visit kycohio.org to order and learn about sponsorship opportunities. outlookohio.com

ARC Ohio Fundraiser redcolumbus.com/2015 Sept 12, Columbus

Petey Peterson

Dayton: Petey Peterson, a program

coordinator for the Vanderbilt University Office of LGBTQI Life, will be the firstever director of LGBTA Affairs at Wright State University. “Wright State is incredibly lucky,” Peterson’s Vanderbilt colleagues wrote in announcing their departure.

California: June 16, 2008 (state Supreme Court ruling, rescinded by voters, then reinstated by SCOTUS)

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by Orie Givens After torrential rain and a flooded park washed out Columbus Pride, critics took to social media to say the annual festival is also washed up.

“Things need to change,” business owner Allen Geiner told Outlook.

“Just not the entertainment, but the Pride festival itself. ... This year was more like a state fair than previous years.”

Geiner started a Change.org petition after the June 19-20 festival that he said he hopes will bring change to 2016 Pride and beyond.

Columbus needs better-known headliners, better food and a less business-oriented festival, he said.

He also claimed that the lineup left drag queens high and dry.

Stonewall Executive Director Karla Rothan acknowledged “growing pains” for the festival and parade, which drew an estimated 400,000 people in 2014 but was canceled into its second day this year when heavy rain began flooding Goodale Park. She also said there’s room for improvement at Columbus Pride, although she criticized the tactic of “badgering and bullying people on social media.”

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“We have people that love the stuff we put on the stage, and we have people that don’t care for it at all,” said Rothan, who has worked with Pride for 18 years. Rothan and Geiner both said they’ve had discussions about the festival in the past, and Geiner was once a volunteer who wanted to try to bring larger acts.

Now others are agreeing that the festival could use some new blood. The petition met its first goal of 200 signatures, and Geiner upped the goal to 500.

Geiner drew comparisons to Pittsburgh Geiner Pride, which booked both Iggy Azalea (who withdrew after acknowledging offensive comments she once made on Twitter) and Nick Jonas as performers.

“Other Prides (a lot smaller) have HUGE names, whilst we are stuck with runner-ups to TV singing contests or obscure nobodies as headliners when clearly they are not,” the petition read. “WE CAN DO BETTER.” Rothan said she’s not against the idea of bigger artists, but she said she thinks it’s more important to

have artists who are out and who are positive role models for the LGBT community.

Columbus Pride featured out country star Billy Gilman, The Voice contestant Michelle Chamuel, artist Debby Holiday and reggae soul group Kalyde, as well as a full slate of local and national performers on two stages in Goodale Park. Rothan said Gilman’s act brought big crowds and long autograph lines, but the rain washed out Holiday’s show. It’s that risk that makes bringing the big, expensive acts a hard sell for Rothan.

of events. And where some areas could charge admission, she said, city regulations prevent Stonewall from charging admission to concerts or fencing in space.

“Inclement weather does not mean the artists do not get paid,” said Rothan, who began a fundraiser to recoup losses sustained Rothan because of the rainstorm.

Stonewall lost $150,000 peal to a wide variety of people.” because of the rain-shortened festival, and the acts get paid before One point of contention from Geiner Stonewall gets any proceeds, rain is that drag queens were visibly or shine. absent from the performance stages, something Rothan said “So when you are trying to miniwas not intentional. mize your risk, to bring in a performer at the $100,000 level or “There was never any talk of not even at the $50,000 for one artist having anyone perform, it’s just is a very big risk for an organization that the connections were not like Stonewall Columbus, or any ormade,” she said. “I believe they ganization who produces Pride.” have been now, and I think we can move forward with a great particiRothan said the budget for this pation every year now after.” year’s pride entertainment was $30,000, used to program two days

Going forward, how will organizers make sure the Pride reflects everyone in the LGBT community?

“We try to make sure that we have gender parity. We try to make sure we have local people. We try to make sure that that we, of course, hire people of color,” Rothan said.

“We really look at a diverse entertainment lineup we hope will ap-

Connecticut: Nov 12, 2008 (state Supreme Court ruling)

Geiner said he understands the obstacles and thinks a better way for corporate sponsors to be involved would be to underwrite the cost of larger artists, or possibly rent out larger, enclosed venues to minimize risk.

Rothan said all ideas are welcome for next year’s festival. Geiner said changes will benefit Stonewall overall.

“The better entertainment, the better booths, the better food choices, the more people that are going to come, the more people are going to stay and the more people are going to drink,” he said. “It will just bring in more money and more revenue.”

Orie Givens is a freelance journalist and co-host of the syndicated radio show Queer Minded. You can reach him via Twitter @oracle83. outlookohio.com

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Voice for a Generation

Cincinnati Councilman Challenges Strickland, Party

by Bob Vitale

Sittenfeld so far has kept up with Strickland in health benefits for transgender city employthe money race - he actually raised more than ees, the addition of an LGBT police liaison, PG Sittenfeld wasn’t born yet when Ted Strick- the former governor in the first quarter of 2015 and creation of a domestic partner registry in land first ran for public office, and he was 7 - but Strickland has gathered up more enthe city. years old when Strickland won his first term in dorsements.

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The new policies have helped erase CincinThe Ohio Democratic Party and the Democratic nati’s national image as a hostile place for As he competes against the better-known, Senate Campaign Committee both are back- LGBT people. The city earned the highest posmore experienced, 73-year-old former Ohio ing Strickland. Former President Bill Clinton sible score this year on the Human Rights governor for the Democrats’ 2016 US Senate and US Sen. Sherrod Brown are behind him as Campaign’s annual Municipal Equality Index, nomination, the 30-year-old Sittenfeld is mak- well. which looks at local ing a not-so-subtle argument for generational governments around change.

Sittenfeld has said the country. repeatedly he’s in the “I do wish a few more senators at least knew race to stay because “People sometimes how to send their own tweets,” he said at a Democrats want say, ‘Thank you for Statehouse news conference this spring. “competition, not a your support,’ but you coronation.” don’t have to thank But the Cincinnati City Council member - who me,” he said. “It will be two years past the minimum age for a “Regular people are wasn’t a difficult deUS senator by the time the 2016 election rolls smart enough to cision. These were not around - says his campaign against Strickmake their own decisoul-searching - PG Sittenfeld, land is about more than electing someone sions and don’t need votes.”

US Senate candidate who gets the use of hashtags. to be told who their party’s nominee Chris Seelbach, an In emphasizing issues like student-loan debt, should be,” he said. openly gay member of he says he wants to have “an exciting converthe Cincinnati council who has endorsed Sitsation about the future, rather than a stale ar- Although Strickland and Sittenfeld - and Port- tenfeld, said the city’s progress wouldn’t have gument about the past.” The winner of the man, too, for that matter - line up identically happened without his colleague. Sittenfeld Democratic primary in March will face the in their support for marriage equality and pas- was first elected in 2011 and was the top likely Republican nominee, incumbent Repub- sage of the federal Employment Non-Discrimi- council vote-getter in 2013. lican Rob Portman, in November 2016. nation Act, Sittenfeld talks about his support for LGBT issues like many in his generation.

“I know that PG will be a steadfast champion “The millennial generation of which I’m a for equality in the United States Senate. He member is the largest and most technologi“I’m glad when people evolve for the better, has already been a strong voice for equality in cally savvy in American history, but not a sin- but I haven’t had to evolve,” he said. “I was Cincinnati,” Seelbach said. “He will be a gle one of us serves in the US Senate,” born an ally.” fresh, new, bold voice for Ohio, and push for Sittenfeld said. “And it shows, especially in sweeping non-discrimination legislation as the issues Congress chooses to ignore.”

As a two-term member of the Cincinnati City the next goal in this fight.”

Council, Sittenfeld supported the expansion of

“I’m glad when people evolve for the better, but I haven’t had to evolve.

I was born an ally.”

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Iowa: April 27, 2009 (state Supreme Court ruling)

On other national LGBT issues, Sittenfeld said he would vote to confirm only those nominees for any US Supreme Court vacancy who support civil rights and marriage equality. That’s an area where he and Strickland differ from Portman, who praised the court’s June 26 ruling for nationwide marriage equality but said he thinks the right should have been won at the ballot box.

Sittenfeld also supports the Affordable Care Act, which ends practices once used to deny health care to transgender Americans and people living with HIV. “What has he offered that’s better?” the Democrat asked of Portman, who wants to repeal and withhold funding for portions of the health-care law.

Sittenfeld is a Cincinnati native who graduated from Seven Hills School and Princeton University.

Bob Vitale is the editor-in-chief of Outlook and a former Washington correspondent for newspapers in Wisconsin. You can reach him at bvitale@outlookmedia.com.

Visit outlookohio.com to read a story from our June issue on Ted Strickland. Outlook has asked Sen. Rob Portman’s staff since 2013 for an interview with the Republican, but they have not responded. outlookohio.com

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DAYTON PRIDE June 6 Gray skies over Ohio’s first Pride of the season seemed like a bummer at the time. Turned out Dayton had the nicest Saturday of the month for its annual parade and festival.

The rain stopped early and everything went on as planned.

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Vermont: Sept 1, 2009 (approved by state legislature)

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New Hampshire: Jan 1, 2010 (approved by state legislature)

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District of Columbia: March 9, 2010 (approved by City Council)

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YOUNGSTOWN PRIDE June 12-13 Organizers expanded Youngstown Pride to two days, the weather scaled it back.

Storms on Friday and Saturday cut short action on stage. But the seventh annual festival attracted more vendors and organizations than ever.

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New York: July 24, 2011 (approved by state legislature)

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COLUMBUS PRIDE June 19-20 While it literally rained on the parade, it did not dampen the spirit of the thousands of attendees lining the streets.

Unfortunately, the weather caused the festival to close early, but It could have been worse: Cleveland’s Pride was canceled altogether due to unsafe conditions.

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Washington: Dec 6, 2012 (legislative action endorsed by voters)

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Maine: Dec 29, 2012 (approved by voters)

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Maryland: Jan 1, 2013 (legislative action endorsed by voters)

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CINCINNATI PRIDE June 27 There was electricity in the air because Pride wasn’t just a festival this year, but a victory lap after the Supreme Court ruled that marriage equality is now the law of the land. What made the day even better was that Jim Obergefell returned from DC in time to march in the parade.

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Delaware: July 1, 2013 (approved by state legislature)

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Outlook Magazine: Celebrating 20 years!

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snapshot SPRINGFIELD PRIDE June 13 Springfield had never had its own Pride so organizers set up a GoFundMe page to raise money for a festival and five billboards around the city. Equality Springfield now is raising awareness about Ohio’s lack of anti-discrimination laws.

YELLOW SPRINGS PRIDE June 27 Yellow Springs (population 3,487) is the smallest community in Ohio to host its own Pride celebration. But it should come as no surprise. The village has prohibited discrimination based on sexual orientation since 1979 and it has been known as a welcoming community for even longer.

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Feature: Marriage Equality Special Report

Marriage, At Last Supreme Court Ushers in Marriage Equality for Ohio and the Entire Nation

by Bob Vitale

It’s no longer gay marriage. It’s no longer same-sex marriage.

It’s marriage.

Bader Ginsburg, Elena Kagan and Sonia Sotomayor. Chief Justice John Roberts and Justices Samuel Alito, Antonin Scalia and Clarence Thomas dissented.

Ohioans in marriage lawsuits that began right after the US Supreme Court struck down portions of the Defense of Marriage Act in 2013.

