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AUSTRALIAN COURT OVERTURNS GAY MARRIAGE LAW Australia’s High Court has overturned legislation allowing gay marriage in the Australian Capital Territory. The ACT parliament passed a bill in October making the territory the first part of Australia to legalize same-sex marriages. The national government challenged the decision, saying it was inconsistent with federal law. Some 27 couples who married since the law came into effect last weekend will now have their unions declared invalid. The court said the issue should be decided by parliament — which in 2012 voted down gay marriage legislation.

APPLE CEO SAYS CONGRESS MUST PASS ENDA Openly gay Apple CEO Tim Cook took the opportunity while accepting the Lifetime Achievement Award from his alma mater, Auburn University, on Dec. 10 to encourage Congress to pass protections for gay and transgender people. “These values have also recently guided us to support legislation that demands equality and non-discrimination for all employees, regardless of how they love,” He said. “This legislation, known as the Employment Non-Discrimination Act, prohibits discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation or gender identity. I have long believed in this, and Apple has implemented protections for employees, even when the laws did not. Now is the time to write these principles of basic human dignity into the book of law.”

INDIA’S TOP COURT UPHOLDS LAW CRIMINALIZING GAY SEX The Indian Supreme Court has reversed a landmark 2009 Delhi High Court order which had decriminalized homo-

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news The top things you should know happened last month (Full stories at gaysaltlake.com.) sexual acts, saying it was up to parliament to legislate on the issue. According to Section 377, a 153-year-old colonial-era law, a same-sex relationship is an “unnatural offence” and punishable by a 10-year jail term. Activists say although the law has rarely, if ever, been used to prosecute anyone for consensual sex, it has often been used by the police to harass homosexuals.

SAME-SEX WEDDINGS BEGIN IN HAWAII, CHALLENGES KEEP COMING Dozens of Hawaii gay and lesbian couples began marrying at midnight on January 2 under the state’s new marriage equality law. But one GOP legislator, Rep. Bob McDermott, is still determined to stop same-sex marriage in the Aloha State, and will head to court in January with a challenge to the law. He claims a preexisting law prohibits the legislature from enacting a marriage equality law. He might push for an annulment of all the licenses issued to same-sex couples.

U.S. POPULATION UNDER EQUAL MARRIAGE LAWS DOUBLES IN 2013 In January of this year, 57 million people lived in states with marriage equality. Now, 11 months later, the country is about to hit 114 million in states where marriage has passed. It is possible that New

Mexico may be added by the end of the year. At the current rate of expansion every state in America would have equal marriage rights by 2020, though we know such data tends to be exponential, meaning the South and Utah may take until 3020. California makes up a large chunk of that surge, of course. But Hawaii and Illinois are in there, too. Hawaii’s marriages start on December 2, and they’ll start sometime next year in Illinois.

WITH NEW HIV RESEARCH, FDA MAY ALLOW GEY MENT TO DONATE BLOOD A push by activists to ease the 30-year-old blanket ban on blood donations from gay and bisexual men faces a key test this month as a federal panel hears results of the latest research. The findings will be released amid growing pressure from politicians and advocates, including college students, to change the policy. Critics say the ban is a hangover from the early, fear-filled days of AIDS, stigmatizing gay men and ignoring advances in treatment and detection in the decades since. Supporters of the policy say politics, not science, is driving the proposed change, which would heighten the risk of spreading HIV, when the medical demand for blood donations is decreasing.

GLAAD NAMES NEW PRESIDENT GLAAD announced media executive Sarah Kate Ellis will become the media watchdog’s next president. Ellis is currently the senior vice president of global marketing at Martini Media, which specializes in online branding and public relations. She previously worked at Time Inc. where she co-chaired the publisher’s LGBT employee organization. Ellis and her wife, Kristen Ellis-Henderson, are also the first same-sex couple to get married at an Episcopal church in New York. “While our community has made great strides in recent years, our movement has an important and critical journey,” Ellis said. “Together with our dedicated staff, I will push for a culture where everyone in the LGBT community is fully welcomed and respected by our neighbors. I look forward to leading GLAAD and creating a world where LGBT people and our families have the freedom to joyously — and openly — live a life they love.”

COLO. COURT RULES BAKERY ILLEGALLY DISCRIMINATED AGAINST GAY COUPLE A Colorado judge today determined that a Lakewood bakery unlawfully discriminated against a gay couple by refusing to sell them a wedding cake. David Mullins and Charlie Craig visited Masterpiece Cakeshop last year, with Craig’s mother, to order a cake for their upcoming wedding reception. Mullins and Craig planned to marry in Massachusetts and then celebrate with family and friends back home in Colorado. Masterpiece owner Jack Phillips informed them that because of his religious beliefs the store’s policy was to deny service to customers who wished to order baked goods to celebrate a samesex couple’s wedding.

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Utah Pride stalls the release of their financials BY BOB HENLINE

Utah Pride Center Board President John Netto is backing away from a promise to release financial statements of the organization within the 30-day window mentioned at the first “talking circle” meeting Oct. 30. On Monday, the interim executive committee, consisting of Netto, Chris Wharton, and Marva Match (all of whom have since been reelected to the executive committee), made the decision to withhold the financial statements until such time as they have been audited. In an email response to QSaltLake, Netto explained: “We have received a bid and I will be meeting with the new auditor tomorrow with a small team to begin the work. It is my hope to have the report early in the new year that will be made available to the public.” The Utah Pride Center recently laid off two director-level employees due to a “financial crisis” and has now reported that they have enough cash on hand and committed donations to continue operating until March, 2014. Over the course of numerous public meetings several members of the public have expressed a lack of trust in the leadership of the Pride Center. Jerry Buie, a member of the SAGE Utah Advisory Board, one of the first groups to raise concerns following the lay-offs, commented, “How does one build trust with a moving target? The UPC board has a legitimate mess on their hands that has been created under their authorization. Establishing trust with the LGBT community will require honesty, consistency and a dedication to keeping commitments. Personally, I’m struggling to find a place where I can hang that trust with this board. The financials were promised within 30 days and now, once again the rules have changed.”

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Judge hears case challenging Utah’s Amendment 3 A federal judge should strike down Utah’s same-sex marriage ban because the precedent has been set by the U.S. Supreme Court and discrimination has gone on long enough, an attorney for three gay couples challenging the 2004 voter-passed law argued Dec. 4. During a nearly four-hour hearing in U.S. District Court in Salt Lake City, lawyer Peggy Tomsic contended marriage is a fundamental right protected by the U.S. Constitution. “This case embodies the civil rights movement of our time,” Tomsic said. “This is the time and this is the place for this court to make it clear that the 14th Amendment is alive and well, even in Utah.” About 100 people packed the courtroom. U.S. District Judge Robert J. Shelby heard arguments from both sides as he weighed what will be a precedent-setting decision that he hopes to make by early next year. His ruling would be the first on a state same-sex marriage ban since the Supreme Court last summer struck down part of the Defense of Marriage Act, which stipulated that marriage was between a man and woman. “Congratulations,” Tomsic quipped. Attorneys for the state asserted it is not the courts’ role to determine how a state defines marriage, and that the Supreme Court ruling doesn’t give same-sex couples the universal right to marry. They also reinforced the state’s argu-

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Utah AIDS Foundation Red Carpet Gala The red carpet will be rolled out once again for the Utah AIDS Foundation’s 25th annual Red Carpet Gala. The night is always full of glitz and glamor as the Academy Awards show is broadcast on large screen TVs and a veritible who’s who of Utah mill about the audience. Dress code is black tie optional with festive attire encouraged. Funky Hollywood glitz, movie-themed or movie-inspired costumes, Hollywood glamour, movie star

ment that Utah has a right to foster a culture of “responsible procreation,” and the “optimal mode of child-rearing,” which the state believes the law does. “There is nothing unusual about what Utah is doing here,” said Stanford Purser of the Utah Attorney General’s Office, objecting to the notion that the law is rooted in bigotry or hatred. “That’s the nature of legislation: You draw lines and make designations.” Though more than 40 similar court challenges to same-sex marriage bans are pending in 22 states, Utah’s is among the most closely watched because of the state’s history of staunch opposition to gay marriage, said Jon Davidson, director of Lambda Legal, which pursues litigation on a wide range of LGBT issues across the country. Utah was among the first to pass a state amendment banning same-sex marriage, Davidson said. “Utah has a particularly symbolic position in the history of the struggle of same sex couples to be able to marry,” Davidson said. Shelby, who took the bench in September 2012, asked dozens of questions to both attorneys. He said before adjourning that he had his “hands full” with the case but vowed to do his best to make a ruling by early January. Much of the hearing focused on the state’s premise that the law helps promote procreation. Shelby grilled the state’s attorneys on the connection between banning same-sex marriage and the number of

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babies born to heterosexual couples. “How is it by excluding same-sex couples from marrying, you’re increasing procreation?” Shelby asked. Purser declined to answer directly, saying the issue was irrelevant in this case. Pressed, he said nobody knows yet the effects of same-sex marriage on heterosexual marriage. Shelby also questioned if having children is essential to a person being able to take advantage of the Constitutional right to marriage, proving his point by asking the state attorneys if Utah would consider giving fertilization tests before granting marriage licenses. He also asked how allowing a heterosexual post-menopausal woman to marry was different than allowing a gay or lesbian couple to wed. Philip Lott of the Utah Attorney General’s Office said the state wouldn’t give fertilization tests and said a post-menopausal woman may still raise a grandchild or niece or nephew. Tomsic scoffed at the state’s rationale of promoting procreation, saying there is no evidence to suggest banning same-sex marriage has any effect on whether men and women have children. She also took exception to the idea that same-sex couples can’t provide stable, loving homes for kids. She said an estimated 3,000 Utah children are being raised by gay and lesbian parents who are suffering because of the state’s law. “These kids every day of their lives are facing a social stigma,” Tomsic said. “The harm is immense in this state.” Shelby questioned why harm should be considered in his judgment, and also pointed out that Tomsic’s interpretation of the 14th Amendment was overly simplistic. He noted the Supreme Court ruling on gay marriage had sections that benefited both sides in the legal challenge. The judge also asked why he should overturn what nearly two-thirds of Utah voters decided was best for the state nearly a decade ago. Five of the six people who brought the lawsuit in March attended the hearing. Tomsic said one of the couples was legally married in Iowa and just wants that license recognized in Utah. She said the couples work and contribute to society and deserve equal rights in the state where they live, no matter how the law came to be. Utah’s law is “based on prejudice and bias that is religiously grounded in this state,” Tomsic said. Q

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Groups link Utah polygamy ruling to same-sex marriage Two of the nation’s leading anti-LGBT groups — the National Organization for Marriage and the Family Research Council — said a decision by a federal judge in Utah last week overturning part of the state’s law banning polygamy was made possible by earlier court rulings supportive of same-sex marriage. An official with the marriage equality group Freedom to Marry disputed that assertion, saying the Utah ruling was limited to the right of people to choose personal living arrangements unrelated to marriage. But statements by NOM and FRC linking the Utah ruling to same-sex marriage were reported widely in the media, with cable news outlets inviting FRC President Tony Perkins to appear on news programs to express his views on the issue. Judge Clark Waddoups of the U.S. District Court of Utah ruled on Dec. 13 that a section of Utah’s anti-polygamy law that prohibits “cohabitation” violates the U.S. Constitution’s First Amendment guarantee of freedom of religion as well as the Constitution’s due process clause. Waddoups’ ruling left in place the antipolygamy law’s provisions prohibiting someone from obtaining two or more valid marriage licenses to marry more than one person. In a statement released by the National

Intermountain Healthcare to offer health benefits to married same-sex employees Intermountain Healthcare announced that beginning in 2014, they will offer insurance coverage to same-sex spouses of its employees. Their decision is based on recent changes to federal law and rulings by the IRS and the U.S. Dept. of the Treasury, IHC spokesman Jason Burgess said. Starting Jan. 1, Same-sex couples who have been legally married in a state that recognizes same-sex marriage can enroll in Intermountain’s Employee + Spouse and/or Family benefit tiers rather than in the Employee + Domestic Partner or Family + Domestic Partner benefit tiers. “This practice has become the norm for many companies and government organizations throughout Utah and the nation,” Burgess said.

