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Check In and Reset
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anuary is a time to reset, and this issue of Prince William Living is all about supporting you in getting the fresh start you may need after a stressful holiday season. We encourage you as you enter 2023 to check in with yourself and others. How is your mental health? What do you need to feel and be your best self? Check out our feature to learn about mental wellness and local support resources in our community.
Perhaps you’d like to reset your environment headed into the new year. Home and Hearth offers simple suggestions that provide big results. Or maybe it’s your relationship with your furry family member that needs resetting this year — enough with the barking and chewing up shoes. Our Lifelong Learning section is all about learning to speak your dog’s language and deepening your connection (so you can learn to clearly tell Fido to lay off the barking and shoe chewing!).
Many people set first-of-the-year goals to become more physically active. Why not make it a family affair? Check out
Family Fun for ways to get your children moving — and yourself too! And after all that healthy movement, follow it up with a healthy family dinner at Byblos. Enjoy fresh, delicious Lebanese cuisine at this favorite spot in Gainesville. Get all the details in Local Flavor.
Our Giving Back section for January features Leadership Prince William and all the good this integrative organization does within our community, while On a High Note shares the story of a local culinary teacher and his unique, highly impactful educational style.
You’ll also find great tips for setting financial goals for the year in Your Finances and plentiful options for filling your days with fun in our events calendar.
Wishing you and yours a happy and prosperous New Year.
Rebecca Barnes PublisherGetting Help for MENTAL HEALTH
By Colleen KildayJust like the heart or liver, the brain is a vulnerable organ that sometimes needs professional help to function normally. But since symptoms of mental health conditions often manifest in thoughts, feelings, or behaviors, it can be difficult to distinguish between a symptom and a typical response to life circumstances. It is not quite as clear cut as recognizing symptoms of the seasonal flu.
If you have found yourself concerned for your mental wellbeing in recent years, you are not alone. According to the World Health Organization, the global prevalence of depression and anxiety-related disorders have increased by 25% since 2019. On a similar note, overdose deaths as a result of substance use disorders have increased by nearly 30% in the United States over the past two years.
Between careers, families, and all else that occupies our minds, it’s no surprise that self-care is sometimes put on the back burner. As a general rule of thumb, any mental health-related symptom that interferes with normal life warrants attention. Of course, this requires recognizing the signs and symptoms associated with mental health conditions and identifying local resources available to address them.
When to Seek Help
According to the National Institutes of Health, over half of all people will experience a mental health disturbance that warrants treatment over the course of their lifetime. Many people with mental health disorders may, over time, become desensitized to their symptoms or consider them a normal part of their life. While only a mental health professional can determine the presence of a diagnosable condition, and each condition has its own unique symptomology, there are some signs that can help indicate if it’s time to seek professional help:
n Uncontrollable worrying or ruminating n Excessive, persistent feelings of sadness or anger n Confusion or issues with concentration n Changes in sleeping and eating habits
n Overuse or chronic use of substances including alcohol n Inability to manage daily stress, cope with normal problems, or complete activities
n Extreme changes in mood n Feelings of social disconnection or withdrawal
Mental health disorders frequently co-occur with Substance Use Disorder, defined as a condition that manifests as the compulsive use of alcohol or other drugs in spite of negative consequences. Though it is one of the deadliest and most common mental health conditions in the United States, it is also the least treated. Over 41 million people suffer from SUD each year but fewer than 1.5% of them seek help. Societal stigma is considered one of the greatest barriers to seeking treatment. Because addiction is widely mischaracterized as a moral failing, sufferers are often too ashamed to get help.
However, nearly one in 10 Americans will experience a significant substance misuse problem in their lifetime. It’s thus important to acknowledge that most people who experience addiction are no more complicit in their suffering than those with other mental health conditions.
The presence of Substance Use Disorder is also only formally diagnosable by a mental health professional; however, there are many signs that indicate the need to seek help:
n Continued use of a substance despite negative social, physical, or mental consequences
n Using substances at inappropriate occasions, such as when driving or at work
n Withdrawal symptoms following disuse and increased tolerance of the substance
n Continued use despite negative impact on family or other relationships, including isolating oneself
n Disengagement from normal activities to prioritize substance use
n Inability to control the amount or duration of usage n Spending a significant amount of time using, recovering from usage, or trying to procure substances
The most effective treatment varies widely depending on the affected person’s primary substance of choice and other factors; however, the best intervention is always the earliest one. This can help prevent cumulative negative effects on health, work, family and social life. This holds true for any mental health condition. Getting started on recovery may seem daunting, but there are many local and nationwide resources available to support you on your journey.
Mental Health Screenings and Assessments
The first step toward recovery of any condition is to seek out an assessment or screening. These can be provided by a primary care doctor, a psychiatrist, psychologist, or clinical social worker or accessed through the following public resources.
The Prince William County Department of Community Services provides same-day mental health and substance use screenings and assessments at their Manassas and Woodbridgebased locations. While appointments are not required, services are provided on a first come, first served basis.
In addition to assessments, the centers connect individuals with services and resources tailored to their specific needs and treatment approach, which may include individual or group therapy, psychiatric services and more. For more information about the Same Day Access assessment services, contact the Manassas-based Access Intake Office at 703-792-5241 (TTY:711) or the Woodbridge-based office at 703-792-7373 (TTY:711).
The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMSHA), an agency within the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, also provides resources that can help individuals identify and connect with local, reputable mental health services. They host several hotlines and online resources to assist in the navigation of the behavioral health services system. For help locating treatment services, visit findtreatment.samhsa.gov or contact the free, confidential National Helpline at 1-800-662-4357.
