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Vote or Die

vol 21 • #05

the politics issue

Nothing to say this month, except this:

tions by 7:30p on Tuesday, Nov. 8.

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Vote.

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We suggest who on Page 11, but here are some of the how answers from myohiovote.com, maintained by Ohio Secretary of State Jon Husted:

Voting early in person: Early voting takes place in every county on the same schedule:

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Election Day: Tuesday, Nov. 8. Polls are open 6:30a-7:30p.

• Monday, Oct. 24-Friday, Oct. 28: every day from 8a-6p.

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Early voting begins: Wednesday, Oct. 12.

• Monday, Oct. 31- Friday, Nov. 4: every day from 8a-7p.

Deadline to register or update your voting address: Tuesday, Oct. 11.

• Weekends: Saturday, Oct. 29, and Saturday, Nov. 5, from 8a-4p; Sunday, Oct. 30, and Sunday, Nov. 6, from 1p-5p.

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commentary: Shannon Hardin election 2016: President profile: Tommy Greene profile Kevin Johnson

column: Brynn Tannehill

Voting by mail: Absentee-ballot request forms are online at column: Brooke Cartus myohiovote.com. Mail your form to your county Board of Elections (addresses cinema: Dayton LGBT Film Fest for all 88 in Ohio are at the same webtheater: 44 Plays for 44 Presidents site), and they’ll send you your ballot. It must be postmarked by Monday, Nov. 7, or delivered to your Board of Elecprofile: Sara Davis Buechner calendar: Columbus calendar: Dayton

• Monday, Nov. 7: 8a-2p. Check myohiovote.com for information about where to vote early in your county, where to vote on Election Day and answers to any other questions you have.

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Equitas Art for Life Preview Columbus, 9/23/16

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“Oh God, I’m creeping myself out!,” Josh Stucky laughed during our October cover shoot. One of Dayton’s Rubi Girls (he’s Dana Sintell), our Drag Donald was photographed by fellow Daytonian Briana Snyder.

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First openly gay U.S. office holders (1973): Nancy Wechsler and Jerry DeGrieck, Ann Arbor, Mich., council.

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Around Ohio

Akron: CANAPI has a new home. The Community AIDS Network/Akron Pride Initiative is now at 759 W. Market St., Akron, 44303.

has awarded 2016-17 Howard Short and Burdette Augsberger Scholarships to three Central Ohio college students for 2016-17: Heaven Willis is a first-year student studying journalism at Otterbein University; Joshua Cincinnati: Mark your calendars: Cincinnati Pride 2017 has been scheduled for Culbertson is a grad student at the Methodist Theological Society; and Shana Marks is a Saturday, June 24. law student at Ohio State University. Cincinnati: Patrons of seven area bars donated 710 rolls of toilet paper, 1,672 razors, Springfield: Equality Springfield and seven churches - Christ Episcopal, Covenant Pres174 tubes of toothpaste, 392 bars of soap and other personal-care items during a drive byterian, Faith United Methodist, First United to help clients of Caracole, Southwest Ohio’s Church of Christ, Highlands United Church of Christ, High Street United Methodist and HIV/AIDS services agency. Participating esNorthminster Presbyterian - have sponsored tablishments were Arnold’s Bar and Grill, Below Zero Lounge, C&D Northside, Crazy Fox a billboard on E. Main Street that reads: Saloon, Old Street Saloon, Rosie’s Tavern and “We Stand With Our LGBT Neighbors.” Simon Says. Youngstown: Youngstown State University’s campus rock took on the pink, lavender Cleveland: The next Project H.E.A.L., an and blue colors of the bi flag on Sept. 19, for Ohio AIDS Coalition series designed to help Bisexual Awareness Week. “We hope to raise HIV-positive Ohioans build their leadership and advocacy skills, is scheduled for Nov. 12- awareness that there is more than just gay and straight,” members of YSUnity wrote on 13 in Cleveland. If you’d like to attend, visit their Facebook page. ohioaidscoalition.org and fill out an online application by Friday, Oct. 28.

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Columbus: Scarlet & Gay, the Ohio State

University LGBT alumni group, will continue its annual Coming Out Day tradition on Oct. 11 with a full page ad in The Lantern, OSU’s student newspaper. Visit alumnigroups.osu.edu/scarletandgay if you’d like to contribute to the effort. Columbus:

The Legacy Fund of the Columbus Foundation

Fashion Week Columbus Is Ready for the Runway

the Human Rights Campaign’s Federal Club. Columbus’ often-underestimated fashion scene will show itself off in October with eight 6p; free, but you must RSVP online. days of events showcasing local and emergTUESDAY, OCTOBER 11 ing designers. Hair Meets Fashion @ Grand SalonAnd many of the events during Fashion Week Gahanna/New Albany, 1356 Cherry Way, Columbus will be staged with a focus not just Gahanna, 43230: The night includes complion fashion, but also on philanthropy. Benefi- mentary 10-minute updos, 40 percent off all Alterna Haircare products, desserts, drinks, ciaries of the week include the Ronald McDonald House Charities of Central Ohio and a giveaways and more. 6p; free, but you must RSVP online. scholarship fund for local design students. Fashion Week Columbus, which organizers say has grown into the Midwest’s biggest, takes place from Oct. 8-15. Here are the daily events: SATURDAY, OCTOBER 8 Kids Fashion Show @ Columbus

Children’s Theatre, 512 Park St., Columbus, 43215: The Adorable Factor is sky high as local celebrities rock the runway with their own kids and those who were selected through an open casting call. Proceeds benefit Fashion Week Columbus and Ronald McDonald House charities. 10:30a; $20.

SUNDAY, OCTOBER 9 High Fashion Tea and Wedding Runway Show @ The Grand Event Center,

820 Goodale Blvd., Columbus, 43212: Experience artistic original designs while enjoying stylish desserts by El Campanario (caterer and fashion designer Gerardo Encinas). It’s couture design meets couture dessert. 1p; $100.

WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 12 Fashion Is Art Preview Party @ Hilton

Columbus Downtown, 401 N. High St., Columbus, 43215: Get a sneak peek of this year’s designers’ signature looks. 6p-8p; free, but you must RSVP online.

THURSDAY, OCTOBER 13 Philanthropy Meets Fashion

@ Columbus College of Art & Design Canzani Center, Second Floor, Cleveland Avenue and E. Gay Street, Columbus, 43215: This year’s headline designer, Adolfo Sanchez, has been featured in Vogue, Cosmopolitan and Vibe. He’ll speak about his journey. 7p; free, but you must RSVP online. FRIDAY, OCTOBER 14 Fashion Industry Mixer @ Dahlia Bar &

Lounge, 147 Vine St., Columbus, 43215: Meet fellow fashionistas. 6:30p; free, but please RSVP.

SATURDAY, OCTOBER 15 Finale Runway Show @ Brewmaster’s

Gate, 495 S Front St, Columbus, 43215: Headline designer Adolfo Sanchez and seven MONDAY, OCTOBER 10 local designers - Gerardo Encinas, Joan Bob Mackie Cher Gowns on Display Madison, Juan Jose Saenz-Ferreyros, Kevin @ Copious, 520 S. High St., Columbus, 43215: Bob Mackie’s designs were as synony- Black, Stephanie Foster, Ashley Wills and Kelmous with Cher as her “Whoooa.” The collec- ley Plas - push the fashion envelope. 8p (VIP tion of gowns owned by Central Ohio resident cocktail reception starts at 7p); $25+. Gary Scarbrough will be displayed during a For more info and tickets visit: cocktails-and-hors d’ouvres event hosted by outlookohio.com

First openly gay member of Congress: U.S. Rep. Gerry Studds of Massachusetts (1983).

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always wanted. wanted to work for someone This is what I al- like that. ways saw as the potential.’” “I quickly found out that mean, unapproachable look Barely a month was an act. Rob was shy and after the closing really felt uncomfortable talkof Exile sparked ing to people, so hence the a flood of fond look. I joked with him that I memories for was going to start acting that Columbus’ last way; his response to me was, old-school ‘Too late. Everyone knows leather and bear you’re a hugger. They won’t bar, friends were believe it.’ I would act mad, mourning and he would hug me.” Wagner, too. Wagner also helped people, The Exile owner died on Sept. directly and indirectly. 16, of complications from a heart condition. He was 51. Friends described a man who would tell someone when he After a career in landscaping, was drinking too much but Wagner bought the Eagle in show his support by accomExile in 2007 and fulfilled his panying that friend to AA dream of owning a leather meetings. He held jobs open bar. for sick employees and gave people second and third “I want it to still be cruisey,” chances. He supported LGBT he told Outlook in 2011. “I’ve causes and organizations. always loved that part of And his bar was a place going out - the flirting and the where people felt part of a fun - but I didn’t want it to be community. scary anymore or for people to feel that getting off was the reason to come here.”

RIP: Rob Wagner, Exile Owner Rob Wagner July 19, 1965 September 16, 2016

Doug Maag remembers watching Rob Wagner battle a constantly overflowing toilet and temperamental HVAC system. He watched Wagner lay patio tile at Exile, plant trees, and build a back bar and fences and stairs. And once - just once - he re-

members watching Rob Wagner stop to smell the roses. It was at the top of those back stairs while hosting his fifth Pride celebration,” Maag said. “As he looked out at the crowd and waved to the regulars leather, bear, blue/white collar, straight, gay, male, female - saw the box dancers and food trucks, staff running in all directions ... he leaned over to me in his soft voice and said, ‘See, this is what I

“Exile was the first bar that I remember going to where I did not feel ashamed or like I was less of a person because I did not have the ‘perfect’ body,” said Gregg Sweeney, who ended up emceeing events there. “I was not judged for being a bear/cub. Instead I was embraced and loved for it.” John Dewar met Wagner in 2003, before he became a bar owner. His last text from Wagner, after Exile closed, read: “You guys are great and I do appreciate all the support everyone has given.”

Rivas; and aunt and uncle, Joan and John Wagner. He was preceded in death by his sister, Cindy Allred, and his mother, Judy Wagner. His family asked that those who wish to express condolences consider donating to Pets Without Parents (petswithoutparents.net), a cause that was dear to his heart.

“Between a great bar and an amazing man, the gay community lost a great deal these last few months,” Dewar said. Wagner is survived by his partner, Andy Bos; his father, Richard Wagner; sister, Sandy

Kris Littler worked at Exile for six years but needed three visits to work up the courage to ask Wagner for a job. He always looked busy and pissed off, and Littler wasn’t sure he

Ohio Walks to Help Suicide-Prevention Efforts According to the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, young LGBT people are four times more likely to try to kill themselves.

vention will host Out of the Darkness Walks in nine Ohio cities in October to raise money for all of its suicide-prevention programs:

• Youngstown: Mill Creek Metropark on Saturday, Oct. 8.

Transgender youth and adults are 6.5 times more likely to attempt suicide.

• Toledo: International Park on Saturday, Oct. 1.

• Oxford: Miami University on Sunday, Oct. 9.

• Columbus: Alum Creek State Park on Sunday, Oct. 9.

• Cleveland: Wade Oval at University Circle on Saturday, Oct. 15. • Cincinnati: Sawyer Point on Sunday, Oct. 16. • Dayton: Oakwood High School on Sunday, Oct. 23.

• North Canton: • Celina: Mercer The American Founda- Memorial Stadium on County Fairgrounds on To register, visit afsp.donordrive.com. Sunday, Oct. 2. Saturday, Oct. 15. tion for Suicide Pre8

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First openly gay member of the U.S. Senate: Tammy Baldwin of Wisconsin (2012).

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This Isn’t Enough

Our Civic Duty as LGBTQ People Doesn’t Stop on Nov. 8

by Shannon Hardin We live as the direct beneficiaries of LGBT people who fought and won battles for our civil rights. Not long ago, queer folks wore paper bags over their heads during Pride parades. Steve Shellabarger, a longtime Columbus LGBTQ rights advocate, has told me about folks giving cash donations to avoid a discoverable paper trail. My older friends have told me horror stories about how the AIDS epidemic destroyed their communities. While we have come a long way, being queer is still dangerous. Past organizers and advocacy groups found the courage to stand up in a threatening world. As children of the movement, we have our own work to do. Every day we see microaggressions, unconscious discrimination and outright injustice. It is our responsibility to use technology to do more than add a rainbow filter to our Facebook profile pictures. We can leverage our networks and social platforms to advocate for ourselves and for our community. Almost all of us are connected online. Let’s use that for a common good.

