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(Clockwise, from top left) Terry Bean, Lynn Nakamoto, Mayor Sam Adams, Darcelle, and Amanda Brings Plenty-Wright (shown here with her wife, Candice, in a photo by Christopher Alvarez, PQ Monthly) are just a few of the pioneering LGBTQ folks we think deserve some ink — either in this or a future edition.

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Honoring our pioneers is tricky business. First, there are so many inspiring, history-making, mold-breaking, trailblazing, taboo-busting LGBTQ individuals in our community — and so few pages in which to do them justice. Then there’s the fact that the luminaries who are still with us tend to be pretty busy continuing the good work that won our hearts and admiration in the first place, and getting them to slow down long enough for a sitdown or even a phone conversation is no small task. (Hint: At least one or two of the amazing people pictured above fall into this category.) We’ll keep annoying the hell out of their schedulers — we promise.

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BREVITY ROCKS! NEWS FROM NEAR AND FAR LOCAL

Have you registered to vote and are you registered a t you r cu rren t address? You may be tired of hearing this question on TriMet, but we’re going to keep saying for those who need to hear it. Th e d ea d lin e t o r egist er t o vo t e is Oct . 16 in Or ego n an d Oct . 8 in Wa sh in gton . Oregon residents can register online at oregonvotes.org; Washington residents can register online at secstate.wa.gov/elections/register.aspx.

After you register, keep that spirit of change active by participating in, donating to, and/or cheering on AIDS Wa lk Por tla n d , on Sept. 23. The kick-off and celebration is held in Pion eer Cou r th ou se Squ a re. Opening ceremonies start at 10:30 a.m., the walk begins at 11 a.m., and the closing ceremony and celebrations are held at noon. Learn more at aidswalkportland.org.

Basic Righ ts Oregon ’s annual gala IGNITE lights up the Por t la n d Ar t Mu seu m Oct. 12 with entertainment, food and drink, special recognitions, and dancing to support the organization’s work in tr a n s ju stice, r a cia l ju stice, a n d m ar r iage equ a lity. General admission tickets are $75; VIP tickets are $250 and include a special dinner and live auction recognizing donors and sponsors. To learn more, visit basicrights.org.

Riding on the momentum of the IGNITE is BRO’s second annual Tran s Ju stice Su m m it, a two-day leadership conference Oct. 20-21 at Por tla n d Sta te Un iver sity to empower trans Oregonians and their allies to work to end health insurance discrimination. The summit will include trainings on everything from lobbying decision-makers to dismantling racism in the trans community, as well as workshops addressing personal needs, such as accessing transfriendly services. Register by Sept. 22 to get the reduced rate of $15 for one day or $25 for both days. Cost includes lunch and snacks.

show their support for all LGBTQ people by signing the Ally Pledge, which states: “I believe all students, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/ expression, deserve to feel safe and supported. That means I pledge to: Not use anti-LGBT language and slurs; Intervene, if I safely can, in situations where other students are being harassed; and Support efforts to end bullying and harassment.” Sign the pledge at glsen.org.

Want to get a head start on the support? Get involved in your local Na tion a l Com in g Ou t Da y events (Oct. 11).

Pr id e NW is working on a joint effort with the Por t la n d Bla ck PFLAG chapter in conjunction with the report the group is producing with the Ur b a n Lea gu e. Details TBA. Keep an eye on pridenw.org.

It’s bear season. The Oregon Bea r s will hold the 17th Annual Mr. Oregon Bea r & Mr. Oregon Cu b Con test Sept.

29 at Boxxes Lou n ges. VIP tickets ($15 advance/$20 door for members, $5 more for nonmembers) include pre-event entertainment, snacks, drink specials and entry at 5:30 p.m.

General admission ($10 for members, $15 for non-members) gets entry PHOTO BY MELANIE DAVIS, PQ MONTHLY at 7 p.m. Former Oregon Bear and Oregon Cub Title Holders and the Portland Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence (in face) get in free. All who attend will enjoy performances by the BEARa ton es, Broad way Bear s, Nich olas Dilb eck, Steven P. Wor th , An d y Ma n gels, and DJ Lep h rea k. To get tickets in advance, visit oregonbears.org.

The Por t la n d Wom en’s Cr isis Lin e hosts a Dom est ic Vio len ce Awa r en ess Mo n t h Co m m u n it y Hea lin g Vigil Oct. 4 to honor the Oregonians who have died as a result of domestic violence and show support for survivors. The vigil will take place at 6 p.m. in Da wson Pa rk (N. Stanton St. and N. Williams Ave.). For more information on the vigil and other Domestic Violence Awareness Month events, visit pwcl.org.

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BRO supporters in the Eu gen e area should save the date for the annual Au tu m n Par ty Sept. 30 from 3 p.m. to 5 p.m. at Temple Beth Israel. The part will include a welcome from Mayor Kitty Piercy and entertainment by Th e Com for ter s.

Tickets are $25 and can be purchased via BRO’s website.

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According to a LOGO TV su r vey, LGBTQ voters — like the rest of the country — are most concerned about

the economy. But perhaps the most compelling part of the survey is the revelation that 1 in 5 voters would switch from blue to red if Ro m n ey and Rya n backed LGBTQ equality to the degree that P r esid en t Ob a m a does. And fully 25 percent would consider supporting other Republican candidates. All this as the Rep u b lica n Pa r ty approves a platform that is being called its most conservative in history.

Ja m es Olsen , author of “The W hole-Brain Path to Peace,” says he believes there is a direct correlation between the dominance of the right or left side of the brain and a person’s sexual orientation. Olson theorizes that most lesbians (like heterosexual men) are left-hemisphere dominant while most gay men (like heterosexual women) are right-hemisphere dominant.

He says that bisexuals tend to have more equal hemispheres, while transgender folks have extreme hemispheric dominance.

Ken d all Ham p ton , a 26-year-old trans* person of color, was found shot in a convenience store parking lot Aug. 18 in Cin cin n a ti, Oh io. Police are still searching for the suspect.

According to the Advocate, the Nation al Coalition of An tiViolen ce Program s and the Bu ckeye Region An ti-Violen ce Pr ogr a m are investigating whether gender identity or race were motivating factors in the murder. The NCAVP says this is the eighth murder of a trans or gender non-conforming person this year.

Floyd Lee Cor kin s, II, a 28-year-old volunteer for the D.C. Cen ter for th e LGBTQ Com m u n ity, is charged with interstate transportation of a firearm and ammunition and assault with intent to kill while armed in the shooting of a security guard for anti-gay organization the Fa m ily Resea rch Cou n cil. If convicted, Corkins faces 40 years in prison. Multiple LGBTQ organizations spoke out against the violence.

WORLD An Au str a lia n d octor was recently found guilty of prescribing a ch em ical ca str a tion d r u g (typically given to sex offenders) to an 18-year-old member of his controversial Christian sect, t h e Exclu sive Br ethren, in an attempt to “cure” the teenager’s homosexuality. According to Gay Star News, the young man was sent to Dr. Ma rk Cr ad d ock after he confessed his homosexuality to church leaders. He was given a prescription for the drug, along with five refills and no follow-up care — despite the fact that the drug manufacturers require it. The doctor has been banned from practicing as a general practitioner.

Ra y Ch a n Ch ic h u e n beca me Hon g Kon g’s r st ou t ga y p olit icia n when he was told the Orient Daily he is gay a day after w inning a seat on the Legislative Council on Sept. 9. He has vowed to ma ke LGBTQ equality a priority, including pushing for nond i sc r i m i nat ion laws and samesex marriage.

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Q CENTER STUDIES POSSIBLE PURCHASE OF BUILDING, SEEKS COMMUNITY INPUT

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Portland’s Q Center is considering purchasing the Mississippi Avenue warehouse it has occupied since 2009 before its lease-to-own agreement expires in February 2013. But before it launches an estimated $2.3 million fundraising campaign, the LGBTQ community center is soliciting feedback through a

feasibility and planning study.

Barbara McCullough-Jones, the center’s executive director, says she hopes the study will provide a “path to success” for a short-term, high-stakes campaign that would allow Q Center to remain at a location it has already spent more than $350,000 renovating. It’s a space worth keeping, she says, because of its proximity to public transit, the

flexibility of the property, and the opportunity for expansion. The 6,500 square-foot building is near major bus and Max lines and has the potential to grow to approximately 40,000 square feet.

The study, which launched on Q Center’s website in early August and will stay up through the end of September, seeks community input on issues including the financial goal, timing, strategic approach, potential leadership, and other concerns.

“The study was very thorough in soliciting community input. The depth of participation was very encouraging and showed appreciation for all Q Center does,” McCulloughJones says. “The only discouraging news would be to hear folks weren’t interested in the process or outcome. I don’t think that will be the case.”

Though feedback is still trickling in, McCullough says the responses received so far indicate support for the purchase. If all goes well, Q Center will move forward with a multi-phase plan to raise the $2.3 million McCulloughJones estimates will be needed to cover the $1.125 purchase price, inspections, maintenance, campaign costs, and a contingency fund.

“The first step is to design the campaign. Then the ‘quiet’ phase begins which is where the majority of the funds are raised,” McCullough-Jones says. “Usually during this phase

there is little to no public information about the campaign.

In part, the study results will inform our timeline.”

With just five months before the final lease extension runs out, Q Center’s fundraising campaign will likely have to compete with political fundraising efforts for the presidential race as well as for marriage equality in Washington and Oregon. McCullough-Jones says she’s aware of the challenges, but is confident Q Center will get by.

“Raising money in a nonprofit environment is always a challenge. We are very mindful of the external environment as it affects our fund development strategies,” she says.

While McCullough-Jones is hopeful that the goal will be met, the campaign plan will include a contingency plan to address a scenario in which the necessary funds are not raised.

“We have been successful at growing programs and services on a very lean budget,” she says. “We respect the resources we are entrusted to put to work for the community and will continue to create innovative ways to be of service.”

McCullough-Jones says more information about any potential plans will be available after the study has been completed and analyzed. The community input survey can be found at www.surveymonkey.com/s/XDB3ZB5. PQ will continue to follow this story and provide updates.

VANCOUVER BARS ACCUSED OF ANTI-TRANS DISCRIMINATION

By Erin Rook

tion at the P Club Bar and Grill in Portland, similar accusations are surfacing across the river in Vancouver.

In the wake of the Oregon Bureau of Norma Ballhorn, a transgender HazelLabor and Industry’s ongoing investigation dale resident and current Mizz Gay Pride into allegations of anti-trans discrimina- Vancouver, tells PQ she has been 86’ed from four Vancouver-area bars over the last year because of her gender identity. In most cases, Ballhorn says bar staff told her she was not allowed to use the women’s restroom.

Among those bars is Legends Food & Fun at 7005 NE Hwy 99.

“One of the bartenders said I can’t be in there because as long as I have a penis I am not allowed to use the [women’s] restroom,” Ballhorn says.

Legend’s bartender Cathy Botkin confirmed Ballhor n’s account, though she used male pronouns and “Norm” to describe the circumstances.

“Going back over a PHOTO BY ASIA FEESE year, more than a year, Norma Ballhorn has filed a complaint with the Washington Human Rights Commission after a bar ‘s he or she kept using the employee told her she couldn’t use the women’s restroom. women’s restroom and PQ Monthly

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we have in our book that he had been told to please stop using the women’s restroom,” the bartender says. “He was making the women uncomfortable.”

Botkin says that Ballhorn came in with paperwork from the Veterans Administration relating to her gender identity and insisting that she has the right to use the women’s restroom. When asked if the bar is familiar with Washington state’s laws pertaining to non-discrimination in public accommodations, Botkin says the bar has “looked into some of this” and that “we do not have unisex bathrooms.”

“It’s not that we discriminated against serving him,” Botkin says. “We have lots of men that dress as women or whatever. We have a lot of homosexuals who come in here. We never ever discriminated against serving him.”

In a voicemail response to a PQ interview request, Legends owner James Van Geyten says that his refusal to allow Ballhorn to use women’s restroom was appropriate and legal.

“I know in Oregon things are a little different, but in Washington, ok… I talked with my attorney and the [Washington State] Human Rights Commission [and] he is not allowed in the females’ bathroom,” Van Geyten says. “A male who is visibly a male to my other customers cannot use the women’s restroom because it violates the other customers, the females’, rights.”

In 2006, Washington Gov. Chris Gregoire

signed a law (HB 2661) protecting people from discrimination based on gender identity in public accommodations. While the text of the law does not explicitly mention restrooms, Laura Lindstrand, a policy analyst for the Washington State Human Rights Commission, says businesses should let people use the restroom that matches their gender identity.

“The law doesn’t go into that much detail,” Lindstrand says. “However, we are interpreting the law in such a way that if it involves restrooms, that person is able to use the restroom that aligns with their gender identity.”

Lindstrand acknowledges that smaller businesses may not be aware of this policy position, while larger companies such as Microsoft and Nike are well versed in the law.

“We don’t have the resources to do a public education campaign,” Lindstrand says. But if they did: “The message would be that in most situations, the best thing to do is to allow the person to use the restroom they identify with.”

Ballhorn says she has filed a complaint against Legends with the Human Rights Commission and plans to do the same with the other bars she’s been kicked out of: The Icehouse Bar & Grill, Three Monkeys, and The Hideaway Tavern.

To learn more about your rights under Washington’s non-discrimination law or to file a complaint, visit hum.wa.gov. pqmonthly.com

REJECTING ‘THE POLITICS OF FEAR’ Presidential candidate Dr. Jill Stein eyes a cure for what ails America

Dr. Jill Stein

By Nick Mattos PQ Monthly

Dr. Jill Stein wants you to stop, as she phrases it, “voting against yourself.” The Green Party presidential candidate and her running mate, Cheri Honkala, have taken to the campaign trail to encourage Americans to consider voting outside of the twoparty lines in the upcoming election — and a recent CNN/ORC poll indicates that about 2 percent of registered voters and 1 percent of likely voters have connected with her message enough to support Stein over the three other candidates.

As a physician and politician, Stein was inspired to enter the presidential race when Democrats began to drop their support of what she viewed as critical social programs.

“One year ago, the President said that Medicare and Social Security were on the chopping block … as a solution for solving the debt crisis. For me, this was the breaking point,” she recalled. “I had previously been involved in local and state politics [in Massachusets], but not national, because grassroots democracy starts at the bottom.

However, it made the case that for us to fight locally, we have to fight nationally — and we can’t afford to neglect any critical area of public life and democracy.”

Fundamental to Stein’s platform is what she terms a Green New Deal, a four-part program inspired by the New Deal program that led the United States out of the Great Depression of the 1930s. Some of the objectives of the Green New Deal include the creation of over 25 million jobs through a nationally-funded but locally-controlled direct employment initiative, student loan debt forgiveness, financial systems reform, revocation of corporate personhood, withdrawal of U.S. troops from foreign conflicts, and a transition to a “sustainable economy that is environmentally sound, economically viable, and socially responsible.”

“In the Great Depression, we created pqmonthly.com

millions of jobs within a short period,” Stein said. “We got people back to work very quickly by doing what our Green New Deal would do. We’re talking about doing this, doing this now, and doing this across the board.”

Even if she isn’t ultimately the executor of it, there is hope that the conceptual underpinnings of the Green New Deal could influence future leaders if shown enough support by citizens now. Stein draws a connection between the formation of the original New Deal and the traction of parties other than the Republican and Democratic.

“To move the hand of FDR to create the New Deal … it took a social movement on the ground, people fighting and dying and demonstrating … but it also took political [third] parties in the form of socialist parties, farm labor parties, and a whole spectrum of others that articulated the demands and were also running for office … and making inroads at the local and state level.”

Stein encourages progressives who are frightened to support third parties or thirdparty candidates to consider whether they have internalized the values of what she terms a “psychological war” waged by the public relations campaigns of the two major parties.

“It’s very important to recognize that this [opposition to third parties] is the propaganda of your abuser, who wants to keep you exactly where you are, because you’re in a very profitable position for the Wall Street predators that run our major political parties,” Stein said.

“The state of nature is that people are extremely diverse,” she continued, “and have very diverse political opinions; those opinions should be reflected in our political system. We should have a multi-partisan democracy — that’s how most democracies work around the world! This concept that any competition with the two corporate predatory parties is illegitimate has it exactly on its head. … This concept that we should be bludgeoned into a two-party system violates our inherent political diversity.”

“The politics of fear have brought us everything that we were afraid of,” Stein said.

However, even in this environment of terror and despair, she sees ample reason for hope.

“Things are changing. It’s not something that we need to hope for — it’s happening. … I’m running because we’ve hit the breaking point — for people, the planet, the economy, and our democracy. We need to turn that breaking point into a tipping point, now, while we still can, to take back our democracy and our future.”

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THIS MONTH IN QUEER HISTORY SEPTEMBER Let’s start things off right by wishing a happy birthday to the following queerlebrities (who seemto slant heavily toward musicians Gen X lesbians listened to in college): Actress Greta Garbo (1905), actor and author Truman Capote (1924), actress Lily Tomlin (1939), author and activist Gloria E Anzaldua (1942), musician Freddie Mercury (1946), author and activist Leslie Feinberg (1949), author and activist Cherrie Moraga (1952), cartoonist Alison Bechdel, author Jacob Anderson-Minshall (1967), musician Ani DiFranco (1970), musicianMelissa Ferrick (1970), musician Mirah (1974), musician and actress Carrie Brownstein (1974), musicians Tegan & Sara Quinn (1980).

