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Happy Pride

BY MICHAEL AARON

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know something has grown up and become successful when someone decides to boycott it for its successes.

Yes, a small group of very left-wing Salt Lakers are organizing their own counterPride because corporations are footing much of the bill for the official Utah Pride event. And, as you know, all corporations are nasty and evil.

More power to the radicals.

Seriously. I have always said that if there weren’t people more extreme on issues than I am, I would be the extreme one.

Years ago, that was true. But, as attitudes shifted and the rad-

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icals became more vocal, I was able to present myself as more moderate and even-keeled than some in the movement and, therefore, catch an ear or two.

If they only knew the truth.

The fact of the matter is that I believe in much of what today’s “radicals” spout. I do, however, think they need the help of a PR expert. If they can succeed in alienating me — someone with beliefs within spitting distance of theirs — how are they ever going to appeal to the masses and help make serious change in the world?

This was the failure of the Occupy movement. These are many of the same people not

learning from their mistakes.

Yes, Utah Pride was once a small gathering of under 200 people at a park with a semi trailer as a stage and lip-syncing drag queens as entertainment.

It was fun and it was a bold statement just to be present.

Today, mothers, grandmothers, bosses and even those who are closeted walk through the gates of Pride to gather up the energy of freedom, self expression and beauty in all its forms.

People reunite with friends they see but once a year.

I remember my first Pride in San Francisco, where 100,000 people pranced and danced in the streets. You could barely walk as the crowd was so large. I dreamed of a day that something close to this could happen at home.

And now it does. And now some find that bad.

I say, happy Pride, in whatever form you choose to celebrate it. Q

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RHODE ISLAND PASSES GAY MARRIAGE BILL Rhode Island Gov. Lincoln Chafee signed a bill legalizing marriage equality shortly after the state legislature approved the measure by a wide margin.

Rhode Island became the 10th state to allow same-sex couples the right to wed. The law will go into effect Aug. 1.

Iowa, New York, Vermont, New Hampshire, Massachusetts, Connecticut, Maine, Maryland, Washington and the District of Columbia allow same-sex marriage. Their combined populations, based on U.S. Census estimates for 2012, represent more than 16 percent of the U.S. population.

DELAWARE BECOMES 11TH STATE TO PASS GAY MARRIAGE Delaware became the 11th state to legalize gay marriage after a lengthy debate and a close vote in the state Senate. The senate voted 12-9 to pass a bill legalizing marriage equality, and Gov. Jack Markell signed the legislation shortly after. The law will go into effect on July 1 and Delaware joins the rest of New England in marriage equality. Delaware already had a strong civilunions bill and all previous civil unions will be converted to marriages on July 1.

RUSSIAN MAN MURDERED FOR BEING GAY The body of a 23-year-old man was found in the Russian city of Volgograd. The man was the victim of an apparent hate crime. He was raped with beer bottles and had his skull smashed with a stone, according to local police. The man was celebrating Victory Day on May 9 with his two attackers when they started beating the victim after he told them he was gay. Russian government officials have a dubious past in support of gay rights and most LGBT activism is squashed.

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10 things you should know happened last month (Full stories at gaysaltlake.com.)

3 TRANSGENDER WOMEN OF COLOR MURDERED IN APRIL Three transgender women of color were murdered in April and the cases are still unsolved, according to the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs. Kelly Young, 29, was shot to death inside her home in Baltimore, Md., on April 3. Then on April 4 Ashley Sinclair, also a black transgender woman, was found shot to death in the Oak Ridge section of Orange, County, Fla. On April 30, Cemia Dove, 20, was found stabbed to death and tied to a concrete block in a retention pond in Olmsted, Ohio.

JASON COLLINS COMES OUT NBA player Jason Collins became the first openly gay athlete from a major American team sport. The 34-year-old Washington Wizards center wrote about his sexual orientation in the May 6 issue of Sports Illustrated.

“I wish I wasn’t the kid in the classroom raising his hand and saying, “I’m different,’” he said. “If I had my way, someone else would have already done this. Nobody has, which is why I’m raising my hand.”

He said the Boston bombings convinced him to come out now because, “Things can change in an instant, so why not live truthfully?”

Collins also wrote about the impact his coming out is likely to have:

“I go against the gay stereotype, which is why I think a lot of players will be shocked: That guy is gay? But I’ve always been an aggressive player, even in high school. Am I so physical to prove that being gay doesn’t make you soft? Who knows? That’s something for a psychologist to unravel. My motivations, like my contributions, don’t show up in box scores, and frankly I don’t care about stats. Winning is what counts. I want to be evaluated as a team player.”

MORMON CHURCH OKS CONTROVERSIAL NEW BOY SCOUTS POLICY The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints endorsed the Boy Scouts of America’s proposal to allow gay scouts to serve but continue to ban gay leaders. The BSA will submit its proposal to the National Council on May 20 and the Mormon church’s support could be an indicator of a new policy. The Mormon church is the BSA’s largest sponsor of Scout troops.

According to The New York Times, the Mormon church sponsors 25 percent of all local Cub Scouts and Mormon Boy Scout groups accounts for 15 percent of the group’s 2.7 million members.

“KINKY BOOTS” LEADS TONY NOMINATIONS Kinky Boots, the stage adaptation of the cross-dressing comedy film received 13 Tony nominations. The film was originally based on a book

by Harvey Fierstein and the musical was scored by Cyndi Lauper. The musical was joined by “Matilda,” “Bring it On,” and “A Christmas Story” as nominees for best musical.

MAN ACCUSED OF USING DATING APPS TO RAPE, STEAL A Washington man is accused of seven charges, including rape at gunpoint, after meeting men he met on gay dating apps GROWLr and SCRUFF. Leverne Maxwell, 32, is accused of targeting bears and using the dating apps to gain entry into victims’ homes where he stole various items and sexually assaulted his victims. Maxwell is being held on $750,000 bail; and he says he is innocent and all sex was consensual.

TV TO GET A LOT LESS GAY As major networks announce next season’s lineup, it’s becoming readily apparent that TV will be a lot less gay.

Among the shows that won’t be back next year are The New Normal, Go On, Smash, The Office, 1600 Penn, Happy Endings, Don’t Trust the B___ in Apartment 23, 90210, Emily Owens, M.D., The L.A. Complex, Partners and Southland, all of which featured gay or lesbian characters. With the exception of The Office, these shows were all canceled because they didn’t attract enough viewers.

ZAMBIAN MEN REPEATEDLY ARRESTED FOR ALLEGED GAY SEX After being arrested twice for allegedly having gay sex, authorities are refusing to release two Zambian men on bond.

Amnesty International is calling for the release of the men who were arrested for allegedly having sex “against the order of nature.” Homosexuality, sodomy, or any “carnal knowledge against the order of nature” is illegal in Zambia, along with many other African nations.

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Mormon Church helps thwart Pocatello Anti-bias Ordinance The Pocatello City Council was set to decide on a proposed nondiscrimination ordinance April 4 that would have protected people from discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation or gender identity.

The Council decided to delay the vote, and later rejected the ordinance on April 18.

City records, requested by a Pocatello resident, show that leadership in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints was responsible for bringing an attorney from the American Religious Freedom Program to Pocatello the day the ordinance was originally supposed to be considered.

The ARFP defends “Americans’ ability to live out their religious beliefs beyond the walls of their places of worship. Working in the 50 state legislatures as well as in Congress, the program promotes proposals and caucuses that protect religious freedom,” according to a press release.

Regional Public Affairs Officer for the LDS Church, Larry Fisher, contacted Pocatello Mayor Brian Blad about meeting with Jacki Pick of the Washington-based conservative group so she could talk to city officials about the proposed anti-discrimination ordinance.

“ARFP has expertise in this area, and the Church offered to the mayor and city council to put them in touch, and they accepted,” Fisher said in an email to the Idaho State Journal. “Our desire is to be helpful in developing an ordinance that unites our community.”

Pocatello city records show that AFRP acknowledged they could meet the day of the April 4 hearing.

“As a result, Mayor Blad instructed staff to contact members of the city council and, if council was interested, they could meet with a representative of the group,” city records reveal.

A series of five meetings were held with council members, city legal staff members, two ministers and Fisher prior to the city council meeting. No notes were taken because a quorum of the council was not present at any one of the five sessions held with Pick that day.

Pocatello City Councilmen Jim Johnston and Steve Brown met with Pick from 9–10 a.m. on April 4. Councilman Roger Bray met with her at 10 a.m. Eva JohnsonNye and Craig Cooper had an 11 a.m.

meeting. Pick, Mayor Blad, Brown, Bray, and city attorneys Kirk Bybee and Dean Tranmer met from 12:20 to 1:40 p.m..

Lunch was brought in to the meetings, paid for by the city.

An afternoon session included the LDS representative, Grace Lutheran pastor Jonathan Dinger and minister of the New Blazing Grace Church, Jacqueline Thomas.

“The Church has spoken publicly in support of nondiscrimination ordinances, and also recognizes the need for balance and the importance of all voices being heard,” Fisher told the Journal, through an email.

“We felt that ARFP had a valuable perspec-

tive to offer regarding balance in crafting nondiscrimination ordinances. We let the mayor know that he and the council could ask for its insights — just as they have with the ACLU, Too Great to Hate, Interfaith Fellowship and others.”

Mayor Blad and three councilmen who voted against passage of the ordinance on April 18 are all members of the LDS Church.

After the April 18 city council meeting, a split council voted 3–3 and Mayor Blad cast the deciding no vote, essentially killing the ordinance as written.

A new hearing on a revised ordinance is set for June 6.

The Mormon church is among the religious organizations urging the U.S. Supreme Court to uphold a California provision approved by voters banning gay marriage. Q

Gordon Church murderer had an ‘inappropriate relationship’ with an Idaho state senator’s wife A judge has determined that the wife of an Idaho state senator overstepped her role and had an inappropriate relationship with Lance Conway Wood, a Utah inmate serving a life sentence for his role in the kidnapping, torture and murder of a gay Utah man.

U.S. District Judge B. Lynn Winmill ruled that Renee McKenzie, wife of lawyer and Idaho Senator Curt McKenzie, may have violated Idaho Code by practicing law without a license. Wood, who was convicted in 1990 of the 1988 killing of Gordon Ray Church and is serving his sentence in Idaho, has filed numerous lawsuits while incarcerated. His most recent is a case against the Idaho Dept. of Corrections where he claims a female prison guard, Sandra de Martin “perpetrated sexual acts on him without his consent” during and after a “non-sexual” romantic relationship.

According to court documents, Wood received court approval for non-legal assistance from Renee McKenzie in procuring a protective order against Martin.

The documents also show that McKenzie identified herself as being from the McKenzie Law Firm and that prison officials “mistakenly believed that Ms. McKenzie was working under the direction of her husband,” and that she had been given “virtually unfettered” access to Wood.

Prison officials decided in February she was overstepping the bounds of the non-legal nature of the relationship and intercepted a letter Wood wrote to McKenzie, which they determined was “clearly

of a personal nature.” They also discovered the two had unmonitored phone conversations lasting 91 hours between December and February.

On Feb. 7, they barred McKenzie from visiting Wood. In a March 9 phone call monitored by prison staff, McKenzie told Wood she loved him and that she wanted to spend her life with him, according to Idaho Dept. of Corrections documents obtained by The Associated Press. Wood sued the IDOC for “recording his attorney phone calls, monitoring his attorney visits, and opening and reviewing his legal mail.”

The judge denied the motion because McKenzie was not an attorney and was not working for the McKenzie Law Firm.

IDOC documents show that Wood has “a history of manipulating staff and engaging in inappropriate emotional relationships.” The department also raised the concern that Wood’s interaction with Renee McKenzie could be a ploy to gain favor with or blackmail Sen. Curt McKenzie.

The IDOC released several phone transcripts showing that Renee McKenzie was suggesting using her and her husband’s clout in Wood’s case.

“And every legislator in the Statehouse, do you hear me, every legislator in that Statehouse would stick up for me.”

The IDOC has not commented, other than to say, “From the start, our focus has been the safe and secure operation of [the Idaho State Correctional Institution]. That’s been our priority every step of the way.” Q

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Will Gonorrhea lead to our next great scourge?

BY LYNN BELTRAN

It’s been a little while since I last wrote about Gonorrhea, however, if you have been following the news lately, Gonorrhea has become a burning topic. Actually, the issue revolves around a long standing question: will Gonorrhea become our first untreatable bacterial infection?

What is concerning everyone is what has happened in the past. Since the 1960s, Gonorrhea has mutated several times, allowing it to become resistant to previously recommended antibiotic therapies.

Gonorrhea is a bacterial infection that is spread by having sex with an infected partner. It is the second most commonly reported disease in the United States, with the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) and

Prevention estimating 700, 000 people in the U.S. are infected each year.

The current treatment recommendations for Gonorrhea involve a class of antibiotics referred to as a cephalosporin.

Although this antibiotic is seemingly effective in treating Gonorrhea, it is the last drug that we have for this bacteria.

If the currently circulating Gonorrhea develops a resistance to this drug, we do not have a new drug to treat with, and there is no new drug on the horizon; this means there is currently no drug being developed.

The issue of antibiotic resistance has long been a concern for public and private medical providers including the CDC. The CDC initiated a surveil-

lance project known as the Gonococcal Isolate Surveillance Project in the 1980s. This project would allow public health to identify possible mutations of the bacteria that would lead to resistance to current antibiotics. The idea is that this type of surveillance would help public health identify a change as early as possible. Twenty-eight cities in the United States participate in this surveillance project.

What has occurred more recently around the issue of cephalosporin-resistant Gonorrhea is that at least one case has been identified in Asia.

Through the GISP project, the CDC has identified reduced susceptibilities in cases circulating in the U.S. This means that the bacterial specimens from infected people are not responding to the currently recommended antibiotic therapies in a lab as well as they used to. Some people interpret this as a slope toward becoming fully resistant to cephalo-

sporins. As a result, we are now treating Gonorrhea cases with two drugs, not just one. Many areas of the country, including Salt Lake County are seeing big increases in new cases of Gonorrhea.

But what does this mean for you. It means that if you are sexually active, you need to be aware of your risks.

Gonorrhea can be transmitted through oral and rectal sex and through mutual masturbation.

You can get it in any sight that has contact with an infected persons sexual fluids – you can get it in your throat or in your urethra or in your rectum. Men who have sex with men (MSM) have always disproportionately represented new cases of Gonorrhea; in fact, our most recent increases have primarily been found in the gay community.

Gonorrhea in the gay community has been a long-standing concern for the Salt Lake County Health Department, as is the case in other parts of the country as well. Q

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A Twitter account was being used to target Lone Peak High School students with hateful messages, according to a mother of one of those students.

“I am a mother who has cried for two days,” the mother, who wishes to remain anonymous to protect her son’s identity, told KSL News.

The tweets included epithets based on race and sexuality.

“They would take pictures of the minorities here and say things about them on Twitter — like, some pretty racist remarks about them,” student Matthew Johnson told KSL. An apology was sent on a separate Twitter account on Tuesday.

“Sorry to anyone who was offended by this twitter I am not racist and ment it as a joke my little sis is adopted black

and <3 her to death,” the tweet said, without editing.

Alpine School District spokesman said the offending Twitter account had been “taken down” by the end of the school day yesterday, after the principal read a letter to the student body offering a $100 reward for information about who was responsible for the tweets.

The school resource officer is investigating the incident.

The targeted student’s mother still fears for his safety and is considering changing schools and says she has contacted the FBI. “The issue really starts at home, so what I want to say is, parents, please talk to your children about cyber bullying,” she told KSL. “It is truly a hate crime what has happened to me and my son.” Q

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‘QSaltLake’ summer events to attract thousands Summer is heating up and QSaltLake will be celebrating with three events: QSaltLake Day at Lagoon, QSaltLake at Park Silly Day and Family Night Out at the Bees game. The events are some of the biggest and best of the year, and combined will attract thousands of queers and their supporters for fun days in the sun.

Q LAGOON DAY QSaltLake Day at Lagoon will be held Sunday, Aug. 4, and people who attend are asked to wear red to show solidarity.

Seriously, everyone will be doing it. Since the event started, it has grown exponentially and last year it attracted more than 2,500 attendees. This year, it’s expected to be bigger and better than ever.

Lagoon Day is designed as an opportunity to gather as a group and just have an enjoyable day, said Michael Aaron, QSaltLake publisher.

“It’s a day when we can go with a large group and let our hair down a little bit and be a bit more honest with ourselves,” Aaron said. “I love Lagoon, and I like going and being surrounded by my people. And I don’t think I’m the only one.”

Discount tickets will be available in July at a variety

of locations throughout the valley. People can join us at the Pioneer Pavillion to picnic, socialize or just rest. A group picture will be taken at 4 p.m. at the pavillion as well.

As with other similar gay days at theme parks, such as Disneyland, Lagoon does not support or sponsor the day. It

is merely a host location.

On Sunday, July 14, participants can join the Matrons of Mayhem at the Park Silly market in Park City. The street fair runs along Main Street and includes artisans, food vendors and a Bloody Mary bar.

FAMILY NIGHT OUT AT THE BEES The Pride Softball League and QSaltLake will also be hosting a community event at the

Quips&Quotes

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If you want to say you’re gay, fine, but does it have to be rammed down everyone’s throats all the time? I grew up in a family– where people’s sexual orientation, preferences, whatever weren’t even discussed. Why can’t everyone just put your sexual preferences on Facebook and call it a day? There is no tolerance at all here. Not only do these people have to publicly announce it, everyone else has to applaud and accept it.”

–Conservative talk-show host Rush Limbaugh speaking on Jason Collins As conservatives, it’s easy to despair. With liberal states falling like dominos, Americans must be wondering if this is the end of the road for marriage. Well, it’s not–and here’s why. If you look at the dozen

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Bees game on Aug. 17, at 7:05 p.m. Along with the traditional beer and hot dogs (who doesn’t want a wiener from the ballpark?), the group will be sitting in the same section for camaraderie, debauchery and group cheers.

Tickets are available through Pride Softball’s Aaron Smith or at QTix.us. For all the up-todate happenings of QSaltLake, go to gaysaltlake.com or facebook.com/qsaltlake.

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states with same-sex marriage, homosexual activists are picking off the easiest targets: progressive pockets of the country that have rejected traditional morality. Our short-term strategy should be containment.

If conservatives can confine same-sex ‘marriage’ to these liberal jurisdictions, the evidence of why this policy won’t work will begin to show. More people will realize that this isn’t about the marriage altar “ it’s about fundamentally altering society. It’s time to look at the marriage scoreboard – 30 states to 12 – and recognize that same-sex ‘marriage’ isn’t a wave that’s sweeping the nation. If anything, it’s a call to stand for natural marriage & and keep standing.”

–Tony Perkins, Family ­Research Council president

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Regardless of any sexual issues, each one of us is unique.