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It is our responsibility to expect more from our elected officials. Politicians showing up at a queer events is not enough; we must ask them tough questions and challenge them to build coalitions that create protections across Ohio.

First openly gay governor: Jim McGreevey of New Jersey (2004).

It is our responsibility to host fundraisers for candidates and causes that we believe in. Sadly, money is still one the most important drivers of political success, especially at the local level. But until that changes, we can do more than just attend the fundraiser; we can create the conversation by hosting it. It is our responsibility to run for office. The Democratic Party has been an ally to the queer community. However, we can do more than ask straight, cis elected officials to advance our issues. We can run, get elected, and set the conversation and the agenda. I ask each of you to find issues that hit home for you. Stories I have heard moved me to advocate for homeless queer youth, education and funding for anti-HIV and AIDS resources (e.g. PrEP), and protections for transgender people. As children of the movement, we must identify what moves us, and then we must engage. Voting is the least we can do now. In July, I watched Jim Obergefell cast Ohio’s votes for Hillary Clinton at the Democratic National Convention. It reminded me that history is made everyday. We can’t be observers. We must be participants. Shannon Hardin is a member of the Columbus City Council. As a high school student in 2005, he helped create Youth at the Booth, which has helped Ohio teens become poll workers across the state.

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Hillary Clinton for President

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Don’t believe all the nonsense about this presidential election being a choice between the lesser of two evils.

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the primaries, we get it. But we have three words for those whose anger is pushing them toward Trump or LGBTfriendly third-party candidates simply as an anybody-but-Hillary statement.

This is a contest between a leader and an embarrassment.

Let. It. Go. This is a contest between a stateswoman and a boor.

Clinton was never an enemy of LGBT people. On those two issues, she reflects the evolution of many Americans whose support we must welcome.

This is not even a contest. Outlook endorses Hillary Clinton to be the 45th president of the United States.

Look where she is now.

Clinton is smart. She is experienced. She is qualified. And, yes, she is trustworthy. Hillary Clinton understands that the reasons her opponent believes America is broken is the very reason so many of us are more hopeful than ever. Equality is advancing for many who used to be marginalized, victimized and ignored. Hillary Clinton understands that “take America back” is code for taking America backward. Donald Trump represents a party whose platform seeks to undo marriage equality, affirm the dangerous and discredited practice of “conversion therapy,” erase Title IX protections for transgender students, and institute hoo-ha checks at restroom doors.

She supports the Equality Act, which would add gender identity and sexual orientation to federal nondiscrimination laws. She supports banning “conversion therapy” for LGBT children. Her judicial appointees will share her commitment to marriage equality and civil rights for all.

laws that permit discrimination under the guise of religious freedom, and he has expressed admiration for Vladimir Putin, the despot who unleashed a deadly anti-gay wave in Russia. We’re baffled, frankly, that LGBT Americans have escaped the vulgarities Trump hurls at women, AfricanAmericans, Mexicans and MexicanAmericans, immigrants, disabled people, Muslim Americans and just about everyone else.

seeks to divide, and that alone would disqualify him from the presidency even if his words weren’t reinforced with equally ugly policy proposals. We are stronger together, and Hillary Clinton gets that. Some in our community hold Clinton’s late conversion on marriage equality against her. Some tie her to two policy blunders of her husband: the 1993 Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell compromise on military service by LGBT Americans and the 1996 Defense of Marriage Act.

And Clinton goes further. She supports capping out-of-pocket medical expenses for those living with HIV/AIDS, and she supports expanding the use of the preventive drug regimen known as PrEP. She fully supports the right of transgender people to serve openly in the U.S. military. She has vowed to upgrade the service records of LGBT veterans who were dishonorably discharged. She is with us. All of us. America doesn’t need a president to take the country back. America needs Hillary Clinton, who will move America forward.

★☆★Ted Strickland for U.S. Senate★☆★

Trump has promised to appoint judges who would turn back the clock on equality. He has expressed support for

We’re baffled, but we’re hardly impressed. Trump insults all with his racist, sexist, xenophobic rhetoric. He

So if Clinton wasn’t your first choice in

“There are other battles that need to be fought beyond marriage equality,” U.S. Senate candidate Ted Strickland told us last year. It’s nice to have a politician tell us that. Because he knows LGBT Ohioans need more than spouses, Outlook endorses Democrat Ted Strickland for the U.S. Senate.

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While incumbent Rob Portman supports marriage equality and non-discrimination, his actions in other areas - trying to repeal healthcare reform, delaying consideration of a new Supreme Court justice, staying silent on efforts to ban “conversion therapy” - hurt efforts to advance LGBT health, civil rights and safety. We might get Portman’s vote on the big issues if he wins a second six-year term. But with Ted Strickland in the U.S. Senate, LGBT Ohioans also will get a voice.

First openly bisexual governor: Kate Brown of Oregon (2015).

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2016 Presidential Presidential Candidates Candidates on on LGBT LGBT Issues Issues 2016 Hillary Clinton, Democrat

women and black men who have sex with men.

“We’ve celebrated huge gains for the LGBT community in recent years. Now we must work together to protect our progress and make sure we have more to celebrate in the years to come - not hand over the Oval Office to someone who will turn back the clock on LGBT equality.”

• Supports easier processes for transgender Americans to change their gender markers on identification documents. • Backs the Every Child Deserves a Family Act, which would prohibit federally funded agencies from discriminating against potential foster families or adoptive parents because of sexual orientation or gender identity.

RuPaul, Transparent director Jill Soloway, comedian Wanda Sykes, Twitter legend George Takei, Lily Tomlin, soccer star Abby Wambach, marriageequality plaintiff Edie Windsor, singer Chely Wright, fashion designer Michael Wu.

Donald Trump, Republican

“In Orlando, Florida, 49 wonderful Americans were savagely murdered by an • Supports the Equality Act, Islamic terrorist. This time, the which would outlaw discriminaterrorist targeted our LGBTQ tion based on gender identity LGBT Supporters: Wisconsin Sen. community. No good. We are and sexual orientation in the Tammy Baldwin, screenwriter/di- going to stop it. As your workplace, housing, public rector Dustin Lance Black, trans president, I will do everything in accommodations and schools. activist Chaz Bono, Oregon Gov. my power to protect our LGBTQ Kate Brown, BRAVO host and citizens from the violence and • Would continue President Obama’s use of executive actions honcho Andy Cohen, retired NBA oppression of a hateful foreign to protect LGBT Americans from player Jason Collins, Apple CEO ideology, believe me.” Tim Cook, Orange Is the New discrimination. Black star Laverne Cox, Ellen • His party’s platform would DeGeneres, OITNB star rescind marriage equality, allow • Wants to end so-called Lea DeLaria, singer/songwriter discrimination if it’s cloaked in “conversion therapy” for LGBT Melissa Etheridge, celebrity chef religious belief and affirm the children. Elizabeth Falkner, Modern Fam- right of parents to subject their ily star Jesse Tyler Ferguson, children to “conversion therapy.” • Supports better funding for mentor extraordinaire Tim Gunn, shelters that serve homeless actor Neil Patrick Harris, Indigo • Opposes marriage equality but youth. Girls (both of them!), actor has been contradictory about Cheyenne Jackson, OINB author whether he would work to reverse • Vows to upgrade the service Piper Kerman, tennis legend the U.S. Supreme Court’s 2015 records of LGBT veterans who Billie Jean King, fashion ruling. He said in 2015 that he were kicked out of the military opposed a constitutional amendbefore they were allowed to serve designer Michael Kors, playwright Tony Kushner, singer ment that would give authority openly. Ricky Martin, tennis legend on the issue to states, but he Martina Navratilova, Sex and said this year that he would ap• Wants “robust” investment in research for HIV/AIDS treatments the City star Cynthia Nixon, mar- point Supreme Court judges riage-equality plaintiff Jim committed to overturning and cures. Obergefell, The Big Bang Theory marriage equality. • Calls for greater access to the star Jim Parsons, Spock for a new generation Zachary Quinto, • Supports the First Amendment HIV-prevention regimen known soccer star Megan Rapinoe, Defense Act, which would protect as PrEP, especially for trans 12

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people and businesses who refuse to recognize the right of Americans to marry someone of the same sex. • His running mate is Indiana Gov. Mike Pence, who signed into law his state’s Religious Freedom Restoration Act, which originally sanctioned anti-LGBT discrimination under the guise of religious belief. • Hasn’t endorsed the federal Equality Act, which would bar discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity. • Backs North Carolina’s law that dictates which public restrooms must be used by transgender people.

who wants the government to look through your cell phone, the threat to our civil liberties needs to be stopped by a renewed appreciation for what it means to be free.” • Opposes “religious freedom” laws because he says they would “open up a can of worms when it comes to discrimination of all forms.” • Supported marriage equality. • Opposes hate-crimes laws, because he says they punish people’s thoughts. LGBT Supporters: former U.S. Rep. Jim Kolbe of Arizona, actress Raven-Symoné.

• Opened up the Miss Universe pageant to transgender women, but he refused to move the 2013 pageant out of Russia during a wave of anti-LGBT violence.

Jill Stein, Green

• Says his call to restrict Muslim immigration into the United States would protect LGBT people from harm.

• Supports anti-discrimination laws that protect people on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity.

LGBT Supporters: singer/songwriter Azealia Banks, Olympic gold-medalist/reality TV star Caitlyn Jenner, reality TV star Tila Tequila, PayPal co-founder Peter Thiel.

Richard Duncan, independent

• First voiced support for marriage equality in 2002.

(The independent candidate who’s on the Ohio ballot makes no mention of LGBT issues on his website but supports preserving Gary Johnson, “the morals in our country” and Libertarian claims membership in the Center for Law and Justice, which was “Whether it’s a Republican who founded by televangelist Pat wants the government to tell Robertson.) you who to love or a Democrat

First openly gay federal judge: Deborah Batts of New York (1994).

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on the record 2016 U.S. Senate Candidates on LGBT Issues as a society, we must be will- minors nationwide. ing to accept each other.” • Wants to repeal the 2010 • Supports the proposed Affordable Care Act, which federal Equality Act. boosted access to medical care for transgender and • Opposes attempts to dictate HIV-positive Americans. Ted Strickland, which public restrooms transDemocrat gender people must use. • Supports Donald Trump for president. “I think being a psychologist, • Opposes so-called “religious I really developed an freedom” laws that justify appreciation for the uniqueness of the individual. religion-based discrimination against LGBT people. I don’t think you can be a psychologist and carry around a judgmental attitude • Supports a proposed national ban on “conversion Tom Connors, about other people. You therapy.” independent value and you understand the person.” “Marriage and family are a way of life, a calling toward a • Supports the Equality Act to future generation. They are add gender identity and sexbased on an idea of right and ual orientation to federal antiwrong, a God concept. My discrimination laws. opponents’ redefinition is based on making personal • Opposes laws such as North desires the foundation of Rob Portman, Carolina’s restrictions on one’s actions.” public-restroom use by trans- Republican gender people. “I don’t believe that anyone • Opposes marriage equality should be subject to unjust and supports what he calls • Says business owners’ “Godly marriage.” religious beliefs should not be discrimination, and I don’t believe any Ohioan should be permitted as a reason to re• Believes sexual orientation fuse goods or services to LGBT fired simply because he or she is gay. In the workplace, is a choice. people. people should be judged by • Endorsed “traditional • Calls “conversion therapy” their experience, marriage” proponent Phil an unacceptable practice for qualifications, and job Burress of Cincinnati and his minors and supports the pas- performance, not by their sexual orientation.” anti-LGBT Citizens for Comsage of a nationwide ban. munity Values. • Came out in support of mar• Promises support only for U.S. Supreme Court nominees riage equality in 2013 but opposed the idea of courts who protect human rights, settling the issue. civil rights and LGBT rights. • Supported the Employment Non-Discrimination Act in 2014 but is not a sponsor of its current version, known as the Equality Act. Joe DeMare, Green “In order for us to function outlookohio.com

Scott Rupert, independent

• Hasn’t addressed LGBT is• Not listed as a cosponsor of sues on his website or in the Therapeutic Fraud Preven- media interviews. tion Act, which would ban “conversion therapy” for First openly gay person elected to a state legislature: Elaine Noble of Massachusetts (1974).