But in an instant, the ruling for naOhio couples immediately headed to tionwide marriage equality brought In an historic opinion that’s the most courthouses across the state. about huge changes: sweeping affirmation ever of the civil rights of LGBT Americans, the In Columbus, where rejection by • Ohioans married in other jurisdicUS Supreme Court ruled Friday, June Franklin County probate clerks had tions are now married in the eyes of 26, that same-sex couples have the become annual Valentine’s Day the- their own state. right to marry in all 50 states and all ater for marriage advocates, couples US territories. finally were granted government’s • Married same-sex couples autoblessing. matically qualify for family health “The nature of injustice is that we coverage from employers, although may not always see it in our own Winifred Jane Walter, 72, and Sandra unmarried couples might lose dotimes,” Justice Anthony Kennedy Sue Shumway, 79, of Avon, were mestic-partner coverage now that wrote for the 5-4 majority. “The gen- among the first couples to marry in marriage is an option. erations that wrote and ratified the Lorain County. They’ve been together Bill of Rights and the Fourteenth nearly 40 years.

• Same-sex couples now can adopt Amendment did not presume to children jointly. know the extent of freedom in all of According to The Morning Journal of its dimensions, and so they enLorain, they were asked the standard It also brought about one small but trusted to future generations a char- bureaucratic question about symbolic shift: The Statehouse no ter protecting the right of all persons whether there were any legal realonger barred same-sex couples to enjoy liberty as we learn its mean- sons they couldn’t be married. “Not through a policy that requires an ing.” anymore!” Walter responded.

Ohio marriage license in order to rent space for weddings and recep“They ask for equal dignity in the Why Marriage Matters Ohio said at tions. eyes of the law,” Kennedy wrote of least 84 of Ohio’s 88 counties were the plaintiffs in marriage-equality complying with the Supreme Court “Come on down,” a spokesman cases from Ohio, Michigan, Kentucky ruling by Monday, June 29. said. and Tennessee. “The Constitution grants them that right.”

“We stand ready to seek full and On Decision Day, people gathered prompt implementation of this rul- outside courthouses in Columbus, Kennedy was joined in the majority ing,” said Al Gerhardstein, the Cleveland, Cincinnati, Dayton,

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marrying couples. The first to wed in Columbus were Mindy Ross and Jimmie Beall. Andrew Hickam and Ethan Fletcher were among the first to marry in Hamilton County.

He received a call from President Obama, who told him, “We’re really proud of you.” Obergefell, who had stood in line to get into the Supreme Court each day rulings were issued Hickam and Fletcher were among six in June, returned to Cincinnati for couples who filed a lawsuit last year his hometown’s Pride celebration the in federal court seeking the right to next day. marry in Ohio. That case, which had been put on hold pending the most LGBT bars hosted celebrations from recent Supreme Court decision, now the moment the decision was anis moot. nounced. They served breakfast at Union Café in Columbus and doThe court ruling came in response to nated the proceeds to Stonewall cases seeking both state recognition Columbus. They served wedding of marriages that were legally percake and champagne at Diesel in formed elsewhere and the right to Springfield. marry in plaintiffs’ home states.

Cincinnati widower Jim Obergefell, Immediately after the ruling was iswho along with his now-deceased sued, couples began updating Facehusband, John Arthur, were the first book statuses to “engaged.” In to file a federal lawsuit after the Dayton, Mayor Nan Whaley anSupreme Court’s 2013 Windsor deci- nounced plans to marry couples at sion, became the face of the case City Hall each day for a week. when his name was attached to the Cincinnati Mayor John Cranley marentire court fight because of a cleri- ried couples Friday afternoon at cal formality.

Fountain Square.

“WE WON!!!!,” was his reaction on Facebook.

Sen. Sherrod Brown spoke at a rally outside City Hall in Cleveland.

Standing on the steps of the US Supreme Court, Obergefell said: “Today’s ruling from the Supreme Court affirms what millions across the country already know to be true in our hearts: that our love is equal.’’

“Today, the Supreme Court has finally put our nation on the right side of history,” he said. “Marriage equality is now the law of the land across our country.”

New Jersey: Oct 21, 2013 (state Supreme Court ruling)

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s e o r e H e n o h c ea e Our Case

Mad The People Who

Jim Obergefell’s name was on the case, but he wasn’t the only Ohioan fighting in court for marriage equality. Others joined his case seeking state recognition of legal, same-sex marriages on Ohio death certificates, and a second case filed in 2014 sought state recognition of legal, same-sex marriages on Ohio birth certificates.

In all, 11 Ohioans, two New Yorkers, one adoption agency, six Cincinnati attorneys and six lawyers affiliated with national civil-rights groups argued our case for marriage equality during the two-year battle from United States v. Windsor to Obergefell v. Hodges and Henry v. Hodges.

The Plaintiffs Jim Obergefell and John Arthur: The Cincinnati couple married in Maryland after the US Supreme Court’s June 2013 Windsor decision. They were together for 20 years, and John was nearing the end of his fight with ALS.

Brittani Henry and Brittni Rogers: The Cincinnati couple have been together ing spouse on the death certificate that seven years and married in New York in Januwould be issued by the state. ary 2014. When Brittani Henry became pregnant through artificial insemination with the A temporary court order in July 2013 was the couple’s first child, they sued to be listed tofirst of 29 consecutive court wins for marriage gether as their son’s parents. equality. John Arthur died in October 2013, two months before a federal court ruled permaNicole and Pam Yorksmith: The nently in the couple’s favor. couple from Cincinnati have been together Like all the other plaintiffs involved in the Ohio cases, the US District Court victory was overturned in November 2014 by two federal appeals judges in Cincinnati. Their case went to the US Supreme Court in April and ended with nationwide marriage equality on June 26.

David Michener and William Herbert Ives: The 18-year couple and parents of three married in Delaware in July 2013.

William died unexpectedly a month later.

The Lawyers

Al Gerhardstein: A graduate of Beloit College and NYU Law School, Gerhardstein is a partner of Gerharstein & Branch, which filed since 2006 and married in California in 2008. three federal lawsuits challenging Ohio’s reThey have a 5-year-old son and were expecting strictions on marriage. In his career, he also their second child when they joined a federal has won discrimination cases for a transgenlawsuit with other parents in 2014 seeking to der police officer demoted in Cincinnati and a be listed jointly on their children’s birth certifi- gay teacher fired in Williamsburg. cates.

Jennifer Branch: A graduate of NYU and Kelly Noe and Kelly McCracken: the Case Western Reserve University Law The Cincinnati residents met in 2009 and School, Branch also is a partner at Gerhardmarried in Massachusetts in 2011. They both stein & Branch, where she has won cases for sued to be listed as the parents of their first women’s rights, transgender rights and the child. rights of the disabled.

In September 2013, a federal judge ordered Joseph Vitale and Robert that William’s death certificate record his mar- Talmas: The 17-year couple live in New riage.

York, where they married in 2011. They adopted a baby boy who was born in Ohio in Robert Grunn: The operator of funeral 2013, but the state demanded that they homes in Cincinnati and Dayton joined the choose just one parent to list on the child’s They sued so John could be listed as mar- lawsuit because he feared being prosecuted amended birth certificate. ried and Jim could be listed as his surviv- for listing gay and lesbian clients as married. outlookohio.com

Adoption S.T.A.R.: The adoption agency said Ohio used to list same-sex couples on children’s birth certificates but stopped doing so under Gov. John Kasich.

Hawaii: Dec 2, 2013 (approved by state legislature)

Co-counsel: Jaci Gonzales Martin and Adam Gerhardstein of Gerhardstein & Branch; Ellen Essig and Lisa Meeks of Cincinnati; Susan Sommer, Paul Castillo and M Currey Cook of Lambda Legal; James Esseks, Chase Strangio and Joshua Block of the American Civil Liberties Union. june 2015

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The Path to Marriage Equality May 18, 1970: Minnesotans Richard Baker and James Michael McConnell are denied a marriage license by the Hennepin County District Court.

Oct 10, 1972: US Supreme Court dismisses Baker v. Nelson, one of three cases brought by same-sex couples challenging the denial of marriage rights.

Jan 1, 1973: Maryland becomes the first state to specifically ban marriage between people of the same sex when it includes in its Family Law Code a line reading, “Only a marriage between a man and a woman is valid in this state.”

April 21, 1975: In Colorado, Boulder County Clerk Clela Rorex issues marriage licenses to six same-sex couples, explaining that she found nothing in state law prohibiting licenses for same-sex couples. A federal court overturns her action.

May 5, 1993: The Hawaii Supreme Court rules that denying marriage to same-sex couples violates the state’s constitution.

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Sept 21, 1996: President Bill Clinton signs the Defense of Marriage Act into law. DOMA denies federal recognition of same-sex marriage and deprives same-sex couples 1,138-plus federal protections and responsibilities that come with marriage.

Nov 3, 1998: The Hawaii Constitution is amended to prevent the courts from mandating marriage equality by permitting only the legislature to address the issue.

Alaska voters approve a constitutional amendment restricting marriage.

Nov 18, 2003: The Massachusetts Supreme Court rules that the state constitution mandates marriage equality and later says that only marriage - not civil unions - will do.

May 17, 2004: Massachusetts becomes the first state in the United States to allow same-sex couples to share in the freedom to marry.

Nov 2, 2004: The re-election campaign of George W Bush marshalls anti-marriage forces in Ohio, Arkansas, Georgia, Kentucky, Michigan, Mississippi, Montana, North Dakota, Oklahoma, Oregon and Utah to approve amendments restricting marriage rights. Ohio’s is among the harshest, denying all forms of family recognition or status, including civil union and domestic partnership.

Sept 6, 2005: The California legislature becomes the first in the nation to approve marriage equality, but Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger vetoes the bill.

more states restrict marriage rights, Arizona becomes the first to reject an anti-gay marriage amendment.

April 21, 2007: Washington adopts do- April 7, 2009: Vermont’s legislature mestic partnerships, followed by Ore- overrides a veto from Gov. Jim Dougon and New Hampshire. glas, and marriage equality takes effect Sept 1.

May 15, 2008: The California Supreme Court rules for marriage equality, and May 6, 2009: Maine lawmakers apan initiative to overturn the court rul- prove marriage equality, but anti-gay ing (Proposition 8) qualifies for the No- activists push a ballot measure to vember ballot. Same-sex couples overturn the freedom to marry. begin marrying on June 16.

May 31, 2009: Nevada approves doJuly 1, 2008: Domestic partnerships mestic partnerships, followed later in take effect in Maryland. the summer by Wisconsin.

Oct 10, 2008: The Connecticut Supreme Court rules for marriage equality and converts existing civil unions between same-sex couples into marriages.

Oct 25, 2006: The New Jersey Supreme Court rules that same-sex couples are entitled to all state-level spousal rights and responsibilities.

Lawmakers settle for civil unions instead of full equality.

Nov 7, 2000: Nebraska voters adopt a constitutional amendment prohibiting marriage equality.

Nov 7, 2006: Although voters in seven

June 3, 2009: New Hampshire lawmakers approve marriage equality.

Couples can wed starting Jan 1, 2010.

Nov 3, 2009: Maine voters overturn the freedom to marry.

Nov 4, 2008: Proposition 8 passes in March 3, 2010: Marriage equality takes effect in the District of Columbia.

Sept 22, 1999: California becomes the first state to allow domestic partner- Oct 1, 2005: Connecticut apships. proves civil unions.

Dec 20, 1999: The Vermont Supreme Court rules that same-sex couples must be treated equally, and the state establishes civil unions that go into effect July 1, 2000.

April 3, 2009: The Iowa Supreme Court rules for marriage equality, which goes into effect on April 27.

Aug 2010: CNN releases the first poll showing a national majority - 52 percent - supporting marriage equality.

California, stripping away same-sex couples’ freedom to marry. Similar amendments are passed in Florida and Arizona.

New Mexico: Dec 19, 2013 (state Supreme Court ruling)

Jan 31, 2011: Illinois adopts civil unions, followed later in the year by Hawaii, Delaware and Rhode Island. continued

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Feb 23, 2011: President Obama and Attorney General Eric Holder declare that the federal government will no longer defend the Defense of Marriage Act.

Hollingsworth v. Perry and Windsor v.

United States.

