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A woman with two of her children is pictured April 6, 2011, outside her home in Kudeso Village in Terakeka, Sudan. Kudeso is a village of herders where cattle are seen as a sign of wealth. Health conditions, however, are poor. Villagers drink water directly from the river adjacent to their village which often results in stomach ailments. CRS is constructing a borehole that will provide enough fresh water for 500 families or 2,500 people for up to 50 years.

Horn of Africa: CRS begins five-year effort to end cycle of catastrophic regional drought By George Raine Eleven million people are in need of humanitarian assistance across the Horn of Africa, where a conspiracy of the cruelest drought since 1950, food costs spiraling upward as much as 240 percent and brutal civil war in Somalia each day forces some 1,300 desperate people – some days more – into the largest refugee camp in the world in Dabaab in Eastern Kenya. Throughout the arid and semi-arid region, there’s hunger and the threat of malnutrition. The drought is claiming in some places 50 to 100 percent of the herds of cows and goats of the herdsmen. Harvests are ruined. And what little there was in a trickle-down economy, for day laborers and others, is as dry as the desert floor. Catholic Relief Services has for decades had a presence in East Africa, addressing water and agricultural needs, in part by drilling for water along traditional migratory routes for herdsmen, also called pastoralists, in Ethiopia, to help the herds survive. But now, amid the worst conditions in generations, the agency has made a five-year commitment for aid in the Horn of Africa – just as it did in Haiti following the catastrophic 2010 earth-

quake – to help people along a route to self-sufficiency no matter the staggering odds. “What we are going to do is try to see that the consequences of drought, to this degree, do not happen again,” said Sara Fajardo, regional information officer in Eastern and Southern Africa for Catholic Relief Services. “Droughts are cyclical in Eastern Africa. There is nothing that you can do to prevent drought, but there are things you can do to lessen the impact of drought.” It’s a broad agenda for Catholic Relief Services, a challenge for multiple aid agencies, but teams of CRS workers are feeding many thousands of people in Ethiopia and in the Mandera triangle, where Kenya, Ethiopia and Somalia meet, and elsewhere in the region. They’re distributing hygiene kits to arriving refugees at Dabaab and, said Fajardo, in whatever aid they are giving remembering to respect tradition and help people lead decent lives. The principle of the work of Catholic Relief Services in the region, she said, “is always upholding the dignity of each person, and helping people live the most dignified life possible.” Fajardo, a Peruvian-born former Salinas resident HORN OF AFRICA, page 6

Civic Center prayer rally to recreate spirit of Father Peyton’s 1961 Rosary Crusade By Valerie Schmalz Organizers of the 2011 Family Rosary Crusade on Oct. 15 at San Francisco’s Civic Center hope to recreate the greatest outpouring of prayer that anyone has ever seen here – the rosary rally led in 1961 by Father Patrick Peyton, who coined the phrase, “The family that prays together, stays together.” “We will be there just to bear witness to our faith,” said David Marten, a rally organizer and officer of the Archdiocese of San Francisco Legion of Mary. “We encourage people to attend so the family sees that witness.” In 1961, more than 500,000 people gathered at the Polo Field in Golden Gate Park to say the rosary with Father Peyton, a Holy Cross priest who founded Family Theater Productions, which ROSARY, page 3

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On The Where You Live By Tom Burke Hats off to Father Frank Murray who was recently honored with the “Mother Teresa Award” by the Italian Catholic Federation. Father Frank was recognized during ceremonies at the group’s 81st Annual Convention in early September in Foster City. Father Frank lives in retirement at Serra Clergy House in San Mateo but still is very active as chaplain to the ICF’s San Mateo district, in his chaplaincy ministry with the Knights of Columbus, and his work as Knight of the Holy Sepulcher. He presides at Mass weekly for residents Father Frank Murray of Serenity House in San Francisco. “Congratulations and God’s blessings to Father Frank for his faithful work and many years of service to the church,” said Father Joseph Marini, retired pastor of Church of the Visitacion Parish, and also a resident of Serra Clergy House. Father Frank was ordained in 1953 and Father Joe in 1952. Both of these fine priests will be remembered at the first St. John Vianney Luncheon for retired priests at St. Mary’s Cathedral Oct. 21 at 11:30 a.m. Proceeds benefit Priests Retirement Fund.

St. Elizabeth Parish Youth Group members helped in recent drive for school supplies to help foster children. Pictured, from left, attacking the good work are Izabel Jusino, Joy Vegafria , Laurrie Digneo, Youth Group Director; Chanelle Mosquera and Angelo Tellez.

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Happy birthday to Mary Piersol, 90 years old Sept. 20. The new nonagenarian, a member of Church of the Nativity Parish in Menlo Park, was honored by family members with a surprise trip to Las Vegas. Daughters, Mary Coffron and Kathy Gould took her on the Las Vegas trek and family visitors expected for the celebration include daughter, Carol Kearns from Spokane, and son, Tom Kearns from Reno. • Raising their voices with the San Francisco Boys Chorus in the San Francisco Opera’s “Turandot” are AJ Bonino and Nestor Jarquin, both students at Our Lady of Loretto School in Novato. “Our costumes are really colorful, and the sets are amazing,” said 7th grader Nestor. “The Opera House is beautiful, and Maestro Nicola Luisotti and everyone else has been really nice here,” added 6th grader AJ. Nestor’s proud mom is Ileana Jarquin, and AJ’s proud parents are Linda and Anthony Bonino. • Summer learning for eight students from Mercy High School, San Francisco included participation in a Laredo Immersion Program in Texas. Accompanied by teacher chaperones, the experience helped the young women learn about the realities of immigration, human trafficking, and the impact of border issues on the environment. A local family, represented by Sofia, helped paint the picture for them. “They learned more about the conditions in which Sofia and her family live, how they survive without running water and plumbing,” the school said in a press release. The students also helped build homes with Habitat for Humanity and traveled to the Rio Grande River where they learned about erosion and the effects of draught on wildlife and vegetation. Several Sisters of Mercy who are involved in health care and educational ministries in Laredo served as teachers and guides for the young women. • This is an empty space without ya’! E-mail items and electronic pictures – jpegs at no less than 300 dpi – to burket@sfarchdiocese.org or mail them to Street, One Peter Yorke Way, SF 94109. Include a follow-up phone number. My phone number is (415) 614-5634.

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Rosary . . . ■ Continued from cover produced decades of popular radio theater with movie stars such as Bing Crosby, Loretta Young and Jimmy Stewart. Father Peyton, an immigrant from County Mayo, Ireland, led rosary rallies all over the world. He died in 1992 and his cause for sainthood was opened in 2001. “Obviously the people organizing this rosary rally know the power of prayer and want to bring that to San Francisco and that is a beautiful testimony to their faith,” said Father David S. Marcham, who is the vice postulator of Father Peyton’s cause for sainthood. Two alleged miracles, including a cure of a woman in Uganda with AIDS, have been attributed to the Irish priest. “Today I think we all need to have hope, not just for today but for the future, for the young people and for families, and that would be a great fruit to come out of this rosary rally,” Father Marcham said. Organizers plan for thousands to attend the noon to 2 p.m. rally in front of City Hall, said Legion of Mary organizer Raymond Frost. The rally is also sponsored by the Knights of Columbus and Immaculate Heart Radio. The website familyrosarycrusade2011.com lists public transportation options and there is also limited parking in a garage under Civic Center and in area lots. Rally organizers are arranging parking for buses, Marten said. Auxiliary Bishop William J. Justice will lead the invocation and retired Santa Rosa Bishop Daniel Walsh and retired Auxiliary Bishop Ignatius Wang plan to attend. Franciscan Friar Father Andrew Apostoli, co-founder of the Community of the Franciscan Friars of the Renewal, is the featured speaker. In addition to Father Marcham, two others associated with Father Peyton’s ministries will participate: Holy Cross Father Willy Raymond, who runs Family Theater Productions in Hollywood, and Holy Cross Father James Phalan, director of Family Rosary International. Father Peyton entered the seminary in Scranton, Pa., but had to drop out because he was near death from tuberculosis. A priest told him, if you believe in Mary, ask her for help. He did and was cured, said Father Lawrence Goode, pastor of St. Francis of Assisi Parish in East Palo Alto and chaplain of the Legion of Mary in the archdiocese. In his autobiography, Father Peyton wrote: “Because of the daily family rosary, my home was for me a cradle, a school, a university, a library, and most of all, a little church.” Father Goode met Father Peyton when he came to dedicate the statue at Our Lady of Peace Church in Santa Clara. “A simple Irishman with a simple Irish brogue – but he captivated you. It was obvious he didn’t care about himself. He cared about getting people to pray the rosary.”

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ROME – A sex abuse victims’ advocacy group and a human rights’ organization called on all current and past Vatican and church employees to send any information about the clerical abuse of minors to the International Criminal Court. “What we’re asking is for a security guard, a secretary, any church worker,” not just high level officials, to send any evidence they may have concerning past or current abuse cases to the prosecutor of the world court in The Hague, Netherlands, said Vincent Warren, executive director of the Center for Constitutional Rights. Attorneys from the New York-based organization and members of the U.S.based Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests, known as SNAP, spoke at a news conference in Rome Sept. 20 one week after formally filing a petition to the court. The groups are calling on the world court to conduct an investigation, charging Pope Benedict XVI and three other top Vatican officials with the “systematic and widespread practice of enabling, concealing and tolerating ongoing rape and other forms of sexual violence by clerics across the globe,” the groups said in a Sept. 20 press release.

Cardinal: ‘Famished’ young need teaching WASHINGTON – While acknowledging that their primary job is not catechesis, Cardinal Daniel N. DiNardo urged young theologians to help educate their fellow young adults who are “hungry, starving for the word of God.” The archbishop of Galveston-Houston was the opening keynote speaker for the

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Vatican in bloom Flowers are seen in the Vatican Gardens Sept. 15. The trees, flowers, shrubs, shrines and fountains cover almost half of the Vatican’s 109 acres. A Rome diocesan tour agency is offering a new open-bus tour of the gardens, which have been a place of papal prayer, quiet and rest since 1279 when Pope Nicholas III moved the papal residence from St. John Lateran to the Vatican and had workers plant fruit trees, a lawn and a formal garden.

Sept. 15-17 invitation-only symposium in Washington on “The Intellectual Tasks of the New Evangelization.” The conference was sponsored by the U.S. bishops’ Committee on Doctrine and the School of Theology and Religious Studies at The Catholic University of America. Cardinal DiNardo noted that in his archdiocese alone in the past year 2,500 people joined the Catholic Church, most of them never previously baptized; 1,370 Catholics who had been baptized and received first Communion were confirmed at Pentecost; and 500 young people showed up for a class in the Catholic faith. “The new evangelization is what they want, and you have the expertise to unpack it for them,” he told an audience made up

of nontenured faculty members in theology or religious studies departments who have received their doctoral degrees within the past five years. “I beg you as a pastor not to lose sight of these young people who are famished,” he added. In response to a question after his talk, Cardinal DiNardo called young people “astonishingly enthusiastic” but said they are sometimes “catechetically innocent – they don’t know a thing.”

New life issues program looks at all life’s stages WASHINGTON – The new eight-part “Life Matters” series, covering life issues

from conception to death, is the centerpiece of the 2011-12 Respect Life program that begins with Respect Life Sunday Oct. 2. The theme of the yearlong observance is “I came so that all might have life and have it to the full,” from the fourth chapter of the First Letter of John. The “Life Matters” series, available in English and Spanish, is “designed to offer a clear and compelling defense of church teaching from primarily secular sources,” according to a news release from the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops. Covered topics include abortion, contraception, the death penalty, persons with disabilities, embryo research, end-of-life issues, reproductive technologies and love and marriage.