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and Tommy Greene Hopes to Represent His Neighbors in the Legislature by Bob Vitale Tommy Greene’s mom had tears in her eyes when she picked him up from school that day in 2001. His dad had 25 years in as an LTV steelworker and was just a few years away from retirement when lost his job. “That story is all too common for families in Northeast Ohio,” Greens says. It’s that childhood experience, though, that nudged Greene toward where he is now. After earning a degree from Ohio University and spending a few years on the staff of Equality Ohio in Columbus, the 28-year-old is back home in suburban Cleveland. He’s running for an open seat in the Ohio House of Representatives from the state’s 16th District, which includes his hometown of Bay Village, Rocky River, Westlake, Fairview Park and North Olmstead. In a campaign office shared by fellow Democrats, he’s thinking about what made him want to do all this. “It was a Save Our Steel rally,” he says. “I thought it was cool I got to get off school and go to work with my dad.” He saw then-U.S. Reps. Sherrod Brown and Dennis Kucinich speak that day and thought, “These people are going to bat for my dad.” “I always thought from that day, what a cool life it would be to be the person someone comes to and says, ‘Here is 14

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what is going on, here’s what I need help with, what can you do?’” The openly gay Democrat wants to increase funding for public schools, raise the minimum wage, hold the line on taxes for small businesses and protect women’s rights. His opponent is Republican Dave Greenspan, a two-term member of the Cuyahoga County Council who has been endorsed by the anti-gay Ohio Right to Life and Attorney General Mike DeWine. Greene vows to join Rep. Nickie Antonio, the openly gay lawmaker who represents nearby Lakewood, as a vocal advocate for LGBT civil rights. The 16th Ohio House District is among very few in the state that straddle the political divide. President Obama carried the district in 2008 when now-retiring Rep. Nan Baker won her first term. Republicans Mitt Romney and Baker carried the district in 2012, but Democrat Sherrod Brown won its U.S. Senate vote by a wide margin. Greene is supported by the Victory Fund, a national political action committee that supports LGBT candidates. The group calls his race “a key pickup opportunity” for Ohio Democrats.

Bob Vitale is the editor-in-chief of Outlook. Email him at bvitale@outlookmedia.com to suggest stories about anything of interest to LGBT Ohioans.

First openly gay member of the Ohio General Assembly: Nickie Antonio of Lakewood (2010).

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The Long Run From San Francisco to Scioto County, Kevin Johnson Has Made a Difference

by Bob Vitale The first newspaper endorsement for an openly gay San Francisco Board of Supervisors candidate didn’t go to the guy you’re thinking of. That LGBT first was chalked up by the guy sitting on a coffee-house patio in Southern Ohio, sipping a glass of peach iced tea and asking what I think about his rainbow-striped socks. And come Nov. 8, Kevin Wadsworth Johnson might make history again. The 68-year-old former Marine, former Republican and former antique-store owner could become just the third openly gay candidate elected as a county commissioner in Ohio. He’s running in Scioto County, 95 miles due south of Columbus along the Ohio River. Johnson has been a member of the Portsmouth City Council since 2009. He’s challenging a two-term Republican commissioner this fall. A native of Fairmont, W.Va., he moved to Portsmouth with his late husband, Paul, after the latter lost his job in late 2001. Paul Johnson was a Portsmouth native; the two traded in financial-industry careers in San Francisco for an antique shop in the city of 20,000. Around downtown Portsmouth, bright wildflowers add a pop of color to an al-

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ready charming small-town streetscape. A project of the Paul Johnson Main Street Fund, they’re Johnson’s tribute to his late husband, who died in 2009. “Paul got bone cancer. We knew it wouldn’t be long,” Johnson recalls. “He wanted me to go back to California or Florida. But I wanted to stay here.” In San Francisco, Kevin and Paul Johnson (Kevin took his husband’s last name) were part of Concerned Republicans for Individual Rights, a gay civil rights group that evolved into the Log Cabin Republicans. Kevin, then with the last name of Wadsworth, was a GOP committeeman when Mayor George Moscone and Supervisor Harvey Milk were assassinated in 1978. He ran against Harry Britt, the openly gay Democrat appointed as Milk’s successor and came within two percentage points of victory. Now, Johnson is running again. He switched parties long ago and neither avoids nor emphasizes his orientation. We live in an era where rainbow socks are no loner a political liability. “I’ll be honest. People don’t look at me as the gay candidate,” Johnson says. “They look at me as the candidate who makes a difference.” Bob Vitale has written about politics since 1991.

First openly gay county commissioner in Ohio: Tim Brown of Wood County (2007).

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Lives at Stake

by Brynn Tannehill A lot of progressive transgender people were upset when Bernie Sanders lost the Democratic nomination to Hillary Clinton. They were even more upset when Russians hacked the Democratic National Committee and leaked e-mails showed party leaders favored Clinton in the primaries.

cide within the next few years whether transgender people are a protected class under the definition of sex.

ing women and children in bathrooms?

for transgender people.

The parade of horribles they could inflict is as varied as their imaginations. Denying If the court decides that anti- Prohibit people from changing government ID, health care, transgender discrimination is their gender markers on any- disputing marriages, denying a form of sex discrimination, thing because those are “his- legal recognition, treating every U.S. law that protects torical records”? Ohio has people as their birth gender in against sex discrimination will been doing it for decades the federal workplace, repealprotect transgender people while transgender people have ing open military service, from discrimination as well. no federal protections. making schools segregate Anti-transgender laws protransgender students: The list Many have jumped on the posed across the country Relief from such devastating is endless. #NeverHillary bandwagon, fig- instantly would be recogniza- laws and policies probably uring there’s no real difference ble as unconstitutional. would not come for at least 20 So this is the choice, all my to the transgender community years. Because of gerryman- transgender Bernie-or-bust whether Clinton or Donald If the court decides against dering and the Census sched- friends: Elect Clinton or spend Trump is elected. transgender people, then it ule, the Equality Act doesn’t the rest of your natural lives becomes open season on the have a prayer until at least as second-class citizens They couldn’t possibly be more community. To be constitu2031, which means there’s no fighting a futile battle against wrong. tional, laws and policies hope of a law protecting a U.S. Supreme Court decision would need only a “legititransgender people being that lets the religious right The difference between Clin- mate” government interest. passed at the federal level for legislate you out of existence. ton and Trump is whether we a generation. And it takes a gain full protection under the The Supreme Court has never long time to overturn case law. Electing Clinton, whether you law or spend the rest of our defined what “legitimate” like her or not, will have a dranatural lives as second-class means, so in practical terms, So what does this have to do matic effect on every transcitizens being slowly legislaws targeting the transgen- with the election? gender person in America. lated out of existence. der community would need Electing Trump is likely to be nothing more than a flimsy Everything. the end of us as a class in Dozens of states are suing the excuse. many states, if not all. federal government over its Nate Silver at position that transgender stu- Revoke the clearances of all fivethirtyeight.com published The moral-balance calculation dents are protected under Title transgender federal employ- an analysis of what happens between voting for someone IX. Lawsuits by transgender ees and contractors, then fire to the Supreme Court depend- you don’t like personally and people are working their way them? Sure, because Chelsea ing on the election. If Clinton doing something that endanto the U.S. Supreme Court. Manning. wins, the court tilts sharply gers everyone in your commuleft immediately, and the nity isn’t even close. At the heart of the matter is Fire transgender employees? transgender community alwhether segregating transSure, because you don’t have most certainly wins the day. If So. gender students and firing a gender-neutral bathroom. Trump wins, the court will veer transgender adults are forms Deny transgender students an hard right, and we lose. Your move. of sex discrimination. Older education? Sure, because court cases have decided there’s no budget for a single- Trump’s cabinet likely would Brynn Tannehill is against transgender people, stall bathroom. be dominated by the religious a former naval aviwhile recent cases have been right, which would be free to ator who can be found on Twitter more favorable. Force transgender people to undo all the policy gains @BrynnTannehill. wear special wristbands so under the Obama administra- She writes TransiLegal scholars say the they can be identified easily tion. Trump’s administration tion Point Analysis Supreme Court likely will de- and prevented from endanger- then would make things worse every month for 16

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by Brooke Cartus The stress of Halloween is palpable. It pulses through my veins as we head into late October. Why? Maybe because my mother rejected the cult of domesticity and therefore did not know how to sew, making our costume choices “witch” or “cat” in my youth. Maybe because as a chubby awkward ’tween when all of my friends were dressing as sexy angels, sexy cats or sexy anything, I dressed up as Wednesday Addams to hide my chunky thighs and hairy forearms. Maybe because my birthday precedes Halloween by a few days, and I grew damn sick of painting ceramic pumpkins at parties. Even the goodie bags were Halloween-themed, down to the ghost mini-erasers I bitterly tossed in every bag before my friends arrived. But why now? I’m a grown-ass woman. My thighs look great, and I manage my forearm situation. I am in control of when I celebrate my birthday and what theme I want it to be. But even now I feel like I can’t keep Halloween from creeping into my holiday-agnostic birthday festivities. Still fighting against the stereotype of a Halloween-ish party, I think I discovered why in a story from Halloween past. My morality as a child was puritanical. I created a swear jar, and I forced babysitters to drop in quarters even when they outlookohio.com

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tried to utter swears under their breath. Because all I could understand as a kid about death was that smoking = death, my hatred for cigarettes edged on obsessive. I would go up to perfect strangers and ask them to stop killing me with their second-hand smoke.

Hula Hoop on my shoulder. I was now, officially, a ghost.

Needless to say, I was an asshole. And at age 10, I decided to go as a No Smoking sign for Halloween.

After another defeated block, I turned around, looked straight at my mom, and asked, “Why aren’t we getting any candy?!” She stared at me, horrified.

My mom hired a seamstress to sew a white sheet into a white column, with a rough slit for me to see out of. We ran out of time to dye the top half with tea to make me filtered, but I still thought it would work.

I thought for sure this would bring in more candy, but alas, as door after door was closed in our faces, it was now both of us who weren’t getting much candy.

Her youngest daughter stood before her in a white sheet with a cone-like top and nothing but a small slash for her eyes. My mom had unknowingly dressed me like a member of the KKK. And worse? She paired me with a nun.

My dad fashioned a foil-and-wire hat with flames. I was ablaze! The hat weighed about 50 pounds, but I looked perfect. To top it off, my dad spraypainted a Hula Hoop red and taped a red piece of cardboard across the center.

After years of therapy and countless latenight bags of Nestlé miniatures, I have recovered from this experience and am working on loving Halloween again.

NO SMOKING, indeed!

I remind myself that no one can dress me up as a xenophobic racist psychopath ever again.

I shuffled along with my older sister, who was dressed as a nun. Then I noticed that Luckily, I’m going as Donald Trump this my pillowcase was significantly lighter year. than hers. Shit, wait... Smokers were short-changing me! I couldn’t stand for this. Even something as sacred as my vow to go as a No Smoking sign couldn’t stand between me and a pile of wax lips and mini-Nestlés. I handed my mom the hat and hung the

But as a grown-ass woman with great-looking thighs, will she go as a sexy Donald Trump? Read more by Brooke Cartus on her blog, Size L for Lady, at brookecartus.com. She writes Dyke Like Me every month for Outlook.

LGBT people have held public office in 45 states, the District of Columbia, Guam and Puerto Rico.