Nov 20, 2013: Marriage equality is ap- Feb 26, 2014: US District Judge Orproved in Illinois. lando Garcia rules for marriage equality in Texas. (Stayed) April 4, 2013: For the first time ever, a Dec 19, 2013: The New Mexico majority of US senators publicly sup- Supreme Court affirms the freedom to March 5, 2014: A new national poll ports the freedom to marry. marry across the state. tracks 59 percent support for marriage June 24, 2011: Marriage equality is equality, a record high. The poll also is approved for New York, and couples April 24, 2013: Rhode Island lawmak- Dec 20, 2013: US District Court Judge the first to demonstrate majority supbegin marrying on July 24. ers approve marriage equality starting Robert Shelby rules for marriage port in every region of the country.

Aug 1. equality in Utah. Marriages are Feb 13, 2012: Washington lawmakers stopped on Jan 6 when the US March 21, 2014: US District Judge approve marriage equality, but wedMay 7, 2013: Delaware lawmakers ap- Supreme Court issues a stay pending Bernard Friedman rules for marriage dings are on hold until a November prove marriage equality starting July appeals. equality in Michigan. Couples marry ballot measure is decided.

1. for nearly 24 hours until they’re Dec 23, 2013: US District Judge Timo- stopped pending an appeal.

Feb 16, 2012: New Jersey lawmakers May 14, 2013: Minnesota lawmakers thy Black orders Ohio to recognize outapprove marriage equality; Gov. Chris approve April 14, 2014: Christie vetoes the bill. marriage Judge Black equality orders Ohio to March 1, 2012: Maryland lawmakers starting Aug recognize all approve marriage equality, which will 1. legal out-oftake place Jan 1, 2013 if a referenstate mardum is defeated in November. riages, but the decision is put May 8, 2012: North Carolina voters on hold pendapprove an anti-equality constituing DeWine’s tional amendment. appeal.

May 9, 2012: President Obama announces his support for marriage equality.

June 6, 2012: New York federal Judge Barbara Jones finds the Defense of Marriage Act unconstitutional in Windsor v. United States.

Nov 6, 2012: Marriage equality triumphs at the ballot in all four states where it’s up for a vote: Maine, Maryland, Minnesota and Washington.

President Obama wins re-election as the first candidate to run on a national party platform that fully supports marriage equality.

Dec 7, 2012: The US Supreme Court announces that it will hear two marriage cases: Windsor v. United States, which challenges DOMA, and Hollingsworth v. Perry, which challenges California’s Proposition 8.

June 26, 2013: The US Supreme Court overturns Section 3 of the Defense of Marriage Act and dismisses a challenge to Proposition 8. The result: Legal same-sex marriages are recognized by the federal government, and marriage equality returns to California.

July 19, 2013: After marrying in Maryland, John Arthur and Jim Obergefell of Cincinnati file a federal lawsuit that asks Ohio to recognize their marriage.

March 15, 2013: Rob Portman of Ohio Jim is dying of ALS, and the couple becomes the first sitting Republican in want their union acknowledged on his the US Senate to support marriage eventual death certificate. equality. He has a son who’s gay.

Oct 21, 2013: Same-sex couples begin March 18, 2013: A new national poll marrying at midnight in New Jersey shows record support - 58 percent after a state Supreme Court ruling for for the freedom to marry. marriage equality.

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of-state marriages on state-issued death certificates.

(John Arthur died in October.) Ohio Attorney General Mike DeWine says he will appeal.

Jan 14, 2014: US District Court Judge Terence Kern rules for marriage equality in Oklahoma, but the decision is stayed.

Feb 10, 2014: Four same-sex couples challenge Ohio’s denial of marriage recognition in federal court. They’re all parents who want to be listed as married on their children’s birth certificates.

May 9, 2014: Arkansas Circuit Judge Chris Piazza rules for marriage equality in Arkansas, and more than 400 couples wed before the Arkansas Supreme Court stops marriages pending an appeal.

May 13, 2014: US Magistrate Candy Dale rules for marriage equality in Idaho. (Stayed) May 19, 2014: US District Judge Michael McShane rules for marriage equality in Oregon, and couples can wed immediately because the state decides not to appeal.

May 20, 2014: US District Judge John Jones III strikes down Pennsylvania’s ban on marriage for same-sex couples. The decision takes effect immediately without appeal.

Supreme Court decides whether to hear another appeal. US District Judge Richard Young strikes down anti-marriage laws in Indiana, and couples begin marrying that afternoon.

July 9, 2014: State Judge Scott Crabtree rules for marriage equality in Colorado, but that and a later ruling in federal court are stayed.

July 17, 2014: The first of five state and federal court decisions strike down marriage restrictions in Florida.

(All stayed) July 18, 2014: The US Court of Appeals for the 10th Circuit affirms marriage equality in Oklahoma, but the ruling is put on hold pending action from the US Supreme Court.

July 28, 2014: The US Court of Appeals for the 4th Circuit becomes the second federal appellate court to rule in favor of marriage equality. The ruling in a Virginia case is stayed by the Supreme Court.

Sept 3, 2014: A federal judge in Louisiana becomes the first in over a year to uphold marriage discrimination.

Sept 4, 2014: The US Court of Appeals for the 7th Circuit becomes the third federal appellate court to affirm the freedom to marry when it upholds trial court rulings in Indiana and Wisconsin. (Stayed) Oct 6, 2014: The US Supreme Court declines reviewing five marriage cases, clearing the way for lower court rulings to stand and same-sex couples to marry in Utah, Oklahoma, Virginia, Indiana and Wisconsin. The decision also brings marriage equality to Colorado, Kansas, North Carolina, South Carolina, West Virginia and Wyoming. Thirty states and 60 percent of the population now have marriage equality.

Oct 7, 2014: The US Court of Appeals for the 9th Circuit rules in favor of Feb 12, 2014: US District Court Judge June 6, 2014: US District Judge Barmarriage equality in Idaho and NeJohn Heyburn II orders Kentucky to rec- bara Crabb rules for marriage equality vada. In the following weeks, the rulognize out-of-state marriages. Gov. in Wisconsin. (Stayed) ing prompts judges in Arizona, Steve Beshear says he will appeal.

Wyoming and Alaska to rule for the June 25, 2014: The US Court of Apfreedom to marry.

Feb 13, 2014: US District Judge peals for the 10th Circuit agrees with Nov 13, 2013: Marriage equality is ap- Arenda Wright Allen rules for marriage marriage equality for Utah, but the de- Nov 6, 2014: The US Court of Appeals proved in Hawaii. equality in Virginia. (Stayed) cision is put on hold until the US for the 6th Circuit reverses six proPennsylvania: May 20, 2014 (federal court ruling)

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marriage rulings in Ohio, Kentucky, Michigan and Tennessee. It’s out of step with other appeals courts.

Nov 25, 2014: US District Court Judge Karen Baker rules for marriage equality in Arkansas, and US District Court Judge Carlton Reeves rules in favor of the freedom to marry in Mississippi, placing a challenge before the 5th Circuit.

Jan 6, 2015: The stay on an August 2014 federal ruling expires in Florida, and hundreds of couples across the state marry.

Jan 12, 2015: US District Court Judge Karen Schreier rules for marriage equality in South Dakota, placing the challenge before the 8th Circuit.

Jan 23, 2015: US District Court Judge Callie Granade rules for marriage equality in Alabama.

April 28, 2015: The US Supreme Court hears oral arguments on the freedom to marry in Kentucky, Tennessee, Ohio, and Michigan.

June 26, 2015: The United States Supreme Court rules in favor of the freedom to marry in Obergefell v.

Hodges, striking down marriage bans in the remaining 13 states and extending marriage equality nationwide.

Compiled by Freedom to Marry.

Photo of Jack Baker and Michael McConnell by Kay Tobin Lahusen (c) New York Public Library. Photo of Jimmie Beall and Mindy Ross via Why Marriage Matters Ohio. Photo of Ethan Fletcher and Andrew Hickam via Cincinnati Men’s Chorus. Ohio newspaper front pages collected by the Newseum and reprinted with permission of editors and publishers.

March 18, 2015: The Presbyterian Church of the United States votes to include same-sex couples in its definition of marriage.

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Ohio Probate Courts Probate courts in each of Ohio’s 88 counties are the only government offices that issue marriage licenses.

There is no waiting period in Ohio. You can get married as soon as you get your license, and you must have your ceremony within 60 days.

County Adams Allen Ashland Ashtabula Athens Auglaize Belmont Brown Butler Carroll Champaign Clark Clermont Clinton Columbiana Coshocton Crawford Cuyahoga Darke Defiance Delaware Erie Fairfield Fayette Franklin Fulton Gallia Geauga Greene Guernsey Hamilton Hancock Hardin Harrison Henry Highland Hocking Holmes Huron Jackson Jefferson Knox Lake Lawrence

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Both of you must go to the probate office to get the license. Take a valid picture ID a driver’s license or passport is best, along with a birth certificate - to prove your legal name, age, residence, place of birth, Social Security number and parents’ names.

County Seat West Union Lima Ashland Jefferson Athens Wapakoneta St. Clairsville Georgetown Hamilton Carrollton Urbana Springfield Batavia Wilmington Lisbon Coshocton Bucyrus Cleveland Greenville Defiance Delaware Sandusky Lancaster Washington Court House Columbus Wauseon Gallipolis Chardon Xenia Cambridge Cincinnati Findlay Kenton Cadiz Napoleon Hillsboro Logan Millersburg Norwalk Jackson Steubenville Mt. Vernon Painesville Ironton

If you’ve married in another state, you’re now married in Ohio. If you entered a civil union in another state, that still isn’t recognized here.

Call your county probate court - thanks to Why Marriage Matters Ohio for compiling this list - if you have questions.

Phone 937.544.2921 419.223.8501 419.282.4325 440.576.3451 740.592.3256 419.739.6778 740.695.2121 937.378.6549 513.887.3294 330.627.2323 937.484.1028 937.521.1845 513.732.7243 937.382.2280 330.424.9516 740.622.1837 419.562.8891 216.443.8920 937.547.7345 419.782.4181 740.833.2680 419.627.7525 740.652.7464 740.335.0640 614.525.3894 419.337.9242 740.446.4612 440.279.1830 937.562.5280 740.432.9262 513.946.3580 419.424.7079 419.674.2230 740.942.8868 419.592.7771 937.393.9982 740.385.3022 330.674.5881 419.668.4383 740.286.1401 740.283.8593 740.393.6798 440.350.2626 740.533.4340

County Licking Logan Lorain Lucas Madison Mahoning Marion Medina Meigs Mercer Miami Monroe Montgomery Morgan Morrow Muskingum Noble Ottawa Paulding Perry Pickaway Pike Portage Preble Putnam Richland Ross Sandusky Scioto Seneca Shelby Stark Summit Trumbull Tuscarawas Union Van Wert Vinton Warren Washington Wayne Williams Wood Wyandot

County Seat Newark Bellefontaine Elyria Toledo London Youngstown Marion Medina Pomeroy Celina Troy Woodsfield Dayton McConnelsville Mt. Gilead Zanesville Caldwell Port Clinton Paulding New Lexington Circleville Waverly Ravenna Eaton Ottawa Mansfield Chillicothe Fremont Portsmouth Tiffin Shelby Canton Akron Warren New Philadelphia Marysville Van Wert McArthur Lebanon Marietta Wooster Bryan Bowling Green Upper Sandusky

Indiana, Oklahoma, Utah, Virginia, Wisconsin: Oct 6, 2014 (federal appeals court rulings)

Phone 740.670.5812 937.599.7249 440.329.5175 419.213.4775 740.852.0756 330.740.2324 740.223.4060 330.764.8451 740.992.3096 419.586.1249 937.440.6050 740.472.1654 937.225.4656 740.962.2861 419.947.5575 740.455.7113 740.732.4045 419.734.6830 419.399.8256 740.342.1118 740.474.3117 740.947.2560 330.297.3870 937.456.8137 419.523.3012 419.774.5583 740.774.1179 419.334.6211 740.335.8351 419.447.4912 937.498.7263 330.451.7755 330.643.2350 330.675.2521 330.365.3266 937.645.3029 419.238.0027 740.596.5480 513.695.1183 740.373.6623 330.287.5575 419.636.1548 419.354.9230 419.294.1435