Priests urged to preach about poverty’s effects WASHINGTON – The president of the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops is urging priests across the country to preach about “the terrible toll the current economic turmoil is taking on families and communities.” In a letter to his fellow bishops, Archbishop Timothy M. Dolan of New York said he was writing at the recommendation of the Administrative Committee, which directs the work of the USCCB between general assemblies. The committee “wanted something more than a public statement,” he said in the letter, dated Sept. 15 and made public Sept. 19. “I hope we can use our opportunities as pastors, teachers and leaders to focus public attention and priority on the scandal of so much poverty and so many without work in our society,” Archbishop Dolan said, noting that special resources and materials to assist in that effort would be posted in an Unemployment and Poverty section of the USCCB website, www.usccb.org. “Widespread unemployment, underemployment and pervasive poverty are diminishing human lives, undermining NEWS IN BRIEF, page 5

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NEW ORLEANS – Catholic Charities in the Archdiocese of New Orleans has received the largest single grant in its history – $15 million from the Baton Rouge Area Foundation – to oversee a collaborative of nonprofit organizations that will provide direct assistance, counseling and job force training to coastal Louisiana fishing families affected by the 2010 BP oil spill. The grant, announced Sept. 7, was part of the original $100 million in funding that BP gave to the Baton Rouge Area Foundation in 2010 to establish a fund targeted to help oil rig workers and oil rig supply companies affected by the spill. But because the demand for that funding was far less than anticipated, the Baton Rouge Area Foundation transferred $75 million to establish a “Future of the Gulf Fund,” which will fund the efforts of local nonprofits to help people, wildlife and the environment in the Gulf Coast area, said John Davies, president and CEO of the foundation.

Catholic high schools reopen after strike PHILADELPHIA – Students at 17 Catholic high schools in the Archdiocese of Philadelphia returned to their classrooms Sept. 20 after lay teachers ratified a threeyear contract and ended a two-week strike. School officials called the contract, which was ratified by a 589-41 vote, with one abstention, “truly the watershed agreement we had hoped to obtain for the current

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Dolores Hope dies at 102 LOS ANGELES – Dolores Hope, a lifelong Catholic who was the widow of comedian Bob Hope and an entertainer in her own right, died of natural causes Sept. 19 at age 102 at her home in Toluca Lake outside of Los Angeles. “Dolores Hope was a Catholic of deep and abiding faith, and her own spiritual journey was her highest priority,” Los Angeles Archbishop Jose H. Gomez said in a statement. “Her deep life in Christ was the spring board for her charitable giving to countless ministries, apostolates and works of mercy across the country and around the world.” “Both the entertainment world and the church have lost a woman of profound faith, gifted musical talent, and dedication to the betterment of peoples worldwide,” he said. “The death of Dolores Hope leaves a huge void in Southern California.” With her husband Mrs. Hope supported numerous Catholic causes over the years and continued to do so after his death in 2003. Among other efforts the couple were the benefactors of the Chapel of Our Lady of Hope of Pontmain, France, at the Basilica of the National Shrine of the Immaculate Conception in Washington. News reports said funeral services for Mrs. Hope would be private, followed by burial next to her husband at the Bob Hope Memorial Garden in the San Fernando Mission in Mission Hills. – Catholic News Service

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munities in the repair of water points, so they can assume responsibility for them and not have to rely on the visitors. Water is plentiful in Ethiopia but it is far below the ground ■ Continued from cover and requires costly equipment to access it. The drought has hit pastoralists particularly hard, and a former reporter at the Orlando Sentinel, is based in Nairobi. She has been covering the crisis as a writer and Fajardo said. If a farmer loses his crop he can be provided photojournalist, seeing thousands of women and children seeds and training for the next planting season. If a pastoralist loses his animals, “he has nothing,” flee their homelands seeking food and she said. “It can take up to five years to water and also witnessed the birth of the a herd to the level that they can world’s newest nation, the Republic of Water is plentiful regenerate survive, so it can be self-sustaining for the South Sudan. whole family.” One of the agency’s priorities, she said, in Ethiopia but The work of CRS, she added, “is helpis to try to help people remain in their own ing people to realize any potential that communities, for when they reach a refugee they have, to lead the kind of life that camp “they have pretty much exhausted it is far below they hope to lead.” She added, “Nobody all of their coping strategies, every single is sitting around having a pity party. They resource that they had, and that is their last the ground and are doing what they need to do, to make possibility in order to survive.” sure that their family gets what they need.” Food prices are equally challenging. requires costly Similarly, Fajardo said she witnessed in The average worker in Kenya earns $100 South Sudan, where she saw the indepena month, and the price of food has climbed equipment to dence come to be, a powerful belief in self. from 50 to 240 percent in the past year. The Republic of South Sudan, born July Food may be available, said Fajardo, but access it. 9, 2011, “is poor in resources and rich in for many it’s not accessible. hope and aspirations,” she said. “I love the There has been success in Ethiopia, said Southern Sudanese. They are an amazing Fajardo, where CRS has drilled boreholes along migratory routes for water for animals and also for people. They are very resilient. And I would say that seebathing and laundry. There is a risk associated with the ing the Southern Sudanese vote (for independence) is the drilling for what is called “water points,” in that some pas- single most moving experience of my life,” said Fajardo. The world’s newest nation, and one of its poorest, toralists may want to fight over a limited resource. However, said Fajardo, she has seen communities that is constantly underestimated, she said. “The Southern have benefitted from wells drilled and repaired and reno- Sudanese kept saying, in their own dignified way, they vated by CRS help other communities less fortunate, just accomplished what they set out to accomplish despite all as recipients of female goats and chickens pass along eggs the naysayers,” said Fajardo. and newborn goats to others, so the process is participatory, not owing to handouts from CRS. Of the benefactors, Fajardo said, “They have said, ‘We have been blessed in what we have been given and we feel we must pass this along and help someone else.’ This is not something that CRS asked them to do. It is people spontaneously supporting one another,” she said. – Interactive on the people of Dadaab: http://crs. In Ethiopia and Kenya, CRS is looking at ways to make org/kenya/interactive.cfm water available to communities on a larger scale. The work – General information about CRS’ work on the includes improving water points so that they bring water to East Africa drought: http://crs.org/emergency/eastthe surface much faster than the machinery currently perafrica-drought/index.cfm mits. Often, women in these communities must wait eight – General information on South Sudan: www. to 10 hours for sufficient water to be available, Fajardo said. peaceinsudan.org Importantly, CRS is instructing people in these com-

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Marriage conflict resolution skills: Moving beyond ‘healthy’ anger By David Sanderlin Christian married couples are called to love their spouses with a Christ-like love that is patient and kind, with no selfish or unjust anger, envy or other unloving emotions (1 Corinthians. 13:4-7). Don, a Christian realtor, does not love his wife Jaimee with a Christ-like love when she forgets to give him a phone message about an important real estate deal. Don yells angrily: “How could you forget the phone message? You’re so inconsiderate! Promise me you will never forget any of my phone messages again!� St. Francis de Sales warns Christians that anger can turn into hatred. Couples can deal with anger effectively by managing their anger and, most of all, by following Jesus with love, wisdom, and other Christian virtues. Anger management helps couples grow from an unhealthy anger to a normal, supposedly healthy anger. Following Jesus virtuously helps couples grow further toward a Christ-like, anger-free marital love. Anger management experts help couples with unhealthy anger move toward a normal “healthy� anger by managing their anger with such things as timeouts, deep breathing, empathy, cognitive therapy, and communication. With “healthy� anger, couples act constructively and reasonably. But they still feel angry at times. They typically experience a few episodes of moderate anger a week, often with some yelling, according to an American Psychological Association report. “Healthy� anger is better than unhealthy anger. But “healthy� anger is not all it’s cracked up to be. Suppose a couple’s “healthy� anger lingered for the rest of the day or evening, and suppose the couple experienced also a few episodes of “normal� envy every week, and “normal� anxiety, and other negative, un-Christ-like emotions. That’s a lot of negative, un-Christ-like emotional turmoil!

Jesus calls couples to grow from an unhealthy or “healthy� anger toward a Christ-like, anger-free marital love. But many anger management experts, and even some Christian marriage

Couples can gradually reduce and eventually eliminate selfish or unjust anger with love, wisdom and other Christian virtues, together with God’s healing and divinizing grace. experts, say that we cannot help being angry at times, so we are not morally responsible for our angry feelings or for other emotions. Jesus can help couples grow toward a Christ-like, anger-free marital love. We couples are often morally responsible for our emotions, and we can become Christ-like emotionally. Jesus teaches that “anyone who is angry with his brother will answer for it before the court� (Matthew 5:22). St. Augustine writes that our emotions are morally good if our love is good and morally evil if our love is evil. St. Thomas Aquinas teaches that our emotions are morally good if they are reasonable and morally evil if they are unreasonable. Aquinas explains that we are not morally responsible for the

Families in 2011: Incomes decline, poverty rises The typical U.S. family had to make do on less income in 2010. The U.S. Census Bureau reported Sept. 13 that median household income declined last year, while the national poverty rate rose. High levels of unemployment and underemployment lie at the root of these continuing problems, numerous economists explained after the Census Bureau report’s release. The struggles that individuals, couples and families contend with due to reduced income or poverty greatly concern Catholic leaders, as does a third area the Census Bureau report addressed, people without health insurance. Their numbers rose from 49 million in 2009 to 49.9 million in 2010. “The nation’s official poverty rate in 2010 was 15.1 percent, up from 14.3 percent in 2009,� the Census Bureau said. That meant 46.2 million Americans lived in poverty during 2010, which, for a family of four, meant an income of less than $22,350. And median household income experienced a 2.3 percent decline, moving from $50,599 in 2009 to $49,445 in 2010 (in inflation-adjusted dollars). “Since 2007, median household income has declined 6.4 percent,� the report said. – USCCB

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involuntary, irrational, physical elements of our emotions, such as a rapid heart rate, but we are often morally responsible for the voluntary, rational elements of our emotions, such as thoughts and feelings of anger. Most of us become more reasonable and loving emotionally as we grow from infancy to adulthood. During our “terrible twos� we might have thrown temper tantrums if we had not been given Cap’n Crunch’s Crunch Berries for breakfast, but we would not have been morally responsible for this. Adults, however, would ordinarily be morally responsible for temper tantrums like this. Couples can gradually reduce and eventually eliminate selfish or unjust anger with love, wisdom and other Christian virtues, together with God’s healing and divinizing grace. Aquinas teaches that we can control anger and other emotions with a wise intellect (wisdom) and a loving will (love). Suppose that the realtor Don took a timeout when he was mad at Jaimee for forgetting the phone message, but he still felt angry. With Christian wisdom, Don could come up with reasons for not being mad at Jaimee. He could reason that Jaimee just forgot to give him the message, so she was not trying to hurt him, and everyone forgets things at times. He could reason also that anger usually punishes itself and profits nobody, and that Jesus wants him to treat Jaimee well instead of blasting her angrily. With Christian love in addition to wisdom, Don could desire and choose to love Jaimee generously instead of getting mad at her. Then he would be following the advice of Francis de Sales that it is better “to find the way to live without anger, than to pretend to make a moderate and discreet use of it.� Here Francis criticizes the “anger management� theories of his times. Christian couples can gradually reduce and eventually eliminate anger with love, wisdom, and other Christian virtues. These virtues kill off anger more powerfully than anger management does – especially if couples commit themselves to following Jesus virtuously in a peaceful and joyful Christian marriage discipleship. David Sanderlin, Ph.D., is a retired college professor. This article is drawn largely from the author’s Catholic marriage guide, “The Christian Way to be Happily Married� (Christian Starlight Press, 2010). It is reprinted from the USCCB website For Your Marriage, at http://foryourmarriage.org.