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LGBT Films Hit the Screen in Dayton

They cover issues of race, bullying and codependency. They’re about gay, lesbian, bi, transgender and questioning characters. Here is the complete schedule:

The Dayton LGBT Film Festival isn’t just for Daytonians anymore. FRIDAY, OCTOBER 7 RETAKE

In its 11th year, the annual showcase for LGBT stories has become a destination event for an everwider audience. Organizers looked at more than 120 films this year to come up with the six features and 12 shorts that will Retake: Jonathan, a lonely be screened from Friday, Oct. 7 to middle-aged man, travels to San Francisco to find a male comSunday, Oct. 9. panion. He quickly connects with “I’ve stayed in touch with several a prostitute whom he hires to acof the guest artists who have at- company him on a road trip to tended the festival in the past,” the Grand Canyon. On the road, the prostitute comes to realize said Jonathan McNeal, who he’s playing a vital role in the manages The Neon theater and runs the festival. “Several guests recreation of Jonathan’s lovelorn past. 7:30p. (102 minutes) include Dayton’s festival as one

begins at 12:30p, features seven short films: These C*cksucking Tears: The man behind the world’s first gay-themed country music album experiences a resurgence 40 years later. (15 minutes)

network of a chosen family counterpoints the honest confessions of a mother struggling to understand the changes her son is experiencing. 3p. (72 minutes)

Veracity: Written by a senior from Chicago’s South Side, Veracity explores the tensions and stigma of being young, gay and black, as well as the Filip: 7-year-old Filip admires his 16-year-old brother, but one ultimate power of friendship. evening he sees something unex- (20 minutes) pected. (11 minutes) FIRST GIRL I LOVED

Tear Jerker: Elliot can’t cry, and he needs to. (15 minutes)

OH BE JOYFUL

In Dayton, stories cover the categories of comedy, drama and documentary. They’re about comTop Drawer Shorts, which ing out and first loves and loss. outlookohio.com

Real Boy: A teenage singersongwriter from Pasadena weathers his family’s reaction to his transition. The supportive

co-wrote the screenplay, and both star in the film. 5:30p. (89 minutes)

Johnny: A prostitute’s rough encounter with a client brings up a troubling memory he had long forgotten. (20 minutes)

While McNeal recommends all the festival’s films - he helped choose them, afterall - he calls Real Boy “an incredible documentary.” Being 17, he said, is the festival’s “prestige title,” although he expects King Cobra to be a hot ticket because of Franco and other big stars.

BEING 17

Spoilers: Leon meets someone on a plane, but what if he already First Girl I Loved: On asknows the ending? (22 minutes) signment for her high-school yearbook, social-misfit Anne charmingly hits it off with the Alzheimers: A Love beautiful star of the softball Story: A beautiful relationship, 40-plus years in the team, Sasha. But her best friend making, struggles with a terrible reveals a hidden jealousy that disease. (15 minutes) threatens more than just the of their favorites. It’s a small budding romance. Winner of the Sign: The story of a relationship festival, but that means we’re between a deaf man and a Best of NEXT Audience Award at Bittersweet: A schoolboy able to make certain that all the hearing man unfolds through scrambles to retrieve a candythe 2016 Sundance Film Festival. material is great, and we treat vignettes with sign language and gram he accidentally sent to his 7:30p. (91 minutes) our guests very well.” music. (15 minutes) secret crush. (5 minutes) Girl Night Stand: A young There’s quite a bit of competition. After the films, there’s an woman questions her sexuality Oh-Be-Joyful: A feisty grandma schools her shy grand- after having a one night stand QueerFilmFestivals.com lists 45 opening-night party at Dublin daughter in the ways of shoplift- with another woman. LGBT film festivals for October, in Pub, 300 Wayne Ave., Dayton, 45410. Your ticket to the opening and picking up ladies. (13 (10 minutes) places from Lewisburg, W.Va., ing-night films gets you in. minutes) and Eau Claire, Wis., to KING COBRA Barcelona and Berlin. REAL BOY SATURDAY, OCTOBER 8 LGBT film festivals are scheduled for November in Cincinnati and Columbus.

headlines drama covers the early rise of gay porn star Sean Paul Lockhart (a.k.a. Brent Corrigan), before his falling out with the producer who made him famous. When Sean decides he’d be better off as a free agent, a cash-strapped pair of rival producers aims to cash in by any means possible. 9:45p. (99 minutes)

King Cobra: Starring James Franco, Christian Slater, Molly Ringwald, Alicia Silverstone and Disney Channel alum Garrett Clayton, this ripped-from-the-

SUNDAY, OCTOBER 9 } BEING 17

Being 17: When his mother takes in a bully whose own mother is ill, the son of a soldier must learn to live with the boy who terrorized him. From acclaimed director Andre Techine (Wild Reeds) comes the International Grand Jury Prize winner of this year’s Outfest. 3p. (110 minutes) I LOVE YOU BOTH

I Love You Both: Krystal and her twin brother/roommate confront 28 years of codependency when they start dating the same guy in this hysterically dry comedy. Brother and sister Doug Archibald and Kristin Archibald

Iceland Prime Minister Johanna Sigurdardottir (2009-13) was the world’s first openly gay head of state.

The Orchid: A man has something important to tell his son, but he can only get through to his voicemail. (3 minutes) An encore screening of Retake is scheduled for 7:45p.

The First Girl I Loved, meanwhile, features an actress who will be familiar to fans of Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt. Dylan Gelula, who plays Xanthippe in the Netflix comedy series, stars as Anne in the film. For that growing cadre of out-oftowners who attend the Dayton LGBT Film Festival, the Crowne Plaza (33 E. 5th St., Dayton, 45402; 937.224.0800) is offering a limited number of discounted rooms. Use the code FLM if you book online at cpdayton.com. The hotel is a block from The Neon (130 E. 5th St., Dayton, 45402), where all of the movies will be shown. Tickets are $8 per film (Top Drawer Shorts counts as one) or $40 for a festival pass. Visit daytonlgbt.com to buy in advance or view trailers. october 2016

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Presidents photo: Steve Wagner

Cleveland Theater Gets a Head Start on American History by Christine Howey

It’s about time we see a woman as president of the United States. And whether or not that happens for real in November, we can see a version of it starting Thursday, Oct. 6, at Cleveland Public Theatre. That’s when the company opens 44 Plays for 44 Presidents, a play originally developed and performed by Chicago’s acclaimed Neo-Futurists group. The play is a survey of the lives of all 44 presidents we’ve had so far, and in this production they’re all played by women. This casting idea is courtesy of co-directors Dan Kilbane and Caitlin Lewins. As Lewins says, “Gender is inherent in this play as we’re casting it, since it raises interesting issues - some of which we’re addressing as the rehearsals continue. For instance, how should we costume the women? Should they wear skirts? Is that too sexy? Or not?” 20

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In addition to playing the presidents, the seven women in the cast share more than 150 different roles in this sometimes absurd, sometimes poignant history of the people who have occupied the Oval Office. The episodic, ensemble-generated script was written by a team of Neo-Futurist writers, including Andy Bayiates, Sean Benjamin, Genevra Gallo-Bayiates, Chloe Johnston and Karen Weinberg. The Neo-Futurist group became more widely known when its signature show, Too Much Light Makes the Baby Go Blind, opened 28 years ago. It’s still running in Chicago today, as they attempt to perform 30 plays, written fresh each week, in 60 minutes with each based on total honesty. It appears that 44 Presidents isn’t quite that kind of high-wire act, since the script isn’t continually changing. But it does employ different theatrical styles from ballet to vaudeville, along with many changes of tone. “It’s kind of like the most awesome history lesson you ever had, and a lot of it is lighthearted and joyous,” Kilbane said. But it also covers some of the nastier

Prime Minister Elio Di Rupio of Belgium (2011-14) was the world’s second openly gay head of state.

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moments presidents have faced - or caused - including slavery, the slaughter of Native Americans and the atomic bomb. “There are some awful truths in our history,” Lewins said, “and this play doesn’t shy away from that.” Although the female actors don’t attempt impressions of the presidents, the play does try to convey the character of each. “Every president seems to have a weird story, and some of them were really terrible at their job,” Lewins said.

On Stage

44 Plays for 44 Presidents

Runs from Thursday, Oct. 6, through Saturday, Oct. 29, at Cleveland Public Theatre, 6415 Detroit Ave., Cleveland, 44102.

Tickets are $12-$17 for Monday-Thursday shows and $30-$35 on weekends. Call 216.631.2727 or visit cptonline for more info or to buy tickets.

“Franklin and Eleanor Roosevelt were distant cousins. The audience will definitely learn some things about these leaders,” Kilbane added. To keep things clear along the way, the script calls for a special coat to be shared by all the women when they are playing a president. Sometimes the coat is wrestled away from one person, and sometimes it’s trounced on the ground.

“It is a great theatrical device,” Kilbane said. The Cleveland Public Theatre cast includes Molly Andrews-Hinders, Melissa Crumb, Sally Groth, Chennelle Bryant-Harris, Tanera Hutz, Colleen McCaughey and Carrie Williams. Perhaps the most potentially interesting idea the play presents is the issue of women and power. As Lewins sarcstically points out, “Many people don’t think a woman should be president because she’ll get her period and drop an atomic bomb. Well, that’s something we should discuss.” Based on the play’s Neo-Futurist lineage, 44 Plays for 44 Presidents promises to be a high-energy, interactive experience - with an extra dose of estrogen. Maybe that’s just what our country needs. Christine Howey is a journalist, theater critic, playwright, performance poet and actor from Cleveland Heights. Her one-person show, Exact Change, called “electrifying” by The Daily Beast, is being made into an independent film this fall. outlookohio.com

Prime Minister Xavier Bettel of Luxembourg is currently the world’s only openly gay head of state.

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After her transition, the professional music scene was not much easier to deal with. Some U.S. concert promoters actually paid her not to play. Concert bookings dwindled in the States.

For many years, as his career as a classical pianist soared, David Buechner could never reveal a truth about himself that was critical to his identity. But in 1998, those pronouns changed to her and herself when David came out as Sara at the age of 40.

This convinced Buechner to move to Vancouver, British Columbia, where attitudes were more liberal. And she found herself in much demand for concert appearances in Canada, throughout Asia and around the world.

Buechner, who will perform with the Canton Symphony Orchestra on Saturday, Oct. 1, has been receiving more invitations recently to play in the United States.

“In Asia, there were no questions about who you are. It was all about the music.”

But that hasn’t always been the case since her transition. Born in Baltimore, Md., the massively talented Buechner attended the Julliard School and eventually earned a doctorate from the Manhattan School of Music Of course, her early years were difficult, and Buechner found a refuge and a salvation in music.

Recently, she moved back to the States and is living in Philadelphia, where she’s a professor at Temple University. photo: Yukiko Onley

And as for her status as a transgender pianist, Buechner said she accepts it.

the need to assert her womanhood.

“Around 1997 I started living as Sara on the weekends and as David during the week, and I was seeing a therapist. I re“As a child I always loved the music. It ally felt the need to put me in a different world, a world full of tell people: This is emotions and spirit. But in my late 20s, my name and this that magic started to vanish.” is who I am.”

Of course, there were obstacles.

“I feel it’s my place now to talk about my Her parents couldn’t deal with her transi- life and share my experiences. I know that tion, and although her mother has “grown people are interested in my journey, so I enormously” over the last few years in her have no problem talking about it.”

“That first concert, playing the music I loved as the person I really was - it was both exhilarating and frightening.”

It was then that she began thinking about And when she ficlaiming her true identity. nally sat down to play her first conWhile that thought percolated in the cert as Sara, it was background, Buechner focused on playing memorable. the piano and racking up wins in prestigious piano competitions. She was a “That first concert, professor of piano at the Manhattan playing the music I School of Music and at New York Univerloved as the person sity while playing with many of the great I really was - it was orchestras at home and abroad. both exhilarating and frightening. ... Although it was challenging, those were But as the years went by, Buechner felt some of my happiest times.”

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understanding, Buechner’s father still has never quite processed the change. “He gets my name and pronouns right maybe seven out of 10 times,” she said.

An exception was her paternal grandmother, who, shortly after the transition, sent a letter that began, “Dear Sara,” and offered unqualified support.

Thinking back, Buechner remembers attending a Baltimore Symphony Orchestra concert as a child. “It was my ‘It Gets Better’ moment,” she said. “The moment when I knew that music could see me through.” “And it has. It definitely has.”

Christine Howey has written for Outlook and has been featured in the magazine. Visit outlookohio.com to read Luke Darby’s June 2015 piece about her one-person autobiographical play.

Canadian provincial Premiers Kathleen Wynne (Ontario) and Wade MacLauchlan (PEI) are openly gay.