After determining the diagnosis, a health care provider may recommend a treatment approach that involves psychiatric services including medication, certain lifestyle changes, or counseling and therapy. While therapy is a demonstrably effective tool toward treating both mental health and substance use conditions, a diagnosis is not necessary to yield its benefits. Therapy has been shown to improve mental health and life skills independent of the presence of any particular condition.
Support Networks
In addition to providing a judgment-free, supportive social network, peer support groups can equip attendees with education and coping strategies to help combat a range of conditions.
Located in Woodbridge, the Trillium Center is a nonprofit organization that provides a supportive environment for adults with mental illnesses aimed towards facilitating their recovery and personal growth. They host several conference call groups throughout the week covering topics such as cultivating mindfulness, overcoming anxiety, and more. Additionally, Trillium Center staff recently published a book titled Hope Awakened: A Workbook for People Who Have Survived a Suicide Attempt and for Those Who Have Contemplated Suicide. For more information on the workbook and the center, visit trilliumcenterinc.org or call 703-763-3865.
Mental Health America of Virginia is a nonprofit organization that supports individuals in their recovery through a variety of services. They offer virtual seminars that educate attendees on coping strategies and other tools to foster holistic mental health. They also host an Addiction Recovery Support Warm Line at 1-833-4PEERVA and a Mental Health Warm Line at 866-400-MHAV. For more information and to connect with the organization’s additional resources, visit www.mhav.org.
In addition, Prince William County has plans to create a 24hour crisis receiving center to provide direct interventions for those experiencing mental health crisis. The center is estimated to cost $4.7 million, would include 16 beds, and is planned to open in July.
“I have been hearing from so many people in my district who say we need more mental health care,” Supervisor Andrea Bailey, said in a news release earlier this year.
The proposed unit would accept drop offs and people under temporary detention orders to connect them with treatment and services.
Coping with Traumatic Experiences
Many experiences in life leave a lasting impression on the way we see the world or ourselves. Sometimes, these events or life circumstances can lead to a persistent change in daily functioning that may include anxiety or depression-like symptoms.
While opening up about these experiences is extremely difficult, it is necessary to do so in order to process and overcome them. Many people find it easier to talk with people who can relate to what they are experiencing.
There are many local groups tailored to the unique needs and experiences of those who have undergone stressful or traumatic events. Keep in mind that symptoms spawned from a traumatic
experience need not meet diagnostic criteria to warrant participation in a peer support group.
Postpartum Support Virginia is a nonprofit organization that provides new and expectant mothers with resources to overcome Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders. The organization currently hosts virtual social support groups, viewable at postpartumva.org. They also host a 24/7 support hotline at 703829-7152, connects mentors with those in need and facilitates access to other resources.
ACTION in Community Through Service is an organization that provides Prince William residents with a variety of supportive programs. A subset of the organization, ACTS Sexual Assault Services, provides survivors of sexual assault and abuse with all-inclusive support services, including court and hospital accompaniment. The team’s Sexual Assault Specialists offer confidential support to individuals via appointments. The organization also hosts several support groups throughout the county. To inquire about individual or group support, contact 703-497-1192.
Those who have survived a suicide attempt or have lost a loved one to suicide may struggle with feelings of guilt, regret, or shame. ACTS hosts support groups for both groups of people to aid in processing such feelings. For more information including meeting dates and times, call 703-368-4141.
The organization also provides support for people who have lost loved ones to sudden or traumatic events. The abruptness
and traumatic nature of such experiences often intensifies and complicates feelings of grief and bereavement. Through the ACTS Traumatic Death Survivor support group, attendees can give and receive support to peers who have experienced similar loss. To learn more about the group including meeting times, call 703-441-8606 ext. 214.
Between 11 and 23% of military veterans experience Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and countless more suffer from other conditions. The North Region of the Virginia Veteran and Family Support Program serves Prince William veterans and their families with access to a variety of services including peer support groups, rehabilitative services, and assistance programs. To connect with the organization’s services and support groups, call 877-285-1299.
Lifestyle Changes
Mental wellbeing affects everyone, not just those who have a specific condition. Likewise, a diagnosis isn’t required to improve your mental health. In fact, many tools that aid recovery from mental health conditions can also augment wellbeing in those without any conditions.
Physical exercise can significantly improve everyone’s mental wellbeing and is only needed in increments of 30 minutes, three to five days a week in order to reap its full benefits. Additionally, its benefits increase over time, so it’s important to build an exercise routine that is sustainable and enjoyable in the long term. Finding a workout buddy can help keep you engaged and
committed; plus, social support is another factor linked with improved mental health.
Research by the National Institutes of Health suggests that sustaining a supportive social network can foster resiliency to stress and lessen symptoms of anxiety and depression. Even during times of personal distress, it is important to stay engaged in the community and maintain or seek out new interpersonal relationships.
While there is no one-size-fits-all strategy to pursuing mental health, the most effective approach is one that incorporates a variety of tools and resources, of which plenty can be found right in the Prince William community.
Colleen Kilday is a journalist and technical writer who has written for a variety of local publications as well as aviation and financial journals. Ignite
lifelong learning
Training
By Wendy MigdalHelps
Every Dog to Have Its Day
One of the common difficulties with learning a new language is finding the opportunity to speak it on a regular basis. Total immersion is even better for forcing the brain to shift over to a new kind of thinking. But did you realize you may have this opportunity every day? The language is called dog, and with a little help, you can master your best friend’s native tongue. The ultimate goal, of course, is to be able to train your dog, but the ability to understand your dog is a necessary building block.
The Teacher Becomes the Student
Courtney of Freedom Tails Dog Training in Haymarket emphasizes the need for communication. “It is about training the human, too,” she said. “Training changes people’s perspectives. They can now understand canine behavior — why the dog does what it does.”
Chrissy of Ridgeside K9 agrees. “We show people how to be on the same level or channel of communication as their dog,” she says. “People struggle without some communication tools.”