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LOCAL NE WS Archdiocese to join in Assisi peace service On Oct. 27, Pope Benedict XVI and representatives of the world’s major religions gather in Assisi, Italy, to commemorate the 25th anniversary of Pope John Paul II’s meeting in 1986 during the U.N. International Year of Peace. The Archdiocese of San Francisco is holding similar rites the same day at the National Shrine of St. Francis of Assisi, Vallejo Street and Columbus Avenue in North Beach. In a letter dated Aug. 3 to members of the interfaith and ecumenical community, Archbishop George Niederauer said he hoped ‘The spirit to “parallel the events in Assisi, Italy,” with the of Assisi prayer event at the shrine and Porziuncola Nuova. transcends “The Holy Father intends to hold a day of reflection, dialogue and prayer differences for peace and justice in the world,” Archbishop between the Niederauer said in his letter. The gathering is ethnicities and titled Pilgrims of Truth, Pilgrims of Peace. religions and “We hope to replicate this event here with unites us all.’ interfaith leaders,” said George Wesolek, director of communications and public policy for the archdiocese and a major coordinator of the morning of prayer and exhortation. “Faith leaders have indicated a desire to take part.” Religious leaders from various faiths met Sept. 11-13 in Munich, Germany, to discuss current interfaith and ecumenical progress and failings around the world. Conventual Franciscan Father Giuseppe Piemontese told the group that the Oct. 27 event in Assisi will recall Blessed John Paul II’s 1986 gathering and its help in promoting dialogue among different faiths. He said, too, it will serve as a reminder that the work is not yet finished. He noted that basing the prayer in Assisi also invokes St. Francis and his respect for all people and creation. The spirit of Assisi, another speaker said, “transcends differences between the ethnicities and religions and unites us all.” A pilgrim group of 40 members of the shrine and Porziuncola’s Knights of St. Francis of Assisi will be in Assisi Oct. 27. “We will be directly to the pope’s right at the facade of the Porziuncola Nuova,” said Angela Alioto, one of the pilgrims.

Stars and Stripes for 9/11 Our Lady of Angels School in Burlingame held a prayer service Sept. 9 remembering victims of the terrorist attacks of Sept. 11, 2001. Pictured are OLA students with area police and firefighters and a paper replica of the Stars and Stripes made by students.

Archdiocese postpones Priests for Life Mass The Archdiocese of San Francisco has postponed a planned Oct. 5 Mass to mark the 20th anniversary of Priests for Life, due to the temporary suspension of Priests for Life national director Father Frank Pavone and Archbishop George Niederauer’s inability to participate in archdiocesan events as he recuperates from open-heart surgery. “(Archbishop Niederauer) has had to cancel his participation in archdiocesan events until further notice,” said George Wesolek, archdiocesan communications director. “Neither of our two auxiliary bishops are able to celebrate Mass that evening.” On Sept. 6, Amarillo, Texas, Bishop Patrick J. Zurek ordered Father Pavone to return to Amarillo, where he is a

priest in good standing, Catholic News Service reported. In a Sept. 9 letter to fellow bishops he cited “persistent questions and concerns” about how donations to Priests for Life are used, according to CNS. Father Pavone has appealed the suspension to the Congregation of the Clergy and the Vatican. In his own letter to the bishops he questioned the reason for the suspension of his ministry outside Amarillo.

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the victims of the Sept. 11, 2001, terror attacks. They asked for peace, understanding and tolerance. Students have also reached out to those serving the community and interviewed them to gain an understanding of their dedication to safety and freedom. The school commemorated National Anthem Day, Sept. 14, by singing the “The Star Spangled Banner” and raising the American flag. “Students have reflected on the 10th anniversary of the events of Sept. 11 and in looking at the heroes among us, have gained a better understanding of these brave and selfless people who have dedicated their professions to helping others,” the school said. Also, Principal Gerald Traynor was presented with an award noting the school’s commitment to promoting the importance of music education.

SVdP honors Sister Katie O’Shea, CSJ The Catholic Charities CYO boys soccer season opened Sept. 10 in San Francisco. Pictured are St. Cecilia’s Aiden Reilly and a Town School opponent in a sixth grade game at Crocker Amazon Park. St. Cecilia won 1-0. CYO sports includes grades three to eight.

Local news . . . ■ Continued from page 10 special presentation on the history of the sisters’ motherhouse property known as Palmdale Estates will be made by Holy Family Sister Michaela O’Connor, noted historian. The motherhouse of the Holy Family Sisters is at 159 Washington Blvd. in Fremont. For more information, contact Holy Family Sister Marie Marbach at (510) 624-4515.

Notre Dame Elementary dedicates month to heroes Students at Notre Dame Elementary School in Belmont participated in an all-school prayer service Sept. 9 to remember

The St. Vincent de Paul Society of San Francisco will honor Sister Katie O’Shea, a Sister of St. Joseph of Carondelet, with its Frank Brennan Award in ceremonies Oct. 13 at 11 a.m. at the San Francisco Marriot Marquis, 55 Fourth St. in San Francisco. Sister Kathleen Marie O’Shea was born in San Francisco and baptized at St. John the Evangelist Church in Glen Park. She attended Star of the Sea Elementary School in the Richmond District where she met the Sisters of St. Joseph of Carondelet entering religious life from Star of the Sea Academy in 1956. Through her more than 50 years as a Sister of St. Joseph, Sister Katie has served as teacher, parish sister and friend of the poor. She has also served in leadership roles within her congregation Sister Katie O’Shea, CSJ including regional superior. Sister Katie is well known for her ministry among the farmworker community and families of the Napa Valley. In 2001, she brought her skills to the St. Vincent de Paul Society of San Francisco. She has become a fixture in the Tenderloin and South of Market and is constantly recognized on the street by both current and former clients – a flock she calls “her people.” In 2009, Sister Katie was a founder of the society’s

Wellness Center, a project combined with the society’s Ozanam Center to provide more options for people struggling with addiction. The treatment regimen includes meditation, exercise, spirituality, social support groups and nutrition. Individual tickets to the luncheon are $150 and sponsorship opportunities are also available. Contact the St. Vincent de Paul Society of San Francisco at (415) 977-1270, ext. 3079 or visit www.svdp-sf.org for more information.

St. Anthony Foundation hosting feast for 10,000 As part of a series of events commemorating the 60th anniversary of the St. Anthony Foundation, the Tenderloin nonprofit on Sept. 24 will feed 10,000 meals of barbecue chicken at a free block party, on Golden Gate Avenue from Hyde Street to Jones Street. The foundation estimates it will be serving 8,000 pounds of chicken and 2,500 pounds of potato salad. “Rather than looking to what could be considered ‘organizational retirement years,’ St. Anthony’s is doing some of the most significant work of its time,” said Shari Roeseler, the foundation’s executive director. “I think the fact that we’ve always relied entirely on private funding has given us the freedom and agility to expand when others may be contracting.” The block party, from 11 a.m. to 2 p.m., will be preceded by a “Rally for Hope” at 10 a.m. on the steps of San Francisco City Hall. Since 1950, the foundation has served more than 37 million meals. It typically serves as many as 3,000 guests daily. The nonprofit distributes free clothing, manages doctor visits, sobriety counseling, life skills, work skills and hope, according to the foundation. The St. Anthony Foundation in July 2012 will break ground on a $22 million 10-story building that will include a new dining room, a free clothing program, work center and 90 units of affordable housing for seniors provided by Mercy Housing. “What’s key here is that the demand for our services is growing an average of 10 percent each year,” Roeseler said. “We anticipate that this building will allow us to accommodate everyone in need for at least another 60 years.” Also as part of its 60th anniversary, the foundation this year organized a series of symposiums to address innovation around nutrition, the technology gap and religious traditions addressing people in need.

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September 23, 2011

THAT’S IT

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...Now I have to either get a job, win the lottery or marry someone wealthy’

Immigrant aspiration to downward mobility: One woman’s struggle Millions of Americans are dealing with the economic and psychological impact of a national jobs market that has been described as a paralyzed. This is the second in a series of profiles of San Mateo County residents coping with diminished means and expectations in a weak and increasingly stratified economy: Although the unemployment rate is dropping in San Mateo County, the good news is concentrated in professional and business services jobs. By Dana Perrigan

his isn’t the way it was supposed to be. The way it is usually presented in stories, play and movies, the first generation immigrates to the United States in search of a better life for themselves and their children. They labor long and hard at physically demanding jobs, struggling to gain a toehold on the American Dream. At the cost of much sacrifice, their children go to college, graduate and land well-paying, professional positions with room for advancement and security for themselves and their parents. But it hasn’t turned out that way for Veronica – who is so sensitive to the stigma attached to her economic plight and her desperate need to seek governmental aid that she agreed to be interviewed only under certain conditions: that she be identified only by her middle name, that there be no photos, that her ethnicity be kept secret and that even the names of certain schools she attended and her former workplace not be disclosed. “If it was just me,” she said, “I’d say – to hell with it. But I have a very large family and I do not want to dishonor the family name in any way.” A resident of Redwood City for the past 35 years, Veronica shares a one-bedroom apartment with one of her five sisters. Two years ago, she was laid off from her job at a local school district, which was forced to make drastic cuts because of the recession. Her sister has been laid off from her job for the summer, and perhaps longer. Veronica’s unemployment benefits ran out in June. In July and August, she received financial help from the county to pay the $1,800 monthly rent. “That was hard,” she said. “We’re not used to asking people for help. That isn’t the way we were raised.” But the rent for September is looming, she said, and the county cannot offer further assistance. “That’s it,” she said. “Now I have to either get a job, win the lottery or marry someone wealthy. I’ve been praying, praying, praying – St. Jude is with me.”

So is the sorrow from the death two years ago of her father, who immigrated, alone, to the United States 40 years ago with $70 in his pocket. He worked as a gardener, janitor, at construction and every other job he could find, saving every cent he could. For a while, he slept behind a gas station in East Palo Alto. Eventually, he saved enough to send for his wife and family. Her father, said Veronica, wanted his children to be educated in America. As the eldest of seven children, she led the way – earning a master’s in education at the University of San Francisco, and studying abroad for her doctorate. “I just had my birthday,” said Veronica. “My father always made a big deal of it. Now, it’s just another year for me.” And not so great a year, at that. She has been restless and worried and depressed at not being able to find another job. She has trouble sleeping. And she has lost weight. During the past two years, she estimates that she has applied for more than 300 jobs. In the beginning, she only looked for work in her field of education. Later, she widened the parameters of her search to include other, related fields. Now, she is willing to take on just about anything in order to pay the rent and put food on the table. She has applied at local restaurants to work as a waitress. She has scanned the listings for nanny jobs, and is considering working in home health care. She has sent out innumerable applications. “Nobody calls back. Nobody responds,” she said. “To be honest, anything would be all right with me, but it’s really disgusting: I don’t want to be back at this point in my life anymore, to go right back where I started before I went to school. It’s not supposed to be like this.” But it is. Even for those, like Veronica who have the education and experience, finding work has become increasingly difficult in the current economy.

