PakMag Cairns - March 2021 Issue 165

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Welcome 7 The Thing Is with Bree James 8 Cultivating Mindfulness to

Raise Children Who Thrive 10 STEM-Powering Women 13 Why Choose MacKillop?

15 Bully-Proofing Your Child 21 Cairns Adventist College Nurturing Life-Long Learners 23 Building Trust and Collaboration 27 Wellbeing is Just as

Important as Curriculum 29 The PakMag Experts 31 All Things Health 32 Parent’s Puzzle: Sudoku 33 Mini Mag 37 Adult Colouring 39 Recipes: Sensational Salads 40 Craft for Kids 43 Trauma Births: How to

Heal Mentally and Physically 44 Bump, Bub and Beyond 47 Fertility to First Years Guide 51 Daddy Diary 53 The Five Types

of Separations 55 Raising Girls Who

Like Themselves 56 All Things Tweens and Teens 58 Check it Out 61 Get Out and About

Hello and welcome to the March edition of PakMag.

PakMag Founder and Editor-in-Chief Bree James

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I can’t believe we are already three months into 2021! Time really does fly, and lately I’ve become more conscious of enjoying the little moments, so I don’t miss them in the hectic pace of our day-to-day lives. John Wooden famously said ‘make each day your masterpiece’ and I am trying to invest in the now, with those I love.

Our greatest wish is that you and your family thrive, and this edition is packed with expert advice to help you do just that. It includes our Fertility to First Years Guide with local resources to help you start their life journey and your parenting journey in the best way possible. We also have great feature articles on connecting with your children and helping them become ‘bully-proof’.

Don’t forget with Easter around the corner, we’ll be gearing up for our Easter Eggstravaganza FREE community event this month! Head to the DFO on March 27 to join in the fun! Keep your eyes on our Facebook page for more details – but we are so excited to be seeing you face to face after such a long time.

Until next time, happy parenting and don’t forget to tell everyone, you read it in PakMag.

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The Thing Is

The Thing Is with Bree James I’ve always been one to challenge gender roles. As a young girl I was certainly the odd one out. I was more inclined to build a cubby house from scraps of wood from around the yard rather than play with dolls in one. I was the type of young lady that was the only female in a class of boys doing woodwork in high school, and my afternoons were spent playing cricket with the boys. Let’s just say, for most of my childhood I found it difficult to be accepted due to not conforming to the usual ‘girl’ mould.

I was raised to believe that I could do anything and that included what boys could do, which has created an interesting life journey so far.

The thing is, whether we like it or not, gender bias exists, and as the theme of International Women’s Day this year is ‘Choose to Challenge’, I thought what better way to discuss a few things that I believe we can do better. Firstly, I believe that gender equality needs to start at home.

One of the blessings of Covid, is that many men have been working from home and are getting a front row seat to the daily demands of running a home and caring for kids.

Although many men have experienced traditional role reversals for short stints, most have never worked from home for an extended period whilst also being the primary caregiver for their children. It’s a fact that in most homes, this work has fallen onto the women who are often also doing their fair share of working too.

Men taking on more domestic duties for an extended period of time has the potential to create a sea change in gendered norms — at home and at work.

‘it’s faster if I just do it myself”, “I have to do everything - I’m the mum”, “they’re too little to help, I can do it all until they’re older”, “it’s not worth the arguments, I’ll just do it”.

Let it go ladies (and the men that do this too!). Family life is a team sport and everyone needs to do their part.

So how do we choose to challenge and change it?

Well, there is no time like the present to check in with your partner and do a domestic duties audit to assess how you’re doing and where you can involve the kids, and split some of the tasks and mental load to each other. Or if you are a single parent, do a self-audit and see where you are taking on things other family members can help with.

Remember, just because you can do it - doesn’t mean you should.

Sure- some people will never do a job as well as you do (like fold linen), but you have to let some of this go if we are going to have households that break down gender stereotypes. The world has changed, and women need more equity in the workforce, but also on the home front.

Start with outsourcing the “what’s for dinner” question that 95 percent of mums get asked every night. As a family, sit down and decide the meal plan for the week together. Create a shopping list together, work out who can cook what meals that week and who can help prepare the ingredients. I think if every household did this, it’s one big change that will take some of the mental load off busy mums and that’s a win for everyone.

I see a generation of incredible women who are trying to ‘do it all’ - being ‘super women’ at home and at work, but are we creating a rod for our own backs?

Bree

I think so; it’s unsustainable and we generate more work for ourselves if we keep taking it all on - believing;

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Cultivating Mindfulness to Raise Children Who Thrive: Why Human Connection from Before Birth Matters STORY Antonella Sansone We are at the frontline of a global mental health crisis.

There is an urgent need to prepare our children for the challenging future they are facing by enhancing their health and wellbeing - building greater resilience.

But how do we protect and nourish their minds so that they can pass their mental health and human virtues onto next generations and make our planet a better place to live in?

You might be surprised to learn it starts before birth - with you, and continues during pregnancy, when the baby’s development in the womb is affected by epigenetic (environmental) influences, including a mother’s health and wellbeing, which impact on gene expression. In short, your health - including your mental health, is the foundation for your child’s health.

Why Mothers’ and Fathers’ Mental Health Matters The World Health Organisation (2018) recognises the mental health of pregnant and new mothers as key to the health, growth, and development of very young children, wellbeing of individuals, societies, economies and our planet. Therefore, supporting maternal mental health must be a research and public priority.

Pregnancy and the postpartum period can be times of joy and anticipation but also of challenge and stress for the mother and her baby, father, and family. The first 1001 days from conception can be a time of high risk for the onset or relapse of parental mental health problems, with potential consequences on the caregiving function and the development of the unborn baby and child.

Evidence has increasingly linked maternal stress, depression and anxiety during pregnancy and in the early period after birth with unborn and child

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neurodevelopmental outcomes, including the capacity for social engagement, self-regulation, reactivity to stress, and cognitive skills. High levels of cortisol found in women with depression, anxiety, and stress cross the placenta and may alter baby development at critical phases.

Maternal mental health problems also hinder motherbaby relationship/bonding during pregnancy and after birth, mother’s sensitivity and responsiveness to the baby’s body signals and later verbal communication.

Depressed or stressed mothers are less likely to interpret their infants’ body cues, attune and verbally engage with them, and more likely to manifest irritable behaviour with them. The negative affect and preoccupations with her own issues may hinder a mother’s ability to be present and connect with her baby, which highlights the need to mitigate postnatal mental issues and support good maternal emotional availability.

While the impact of the mother on child development has been studied widely, the role of the father’s mental health in supporting maternal mental health and facilitating the conditions for the mother-infant relationship from pregnancy has been neglected.

In this crucial period of transition, the mental state of fathers and mothers influence each other and can negatively or positively impact their child’s development and wellbeing. If one of the partners is depressed the entire family system is compromised. Therefore, acknowledging the importance of the father and his mental health during pregnancy (if not before), supporting his role, identifying his difficulties and promoting his involvement in and contribution to the journey to parenthood and child development and wellbeing is essential.

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Parenting Begins from Conception With all this evidence, we know the preconception and prenatal period provides a window of opportunity to optimise the womb environment and child development.

By enhancing their health and mental wellbeing months before conception and during pregnancy, parents contribute to their child’s health.

Although the brain is sensitive to experience throughout life, experiences in the prenatal and early postnatal stages shape to a large extend our biological and psychological make up – medical conditions, immune system, reaction to stress, ability to relate to others, to love and be loved, to cooperate in society and share care, to be empathic and compassionate towards others. It follows that the earliest period of life provides a unique opportunity for the primary prevention of biological, psychological and societal disorders.

Science confirms what indigenous people worldwide have known for millennia: the deep realm of consciousness and mindfulness practices before conception, during life in the womb, birth and beyond - play a critical role in human development and health and wellbeing.

The Benefits of Cultivating Mindfulness Mindfulness is a way of being and a way of life. Perhaps the most widely quoted definition of mindfulness comes from Jon Kabat-Zinn, “The awareness that arises from paying attention on purpose, in the present moment, and nonjudgmentally, to the unfolding of experience, moment by moment” (2003, p. 145).

Most of us are more used to its opposite - times of mindlessness - when we are taken away by thoughts or worries, not really conscious of what is going on and liable to repeatedly make mistakes and unwise choices.

This prevents us from being in the present moment and connecting with what is going on within ourself, around us and within our children.

In the last 10 years, scientists have provided solid evidence of the benefits of mindfulness

meditation in mitigating depression, anxiety, and stress symptoms – improving our capacity to regulate emotions and cope with stress. Cutting-edge research shows how the practice of mindfulness – without drugs or high expense - can cultivate qualities such as selflessness, love, empathy, compassion, receptive attention, engagement, and can also redesign our mental circuitry. Interestingly, these qualities are fundamental for parenting, fostering secure attachment in children and wellbeing.

Mindfulness practice can provide the psychological flexibility to adapt to the challenges of the perinatal period. The parent’s practice of present-moment awareness of both their child and their own thoughts and emotions without judgement and the acceptance of them for what they are - may be protective psychological strategies. Mindful parenting has also been found to have positive effects on child outcomes, such as better self-regulation and lower levels of negative affect.

A large number of pregnant mothers may be either unaware of being affected by psychological issues or have resistances against seeking support due to cultural stigmatization. Because the practice of mindfulness is considered a way of life; a self-development practice - more than a form of treatment, pregnant and new mothers may feel less stigmatized than they would if using an antidepressant or received psychotherapy, and more open to joining a mindfulness-based group.

The Prenatal Mindfulness Relationship-Based (PMRB) Program With this in mind, I developed the Prenatal and Perinatal Mindfulness Relationship (PMRB) Program supporting mental health and the mother-baby relationship during pregnancy, birth and beyond. A shift in focus from “when the baby arrives to the baby is already here and I am connected with this baby” is at the base of the PMRB Program, teaching parents’ communication abilities, mindful awareness, calming techniques and wisdom abilities that guided mothers for millennia, to create a conscious connection with bi-directional interactions far before birth.