To do this, owners must be able to read their dog’s behavior and signals. This ability to focus on your dog — to tune out distractions, to learn to attend better — is a skill that will not only serve humans well with dog training, but will be useful in other areas of life as well. As humans learn to watch their dogs carefully, interpret, react, and adjust, they’re actually training their own brains. This skill can then be applied to mastering other skills, such as playing an instrument or handling a bicycle.
“Learning to train your dog is a skill like becoming a parent, in a lot of ways,” say Courtney. “It requires some discipline.”
Two more of the key skills with developing the discipline needed
to train your dog are patience and consistency. Rather than expecting big changes overnight or in a week, work on small behaviors, and do them every day. Your dog will only develop habits if you develop them first — and do them every time. It’s the key concept in the book Tiny Habits: The Small Changes that Change Everything by B.J. Fogg, who created an entire philosophy of change when he decided one day that he was going to floss just one tooth. Your dog will present you with opportunities to apply these new habits every day — you won’t need to remind yourself to do them. But once you develop the skills of starting with small behaviors, and doing them every single time, you will be able to apply them to your own life in myriad ways.
While many people seek out dog training to try to eradicate unwanted behaviors that are driving them nuts at home, such as chewing, jumping, excessive barking, etc., dog training can be about more than just avoiding the negatives.
“Dog training helps people and their dogs to enjoy each other and enjoy things together,” says Chrissy. “People can have a cohesive lifestyle in which their dog is involved in their everyday life. They can take the dog out with them to experience life.”
Indeed, over the years, dogs have been promoted from the backyard doghouse, to a bed in the house, to being considered full-fledged members of the family. Public places have reflected these changes in society by allowing dogs in many stores, outside at restaurants, and at outdoor festivals.
Another important training skill humans can learn in the service of this goal — to integrate the dog into their lives — is that going out to have fun is not the only time to have fun. Humans need to learn to relax and enjoy the journey, not just the destination. And that means being able to handle frustration and setbacks that may occur during dog training. Resilience and the ability to laugh at yourself are critical skills in the learning process.
Training Options Available Locally
So, where and what kinds of training are available in the Prince William area? There are quite a few options. The Prince William County Animal Shelter has resumed their free training courses. Not surprisingly, these fill up fast and you will likely have to put your name on a waiting list.
For paid trainers, humans can choose from in-home training sessions, in-person classes, and boarding. Yes, you can actually send Fido to boarding school, where trainers will even
sometimes take him home with them. Many trainers offer a mix of services, so if you’ve mastered problems in your home and then want to move on to socializing your dog, you can attend classes without having to switch trainers or companies. Topics range from basic obedience to doing tricks to emotional support. Some, like Ridgeside K9, will work on outdoor skills
for those who really want to get out with their dogs, such as helping Fido get used to being on the standup paddleboard or going out on the kayak.
More Resources from Your Library
Finally, remember that your Prince William Library card always gives you access to a wide variety of materials. The Great Courses is a collection of normally very pricey classes on many topics. Each course is comprised of a series of videos taught by experts who are often nationally-renowned. “Dog Training 101” includes 25 videos and is available on the Kanopy streaming service with your library card. Universal Class is another online learning program that offers courses such as “How to Choose the Right Dog for You” and “Advanced Dog Training.” In addition, the library offers Dogster magazine and subscribes to Magster, an online magazine service that allows users to read such titles as World of Pets.
Learning to train your dog produces benefits beyond the usual satisfaction people get from mastering a new skill. As trainers Chrissy and Courtney point out, dog training makes people’s lives less stressful and builds a stronger bond between them and their pets.
Wendy Migdal is a freelance writer who has lived in the Northern/Central Virginia area since 2000. She has written extensively for The Free Lance-Star and also works for online educational companies. Wendy enjoys traveling around the area to learn about parks, restaurants, attractions, and especially history.
your finances
Setting and Achieving Financial Goals in the New Year
By Bennett C. Whitlock III Whitlock Wealth ManagementIf the start of 2023 has you inspired to take on a healthier approach to your finances, you may be wondering how to do so and where to get started.
Should you focus on reining in your spending habits? Earning more? Investing wisely? All of the above? Here are some practical suggestions to help you improve your financial outlook this year and in the years ahead.
Envision your future. Financial goal setting involves brainstorming. Take the time to consider what you want your financial future to look like and what it will take to get you there. Your goals will flow from the life you want to create for yourself.
Get specific. It’s difficult to act on goals that are too broad or vague. You need to know dollar amounts. For example, if you hope to replace an older car, zero in on the price tag of your next vehicle. Or if you want to purchase a first (or second) home, identify how much you need for a down payment and what monthly payments you can afford. With these specifics in hand, you can calculate how much you need to save each month to achieve a given goal.
Prioritize. Choose a manageable number of goals to work toward. Better to start small and build on your successes. You can sort goals into lists of short-term attainable goals, five-year goals, and long-term stretch goals. The sequence of goal attainment often falls into place naturally. For example, common sense suggests building up your emergency fund and paying down high-interest debt before contributing to a college education fund.
Attach timelines. Goal setting is meaningless without milestones and target dates. Set timelines that are reasonable and achievable.
Document your goals. You’ll want a visual reminder of your goals to make them part of your routine. Create a spreadsheet, put pen to paper or – ideally – work with a financial advisor who can help you map out your goals and document your progress against them. Set a reminder on your phone to review your goals on a daily, weekly or monthly basis. Doing so will keep you focused on accountable for achieving them.
Pair goals with your budget. Realistic financial goals live within a budget. Ideally, your budget will provide guidelines and guardrails for earning, spending, and saving—the key to successful financial goal setting.