“A lot of the clients I’ve worked with lately – it has been the first time they have applied for assistance,” said Mayra Bucio, a housing assistant case management specialist with Redwood City at Fair Oaks Community Center. “I’ve seen managers and other professionals who have been unemployed for a long time without finding work.” Veronica spends her day seeking work. Since she can no longer afford Internet service at home, she uses the computers in the library to scan the job listings. She follows up applications with visits to the work place. “I’m assertive,” she said. “You’d be surprised how many receptionists don’t know where their human resources department is.” At the end of the day – even a seemingly fruitless day that comes to a close without a hint of job – she tries to find some solace in the fact that she did all she could to find one. “It makes me feel good that I have done something,” she said. She is considering doing more. “I’m at a point where I’m seriously thinking about running for office because of all that’s going on,” she said. She would like to do a lot of things, like return to school to complete her doctorate, but the money just isn’t there. Another thing that bothers her about being poor is how isolating it is. She is not able to socialize with friends, or do any of the other things she enjoys anymore. Fortunately, she said, she and her sister have each other to lean on. “I can’t imagine going through this alone,” she said. “My sister is very supportive. We all need someone in our lives at a time like this.” “This is just another hurdle she has to get over,’ said her sister. “I remind her time and time again that there are people out there with heavier crosses to bear.’ A devout Catholic, Veronica also finds solace in her religion. “I don’t know where I’ll be next month,” she said. “But I know God will help me out of this crisis. I say my prayers every day.”

(PHOTO ILLUSTRATION BY JOSE LUIS AGUIRRE)

For the first time in her life Veronica finds herself asking for help. In July and August, she received financial help from the county to pay her $1,800 monthly rent. “That was hard,” she said. “We’re not used to asking people for help. That isn’t the way we were raised.”

“I’ve been praying, praying, praying – St. Jude is with me,” Veronica said.

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Guest Commentary

End modern-day slavery Sister Dolores Barling, SNJM On Sept. 9 the church celebrated the feast of St. Peter Claver, a Jesuit priest who in the early 1600s spent his life serving the needs of African slaves. His example is a fitting reminder that we are called to be aware of the modern-day global slave trade with all its brutality and pervasiveness. It is estimated that 27 million women, men and children have been bought and sold for labor or prostitution and are currently held in slavery-like conditions. This slave trade, known as human trafficking, is considered the third greatest criminal activity in the world, ranking behind narcotics and the weapons trade. It is so lucrative because the “product,” a human being, can be sold over and over again. How ugly and immoral. Let us listen to the voices of those who have been trafficked. — Theresa, a survivor of child sex trafficking in the U.S.: “I can’t describe to you the feeling of terror. No child should ever have to know that kind of fear. I didn’t know what I was going to have to endure that night, for how long, of if I was going to come back home.” — “Miguel,” (his real name is withheld for safety concerns) a victim of agricultural trafficking on a Texas ranch: “You had to do what they said, or they said they would kill you. They treated us like animals.” — Lulu, trafficked from Asia to Los Angeles: “I did the

same thing every day. I was stuck. I did not feel hopeful of what my future was going to be because I could not see what was going to happen tomorrow. Now (that she has been rescued) I feel hopeful, I can dream. I can see myself doing something with my life in two weeks, in two months. I am free now.” Sad to say there is a human trafficking epidemic in the Bay Area. The San Francisco Women’s Political Committee, the San Francisco Collaborative Against Human Trafficking and other justice groups constantly, passionately advocate on behalf of victims caught in modern-day slavery here in our beloved city. Many committed people reach out in a variety of ways to meet the needs of victims. On the national level The Trafficking Victims Protection Reauthorization Act, S.1301, expires on Sept. 30, 2011, and Congress must act to reauthorize it. If the bill does not pass, U.S. pressure on countries across the globe to combat modern-day slavery will suffer. In this precarious economic environment, more vulnerable and marginalized people may fall victim to those who would exploit them. “The reauthorization of this monumental legislation to combat trafficking in persons is one of the most important bills that will come before this Congress,” according to an Aug. 11 letter to the U.S. Senate from the U.S bishops’ Committee on Migration and Catholic Relief Services. “Enactment of this bill would ensure that the United States will continue to lead the

fight to prevent the poor and marginalized from falling prey to traffickers, prosecute those who profit off the suffering of others, and help to rehabilitate victims.” The legislation would establish a fund for the Office to Monitor and Combat Trafficking in Persons to assist governments in responding to urgent needs; establish child protection compacts, which would help specific countries to develop and implement comprehensive anti-trafficking plans to protect children; and include technical assistance to help governments establish legal frameworks and regulate and oversee foreign labor recruitment practices. If you want to take some action, a call or email to your senators is one possibility. For an online petition, see http:// www.usccb.org/issues-and-action/take-action-now/capwiz/ index.cfm. I close with prayer to St. Josephine Bakhita who was trafficked in Sudan in 1883, lived for years before escaping slavery, and was declared “Patron for Victims and Survivors of Human Trafficking and Slavery,” by Pope John Paul II: “Gracious and loving God, through the intercession of St. Josephine, we pray that all modern-day victims of trafficking will be freed and that this horrid practice will end soon. Amen.” Holy Names Sister Dolores Barling lives in Daly City.

Guest Editorial

A modest suggestion Any discussion of modesty in dress for church demands a sense of humor. Leave it to Blessed Angelo Roncalli, the thenfuture Pope John XXIII, who was asked, when he was papal nuncio to France, if the plunging necklines of women embarrassed him: “I never look at them, and neither does anyone else, because they are all looking at me to see how I am reacting.” What is judged modest in one culture, one region or one economic class may be quite different in another, but we all know that we live in a casual culture. While the Southern part of the United States may be more formal, and the Western part more informal, in general, casual dress is far more common today than it was three or four decades ago. At the same time, concern about modesty of dress in the context of the Mass has been a recurring subject of concern long before Roncalli’s encounters with Parisian styles. Today there is a fledgling movement in parishes to recommend dress codes as a way of reminding parishioners to dress appropriately for a sacred occasion such as the Mass. Such concerns dovetail with the larger issue of inspiring a greater sense of reverence in Mass. This is a legitimate and laudable priority in that the Mass is so central to who we are as Catholics and how we nourish our faith.

The discussion of reverence includes a variety of factors, ranging from dress and posture to the quality of sacred objects and liturgical music. These are all real issues, and the church in some ways is always seeking to improve a sense of reverence (the revised translation of the Roman Missal) and combat the temptation to make it a rote exercise or a simple obligation. In this context, dressing appropriately for Mass is an external sign of our appreciation for what is taking place in the Eucharistic celebration. The danger with placing too much emphasis on externals such as dress is that we may miss the larger point, which is an interior reverence that resides in the heart. Our priorities must always be to focus on our inner preparation for Mass and our inner receptivity to God’s Word. That is why many parishes are encouraging their people to share the Sunday readings at home before Mass and to meditate on them. Also encouraged is getting to Mass early so as to collect oneself in prayerful silence. Families have many challenges getting everyone dressed and out the door, but just moving the schedule ahead five minutes can make all the difference.

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Inspired by prayer rally Re Letter (Sept. 9) regarding Gov. Rick Perry prayer rally photo (Aug 12 ): I saw some of the prayer rally as well and was inspired by what he said and did, especially his prayer asking our Lord for forgiveness to help America at this critical time. He prayed for guidance and wisdom for our governors and for President Obama

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and his family, at a time of rampant relativism. I believe Pope Benedict XVI has written of this as well. I’d hate to think we wouldn’t want to see or hear from a presidential candidate because of his or her religion. I can only hope for more tolerance. Patricia Keylon South San Francisco

Support retired priests I think it was not a good decision, from a PR standpoint, to picture a marina of expensive boats in the brochure, distributed through the parishes, soliciting contributions to the Priests Retirement Fund. Given the negatives associated with the economy, jobs, disposable income, the image of a prosperous retirement for the servants of the faithful may not inspire the most generous giving. I think the profiles of Msgr. Harry Schlitt and Father Clement (Art) Davenport were good. And so are

Paying close attention to the liturgical prayers is a discipline that can counter the temptation to an unreflective recitation of the words. Focusing on the sacred actions is a powerful stimulus for prayer as well. Finally, the Mass is where we gather as a community. So a sign of our interior reverence also would be our efforts to welcome the stranger and exhibit the kind of generosity of spirit that makes us truly Christ-like. Scripture has ample warnings against a pharisaical approach to religious observance. Because we know how easily we can become agitated when we see people who, in our opinion, are dressed with a slovenly disregard at church, perhaps what we need to do is let God be the judge of what is appropriate for that person at that moment. Instead, we should focus on developing in ourselves a deeper sense of interior reverence, a task that is never completed. Judging from Blessed Roncalli’s comments, a sense of humor may be in order as well. This editorial was written by the Our Sunday Visitor editorial board and published in the independent Catholic weekly’s Aug. 21 issue. It is reprinted with permission.

our contributions to a comfortable retirement benefit for our priests. Jack Hitchcock San Mateo

No authority crisis

rejected the church’s teaching on artificial birth control, if Father Byron is correct) in the neighborhood of 50 percent, the rate among couples who adhere to the church’s teaching on contraception and practice natural family planning falls below 5 percent. Perhaps the church, like her bridegroom, still proclaims words of eternal life. Father Byron’s most compelling evidence for the supposed “crisis of authority” is the “sobering fact that between 1967 and 2007, almost a quarter of those Americans who were raised Catholics have voted with their feet and quietly left the church.” However, one must ask what proportion of this group were Catholics who left the church not because, as the author implies, the church was being too authoritarian, but because of the opposite: the perceived lack of assertive authority in response to the rash of liturgical and other reforms encountered in the wake of Vatican II. Perhaps a more meaningful statistic is the 15 million people who voted with their feet to enter the church in 2009 alone —roughly equal to the Americans who exited over a 40-year period.

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Concerning Father William Byron’s guest commentary (Sept. 9), “Facing up to the crisis in Catholic modernity,” it would appear that his conclusion that there is a “genuine crisis of authority and its limits in the church” might be a bit hasty. Father Byron notes that of the U.S. Catholics who have remained in the church since 1967, “a clear majority … patently declined to `receive’ the papal teaching on artificial birth control.” He then suggests that those who agree that there is a crisis of authority will “agree that the teaching church must become a listening church.” To apply this logic to an episode recorded in the Gospel of John, one can imagine a number of followers of Jesus, scandalized by his bread of life discourse demand that he must become a “listening Messiah” instead of a teaching one. Or perhaps one should judge the merits of the church’s teaching by its fruits rather than its popularity. While statisticians place divorce rates among Catholics (many of whom have

Michael Bergez Salinas

September 23, 2011 A READING FROM THE BOOK OF THE PROPHET EZEKIEL EZ 18:25-28 Thus says the Lord: You say, “The Lord’s way is not fair!” Hear now, house of Israel: Is it my way that is unfair, or rather, are not your ways unfair? When someone virtuous turns away from virtue to commit iniquity, and dies, it is because of the iniquity he committed that he must die. But if he turns from the wickedness he has committed, he does what is right and just, he shall preserve his life; since he has turned away from all the sins that he has committed, he shall surely live, he shall not die. RESPONSORIAL PSALM PS 25:4-5, 8-9, 10, 14 R. Remember your mercies, O Lord. Your ways, O Lord, make known to me; teach me your paths, guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my savior. R. Remember your mercies, O Lord. Remember that your compassion, O Lord, and your love are from of old. The sins of my youth and my frailties remember not; in your kindness remember me, because of your “Which of the two did his father’s will?” (Matthew 21) At the start of every school year, I survey my middle school religion students on their opinions and feelings regarding religion and their faith. Their responses are usually all over the board. Some claim to have a deep and significant relationship with God, while others say they are stone cold atheists who don’t believe in anything. Most, however, put themselves in the big, apathetic middle. They aren’t hostile toward religion, but they aren’t all that excited about it either. To be honest, they just don’t seem to care very much, one way or the other. I used to find this very discouraging. I sometimes felt like I’d lost these kids before the class even began and that they were destined to drift away into lives devoid of faith or meaning. I wondered if there was anything I could possibly say, anything I could possibly do, that would bring God into their lives and help them develop a real and lasting relationship with our Lord. One day, as I sat in a funk at my classroom desk, pondering whether or not I should give up teaching religion to become a long-haul trucker, I noticed something. These kids who seemed so indifferent to religion were among some of the kindest,