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Antonella Sansone is a mother, clinical psychologist, researcher, mindfulness teacher/ facilitator and author. Her work with expectant and new parents and infants in UK and Italy, empirical studies of African indigenous cultures, and inspiring motherhood have led her to write the book Cultivating Mindfulness to Raise Children Who Thrive : Why Connection from Before Birth Matters and the design of a PhD drawing on it. She has been granted the International Excellence Award from Central Queensland University.

To purchase a copy of Antonella’s book head to www.routledge.com. You can also find out more about Antonella and her research at www.antonellasansone.com

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STEAM

STEM-Powering Women WITH Dr Juliette Tobias-Webb As one of 60 women recognised as a 2019 - 2020 Superstar of STEM, Dr Juliette Tobias-Webb is one of Australia’s most impressive behavioural scientists. She has established a career creating real-world change by the application of scientific evidence. Juliette also leads a Women in Leadership MBA stream covering topics including empowerment, motivation, resilience, wellbeing, and equality through organisational design.

As we acknowledge the achievements and strive for equality for women this International Women’s Day, we wanted to find out from Dr Tobias-Webb how she got involved in a STEM career and how we can support girls and women interested in these fields and even the field for them.

How Did You Get Involved in STEM as a Career?

I got involved in STEM almost by accident. I loved biology at school, and understanding the human body and marine biology, but when I went to university I got really interested in the psychology and neuroscience side of human behaviour. So, now I work with companies and look at how we use neuroscience and psychology to build better products and services and then we experiment, using scientific methods to be able to prove a causal impact of the solutions we designed to help change behaviour.

What Careers are Possible in STEM? There are so many careers and so many ways to get into those careers. Traditionally we often think about needing to go to university to get into a STEM career, but now companies focus on technology so much, that they offer career pathways where you can go straight from school or straight from undergraduate university to build better skills and capabilities. But even at school people can start experimenting with Science, Technology, Engineering and Math – to start their career earlier and build their skills.

The key is understanding what you find very interesting and rolling with that, as opposed to having to choose a career if you’re not sure. Start by thinking about those things that interest you and seeing where they take you.

Even my field, Behavioural Science didn’t exist five to ten years ago, but what we find now is that the career that you may end up in - might not even exist yet. But

rather, the basic skills and capabilities you need to learn are already there. You’ll be paving the way… we’ve got so much change happening.

Things to Consider for Girls Interested in STEM It’s important that girls have exposure to people within those fields. If you’re a parent, ensure you are giving equal opportunities for girls as well as boys to learn about Science, Technology, Engineering and Mathematics.

There are studies conducted in schools, showing that in STEM Classes - boys will get more time to answer questions than girls, they’ll get different rewards, girls are more brushed over. They also found we teach boys more about how to deal with their finances and math.

So, we really need to make an effort to give equal time to both girls and boys.

You can also buy some books for both girls and boys around the amazing women in STEM to open their ideas and minds to both genders in these fields.

Addressing Stereotypes We need to smash those stereotypes. Often when we know those stereotypes, we can succumb to what’s called ‘stereotype threat’, where we feed into those ideas mentally. Recently, there have been some studies that have shown there’s small or no difference between girls and boys in terms of their mathematical ability. It’s actually something we have socialized, and therefore put into the minds of young individuals. We need to make sure we don’t perpetuate those beliefs and become more conscious of what we say and the impact that can have on our children. E.g. ‘I’m a female, I’m no good at navigation’.

What is Something You Love That’s Happening in STEM? I love the work going on in the climate change field, like being able to understand how we take plastics and break them down by making new bacteria, being able to understand how we change electric cars and create clean energy. I really like the idea of ‘how do we reverse some of the impact we’ve had on the environment by using Science, Technology, Engineering and Math altogether?’

Dr Juliette Tobias-Webb holds a PhD in Experimental Psychology from Cambridge University, and has a passion for human behaviour and psychology. www.behaviouralscience.com.au

For more on how to inspire and support girls who love Science, Technology, Engineering and Maths, tune into Episode 89 of the PakMag Parents Podcast with Dr Tobias-Webb joining Bree.

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Great STEM Resources Science & Technology Australia www.scienceandtechnologyaustralia.org.au Science and Technology Australia (STA) brings together scientists, governments, industry and the community to advance ‘public good and social and community welfare,’ as well as strengthening society ‘through education, outreach and programs.’ In doing so, they aim to ‘advance the impact of science and technology to help solve some of humanity’s greatest challenges, including saving and improving lives.’

Members enjoy a range of workshops, programs, and events which provide skills, connections and opportunities in STEM.

STEM Women www.stemwomen.org.au STEM Women is a directory of Australian women working in STEM. They promote gender equity and showcase the talents of these women, raising profiles and providing opportunities to those who may experience barriers throughout their STEM Careers.

You can sign up as an expert or connect with the experts. Looking for a mentor? This is the perfect place to find one.

STEAM Careers For The 21st Century Blog post can be found at www.pakmag.com.au The World Economic Forum has estimated that 65 per cent of children entering school will work in a job that doesn’t even exist today! With technology at the forefront of these advancements, STEAM Careers are the careers of the future.

Learn about predicted future STEAM Careers including Green Power Creators, Drone Technicians and 3D Printing Engineers and how you can prepare yourself for them.

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From humble beginnings in 2016, MacKillop has grown each year to become a thriving, bustling school of around 650 students and over 100 staff in 2021.

By 2025 when our first Year 12 students graduate, we anticipate our P-12 school will be educating over 1,000 students in the state-of-the-art, modern facilities. We invite your family to be part of the amazing growth here at MacKillop.

As a modern Catholic school, MacKillop is proud of the reputation we have built for being open, friendly, and inclusive. We welcome applications from all families, regardless of their religious affiliations. We offer a values-based education and a safe, happy, familyoriented environment. Pastoral care of our students and their social-emotional learning underpin all that we do.

The MacKillop Way of learning is based on the values of Respect, Engagement and Personal Best.

Our focus on a growth mindset permeates all learning from Prep through to secondary schooling. Students are encouraged to embrace challenges, be persistent, and to become resilient learners for life. Our agile learning spaces facilitate delivery of a dynamic and integrated curriculum, with a focus on 21st century skills such as communication, collaboration, creativity and critical thinking. Our goal is to prepare students for a range of pathways – university, the world of work, or vocational training and apprenticeships.

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Applications for Prep through to Year 9 in 2022 are now open. If you would like to join the MacKillop family, apply online now via our website. Come and discover the MacKillop difference!

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Parenting

Bully-Proofing Your Child STORY Dr Rosina McAlpine, Win Win Parenting

The Problem It is clear from world-wide statistics that bullying in schools and online is an ongoing issue. Bullying can take many forms including: • Physical bullying: restraining, hitting, punching, kicking or harming with a weapon.

• Verbal bullying: name calling ethnicity, sexual orientation, physical attributes, religion, disability, teasing, threats.

• Social bullying: ignoring, excluding from a group.

• Psychological bullying: spreading rumours, hiding or damaging property, cruel phone calls, embarrassing photos online, hurtful text messages or emails.

It is difficult to determine the rate of bullying as studies have suggested that up to 64 percent of bullied children do not report iti.

So, what can parents, carers and teachers do?

Getting Help Bullying can result in many harmful outcomes including physical harm, emotional turmoil, social isolation and mental health issues. Severe bullying can even result in death, which is why it is crucial to support children who are being bullied to ensure the bullying stops and they get the help they need to recover.

Depending on the severity of the bullying, responses include reporting the bullying to the school, seeking legal advice or reporting it to the police. Support could include providing opportunities for the child to speak with trusted friends, family or professionals like a school counsellor or other mental health professionals.

According to the authors of a bulletin for the World Health Organization, bullying is a major health problem that requires the efforts of families, communities, schools, policymakers, and health-care providers.ii

Recognise the Signs Given we know that many children do not report bullying – especially if it is non-physical – parents,

teachers and carers need to have open conversations with children and learn to read the signs.

Signs a child might be being bullied include: • A marked change in personality; • Withdrawing - not wanting to socialise; • School avoidance or refusal; • Loss of motivation; • Increased sickness – head aches and stomach aches; • Emotional outbursts; and • Poor sleep and nightmares.

While it is important to be able to recognise the signs that a child might be being bullied and to help them, perhaps there is something that can be done to help bully-proof children.

Protective Factors that Help to Prevent Bullying When we look at the research, it is clear that certain personal characteristics and skills help to protect children from bullying. Children are less likely to be bullied if they develop life skills including: • Emotional regulation: managing anxiety, depression and withdrawal • Social skills: to nurture friendships and manage conflict • Resilience and problem-solving skills: looking for solutions and having a growth mindset • Successful academic achievement Each of these characteristics, skills and processes can serve to protect children from being bullied.

This is where teachers, coaches and parents can take a pro-active approach to protecting children from being bullied by intentionally supporting children to develop these beneficial life skills. We also know from the research that certain parenting approaches can have a positive or negative impact.

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Parenting

Impact of Parenting Approach on Bullying A study by Lereya at al (2013)iii reviewed the research on the relationship between how parents interact with their children and the risk of those children becoming a victim of bullying or a bully. They looked at research studies between 1970 and 2012 which resulted in a sample of 208,000 children aged 4 - 25 years to explore the outcomes. The researchers found that children are more likely to bully or be bullied if parents: • are harsh; • role model anti-social behaviour; • have low levels of communication with their children; and • provide minimal supervision of their children.

In contrast, children are less likely to bully or be bullied if parents: • encourage open communication between parents and children; • nurture a warm and affectionate relationship with their children; • are interested, supportive and are involved in their children’s lives, and • supervise their children.

Strategies to Support Children who are Being Bulliediv The Youth Voice Project surveyed 11,893 students from grades 5 - 12 to uncover children’s perspectives on the most effective and least helpful strategies to support them through bullying.

Most helpful strategies included encouraging children to open up to someone: • An adult at home (parent, guardian, grandparent);

• Pretend it doesn’t bother you; • Tell the person how you feel; • Tell the person to stop; • Do nothing, walk away; • Solve the problem yourself; Stop “tattling”; • Make plans to get them back / hit or fight the bully; • Remind yourself it’s not your fault.