Retrain your brain. Goal setting may seem like deprivation if you view it only as cutting back on spending. Reframe your thinking to overcome mental obstacles. See the rewards of putting your time and energy toward actions that move your financial life forward. You might give yourself a psychological boost by doing something nice for yourself during or after goal setting activities. Over time, your mind will connect the two activities so that you find pleasure in both.
Be flexible. Goals are not static. If something changes in your circumstances, you can adjust your goals. If you need to reduce your investment budget while you pay for a muchneeded home repair, that’s life. Don’t let a setback derail you. Simply adjust and move on.
Prepare for success. When you make the effort to set attainable financial goals, you’re halfway there. Once you start tackling each of your financial goals, you’ll be inspired to do more. Feelings of financial uncertainty will fade as you take your future into your own hands.
Get expert guidance. An experienced financial advisor can help you with financial goal setting. When it comes to applying strategies to save and invest for your future, their advice is priceless.
Bennett C. Whitlock III, CRPC®, is a Private Wealth Advisor and Managing Director with Whitlock Wealth Management, a private wealth advisory practice of Ameriprise Financial Services, Inc. He offers fee-based financial planning and asset management strategies and has been in practice for 22 years. To contact him call 703.492.7732 or visit his website at whitlockwealth.com. Ameriprise Financial Services, Inc. Member FINRA and SIPC.
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giving back
Taking the Lead in the Face of Change
By Rebecca BarnesLeadership Prince William is a local 501(c) 3 organization whose alums include CEOs, entrepreneurs, elected officials, executives, veterans, and dozens of community leaders who shape the communities of Prince William County and the Cities of Manassas and Manassas Park.
The organization's goal is to improve our region through collaborative leadership and by engaging and inspiring individuals, organizations, and alums.
The centerpiece of LPW is the 10-month Signature Program. This program began in 2007 to connect community leaders and resources to help them become more effective in their professional roles and serve the community through connection and leadership.
Chairmanship usually changes hands in June of each year (with a second-
year option, at the discretion of the board and the chair). The incoming 2022-23 Chairman was slated to be Charles Gilliam, an LPW 2009 graduate looking forward to taking on the challenge. But as anyone in a leadership role will tell you, change is one thing leaders can always count on.
Change is the Only Constant
Andrea Money (class of 2015), who successfully served as Executive Director since January 2018, announced her departure from Leadership Prince William, meaning the person to accept the position had some pretty big shoes to fill.
Gilliam was simultaneously at a professional crossroads, creating a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. Gilliam owned Okra's, a premiere cajun restaurant in Manassas. A cornerstone in our community for 23 years, he decided to close the restaurant in December 2021. "Okra's had given more to me than I could have ever expected. After closing, I committed to finding something that would allow me to be part of something bigger than myself," said Gilliam.
"Leadership Prince William has been a big part of my life for
“Change is the law of life, and those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future.”
— John F. KennedyCharles Gilliam
nearly 15 years because it changes lives for the better. So when it was suggested that I take on the Executive Director role, it became clear what I should do. I'm excited for the future of LPW and my part in it."
For Gilliam to move into the Executive Director role, the position of Chairman of the Board needed to be filled. For that, LPW leadership looked to Past Chair Bennett Whitlock. Whitlock served as chairman from 2011-2012 and was happy to step up when called upon.
As an active and engaged Alumni of Leadership Prince William, Whitlock knew about the transition and change happening and said, "I was thrilled to have the opportunity to throw my hat back in the ring and lead this fabulous organization."
Moving past the pandemic, Whitlock says, "Charles and I are on the same page with our vision for Leadership Prince William: To reengage and reignite the passion of the Alumni and organization. We are already seeing people re-energized and excited to lend their talent and expertise to support Leadership Prince William."
Vision for the Future
Leadership Prince William is currently working with the sixteenth cohort of the signature program and has nearly 600 alums.
"Graduates of our Signature Program are peppered throughout our community in businesses, elected offices, education, government, first responders, and perhaps most importantly, the nonprofit sector," said Gilliam. "Our alumni are leading the charge to make Prince William County, Manassas, and Manassas Park a better place to live, work, and play, now and into the future."
When asked what his vision was for Leadership Prince William, Gilliam said, "Reignite the spark carried by every alum by giving them the oxygen needed to fan their passions for our community. We will always face challenges, as is expected in a growing and vibrant society; however, I am motivated and inspired by everyone who commits to our rigorous program. Simply because of a desire to find the best version of themselves for their immediate family and our collective family."
The goal is to create a curiosity about Leadership Prince William that stirs our leaders, both present and future, to ask what we can do to assist with their leadership journey.
To learn more about Leadership Prince William and its programs, contact Charles@leadershiprincewilliam.org or visit leadershipprincewilliam.org.
Rebecca Barnes is the Publisher of Prince William Living. Reach her at rbarnes@princewilliamliving.com.
health & wellness
Feeling Better In Your Own Body
Sponsored by Sentara Northern Virginia Medical CenterRegistered Nurse Laura Falvey, who was born and raised in Northern Virginia, knew weight loss surgery was a tool that could help her get healthy.
One year after surgery, she was down 100 pounds from her highest weight. “It was for me just losing weight and feeling better in my body when I do things,” says Falvey, who had gastric sleeve with Dr. Denis Halmi, Bariatric Surgeon and Medical Director at Sentara Weight Loss Surgery Center in Woodbridge. “Being able to walk up five flights of steps and not feel winded and exhausted, whereas before I wouldn’t be able to do that.”
No Easy Way Out
“Surgery certainly is not the easy way out,” says Falvey. “It’s a tool to help you with your weight loss. Being dedicated to all the things that you want to succeed in, and the things that you learned prior to having surgery, and then putting that into practice afterwards is where you get the weight loss from. I stick to my high protein, lots of veggies, fruits, and water, and making sure I’m keep that fluid up. And then exercising. When I exercise at home, my daughter’s usually right there with me and following everything that I’m doing, which is great because it’s that example for her. And that’s what I love the most is, you know, she sees this, she sees the good habits and she can take those into her life.”