Twenty-Sixth Sunday in Ordinary Time Ezekiel 18:25-28; Psalm 25:4-5, 8-9, 10, 14; Philippians 2:1-11; Matthew 21:28-32 goodness, O Lord. R. Remember your mercies, O Lord. Good and upright is the Lord; thus he shows sinners the way. He guides the humble to justice, and teaches the humble his way. R. Remember your mercies, O Lord. A READING FROM THE LETTER OF PAUL TO THE PHILIPPIANS PHIL 2:1-11 Brothers and sisters: If there is any encouragement in Christ, any solace in love, any participation in the Spirit, any compassion and mercy, complete my joy by being

of the same mind, with the same love, united in heart, thinking one thing. Do nothing out of selfishness or out of vainglory; rather, humbly regard others as more important than yourselves, each looking out not for his own interests, but also for those of others. Have in you the same attitude that is also in Christ Jesus, Who, though he was in the form of God, did not regard equality with God something to be grasped. Rather, he emptied himself, taking the form of a slave, coming in human likeness; and found human in appearance, he humbled himself, becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. Because of this,

Scripture reflection DEACON MICHAEL MURPHY

The teacher as student gentlest most generous people I knew. They took care of each other, watched out for each other, and consistently put the needs of their friends before their own. They were empathetic and thoughtful and deeply interested in building a world of peace and justice. In other words, while they certainly weren’t perfect, they were exactly the good and loving people that God called them to be. Don’t we all know people like my students? They might not always be the most fervent churchgoers. They often squirm and

look for the nearest exit whenever religion enters the conversation. They nearly break into hives when asked to pray or share their faith with others. Yet they are also the first people to step up whenever anyone needs a hand, the first people we turn to when our lives are troubled or in turmoil. It is obvious that God is working in them and through them and with them. While they may not fit our preconceived notions of what it means to be a faithful follower of our Lord, they are without a doubt the good children doing

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God greatly exalted him and bestowed on him the name which is above every name, that at the name of Jesus every knee should bend, of those in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father. A READING FROM THE GOSPEL ACCORDING TO MATTHEW MT 21:28-32 Jesus said to the chief priests and elders of the people: “What is your opinion? A man had two sons. He came to the first and said, ‘Son, go out and work in the vineyard today.’ He said in reply, ‘I will not,’ but afterwards changed his mind and went. The man came to the other son and gave the same order. He said in reply, ‘Yes, sir,’ but did not go. Which of the two did his father’s will?” They answered, “The first.” Jesus said to them, “Amen, I say to you, tax collectors and prostitutes are entering the kingdom of God before you. When John came to you in the way of righteousness, you did not believe him; but tax collectors and prostitutes did. Yet even when you saw that, you did not later change your minds and believe him.” the father’s will that Jesus points to in this week’s Gospel. All too often, we get caught up in the formal structures that seem so essential to our faith. We forget that our infinite God connects to people and grows closer to them in many varied and mysterious ways. As a deacon, I love nothing more than participating in liturgy, discussing the catechism, spending time in prayer. Yet others may choose different paths, perhaps finding our Lord as they give themselves in loving service to their brothers and sisters. I’m sure they please God very, very much. As I sat at my desk that day, it occurred to me, as I’m sure it does to most teachers, that my students had as much to teach me as I had to teach them. While I try to help them better understand the beauty of the Mass and the sacraments, how their lives might be enriched by a deeper appreciation and practice of their faith, they can remind me of what it means to truly live a good and Christian life. Perhaps I’ll put off that long-haul trucking career switch and stay in the classroom just a little bit longer. It seems I have a lot to learn. Deacon Michael Murphy serves at St. Charles Parish in San Carlos and teaches at Sacred Heart Preparatory in Atherton.

Question Corner

Faith troubled by doubts Question: I am 79 years of age, have been a Catholic all my life and have tried my best to follow the Ten Commandments. But I find myself now bothered by religious doubts and fear that I may really be an agnostic. Can a person remain in the state of grace with this state of mind? (I have read that Mother Teresa had similar feelings before her death.) (Gahanna, Ohio) Answer: Please let me assure you, first of all, that you are not alone. It is characteristic of the lives of many people, including some outstanding Christians, to suffer deeply from the feeling that they are not as certain as they should be about matters of faith. (Cardinal Avery Dulles, the learned Jesuit theologian, once wrote that “faith is suspended over the abyss of unbelief and hence is liable to be questioned at any time.”) You do well to reference Blessed Teresa of Kolkata, for she serves as an encouraging model of those who have weathered this crisis well. A book released in 2007, revealing letters she had written over half a century, told graphically of her spiritual struggles; for decades, she was tortured by the fear that God had abandoned her. (In one letter to a priest-confidant the now-beatified Mother Teresa writes: “Jesus has a very special love for you. As for me, the silence and emptiness is so great, that I look and do not see.”) What Mother Teresa endured, I believe, was not so much a crisis of faith. Only two or three times during more than 50 years does she say that she was tempted to conclude that God did not exist, and those times would

pass. Instead it was more akin to what St. John of the Cross first referred to in the 16th century as the “dark night of the soul,” that sense that God was absent from her life and far away when she needed him most. You wonder, in your question, whether your doubts leave you in the state of grace. Certainly they do, for you continue to practice your faith and keep the commandments much as Mother Teresa continued to pray and to reverence God in those who were dying in the streets of Kolkata. Experiencing uncertainty is a part of being human. The prayer of the father of the boy possessed by the demon (Gospel of Mark, Chapter 9) is the prayer of each one of us: “Lord, I do believe. Help my unbelief.” You would do well to share your doubts in honest conversations – both with God and with a trusted priest or spiritual guide. Question: Until the church begins to treat its people with kindness, attempts to evangelize such as by the new Roman Missal will never be successful. Parishes in our diocese have for some time now charged people a fee to use their church for weddings and funerals. What an abhorrent idea that is, to collect an added fee from the same people who built the church and maintain it by Sunday collections. Please justify this practice for me, if you can. (Baton Rouge, La.) Answer: It is true that many parishes have an assigned fee for a wedding or a funeral (although certain churches assess this fee only for nonparishioners). In some parishes, that income is used mainly to pay the organist who has

provided the music for that particular liturgy. In other cases, the money goes to defray the additional costs incurred: heating and lighting the church for that service, providing Father maintenance personnel to open and close the Kenneth Doyle church and to clean it afterward, etc. Having explained the rationale, I must add that fundamentally I agree with you. Some parishes are struggling to make ends meet, so I can understand their thinking; their budgets can’t bear the added costs. But most parishes, if they can, would probably do well to forego these special fees and to finance all of their sacramental celebrations through the regular weekly collection. Often enough, as your question shows, people are puzzled or even offended by such charges. My own (very unbusinesslike) view is that we should simply be grateful that people choose to come to church for these important moments. Father Kenneth Doyle’s column is distributed by Catholic News Service. Questions may be sent to askfatherdoyle@gmail.com and 40 Hopewell St., Albany, NY 12208.

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Russian orthodoxy and Lenin’s tomb Almost 40 years ago, an aging Anglican clergyman told me a story about his first trip to Paris as a boy – perhaps in the 1920s. His grandfather had called him in, told him that he had a gift to be used in the French capital, and then gave my friend a small pocket mirror. The boy, puzzled, asked his grandfather what the mirror might be for. The following dialogue ensued: “You are going to Paris, I understand?” “Yes, grandfather.” “I suppose they’ll take you to see where they’ve buried the little monster” (meaning Napoleon, in Les Invalides). “Well, when you get there, you’ll see that things have been arranged so that Englishmen must bow their heads when looking down at him” (Napoleon is buried in a huge red quartzite sarcophagus on which one does, in fact, look down when entering Les Invalides). “Yes, grandfather.” “Well, my boy, you are to stand with your back to him and, if you must see his tomb, hold the mirror over your head and look at the tomb through it.” “Yes, grandfather.” I hadn’t thought of this story in decades – until I read this past summer that the Russian Orthodox Patriarchate of Moscow was urging caution in the face of pressures to remove Lenin’s mummified corpse from its granite mausoleum in Red Square and bury the remains. “It is obvious that the condition of Lenin’s body does not fit into Russia’s cultural tradition … but we should take into account the opinions of various social

groups and avoid making decisions that entail social upheavals,” said the Russian Orthodox spokesman for “relations between church and society,” Archpriest Vsevelod Chaplin. Really? Vladimir Ilyich Ulyanov, known for over a century now by his Bolshevik nom-de-guerre, Lenin, was one of history’s greatest mass murderers. In the course of his ruthless efforts to impose communism on Russia and its neighbors through brutal force, terror, and extrajudicial homicides in the millions, he became one of the greatest persecutors of the Christian church in two millennia. Lenin’s minions killed more Christians in a slow week than the last of the great Roman persecutors, Diocletian, did in years. All this is thoroughly documented—to the point where Russian orthodoxy considers many of Lenin’s victims as martyrs and saints and celebrates their feasts in its liturgical calendar. And yet today’s Russian Orthodox leadership cannot bring itself to say that this monster’s mummified corpse should cease, immediately, being an object of curiosity or veneration? It is true that there are “various social groups” in Russia who would object to shutting down Lenin’s mausoleum and burying his corpse, because they still regard Lenin as a hero. In the face of such moral imbecility, however, surely the role of Russian orthodoxy, as one guardian of the truth of Russia’s history, is to explain in detail why no morally sane person would want to honor Lenin. As for those 30 percent of Russians who are said to want to keep Lenin’s mummy just where it is, because it’s a major tourist attraction and thus a source

of income, the church might well explain that some things are not worth making money from, and that tourists should not be encouraged in their disordered desires. A senior Catholic George Weigel official deeply involved in ecumenical affairs once said, of Russian orthodoxy, that “they don’t know how to be anything other than chaplain to the czar – whoever the czar is.” The martyrs of orthodoxy under communism belie that wholesale dismissal, although the centuries-long entanglement of the Moscow Patriarchate has created very few models for a Russian Orthodox Church capable of speaking truth to power in 21st-century Russia – a country where authoritarianism of an increasingly brutal sort has quickly followed a brief flirtation with genuine democracy. But surely a minimum of self-respect—and respect for its martyrs – ought to compel the Russian Orthodox Church to lead, not oppose or hinder, any move to demythologize Lenin and put an end to his obscene tomb, home to a mummified mass murderer and maniacal persecutor of the church of Christ. George Weigel is Distinguished Senior Fellow of the Ethics and Public Policy Center in Washington, D.C.