A big anniversary we’re celebrating for the rst time this month is the repeal of the military’s “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy (2011).

Norway opened up its military to gays and lesbians in September as well, seven years prior (1994).

In the revolving door of same-sex marriage rights, Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger vetoed a bill to legalize same-sex marriage in California, andMaineandVermont legalized marriage equality (2009).

Further from home, progressive Amsterdam unveiled it’sHomomonument (1987).

Next up: History that shows just how much things have changed.

Back in the not-so-distant dark days when it was basically illegal to begayintheUnited States, the Iowa Supreme Court upheld the conviction of a prisoner for consensual sodomy with his cellmate (1968) and a California appellate court upheld a disorderly conduct conviction of two men for kissing in their car — the chaos! — in 1976. You see, it was the job of the government at thetimetoensurethat citizensonlyengagedinbaby-making sexual activities.That’swhywhentwo male members of California Governor Ronald Reagan’s cabinet were foundtobehavinganaffair theywere forcedout of their jobsandReaganis believedtohavesaid,“My god, has government failed?” (1967).

Intruefailuresof government, many gay men are burned at the stake, including an ef gy of the absent Marquis de Sade (1772), 22 men in the Netherlands (1731), and Belgian sculptor Jérome Duquesnoy (1654).

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POLITICS

AND THEN THERE WERE TWO Portland mayoral candidates answer to PQ

By Erin Rook PQ Monthly

With the once-unwieldy Portland mayoral race now down to two candidates and the election just over a month away, we wanted to get to know Charlie Hales and Jefferson Smith a little better. So we asked each of the men a lucky 13 questions ranging from the serious to the humorous. You can read the completed questionnaires in their entirety online and — because the pair (especially Jefferson Smith) were particularly verbose — a select six here.

CHARLIE HALES

Age: 56 Politica l Exp er ien ce: Former Portland City Council member Ran dom fact: In high school, he was involved in band and drama PQ Mon th ly: What is the most important difference between you and your opponent?

Ch a r lie Ha les: I believe that the biggest difference between me and my opponent is experience. I’m the only candidate running for this office with any local government or business experience. I have already proven that I can be effective working in Portland’s unique city government. I’ll be ready on Day 1 to start addressing issues like our gang problem, economic development, the lack of basic services in every neighborhood, and the cleanup of our river.

In terms of policy, the area we differ on the most is around gun control. I have always, and will always, take a strong stance on guns. We should do everything we can to keep guns under control and illegal guns off the street.

PQ: How have you supported LGBTQ rights in the past, and PQ MONTHLY FILE PHOTO how will you support them as mayor?

Hales: As city commissioner, I joined my colleagues in establishing one of the nation’s early domestic partner registries. This was at a time of the first anti-gay ballot measures sweeping our state — around issues of local anti-discrimination laws. I volunteered on both the first Measure 9 and Measure 13 opposition campaigns.

I have long supported marriage equality and will continue to be a vocal proponent until everyone in Oregon can be married to whomever they choose.

When asked to write a little bit about why she supports me, Former Representative Gail Shibley wrote this: “I’m with Charlie because of ferocious dedication to justice for all. Charlie isn’t afraid to stand up to powerful interests to make sure people have the protection they deserve.

And he doesn’t just mouth the ‘right things’ that are politically helpful in 2012; he has a strong track record of walking the walk. In short, he’s on OUR side.” I am very proud of this.

PQ: Will you carry the torch lit by Mayor Sam Adams and encourage local companies to extend transgender-inclusive health benefits to their employees?

Hales: Yes, I will absolutely carry on Mayor Adams’ advocacy.

PQ: What do you see as the biggest challenge facing LGBTQ Portlanders, and how will you work to fix it?

Hales: Discrimination. Looking forward, I will be an active part of the public education campaign and advocacy campaign to bring marriage equality to our state, and will be an outspoken advocate as mayor for the freedom to marry for all caring and committed couples.

Additionally, I will work with our public safety bureaus to continue to better reflect our community, including LGBTQ members of the bureaus’ workforce. We need to continue to ensure safety for everyone by acting decisively when hate crimes have been committed, threats are issued, or safety is at all in question. ...

PQ: How will you distinguish yourself as the new mayoral intern on “Portlandia?”

Hales: By demonstrating that makeup artists can make you look really pierced and tattooed, even if you aren’t!

PQ: Are there any myths or misconceptions about yourself or your candidacy you’d like to debunk?

Ha les: There is a misconception that I lived in Washington to evade Oregon’s higher income taxes. This is absolutely false. Just over 10 years ago, I fell in love with my wife, Nancy. At the time, she lived in Washington and had children finishing up their high school education; we felt it was imperative that her kids be allowed the continuity of finishing school where they started, so when we got married, I moved in with her. We stayed in Washington just long enough for her youngest child to go to college, and then we moved back to Portland. It was a personal decision and I do not regret it one bit because it was one made for love. pqmonthly.com

JEFFERSON SMITH

Age: 39 Politica l Exp er ien ce: Member of the Oregon House of Representatives and co-founder of the Bus Project Ra n d om fact: Rick-rolled the House in 2011.

PQ Mon th ly: What is the most important difference between you and your opponent?

Jeffer son Sm ith : My political values and leadership strengths fit the city and our future. I have experience leading an organization and managing staff, as well as operating in politics; that combination will be helpful as we lead our city in this century. I have a record of bringing people together, developing new leaders, and advocating for progressive policies and social justice. I take the work seriously, but I don’t take myself too seriously. Here are some things my candiPQ MONTHLY FILE PHOTO dacy offers: 1. The candidate who has served in recent elected office. … 2. The candidate who has founded and run a successful organization. … A recent and relevant track record of making government better. … The candidate committed to running a positive, progressive campaign. … A deeply-felt focus on equity. …

PQ: How have you supported LGBTQ rights in the past, and how will you support them as mayor?

Sm ith : You can count on me to not just support, but to champion equal rights.

This will not be a new commitment. I have had support from the LGBTQ community to win my previous elections, and I’ve been there to stand up for our shared values.

I’ve gone toe-to-toe with Lars Larson on “Face-Off” on the air specifically supporting the freedom to marry. I’ve walked (and occasionally cartwheeled) in more than a half-dozen Pride Parades. I don’t think I’ve missed a year without attending a BRO dinner (as a co-host when I could afford it) in the last decade. …

We still face challenges. There were incidents this year where gay people have been victims of violence. So as much as we think of Portland as this haven of civility and tolerance, the basic idea of protecting the community’s right to exist and be free from harassment is still a huge concern. I think the Q Patrol is a great thing.

We need to do more. I will push for more “eyes on the street,” from ONI [Office of Neighborhood Involvement] foot patrols to police officers walking the beat to Clean and Safe personnel to street-oriented commerce. I want to hear your ideas too.

We need to maintain our commitment to our residents who are homeless.

According to Outside In, 40 percent of homeless youth are LGBTQ youth. All of Portland should share in our commitment to ending homelessness for more and more people.

PQ: Will you carry the torch lit by Mayor Sam Adams and encourage local companies to extend transgender-inclusive health benefits to their employees?

Sm ith : Yes. Health care is a basic right, and we can make Portland a model for the nation in terms of inclusive benefits.

PQ: What do you see as the biggest challenge facing LGBTQ Portlanders, and how will you work to fix it?

Sm ith : We need to work together to address lingering homophobic elements of our culture and practices. These include [homeless youth, discrimination at school and work, and marriage equality.] ...

P Q: How will you distinguish yourself as the new mayoral intern on “Portlandia?”

Sm ith : I do not intend to be on “Portlandia” unless other council members and city staff are featured. Perhaps for a musical number.

PQ: Are there any myths or misconceptions about yourself or your candidacy you’d like to debunk?

Sm ith : One misconception that’s easy to perpetuate in a campaign is that the mayor can solve all problems. If you elect me mayor, there will still be too many unpaved roads.

Our homeless population will still be too high. I won’t turn around the global economy.

I want to be candid about the challenges we will face, and the work it will take — from the whole city — to get the city working better for everyone.

Read the rest of the candidates’ responses at pqmonthly.com.

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PERSPECTIVES

PIONEERS ON PIONEERS Five local luminaries on the people who inspired them

By Nick Mattos PQ Monthly

In its first half a century, the modern LGBTQ community has made astounding inroads for itself in many different areas of society. In politics, media, the arts, and numerous other disciplines, queer individuals have made significant impressions that will inspire the next generation to go even farther along the trails that they blazed. However, even pioneers need their inspiration. PQ invited five individuals who have overcome the force of history and stasis to serve as leaders and innovators in their fields to talk about the people that they view as pioneers. Their inspirations range from the well-known and nationally famous to the private and domestic; however, each of the respondents agreed that they — and, as a result, our community — wouldn’t be where they are without the inspiration and guidance that their pioneers showed all of us.

SAM ADAMS, FIRST GAY MAYOR OF THE CITY OF PORTLAND “Keeston Lowery was the first openly gay City Council staffer and longtime aide to Portland City Commissioner Mike Lindberg. Keeston died from AIDS in 1993. I met Keeston when I was Vera Katz’s campaign manager and he was incredibly kind to me. At the time, I was in the closet, but Keeston showed me that you could be gay and live a life just like everyone else. He made people feel comfortable with his sexual orientation. Keeston helped build the civic institutions that have been important in protecting all people from discrimination; he developed Portland’s civil rights ordinance, which bans discrimination based on things such as race, religion, gender, sexual PHOTO BY KEVIN TRUONG orientation. He was instrumental in the founding of the Right to Privacy PAC, an important formative Oregon LGB political organization. And his civic reach extended beyond the bounds of civil rights; he worked on intergovernmental relations, water bureau issues, and in the formulation of film production policies for the City of Portland. He is missed.”

RENEE LACHANCE, FOUNDER OF PORTLAND’S FIRST LGBTQ PUBLICATION “Harvey Milk was my role model.

When he was elected into office, he represented all the people in the city of San Francisco, not just gay people.

He really spoke for people of color, the elderly community — all folks, rather than being just a one-platform candidate. I was in my early 20s when he was elected as the first gay public official in the United States. Then, of course, when he was assassinated I became even more aware of him and his impact.

What I saw in him, and what he represented, was an acceptance of gay PHOTO COURTESY OF RENEE LACHANCE people alongside a barometer of the threat level that people who came out at the time faced. At that time, it was a really revolutionary thing to come out and be gay in public. However, in reading about his life and talking with people who worked with him, I was struck that, despite this threat, he was always adamant that coming out was the best way to educate the general populace that gay people were everywhere and deserved the same rights. This influenced me greatly when I started Just Out; this idea, that coming out was revolutionary and critically important, was exactly why we founded the paper.”

SIMONE NEALL, FIRST TRANSGENDER MEMBER OF THE STATE CONSTRUCTION CONTRACTORS BOARD “It was my father. He taught me some really valuable lessons in life: every problem has a solution, and if you don’t have a solution you just need to step back and wait for the solution to come. ... My father gave me a sense of work ethic, being busy and doing things that you need to do when you need to do them. … I have so many friends who didn’t know their dads, or whose dads just weren’t around, but in my family it was always mom, dad, and kids — always together.

Dad was the one who meted out punishment, certainly, but he was also the one who taught us how to tie knots, to build skateboards by screwing wheels onto 2-by-4s, did Boy Scouts with us. He was the guy we went to, the guy that could solve the problems that needed solving.

I grew up as a young man, and late into adulthood it came time for me to look at who I am and what I PHOTO BY GREG MAGUIRE had been trying to hide for most of my life, and come out to my family. Of my family — my mom, dad, and brothers — my dad was the most accepting, when I thought he would be the least. It was really surprising, but it just reinforced to me that he was my mentor and hero.

My dad passed away in 2009. I was out of town at the time; I was admonished by some (now former) friends for traveling while my father was sick. I realized that it was okay, because I didn’t have any baggage with him. We were up-front with one another, and he didn’t pull any punches — he was old and infirm, but god, if you tried to help him, he’d get pissed at you. ‘I can do this!’ he’d say. He was as independent as he could be, had the independent spirit that made him self-sufficient. He was just such a neat man, and I was so fortunate to have him as a father.”

MARIA PETERS LAKE, FIRST WOMAN EMPRESS OF THE IMPERIAL SOVEREIGN ROSE COURT “As far as who I am as a person, Audria M. Edwards, who was instrumental in starting the PFLAG chapter in Portland, was a hero of mine. She was someone that I could go to — a mother to the lost people, the people who didn’t have accepting families. She was a mother figure to all of us. Her belief in the power of education, which she demonstrated by going back to school when she was 40 years old, inspired me. When you think of a pioneer, you think of someone who took that step first — and back when she did it, 40-year-olds didn’t start college! She instilled in me how important it was to have an education, to be your best at everything you do, and to be a woman of color who is proud of who you are. I learned these things from her, and her children, and her family — the understanding and peace that comes from being who you are, and having people accept you as you are.”

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GARY COLEMAN, FOUNDING MEMBER OF THE PORTLAND GAY MEN’S CHORUS “In this whole gay movement, I think that the pioneers are not so much the people that are named, but the people who step up. I consider Matthew Shepherd a pioneer, for example, because he was out and gay and paid a price for it that has turned into lots of other positive things. … It isn’t one individual, or people of name or fame, that inspires me. Instead, I am consistently inspired by people’s innate impulse to make a difference in their communities and their world, and the willingness that comes with this impulse to step up to the plate for this cause — no matter what the consequences may be.” pqmonthly.com

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LOCAL HEROES Ismoon Hunter-Morton: Rebel librarian-at-large

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One does not expect to see the words “rebel” and “librarian” joined to describe an archivist, but then, few dare dream of an Ismoon Hunter-Morton at all.

Histor ia n Ismoon Hu nter-Mor ton recalls being politically-charged since grade school.

“I d i d n’t w a nt to say the Pledge of Allegiance,” she says.

“My family was atheist and I thought it was unfair that I had to say it. I remember being taken into the office ... and asked what part I objected to. I was scared, and a shy little girl, starIsmoon Hunter-Morton ing at my feet; but I pointed out that I didn’t believe in God and didn’t believe that ‘liberty and justice for all’ was true. I didn’t feel it was okay to say that when it wasn’t happening.”

The future curator of human histories later risked her hard-won scholarship to Antioch College in 1994, when she and a fellow student at her high school staged a protest.

“A group of us objected to sexism in our school by simultaneously holding up protest signs during the coronation of the Rose Festival Queen,” she recalls. “The crowd didn’t appreciate the gesture and tried to rip the signs from our hands, but we stood our ground. … We made the front page of the [Oregonian] Metro section. … Students began asking questions based on our signs, like, ‘What is objectification?’ and many were talking about feminism for the very first time.”

That same year, Hunter-Morton, then newly-arrived at Antioch and pursuing a degree in women’s studies, took a giant step toward realizing her personal history. “I was always bisexual, but came out that first day of college, feeling safely removed from homophobic high school teachers, several of whom were affiliated with the Oregon Citizen’s Alliance (OCA) — organized to ban homosexuality from public schools, and to legally group homosexuality with pedophilia and bestiality,” she says.

Hunter-Morton eventually returned to Oregon, first enrolling at Portland Community College and then at Portland State University, where she signed up for a capstone course with the Gay & Lesbian Archives of the Pacific Northwest (GLAPN) and was soon hooked on LGBTQ chronicles. After

receiving her bachelor’s in history in 2001, two Pride Foundation Scholarships allowed her to earn her master’s degree in library and information sciences from the University of Wisconsin, Milwaukie.

Following graduation in 2005, HunterMorton worked as a substitute librarian for Multnomah County. In 2008, she started volunteering her time at Q Center, and has curated the Kendall Clawson Library there for the last four years. In 2010 she began working on Cascade AIDS Project’s oral history project, CAP Archives, a job that reignited her interest in GLAPN. “GLAPN is so important because our history has been silent and invisible, even as recently as 10 years ago. It’s so recent that we’ve come out,” she says. “The whole history of civil rights is an inter-connected matrix of histories. GLAPN records the history of what queer people have experienced locally, from our partners dying and their families throwing out our love letters, to the paddy wagon pushing up against the bar door to arrest people for being queer, and everything in between.”

Along with an on-going roster of volunteer projects, Hunter-Morton now splits her time between Washington County’s Forest Grove Library and GLAPN. Elected president in June of this year, the young archivist is thoughtfully fueling the culture of GLAPN, including recently partnering with organizations like Q Center to produce the “Queer Heroes NW” multimedia project and with the Dill Pickle Club to offer Gay Walking Tours of the City, led by GLAPN’s Dave Kohl, author of the singular tome on local LGBTQ history, “A Curious and Peculiar People.”

Hunter-Morton says the stories GLAPN gathers are “nuanced and complex. We tell ... of the past so that, in the future, when the gay community is shocked by some level of discrimination or hatred, we can see how we survived it before, and come through it again with that knowledge, using strategies from the past.”