That is the strength of our society. It is even the basis of our society. It is the basis of our relationship to society. So we tell these adolescents: if you find yourself losing hope, sweep all of those thoughts out of your minds. They are only words. One day they will float away. Stay with us and keep your heads high. You have nothing to be ashamed of. We say that loud and clear, with our all the strength in our voices. As Nietzsche said: Truth kills. And if you repress it, it will kill you.”

–French Minister of Justice Christiane Taubira before the French National Assembly after pushing the final passage of a marriage-equality bill

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not as i do EX-GAY ACTIVIST EXPOSED ON GRINDR So-called “ex-gay” activist Matt Moore, who was caught with a profile on the gay dating app Grindr, said he was only curious about the app. He said he avoided all sexual conversations and did not exchange any nude photos.

“Basically I just wanted to see who was on it and who was around me,” Moore said. “I can honestly say that I didn’t have any kind of sexual conversations with anyone. Anyone who sent me any kind of explicit photos or conversations, I blocked immediately. The first time I got on it, I wanted to go out and I wanted to go to the gay bars in New Orleans. So I was trying to meet someone on there to basically tag along with.

That was the reason I was

originally on it.”

Moore later claimed he sold his computer and locked his phone to avoid the temptation of gay dating apps and sites.

SANFORD ELECTED TO U.S. CONGRESS Formerly disgraced Republican South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford won a special election to represent the state’s 1st Congressional District. Sanford beat Democrat Elizabeth Colbert Busch with a 54 to 45 percent margin. Sanford, who says he opposes marriage equality, was under fire during his gubernatorial reign for an affair he was having with an Argentine woman. He told staffers he was hiking when in fact he was visiting his mistress.

WEBER STATE UNIVERSITY TO NAME BUILDING AFTER BOYD PACKER Weber State University’s new Center for Family

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building will be named after Mormon apostle and outspoken anti-gay advocate Boyd Packer. The alumnus was chosen because of his work in education and families, a university press release read. However, Packer has a storied past with marriage equality and has even advocated against interracial marriage.

“We’ve always counseled in the church for our Mexican members to marry Mexicans, our Japanese members to marry Japanese, our Caucasians to marry Caucasians, our Polynesian members to marry Polynesians. The counsel has been wise,” Packer said.

He has also said the greatest threats to society were “the gay & lesbian movement, the feminist movement and the everpresent challenge from the so-called scholars or intellectuals.”

Sean Penn to keynote Allies Dinner Equality Utah has announced that actor Sean Penn will be the keynote speaker of their annual fundraising event, the Allies Dinner.

The 12th annual dinner is co-chaired

by Robyn Martinez and Donna & Michael Weinholtz. The group is expecting 2,000 to fill the Salt Palace Grand Ballroom on Monday, Sept. 16. The event will begin at 5:30 p.m. with a Capitol Club reception open to those who contribute at least $100 per month. At 6 p.m. the general reception begins and dinner will be served at 7 p.m.

Tickets are $125 and available at equalityutah.org.

Table hosts are those who invite nine others to join them at their table and receive a commemorative calendar and program. To learn more about being a table host, contact alejandro@equalityutah.org.

The group is also seeking sponsors of the event at any of five levels, beginning at $1,250 up to a $10,000 presenting sponsorship level. For more information on sponsorships, email Tika@equalityutah.org alliesdinner.org

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HRC Utah Dinner Join hundreds of queers and their allies for Utah’s ninth annual Human Rights Campaign Gala Dinner. The event will be held at the Grand America to acknowledge the strides HRC has made toward achieving equality for the community, and to prepare for the work in the year to come. This year’s keynote speaker is Kyrsten Sinema, the first openly bisexual person elected to the U.S. Congress. Entertainment will be provided by Frenchie Davis, an openly lesbian singer who performed on American Idol and The Voice. HRC President Chad Griffin will also be in attendance and will speak about the progress made in the past year, including the recent addition of three new states allowing same-sex marriage.

WHEN: June 8, 5:30 p.m.

Pink Party at Hotel Monaco WHERE: Grand America Hotel, 555 S. Main St. INFO: HRC.org/events TICKETS: $175

Gay Rocks Come out and help raise money for The Trevor Project. The evening will include music from local bands and artists, as well as poetry performances throughout the night. The event will include a silent auction and raffle, and benefits an organization that provides services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning youth. The band lineup includes Oh Be Clever, September Say Goodbye and many others.

WHEN: June 15, 5 p.m.

WHERE: The Shred Shed, 60 E. Exchange Place

Join the Utah AIDS Foundation and Kimpton Hotels for the seventh annual Pink Party. Offering themed drinks, appetizers, a silent auction, raffle and prizes, this party is the perfect start to a fabulous Pride weekend. Dress in pink and join the festivities at Hotel Monaco. Prizes include two tickets on JetBlue and a dozen two-night stays at Kimpton properties. All proceeds benefit the UAF. WHEN: Thursday, May 30, 5:15 p.m.

WHERE: Hotel Monaco, 15 W. 200 South INFO: utahaids.org

Local fragrance company releases Equality scent PS Fragrance Inc. released the new fragrance, EQUALITY, just in time for Pride season. The fragrance is available at Cahoots and Mischievous Pleasures. The

scent was designed to highlight the nuances of male and female balances, a company press release read. A portion of the proceeds will be donated to Equality Utah and the Human Rights Campaign. PS Fragrance Inc. is locally owned and operated in Salt Lake City with distributors both domestic and international; and the company hails an eclectic staff who embrace the company’s mission statement of “Live and Let Live.”

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QSaltLake Magazine welcomes your letters to the editor.

10 things we heard last month

—Paul Veridian

The animal rights community has always stood in solidarity with gay rights and events.

Know that this venue divides and the vegan gay community strongly objects and cordially ask to find alternative. It takes a village and the community we all are a part of. Let’s unite not divide, change venue.

Respect is golden and leadership is of a timely essence.”

Please send your letter of 300 words or less to letters@ gaysaltlake.com.

We reserve the right to edit for length or libel if a letter is chosen for publication.

—John Boyer on the annual Gay Day at Hogle Zoo

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I guess I’m confused.

I always thought this award was for volunteers, not ‘Gay For Pay’ folks who do precisely what we pay them for.”

—Dominique Storni on the Kristen Ries Award recipients

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Wow that was powerful.

Love you, Bob Henline.

Thank you so much for being such an awesome advocate, activist, ally and friend.”

—Ginger Lénore Phillips

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Too true. Too sad. Too many souls lost. Too many suicides. Shame you you, LD$, Inc!”

—Dominique Storni

Just like the KKK, the LDS Church uses religious teachings as its primary shield against charges of bigotry.”

—Dan Ellis

All of the clubs have really stepped their game up too. This year’s Pride is going to be the biggest one yet!” —Jeffery Hacker

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I think the question to ask here is whether or not the new digs allow the Pride Center to better serve the community. If so, then I’m all for the move. If not, the money could certainly be used to good effect elsewhere.”

—Bob Henline

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I think this is the first Pride where the entertainment is actually relevant to the current time frame.”

—Erin Bain

I’m not sure who is more destructive, a bigot that doesn’t know he’s a bigot, or one that knows but doesn’t care. And I’m not even sure which of these applies to Alan Osmond.”

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from the editor

The true meaning of the season

BY SETH BRACKEN

From France,

New Zealand and Minnesota to Rhode Island and Delaware, gays everywhere are now legally allowed to tie the knot.

Even Brazil is aimed to greenlight gay nuptials, the third and largest Latin American country to do so. While these

We here at QSaltLake would like to wish you the best of the season advances would be welcome any month of the year, it feels especially appropriate in May. Spring weddings are kicking off and Pride season is heating up — and what a season it will be. Twelve states and the District of Columbia now have full and legalized same-sex marriage. Although the federal government still does not recognize gay couples as equals, it’s very possible that situation changes this summer when the U.S. Supreme Court announces its decision concerning the Defense of Marriage Act. We may not be celebrating full marriage equality in Utah this Pride. We aren’t even celebrating a statewide nondiscrimination bill. But there is still plenty to celebrate. This year’s Utah Pride Festival will feature some truly captivating performers from Glee to RuPaul’s Drag Race, and even the mandatory gay diva in Thelma Houston. Bars around the city

will feature drag queens, dancers, parties and themed nights.

Queer-friendly businesses and homes will fly their pride flags high and Salt Lake City will feel just a little gayer.

Last summer, I was lucky enough to attend Prague Pride in the Czech Republic.

Despite having a reputation as a cosmopolitan and atheist country, it was only the city’s second Pride celebration.

The streets were lined with uniformed swat officers in fullbody armor, waiting for riots to erupt. In place of a parade, however, there were a couple of floats and tens of thousands of queers and their supporters walking through the city’s largest public square. There were no insurance agents, housing vendors, banks or corporate sponsors. The booths at the festival revolved around cheap beer and delicious bratwursts.

Booth sponsors included public health information and social groups. It was Pride in its most basic form.

Whether you’re planning on attending every Pride event and party in the city or you plan to watch the festivities on the evening news, Pride is happening in Utah. And we here at QSaltLake would like to wish you the best of the season and hope you and yours are well.

As we celebrate marriage equality advances around the nation, and as we celebrate an ever-growing community, we’d like to thank everyone for supporting QSaltLake and other queer-owned and queer-friendly businesses and charities. And we hope you remember the true meaning of Pride. Q

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thinking out loud

Straightening up at the Boy Scouts of America It’s Time For The BSA To Take A Tip From Its Own Handbook

BY ABBY DEES

Sometime

in the ’20s my grandfather became the then-youngest Boy Scout to obtain the top rank of Eagle Scout. When he died he was as proud of that as he was of piloting ships into Tokyo Bay at the end of the war. He was a classic Scout too. The epitome of honor and resourcefulness, he whistled while he worked and did everything he could think of to make life better for the people in his world.

I never talked about the gay scouting ban with my grandfather. Maybe I didn’t give the 97-year-old guy enough credit, but I thought that conversation would be too awkward. I’d have to explain things that we just didn’t talk about together, like the difference between plain old sex and sexual orientation. And I worried he’d think I was criticizing him personally, so I cut us both some slack. You get to do that with family sometimes.

I’m not cutting the Boy Scouts of

America (or “BSA”) any slack right now, though. They have announced a proposed policy change: The BSA might admit gay Scouts – but definitely not gay leaders.

So why even try? The stated basis for the ban has always been that homosexuality violates the Scout’s oath to be “morally straight.” Here’s what they mean by that: “[Y]our relationships with others should be honest and open. You should respect and defend the rights of all people. Be clean in your speech and actions, and remain faithful in your religious beliefs. (from the Boy Scout Oath and Law).

In other words, being gay is inconsistent with these characteristics. I’m not sure if it’s the honest and open part or the faith part, or whatever. I’m not privy to the bizarre conversation that must repeatedly transpire among BSA leadership every time they review and reaffirm the ban, but it’s clear to me that the new policy proposal in no way seeks to challenge the idea that gay

sanctity of marriage FATHER STABS WIFE IN FRONT OF CHILD A husband and father, Andrew Parsons, stabbed his wife to death as their 5-year-old son screamed for him to stop, according to court statements. The boy pleaded with his father to call an ambulance. Parsons had punched his wife and stabbed her 17 times, according to court testimony.

Janee Parsons, 31, told her husband she planned to spend the weekend with her new boyfriend, according to tapes that were in the room to allegedly record infidelity.

FINANCIAL RUIN ALLEDGEDLY SPARKS CALIF. MAN TO SLAY HIS WIFE A California man is accused of murdering his wife to collect $30 million in insurance money. Peter Parineh, 67, told witnesses and jury members that he faced financial ruin before his wife’s death, but that he was innocent. His real estate holdings before 2007 were worth more than $150 million, but by 2010, they were worth less than $1 million. Most of his properties were in foreclosure.

Parineh said he came home from the gym and found his wife dead, but police and

the district attorney insist he shot his wife.

MAN CONVICTED OF THROWING WIFE FROM BALCONY A Dubai court upheld a three-year sentence for a man who urinated on his wife and infant child then threw the wife from a second-floor balcony. The man, who was identified only as JS, 37, was found guilty of attempted murder in September, 2012. In April of last year, he asked his wife, FZ, 18, to join him with their daughter at an apartment. When she arrived, JS accused her of being a prostitute. JS insists that his wife leapt from the balcony after he confronted her.

people, by definition, cannot be “morally straight.”

But wait, there’s more! They’ve also stated, “We allow youth to live as children and enjoy Scouting and its diversity without immersing them in the politics of the day … The Boy Scouts of America has always reflected the expectations that Scouting families have had for the organization. We do not believe that homosexuals provide a role model consistent with these expectations.”

Nonetheless, the BSA may feel comfortable now allowing gay boys to join their ranks even though they have officially labeled gays unworthy of admiration. This is no compromise, but a twisted update on “don’t ask don’t tell,” and children will pay the price for adult cowardice. I can’t think of a worse way of virtually dunking kids into “the politics of the day” than forcing them to parse this hypocrisy.

Imagine what this might feel like to a gay Scout. He’s allowed to join, presumably because he can’t help himself, poor thing. But the BSA can still provide a bulwark that keeps other, still-unsullied straight boys from looking up to a gay Scout leader and getting ideas. He’d learn that people like him, once they grow up, can’t be trusted to behave. What a thing to look forward to.

Where in this is the idea of strength and honesty that is all over the Boy Scout Handbook? I get that the BSA is a private organization and free to set its policy, but that doesn’t stop me from calling them out for causing harm to young people. With the mission of building character and honesty in our next generation of men, they are instead teaching that self-respect and respect for others is too fragile to withstand human difference and variety.

(Interestingly, some individual chapters flout the ignorant directives from above and are thriving, of course.)

This isn’t my grandfather’s Boy Scouts.

He would have struggled to understand what it meant to be gay and probably gotten it wrong in parts, but he would have measured the man, or the boy, by his actions. As a good Scout, he certainly wouldn’t have singled anyone out based on archaic stereotypes. BSA, check your own traditions and try again.

Abby is a civil rights attorney-turned-author who has been in the LGBT rights trenches for 25+ years. She can be reached through her website: queerquestionsstraighttalk.com

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BY BOB HENLINE

On May

1, 2013, Weber State University announced its decision to name its new Center For Families and Continuing Education in honor of Boyd Packer and his wife, Donna. Not being a Weber alumnus, I generally wouldn’t care about the naming of buildings on campus, but this egregiously insensitive move

by Weber State should offend every fair-minded taxpaying citizen of Utah.

First and foremost, Weber State University is a public institution of higher learning. Boyd Packer is a religious figure. With the exception of his military service during World War II, Packer has never worked outside of the LDS Church. It is wholly inappropriate to name a public building in honor of a man who has existed entirely in the religious arena.

Second, Packer’s commitment to education extends only into religious endeavor.

For decades he has been critical of educational pursuit. In a letter to the All Church Coordinating Council in 1993, he wrote: The dangers I speak of come from the gay-lesbian movement, the feminist movement (both of which are relatively new), and the ever-present challenge from the so-called scholars or intellectuals.

In 1981: The writer or teacher who has an exaggerated loyalty to the theory that everything must be told is laying a foundation for his own judgment...

The Lord made it very clear that some things are to be taught selectively and some things are to be given only to

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M This is not a man for whom Y a public university should name a building of higher CM learning.

The final insult is in the MY choice of buildings, The Center CY for Families and Continuing CMY Education. Boyd Packer has K spent his entire “career” within the LDS Church attacking and denigrating every family that doesn’t fit his narrow world view. He has repeatedly condemned our LGBT community and promoted bigotry and even condoned violence against gays.

Weber State University’s mission statement is clear: Encouraging freedom of expression and valuing diversity, the university provides excellent educational experiences for students through extensive personal contact among faculty, staff and students in and out of the classroom. Through academic programs, research, artistic expression, public service and community-based learning, the university serves as an educational, cultural and economic leader for the region.

Naming this new center for a man who not only shows disdain for intellectual pursuit, but is also one of Utah’s most notorious bigots is a clear violation of the University’s mission. This building should be named in honor of a person that has made positive contributions to the mission and goals of the University, to someone who respects diversity and promotes family and education from more than one narrowly-defined viewpoint.

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A Stonewall Journey

BY BEN WILLIAMS

In June

of 1989, I was drawn to Sheridan Square in New York City to celebrate the 2oth anniversary of the Stonewall riots. I journeyed from Salt Lake City specifically to leave a rose on the doorsteps of the Stonewall Inn in remembrance of those who fought back that night. From that spot, the modern Gay Civil Rights was born, which allowed me to live my life openly as a gay man.

Stonewall had made my destiny and fate tied to every other homosexual who was out of the closet. After Stonewall, we became a movement, a people.

On Christopher Street, I saw yellow flyers posted to walls, illustrated with a screaming-in-your-face, crazy-ass drag queen. In huge bold type the caption read: “Do you think Homosexuals are Revolting?

You bet your sweet ass we are! Stonewall Rebellion 1969.” I was intrigued. The flyers were posted by a group calling themselves the Radical Faeries. I had vaguely heard about the Radical Faeries. I knew they were connected with Harry Hay, one of the founders of the Mattachine Society in the 1950s, and that some of them had communes in the Pacific Northwest, but I had never met any in Salt Lake City. The poster also announced that these Radical Faeries were hosting a tour of the old Stonewall Inn to commemorate the anniversary of the riots. Again, I was intrigued.

So I strolled to where the Stonewall had been and found it was now a stylish, black and white, chic clothing boutique.

All signs it had been the former notorious bar had been removed. Once there, I learned that the Radical Faeries had rented out the basement of the building, and they were hosting a guided tour of what they called “20,000 years of Gay History in Five Minutes.” How could I resist?

Descending the stairs into the basement I came first upon a shrine to Judy Garland, whose death, I was to learn, preceded the Stonewall riots by mere days. Gay lore is that Garland’s death and a full moon had set the stage for the events of 1969. A mock coffin of Judy was layered with stacks of Maybeline nail polish, assorted makeup, yellow roses and pictures of little Dorothy Gale.

With no time to stop and absorb the shrine in detail, I was ushered along the brick corridor to a scene set in prehistoric times where gay cavemen, dressed in fur and leather, sporting grizzly beards, were painting gay graffiti on cave walls and humping each other. Wisked away, I was quickly escorted to the Classical Period of history where gay Greeks were dressed in togas or bare chested, wearing pleated linen skirts and sporting Dorian-carved capstones as headwear. They pranced and sashayed and fawned over a nearly naked, oiled up Olympian youth. Leaving the scene too soon, we were pushed into the Dark Ages, the burning times, when gays were used as faggots to burn the witches. Gay boys were seen tied to posts as colored lights and tissue paper simulated flames, and robed Monks with huge crosses hanging from their necks muttered Gregorian chants.

Did I mention this was “Five minutes of History?” We immediately jumped right into the 20th century , the 1960s to be exact, where gay go-go boys did the shimmy in gilded cages while uniformed police shook their night sticks obscenely at them.

At this point, each of us were handed a yellow foam brick to throw at the “pigs.”

Finally, from there we were ushered out of the airless basement into a larger room where we were instructed to form a circle.

There we all were, sprinkled with faerie dust and taught a song that would help end patriarchal suppression of gay people, and then swiftly shooed out the door.