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Republican Hopefuls Rush to the Wrong Side of History

Gov. John Kasich of Ohio: “Well, I’m While there are 13 - soon to be 16 - Republican candidates running for president in 2016, someobviously disappointed because I’ve always felt that marriage is one of thing seems to be a constant between them: disappointment in the US Supreme Court’s marriage these traditions between a man and a woman. We’ll honor what the Supreme Court does; ruling. it’s the law of the land. It’s the way that America Some are taking it in stride and looking toward the functions.” future (Jeb Bush) while others seem to have caught Former Hewlett-Packard CEO Carly another case of crazy mouth. (We’re looking at you Fiorina, California: “This is only the Mike Huckabee.) latest example of an activist court ignoring its constitutional duty to say Here are all the Republican candidates’ responses to the historic ruling on June 26, in order of “Come what the law is and not what the law should be.” on, now” to “Really? REALLY?” Former Florida Gov. Jeb Bush: “I was disappointed ... I’m informed by Sen. Rand Paul of Kentucky: “While I my faith about this, and I’m in favor disagree with Supreme Court’s redefiof traditional marriage. I think now nition of marriage, I believe that all Americans have the right to contract.” we need to focus on two things. How do we create an environment where people aren’t discriminated against, where we respect people’s commitment to Sen. Lindsey Graham of South Carolina: “I’m a proud defender of tradi- long-term, loving relationships, and where we also tional marriage, but given the quickly allow people to react on the religious conscience.” changing tide of public opinion on Gov. Chris Christie of New Jersey: “I this issue, I do not believe that an attempt to don’t agree with the way it’s been amend the US Constitution could possibly gain the done, but I take an oath, and the support of three-fourths of the states or a supersame way I’ve supported and enmajority in the US Congress.” forced the law here in New Jersey since our Supreme Court made their 7-0 decision on same-

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sex marriage, and I’ve supported and endorsed that Gov. Scott Walker of Wisconsin: As a law. I would have to do the same across the counresult of this decision, the only alternatry. But I want to be clear - I don’t agree with the tive left for the American people is to way it was done, but it’s been done, and those of us support an amendment to the US Conwho take an oath have a responsibility to abide by stitution to reaffirm the ability of the states to conthat oath.” tinue to define marriage.”

Dr. Ben Carson of Maryland: “While I Reality TV star Donald Trump of New strongly disagree with the Supreme York: “I’m (for) traditional marriage.”

Court’s decision, their ruling is now the (When asked by CNN how he reconciles law of the land. To me, and millions like the notion of “traditional marriage” me, marriage is a religious service not a governwith his personal history of being married three times, ment form.”

Trump conceded the point.) “I have a good wife now.

My (first) two wives were very good. And I don’t blame Sen. Marco Rubio of Florida: “This de- them, but I was working ... 22 hours a day.” cision short-circuits the political process that has been under way on the state Former Sen. Rick Santorum of Pennsylvania: level for years. While I disagree with this “Today, five unelected judges redefined decision, we live in a republic and must abide by the foundational unit of society. Now it the law. As we look ahead, it must be a priority of is the people’s turn to speak. Now is the the next president to nominate judges and justices people’s opportunity to respond because committed to applying the Constitution as written the future of the institution of marriage is too imporand originally understood.” tant to not have a public debate. The court is one of three co-equal branches of government and, just as Former Texas Gov. Rick Perry: “I am they have in cases from Dred Scott to Plessy, the court disappointed the Supreme Court today has an imperfect track record.” chose to change the centuries-old definition of marriage as between one man Former Arkansas Gov. Mike Huckabee: “The ruland one woman. I’m a firm believer in traditional ing is about ‘marriage redefinition.’ [The] only outmarriage, and I also believe the 10th Amendment come worse than this flawed, failed leaves it to each state to decide this issue. I fundadecision would be for the president mentally disagree with the court rewriting the law and Congress, two co-equal branches and assaulting the 10th Amendment. Our founding of government, to surrender in the fathers did not intend for the judicial branch to leg- face of this out-of-control act of unconstitutional, islate from the bench, and as president, I would ap- judicial tyranny.” point strict Constitutional conservatives who will apply the law as written.”

Louisiana Gov. Bobby Jindal: “[This] will pave the way for an all-out assault against the religious freedom Sen. Ted Cruz of Texas: “Yesterday, the rights of Christians who disagree with court doubled down with a 5-4 opinion this decision. The Supreme Court decithat undermines not just the definition sion today conveniently and not surprisof marriage, but the very foundations of ingly follows public opinion polls, and our representative system of government. For those tramples on states’ rights that were once protected by who say the marriage decision yesterday is the law the 10th Amendment of the Constitution. Marriage of the land, it is fundamentally illegitimate, it is between a man and a woman was established by wrong, it is not law, and it is not the Constitution.” God, and no earthly court can alter that.”

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The War on Ourselves Black Gay Men Must Stop the Self-Hatred

by Debra Shade

“Shit, you just made my ass hot!” I then angrily walked into my home, hurt and wondering why he would come to Debra Shade’s home and spew judgment all over the deck.

are funneling through my head. Several times during my Adult Recess events, I have been asked why so many Organized Columbus Pride activities were a black men are in the closet and why black wash out because of rain, so I hosted a primen are so hard to date and why black men vate Pride celebration at my home and experiI dedicate a lot of my stage time teaching and have such a self-hate. enced the self-hate that I had only heard asking for acceptance of all people, all colors, about but never experienced in the LGBT comall social circles, all religions and all walks of I don’t know. munity. life. If this person had been forewarned, he Let’s set aside the most obvious This self-hate is in every culture and questions: Why come to a celebraevery age group, but it’s more rampant tion of Pride knowing you don’t in the African-American male culture. A live your truth on a daily basis? huge piece of that is religion, but there Why would you hold onto a childare many other factors out there that hood of black church judgment contribute to this turmoil.

Our fight as LGBT people is hard enough...

Why do black gay men hide openly within the church walls and hate themselves for being gay, or black, or displaced? I was surprised that someone of this mindset would actually be one of my party guests. Long story short, one of the men spoke and revealed his self-hatred.

And then the learning began.

The man sharing my seat (who had just minutes before broken one of my kitchen chairs with no apology) said, “All I know is... all I know is, I want to be on the right side when the time comes.” Then to my gasp of disgust, he continued, “And that right side is with Jesus.”

might not have said what he said. I was offended that he assumed we didn’t know Jesus because we’re gay - and worse, because we’re gay, we were going to hell.

Do we really have enough energy left over to fight other LGBT people and, worse, ourselves?

Turns out, black gay men apparently are not fazed by someone making an emotional statement and storming off. While I was inside trying to talk to my fiancée and friend to get him off my deck, the men continued the conversation at Some of the men at the table sat back and ei- the table as if hearing that they might be on ther nodded or looked down as if they wanted the wrong side of Jesus meant nothing to their no part of where this conversation was going. character as black gay men.

But me being me, I stood up and angrily said,

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I’m still thinking about it. So many questions

in my spirituality, all of the “books” they teach from tell you to love all, as the son of God loved you; do not judge, as only the most high can judge; do not lie and deceive.

Our fight as LGBT people is hard enough. We are fighting employers, family members, church members, church leaders, state laws, federal laws, gay-bashers. Do we really have enough energy left over to fight other LGBT people and, worse, ourselves?

I plead to my black gay readers: Please work on getting yourself to a safe place when it comes to employment, housing and education. Then use the rest of your energy in loving yourself. Loving all of the wonderful things you bring to the table. Loving the fact that you can cohabit with another male and cook meals for each other, keep a home, raise children (straight children at that!) and not project hate on each other and yourself.

We teach people how to love us, befriend us, grow with us and accept us.

Acceptance.

and hate when you know your happiness lies in your sexual orientation? Why weren’t the other gay men upset that he judged them, basically saying, “Pick a side, because if you’re gay and out, you’re going to hell.”

What I know for sure, having been Jehovah Witness, Baptist, Muslim and now Universal

Idaho: Oct 15, 2014 (federal appeals court ruling)

Debra Shade is an author and owner of Shade Media. You can find her on Facebook at Shadyontop or follow her on Twitter at @shadeyontop.

She has earned an IMDb credit for script writing, Webcam Diaries on AfterHours HD. You can find her books at Amazon.com or a Lion’s Den near you. Her next column will appear in Outlook in September. outlookohio.com

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Got Gratitude?

To Those Whom Much Is Given... a Little Thanks Doesn’t Hurt

by Regina Sewell

pancakes for breakfast, your dog showering you with love and affection, or a stranger How often do you feel excited about the fact whose smile makes your day. Or it could be that you can see this page? Or that you can go Doing a gratitude practice leads to higher lev- depending on your spiritual beliefs - a superto a grocery store and buy lettuce at night? Or els of positive emotions, greater self-worth, natural being or nature creating the spectacuthat you live in a place where it’s relatively and more joy and optimism. It helps lessen lar double rainbow after a rainstorm or safe to hold your lover’s hand in public? anxiety, depression and self-blame. Practicing creating the complex human body that has gratitude limits suicidal thinking, lowers the the ability to see the beauty of a rose.

Unless you recently had an experience when incidence of eating disorders, and reduces the likelihood of becoming dependent on drugs, these things weren’t possible, you probably Being grateful also involves letting go of the alcohol and nicotine. take them for granted. Most people do. notion that we are totally responsible for all the good that comes our way and allows us to Among people who have experienced trauma, recognize how people have helped us get Our brains are designed to adapt quickly to positive experiences. This leaves us continu- having a grateful mindset leads to less post- through challenging times or helped us succeed. Being grateful requires us to be humble ally feeling dissatisfied when the newness of traumatic stress. Finally, gratitude has been and acknowledge the opportunities we’ve gotan experience wears off and pushes us to con- shown to strengthen marriages and friendships and improve job performance. People ten in life because of other people’s efforts, stantly look for the next good thing, whether it’s the newest iWatch, car, partner or intoxiwho are grateful also tend to feel less lonely support or challenges. cating experience. and isolated and are rated as much more likeable than ungrateful people.

Gratitude pushes us to acknowledge the We can ward off this adaptation process and brave, outspoken LGBT heroes who fought for the chronic dissatisfaction that comes with it Robert Emmons, one of the leading experts in our rights, our families who gave us what they by practicing gratitude. the psychology of gratitude, defines it as “the could, a teacher or mentor who saw our capafeeling of reverence for things that are given.” bilities and encouraged us, or a bully whose In the process, practicing gratitude provides taunting pushed us to do something great. many other physical, emotional and social “Given” is the key. When we are grateful, we benefits. People who practice gratitude have acknowledge that we have been given some- Another way gratitude works is that it shifts stronger immune systems, fewer aches and thing or have been the recipient of good forour focus away from our problems and onto pains, and lower blood pressure. They gener- tune. The giver could be a fellow being doing things that feel more positive. At the same ally spend more time exercising, pay better at- something for you, like your lover making you time, being grateful turns up the volume of 40

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good things. When you are feeling grateful for the sunshine, you feel it more intensely than if you take it for granted.

Gratitude also has significant impact on our brain chemistry. When we experience gratitude, our brains release a rush of dopamine that makes us feel great.

The key to practicing gratitude is to do it intentionally. One of the easiest ways to do this is to keep a gratitude journal and write in it one to three times a week. Don’t just do this in your head - write it out. Be specific about what you are grateful for and describe it in detail.

It’s also good to acknowledge the giver, whether it’s nature or a supernatural being, or a person or animal. Try this for three months and see what happens.