She hopes her work will particularly help LGBTQ youth to realize that there are others like them, and that they are part of a community.

“I want GLAPN to do more than record history,” Hunter-Morton says. “I’d like to develop school presentations and scholastic course components. Kids deserve to know that they’re not alone.”

Forever outside any box, part rebel and part pioneer, self-described genderqueer Ismoon Hunter-Morton is fluid in her own identity, serving her convictions and, as a trustee of queer history, fueling our curiosity and conversation. Her story is our story, a page from regional history, carefully collected. Considering Hunter-Morton’s energy, and ever-expanding clarity of purpose, the best parts of her story may well be yet to come.

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BENDING THE BINARY

Genderqueer trailblazers, from the Stone Age to today

By Nick Mattos PQ Monthly

2900 B.C.E. In 2011, researchers in the Czech Republic excavated a group of tombs dating from a Neolithic period known as the Corded Ware era. One tomb in particular, though, proved to be a landmark discovery. During the period, funerary rites dictated that men were to be buried lying on their right side, with their heads pointing west, surrounded by weapons, tools, and food.

However, the male skeleton in this tomb was found on their left side with their head facing west, interred with jewelry and domestic jugs — the traditional burial style for women.

“From history and ethnology, we know that people from this period took funeral rites very seriously, so it is highly unlikely that this positioning was a mistake,” said lead researcher Kamila Remisova Vesinova. Indeed, researchers believe that this was the grave of a transgender person who likely lived as a woman.

1840s Ellen andWilliam Craft were African-American slaves living in Macon, Ga., who resolved to flee slavery and make their way to the free states in the North. As William could not travel alone due to social danger, Ellen — whose light skin allowed her to pass for white — thought of a bold an innovative idea to enable them to escape. The two asked their slave master for permission to travel for the holidays and departed on Dec. 21, 1848; Ellen then disguised herself as a white male cotton planter attended by William, her slave.

Ellen feigned an injury to her writing hand to hide her illiteracy; when she found herself seated beside a friend of her slave owner, she pretended to be deaf to discourage his attempts at conversation. The couple faced numerous challenges over their 800-mile journey, including scoldings for Ellen’s kind treatment of “her slave” and several threats of detainment for not having proof of ownership over William. But the Crafts successfully arrived in Philadelphia on Christmas Day. The Crafts later became public speakers supporting the abolitionist cause and established a school in Georgia for newly-freed slaves; during this time, Ellen often continued to dress in masculine attire.

1920s Gladys Bentley was an American blues singer, famous in the 1920s and 30s for her raunchy lyrics delivered in a deep growl.

Openly lesbian, Bentley’s onstage schtick involved hitting heavily upon women in the audience while accompanied by a chorus line of drag queens.

In her offstage life, she was often harassed for her masculine sartorial sensibility — and when she relocated from New York to Los Angeles in the early 1930s, she was often targeted by the police. Billed as the “Brown Bomber of Sophisticated Songs,” Bentley was rarely seen on stage without her signature tuxedo and top hat.

She scandalized New York during the Harlem Renaissance by claiming to a gossip columnist that she married a white woman in Atlantic City, possibly by impersonating a man. However, Bentley’s life ultimately took a turn a turn pqmonthly.com

away from the genderqueer — she later married a man, adopted a more traditionally feminine style, and became a devoted minister of the Los Angeles-based new religious movement the Temple of Love in Christ, Inc. However, she still made a major impact upon the blues scene that continues to manifest in the genderqueer style sense within popular music.

1960s Reed Erickson was born Rita Alma Erickson in 1917.

After her father’s death in 1962, Erickson inherited her family’s business; the following year, she became a patient of Dr. Harry Benjamin, a pioneer in gender reassignment surgery, and became one of the first people to undergo the procedure. Now identifying as Reed, Erickson used his business mettle to turn his $5 million dollar inheritance into a personal fortune estimated at over $40 million, money he would pour into launching the Erickson Educational Foundation in 1964.

“The EEF helped to support ... almost every aspect of work being done in the 1960s and 1970s in the field of transsexualism [sic.] in the U.S. and, to a lesser degree, in other countries,” explains University of Victoria sociologist A. H. Devor.

“The EEF funded many early research efforts, including the creation of the Harry Benjamin Foundation, the early work of the Johns Hopkins Clinic and numerous other important research [and public education] projects.”

The EEF sponsored public addresses, educational films, radio and television speakers, newspaper articles, pamphlets, and reference works relating to trans issues. Erickson’s philanthropy also greatly impacted the New Age movement; his EEF funded one of the very first Englishlanguage publications on acupuncture, numerous studies of altered states of consciousness (both drug-induced and otherwise), the dolphin communication research of John Lilly, and the publication of the first edition of the profoundly influential “A Course in Miracles.”

2000s Buck Angel started his career as a female high-fashion model in the 1980s; however, in the late 1990s, Angel realized that he was transgender, and began the process of gender reassignment. He ultimately decided to forego genital surgery, asserting: “It’s not what’s between your legs that defines you; it’s what people put betwixt your legs that defines you.”

And betwixt did people put things.

Angel began to produce and star in his own highly successful line of adult films and later the first FTM adult web site in 2003. In 2005, he became the first FTM to be featured in an allmale porn film, “Titan’s Cirque Noir.”

That same year, Angel also performed in Allanah Starr’s “Big Boob Adventures,” which included the pornographic first of a filmed sex scene between a male-to-female transgender person (Starr) and a female-to-male person (Angel).

In recent years, Angel has devoted himself to educating the public about transgender issues, speaking at universities and appearing on numerous media outlets to discuss the fluidity of sexuality and gender politics.

Sources: CzechPosition.com, DailyMail.co.uk, FutilityCloset.com, Wikipedia.org, QueerCulturalCenter.org, TheButchCaucus.blogspot.com, web.uvic.ca/~ahdevor/ReedErickson.pdf, mindbodyspiritjournal.com, glbtq.com, buckangel.com

FEATURES

WHEN PIONEERING MEANS BUSINESS — AND MUSHROOM HUNTING

By Daniel Borgen PQ Monthly

Not all of our pioneers, as we know, are purely political activists — though even most business owners, in one way or another, inevitably dabble in that realm. Trailblazers can be and are influential simply through the way they conduct themselves, run their companies, and support nonprofits.

We talked to one of those men — Bill Dickey, owner of Morel Ink — about his passion for progressive causes, the ACLU, and mushroom hunting.

You’ve seen Dickey all over the nonprofit circuit, from Planned Parenthood luncheons to Q Center Bill Dickey galas, seemingly spending as much time giving as he does running a printing empire.

“Giving back is what it’s all about,” Dickey said. “I always have and always will find the act of giving to be one of the most rewarding things a person can do. Giving doesn’t have to be all about money, either. Sometimes I am fortunate to have a lot to be able to share — other times, not so much.

But everyone has time, energy, and unique skill sets they can use to help others.”

Dickey was quick to point out the cycle of giving — the give and take — everyone should pay heed to.

“That said, the community does need to understand their role in the giving process; I can’t give away money if I’m not making any. For that to happen, I need the support back from the community — as do all LGBT [companies], as well — and all other small business owners, period,” he said. “Business people have a responsibility to give back to their communities — but it’s not a one-way street. I also have an obligation to my 35-plus employees to be able to pay them fairly and squarely; keeping good people in good jobs is another way of giving back.”

And paired with that vision of community-wide responsibility, of give and take, is a passion for progressive politics.

“I especially get hooked on some organizations because I respect their leadership,” Dickey said. “For example, I think Dave Fidanque, executive director of the ACLUOR, is one of the smartest men in the state. He does so much for Oregon and the country through his efforts in protecting our civil rights. David has a gay son, and he fully expects his son to one day be able to get legally married in Oregon — and he’s a hard worker for all of us in that fight.”

Gay rights have taken a big leap ahead of late — the repeal of DADT, President Obama’s call for marriage equality — despite what is undoubtedly still a long road ahead.

We asked Dickey to daydream for a moment, and imagine where we might be in five years.

“I think it would be great if gay service members were getting married,” he said. “And leading the way for all citizens to get the same full rights as any of our married heterosexual counterparts.”

Dickey and his partner, David Wagner, recently become the proud, adoptive parents of Ruby, a black lab.

“We’re what you call a blended household,” he said. “We have cats, too.”

As for family excursions: “Mushroom hunting is one of my favorite things to do. I’m not telling you any of my secret locations, though,” he says. “I’m also a big, big fan of the Portland Gay Men’s Chorus.”

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By Shaley Howard PQ Monthly

Kirk Walker, head softball coach at Oregon State University for 18 years, recently accepted an assistant coaching position at UCLA. Having spent 11 years at UCLA from 1984-1994, Walker will miss Oregon but is thrilled about returning to his alma mater. As OSU’s all-time winningest softball coach, with a 594-491 record, Walker definitely proved his softball coaching expertise. But Walker is more than just a remarkable coach — he’s also an outstanding leader and role model.

In 2005 Kirk and his partner Randy were in the process of adopting a baby. Through the adoption process, the couple had to register with a public agency. It was important to Kirk that his players learn he was gay directly from him, rather than through the adoption process. So he decided it was the right time to publicly come out. The reactions from the players and public were and have been nothing but positive. Walker is now one of two out coaches in Division I NCAA — the other being Sherri Murrell, head women’s basketball coach at Portland State University.

PQ Monthly recently had the opportunity to speak with Walker about his impact as a coach over the years and his thoughts on being an out gay coach in a sometimes homophobic sporting arena.

PQ: What will you miss most about Oregon and OSU? Wa lker : Most definitely the people. Oregon is a great state and OSU a great university. I’ve made tremendous friendships personally and professionally that will be sorely missed.

P Q: What would you like your legacy to be with OSU and the players?

Wa lker : It’s important to create a program where athletes come and leave better prepared to succeed in the real world. That regardless of where we all come from and our differences, they’re able to focus and work together, united on common goals.”

PQ: What impact do you think you’ve had on the women you’ve coached?

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being around me is my passion and conviction [to] live with integrity without needing to call attention to yourself.

PQ: What are the most life-changing aspects of becoming a parent?

Walker : Everything. The sense of importance and world values shift when influencing and affecting the development of another human being’s life at such an early stage.

Nothing is ever the same.

P Q: Have you had any particular challenges as a gay parent?

Wa lk er : Honestly, I don’t know what it’s like to be a straight parent because I’m not a straight parent. But whether gay or straight, it’s the least of the issues.

PQ: You made history as one of the only two out coaches in Division 1 NCAA. What are your thoughts on being a role model in this way?

Walker : I’ve definitely evolved around this topic over the years since coming out. Early on, I felt a little slighted that my status as a role model is about something I had no control over: my sexual orientation. Over the last four years or so I’ve warmed and valued the opportunities of being an openly gay coach and the impact I can have. Being both gay and a Division 1 coach, I realized I have the ability to make a difference.

PQ: Do you find yourself being more vocal on gay issues than before you came out?

Wa lker : Absolutely, yes. But my overall focus is primarily on homophobia and bullying in sports. Redefining roles, how someone can be themselves.

PQ: Do you feel any pressure from the LGBTQ community to be more of a representative?

Wa lker : I’ve felt more pressure sometimes fitting into the role that gay activists want me to fill. I may not match where they are politically. I’m still an individual.

PQ: What do you think is the most difficult thing about being a gay male coach in the world of collegiate athletics?

Walker : Overcoming your own self restrictions and perceptions on how you’ll be viewed. I’m conscious about how my sexuality is perceived in my professional role. It’s my internal fears, more often than not, about being the right role model for everyone that concerns me — how I mesh that information into my professional world in an appropriate way.

PQ: What most excites you about returning to your alma mater, UCLA? Walker : The biggest and most exciting part about coming home is that I spent 11 years here at UCLA; some of my closest friends are here. I’m exhilarated to be working with two of my best friends who are dear to my heart.

PQ: Is there anything else you’d like to share?

Wa lk er : I’ll be on the hunt for a national title on a yearly basis! pqmonthly.com

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IT’S EVOLUTION, BABY

By Nick Mattos PQ Monthly

I see my messy hair reflected in the cured-meats-and-eggs case of New Seasons and know that there is no hiding how laid I had just gotten. It doesn’t matter, though — the Thursday-evening grocery shoppers aren’t paying attention to one another, shuffling past me with my basket full of linguiça and kale. It’s late evening, almost nighttime, in the time of year that is almost autumn.

I’m almost 29, almost broke, almost single, entirely thrilled to be in this odd space inbetween, in which everything is due for arrival at any moment. I smile at my lewd freedom and reach for a carton of eggs when I hear a voice behind me — “Of course you go for free range.”

I turn around, startled. “Ryan!”

We hug — “What’s with your hair?” he asks. “Bringing the fuck knot back into style?”

“Shut up,” I laugh, starting to blush. “I’m on my way home from a, uh, friend of mine’s house.”

“Considering how you’re walking,” Ryan grabs a carton of eggs, “he must be a good ‘friend.’”

Full blush and a wink. “An excellent ‘friend.’”

“Anyway,” he says as we stroll down the brightly-lit aisle, “I remember you telling me that you were going to change your column?

No more Rain City?”

“Yeah, that story finished itself out,” I say, grabbing a carton of milk off the shelf.

“What’s the new column about, then?”

“That’s the thing — I’m not sure yet,” I reply as we turn the corner into the produce section. “Rain City was about the aching to connect with other people and to the larger world, and I think the urgency to write it in the first place came from my own struggle with that ache.”

“Yeah, it was quite heavy.” The green beans in Ryan’s hand fall into a plastic bag; the bag falls into his basket.

“Totally, and intentionally. Which is funny, because while I wrote such heavy stuff, my life got progressively better and better. I mean, shit, life isn’t easy, but it’s still pretty damn awesome right now…”

“And fuck yes to that, I’ll throw in.”

“Thanks. It’s taken hard work to learn that ‘depressed’ isn’t all I am, if that makes sense. I identify a lot less with aching in general. I mean, I’m evolving as a person and letting go of some fundamental things about my own story.” I look Ryan in the eyes

through his round glasses. “So, I guess that’s what the new one’ll be about: the questions that this particular evolution brings up. What are we if we aren’t our stories? Who am I if I’m not, say, depressed, or isolated, or intelligent, or queer, or brave, or crazy, or hell, even a person? I want to consider what we are underneath the labels we apply to ourselves. I figure it’ll be surprising, whatever I find beneath there.”

Ryan nods thoughtfully. “Maybe being evolutionary is just being willing to be surprised,” he says. “I mean, even on a literal level. That first anthropod that scurried out of the water onto land — he got up to the shore, where the wet world he knew ended, and maybe he was surprised that he could scuttle his way up at all. Then he rose up out of the water, and all he encountered was a big dry land of further surprises.”

“Can you imagine a lonelier little bastard, though?” I ask, popping tart kumquats into my mouth as we walk towards the checkstand. “Nothing there to greet him except a big scary world of things that looked nothing like him.”

“Sure,” Ryan says, “but that’s pioneering: willingness to be alone in a scary new world, at least until someone follows you. However, let’s acknowledge that we’re vastly overestimating the emotional capabilities of a creature that was basically a primitive centipede,” he chuckles. “We’re talking about the drama of the gifted anthropod!”

“Ha! Still, it’s poetic,” I laugh, unloading my groceries onto the belt. “Maybe that’s what screws humans up: we’re still animals, still evolving, but also forced by the complexity of our minds to deal with the meaning we assign to evolution.”

“Yeah,” Ryan says as the checker starts to scan my groceries. “Maybe humans are the only ones that freak out about identities. I mean, while we’re in stoner philosophy territory, maybe those gifted centipedes didn’t even think it was all that different on land. I mean, hell, maybe they just thought it was all the same, that everything is connected, the wet sea and the big dry land and all their anthropod buddies and them, even if it didn’t really look like it at that moment. Maybe they just got on with their evolution without any of this drama we’re talking about.”

“Now that,” I say, grinning, “is exactly what I hope happened.”

I slide my debit card through the credit machine, then look back at Ryan. “Hell, if a primitive centipede can do it,” I say, “maybe there’s hope for me, too.”

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sation where I get to personalize myself and all that I am more so than just focus on who I love. I find in some people who may be homophobic the focus becomes the appropriateness of what I do in my bedroom.”

In general, Bring Plenty-Wright says she’s been well received by her Native community as a Two Spirit, despite

Like the Two Spirit ancestors before her who served as the first point of contact in their tribes, Amanda Brings Plenty-Wright is a beacon for fellow Two Spirits as well as those seeking to learn more about their histories and identities.

Brings Plenty-Wright, a 32-year-old Portlander and Klamath/Modoc, is the founder of the Portland Two Spirit Society (PTSS). “Two Spirit” is a term that is used broadly to refer to LGBTQ Native Americans and more specifically to reflect an identity that encompasses both masculine and feminine energies.

“Two Spirit to me is a way of identifying and respecting the balance of my culture, cultural roles, my gender, and my sexuality,” Brings Plenty-Wright says. “I identify as Two Spirit as I feel it fits better than any other description; it feels right and comfortable to me. It identifies me more as a whole person. I don’t really use any other words to describe my sexuality. I have used gay and queer but don’t feel like that really fits, and I don’t like lesbian or dyke.”