Self-Defence Are martial arts or self-defence classes helpful in overcome bullying? Reviews of the research on the benefits of martial arts training show the findings are mixed. Some studies report that the training can reduce aggression, anger and violence in youth and support self-control, emotional stability and self-esteem.

However, a recent review by Kooiv cautions that the outcome or impact of martial arts practice depends on the coach and his/her teaching style.

Powerful Strategies When it comes to overcoming the psychological impact of bullying, it is a child’s mental self-defence and mental wellbeing that are their most powerful strategies to becoming bully-proof. You can learn more about this in Sue Anderson’s book Unbullyable. Another resource is my Personal Power Life Skills Home Activity Book (www.drrosina.com/personal-power-ebook), which contains twelve life skills activities to help your child to develop healthy self-esteem, to be resilient and better manage their emotions, thoughts and behaviours – to support their wellbeing and help them to be bully-proof!

As parents, teachers and carers, we can’t shield children from all the challenges they may face in life – but we can help them to develop the knowledge and skills they need to overcome difficulties and succeed in life.

• A sympathetic friend; • An adult at school (teacher, counsellor, principal).

What children said they wanted was for adults to listen, offer ideas and to check in later to see if the bullying has stopped.

While every case of bullying is different (so there are no simple solutions), somewhat helpful strategies in some cases are: • Increased adult supervision for a time; • Meeting with, punishing or talking to the child(ren) who were bullying; • Talk with the whole class about bullying behaviour.

Children in this study said the least helpful and ineffective strategies included saying to a child:

Petrosino, A., Guckenburg, S., DeVoe, J., and Hanson, T. (2010). What characteristics of bullying, bullying victims, and schools are associated with increased reporting of bullying to school officials? (Issues & Answers Report, REL 2010–No. 092). ii Srabstein and Leventhal, Bulletin of the World Health Organization 2010 ;88:403-403. doi: 10.2471/BLT.10.077123 iii Lereya, Muntha and Wolke (2013) Parenting Behaviour and the risk of becoming a victim and a bully/victim: A meta-analysis study. iv Youth Voice Project: student’s perceptions about strategy effectiveness to reduce peer mistreatment. http://njbullying.org/documents/YVPMarch2010.pdf v Kooi, M. (2020) Developmental outcomes and meanings in martial arts practice among youth: a review i

Dr Rosina McAlpine is the CEO and creator of the Win Win Parenting program. Win Win Parenting practical and fun programs are delivered across a variety of organisations including early learning, school, corporate and government organisations in Australia, New Zealand and The United States. Dr Rosina is an internationally recognised awardwinning researcher and educator. www.winwinparenting.com

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Cairns Adventist College Nurturing Life-long Learners Choosing a school for your child is one of the most important decisions you will ever make. Cairns Adventist College is a learning community that is committed to providing high quality Christian education designed to meet the needs of students.

This is done in a nurturing, family focused environment.

We have a qualified, dedicated and innovative teaching staff and teacher aides that are here to support each child. This year we have also established a learning support team to help students to reach their full potential.

When children love to learn and are keen to discover new things, school becomes a fun and exciting place to be. At Cairns Adventist College, children are encouraged to develop as a whole person through academic, creative, physical, social and spiritual activities. Although our academic program has a strong emphasis on literacy and numeracy, we believe that it

should always be mixed with loads of fun. Teachers use a lot of project-based learning especially in the areas of Science and Technology.

While learning continues for a lifetime, a good start can make the rest of life much easier.

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Education

The Formula for Building Trust and Collaboration Between Parents, Teachers and Your Child’s School: 3 + 3 + 3 + 5 + 2 STORY Andrew Oberthur When a child comes home from school and shares their recollection about something that has happened during the day, the parent has the choice of three responses from which they may choose in dealing with their child’s concern.

The first option might be to contact the school staff and “explode”. This will not build a relationship between the school and the parents. In fact, it will break down the relationship.

The second option is for the parents to say to the child; “Thanks very much, I believe your story but toughen up, and be more resilient”. This in effect is brushing the child aside. They're not giving them the support and empowerment that they need and deserve.

The third option is for the parents to listen to the child cautiously and then choose one of three responses, and then one of three questions which they should ask the school staff.

The first question is simply to ask the staff – “What happened at school?” regarding this particular matter. They would report what their child has said about the incident and they then give the school staff the opportunity to respond. At that point the parents will reflect as to the accuracy of both stories so that they can move forward supporting their child.

The second question to use is – “What is the school’s policy, protocols or procedures regarding…… (whatever)?” With that information provided, they are in a position to judge whether or not the school followed the process and protocols or whether or not the school has let them down.

The third question to use is - “What can we, as parents and teachers do in working together for my child's education?” This highlights the need for collaboration.

It highlights the importance of the parents and teachers working together and providing a common vision of education for the child.

When a parent comes and expresses some concerns to a teacher, the teacher can easily get defensive.

If we are in a position to build a culture of trust and collaboration between parents and teachers, then I believe there are only three questions that teachers need to ask parents in response to any of the concerns.

The first question is simply “What do you need?”

This means that the parents need to reflect upon the purpose as to why they are coming and having a conversation with the teacher and what they hope to achieve by having a conversation. As soon as the teacher asks the question “What do you need?” they are responding to the importance of the parents’ query.

This adds value to the parents’ question, the parent feels that they are important, that their query is validated and that it will be addressed.

The second question that teachers could ask parents is- “What do you imagine that would look like in our classroom or in our school?” So when a parent comes and asks for a request for something to be achieved or something to be done, and the teacher asks the parent “What you think that would look like?” it puts the emphasis back on the parent to try articulate the practical application for their query to be implemented in the classroom or school setting.

The third question that teachers can ask parents is “Is there anything else you'd like to ask or say or tell me before we close the meeting?” This gives the parents the chance to reflect to ensure that their needs have been met and both parties can walk away content that they have been heard. It's a simple technique which allows teachers to close off the conversation. It also allows the parents some closure.

As a parent, when you visit a school to make an enquiry, you can re-frame your questions around this model even if the teachers don’t use the questions to direct your conversation.

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Education

When a parent goes to their child’s school, they usually approach the teachers or the principal for one of five reasons. Once they are asked- “What do you need?” it helps them reflect on why they have gone to the school.

The first reason why parents go to school is to simply share information, good or bad. It might be to give information, to give praise, to simply to get something off their chest or to express their opinion.

Once they have expressed their concerns about whatever, they're happy.

The second reason parents may come to a school is to seek information, context or history. They just want to understand the history so that they get a better grasp of why the system exists and how long the system has existed. They are just seeking information, context or history.

The third reason parents may go to school may be to offer a solution. Parents may have expertise in a field that may add value to the school. The principal often calls upon parent expertise in an advisory capacity.

This model is relevant when parents have a particular

skill set that can benefit the school community.

The fourth reason may be that the parents are asking the school for a resolution or a solution to a particular issue. If the processes are reviewed and can be improved, then a solution may be possible. Solutions are not always possible or resolutions may not always give the parents their desired outcome. It is important to remember that principals and school leaders make decisions in the best interests of all (or the majority) of families and students.

Similar to the fourth reason, is the fifth reason parents may engage with schools – and that is to seek advice from staff. This model requires the parents to own the implementation of the advice. This highlights collaboration as the parents request advice from the staff, and then the parents act on it.

When teachers respond to any parent request, they should filter their response with these two criteria: is the response sustainable and realistic. If the teacher’s response meets these criteria then it may be a viable option. If the response desired by the parents from the teacher does not meet these criteria then it would be advisable to re-think the options. It may be necessary to revisit the first question from teacher to parents – what do you need? This may prompt the parents to re-think their desired outcomes.

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Andrew Oberthur is the married father of two teenagers and a primary school principal, with over 30 years experience. Through his vast experience and own study, Andrew has developed three main areas of interest and expertise: School readiness for families / staff of children getting ready for school, building a culture of trust, collaboration and enquiry between parents and teachers, communication skills for teachers and parents working together for the benefit of their common interest - their children. In 2018 he published his first book “Are You Ready for Primary School This Year?” which is about building a culture of trust, collaboration and enquiry between parents and teachers.

His book is available from his website www.creativecollaborativesolutions.net

Tune into Episode 22 of the PakMag Parents Podcast with Andrew Oberthur for more on why it’s important to establish a positive relationship with your child’s teacher.

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Expert Advice

The PakMag Experts Dr Bobby Griffin

Dr Richard Thomas

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Dear Dr Bobby,

Dear Dr Richard Thomas,

My husband and I had crooked teeth. Will this affect our children’s teeth?

My dog is overweight.

What can I do?

“A chip off the old block.” When it comes to teeth, this is so true!

While it’s true that the health of our teeth gets better with each generation (think: grandma with false teeth), our susceptibility to dental crowding or destructive bite patterns doesn’t change. This is genetically determined and passed down to our children.

With 41.5 percent of dogs and 32 percent of cats overweight or obese, obesity is the most common form of malnutrition for Australian pets. Overweight pets suffer more physical ailments and don’t live as long.

So how can we get your pet back to their ideal weight?

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That is why it is so important to see a Specialist Orthodontist by the time your child gets to 9 years old.

At this age, we can usually predict if your children will have orthodontic problems.

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I’m struggling to manage all my medications. Is there a better way?

I’m curious about using a menstrual cup but I’m not sure how I feel about trying something new…

Managing multiple medications is hard and can take a toll on anyone, but luckily there are some great services you can take advantage of to make it easier! At Calanna Pharmacy, we offer free medication checks which includes a one-on-one with our Pharmacists to discuss how you can better manage your medications and get the most out of them. We also offer free medication packing where we pack your medicines into simple daily doses that are easy to use and dated - so you know what medicine to take, when and they are easy to carry so you can take them with you wherever you go.

Made from silicon, menstrual cups are reusable and can last up to 10 years - saving you money and saving the environment from waste. They hold more volume than a tampon so can be left in for up to 12 hours without the risk of Toxic Shock Syndrome. Most retailers that stock menstrual cups will have a few samples available for you to feel the texture and flexibility and they’ll hopefully give you tips on how to use cups effectively.