Organization for Marriage, the group’s president, Brian Brown, called Waddoups’ ruling the first step in an effort by polygamists to bring a test case to the Supreme Court to obtain legal recognition of “plural” marriages. “There’s no doubt that the arguments for same-sex marriage were a template for this case,” Brown said. “People in polygamist, plural marriages are just a short step away from winning official marriage rights. Adult incest practitioners will have similar claims, as will adult siblings and other close relations,” he said. “This decision is the next step along the path blazed by same-sex marriage advocates who have convinced federal judges to transform the societal norm of marriage as the union of one man and one woman designed primarily for the benefit of any children produced of their union into an institution that recognizes intimate, romantic relationships between consenting adults,” Brown said. Evan Wolfson, founder and president of the same-sex marriage advocacy group Freedom to Marry, said Brown’s interpretation of Waddoups’ ruling was incorrect. “Contrary to yet another predictable breathless rush to misrepresent from NOM and its anti-gay ilk, this decision is no more about marriage than NOM is,”

Wolfson said. “It’s about cohabitation, that is, whom you may choose to live with,” he said. “As anyone reading the judge’s ruling can see, the decision leaves intact other prohibitions on bigamy, polygamy, and fraud. Instead it’s about choices people make about living together, not marrying.” Wolfson added, “Do the NOM/FRC crowd really believe that in a free country the government should be dictating to Americans — married or otherwise, religious or otherwise — whom they may even live with?” The challenge to the Utah polygamy law stems from a lawsuit filed by Kody Brown, the lead figure in the reality television show “Sister Wives,” in which Brown stars with people he identifies as his four wives and 17 children. Brown and his family are members of the Apostolic Brethren Church, a breakaway sect from the Mormon Church whose members embrace polygamy as part of their religious beliefs. The Mormon Church ended its support for polygamy in the 1890s when Congress required the then territory of Utah to prohibit polygamy as a condition for becoming a state. George Washington University law professor Jonathan Turley represents the Brown family in connection with their lawsuit. He argued before the court that the provision of the Utah polygamy law prohibiting cohabitation violated the family’s right to privacy and religious freedom. Q

Utah Pride announces 2014 festival theme The Utah Pride Festival, to be held June 6–8, 2014, has announced this year’s theme: “Love Equals Love.” The Utah Pride Festival steering committee chooses a theme each year based on community suggestions, relevant current events and what most resonates with what the Utah Pride Festival wants to bring to the community. “2014 will be a pivotal year for the LGBTQ movement,” said Megan Risbon, director of events for the Utah Pride Center. “We want Utahns to know that love doesn’t discriminate based on sexual orientation or gender identity. ‘Love Equals Love’ also means we must love and accept ourselves to be truly whole.” The festival will again be held at Washington and Library Squares in downtown Salt Lake City with the Utah Pride Parade hap-

pening the morning of Sunday, June 8th. In response to feedback from the community and volunteers, they are also launching a new updated website today, promised to be more mobile friendly, have better organization and more useful information. Applications for vendors, parade, and awards will be available on January 20, 2014. Q

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2013 in Review It was quite a year for the nation’s gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and ally community, from the U.S. Supreme Court overturning California’s Proposition 8 and ruling parts of the Defense of Marriage Act unconstitutional to eight more states legalizing same-sex marriage. From President Barack Obama mentioning “our gay brothers and sisters” in his inaugural address to several actors and athletes coming out of the closet. Here are dozens of stories that happened here in the Beehive State over the past 12 months. Some seem many years ago. Some seem like yesterday. Because they were.

January JIM DABAKIS ELECTED TO FILL MCADAMS’ VACANT SENATE SEAT In a race to replace outgoing Sen. Ben McAdams, who was elected as Salt Lake County Mayor, 150 Democratic delegates elected Jim Dabakis over Peter Corroon 67 to 61 as state senator. Dabakis now represents Senate District 2, mostly made up of Capital Hill and the Avenues. Dabakis beat out two other gay candidates, as well as former Salt Lake County Mayor Peter Corroon for the position. Dabakis is a well known activist in Utah’s queer community and helped launch Equality Utah more than 10 years ago.

EQUALITY UTAH RANKED NATIONALLY AS A TOP LOCAL LGBT GROUP Equality Utah was ranked the 7th most impactful local equality and support groups in the country by Philanthropedia, a division of GuideStar which reports on U.S. nonprofits. Over 100 experts across the country working in the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender sector recommended the top groups nationwide.

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The Salt Lake City Medical Examiner’s Office determined that 70-year-old Andre Pappas killed his 67-year-old domestic partner, Theodore Beehakis, and then himself Jan. 4. Salt Lake City Police Department officers and fire personnel responded to the couple’s house on a welfare check after a hospice worker was unable to reach them by phone.

UTAH COUNTY GOP DISINVITES SPEAKER FROM EVENT FOR PRO-GAY VIEWS University of Tennessee law professor Glenn Reynolds, the writer of what many call one of the most popular conservative blogs in the country known as “Instapundit,” was not conservative enough for the Utah County Republican Party because he is not anti-gay, he said. Reynolds said he had been invited to speak at the party’s annual $60-a-plate Lincoln Day Dinner in February, but was deemed “too controversial” because he is not against gay rights. County party officials claimed Reynolds was never invited in the first place.

SALT LAKE STAYS ON ‘ADVOCATE’S GAYEST CITIES LIST In 2012, The Advocate declared Salt Lake City the gayest city in America, sending shockwaves around the state. In 2013 magazine chose Tacoma, Wash.,

BOOK ABOUT FAMILY WITH LESBIAN MOMS BACK ON DAVID COUNTY SCHOOL SHELVES Davis School District returned a children’s book about a family with lesbian parents to its library shelves. The decision came after a lawsuit was filed by the American Civil Liberties Union on behalf of a mother with children in the district. “Parents may still use the library’s normal procedures to prevent their children from checking out particular books without removing those books altogether. I’m glad the school understands they made a mistake when they took the book off the shelves,” said Tina Weber, the mother who filed the challenge. “A small group of people shouldn’t be able to impose their personal values on everyone else by taking away access to books they might

disagree with. It’s not their job to decide what my kids can read – that’s my job as a parent.”

February UTAH PRIDE FILES AMICUS BRIEF WITH THE U.S. SUPREME COURT Utah Pride leaders released a brief filed with the U.S. Supreme Court urging the justices to strike down California’s Proposition 8 and to dismantle all systems of legal discrimination against queer people. “Because the Constitution neither knows nor tolerates classes among its citizens, gay Americans must be treated equally under the law – everywhere,” Utah Pride’s brief concludes. “This Court should affirm the fundamental rights of gay Americans and adopt heightened scrutiny to review laws targeting gay people. The best way to stop discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation is for this Court to stop de jure discrimination against gay Americans.” Utah attorneys Paul C. Burke and Brett L. Tolman authored the brief.

UTAH ATTORNEY GENERAL JOINS AMICUS BRIEF AGAINST GAY MARRIAGE Then-Utah Attorney General John Swallow signed on to two amicus briefs asking the court to overturn rulings in California’s Proposition 8 case and the U.S. Congress Defense of Marriage Act. “Traditional marriage is the bedrock foundation for families and society,” said Swallow. “As part of my promise to protect

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Utah families, we will fight to make sure traditional marriage is protected and preserved.”

MORMON CHURCH ALSO WEIGHS IN ON GAY MARRIAGE The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, along with several other religious organizations, filed a brief with the U.S. Supreme Court asking the justices to uphold California’s ban on marriage equality. “Marriage defined as the union of one man and one woman is an axiom of Western civilization — not an attack on the civil rights of gays and lesbians,” the brief read. The authors of the brief also argue that marriage is designed to foster an environment to raise children and that heterosexual couples are the best candidates as parents. The brief did not mention gay adoptive or foster parents nor the existence of gay families with children.

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“Senator Steven Urquhart of Washington County becomes the official champion for nondiscrimination across the state. We know that it is going to go fast, and here we begin. We have a limited amount of time to get the word out about this crucial bill that impacts every LGBT Utahn and our families,” EU executive director Brandie Balken said in a statement. The bill made it through committee — the furthest it’s ever gone in a legislative session, but never made it to the floor for a vote.

March GAY OGDEN, UTAH ‘BIGGEST LOSER’ COMPETITOR MAKES TOP THREE OUTreach Resource Centers volunteer coordinator Jackson Carter made it as one of the top three contestants of

CHIPOTLE CANCELS, WINGERS ANNOUNCES SPONSORSHIP OF UTAH BOY SCOUTS’ SCOUT-O-RAMA After protests from several civil rights groups, restaurant chain Chipotle cancelled its involvement with the annual Scout-ORama of the Utah Boy Scouts. Utah-based Wingers Roadside Grill announced it would step up and replace the sponsorship, but also sponsored Utah Pride Center’s Queer Prom. “Winger’s Roadhouse Grill is committed to making our communities a better place to live and work,” said Winger’s spokesman Curt Gray. “We recognize and appreciate the diversity that exists in our communities, and believe that diversity, and the acceptance of diversity, is what makes us great.”

UTAH COUPLES SUE THE STATE FOR GAY AND LESBIAN MARRIAGE

REPUBLICAN LAWMAKER SPONSORED STATEWIDE ANTI-BIAS BILL State Sen. Steven Urquhart, RWashington County, sponsored an Equality Utah bill that would have expanded protections against bias based on sexual orientation and gender identity in workplace and housing statewide

the reality television show “The Biggest Loser” Starting out at 328 pounds, the 21-year-old Carter lost a total of 138 pounds through a combination of healthy eating and exercise. “I’m finally in the right space in my head and in my body, and I can now achieve whatever I want to,” Jackson said as the show wrapped up.

Sutherland Institute to a “Celebration of Marriage: Every Child Deserves a Mom and a Dad.” Gay marriage supporters held signs with such slogans as, “Love Makes a Family,” “Love Every Family,” and a family on the top floor of the Capitol Building held individual signs spelling out, “Traditional Family Not Worried.”

TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE RALLY AT UTAH CAPITOL BECOMES CELEBRATION OF ALL MARRIAGE About 300 people went to celebrate marriage as a union between a man and a woman at the Utah State, but more than 500 lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and allied people showed up to celebrate marriage in all of its forms. Same-sex marriage proponents far outnumbered those invited by the conservative

Three Utah couples filed a lawsuit in federal court challenging Amendment 3, Utah’s voter-approved ban on same-sex marriage. The complaint argues that the constitutional amendment passed in 2004 denies gay and lesbian citizens the basic right to marriage as affirmed in the interracial marriage case Loving vs. Virginia. Two couples — Derek L. Kitchen and Moudi D. Sbeity, and Laurie Wood and Kody Partridge — sued for the ability to marry and a third couple, Karen Archer and Kate Call, sued for the recognition of their marriage in Iowa. The three couples brought the lawsuit on behalf of Restore Our Humanity, a coalition of community members that solicited attorneys James E. Magleby, Jennifer Fraser Parrish and Peggy A. Tomsic of Magleby & Greenwood, to represent the plaintiffs.

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April ORRIN HATCH ENDORSED CIVIL UNIONS Sen. Orrin Hatch told a Logan radio station he would support civil unions as a way to stave off the advancement of gay marriage. He said, while he does not believe sexuality is a choice, marriage equality should not be legalized. “I’ll say this, I do believe this could be solved greatly by a civil union law that would give gay people the same rights as married people,” Hatch said. “I think we can solve this problem without undermining the very basis of marital law in our country.” Hatch said legalizing gay marriage would lead to “every Tom, Dick and Harry in there with some crazy marital scheme demanding the same rights and the same privileges.”

May FATHER AND SON BIKED FROM IDAHO TO TEXAS FOR GAY RIGHTS A father and son biked a 1,800mile journey from Idaho Falls, Idaho to the Boy Scouts of America headquarters in Irving, Texas, to protest discrimination against gays. Dave McGrath, a father of two gay sons and the twin of a gay brother, cycled alongside straight son Joe McGrath, who had just returned from an Army tour in the Middle East, to encourage the adoption of antidiscrimination ordinances that would have protected the LGBT community when it comes to jobs, housing and public accommodations. The McGraths joined several Utah Scouts as flag bearers at the Utah Pride Parade and Festival.

GAY, MINORITY LONE PEAK HS STUDENTS TARGETED BY TWITTER ACCOUNT A Twitter account was used to target Lone Peak High School students with hateful messages,

according to a mother of one of those students. “I am a mother who has cried for two days,” the mother said. The tweets included epithets based on race and sexuality. “They would take pictures of the minorities here and say things about them on Twitter — like, some pretty racist remarks about them,” student Matthew Johnson said. An apology was later sent on a separate Twitter account.

GAY BLOGGER DISINVITED TO UTAH PRIDE FESTIVAL Shortly after inviting a liberal blogger to be co-grand marshal of the Utah Pride Parade, along with soccer player David Testo, the Utah Pride Center withdrew its invitation due to his criticism of some Mormon Church policies. Joe My God blogger Joe Jervis was invited by Valerie Larabee, the executive director of the Utah Pride Center, and later disinvited by her, according to the release. Larabee told blogger Tony Adams that she had retracted the invitation due to the opposition of “one young gay man” on Utah Pride’s board of directors, who, she claimed, felt that Jervis would be an insult to Mormons. Upon further questioning, Larabee intimated that this episode was less about Jervis than it was a personal attack against her by the board member.

June UTAH PRIDE PARADE AND FESTIVAL BRINGS THOUSANDS TO SALT LAKE Ru Paul’s Drag Race competitors arrived in droves during the annual Utah Pride Festival — some sponsored by Pride itself and others brought in by local bars. Headliners of the festival included Glee star Alex Newell, Drag Race’s Pandora Boxx and Ivy Winters, and disco diva Thelma Houston. Out soccer player David Testo was the parade’s grand marshal. Salt Lake Men’s Choir was awarded the

Best Overall float at the parade. Attendance and financials for the event were never released by the Utah Pride Center. Scoutmasters Dave McGrath, Peter Brownstein and Neil Whittaker along with boy scouts and cub scouts, walked in the parade as the official color guard. Great Salt Lake Council executive Rick Barnes complained that “having uniformed Scouts and Scouters in the Gay Pride Parade is not acceptable and not allowed. The new policy states that no person, youth or adult, may use Scouting to promote sexual orientation, or any other political or social agenda.”

SALT LAKE COUNTY PASSES MUTUAL COMMITMENT REGISTRY Salt Lake County Councilmen Arlyn Bradshaw and Randy Horiuchi sponsored an ordinance to create a mutual commitment registry in the county, which passed with just one nay vote. The registry recognizes “adult relationships of financial dependence or interdependence.” Under the ordinance, the Salt Lake County Clerk now maintains a registry that would allow committed couples who are not legally married to receive documentation from the county attesting to their relationship status to help simplify the process of securing benefits and services from the county or from businesses that offer them voluntarily to employees whose family units fall outside Utah’s legal definition of marriage. “I view it as supporting our family-centered culture that we have in our community and in our state,” co-sponsor Bradshaw said.

July WSU PROFESSOR FIRED AFTER OBJECTING TO PACKER CENTER NAME Weber State University Assistant professor Jared Lisonbee, of the College of Education, told administration that naming the school’s Center For Families

after Mormon leader Boyd K. Packer would alienate many of the families the center was intended to serve. For over four decades Packer has made denigrating statements regarding women, interracial marriage, intellectuals, and the LGBT community. Lisonbee was informed that his contract with WSU was not being renewed. No reason was given and his wife, Shairylann, believes he was fired for his objection to the name. WSU spokesperson Allison Hess said Lisonbee’s termination had nothing to do with the Packer center controversy, but couldn’t go any further due to privacy regulations.

August UTAH GAY, BISEXUAL MEN WARNED OF LOCAL BACTERIAL MENINGITIS DIAGNOSIS The Salt Lake County Health Department issued a public health alert to gay and bisexual men in Salt Lake after the rapid death of a gay man who was diagnosed with bacterial meningitis. The organism that causes bacterial meningitis is spread via throat or respiratory secretions, commonly during kissing, sharing utensils, and sharing noninjection drugs. Anyone with a pre-existing condition such as HIV or other autoimmune disease has an increased risk of infection.

UTAH PUBLISHER CANCELS NOVEL BECAUSE AUTHOR IS GAY Sweetwater Books cancelled the publication of Woven, a highly anticipated young adult fantasy novel, because the biographical blurb of one of Woven’s authors referenced his “boyfriend.” Co-author Michael Jensen offered to change the word to “partner” to define his relationship with Nicholas Rupp, but the company insisted the reference to Rupp be removed altogether. Over 40 Mormon authors

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signed a letter in support of Jensen. The book has been picked up by a literary agency and Jensen hopes it will be published very soon. along with a week-long “Gay Adventure Week.” Provo held its first festival at Memorial Park in the city’s downtown with booths, entertainment, and music.

SIM GILL ADDRESSES SAGE GARDEN PARTY AND BRUNCH

ROBERT REDFORD ADDRESSES EQUALITY UTAH ALLIES DINNER Due to a filming conflict, Sean Penn found himself unable to be the keynote speaker of the 12th annual Equality Utah Allies Dinner as promised. Actor Robert Redford stepped in and addressed the crowd of 2,000 at the Salt Palace Grand Ballroom. “What happens in Utah can matter in a profound way. Anytime you change the lines or change laws in Utah that are discriminatory, many are going to see it as a benchmark, possibly, for other places,” said Redford. “The power of your personal story has the power to move hearts and minds, break down barriers and change points of views.”

September PROVO, MOAB HOLD PRIDE FESTIVALS One of the most liberal cities in the state and one of the most conservative held pride festivals in September. Moab held its third annual parade and festival,

Salt Lake County District Attorney Sim Gill was the keynote speaker of the fourth annual Sage Utah Garden Party and Awards Brunch. “I am honored to speak at this event for SAGE Utah, since we are all sages, coming together, sharing our stories, and creating a new and enriched reality and world,” Gill said. Outstanding Contribution Awards were presented to Jim Struve, LCSW, and Maggie Snyder, PA, who have served the greater community throughout their careers.

GOVERNOR WELCOMES GAY ADVOCATES TO THE MANSION Utah Governor Gary Herbert hosted the Utah Log Cabin Republicans and other gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender activists, allies and public officials at the Governor’s Mansion. Among the 80-plus guests were ULCR members, national Log Cabin Republicans President Gregory T. Angelo, Equality Utah Executive Director Brandie Balken, Equality Utah staff, Utah State Republican Party Chair James Evans and political consultant and former state party chair David Hansen. Herbert lauded ULCR for being involved in the political process. He acknowledged

policy disagreements, but said the relationships ULCR builds help Utah government serve all citizens more fully. He thanked ULCR President James Humphreys for his involvement in many local and statewide issues.

October

‘JOE’S WALK FOR CHANGE,’ JOE BELL KILLED BY SEMI IN COLO. Joe Bell, who came through Utah on his walk across the country in memory of his bullied gay son who committed suicide earlier this year, was killed by a semi truck in eastern Colorado. Colorado State Patrol said Bell was walking eastbound on the shoulder of Highway 40, 20 miles northwest of Kit Carson, when he was hit by the semi. His final post to his Facebook page was a photo of a road sign showing 20 miles to Kit Carson, Colo. “Making headway, one step at a time,” were possibly his last words.

While the Internal Revenue Service ruled that same-sex couples may file a joint federal income tax return, in Utah same-sex couples must file a Utah income tax return with a filing status of single or head of household, the Utah State Tax Commission announced. “A taxpayer impacted by this IRS ruling must provide the same federal income tax information on the Utah return that the taxpayer would have provided prior to the IRS ruling,” said Charlie Roberts, Tax Commission spokesperson. “For the purposes

of calculating their Utah income tax liability, these individuals must re-compute their federal income tax liability as single or head of household. The information on this re-computed federal income tax return will be used only to prepare the Utah income tax return.”

MOAB PASSES MUTUAL COMMITMENT REGISTRY The Moab City Council created a mutual commitment registry, similar to Salt Lake City’s, to allow employers within the city to offer benefits to those who sign up. On a 4-1 vote the council approved Kirstin Peterson’s motion for the ordinance, creating a mutual commitment registry at the city recorder’s office. Only council member Gregg Stucki voted against the ordinance.

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UTAH PRIDE CENTER LAYS OFF WORKERS, CUTS SALARIES The Utah Pride Center announced two layoffs, salary reductions and other cost-saving measures in light of funding shortfalls. Two grants ended this fiscal year and monies erroneously allocated to general operations forced the Center to lay off director of operations Joe Gonzales and director of community engagement & awareness/SAGE Utah Charles Lynn Frost. A community outcry ensued for weeks after the announcement, opening other issues within the Center. Many in the community put the blame on the leadership style of executive director Valerie Larabee. Three letters of no-confidence critical of Larabee from community leaders, a former board member and the advisory council for the SAGE program were presented to the Center’s board of direc-

tors, which voted to retain her. She chose to resign on her own. The board elected John Netto as its president, who promised transparency in the organization as it moves forward. Plans for the annual festival in June are moving forward.

do so. The town council passed the ordinance unanimously in April, 2012.