Taking The Next Step
“If you are ready to take this step in your weight loss to make yourself healthier, to really commit to the process, I would totally recommend Sentara for that,” says Falvey. “A Bariatric Center of Excellence, it’s important to have that. You know they specialize in bariatrics and that you’re going to get the best care…so if you’ve been thinking about it…the best thing for you to do is go get a consult. Care that you’re going to receive at Sentara is going to be excellent.”
Halmi, who has more than 20 years of experience with the surgical treatment of morbid obesity has seen thousands of patients who have struggled with weight loss.
“Most patients, when they come to us, they’ve been struggling for many years,” says Halmi. “They’ve tried different diets; they
go on different plans…but eventually they end up regaining the weight or not being able to lose the amount they want to lose. I usually tell patients that once you try losing weight on your own or on a diet plan, and if you fail, don’t give up because that’s the worst thing you can do. You need to do something, and surgery is here to help you.”
Wishing They Had Started Sooner
“We will help you,” says Halmi. “Don’t delay and don’t give up. Many people tell us that the only thing they regret, when we talk later, is not to do this sooner. Once they make that first step, then suddenly everything changes. They see this hope, they see this possibility that they can get back to a more healthy life. And the other good thing with the surgery is that the results come very quickly. So, patients experience a very steady weight loss. This is very motivating because many times people go on these very difficult diet plans or exercise plans, and they don’t see a lot of results, and they get discouraged. With the surgery, month after month, they see the weight getting lower and lower. So, they just get more and more excited.”
To learn more, visit sentara.com/WeightLossSurgery or call 703-523-1188 to speak with the Weight Loss Surgery Program Nurse Coordinator.
family fun
Encouraging HEALTHY HABITS in Kids
By Rebecca BarnesIt is winter — dark, cold, and a little dreary. Ironically, it is the new year and the time we are challenged to build new habits. We KNOW we should exercise every day, and if we build good habits in our kids, they will stand a better chance of being healthy their whole lives. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention recommends that kids get at least an hour of physical activity daily. This can include anything from informal, active play to organized sports.
Physical activity is important for kids because it helps them stay healthy and develop good habits for the future. It can help kids maintain a healthy weight, have strong bones and muscles, and reduce their risk of developing chronic diseases such as heart disease, stroke, type 2 diabetes, and even some types of cancer.
Kids who get regular exercise have better physical health, social skills, and cognitive function. Exercise also helps kids maintain a healthy weight, reduces stress levels, and helps them sleep better.
As a parent or caregiver, you can instill positive behaviors and attitudes in your child regarding physical activity. Here are some ways to help build healthy habits early:
n Start early and often. Youngsters love to be active and play. By encouraging safe, unstructured movement and play, you help create a strong foundation for an active lifestyle.
n Be the example. Be positive and have an active lifestyle yourself.
n Teamwork makes the dream work. Make physical activity part of your family’s daily routine by taking family walks or playing active games together.
n Get the "right" clothes. No, we don't mean the latest fashions. Clothes that allow movement and encourage physical activity. For outdoors, have the proper coats and hats or gloves to handle the weather.
n Change locations. Take them to places where they can be active, such as public parks, community baseball fields, or basketball courts.
n Be a cheerleader. Celebrate the physical activities your child participates in, and encourage them to be interested in and try new ones.
n Make it fun. Fun physical activities can be anything your child enjoys, either structured or non-structured. Activities can range from team or individual sports to recreational activities such as walking, running, skating, bicycling, swimming, playground activities, or free-time play.
n Turn off the tube! Instead of watching television after dinner, encourage your child to find fun activities to do on their own or with friends and family, such as walking, playing chase, or riding bikes.
n Or, turn it back on! There are a variety of great video games and shows that encourage exercise. Or put on a video and have a dance party!
n Be safe! Always provide protective equipment such as helmets, wrist pads, or knee pads for activities such as riding bicycles, or scooters, skateboarding, roller skating, rock-wall climbing, and other activities where there may be a high risk of injuries. Also ensure that activities are appropriate for the age of your child.
n Choose their toys wisely. Try to buy plenty of toys that encourage physical movement like balls, badminton sets, etc. If you don’t have other kids, try pogo sticks, jump ropes, and other toys they can use alone.
There are many different ways for kids to be physically active. Some kids enjoy playing tag or climbing trees, while others prefer playing sports or dancing. The important thing is that kids get up and get moving for at least an hour each day.
Rebecca Barnes is the Publisher of Prince William Living. Reach her at rbarnes@princewilliamliving.com.
local flavor
Serving up Authentic Lebanese Favorites in Gainesville
By Rena Malai / Photos by Mark GilveyDuring the Lebanese Civil War, many residents had to flee Lebanon for safety. Walid Boustany was one of them, and he came to the United States in the 1970s to establish a new home. Settling in the Northern Virginia area, he began working in the food industry as a teenager and eventually came to run several successful dining establishments in the greater Washington, D.C. and Richmond areas.
He offers up a piece of Lebanon through owning and operating Byblos restaurant, a Lebanese eatery located in Gainesville. Through a varied menu of traditional Lebanese dishes prepared in house, Prince William residents can experience a culinary expedition on their doorstep.
“Many people in this area have traveled or worked overseas, and may have visited Lebanon and become familiar with the food,” Boustany said. “The idea with opening Byblos is to give them the experience and service they deserve, as there are not many places in the area offering authentic Lebanese food.”
An Authentic Take
Byblos is one of the most ancient cities in the world dating far back to B.C. times, and it is very historic, according to Boustany. It makes sense to name the restaurant after a place steeped in culture, as Boustany says the cuisine at Byblos restaurant is the real thing, authentic Lebanese, not a fusion.