PTSS was formed in May 2012 as a social group for Two Spirits and their families but has since grown to take on a cultural and educational role.

Brings Plenty-Wright says she is working on obtaining non-profit status for the group, which is currently self-funded. Becoming a non-profit organization would give PTSS access to the resources to expand its increasing youth focus.

The group recently joined forces with 2SY, the Two Spirit Youth group run by the Native American Rehabilitation Association and is working to develop a youth curriculum and tool kit including coming out stories and cultural workshops. Brings Plenty-Wright says PTSS is also available to talk at schools, workplaces, and conferences about Two Spirit history and Two Spirit youth.

“We are excited to see what the future holds for the group and are hopeful for our non-profit status and potential funders,” she says. “We hope to be a Amanda Brings Plenty-Wright is the first point of contact for other local Two Spirit people. strong resource and safe space for both the Native community and LGBTQI community.” the homophobia ingrained into the culture by early EuroAs a youth, Brings Plenty-Wright couldn’t find the right pean contacts and later religious missionaries. words to identify herself until she came upon “Two Spirit” in “Two Spirits were often the first point of contact in a 2003. The term not only felt more authentic, it also seemed tribe, which is how a lot of our Two Spirit histories have to elicit a better reaction in her Native community. been lost and or forgotten. With European contact Two “I came to claim it as my own, defining what it meant Spirits were often the first disposed of as they were seen to me. I came ‘out’ when I was 15 using the term ‘gay,’ but as not only savage but freaks for [not] dressing or living as always knew I was different since I was about 5 years old,” they were born,” she says. “This lead to a lot of tribes hiding she says. “I find that I have a more positive reaction when their Two Spirits or having that role in their cultures move I define myself as Two Spirit. It seems to become a conver- ‘under ground,’ thus creating a fear base, which we now

recognize has contributed, along with forced religion, to homophobia within some Native communities.”

Knowing this history, Brings Plenty-Wright was initially nervous about being out. Her Native culture is her primary identity and one she couldn’t bear to be shunned from.

“I have been terrified at times at the thought of losing my Native community, but I have found in my honesty and my humble and respectful approach I have befriended and left an impact with some of the most homophobic Natives and non-Natives for that matter,” she says.

Her experiences as a Native person in the mainstream LGBTQ community, however, have not been as fulfilling.

“I feel like my history with the queer community has fluctuated and, mostly because I haven’t seen my face, I haven’t felt historically represented. And my first introduction to the queer community in Portland was one of just partying, which is just not me,” Brings Plenty-Wright says. “My culture is so important to me and I just haven’t felt the same cultural connect that I have with the Native community within the LGBTQ community. I was asked once how do I identify when I wake up in the morning and I always say Klamath/Modoc, as I go to bed praying in my language and wake up praying in my language. Now does that diminish my gender or sexuality? Definitely not. But it speaks to my worldview and how I choose to identify.”

She describes the worldview her Klamath/ Modoc culture inspires as one that celebrates differences as gifts from the creator and values the unique roles of individuals in society — both qualities that bolster her work with PTSS. The society’s stated mission is to provide resources for LGBTQI Native American/Alaskan Natives that allow them to share and connect and to reclaim and restore the culture, community, and traditional roles of Two Spirit people. According to Brings Plenty-Wright, those roles include negotiators, historians, healers, name givers, caretakers, foster parents, holy people, warriors, and leaders. A number of those roles are activated in the organization’s focus on youth.

“PTSS is growing slowly but surely and has gained momentum serving youth more than anything, which is exciting for our future,” she says. “Knowing our youth are identifying earlier and finding their role and voice within our many communities is something I am proud to witness as someone who didn’t have that in my own youth.”

PTSS will be starting up its monthly potlucks again soon. For more information, visit facebook.com/Portland2Spirits.

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OUT AT SCHOOL: QUEER STUDENT GROUPS GROW AND CHANGE WITH STUDENT NEEDS

Members of the UO’s LGBTA group volunteered in San Francisco for their Alternative Spring Break service trip.

By Nick Mattos PQ Monthly

Queer student organizations transform schools, communities, and individual lives. Descended from the first gay-straight alliances of the late 1980s and early 1990s, in only a generation queer student organizations in Oregon’s public schools have grown, changed, and evolved from their roots as safe spaces to their modern expression as organizations that provide solace, empowerment, and engagement for their communities.

THEN: 1994 Susie Allin never intended to be an activist, but the calling came and she stepped up to it. Allin — a former counselor at McMinnville High School who now works as a family counselor in private practice — was inspired to become engaged in creating a safe for LGBTQ teenagers through a horrific and painful tragedy in 1994.

“There was a young lady at our school who was trying to come out, and was in love with another student at the school,” she recalls. “Her parents were adamantly against this involvement, and didn’t believe she was gay. … They were prominent in the community, and just thought she was acting out. She was going through a lot of turmoil.”

The family visited Allin, hoping that she would be able to change their daughter’s sexual orientation.

“I simply can’t change orientation — no one can,” Allin told them. “I’d be really rich if I could do that, because if I could I would change it in reverse and everyone would be happy!”

However, the girl’s parents were decidedly not happy, and their strict and disapproving treatment of their daughter increased steadily. The student ultimately killed herself, sending shockwaves through the small community.

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or three different churches, YCAP — and we tried to figure out what to do for kids in the community who identified as LGBTQ. We … realized we needed a safe place for kids to meet [so they] could talk about things. I was the only counselor who attended these meetings, as well as one of the only people affiliated with the school. I said that I would do it until they could hire someone.”

Allin ended up overseeing this gay-straight alliance for over eight years.

“We would meet on Thursday afternoons at different places,” Allin recalls, “in buildings that were off-campus but were affiliated with the school district, or in the basement of the Baptist church. We always had pizzas and drinks, which I raised money for. We had few rules — no alcohol or drugs, no pornographic things, and absolutely no putdowns. We’d watch films, talk about local and national issues that concerned them.”

Even while some community members strongly opposed the group, they still found many allies in the community, including students from nearby Linfield College who had recently established their own GSA. In 2005, 11 years after the founding of the off-campus GSA, McMinnville High School agreed to let the group meet on-campus as an official student group.

“The attitude of the school, and that of the principal, became more accepting. We still got some nasty calls from parents from time to time, but the school had started to back me up fully.”

Even with institutional support, Allin says. “I still brought pizza for those kids every week.”

NOW: 2012 Like Allin before him, Ben Young transformed painful experience into action.

“We didn’t have an active GSA at Aloha High School,” says Young, now a sophomore at the University of Oregon.

“Towards the end of my senior year, I started coming out, and it sparked my interest in changing a lot of things about the school. I was bullied and harassed quite a bit earlier in my school career, and by my senior year I was tired of people being bullied.”

Rather than go through the process of starting a GSA, Young instead opted to start “speaking truth to power” and being honest with those around him about his experiences.

“I talked extensively with the principal about how I was bullied, before and after coming out,” Young recalls.

“He asked me to speak before the faculty and staff before the following school year started. I was able to encourage them to empower LGBTQ students to achieve more by being aware of bullying, and to take a strong stand against bullying language.”

Young graduated and matriculated at the University of Oregon, where he swiftly became involved with numerous queer campus organizations. Rather than serving primarily as social or support spaces, the organizations Young joined encouraged their members to look at the community around them and to enact significant changes in society.

This is a common approach for today’s queer student organizations, according to Glenn Goodfellow, a board member with the Oregon Safe Schools and Community Coalition who works extensively with GSAs and student groups.

“I would say the groups are now less about asserting that gay people exist and what it means to be gay — less about having to define yourself — and instead asking what it is that we [as a community] have to do above and beyond that,” Goodfellow says. “It’s less a bastion of sticking together to say safe, and more about doing things like raising funds, paralleling their work with other organizations, and looking for a purpose in the larger community.”

The UO’s LGBTQA group, for example, created an “alternative spring break” program that sent student activists to San Francisco in order to provide volunteer hours and fundraising help for LGBTQ organizations in the Bay Area. The group’s outreach also extended to the local community in and around the UO campus.

“I helped to start the group UO Equal, an organization that seeks to educate students about issues relating to the queer community,” Young adds. “It’s a student-led space to discuss queer issues, such things as redefining marriage and marriage equality, the Obama administration’s engagement with the queer community, and ways to engage and honor the trans and genderqueer communities on campus.”

Young and others involved in UO Equal also participate in Bridges, a program that facilitates groups of LGBTQ individuals to make presentations in high schools and middle schools about queer rights and answer questions about the realities of queer life.

“We partner with GSAs at local schools, as well as other groups, in order to break down the stereotypes around who GLBTQ people are and what their lives are like,” Young explains.

“Going into schools, I see a lot of promise, with many teachers taking a stand against bullying,” he adds, “even at my old school. I went back this year to talk to some of the teachers, and they said that a lot changed after that; other students who I spoke with said that there was little to no bullying at the school. A lot has changed in a very short amount of time, and I’m excited to see how things will keep changing — and what role I can play in changing things.” pqmonthly.com

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GET OUT! FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 21

Have a Hear t On Goes Wild! DJ Aurora invites you to shake it like a wild animal in this sexy queer/bi/straight/poly/everybody-friendly dance party. Dress in your favorite animal print or costume! 9 p.m., Crush, 1400 SE Morrison, 21+, $3 cover.

DJs Ill Camino and Bruce LaBruiser get RUTH LESS with the fiercest disco, house, pop, electro remixes all night long!

10 p.m., Local Lounge, 3536 NE MLK, 21+, $3 cover.

SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 22

PDXBAD GIRLS in vade INFERNO! The Bad Girls will be on hand — raffling items, raising funds for SYMRC, and being their treacherous, darling selves — as you dance the evening away! 6 p.m., Jones, 107 NW Couch, $8 cover, 21+, infernodances.com.

LURE. Calling all uniformed men and their admirers: If your kink is wearing a uniform or cruising men in uniform, this is the place to be! 9 p.m., The Eagle Portland, 835 N Lombard, 21+, no cover, lurepdx.com.

Blowp o n y vs. La d yb e a r. SF’s Ladybear hosts, with DJs Airick X, Just Dave, Stormy Roxx, Jay Douglas, G-Luve, and Kasio Smashio. 9 p.m., Branx/Rotture, 315 SE 3rd, 21+, $5, blowpony.com.

H e y Q u e e n ! Electro, house, pop, remixes, and good gay shit spun by Bruce LaBruiser and friends. This month’s special guests: Orographic and Gossip Cat! 10 p.m., Beulahland, 118 NE 28th, 21+, no cover!

SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 23

AIDS Walk 2012. Why not join in on a 2.5-mile walk through the heart of downtown Portland to raise awareness of, and funds for, the fight against HIV/AIDS? 10:30 a.m. opening ceremonies, 11 a.m. walk begins, Pioneer Courthouse Square, aidswalkportland.org.

CC’s Aft er-Wa lk Ween ie Ro a st ! Join CC Slaughters staff and friends for a postAIDS Walk BBQ and bloody mary bar.

12:30 p.m., CC Slaughters, 219 NW Davis, 21+, ccslaughterspdx.com.

On ce in a Lifet im e : Po iso n Wa t e r s’ lon g-awaited on e-m a n sh ow! Join Rose Empress 44 on her 44th birthday with an evening of songs and memories. 6 p.m., Darcelle XV Showplace, 208 NW 3rd, 21+, $10, poisonwaters.com.

You won’t want to miss the glamorous and prestigious In ter n a tion a l La tin Lo o k Pa gea n t ! 6 p.m., PCPA, 1111 SW Broadway, $37.

Gen d er-Free Sq u a re Da n ce. A caller and live music complement this centuries-old tradition, using gender-neutral language for one and all. Come early for lessons! 7 p.m., The Village Ballroom, 700 NE Dekum, $7 sliding scale, all ages, facebook.com/q.sq.dance.

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TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 25

The Pride Professional Alliance presents Yo u t h a n d H IV: Fa ct a n d Fict io n .

6:30 p.m., Q Center, 4115 N Mississippi, prideprofessionalalliance.com.

THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 27

TEMPLE, featuring DJs Kasio Smashio and Freddie Says Relax. Get crunk, mix and mingle, and enjoy a unique Westside dance party! 9 p.m., The Rose, 111 SW Ash, 21+, no cover.

Pu ssy Riot Ben e t! Join Sistafist, Forever, Kristine Levine, and Whitney Streed for a night of rocking singing and fund raising for the ladies of Pussy Riot. 9 p.m., Tonic Lounge, 3100 NE Sandy, 21+, $3-10 sliding scale donation.

FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 28

TWERK. Portland’s newest queer hiphop dance night turns up the bass with DJs Slutshine and II Trill, and special guest DJ Bruce LaBruiser! 9 p.m., Local Lounge, 3536 NE MLK, 21+, no cover!

BMP/GRND, a queer ‘90s dance party with DJs Kasio and Rhienna, welcomes guest DJ Kid Amiga from Seattle! 9 p.m., Branx/Rotture, 315 SE 3rd, 21+, $5, facebook.com/BMPGRND. Ap oca lysp ! a dirty rock ‘n’ roll queer night for the punk rock fag in everyone, with DJ Weinerslav, and special guest DJ Kit Fisto, with live music by Cockeye and Fainting Room! 9 p.m., The Foggy Notion, 3416 N Lombard, 21+, $3, facebook.com/ Apocalysp.

Ch i Ch i La Ru e’s P OP ROCKS. The infamous porn director and DJ hosts a live nude model audition and spins pop and rock hits, with special guest Gula Delgatto (and a handful of porn stars). 10 p.m., The Eagle Portland, 835 N Lombard, 21+, $5, eagleportland.com.

SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 29

DJs LunchLady and iLL Camino serve up lunch trays and crunk gays at Ca feter ia ! 9 p.m., Vendetta, 4306 N Williams, 21+, $3 cover.

Reviva l! Dance, lounge and cuddle, and party till dawn with DJs Miracles Club, Roy G Biv, and more. For discretion, the address will be released to ticketholders before the party. 10 p.m., Location disclosed to ticket-holders, 21+, $8 tickets online at revival.bpt.me.

SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 30 Hot Ch ocola te: Back to (Old ) Sch ool.

Join Poison Waters, Maria, Tiara Desmond, Kourtni Capri Duv and Alexis Campbell Starr as they celebrate sisterhood in a tribute to their favorite oldschool African-American female vocalists! 5 p.m., Darcelle XV Showplace, 208 NW 3rd, 21+, $10.

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THURSDAY, OCTOBER 4

First Thursdays mean D I RT BAG wants to punch you in the face (in the form of a queer, indie dance pop, electro, house, remix jams party). With DJs Bruce LaBruiser and Ill Camino! 9 p.m., The Know, 2026 NE Alberta, 21+, No cover!

SATURDAY, OCTOBER 6

The Portland Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence present Flip You r Wig! Wear your best wig and come out for cocktails, dancing, and fun! 9 p.m., Local Lounge, 3536 NE MLK, 21+, $3, portlandsisters.org.

Woo-wooooo! All aboard the soul train to Su ga r Town ! DJ Action Slacks is pleased to welcome legendary DJ Magic Beans to the swingingest night in town. 9 p.m., The Spare Room, 4830 NE 42nd, 21+, $5 cover.

DJ Anjali and the Incredible Kid host ANDAZ, a Bhangra/Bollywood dance party! 9 p.m., Branx/Rotture, 315 SE 3rd, $7, 21+, theincrediblekid.com.

Mar icon , a dance night for homos and their homeys. 10 p.m., Eagle Portland, 835 N Lombard, 21+, facebook.com/maricon.saturday.

SUNDAY, OCTOBER 7

Br idge Clu b is Oregon’s T-Dance, and the best place to check out the cuties in the light of day. 3-9 p.m., Produce Row Cafe, 204 SE Oak, facebook.com/bridge.clubpdx.

THURSDAY, OCTOBER 11

Sou t h er n Oregon Pr id e: Free to Be, You and Me. This event runs through Oct. 14. Visit sopride.org for a full schedule of events.

In Oth er Word s’ 19th Bir th d a y Celeb r a tion . Portland’s feminist community center celebrates its 19th birthday with food, drinks, and a performance by Miss Toni Hill. 6:30 p.m., In Other Words, 14 NE Killingsworth, $25, inotherwords.org.

FRIDAY, OCTOBER 12

Dir ty Qu eer x-rated open mic for erotic entertainers of all sorts. 6:30-8:30 p.m., In Other Words, 14 NE Killingsworth, 18+, $1$5 suggested donation, dirtyqueer.com.

The Imperial Sovereign Rose Court invites you to the Ou t-of-Town Sh ow, a part of Coronation 2012. 8 p.m., Holiday Inn Ballroom, 8439 NE Columbia, 21+, $30, rosecourt.org.

BENT. With your dance floor hero, Resident DJ Roy G. Biv, and special guests. 9 p.m., The Foggy Notion, 3416 N Lombard, 21+, $5, facebook.com/bentpdx.

SATURDAY, OCTOBER 13

The Imperial Sovereign Rose Court invites you to A Nigh t a t th e Tr op ica n a : Co r o n a t io n 2012. 6 p.m., Holiday Inn Ballroom, 8439 NE Columbia, 21+, $50, rosecourt.org.