OGDEN OUTREACH EXPANDS TO FOUR NEW CITIES

November LESBIAN WINS ELECTION IN OGDEN, TWO GAY MEN LOSE IN CLOSE RACES Marcia White won a seat on the Ogden City Council with 64 percent of the vote. She pulled in endorsements from the Gay and Lesbian Victory Fund, the Utah AFL-CIO, Good Government PAC, and Equality Utah, among others. Ogden City Council District 3 candidate Turner Bitton outraised his opponent, knocked on every door of the district, was endorsed by the local newspaper and put together a series of ideas to improve the neighbor-

hoods in Ogden. But he lost to the incumbent by 116 votes. By only eight votes, openly gay Mark Chambers lost in his bid to be mayor of Springdale, Utah, at the mouth of Zion Canyon. Chambers says the town is very welcoming. In fact, his efforts at having the town join the growing list of passing an ordinance protecting gay and transgender citizens from discrimination were only met with the question of the need to

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guest editorial

Caring about Obamacare BY TURNER BITTON

President

Barack Obama’s presidency will go down in history as a beginning to the end of the LGBT struggle for equality. The president’s bold leadership has irreversibly tipped the scale toward justice. Within six months of his inauguration, it became clear that his administration would be like no other, leaving a unprecedented mark on LGBT history, and it will be viewed as the tipping point in our struggle for full equality. While his achievements in the arena of marriage and civil law are incredible, we as a community should truly celebrate Obamacare. When history looks at the Obama administration, it will remember that Obamacare expanded protections to LGBT Americans in a way that very few pieces of legislation had before it. Obamacare affects each member of our community positively, and here’s how: Our community has, for years, faced difficulty in obtaining health insurance coverage and Obamacare is the largest remedy to that in our community’s history. According to research by the Center for American Progress, 41 percent of LGBT people will qualify for Medicaid expansion nationwide. Those under 26 can stay on their parents’ insurance until they turn 26, like myself. If you don’t fit into either category, you will qualify for a quality affordable plan in the new marketplace at Healthcare.gov. Within the new marketplaces, a “same-sex partner” filter allows

us to find insurance that will cover our partners. Aside from the affordable options provided by Obamacare, new protections against discrimination stand as the strongest protections our community has ever been guaranteed in the health-care system. Beginning Jan. 1, 2014, discrimination based on pre-existing conditions is illegal, meaning those living with HIV/AIDS, those who have been diagnosed with “gender-identity disorder” and those with other chronic diseases cannot be denied health care. Also in 2014, lifetime caps on benefits are ended. This is particularly important to those living with HIV/AIDS because they will no longer hit a cost ceiling. For older members of our community, the AIDS Drug Assistance Plan now counts toward Medicare Party D’s outof-pocket limit and are given a 50 percent discount on brandname HIV/AIDS drugs. Those on Medicare are provided new benefits including free mammograms, colonoscopy and other preventative services, as well as one annual wellness visit. Coupled with these changes to insurance policies, the new nondiscrimination requirements in Obamacare mean a vastly improved experience for our community. Included in the language of Obamacare is an explicit ban on discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity. These bans apply not only to health insurance but also any health care related service that takes federal funding. Almost every

health care related organization takes federal funding so protections for our community will be expanded to every corner of the country, including in rural areas where our community is prone to incredible amounts of discrimination. Despite efforts to characterize Obamacare as a bureaucratic nightmare, it remains one of the most important advances that the Democratic Party has made for the LGBT community. Remember, come November of 2014 that Democrats stand with our community. Join

me in supporting a progressive agenda and vote to elect Democrats next year. President Obama can only make progress for our community with a Democratic Congress. I challenge you to support the president and enroll in health insurance through the new marketplace. Visit Healthcare. gov and show that when a president sticks his neck out for us, we’ll return the favor. Q Turner C. Bitton serves on the board of Utah Stonewall Democrats and on the Democratic National Committee’s Youth Council. He can be reached via his website at www.turnerbitton.com.

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the straight line

Utah Pride: Deja vu BY BOB HENLINE

The Dec. 23, 2004,

issue of QSaltLake (then Salt Lake Metro) featured a story about the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Community Center of Utah and its impending collapse. This highlight grabbed my attention right away: “Larabee stresses that the new leadership of the Center, along with honest communication with the community, are key parts of the Center’s long-term plan to reinvigorate itself.” Now, nine years later, we find ourselves and our Center - the Utah Pride Center in the same circumstance. This time the words aren’t coming from Valerie Larabee, the then newly appointed executive director and now the newly resigned one, but are now coming from John Netto, the new president of the board of directors. Over the past several weeks a great deal of disturbing information has come to light regarding mismanagement and malfeasance at Utah Pride. The tipping point, as we all know, was the public outcry regarding two high-profile layoffs. Utah Pride’s response to this outcry was to hold “talking circles” with the community, ostensibly an opportunity for the members of the community to air their concerns and begin the process of healing a broken Center. It all sounded good, but it is starting to seem more like lip service than real commitment to change. During the talking-circle meetings Netto made several promises to the community. First, he promised a more open

and transparent Center. He apologized for shutting out the public and press from the Oct. 28 board meeting and promised that such things would not happen again. He promised, on Oct. 30, that the Center would release its financial statements within 30 days. And he promised that the board would seek new members to grow and become truly representative of the community at large. None of these promises have been kept. Less than a week following those promises an “emergency meeting” of the board of directors was called to discuss a letter delivered by several former employees, board members and community activists. This meeting was called without the proper notice to directors (per Center bylaws) and with no notice to the public or press. QSaltLake managed to attend after hearing a rumor about the meeting. It has now been six weeks since financials were promised, yet none are available. Netto has stated that the executive committee of the board decided to delay the release of that information until the statements can be audited, which he anticipates will be sometime after the new year. He stated to me that “It is normal and customary to make public only audited statements.” If that is true, why was a promise made to release those statements within 30 days? At the Dec. 2 board meeting, an update on board recruitment was presented. One board member had offered a seat on the board to one person, who wasn’t sure if she had the time to dedicate herself to

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the position. One person. After over six weeks they’ve opened discussion with one prospective new board member. Contrary to what we’ve been told, as of my deadline there is no application for board membership on the Pride Center’s website. It seems as though nothing was learned nine years ago. Then, as now, honest communication is a key element. It’s not happening. The newly elected vice president of the board reacted with defensiveness and condescension when questioned by community members at the None of these Dec. 2 board meetpromises have ing. been kept The financial issues of nine years ago were caused by an over-dependence upon a small number of large-dollar donors. According to the UPC’s audited financial statement of 2012, just two donors accounted for 38 percent of the Center’s public support. The problems at the Center, however, are not rooted in money; the financial problems are a symptom of the real issue: mistrust. Nine years ago Larabee stressed the need for honest communication with the community, which has also been promised by this board, but has yet to be delivered. They’re making promises they can’t (or won’t) keep and they’re not being responsive to the community. They had the opportunity to show a commitment to change on Dec. 2, instead they chose to re-elect the existing board officers, adding two new ones to a vacancy and a newly created position. You can’t reverse a trend of declining trust by staying on the same course that got you into trouble in the first place. The argument has been made that they have to work with what they’ve got, and while this is true, the problems “they’ve got” are of their own making. Netto isn’t new, nor are Match, Wharton and Frogley. All were elected to the board-officer positions uncontested. The real question we should be asking is this: Why is there nobody who is willing to step up and lead the Center? What does it say about an organization that none of its board are ready and/or willing to assume leadership and make change? Q

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thinking out loud

We Have Nothing Against You, But… A lesson from one Louisiana town on the polite way to send LGBT people back into the closet. BY ABBY DEES

No sooner

had I written a column a few weeks back about how nice it felt to see a rainbow flag in front of Philadelphia’s city hall, than I saw this headline from July (my online news alert tends to operate on Gay Standard Time): “Louisiana Republican to introduce bill to ban rainbow flag from public buildings.” A little investigation revealed that Councilmember Andy Naquin, of Lafayette, LA, was looking into the feasibility of banning all but governmental flags from city property. A complaint from Ray Greene, 79, and fellow veterans, prompted this inquiry. According to city council meeting minutes, Mr. Green saw a photo of a rainbow flag aloft in Lafayette’s Girard Park, and “it offended him very much.” He told the council, “I am not a gay basher…this is a flag safety issue,” and then, trying to illustrate his point, proffered two examples in which people had been prohibited from flying the American flag somewhere. The minutes do not indicate if anyone asked what that had to do with his rainbow flag problem. I don’t mean to bash Mr. Green either, nor do I take any issue with his devotion to the American flag. I would, however, like to use his complaint as an example of

how our national discussions about LGBT pride avoid the simple truth. Putting it all in context, the flag was hoisted for one day by local group Acadiana OUTspoken Alliance to celebrate the overturning of DOMA. Their president says that they got permission from the city and that the flagpole was not being used at the time. Councilmember Naquin told a local TV station that he was not intending to single out gays, but that he opposed any non-governmental flag going up there: “What would happen if the Catholics were to fly a flag or a pro-life flag was flown or KKK flag was flown or even Taliban flag was flown [sic]? Who would you say ‘no’ to when you open those doors?” This all seems reasonable at first (though any high school civics student could tell you why no religious flags would be allowed). And it’s true that as soon as the government starts cherry picking what kind of messages are allowed on public property, thorny free speech issues arise. A clean, across-the-board rule could possibly avoid this. But that’s not what’s got me gnashing my teeth. I’m still stuck on why this issue arose at all, which is not so clean and tidy. Let’s say that instead of a rainbow flag, the Boys and Girls Club asked to hoist a flag for a

day. Would Mr. Green be so worried as to give an impassioned – though kind of random – speech on the imminent threat facing the red, white and blue? Of course not. While both gentlemen made obvious efforts to demonstrate that they had nothing against the gays, everything else they said belied these assertions. Speaking for the discomfited veterans, Concilmember Naquin said, “They felt it was a disrespect to this country and a disrespect to them and I’d have to agree with that.” I’m trying to find a way to interpret this that doesn’t mean, “Gays are gross and I shouldn’t have to watch them celebrating gayness in my park.” What am I missing? Mr. Green, less politically evasive than Naquin, got more to the point when he warned, “If you allow the gay pride flag to be flown, then you got to by all rights allow the KKK, the Muslims and anybody else” – which tells me exactly what he thinks of the KKK, Muslims, and yes, gays. This is much less complicated than anyone is willing to admit. At its heart the debate isn’t about the 1st Amendment, flag protection, or delicate local politics. If a rainbow flag on public property causes someone distress, it is because he or she fundamentally has a problem with LGBT people, a feeling anyone’s entitled to. But any more explaining is merely tap-dancing around this fact. Fortunately, the furor in Lafayette has since died down and the city council is dealing with more important things now. Last I heard, there was an American flag in Girard Park. Q Abby is a civil rights attorney-turned-author who has been in the LGBT rights trenches for 25-plus years. Her website: queerquestionsstraighttalk.com