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Health

All Things Health Feeling Tired? The Best Ways to Help Support Your Energy Levels as a Parent STORY Eloise Wellings Olympic Athlete and mother-of-two Nobody wants to feel tired and sluggish, it’s hard enough to do anything when you are feeling low on energy, let alone a parent.

We all want to be able to show up in the world for ourselves – to be able to reach our own full potential, but we also want to be able to show up for those around us. That’s really hard to do when you may be feeling low on energy.

If you’re starting to feel the signs of being low on energy, here’s five tips to help support your energy levels:

1. You may want to consider supplementing with Ubiquinol, the antioxidant found naturally in our bodies which helps support our energy levels (more info below).

2. Get regular exercise. We all know the incredible benefits of exercise.

Keep it simple. Create a routine that’s fun, convenient and sustainable so you can carry it on long-term and it becomes part of your everyday life.

3. Prioritise good nutrition. Don’t get caught up in fad diets, just eat lots of fresh, unprocessed food that’s going to help support your energy levels in your daily activities.

The Body’s ‘Spark Plug’ - Ubiquinol Ubiquinol, the active form of coq10, is a fat-soluble anti-oxidant found naturally in every cell in the body. It displays increased bioavailability compared with other forms of coq10. Ubiquinol can be likened to the body’s ‘spark plug’ and helps support the body’s cellular energy production. It helps support cardiovascular health, helps support sperm motility and morphology, and helps support overall health and wellbeing.

Ubiquinol may also help protect the body’s cells from the effects of oxidative stress.

You can find several products at Calanna Pharmacy, containing Ubiquinol. Ask their friendly team to recommend one today.

Speak to your healthcare practitioner before supplementing with Ubiquinol to determine if it is suitable for you.

4. Be intentional about rest. I’m not just talking about sleep, but also rest. Think about the types of restful activities that help support your energy levels (they’re usually things you’re passionate about) - e.g. reading a book, going on a long walk, playing music, writing in a journal, swimming in the ocean or taking a nap. It’s so important for busy parents to prioritise these things during the week to help avoid feeling burnt out or rundown.

5. Hydrate - drink more water. Dehydration zaps our energy, impairs physical performance and is shown to decrease alertness and concentration.

If the last 12 months has taught me anything, it’s that I don’t need my life to be as full as it was – to be fulfilled. Having been forced to slow down and even stop, has shown me that I don’t have to be that busy all the time to enjoy life or to be successful. It’s about prioritising things like family, community and being with people.

For more – listen to Episode 91 of the PakMag Parents Podcast with Eloise, joining Bree.

Consult your local health practitioner, doctor or pharmacist for advice on these topics first to ensure the best health outcomes.

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Parent's Puzzle: Sudoku Each of the nine blocks must contain all the numbers 1-9 within its squares. Each number can only appear once in a row, column or box.

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All clothing is 100% cotton and designed and printed in Brisbane. $1 from every sale is donated to the charity PANDA to help women and families suffering with PND. Founder Kat Deluca started the brand after being hospitalised with postnatal anxiety in late 2019. www.delucaapparel.com.au Visit www.pakmag.com.au/win for your chance to win! Competition closes 31/03/2021. No need to submit answers to enter.

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Food

Sensational Salads

Greek Salad and Spiced Grilled Chicken Salad Ingredients 1 cup of grape or cherry tomatoes, cut in half I large Lebanese cucumber 1 large yellow capsicum ½ cup pitted kalamata olives, cut in half 2 cups baby cos ½ Spanish onion sliced Sesame seeds Greek salad dressing (store-bought or homemade) 2 large chicken breasts, sliced in half lengthwise

Chicken Marinade Ingredients cup Greek yoghurt ¼ cup olive oil 1 lemon 4 cloves minced garlic 2 tbsp fresh or dried oregano 1 tbsp smoked paprika ½ tsp salt ½ tsp black pepper

Roasted Sweet Potato and Avocado Salad Ingredients 4 cups sweet potato, cut into cubes 1 can chickpeas (drained) 3 cups baby spinach 1 avocado 3 tbsp olive oil

1 tsp turmeric 1 tsp cumin 1 tsp smoked paprika 1 tsp salt Pepper to taste Sesame seeds

Method Pre-heat oven to 200°C. Line two baking trays with baking paper.

Place yoghurt and oil in a bowl. Add the zest of the lemon, before juicing and adding to the bowl. Add the remaining marinade ingredients and stir.

Combine the sweet potatoes and chickpeas into a bowl, toss through the olive oil. Sprinkle the turmeric, cumin, smoked paprika, salt and pepper over the mix and stir until the pieces are evenly seasoned. As an alternative, you can also add all ingredients to a large zip lock bag, seal and mix that way.

In a separate bowl, place the chicken and half the marinade and place in the fridge for at least 30 minutes.

While your chicken is marinading, prepare your salad.

Once seasoned, place the sweet potatoes and chickpeas onto the baking trays and bake for 20 - 25 minutes, turning once halfway.

Once the chicken breasts are marinaded, grill on a medium heat. Don’t forget to lightly oil your grill pan.

Once cooked, allow to cool until the sweet potatoes and chickpeas are at room temperature.

Use the remaining marinade to baste your chicken while you grill. Cook for approximately 15 – 20 minutes.

Take off heat and allow to rest for five minutes, before cutting into slices.

Add the mix to the spinach leaves in a serving bowl. Cut an avocado into bite-sized cubes and place on the top of the salad. Sprinkle with sesame seeds.

Method

Portion out your salad, add salad dressing to taste, place the grilled chicken pieces on top and lightly sprinkle sesame seeds as a finishing touch.

You can simply serve with a lemon wedge to squeeze over the top, or you can choose to use a salad dressing.

We recommend a nice tahini and lemon juice dressing if choosing this option.

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Craft

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What You Need

What You Need Scissors Craft glue Hole Punch

Coloured Popsicle Sticks Drill with small drill bit A4 Paper Pencil

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Green craft paper (various shades) Green felt pen Pom poms (large) Googly eyes

Watercolour paint Paintbrush and water Craft glue or glue gun Split pin paper fasteners

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Method Method Draw a leaf shape onto your green craft paper. Draw on leaf details, using a green felt pen.

You will then cut out the leaves. For younger children, they may need adult assistance during this step.

Use the hole punch to create little chew marks from your hungry caterpillar. To give the leaf more shape, you can fold the leaf along the middle.

To create your caterpillar, grab however many pom poms you’d like and glue them together in a line. Please note: your caterpillar can be as long or short as you want, and any colour combination you like. Allow time for the glue to dry.

To finish your caterpillar, glue two googly eyes to one end. One complete, place your caterpillar on their leaf.

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Draw out your fan shape onto your A4 paper. Using your watercolours, decorate the fan area in any fruity design you like. Dry and cut out.

Ask an adult to drill the holes into one end of each popsicle stick. You will need five sticks with a hole large enough to poke through the ends of the stick pin paper fastener. The head of the fastener needs to be bigger than the hole. Fix the Popsicle sticks together with the fastener, by bending the ends of the fastener back.

Evenly spread the popsicle sticks apart and glue one end (the open end) to the back of your fan. Allow to dry.

Once dry, fold each popsicle stick in on each other, creating the folds of the fan as you go.

Please note: The fans pictured here have a fruity theme, but your fan can be any design you like.

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Fire-breathing Dragons

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What You Need

What You Need Red, orange and yellow tissue paper Glue stick Glue gun or glue dots

Empty wrapping paper rolls Aluminium foil Scissors Craft knife

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Paper towel roll (cut in half) Craft paper Large and small pom poms Googly eyes Scissors

Glue and/or sticky tape Glue gun Decorative stick-on ‘jewels’ Scrap cardboard

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Cut your coloured craft paper to the size of your paper roll. You want it long enough to wrap all the way around.

Glue to the paper roll using your glue stick.

Flatten one end of your wrapping paper roll, then join the sides with a glue gun or sticky tape. Cut this end to a blunt point.

Attach the googly eyes to the large pop poms using the glue gun or glue dots. For younger children, we recommend using glue dots until they are confident using a glue gun to avoid any burns. Once you have dried your dragon’s eyes, glue them to one end of the paper roll as you see in the picture. Then attach the smaller pom poms to the other end to create the dragon’s nostrils.

To make the handle (hilt) of your sword; cut a piece of cardboard into a long rectangular strip, at least 30 cm long and slightly wider than your wrapping paper roll.

Round the ends of the cardboard strip.

To create the dragon’s fiery breath, cut the tissue paper into pointy 20 – 25 cm strips. Using your glue stick, glue the non-pointy ends of the tissue paper to the inside of the ‘nostril’ end of the paper roll.

Trace the round end of the wrapping paper roll near one end of your cardboard strip. Ask a parent to cut this circle out with a craft knife. Slide the cardboard strip over the end of the wrapping paper roll, leaving about a toilet roll’s distance from the end. Secure in place with a glue gun, so you are left with the semi-circle sword handle as pictured.

Once the glue is all dry, you can blow on the open end of your dragon’s head and watch as the dragon ‘breathes fire’!

Cover the ‘blade’ end of your sword with glue, and then aluminium foil. Lastly, decorate your sword’s handle with stick on jewels.

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Bump, Bub and Beyond

Trauma Births: How to Heal Mentally and Physically STORY Catharine Ross Having a baby is said to be one of the most painful experiences a woman can go through in her lifetime.

It’s the emotional pain however that can often linger long after the physical pain has gone, and something that isn’t as recognised or talked about.

We’re conditioned to feel nothing but gratitude and bliss for this little bundle and jolt into this new world of motherhood.

For one in three women, this is not reality. Birth trauma is not just what happened during labour and birth.

It’s also how you experience motherhood and more than just the ‘baby blues’.

PTSD can develop if these negative experiences are left untreated – one study found that more than 1 in 20 mums may display signs of PTSD three months post-partum.

As an EFT Tapping practitioner, I’ve seen many women with birth trauma. Some had emergency c-sections or complications with the baby straight after birth.

Some were disempowered and felt helpless due to unwanted interventions and decisions made without their consent.

I once had a client whose traumatic experience had a huge effect on not just how she coped early on, but on her ability to feel the same connection and closeness she had with her other daughter.