Ladies! INFERNO’s DJs Wildfire and DZel turn up the heat at the hottest evening dance party up and down the West coast!

6 p.m., DIRTY Nightclub, 35 NW 3rd, $8 cover, 21+, infernodances.com.

Ch r istin e Ha vr illa, live in concert! 8 p.m., Camellia Lounge at Tea Zone, 510 NW 11th, $10, christinehavrilla.com.

Haus of Consent presents Dir ty Pla ygrou n d: a queer sex and BDSM play party.

Queers of all genders, experienced or nervous, are welcome. No booze or drugs. 8 p.m., The Sindicate, 5224 SE Foster, 18+, $15-20, for more information email dirtyplaygroundpdx@gmail.com.

ATLAS welcomes NYC’s Joro-Boro!

Hosted by resident DJs Anjali, E3 and The Incredible Kid. 9 p.m., Holocene, 1001 SE Morrison, 21+, $5, holocene.org.

MRS. is Portland’s favorite themed (and costumed) dance night. Check out their Facebook group for the theme. 10 p.m., Mississippi Studios, 3939 N Mississippi, 21+, $5, facebook.com/MRS.PDX.

SUNDAY, OCTOBER 14

Bea r Pa w Bu st . 4-7 p.m., The Eagle Portland, 835 N Lombard, 21+, oregonbears.org.

The ISCWE presents the Cap itol For u m Sh ow t o b en e t Ra in b ow Yo u t h . Head south for a drag show featuring emcees FabuLanzaa L’Eville, Stella Mess, and Tragic Mess. 6 p.m., Southside Speakeasy, 3529 Fairview Industrial Drive SE, Salem, 21+, no cover, iscwe.wordpress.com.

THURSDAY, OCTOBER 18 Au s t i n Un b o u n d Sc r e e n i n g a n d Fu n d r a iser . Join Byrony Blaze and Tyler Tweedy in a fundraiser for Tyler’s gender confirming surgery, featuring performances by Kitty Morena Montenegro, Asia Ho Jackson, Moonshine, Belinda Carroll, CoG, and Kaj-anne Pepper! 7 p.m., Clinton St. Theater, 2522 SE Clinton, 21+, $8-10 sliding scale donation.

SATURDAY, OCTOBER 20

Why don’t you take a Gaycation ? Think hot, sweaty, queer love on the dance floor (with resident DJs Mr. Charming and Snowtiger). 9 p.m., Holocene, 1001 SE Morrison, 21+, $3 cover.

Bear Beer Bu st. 9 p.m., The Eagle, 835 N Lombard, 21+, oregonbears.org.

TUESDAY, OCTOBER 16

Bear y-oke! 9 p.m., Scandals, 1125 SW Stark, 21+, oregonbears.org.

THURSDAY, OCTOBER 18

Of course, you really won’t want to miss the PQ October Press Par ty! Get the first look at the Oct./Nov. issue and rub plenty of queer elbows. 5-7 p.m., Funhouse Lounge, 2432 SE 11th, Portland, 21+. pqmonthly.com

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MUSIC

KILL MY (FEMINIST) BLUES MAGIC MOUTH Corin Tucker returns to riot grrrl roots

That energy is captured is the video for “Neskowin,”

By Erin Rook directed by Alicia J. Rose, a semi-auto-biographical tale of PQ Monthly two teenage girls who sneak out and into a club for a lifechanging performance by Poly Styrene (played by Tucker) Former Sleater-Kinney frontwoman Corin Tucker says and the X-ray Specs. that “a little bossiness” is the common thread connecting “‘Neskowin’ ‘is a coming of age story of two young women her rock star persona and her super mom alter ego. If moth- in the early 80s. It does have an autobiographical element,” Tucker says. “I did go on vacation there with my best friend’s family at the time, but the daring escapades are entirely fictional.”

In the video, a club full of 80s punk fans rock out to the song’s riotous upbeat while Tucker rocks the mic in a full-on Styrene get-up (which initially included fake braces, later tossed aside because they made it too hard to lip-sync). The resemblance, both in appearance and significance, is striking.

“I guess that Alicia Rose has always thought I bear a resemblance to her and that seed has been alive in her brain since the ‘90s when we first met. It’s Alicia’s vision all the way so I’m just happy to work with her,” PHOTO BY JOHN CLARK Tucker says. “I’ve been a huge fan of Poly Styrene and the X-ray Specs The Corin Tucker Band’s new album, “Kill My Blues,” dropped Sept. 18; the band’s month-long tour ends in Portland Oct. 13. for a long time, so it’s meant as an erhood is to thank for the return of Tucker’s commanding homage to one of my favorite bands.” siren call, then her time away from music was well spent.

But it’s not just Tucker’s stories that are told on the Equal parts haunting and urging, Tucker’s trademark album. “Kill My Blues” was a collaborative effort from all wail is back in full force with the Corin Tucker Band’s second the band members — including Seth Lorinczi (Golden album, “Kill My Blues.” Released Sept. 18 to strong reviews, Bears), Sara Lund (Unwound, Hungry Ghost) and Mike the record harkens back to Tucker’s riot grrrl days with the Clark (Stephen Malkmus and the Jicks). power and perspective of a revolutionary musician look“We really opened the doors to a fully collaborative ing into the rearview mirror. process on this album, working on most of the songs all And the 39-year-old indie rock veteran isn’t happy with the together in the practice space,” Tucker says. “Sometimes I’d view. While the album is laced with frustrations of a grown-up come up with a guitar line or verse and chorus, or somefeminist, the “WTF?” is clearest in “Groundhog Day.” times we’d just jam together on a song.”

“I’ve just woken up/Like Rip Van Winkle in a denim mini Though Tucker’s life (much like her bandmates’) has skirt /Wait, you see, now, I took a rest /I took some time to many of the trappings of “normalcy” — carpools, a part-time be a mom and have some kids/What’s up y’all? I thought we web development job, and a house on a quiet neighborhood had a plan/Gonna move things forward for us and women street — her legacy as a trailblazing musician remains. round the globe/Awake now, outside it froze/Instead of As the front woman for Sleater-Kinney, she carried her going forward, where the hell we going now?” punk rock brand of empowerment to women and queers When Tucker first emerged in the Olympia, Wash. music around the world. Though she and bandmate Carrie Brownscene through pioneering bands Heavens to Betsy, Cadal- stein weren’t thrilled when a 1995 SPIN magazine article laca, and Sleater-Kinney, she was among the standard- outed them as bisexuals by mentioning that they had dated, bearers of a DIY approach to feminism and social change. Tucker says she realizes the positive impact that visibility But that wave of momentum hasn’t played out the way she may have had on fans. hoped it would.

“I think it probably helped some young people who “I sometimes feel like I’m having the same conversation were coming to terms with their own sexuality, and that is over and over again. I’d love to see a United States where a good thing,” she says. women had more political power i.e. matching our 51 These days, she is still helping young people — namely percent of the population,” Tucker tells PQ the day before her children Glory!, 4, and Marshall, 11. Of course, it’s a heading out on tour. “I do think that talking about wom- two-way street. Her son teaches her about dubstep and has en’s issues has made my generation of men more aware of recently introduced her to the likes of Skrillex and deadthem, and I appreciate that.” mau5, while her daughter reminds her that what she does “Kill My Blues” is both a kick in the pants from the cool is totally normal. older sister who knows you can do better, and a balm for “I think my daughter thinks that all moms have rock the bruise that’s sure to follow. It says, “Shit’s fucked up. Let’s bands, which is great,” she says. dance it out and then do something about it.”

(Note to Mom: You’re slacking.)

Tucker says the upbeat tempo of the songs — a contrast to the more mellow “mom” vibe of “1,000 Years” — was a The “Kill My Blues” tour started in Minneapolis, Minn., on response to fan feedback.

Sept. 13 and will wrap up in Portland with a show at Bunk “We noticed people really wanted to dance at our shows, Bar Oct. 13. For more tour information, visit corintuckerto move around, so we tried to write some dance songs for band.com. Read the full interview with Corin Tucker online people,” she says. at pqmonthly.com.

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SET TO TOUR WITH GOSSIP

By Daniel Borgen PQ Monthly

In Portland, we’re no strangers to great local bands; we’ve long been hailed as a music mecca. So we have a bit of a thick skin when Portland acts make it big — on tour, with a bestselling album, whatever the case. Regardless of our affinity for success, there are times when a band’s trajectory still impresses us.

Such is the case with Magic Mouth: local club darlings to Queer Music Festival headliners to Gossip touring mates in a relatively short amount of time.

We chatted with two of Magic Mouth’s four — Peter Magic Mouth’s Chanticleer Trü Condra and Brendan Scott— on the eve of their departure with Beth Ditto and Co. “When Ana [Briseño]and I first started playing, I mostly wanted to do a show at Burgerville — and maybe some queer parties,” Condra said. “Once things started to pick up, though, touring with Gossip actually became a specific goal we had in mind. I just didn’t expect it would happen so quickly.”

Brendan Scott (DJ Pocket Rock-It) joined Magic Mouth a little over a year ago.

“I am never surprised at what we as a group can accomplish,” he said. “There’s a spark when we work together that I’ve never really encountered in previous endeavors. Not to say that being asked to open for Gossip isn’t one of the most surreal experiences of my life. They are a band I’ve always looked up to and wanted to play with. Having high expectations and expressing them can really make dreams come true, as cheesy as it sounds.”

As of now, Magic Mouth will be hitting 14 cities on their tour — including Condra’s hometown, Los Angeles.

“Initially we’ll drive from Portland to Washington, D.C., then tour up the East Coast,” Scott said. “After that, it’s Canada for dates in Toronto and Montreal. I think I am most excited for shows in New York and LA. It will give us a chance to see and play for family and friends that we haven’t seen in a minute. Obviously, it will be rad to play here, in Portland, at the Crystal. It’s going to be a really big show for us, towards the end of our tour; everything will be sounding tight and there will be familiar faces all around.”

And in terms of dropping everything and heading across country to follow their dreams, that was obviously a nobrainer.

“Personally, I had to defer from school for a semester, but obviously it will be worth it in the end,” Scott said.

“This is an experience no one could really turn down. It’s nice because everyone in the band is either a student or has an industry job that is fairly flexible. Besides that, I’ll miss my friends and family — and DJing at Bridge Club next month.”

Catch Magic Mouth with Gossip at the Crystal Ballroom on Oct. 10. Doors open at 8 p.m., show starts at 9 p.m.. Tickets are $20 in advance, $25 the day of the show. Get your tickets soon — Gossip always sells out. pqmonthly.com

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BILL AND CHRIS: A LOVE STORY

(Clockwise) Bill Rauch, Christopher Liam Moore, Liam, and Xavier on a family vacation in Hawaii last November.

By Julie Cortez PQ Monthly

It is tempting to wax poetic on the romantic significance of two college students feeling the first stirrings of a deep and lasting love while working together on a production of “Romeo and Juliet.” But though the Bard’s poetry makes for some of the most moving declarations of love ever written, a thousand balcony scenes between two overwrought Italian teenagers couldn’t hold a stage light to the emotional resonance of how Bill Rauch and Christopher Liam Moore still gush about each other after nearly three decades together.

“I don’t know what I did in a past life,” Moore says. “I must have, I don’t know, saved a village or something, because I can’t believe that I started going out with him when I was 19 years old. I can’t believe that I met him.”

Rauch says he was immediately drawn to Moore’s “sense of humor, his brilliance as an artist, and his incredible heart — just his beautiful, beautiful heart.”

“He’s my muse,” Rauch adds. “He has been for going on 30 years now.”

This is a pair of highly accomplished hubbies, and much of their success has come while working together — and working a lot. This year alone, Rauch, artistic director of the Oregon Shakespeare Festival in Ashland, is directing two plays featuring Moore — a member of OSF’s acting company and a guest director — while Moore is himself directing a show for the festival. Rauch is also helming Portland Center Stage’s “The Body of an American,” opening in the Rose City on Oct. 5.

During the height of rehearsal season, Rauch’s schedule, for example, usually includes working from 9 a.m. to midnight, six days a week. Plus there’s the small matter of raising their two sons, 12-year-old Liam and 7-year-old Xavier.

“We knew we wanted to have kids,” Moore says. “That was sort of a given, I think, from very early on in our relationship. We were always waiting for the right time to do it, and then we realized there was never going to be a right time — that we had to make the time.”

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independent adoptions as newborns, take priority when it comes to what free time their dads have left.

“But then the problem is, we’re not taking care of ourselves as a couple,” Rauch admits.

Their basic relationship maintenance involves going out to dinner without the boys at least once a week when not in rehearsals, as well as the rare, coveted weekend away, just the two of them.

And, most importantly, “No matter how tired we are, no matter how late at night one of us goes home, we sit down ... and just talk about what happened during the day,” Rauch says. “It’s just those little things that keep us invested in one another and in our relationship.”

“I think working together and living together the way that they do, it’s the kind of thing that either makes your relationship or destroys your relationship,” says Alison Carey, an OSF playwright and director who has been the couple’s friend and collaborator since college. “The pressure that those two men are under constantly — there are people who couldn’t thrive in it. … The fact that they are able to do such great work together reinforces their relationship rather than challenging it.”

WHAT’S YOUNG LOVE GOT TO DO WITH IT? Carey and Rauch were already close when Moore came into the picture at Harvard, so she was witness to those first romantic sparks.

“They were clearly meant to be together from the beginning,” she says. “They got together very quickly.”

For Rauch, the relationship didn’t feel quite so quickly attained.

“I had a big bad crush on him the moment he arrived at school,” recalls Rauch, at the time an older and wiser junior directing a freshman Moore in his first role for the Harvard stage.

It wasn’t until almost two years later, as they were working on the first incarnation of “Medea/Macbeth/Cinderella” — an experimental mash-up co-adapted by Rauch and starring Moore as Lady Macbeth that they’ve resur-

rected several times in the last few decades, including during the current OSF season — that their romantic relationship truly began.

“We started going out, and there were these three very tempestuous months, and I wasn’t really out, and I was just very confused,” Moore recalls.

Shortly after Rauch graduated, the two were visiting his parents in D.C., driving along the Washington Mall on a beautiful summer afternoon in a convertible Volkswagon Bug — top down. Tina Turner’s “What’s Love Got to Do With It” came on the radio — and suddenly Moore knew exactly what it had to do with it.

“It was literally the closest I’ve been to being thunderstruck,” he recalls. “We were driving, and I had been very back and forth, and ‘I don’t know if I can be in this relationship.’ And I just turned to him … and I realized, ‘What are you doing? This is the man you’re supposed to be with for the rest of your life.

Just let all that nonsense go.’ And I was 19 — I was a kid. … And we’ve been together ever since, and I don’t know what I did to deserve him. I really don’t. He’s an amazing man.”

One other significant hurdle remained to fully embracing themselves as a lifelong couple: “I did not come out to my parents until the seventh year of our relationship,” Rauch says. “I really lived in terror of coming out to my parents; it was a big, big driving force in my young adulthood.”

His fears would prove unfounded.

“They immediately assured me they didn’t love me any less,” Rauch recalls of his coming out. “They’ve had their struggles, but I’ll tell you what changed everything was when the kids were born. When two of their grandkids had two dads, then the rest of it just had to melt away.”

MOMENTS OF GRACE Certainly, their life together hasn’t been an unblemished fairy tale — how could it be when homophobia and bigotry prevent two men with such obvious love and commitment for each other from being legally married in most of the nation? (Moore and Rauch are registered domestic partners, however, and had a big wedding ceremony and celebration with their friends and family in 1997.)

“Look, we live in a homophobic world,” Rauch says, “and I know that our kids having two dads will not be uncomplicated. It’s not uncomplicated for them now; it will not be uncomplicated throughout their lives.”

Shortly after his arrival in Ashland, Rauch recalls being told he was throwing his sexuality in his audience’s face after mentioning his husband twice during a lecture. He’s also been accused of bringing a “gay agenda” to OSF. Rauch, though, contrasts such incidents with the reaction of a born-again Christian woman — whom Rauch had worked with years before and liked very much — upon first discovering over a decade ago that Rauch was a gay man with a husband and an infant son.

“My heart was really heavy because I thought she was going to reject us,” he says.

Instead, she declared baby Liam “the luckiest baby in the world to have two such great dads,” and proceeded to shower the child with gifts.

“I’ve had so many moments of grace like that in my life,” Rauch says, “in terms of people affirming our family and affirming our couplehood. I’ve got plenty of horror stories, but so many more things that give me hope.”