Regina Sewell is a licensed mental health counselor. To ask her a question, propose a column topic, read about her approach to counseling, or check out her books and other writing, go to reginasewell.com. Her essay “Unequal Wedding” appears in Untangling the Knot: Queer Voices on Marriage, Relationships & Identity, published by Ooligan Press. Her next column will appear in Outlook in September.

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Ex-Major Leaguer Makes Baseball a More Welcoming Sport

by Bob Vitale

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religion, gender, national origin or sexual orientation.

during his playing career today?

BB: Every athlete’s journey to the top Major League Baseball’s ambassaof his or her sport is different. The dor for inclusion left the game in BV: Major League Baseball players same is true for every person’s com1995 because he didn’t think his life come from 20 different countries. ing out experience. There is no blanas a gay man could include profes- How does that affect your work as ket answer that fits for everyone. sional athletics. you discuss the importance of acceptance and inclusion?

However, I would encourage athletes Billy Bean was 31.

BB: We all have one thing in com(who ask for my advice) that if they mon: that we play or played basewant to come out publicly, to make “It was an excruciating decision no ball. That is where my message sure they first come out to their closone should ever have to make,” the starts. I also speak Spanish, and it est loved ones (perhaps parents, former Detroit Tiger, Los Angeles has helped when I introduce myself family or best friends who are supDodger, San Diego Padre - and and the message to our Latin play- portive and understand the presToledo Mud Hen - writes in the pref- ers. Baseball is by far the most di- sures they live with each day). Once ace to an updated edition of his verse collection of athletes, and that they have a healthy, strong, per2003 memoir, Going the Other Way. does create a bigger challenge for sonal support group in place, then “It was a choice made under my work. next perhaps a teammate, their duress, and it has haunted me ever agent or someone in their organizasince.”

BV: Would baseball - owners, a tion, and also to consider the timing front office, managers and of their decision.

In his new job, Bean wants to make coaches, fellow players - welcome sure no one has choose again bean openly gay or bi player today? BV: We read all the time that there tween a lucrative career and a BB: Our entire message is preparing are professional athletes who are happy life. He’ll visit Cincinnati this teams to be supportive if and when out to teammates and coaches but month for the Major League All-Star a player feels ready to disclose his not the public. If that’s the case, is Game on July 14, and he’ll be in sexual orientation. My job is to cre- it reaction from teammates and Cleveland on July 10 for a clubhouse ate a culture of acceptance that will coaches, the public, or the media visit and Indians game. make this decision easier for a that LGBT athletes fear most? player. The fact that no player is cur- BB: Every player is different, plays in In an interview with Outlook, Bean rently out tells me that we have a different environment, has differtakes pride in baseball’s preparamuch work still in front of us to do. ent teammates, signed a different tions for the day an active player contract, a different everything, so might come out. But, he says, “the It’s a huge decision for an athlete to to suggest there is one reason is not fact that no player is currently out come out while he is still playing. In realistic. The choice is very personal. tells me that we have much work my mind, our success is not measstill in front of us to do.” ured by the amount of players who Being the first active baseball come out; it’s what we do each day player to come out is not an easy Bob Vitale: You’ve been on the job until that time comes. We are mak- choice. In the 146-year history of as Major League Baseball’s first ing great strides in the workplace, Major League Baseball, only myself ambassador for inclusion for a and while this conversation is new, and Glenn Burke ever disclosed that year now. What does that role en- my presence on the field during we are gay. Sadly, Glenn died in tail? spring training and my visibility 1995. So it’s imperative we change Billy Bean: My role is to create a re- around teams during the season is the culture and dialogue throughout lationship with all 30 of our clubs allowing players and coaches to see the sport. and communicate the message of the support of ownership throughout acceptance and inclusion. I was the league. hired to educate and communicate Bob Vitale is the to all members of the MLB family BV: Some say Michael Sam didn’t editor-in-chief of Outlook and a lifelong, our Workplace Code of Conduct that make it in the NFL last season beprotects every player, manager, cause of homophobia; some say it long-suffering Cleveland baseball fan coach, employee, fan and stakewas because of how he handled who cried the day holder against discrimination or ha- his fame. What would you advise Buddy Bell was traded. rassment in regard to race, color, an athlete considering coming out

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deep inside hollywood

by Romeo San Vicente

Tom Ford Gets Cash for New Film Project

Kristen Stewart Stars in Latest Ang Lee Film

At the recent Cannes Film Festival, Tom Ford announced his intention to make his next feature, Nocturnal Animals, and Focus stepped in with $20 million of confidence-building cash.

Let’s not get too excited about Kristen Stewart. The Millenials aren’t as into labels and the event nature of coming out as generations that paved the road before.

The fashion designer/filmmaker’s last movie, A Single Man, earned strong reviews and Oscar nominations, which is exactly the kind of film Universal’s Focus division loves to make. So this is a no-brainer for everyone.

And good for them, because that’s freedom.

Ford will produce, direct and adapt the screenplay from Austin Wright’s 1993 novel, Tony and Susan, and the project is slated to star Amy Adams and Jake Gyllenhaal. As of right now, the bare bones plot revolves around a woman receiving her ex-husband’s first novel in the mail, which then sets her on her own path of self-discovery.

Vague-ish, true, but you never show your hand too early.

‘Fun Home’ Producers Screening Movie Offers

Forgive the breathless nature of our enthusiasm for the Tony Award-winning Fun Home, but Oberlin College alum and Dykes to Watch Out For creator Alison Bechdel’sgraphic-memoir-turnedstage-musical is as sweetly intoxicating as a show gets. We can’t help hoping for more success.

So is K-Stew dating a woman now? It very well looks like it, and her mother has flip-flopped on talking about it in public. Is she bisexual? Probably. Maybe.

Who knows? It only matters for our purposes because now we get to talk about her career as an actor in the same way we talk about Amber Heard, an entertainment figure whose life involves same-sex relationships from time to time.

It’s good for us, then, that Stewart’s post-Twilight is turning out so well. She’s shaken the Internet’s fanboy disdain for that series and currently is getting rave reviews for her role in the acclaimed art house film, Clouds of Sils Maria, with Juliette Binoche.

Stewart now is shooting Ang Lee’s latest, Billy Lynn’s Long Halftime Walk, a dramatic comedy about soldiers spending their last few days before returning to Iraq. It co-stars Vin Diesel, Garrett Hedlund, Steve Martin, Pitch Perfect’s Ben Platt and the somewhat reclusive Chris Tucker.

The lesson of the moment, then, is this: The work is what lasts; boyfriends and girlfriends come and go.

‘Juno’ Team Back Together on Screen

So here’s some speculation, the kind where we hope that just talking about it makes it come true. There is a rumor, hinted at by director Sam Gold, of expanding Orange Is the New Black writer Sian Heder is directHome’s theater audience and opening it in London’s ing her first feature, Tallulah, and the main cast has West End next, a fairly routine move when an acknown each other for a minute. claimed musical takes home the top prize.

Ellen Page (the upcoming Freeheld) and Allison But for theater-deprived audiences in smaller towns, Janney (CBS’s Mom) already have worked together in it’s the movie that counts. The producers are being Juno and in Lynn Shelton’s indie Touchy Feely. But cagey about a film, but that’s standard practice they’ll soon team up for Heder’s dramatic comedy when you’re fielding offers. about three women and a baby that - depending on which plot synopsis you’re reading - is either being “There’s definitely been interest in a film,” they’ve kidnapped from or rescued by a babysitter and a been reported as saying before adding more nonBeverly Hills housewife. specific words about being “open to anything” and wanting “to do what’s best for (the show).” OK, sure, Maybe it’s all of those things at once, we’re not sure, none of this is official news. It’s more like people talk- but we trust the comedic power from this creative ing around an idea of news, which is how non-news team. The project is currently in the pre-production eventually becomes news in Hollywood. stage, so we don’t even know the identity of the third lead yet. Updates as they surface.

Now we wait and hope it does just that.

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South Carolina: Nov 20, 2014 (federal court ruling)

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interview

Pearl

She Embraces Fashion and Music,

But Not Being a Role Model

by Nathan Cole

RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 7 runner-up Pearl has embarked on a drag race of her own across the world.

She has released her first album, Pleasure, a 15-track EDM album that hit the Top 3 on the iTunes dance chart, and a music video for her first single, “Love Slave.”

Pearl also is trying to make a name in the fashion industry. She collaborated with Artists at Wilhelmina on “The Transformation of Pearl,” where she portrayed looks from different fashion icons. And she has a unisex fragrance coming out in July called, “Flazéda,” after a catchphrase she coined on Drag Race.

Despite all of this, Pearl somehow still manages to tour, making stops in her hometown of Chicago and cities in Australia. Fans in Ohio can see her when she performs in Columbus on Saturday, July 4.

Nathan Cole: Congratulations on all of your success post-RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 7. How was returning to Chicago after Drag Race?

Pearl: Chicago always welcomes me back with open arms. [It] feels more like home than the town I grew up in. I like it because it’s familiar and not too fast-paced.

When I ask what’s new with my friends, not a lot has changed, which makes me happy I haven’t missed out.

sewing, acting, singing and dancing gets recreated images of old really quick. fashion icons.

Where do you see NC: Something that I noticed while the future of drag watching Drag Race is that there apand high fashion in pears to be tension between the older relation to each and younger queens... other?

P: Yes, it is clear that the older queens P: Who knows? I think were threatened by the younger queens’ gender-bending has aloverall creativity and imaginations. As the ways been big in the unyounger queens, we never drew a line in derground scene, but the sand with them. They did that on their recently it is becoming more own. We were literally just being ourmainstream and acceptable. selves, and they all had issues with that. Trans culture awareness is fiBut since then and after talking and be- nally being recognized the way it coming close with the older queens, they deserves to be. It would be great if seem to have learned from it, which is big-company fashion names emwhat matters. braced this culture more. I think we’re on our way.

NC: After seven seasons, RuPaul’s Drag Race has generated quite the fan folNC: Since you are a queen with a killer lowing, especially with younger fans. eye for high fashion, who is one fashWhat advice do you have to young fans ion icon you would love to swap closets who look up to you and other queens on with for a day? the show?

P: Violet Chachki.

P: We aren’t meant to be role models for young kids. We’re mostly dirty-minded, NC: Your first fragrance, “Flazéda,” will foul-mouthed gay men who smoke and be coming out very soon with Xyrena. drink and carry on. Don’t take anything What was the general vision behind we say too seriously. Don’t psychoanalyze the fragrance? our statements, because chances are P: It is meant to be unisex and wearthey weren’t that well-thought-out to able day or night. It’s a very natubegin with. rally clean fragrance. It’s got a lot of florals with some musks. It’s hard NC: Pleasure hit the Top 3 on the dance to describe. It just works on anyiTunes chart. What kind of mood did you one in any situation. want to create with this album?

P: I tried to make Pleasure as wellNC: What can fans expect rounded as possible. I wanted to make a from your performance at dark and sexy atmosphere in some tracks, Axis in Columbus on July 4? but also lighter beats that could be heard P: Come and see! on a long drive or working out, too.

NC: Where did you find inspiration each week in the challenges to make it to the finale?

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Nathan Cole is from Zanesville and attends Baldwin Wallace University in Berea.

“We’re mostly dirtyminded, foul-mouthed gay men who smoke and drink and carry on. Don’t take anything we say too seriously.”

- Pearl

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No Crown, But More Options for ‘RPDR’ Fan Favorite

by Orie Givens

One of the breakout stars of the latest cycle of RuPaul’s Drag Race is the awesomely talented, Florida-born Ginger Minj.

Minj, who performed in June at Dayton Pride, is returning to Ohio this month with her musical, Crossdresser for Christ.

She’ll perform in Cleveland on Thursday, July 9. She’ll also do a drag show in Columbus on Thursday, July 2.

We talked with her over the phone to discuss RPDR Season 7, losing to Violet Chachki but winning at life, and why everyone should love their inner toad.