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SUNDAY, OCTOBER 2 Little Shop of Horrors @ Shadowbox Live, 503 S. Front St., Columbus, 43215; 614.416.7625; shadowboxlive.org: We like Audrey I a whole lot better than Audrey II. Presented by Shadowbox Live. 2p and 7p; $20-$25. There are 10 more performances scheduled through Sunday, Nov. 13. Kaleidoscope Youth Center Garden Party @ 6610 Worthington Galena Rd., Worthington, 43085; 614.294.5437; kycohio.org: Annual fundraiser for the LGBTQ youth center. 3p-6p; $75. Five Truths About the Bible (And What They Tell Us About LGBT People) @ King Avenue United Methodist Church, 299 King Ave., Columbus, 43201; 614.424.6050; kingave.org: Part of the welcoming church’s Changing the Conversation speaker series, this event will feature John Shore, co-founder of the Not All Like That (NALT) Christians Project, founder of Unfundamentalist Christians and author of Unfair: Christians and the LGBT Question. 7p. Shore also will speak at the Ohio Union Cartoon Room at OSU at 4:30p. THURSDAY, OCTOBER 6 Ohio University Pride SocietyÊs Thirsty Thursday @ Standard Hall, 1100 N. High St., Columbus, 43201; FB: The Ohio University PRIDE Society: It’s a monthly get-together for LGBTQ Bobcats in Central Ohio. 5:30p-7:30p. Comedian Jeffrey Jay @ Capital University’s Huntington Recital Hall, 2199 E. Main St., Bexley, 43209; jeffreyjaycomedy.com: The transgender comic said in a recent interview: “I learned how to tell trans jokes to people who have never heard of a trans person before, and by the end of the set they are all laughing with me.” 7p. MadLab Theatre: Until He WasnÊt @ MadLab, 227 N. 3rd St., Columbus, 43215; 614.221.5418; madlab.net: A drama about infatuation, violence, power and betrayal that tie four people to one mysterious man. Presented by MadLab Theatre. 8p; $15 ($10 for members, $13 for students). There are six more performances scheduled through Saturday, Oct. 22.

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Film Retrospective: Kelly Reichardt @ Wexner Center for the Arts Film/Video Theater, 1871 N. High St., Columbus, 43210; 614.292.3535; wexarts.org: A monthlong retrospective of the director’s work starts with Meek’s Cutoff, a film about women who traversed the Oregon Trail. 7p; $8 ($6 for members, students and seniors). Visit wexarts.org/series/ retrospective-kellyreichardt for the full schedule. FRIDAY, OCTOBER 7 Making an Impact Variety Show @ Axis, 775 N. High St., Columbus, 43215; 614.340.6777; FB: Making an Impact: Local acts commemorate National Gay Men’s HIV/AIDS Awareness Day. All proceeds are promised to Equitas Health’s HIV-prevention programs and Columbus Client Holiday Dinner. 7p10p; $8 ($50 for a table of four). MONDAY, OCTOBER 10 Fashion Week Columbus: Cher Gowns @ Copious, 520 S. High St., Columbus, 43215; 614.285.5264; fashionweekcolumbus.org: This Fashion Week event, cohosted by the Human Rights Campaign, includes cocktails and hors d’oeuvres and Cher music. Entry is free. See Page 7 for a full rundown of Fashion Week Columbus events. 6p. TUESDAY, OCTOBER 11 National Coming Out Day: Our Stories @ OSU’s Ohio Union US Bank Conference Theater, 1739 N. High St., Columbus, 43210; 614.688.8449; mcc.osu.edu: Ohio State administrators, students, faculty, staff and alumni will have their chance to take the mic and share their stories about coming out of the closet, coming out as an ally, coming out as a queer parent, etc. 7p-9:30p.

named Gatsby. Presented by Shadowbox Live. 7:30p; $20-$25. There are seven more performances scheduled through Thursday, Nov. 10. Network Columbus @ Ohio Theatre, 39 E. State St., Columbus, 43215; 614.268.8525, x1; FB: Network Columbus: The best networking event in town! Join us for a night of LGBT and ally business networking, socializing and all-around fun at the Ohio Theatre. The Columbus Symphony Orchestra gives us an overview of its upcoming season, LGBT initiatives and special Pride events. Backstage tours available. Free food, cash bar. 6p-8p free and open to the public. THURSDAY, OCTOBER 13 Make Me a Song: The Music of William Finn @ Van Fleet Theater, 549 Franklin Ave., Columbus, 43215; 614.233.1124; evolutiontheatre.org: Finn is an openly gay composer, lyricist and two-time Tony winner. The musical revue includes songs from his Falsettos, A New Brain, The Royal Family of Broadway, Elegies: A Song Cycle and more. Presented by Evolution Theatre. 8p; $15-$25. There are seven more performances scheduled through Saturday, Oct. 22. FRIDAY, OCTOBER 14 Nina WestÊs Heels of Horror: Nine Lives @ Axis, 775 N. High St., Columbus, 43215; 614.291.4008; axisonhigh.com: Nina’s cast of guys and ghouls includes Virginia West, Krystal Something Something, Jamz Dean, Gretta Goodbottom, Roxy Nikole, Chuck Sparrow, Trulie Scrumptious, Bianna Reyonce, V. Master Chad, the Candy Drops and more. 7p; $12-$15 (tables for $80$100). There are nine more performances scheduled through Sunday, Oct. 30.

SATURDAY, OCTOBER 15 Bianca Del Rio: Not Today Satan Tour @ Davidson Theatre (formerly Capitol Theatre), 77 S. WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 12 High St., ColumBroken Whispers @ Shadowbox bus, 43215; 614.469.0939; capa.com: Live, 503 S. Front St., Columbus, She’s on the road again after last 43215; 614.416.7625; shadowboxlive.org: Based loosely on F. year’s Rolodex of Hate tour. (She’ll be in Royal Oak, Mich., on Oct. 12, in Scott Fitzgerald’s The Great Gatsby, this dance theater production is about Cleveland on Oct. 14, and in Munhall, Penn., on Oct. 16.) 8p; $37.50. the love, lies and loss that bind together seven people in a bygone era Film Screening: Major! of excess and extravagance all centered around a mysterious woman @ Northwood High Building, 2231

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N. High St., Columbus, 43201; FB: GLSEN Columbus: Major! is a new documentary about the life and work of Miss Major Griffin-Gacy, a veteran of the Stonewall uprising and champion for trans women of color. The screening is limited to 40 people, so you must register for a free ticket online. SUNDAY, OCTOBER 16 LGBTQ Hiking Club @ A.W. Marion State Park, 7317 Warner-Huffer Rd., Circleville, 43113; 614.930.2265; FB: LGBT Hiking Club Stonewall Columbus: It’s a five-mile hike on a dog-friendly trail, so bring your four-legged friends. Hikers will have a cookout afterward; bring a side dish or dessert to share. 10:30a. (The park is 25 miles south of Columbus off Rt. 23; meet at the shelter house closest to the A.W. Marion Memorial). Tig Notaro @ Davidson Theatre (formerly Capitol Theatre), 77 S. High St., Columbus, 43215; 614.469.0939; capa.com: The lesbian comic’s documentary film, Tig, is currently on Netflix, and her comedy series, One Mississippi, debuted on Amazon Prime in September. 8p; $36.50. Miss Coco Peru: A Gentle Reminder: CocoÊs Guide to a Somewhat Happy Life @ Van Fleet Theater, 549 Franklin Ave., Columbus, 43215; 614.233.1124; evolutiontheatre.org: If you followed her advice from the 1999 movie, Trick, you are infinitely better off in life. Now she’s branching out from ocular health and sharing her tips for living well. 7:30p; $30 ($50 VIP includes a post-show meet-andgreet at AWOL). WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 19 TrailblazersÊ Cincinnati Excursion @ Stonewall Columbus, 1160 N. High St., Columbus, 43201; 614.562.2067; stonewallcolumbus.org: After meeting for breakfast at the Center on High, the group for LGBTQ people 50+ will head to Cincinnati for a fall-foliage lunch cruise along the Ohio River, a visit to the Newport Aquarium and dinner at Eighteen, a revolving restaurant. 7:45a-9:30p; $75 ($70 for Stonewall members). THURSDAY, OCTOBER 20 Transforming Care Conference @ Ohio State University’s Fawcett Center, 2400 Olentangy River Rd., Columbus, 43210; 614.929.8894; transformingcareconoutlookohio.com

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Out & TUESDAY, OCTOBER 25 About in The History of LGBTQ/Two Spirit Native Americans @ OSU’s Student Life Multicultural Center Alonso Family Room, Ohio Union, Suite Gay Marriage Plays • LGBT Film Festival • Coming Out Ball 1000, 1739 N. High St., Columbus, 43210; 614.688.8449; mcc.osu.edu: 45402; 937.228.3630; SATURDAY, OCTOBER 1 The Native American and Indigenous humanracetheatre.org: It’s a tale 35mm: A Musical Peoples Cohort offers this presentation as old as time. Barber meets Exhibition @ Schuster Cenfor LGBTQ History Month. 7:30p. ter/Mathile Theatre, 1 W. 2nd St., meat-pie shop owner. Barber kills people. People become meat pies. Dayton, 45402; 937.228.3630; THURSDAY, OCTOBER 27 d2defy.com: Husbands Ryan Scott Presented by Human Race Film Retrospective: The Rocky Horror Show Theatre. 8p; $12-$50. There Oliver and Matthew Murphy cre@ Northland Performing Arts Center, Kelly Reichardt @ Wexner ated this groundbreaking multiis another performance on Center for the Arts Film/Video Theater, 4411 Tamarack Blvd., Columbus, Sunday, Oct. 2, at 2p. media musical, in which 1871 N. High St., Columbus, 43210; 43228; 614.398.1110; photographs inspire unique 614.292.3535; wexarts.org: A month- imaginecolumbus.org: It’s being songs. Presented by Dare 2 Defy WEDNESDAY, long retrospective of the director’s work staged live on Fox on Oct. 20 (Laverne Productions. 2p and 8p; $24.50 OCTOBER 5 continues with a screening of Certain Cox is Dr. Frank-N-Furter), and it’s ($21.50 for seniors and $19.50 Standing on Ceremony: Women, which tells the stories of three being staged live in Columbus the next for students). There are more The Gay Montana women. Reichardt will be in week. Presented by Imagine Producperformances scheduled Marriage Columbus for this showing. 7p; $8 ($6 tions. 8p; $23. More performances are for 8p on Friday, Oct. 7, Plays @ Sinfor members, students and seniors). scheduled for Friday, Oct. 28, and Satclair Commuand at 2p and 8p on Visit wexarts.org/series/retrospective- urday, Oct. 29. nity College Saturday, Oct. 8. kelly-reichardt for the full schedule. Black Box SATURDAY, OCTOBER 29 Theatre, 444 W. PFLAG FRIDAY, OCTOBER 21 Capital Pride Band: Things 3rd St., Dayton, Fundraiser: When High Ball Halloween That Go Bump in the Night 45402; the Stars Come Out @ Short North Arts District, Columbus, @ Lincoln Theatre, 769 E. Long St., 937.512.2808; @ Dayton Woman’s Club, 225 N. 43215; 614.299.8050; Columbus, 43203; Ludlow St., Dayton, 45402; sinclair.edu: Sinclair Theatre highballcolumbus.org: 614.325.1590; 937.205.2615; pflagdayton.org: A presents three free showings of Night One of Columbus’ cappride.org: Among pre-marriage-equality plays by night of dancing and entertainannual outdoor celethe spooky classics Paul Rudnick, Mo Gaffney and ment from Dayton’s Got Talent bration is a tribute to be performed: others. Entry is on a first-come, performers and the Rubi Girls. concert to fashion Mussorgsky’s first-served basis. 12:30p. There 7p; $25-$40. and music that will “Night on Bald are more performances scheduled honor David Bowie. Mountain.” 8p; $25 at 12:30p and 6p on Thursday, Sweeney Todd @ Loft Headliner Robert DeLong, ($20 in advance). Theatre, 126 N. Main St., Dayton, Oct. 6. local favorites the Fabulous Johnson Brothers and Damn the Witch Siren will perform. Times TBA; $5 through Oct. 15. Visit the website for special offers, pre-sale drink tickets, etc.

ference.com: More than 450 activists, academics, community members, health and social service professionals, and others are expected for this two-day conference aimed at reducing health disparities in the LGBTQ and HIV/AIDS community. See Page 7 for information on topics to be addressed. 7:30a-6p; $45 for general public. The conference concludes on Friday, Oct. 21, from 7:30a-8p.

Trailblazers BalletMet Night and Day Outing @ Ohio Theatre, 39 E. State St., Columbus, 43215; 614.299.7764; stonewallcolumbus.org: The group for LGBTQ people ages 50+ will see the BalletMet production of short ballets centered around nature themes. 10a; $20. (The group will meet at Stonewall Columbus and head to the theater together.)