In that brief, dramatic tour of the basement of the old Stonewall Inn, I experienced a life transforming shamatic experience: a conversion of the soul, if you will, by the Gay Spirit. In that hot and humid basement, sweating like only you can on a hot New York City night, something was calling me home to a place I had never been.

Outside in the cooler night air, I was so enthralled by the experience that I began to hawk the merits of the Radical Faerie tour, calling to passers-by to enter the Faerie realm. I actually persuaded several cute guys to go inside. As I was shrilling the virtues of the tour, this Faerie came out and saw what I was doing. He came to me

and asked if I would do the Faeries a favor.

He told me how the Faeries were dying of thirst in the sweltering building and asked if I would take $10, cross the street and buy an assortment of soda pop for them. I looked the guy straight in the eye and said, “You picked the right person because I will do it. You can trust me.” He smiled with a twinkle in his eye and replied “I knew I could. That’s why I asked you.” So, after returning loaded with drinks, dispersing his change, he tapped me on the head with his Faerie wand and said, “For your good deed, I dub you an honorary Faerie.” I don’t think he realized how much I took to heart that symbolic gesture as an anointment.

About 1 a.m., still bursting with faerie magic, hundreds of people who were still left in the streets were corralled by the Radical Faeries into a huge circle in the middle of the intersection of Christopher Street and 7th Avenue. We held hands as the Faeries led us in songs, as we danced and we hissed, (which I learned is what Faeries do when they are happy). The Faeries had us do high kicks as we sang the iconic tune from the Stonewall Rebellion: “WE ARE THE STONEWALL GIRLSWE WEAR OUR HAIR IN CURLSWE DON’T WEAR UNDERWEARWE SHOW OUR PUBIC HAIR WE WEAR OUR DUNGEREES BELOW OUR NELLY KNEES WE ARE THE STONEWALL GIRLS WE WEAR OUR HAIR IN CURLS” To close the circle, some three hundred voices sang, “Somewhere Over The Rainbow.” My soul was fulfilled. A spiritual longing for home was satisfied. True enchantment enveloped my being. True liberation from the chains that bind the captives and the mending of the brokenhearted could now begin. About 1:30 a.m. this tired little Faerie boy walked home from Christopher Street to 34th Street through the darkened streets of New York City to the YMCA Sloan House, all by his brave little self. Feeling truly liberated and in tune with my gay spirit, I felt protected by the Faerie dust and enchantment all around me!

Upon returning to Salt Lake City, in July 1989, I put out the Faerie call, and Connell O’Donovan and Michael Pipkim answered.

On July 2o, we met at my Buckingham apartment on A Street. It began to thunder and lightning. It felt wonderful. It was magical. It felt as if the elements were stirring. About 9 p.m., officially and ceremoniously we formed the first Radical Faerie circle here in Salt Lake City. Q

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ago if someone had asked you if you knew Jason Collins, you likely would have said no. That is, unless you were a big fan of the Washington Wizards (which I doubt). But today, it seems like Jason Collins is the only professional basketball player in the world. His name and face are everywhere. Because he’s gay. Specifically, because he’s the first openly gay professional player in a major U.S. sport.

It’s a BFD. Even President Obama said that he “couldn’t be prouder” of Collins for coming out.

Which is evidence that Obama is clearly taking orders from Satan, according to Dr. Ken Hutcherson of the Antioch Baptist Church in Redmond, Washington.

In a May 2 opinion piece for the Christian Post, Hutcherson used the fact that Obama praised a known homo-sexer and that he spoke to Planned Parenthood as proof of Obama’s Satanic usurping and a vast conspiracy against Christians in America. “[D]o any of you believe there is a connection between [Jason Collins] announcing he is gay only 72 hours after President Obama’s speech to Planned Parenthood?”

Hutcherson writes. “The answer is a resounding YES! More proof that Christian views are very much under attack!”

Yes, very much under attack. Poor Christian views in America. Just think of all the taxes churches have to pay. Not to mention the fact that there has never been a single American President who identifies as Christian. Don’t get me started about how out-numbered Christians are in Congress. And just try getting Christmas day off from work! Yes, it’s a tough life for Christians in America. And it can all be blamed on Planned Parenthood and Jason Collins, a.k.a. “agents of Satan.”

“The connection between these two stories should be very obvious: they both go directly against God’s Holy Word,” Hutch-

erson continues. “After all, God hates hands that shed innocent blood (Prov.617) and is sickened by sodomy (Rom.1:24-27).”

In other words, Collins makes God puke.

Of course, the joke is on Collins, according to Hutcherson.

“Collins is being used as a pawn, in the most dangerous game of Russian roulette for his soul,” he writes. Silly Satan, souls are for Christians.

Hutcherson also predicts a rude awakening for Collins in the locker room: “I can’t imagine that Collins, standing in the shower after a game, and knowing the vast majority of his teammates are not gay, will go over very well. How about the players standing in the shower with him, knowing that one of their teammates likes other men? Just saying…”

Let’s unpack that, shall we? First of all, when someone ends an idea with “just saying…” it means, “I have just said something for which I do not want to take responsibility” because it was probably a shitty thing to say. And, indeed, this thinly veiled “warning” about things not going “over very well” for Collins the homo while he is standing naked with a bunch of his hetero teammates is worthy of distancing yourself. Because it’s an asinine thing to say.

Not only is Hutcherson implying that Collins is some kind of pervert who won’t be able to keep his eyes and hands off his teammates, but he’s also implying that a bunch of grown men can’t behave themselves if one of them is gay, especially if they’re all naked. It’s an argument that has always left me baffled: how little regard folks like Hutcherson have not just for gays, but for men entirely. As if a penis makes it impossible to be a decent human being.

Then again, maybe Hutcherson is projecting his own fantasy of getting in a wrestling match with Collins in the shower while a bunch of other naked guys stand around and watch. Just saying… Q

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a mom’s view

A Moms View: Pride Festival

BY LEESA MYERS

Annual Pride Festivals at a glimpse: 2008 The first time I attended Pride, and I still have the picture of me with my son Jay in the big chair. I was in the parade with other friends from the spiritual center I attended. We passed out necklaces and waved at the spectators. There was fun and excitement as we all were part of an event that said yes to equality and diversity.

2010 I was honored to be a part of the Pride Interfaith Ceremony, held before the Pride Festival began. I did the singing bowl to begin the ceremony. After the service, we marched to show our support from many faiths.

2011 I marched again in the parade with the new Utah Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce. The chamber encourages its members to be in the parade and volunteer in the booth. I shared a booth with a friend; we were extremely busy doing Angel Card Readings.

2012 I helped at the booth of the Utah Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce. We did a western theme, had a photographer, prize wheel and toss game.

2013 This year I hope to watch the parade and see all the colorful, fun, and entertaining

entries.

The Pride Interfaith service will be held Thursday, May 30, 6:30 p.m., at Congregation Kol Ami, 2425 E. Heritage Way (2760 South). For more information you can go to: utahprideinterfaith.org Pride festival is a place you go to be who you are and to shine. Dressed up, half dressed, shoes, heels, no shoes, dogs, children, youngsters and oldsters; everything and anything, incredible entertainment, booths, vendors, food, beer and a lot of fun things for you to do.

Each year the parade gets bigger and better, the crowd of spectators doubling each year. When in the parade, I was awed when I turned a corner and saw the immense crowd, and additional police were called for crowd control. More businesses, churches and organizations are joining the parade and festival each year, saying yes to equality and being proud to show that pride publicly.

This year’s theme is “Gotta Be Real Equality.” This is considered one of the premiere gay prides in the Western United States.

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A Pennsylvania high school student was denied the opportunity to become prom king when the school’s principal said it was “not traditional.” Issak Wolf said he put in his ballot to be considered for prom royalty only to learn his birth name was used in the ballot and was rejected to run as prom king. Wolf later said he would like an apology from the school for the mistreatment.

MAN ARRESTED AT HOSPITAL FOR REFUSING TO LEAVE BEDSIDE OF SICK HUSBAND A Missouri man was arrested after he refused to leave his sick husband’s hospital room. Roger Gorley went to visit his husband at Research Medical Center when a member of his husband’s family asked him to leave. When Gorley refused, hospital security removed him in handcuffs, and he was later arrested and served with a restraining order.

like MINNESOTA PASSES SAME-SEX MARRIAGE Six months after voters in Minnesota voted to defeat a proposed constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage, the state legislature passed legislation providing equal access to civil marriages for gay and lesbian couples.

Gov. Mark Dayton signed the bill into law and Minnesota is now the 12th state with marriage equality, and is the third state this month to pass marriage-equality legislation, following Rhode Island and Delaware.

“Minnesota is a perfect example of the progress we’ve made on marriage equality in America,” said Human Rights Campaign President Chad Griffin. “Voters in Minnesota brought anti-equality efforts to a screeching halt on Election Day, and today state leaders in St. Paul made it clear that all Minnesota families are equal in the eyes of the law.”

NEW ZEALAND PASSES GAY MARRIAGE New Zealand’s parliament voted in favor of allowing

same-sex marriage, which prompted cheers and the singing of a traditional Maori celebratory song from the public gallery. The bill passed with 77 of 121 members voting in favor of amending the 1955 Marriage Act to allow gay couples to wed. New Zealand is the first country in the Asia-Pacific region to do so.

“Two-thirds of parliament have endorsed marriage equality,” said Louisa Wall, a gay opposition Labour party MP who campaigned in favor of the bill. “It shows that we are building on our human rights as a country.”

FRANCE PASSES GAY MARRIAGE France became the 14th country in the world to permit same-sex nuptials when its parliament voted to legalize marriage equality and adoption by gay couples.

Lawmakers in the lower National Assembly, where President Francois Hollande’s Socialists have a majority, passed the bill with 331 votes for and 225 against.

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who’s your daddy?

Lessons from Pride

BY CHRISTOPHER KATIS

I remember

our first Pride. Kelly and I drove 2-1/2 hours from Monterey to San Francisco with a lesbian couple I knew from my summer job. I learned some important lessons that year: • Staying for its entirety was too damn long to watch a parade • Way more people I didn’t want to see naked took their clothes of than did those I wanted to see au natural

There, marching alongside fabulous drag queens and butch SFPD officers, were gay dads • Carl’s Jr. charges you to use their bathroom • That wasn’t oregano in the little plastic bag the nice man offered to sell me A couple of years later we actually marched in the parade.

Again, I learned some really valuable lessons: • No matter what the organizers say, the parade starts when the Dykes on Bikes say it does • Drill teams and cheerleaders are fun and all, but they throw the pace way off • Fundamentalist protestors have no sense of humor • It’s still not oregano in the plastic bag But the most important

lesson I learned from Pride is that I wasn’t alone. There, marching alongside fabulous drag queens and butch SFPD officers, were gay dads. Those families always got the biggest cheers. That made me feel proud to be a gay man.

My parents have always instilled self pride in me.

When I was growing up, Utah was a much more homogenous place - especially out in the burbs where we lived. So my mom and dad taught me to be proud of myself and who I was. I learned to be a proud American of Greek descent and Orthodox Christian.

As I grew older, this encouragement ensured I would be proud of the man I became: liberal, vegetarian, gay. I had to be proud because I didn’t know anything else.

And when you’re proud of yourself, other people naturally feel the same way too. Are my parents proud I’m a gay man? Well, “pride” isn’t the word they’d use, but they’re far from being ashamed of it either. Maybe a better word is “respect.” They respect the fact that I’m an openly gay man.

No, the only aspect of my life that they’re not proud of is my vegetarianism. They think it’s just plain goofy.

My goal with my sons is to be the kind of father who is proud of them completely.

That’s why I’m trying to teach them to be proud of who they are, so they’ll understand that pride is a self nurturing people are proud of you when you’re proud of yourself.

Every single day our kids give us a multitude of reasons,

both big and small, to be proud of them. I hope Kelly and I give the boys plenty of reasons to feel the same about us.

Our world and society are changing fast, and so are general attitudes about LGBT people. This is an exciting time in which to live. And we’re all a part of this revolution. So my advice to you this Pride season is, well, be proud of who you are. Be proud you are a part of this dynamic community.

Whether you’re marching in

the parade, cheering it on, or spending the day with friends, relish in the pride you see around you. We all deserve it.

Speaking of being proud, I want to thank everyone who voted in the FABBY Awards for honoring me as Best Columnist this year. Who’s Your Daddy is a labor of love and a testament to the joy I find in fatherhood. I am honored by your votes of confidence. Oh, and my parents and kids were very, very proud. Q

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queer shift

ABC-Shift: A Pride survival guide for grown-ups

BY CHARLES FROST

Being,

doing and having Pride in Utah is unlike experiencing it in any other place. I’ve done it in New York City, San Diego, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Las Vegas, Denver, Atlanta, and nothing equates to our interpretation of how it turns up. In a special queer issue of The Stranger in 1999, openly gay and wonderfully controversial author, pundit and journalist, Dan Savage, questioned the relevance of pride 30 years later. Well, hell — it’s been 14 years since Savage’s question, and I believe it’s time to ask it again. Maybe we should be asking that question of ourselves annually. Pride. So many definitions, thoughts, feelings. Is it an event? Is it still a movement? Is the movement over? If so, what’s replaced it? Does it happen during a weekend, a month, or is it a personal focus or intention year round?

A few weeks ago, I was honored to sit on a panel hosted by the Utah AIDS Foundation called Doctors, Dinner, and Dudes, facilitated by the gifted John Bonner, talking about self love. It resonated, reverberated, resounded, rejuvenated. Making yourself proud is what became glaringly apparent.

So, in that spirit, I humbly offer up some collective wisdom for making Pride (the event and you) fabulous. Okrrr? Warning: I’m not trying to get under your skin, but I am trying to get each of you to step up and stop being a spectator in your own self pride, and maybe, just maybe, stand up for something that possibly scares you.

Reclaim “MeInc.” Self love is the first step down the road to real Pride.

Emerson said it best: “Do you want to be a power in the world? Then be yourself.”

ABUNDANCE. Pride begins with abundance versus a scarce mindset. Sounds simple, but isn’t! More equals more. There is enough to go around. I don’t have to compete, compare, complain, or criticize to be me. Said! Oh and while we’re on the A’s, think about acceptance, attraction, allowance, and the biggest A of them all authenticity!

BE. Being whoever the fuck you want to be. Birl that pine log, find your balance by losing it.

COURAGE is being yourself everyday in a world that tells you to be someone else. Celebrate you. Collaborate, cooperate, compromise, especially during Pride!

DANCE. Dance with your fears and then sit their asses amongst the other wallflowers. Dance with done, and embrace it. Dance with done. Oh, and resistance, blaming, shaming and judging. Three more D’s — Pride is about a whole lot more than drugs, drink and dick! Think.

EQUALITY FOR EVERYONE. Strides are being made at warp speed–so fast one can hardly keep up. Take time to specifically thank yourself for being part of the great transformation, but even more importantly thank someone who came before you that paved the way for the current rapid shifts in rights. It wasn’t always this easy, this open, this fun, or this safe to be this proud.

FLOWERS. Find some, buy some, plant some, give them to someone with a hug, a smile; let them know you flourish in their fabulousness.

GRAPPLE WITH GRATITUDE. It’s directly connected and related to your greatness.

HERITAGE. We queers have it. Embrace, engage, prosper from it, show up with it, flourish in it. It gets stronger if you do.

I’M MAKING MYSELF PROUD. It’s my job, no one else’s. Just like Byron Katie said, “It’s not your job to like me — it’s mine.”

JOY, JOKE, THROW SOME JUBILANCE. “Things won are done; joy’s soul lies in the doing.” (Shakespeare, Troilus and Cressida) KINDNESS. Show some. Expect some.

Just be kind. Bitches are boring. Cleanse that karma, be grateful, act with love, check your motives, watch your attitude and forgive.

LOVE WINS OVER HATE. “Let someone love you just the way you are & as flawed as you might be, as unattractive as you sometimes feel, and as unaccomplished

as you think you are. To believe that you must hide all the parts of you that are broken, out of fear that someone else is incapable of loving what is less than perfect, is to believe that sunlight is incapable of entering a broken window and illuminating a dark room.” —Marc Hack MINDFULNESS. Everyone’s talking about it, writing about it, blogging about it. Be aware, love what is, and who you are, just as you would have it. Awareness is the opposite of clueless. Otherwise swing by the Clue Store and pick up a 6-pack, you’ll

Pride is about a whole lot more than drugs, drink and dick

not only enjoy Pride more, but life as well.

NEVER give up on someone you can’t go a day without thinking about. Pride is a time to reconnect, rekindle, reflame. That being said, remove yourself from toxicity on a regular basis.

OPINIONS AND OPEN MINDS MATTER. Everyone’s. Know yours, make sure your actions and your values are aligned so you can speak your opinion, all the while respecting other people and their paths.

Surrounding yourself with people who only think how you think leaves you with lost opportunities. Seek out and celebrate those who are very different from you, then pull up a chair sit your ass down, and truly listen.

PEOPLE. A person’s actions will tell you everything you need to know about them.

Observe. And pluralism (people count, all people).

QUIET. Find some. Share some with someone. Pride is full of noise, take a few minutes to do some self-reflection

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and know who you are down to the core: spiritually, mentally, emotionally, socially and physically.

REINVENT what is uniquely queer to you. Don’t abdicate your passions and what makes life worth living to anyone.

SHE. Know when she has had it. When it’s time to be over, move on, take a rest, go to sleep, downshift the queer, and respite (an interval of rest or relief). Please share and shout your story. It’s yours and its one of a kind.

TRUTH. Tell it to yourself. If you don’t who will?

UTAH’S OTHER PIONEERS. We be they!

VULNERABLE is the only way you can feel — truly share your whole self. The laws of attraction and allowance are real.

Discover how to make them work for you, and being truly eyes-wide-open vulnerable is a great place to begin.

WARRANTY. The warranty for finding yourself, being certified, genuine, real, true, verifiable begins in taking Pride in who you are to the core inside. Who would you be without your story? Own it, share it, sing it.

XERARCH. Our Pride originates in a dry habitat or desert. Xebec is a pirate ship.

Queer pirates only steal in order to remix, shake it up and then give back abundantly.

God–X? YOU WIN SOME, you lose some, and if you’re lucky you get some. Hell yes. Yell it out. Youth isn’t a number, it’s an outlook and attitude. So many truly disruptive queers have been youngsters, even the old ones — don’t ever forget that.

ZION. Of course. Zion is full of all things gay: the radical activists, the regular folks, the queens, the divas, the militants with intense passion who started our gay culture. Celebrate those and the traditions they left. Those who created a brave, proud path. On the other hand, remember this wisdom from poet Matsuo Basho (1644– 1694) about creating your own legacy — Seek not to follow in the footsteps of men of old; seek what they sought. — Seek something. Be specific.

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Misunderestandings of addiction

BY AUSTIN MILLER-ANDERSON

When I

look back on my life nine months ago, I sometimes can’t believe what I see. My life was full of chaos and disaster, and I virtually had nothing. I was suffering from one of the most common diseases in the world.