Orie Givens: You’re coming to Cleveland to perform and we want to talk about that, but we just saw the finale of RuPaul’s Drag Race; and, sadly, you didn’t win - but you were the fan favorite - what happened?

Ginger Minj: Well, who wants to be Fantasia Barrino when you can be Jennifer Hudson?

OG: Right? So you talked about your Southern Baptist background and transition to your tour, Crossdressers for Christ, that’s bringing you to Cleveland on July 9. Give us the full T! GM: The entire premise of the show is the fact that I can’t afford therapy so I’m gonna have other people pay me to talk about my problems. But I’m [going to] set them to music so it’s nice and they get their money’s worth. It’s my life story, from the time I was born to the time I started doing drag. And it’s how I reconciled that religious upbringing with the terrible choices I make on a daily basis.

“My Drag Race was watching Polyester, Pink Flamingos and Torch Song Trilogy. It’s those three movies that not only shaped my life but gave me life, gave me my life.”

- Ginger Minj

OG: Hello, goodbye.

GM: I ain’t worried about it, baby! Because if I had won, I would have gotten stuck in a certain box and I would have had to do the same thing over and over for years. But having the notoriety of being in the top three, I don’t have those ties, I can knock down the doors and do whatever I fuckin’ want to do.

OG: You grew up in Florida, and it’s similar to Ohio where parts may be better than others. What do you think it would have been like to see someone on TV who was gay; how would that have affected the young Ginger?

GM: I did have that in a sense. You know, I was from Leesburg, Fla, which is about an hour north of Orlando. And it’s a different world away; it is so country. Everything is Southern Baptist. Everything is very straight, Republican redneck. And it was hard for me outlookohio.com

growing up, until I discovered the joy of John Waters and Harvey Fierstein and Divine. ... You know, my Drag Race was watching Polyester, Pink Flamingos and Torch Song Trilogy.

It’s those three movies that not only shaped my life but gave me life, gave me my life.

OG: You’ve also got a song out - “Ooh La La” - and it’s fierce. It sounds a lot different than what you normally hear from queens, you know the big dance tracks. ... This is a little edgy, a little rocky. Tell us about it...

GM: First of all, if you’ve seen the show you know I’m not a dancer, so I’m not gonna put out a fucking dance song.

[Laughs.] Second of all, I’m a singer; I’ve sung my whole life. I wanted [“Ooh La La”] to be one that I was really proud of, that spoke to not only who I am as an entertainer but who I am as a person. And, I wanted to write a song that was kind of an anthem for everybody. ... I think that we got a really good shot of getting it to radio and making it a big hit.

OG: “Ooh La La” is a great song. Are there going to be more? Is there going to be an album?

GM: There is an album on the way, but just like the song, I’m not rushing to release it just for the sake of releasing it.

I want to make sure that it’s perfect. There’s songs on there that they could be an Adele song; I’ve got some Amy Winehouse-inspired stuff, I’ve got some Meatball-inspired stuff.

Michigan, Mississippi, Missouri, Nebraska, North Dakota...

It’s all over the map but it all ties together really beautifully and it all tells a story and I’m really excited about it.

OG: One more thing, what would you say to the kids watching who need to feel more confident like Ginger?

GM: Just realize that there’s nothing wrong with you; you’re perfectly fine. You’re perfectly willing and capable and wonderful to be a decent human being. Just how you are. And take it from the glamour-toad herself, you gotta love yourself - warts and all, or you’re never gonna be happy.

Orie Givens is a freelance journalist and co-host of the syndicated radio show Queer Minded. You can reach him via Twitter @oracle83.

On Tour The three RuPaul’s Drag Race finalists for Season 7 will be in and around Ohio over the coming months. Here are their schedules:

Ginger Minj

Thursday, July 2 @ Axis, 775 N High St, Columbus, 43215; 614.291.4008; axisonhigh.com.

10p; $10-$15 (tables $50-$100).

Thursday, July 9 @ Hanna Theatre, Playhouse Square, 2067 E 14th St, Cleveland, 44115; 216.241.6000; playhousesquare.org. 8p; $28.50$82.50.

Friday, Aug 7 @ Talbott Street, 2145 N Talbott St, Indianapolis, 46202; 317.931.1343; talbottstreet.com. 9:30p; tickets price TBA.

Pearl

Saturday, July 4 @ Axis, 775 N High St, Columbus, 43215; 614.291.4008; axisonhigh.com.

10p; $10-$15 (tables $50-$100).

Violet Chachki

Sunday, Sept 6 @ Axis, 775 N High St, Columbus, 43215; 614.291.4008; axisonhigh.com.

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(Bring a dish to share, and alcohol is allowed.) There will be DJ and live entertainment by Twila Starr, Denise Russell, Cora Holloway and others, plus a 50/50 raffle, dessert contest, and games with prizes. Call or email Rick Cornett at Lynnfan1@aol.com for more. Noon-8p; $20.

SUNDAY, JULY 19 Miss Drag You Out Prelim @ The Cabaret, 1122 Walnut St, Cincinnati, 45211; FB: Miss Drag You Out 2015 Final Prelim: Ladies, here’s your chance to be... a lady. In this fundraiser for the YWCA of Greater Cincinnati’s Breast Cancer Awareness Programs, drag queens give drag makeovers to women who compete to be the audience’s favorite. 6p; ticket info TBA. TUESDAY, JULY 21 Charity Night for Oxford Area PFLAG @ Dakota’s of Oxford, 325 S College Ave, Oxford, 45056; 513.523.8100; FB: Oxford Area PFLAG: Dakota’s donates 15 percent of sales every Tuesday from its saloon and patio to a different charity. Tonight’s beneficiary is PFLAG in Oxford. 4p-midnight.

TOLEDO / NORTHWEST

FRIDAY, JULY 3 Sound the Alarm @ Bretz, 2012 Adams St, Toledo, 43604; 419.243.1900; FB: Bretz Nightclub: This month’s First Friday party also celebrates Independence Day. DJ Simplicity spins, and Bois With Outskirts’ drag kings perform. 10p.

SUNDAY, JULY 5 Blondie / Melissa Etheridge @ Hollywood Casino Toledo, 1968 Miami St, Toledo, 43605; 419.661.5200; hollywoodcasinotoledo.com: One way or another you’ll come to my window… or something like that. This is a can’t-miss, dream show for punk rockers, disco divas, AND acoustic aficionados. 8p; $49-$89.

FRIDAY, JULY 10 Youth Homelessness Is a Drag @ Bretz Nightclub, 2012 Adams St, Toledo, 43604; FB: The Promise House Project: A pre-party for Saturday’s Rockin Out Youth Homelessness event, it’s another fundraiser for the Promise House Project. The night of drag includes a 20-80 raffle, in which the winner gets 80 percent of the pot.

SATURDAY, JULY 11 Rockin Out Youth Homelessness @ The Moxie, 1205 Adams St, Toledo, 43604; FB: The Promise House Project: This battle of the bands - featuring Silver Age, Steel Wynd, Meet Me In Manhattan, Orlando Finelli and the Flying Finelli Family, Sarah Cohen, Angel Tipping and more - will benefit the Promise House Project, an effort to address the issue of LGBTQQIA homlessness. 6p-midnight; $10.

SUNDAY, JULY 19 Toledo LGBT Unity Picnic @ Vienna Park, 320 Vienna West Rd, Temperance, Mich, 48182; 419.470.3937; FB: Toledo Area LGBT Historical Archives: The Toledo Area LGBT Historical Archives, an effort to preserve Northwest Ohio’s LGBT past and present, hosts a picnic that includes chicken, hot dogs, hamburgers, brats, baked beans, potato salad, macaroni salad and soft drinks.

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THURSDAY, JULY 30 Rainbow Area Youth Summer Picnic @ Ottawa Park, Toledo, 43606; 419.742.2362; raytoledo.org: Bring a dish to share with everyone, and check the website for a more precise location and details on the time.

CINCINNATI / SOUTHWEST

SUNDAY, JULY 12 All-Star Sunday Sing @ Washington Park, 1230 Elm St, Cincinnati, 45202; 513.221.1118; musechoir.org: MUSE, the Cincinnati Women’s Choir, will perform as part of the city’s celebrations for the Major League All-Star Game. The Sunday Sing also includes the Martin Luther King Chorale, the Northern Kentucky Brotherhood Singers, the Cincinnati Public Schools Honor Choir and more. 10:30a; free.

FRIDAY, JULY 17 SUNDAY JULY 19 Leather Fetish Weekend @ Roseland Resort & Campground, 925 Nolte Lane, Proctor, WVa, 26055; 304.455.3838; FB: Scorpius of Cincinnati: Hosted by Scorpius and Miami Valley Bears and Leather Men, the weekend includes a meet-andgreet, demonstrations, a cocktail party, pup events and a leather fetish ball. $20-$205 per night for accommodations.

SATURDAY, JULY 18 18th Annual Ride for a Cure @ Old Street Saloon, 13 Old St, Monroe, 45050; 513.539.9183; oldstreetbar.com: All proceeds benefit the Women’s Wellness Center and Caracole House. There will be food and prizes when it ends at Old Street Saloon. Noon (11a registration); $15 entry.

MONDAY, JULY 27 Gay Literature Group of Greater Cincinnati @ Clifton United Methodist Church, 3416 Clifton Ave, Cincinnati, 45220; FB: Gay Literature Group of Greater Cincinnati: This month’s book is Giovanni’s Room by

James Baldwin. Aug 24 discussion: Assisted Loving: True Tales of Double Dating With My Dad by Bob Morris.

TUESDAY, JULY 28 Kelly Clarkson @ Riverbend Music Center, 6295 Kellogg Ave, Cincinnati, 45230; 513.232.6220; riverbend.org: The Grammy and American Idol winner will belt her new hit “Heartbeat Song” and probably some of her fan favorites. 7p; $20-$99.50.

DAYTON / WEST

WEDNESDAY, JULY 8 Gay Wedding Reception @ MJ’s on Jefferson, 20 N Jefferson St, Dayton, 45402; 937.223.3259; mjsonjefferson.com: In sponsorship with the Dayton LGBT Center and the Dayton Mayor’s Office, join MJ’s on Jefferson for a Gay Wedding Reception. 5p-7p.

FRIDAY, JULY 17 SUNDAY JULY 19 The Birdcage @ Victoria Theatre, 126 N Main St, Dayton, 45402; 937.228.7591; victoriatheatre.com: “You do Fosse, Fosse, Fosse! You do Martha Graham, Martha Graham, Martha Graham! Or Twyla, Twyla, Twyla! Or Michael Kidd, Michael Kidd, Michael Kidd, Michael Kidd! Or Madonna, Madonna, Madonna!... but you keep it all inside.” Free popcorn an hour before showtime. Friday and Saturday at 7p, Sunday at 3p; $5.

CLEVELAND-AKRON NORTHEAST

FRIDAY, JULY 10 Elect Anita Davis Fish Fry Fundraiser @ St. Dominic Church, 77 E Lucius Ave, Youngstown, 44507; FB: Anita Davis for 6th Ward Council: Anita Davis, a retired Youngstown police sergeant and a founder of Youngstown Pride, is running for a seat on her City Council. She’d be the first openly gay person to hold the office. 5p-8p; $25.

MONDAY, JULY 13 Akron Film+Pride Series: Blood Brother @ The Nightlight Cinema, 30 S High St Akron, 44308; 330.252.1559; canapi.org: The LGBTQ film series continues with a screening of Blood Brother, a 2013 documentary portrait of Rocky Braat, an American who volunteered at an AIDS center in remote India. 7p; $10.

SATURDAY, JULY 18 Cleveland Bears 20th Anniversary Potluck @ Leather Stallion, 2205 St. Clair Ave, Cleveland NE, Cleveland, 44114; clevelandbears.org: Bring a side dish to share, and buy your grilled stuff and drinks at the bar. The potluck ends at 7p, but the party continues into the night. 4p.