Her subconscious was so traumatised by the experience, that their relationship was impaired.

She’d been through excruciating labour, ending in a c-section. She felt like a failure and went on to have other interventions against her wishes, feeling totally out of control.

Once her daughter was born, she was whisked away and Mum was left to process what had happened. She felt isolated and powerless. She couldn’t even hold her baby. Add to that her treatment by staff, and you have a recipe for PTSD… which she suffered with for seven years before coming to me.

We worked through her emotions of helplessness, grief and anger at herself for having a ‘disconnected’ relationship with her youngest using EFT Tapping – an evidence-based form of energy psychology, like emotional acupuncture without needles. The intensity of her feelings reduced in minutes.

We cleared the emotions in her memory of the birth using this gentle technique so she could let it go subconsciously. We visualised a more empowering birth that she had wanted and literally ‘tapped’ it into her subconscious (our brain remembers in pictures and feeling so we can change what we believe has happened). For the first time she was able to recall her experience without being triggered – as if it had happened to someone else.

The next day she excitedly told me when she got home her youngest ran up to her and uncharacteristically said “I love you Mummy!” In that moment, she said her connection had been restored and she was more engaged for the first time since her birth.

Energy work always amazes me. The flow-on effects that happen through working on our ‘stuff’ can be so transformative. If you’re ready to heal from your experiences, try Tapping – it’s such a valuable tool for releasing traumas, emotions and allowing you to move forward. If this lady can change not only her memory of events but also her relationship with her daughter, you can find greater acceptance, healing and peace too.

Catharine Ross is a Certified EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) and Matrix Re-imprinting Practioner, who has worked with parents and kids for the past eight years to help them find relief from their emotional blocks to find success and happiness.

She can help with stress and anxiety management and moving through past trauma. breakfreewitheft www.breakfreewitheft.com

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Bump, Bub and Beyond

Bump, Bub and Beyond Featured products, reviews and prizes. Visit www.pakmag.com.au/win for your chance to win!

Ultrasound Keepsake $239.00 - www.wallsofstories.com.au Ultrasounds are one of the most precious possessions you’ll own - it’s the first time you physically see your baby and marks a special milestone. Have your ultrasound printed on leather grain fabric, in your choice of birthstone colour. Framed in a hand woven hoop, surrounded by luxe, ethically sourced feathers and embellished with genuine moonstone gemstones.

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Baby Moses Baskets are ideal for a newborn baby as they are cosy and the lightweight portability of the basket makes it easy to keep the baby close to you wherever you are in your house. Made from sustainable materials, it is a natural bedding choice for your new baby. Comes with a fitted mattress made in Australia.

Brandt Convertible Rocking Armchair $304.00 - www.luxoliving.com.au The Brandt Convertible Rocking Chair combines ultimate comfort with impeccable grace. Featuring a wingback design, solid wood frame wrapped high-quality fabric, and deep foam padding gives this seat unbeatable comfort and support. It’s stylish pine wood legs can be adjusted to transform this chair into a rocker, lounge chair, or bench.

The arms are also at the perfect height to provide support for nursing mothers. Available in a range of colours.

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Bump, Bub and Beyond

All About Gross Motor Skills Gross motor skills involve the use of the larger muscles in the body to run, kick and throw. They also help us sit upright, stand up and walk. These skills are vital to carry out everyday tasks such as getting dressed (standing on one leg to put your leg into a pant leg), getting in and out of the car and in and out of bed. Great gross motor skills also improve balance,

strength, coordination, endurance and body awareness.

The development of gross motor skills starts when your child is just a few months old and learning to roll over and sit up unsupported. By the age of one, most children will be crawling, pulling themselves up to stand and taking a few steps unsupported. Before you know it, they’ll be picking up toys off the floor, walking up and down stairs, kicking and throwing balls and of course, running all over the place.

If your child is struggling with gross motor skills, they may show disinterest in physical tasks, rush physical tasks to mask their difficulty or act bossy towards others in regards to how the task is performed.

Where to Find Support Postnatal depression is very common, affecting both mums and dads - and you are not alone. It’s normal to experience both good and bad days, but if you believe you may have postnatal depression or anxiety or are struggling in another way after the birth of your baby, don’t hesitate and reach out for help. You can contact the PANDA (Perinatal Anxiety and Depression Australia) hotline on 1300 726 306, Parentline on 1300 301 300 or Relationships Australia on 1300 364 277 for help. You can also look into local support groups in your area.

You can help your child develop their gross motor skills development by encouraging them to play ball games, jump on the trampoline, playing tug of war, walking on a balance beam or doing obstacle courses.

If you have any concerns about your child’s gross motor skills development, take them to your GP.

Postnatal Depression Fact While anywhere from 50 to 85 per cent of women experience ‘baby blues’ postpartum, postpartum depression is more serious and affects around one in seven women (and one in 20 men) after birth. Having postpartum depression certainly doesn’t make you a bad parent, and that’s a fact.

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Fertility to First Years

Fertility to First Years Guide Discovering you’re pregnant is an exciting time for any couple. Whether it’s the first time or the fifth time, knowing you’ve created a little human is pretty incredible. To help you prepare for their impending arrival and their first years we’ve collated a list of the best local businesses to help you on your parenting journey.

Childsworld Early Learning Childsworld accommodates children from the age of 6 weeks old (Nursery) to Kindergarten, Pre-School, along with Before and After School Care and Vacation Care programs. The centre’s have five separate, private, wellequipped, age-specific rooms that offer all children a stimulating learning environment which enhances every child’s development and their individual needs.

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Redlynch Daycare Centre Redlynch Daycare Centre caters for children from 6 weeks to school entry age. This Centre provides a safe and secure environment as an extension of each childs’ family setting. They provide morning tea, lunch, afternoon tea and late snacks to all children. The staff engage with children in centre activities to assist in building children’s play skills.

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Balance Edmonton Family Practice Getting pregnant naturally is not a walk in the park for everyone - it takes time. But you can start preparing yourself for pregnancy earlier than you think. It’s a good idea to start taking a prenatal vitamin 3 months before you start trying. It helps you create a nutritional haven for you and your baby; and is good for strong fetal development.

If you’ve been trying for a while and struggling to conceive, it’s good to check-in with your Doctor.

A 5 Walker Rd, Edmonton P 4055 4400 www.balancehealthclinic.com.au

Little Pearls Swim School Little Pearls Swim School is focused on giving your child the best water experience in a caring environment delivered by compassionate instructors. Swimming is a skill for life and swimming lessons are not only important for swimming skills but have been proven through research to improve your child’s development and learning in areas like language and other important life skills. Lessons start at 4 months of age.

A 1 Cumberland Ave, Smithfield P 4038 1241 www.littlepearlsswimschool.com.au

Cairns Early Parenting Centre The Early Parenting Centre at Cairns Private Hospital has a multi-disciplinary team of experts to support parents with infants aged from six weeks to two years during a four night residential stay. The program includes 24 hour one-to-one support and daily group education sessions, addressing concerns such as infant feeding, settling, maternal exhaustion/anxiety and adjustment to parenting.

Mindfulness, yoga and infant massage sessions are also available. Ask your doctor for a referral.

A 1 Upward St, Cairns (Cairns Private Hospital) P 4052 5200 www.cairnsprivate.com.au

Cairns Private Hospital Maternity Private Maternity Care your way at Cairns Private Hospital. Quality time and expert support before, during and after birth – with choice of obstetrician and their ‘Know my Midwife’ Program.

Maternity Care Navigator offers a personal, convenient one point of contact through your journey. Enjoy a delicious menu including complimentary ‘snacks as you please’ room service and even a luxury hotel stay option – where you can spend two nights at Riley Crystalbrook with midwife visits. They also have a Postnatal Drop In Clinic for up to 12 months post-birth and Lactation Clinic A 1 Upward St, Cairns (Cairns Private Hospital) P 4052 5200 www.cairnsprivate.com.au/Maternity

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Fertility to First Years

Little Aussie Monster Little Aussie Monster stocks a wide range of modern cloth nappies to suit from baby to adult. They are experts in reusable cloth products for families including reusable sanitary pads, nursing pads, swimming nappies, training pants and more. They are one of the largest cloth nappy stockist in Australia and have a shop front located in Earlville and ship products Worldwide.

A Shop 1-494/496 P 4221 2588 www.littleaussiemonster.com.au

Dr Phoebe Hong Dr Hong can offer you an empowered pregnancy journey. Her complete obstetric services and her vast experience in pregnancy care and management, including high risk and complicated pregnancies and deliveries, means you can have every confidence in your pregnancy care. She is also an expert at keyhole and laparoscopic procedures, so you can rest assured you’ll be in experienced hands. Dr Hong can speak Cantonese, Mandarin and basic Japanese.

A Level 2, Cairns Central Plaza P 4230 0030 www.drphoebehong.com.au

Cairns Doctors Cairns Doctors can assist with a range of women’s health services before, during and after birth.

They offer antenatal care which includes regular monitoring and treatment to detect and prevent pregnancy complications. They also offer lactation and breastfeeding advice, and can treat prolapse and incontinence. Once baby has arrived, you can take them to see Dr Arno Ebner at Cairns Doctors for all their paediatric needs.

A 2/532 Mulgrave Rd, Earlville P 4242 5300 www.cairns-doctors.com.au

Calanna Wholehealth Pharmacy Staff at Calanna Wholehealth Pharmacy are more than happy to help you stay healthy and happy during your pregnancy. They can provide recommendations for vitamins, pain relief, how to improve your fertility and more. Once your baby has arrived, they can also provide help on breastfeeding, baby products and supplies for common illnesses mum or bub may encounter.

A Woree, North Cairns, Cairns City, Edmonton, Atherton, Innisfail www.calannapharmacy.com.au

Pyramid Family Dental To ensure your baby’s oral health, you’re going to want to make sure they’ve seen a dentist visit by the time their first tooth erupts, or by 12 months of age – whichever comes first. So, get your child familiarised with a dental setting by booking them in for their first

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check-up at Pyramid Family Dental – they can make it a fun experience! You can also assist your baby’s oral health by getting the whole family to brush their teeth twice a day with their own toothbrushes, as well as booking them in for their regular six-month check-ups at Pyramid Family Dental. They can also look after you during your pregnancy to ensure your teeth are in tiptop condition.