My story begins in the cold, dark winter of 2010. That is the year I first realized I was gay, and also the year I came out to my friends and family. Most of all, it was the year I fell in love for the first time. I was

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16; it was a time when the relationship I was in had meant the world to me. I had everything that I could ever dream of – or hope for - until one dreary November night when I learned that the boy I was madly in love with was dead.

My life went from being the best it had ever been to the complete opposite in a matter of a split second. It was the most painful and tragic time of my life and I needed to find something that could make it all better again.

I found what I believed to be a miracle: drugs. My use began with marijuana and quickly progressed to prescription pills and Ecstasy. In only a few months, it had reached a full-blown addiction and I was dependant on being high to feel normal. I

even chose drugs over my family, friends, school and work because, at that time, it was better than all of those things in my eyes. The turning point from normal life to addiction was when my family didn’t grasp how much the person I lost had meant to me. It seemed to me as if only the drugs understood me.

Today, I have been clean for more than nine months and the unfortunate truth is that recovery is extremely difficult. At this very moment, millions upon millions of addicts struggle with addiction, and it is among the most misunderstood diseases.

All addicts are not bad people. Many are very good people with an evil weight on their shoulders that has ultimately brainwashed them. Why is it that gay youth are at such a higher risk for abusing drugs compared to those of their heterosexual peers?

The answer is even more misunderstood than addiction. As gay youth grow up in today’s society, we find it hard to access support and have difficulties fitting in at school. It is crucial for a teenager to start dating as well because it helps them discover themselves. However, parents don’t see gay youth relationships as an important aspect in their lives. Gay youth are also the most often bullied group of students and are the third most likely to be targets in hate crimes, according to the FBI. In addition, gay youths are among the most frequently homeless group of teens because they are too often kicked out of their homes. When adolescents are trying to establish their identity, they begin to feel helpless because their parents don’t see eye-to-eye with them and cannot support them as much as needed. When this happens, their first instinct is to turn to something else to find that support and many of them begin to depend on the intense feelings of drugs.

It is hard for someone who has never suffered from addiction to empathize with those who have. It is also difficult for someone who does not identify themselves as a member or ally of the LGBTQ community to do so. If you happen to be reading this, especially if you know someone who has gone, or is going through, addiction, my challenge for you is to think about what that person has gone through and what could have possibly lead them to where they are.

Drugs have ruined lives and devastated too many families. Once my family became more involved in my recovery, it became much easier to change. Anger and resentment does not help with addiction. There is only one possible cure – support. Q

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QSaltLake’s 10th

GUIDE TO

PRIDE

This is the 10th annual QSaltLake Guide to Pride celebrating Utah’s gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and ally community. Readers can find full entertainment calendars, nightlife events, maps, interviews and information about past Pride celebrations.

Congratulations are in order to all the many fabulous people who help put together another outstanding Pride festival.

THURSDAY MAY 30 7 PM PRIDE INTERFAITH SERVICE CONGREGATION KOL AMI, 2425 HERITAGE WAY

Join more than 15 faith groups as Pride and diversity is celebrated through song and words.

The event is open to the public and will launch the official Pride festivities.

Admission is free.

FRIDAY MAY 31 7 PM GRAND MARSHAL RECEPTION THE LEONARDO MUSEUM, 209 E 500 S

The official start to this year’s Pride festivities includes David Testo as the grand marshal and the winners of the Kristen Ries Community Service Award and the Pete Suazo Political Action Award.

Tickets are $40 at utahpridefestival.org.

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Pride parking guide TRAX Utah’s commuter train provides two stops near the parade route and festival grounds.

Parking is free at the Trax stations on 2100 South and 1300 South in the well-policed parking lots. Also, Club Try-Angles, at 251 W. 900 South, is offering free parking in its lot, as festivalgoers can take Trax from the

900 South station to the grounds. The Trax fare is $2.50 for a one-way ticket or $5 for round trip. To arrive at the festival grounds on Saturday, ride the Red Line-University of Utah to the Salt Lake City Library stop.

This will put you on the northeast corner of the festival. The trains will run until 1 a.m. On Sunday morning, in order to arrive at the parade route, take the train that will arrive at the 2100 South station at 9:20 a.m.

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and get off at the 200 South stop. You’ll arrive around 9:30 a.m., plenty of time to find a spot to watch the festivities. For full scheduling information, go to RideUTA.com.

PARKING METERS Salt Lake City has more than 2,000 metered parking spaces along the streets, including many that are near the festival grounds and parade route. Saturdays and Sundays are free. However,

on Saturday there is a two-hour time limit from 8 a.m. to 6 p.m. Sunday parking is free all day, but spaces will fill up extremely fast. New parking meters now accept credit cards, cash and coins.

PARKING LOTS There is a huge selection of pay-to-park lots throughout the city and while rates may vary, expect to pay between $7 and $10 for the

entire day. Here’s a list of some of the most conveniently located parking areas: AMPCO PARKING, 45 E. 300 South, 133 E. 200 South, 270 S. West Temple KILOWAT COMMONS, 175 S. West Temple REGENT STREET, 150 S. 50 East PIERPONT STREET, 163 W. Pierpont Ave., 150 W. Pierpont Ave.

FRIDAY MAY 31 GRAND MARSHAL RECEPTION Gay soccer player David Testo to lead Utah Pride Parade

With an

estimated crowd of 30,000, the Utah Pride Festival is gaining notoriety in the region and around the nation as a burgeoning queer-themed event. This year’s parade, which will be held Sunday, June 2, will feature soccer player David Testo as grand marshal.

Testo played professional soccer for more than 10 years and was the first professional soccer player in North America to publicly announce he is gay in 2011. He’s also the first gay man to be elected to the U.S. Soccer Athletic Council. He has championed other philanthropic endeavors and is an active member of the You Can Play campaign, which assists gay people coming out in sports teams and clubs around the nation.

“Coming out has been amazing and the last two years have been life changing,” Testo said. “Before I came out, I was living this double life which was so difficult. I’m so happy to be where I am today.”

While more sports figures are coming out, including NBA player Jason Collins, there isn’t much of an environment for gay athletes in professional sports, Testo said.

Before coming out publicly, he spoke with the management of Montreal Impact, who discouraged him from being open about his sexuality. The team owners and managers were concerned that the sexual orientation would take forefront and distract from play, he said. Just one month after being released from his team, Testo announced on Nov. 10, 2011, in a Radio Canada interview,

that he is gay. The next summer, he attended his first Pride festival as grand marshal of Montreal Pride.

“I love my city. It is such an amazing place. You can walk around Montreal holding your boyfriend’s hand and not have to worry about a thing,” Testo said.

Forming alliances with straight athletes and groups is the fastest way to create welcoming spaces for gay people in sports organizations, Testo said. Without the alliances, gay athletes will have no community, and progress will remain stagnant, he said.

Testo participates in the You Can Play campaign which provides counseling and help to teams with openly gay players. By building a support network, it helps foster an environment of acceptance and a celebration of diversity that will propagate through other teams, Testo said. He is also a public speaker and gives presentations to school children about gay people and gay students.

“I’m very excited to be a part of Utah Pride. It will be my second-ever Pride and I am really looking forward to visiting. I’ve been to Utah before to play, but I’ve never had the chance to see the city or get to know people. I am so flattered to be chosen as the grand marshal, and I’m excited that I get to be a part of the festival,” Testo said.

“I think Utah is so unique and it feels like there’s a lot of attention on Salt Lake City as far as the gay-rights and marriage-equality battles go.”

Testo will lead the Pride Parade through Salt Lake City on June 2 and will be a part of the program for the Grand Marshal Reception on May 30. Q For more information and tickets, go to utahpridefestival.org.

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SATURDAY JUNE 1 9AM PRIDE DAY 5K

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Run, walk or jog your way to the fourth annual Pride Day 5K. The course begins to the east of the State Capitol Building and will wind through City Creek Canyon. The trail ends in Memory Grove.

Strollers and dogs on leashes are welcome.

3PM DYKE/TRANS* MARCHES STATE CAPITOL BUILDING

The march routes have changed in order to provide a greater distinction between the groups. The lesbians and supporters will begin at the State Capitol. The transgender march will begin in City Creek Park. The two marches will join together as everyone continues into the festival grounds.

4PM ALEX NEWELL

NORTH MAIN STAGE

Best known for his performances on Glee and The Glee Project, Newell plays Unique, a transgender character. He’ll bring his vocal prowess to a Utah stage for the first time.

ROYAL COURT OF THE GOLDEN SPIKE EMPIRE PRIDE PAGEANT WEST STAGE

Join one of the oldest queer charity organizations as they crown Miss and Mister Gay Utah. The pageant will go from 3–6PM with performances throughout. Don’t miss a collection of some of Utah’s most fabulous drag queens.

DJ VITA

SOUTH DANCE STAGE

Join DJ Vita, a local house and progressive disc jockey on the South Dance Stage and kick off the weekend.

4:30PM AVENUE Q

NORTH MAIN STAGE

The production put on by the Midvale Theatre features puppets seeking purpose and place. The queer-inclusive production features some of the most outrageous musical numbers on stage.

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World of Pride MAY

D.C. BLACK PRIDE, MAY 25–27

INTERNATIONAL MR. LEATHER, MAY 24–27 DISNEY WORLD GAY DAYS, MAY 30–JUNE 2

JUNE

CAPITAL PRIDE, WASH. D.C., MAY 7–9 HONOLULU PRIDE, JUNE 1–2

TEL AVIV PRIDE, JUNE 7–9 RAZZLE DAZZLE DALLAS, JUNE 6–8 KEY WEST PRIDE, JUNE 7–9

LOS ANGELES PRIDE, JUNE 7–9

ATHENS PRIDE, JUNE 7–9 BOSTON PRIDE, JUNE 4–9 PORTLAND PRIDE, JUNE 15–16

NEW YORK CITY PRIDE, JUNE 28–30

DENVER PRIDE, JUNE 15–16 FLAGSTAFF PRIDE, JUNE 17

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FOLSOM STREET EAST, JUNE 23 CHICAGO PRIDE, JUNE 28–30 NEW ORLEANS PRIDE, JUNE 22–25

TORONTO PRIDE, JUNE 21–30 CLEVELAND PRIDE, JUNE 29 SAN FRANCISCO PRIDE, JUNE 29–30

SEATTLE PRIDE, JUNE 28–30 PARIS PRIDE, JUNE 29

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LONDON PRIDE, JULY 21–28 PROVINCETOWN BEAR WEEK, JULY 13–21

NEW ORLEANS SOUTHERN DECADENCE, AUG. 28–SEPT. 2

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LAS VEGAS PRIDE, SEPT. 6–7 ORLANDO BEAR BASH,

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VANCOUVER PRIDE, AUG. 4 MONTREAL PRIDE, AUG. 17–19

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MOAB PRIDE, SEPT. 27–28

OCTOBER GAY DAYS DISNEYLAND, OCT. 4 ATLANTA PRIDE, OCT. 12–13

NOVEMBER BUENOS AIRES PRIDE, NOV. 3 PALM SPRINGS PRIDE, NOV. 3 RIO DE JANEIRO PRIDE, NOV. 13

SATURDAY MAY 31 HEADLINER

‘Glee’ star Alex Newell to bring unique show to Utah Pride Festival Alex Newell

is anything but ordinary.

The 20-year-old singer and actor, who will be a headlining performer at the Utah Pride Festival, is best known for playing Unique Adams, a transgender teenager, on the hit television series Glee.

He launched his career while competing on Oxygen Network’s reality series, The Glee Project, in which he placed second.

After appearing on two episodes of Glee in the third season, conservative pundit Bill O’Reilly and others voiced outrage that a transgender character would be portrayed in a positive light. He said Newell’s character might encourage children to “go out and experiment with this stuff.”

“Having Bill O’Reilly speak out wasn’t really a surprise. When people first encounter something new a lot of times they’re scared of it or even hate it. But with understanding and seeing things in a new light, the hatred and fear leave and make way for love and acceptance,” Newell said. “Most of the reaction has been very positive, though.”

While Newell said he does not identify as transgender, he has done research and worked with other transgender people to try and add authenticity to his character.

“I think we are all a little gender nonconforming in some ways. For example, the last role I ever want to play is Effie from Dream Girls,” Newell said.

“If I could pass along one message about what I’ve learned, it would be to just be yourself. No matter what anyone else says, stay true to who you are and don’t let other people define who you are.”

After being signed for another season of Glee, Newell said he was excited for the chance to continue working on the show, even though it’s exhausting.

A single episode can include a fitting, pre-recording, dance rehearsal and filming. Each episode presents its own challenges, but participating has been an experience of a lifetime, he said.

“It’s one thing to sit at home and watch all the actors play characters. It’s another thing entirely to get to interact with them and learn more about each of them as people,” Newell said. “It really has been amazing.”

Newell’s portrayal of Unique requires some serious acting chops, but his belting vocal prowess is perhaps his greatest strength. He’s had lead vocals in “Blow Me (One Last Kiss)” and participates in several other numbers.

His show at the Utah Pride Festival will feature some of his favorite songs and will be a perfect match for Pride, Newell said. He will be on the main stage on Saturday, June 1, 4 p.m.

“I’ve never been to Salt Lake City, but I’m very excited to visit. I hope to meet as many people as possible,” he said. “My shows are always intimate. No matter how many people are in the crowd, I always try and keep it very personal. I try to make eye contact with everyone at least once.” Q For more information, go to utahpridefestival.org.

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5PM LEIGH CORNU DANCE NORTH MAIN STAGE A featured performer with Park City Dance, Cornu brings her passion for storytelling through dance to the stage at Utah Pride.

DJ LISHUS SOUTH DANCE STAGE DJ Lishus is a frequent performer at the top gay clubs in the area and will bring his techno-house sound to the South Dance Stage from 5-7PM

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This family-friendly event will pit audience-members against some of the most fabulous bearded ladies in the state.

6PM WAYWARD MOLLY WEST STAGE The Celtic folk group from Ogden brings the progressive sound to Utah Pride.

6:30PM THE FEMME MEDEA NORTH MAIN STAGE The soulful indie-folk, theatrical and genderbending group will perform on the main stage.

With a background in theater and performance, this is much more than just a concert.

7PM IVY WINTERS AND PANDORA BOXX NORTH MAIN STAGE

The RuPaul’s Drag Race alumni are two of the festival’s headliners this year. Known for camp and glamour, the two drag queens are fabulous and funny.

DJ PANAMA SOUTH DANCE STAGE With more than 20 years of spinning experience, DJ Panama has rocked some of the hottest nightclubs in Utah, Curacao, Panama, China and around the world. He’ll be spinning 7–9PM

9PM DJ JEN WOOLFE NORTH MAIN STAGE In from California, DJ Jen Woolfe has rocked Moab Pride for two years and will be making her way a little farther north this summer. Don’t miss her unique and eclectic style.

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SATURDAY MAY 31 HEADLINER Pandora Boxx As one of

the original camp queens on RuPaul’s Drag Race, Pandora Boxx became a crowd favorite early in the show. She returned for a short-lived stint on RuPaul’s Drag Race: All Stars.

She’s a headlining performer for the official Utah Pride Festival celebration. We chatted with Pandora to find out her feelings with Drag Race history, her legacy and her Utah memories.

I have to admit, I was shocked to see how early you left on All Stars. I was so sad that I didn’t get to see more of you that season. Do you feel like you were kicked off too soon in both seasons? All Stars was certainly a huge letdown. I was more upset because I knew who would be at the top and that

they certainly weren’t going to let our team go very far. Clearly, by my stank face you could tell I wasn’t happy. I just felt duped. I came in for a fair chance and I don’t think we were given one.

As for season two, I feel like I should have been top three. I also think that Raven should have been the winner of that season. But, getting kicked off when I did rallied these amazing fans behind me even more than before. I wouldn’t trade that for anything. So now I can say I’m glad I got kicked off when I did.

More than almost any other contestant, you took a beating from the judges who were often critical of your looks. How did that affect your drag?

Was that really difficult to hear? It was horrible. I certainly felt the double standard because there were plenty of other hideous outfits on the show that no one ever said anything about.

It is extremely difficult to stand there and be ripped to shreds while others should have been too. I won’t lie, I spent quite a few nights crying in my hotel room.

Do you think your style of drag was underappreciated on the show? Yes, especially on season two. They favored the supermodel thing. Thank Buddha they’ve expanded and it’s great to see people like Sharon Needles, Alaska and Jinkx Monsoon get praised for things I would have been crucified.

Do you stay in contact with other queens from the show? Is there a camaraderie when you perform together? I do. I made several great friends from the show. There definitely is a camaraderie when any of us works together because you have a shared experience, regardless of what season. You know what each other went through.

You’ve been working on various projects, including drag, film, theater and music. What is your passion? What makes Pandora tick? I really love acting in any aspect. Making people laugh is my passion. I love to entertain people. I always have.

You’ve been to Utah before. What do you remember about your visit? I remember everyone being so sweet

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and friendly and just how much they loved Drag Race. I also found it so weird how the streets are named from how far they are from the temple. I’m glad I didn’t get publicly caned for dressing like a lady. It’s also so beautiful there!

Any advice for your young gay fans living in Utah? Stay true to yourself. It may be hard, but you have to or you will never be happy.

What is your favorite movie? That’s a tough one. I love The Color Purple and 9 to 5.

If you could bump uglies with any celebrity, who would it be and why? Matt Bomer! And umm, because he’s wicked hot.

Who was your first crush? Keanu Reeves!

And I ended up working out one bike down from him at the gym! I almost passed out!

Do you believe in love at first sight? Indeed!

Any last words for “QSaltLake” readers? Please buy some Pandora merchandise at pandoraboxx.com/boxxedgoods. My rent is due soon. Q

SATURDAY MAY 31 HEADLINER

Ivy Winters Fresh off

the latest season of RuPaul’s Drag Race, Ivy Winters will be an official Pride Festival performer. The costume designer and gorgeous drag queen is known for her quirky yet stunning outfits and gorgeous looks.

We caught up with her to learn about what went on behind the scenes during the filming, what her biggest fears are and what reminds her of home (spoiler alert – it’s the smell of skunk.)

Tell me about your experience with the last season. Did you enjoy it? It was the best time I’ve ever had. It was the most stressful and the most fun time of my life.

I was very happy with my experience.

How did it feel to watch the show later?

Do you think the editing represented you well? I think it represented me well.

I think the editors did a good job. And despite what people say later, at one point or another, everything on camera was said.

The context might be a little different, but that’s the truth.

I think the cameras didn’t catch every moment and it doesn’t show what goes on behind the scenes and how much fun we all have.

Did you feel the other queens were represented well in the editing? I think some got a little more negative air time than they’d like, but again, everything was said at one point. I think overall it was pretty accurate.

Can you hear what other people say in the one-on-one interviews? You can’t hear anything. Everything is sound proof. You get so comfortable with the people asking

the questions and it’s such a high stress level, you tend to kind of vent and say things you might not say in front of others.