“Byblos, known as Jbeil, is the most beautiful place in Lebanon. It’s known for great seafood, history, and a fun atmosphere,”
Boustany said. “What we offer at Byblos restaurant is authentic Lebanese food, exactly the same way they cook and prepare it in Lebanon.”
In this case, authentic means healthy and freshly made food, mostly organic, prepared with lots of fresh produce and flavored with plenty of olive oil, garlic, lemon, and of course some love.
“Lebanese cuisine is very healthy and this is what we make,” Boustany said. “Most everything we have at Byblos is made from scratch.”
That includes their pita bread, which is made to order. Newcomers to Lebanese dishes are encouraged to try the mezze platter which has a mix of stuffed grape leaves, hummus, falafel, and sambousek, a Lebanese-style turnover stuffed with meat or cheese.
The Byblos mixed grill, another customer favorite, has Lebanese style grilled lamb, chicken, and beef kebabs served with veggies and rice. Boustany says both the meze platter and the mixed grill are a great way to sample a variety of Lebanese dishes. But his favorite thing on the menu is the braised lamb shank, which is slow cooked and topped with a flavorful tomato sauce. “Lamb is a popular dish in Lebanon,” Boustany said.
Keeping up with the fresh take, Byblos offers a juice bar with fresh-squeezed, made-to-order juices like apple, carrot, and orange.
Folks more interested in partaking in a non-juice approach can drink in Byblos’ beer and wine selection and imbibe with some traditional Lebanese offerings.
Dessert has an important spot at the restaurant. Homemade assorted baklavas with pistachio, cashews, and almonds and kanufa — a type of Lebanese cheesecake between layers of flaky phyllo — are traditional favorites. But customers can also enjoy crème brulee, Oreo or mango mousse cakes, and chocolate mousse.
Experiencing Byblos
Byblos restaurant has been in Gainesville for about seven years. With long-standing success in the food industry, Boustany operates his business with the help of his family. He and his wife manage Byblos seven days a week, and Boustany says his family is instrumental in keeping things running.
Another part of Lebanese culture that Byblos restaurant goers can experience is belly dancing. A historical and popular form of entertainment in middle eastern regions and Egypt, belly dance performances at Byblos take place every Friday and Saturday evenings at 7:30 and 8:30 p.m.
Byblos restaurant is open seven days a week, from 11 a.m. to 9 p.m., and 11 a.m. to 10 p.m. on Fridays and Saturdays. Byblos has well-established catering services for events. Those interested in traditional and authentic Lebanese catered dishes for their next event or celebration can call the restaurant at 571-445-3716 to discuss menu options.
The restaurant is located at 6859 Piedmont Center Plaza in Gainesville, close to the John Marshall Highway. Reservations are not required. Online ordering and take out are offered, as is delivery.
Boustany has lived in the U.S. for decades and although he says he does miss Lebanon, America is home for himself and his family.
“This (the U.S.) is where I am a part of, it’s my home, and my family is very happy here,” he said. “I am happy here. It’s where I belong.”
Rena Malai is a freelance journalist and a native Washingtonian. She has written about a variety of topics from tech, to politics, to food. She currently resides in Prince William.
“What we offer at Byblos restaurant is authentic Lebanese food, exactly the same way they cook and prepare it in Lebanon.”
on a high note
What’s Cooking In Chef Evans’ Class
By Dawn KlavonSeems like Ronald Evans is always cooking up something special at Potomac High School in Dumfries. Chef Evans, as his students call him, teaches culinary arts, but his students get a lot more from him than that.
“This year’s theme is raising your bar,” Evans said. “We are reaching new heights, new goals in everything we do — not just in culinary — we’re talking life skills all the time.”
Evans came to teaching later in life, after serving 20 years in the U.S. Marine Corps. During his enlisted military service, he worked in the culinary field, in teaching, and as a drill instructor. His goal as a teacher — just like when he was in the Marines — is to make those around him feel like part of a family.
“It’s a family; you’re always a part of my family once you get to my class,” Evans said. “No matter what.”
He’s that teacher: the one all the students pop in to say good morning to before the school day begins. He’s the one students go to when they have a problem at home. Evans builds trust and respect by taking the time to get to know students and showing he cares.
“Chef Ronald Evans represents the very best of our Potomac teachers and staff,” said Potomac High School Principal Brandon Boles. “He is a master of bringing about high levels of student engagement through collaborative hands-on and project-based activities in his culinary classroom.”
Evans said if students are struggling with other classes and may have low grades, he intervenes to help them get their grades up. He uses cooking competition trips as an incentive for students to persevere. When a young lady in one of his classes had a physical
injury that rendered her temporarily unable to cook in his class, he assigned her to work on scholarship applications during her class time. Just recently, he invited guest speakers from the Culinary Institute of America to his classroom, and two students asked Chef Evans to write them letters of recommendation.
The bar is set high in Evans’ class, and students rise to the occasion. His classes consistently win national high school cooking competitions at Disney World and he has had many students graduate and go on to culinary school. Evans proudly lists a multitude of former students who are now attending numerous culinary colleges, including globally renowned Johnson & Wales University in Rhode Island. They keep in touch and make visits back to his classroom to inspire students
and participate in friendly cooking competitions against current students.
“Chef Evans has been so empowering and made a major impact in my life,” said one student. “He has always had a big heart and joyful personality.”
Chef Evans teaches culinary tricks of the trade, and forces students to get outside their comfort zone with creative problem solving. Currently, he is holding an “MRE Challenge.” Students are required to use military ready to eat meals in a cooking challenge, with a group of veterans visiting class to judge the competition. The veterans also share with students how they ate MREs while traveling and working in the military.
“Everybody wants to have a challenge; I see that drive in them,” Evans said of the cooking competitions. “At first they’re nervous, but then they love it.”