See Christopher Liam Moore in two Bill Rauch-directed shows at OSF —“Medea/Macbeth/Cinderella” and “All The Way” — now through Nov. 3 (www.osfashland.org). “The Very Merry Wives of Windsor, Iowa,” directed by Moore and penned by Alison Carey, closes Oct. 13 — the same weekend as Southern Oregon Pride (Oct. 11-14, www.sopride.org). In Portland, catch Rauch’s directorial handy work in “The Body of an American,” Oct. 5-Nov. 11 (www.pcs.org). pqmonthly.com

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THE LADY CHRONICLES MOVIES, AIDS WALKS, AND JULIA ROBERTS: AN ODE TO AUTUMN

By Daniel Borgen PQ Monthly

Every year, I anxiously await the Gay and Lesbian Film Festival. My love is twofold — it’s one part seeing queers of all stripes lined up and wrapped around city blocks, down 21st Avenue, then Irving Street, opening night, big-city-style. The other part is a genuine love for all things cinema. The festival is the harbinger of autumn, gently ushering in some of our drearier months. (It also means Halloween and wigs are near, which delights me to no end.) Via the fest, I’ve discovered all manner of film: “Howl,” “Weekend,” “Trick” — and, most recently, “We Were Here,” the Weissman-helmed documentary about the AIDS crisis in San Francisco.

Last year, we watched “We Were Here” in sold-out Cinema 21, the charming, beloved theater time forgot. In all the movies I’ve seen in all the years I’ve lived on this earth (hint: big numbers), I’ve never experienced anything like it. The film — paired with the audience’s collective response — was a spiritual experience. I still think about it and occasionally re-watch it. (I love when a movie hits me so hard I have to take it in a dozen times.) Just last week, during one of our routine saunters downtown for retail therapy and guilty pleasures in food courts, my friend Ryan and I discussed “Here” (usually he’s loathe to wax serious) and we agreed: the wherewithal and resilience our community showed in the face of unthinkable tragedy and decimation — it sticks with you.

When I was in high school, I volunteered for the elder Bush’s presidential campaign.

He was running against Bill Clinton, of course, and I was still a confused mess of evolving, conflicting ideas. While my adolescent heart pined for Clinton, years of indoctrination proved too difficult to toss off quickly; satisfying church and family ranked above all else. Plus, early on, so little seemed to last — my parents’ divorce and the quick, painful death of my family’s matriarch proved it. I was determined to see something through, to stubbornly force some amount of constant.

So I donned my stepfather’s best suit — an ill-fitting grey pinstriped number — and made my way to Bush’s Portland headquarters to make cold calls during the weeks leading up to the election. I impressed the powers that be (clearly not difficult), was asked back, and returned regularly.

Fast-forward a few years: I’ve moved beyond that religious periphery, and I’m strolling through downtown Portland with

one of my best girlfriends, Lindsey, in my first AIDS Walk. Lindsey was the picture of style and glamour: curly dark hair, lipstick to the sky, working in one of Nordstrom’s finest departments — she was just what the gay doctor ordered after growing up in a church where women couldn’t wear pants or cut their hair, let alone adorn their faces with MAC goodness. Still smarting from a late night at The City Nightclub, the momentous nature of that moment was — briefly — lost on me.

During my church years, my only experience talking about HIV and AIDS was hearing over the pulpit (again and again) that it’s divine punishment for unnatural behavior.

God had had enough, you see, and the gays were reaping what they had sown. You’d think all that programming and homosexuality-as-demon talk might have been enough to steer me clear of gay sex forever — but there I was, walking and talking about AIDS and community, fresh off adventures in gay affection the night before (in the darkest, seediest corners of The City), completely turned around: emphatically antiBush and pro-Bill.

So, in a way, “We Were Here” worked as the historical bookend I’d been waiting for — a glimpse into the soul of the community that is, for all intents and purposes, family. “Here” is openness and empowerment taken to new heights.

Long ago, I made a deal with the devil. I promised to watch every Julia Roberts film ever made. In exchange, he’d allow me to be forever comforted by her long, beautiful hair, dark eyes, trademark guffaw, and all her romantic escapades. (As Ryan often reminds me, I am a sucker for Hollywood, no matter how I’d like to pretend differently.) Anyway, this commitment hasn’t been particularly fruitful of late, and it’s meant I’ve had to sit through movies like “Larry Crowne.” But even in that cinematic catastrophe, I found rays of hope and light.

“Crowne,” in a word, is about transformation — no matter how clumsily it heads in that direction. I just got around to renting it (it came out last year) — and it reminded me of all the reasons why I’m so reflective every autumn (and how far Julia’s fallen).

The season marks a hundred milestones that will always be important to me, no matter how far off in the distance they are.

As I walk in this year’s AIDS Walk, as I drink in this year’s film festival, as I cast my vote in November, I’ll marvel — yet again — at the scared, pseudo-conservative I left behind all those years ago.

I can only imagine what he’d have to say about Barack Obama.

For m erly La d y a b ou t Town , Dan iel n ow p en s TLC for you r read in g (d is)p leasu re. Em ail h im at Da n iel@PQMon th ly.com .

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MEET OUR COVER MODELS: MORE THAN JUST PRETTY FACES (AND MUSCLES) WRITER AND ARTIST COOPER LEE BOMBARDIER

By Erin Rook PQ Monthly

Vitals: This 43-year-old writer and painter is originally from Abington, Mass. He is the recipient of the 2011 Lambda Literary Foundation Fiction Fellowship, the 2012 Equity Foundation Larry McDonald Endowed Scholarship, and the 2012 RADAR Lab Residency. He is currently working toward a master’s in book publishing at Portland State University.

PQ Monthly recently chatted with Bombardier about art, life, and identity. Here are some of the highlights from that conversation. You can read the full interview online.

PQ: How would you describe your art/writing?

Bom b a rd ier : My visual art is pretty illustrative. I love outlines, representational images, text and typography, color. I work in a few different mediums. My work is influenced by Americana tattoo, my Catholic upbringing, WPA murals, the works of Diego [Rivera] and Frida [Kahlo], tarot, and circus sideshow art, among other things. … I draw in pencil and pen, watercolor, etc. I primarily work in 2D, but have dabbled in sculpture. Last year I collaborated with Portland artists Julie Perini and Wayne Bund and created a video installation with them for the National Queer Arts Festival. It was unlike most of the work that I do, but the process of collaborating with them outside of my artistic comfort zone was fantastic.

My writing has gravitated in recent years toward essays and nonfiction short stories. I primarily write from my own experiences. I am plugging away on a memoir right now about certain experiences of my early 20s, and have two other book projects that I am mapping out. I am interested always in writing about the rub between social worlds, the experience of the trans body in the world, masculinity, work, and of course the meta overtone of most writing: sex and death.

PQ: You were one of the early member’s of Michelle Tea’s Sister Spit tour. Tell me how you got involved in that.

Bom b a rd ier : I met Michelle Tea in my early 20s, when I moved to San Francisco in 1993. I met Sini Anderson the following year, if I remember correctly. We were all friends. At that time the city was a

thriving hub of young queer artists, writers, filmmakers, and musicians. It was a welcoming and enthusiastic creative environment.

I had been a featured reader at Sister Spit a few times when it was an open-mic night that Sini and Michelle hosted. They invited me to go on the inaugural Sister Spit cross-country tour in 1997.

PQ: When you came out as trans, were you aware of many other trans writers?

Bom b ard ier : Yes, a few: Max Wolf Valerio, Kate Bornstien, James Green, Leslie Feinberg, Patrick Califia — probably a few others that are slipping my mind. With the exception of Leslie, though, I don’t think any of these people wandered into the realms of fiction or creative nonfiction. But as my elders their work is so incredibly important and necessary. There was no internet to find words for what I was feeling when I started to more consciously explore and express my sense of my gender in 1995-1996.

PQ: I know your writing doesn’t always, or even often, address trans issues or identity, but do you think it’s important to be out?

Bom b a rd ier : Yes, to me it is incredibly important. Although I feel very strongly about reserving the right to steer my own ship in terms of when, where, and how I “come out” as trans.

PQ: What’s been the hardest thing for you to write? The most fun?

Bom b a rd ier : The hardest stuff is what I am working on right now, a memoir of my early 20s when my brother was murdered and just a few months later my then-girlfriend was diagnosed HIV positive.

Most fun? I had a blast writing an essay on competitive bearding from a transman’s perspective that was published in the Rumpus recently.

PQ: When you’re not writing, painting, or doing other work for school, how do you like to spend your time?

Bom b a rd ier : I love to exercise and lift weights, have a pint with friends, spend time with my awesome partner, walk Kelley Point with my dog, get out into the woods, and travel. I love traveling and rarely pass up an opportunity to go anywhere.

Check out Bombardier’s work online at www.cooperleebombardier.com.

ROSS MILAM, THE TRANSPLANT

By Daniel Borgen PQ Monthly

PHOTO BY JEFFREY HORVITZ, PQ MONTHLY

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You’ve undoubtedly seen Ross Milam preparing your delicious adult beverages at one of your favorite local watering holes — Red Cap (RIP), Boxxes, or Vault. We sat down to chat with the dashing Milam post-PQ cover shoot — and got his take on everything from doppelgangers to the future of Vaseline Alley.

On choosing Portland: “I moved from Denver this past January.

I think of Portland as a quality over quantity type place. I’ve traveled to or lived in over 30 cities across the world and none have the perfect mix of aesthetic, intellectual, diverse, and quaint appeal Portland offers.”

On how queer Portland compares: “It’s been my experience that the LGBTQ community — in every place I’ve been—is constantly seeking the next evolutionary step for themselves. The community here changed so fast in the early 2000s — between the degradation of Vasoline Alley and the arrival of the Internet and smart phone apps — that it’s become difficult for promoters and leaders to convince our people to congregate and evolve together. I believe the

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people voracious enough to convince this community otherwise will make a drastic impact on the future of the scene.”

On how often he’s mistaken for his doppelganger — Wes at the Eagle: “It happens at least three times a week. Wesley is one of my favorite people in the world, and I consider it a compliment.”

On his college days studying math, biology, and chemistry: “I’ve been part of research teams that have studied everything from the Marmoset monkey endocrinology to drug protein targets for tuberculosis. I am currently working on a project at the Center for Research in Occupational and Environmental Toxicology at OHSU — I’m teaching scientists from the Congo to test urinary levels of thiocynanate as these are related to the Sub-Saharan neurological disease. I’m still not sure what I want to do when I grow up.”

On fitness: “I work out to high energy house and EDM music.

Many of the DJs that have been brought to Portland by either Matt Bearracuda or Wesley of Glitterbear Productions tend to get my blood rushing.”

On the (immediate) future: “I’m working on building some fun events for Vault on Sundays. Next month be on the lookout for a party called ‘Beards and Broads’ — a mixer hosted by me and Wayne Bund. Boxxes has a major renovation in the near future which will add some much-needed freshness to Stark Street, and I’m there many weekend nights.”

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WHISKEY & SYMPATHY

Dear Sophia and Gula,

Here’s my dilemma: My partner and I have been together for about five years. In the beginning our relationship was full of passion. These days, while we are still loving and affectionate, the fires aren’t burning quite so bright in the bedroom. I’m not concerned that my partner is cheating or anything — they are still sweet and emotionally present. I know we need to talk about the lack of sex, but I don’t know how to bring it up. Their last partner was really pushy about sex and I don’t want to make them feel pressured. But not getting any is getting frustrating and a little sad. I miss that part of our connection. Help?

Sincerely, Scarcity and Desire

Dear S&D, DEAR SCARCITY AND DESIRE,

Sophia St. James

It can be hard to approach your partner about a sensitive topic, especially when they have a negative history about said topic. I think with a delicate approach and thoughtful conversation you can discuss your needs and desires with your partner without coming across harsh or aggressive.

My first bit of advice is to have an idea of what you would like to say and how you’d like to say it. Think of what you have loved about your intimate times in the past, what continues to be good now, and what you would like to see in the future. Mention specific moments that stand out from the rest. Reminiscing can be healthy and nurturing for both of you as long as it’s done with loving spirit. Sharing giggles can always make the mood lighter.

Follow that up with what you enjoy now. Even though the intimacy is lacking, think about the small things like cuddling and snuggling. The delicate, passionate things that may happen even though the fierce action is missing are still important. Be sure to allow time for them to process and participate with feedback.

Next, bring up what you miss. Talk to them about how you miss their touch. This is the time where things can get a little tense because it can bring up past emotions. Be loving while you are talking, hold their hand, caress their arm, or just being close to them can provide some reassurance that your intention is to enhance your sex life, not to make them feel less than. Make them feel secure and loved. Talk with them, not at them. Let them know that you want to work with them to make your bedroom life spicy again. Ask them if something has happen or how you can help. If there is anything you can do to assist in the process?

Let them know that you do not want to push or pressure them into anything they are not ready for. Most importantly, just let them know you love them and miss them and want that hot steaminess back.

xox, Sophia

For five long years I have been with the same body pillow. We met at the store and I took that baby home. Our relationship is strong and I am happy every time I lay my head to rest. But there was a time when I felt our comfort was a little flat. You know what I did? I washed that pillow, dried it with a bounce sheet, and went out and got a new case for my little snuggler. That night my love for my stuffed tube was rekindled.

I want you to do the same. Remember when you were first together and you dated? Start there, make a plan to meet after work for a happy hour, bring a change of cloths to work, and look sick. Be a little late meeting so you have an entrance and your partner has a chance to see the whole you walk in. They will feel your effort. Have a drink and an appetizer, then it might be time to bring up the fact that you would love a little spice back in your life. Point out that you set this date up and think it might be nice to have more of them.

At the end of the date make sure to thank them and give them a little smooch.

You don’t have to jump in the sack right away; have a few dates, reconnect in a romantic way, then you can ask your partner if they have some fantasies you guys can explore.

If your lover is a male remember they respond to their senses. Show more skin, walk through the room in your undies, and brush your teeth in eye sight.

Start a conversation and look them in the eyes. Flirt a little, and if they ask what you’re doing, you can say Gula told you. Then get into bed naked!

If your partner is a woman, they always like to see a little flesh, too, but do a little something for her. Take the day off and clean the house, make a nice dinner, and when she gets home make sure you give her some support and attention.

Let her know she means a lot to you.

If no flame starts by using the tricks above it’s time to pull out the big guns!

Wigs, porn, plastic wrap, and candle wax — then go sexy crazy all over them!

-Gula

Need some advice from Sophia and Gula? Send your query — with “Whiskey & Sympathy” in the subject line — to info@pqmonthly.com.

Gula Delgatto’s life began in a small rural farming town in Romaina. She was scouted singing in a rocky field picking potatoes by a producer of a “Mickey Mouse Club” type ensemble.

While touring the Americas the group fell apart due to jealousies and drugs. She later transitioned from Vaudeville to starring on the big screen to woman’s prison, and eventually advised the Dali Lama on fashion n-stuff. Currently she’s taking her life knowledge and giving back in an advice column for PQ. September/October 2012 • 29

Sophia St. James has been an erotic entertainer since 1996. She has traveled performing and educating the public on self confidence, self worth, and the art of sensuality no matter their outer appearance. Working as a sex and sensuality educator, sex toy/product reviewer, adult film director/producer, model, and erotic visual performer, Sophia is a well rounded woman with drive and determination. Sophia is also a mother and healthcare professional who takes pride in being a body positive and sex positive fierce femme. pqmonthly.com

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LET HER MOTHER GO! Margaret Cho delivers mommy from dictator regime to the red carpet

Margaret Cho will be in Portland Oct. 12-13 for four shows at Helium Comedy Club.

By Xanna Don’t PQ Monthly

Comedy royalty Margaret Cho is soaring with what is billed as her edgiest tour to date, “MOTHER” — which will nest for four shows in Portland Oct. 12-13. Cho chatted by phone with PQ Monthly about her family’s escape from North Korea, her forays in network television, and what remains her “most important work” — stand-up comedy.

PQ: You just received your first Emmy nomination for guest actress in a comedy series for NBC’s “30 Rock.” Was the role written for you? What was it like working with television’s smartest lady, Tina Fey? Ch o: Yes, Tina wrote it for me and I was so excited to do it. She’s a master, a genius, and a great person. We had never met, but we had close mutual friends. She’d wanted me to be on the show for the longest time and this was the perfect thing.

PQ: You’re nominated for playing Kim Jong-Il, the late dictator of the northern half of your family’s native country, Korea. You’ve joked your mother proclaimed your participation in ABC’s “Dancing with the Stars” the hardest thing in her life — “And mommy live through war!” Is your nomination bittersweet for her? Do you still have relatives there?

Ch o: I do, but I don’t know them because we’ve been separated for over 50 years and genealogy records were lost. My family suffered a lot from the North Korean regime. It was tough for them to get out because my grandfather was a political activist. My mother’s side of the family was living in the mountains starving. This nomination brings my mother from those mountains to the red carpet, because she’s going 30 • September/October 2012

in that community. It’s not about the image; it’s about my relationships to the tattoo artists. I just say, “This space is available,” and then leave it in the hands of the artist.

P Q: You play Teri Lee on Lifetime’s “Drop Dead Diva,” now in its fourth season. In the fickle landscape of series television, what is it about the show that keeps it renewable? Do you think the affordability of filming in Atlanta helps keep the show viable?

Ch o : I think so. The relationships between the characters have grown and mirrored the relationships we have as actors.

PQ: Your character branched out as a musical performer as you did with your Grammy-nominated “Cho Dependent.” Are the writers consciously drawing from your life?

Ch o: Yes. Teri is becoming her real self. I’m a musician and a singer; that’s from my life. The writers are getting our voices and rhythms and incorporating them into the characters.

