TIPS FOR
Playdates
with Special Needs Kids
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By Sarah Lyons
laydates are an important part of childhood. They offer time for kids to interact socially without the structure of school or extracurricular activities. They also help kids learn to share, socialize, and play freely while still having support from their parents as needed. Kids with special needs are no exception and benefit from playdates as much as their peers. While they may take a little more planning and patience, it is well worth the efforts for everyone involved. Here are some tips for hosting a playdate with kids with disabilities.
BE OPEN
go to anyone’s house for a playdate.” says Barb WalkerShapiro, mom of six from Omaha, NE. “Her brain doesn’t work like other kids. She may have a seizure and is prone to major meltdowns. I find that when other parents know what’s ‘wrong’ with my daughter, they are more tolerant and compassionate towards her.” It is also a good idea to talk to your children openly about differences they may have with their friends. Explain that just because others may seem different or express their joy differently, it doesn’t mean they don’t enjoy playdates or making new friends as well. Prior to the playdate, it is also a good idea to check in with the other parents about whether there are any food allergies or restrictions and anything important you should know.
Our natural reaction may be to avoid talking about any disabilities a child may have but it is better to address any questions or concerns beforehand so BE STRATEGIC everyone is more comfortable and knows what to expect. Prior to the playdate, discuss with the other parents “I am upfront and honest about my daughter before we about what would be the best location to have the
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