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you think the church is losing the argument on it, in effect?” Note that Gregory did not ask Dolan if the church is losing the argument. He flat out said, “Dude, the church is losing this shit, what gives?” Dolan’s answer is quite revelatory. “Well, I think maybe we’ve been out-marketed, sometimes,” he said. “I don’t know, when you have forces like Hollywood, when you have forces like politicians, when you have forces like some opinion-molders that are behind it, it’s a tough battle.” First of all, out-marketed? This isn’t Coke v. Pepsi, pal. Secondly, did he just say that the forces of “Hollywood” and “politicians” are beating out the force of the Catholic Church? That God’s condemnation of homosexuality is no match for a bunch of celebrities and senators? Why, yes. Yes he did. And for what injustice are Hollywood and Washington D.C. at fault? “We’ve been caricatured as being anti-gay,” Dolan said. Oh, now that’s rich, especially coming from a man who personally lobbied against marriage equality in New York and who once included homosexuality in a list of “contemporary threats to marriage” including “polygamy, adultery, [and] forced marriages.” As if there’s some giant conspiracy to make the Catholic Church seem like it doesn’t like gays. Because they sure don’t make any secret about their anti-gay lifestyle. Dolan likened the fight against marriage equality to the fight against abortion. “Back in 1973 with Roe v. Wade, everybody said this is a forgone conclusion, in a couple of years this issue is going to go away” he said. “To this day it remains probably the most divisive issue in American politics.” Gregory asked, “So you don’t think the gay marriage debate is over?” “No. I don’t think it is,” Dolan responded. In other words, lesbians and gays may be winning the battle to have our families recognized as legal and loving, but people like Dolan will keep up the fight to turn back the clock to a time when our families were considered a crime and an abomination. Q

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a mom’s view A few months ago I was invited to attend the Gay Writes Community Writing Club sponsored by Salt Lake Community College. We meet the second and fourth Monday at 6:30 p.m., SLCC Community Writing Center, 210 East and 400 S, Suite 8, Salt Lake City, UT 84111. This group is open to the LGBT community and allies. There are poets, fiction, nonfiction, a lot of variety. Members get feedback and help on their writings; it has helped me a great deal with writing my articles. Please join us. Leesa@LeesaMyers.com

Being Authentic BY JEROMY ROBISON

Working

at eBay for several years has taught me something about authenticity. It is everything. Collectors don’t really care about packaging or signs of wear. In fact age can be an advantage in the collecting world: it adds originality and value. But since authenticity is so valuable, counterfeits are often even more abundant than the real thing (though even fakes have allure). While the difference, in monetary value, between a fake and an authentic piece can be thousands of dollars, the sentimental or historical value of a fraud is zilch. In order to avoid being defrauded, collectors, scrutinize every detail of an item before investing. That is why the biggest selling point of any item on ebay is authenticity. That makes sense in the eBay world, right? But it also applies to life. (Ahem.) I value originality because I have an identical twin. My brother, Jason is a genetic replica of me — except that he’s straight (bless his heart) and knowing that drives me to be unique. Recently Jason called me to vent about conflicts at home and at work. (Straight problems.) He’s an educator, administrator and has kids of his own so life gets understandably tough. He said, “Jeromy, when you came out of the closet you suddenly had friends, everyone liked you, and life got easier, right? Straight life is exhausting. How do I come out of the closet too?” (Boom! . . . Mushroom cloud.) Hmpf. As if being gay makes everyone magically like me. I had a hunch that Jason was getting at something good, so I called mom. I asked her if I was more likable out of the closet than in. Her response was precious. “Worm,” she said. (Cuz that’s what she calls me. Hush.) “You aren’t really a different Jeromy now, but somehow you’re more Jeromy than before. It was like seeing

you through a filter for years, and then suddenly you were brilliant. I like this new Jeromy better.” (Awwww. See? Precious.) I wanted more data, so I called sister with the same question. “I always knew you were gay,” she said, “but you were unhappy. I figured the topic was off limits until you owned up to it. And now that you’re out, we can talk about anything. How’s that guy you’re dating?” (Isn’t she a gem?) Looking back, coming out of the closet was definitely a pivotal experience for me. I was born, like everyone, into an assumed role with defined family dynamics and social constructs. Admitting I was homosexual meant abandoning convention and going off-script (scary). It meant ditching prescribed ideals and developing new ones. I had to write my own, original life script, while embracing all of my parts, good and bad. That right there is the very essence of being authentic. (Plus since I was born as part of a duo act it helps to know where I really shine.) Perhaps my family is right. I’m happy being me. I’m not any more likable just because I’m gay. I’m likable because I like myself and that’s attractive. Coming out of the closet was just the catalyst, for which I am grateful. So, what of eBay and authenticity? While everyone has to face their demons eventually, I think homosexuals have the advantage of forced self-evaluation. People know a fake when they see one and keep their distance. People also draw closer to those who are genuine because it’s easier to be around them. Coming out of the closet offers that chance of refinement and liberation. If I embrace and love all of my parts, even with signs of wear, then others will see the real me, like my family did. They will want to invest in the truly original work of art that is Jeromy. Bring on the bids! Q

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Be it resolved BY CHROSTOPHER KATIS

According

to a Forbes article, 40 percent of Americans make New Year’s resolutions. But how many do you think are successful in keeping them? The article cited a University of Scranton study that found 8 percent of people meet their goals for the New Year. Yeah, that means nine out of 10 people fail in their attempts to improve themselves. I admit I’ve been more successful myself some years than others. But this year I have a different plan: I’m dividing my resolutions into three categories: Not Gonna Happen, M’eh, Who Knows and Slam Dunk.

virtues. I once had to tell my doctor that the source of my elevated blood pressure was the fact he kept me waiting while he was out shopping for a few more holiday gifts for his staff. Taking it a little slower would be good for me, and for the boys. BE LESS CONTROLLING — I actually prefer the term “leader” rather than controlling, because we all know control freaks are jerks. At least that’s what I keep telling Niko, whose own issues with control mirror mine so closely that it’s freaky. Maybe getting my control issues, well, under control, will help him to reign his in too.

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RUN A MARATHON — Sure, I think it’d be amazing to say I ran 26.2 miles in a single race. But let’s face it, that would take training and dedication, and yeah ... GIVE UP COKE — That’s Coca-Cola, people. Yes, I understand that it’s bad for me, but it’s just so damn tasty! Plus, I drink the Mexican variety made with cane sugar and not corn syrup, which makes them good for me, right? GO DANCING MORE — Actually, going out dancing even one time would be more. We haven’t gone in 20 years. At least I can place some of the blame on Kelly — he doesn’t dance. Plus the music is too loud, the drinks are overpriced and there are too many people.

BECOME MY FATHER A LITTLE MORE EVERY DAY — I’m slowly but surely becoming an old Greek guy just like my dad. Come to think of it, all of those would-be resolutions in “M’eh, Who Knows?” are traits I’ve inherited from him — along with high triglycerides and a predisposition for hypertension. Oh God, I even explain the Greek roots of English words! BE CONTINUOUSLY GRATEFUL — Let’s be honest, being married with two kids, and living in the suburbs are not exactly how I thought my life was going to pan out. But I’m incredibly thankful it did. And I want to be grateful every day for whatever comes my way — good, bad or ugly. I want to see the good in every situation. CHERISH MY KIDS — For all the jokes I make at their expense, for all the times they frustrate me, I really love my kids with every fiber of my being. They are the best things to ever happen to me. DRINK MORE — Booze, that is. Yeah, I’ve got this one covered. If I’m successful at just one of these, it’ll definitely be that last one. Q

M’eh, Who Knows? COOL MY TEMPER — Hey, I’ve been making real progress with this one for years. I have, dammit! When I lose my cool, Gus says I’m his angry dad. I reply with one of my favorite Homer Simpson quotes from the very episode featuring Angry Dad, “I’m just passionate ... like all us Greeks.” I need to be less passionate. BE MORE PATIENT — I’m the first to admit that patience is not one of my

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Release— SHIFT BY CHARLES FROST

The end

of 2013 is upon us. Big ass year — full of all sorts of upheaval, perfectly aligned with the number 13, if you ask me. A year of change and a year full of choices. The two constants in life. Since December marks the end of this year — whether you hated it or loved it, it may be time to consider letting go, moving on, releasing. Most people, and particularly queer people are continuously making judgment sandwiches, a series of justifications and judgments—aimed toward our own behavior, but more often actions of others. Let’s face it, it is at our human core to become too attached to things or people, issues and situations that we perceive have harmed us, helped us, pushed us forward or held us back. It’s challenging work to release these attachments even if we know that they are not good for us. I’m a believer that addictive, immovable thinking or behavior is at the root of all our own selfsuffering. A very strong statement? Sure is. A few years ago, I spent a week in Sedona, Ariz., going through a coaching certification process for The Sedona Method. If you’ve ever been to Sedona, it is, at every turn, full of breath-taking vistas, and the place resounds with spirituality, self-awareness and improvement, and understanding of how to release the past or present toward personal reinvention. The week ended with a visit to Prescott, where the cowboys are real, and real hot, dressed to the cowboy hilt, and downright super friendly. A perfect week to say the least. One of many things I really focused on during the Sedona week was keeping people in my life that truly loved me, motivated me, encouraged me, inspired and enhanced me and ultimately made me happy. I came to a rich understanding that if you have people in your life that do none of above, then let them go. Steve Maraboli, in his informative book Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience, says “The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you

realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.” That pretty much sums it up. Trapped, frozen, cornered, going through the same motions, whatever you want to call it — it’s a fact that unless you release, your pathway is limited and destined to be re-traveled. By you. So how do you obtain that space of being unapologetically yourself? I’d like to first pose a a few questions, and offer a few tips that have worked for me, what I call my mindfullness time that I really gravitate toward at the end of each year. Robert Redford in his most recent film All Is Lost, is the only actor in the film, in a performance of a lifetime. A man alone on a small yacht in the Indian Ocean. A 77-year-old actor, and a very demanding role. There is a powerful voice over monologue at the beginning of the film. “13th of July, 4:50pm. Im sorry, I know that means little at this point, but I tried. I know that means little at this time. I think you would all agree, that I tried. To be true, to be strong, to be kind, to love, to be right. But I wasn’t. And I know you knew this in each of your ways, and I am sorry. All is lost here. Except for soul and body, that is — what is left of them, and a half-day’s ration.” Why do we have to get into life-threatening or dire situations before we are willing admit, apologize, acknowledge, let go and release? What is releasing? It is letting go and releasing the subconscious blocks that hold you back from having, being and doing what you choose. It’s a practice for letting go that instantly puts you in touch with your natural, already-present ability to succeed, so you can feel more confidence, calm and in control of any situation. That’s it.

A FEW QUESTIONS (Consider one a week and let it be your weekly focus, think about it often) Do you believe that you have to suffer to give up anything or anyone? Does your mind tell you through a lifetime of conditioning that there will be suffering? Are you comfortable enough to dwell with the

answer you get, working toward altering the belief that you have to suffer? Do you believe that because you believe something, you make it so? Are you willing to let go of the negative around your belief, embrace the positive, letting it fill in your thoughts? Do you feel that all of your life is interconnected; relationships, career, financial, fulfillment, improvement, emotional intelligence, community, health and family? Could you begin seeing how they are all interrelated, and recognizing the connectivity of your whole life? Do you feel you have the self power to challenge your own assumptions? Not allowing them to become inaccurate truths for yourself? Do you believe that your addictive voice is not you? Have you ever exercised your intuitive knowingness versus that addictive voice? Could you start becoming fully aware of the two and when you are tapping into one or the other?