Bonfire & Burgers @ (location given to those who register); 216.651.5428; lgbtcleveland.org: The latest in the LGBT Community Center of Greater Cleveland’s Ta Da! series of fundrais-

ing events includes beer, burgers and plenty of marshmallows for roasting.

You can purchase tickets at the center’s website. 6p; $25.

SUNDAY, JULY 26 Christmas in July @ Cocktails Akron, 10009 S Main St, Akron, 44311; ironeagles.com: No, it’s not snowing yet in Northeast Ohio. It’s the annual fund-raiser for the Canton-based leather/Levis club. 5p.

Miss Gay Akron @ Interbelt, 70 N Howard St, Akron, 44310; 330.253.5700; interbelt.com: There’s an “Egyptian Nights” theme, and contestants will be judged on talent, evening gown and an Egyptian costume. Prizes for the winner include cash, bookings and jewelry. 7p registration; $75 entry fee (or $50 in advance).

MONDAY, JULY 27 PFLAG Cleveland Day at the Ballpark @ Progressive Field, 2401 Ontario St, Cleveland, 44115; 216.556.1701; pflagcleveland.org: Members and friends will gather to watch the Cleveland Indians play the Kansas City Royals. Email mail@pflagcleveland.org or contact the group through social media to get ticket details. 7:10p; $15.

SUNDAY, JULY 19 Cleveland Out and About Hike/Cookout @ Penitentiary Glen, 8668 Kirtland-Chardon Rd, Kirtland, 44094; clevelandoutandabout.org: The threeto four-mile hike through hilly terrain (don’t worry, the 100-foot gorge that gave the Lake County park its name won’t have to be scaled) includes a stop at the nature center. 1p.

Miss Buckeye State All-Star Newcomer @ Interbelt. 70 N Howard St, Akron, 44310; 330.253.5700; interbelt.com: The competition is in talent, Q&A, evening gown and three-minute presentation. 10p; $7 (registration is at 8p, and the entry fee is $40).

COLUMBUS / CENTRAL

FRIDAY, JULY 3 Red, White & Equal Rights Party @ the rooftop of the LeVeque Tower Garage, 40 N Front St, Columbus, 43215; FB: Red, White + Equal Rights: Nina West hosts a celebration of marriage equality and another step forward in LGBT civil rights. Sponsors include Outlook, Why Marriage Matters Ohio and Equality Ohio. 4:30p; $5 ($20 with parking) or $20-$50 VIP.

TUESDAY, JULY 22 Dr. Ben Carson @ The City Club of Cleveland, 850 Euclid Ave, Cleveland, 44114; 216.621.0082; cityclub.org: The Republican candidate for president who once equated marriage equality with bestiality and pedophilia will give an address as part of the City Club’s series leading up to the 2016 Republican National Convention in Cleveland. Ironically, given his comments about LGBT people, his WEDNESDAY, JULY 8 speech is titled, “We Are Not EneSATURDAY, JULY 18 mies.” Noon; $35 ($20 for members). Evolution Theatre: The Temperamentals @ Columbus Performing PFLAG Cleveland 30th Anniversary Arts Center-Van Fleet Theater, 549 Party @ Michelson and Morley, Franklin Ave, Columbus, 43215; 11038 Bellflower Dr, Cleveland, 614.233.1124; FRIDAY, JULY 17 44106; 216.556.1701; pflagcleveevolutiontheatre.org: Columbus’ WH2: Women’s Happy Hour @ land.org: The Cleveland chapter will LGBTQA theater company perVosh Nightclub, 1414 Riverside celebrate three decades of supporting forms the true story of Harry Hay Dr, Lakewood, 44107; LGBT people and their families with a and Rudy Gernreich, who fall in 440.342.3098; thewh2.com: celebration that includes cocktails, love while helping build the first Monthly happy hours change loca- hors d’oeuvres, live music and enter- US gay rights group in the early tions around Cleveland. 5p-9p. tainment, and recognition of the 1950s. 8p (July 8-10, 16-8) or 2p group’s founders. Email mail@pflag- (July 12); $20 ($15 for seniors and cleveland.org or visit the website for students, $10 for July 8 preview). details on tickets. 4p-7p; $30.

South Dakota, Tennessee, Texas and all US territories.

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WEDNESDAY, JULY 8 Network Columbus @ Square One Salon, 274 N 4th St, Columbus, 43215; 614.268.8525, x1; networkcolumbus.com: Outlook hosts its monthly LGBT networking event. 6p8p.

THURSDAY, JULY 9 Bi Local Happy Hour @ Bossy Grrl’s Pin Up Joint, 2598 N High St, Columbus, 43201; bilocal614.org: The local group for bisexual folks and anyone with a nonmonosexual identity hosts a social gathering on the second Thursday of every month. 6p-8p.

SATURDAY, JULY 11 HEAT II: A Bellydance and Burlesque Inferno @ Wall Street, 133 N Wall St, Columbus, 43215; 614.464.2800; wallstreetnightclubandshowbar.com: Hosted by Miss Wall Street 2015, Diamond Hunter, Wall Street will feature Midwest-area burlesque dancers and belly dancers with headlining performer, Colleen Wilde. 9p; $8-$40.

FRIDAY, JULY 17 SUNDAY, JULY 19 Columbus Classic International Tennis Tournament @ Wickertree Tennis Club, 5760 Maple Canyon Ave, Columbus, 43229; cmto1.org: The Columbus Metropolitan Tennis Organization hosts Ohio’s only tournament that’s sanctioned by the Gay and Lesbian Tennis Association. The group also will host its local tournament on Saturday, Aug 1. For details on either event, email Mark Buckingham at mark.buckingham@ColumbusRadioGroup.com.

SATURDAY, JULY 18 LGBTQ Hiking Club Canoe Outing @ Mohican State Park, 3116 State Rte 3, Loudonville, 44842; 614.930.2265; stonewallcolumbus.org: The Stonewall Columbus-hosted group will travel 1.5 hours northeast for canoeing and/or kayaking. Email lgum@stonewallcolumbus.org for details. 10:30a-noon; equipment rental fees will be charged at the park.

SUNDAY, JULY 19 Pride Night at the Columbus Crew @ Mapfre Stadium, 1 Black and Gold Blvd, Columbus, 43211; 614.268.8525, x1; outlookohio.com: Your ticket includes a pregame tailgate (with beer, booze and food!), a ticket to the Crew game vs. Chicago, and a Crew hat. Sponsors are Outlook and Stonewall Columbus.

FRIDAY, JULY 24 SUNDAY, JULY 26 Ohio Valley Regional Leather Contest Weekend @ AWOL/The Barracks, 49 Parsons Ave, Columbus, 43215; ovrdna.wix.com/drummer: Contests include OVR Drummer & Drummer Boy, Community Boot Black, Ms. Leather Pride, and OVR Bear and Cub. Email ovr.dna@gmail.com or OhioLeatherAlliance@yahoo.com for contest info. outlookohio.com

Ohio Lgbt Nightlife Roundup BARS & CLUBS Akron

Adams Street 77 N Adams St Akron, Ohio 44305 330.434.9794 adamsstreetbar.com FB: Adams Street Bar Cocktails 1009 S Main St Akron, Ohio 44311 330.376.2625 FB: Cocktails Akron

Interbelt 70 N Howard St Akron, Ohio 44310 330.253.5700 interbelt.com FB: Interbelt Nite Club Square 820 W Market St Akron, Ohio 44310 330.374.9661 squarenightclub.com FB: Square Nightclub Tear-Ez 360 S Main St Akron, Ohio 44311 330.376.0011 tear-ez.com Canton

Crew 304 Cherry Ave NE Canton, Ohio 44702 330.575.5748 FB: Crew Canton Studio 704 704 4th St SW Canton, Ohio 44702 330.453.1220 Cincinnati

Bar 32 701 Bakewell St Covington, Ky 41011 859.431.7011 bar32covky.com FB: Bar 32 Cov KY

Below Zero 1120 Walnut St Cincinnati, Ohio 45202 513.421.9376 belowzerolounge.com FB: Below Zero Lounge The Cabaret 1122 Walnut St Cincinnati, Ohio 45202 513.202.4052 cabaretcincinnati.com FB: The Cabaret

The Dock 603 Pete Rose Way Cincinnati, Ohio 45202 513.241.5623 FB: The Dock Complex Home Base Tavern 2401 Vine St Cincinnati, Ohio 45219 513.721.1212 FB: HBT Pride Main Event 835 Main St Cincinnati, Ohio 45202 513.421.1294 FB: Main Event Old Street Saloon 13 Old St Monroe, Ohio 45050 513.539.9183 oldstreetbar.com FB: Old Street Saloon

On Broadway 817 Broadway St Cincinnati, Ohio 45202 513.421.2555 FB: On Broadway Bar Rosie’s Tavern 643 Bakewell St Covington, Ky 41011 859.291.9707 rosiestavernnky.com FB: Rosie’s Tavern

Shooters 927 Race St Cincinnati, Ohio 45202 513.381.9900 FB: Shooters Bar Simon Says 428 Walnut St Cincinnati, Ohio 45202 513.381.7577 Cleveland

Bonkers 36091 Vine St, Eastlake, 44095 440.942.1959 FB: Bonkers

Bounce 2814 Detroit Ave Cleveland, Ohio 44113 216.357.2997 bouncecleveland.com

Cocktails 9208 Detroit Ave Cleveland, Ohio 44102 216.961.3115 FB: Cocktails Cleveland

The Hawk 11217 Detroit Ave Cleveland, Ohio 44102 216.521.5443 thehawkbar.com

FB: The Hawk

Leather Stallion 2205 St Clair Ave NE Cleveland, Ohio 44114 216.589.8588 leatherstallion.com FB: The Stallion Leather Stallion Saloon Mean Bull / Aura 1313 E 26th St Cleveland, Ohio 44114 216.812.3330 meanbull.com FB: AURA Ultra Lounge Paradise Inn 4488 State Rd Cleveland, Ohio 44109 216.741.9819 FB: Paradise Inn Twist 11633 Clifton Blvd Cleveland, Ohio 44102 216.221.2333 FB: Twist Sc Vibe 11633 Lorain Ave Cleveland, Ohio 44111 216.476.1970 vibecleveland.com FB: Vibe Bar + Patio Columbus

AWOL 49 Parsons Ave Columbus, Ohio 43215 614.621.8779 awolbar.com FB: Awol Bar Axis 775 N High St Columbus, Ohio 43215 614.291.4008 axisonhigh.com FB: Axis Cavan Irish Pub 1409 S High St Columbus, Ohio 43207 614.725.5502 cavanirishpub.com FB: Cavan Irish Pub Club 20 20 E Duncan St Columbus, Ohio 43202 614.261.9111 FB: Club 20 Club Diversity 863 S High St Columbus, Ohio 43206 614.224.4050 clubdiversity.biz FB: Club Diversity Exile 893 N 4th St Columbus, Ohio 43201 614.299.0069

exilebar.com FB: Exile

Level 700 N High St Columbus, Ohio 43215 614.754.7111 levelcolumbus.com FB: Level Dining Lounge Slammers 202 E Long St Columbus, Ohio 43215 614.221.8880 FB: Slammers Southbend 126 E Moler St Columbus, Ohio 43207 614.444.3386 FB: Southbend Tavern The Toolbox 744 Frebis Ave Columbus, Ohio 43206 614.670.8113 FB: The Toolbox Saloon Tremont Lounge 708 S High St Columbus, Ohio 43206 614.444.2041 FB: Tremont Lounge Union Café 782 N High St Columbus, Ohio 43215 614.421.2233 unioncafe.com FB: Union Cafe Wall Street 144 N Wall St Columbus, Ohio 43215 614.464.2800: wallstreetnightclubandshowbar.com FB: Wall Streen Night Club