P Q: The show has a delicious soap feel. Do you think there’s still an audience for soaps?

Ch o : Yes, definitely! Most hour-long dramas we see now are really that. They’re about thinking characters showing they have flaws, and secrets waiting to be revealed. You’re looking at the same kind of structure thematically as [AMC’s] Mad Men, creating from that perspective, where you have a lead who is basically an imposter.

PQ: How do you address a demographic like Portland that is somewhat anti-television when so much of your success this year is on the small screen?

PHOTO BY MISS MISSY PHOTOGRAPHY Ch o: I’ve been a nightclub performer for such a long time that TV is a relatively new thing for me. My most important work will always be stand up. to be my date. It’s an American triumph story.

PQ: How do you feel about a generation of consumers PQ: Your Emmy category is awarded a week before at who feel all content should be free and may illegally downthe Creative Emmys. If you win, you’ll be a presenter at the load your work? main awards on Sept. 23. Any idea what you’d wear?

Ch o: I’m thrilled. It’s a flattering thing. But for myself, I Ch o: I’m planning on winning! I mistakenly thought I would rather see a performer live because I want to have could wear the same dress to both. For the Creatives, I have that experience. an elegant Ina Soltani gown; it’s glamorous, way over-thePQ: It seems like the tolerability of off-color humor is top, but not crazy, refined. For the telecast, I would wear constantly in flux. Why are comedians getting in trouble LuluLemon track pants, so I’ll need help from other people for it now? because I don’t care what I wear!

Ch o : Comics don’t always think about what they’re PQ: Of the other women nominated in your category, saying and we don’t always mean what we’re saying or which one would you be most comfortable with winning understand its effect. But nowadays, everybody’s being if you don’t? recorded, so you can say something inflammatory and then Ch o : Getting nominated with people like Elizabeth you’re put in a position of having to defend it, even though Banks, Kathy Bates, Maya Rudolph, and Melissa McCaryou don’t necessarily believe it. thy is an honor. They’re all so amazing. But in my mind, PQ: Is there ever an instance where a bullying joke could I’ve already won, so it doesn’t even matter. work?

PQ: The theme of one of your “30 Rock” episodes, “EveryCh o: I think if you’re sharing an experience where you’ve thing Sunny All The Time Always,” is whether we have con- been bullied, that’s great. That’s a way to change things. trol of our fates. You’ve mastered many aspects of the enterPQ: In this election year, as you embark on a tour about tainment industry: stand-up, television, music, acting, and women and their roles, does the thought of a Romney/Ryan producing. Do you feel at this point in your life that you White House make you nervous? have control over your fate?

Ch o: That can’t happen. The GOP has shown themselves Ch o: I have control over my attitude towards it and how to be bigots and insane people. They can’t have a chance I react. It’s something that took a long time. Everything at all. I don’t want to think that it’s possible. I can imagine doesn’t have to be a catastrophe or a big crazy awful thing. it, but I don’t want to.

I loved learning that.

PQ: On “The Today Show with Kathie Lee & Hoda” last Margaret Cho’s “MOTHER” tour brings her to Portland month, you flashed your heavily-tattooed legs under micro- Oct. 12-13 for four shows at Helium Comedy Club (www. short spanx. What does your body ink mean to you? heliumcomedy.com/portland). Kyle Ashby and Stephen Ch o: It’s fun. I love to hang out with tattoo artists and be Duplechien contributed to this interview. pqmonthly.com

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Pretty And Witty And Gay THE ORIGINAL QUEER QUEEN OF COMEDY

By Belinda Carroll PQ Monthly

“If h om osexu a lity is a d isea se, ca n I ca ll in qu eer ?” - Robin Tyler Have you ever wondered where a timehonored saying came from? Those witty words get bandied about so much that we just accept them as a part of our queer lexicon, never considering the source.

So it was when I was in Los Angeles having dinner with Robin Tyler, Jeanne Cordova, and Lynn Ballen, all of whom are pioneers and legends in the queer community. Jeanne is a former nun who left the convent and held the first Lesbian Conference in 1970 and just released a book called “When We Were Outlaws” about her life. Lynn, her partner of 20 years, is a nationally-recognized feminist. And then there’s Robin, t he f i rst out lesbian standup comic, longtime gay activist — and my ow n personal hero.

Flashback to 1992. I was at a garage sale held by women who I know in retrospect were Robin Tyler older lesbians, but for my 15-year-old self anyone over 30 didn’t have a sexuality, so I thought they were sisters. Sisters with remarkably similar haircuts. We still had a record player and they had records for 25 cents. I bought George Carlin’s “AM/FM,” Abba (Gold), and Robin Tyler’s “Always a Bridesmaid Never a Groom.”

Who knew spending 75 cents at a garage sale would end up defining my life? ABBA made me a drag queen, and with both Robin and Carlin I laughed at things that I didn’t really know the meaning of yet, and planted the seed that would make

me a stand-up comic and LGBT activist.

Maybe it IS contagious.

Robin thus became an inspiration to me and also an imaginary figure. I didn’t really consider that she existed in real life; she was the woman on the record machine. I listened to that record for a couple of years, put it away, and put it in the back of my mind. So imagine my surprise when Jeanne mentioned Robin was coming to dinner, and I remembered her.

Robin’s life is a veritable walk down queer histor y lane. In addition to her comedy album in 1979, she was the stage manager and one of the organizers for the 1979, 1987, and 1993 Marches on Washington for Gay and Lesbian rights and is one of the original plaintiffs for same-sex marriage in California (Tyler v. County of Los Angeles). Never one to relax, she revived “Always a Bridesmaid, Never a Groom” for the stage in a one-woman show that played for sold out audiences in Los Angeles, and is working on a documentary of the same name. And that is just a smattering of the things she has done in her life for LGBT rights.

Robin and I have been friends now for three years. I worked with her on the “Chaz Bono Dancing With The Stars Viewing Parties” when Bono was going through backlash for being on the show, and I’ve seen just how much intensity, force, and love she puts out when she’s focused on a cause.

She still inspires me, and I still want to be just like her when I grow up.

Belinda Carroll is a Portland-based, nationally-touring stand-up comic, writer, vocalist, and an ardent LGBT activist who is in desperate need of a nap, a massage, and a girlfriend who works for an airline or a spa. For booking or to offer the aforementioned services, her email is BelindaDCarroll@gmail.com.

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SASQUATCH MAG CELEBRATES PERVERT THE CIRQUE BRINGS QUEER KINK PACIFIC NW MASCULINITY TO THE BIG TOP

By Erin Rook PQ Monthly

for something primal and the return to nature in light to our busy, technology-heavy lives. There is also something quiet and rugged about a rainy mossy forest that drives me to want to look deeper,” Bund says. “The goal is to depict men of all shapes and sizes who choose to live in a bio-region dominated by mountains, rivers, and forests filled with mystery.”

It seems fitting that the first sneak peak at Sasquatch should take place Sept. 28 at the closing of Bund’s MIMESIS: Fantasy Revealed show at Cock Gallery.

Strands of mythology and identity run through both projects.

A small Sasquatch art exhibition including videos, paintings, drawings, and photographs will show in the back of the gallery and an abbreviated version of the print magazine will be released. The first full issue of the quarterly, subscription-based publication is due out in mid-autumn.

“I don’t want to give too much away,” Kerr says, “but we expect the first issue to surround the beastly Sasquatch itself.”

The publication will follow in the long history of queer ‘zines such as BUTT, Straight to Hell, Pin-ups, and They Shoot Homos Don’t They, Bund says.

“However, we plan on being focused solely on the Pacific Northwest, which we believe is unique,” Kerr says.

Initial response to the project has been positive, according to Bund.

“I am most surprised to discover so many people in our community are hungry for a creative outlet, and how gracious and willing people are to be part of something when you put the call out,” he says. “I’ve heard lots of buzz and excitement.”

Amari Fauna has come a long way from her childhood fear of clowns. After transforming that fear into a “morbid fascination,” she made her way through circus camp and eventually became a “clown nun” on a perpetual quest for bootlegs of “Cirque du Soleil” shows.

It was while watching one of these bootlegs with friend Jack StockLynn that Fauna realized she needed to take it to the next level and become one with PHOTO COURTESY OF PERVER THE CIRQUE the circus.

“Jack and [I] were watching a really terrible Cirque du Soleil video,” Fauna says. “It used poorly-hidden cheap adult humor in a non-examined way that came across as really problematic. We thought we could do better than that in a more affordable way — thus, a queer kinky circus!”

And so, Pervert the Cirque was conceived. In addition to cofounding and co-organizing the event, Fauna and StockLynn will both perform at the Sept. 29 debut show at Echo Theater in SE Portland. They will be joined by Ring Mistress Sossity Chiricuzio and other well-known performers including Ari Lee, Kyle Minstrel, Liz Floyd, Danny Moreno, Brittany Walsh, and Diana Berkowitz.

“While future shows will be more in the style of Cirque du Soleil — more storyline based — this one is being done as a tribute to the traditional one-ring circus. It will be full of varied acts: some prancing ponies, contortion, a stilt-walking seduction, a trapeze act, one act we’re calling Ring of Death,” Fauna says. “There will be a performance of cavorting cats. It’ll be a selection of great cats from across the world — lion, tiger, panther — doing what great cats would do in a circus but with a few surprises thrown in.”

Though a variety of “animals” will be featured in the show — including ponies, cats, dogs, and bears — vegans need not be concerned. No real animals are used in the show, only role-playing humans.

Those seated in the VIP section will be treated to an even fuller sensory experience. An extra $25 buys the undivided attention of two servers who will not only bring food and drinks, but will also offer boot shines and massage. Front-row VIP seats are going for $40, while general admission is $15.

“We’ve discussed the possibility of all future shows being benefits for a different people each time,” says Fauna, a self-identified transdyke for whom the show will be a surgery benefit. “We’ve also discussed the importance of making sure all our performers and supporters are paid for their work. This debut performance will be our test run to find the balance between the two.”

Even as they prepare for their inaugural show, Fauna and StockLynn have plotted out ideas for the next six. The duo hopes to put on two or three shows each year.

“We’re looking to [do] our next performance around Valentine’s Day with a show we’re calling ‘Blood Bath,’” Fauna says.

It should perhaps go without saying that this event is 18-plus for general admission, and 21-plus for VIP. Tickets can be purchased online or at the door, however Fauna encourages people to get their tickets in advance.

“There will be a limited number of cash-only tickets available at the door, but we’re expecting tickets to sell quickly,” Fauna says, “so folks should get their tickets online if they want to be guaranteed a seat.”

To learn more about Sasquatch, visit www.sasquatchmag.com. Interested in modeling or contributing? Contact sasquatchmag@gmail.com.

To find out more about Pervert the Cirque, visit pervertthecirque. tumblr.com. Tickets can be purchased at pervertthecirquedebut. brownpapertickets.com.

Sasquatch will celebrate the hairy, two-legged beasts of the Pacific NW through photos, art, and essays.

By Erin Rook PQ Monthly

Do you believe in Bigfoot? When you live in the Pacific Northwest, close encounters with hairy twolegged beasts are commonplace. So it’s no surprise that this mythical creature serves as inspiration for a new magazine, Sasquatch, focused on the region’s hallmark brand of rugged masculinity.

Created by Wayne Bund and Greg Kerr, the publication was born out of a shared desire for new creative projects. It didn’t hurt that the two friends are interested in the same variety of manliness.

“Greg and I were having lunch one day, talking about how we’d like to collaborate on a creative project,” Bund, 31, says. “Somehow the idea of a magazine that focused on men of the Pacific Northwest came up, and it just clicked. I’ve always wanted to start a print project, as I focused in letterpress and book arts in undergrad.”

While they are the primary creators, Kerr’s boyfriend, Austin Kowitz, is assisting with graphic design.

The men say they want the publication to have additional contributors in the future, and welcome submissions.

“The purpose of Sasquatch is to showcase and examine masculinity in its multi-layered form,” Kerr, 48, says. “We are doing this by focusing on men of the Pacific Northwest, hence our use of the word ‘Sasquatch,’ which invokes curiosity and mystery, and, well, is a big hairy beast, and it’s that primary symbol of earthy masculinity that we are using for inspiration.”

Though the Sasquatch is, arguably, a type of bear, Kerr says that the magazine will appeal to more than just gay men. In addition to photos featuring some artful nudity, the magazine will also include artwork, essays, and articles.

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ARTS BRIEFS In fer n o hosts its second annual “invasion” by Bad Girls P DX with a dance party and raffle to raise funds for the Sexu a l a n d Gen d er Min o r it y Yo u t h Re so u r ce s Ce n t e r (SMYRC). The party gets started at 6 p.m., Sept. 22 at Dirty (35 NW Third). Tickets are $8 at the door. Learn more at infernodance.com and pdxbadgirls.net.

Por tlan d Gay Men’s Ch or u s performs a “Classical Matin ee” Oct. 21 at the Reed College Kaul Auditorium. The performance will feature music by classical masters offered by the Chorus, chamber ensemble, and instrumental and vocal soloists in solidarity with the fight for marriage equality in Washington. To get tickets, visit pdxgmc.org.

The Ga y, Le s b ia n & St r a igh t Ed u ca t io n Ne t wo r k (GLSEN) will honor brothers Bob a n d Ha r vey Wein stein with the Ch a ir m a n’s Awa rd Oct. 5 at the GLSEN Respect Awards on Los Angeles for their role in distributing the film “Bully.”

The Por tlan d Sister s of th e Per p etu a l In d u lgen ce are wigging out Oct. 6 with a fundraiser called “Flip You r Wig wit h t h e Sist er s” at the Local Lounge featuring DJ Brad PDX. Tickets are $3 at the door and toward the sisters’ charitable work.

Ed n a Vá zq u ez performs with Ma r ia ch i Los Pa lm er os Sept. 22 as part of La Lu n a Nu eva Festiva l, a celebration of Hispanic Heritage Month, at Milagro Theatre. The powerful mariachi singer (featured on the July 2012 cover of PQ) will offer three distinct styles from three different regions of Mexico. For a sneak peak, visit tinurl.com/lunanueva2011.

The In t er n a t io n a l Sover eign Ro se Co u r t presents A Nigh t a t t h e Tr o p ica n a : Co r o n a t io n 2012 on Oct. 13 at the Holiday Inn Hotel – Portland Airport. The coronation ceremony is part of week of entertainment including the Ha r m on y of th e Rose Awa rd s Din n er at Darcelle XV Showplace (Oct. 10); a Monarch’s Reception (Oct. 12), Out-of-Town Show (Oct. 12), and Hospitality Suite at the Holiday Inn (Oct. 13); a Victory Brunch at Embers (Oct. 14)

and a Part at Silverado (Oct. 14). For more details, check out rosecourt.org.

Come out and support Ra in b ow Yo u t h at a Ca p it o l For u m b en e t sh ow featuring performances by I.S.C.W.E Star Empress XXXIV Fa b u La n za a L’Eville, I.S.C.W.E Miss Gay Salem XXXIV Stella Mess 2012-2013, and Mr. Capitol Forum Tr a gic Mess. All proceeds go directly to the Rainbow Youth, an organization serving the LGBTQQ youth and their allies in Marion and Polk counties since 1995. Learn more about Capitol Forum at capitolforum.org and Rainbow Youth at salemrainbowyouth.org.

Closer : A Ph oto Exh ib it of New Micr oscop y by Er ika Sta n ley (aka Mister E) is on display at the Tiny’s Coffee on NE MLK through the end of September. Check out Stanley’s photography online at flickr.com/photos/greenerthisside.

Gen d er-free sq u a re d a n ces start back up again Sept.

23 at 7 p.m. at the Village Ballroom. As part of the Every Sunday Square Dance series, fourth Sundays fall through spring are gender-free. No experience is necessary as all dances are taught before they begin. Live music and an experienced caller bring this centuries-old tradition to life.

Dances are $7 at the door and all ages. Learn more at bubbaguitar.com/sundaysquares.

Ton ic Lou n ge will host a benefit for the recently-sentenced members of Russian feminist punk band Pu ssy Riot Sept. 27 at 9 p.m. with performances by Sista st, Forever, Havan ia Wh aal, and Kr istin e Levin e (comedy). Wh itn ey Streed emcees and guests are encouraged to bring their own performances with an all-girl themed ShittyOke in the front room. Suggested donation is $3-$10 at the door and prizes will be raffled off from SheBop, Fat Fancy, Hammy’s Pizza, Slappy Cakes, Brass Tacks Sandwiches, and Lion Heart Kombucha. For more information, find the event on Facebook.

Wa sh in gton Sta te Un iver sity a t Va n cou ver will screen the film “Two Sp ir its” as part of its Diver sity Film Festiva l Sept. 20 at 4 p.m. The film explores tradition, gender,

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Edna Vázquez performs with Mariachi Los Palmeros Sept. 22 at Milagro Theatre. and sexuality, the role of the spirit, and civil rights with a focus on the story of Fred Ma r tín ez. To learn more about the film, visit twospirits.org; more information about the film festival at vancouver.wsu.edu.