What was the most difficult part of the competition? The most difficult part of the show was that I thought they’d give us more time for the challenges. You have to get ready super fast and do everything in an incredibly short amount of time.

How’s life been since the show started airing? How has it changed your career? I’m obviously working more and I’ll be able to be at Utah Pride, for which I’m very excited. By day, I am a costume designer and I’ve been doing that for years.

Since the show, I’ve got more business calls asking about my work.

Are you participating in a lot of Pride Festivals this year? I have been in talks with Jinxx about Seattle Pride and I hope to do Grand Rapids, Michigan Pride. That’s where I’m from and this is the first year they’ll have a parade, so I really want to be a part of it.

Have you been to Utah before? I’ve never been, but I’m so excited and can’t wait to meet everyone.

Madonna or Lady Gaga? Lady Gaga for sure.

I love old Madonna, but not her new stuff.

What’s your favorite song to lip sync?

“Come Into My House” by Ertha Kitt.

What’s your biggest fear? It used to be falling on stage but not anymore. So I’d have to say spiders. I can deal with anything else. I even love the smell of skunk.

I grew up in a small town, so I guess it just reminds me of home.

If you could bump uglies with any celebrity, who would it be and why? I

think I’d have to say Colleen Atwood. She makes costumes for Tim Burton films, and she is such an idol of mine. I know she’s a woman, but if it meant I could meet her, I’d sleep with her.

My second choice would be Brad Pitt from Interview with the Vampire.

Do you have any guilty pleasure music? I love oldies. A lot of people don’t like the really old music but it’s my favorite. I also love opera.

Were you surprised by Jinx’s confession about a crush on you and have you two connected since the show? Watching the show was the first time I ever heard of her having a crush. I was a little shocked.

Since the show we continue to be really good friends, but nothing more than that. I already have a wonderful boyfriend.

Any advice for young gay fans in a conservative Utah? With anyone I talk to through Facebook, I tell them no matter what type of situation you’re in, it gets better as you get older. You can move out, make new friends who support you and who understand what you’re going through. It really does get better. Q

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SUNDAY JUNE 2 10AM UTAH PRIDE PARADE The most fabulous parade in the state attracts more than 100 floats as thousands of queers and supporters line the streets of Salt Lake City.

11AM BINGO

GAME ZONE

Enjoy the weather and relax while playing a friendly game of bingo from 11AM–1PM

1PM DJ HARRY CROSS JUNIOR SOUTH DANCE STAGE

The local and Fabby award-winning Club JAM resident DJ, Harry Cross Jr. will be spinning some of the top hits with his own fabulous flair from 1–3PM

SATURDAY’S VOYEUR NORTH MAIN STAGE

The Salt Lake Acting Company’s satirical look at life in Utah is always fresh, hilarious and fabulous.

Watch an excerpt from the musical comedy preview.

CLUB JAM IDOL NORTH MAIN STAGE

The exciting conclusion to a karaoke competition held at the local club throughout the month will take place on the main stage.

2PM THE SALIVA SISTERS NORTH MAIN STAGE

These raucous and outrageous performers are Utah Pride Festival regulars. After performing for groups as varied as the gay rodeo and the Western Republican Governors, they know how to please a crowd.

THE BAD KIDS WEST STAGE

The innovative drag troupe performs a truly unique show.

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SUNDAY MAY 31 HEADLINER Thelma Houston to bring good time to Pride

Grammy

Award-winning disco diva, and former Motown artist, Thelma Houston will bring her musical stylings to the Utah Pride Festival Sunday, June 2. Houston, who is not related to Whitney Houston, has worked with everyone in the business, including Luther Vandross, Marvin Gaye and Sting. Her 1977 number-one hit “Don’t Leave Me This Way” is her best known single, but her successful recording career spans three decades and 17 albums. She toured with Cher on her 2003 farewell tour and has been featured on American Idol and America’s Got Talent.

“I think the trick to staying in the industry for so long is to have a passion for music. You have to have a love for it and if you don’t, the audience will know,” Houston said. “I’ve seen a lot of industry changes, but the biggest is the emphasis on making money. It seems like most artists these days don’t have the right focus.”

Houston is no stranger to Pride festivals and is a regular performer at queer and HIV/AIDS fundraising events. Her passion for philanthropy began when the AIDS virus was starting to take effect, she said.

“We didn’t know what to call it and we weren’t organized. It was just that we saw our friends and family need help and we knew we had to do whatever we could to lend a hand,” Houston said.

She has used that experience as a basis for participation in various charities and events worldwide. And while gay crowds do not have a monopoly on energy and excitement, Houston said she loves to perform at Pride events because of the celebratory nature of the events. She’s been involved in queer-

themed events for decades and she said she can’t wait to return to Utah.

“There’s something about my style of music that seems to bring back good times, and I think it has a special connection with the gay community.

When a lot of our music was coming out, the equal-rights movement was really gaining ground so I think a lot of people have a nostalgic relationship with it,’ Houston said. “Whether it’s KC and the Sunshine Band, Donna Summers, or some of my music, it just fits so well with a Pride festival.”

This will be Houston’s first Utah Pride Festival performance and she will be the headliner on the closing day of the festival. She will perform some of her classic hits and even some from an upcoming EP that will be released this summer, she said. While the details are still being worked out, Houston’s newest project will stay true to her disco roots while showcasing her vocal ability and musicality.

Hoping for a celebratory, excited and energized crowd, Houston said she hopes she can please existing fans and attract new faces to her show.

“We’ll have dancing and partying, and how the show goes will depend a lot on the audience. I am so excited to see more of Utah and I hope to meet as many festival participants as possible,” Houston said.

For tickets go to utahpridefestival.org.

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What Pride means to me Jeff Clement

This year, there is a lot more pride within me than there ever has been. I’ve grown up knowing I am gay, and I have had a decent life. I’ve been fortunate enough to have people who support me and my decisions as I’ve grown older. In November of 2012, I joined the military for a variety of reasons, but when I left my family, friends and my partner, DJ, for six months of training I felt like all of that was being put into the closet not knowing what to expect and fearing for the worst in an already rough environment. It took me about three months of secrecy before I found myself in a comfortable enough place to let myself slowly come out. I have become such a strong man in many ways, but I have gained a new level of pride for gays, especially for the gays I serve this country with and all the ones before. My respect goes to all gays and thank you for a minute of your time.

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Danny Thomas

Pride is the time of year we can be who we are and hang out with people that are like us or support us. It’s a time to see friends we don’t get to see other than this time of year. Each year, as Pride grows we show others in Utah that we are here and there is a lot of love to go around.

Dominique Storni

For me, Pride is a family reunion. I get to see and catch up with people I’ve met over the years. We don’t always see each other or hang out, but we know we are still connected. The Pride Festival is the perfect place to reconnect.

Pride is a time to reflect on where we’ve been, where we are, where we are going.

Pride is a time to remember the horrors of our past (and present), and a time for us to teach our history to the newly out, especially the young ones who have no idea how many people fought for them to be able to come out so young. They fought at the very peril of their lives. In fact, many people gave their lives so we could be free to live authentically.

Pride is a time to speak out against big-

otry and discrimination. We don’t do that enough anymore, with all the partying and celebrating. Pride is a time when community leaders need to speak up, speak out, and call out those who refuse to recognize our civil rights. By all means, let’s party like it’s our birthday, but let us not forget what it took to get here. Let us not forget how much further we have to go. Let us not stand idly by while the ultra-conservatives try to throw us back in time.

Pride is a safe time, a safe place, to come out! So come out, one and all. And bring your friends – all your friends: The queers, the gays, the lesbians, the bisexuals, the trans* folks, twinks, butches, bears, dykes, femmes, lipsticks, bois, questioning, CD, TS, TG, MTF, FTM, genderqueer, intersex, queens, kings, sister-brothers and brothersisters, the Cissies (Cisgender), the Hets (heterosexual), allies, learned, curious and even the enemies.

We are all related. We are all connected.

As we spend time together, the plethora of “differences” within our big, diverse human family helps us recognize and honor the divine that is within each one of us.

Pride is my happy time, my happy place.

Come see me in the GenderZone.

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GEAR UP FOR

PRIDE

The Utah

Pride Festival is only a week away, making it the perfect time to rock a pink boa, leather harness and platforms while sashaying with a full-size rainbow flag down Main Street. But finding the glam and glitter gear necessary to bedazzle and amaze during the most fabulous weekend of the year can be such a chore! No need to fret, because QSaltLake is recommending some the best shops, boutiques and gift stores to stock up on everything from jewelry and T-shirts to tutus and rainbow collars for you and your animal companions.

Cahoots: This adult store and gift shop is a staple in the Utah gay community, conveniently located in one of the queerest areas of town, the 9th & 9th District.

From rainbow-colored socks to coffee

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mugs and all the gay magazines, Cahoots is a one-stop shop for all your Pride gear. The Pride selection is available all year, but is really beefed up during the early summer months. Feather boas, T-shirts, adult toys, lube, bracelets, belt buckles, beer cozies and other trinkets are available at this queer-affirming store.

Cahoots is located at 878 E. 900 South.

It’s open daily, 10 a.m. to 9 p.m.

Cabin Fever: This eclectic store has an enormous selection of gifts, cards and other fabulous items. Pride flags, pins and other items are available. Located in Trolley Square in the building next to Whole Foods, Cabin Fever is one of the best options for rainbow-shopping in Utah.

Cabin Fever is located at 700 East and 600 South. It’s open Monday-Saturday, 10 a.m.-9 p.m., and Sunday, noon-5 p.m.

Pride Clothing: Nothing says pride like a rainbow T-shirt or a “Legalize Gay” tank top. While shopping for all the other gear, stop by Hot Topic in the Gateway or Fashion Place malls, American Apparel in Trolley Square, and Our Store in downtown Salt Lake for all the

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Unhinged: The local boutique-style clothing and vintage store for men and women will transport you out of Utah and into a place where well-dressed individuals are the norm and the stores aren’t all corporations. Think Urban Outfitters, with a shop-local Utah twist. Stop by for bright-colored jeans and other adorable handmade and locally made items. It’s located at 1121 E. 2100 South.

Underwear: Nothing says Pride like strutting around in a pair of low-cut Andrew Christian briefs or a rainbow-colored pair of Calvin Kleins. For a great pair of undies to show off your “pride,” visit Spark/Cockers and Mischievous Pleasures.

From jockstraps to wrestling singlets and all the latest designer briefs and swimwear, these two locally owned stores are just chock full of pride. They’re both great for stocking up on lube, condoms and other pride necessities.

Spark/Cockers is located in Trolley Square at 700 East and 600 South.

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HISTORY OF Celebrating

Pride in Utah is part of a directive originated in 1969 when the Eastern Regional Conference of Homophile Organizations adopted the motion to hold “parallel demonstrations on the last Saturday in June to commemorate the rebellion on Christopher Street.” The reference to the rebellion, of course, refers to the Stonewall Inn riots in New York City.

Utah has celebrated Pride nearly 40 years.

Saturdays & Sundays 10am to 2pm

PRIDE IN THE 1970S A “Beer Bust Kegger,” sponsored in 1974

by Joe Redburn, owner of the Sun Tavern, was the first attempt at bringing people together to celebrate the emergence of an openly gay community in Utah. More than 200 gay men and women celebrated Gay Pride along the shores of the Great Salt Lake at, what was once known as, Bare Bum Beach.

The first official community-sponsored Pride celebration was called Gay Freedom Day and was held June 1, 1975. Sponsored by the Gay Community Service Center, it was held in City Creek Canyon where festivities included free beer, food, soft drinks, volleyball, an all-day talent revue and sing-a-long, games for prizes, and a white-elephant auction. A shuttle service from local gay bars provided additional transportation.

Over the next three years, Gay Freedom Day was promoted mainly by the Gay Service Committee and the Salt Lake Coalition of Human Rights. The most ambitious promotion was a festival and conference held in 1977, which featured Sgt. Leonard Matlovich as keynote speaker. Matlovich was an ex-Air Force sergeant and recipient of the Bronze Star and Purple Heart, and also a gay Mormon.

As the heady gay power days of the 1970s began to wane, a fragmented community ravaged by the onslaught of a conservative backlash tried to hold scaleddown celebrations. Without widespread support, the spirit of Pride was kept going by individual groups such as the Tavern Guild and Affirmation.

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PRIDE IN THE 1980S In 1983 members of the Royal Court of the Golden Spike Empire met to revitalize the true concept of a Pride.

Tim Leming, Marshall Brunner, Larry Pacheco and Mel Rohland, among others, formed a

committee and put together an event billed as a Basket Social held in Fairmont Park.

This Pride Day committee had sponsored the event over the next three years, and was the first to adopt a national Pride Day committee’s theme.

The chairs were Marshall Brunner, Nikki Boyer and Michelle Beauchaine.

Beauchaine was the last chairman during these years and held Gay and Lesbian Pride

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Day in Pioneer Park in 1986.

In 1987 the newly formed Gay and Lesbian Community Council of Utah took over the responsibilities of Utah’s annual event. Donnie Eastepp, Emperor XII of the RCGSE, was elected chair of the Pride Day Committee. He created a community service award, which was presented to Dr. Kristen Ries for her efforts treating AIDS patients when no other doctors in Utah were

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Floyd Gamble, Steven Lloyd, Julie Pollock, Curtis Jensen, Kevin Hillman, Deborah Rosenberg, Antonia Dela Guerra, Kyle Kennedy, Kathy Matthews and Julie Hale were the chairs and co-chairs of GLCCU’s Pride Day Committee over these seven years.

They provided Utah’s gay community a consistently successful event celebrating Utah’s sexual minorities.

The Kristen Ries Community Service recipients were Rev. Bruce Barton, KUTV Channel 2, Chuck Whyte, Nikki Boyer, Becky Moss, Ben Williams, the College of Monarchs of the RCGSE, Craig Miller, Ben Barr, Val Mansfield, Kathy Worthington and Kim Russo.

PRIDE IN THE 1990S In 1990, on the 21st anniversary of the Stonewall Rebellion, the Salt Lake City queer community held its first Gay and Lesbian Pride March.

Nearly 200 people gathered on the steps of the state Capitol and heard speeches from Connell “Rocky” O’Donovan, Becky Moorman, Angela Nutt and Robert Austin. The Pride festival was held at the Northwest Community Center.

Under the direction of Kevin Hillman and his co-chairs, Pride Day expanded, and in 1991 it was moved to the Salt Lake County Fairgrounds in Murray. The 1991 Pride committee added to the festival a pride guide, an art show and contest, sponsored by Angela Nutt and David Thometz, and a Utah Gay and Lesbian Film Festival, created by Marlin Criddle.

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PRIDE CONTINUED FROM PAGE 48 speaker. For entertainment, Lynn Lavner, a lesbian singer performed, with interruption by a contingency of neo-Nazi skinheads who marched into the celebration and were met by Anti-Violence Project founder Michael Aaron. While no violence occurred, it was a tense situation. Dozens of festivalgoers surrounded the skinheads and turned their backs on them, making them invisible to the crowd and, thus, negating the reason they were there. They left after 10 minutes.

O’Donovan’s second Pride march was also disrupted by neo-Nazis who stood on the east steps of the City and County Building taunting the marchers rallying at Washington Square.

The tradition of an annual pride march and rally ended when O’Donovan left Salt Lake City in 1992. No one came forward to organize a third, and it would be two years before Bruce Harmon and Rev. Bruce Barton, along with then-Pride chair Jeff Freedman, stepped forward to reinvent the march and rally, transforming it into something even greater: the Pride Parade.

Pride Days under the direction of the GLCCU transformed the celebration from simply a day in the park to a major annual event where Salt Lake City’s politicians began to attend, and the quality of entertainers and speakers increased.

With the election of Freedman as chair of the GLCCU’s Gay Pride Day committee, the organization began its transition from being simply a committee to being GLCCU’s sole entity when the organization collapsed in 1995. Freedman

and co-chair Julie Hale were the last formally elected chairs of the Gay Pride Day committee under the direction of GLCCU. Freedman, a former emperor of the Royal Court, served longer than any other Pride volunteer in Utah. His vision of Pride encompassed the entire spectrum of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and straight allies communities.

The Pride events of the latter half of the 1990s were thus stamped indelibly with Freedman’s concept that Pride was a community party. He brought professionalism to the job as he endeavored to ensure gender parity. Freedman’s co-chairs were Hale, Carrie Gaylor and Kim Russo.

The Kristen Ries Award recipients during Freedman’s era were Bruce Harmon, Clariss (Doug Tollstrup) Cartier, Charlene Orchard, Barb Barnhart, Rev. Kelly Byrnes, Jeff Freedman, Maggie Snyder, LaDonna Moore and Dr. Patty Reagan.

In 1994 the first parade was organized as the kick-off event to Pride. The late Emperor XV, Bruce Harmon, assisted by his partner Rev. Bruce Barton, established the annual parade that continues to this day.

Bruce Barton nearly singlehandedly, on his own sewing machine, created the 100-foot rainbow flag that is carried annually in the parade.

In 1996 Freedman, Gaylor and Harmon invited Chastity Bono, daughter of Sonny and Cher and spokeswoman of the Human Rights Campaign’s National Coming Out Project, to be the first grand marshal of Utah’s Gay Pride Parade.

Freedman and his committees also invited Candace Gingrich, Deb Burington, Charlene Orchard and actor Dan Butler to serve as grand marshals.

Freedman was instrumental in getting corporate sponsorships for Pride and moving it

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to downtown Salt Lake City – first to the Gallivan Center and later to Washington Square.

Freedman’s last act of the period was organizing Pride Day, Inc. as a separate entity from the defunct GLCCU.

PRIDE IN THE OUGHTS With the new millennium came controversy as Pride Day began to expand exponentially.

Kim Russo became director of the new corporation for two years, assisted by co-chairs Adam Frost and Billy Lewis.

During the Russo years, Utah State Rep. Jackie Biskupski and Mayor Rocky Anderson served as grand marshals for the parade, and Marlin Criddle, Brenda Voisard, Laura Milliken Gray and Brook Heart-Song were honored with the Kristen Ries Award.

Unfortunately without the community’s oversight, fiduciary problems surfaced during 2001.

Pride Day 2002 was run by a committee headed by Sherry Booth, with Chad Keller as chair of the parade. Steve Kmetko, host of E! News Live, was grand marshal and the tradition of a Grand Marshal Reception was started. Additionally in 2002, the Community Volunteer, Organization of the Year and the Pete Suazo Political Action Awards were created to recognize contributions to the community. The Utah Pride Interfaith Service was also added.

The 2002 committee tried to rebuild the image of Pride Day, but because Pride Day, Inc., had found itself in serious debt, the committee elected to be absorbed by the Gay and Lesbian Community Center of Utah, a move that generated much controversy in the community because of the secrecy surrounding the move.

The Utah Pride Center has provided direction for the event for the past decade and even changed its name to

reflect this. Under the auspices of the former Gay and Lesbian Community Center, the volunteer position of director of Pride Day, Inc., became salaried for the first time in 2003. The same year a Dyke March was added to the annual Pride Day Parade. Donald Steward was the parade coordinator for three of those years.