A 46 Norman St, Gordonvale P 4237 1810 www.pyramidfamilydental.com.au

Mount Sheridan Plaza (Small Steps Club) Small Steps is a family group that provides a social environment for babies, toddlers, kids and adults.

Offering entertainment and educational activities to engage children as well as discounts at participating retailers and access to invitation-only events - join FREE today on their website.

A 106 Barnard Dr, Mount Sheridan P 4036 3150 www.mtsheridanplaza.com.au

Inflatable Kingdom Bounce, climb and slide on 10 exciting inflatables in airconditioned comfort. There is a dedicated Tiny Tots Area for under 5’s.

A 164 Mayers St, Manunda P 4032 2844 www.inflatablekingdom.com.au

Benevolent Society The Benevolent Society is Australia’s first charity with a vision for a just society where all Australians can live their best life. For over 200 years, they have been achieving positive outcomes for people with disability, older Australians, children and families, and carers across New South Wales, South Australia, and Queensland.

P 1800 236 762 Cairns Early Years Centre & Kindergarten www.benevolent.org.au

Wuchopperen Health Service Ltd Dedicated to improving the quality of life for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islanders, Wuchopperen provides holistic care for women and children through multiple services. These include maternal and child health, antenatal and postnatal care, immunisations for adults and children, social and emotional wellbeing, specialist clinics and paediatric clinics. They also offer a Healthy Happy Families program which focuses on respectful relationships and keeping children safe and secure, as well as a First Time Mums program which offers support to mothers until their baby has turned two years old.

A 6 Moignard St, Manoora or 7 Stokes St, Edmonton P 4080 1000 (Manoora) or 4040 3100 (Edmonton) www.wuchopperen.org.au

Daddy Diary

Daddy Diary Food, glorious food. A commodity so valuable Oliver Twist belted out a song about it. How great is food?

We owe a lot to food. Not only does it keep us kicking and screaming, but without it - network television wouldn’t have survived the last 10 years. I’m looking at you MKR and MasterChef.

My only problem with food is… I eat too much of it.

I adore food. Both my wife and I consider ourselves “foodies”. Food is life. At least that’s what I believe.

So, I ask you this Cairns - why, oh, why do I (and pretty much every parent at one stage or another) have such a problem getting my kids to eat it?

Back in the day the great Kings and Queens of England would employ food testers to ensure their tucker

Head to Parents and Kids of North Queensland YouTube Channel to see Bree’s up close interview with Cliffo.

wasn’t poisoned. I’m pretty sure if said profession still existed my two cherubs, Matilda (nearly seven) and Charlie (nearly two), would be first in line to employ one. I don’t know what secret plan these two think I’ve hatched with the food I offer them - but the answer is “no”. Despite the untrusting looks I receive across the dinner table - I’m not trying to poison them. Your pasta bake remains pure.

Things have gotten pretty bad in the last few months.

In the last week alone - I’ve seen noses turn away from sausages and mash, ham and cheese toasties, my mum’s famous savoury mince and even chicken nuggets and chips. CHICKEN NUGGETS AND CHIPS! I’m sorry, but if you don’t absolutely devour nuggets and chippies out of the air fryer - there is literally NOTHING you like.

There is one meal that gets us across the line though.

It’s become somewhat of a dinnertime ‘Holy Grail’ at the Clifton residence. Thank the sweet Lord for Tacos.

Without the delicious combo of mince, cheese, lettuce, tomato, sour cream and the shells (pretty much big corn chips) - I’m afraid my two sprogletts would have withered away to nothing.

So, for now it’s tacos that keep us kicking. Yes, my wife and I are a little over them but at least the kids are happy (and fed). So, I guess it’s tacos again tonight.

Otherwise, we could open our doors to Oliver Twist.

At least we know he’ll leave a clean plate at the end of the night.

Cliffo Hit 103.5

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Advertorial

The Five Types of Separations STORY Nardine Collier In my 25 years as a family lawyer, I have come across five types of separations (and just to note when I talk about couples, this means - married, defacto or same sex couples). Here is how we can help you, no matter what ‘type’ you are.

1. The DIY Money Saving Couple You come to us with exactly what you have both agreed to in your settlement. Not only that, but you have prepared some consent orders. We check over your paperwork for the financial separation and any parenting orders for your children so you can lodge them with the court without any issues. Just to note in that scenario, we are often asked if we can act for you both as a cost saving measure. Ethically, a lawyer can only act for one person even if you are in total agreement.

2. The Amicable Couple Like the DIY couple you know what you want, you have worked out your agreement, but you are not sure how to put it all together. We will advise you as to the best way to finalise your agreement so that it is legal and binding. We will ask you if you want to do some of the paperwork yourself to save fees, and we will do the rest; or, we will do all the paperwork. Either way, we lodge it with the court for you. Like before, we can only act for one of you.

3. The Arguing but still Amicable Couple Your separation is amicable but you can’t quite get a final agreement for your financial separation. It might just be that neither of you are sure what is fair. We will give you advice as to what is a fair resolution and we can help you with your negotiations. We can also arrange mediation. Our aim is to help you come to an arrangement and help you finalise your separation quickly and affordably while still keeping you amicable, especially if you have children together.

4. The Can’t Get on the Same Page Couple You can’t seem to agree on much at all, but there is still hope! We are still going to try and settle this for you.

We will try all the options to reach an agreement to get you the best and fairest outcome for your assets and children if you have them. We will try and keep it out of court to save you time and money.

5. The Courts Have to Decide Couple You’ve tried mediation, you’ve had negotiation through lawyers to work it out, but you just can’t reach agreement. Sometimes the courts just have to decide the outcome.

Whichever road you are going down, I have been down it with my clients many times before, and I’ll walk with you every step of the way.

If you’d like more information or my FREE e-book - ‘The 9 Steps of Negotiating a Property Settlement’ - head to www.collierfamilylaw.com.au

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All Things Tweens and Teens

Raising Girls Who Like Themselves STORY Kasey Edwards and Dr Christopher Scanlon Australian girls have more opportunities than their mothers and aunties. They’re smashing it in the classroom and stepping up to leadership, fighting for social justice and environmental protection.

2. Body Confidence

On the flipside, many struggle with confidence, resilience, emotional wellbeing and self-worth.

3. Body Ownership

More than 55 percent of Australian girls between eight and nine say they are dissatisfied with their body.

A quarter of 14 – 15 year-old girls say have had thoughts about self-harming in the previous 12 months.

And fifty-one percent of girls say that girls often feel pressured to take ‘sexy’ photos of themselves and share them.

Rates of anxiety, depression and eating disorders in girls are enough to send a shiver down any parent’s spine.

If we are going to raise our girls to thrive in a world that is crushing so many of their peers then we need to do something different.

Our starting point is getting clear on our goal.

Our goal as parents of daughters is to raise girls who like themselves.

Why? Because absolutely everything that we hope and dream for our girls starts with raising them to like themselves.

We distilled seven qualities that every girl must have in order to like herself:

1. A Power Perspective This is about having the internal strength and resources to be able to cope with whatever life throws at you, rather than being tossed around by external events.

It’s about knowing your own mind, rather than being prey to the views of others.

By this, we don’t mean taking fearless, no-filter selfies.

It’s about focusing girls on what their body can do, rather than obsessing about appearance.

If it’s not harmful and not permanent, she gets to decide.

That’s the foundation of body ownership that we focus on when our girls are young so it will help them to navigate the more complex – and potentially threatening situations they will face as teenagers and women.

4. Calm Girls need space and time to play and be by themselves and get to know who they really are, rather than being ferried from one over-scheduled and structured activity to the next.

5. Mastery and Independence Self-esteem doesn’t grow from being showered with praise and word presents. Real self-esteem grows from mastery, which is earned through struggle. It’s about teaching girls the difference between ‘failing well’ and ‘being a failure’.

6. Strong Relationships We sometimes assume that social skills just develop naturally so they don’t need to be taught.

But developing authentic and meaningful relationships is a skill — something that we can nurture. And given the importance of these skills to a meaningful life, we shouldn’t leave it to chance.

7. Authenticity A girl who likes herself is herself. Allow girls to grow into the best version of the person they were born to be rather than trying to sculpt them into our, or anyone else’s, pre-conceived vision of success.

If we establish these foundational pillars in our daughters then everything gets easier.

Kasey Edwards and Dr Christopher Scanlon are researchers, writers and parents.

Since the birth of their first daughter, Violet, in 2009 - they have been dedicated to finding out the best way to raise girls. They have read countless parenting books, trawled through credible academic studies, attended parenting seminars and workshops and interviewed experts the world over. For your chance to WIN a copy of their book ‘Raising Girls Who Like Themselves’ see page 56 for details.

Tune into Episode 90 of the PakMag Parents Podcast at www.pakmag.com.au to hear more from Kasey and Christopher as they join Bree to dive deeper into how to raise girls who like themselves.

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All Things Tweens and Teens

All Things Tweens & Teens Keeping the Lines of Communication Open The tween and teen years can be difficult to navigate, not just for our children, but as parents of those children. It’s important to remember that as your child grows into an independent adult, you keep showing them your unconditional love, how much you value them and their uniqueness and keep the lines of communication open.

Inspiration Corner Coach John Wooden is considered the greatest NCAA basketball head coach of all time. This quote is one of his most well-known and comes from his ‘Seven Point Creed’, originally given to him as a list of ‘Seven Things to Do’ by his father. www.thewoodeneffect.com states that ‘making each day your masterpiece means focusing on what you are doing right now to the best of your ability. It is about recognizing that nothing can be done about what happened yesterday, and that you can only affect what will happen tomorrow by what you do today.’

So, let go of the past and don’t worry about the future – focus on where you are right now and all the positive things that surround you. Make this moment and this day count.