A new kind of party is coming to town with Revival on Sept. 29. The event will fill a private two-story warehouse in SE party with dancing queers, moving to beats by Miracles Clu b DJs (Portland), DJ Roy G Biv (Portland), DJ SPF666 (Portland), and DJ Pavon e (Seattle). The location will only be released to ticket holders and on Facebook a week before the event. Tickets are $8 online at revival.bpt.me or $10 at the door. All profits will go toward putting on the next party.

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Cultivating Life TOMATOES ARE CALLING: ARE YOU ANSWERING?

By LeAnn Locher PQ Monthly

Just because the stores are touting back-toschool specials and trucking out their Halloween décor does not mean summer is over in Portland.

I insist it’s high time for summer produce, and that means tomatoes. Tomatoes didn’t start producing until July and August, and come September, they’re just now reaching their zenith. Lucky for us! Help extend summer well into the winter by enjoying them as much as you can now, and preserving some for later.

EAT TOMATOES NOW Classic caprese: slice fresh tomatoes, julienne fresh basil leaves, and combine on a plate topped with slices of the best mozzarella you can find. Splash some balsamic vinegar and olive oil on top, salt and pepper to taste, and you have the essence of summer on a plate. This right here is what I crave in February.

Fresh tomato soup: This tastes nothing like that crap in a can. Slice in half roma tomatoes, place face down on an oiled, lipped baking pan, add several whole cloves of garlic, fennel seeds, salt and pepper. Roast in a 425 degree oven for 45 minutes, or until the tomatoes have turned crinkly and began to brown on top. In a soup pot, add the roasted tomatoes and garlic and a container of chicken broth. Using an immersion blender, blend it all up, right there in the soup pot. Add fresh herbs from the garden — I like thyme, sage, and rosemary. If you like a little heat, throw in a pinch of red chili pepper flakes. Bring to a boil, then simmer until reaching the consistency you prefer (usually 20 minutes or so).

• Tomato tart: Decadence and deliciousness, this is my favorite late summer dinner party food. Think of an upside down pineapple tart, but instead make with caramelized onions and cherry tomatoes. See the PQ Monthly website for the recipe.

PRESERVE THEM NOW FOR SAVORING THIS WINTER Slow roasted and in the freezer: The technique I described above for the tomato

soup is also my favorite way to preserve tomatoes. Slow roasting them brings out the natural sugars and heightens their flavor, prepping them for easily creating sauce and soup bases all winter long. After roasting, let tomatoes cool, then slide them and their juices into freezer bags. Label and stack in your freezer.

Tomato jam: Spicy, sweet. and delicious, tomato jam is the perfect addition to a turkey sandwich or to the holiday cheese plate. Yes, believe it or not, cinnamon, chili, and tomatoes do go together in an all around fantastic combination. See the PQ Monthly site for recipe.

Tomato sauce: I’m not Italian but I like to think I am when canning tomato sauce.

Loaded with herbs and fresh tomato flavor, jars of tomato sauce line my shelves, promising brightness on winter days.

Not sugary sweet or chock full of preservatives like the ones at the grocery store, I use sauce for homemade pizza, as well as a base for vegetables and browned ground turkey. My favorite recipe to use is from Barbara Kingsolver in “Animal, Vegetable, Miracle.”

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IT’S AN ‘R’ MONTH

By Brock Daniels PQ Monthly

September marks the first month of an end-of-the-year run of months ending in “R,” so get your taste buds ready for some amazing shellfish! The fall and winter months ending in the letter “R” are shellfish season, and the Pacific Coast is the largest producer of shellfish in the United States. Shellfish farming is the very essence of sustainability, making it a perfect food item.

“The shellfish themselves sustain the habitat in which they grow; and shellfish farms sustain the coastal communities in which they operate by providing thousands of jobs and contributing more than $110 million a year to the West Coast economy,” explains the Pacific Coast Shellfish Growers Association (PCSGA). And we are lucky enough to be right in the middle of it!

LEARN FROM EXPERIENCE If you’ve had success in your garden this summer, make notes now for next year.

Speaking of, our tomatoes are producing!

Here’s what I learned this year: • Wait to plant. Just because Texans are planting their tomatoes doesn’t mean you should. Planting in early June meant my tomato plants weren’t shivering in our cool, seemingly endless springs.

• Give them some breathing room. I’ve been known to crowd a bed, and this year I didn’t. With eight plants in a 12-foot raised bed, everyone has room to grow. And they did!

• Red plastic sheet cover really does work.

I had read the research and since it was a tested and proven advantage, I went for it.

The red plastic really does work, reflecting the right light rays that specifically helps to grow tomatoes and strawberries. It may look weird, but hey, I’ll take it.

• Keep the watering on an even keel. Even though we spent a lot of time away and at play this summer, hiring our neighbor teen to water was wise. The plants never stressed out, and now they’re producing like crazy.

• Favorites this year? Chocolate cherry, red zebra, and yellow taxi — as delicious as they are beautiful.

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THE GOOD LIFE

Small, soft, and creamy, the Willapa Bay oysters from the southern Washington coast are some of the best oysters around.

Because they are small and mild with a perfectly unique cucumber finish, these oysters are great for the beginning oyster connoisseur to enjoy raw on the half shell. Tillamook hails as another amazing oyster area, and the Netarts Bay Kumamoto Farm, part

Brock’s Granita INGREDIENTS ½ pint local strawberries 2 carrots 1 serrano chili pepper 1 lime 1 tbsp agave nectar 12 fresh raw Pacific Coast oysters of your choice

of the Northwest Oyster Company, produces these small, buttery morsels that have become increasingly popular over the past few years.

Find these and more succulent Pacific Coast oysters at two of my favorite local oyster eateries: Da n & Lou is Oyster Ba r 208 SW Ankeny St. Portland, OR 97204 503-227-5906 Ea T 3808 N. Williams Ave. Portland, OR 97227 503-281-1222 Chef Nate at The Uptown Billiards club on NW 23rd makes amazing seasonal granitas to go on top of his raw oysters. Cold, fruity, and a little spicy, his orange, carrot, ginger, and habanero granita-topped bivalves inspired me to create my own recipe using fresh local ingredients.

Try the yummy, easy recipe below. This granita topping is an amazing combination with the fresh briny oyster. As the seasons change, and different fresh produce becomes available, play with what you can find at the markets to accompany this perfect sustainable food.

“The families who operate today’s shellfish farms are beneficiaries of a legacy of environmental stewardship passed on to them by previous generations of growers. The vibrant, healthy state of our shellfish community is proof that today’s growers are equally committed to passing that legacy on to the next generation, ” the PCSGA says.

Enjoy these next several months with local sustainable oysters, and explore the fantasies of our region. It’s worth it.

DIRECTIONS Add all the ingredients to a large food processor, and chop until very well mixed, and juicy. Strain the liquid using a fine mesh strainer, and pour onto a sheet pan, or shallow container that will fit in your freezer. Place in the freezer, and stir every 5 to 10 minutes with a fork to disrupt the juice from freezing into one hard brick.

This will make the granita crystals form perfectly. Once the granita is done, and the consistency of a thick Slurpee, top each oyster on the half shell with a dollop of granita, and enjoy immediately.

Brock Daniels, a Pacific Northwest native, has studied wine, culinary arts, gastronomy, and loves researching new food. Brock has written a self-published cookbook titled “Our Year in the Kitchen.” Reach him at brock@pqmonthly.com.

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QUERY A QUEER Ar e yo u a le sb ia n p u zzle d b y ga y m e n ? A t r a n sgen d er p er son p on d er in g b isexu a lit y?

A st r a igh t p er son p er p lexed by q u eer s of a ll str ip es? PQ is h ere to h elp you th r ou gh you r “qu estion in g” p er iod . Sen d you r qu estion s to in fo@p qm on th ly.com an d p u t Qu er y a Qu eer in th e su b ject lin e.

QuESTIon: Are th ere a n y ga y m en ou t th ere wh o a ren’t p olya m orou s, sex addicts, self-cen tered, an d/or dealin g with ser iou s d a d d y issu es? I h a ven’t m et on e yet a n d it’s got m e won d er in g if m ayb e b ein g ga y isn’t so good for m e.

AnSwEr : This is a pretty loaded question, but the short answer is yes. Gay men come with a variety of preferences, strengths, weaknesses — as do we all, really. That means that while you will likely encounter some gay men who fit into one or more of these categories (which you appear to find uniformly undesirable/unhealthy — we’ll get to that later), there are also folks who don’t fit this mold at all.

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6. Mineis yours 7. Irritate 8. Savemoney on rent, e.g.

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25. *Jonas Salk fought it 26. Decorates Christmas tree 27. Biblical Abraham’s original name 29. *”TheMan in theGray Flannel ____”

Though you may not have met them yet, there are certainly gay men who practice monogamy, gay men without sexual or other addictions, gay men who are compassionate and empathetic, and gay men who have strong, healthy relationships with their fathers. If you have not met any of these men, you may not be looking in the right places, or getting to know the men you’ve met well enough.

It also sounds like you might be relatively young. Young people (gay and otherwise) tend to not have all their shit worked out yet and are often still experimenting with how they want to live their lives. Without airing all my dirty laundry, let’s suffice it to say that I was not quite the catch and/or role model in my early 20s that I imagine myself to be now.

Before we dive into this issue any further, I’d like to unpack a couple of the assumptions inherent in your question. First, that the qualities you listed are blemishes, a sign of damaged goods. Polyamory is a lifestyle choice that, when practiced ethically and consensually, doesn’t cause harm. Sex addiction puts strain on relationships, but it is a struggle for which help exists. As for being self-centered, while it’s certainly not a glowing quality, it’s hardly a mortal sin. And daddy issues? Most of us have them to some degree. It’s the extent to which we are actively dealing with our family of origin issues that influences our ability to enter into healthy relationships, not the mere fact that such tensions exist.

Another unspoken assumption in your question is that not only are gay men damaged, but they are damaged because they are gay. Or, more specifically, because they have sexual and/or romantic relationships with other men.

We all have our struggles and our flaws, but it doesn’t mean we are categorically unhealthy — as individuals, as men and women, as gays and bisexuals, as genderqueer and transgender people.

If anything, the struggles faced by gay men, and others

in the LGBTQ community, can be attributed largely to the oppression they face in our society. Stereotypes such as the ones your question is built upon contribute to a hostile environment that does no favors for a queer person’s sense of self-worth. All things considered, I’d say LGBTQ folks are doing all right for themselves.

In case you haven’t watched a daytime talk show or episode of “Judge Judy” lately, let me tell you: heterosexual, cisgender folks have plenty of issues, “daddy” and otherwise! I know if can be frustrating to feel like there’s no one out there like you. To some extent, it’s true. No one else has your unique history, qualities, and interests. But you can find people whose lifestyles align with your own (yes, even among gay men), it just may take a little looking.

I struggled with this tension when I was coming out as queer. I had been pretty religious in the eight or so years prior and had a hard time finding people who could understand my dual allegiances. My mostly atheist and agnostic college friends didn’t get why I was so attached to a religion that opposed homosexuality, while my co-religionists told me I should maintain my chastity and eschew the ungodly culture of the gays.

But as I got older and made more connections with more kinds of people, I came to discover that there were queer folks of faith, and members of my own religion who were accepting of queer folks (and even others who were LGBTQ-identified). I was even fortunate enough to finally find a partner who, though he does not share my particular religious background, understands and supports my desire to have spirituality in my life and nurtures it in his own.

If you’re worried about developing habits you find unsavory, focus on yourself, not your sexuality. Closedminded people want us to believe that our lives are inherently sinful and degrading. Don’t give them ammunition by turning your back on who you are. Embrace yourself and your community and work to become the person you seek to find.

-By Erin Rook, PQ Monthly staff writer

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END UP TALES ASTROSCOPES WITH MISS RENEE Miss Ren ee aka Tarot Chick is an empath, tarot card reader, and spiritual astrologer of 19 years based out of NE Portland. She loves love notes so feel free to holla or schedule a tarot / astrology chart session: that_tarot_chick@yahoo.com.

REASON FOR HOPE

By Anonymous I saw you. Is there any more pure an expression of hope than the Missed Connections ad? Someone catches your eye, across the gym you notice a person and they notice you, the dance floor parts for just a moment and a connection is made. I saw you. A whole story gets written, the story of you and me, the meaning of the glance gets magnified into an epic love story. Hey, I didn’t even meet you, and I know this is crazy, but I had a reason for hope. Did I give you a reason, too, maybe?

I saw you, and then I saw the story of you and me play it out in my mind’s eye.

Sure, perhaps there’s a bit of desperation in the Missed Connections ad — but more so than, say, an OK Cupid profile? A woof on Scruff? Putting on your good shirt before you go out to the bars? Instead of being a net that you cast out into the sea of eligible bachelors, an open invitation for responses, its a focused and very private acknowledgement: something rare and striking occurred, stranger. I saw you.

What if you write back? What a hilarious and modern story of how we met that we could tell our friends! Maybe we’d convince them that love stories are real, even the improbable modern ones — that there is something meaningful in those moments when the eye is caught, when the dance floor goes still. Maybe the stories we tell ourselves have a thick vein of truth in them. Maybe there’s not just hope, there’s a reason and a justification for hope. You gave me a reason for hope — did I give you one too, maybe?

So here I go: We both boarded the MAX at Lloyd Center around 3 p.m. today. I was in a red plaid shirt with brown sunglasses; you had dark hair and great sneakers. You sat right behind me and we caught each other’s eye a few times. After the hippie girl tripped over your legs you gave me a great smile before I got off at PGE Park. You were unbelievably handsome and I won’t go into detail as to the story I wrote in my mind about us, but suffice to say I had a reason to hope we’d write an even better one together. In short: I saw you.

Did you see me?

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LEO: Leos are kings/queens at “fake it till ya make it.”

What if you just believed?

Hopefully this summer of yummy astro aspects taught you just how effin’ powerful you really are. New moon in fiery Aries Sept. 29 could be an incredible starting point to break down and break through. Rawr!

CAPRICORN: September/October brings shifts like a joint back into a socket. POP! Pluto goes direct in Cap, your ruler Saturn slides into transformational Scorpio, and Venus harmonizing with your Sun takes it all down to: What/ who do you wanna be, what/who do you value, and what/who will it take to get you there?

ARIES: It’s said that when you ask for wisdom, the Universe gives you opportunities to gain it. This is a great time for Aries to ask for grace in compromise and negotiation skills, cuz honey, you’re about to have plenty of opportunities in September’s end and through October to be schooled.

Aim for Dean’s List.

VIRGO: Things are getting nice and deep for the Virgo tribe, yo! Jupiter — the planet of mind/ life expansion — going retrograde in sibling sign Gemini, Pluto going direct in fellow earth sign Capricorn, and Saturn shifting into a sextile in Scorpio create a trifecta of black turtle-necked, dimly lit cafe, Nietzschereading moments. Accessorize.

AQUARIUS: September/October could see delicious career/public face opps for you. Mars harmonizing with your Sun gives you the giddy yup you need to burn the candles at both ends with little repercussion. Oh … did I mention that pesky little fee for such yumminess? Revisiting and revising what you thought you knew when necessary.

TAURUS: A friend describing giving birth to her daughter said as the baby started crowning her body entered a “ring of fire” stage. The baby entered the world soon after and she caught her by herself! Ring of fire aspects opposing you in Scorpio and the end of Pluto’s retrograde help you birth, catch, and support yourself.

LIBRA: Yes! Come Oct. 5 go ahead and scream “HALLELUJAH!” as that whip-cracking bastard drill sergeant Saturn finally leaves your sign! (Oct. 2009-Oct. 2012) You’ve earned the right to let ‘er rip! Then turn your head to possible upcoming changes in your housing/family life, finances, and significant relationships. No worries: you’re now tempered steel.

PISCES: YAY!: Support is on the way! HOWEVER: You’re half of it! September/ October brings a values check and prominent strong women that won’t carry your load FOR you, but definitely bring ideas as to how to redistribute the weight, help you get it moving, and happily carry stuff backwards down steps so you can go forward.

GEMINI: Jupiter the good luck planet has been blessing you, helping heal your mind, and broadening your personal philosophy for months. It’s retrograde, coupled with fiery Mars opposing you in Sagittarius, will give you a minute to slow down, reassess, and edit your new found beliefs. In true Gemini fashion, let it flow.

SCORPIO: My name means “reborn” in French.

Interestingly, Pluto — the planet of deaths/rebirths and the ruler of Scorpio — is prominent in my astro chart. Come October (but building now), all Scorpios will start another wave of a rebirthing process with Pluto going direct and multiple planets entering Scorpio. Burn. Burn hot. Burn up. Rebirth. All or nothing.

CANCER: Pluto, the planet of symbolic deaths/ rebirths, goes direct again after five months of retrograde “review” time in certain areas of your life. Hopefully you’ve used this time to purge your world of the people, things, mindsets, and behaviors that no longer serve you. Your relationships will be mirroring what you’ve learned. Strike a pose.

SAGITTARIUS: Sags are known to “E at , dr in k, q n d be merry!” But, while that IS true of most of your ilk, Sags are also incredibly deep thinkers.

September’s end throughout October provides you with insights re: how you may be limiting your income by limiting your belief in your abilities and indulging “comparing” habits. Chew on that.

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