Dayton

Argos 301 Mabel St Dayton, Ohio 45403 937.252.2976 FB: Argos Levi & Leather Bar Masque 20 N Jefferson St Dayton, Ohio 45402 937.228.2582 clubmasque.com FB: Masque

MJ’s on Jefferson 20 N Jefferson St Dayton, Ohio 45402 937.223.3259 mjsonjefferson.com FB: MJ’s on Jefferson Right Corner 105 E 3rd St Dayton, Ohio 45402 937.228.2033

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Sparky’s Lounge 822 Watertower Lane West Carrollton, Ohio 45449 937.859.1062 FB: Sparky’s Lounge Stage Door 44 N Jefferson St Dayton, Ohio 45402 937.223.7418 FB: The Stage Door Lima

Somewhere 804 W North St Lima, Ohio 45801 419.227.7288 somewherelima.com FB: Somewhere Lorain

Tim’s Place 2223 Broadway Lorain, Ohio 44052 440.218.2223 timsinlorain.webs.com FB: Tim’s Place Mansfield

Sami’s 178 Wayne St Mansfield, Ohio 44902 419.522.1500 FB: Sami’s Bar Sandusky

Crowbar 206 W Market St Sandusky, Ohio 44870 419.624.0109 sanduskycrowbar.com FB: Sandusky Crowbar Springfield

Diesel 1914 Edwards Ave Springfield, Ohio 45503 937.324.0383 FB: Diesel Bar & Nightclub

Why Not III

5 N Murray St Springfield, Ohio 937.450.6428 FB: Why-Not-III Toledo

Boobie Trap 5082 Douglas Rd Toledo, Ohio 43613 419.690.4115 FB: Boobie-Trap Bretz 2012 Adams St Toledo, Ohio 43604

419.243.1900 FB: Bretz Nightclub

Legends 117 N Erie St Toledo, Ohio 43604 567.315.8333 legendsbartoledo.com FB: Legends Showclub Toledo Mojo 115 N Erie St Toledo, Ohio 43604 567.315.8333 mojobartoledo.com FB: Mojo’s R-House 5534 Secor Rd Toledo, Ohio 43623 419.474.2929 FB: Rhouse Bar Warren

Club 441 441 E Market St Warren, Ohio 44481 330.394.9483 FB: Club 441

Funky Skunk 143 E Market St Warren, Ohio 44481 FB: Funky Skunk NiteClub Youngstown

Mineshaft 1105 Poland Ave Youngstown, Ohio 44502 330.207.6437 youngstownmineshaft.com

FB: Youngstown Mineshaft

Utopia 876 E Midlothian Blvd Youngstown, Ohio 44502 330.781.9000 FB: Utopia Youngstown BATHS

Akron Steam and Sauna 41 S Case Ave Akron, Ohio 44305 330.252.2791 akronsteamandsauna.c om Club Columbus 795 W 5th Ave Columbus, Ohio 43212 614.291.0049 the-clubs.com Flex 2600 Hamilton Ave, Cleveland, Ohio 44114 216.812.3304 flexspas.com july 2015

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savage love

by Dan Savage

Jackhammer My boyfriend and I both spent a lot of time masturbating when we were young, and pretty much trained our brains to come only one way. He can only come from masturbating furiously, or sometimes from a marathon of jackhammer sex.

A few years before I met him, I toned down the masturbating to retrain my brain and pussy and tried a bunch of new things, and I can now come from different acts and positions. It wasn’t easy, but I am so happy with this versatility.

I’m starting to get annoyed that he isn’t working harder to Illustration: Joe Newton overcome this jackhammering reliance. It hurts, it’s super boring, and it makes me feel like I might as well be an inflat- jackhammering down from hours to half an hour is a positive able doll. sign.

We’ve talked about it, and he says he’ll masturbate less, and that does help (read: Now it’s a half-hour of jackhammering instead of hours), but I’m still eager for more variety - and to be able to walk after sex and ride a bike the next day.

For what it’s worth, about half the time he just lets me come buckets and then gives up on himself. Can you recommend anything that would help him?

Since I know firsthand this can be overcome and I accommodate him as much as possible, I think I’m being reasonable. But I’m sure you’ll tell me if I’m not.

Oh god, Dan! Help! How do I get over my jealousy over my bisexual boyfriend, who now wants to act on his urges for women? We’ve been together and had a happy gay life for 15 years, open with men for only three of those years. He has integrity and he says he would never cheat on me, but he’s getting to the point where he is going to hook up with women, whether I am OK with it or not.

There’s more to it, though. He is perfect in every facet of his life. A perfect person and a gift to the world, so any woman would be crazy not to want him for herself. We are deeply in love, but I’m afraid of a woman’s ultimate intention for a guy like my partner.

- Hoping A Massive Masturbator Eventually Retrains Exacting Dick Here’s how you retrain his dick: Your boyfriend stops doing what he’s always done - no more masturbating or fucking in the style to which his dick has become accustomed - but he keeps on having sex and he keeps on masturbating.

But he is not allowed to revert to jackhammering away at your pussy or his fist if he doesn’t get off. If he doesn’t come, he doesn’t come. Eventually his dick, in desperation, will adjust to newer, subtler sensations, and he’ll be able to get off without jackhammering.

- Jealousy Annoys Gay Guy Gay and bi men are just as interested in having partners who are perfect in every facet of life, JAGG, and yet you trust your boyfriend to fuck other guys and come home to you. You’ll just have to trust your gift-to-the-world boyfriend to do the same with women: fuck a woman now and then but come home to you after.

The “ultimate intention” of whatever woman your boyfriend fucks should concern you less than your boyfriend’s ultimate intention. Does he ultimately intend to stay with you? Or would he ultimately prefer to be with someone else?

Or not.

Some guys can retrain their dicks - and some women can retrain their pussies - but some people have carved too deep a groove into themselves and their junk. Other people really do require intense stimulation - jackhammers and death grips and powerful vibrators - to get off, and they have to figure out how to incorporate that intense stimulation into partnered sex without destroying their partners’ orifices.

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If he wants to stay with you - and he’s likelier to want to stay if being with you doesn’t mean he never gets to have sex with a woman ever again - then you’ll have to trust that your samesex relationship is strong enough to withstand a little oppositesex hooking up.

You can email Dan Savage at mail@savagelove.net, follow him on Twitter at @fakedansavage or listen to his weekly podcast, Savage Lovecast, every Tuesday at thestranger.com/savage. Savage Love appears every month in Outlook and every week at outlookohio.com.

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the divine life

by Debé

Cancer (June 21 - July 22) Facing reality can be tough for you sensitive crabs, but the moon in Capricorn on the 2nd makes it easier. This is a great time to check in with yourself. Are you headed in the right direction? Siri can’t answer this one. Time to lace up your big girl shoes and get moving!

Fabulous Cancers: George Michael, Jane Lynch, Meredith Baxter, Rufus Wainwright Leo (July 23 - August 22) Some of the excitement has died down, and you are getting some rest in preparation for a busy August. You’ll need that rest because loved ones are counting on you, and you love being big daddy or momma.

Virgo (August 23 - September 22) The full moon in Capricorn plays to your strengths.

You are a rock star in business, and your friends want to hang with you. You’re so awesome there could be some jealousy brewing around you. It’s sometimes tough being Little Miss Perfect.

Libra (September 23 - October 22) The focus is on career this month, and you are weighing your options on those famous scales of yours. What - or whom - to keep, and what to kick to the curb? Channel your inner Heidi Klum and make some decisions.

Scorpio (October 23 - November 21) You are charismatic this month, and opportunities arise through networking. Something exciting could be just around the corner. Sure, you’ll need to work out the kinks, but who is better with kinks than a Scorpio?

you feel centered and grounded. Take this opportunity to get organized and maybe start a new workout regimen. Hard work now pays off when you take to the clouds again.

Pisces (February 19 - March 20) That’s quite a sashay you’ve got going this month.

You’re relaxed and feeling good. People will wonder what you’re up to, but you just need a little Zen timeout. Trust me, you’ll be back to your overly-sensitive self in no time.

Aries (March 21 - April 19) You feel invincible and a little self-absorbed this month (even more than usual). That’ll help you focus on your goals, but don’t let your ego write checks your talent can’t cash. A little humility and kindness is a better way to go.

Taurus (April 20 - May 20) Your intuition is high, and you get messages in your dreams. Listen up: Those messages may lead you to new opportunities and a happier home life. A psychic boost is always a plus, so take any help that’s offered.

Gemini (May 21 - June 20) I guess the parties are over for now. It’s time to buckle down, make plans and get serious. It’s a great month for a fresh start and more structure in your life. It’s not all fun and games, but it’s worth it.

Sagittarius (November 22 - December 21) You’re wild and unpredictable, but it’s time to tame that fiery spirit before you break the bank. This is a Handy Tip: month to pay closer attention to finances and busiA looping pattern in ness and put some plans in place. You can dance the skin between the on the tabletops later.

Ring (Apollo) and Middle (Saturn) fingers inCapricorn dicates a serious and (December 22 - January 19) hard working nature.

The full moon on the 2nd in your sign gives you the upper hand. Put those plans and goals into high gear and make things happen. You are powerful Debe is a palmist, intuitive adviser and right now, and it looks damn sexy on you. metaphysical teacher in Columbus. She is available for personal readings, parties, events Aquarius and workshops. For more information, go to (January 20 - February 18) thepassionatepalmist.com. Look for her You are usually more of a dreamer, but this month horoscopes every month in Outlook. outlookohio.com

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I Refuse to Be Invisible 1 Jane of Grace and Frankie 6 Member 10 Will of The Waltons 14 Slicker in the winter 15 Wine region of da Vinci’s land 16 Trucker’s rod 17 Kidney-related 18 Fight for a twosome 19 Life partner 20 Nelson, who championed LGBT rights 22 Broadway district 24 Sondheim’s ___ Can Whistle 25 “Another card” in S/Mspeak?

26 “Faboo!”

28 Audre Lorde’s birthplace 32 It borders Tenn.

35 Material from Sylvia Beach?

37 Queen topper 38 “Dykes to Watch Out For” cartoonist Alison 41 Media gadfly Huffington 43 Rimbaud’s heart 44 Pandora’s Box heroine 46 Canon camera 47 Gloomy 49 The ___ of Harvey Milk 52 Marlon Brando’s hometown 54 Check out gay porn sites, e.g.

58 Streisand’s “Don’t Rain on My ___” 60 Gay rodeo ropes 61 Old fruit drink 62 Cartoon chipmunk 64 Phrase from Ripley 65 Mireille, whose name rhymes with “penis” 66 Tied up

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67 Christopher of Superman 68 Power measure 69 Enjoy Capote 70 Exodus memorial

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1 Like ground that’s hard 2 South Beach setting 3 Boob 4 Completely faithful 5 Francis of old TV 6 Cry of pride 7 Coll. of Phil Andros 8 Cheri once of SNL 9 Frasier’s ex 10 Abercrombie & Fitch locale, perhaps 11 Come out 12 Sailor’s patron 13 Gone With the Wind extra 21 Will and Grace shared one 23 Precious strings 25 Sweetie pie 27 Albee’s Three ___ Women 29 Nathan of Modern Family 30 Cosmetics businessman Laszlo 31 Serpico author Peter 32 Free verse “rhyme scheme” 33 Fifth-century pope 34 Perfect serves from Mauresmo 36 Limp watch painter 39 Kate Clinton or Margaret Cho 40 Stage offering

42 Dancing with the Stars routine 45 Hagen of The Boys from Brazil 48 Drag queen’s hose problem 50 Boo-boos, to Billy Bean 51 Human Rights Campaign fundraiser 53 Word before “ho!”

55 Lost some of its size 56 Pilot’s place 57 Artist Hernandez 58 Elizabeth of Transamerica 59 Part of a title by Tennessee Williams 60 What libraries do 61 Orange Is the ___ Black (source of the line in the puzzle’s title) 63 Actress who said the line whose name is visible in this puzzle

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