In 2004, the Salt Lake City Film Center was asked to curate a series of films during Pride week that reflected the best in gay cinema. The Damn These Heels film festival was held annually thereafter.

2005 saw Pride Day organizers charging a first-time $5 admission fee for the events on Library Square and Washington Square. This move generated considerable discontent, but eventually provided for higher quality performers at the celebration.

In 2009, Cleve Jones, during a rally at the Utah Pride Festival, called for a March on Washington to coincide with National Coming Out Day and kick off a grassroots campaign for equality in each of the nation’s 435 congressional districts to launch a new chapter in the gay-rights movement.

The grand marshals chosen under the direction of the Center were Kate Kendall, Bruce Bastian, Utah State Senator Scott McCoy, J. Boyer Jarvis, John Amaechi, Mayor Ralph Becker, Cleve Jones, Sister Dottie S. Dixon, Roseanne Barr and Dustin Lance Black.

The Kristen Ries Award recipients were Doug Wortham, Lucia Malin, Jane and Tami Marquardt, Utah State Rep. Jackie Biskupski, Doug Fadel, Stan Penfold, Walter Larabee, Mark Swonson, Michael Aaron and Valerie Larabee.

By 2010 Utah’s Pride Day Parade was listed as Utah’s second-largest parade and, in 2011, more than 100 float entries were listed. Q

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Dr. Kristen Ries Community Service Award recipients The first Utah Pride community service award was created by Donny Eastepp, Emperor XII of the Royal Court of the Golden Spike Empire, while serving as Gay Pride Day chair in 1987. The award was established to recognize outstanding service to the gay community.

It was presented to Dr. Kristen Ries, M.D., for her humanitarian efforts in dealing with the AIDS crisis. The community service award was afterward named in her honor. It is the highest honor our community can bestow.

The Kristen Ries Community Service Award recipients, while seemingly diverse, have the love of community in common. They have, in their own unique ways, given time, money, service and commitment to building or supporting the gay and lesbian community. They are positive role models, and as with Dr. Kristen Ries, “exemplified everything

that the award has stood for: compassion, leadership and courage.”

RECIPIENTS 1987 — Dr. Kristen Ries, M.D. 1988 — Rev. Bruce Barton 1989 — KUTV Channel 2 1990 — Chuck Whyte 1991 — Nikki Boyer, Becky Moss, Ben Williams 1992 — The College of Monarchs of the Royal Court of the Golden Spike Empire, Craig Miller 1993 — Ben Barr, Val Mansfield, Kathy Worthington 1994 — Kim Russo 1995 — Bruce Harmon 1996 — Clariss Cartier (Doug Tollstrup), Charlene Orchard, Barb Barnhart 1997 — Rev. Kelly Byrnes, Jeff Freedman, Maggie Snyder 1998 — LaDonna Moore 1999 — Dr. Patty Reagan, Ph.D.

2000 — Marlin Criddle 2000 — Brenda Voisard 2001 — Laura Milliken Gray 2001 — Brook Heart-Song 2002 — Kevin Hillman 2003 — Doug Wortham 2004 — Luci Malin 2005 — Jane & Tami Marquardt 2006 — Jackie Biskupski 2007 — Doug Fadel 2008 — Stan Penfold 2009 — Walt Larabee 2010 — Mark Swonson 2011 — Michael Aaron 2012 — Valerie Larabee 2013 — BRANDIE BALKEN AND CHARLES LYNN FROST (above)

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BODIES OF

PRIDE

Andrew Christian models excited to make Utah debut

Andrew

Christian is much more than just an underwear company. It’s some of the most common underwear featured on go-go boys around the world and a go-to favorite for Pride festivals and other gay gatherings.

Recently, the company launched a series of sexy and steamy videos featuring Andrew Christian models demonstrating all the good a pair of flattering underwear can do.

Four Andrew Christian models – Jason Medina, Cory Lee, Collin Gorham and Johnathan Myers – will be coming to Utah for Pride parties this year. On May 31 and June 2, the models will be at Club JAM. On June 1, the models will be part of The Gay Hot Spot’s event at The Depot in Gateway. We caught up with Medina, Lee and Gorham to see what makes them tick and what turns them on.

Jason Medina Where are you from, originally? I’m from Monterrey, Mexico.

How long have you been working with Andrew Christian? Almost two years.

Have you been to Utah before? If so, what do you remember about your visit?

Yes, I have been to Salt Lake City. It’s a great city and a lot of fun, but a bit cold.

If you could spend a night with any celebrity, who would it be and why? Christina Aguilera. I want to wake up to the sound of her amazing voice.

Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise? Brad Pitt.

Lady Gaga or Madonna? Madonna.

What do you find attractive in a man? The eyes, because they reflect your soul.

When you sleep in a bunk bed, do you prefer the top bunk, the bottom bunk or no preference? The bottom.

Any last words for QSaltLake readers? I’m so excited to be meeting our fans from Salt Lake City and to perform for them. It’s going to be a lot of fun. I can hardly wait!

Collin Gorham Where are you from, originally? I am from Charlotte, North Carolina.

How long have you been working with Andrew Christian? I’ve been with Andrew Christian for just a couple of months.

Have you been to Utah before? I’ve been to Salt Lake City. It’s a beautiful valley.

If you could spend a night with any celebrity, who would it be and why? I would have to go with Daniel Craig from James Bond.

Lady Gaga or Madonna? Madonna.

What do you find attractive in a man? I love competition.

When you sleep in a bunk bed, do you prefer the top bunk, the bottom bunk or do you not have a preference? I’d go with top.

Any last words for QSaltLake readers? Go big or go home!

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Cory Lee Where are you from, originally? I’m from Burnet, Texas How long have you been working with Andrew Christian? For more than a year.

Have you been to Utah before? I have never been to Utah before.

If you could spend a night with any celebrity, who would it be and why? Brad Pitt. After I saw him in Troy I knew for sure I liked boys.

Lady Gaga or Madonna? Lady Gaga.

What do you find attractive in a man? When a guy is really passionate about something they’re good at and love doing. It’s very moving and a huge turn on for me.

When you sleep in a bunk bed, do you prefer the top bunk, the bottom bunk or do you not have a preference? I have no preference if you’re more comfortable on the bottom I’ll take the top, or vice versa.

Any last words for QSaltLake readers? These boys are hot and horny!

Utah Prides’ Grand Marshals From actors to philanthropists, Utah Pride has attracted a diverse crowd to grand marshal the parades. Here’s a list of grand marshals.

1996 — Chasity Bono, now Chaz Bono, is the child of Sonny and Cher. Bono was the first grand marshal of Utah’s Pride Parade.

1997 — Candace Gingrich is the lesbian sister of U.S. Congressman Newt Gingrich.

1998 — Debra Burrington and Charlene Orchard are the founders of the Utah Chapter of the Human Rights Campaign.

1999 — Gay actor Dan Butler, “Bulldog” from the television series Frasier, was official grand marshal while Gary and Millie Watts were our local grand marshals.

2000 — Utah Representative Jackie Biskupski, Utah’s first elected gay woman to the Utah Legislature.

2001 — Salt Lake City Mayor Ross C. “Rocky” Anderson, a strong advocate for queer rights.

2002 — Utah Sen. Alicia Suazo is the wife of Pete Suazo who championed anti-discrimination laws, and Steve Kmetko, host on E! Network.

2003 — Kate Kendall, a Utah native, was

the executive director of National Center for Lesbian Rights.

2004 — Bruce Bastian, WordPerfect co-founder, is a philanthropist and backer of queer-rights measures.

2005 — Utah Sen. Scott D. McCoy, Utah’s first elected gay man to the Utah Legislature.

2006 — J. Boyer Jarvis, a human rights activist and ally to the gay community.

2007 — John Amaechi, a Utah Jazz player, was the first NBA player to speak publicly about being gay.

2008 — Salt Lake City Mayor Ralph Becker has championed queer rights legislation, including a domesticpartnership registry.

2009 — Cleve Jones, founder of the AIDS Quilt.

2010 — Dottie S. Dixon is a beloved fictional character portrayed by local actor Charles Lynn Frost.

2011 — Roseanne Barr is a comedienne and Salt Lake City native.

2012 — Dustin Lance Black is an Oscarwinning screenwriter and queerrights advocate.

2013 — DAVID TESTO IS AN OPENLY GAY SOCCER PLAYER AND CIVILRIGHTS ADVOCATE. (above)

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It’s a drag invasion Drag is so 2013. With drag performers at the Utah Pride Festival as well as four clubs, there’s going to be more tucking, makeup and attitude than ever this year. We chatted with some of the queens to get the “T” on how life’s been since their appearances on RuPaul’s Drag Race. Read full interviews with the queens in this issue, and catch their shows at the following locations:

Chad Michaels

Manila Luzon

Hydrate at Club Sound, May 31, doors open at 10:30 p.m.

Fusion at Metro Bar, Saturday, June 1, doors open at 9:30 p.m.

Ivy Winters and Pandora Boxx Utah Pride Festival, Saturday, June 1, 7 p.m.

Detox, Willam, Vicky Vox and Alyssa Edwards

Shangela and Yara Sofia

The Depot, Saturday, June 1, doors open at 9 p.m.

Fusion at Metro Bar, Friday, May 31, doors open at 9:30 p.m.

Detox Icunt Fresh off

her fourth-place finish in the most recent season of RuPaul’s Drag Race, Detox Icunt will be a headlining performer at The Gay Hot Spot’s Pride event with Willam Belli, Alyssa Edwards and Vicky Vox at The Depot on Saturday, June 1. Detox was a heartbeat away from finishing in the top three. Also known for her rapping in “Chow Down at Chick-filA” and “This Boy is a Bottom,” Detox is gaining fame as a truly imaginative performer.

We caught up with her to kiki and dish the “T” about this season of the Race.

For tickets and information about her show, go to smithstix.com.

Did you enjoy your experience on RuPaul’s Drag Race? I loved it!

What were the biggest challenges you faced on the show? It was stressful and it brought up a lot of suppressed emotions that I never really shook off toward the end.

As an already successful queen with several mega-viral videos, do you think the show raised your profile? Of course! There are several fans of the show that only know of drag through what they see on Race so now

they have the opportunity of getting to know me as well.

What are your biggest regrets of the competition? Allowing myself to get too caught up in my emotions.

Do you think you left too soon? Completely.

Do you think the editing accurately portrayed the dynamic behind the cameras? Not in slightest. The new editing team this year really took more liberties than not. Even the fans could tell.

Is Rolaskatox still in contact with one another? Absolutely!

Madonna or Lady Gaga? Umm, Madonna!

Favorite song to lip sync? “Nothing’s Gonna Stop Us Now” by Starship or “How Can I Ease The Pain” by Lisa Fischer.

What is your biggest fear? Cars and snakes!

Other than Race, what’s your favorite TV show? American Horror Story, among others.

Any last words for “QSaltLake” readers? MYEEESSSSSHHHHH!

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Willam Belli Known

for her dry wit, gorgeous looks and outrageous YouTube videos is Willam Belli. From “Chow Down at Chickfil-A” to “This Boy is a Bottom,” she’s created a unique online and showbiz persona. Her film and TV credits include RuPaul’s Drag Race where she was booted early for breaking the rules by having a midnight rendezvous with her boyfriend.

She was also a featured character on Nip/Tuck. Much more than just a talented drag queen, Willam will be one of the featured performers along with Detox Icunt, Alyssa Edwards and Vicky Vox for the Pride Night celebration at The Depot on June 1. Tickets are available through Smiths Tix and start at $15.

As a queen who has created a career outside of RuPaul’s Drag Race, how Continued on page 58

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Chad Michaels RuPaul’s

Drag Race: All Stars champion, and season four runner-up, Chad Michaels, will bring her fabulous impersonations and styling to Utah for Pride weekend. The all-star diva will perform Friday, May 31, at Hydrate at Club Sound.

We caught up with Michaels to find out her experiences with Utah, what to expect at her show and all about her inspirations. For more information, go to chadmichaels.com.

What have you been up to since appearing on RuPaul’s Drag Race: All Stars? Touring, living, loving and learning.

It’s been an amazing two years and I have really enjoyed getting out on the road and meeting the crazy, beautiful fans of RuPaul’s Drag Race!

I feel like between season four, All Stars and Drag U, we’ve become more familiar with you than perhaps any other drag queen on the show. Do you feel like a celebrity? Do you get recognized in the coffee shop and the airport? I am always true to myself. There is a time and place for “Chad the Star” and “Chad the Private Citizen.” Being a celebrity is not as easy as it seems. Scrutiny and criticism can be cruel and harsh sometimes. Though the show has blessed me with celebrity status, I don’t take it for granted and treat it with the respect it deserves. Celebrity can be a sword that cuts both ways so I try to keep it in perspective. At the end of the day, it is the people in your everyday life who really matter, not the spotlight or the red carpet.

I get recognized the house down and many times when I least expect it. It is kind of cool to know that people get such a charge out of just meeting you and saying hi. These interactions are definitely a benefit of the show, and it’s very fun for me to meet the people who love us so much.

In your two seasons of competition, what was the biggest challenge you faced? I think the biggest challenge I faced in both seasons was conquering that inner voice of doubt. I think this is something we all struggle with, but I have learned to ignore it and actually use it as a tool for success.

When we conquer our fears and insecurities, anything is possible.

What was your favorite part of participating in the show? I loved the entire process of making two seasons of the show, from the actual competition to

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watching the crew work so hard to capture our drama and mess on camera! It is very exciting to be chosen to compete on Drag Race. Going into the competition, one has no idea what is heading his way, and the element of the unknown is both scary and invigorating. It’s like jumping off a cliff and not knowing what awaits you at the bottom. I love thrills!

We know that you’re a fabulous Cher impersonator. Who else would you say inspires you? I’m inspired by so many things, and random things at that. Strong female role models have always been my muses. From Joan Crawford to Meryl Streep, I have learned from them all & how to be fierce, how to be a bitch and how to be a diva. I love film, TV and music and am a major fan of science fiction and fantasy. I always wished as a kid that I was Princess Leia from Star Wars … so that speaks volumes. I also love a female villain.

The dark side of the female intellect has always fascinated me. There is nothing like an evil bitch on a mission to inspire a new performance.

What can we expect to see at your show? I will of course be bringing Cher to Salt Lake City along with some other drag delights to captivate the kiddies! I have worked live Cher banter into my act so the audience can catch up with Cher’s current happenings and maybe even get read by the diva herself. It’s often hard for me to decide what to take on the road because it’s important to me to please my audiences and there are so many different demographics around the country & perhaps something from The Book of Mormon for Salt Lake. I may dig up some tablets or something.

Have you been to Utah before? If so, what do you remember? I have never worked in Salt Lake City before. The airport has a smoking lounge though and I do love that about it!

Do you have any advice for your young, gay fans living in conservative Utah? My advice to young gays living in conservative Utah is to be yourself and to not live in fear of what others may think of you or do to you. This empowers you to walk in the light and truth. Nothing to hide, nothing to fear. We are in the midst of one of the final civil-rights battles our country will face. Now is the time to be visible, vocal and proud.

If you had to choose one book and one

movie to read/watch for the rest of your life, which would they be? The book would be The Shack as it truly spoke to me and helped me acknowledge the feelings I had been suppressing about my father for 25 years. The movie would have to be Mommie Dearest for a lifetime of laughs, drama and lessons on being a temperamental diva.

Britney or Lady Gaga? Lady Gaga, please.

What are your biggest fears? Letting go of fear is something I have been working on for a long time, and it’s becoming easier and easier to say, “Fuck it!” and let things happen as they will. I have always had control issues, and learning to let those go has made my life easier and much more enjoyable. When one realizes that what will be, will be, the pressure is off and you can just enjoy the ride.

Other than drag, what are your biggest passions? My biggest passion is my relationship with my partner of 10 years, Adam Magee. He has truly been my rock; and making sure he is all right through this whole journey has been paramount for me. I have built my career around my life.

By doing this, I never lose sight of what is really important: love, friends and family.

Celebrity and fame are fleeting. Love is forever and you take it with you. I want a lot to take with me. I can’t wait to see you Salt Lake City! Mother Dust is coming! Q

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Manila Luzon Manila Luzon was runner-up in RuPaul’s Drag Race season three and made a splash as a competitive contestant in the All Stars season. Her cross-eyed beauty and signature sense of humor are complimented by her couture fashion sense.

She’ll be the featured performer at Metro Bar on June 1 for a special Pride weekend celebration. We caught up with her to give her a chance to dish all the “T” about her inspiration and motivation.

You’re beautiful, hilarious and damn creative. Where do you find inspiration? Honey, I’m a very visual person, so anything in my line of sight is subject to be turned into drag. I love drawing on nostalgic things, that’s why I am always dressed like a cartoon from my childhood.

I absolutely loved you in both the regular season and the All Stars. After fans got to know you on screen is there anything you’d correct? Anything about you that you’d want your fans to know that wasn’t shown? Well, maybe a few tweaks here and there, but nothing that’s too noteworthy. Probably just edit out a couple shots that caught me in bad lighting or at a bad angle. What’s done is done. I could spend a lifetime regretting shit I’ve done, but ain’t nobody got time for that! But something that the fans didn’t get to see was all the fun we’d have when the cameras were off, and the drama was put on hold until the next day. I actually sneaked footage from behind the scenes at the hotel and put it up on my YouTube channel.

Although you didn’t take home the

Willam Belli (Continued from page 55) did the show change your career? I’ve kept doing what I’ve been doing, but now I have as many fans as Home Depot.

Do you think you got cheated out of a chance to do more in your season of Race? No. You’re known for your sardonic sense of humor. Are there any issues you feel serious about? Fitness, too many people put crap into their bodies.

Do you ever let your guard down without the humor in public? Guard insinuates that I’m defensive about something and

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crown, you’re one of the most popular queens in the history of the show. Do you think the victory process is accurate and is a good representation of drag talent? Drag Race is a show before it’s a competition. I beat out many queens with more beauty and with a hell of a lot more talent, but the key to a show like this is to be able to give what will make the most fun TV to watch, while still being true to who you are. That’s why I’m not mad I got the chop so early from All Stars. It was a big upset and created a lot of drama in the season. Besides, I didn’t win $100,000 but in sales from Latrice and my song “The Chop,” I’m getting pretty close to earning it on my own! GAG! What was the most difficult challenge you had to face while on Race? The challenges are all hard because you are always limited on time and supplies, and you have to do it better than all the other bitches!

But harder than any challenge was when I had to see my fellow contestants go home whom I had become so close. Everything is recorded, but not everything gets aired, and you share these very unique experiences with this small group of people, some I became lifelong friends with, and it was the most difficult to see them go and be unable to go along the journey with them to the end.

If you had to pick one motto to live by, what would it be and why? “Happy are those who smile.” It’s so easy to do, and you can really trick yourself into feeling happy and people like people who are smiling, and so they are happy, too.

Boxers or briefs? Briefs; although, sometimes I need to let that tuck fly free and I’ll wear a pair of boxers.