Guest Commentary

A Muslim perspective on pluralism United for Change is an organization that was created to galvanize the Muslim leadership in North America to take on issues that are too large for any one individual leader, organization or group to effectively address. Founded three years ago, its first conference in Washington, D.C., addressed the question of malaria in Africa. Last year in Montreal, the focus was on “Our Families, Our Foundation,” and the threat posed by domestic violence and divorce. This year’s conference returned to the convention center in Washington on Sept.10 under the theme of “United We Stand,” drawing over 3,000 Muslim participants from the U.S. and Canada. When you have an opportunity to listen in on the conversation taking place within a family, you get a level of honesty you might not otherwise get, and it can provide insight into the operative values guiding the lives of those family members. Would you like to listen in to what Muslim scholars and spiritual leaders were saying “within the family” to members of the Muslim faith community? Dr. Merve Kavakci, a lecturer on International Relations at George Washington University in Washington, D.C., described the challenge when she said, “A religion dedicated to peace is now associated with violence. That’s the grim reality. We must look within to see how we can better represent our religion.” Dr. Altaf Hussein, a former executive committee member of the Muslim Alliance in North America, sought to set the record straight in his reflection on spirituality as a catalyst of

mercy: “9/11 resulted in the deaths of over 3,000 people. It left over 3,000 children without a father or mother. We hold those 19 spiritually void men and their organization of terror responsible. They were a part of a cult of terror whose world view contradicts the most basic convictions of Islam. The killing of an innocent person in Islam is like killing all of humanity, and saving a life is like saving all humanity. “The prophet Muhammad taught us discipline, self-control, and above all, mercy. He taught his followers to be just, inclined to forgiveness,” said Hussein. “This cult of terror must not be allowed to hijack the religion of Islam. Islam is not at fault; there is nothing in Muslim teaching to make one think that outright violence against innocent people could ever be justified in the name of Islam. The heedless and heartless acts of violence they perpetrate have nothing to do with Islam. Had they had an ounce of genuine spirituality in their veins they could never have taken actions that have resulted in the loss of so many innocent lives both on 9/11 and in the intervening years through the ensuing war in Iraq and Afghanistan.” Imam Zaid Shakir, founder and chairman of United for Change, spoke about mercy as a distinguishing trait of Islam: “Now is not the time to hide from the challenges facing us as a Muslim community. Now is the time for action, for heroic action. Heroism cannot be separated from mercy. Mercy in Muslim tradition is the attempt to bring benefits to others and to ward off harm. That is also the essence of heroism … This has to

become the foundation for our politics and economics.” Shaykh Muhammad Ninowy, an Al-Madina Institute foundation scholar, took that a step further: “All but one of the 114 chapters in the Quran open with the Father Thomas declaration, ‘God is the all merciful and compassionRyan, CSP ate.’ Compassion is the foundation of the faith. It’s not about talk, but about action. People don’t want just to hear that Islam is a religion of compassion. They want to see Muslims practicing it.” For both Muslims and Christians alike, there is clearly a need for a new narrative. The tragic events of 9/11 have been widely exploited. Islam and Muslims have been brush-stroked as terrorists by far-right popular cultural outlets. The way forward is education. We’re being called to transcend a “black and white” world and to honor the vision on which the United States and Canada are founded: “Out of many, one.” Paulist Father Thomas Ryan directs the Paulist North American Office for Ecumenical and Interfaith Relations in Washington, DC.

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What if a bishop were homeless? Approximately 43.6 million people in the United States are what we term “poor,” defined as lacking a socially acceptable amount of money or material possessions. For 2011, the national poverty level was set at $22,350 for a family of four. The U.S. Census Bureau reports that more people fall below the poverty line this year than at any time since it has started making this estimate available. The New York Times bestselling author and retired priest Father Joseph F. Girzone hopes to bring awareness of the poor who live among us with the publication of his newest novel, “The Homeless Bishop” (Orbis Books). Father Girzone casts his hero as an intelligent, talented Catholic archbishop named Carlo Brunini, who acquires permission to take an extended leave of absence to try to understand why Jesus so loved the poor and disadvantaged. He renounces his status and worldly goods to experience life in America as a homeless beggar, and in doing so, gains an entirely new perspective that equips him for a leadership role in the church that he never dreamed of. Father Girzone’s tale was inspired by the many years that he himself spent working directly with the poor and homeless.

When Father Girzone learned about an elderly couple freezing to death, he assigned staff to go from home to home throughout his home county to determine people’s living conditions. Reports revealed that thousands of elderly people were living in tenuous conditions. “When I heard politicians remarking that there were no real poor people, just people too lazy to work, I cringed,” Father Girzone told me in an interview. “I could not believe that intelligent people, and people charged with the responsibility of running our country, could be so ignorant.” Like his first book, the runaway bestseller “Joshua,” the protagonist in the pages of “The Homeless Bishop” is sure to rouse readers, helping them to understand why Jesus so loved the poor. In his endearing, simple prose, Father Girzone takes the reader on a journey from the halls of the Vatican to the streets of New York and unexpected places such as Iran. When I asked Father Girzone what he hopes his readers will take away from his engaging story, he told me about Tom Cousins, a man who built several skyscrapers in Atlanta. Cousins’ best investment, however, didn’t require an architect or an engineer; it was the money he put into the East Lake

community, a crime-ridden corner of Atlanta. With some tender love and care, plus a few dollars, the crooked place was transformed into a model community with a 98-percent graduation rate from high Therese J. school. For the first time in history, those kids went Borchard off to attend prestigious colleges. What was Cousins’ motivation? Father Girzone’s adored protagonist of his first novels: Joshua. Therein is proof that Father Girzone’s fictional characters are capable of influencing and changing the world that we live in. Therese J. Borchard writes a column for Catholic News Service.

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Immigration and the ‘next America’ I worry that in today’s political debates over immigration we are entering into a new period of nativism. The intellectual justification for this new nativism was set out a few years ago in an influential book by the late Samuel Huntington of Harvard, called “Who Are We?” He made a lot of sophisticated-sounding arguments, but his basic argument was that American identity and culture are threatened by Mexican immigration. Authentic American identity “was the product of the distinct Anglo-Protestant culture of the founding settlers of America in the 17th and 18th centuries,” according to Huntington. By contrast, Mexicans’ values are rooted in a fundamentally incompatible “culture of Catholicism” which, Huntington argued, does not value self-initiative or the work ethic and instead encourages passivity and an acceptance of poverty. These are old and familiar nativist claims, and they are easy to discredit. One could point to the glorious legacy of Hispanic literature and art, or to Mexican-Americans’ and Hispanic-Americans’ accomplishments in business, government, medicine and other areas. Unfortunately, today we hear ideas like Huntington’s being repeated on cable TV and talk radio –and sometimes even by some of our political leaders. There is no denying significant differences between Hispanic-Catholic and Anglo-Protestant cultural assumpYoung adults gather for the Hispanic charismatic Catholic conference in Chicago in 2009. tions. This kind of bigoted thinking stems from an incomplete understanding of American history. Historically, both cultures have a rightful claim to a place in our national This is a good way to understand our duty as Catholics without proper documentation have traveled hundreds, “story” – and in the formation of an authentic American in our culture today. We need to find a way to “translate” even thousands, of miles. They have left everything identity and national character. the Gospel of love for the people of our times. We need behind, risked their safety and their lives. They have I believe American Catholics have a special duty today to to remind our brothers and sisters of the truths taught done this not for their own comfort or selfish interests. be the guardians of the truth about the American spirit and by Blessed Junípero and his brother missionaries. That They have done this to feed their loved ones. To be good our national identity. I believe it falls to us to be witnesses we are all children of the same father in heaven. That mothers and fathers. To be loving sons and daughters. These immigrants – no matter how they came here – to a new kind of American our father in heaven does patriotism. not make some nationali- are people of energy and aspiration. They are people who We are called to bring Catholics need to lead our country ties or racial groups to be are not afraid of hard work or sacrifice. They are nothing out all that is noble in “inferior” or less worthy of like the people Huntington and others are describing! These men and women have courage and the other virtues. the American spirit. We his blessings. to a new spirit of empathy. We are also called to chalCatholics need to lead The vast majority of them believe in Jesus Christ and love lenge those who would our country to a new spirit our Catholic Church, They share traditional American diminish or “downsize” need to help our brothers and of empathy. We need to values of faith, family and community. This is why I believe our immigrant brothers and America’s true identity. help our brothers and Since I came to California, sisters to start seeing the strangers sisters to start seeing the sisters are the key to American renewal. And we all I have been thinking a lot strangers among us for know that America is in need of renewal – economic and about Blessed Junípero among us for who they truly are. who they truly are — and political, but also spiritual, moral and cultural renewal. Serra, the Franciscan imminot according to political I believe these men and women who are coming to this grant who came from Spain or ideological categories country will bring a new, youthful entrepreneurial spirit of hard work to our economy. I also believe they will help via Mexico to evangelize this great state. or definitions rooted in our own fears. Blessed Junípero loved the native peoples of this contiThis is difficult, I know. I know it is a particular renew the soul of America. nent. He learned their local languages, customs and beliefs. challenge to see the humanity of those immigrants who He translated the Gospel and the prayers and teachings of are here illegally. But the truth is that very few people The writer is archbishop of the Archdiocese of the faith so that everyone could hear the mighty works of “choose” to leave their homelands. Emigration is almost Los Angeles. This article, an excerpt from a Sept. 15 God in their own native tongue! He used to trace the sign always forced upon people by the dire conditions they L’Osservatore Romano adaptation of a July 28 address of the cross on people’s foreheads and say to them, “Amar face in their lives. given by the archbishop at the Napa Institute, is used with a Dios! Love God!” Most of the men and women who are living in America permission of the archdiocese.

Twenty Something

Of puppies, whales and St. Francis Across the country, young married couples have settled on the perfect preparation for parenthood: a puppy. It is a trial run that delivers many of the same tussles and delights – a tiny, big-eyed creature who is named and measured and potty trained, who interrupts Netflix and upends the budget, protracting Saturday mornings and contracting Saturday nights. Someone to worry about and brag about, to snuggle and scold. Someone to put in the Christmas card. It may seem silly, but the multivitamin dog treats and rhinestone-encrusted collars come with the immediate miracle of getting outside yourself – committing to that pup and feeling your heart rise and fall with its every whimper. Puppy training is, indeed, parent training. Three in four Catholic households report having a pet, according to the American National Election Studies. This month we salute their patron saint, St. Francis of Assisi, and all the motley pets we’ve loved. We gather under the slanted sun for animal blessings, a reminder of the catholicity of Catholicism, that the stuff of home life has a place in the church – even the critters that shed. Jackie, 48, a curly-haired Catholic who has never married, cherishes her Shih Tzu. Without her, the New Jersey native says, “this house would be really lonely.” Jackie lost her male Shih Tzu in May, “after 15 and a half years of happiness and love.”

Hallmark introduced pet sympathy cards in 1984, and over the years, sales have steadily increased. “Your pet was part of the family,” reads one card, picturing an empty soft chair. “That’s what makes saying goodbye so hard.” The more hours I log in my office, the more I appreciate even passing animal encounters, like the four raccoons that cautiously descended our oak after a thunderstorm, crawling in pairs and leaning against each other. Or the tree frog that landed on the front door one August evening, mystifying with its bulging yellow eyes. Sit too long at a computer and you can forget everything outside the inbox. That’s why my family packed three binoculars and a 16-gigabyte memory card on our recent Alaskan cruise. We yearned to see some hulking mammal living among the woodland and waterfalls. Goats and moose and bears – oh, my! Bald eagles flew overhead, salmon swam below us. And I couldn’t pass up the opportunity for whale watching. Two and a half hours and a guarantee of a whale spotting or your money back. I handed over my credit card and signed up. Two and a half hours later, the outlook was bleak: gray sky, gray water, biting wind and pelting rain. No whale. “This is when they toss out the battery-operated rubber

whale,” someone joked. And finally, a humpback. On our side of the boat. Not far. The dorsal fin made a smooth arc, sliding from right to left. I snapped my camera repeatedly, Christina pointing it at the whale and lowering it to my Capecchi chin so I could observe directly, without any filter. Here was a 40-ton beast in an endless ocean choosing that very moment to dip above the water. Witnessing that spontaneous act in that natural environment felt like peering behind the curtain into a secret world. You only get a few seconds, but you memorize the sight. “All praise to you, Oh Lord, for all these brother and sister creatures,” St. Francis wrote in his Canticle of the Creatures. We echo his words today, craning our necks to take it all in. The world is big, and we are small. Christina Capecchi is a freelance writer from Inver Grove Heights, Minn. She can be reached at ReadChristina.com.

