New to Kink? Try These Tips

Do you have a fetish you want to explore? Are you wanting to kink up your sex life? Is there a curious desire you need satiated? The best way to get into kink is on your own terms, but that can be hard when you’re still trying to work out what it is you want, or who you want it with. Of course, the internet is the general place to start – in fact I sometimes wonder how people even identified and communicated their kinks prior to 2000 – but how to you make the move from online kinkster to real life connections. Social Media:

There are a tonne of options for socials for fetish kink and BDSM. There are platforms like Fetlife specific to kinky people, and groups and pages within larger platforms like Facebook where kinky people can share info and chat. These groups are your best chance for discovering events that you’re comfortable attending. Being BDSM/fetish specific, Fetlife is almost a must for keeping up with events. Due to Facebook community standards, adult events of a sexy or kinky persuasion (even within private groups) can come under scrutiny, so it’s not super reliable for information, and horrendous for censorship. Twitter can be a good option too, as there is no requirement for a real name, and you can get access to a lot of NSFW content. Many kink educators and events have Twitter accounts and you can keep up with them with a simple follow. Munches:

So your socials are activated, you’re chatting a bit, and you’re ready to meet a few people in a relatively chill environment. You need a Munch. (Okay. But what IS that?!) Munches are a meeting of kinksters in a mainstream setting – no gear, no BDSM dress-ups, no play. They are casual, public get-togethers – mostly for people to catch up and hang out with likeminded people. Some munches are organised by fetish or BDSM role – submissive much, leather munch, littles munch – but they’re more commonly listed by location, so finding one in your area shouldn’t be too hard. If it’s your first-time, get in touch with the organiser and let them know. It’s nice for them to know a new face is heading along, so they can have some time put aside to get you welcomed and comfy. Now why not put the Oz Kink Fest munch in your calendar? Workshops and Skillshares:

Workshops and skillshares are terms often used interchangeably, the definition coming down to the event organiser and the term they prefer. Although workshops can tend to be more theory-focused, and skillshares more ‘hands on’, both are valuable learning opportunities for any kinkster, but particularly those new to the scene. Educating yourself is probably one of the best things you can do. When we learn about the things we love our confidence grows, and as our confidence expands so too does our ability to connect with others. Workshops and skillshares provide an opportunity to learn some valuable, tangible skills and develop your kink play, but they also a great chance to engage with other kinksters about their play. Fetish Events:

Or why not jump right in? Think of a nightclub, then imagine everyone decked out in their kinkiest finery – leather, latex, lingerie… cuffs, collars, crotchless clothes. And yes, there is dancing. There are certainly bodies moving. But are they dancing to the music, or the flogger? Do they move to the beat in their ears, or the beating of their bum? There are fetish events running in every major city, and again, it’s your social media network that will point you in the right direction. There are also an array of events on offer – club nights, private(ish) parties, balls, and dungeon events – some of which offer sex on premises, but the majority is for kink play only. Be sure to check out the dress code for these events – some will accept basic black, but if you’re going to a latex party, there’s a good chance you’ll wanna wear latex. We’re all new at some stage, so don’t let that hold you back. The kink world holds so many beautiful possibilities so make the most of Oz Kink fest this October – there’s sure to be something for you. MisKnickers First published on the Adult Match Maker blog FULL ARTICLE here KINK-E | an alternative lifestyle magazine 21