SOME TIPS There are different ways of releasing: Deciding to just drop it—this can be fast, sometimes too harsh for most people, but it can also work on smaller things you want to release, and it requires focus to be fully effective. Or you could start welcoming or allowing the emotion in regarding what it is you want to release, diving into the core of the emotion or feeling, and then honestly working on a holistic and ongoing releasing. This tends to work better with relationships, a huge career change, a health issue, or a significant financial change or plan. Don’t go to war with your mind, dwelling too much on the back story is wasted self-hypnosis. Don’t hold on to the past, trying to figure it all out. Create instead the new dream-ending space or place you want to be and release anything that prevents you from obtaining that feeling, space, or place in your life. Ask yourself these simple, but powerful questions: What am I feeling now? Can I welcome the feeling? Could I let it go?

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It is amazing how much we can deceive ourselves, believing that things and people will bring us happiness when, in reality, it was never the case. In other words, we need to burst the fantasy bubble that we have built around our clinging and then we need to make a decision to give it up. Only you are in charge of your happiness, others can add to it when you consider the interrelatedness of your whole life, but it’s your most important job in life, with an abundance to learn along the journey. Back to Steve Maraboli. “Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness.” Q

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As the

45th anniversary of the Stonewall Rebellion looms in 2014 and the 40th anniversary of Utah’s first celebration of Gay Freedom Day, I marvel at how we as a people have grown, changed, and evolved to a point that I wonder if we even consider ourselves a people or folk anymore. We once considered ourselves a separate people from heterosexuals, as we reclaimed our histories and our culture which had been dismissed or erased by a sexual majority which saw our people as the “other” to be shunned, persecuted as well as prosecuted. We, however, found strength and unity under the nomenclature “gay.” It is a noun, not a verb. It is who we homosexuals are as we chose to self identify ourselves. It was not our actions, how we used our genitals, that made us gay but our soul, our life force; it was all about who we fell in love with, who we fantasized about, who we were passionate about. This basic core of our nature drove our creativity, spirituality and courage. For much of the early years of the Gay Civil Rights movement, we simply fought to not be classified as criminals and mentally ill. These goals were our prime objectives. So we formed collectives, health clinics, social clubs and consciousness-raising groups, all under the banner “gay.” In the mid to late 1970s a change occurred, spurred by feminist homosexuals who felt that women needed their own identity; separate and apart from gay men. The late feminist writer Jill Johnston argued that that gay women needed to form a movement disconnected from the “gay” umbrella. She taught in her book Lesbian Nation, first published in 1973, that “Gay men, however discriminated against, are still patriarchs.” Johnston spurred a national trend where women separated from organizations they felt dominated by gay men to form their own communities. It is during this period that the gay movement becomes the “Gay and Lesbian” Movement. Gay men protested the idea that they were still part of societal male privilege. We

argued that once we come out as homosexuals we lost any male benefit as being perceived as “effeminate” by the heterosexual male-dominated society. No doubt homosexual men and women had a tenuous connection as allies from the beginning but the feminist movement emphasized our differences. In 1974, a group of Salt Lake City women broke away from the fledgling Metropolitan Community Church to form a Lesbian Congregation led by a woman pastor named LaVerl Harris. The church was called Grace Community Church and lasted for about five years. In 1977, the first all Lesbian organization was formed by “radicalesbians” called Women Aware which lasted about eight years. Many organizations formed in the mid-1970s resisted the lesbian separatist movement with gay women staying in those organizations and taking leadership roles. The Imperial Court of Utah and the Student Union at the University of Utah were two of those, although the student organization changed its name from the Gay Student Union to the Lesbian and Gay Student Union in 1979. At the beginning of the 1980s, Utah communities began using the term “gay and lesbian” almost exclusively to describe our movement. While many women still preferred being called gay, the term fell out of favor by the end of the decade and the term gay and lesbian was fairly universal, which cemented the concept that the movements aims were divided. However, as the AIDS epidemic began to decimate the gay men’s community, lesbians not only stepped forward to help with the crisis they also assumed leadership roles formerly held by the weakened gay men’s community. At the beginning of the 1990s the new buzzword was “gender parity” for all leadership positions of Utah’s governing organizations. This was especially true for Gay Pride Days where officers were chosen from both the gay and lesbian communities as co-directors.

The concept of parity came out of the 1991 National Lesbian Conference which was held in Atlanta, Ga., to establish a national agenda. Three-thousand people attended, including delegates from Utah. They were all women, as men were barred from attending any workshops. Two years in the making the conference was an alcohol-free event with convention literature asking participants not to wear perfumes and other chemicals, lest they make some participants ill. Organizers also set up special workshops for a variety of ethnic and racial groups and established voting procedures to insure parity among black and white, old and young, physically handicapped and non-handicapped. In Utah much of the gay men’s energies were engaged in AIDS prevention organizations. By the hundreds gay men were dying, the death rate climaxing in 1995. With the increase availability of drugs and medicine the death rate slowly declined, but the death of so many gay men had left a power vacuum in community organizations which began to be filled by lesbians. In the mid-1990s, for the first time, the term “gay, lesbian and bisexual” began to appear locally. As political For much of the correctness and inclusiveness early years of the became the Gay Civil Rights new word du jour, bisexuals movement, we not identifysimply fought to ing as either not be classified gay, lesbian or straight vied as criminals and for a place in mentally ill. the homosexual civil rights movement, although most mainstream media still used the term gay and lesbian. Bisexuals now grafted into community found themselves in an awkward position of having their loyalty and commitment to the struggles of gays and lesbians questioned. Straights were still generally perceived as hostile to gay people, therefore some viewed bisexuals as sleeping with the enemy. As bisexuals took their place in the homosexual alphabet acronym, in the 2000s a paradigm shift occurred as transgender visibility was being perceived as another “sexual minority.” However, “gender identity” was not viewed by many in the community as the same as “sexual orientation” and many resisted transgender issues

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as being part of a homosexual rights movement. After a vote at their 1998 annual meeting in San Francisco, Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays was the first national organization to officially adopt a transgender-inclusion policy in its mission statement. PFLAG continued the push to include Transgender as part of their work by creating the Transgender Network (TNET) in 2002. PFLAG’s national influence became the main motivator for the inclusion of Transgender as part of the homosexual acronym. By 2004, Utah’s Gay and Lesbian Community Center officially changed its name to reflect the national trend to include transgender folk within the gay, lesbian and bisexual communities. Its new moniker however was an awkward mouthful - the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender Community Center of Utah (GLBTCCU). Until 2005 the acronym GLBT (Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender) was used to refer to this new movement that included all sexual minorities. Also in 2005, the Utah Community Center switched the acronym to LGBT (Lesbian,

Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender) to refer to homosexuals and transgenders in their publications and web postings. It is clear even today, from the use of queer as a unifying umbrella term as gay once was, that our movement is still undergoing growing pains, and there are still no agreement as to whether the acronym should be GLBT or LGBT. Or as more people are demanding inclusion should the alphabet moniker keeps growing to include Q and I and A and P? Some see this growth as a good thing as we become more and more inclusive, while others see it as diluting the original concept of “community” believing that we, by trying to become all things to all people, have lost that part of us that made us gay in the first place. As we enter mid way into the 2010s can we reconcile a movement that began to protect and safeguard the rights of people’s sexual orientation, a fundamental right to love who you will without persecution, with a movement based on gender identity? Once gay people referred each other as “family”… can there be an LGBTQIA family? Time and history will tell I suppose. Q

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PERSON OF THE YEAR Marian Edmonds Allen OUTreach Resource Centers BY MICHAEL AARON

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reading this may not have heard the name Marian Edmonds Allen and are wondering what in the world QSaltLake is doing, putting her on the cover as Person of the Year. Let me tell you. I first met Edmonds in March, 2011, before she had moved to Salt Lake with the dream of starting a new affirming church called Cathedral of Hope here, in the land of Zion. Her eyes glowed with passion as she unveiled her vision, along with her thenlife partner Julie Watson. Both Watson and Edmonds had just graduated with Masters of Divinity from Eden Theological Seminary in St. Louis, Mo. and Edmonds was already working at Bethel United Church of Christ in Elmhurst, Ill. while making plans to move west. In May, the couple packed a 5x7 UHaul trailer, hitched it to their Saab and headed across the Midwest, arriving in Salt Lake just in time to set up a booth at the Utah Pride Festival. The first gathering of Cathedral of Hope was later in June at the Episcopal Diocese of Utah in downtown Salt Lake. Late summer of that year, Edmonds and Watson put together a candle-light vigil at Liberty Park for assault victim Dane Hall, drawing every news station and Chris Burbank, Salt Lake City Chief of Police. Hundreds gathered to hear people talk of violence against gays, lesbians, bisexuals and transgender people before heading on foot for a half-mile walk. It was there that I saw the organizing power Edmonds had to quickly address needs as they arose in her community. By November of that year, Edmonds would take the helm of Ogden OUTreach after former executive director Gary Horenkamp moved to Texas with his partner. Ogden OUTreach was the brainchild of the Unitarian Universalist Church, Ogden. Members held a visioning session in 2004 which led to the creation of a drop-in center for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender youth. “As you can imagine, there was nothing like it in their part of Utah,” Unitarian Universalist Association President Peter Morales said in a video highlighting the organization

for other UUA chapters around the country. The church of only 110 members served the needs of 135 youth and young adults in 2009–10 alone. They also hosted the Ogden Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays. “There’s a real sense of making a difference in this world. This church doesn’t wonder why it’s here,” said Rev. Theresa Novak. “We know why we’re here. It’s because there’s programs like OUTreach to do and kids to help as they’re struggling with who they are, and to help them along that journey.” But it’s the strides the organization has made in 2013 that caught our eye. As the Utah Pride Center was struggling with financial and leadership issues, Ogden OUTreach was quietly growing six-fold, expanding into five new small towns in northern Utah. Asked what happened to make such growth happen in the organization, Edmonds said she believed it was just the universe coming together. But truly, as I talked to Edmonds, it was clear that she has a knack for wrangling the passion of any volunteer willing to step forward and say they’d like to help and hooking them up with others to make such things happen. “My favorite thing is to bring together people with shared passions who don’t even know each other,” Edmonds said. Another difference, is that Edmonds puts youth in charge. “The youth have always been part of the leadership of OUTreach,” Edmonds explained. “This isn’t adults deciding what the needs of the youth are. This is youth telling us what they need.” Edmonds said that, when she joined the organization, it was run by the “lovely and wonderful” people of the church, who had carried the burden for many years and were beginning to burn out. “I just saw the possibilities in Ogden to expand our focus city-wide,” she said. “OUTreach saves lives and transforms communities,” Edmonds says of her mission statement. “We direct services to youth and adults who have the greatest needs.” She says the group’s programming relies on evidence-based services with proven results. “We research best practices that have hard evidence that they are successful,” Edmonds