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By Archbishop Jose H. Gomez

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The new missal: Just the same house redecorated (CNS PHOTO/NANCY WIECHEC)

The forthcoming changes in the wording of the new Mass translations are being met with delight or derision. For many Catholics, the changes will be somewhat nostalgic reminders of a long-ago age of a very different Mass of silent solemnity and reverence; of bells and the aroma of incense and quiet congregations. For others, the fear is that the changes will be liturgiThe first eucharistic prayer cally strange and stilted. is seen on a page from a There is already concopy of the new Roman cern that the Vatican Missal in English published is foisting something on 2011 Catholics that by the U.S. Conference of is as dreaded as the Catholic Bishops. Novus Ordo once was on Catholics of the ‘60s. “Why the change?” they ask now, just as they asked 40 years ago. “We like things just the way they are.” Post-Vatican II Catholics will soon find that their

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fears of the return of Latin and the Tridentine Mass are completely unfounded. There are changes, but they are written in a gracefully spiritual way that draws on the old to further enrich the new. They are also minuscule in that a word here or a different line there is basically the same, yet translated to the original Latin to impact a richer meaning on what has been unimaginative. And will now be poetic and evocative. Rather than simple prayer of the lips, the new responses of priest and people are scriptural mind pictures that inspire meditation and reflection. In an excerpt of his book “Companion to the Order of Mass,” Msgr. Bruce Harbert wrote: “The Companion is not a book about ‘the changes.’ The period of transition between the old and the new translation of the Order of Mass will be quite brief. It is best not to see this as a hurdle to get over, but as the opening of a door which gives us much fuller access to the treasures that the Mass contains.” An awareness of the scriptural and theological symbolism that will be explained in church bulletins and pamphlets distributed before the changes begin, will gradually afford access to a level of spiritual tran-

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Spirituality for Life

Some personal mini-creeds We are all familiar with the Nicene and the Apostles’ creeds, the two great faith-summaries that anchor our faith. Without them, eventually we would drift off the path and lose our way. Creeds anchor us. But the great creeds are like huge rivers that need smaller tributaries to bring their waters into various places. Thus, we also need mini-creeds, short, pithy truth-statements that anchor us morally and spiritually. We all, no doubt, have our own favorite mini-creeds. Here are some of mine: Love is better than anger. Hope is better than fear. Optimism is better than despair. So let us be loving, hopeful and optimistic. Jack Layton, leader of the New Democratic Party of Canada, in a letter to the people of Canada, just before dying of cancer. The great challenge is living your wounds through instead of thinking them through. It is better to cry than to worry, better to feel your wounds deeply than to understand them, better to let them enter into your silence than to talk about them. The choice you face constantly is whether you are taking your wounds to your head or your heart. Henri Nouwen, journaling while working through a clinical depression. When I despair, I remember that all through history, the way of truth and love has always won. There have been murderers and tyrants, and for a time they can seem invincible. But in the end they always fall. Think of it, always. Mohandas K. Gandhi, asserting his belief in the ultimate triumph of truth and goodness. Nothing that is worth doing can be achieved in our lifetime; therefore we must be saved by hope. Nothing we do, however virtuous, can be accomplished alone; therefore we must be saved

by love. No virtuous act is quite as virtuous from the standpoint of our friend or foe as it is from our standpoint. Therefore we must be saved by a final act of love, which is forgiveness. Reinhold Niebuhr, on the complexities of sanctity. This is how we grow: by being defeated decisively by constantly great things. Rainer Marie Rilke suggesting that a defeat by the other world is better than a victory in this one. Our faith begins at the very point where atheists suppose that it must end. Our faith begins with the bleakness and power of the night of the cross, abandonment, temptation, and doubt about everything that exists. Jurgen Moltmann on the dark night of faith and the cross. There comes a time in one’s life where the question is no longer: What can I still do to remain productive and to make a contribution in this world? Rather the question becomes: How can I live now so that when I die my death will be an optimal blessing for my loved ones, for the church, and for the world? Henri Nouwen on the difference between giving our lives away and giving our deaths away. Don’t be afraid to suffer, give the heaviness back to the weight of the earth; mountains are heavy, seas are heavy. Rainer Marie Rilke writing to a friend grieving the death of a loved one. Love must wait for wounds to heal. It is this waiting that we must do for each other, not with a sense of mercy, or in judgment, but as if forgiveness were a rendezvous. Novelist Anne Michaels on empathy. In this life there is no such thing as a clear-cut pure joy. But this intimate experience in which every bit of life is touched

by a bit of death can point us beyond the limits of our existence. Henri Nouwen on how we live now, “mourning and weeping in this valley of tears.” Wake up lovers; it is time to start the journey! Father Ron We’ve seen enough of this world; it is time to see Rolheiser another. Rumi, suggesting that mostly we are asleep to the other world and to the deeper things of this one. Don’t surrender your loneliness so quickly. Let it cut more deep. Let it ferment and season you as few human or even divine ingredients can. Hafiz, 14th century, Sufi mystic poet. To reach satisfaction in all, desire satisfaction in nothing. To come to possess all, desire the possession of nothing. To arrive at being all, desire to be nothing. To come to the knowledge of all, desire the knowledge of nothing. To come to enjoy what you have not, you must go by a way in which you enjoy not. To come to the possession you have not, you must go by a way in which you possess not. To come to what you are not, you must go by a way in which you are not. John of the Cross on finding life by giving it away. Oblate Father Ron Rolheiser is president of the Oblate School of Theology in San Antonio, Texas.

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Media send unhealthy messages to women, says Catholic talk show host Many people, whether they are religious or not, “are sick and tired of the way women are treated, the way families ROME (CNS) – A new book by a are treated and the way marriage is disreCatholic talk show host looks at how media spected,” she said. and culture are sending unhealthy messages The women’s liberation movement to women and how the church can fill the failed to provide the solution, she said, emotional and spiritual void left behind. because what brings freedom and dignity The book, “Extreme Makeover: Women to women are in the teachings of Christ Transformed by Christ, Not Conformed to and the Catholic Church, Tomeo said. the Culture,” looks at how the culture is “The church has been teaching for “going after women” and how women are 2,000 years that there is a plan” called hurt, “whether it be body image, eating natural law, she said. disorders and sexual objectification,” said Natural law, whose basic norms are the book’s author, Teresa Tomeo. reflected in the Ten Commandments, are Tomeo, a syndicated talk show host rights and wrongs that are part of human on Eternal Word Television Network, nature and can be identified by the use told Catholic News Service in Rome that of human reason, according to church women are pressured into being many teaching. Pope Benedict XVI has said different things to different people: a pownatural law is the only sure foundation for erhouse professional, a flawless wife and regulating social life and can guarantee beautiful woman. that people live in true freedom with their She said much in society is contradicTeresa Tomeo is the author of “Extreme Makeover: Women Transformed by Christ, dignity respected. tory: “We have all these advancements and Not Conformed to the Culture,” a book exposing double standards and demeaning Tomeo said it was becoming familiar yet we’re more objectified than ever.” with natural law and the church’s writings There’s a kind of “split personality” in attitudes toward women. She is pictured in Rome Sept. 9. on women and life that led her back to the media, she said, when a newspaper or the church. newscast reports on studies showing how In her book, Tomeo makes a considerable number of influential media are on an audience, especially children, or “You have to go through your own crisis” to see there references to surveys, studies and research done by wellstudies showing ways women are still objectified. is another way, she said. “And then they turn around and promote sex at 2 in the In her book, published by Ignatius Press, Tomeo details known secular organizations to support her arguments and afternoon in a soap opera or a commercial,” she said. the personal crises she weathered – an eating disorder, a show how natural law reveals itself in reality. She said she hopes the book will inspire women, espeWomen’s self-image is often distorted because of too frenetic work ethic and a crumbling marriage. She had much emphasis on youth, physical beauty and sexuality, been living distant from God, she said, and just accepted cially teens, to learn about the Catholic faith, study it, pray and find out who they are in Christ. she said. the current culture’s stereotypes wholesale. By transforming themselves, women can change the Add to the mix the modern-day “freedoms” of contracep“I realized I was living in the world so strongly, it tion, abortion, and sex outside of marriage and women end consumed me. My career was everything and I let every- culture, she said, quoting St. Catherine of Siena: “When up being not more free or equal “but more in bondage, and thing else slide and almost lost everything in the process,” we are whom we are called to be, we will set the world ablaze.” you don’t realize it when you’re accepting it.” she said. (CNS PHOTO/PAUL HARING)

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Reviewed by Regina Lordan (CNS) After a long day of molding minds and grading papers, Catholic schoolteachers can find motivation and solace when reading two new books from Catholic educators Karen Eifler and Thomas Groome. While Eifler’s “Month of Mondays: Spiritual Lessons from the Catholic Classroom” is a quick, anecdotal read for tired teachers

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needing a literary boost, Groome’s “Will There be Faith? A New Vision for Education and Growing Disciples” is more for the scholarly type. Eifler, an educator in the Diocese of Oakland and Archdiocese of Los Angeles for 15 years and professor at the University of Portland in Oregon, wrote her book with the busy educator, catechist and administrator in mind. It is a compilation of separate humorous, touching and meaningful reflections about the grace she discovered in her students and fellow teachers. The 30 true stories, which add up to a month of Mondays, open with a chocolate bar fundraiser heist, which clearly sets the stage for an interesting book. Eifler’s stories might just be the jolt that many weary teachers desperately need on a hectic Monday. The stories, many of which have universal themes and characters (the “world’s best kindergarten teacher” teaches lifelong lessons, the troublemaking eighth-grader actually does have a soft

spot), will encourage readers to remember that students and peers are examples of grace that continually change perspectives and teach the teachers. For the educator or parent looking for philosophical and pragmatic ways to implement strategies for religious education in the home or classroom, Groome’s “Will There be Faith?” is the book to read. Groome, director of the Institute of Religious Education and Pastoral Ministry at Boston College, is the primary author of religion textbook series and several other books and publications related to religious education. In this book, Groome fleshes out today’s problems and practical solutions to teaching faith at home, in the community and in school to Christians. Today, he asserts, many parents and educators feel embattled in their own faith, so passing on Jesus’ story and message is particularly challenging. Throughout the book, Groome offered reflection questions to help readers apply his discussions to their lives. For example, Groome asked, “How would you describe Jesus’ pedagogy, his overall approach to teacher?” and “How does Jesus’ approach compare with your own?” Groome’s book would be best appreciated if read and discussed over several weeks or months and perhaps with a group of other parents or teachers. If read quickly and without time for reflection, the material presented in the book might seem exhausting and overwhelming. However, when read a chapter at a time, the book will more likely result in an exhaustive discussion and analysis of its main themes: Will there be faith on earth and how can we pass it on to future generations? Lordan is former assistant international editor of Catholic News Service and a former contributor to Catholic Radio Weekly.

October 8, 8 p.m. “Dance the Night Away – Zydeco Style” at St. Paul of the Shipwreck Gym, corner of 3rd & Jamestown in San Francisco. Enjoy Creole-Cajun cuisine, raffles, and a fun time on the dance floor. Free dance lessons at 7 p.m. Music by André Thierry and Zydeco Magic. Tickets $20 in advance/$25 at the door. For tickets or more information call Warren Semien at 415-374-6698 or Benetta Gipson at 415-822-5188.

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The National Shrine of St. Francis of Assisi LA NUOVA PORZIUNCOLA Vallejo and Columbus in North Beach Oct. 8: “Third Birthday Celebration of the Knights of St. Francis of Assisi and the Porziuncola Nuova” with actress, Annie Potts of “Designing Women” fame, as master of ceremonies. Baltimore Auxiliary Bishop Dennis Madden will give the invocation. Elisa Stephens, president of Academy of Art University, and Philip F. Mangano, president, American Round Table to Abolish Homelessness, will be honored with the St. Francis of Assisi Award. Reception at 6:30 p.m. and dinner at 7:30 p.m. Email Terry@consortiumofhearts.org or call (925) 212-7835. The Porziuncola and “Francesco Rocks” Gift Shop are open every day 10 a.m.– 5 p.m. with Mass in the shrine church Monday through Saturday at 12:15 p.m. and Sundays at 10 a.m. Rosary is prayed daily in Porziuncola at 4:30 p.m. Call (415) 986-4557.