If you are feeling ‘shut out’ of their life, with their once free-flowing conversation ‘drying up’, here’s a few suggestions from www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au to help keep the lines open:

1. Listen more than you speak 2. Make time to spend together 3. Give them privacy 4. Keep up with their interests 5. Be a loving parent 6. Have fun

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Visit www.pakmag.com.au/win for your chance to win!

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Entertainment

Check it Out International Women’s Day When: Monday 8 March Where: Various locations More info: www.internationalwomensday.com, www.ticketlink.com.au Take this opportunity to celebrate women's achievements with various events around FNQ including;

PETstock Assist National Pet Adoption Month When: 1 - 31 March, Saturday 13 March event Where: Petstock Cairns 287 Mulgrave Rd, Bungalow More info: www.petstock.com.au For the past six years, PETstock Assist has been changing the lives of rescue pets and humans through its National Pet Adoption Day campaign. To date, the initiative has rehomed more than 12,000 pets – in just six days! Now, with Australia’s love of rescue pets and commitment to breaking the cycle of homelessness at an all-time high, PETstock Assist has extended the initiative into a monthlong event, National Pet Adoption Month, to find even more pets homes, educate the masses and celebrate the entire rescue community.

Find a furry family member this month and make a difference to a rescue pet’s life.

Cairns Regional Council's International Women's Day Awards Breakfast March 8, 7.30am - 9.30am, Pullman International, $42.00 www.ticketlink.com.au Cairns Regional Council's International Women's Day Celebration of Women March 8, 7.30am - 9.30am, Hilton Cairns, $42.00 www.ticketlink.com.au Please note the official awards presentation and keynote speaker address will be live-streamed from the Pullman International to the Hilton Cairns. There will also be special performances

by Miss Judy Free, and Cairns Voice Studio Young Artists live on stage which will be streamed from the Hilton to the Pullman International event.

Anh Do - The Happiest Refugee Live!!

When: Wednesday 10 March, 8.00pm Where: CPAC Theatre More info: www.ticketlink.com.au Anh Do’s bestselling book The Happiest Refugee has made readers laugh and cry, and was described by Russell Crowe as “the most surprising and inspiring read I have had in years.” Anh’s stage show takes it a step further, combining stand-up comedy with real life stories, photos and filmed pieces to retell his amazing story. PG 7 years +, tickets from $59.90

Ocean Film Festival World Tour 2021 When: Friday 12 March, 7.00pm Where: CPAC Theatre More info: www.ticketlink.com.au and www.oceanfilmfestivalaustralia.com.au The Ocean Film Festival World Tour showcases more than two hours of sublime footage taken above and below the water’s surface. Each of the festival’s short films conveys a deep respect and appreciation for the world’s oceans and the creatures that call them home.

It will also feature Cairns locals Mathilde Gordon and Lucy Graham. Tickets from $31.00

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Pi Day - A Celebration of Circles When: Sunday 14 March, 10.00am - 2.00pm Where: Tanks Arts Centre - Tank 3 More info: www.cairnschildrensmuseum.org.au The Cairns Children’s Museum is celebrating Pi Day at the Tanks. Entry is free and there will be a mix of both free activities and paid workshops for children of all ages. The day has a circle theme and a STEAM (Science, Technology, Engineering, Arts, and Mathematics) focus. Learn about Pi in a fun, hands-on, interactive, covid-safe way. FREE Entry, workshop prices start from $3.14.

Cairns Harmony Festival When: Saturday 20 March, 4.00pm - 9.00pm Where: Fogarty Park, The Esplanade More info: www.i60.org.au/harmony Cairns Harmony Festival takes place as part of Australian Harmony Week Celebrations. The Festival showcases and celebrates our diversity of cultures through an Art Exhibition, community display booths, international cuisine food marquees, multicultural dance performances and fashion shows and will feature the Cairns Song Contest. This is a covid-safe event, registration for tickets essential. Tickets must be presented to gain entry to the Festival.

Cost: $5.00 single, $15.00 family (up to 5) Shaun the Sheep’s Circus Show When: Friday 26 March - Sunday 28 March, various showtimes Where: CPAC Theatre More info: www.shaunthesheepcircus.com.au Shaun the Sheep’s Circus Show is must-see family entertainment full of heart-warming comedy delights. The thrilling world premiere season combines the extreme physicality and awe-inspiring feats of Circa and the playful charm of the multi-award-winning TV series Shaun the Sheep.

Paws on the Path Fundraiser Fun Run When: Sunday 28 March, 7.00am - 9.00am Where: Glenoma Park More info: www.dynamicrunning.com.au Bring your dog (or come on your own) and join in this fundraiser for the Young Animal Protection Society (YAPS) - our local animal shelter. Run or walk along the footpaths at Glenoma and Goomboora Park and your dog can also enjoy a refreshing dip in the creek. Cost $15.00 plus booking fee.

The entire family will be treated to a visual spectacle, packed full of Aardman’s signature wit and outright hilarity, as well as incredible feats of daredevil acrobatics and vibrant circus skills.

Recommended for 3 years +

PakMag Easter Eggstravaganza When: Saturday 27 March, 10.00am - 11.00am Where: DFO Cairns More info: PakMag Cairns www.pakcairns.com.au Bluey’s Big Play - The Stage Show When: Thursday 1 April and Saturday 3 April, multiple showtimes Where: CPAC Theatre More info: www.ticketlink.com.au

Celebrate Easter with PakMag! There will be an Easter bonnet parade, Mega Easter egg hunt, a visit from the Easter bunny, prizes for the best dressed and much more.

This is a FREE event and there are thousands of Easter eggs to go around, so make sure you don’t miss it!

The Emmy® award-winning children's television series, Bluey is coming to life and to CPAC! When Dad feels like a little bit of Sunday arvo time out, Bluey and Bingo have other plans!

Join them as they pull out all of the games and ingenuity at their disposal to get Dad off that bean bag. This is Bluey’s first live theatre show, featuring brilliantly created puppets and all the things you love about Bluey!

FREE EVENT!

Suitable for all ages, recommended 2 years+.

Babes in arms permitted up to 18 months. 18 months and over must purchase a ticket. Children under 15 years must be accompanied by an adult.

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Get Out and About MONDAY 1 MARCH Exhibition: Ben Quilty, The Entangled Landscape Runs until 14 March Cairns Art Gallery www.cairnsartgallery.com.au 9.00am / FREE / Mature Exhibition: Albert Namatjira and the Hermannsburg School Runs until 14 March Cairns Art Gallery www.cairnsartgallery.com.au 9.00am / FREE / Mature Exhibition: uhLebezwe Siwani - Dedisa Ubumnyama Runs until 14 March Cairns Art Gallery www.cairnsartgallery.com.au 9.00am / FREE / Mature 2021 FNQ Contemporaries Exhibition Runs until 14 March Cairns Art Gallery www.cairnsartgallery.com.au 9.00am / FREE / Mature Jennifer Valmadre Continuum Runs until 21 March Cairns Art Gallery www.cairnsartgallery.com.au 9.00am / FREE / Mature

Yoga in the Gallery with Jeany Schall Runs weekly on Mondays, except for public holidays Cairns Art Gallery www.cairnsartgallery.com.au 5.30pm / $15.00 or multi-class passes available / Adults Laughing Heart Comedy Runs every Monday Night The Reef Hotel Casino www.paramourtheatre.com 7.00pm / $8.00 / 18 years + Come and Try Hockey Holy Cross Primary School www.cairnshockey.com.au 4.30pm - 5.30pm / FREE / Family TUESDAY 2 MARCH Creative Toddlers with Marian Wolfs Runs each Tuesday until 16 March Cairns Art Gallery www.cairnsartgallery.com.au 10.00am / $15.00 - $17.50 / Children 3 - 5 years WEDNESDAY 3 MARCH Cairns Aquarium by Twilight - Tour and 3-Course Dinner

Sing&Grow - National Music Therapy program

Runs every Wednesday,

Runs until 25 March

Saturday Evenings

Birch Street Hub

Cairns Aquarium

fsp.cairns@uccommunity.org.au

www.cairnsaquarium.com.au

11.00am / FREE / Children 0 - 5

3.45pm - 7.30pm / from

years

$69.00 / 3 years +

Thursday, Friday and

Please check with individual businesses before visiting during these uncertain times.

With HIT 103.5’s Cliffo & Gabi

St Augustine’s Principal Tours St Augustine’s College, 251 Draper Street www.sac.qld.edu.au 4.00pm / FREE / G

Your Wardrobe Cairns Fred Moule Pavilion, Cairns Showgrounds Your Wardrobe Cairns 9.00am - 1.00pm / Gold Coin Donation / G

FRIDAY 5 MARCH

SUNDAY 7 MARCH

The Black Sorrows Tanks Art Centre - Tank 5 www.ticketlink.com.au 7.30pm / $45.50 - $50.50 / PG

Ensemble Training Workshop Every Sunday ARC Community Hub www.tropicalarts.org 3.00pm - 5.00pm / $15.00 $20.00

An Evening in the Viennese Forrest German Club Cairns German Club Cairns 5.00pm - 11.30pm / FREE Entry / Family To Kill a Cassowary by Laurie Trott (Theatre Play) Runs until Saturday 13 March Bulmba-ja Arts Centre www.jute.com.au Various times/ $48.56 - $53.84 / PG The Paramour Cabaret Every Friday and Saturday Night The Reef Hotel Casino www.paramourtheatre.com 7.00pm / $50.00 - $170.00 / 18 years + Come and Try Hockey Pezzutti Park www.cairnshockey.com.au 5.00pm - 6.00pm / FREE / Family

International Women’s Day - High Tea Pullman International www.crslsb.org.au 11.00am / $50.00 - $55.00 / 18 years + Say I Do in Tropical North Queensland - Wedding Expo Shangri-La Hotel Shangrila Cairns 9.00am - 3.00pm / FREE / G MONDAY 8 MARCH Cairns Regional Council’s International Women’s Day Awards Breakfast Pullman International www.ticketlink.com.au 7.30am - 9.30am / $42.00 / PG

SATURDAY 6 MARCH

Cairns Regional Council’s International Women’s Day Celebration of Women Hilton Cairns www.ticketlink.com.au 7.30am - 9.30am / $42.00 / PG

Jewellery Workshop Series 2 Cairns Art Gallery www.cairnsartgallery.com.au 10.30am - 2.00pm / $110.00 $135.00 / 16 years +

International Women’s Day Lunch Shangri-La Hotel Shangrila Cairns 12.00pm - 2.30pm / $99.00 / 18 years +

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Get Out and About TUESDAY 9 MARCH

FRIDAY 12 MARCH

SUNDAY 14 MARCH

SUNDAY 21 MARCH

CBWC International Women’s Day Lunch

Ocean Film Festival World Tour 2021 CPAC www.ticketlink.com.au 7.00pm / $31.00 - $34.00 / PG

Pi Day: A Celebration of Circles

Italian Dreams CPAC www.ticketlink.com.au 3.00pm / $24.00 - $29.50 / PG

Oompah Night German Club Cairns German Club Cairns 5.00pm - 11.00pm / FREE Entry / Family

10.00am - 2.00pm / Entry is

SATURDAY 13 MARCH

FRIDAY 19 MARCH

The Best of The Bee Gees with Colin “Smiley” Petersen CPAC www.ticketlink.com.au 7.30pm / $69.00 - $79.00 / PG

Wine Festival / Winzerfest

Reef Hotel Casino www.cbwc.org.au 11.30am-2:30pm / $60-$85/ Adult WEDNESDAY 10 MARCH Anh Do - The Happiest Refugee Live!!