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FRIDAY, OCTOBER 7 GemFest @ Old Yellow Cab Building, 700 E. 4th St., Dayton, 45402; FB: GemFest 2016: Concert and art show to benefit GLSEN Greater Dayton and Big Brothers Big Sisters Of The Greater Miami Valley. 6p-1a; $5. Dayton LGBT Film Festival @ The Neon, 130 E. 5th St., Dayton, 45402; 937.222.8452; daytonlgbt .com: Six feature films and 12 shorts will be screened at the threeday festival. Tonight’s feature, Retake, starts at 7p, and the opening-night party starts at 9:30p at Dublin Pub, 300 Wayne Ave. We have a complete list of films with times on Page 19. $8 per film, or $40 for a pass. SATURDAY, OCTOBER 15 RED Dayton Table Design Gala @ Dayton Masonic Center, 525 W. Riverview Ave., Dayton, 45405; 937.510.9267; reddayton.com: Local artists and designers create the tablescapes for this fundraising dinner for Equitas Health. This year’s theme is Icons and Idols. 6:30p-11:30p; $500 ($30 for the preview party). TUESDAY, OCTOBER 18 Jersey Boys @ 1 W. 2nd St., Dayton, 45402; 937.228.3630; victoriatheatre.com: The musical tale of Frankie Valli. 8p; $30-$87. There are seven more perform-

ances scheduled through Sunday, Oct. 23. THURSDAY, OCTOBER 20 Dracula: Bloodlines @ Victoria Theatre, 138 N. Main St., Dayton, 45402; 937.228.3630; daytonperformingarts.org/ballet: The Dayton Ballet, Dayton Philharmonic and performers from the Dayton Opera are collaborating on this new story ballet of the classic tale. 7:30p; $14-$72. There are three more performances scheduled through Sunday, Oct. 23. SATURDAY, OCTOBER 22 Coming Out Ball @ Dayton Racquet Club, Kettering Tower, 40 N. Main St., Dayton, 45423; daytonlgbt center. org: Whether you came out in the last week or the last century, celebrate National Coming Out Day. The ball is a new event hosted by the Greater Dayton LGBT Center. 7p; $20 ($15 for center members). SATURDAY, OCTOBER 29 Hauntfest on 5th @ 5th and Brown streets, Oregon District, Dayton, 45402; 937.224.1518; downtowndayton.org: The annual Halloween celebration includes a costume contest. 7p; $5-$10. Drag Me to Hell 3 @ Club Masque, 34 N. Jefferson St., Dayton, 45402; 937.228.2582; FB: Masque: Masque’s annual Halloween Party.

SATURDAY, OCTOBER 22 High Ball Halloween @ Short North Arts District, Columbus, 43215; 614.299.8050; highballcolumbus.org: Night Two includes the Costume Couture Fashion Show, a costume contest, performances by Nina West and more. Times TBA; $5 through Oct. 15. Visit the website for special offers, pre-sale drink tickets, etc. Dragspectacular! @ Ohio University’s Baker University Center Theater, Athens, 45701; 740.593.0239; ohio.edu/lgbt/academics.cfm: Miss Onyx Ohio performs. 7p. outlookohio.com

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SATURDAY, OCTOBER 1 Rodgers & HammersteinÊs The Sound of Music @

Aronoff Center/Procter & Gamble Hall, 650 Walnut St., Cincinnati, 45202; 513.621.2787; cincinnatiarts.org: A new production of the old favorite. 2p and 8p; $35-$106. More shows are scheduled for Oct. 2 and Oct. 4-9.

859.572.5835; FB: Michael Sam LGBTQ History Month Keynote at NKU: Sam made history as the first openly gay player ever to be selected in the NFL Draft. Call to reserve a ticket. 7p.

marriage equality and transgender equality. 2. She outed Jennifer Lawrence, even though she’s only a lesbian in our dreams. (We’ll continue in the listing for her Thursday, Oct. 6 concert in Cleveland.) 8p; $42-$109.

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@ The Dock, 603 Pete Rose Way, Cincinnati, 45202; 513.436.0136; FB: The Dock Complex: Remember her? Maybe that’s why she’s on a new reality show, The Next :15, about reality stars whose 15 seconds are over. 18+. 11p.

Westin Cincinnati, 21 E. 5th St., Cincinnati, 45202; FB: NO H8 Campaign: Organizers supply the duct tape. You wear a white Tshirt and strike a pose. 2p-5p; $40 (or $25 per person for group pics).

Cabaret, 1122 Walnut St., Cincinnati, 45202; 513.202.4052; FB: The Cabaret: When the heck was she on RuPaul’s Drag Race? 1947? Gotta say, girl still looks flawless. She’s performing as part of the Hard Candy Cincinnati shows. 10p; $20-$25. FRIDAY, OCTOBER 14 Johnny Mathis @ Aronoff SUNDAY, OCTOBER 9 Vanessa Williams and the Cincinnati Pops @ Taft

Theatre, 317 E. 5th St., Cincinnati, 45202; 513.381.3300; cincinnatisymphony.org/pops: The popular Pops has moved temporarily to the Taft Theatre while its Music Hall home is being renovated. 7p; $25-$125. MONDAY, OCTOBER 10 Queen City Queer Theater Collective: The Anxiety Project Encore @ Below Zero

Lounge, 1120 Walnut St., Cincinnati. 45202; FB: Queen City Queer Theatre Collective - QCQTC: An encore presentation of the new musical that was workshopped and performed in June. 7:30p.

Center/Procter & Gamble Hall, 650 Walnut St., Cincinnati, 45202; 513.621.2787; cincinnatiarts.org: The 81-yearold icon is celebrating his 60th year in show business. 8p; $52.50-$132.50. SATURDAY, OCTOBER 15 Martina McBride @

Lawrenceburg Event Center, 91 Walnut St., Lawrenceburg, Ind., 47025; hollywoodindiana.com: The country singer has long been a vocal ally of LGBT people. 8p; $65-$85. THURSDAY, OCTOBER 20 Estrogen Workshop @

Heartland Wellness Center, 103 William Howard Taft Rd., Cincinnati. 45219; 513.549.4447; Coronation XXV Ball TUESDAY, OCTOBER 11 WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 5 transwellness.org: If you’re taking @ The Westin Hotel Presidential Brownsville Song Coronation XXV estrogen or considering it, learn Kickoff Party @ Rosie’s TavBall Room, Third Floor, 21 E. 5th (B-Side for Tray) @ Ensemble about safe estrogen administraTheatre, 1127 Vine St., Cincinern, 643 Bakewell St., Covington, St., Cincinnati, 45202; tion, strategies to decrease injecnati, 45202; 513.421.3555; Ky., 41011; isqccbe.org: The Im- isqccbe.org: This is what everytion pain and anxiety, and ask perial Sovereign Queen City Court one has come for. It’s a celebra- ensemblecincinnati.org: Far from questions related to estrogen being a play “ripped from the of the Buckeye Empire, Cincintion of the outgoing monarchs therapy. The workshop is limited headlines,” this social drama nati’s drag queens and kings for and a welcome for the new. to 20, so RSVP to info@tranabout the shocking death of an a cause, throws its annual coro- 5p; $85. swellness.org. 6p-8p. African-American teenager is a nation celebration with events poignant story for our time. Pre- A Chorus Line @ Universcheduled through Sunday, Oct. Amy Schumer Live 9. Visit the website for the com@ BB&T Arena, 500 Nunn Dr., sented by Ensemble Theatre. 7p; sity of Cincinnati’s Patricia $18-$44. There are 23 more per- Corbett Theater, Corry plete rundown. 7p. Highland Heights, formances scheduled through Ky., 800.745. Street, Cincinnati, THURSDAY, 3000; thebbt Sunday, Oct. 30. 45221; 513.556.4183; OCTOBER 6 arena.com: ccm.uc.edu/boxoffice: The Michael Sam Let us count WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 12 look at musical theater LGBTQ History the ways we Trans Night @ Caracole, through the lives of 17 dancers Month 4138 Hamilton Ave., Cincinnati, remains popular more than 40 love her: Keynote @ 45223; 513.549.4447; 1. Her Bud years after its stage debut. PreNorthern Kentucky Light Party ads transwellness.org: The monthly sented by the University of University Student have spoken out for social gathering is for those Cincinnati College-Conservatory Union; Newport, Ky., 41076;

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of Music. 8p; $31-$35 ($18-$25 for students.) There are 11 more performances scheduled through Sunday, Oct. 30.

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Coronation XXV In-Town Show @

The Cabaret, 1122 Walnut St., Cincinnati, 45202; isqccbe.org: Per[Title of Show] @ Warsaw formers from Cincinnati Federal Incline Theater, 801 and surrounding areas Matson Place, Cincinnati, 45204; take the stage. 8p. 513.241.6550; cincinnatilandmarkproductions FRIDAY, OCTOBER 7 Coronation XXV .com: The title of the show is [Title of Show]. It’s about a group Out-of-Town Show @ The of friends who are writing a mu- Westin Hotel Fountain Room, sical, and it’s called a love letter Second Floor, 21 E. 5th St., Cincinnati, 45202; isqccbe.org: to the genre. Presented by Performers who’ve come to Cincinnati Landmark Productions. 8p; $26. There are 11 more Cincinnati for the Coronation XXV performances scheduled through festivities entertain. 8p; $15. Sunday, Oct. 16.

under the trans* umbrella (transgender, transsexual, genderqueer, gender non-conforming, fluid and gender questioning/processing) only. 7p-10p.

port, Ky., 41071; cintit.org: Singles, doubles and team competition through Sunday, Oct. 30. Entry is $99 per bowler. Nonbowlers who want to take part in the banquet and hospitality suites can register for $40. 7pmidnight hospitality suite at the host hotel, Radisson Cincinnati Riverfront in Covington, Ky. Competition starts Saturday and concludes Sunday. ISQCCBE Halloween Show

SATURDAY, OCTOBER 22 Penny Tration @ The Cabaret,

1122 Walnut St., Cincinnati, 45202; 513.202.4052; FB: The Cabaret: Penny, Brooklyn SteeleTate, Quasi, Chasity Marie and special guests take the stage every Saturday. 10:30p.

@ Old Street Saloon, 13 Old St., Monroe, 45050; 513.539.9183; FB: Old Street Saloon: The new monarchs put on their first show, but the goal is the same: to raise money for the community. 8p. SATURDAY, OCTOBER 29 GLSEN Youth Summit @

Northern Kentucky University Student Union, Newport, Ky., 41076; 859.572.5835; @ Northern Kentucky University’s glsencincinnati.org: Topics inStauss Theatre, Nunn Drive, clude being out at school and Highland Heights, Ky., 41099; work, the biology of sexuality, 859.572.5464; self-defense and more. It’s for artscience.nku.edu/ youth 11 and older, as well as departments/theatre: August Wil- adult allies. The summit is free son’s play revolves around Mother and ends with a dinner, drag of the Blues Ma Rainey and her show and dance. 11a-9p. fight against white producers to control her own music. Produced Dead Can Dance by the Northern Kentucky Univer- @ Aronoff Center/Jarson-Kaplan sity Department of Theatre & Theater, 650 Walnut St., CincinDance. 8p; $14 ($8 for students nati, 45202; 513.621.2787; and $11 for seniors). There are exhaledancetribe.com: Feel free five more performances schedto come in costume to the Exhale uled through Sunday, Oct. 30. Dance Tribe’s ghoulish Halloween TUESDAY, OCTOBER 25 Ma RaineyÊs Black Bottom

FRIDAY, OCTOBER 28 Trans Hope United Network Grand Masquerade Ball @ Radis-

son Inn, 668 W. 5th St., Covington, Ky., 41011; 859.491.1200; 937.733.2684; FB: Trans Hope United Network: There’s a weekend of events planned, including a banquet dinner at 5p on Friday and a Victorian masquerade ball at 10p on Sunday. Ask for the Trans Hope United group rate when you book your room at the Radisson. $25 registration for single; $45 for couples.

performance. 3p and 8:30p; $32.25. SUNDAY, OCTOBER 30 Cincinnati Bengals in London @ Bar 32,

701 Bakewell St., Covington, Ky., 41011; 859.261.2241; FB: Bar 32 Cov KY: The Bengals play Washington at Wembley Stadium in London, and breakfast is on the house. You have to pay for your mimosas, though. 9a. MONDAY, OCTOBER 31 Miami Monday With the Golden Girls @ Below Zero

Lounge, 1120 Walnut St., Cincinnati, 45202; 513.421.9376: belowzerolounge.com: Grab a CINTIT, Cincinnati Tri-State seat on the lanai, have a slice of Invitational Bowling Tourcheesecake and enjoy some renament @ Walt’s Center runs of everyone’s favorite fourLanes, 1809 Monmouth St., Newsome. 4p.