The best part of his job?
“Just talking to them,” Evans said. “About life, getting on their level.”
Throughout his 10 years at Potomac High School, Evans has found new and creative ways to provide the very best teaching and learning opportunities for students, even while working remotely during the pandemic.
“Ronald Evans showed true dedication to his students and exceptional creativity in the virtual classroom while his classes were taught online during the COVID-19 pandemic,” says Jim Wilson, coordinator for ProStart, a career and technical education program that partners with Evans.
Chef Evans planned collaborative learning opportunities, having students join him on virtual field trips, and even delivering culinary supplies so that students could cook right from home.
“Every other week I would have the students drive up to the school to get a bag of food supplies so they could continue to hone in on their culinary skills from watching me demonstrate that recipe via Zoom,” he said.
The instructional leadership, innovation, and meaningful relationships with students shown in Chef Evans’ culinary kitchen and beyond are three of the reasons why he was selected as the 21-22 Potomac HS Teacher of the Year and Virginia ProStart Teacher of the Year, according to Principal Boles.
“Chef Evans embodies our school-wide focus on relationships, rigor, and results,” he said.
Accolades aside, Evans uses his influence to encourage students about cooking and beyond.
“They know I have their back 24/7,” he said. “And they know I’m gonna give them my best.”
Dawn Klavon is a contributing writer for Prince William Living.
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home & hearth
Relax, Refresh, Renew
By Rebecca BarnesThe new year is a time for new beginnings. It's a time to set new goals and make resolutions for the year ahead. It can also be a time to take a step back and reassess your home environment.
If you're feeling bored with your current look or the holidays left your home cluttered, now is the perfect time to make changes. Here are a few ideas to help get you started:
Declutter as you pack away the holiday décor. Since you are already boxing up holiday items, choose things in your everyday home decor to pare down. Make sure everything has its place, and keep your surfaces clear. With less to clean and less to visually take up space, the calmer your environment will be.
Rearrange some furniture. If you've wanted to try a new layout for your living room or bedroom, now is the time to do it. The new year can give a fresh perspective; sometimes, changing things can help. Just be sure to get help with the big pieces.
color or energy. Whether it's new pillows or throws for your couches and chairs or adding a new throw rug, a few new accessories can make a big difference in the overall look of a room.
Bring a little nature inside. Indoor plants are a great way to create a more relaxing atmosphere in any space. Not only do they look beautiful, but they also help purify the air and boost your mood! There are many different kinds of indoor plants that you can choose from depending on your lifestyle and preferences. Popular options include succulents, palms, ferns, bonsai trees, and orchids. Choose one that your schedule will allow you to maintain properly and have your own private indoor oasis!
Dim the lights, light some candles, put on some soothing music, and start enjoying your personal sanctuary.
Add a relaxing color.
One of the best ways to create a relaxing environment in your home is by using colors that promote peace and tranquility. Blues, greens, and lavenders can help you feel relaxed at home. Did you know, blue gives off a calming effect, while green promotes balance and harmony? Lavender is also known for its soothing properties and can create an atmosphere of serenity in any room. Additionally, incorporating earth tones like browns, tans, and beiges are great for creating a warm and cozy setting for your home. These neutral colors invite relaxation into your living space without overwhelming the senses with too much
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JANUARY
Ice Skating at Stonebridge
Daily | Hours vary
Stonebridge at Potomac Town Center 15201 Town Center Place, Woodbridge
The ice rink at Stonebridge is open! Check stonebridgeicerink. ticketsocket.com/#/event-details/iceskating-2022-2023 for hours and to reserve a time to skate.
Ice Skating at Harris Pavilion
Daily | Hours vary
Harris Pavilion 9201 Center Street, Manassas
This outdoor ice-skating venue is now open! Check facebook.com/ HarrisPavilion for hours.
Family Movie Night Thursdays 6:30 to 10 p.m. epiQ Food Hall 14067 Noblewood Plaza, Woodbridge
Complimentary popcorn, lounge seating and delicious cuisine for every taste. Free kids’ meals from Little Miner Taco and half price kids’ meals from Stacks Signature Sandwiches.
Manassas Farmers Market
Saturdays | 8 a.m. to 1 p.m.
Prince William Street Commuter Lot 9024 Prince William St., Manassas
With 100+ vendors, shoppers can choose fresh produce, flowers, foods, and a variety of local goodies. Weather permitting, live bands play keeping everyone entertained. No pets allowed at the market.
Dale City Winter Farmers Market
Sundays | 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. Dale City Commuter Lot 14090 Gemini Way, Dale City
Since 1987, Dale City Farmers Market has been at the forefront of serving Prince William County residents. With 20+ vendors in the winter, it’s one of the largest open-air markets in the region.
Celebrating National Soup Month
Starts Tues. Jan. 3; continues all month
Lake Ridge Library 2239 Old Bridge Road, Lake Ridge
Nothing is better on a cold winter day than a hot bowl of delicious soup. Lake Ridge Library will be celebrating National Soup Month all January long. Each week, the library will have two soup recipes available for patrons to test out at home. Maybe you’ll find a new favorite to serve for the “souperbowl” in February!
Lobby Book Sale – Friends of Bull Run Library
Sat. Jan. 7 | 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Bull Run Library 8051 Ashton Avenue, Manassas
Come look for bargain books and AV items at the Friends Book Sale! $3 Bag Sale from 3 to 4 p.m.
Off the Wall Open House/ Awards Ceremony
Sat. Jan. 7 | 2 to 4 p.m.
ARTfactory 9419 Battle Street, Manassas
The highly anticipated Off the Wall competition returns for its 19th year! Each year, area high school students are invited to share their talent by participating in a high school art exhibit and competition sponsored by Lockheed Martin. The competition encourages student expression and creativity in a professional setting.