If you were invisible, where would you go first? I’d probably go fuck with someone and haunt them.

Let’s see how Sharon Needles reacts when I actually start moving around her Ouji board.

What is your biggest fantasy? I’m living it right now!

You’ll be performing at a club in Salt Lake City during Pride. What can we expect to see at your show? Child, I have no idea! But you can expect that I’ll have big hair, sparkly shoes and my eyes will be crossed so hard! I never have expectations when I show up to a new city, that way I’m always pleasantly surprised.

Any last words for “QSaltLake” readers? Come see me at Pride.

Bring your six wives and tips! Q

I’m not. I was a big kid and being funny was the one thing that made me popular. I’m lucky that it’s always been in my wheelhouse.

my friends and I did our thing. He felt safe with it because his friends from his job at NASA ran it and he taught me how to throw a right hook and an uppercut.

Who are your biggest inspirations? Who do you idolize? Missi Pyle, Jack Plotnick, Charles Nelson Rielly, RuPaul, Christine Baranski. Basically great character actors who have multiple genres in which they excel. I mean Jack Plotnick went from Gods & Monsters to Girls Will Be Girls. He’s as versatile as I am bottomy (I also appear in Girls Will Be Girls II, out later this year).

If you could put one male celebrity in drag, who would it be? Neil Patrick Harris.

When did you start dressing in drag?

What got you started? My dad took me to Rocky Horror Picture Show when I was 13 years old and chilled in the car while

What is your favorite body part? I like my ass.

Pepsi or Coke? I don’t really drink soda. It fucks with your vocal cords.

What is your alcoholic drink of choice? Malibu, scotch or tequila. Depends what I plan on coming out of me and going into me later.

Any last words for “QSaltLake” readers? Lakes are God’s toilets. Q

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NIGHTS OF

PRIDE As thousands

of people descend into the city to celebrate the annual Pride Festival, some of the biggest parties are found outside the Festival grounds. With guest drag queens, disc jockeys and more, Pride extends throughout the city.

CLUB TRY-ANGLES: From Thursday, May 30 to Sunday, June 2, the neighborhood bar will be packed with some of the hottest guys in town. After the parade on Sunday, the patio will open for the annual Pride Steak Fry. Park at Try-Angles and take Trax (a block away) to the festival and parade.

251 W. 900 South CLUB JAM: The annual Pride-Idol karaoke competition is well underway, and the winners will be performing at the festival.

JAM is also having Pride parties all week.

Fabby award-winning DJ Harry Cross Jr. will be spinning all weekend and it’s sure to be packed so get there early. On Friday, May 31 and Sunday, June 2, four sexy models from Andrew Christian will be dancing.

751 N. 300 West THE TAVERNACLE: After partying all night on Saturday, making it to the Pride Parade despite the morning hangover might be nearly impossible. Luckily, The Tavernacle has the perfect solution – Bloody Mary and mimosa specials. Conveniently located near the parade route, this is the place to be on Sunday morning to get your pre-festival buzz going. And the Sunday night karaoke is guaranteed to be one of the biggest and best bar-crowds of the weekend.

201 E. 300 South PAPER MOON: The eighth annual White Party on Friday, May 31 will bring all the sexiest and scantily-clad women in Utah to the Paper Moon. This is the place to be for the ladies. Tickets can be purchased at the door, but to avoid lines, stop by the bar before Friday and buy advance tickets.

3737 S. State St. THE TRAPP: Watching all the eye-candy at the parade and festival can be exhausting and builds up quite an appetite, which is why The Trapp has an annual Steak Fry

and Royal Court of The Golden Spike Empire carnival fundraiser on Sunday afternoon. Stop by for some fun, games and a hunk of meat (oh, and the steaks are pretty tasty too.)

102 S. 600 West METRO BAR: This year’s RuPaul’s Drag Race finalists Yara Sofia and Shangela will perform at Metro Bar on Friday, May 31.

On Saturday, June 1, Manila Luzon will be the featured performer.

173 W. 300 South CLUB HYDRATE: The Friday night party will be off-the-hook with headlining circuit DJ Chris B and RuPaul’s Drag Race all star Chad Michaels. Take advantage of

the rooftop patio lounge, and enjoy the views of the dancing mass on the main floor below.

579 W. 200 South CLUB KARAMBA: Salt Lake’s sexiest Latin night will be the place for dancing, drinking and all-around debauchery on Sunday, June 3. With go-go dancers and all the post-pride partying Salt Lake can handle, Club Karamba should not be missed.

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Here is an abbreviated version of our Gay Agenda, as so much of our efforts were focused on Pride, we thought nothing else was happening this month!

The 7th Annual

REDROCK August 9-10, 2012

TOBY Antigone Rising Michelle Malone Jen Foster Jess Furman God Des & She ELLIS Erika Luckett Lisa Ferraro Awna Teixeira & More!

3monday

Pride is over. You’ve partied hard and/or worked your body to the bone creating a float, staffing a booth,scrubbing glitter from your beard. It’s time for a vacation. Club Try-Angles and QSaltLake have teamed up to present the PRIDE RECOVERY RETREAT, an overnight trip to the Montego Bay Casino and Resort in West Wendover, Nev. to soak in the pool and hot tubs, spend the day at the spa, of just do absolutely nothing. Ahhhh. The bus fare gets you a free buffet and a coupon package, as well as a code for discount rooms, which must be reserved by May 31.

Bus leaves Club Try-Angles, 251 W 900 S, at noon. Tickets $25 at the bar. Bus leaves Wendover at noon on Tuesday.

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The Grand America Hotel Grand Ballroom will once again be the setting of the annual HRC UTAH GALA DINNER. Nearly 1,000 of Utah’s most influential citizens will gather at this event to celebrate the strides HRC has made toward achieving equality for our community this past year, while preparing for the work ahead in the year to come. VIP Tickets include a champagne toast, light hors d’oeuvres, drink tickets and early access to the silent auction area. Black tie encouraged.

6pm, Grand America Hotel Grand Ballroom, 555 S Main St., Tickets $175/$225 VIP. utah.hrc.org/dinner

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Come out and help raise money for The Trevor Project at GAY ROCKS. The evening will include music from local bands and artists, as well as poetry performances throughout the night. The event will include a silent auction and raffle, and benefits an organization that provides services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning youth. The band lineup includes Oh Be Clever, September Say Goodbye and many others.

5pm, The Shred Shed, 60 E. Exchange Place. $6 at the door.

ROBBER’S ROOST BOOKSTORE TORREY, UTAH (Rain or Shine) TICKET PRICES: FRIDAY $35 (6-10PM) SATURDAY $45 (NOON-10pm) BOTH DAYS $80 For information on Performers, Housing, Tickets and volunteering visit www.redrockwormensfest.com

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Utah Pride teams with Real Salt Lake for a special night of soccer, family style at UTAH PRIDE AT REAL SALT LAKE. Special discount tickets are available, and for every on purchased, Real Salt Lake will donate $5 back to Utah Pride. We call that a win-win.

7:30pm, Rio Tinto Stadium, 9256 S State St, Sandy. Tickets $20 at realsaltlake.com/tickets/ticket-promotions with promo code PRIDE.

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Natalie Maines

Gets Real

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

To quote

a Dixie Chicks song, fearless frontwoman Natalie Maines has “been a longtime gone.”

Seven years after one of the most successful country music acts released Taking the Long Way, and its unapologetic single “Not Ready to Make Nice” in response to the singer’s political dig at then-President George W. Bush, Maines goes her own way for her first-ever solo album, Mother. Parting with longstanding bandmates Emily Robison and Martie Maguire for the album (don’t worry, she says there’s a “50/50” chance for a reunion LP), it’s also decidedly not country.

In our recent chat, Maines revealed why she went rock (country “seemed so fake”), how being disowned – and her new short hair – made her feel closer to the gay community and whether now, a decade after her Bush outburst, she’s ready to make nice.

You’re sporting that punkish ’do; before, with the Dixie Chicks, it was the long, blond locks. I know. Well, with the Chicks, I definitely felt like I was playing dress up a bit – but I liked it!

Are you conscious of your look and how it represents the music? With two kids, there’s not enough time in the day to spend on what I look like; this is a much easier look. And it fits my personality more. I had short hair growing up, and it always felt right for me.

Has the short hair scored you more lesbian cred? (Laughs) I barely leave my house. So maybe. But the lesbians liked me already!

Yeah, this is definitely a

lesbianish haircut I’ve got going on. I don’t mind. I love Rachel Maddow. She would be my lesbian girl crush.

Why Rachel? She’s hot! And she’s smart and beautiful … and I like her hair.

I could see it working out between you two. Yeah, I think that would work. I don’t know if my husband or her girlfriend would think so. (Laughs) You’ve always had a really loyal gay fan base, even before you publicly chastised George W. Bush. How do you explain your connection with gay fans? We had

some very costume-y, over-the-top looks that the gays do appreciate. (Laughs) But after the controversy, I feel like there was even more of a connection, and that’s just because we both know how it feels to be hated just for who we are – not for doing anything, bothering anyone, murdering anyone or being arrested. Just for being us.

Apparently, that’s not good in some people’s eyes. But also, too, to just continue being and let other people get used to it – learning to be OK with yourself and just putting it out there, and people can either like you or not, but it’s really on them.

Were you noticing more support from the gay community at shows after the incident? Yeah. And we would get lots of emails, and a lot of the community would come right up and say, “I love that you did this. I didn’t listen to your music before, but after this, I went and bought every record.” However it was that they showed their support, I definitely felt it.

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During the time country radio blacklisted the Dixie Chicks and country stars stopped supporting you, what was it like for you behind the scenes? At the time, I was just in fight mode and feeling defiant and ready to take on everything and everybody. Actually, at the time, we were getting such overwhelming support and letters from people in the industry – actors and all sorts of people – and that was all really positive. I was always able to separate business from personal – and my friends weren’t fellow country artists, so I really didn’t care about that. What I cared about was being banned at a corporate level; it felt very un-American and very not OK to me, so that was my issue. And that is my issue with country music.

I don’t have an issue with country music fans. I don’t have an issue with country music artists. I was very honest about my influences and the kind of music I came from – and country was not it. I say that now and people think, “Ooh, she’s mad at country,” and I never listened to country.

I would say that if ever asked, but I was never asked as much as I am now. But … I can’t remember what I was talking about.

(Laughs)

were asked them, and I always supported women’s rights and gay marriage and everything.

You were talking about not being fond of the country music industry. Oh, you asked if I felt let down. I mean, it did suck to see all these radio stations cave so quickly to emails and phone calls they were getting and feed the controversy, which was so really nothing and ridiculous. That did feel like a stabbing in the back, just because I felt like we waved that country flag and we had country pride for all those years. But everyone jumped on board. We were fun to hate.

Will there ever be another Dixie Chicks album? I don’t know. It’s possible. I’d say 50/50. (Laughs) I try to not predict the future or project; I just really try to live in the now, so I’m open to it. I have no ill feelings about the Dixie Chicks. I think right now, it’s logistics. There are eight kids among the three of us and, for me, making an album takes a lot of focus and a lot of concentration and a lot of time, and I’m not willing to go to Texas to do that. I wouldn’t expect Martie and Emily to leave their families and come here to do that, either. I just think it’s really hard right now.

That’s because you were ahead of your time. Exactly. Always have been.

When hardly anyone in country music was speaking out about equal rights and gay marriage, you were. Well, that’s why I was so shocked that people were so shocked that I was a Democrat and wasn’t for the war! I mean, I did not ever feel like I was hiding something. To be in country music, I felt like we were accepted because of our differences, really, and we went beyond your typical country fan base, and I feel like it was because we were different. It was a real surprise to me that people thought I was something that I wasn’t. I felt disappointed in myself! How could I let anyone think anything else?! (Laughs) But we did always answer questions if we

Why do you think more country music artists haven’t taken that step in publicly supporting equal rights – even though some of them might? Well, they weren’t speaking out about it before, either. But I’m sure some do. How I always viewed country music growing up – why I didn’t really relate to it or why I wasn’t drawn to it – was because, to me, it seemed so fake.

Everyone was putting on these fake smiles, nobody had any anger and they were all just happy to be there. I just did not relate to that. Shoot. What was your question again? I get so on a soapbox! (Laughs) About the lack of country artists advocating for equal rights. I just think that’s the nature of country music. I don’t know. I just don’t feel like they ever have. I have to think that Faith Hill has answered that question, honestly, and that she’s for gay marriage. I don’t know that she is, but I’ve spoken to her some and I know that she’s a pretty liberal person. I don’t keep up with her press so I don’t want to assume these people haven’t spoken out.

With the Dixie Chicks, you covered several Patty Griffin songs, and Mother features Griffin’s song “Silver Bell.”

What is it about Patty and her songwriting that resonates with you so much? The darkness? The realness? It’s all of that.

I’m bad putting into words things like that, but I love her songwriting. And I hate her because, not only has she written a million songs that are out there, she’s got all these songs that we’ve never even heard. It’s so hard to write a song for me! And I’m so jealous that she has, like, back stock.

Why was the seven years between Taking the Long Way and this new solo album a necessary break for you? Basically

because kids take a lot of time. (Laughs) I just decided to dive into motherhood and do that 100 percent – just try to enjoy this time and my life and my kids’ lives and be, you know, a stable force in their lives.

I definitely felt like I had worked really hard and been on the road for over 10 years, so I did want to slow down and just get real for a while. So there was a lot of self-realization and a lot of things that went on, but yeah, I needed a long while to just … be.

Why was the distinction between this album and your work with the Dixie Chicks important to you? It’s just bugged me whenever I would see lead singers do a solo album that sounded exactly like their band. It always seemed to be a way to get all the money for yourself. (Laughs) So I did want to be different. But I didn’t have to be conscious of that; this is just what I’m naturally drawn to.

When we went into the studio, we didn’t even know we were making a record. I was very upfront about that with Ben (Harper’s) band, just because they were basically coming (to the studio) for free every day; they enjoyed music and they wanted to experiment and see what happens – but I wasn’t telling my management or my label, so there was no money coming from anywhere.

It was really like a band starting from scratch, everybody putting in the same amount of time and hard work … and they got paid eventually. (Laughs) There just wasn’t a discussion; it was just very organic in what naturally comes to me musically or appeals to me.

Are you ready to make nice yet? I don’t sit around stewing over it or thinking about it at all, but if making nice means making a country record and going back to that, then no, I’m not ready.

Has there been a peace agreement between you and Toby Keith? Sure, I’ve got no issues. I don’t even think about any of these people. (Laughs) I wouldn’t have even thought of Toby Keith if he hadn’t put out a picture of me and Saddam Hussein cuddling.

He could’ve at least had you cuddling with Rachel Maddow. Gosh. (Laughs) Exactly! Q Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at www.chris-azzopardi.com.

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music

Gay Rocks to raise money for The Trevor Project

In its

second year, the Gay Rocks event in Salt Lake City will raise funds for The Trevor Project, which provides suicide prevention counseling for youth. Gay Rocks will feature local bands and local and national poets, and will take place June 15, 5 p.m., at the Shred Shed, 60 E. Exchange Place.

The bands and musicians will include Oh, Be Clever, Johanna, Katie Ainge, Rhubarb Jam, September Say Goodbye and Vinyl Tapestries. The poets will include Karlee Berezay, Tori Lindsay, DeAnn Emett, Patrick Ohslund, Jordan Ranft and Seth Walker.

“I love what The Trevor Project is about. So many

LGBT youth suffer from depression and are in need of that extra help,” said event organizer Ash Houghton. “The event will be a fundraiser for all ages. It’s a little different than a lot of other fundraisers and there will be something for everyone.”

The music is mostly indie pop and acoustic folk, Hough-

ton said. The environment will be mellow and laid back – a perfect opportunity to meet other queer and local music supporters, she said. Last year’s event attracted dozens of people and helped the organizers spread the word and gain more support for the show.

“Last year went so well and it’s already grown so much.

This is a way to reach an alternative crowd and have a good time while raising money for a good cause,” Houghton said.

In addition to the concert, there will be a silent auction and the organizers are asking for donations. For more information, go to the Facebook event: on.fb.me/12wVwyR. Donations can also be made at giveforward.com/gayrocks. The Trevor Project is the leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and questioning youth.

HEAR ME OUT

Nick Rimando RSL goalkeeper, devoted father,

AMY GRANT, HOW MERCY LOOKS FROM HERE What’s Amy Grant been up to in the 10 years since her last studio album? Living. There’s no “Baby Baby” on the Christianpop darling’s long-gestated work, because these songs are formed from wisdom and reality: seizing the day (“Our Time Is Now” with Carole King), love’s boundlessness (“Deep As It Is Wide” with Sheryl Crow and Eric Paslay; a threesome pulled off masterfully) and a vow of acceptance (“Golden,” a welcome throwback to Grant’s ’80s catalog). Life at 52 also means confronting grief and sadness; the inspiring title track carries the burden of both, as does the somber “Shovel in Hand.” Those songs, like all of Mercy, aren’t pretty pop – but they’re real.

9th Annual HRC Utah

GALA DINNER Saturday, June 8, 2013 The Grand America Hotel 5:00 VIP Reception 5:30 General Reception & Auction 7:00 Dinner Please join the HRC Utah Steering Committee and Gala Co-Chairs Dustin Schrecengost, Michael Fifield and Sean Mehew on Saturday, June 8 for Utahâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s 9th Annual HRC Utah Gala Dinner & Silent Auction held at the Grand America.

Nearly 1,000 of Utahâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s most influential citizens will gather at this event to celebrate the strides HRC has made toward achieving equality for our community this past year, while preparing for the work ahead in the year to come.

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Chad Griffin

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Frenchie Davis

HRC President

US Representative (AZ-9)

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For tickets and more information, please visit utah.hrc.org/dinner.

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BY MATT ANDRUS AND JOSH JONES

The second

generation of Cannella’s running the family restaurant are still putting the same amount of love into the operation their father did when he opened it 35 years ago. It’s neighborly and full of charm with a great bar and outdoor patio; readers will appreciate the Equality and rainbow stickers proudly placed on the front door. The food is classic Italian with enough flair and adventure to keep things interesting.

Alberto’s special daily soups became a fast favorite during our multiple visits to Cannella’s. A Roasted Red Pepper soup balanced the flavors of sweet and smoky in creamy, buttery combination, while the Spinach-Artichoke soup popped with bright artichoke flavor.

The house salad is another can’t-miss option, with mozzarella, cucumbers, chickpeas, beets, and pepporincini. It’s especially good with the house dressing, which marries a classic Italian dressing with the bite of bleu cheese. The Chicken Caesar was very fresh, but we found the dressing a little sweeter and more lemony than typical.

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But the standout sandwich was the Beef and Brie -- braised brisket and flavorful brie with tomato and a horseradish aioli on a ciabatta bun. This was, truly, an amazing and unique sandwich.

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tender for the ultimate comfort food. The Pappardelle Bolognese was outstanding -perfectly cooked noodles in a tomato sauce of veal, pork, and pancetta, topped with red peppers and blue cheese that added a tangy counterpoint to the rich meatiness.