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Bechdel’s best-selling graphic memoir-turned-musical opens its national tour in Northeast Ohio. It’s Bechdel’s personal Fun Home • Cleveland Staycation • Bianca Del Rio story, which includes coming out as a lesbian and her relationship SATURDAY, OCTOBER 1 Lanford Wilson: Take 5 @ with her closeted father. 2p and Queer as Kent Playhouse Square/Kennedy’s Homecoming Tailgate @ Cabaret, 1501 Euclid Ave., Cleve- 6:30p; $10-$90. There are 22 more performances scheduled Bricco, 210 S. Depeyster St., Kent, land, 44115; 216.241.6000; through Saturday, Oct. 22. 44240; 330.672.8580; cesearsforum.com: Five short kent.edu/lgbtq: Kent State plays by the late gay playwright University’s LGBTQ Student are heartfelt, funny reflections on WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 5 My Fair Lady @ Playhouse Center hosts. 1p-3p. American life. Presented by Square/Hanna Theatre, 2067 E. Cesear’s Forum. 8p; $18. There 14th St., Cleveland, 44115; Twelfth Night @ Playhouse are 10 more performances 216.241.6000; Square/Hanna Theatre, 2067 scheduled through Saturday, greatlakestheater.org: The musiE. 14th St., Cleveland, 44115; Oct. 29. cal tale of Henry Higgins and 216.241.6000; greatlakestheater.org: To survive Sara Davis Buechner and Eliza Doolittle features the songs “I Could Have Danced All Night,” the Canton Symphony in her strange new world, ship“Wouldn’t It Be Loverly” and “Get Orchestra @ Umstattd wrecked Viola disguises herself Performing Arts Hall, 2323 17th Me to the Church on Time.” Preas a boy messenger and enters sented by Great Lakes Theater. St. NW, Canton, 44708; the employ of an island inhabi7:30p; $15-$80. There 330.452.2094; tant. She unexpectedly becomes an object of desire for a woman. cantonsymphony.org: The classi- are 15 more percal concert pianist says her book- formances schedPresented by Great Lakes Theuled through ings with major American ater. 7:30p; $15-$80. There are nine more performances sched- symphonies “shrank to nothing” Saturday, Oct. 29. when she came out as transgenuled through Sunday, Oct. 30. THURSDAY, der in the late 1990s. But the Canton Symphony named her an OCTOBER 6 Little Shop of Horrors @ audience favorite, and she’ll play Amy Schumer Live @ Weathervane Playhouse, 1301 Quicken Loans Arena, 1 Center Weathervane Lane, Akron, 44313; a concert of pieces they’ve voted Court, Cleveland, 44115; as their favorites. See our profile 330.836.2626; 1.888.894.9424; theqarena.com: weathervaneplayhouse.com: The of Buechner on Page 22. Continued from the listing for her story of Seymour, Audrey and Au- 8p; $26-$46. Saturday, Oct. 8, concert in drey II began as a B-movie, was Cincinnati, let us count the ways SUNDAY, OCTOBER 2 turned into a long-running offwe love her: 3. She’s buddies with Fun Home @ Playhouse Broadway musical, returned to LeBron. 4. She’s got a repertoire Square/Connor Palace, 1615 the big screen and is now back of dick jokes that can make gay Euclid Ave., Cleveland, 44115; on stage. 7:30p; $26 ($22 for men blush. 8p; $42-$112. 216.241.6000; seniors and $13 for students). playhousesquare.org: After its There are nine more performTony-winning New York run, Ober- FRIDAY, OCTOBER 7 ances scheduled through SunIron Eagles 2016 Run @ lin College alumna Alison day, Oct. 16. various Akron locations; ironea-

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gles.com: The Iron Eagles host a weekend of parties and pageantry to celebrate the club’s 18th year. Events are scheduled at Cocktails, Interbelt and the host hotel, Roadway Inn. The Mr. Ohio Leather contest takes place Saturday, and the weekend concludes Sunday. $130. Arktos Bears Staycation: Cleveland @ various Cleve-

land locations; arktosbears.org: It’s a weekend of activities that includes Bears in Boxers at Cocktails, bowling, tours of the Cleveland Museum of Natural History and Severance Hall, and more. Visit the website for times.

The Last Dance of Dr. Disco, Murder Mystery Dinner Theater @ Brennan’s

canapi.org: Begun during the 2014 Gay Games, this conference has become an annual day to Party Center, 13000 Triskett Rd., help professionals in social servCleveland, 44111; 216.556.0590; ices, education and other areas ncmchorus.org: The North Coast understand LGBT issues. This Men’s Chorus’ first big event of year’s sessions include safe the new season includes a three- schools, sex education, subcourse dinner, costume contest, stance abuse and PrEP. 8a-4p; and live and silent auctions. 6p- $35. 11p; $50.

SUNDAY, OCTOBER 9 Legends in Concert @

Akron Civic Theatre, 82 S. Main St., Akron, 44308; 330.253.2488; akroncivic.com: A tribute show featuring visual and vocal impersonations of Prince, Cher, Elton, Aretha, the Blues Brothers and Bruce Springsteen. We can Valley of Horrors Halloween Party Weekend only say that Cher better be a @ Freedom Valley Campground, drag queen. 4p; $37-$47. 1875 U.S. 250 S, New LonWEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 12 don, 44851; LGBT Heritage Day @ 419.929.8100; Cleveland City Hall, 601 Lakeside freedomvalleycamping.com: Even though Ave., Cleveland, 44114; 216.651.5428; lgbtcleveland.org/ Halloween is still more than two weeks away, this lgbt-heritage-day: Cleveland’s annual observation of LGBT Hisis the second Halloween party of the month at the men’s camp- tory Month includes this event honoring memground 40 minutes north of bers of our commuMansfield. $25 for a full-day nity who have pass ($20-$125 per night for contributed in the accommodations). areas of health and wellness, public servSATURDAY, OCTOBER 8 ice, advocacy and acThat Gay 5K @ Kent State University’s Risman Plaza, 1075 tivism, and arts and culture. 5p. Risman Dr., Kent, 44242; THURSDAY, OCTOBER 13 330.672.8580; kent.edu/lgbtq: This color run will raise money for Game Change Conference @ Kent State Kent State’s LGBTQ Emergency University, 800 E. Summit St., Fund, which helps students in crisis. 8a; $20 ($15 for students). Kent, 44240; 330.252.1559;

Joe Santiago (2005) was the first openly gay member of the Cleveland City Council.

FRIDAY, OCTOBER 14 Bianca Del Rio: Not Today Satan Tour @

Playhouse Square/Ohio Theatre, 1511 Euclid Ave., Cleveland, 44115; 216.241.6000; playhousesquare.org: Hurricane Bianca is blowing through Ohio figuratively, we think - with shows in Cleveland on Oct. 14 and Columbus on Oct. 15. (And if you’re closer to Detroit or Pittsburgh, she’s in Royal Oak, Mich., on Oct. 12, and in Munhall, Penn., on Oct. 16.) 8p; $37.50$87 (VIP for $93.25-$193.25.) SATURDAY, OCTOBER 15 Pride Night With the Cleveland Monsters

@ Quicken Loans Arena, 1 Center Court, Cleveland, 44115; FB: Pride Night with the Monsters: Cleveland’s professional hockey team, an affiliate of the Columbus Blue Jackets, hosts a Pride Night game with the Columbus Ohio Gay Lesbian Ally Hockey Association. 5p; $25 ($50 ticket includes club seat and buffet).

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Art Cares @ Slovenian Workmen’s

Home, 15335 Waterloo Rd., Cleveland, 44110; 216.357.3131; FB: ArtCares 2016: The annual fundraiser of the AIDS Taskforce of Greater Cleveland includes a chance to purchase works from artists who will split the proceeds with the organization. 7p-11p; $35. SUNDAY, OCTOBER 16 An Evening With David Sedaris @

Akron Civic Theatre, 82 S. Main St., Akron, 44308; 330.253.2488; akroncivic.com: The popular humorist has a new book scheduled for release next summer. 7p; $25$45. TUESDAY, OCTOBER 18 Plexus Network Night

@ Kimpton Scofield Hotel, 2000 E. 9th St., Cleveland, 44115; 1.888.PLEXUS9; thinkplexus.org: Plexus is Northeast Ohio’s LGBT Chamber of Commerce. 5:30p-7:30p; $10 (free for members). WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 19 Angels in America Part Two: Perestroika @ Baldwin Wallace

University’s William Allman Theatre, Kleist Center for Art & Drama, 95 E. Bagley Rd., Berea, 44017; 440.826.2240; bw.edu/news: Tony Kushner’s 1993 play is an elegy for the age of AIDS. 7:30p; $5. There are three more performances scheduled through Saturday, Oct. 22. Joan Baez @ Playhouse

Square/State Theatre, 1519 Euclid Ave., Cleveland, 44115; 216.241.6000; playhousesquare.org:

The folk singer/songwriter has been an outspoken supporter of LGBT civil rights since 1978, when she performed at benefit concerts to help defeat the Briggs Initiative, a California ballot proposal that would have banned gay people from teaching in California’s public schools. 8p; $35-$75. THURSDAY, OCTOBER 20 LGBT Older Adults: Supporting Their Unique Health and Social Needs

@ Benjamin Rose Institute on Aging, 11890 Fairhill Rd., Cleveland, 44120; 216.373.1610; benrose.org/ education/2016-LGBT.cfm: This conference addresses the health and wellness needs of LGBT older adults and offers health professionals helpful information about working effectively with the at-risk group. 8:30a-5:15p; $100. Full Spectrum Community Outreach Pancake Dinner @

St. John’s Episcopal Church, 323 Wick Ave., Youngstown, 44503; 330.892.8318; fullspectrumcommunityoutreach.org: Full Spectrum is a new community center for LGBT people in Mahoning, Trumball and Columbiana counties. 6p-9p; ticket info TBA. FRIDAY, OCTOBER 21 Dearly Beloved: Celebrating Icons Gone Too Soon @ Twist,

11633 Clifton Blvd., Cleveland, 44102; 216.221.2333; FB: Twist Social Club: Part of Twist’s Kings and Queens of Pop Video Series. 9p.

Drag Bingo @ Music Box Supper

Club, 1148 Main Ave., Cleveland, 44113; 216.242.1250; musicboxcle.com: Veranda L’Ni hosts in the club’s Late Nite Lounge, and Ambiance provides the prizes. This will be good. 10:30p.

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Northwest Ohio LGBTQ Brunch • Major! Documentary • Monster Bash • Zombie Crawl

SUNDAY, OCTOBER 2 Dining With Deja Sunday Brunch @

FRIDAY, OCTOBER 14 Toledo Pride Nite Glo 5K Run/Walk

McCune’s Other Side Bistro, 5038 Lewis Ave., Toledo, 43612; 419.476.1577; FB: McCune’s Other Side Bistro Bar: Deja D. Square/Allen Theatre, 1407 Euclid Dellataro hosts this addition to Sunday Ave., Cleveland, 44115; Funday. It’s billed as “Toledo’s Only LGBTQ 216.241.6000; Brunch.” 11a-3p. csuohio.edu/class/ theatre-dance: Part flesh, WEDNESDAY, part felt, this “Sesame OCTOBER 5 Film Screening: Street for adults” feaMajor! @ University of tures the song, “If You Toledo Student Union Were Gay.” Staged by Room 2582, Toledo, 43606; Cleveland State University’s 419.530.2261; utoledo.edu/ Theater Department. 7:30p; studentaffairs/omss/lgbtqa: LGBT $10 ($25 includes dinner and the show). There are nine more perform- History Month screening of the new documentary about Miss Major Griffin-Gracy, a ances scheduled through Sunday, veteran of the Stonewall uprising who has Nov. 6. fought for the rights and respect of transgender women of color since the SATURDAY, OCTOBER 29 Funhouse Freakshow: Cult 1960s. 7p. Classics Mega Party @ Aura THURSDAY, OCTOBER 6 Ultra Lounge, 1313 E. 26th St., Cleveland, 44114; 216.286.3781; FB: A Community Conversation With AURA Ultra Lounge Cleveland: Does Harvey House @ Plate 21, 3664 Rugby Dr., Toledo, Aura throw any non-mega parties? 43614; 9p; ticket info TBA. harveyhousenwo.com: Join the planned LGBT youth Walking Dead Halloween Party @ Circle JJ homeless and runaway resource center for a talk Ranch, 1104 Amsterdam Rd., Scio, about Toledo youth home43988; 330.627.3101; circlejjranch.com: It’s the end of the lessness, human traffickseason at the campground for men, ing and how we can work located about an hour south of Can- together to keep our kids safe. ton. $15 for a day or night pass ($18- 6p. $110 per night for accommodations).