McCall Studio Gallery New Year Event and Show
Sat. Jan. 7 | 5:30 to 9:30 p.m.
McCall Studio Gallery 9409 Battle Street, Manassas
The New Year event and show at McCall Studio Gallery is a Red Carpet Gala.
11th Annual Prince William County Public Schools Student Exhibition Opens Tues. Jan. 10 at 10 a.m. | Runs through Feb. 18
Hylton Performing Arts Center 10960 George Mason Circle, Manassas
Featuring expressive and original works of art, this student artwork from Prince William County Public Schools represents the creative talents of students from elementary to high school. The visual arts program in PWCS prepares students to be visually innovative and to develop an awareness and appreciation of visual art.
Economic Development Series: Future of the Region
Wed. Jan. 11 | 4 to 6 p.m.
Old Hickory Golf Club 11921 Chanceford Drive, Woodbridge
The Economic Development Directors from Prince William County, City of Manassas, and City of Manassas Park will give updates on successes of the past year and what we can expect to see in the future. Enjoy refreshments and networking followed by the presentations. Ticket price includes hors d'oeuvres and a drink ticket. Registration: princewilliamchamberofcommerce. growthzoneapp/eventcalendar/
Finding Your Family in the News
Fri. Jan. 13 | 2 to 3 p.m.
Central Library 8601 Mathis Avenue, Manassas
Learn how newspapers online can be searched for items useful for your family history. RELIC’s Don Wilson will describe how a growing number of newspapers online may be searched for
items useful for family and local history. Now you can find obituaries, marriage notices, court cases, advertisements, news items, local gossip, and photos – anything that might appear between the pages of the hometown gazette. Register at 703-7928380, or email relic2@pwcgov.org.
Paint a Growler or Glass Vase
Fri. Jan. 13 | 7 p.m.
Ornery Brewery 8088 Flannery Court, Manassas
Connect with your inner creative by painting on a Growler or Glass Vase! In under two hours, the host will walk you step by step how to paint sea turtles (or your design choice) on a Growler or Glass Vase while infusing laughs and music along the way.
The Creaky Bones
Sat. Jan. 14 | 6:30 p.m.
Farm Brew LIVE 9901 Discovery Blvd., Manassas
The Creaky Bones, formerly The Virginia Southpaws, is a blues-influenced rock band founded in 2016 in Northern Virginia. Founding members Mike Jones and Rich Russman bring a 15-year history of writing and performing with one of D.C.’s longest running rock bands, The Jones.
MLK Youth Oratorical Competition and Program
Mon. Jan. 16 | 11 a.m.
Online Event: Sponsored by the Prince William County Alumnae Chapter of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. Honor the life and legacy of Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. during this virtual oratorical contest and program. Some very special guests will take part in the program.
Books on Tap @ Sinistral
Brewing Co. Wed. Jan. 18 | 7 to 8 p.m. Sinistral Brewing Co. 9419 Main Street, Manassas
Books on Tap is hosted at Sinistral Brewing Co. in Manassas the third Wednesday of the month for books and brews! For more information, please contact Manassas City Library at LibManassasCity@pwcgov.org or visit the brewery's Facebook event page.
Model Railroad: Northern VA NTRACK Club
Sat. Jan. 21 | 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Potomac Library 2201 Opitz Blvd., Woodbridge
This fun, educational program shares information about railroad history and model railroading. See an amazing model railroad, meet club members, and learn about trains in this interactive display.
Concerto Budapest Symphony Orchestra
Sun. Jan. 22 | 2 p.m.
Hylton Performing Arts Center 10960 George Mason Circle, Manassas Enjoy a radiant concert of masterpieces performed by the Concerto Budapest Symphony Orchestra, one of Hungary’s oldest and most vibrant ensembles. Young Hungarian piano superstar Zoltán Fejérvári performs Brahms’s Piano Concerto No. 1 in D minor, and the evening also features works by central European masters, including Dvorák’s popular and beloved New World Symphony. Tickets: hyltoncenter.org.
Mike Rose Magic Show: Winter Wonders
Sat. Jan. 28 | 10:30 to 11:30 a.m. Chinn Park Library 13065 Chinn Park Drive, Woodbridge Magician Mike Rose presents a magic show that is not like other magic shows. Mike’s new show for the winter season is created specifically for libraries. The
show consists of impossible magic tricks, weird mind reading stunts, and off-thewall comedy all themed around snow, cold weather, winter, and more! All ages are welcome. The show features lots of audience participation, so there’s a good chance you will become part of the show! First come, first served until capacity is reached. Show repeats on Mon. Jan. 30, 10:30 to 11:30 a.m. at Potomac Library, 2201 Opitz Blvd., Woodbridge and at 3:30 to 5:30 p.m. at Central Library, 8601 Mathis Avenue, Manassas.
New Year, New You!:
Maya Miernik Author Visit
Sat. Jan. 28 | 1 to 2 p.m. Central Library 8601 Mathis Avenue, Manassas
Celebrate 2023 with local author Maya Miernik. Step into the New Year with a new look! Learn new hairstyles for school and hear great stories. Grown-ups, do you need tips and tricks for your children's hair? Look no further!
ARTfactory’s Pied Piper
Theatre Presents Big Fish
Sat. Jan. 28 | 2 and 7 p.m. Sun. Jan. 29 | 3 p.m. Hylton Performing Arts Center 10960 George Mason Circle, Manassas
Based on the novel by Danial Wallace and the film directed by Tim Burton, Big Fish tells the story of Edward Bloom, a traveling salesman who lives life to its fullest — and then some! Tickets: hyltoncenter.org.
The 66 Express Lanes between I-495 and Gainesville are now open. Spend less time in traffic and more time doing the things that matter the most with faster and more reliable travel.
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