Good Health Oct. 15, 9 a.m. – noon: Free health event focusing on breast health for women sponsored by St. Mary’s Medical Center in partnership with Mercy High School, San Francisco, at the school, 3250 19th Ave. in San Francisco. Please let us know you’ll be attending. Call (888) 457-5202.

Vocations Oct 22, 9 a.m. - 6:30p.m.: “Come and See,” a day of reflection to explore religious life with the Religious of the Sacred Heart, Oakland Community, 1726 Chestnut St. at 18th in Oakland. Explore religious life: specifically the mission and charism of the Religious of the Sacred Heart, their internationality, and why women choose this way of life at this time in history. Women interested in knowing more, or who are just curious, or who are exploring a call to embrace religious life are most welcome! For more information: contact Mary McGann, RSCJ mmcgann@rscj. org. Please register by October 19 or email Regina Shin, RSCJ shin@rscj.org.

Youth Ministry Oct. 4, 4:30 – 8:30 p.m.: “Catholic College Fair” at St. Mary’s Cathedral, Gough Street and Geary Boulevard in San Francisco. Meet with representatives from Catholic colleges including Ave Maria University, Belmont Abbey College, Creighton University, Gonzaga University, Notre Dame de Namur University, University of Notre Dame, University of San Francisco, Holy Names University, St. Mary’s College and other Catholic schools. Event is sponsored by the Office of Religious Education and Youth Ministry of the Archdiocese of San Francisco. Call (415) 614-5650. Oct. 9, 4 p.m.: Youth Mass at St. Anne of the Sunset Church, Judah at Funston in San Francisco. Email clausingv@sfarchdiocese.org or call (415) 614-5654.

Young Adults Oct. 19, 7 – 9 p.m.: “Theology on Tap” at Pyramid Alehouse in Walnut Creek for young adults ages 21-35. “Drink up the good news and good brews,”

Sept. 24, 8 a.m.: St. Vincent de Paul Society of San Francisco’s “Friends of the Poor Walk” begins with Mass at the Sunset Circle parking lot at the corner of Sunset Boulevard and Lake Merced Boulevard. A family event, interested walkers may register and sign the waiver form on the day of the event at the Sunset Circle parking lot. Those walkers who would like to raise money for the poor should first contact SVDP at (415) 977-1270 and ask for Marc Bruno or Kat Costello. All funds raised remain with local SVDP conferences to assist those in need.

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Rosary Rallies October 15: Family Rosary Crusade. The San Francisco Legion of Mary invites all Catholics to join us for the San Francisco Family Rosary Crusade 2011. The Family Rosary Crusade will be held on Oct. 15, 2011, at 12 noon, in San Francisco’s Civic Center Plaza. Join us as we pray the rosary, adore the Blessed Sacrament, listen to inspirational speakers, and ask the blessings of God for ourselves and our community. For more information, visit www. familyrosarycrusade2011.com.

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Nov. 6: The Ladies Ancient Order of Hibernians Columbia Division #2 Fall Fashions Show at the United Irish Cultural Center, 45th Avenue and Sloat Boulevard in San Francisco. Contact Maureen Hickey at (650) 375-0277 for reservations or further information. Please respond by Oct. 28. Pictured, from left, are members of the event planning committee: Peggy Mylett, Margaret McAuliffe, Kathleen Fitzgerald, Sally Mulkerrins, Mary Ryan, and Terry Deasy. organizers said. Topic Oct. 19 is “The Intersection between Faith and Sexuality.” Email stmarywcyam@ gmail.com. The Dominican Sisters of Mission San Jose have announced retreats for young adult women and men as well as several retreats for young adult women interested in exploring religious life. Visit www.msjdominicans.org or call (510) 933-6335 or (510) 657-2468. You may also email blessings@msjdominicans.org or vocations@msjdominicans.org.

Food and Fun Sept. 24, 5:30 p.m.: St. Stephen School’s annual Family Bingo in Donworth Center. Guests play Bingo and enjoy a delicious spaghetti dinner. To order tickets, call (415) 564-6487. You will not be disappointed! Sept. 24, 25: “Posh Squash,” a glass pumpkin patch at Church of the Nativity in Menlo Park. View thousands of unique and colorful hand-blown pumpkins, fruit, flowers and vegetables for sale to decorate your home for the autumn season, or to give as beautiful gifts. Live glass-blowing demonstrations and many artists on hand. Hours are Saturday, 10 a.m. – 5 p.m. and Sunday, 10 a.m. – 4 p.m. at Nativity School, 1250 Laurel St., Menlo Park. Visit Posh Squash page on Facebook, or call (650) 323-7914. Oct. 7: Catholic Marin Breakfast Club meets for Mass and breakfast at St. Sebastian Church, Sir Francis Drake Boulevard and Bon Air Road in Kentfield. Email sugaremy@aol.com. October 8, 8 p.m.: “Dance the Night Away – Zydeco Style” at St. Paul of the Shipwreck gym, corner of 3rd and Jamestown in San Francisco. Enjoy Creole-Cajun cuisine, raffles, and a fun time on the dance floor. Free dance lessons at 7 p.m. Music by André Thierry and Zydeco Magic. Tickets are $20 in advance and $25 at the door. For tickets or more information call Warren Semien at (415) 374-6698 or Benetta Gipson at (415) 822-5188. Oct. 10: 19th Annual Capuchin Golf Tournament at Green Hills Country Club in Millbrae with registration and lunch at 10 a.m. and a shotgun-start 18-hole scramble. Entry fee of $300 per person includes golf, range, cart, tee prizes, lunch, beverages, and dinner. Dinner-only tickets are available at $50 per person. Call Bill Mason at (650) 906-1040 or Roy Nickolai at (415) 760-6584. Proceeds benefit service programs of the Capuchin Franciscans of the Western America Province.

Oct. 14, 15, 16: “Wild West Days” hosted by St. Dunstan Parish, 1133 Broadway Ave. in Millbrae. Come celebrate and enjoy carnival rides, games, food and drink, a chili cook off, dunk tank, bingo, raffle, silent auction, Sunday night roast beef dinner, entertainment and much more. Fun for the whole family! Starts at 5 p.m. on Friday. Saturday hours are noon – 10 p.m. Sunday hours are noon – 8 p.m. Call the St. Dunstan rectory at (650) 697-4730.

Retired Priests Oct. 21, 11:30 a.m.: “First Annual St. John Vianney Luncheon” honoring retired priests of the Archdiocese of San Francisco at St. Mary’s Cathedral, Gough Street and Geary Boulevard in San Francisco. Proceeds benefit Priests Retirement Fund. For information, call (415) 614-5580 or email development@sfarchdiocese.org.

Faith Formation October 1, 9:30 a.m.- 12:30 p.m.: “The Third Edition of the Roman Missal: New Words, Deeper Meaning,” a workshop with Paulist Father Ricky Manalo. Join us in the morning as we learn about the history of the relationship between the Mass and the Roman Missal, explore the deeper theological meanings behind the new text, and spiritually and musically prepare ourselves for the upcoming implementation date, Nov. 27, 2011. Free will offerings accepted. Come to St. John of God Church, 1290 Fifth Ave. at corner of Irving in San Francisco. Call (415) 566-6610. Oct. 1, 9 a.m. – 5 p.m.: Contemplative Outreach’s Annual Conference 2011 – Day of Enrichment. Four presentations and a new video by Father Thomas Keating will focus on Centering Prayer and living contemplatively in contemporary society. Marriott San Francisco Airport Waterfront Hotel, 1800 Old Bayshore Highway, Burlingame. For more information, contact the Contemplative Outreach Office at (973) 838-3384 or email Olsiana@coutreach.org. Cost: $75. Nov. 18, 19: “Go! Glorify the Lord with your life!” Be among the more than 2,500 religious education professionals and Catholics looking to deepen their faith meeting for the annual “Faith Formation Conference” sponsored by the Archdiocese of San Francisco with the dioceses of San Jose, Oakland, Monterey and Stockton at Santa Clara Convention Center. Local experts and nationally known speakers

Thursdays, 7:30 - 9 p.m.: Classes on the Greek Fathers and the Desert Fathers of the fourth century with Father David Anderson at Marin Catholic High School. Donations accepted but all are welcome to audit the series for free. Call Mary Ann (415) 454-0979 or Paul at (415) 385-1720 or visit www. leblogdelabergerie.com/FrDavid.htm.

Reunions Sept. 24, 6 p.m.: Calling St Matthew School Alumni for first annual Alumni Reception at the Carnival. Come along for drinks and nibbles. Check in with old classmates. Alumni families and parents welcome too! Spread the word. Stay afterward and enjoy our wonderful carnival atmosphere featuring live music, international foods, games and much more. Carnival and reunion are on campus at 910 El Camino Real in San Mateo. Sept. 24, 25: St. Timothy School Alumni Weekend Mass and Reception on the St. Timothy Parish campus, 1515 Dolan Ave., San Mateo. Visit www. sttimothyschool.org or call the school office at (650) 342-6567. Oct. 16: Class of 1951 from Lone Mountain College in San Francisco/SF College for Women. Contact Anstell Ricossa at (415) 921-8846 or Toni Buckley at (415) 681-5789. Oct. 16: Class of 1961 from Lone Mountain College. Contact Pat Mazza Gallagher at (415) 4727865 or Carolyn Zullo Giannini at (415) 921-4407. Oct. 21: Tee off in St Matthew School 48th Annual Golf Tournament! Enjoy a fun afternoon of golf and friends at Poplar Creek Golf Course in San Mateo. For more details, registration and sponsor opportunities visit www.stmatthewcath.org or email Jeff at jmstevens1@gmail.com. Alumni should let him know you are a St. Matt’s graduate. Oct. 22: Presentation High School, San Francisco class of ’66. Contact Martha Kunz Willis at (650) 763-1202 or email mwwmtw@comcast.net or Marilyn Mathers at (51) 232-4848 or mmathers@ deloitte.com. Oct. 22: St. John Ursuline High School, class of ’76 at Fisherman’s Grotto #9 in San Francisco. Email Julie Smith Prosek at c_jprosek@comcast.net (underscore between c and j) or call (650) 992-8717.

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Faith Formation Faith Formation Conference 2011 Date: November 18-19, 2011 Hosted by: Diocese of San Jose, Archdiocese of San Francisco, Dioceses of Monterey, Oakland, and Stockton Location: Santa Clara Convention Center Audience: 2500+ attendees from Northern California Communities / Language supported: English, Spanish, and Vietnamese Theme: Go! Glorify the Lord by your Life! Why: The Faith Formation Conference offers an opportunity to nourish your mind, heart, and soul. What: Receive Catholic formation, education, and training in catechesis, liturgy, social justice, youth and young adult, family life and ethnic ministry Who: 500+ catholic teachers from the Diocese of San Jose will join the conference on Friday, November 18. Did you know? ● The Faith Formation Conference workshops and exhibits appeal to parish ministers, teachers, parents, parishioners, pastors, pastoral associates, principals, and a wide variety of audiences ● The conference empowers people for ministry ● The conference appeals to parents — pass on the faith to their children, to be a creative catechist and teacher ● The conference allows people to deepen their faith and have a greater desire to proclaim the Word of God ● The conference allows people to learn about how the different images of Jesus have appealed to different groups of Christians ● The conference allows people to learn a new approach to reading the gospels How: Registration brochures delivered to parishes and delivered to the homes of past attendees. ● Online registration ● For more information on speakers, workshops, visit website: www.faithformationconference.com

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Catholic San Francisco

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