@ Ottawa Park, Toledo, 43606; toledopride.com: Originally scheduled for Pride Week in August, the Nite Glo run and walk had to be rescheduled. 7p-11p.

THURSDAY, OCTOBER 27 Avenue Q @ Playhouse

SATURDAY, OCTOBER 8 Monster Bash @ Collingwood Arts

Center, 2413 Collingwood Blvd., Toledo, 43620; FB: Stone Productions: Featuring a costume contest with cash prizes, performances by Stone Productions ghouls, a dance floor with a DJ, catered food, themed adult beverages and more. 8p; $15.

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Louis Escobar (1997) was the first openly gay member of the Toledo City Council.

Second Annual Harvey House Celebrity Bowling Tournament @

Interstate Lanes, 819 Lime City Rd., Rossford, 43460; harveyhousenwo.com: Celeb team captains include Brook Lockhart, Portia Armani, the Toledo Reign’s Popeye and Speedy, WTOL-TV’s Andrew Kinsey and others. 7p; $25. FRIDAY, OCTOBER 21 Lecture: The White House State Dinner: Lessons in Soft Power @

Toledo Museum of Art’s Glass Pavilion, 2445 Monroe St., Toledo, 43620; 419.255.8000; toledomuseum.org: Bill Yosses, a Toledo native and White House pastry chef from 2007 to 2014, will talk about his time serving our last two presidents and discuss efforts to create a more food-conscious America. 6p; $15 ($10 in advance). LGBT History Month Keynote: Mal Blum @ Uni-

versity of Toledo Student Union Ingman Room, Toledo, 43606; 419.530.2261; utoledo.edu/studentaffairs/ omss/lgbtqa: Blum is a songwriter, musician, writer and performer. 8p. SATURDAY, OCTOBER 22 Adams Street Zombie Crawl

@ the Village on Adams, Toledo, 43604; FB: Adams Street Zombie Crawl 2016!: The Zombie zone stretches from 21st Street to 11th Street, which includes Bretz and Georgjz. Entertainment includes an Undead Drag Show. 5p-2a; $5.

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savage love

by Dan Savage

Quickies

I’m a single gay male in my 40s. I have a good life and do good work. I’m not worried about finding the right guy to settle down with. I’m worried about what happens next.

I’ve had three serious long-term relationships and several friendswith-benefits relationships. In every single one, a time has come, generally sooner rather than later, when I completely lose interest in my partner sexually. It’s not a matter of him being less attractive to me. It’s not a matter of us not being on good terms; often we become very close friends. It’s not a matter of my sex drive shutting down; I’m all kinds of turned on by other guys, just not the one I’m with.

It’s reached a point where I’m deliberately holding myself back from getting into relationships because I’m tired of ruining good things.

Mid-20s female here, ready to date after a period of difficulty in my personal life. I have started taking an antidepressant, which has allowed me to regain control over my life, but one side effect is difficulty having orgasms.

People can be judgy when it comes to antidepressants, and it’s not something that’s easy to share. It’s frustrating because this medication allows me to be in a place mentally where I can pursue healthy adult relationships, but it affects sex, which for me is something that is key for a healthy relationship.

How do I have a conversation about this with a potential partner? - Hopeful About Potential Partners, Yay

You can put off the convo about your meds with a white lie, HAPPY, by telling your potential partners you never come - Confirmed Bachelor the first few times you’re with someone You could get your ass into therapy, CB, new. No pressure on you to come (or and churn through several relationships come clean just yet), no pressure on while you work on this (relationships that them to make you come. could fail for this or some other reason) Then level with them about the real reaand not have anything to show for your son you’re having difficultly coming effort 10 years from now. new to antidepressants, still adjusting, but grateful for the other benefits - after Or you could find a guy who has the same problem you do. Your predicament you’ve gotten to know them better. It’s a harmless, understandable white lie, not is not uncommon. a major betrayal. Instead of breaking up when you lose interest in each other sexually, you could stay together, you could love each other, you could take care of each other, and you could both fuck other guys. 32

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I’m male, 30 and newly single. I’ve been using my newfound freedom to sleep around, and last week I had sex with a married woman.

Yes, she was cheating. Yes, I was aware. There won’t be any future sexual encounters with this woman, but here’s the thing I was wondering about: I don’t feel guilty, not one bit.

Does that make me a bad person? - Basically A Dastardly Dick, Yes?

Fucking someone you know to be cheating implicates you in an infidelity, of course, and that’s usually bad - but not always. In some cases, cheating is the least worst option for all involved (the cheater, the cheated, their dependents); in others, cheating saves marriages that needed saving; in still others, cheating ends marriages that needed ending. Straight 64-year-old man wanting to try the gay side of life!!! Don’t have the bodybuilder’s body anymore!!! Average size!!!

Would anyone get turned on to old-timer’s body!!! Need some advice where and how to meet other gay men!!! Also HIV is a concern!!! Any other advice would be appreciated!!! - When I’m Sixty-Four

Check out daddyhunt.com, WISF, the “largest gay personals site for daddies, bears, and guys that love them”!!! Don’t be paralyzed by fear!!! Of HIV or anything else!!! But consider getting on PrEP!!! And use condoms!!! And remember: Sex with a guy who thinks he’s negative but isn’t is way riskier than sex with a guy who knows he’s positive and takes his meds!!! And stop calling yourself straight!!!

You can email Dan Savage at mail@savagelove.net or follow him on Twitter @fakedansavage. Savage Love appears every month in Outlook and every week at outlookohio.com..

First openly gay person of color elected to Congress: U.S. Rep. Mark Takano of California (2012).

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the divine life by Debé

Libra (September 23 - October 22) It’s your month to shine, so don’t be afraid to tip the scales in favor of fun. Bask in the glory of your fabulousness and be deliciously spoiled. You spend a lot of time and energy on others. It’s your turn. Famous Libras: Martina Navratilova, Dan Savage, Ani DiFranco, Frank Ocean. Scorpio (October 23 - November 21) It takes willpower to hold your tongue this month, but for everybody’s sake you’ve got to make the effort. If you can’t contain your nastiness, take it to the bedroom where it can be appreciated. Sagittarius (November 22 - December 21) The full moon in a fellow fire sign is working in your favor. Take aggressiveness and a little mayhem and turn it into high art. You get things done and impress with your spooky creativity. BRAVO! Capricorn (December 22 - January 19) Consider a race-car driver costume this year, because your life is in the fast lane! The checkered flag is yours if you keep your nerves under control and your eye on the road. Start your engines! Aquarius (January 20 - February 18) If it seems the world is full of annoying people lately, you might need to do a gut check. Are you seeing a little bit of your own failings? You might choke a little on that reality pill, so maybe a spoonful of sugar will help. Pisces (February 19 - March 20) There are psychic vampires afoot, and they are all trick, no treat. If your intuition starts sending danger signals, don’t offer your neck. They’ll suck you dry, and not in a good way. Keep garlic handy. Aries (March 21 - April 19) Steady, girl. You’re bursting with energy, but the full moon in Aries on the 16th can throw some chaos your way. Embrace the unexpected, or you will be too scary to bear. May I suggest a wicked witch costume? outlookohio.com

Taurus (April 20 - May 20) You like to get your hands dirty, and we like that about you. Since you’re feeling feisty and aggressive this month, use those handy skills to make something magical. Your lover might volunteer to be your canvas. Gemini (May 21 - June 20) Put your twin heads together, but not in a kinky way. It’s time to bring some of your ideas to fruition. Action speaks a lot louder than words this month, so manifest or there will be no candy for you on Halloween. Cancer (June 21 - July 22) Your house isn’t clean if you just cram everything in the closet. Your emotions are the same. Pretending everything’s fine only works until someone opens that door, and then... avalanche! Better to deal with some of the baggage now.

Debé is a palmist, intuitive adviser and metaphysical teacher in Columbus. She is available for personal readings, parties, events and workshops. For more information go to thepassionatepalmist.com. Look for The Divine Life every month in Outlook.

Leo (July 23 - August 22) As the weather cools, you’re feeling a little restless and cooped up. Find a fun fall project to pour that energy into so you don’t do something (or someone) that will require backpedaling and apologies later. Virgo (August 23 - September 22) Can things be too perfect? Everything is humming along just as it should be, and there are no fires to put out. With time on your hands, why not have an adventure or two? Have some fun. It won’t kill you, I promise. Handy Tip: The Middle Finger The middle finger - or Saturn Finger in palmistry - is associated with work, rules, the material world and loyalty. It’s the “business” finger. The straighter and stronger this finger is, the more pronounced the traits are. Debé is a palmist, intuitive adviser and metaphysical teacher in Columbus. She is available for personal readings, parties, events and workshops. For more information go to thepassionatepalmist.com.

First openly bisexual member of Congress: U.S. Rep. Kyrsten Sinema of Arizona (2012).

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lesbians 101

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In 2016, Democrat Misty Snow of Utah is the first transgender nominee of a major party for the U.S. Senate.

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Well-Rounded Novel Across

1 “___ on a Log” (Randy Travis song) 5 The Oscars, e.g. 9 Purple, in an Alice Walker title, e.g. 14 Petty of A League of Their Own 15 Vows now legal for all 16 St. Teresa’s town 17 Gilbert, who wrote the novel spelled out in the circles 19 Partners of whistles 20 Author Maugham’s middle name 21 She can “Carey” a tune 22 Mountain top 23 Snow creation 24 Tales of the City author Armistead 28 k.d. lang record label 29 “Be prepared” org. 32 Bill T. Jones’ partner Zane 33 Outfit for Richard Simmons 35 Quote as a reference 36 Sailor’s rear 37 Flying fisher 38 Musical featuring Edna Turnblad 40 Joe who played gay in JFK 41 Fruit sugar ending 42 Rupert Everett’s Ready to _____ 43 Haul ass 44 Trust in, with “on” 45 Ben Vereen forte 46 Political analyst Maddow 49 Da Vinci signature piece 54 Wife of Portia 55 Leatherwear for the hands 56 Be a ham in _Hamlet_ 57 Buffalo’s lake 58 Vichyssoise veggie 59 Like bacon 60 Will of The Waltons_ 61 Biters of Marc Antony’s girlfriend

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1 Britten’s beers 2 Publisher of same-sex couples’ legal guide 3 Like a muscle Mary’s waist 4 XXL, e.g. 5 Gay pretender Mel of What Women Want 6 “Do” in The Sound of Music 7 Senator Trent 8 Grate expectation? 9 Minnelli movie 10 In-your-face 11 Modern Family adoptee 12 Chili pot 13 Possible STD symptom 18 Glee character Abrams 21 Bugs or Erin 23 Hot-tempered 24 Kind of man in a Village People hit 25 Oral performances 26 Release from bondage 27 Tying-up place 28 Use the Divine Miss M’s name in vain? 29 Explode 30 Cole Porter’s “___ I Kissed My Baby Goodbye” 31 Gave head at home? 33 Be unfaithful to your lover 34 Takes advantage of pupils? 36 Dumbledore might cast one 39 Sondheim’s Todd 40 Like Jeremy Irons in The Borgias 43 Closet triangle 44 Gone with the Wind guy 45 Gus Van Sant film ___ For 46 Where a sailor may hit bottom 47 Tennessee Williams’ Summer and Smoke heroine 48 Stop bleeding 49 Swampy area 50 Marlene’s Blue Angel role 51 Lithographer James 52 Trickle through the cracks 53 Wonders aloud 55 Frat boys tap it

In 2016, Democrat Jim Gray of Kentucky is the first gay man nominated by a major party for the U.S. Senate.

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