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said. “We have looked into such programs as ‘From Streets to Scholars’ that we know work.” The program is making change not only in Northern Utah, but across the nation as government programs and big business initiatives use the now-dubbed OUTreach Resources Centers as tests for potential services nationwide. The U.S. Department of Heath and Human Services is testing “Healthy Sexuality” programming for conservative areas that restrict what schools can say about sex in their efforts to prevent STDs. OUTreach is the only program serving the LGBT community that they are studying the response and testing the language used. “It’s hilarious to see a packed room of kids being presented with rainbow dildos,” Edmonds laughs. Homelessness is another huge focus of the Centers. “Thirty percent of the youth who use our services are homeless,” Edmonds said. “We provide them a warm meal and supplies to survive.” She said their Safe and Sound project is aimed at preventing LGBT youth from becoming homeless in the first place. “We have joined with Mormons Building Bridges to find allies in wards across the region,” she explained. “Each ward has an advocate so that when a family is facing the issue of a gay or lesbian child, they work to keep the family together.” Failing that, the Centers attempt to find a family within the ward to host the displaced child on a permanent basis or until the family can resolve its issues. “If we can find homes for these kids, we not only save them from living on the streets, but we can protect them from predators that they might turn to for survival,” she said. Another initiative is a collaboration with Starbucks. Again, OUTreach Resource Centers is a test market for a mentoring program that Starbucks is looking to launch nationwide. What happens here will be used as a model across the country. “Starbucks wanted to create a mentoring program, using grants to fund local groups,” Edmonds said. “They want to team up mentors with LGBT, ally and homeless youth, both individually and in groups.” Similar to a Big Brothers/Big Sisters program for LGBT and homeless youth. Over the last few years, the group has also reached out when communities are dealing with LGBT and homeless issues. Most recently, two sisters in Brigham City were working to launch a Gay-Straight Alliance at their high school. The school district was

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looking into ways to shut down all noncurricular clubs, of which many said was to thwart the GSA. OUTreach, as it has done in other cities as well, set up a community forum to discuss the issues. “The first meeting in Brigham City was stuffed — standing room only,” Edmonds said. “We had 70 people there in the small town of Brigham City the first meeting. I knew only five people there.” Ninety people showed up at the school board meeting to express their support for the GSA. “Even in these rural communities, there is excitement and passion to show their gay and lesbian youth that they are not the only ones, they are not alone,” Edmonds said. “We are able to bring those people together.” Edmonds said that most people, even in small towns, have a gay nephew or someone else they know who they are concerned about. “It’s the stories that get to people,” Edmonds said of the forums. “The youth tell people how tough it was growing up, and those in the room respond in big ways.” “People are becoming more open. This is the civil rights issue of today. Younger people simply don’t care who you fall in love with,” said Edmonds. “This may just break open their church.” Yet another program is that OUTreach is teaming up with the Utah Domestic Violence Council and will be a support for their 16 facilities across the state, training staff to properly handle lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender clients. Asked if she worries bout getting too big, too fast, Edmonds says yes and no. “Our model is to empower communities,” she said. “We set people up to take on the tasks they volunteer for and are experienced at and provide the organization and support to keep it going.” And the communities are responding. When Edmonds put a call out for donations to help homeless youth through the Ogden Standard-Examiner, truckloads of donations came in through November. Just in December, OUTreach expanded from one location in Ogden to locations in Logan, Tremonton, Brigham City and Clearfield. Tami and Jane Marquardt offered a matching donation to fund the new Centers, which Edmonds and her team were able to meet within a month. But, as Edmonds says, it’s the stories that reach people. Here is one from a Mormon Woman who started a group on Lehi called Exploring Sainthood. They chose to come

up and help in November when they heard Edmonds’ plea for homeless LGBT youth. “I wish I would have known when I walked into the building of the OUTreach Resource Center that I would be so profoundly touched by the evening I would spend there,” said organizer Shan Sullivan. “I would have paid more attention to the details.” “I was introduced to Marian after getting things settled. She greeted me warmly and I knew instantly that we would be friends. She is an amazing woman. Running this center has to be heartbreaking work and she radiates love and kindness and joy. I knew that the intersection of my life with hers was no accident and that it was a gift,” Sullivan continues. “Marian asked me to come into the room where everyone was socializing before dinner. She wanted me to introduce our organization and what we do. I am rarely nervous but as I stood before those kids to talk about how my Mormon friends were there to feed them, I felt the most awkward I had felt in front of a group in a long time. I sensed the pain and the bristling as I explained that we were a group of progressive Mormons who were trying to create spaces of inclusion and ways to connect with God. They did not trust me. I could tell immediately that the pain that these folks had experienced with my faith tradition was long and deep. I knew that no amount of smiling and cheer was going to change minds immediately. I was going to have to prove that I was there for the long haul. I decided in that second that I would be there every month no matter what to help undo the pain I saw.” If a Mormon woman from Lehi and her team can drive the two-hour round trip after baking ziti marinara each month, I think Edmonds’ and her team’s message is reaching an audience. Recently, Edmonds married her new life partner, Tori Allen, in Washington in late June. Allen’s family lives in American Fork and they spend many Sundays playing board games together. Allen is a former basketball player with Weber State University. They met though OUTreach. For her passion, her organization, her model that will change the world and for her ability to bring together and transform communities, and to save lives, QSaltLake declares Marian Edmonds our Person of the Year. Q For more information on OUTreach Resource Centers, go to outreachresourcecenters.org. If you are a youth in need in Northern Utah, visit the web site for locations. Hour are: Ogden, 705 23rd St — Wednesdays 3–7:30pm; Logan, 596 E 900 North — Fridays 4:30–7:30pm; Clearfield, 782 E 700 South - First Thursdays 5:30–7:30pm; Brigham City, 435 E 700 South — 2nd Thursdays 4–6pm; Tremonton, 440 W 600 North — 3rd Thursdays, 4–6 pm.

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The Sundance Film Festival will take place January 16–26 in Park City, Salt Lake and Ogden, Utah. For the 2014 Sundance Film Festival, 118 featurelength films were selected, representing 37 countries and 54 first-time filmmakers, including 34 in competition. These films were selected from 12,218 submissions (72 more than for 2013), including 4,057 feature-length films and 8,161 short films. Of the feature film submissions, 2,014 were from the U.S. and 2,043 were international. 97 feature films at the Festival will be world premieres. The films and short description are listed below. Those with pink titles are specifically relevant to the gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender community.

OUT OF COMPETITION PREMIERES Here is a small selection of the noncompetition premiere films that will be show during Sundance:

Love is Strange / U.S.A.

(DIR/ SCREENWRITER IRA SACHS, MAURICIO ZACHARIAS)

After 39 years together, Ben and George finally tie the knot, but George loses his job as a result, and the newlyweds must sell their New York apartment and live apart, relying on friends and family to make ends meet. Cast: John Lithgow, Alfred Molina, Marisa Tomei, Darren Burrows, Charlie Tahan, Cheyenne Jackson.

Nick Offerman: American Ham / U.S.A.

(DIRECTOR: JORDAN VOGTROBERTS, SCREENWRITER: NICK OFFERMAN) WARNING: MINOR NUDITY AND NOT SUITABLE

This live taping of Nick Offerman’s hilarious one-man show at New York’s historic Town Hall theater features a collection of anecdotes, songs, and woodworking/oral sex techniques. The routine includes Offerman’s 10 tips for living a more prosperous life, so hearken well. Cast: Nick Offerman. FOR VEGETARIANS.

To Be Takei / U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: JENNIFER KROOT)

Over seven decades, actor and activist George Takei journeyed from a World War II internment camp to the helm of the Starship Enterprise, and then to the daily news feeds of five million Facebook fans. Join George and his husband, Brad, on a wacky and profound trek for life, liberty, and love.

U.S. DRAMATIC COMPETITION World premieres of 16 narrative feature films, the Dramatic Competition offers Festivalgoers a first look at groundbreaking new voices in American independent film.

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Camp X-Ray / USA (DIR.

SCREENWRITER: PETER SATTLER)

A young woman is stationed as a guard in Guantanamo Bay, where she forms an unlikely friendship with one of the detainees. Cast: Kristen Stewart, Payman Maadi, Lane Garrison, J.J. Soria, John Carroll Lynch.

Fishing Without Nets / USA, SOMALIA, KENYA

(DIRECTOR: CUTTER HODIERNE, SCREENWRITERS: CUTTER HODIERNE, JOHN HIBEY, DAVID BURKMAN)

A story of pirates in Somalia told from the perspective of a struggling, young Somali fisherman. Cast: Abdikani Muktar, Abdi Siad, Abduwhali Faarah, Abdikhadir Hassan, Reda Kateb, Idil Ibrahim.

Cold in July / USA (DIRECTOR: JIM MICKLE, SCREENWRITERS: JIM MICKLE, NICK DAMICI)

After killing a home intruder, a small town Texas man’s life unravels into a dark underworld of corruption and violence. Cast: Michael C. Hall, Don Johnson, Sam Shepard, Vinessa Shaw, Nick Damici, Wyatt Russell.

Dear White People/ USA (DIR./SCREENWRITER: JUSTIN SIMIEN)

Four black students attend an Ivy League college where a riot breaks out over an “African American” themed party thrown by white students. With tongue planted firmly in cheek, the film explores racial identity in postracial America while weaving a story about forging one’s unique path in the world. Cast: Tyler Williams, Tessa Thompson, Teyonah Parris, Brandon Bell.

Hellion / USA (DIR./

SCREENWRITER: KAT CANDLER)

When motocross and heavy metal obsessed, 13-year-old Jacob’s delinquent behavior forces CPS to place his little brother Wes with his aunt, Jacob and his emotionally absent father must finally take responsibility for their actions and each other in order to bring Wes home. Cast: Aaron Paul, Juliette Lewis, Josh Wiggins, Deke Garner, Jonny Mars, Walt Roberts.

God’s Pocket/ USA

(DIRECTOR: JOHN SLATTERY, SCREENWRITERS: JOHN SLATTERY, ALEX METCALF)

When Mickey’s stepson Leon is killed in a construction “accident,” Mickey tries to bury the bad news with the body. But when the boy’s mother demands the truth, Mickey finds himself stuck between a body he can’t bury, a wife he can’t please, and a debt he can’t pay. Cast: Philip Seymour Hoffman, Richard Jenkins, Christina Hendricks, John Turturro.

Infinitely Polar Bear /

USA (DIR./SCREENWRITER: MAYA FORBES)

A manic-depressive mess of a father tries to win back his wife by attempting to take full responsibility of their two young, spirited daughters, who don’t make the overwhelming task any easier. Cast: Mark Ruffalo, Zoe Saldana, Imogene Wolodarsky, Ashley Aufderheide.

Happy Christmas /

Jamie Marks is Dead /

USA (DIR./SCREENWRITER: JOE SWANBERG)

USA (DIR./SCREENWRITER: CARTER SMITH)

After a breakup with her boyfriend, a young woman moves in with her older brother, his wife, and their 2-year-old son.Cast: Anna Kendrick, Melanie Lynskey, Mark Webber, Lena Dunham, Joe Swanberg.

No one seemed to care about Jamie Marks until after his death. Hoping to find the love and friendship he never had in life, Jamie’s ghost visits former classmate Adam McCormick, drawing him into the bleak world

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Ivory Tower / USA

(DIRECTOR: ANDREW ROSSI)

As tuition spirals upward and student debt passes a trillion dollars, students and parents ask, «Is college worth it?» From the halls of Harvard to public and private colleges in financial crisis to education startups in Silicon Valley, an urgent portrait emerges of a great American institution at the breaking point.

Marmato / USA (DIRECTOR: MARK GRIECO)

Colombia is the center of a new global gold rush, and Marmato, a historic mining town, is the new frontier. Filmed over the course of nearly six years,Marmato chronicles how townspeople confront a Canadian mining company that wants the $20 billion in gold beneath their homes.

chase their dreams and run from their demons in the North Dakota oil fields. A local Pastor’s decision to help them has extraordinary and unexpected consequences.