The menu features two lasagnas, in meat and vegetarian options. Both were terrific, but we’d recommend the meat version, featuring a roasted pepper sauce and an unexpected balsamic reduction providing a really nice acidic balance.

Dinner brings an appetizer menu full of solid choices like the bruschetta, with a hint of anise flavor; or the antipasto platter which features pickles, almonds, sausage, prosciutto, and three seasonal cheeses. The Steamed Mussels and Clams are cooked in a delicious white wine garlic broth, but suffered from

a chewiness that may have been the result of overcooking. The sausage and meatball appetizer, however, brought together a nice sweet meatball with an absolutely heavenly spicy sausage, which possesses a magical heat that sneaks up you. (Not the first time I’ve gone to bed dreaming of sweet balls and a hot sausage.)

Pastas at Cannella’s are cooked perfectly, and the menu contains a lot of classic dishes, such as the Spaghetti with meatballs and a Turkey Tetrazzini that feels like a con-

The Chicken Masala had a nice earthy mushroom flavor, but the thick and creamy sauce threatened to overwhelm the chicken. The Halibut special, however, was perfectly cooked, tempting even the nonfish eaters in the crowd.

The wine list at Cannela’s is not huge but it is wide. (That’s better than long and narrow, I always say) It features a nice range of Italian and American wines.

An absolutely standout cocktail menu contains some unique and tasty items, such as The Presbyterian (bourbon, ginger beer, soda & fresh lemon).

With good service from an attentive and knowledgeable staff, and by adding modern updates to classic Italian, you can see why Cannella’s has lasted 35 years. Q

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cocktail chatter

The Gin Rickey

BY ED SIKOV

“Whatcha makin’, hot stuff?” I was at the kitchen island mixing an experimental drink; I felt the hand slip around my stomach and jumped slightly before I heard the coo in my ear. Dan never calls me “hot stuff,” so I knew it wasn’t him. But whose hand was suddenly tweaking my right nipple?

“Chipper! You dog!” I gave a slight shiver and felt a certain stirring.

“Seriously, tiger,” Chipper cooed. “Can I try it?”

“My nipple or my drink?” I inquired in a lewd tone. Chipper made a growling noise and started to work on a hickey on my neck. I shook him off, finished making the cocktail and handed it to him.

Wasting no time, he took a sizeable gulp.

“Yikes!” he said. “That’s strong! Strong but good!

What’s it called?”

“Loooo-cyyyyy?!” was my response.

“The Ethel?”

“Good guess, but no. Close, though.”

“Certainly not ‘The Fred.’ Not even you would name a drink ‘The Fred.’”

“Indeed not,” I sniffed. “Not ‘The Fred.’”

“The Ricky?”

“Right!” I cried. “You win the prize,” at which point I whirled around and grabbed his nuts.

“Yes,” I said. “It’s a Gin Rickey. What do you think?”

“It’s fabulous!” Chipper enthused. “What’s in it?”

“Gin and lime juice and seltzer and that’s all, except for the ice.”

“Wait a minute,” Chipper said. “I thought that was a Collins.”

“Good catch, shortstop!” I said. “A Rickey is a Collins without sugar and with lime juice instead of lemon. But like a Collins, a Rickey can be made with….” “… various kinds of liquors.” Dan was finishing my sentence for me. “Rum, bourbon, even Scotch.”

“Very good,” I said with a certain edge to my voice. “Would you like me to throw one in your face?”

“No, thank you, darling dearest,” Dan coolly replied. “Just make me a standard Gin Rickey, and don’t be stingy with the gin.”

THE GIN RICKEY 3 Tbsp. Beefeater gin 2 Tbsp. lime juice, either bottled or fresh (1 lime’s worth, if the lime is juicy) Seltzer Lime wedge garnish (optional) Put some ice in a highball glass (a tumbler); add the gin, juice and seltzer in that order. That’s all, folks! Q Ed Sikov is the author of the e-book, “The Boys’ and Girls’ Little Book of Alcohol,” a novel with recipes based on his Cocktail Chatter column.

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Ever since her rootsy 1996 debut Living with Ghosts, Patty Griffin has found inspiration in the deep, dark corners of life. Written in the midst of her father’s death, American Kid serves to honor him in the best way Griffin knows how: with song. Griffin go-tos, like mortality and loneliness, reoccur in the elaborately painted snapshots that play out like chapters of a book – each one taking you closer to the end of a story. That bitter end is “Gonna Miss You When You’re Gone,” a glimmer of hope in her grief. The wistful opener, “Go Wherever You Wanna Go,” imagines eternal rest as the release of life’s burdens. But this isn’t a dedication that merely mourns. In fact, it doesn’t do much of that at all. It remembers. Sung in first person, the man in “Irish Boy” and “Faithful Son” is an overlooked wallflower – a war vet who went his whole life doing unto others and still slipped through the cracks. “Little children came and grew, moved away and never knew who I was or who I am; no, they never knew this lonely man,” Griffin laments on the latter, as a guitar waxes with escalating percussion and an ethereal voiced Robert Plant carrying out the track like a spirit sailing off to the sky. Capturing scenes from everyday life, American Kid riffs on an abandoned mutt (heartbreaker “Wild Old Dog”), a frisky fella courting his new wife (“Get Ready Marie,” her most playful song ever) and transcendence (spiritual “Ohio”). It sweeps the earthiness of Living with Ghosts into a sublime Americana sound with the heart and soul – and certainly the songs – of Patty at her prime. In a career repertoire of highs, this one goes all the way to the heavens.

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James Blake doesn’t care if you rip his sophomore album for free. He said so in a recent interview, noting that the label is not in agreement with his very generous marketing strategy (oh, I wonder why).

Blake is either really modest with his music, or he’s selling the prowess on display during Overgrown so short – it doesn’t get shorter than free – he’s unconcerned with profiting from it. But he certainly deserves to. Having claimed a fair amount of indie clout with 2011’s self-titled debut, the English virtuoso ambles into the same electro “post-dubstep” lushness that scored him a Mercury Music Prize nod that year. This time, Blake approaches his work with even more refined precision and the delicately winsome soundscapes that summon the abstractness, wonder and dream states of Bon Iver and Sigur Rós – all the while, his meltyvoiced endearment pulls you in like the tide. The title track’s cascading piano is swallowed by a whorl of sound euphoria; “Life Round Here” fuzzes and sizzles into a hooky soul hypnosis (it also features an unforgettable thread: “Everything feels like a touchdown on a rainy day”); “DLM” strips back the atmospherics for just a simple melody and still mesmerizes. Even the rap Wu-Tang Clan leader RZA lays down on “Take a Fall for Me” jibes with Blake’s subtly melodic and stunningly cinematic work.

Overgrown is the kind of outré album that commands quietly with its minimalism and soothing sensitivity, as it frames a world of majestic sonic grace. That sounds like something that deserves some monetary recognition, don’t you think?

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Rediscovering a sense of self

BY ROCK MAGEN

Recently,

I returned to New York City for a work trip and extended my stay to include time for seeing friends, family and enjoying the city that I love. It was a chance to “re-charge” myself if you will; you see, I have always felt that I fit-in better there. But this time, as I was walking through a street fair in Chelsea, I saw what makes NYC so unique – it embraces everyone!

The joke was always that if you felt unattractive or if you were having a bad day, you could just go take a walk through Chelsea and after being “cat-called,” you would feel better. I’ll not deny that my stroll through Chelsea helped boost my ego, but it also reminded me of how these residents have glorified themselves in diversity.

With Gay Pride approaching, I think it’s time we began to think of our community and find those things that make us unique. Something I have always loved about the lasting friendships I have made along the way is that each person has embraced his or her quirks.

They know what makes them special, they know what they do or do not like, and they do not allow any sort of mainstream influence sway their beliefs. Pride is about celebrating what makes us unique and nonconforming.

So, what makes people unique? My uniqueness is in my personality, my charm and the way I pull of a fedora like Frank Sinatra – things that extend beyond my physical beauty. Pride is exciting, but in

the excitement, don’t allow for others to dictate who you are and how your represent yourself. Rise above the mediocre chorus that justifies actions “because they are gay,” and

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ARIES March 20–April 19 Aries can make their best moves and burst on the scene with great ideas and big opinions.

If you ever had a hankering to broadcast your message globally, do it now. Focus on what is most important, research your facts and check your sources. The point is to build credibility for change. Start a blog, break through the cyber fog.

TAURUS April 20–May 20 Money becomes the be all and end all for Taureans.

Will you carefully plan for future riches or spend what little you have on some crackpot get rich quick scheme? Hmmm. Try to rein in your greedy tendencies and proceed with caution. Do your fiscal research and seek good advice. Then take charge, and I don’t mean credit card.

GEMINI May 21–June 20 Geminis are never the shy types and now it’s time to chart your course for any new direction over the next year. Don’t get caught up in the details — Look at the big picture, plan your grand schemes and plant the seeds. You are focused on what is important and can hit the jackpot. All eyes are upon you. Uh, is your fly open?

CANCER June 21–July 22 Your Pandora’s Boxx of secrets bursts open.

It’s all good. Anything hidden becomes front page news — even hidden enemies are unmasked and vanquished. Not a moment too soon!

know the reasons for how and why you represent yourself the way you do. To quote Bernadette Peters: “You’ve got to be original, because if your like someone else, what do they need you for?”

By no means do I want SLC to become Chelsea, but what I do want is for each person here to discover what makes them unique. Look past what popular culture and tradition

dictate is “correct” and find what is right for you. Pride is a celebration of all in the LGBT community, and by default, a celebration of each individual. Find what makes you special, unique if you will, and celebrate it how you feel is the most fitting. Not everyone can be a “Chelsea Boy,” but everyone has the potential to be someone worth being celebrated. Q

Cancers are given a rare opportunity to clean out the cobwebs and dust from the corners of their life. Don’t sweep it under a rug.

SAGITTARIUS Nov. 22– December 20.

You have quite a few great ideas on how to improve your partnership now. But are you putting your platform to a vote or will you overthrow the system, take control and institute your own laws?

If you decide to push your opinions, it may become an all or nothing situation. Power can make you a petty dictator.

LEO July 23–August 22 If you think you’re a mover and shaker, you probably are. The platonic heat is on this month, so don’t sit back and wait for a delivery. Join a new, unorthodox group like umen.org or bring a few close compadres together for a mutual admiration lunch.

VIRGO August 23–Sep. 22 Virgos can’t help but be overly confident in their careers now. You make no bones about what you feel you deserve and where you see yourself going in that great professional arena. Allow the powers that be to push you in the right direction and then position yourself for success.

LIBRA Sept 23–October 22 Long term goals and global ideas catch fire. Ouch!

This is no time to stay home and contemplate your navel. Rouse yourself, pack your bags and head to parts unknown to aggressively explore new terrain. You never know what (or who) you will find.

Even legal battles can be fought and won now. Just show them your briefs and rest your case.

SCORPIO Oct. 23–Nov. 21 You are a complex soul: moody, sensual, emotional and intuitive. There is something about you that draws people in and distills their very essence. Turnaround is fair play. Scorpios can be boiled in their own sexy broth now. The sensual possibilities are endless.

CAPRICORN Dec. 21– Jan. 19 Let’s face it — you’re a fairly hardworking individual. And you are in your element this week.

Even terribly hard work seems easy.

So get that elbow grease going and whittle down that massive stack of work. As long as you’re putting out the effort, try a little elbow grease on your physique.

AQUARIUS Jan. 20–Feb. 18 Fun finds you. You get into all sorts of interesting situations and find creative ways to make each one memorable and valuable. Plucky Aquarians are even pluckier this week. Yet there is a downside. Your overconfidence could lead you to take unreasonable risks. Bet with someone else’s money, just in case.

PISCES Feb 19–Mar 19 What is on your domestic agenda? Will you increase spending or rely on cuts to nurse you in your old age? Don’t buy what the powers that be are selling. You see through their little games. You are smarter, bolder and uncompromising with your long term security this week. Feather your own pillow for a cushy landing.

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the dating diet You Really Like Me. ANTHONY PAULL

Can someone tell me the name of the guy my friend Pete is dating? I want to find him on Facebook, but Pete won’t give me any leads. He thinks I’ll go blabbing about it in my column. He’s like, “I don’t want the country knowing what I put in my butt.”

And I’m like, “Don’t be so full of yourself.

It’s not like you’re putting anything significant up there.” That’s when Pete stopped returning phone calls. The other day, I was informed he’s ignoring me by spending nights huddled up on a couch with his new man and a Netflix subscription. He doesn’t need me. That is ’til tonight when he blows up my phone. No ‘hello’ or ‘how are ya’ – he gets right down to business.

“I can’t take it,” he says. “Get this. My boyfriend’s mad because I won’t accept his friend request on Facebook.”

“Then just do it.”

He huffs. “That’s something a man has to earn.”

I can’t help but laugh. “Let me get this straight.

You’ll open the floodgates to your ass but…”

He interrupts. “I keep a healthy boundary online. I don’t have time to explain my life to him.”

Pete is talking about the photos and updates about past boyfriends that he’d rather keep secret. It’s a sticky situation, allowing a virtual yearbook to follow your every move. What will his new man think when he sees pics of drunk and slutty Pete in the Keys? Are those Pete’s balls slipping out of his Speedos? Whoops! Pete usually finds it humorous until a new man comes along and questions his ethics. In the past, Pete has lost boyfriends due to racy pics and posts. So he’s cautious about his online presence.

“So what’s the problem?”

He hesitates. “I know where letting him on my Facebook page will lead. Next, he’ll want me to update my status to state that we’re in a relationship. Then what? We become that boring couple? I can’t keep him by getting pregnant.

I’m not that fortunate.”

Still, fearing a breakup, Pete caves the next day, allowing his new man on his page. He tags him in a beach pic where he refers to him as the ‘the next big thing.’ It’s a nice gesture ’til it leads to more drama.

“See? This is how Facebook ruins relationships,” he says. “I announce that I’m in a relationship and I get two likes.”

“Perhaps nobody saw it,” I say. “Who cares?”

“I do. My relationship is worth more than two likes.” He pauses, thinking for a second. “Shit.

What if nobody thinks he’s cute?”

I gasp. “I can’t believe you just said that.

You’re basing the worth of your man on likes?”

“Yeah, it’s stupid. But think about it. On Facebook, my balls are more popular than my boyfriend. How am I supposed to live with that?” Q

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The tale of wake me up before you go

BY PETUNIA PAP SMEAR

The road

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naked thigh. (Oh sweet mystery of life!)

In order for his massive shoulders to fit, and excitement. it became necessary for him to drape his exposed arm around my shoulders, thus he It’s Pride time again and as the Matrons was slightly turned toward me, ending up of Mayhem and I prepare our float for the breathing in my ear. pride parade, I’m all aquiver with exciteDespite the excellence of Queertanic’s ment. I’m reminded of a Pride Day long air conditioning, I became moist with ago, during the Cretaceous period, when exhilaration. Giddy with desire, throwing the diamonds in my tiara were still coal. A caution to the wind, with the expectation few of us Logan queens decided to make a of increasing the probability of “accidenweekend of it, travel to Salt Lake City to tal” contact, I removed my opera-length go bar hopping on Saturday evening and driving gloves. As I reached out to adjust then spend the night in a motel room. the climate controls, my arm “just natuThere were eight of us in our happy rally” brushed up against his massive chest. little band, including a new drop-dead Consequently, I found it absolutely necesgorgeous hunk Peter, fresh from a farm sary to keep adjusting the controls every in Wyoming. Peter, excited for his very five minutes. I found the entire journey to first Pride Day, was barely contained by be quite a “firm” experience (wink, wink, a pair of short shorts, ala George Michael nudge, nudge). in Wham, exposing his perfectly muscled After spending several lustful hours legs, and a tight-fitting tank top from at the bar, drinking way too many drinks which his sculpted, tanned and toned and watching Peter work up a glistenshoulders were protruding prodigiously. ing sweat on the dance floor, we dragged His swooning appearance quickly became ourselves to a motel. Fortunately, three of the object of all of our lustful Prince my sisters had found “companionship” at Charming fantasies. the bar and went home with them. Since The eight of us piled into Queertanic, there were five of us left and only two my 1975 Buick Electra luxury land yacht queen beds, it became necessary for three for the journey. Through much passive people to share one bed. I was crestfallen aggressive manipulation on my part, Peter when a quick appraisal of the prodigious ended up riding in the front seat, next size of us queens and fearing his life might to me. By necessity of the crowded car, be extinguished by being sandwiched his massive muscular body was pressed between two of us, Peter volunteered to up against mine. Due to the heat, in an sleep on the floor. In my drunken state, unseemly departure from my regular forand with hormones raging, I was sure that mal prom gown attire, I was also wearing if the rest of these “hateful bitches” would shorts, sans panty hose, so it ended up that just give us some privacy, Peter and I could his naked thigh was pressed against my make beautiful sweet Cryptogram: Life is like a paycheck - a generous figure is PUZZLE SOLUTIONS “Pride” together. always nice.

Anagram: DAVID TESTO Without fanfare, the object of my desires stripped down to his “well-packed” skivvies and lay by my feet, as I drifted off into alcohol-induced dreams.

Some time later, I was awakened by Peter softly caress-

ing my foot, which was hanging haplessly over the edge of the bed. I lay motionless, my “spidy” senses suddenly in gear. After a few more minutes, I felt another secretive loving stroke. Now horny and wide awake, I lay absolutely motionless. My mind raced with lustful anticipation. How dangerous, in a room full of other people, for Peter to make a silent, clandestine advance in the dreamy, hushed darkness. I was extremely relieved that I had applied fresh toenail polish the day before. I desired to communicate that I was amenable to this, so I moved my foot a few more inches over the edge, thus making myself even more available to be fondled. Over the next several hours, I lay there, sleepless, tense with licentious anticipation, inching farther and farther off the bed with each stroke. My mind was filled with visions of Peter wrapping his arms around me, kissing me from head to toe, and then engaging in full-on sex while the others remained asleep and unaware. My heart was pounding more fiercely than if my electrical boobies had short-circuited and given me an accidental defibrillation. The danger of being discovered is so hot!

I had moved so far to the edge that I was perilously close to toppling onto the floor.

My leg muscles were beginning to cramp.

I would not be able to maintain this position very long. Surely Peter could see I wanted to oblige his advances and would draw me to him. Finally, the cold light of morning peeked in between the curtains. I was demoralized to realize that Peter was fast asleep and it was air blowing from the vent that had been moving the bedsheet against my foot. As the others awoke well rested, I arose with muscle cramps in my legs, sleep deprived and with unrequited hormones pent up to the bursting level.

Peter was none the wiser.

As always, these events leave us with several eternal questions: 1 Is a hunk like Peter the origin of the term Farm Fresh?

2. Do you think Peter believed me when I said I was adjusting the air conditioning so often because of menopausal hot flashes?

3. Should a queenly hot flash be called a Royal Flush?

4. Should I engineer a defibrillator into my electrical chesticles?

These and other important questions to be answered in future chapters of: The Perils of Petunia Pap-Smear. Q

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