CPAC www.ticketlink.com.au 8.00pm / $59.90 - $64.90 / PG 7+ WEDNESDAY 10 MARCH Ceramic Portraiture Four-Week Course Runs each Wednesday until 31 March Cairns Art Gallery www.cairnsartgallery.com.au 5.30pm - 7.30pm / $135.00 $155.00 / Adults The World’s Greatest Shave Runs until Sunday 14 March Various www.worldsgreatestshave.com All Ages THURSDAY 11 MARCH Tanks Round Cinema Crock of Gold: A Few Rounds with Shane MacGowan Tanks Arts Centre - Tank 5 www.ticketlink.com.au 7.30pm / $15.50 - $19.50 / MA 15 + Come and Try Hockey Cairns Hockey Facilities www.cairnshockey.com.au 4.30pm - 5.30pm / FREE / Family

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Jewellery Workshop Series 3 Cairns Art Gallery www.cairnsartgallery.com.au 10.30am - 2.00pm / $85.00 $100.00 / 16 years + Pro Wrestling Power March Madness Edmonton PCYC Pro Wrestling Power 6.00pm / $10.00 / Family Imagine the Possibilities #choosetochallenge Masquerade Ball Pullman Cairns International Empowering Women Empowering Communities 6.00pm / $180.00 - $1700.00 (table of 10) / 18 years + Homunculus Masterclass

by Clint Bolster - mime and non-verbal Improvisation Masterclass Bulmba-ja Arts Centre www.eventbrite.com.au 10.00am - 2.00pm / $80.00 / 16 years +

Tanks Arts Centre www.cairnschildrensmuseum. org.au free and there will be a mix of both free activities and paid workshops for children of all ages / G

Beach Clean: Sea Shepherd Australia Cairns Esplanade - next to Muddy’s Cafe www.seashepherd.org.au 7.15am - 10.00am / FREE / G TUESDAY 23 MARCH

/ Family

Freshwater Christian College Prep Discovery Day Runs until Wednesday 24 March Freshwater Christian College www.fcc.qld.edu.au FREE / G

Film Club

WEDNESDAY 24 MARCH

German Club Cairns German Club Cairns 5.00pm - 11.00pm / FREE Entry

City Library www.cairns.qld.gov.au 12.00pm - 2.30pm / FREE / Adult HOOK IN2 HOCKEY Big Sign On Day Cairns Hockey Association, Cairns North www.cairnshockey.com.au 4.30pm - 5.30pm / FREE Come and Try Hockey / Family SATURDAY 20 MARCH Exhibition: 2020 Archibald Prize Runs until Sunday 2 May Cairns Art Gallery www.cairnsartgallery.com.au 9.00am / FREE / G Cairns Harmony Festival Fogarty Park www.i60.org.au/harmony 4.00pm - 9.00pm / $5.00 $15.00 register online / Family

St Augustine’s Principal Tours St Augustine’s College, 251 Draper Street www.sac.qld.edu.au 4.00pm / FREE / G FRIDAY 26 MARCH Shaun the Sheep’s Circus Show Runs until Sunday 28 March CPAC www.shaunthesheepcircus.com.au Various / $55 - $70 / 3 years + SATURDAY 27 MARCH Century Cranes Tradies and Ladies Race Day Cannon Park www.cairnsjockeyclub.com.au 12.00pm / $10.00 GA, Tradies and children under 15 FREE / Family PakMag Easter Eggstravaganza DFO Cairns PakMag Cairns 10.00am - 11.00am / FREE / Family

Please check with individual businesses before visiting during these uncertain times.

Get Out and About SUNDAY 28 MARCH Paws on the Path Fundraiser Fun Run Glenoma Park www.dynamicrunning.com.au/ paws-on-the-path/ 7.00am - 9.00 am / $15.00 + booking fee / Family Scavenger Easter Egg Hunt at Smithfield Shopping Centre Smithfield Shopping Centre www.smithfieldcentre.com.au 10.30am - 1.30pm / FREE / G

THURSDAY 1 APRIL AND SATURDAY 3 APRIL Bluey’s Big Play The Stage Show CPAC www.ticketlink.com.au Various Times/ $41.90 $45.90 / G TUESDAY 6 APRIL Easter Craft Workshops at Smithfield Shopping Centre Runs until Friday 9 April Smithfield Shopping Centre www.smithfieldcentre.com.au 10.00am and 11.30am / FREE / G

WEDNESDAY 31 MARCH

WEDNESDAY 7 APRIL

Exhibition: 2021 Young Archies

CaPTA Reptile Show at Smithfield Shopping Centre Runs until Friday 9 April Smithfield Shopping Centre www.smithfieldcentre.com.au Times TBC / FREE / G

Runs until Saturday 1 May Cairns Art Gallery www.cairnsartgallery.com.au 9.00am / FREE / G

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THURSDAY 8 APRIL

SATURDAY 17 APRIL

World of Musicals Runs unitl Friday 9 April CPAC www.ticketlink.com.au 7.30pm / $59.90 - $79.90 / PG

Yungaburra Triathlon Runs until Sunday 18 April Tinaburra Foreshore at Lake Tinaroo www.yungaburratriathlon.org Various Times / $30.00 $350.00 (team) / 7 years +

MONDAY 12 APRIL Zoo To You at Smithfield Shopping Centre Runs until Friday 16 April Smithfield Shopping Centre www.smithfieldcentre.com.au Times TBC / FREE / G FRIDAY 16 APRIL Ian Moss Solo and Acoustic - Matchbook 30th Anniversary Tour Runs until Saturday 17 April Tanks Arts Centre - Tank 5 www.ticketlink.com.au 7.30pm / $63.50 / PG

THURSDAY 15 APRIL Feast of the Senses Festival Runs until Sunday 18 April Innisfail www.feastofthesenses.com.au Various Times / Cost Varies Per Event / Family

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Regular Markets Rusty's Markets

Holloways Beach Markets

Gordonvale Cottage Markets

Location: 71 - 75 The Esplanade

Date: Every Friday and Saturday Time: 5.00am - 6.00pm Date: Every Sunday Time: 5.00am - 3.00pm Location: 57 - 89 Grafton St, City

Date: 2nd Sunday of the month Time: 8.00am - 1.00pm Location: Holloways Beachfront

Date: 1st Saturday of the month Time: 7.00am - 12 noon Location: Norman Park, Gordonvale

Port Douglas Markets

Palm Cove Markets

Mount Sheridan Plaza Markets

Kuranda Original Rainforest Markets

Date: 2nd Sunday of the month Time: 9.00am - 3.00pm Location: Mount Sheridan Plaza

Date: Open every day excluding Tuesday and Wednesday Time: 9.30am - 3.00pm Location: 13 Therwine St

Date: 3rd Sunday of every month Time: 8.00am – 1.00pm Location: Cannon Park Racecourse Car Park

Kuranda Heritage Markets

Koah Monthly Markets

Date: 1st Sunday of the month April to December Time: 8.00am – 2.00pm Location: Williams Esplanade

The Market Place Date: 3rd Sunday of the month Time: 9.00am - 2.00pm Location: The Pier Cairns

Malanda Marketst Date: 3rd Saturday of the month Time: 7.00am - 12.30pm Location: Malanda Showgrounds

Mossman Community Markets Date: Every Saturday Time: 7.00am - 1.00pm Location: 3 - 5 Foxton Ave, Mossman

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The Ravenshoe Lions Archer Creek Markets Date: 2nd Sunday of the month Time: 7.00am - 12 noon Location: Archers Creek Rest Area, Kennedy Highway

Atherton Lions Club Indoor Markets Date: 2nd Sunday of the Month Time: 7.00am - 12 noon Location: Merriland Hall (Robert St)

Yungaburra Markets Date: 4th Saturday of the month Time: 7.30am - 12.30pm Location: Bruce Jones Park

Date: Open Thursday to Sunday Time: 10.00am - 3.00pm Location: 2 Rob Veivers Dr

Date: Every Sunday Time: 7.30am - 1.30pm Location: Market Park

Woree Markets

Date: 1st Saturday of the Month Time: 9.00am – 1.00pm Location: Koah Hall, Koah Road

Tolga Markets

Mareeba Markets

Date: 1st Sunday of the month Time: 7.30am - 12 noon Location: Morrow Park Racecourse

Date: Every 2nd and 5th Saturday of the month Time: 7.00am – 12.30pm Location: Mareeba Centenary Park, Byrnes St

Herberton Markets Date: 3rd Sunday of the month Time: 7.30am - 12 noon Location: Wondecla Showgrounds

Night Markets Date: Open every day Time: 4.30pm - 10.30pm

Tumoulin Count Date: 4th Sunday of the month Time: 8.00am – 12.00pm Location: Tumoulin Railway Station, Tumoulin Rd

Please check with individual businesses before visiting during these uncertain times.