Private Violence / USA (DIRECTOR: CYNTHIA HILL)

One in four women experience violence in their homes. Have you ever asked, “Why doesn’t she just leave?” Private Violence shatters the brutality of our logic and intimately reveals the stories of two women: Deanna Walters, who transforms from victim to survivor, and Kit Gruelle, who advocates for justice.

ANDREW DROZ PALERMO, TRACY DROZ TRAGOS)

In a rural, American town, kids face heartbreaking choices, find comfort in the most fragile of family bonds, and dream of a future of possibility.

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The Overnighters / USA (DIRECTOR: JESSE MOSS)

Desperate, broken men

52 Tuesdays / AUSTRALIA

(DIRECTOR: SOPHIE HYDE, SCREENPLAY AND STORY BY: MATTHEW CORMACK, STORY BY: SOPHIE HYDE)

Sixteen-year-old Billie’s reluctant path to independence is accelerated when her mother reveals plans for gender transition, and their time together becomes limited to Tuesdays. This emotionally charged story of desire, responsibility, and transformation was filmed over the course of a year— once a week, every week, only on Tuesdays. Cast: Tilda Cobham-Hervey, Del Herbert-Jane, Imogen Archer, Mario Späte, Beau Williams, Sam Althuizen. International Premiere

Watchers of the Sky /

USA (DIRECTOR: EDET BELZBERG)

Five interwoven stories of remarkable courage from Nuremberg to Rwanda, from Darfur to Syria, and from apathy to action.

WORLD CINEMA DRAMATIC COMPETITION Twelve films from emerging filmmaking talents around the world offer fresh perspectives and inventive styles.

Lilting / UNITED KINGDOM (DIR./SCREENWRITER: HONG KHAOU)

The Disobedient/ SERBIA (DIR./SCREENWRITER: MINA DJUKIC)

Leni anxiously waits for her childhood friend Lazar, who is coming back to their hometown after years of studying abroad. After they reunite, they embark on a random bicycle trip around their childhood haunts, which will either exhaust or reinvent their relationship. Cast: Hana Selimovic, Mladen Sovilj, Minja Subota, Danijel Sike, Ivan Djordjevic. World Premiere

Blind / NORWAY,

NETHERLANDS (DIR./ SCREENWRITER: ESKIL VOGT)

Having recently lost her sight, Ingrid retreats to the safety of her home—a place she can feel in control, alone with her husband and her thoughts. But Ingrid’s real problems lie within, not beyond the walls of her apartment, and her deepest fears and repressed fantasies soon take over. Cast: Ellen Dorrit Petersen, Henrik Rafaelsen, Vera Vitali, Marius Kolbenstvedt. World Premiere

Difret / ETHIOPIA (DIR./

SCREENWRITER: ZERESENAY BERHANE MEHARI)

Meaza Ashenafi is a young lawyer who operates under the government’s radar helping women and children until one young girl’s legal case exposes everything, threatening not only her

The world of a Chinese mother mourning the untimely death of her son is suddenly disrupted by the presence of a stranger who doesn’t speak her language. Lilting is a touching and intimate film about finding the things that bring us together. Cast: Ben Whishaw, Pei-Pei Cheng, Andrew Leung, Peter Bowles, Naomi Christie, Morven Christie. World Premiere. DAY ONE FILM

Lock Charmer (El cerrajero)/ ARGENTINA God Help the Girl /

(DIR./SCREENWRITER: NATALIA SMIRNOFF)

This musical from Stuart Murdoch of Belle & Sebastian is about some messed up boys and girls and the music they made. Cast: Emily Browning, Olly Alexander, Hannah Murray, Cora Bissett, Pierre Boulanger. World Premiere

Upon learning that his girlfriend is pregnant, 33-yearold locksmith Sebastian begins to have strange visions about his clients. With the help of an unlikely assistant, he sets out to use his newfound talent for his own good. Cast: Esteban Lamothe, Erica Rivas, Yosiria Huaripata. World Premiere

Liar’s Dice / INDIA (DIR./

To Kill a Man / CHILE,

UNITED KINGDOM (DIR./ SCREENWRITER: STUART MURDOCH)

Rich Hill / USA (DIRECTORS:

No No: A Dockumentary / USA (DIRECTOR: JEFFREY Dock Ellis pitched a nohitter on LSD, then worked for decades counseling drug abusers. Dock’s soulful style defined 1970s baseball as he kept hitters honest and embarrassed the establishment. An ensemble cast of teammates, friends, and family investigate his life on the field, in the media, and out of the spotlight.

career but her survival. Cast: Meron Getnet, Tizita Hagere. World Premiere

SCREENWRITER: GEETU MOHANDAS)

Kamala, a young woman from the village of Chitkul, leaves her native land with her daughter to search for her missing husband. Along the journey, they encounter Nawazudin, a free-spirited army deserter with his own selfish motives who helps them reach their destination. Cast: Nawazuddin Siddiqui, Geetanjali Thapa, Manya Gupta. International Premiere

FRANCE (DIR./SCREENWRITER: ALEJANDRO FERNANDEZ ALMENDRAS)

When Jorge, a hardworking family man who’s barely making ends meet, gets mugged by Kalule, a neighborhood delinquent, Jorge’s son decides to confront the attacker, only to get himself shot. Even though Jorge’s son nearly dies, Kalule’s sentence is minimal, heightening the friction. Cast: Daniel Candia, Daniel Antivilo, Alejandra

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between the living and the dead. Cast: Cameron Monaghan, Noah Silver, Morgan Saylor, Judy Greer, Madisen Beaty, Liv Tyler.

their lives. Cast: Anne Hathaway, Johnny Flynn, Mary Steenburgen, Ben Rosenfield.

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to the police. Years later, John and Barron meet in a bar to resolve the betrayal.

The Skeleton Twins / USA

Dinosaur 13 / USA

(DIRECTOR: CRAIG JOHNSON, SCREENWRITERS: CRAIG JOHNSON, MARK HEYMAN)

Kumiko, the Treasure Hunter/ USA

(DIRECTOR: DAVID ZELLNER, SCREENWRITERS: DAVID ZELLNER, NATHAN ZELLNER)

A lonely Japanese woman becomes convinced that a satchel of money buried in a fictional film is, in fact, real. Abandoning her structured life in Tokyo for the frozen Minnesota wilderness, she embarks on an impulsive quest to search for her lost mythical fortune. Cast: Rinko Kikuchi.

Life After Beth / USA (DIR./ SCREENWRITER: JEFF BAENA)

Zach is devastated by the unexpected death of his girlfriend, Beth. When she mysteriously returns, he gets a second chance at love. Soon his whole world turns upside down. Cast: Aubrey Plaza, Dane DeHaan, John C. Reilly, Molly Shannon, Cheryl Hines, Paul Reiser.

Low Down / USA (DIRECTOR: JEFF PREISS, SCREENWRITERS: AMY ALBANY, TOPPER LILIEN)

Based on Amy Jo Albany’s memoir, Low Down explores her heart-wrenching journey to adulthood while being raised by her father, bebop pianist Joe Albany, as he teeters between incarceration and addiction in the urban decay and waning bohemia of Hollywood in the 1970s. Cast: John Hawkes, Elle Fanning, Glenn Close, Lena Headey, Peter Dinklage, Flea.

(DIRECTOR: TODD MILLER)

Estranged twins Maggie and Milo coincidentally cheat death on the same day, prompting them to reunite and confront the reasons their lives went so wrong. As the twins’ reunion reinvigorates them, they realize the key to fixing their lives may just lie in repairing their relationship. Cast: Bill Hader, Kristen Wiig, Luke Wilson, Ty Burrell, Boyd Holbrook, Joanna Gleason.

Whiplash / USA (DIR./

NORWAY (DIRECTOR: MONA FASTVOLD, SCREENWRITERS: MONA FASTVOLD, BRADY CORBET)

Sixteen world-premiere American documentaries that illuminate the ideas, people, and events that shape the present day.

The Sleepwalker / USA,

A young couple, Kaia and Andrew, are renovating Kaia´s secluded family estate. Their lives are violently interrupted when unexpected guests arrive. The Sleepwalker chronicles the unraveling of the lives of four disparate characters as it transcends genre conventions and narrative contrivance to reveal something much more disturbing. Cast: Gitte Witt, Christopher Abbott, Brady Corbet, Stephanie Ellis.

Song One / USA (DIR./

SCREENWRITER: KATE BARKERFROYLAND)

Estranged from her family, Franny returns home when an accident leaves her brother comatose. Retracing his life as an aspiring musician, she tracks down his favorite musician, James Forester. Against the backdrop of Brooklyn’s music scene, Franny and James develop an unexpected relationship and face the realities of

SCREENWRITER: DAMIEN CHAZELLE)

Under the direction of a ruthless instructor, a talented young drummer begins to pursue perfection at any cost, even his humanity. Cast: Miles Teller, JK Simmons. DAY ONE FILM

U.S. DOCUMENTARY COMPETITION

Alive Inside: A Story of Music & Memory / USA

(DIRECTOR: MICHAEL ROSSATOBENNETT)

Five million Americans suffer from Alzheimer’s disease and dementia—many of them alone in nursing homes. A man with a simple idea discovers that songs embedded deep in memory can ease pain and awaken these fading minds. Joy and life are resuscitated, and our cultural fears over aging are confronted.

All the Beautiful Things / USA (DIRECTOR: JOHN HARKRIDER)

John and Barron are lifelong friends whose friendship is tested when Barron’s girlfriend says Barron put a knife to her throat and raped her. Not knowing she has lied, John tells her to go

CAPTIVATED The Trials of Pamela Smart /

The true tale behind one of the greatest discoveries in history. DAY ONE FILM.

USA, UNITED KINGDOM (DIRECTOR: JEREMIAH ZAGAR)

In an extraordinary and tragic American story, a small town murder becomes one of the highest profile cases of all time. From its historic role as the first televised trial to the many books and movies made about it, the film looks at the media’s enduring impact on the case.

E-TEAM / USA (DIRECTORS: KATY CHEVIGNY, ROSS

— E-TEAM is driven by the high-stakes investigative work of four intrepid human rights workers, offering a rare look at their lives at home and their dramatic work in the field. KAUFFMAN)

The Case Against 8 / USA

(DIRECTORS: BEN COTNER, RYAN WHITE)

A behind-the-scenes look inside the case to overturn California’s ban on samesex marriage. Shot over five years, the film follows the unlikely team that took the first federal marriage equality lawsuit to the U.S. Supreme Court.

Fed Up / USA (DIRECTOR: STEPHANIE SOECHTIG) — Fed

Up blows the lid off everything we thought we knew about food and weight loss, revealing a 30-year campaign by the food industry, aided by the U.S. government, to mislead and confuse the American public, resulting in one of the largest health epidemics in history.

Cesar’s Last Fast / USA

(DIRECTORS: RICHARD RAY PEREZ, LORENA PARLEE)

Inspired by Catholic social teaching, Cesar Chavez risked his life fighting for America’s poorest workers. The film illuminates the intensity of one man’s devotion and personal sacrifice, the birth of an economic justice movement, and tells an untold chapter in the story of civil rights in America.

The Internet’s Own Boy: The Story of Aaron Swartz / USA (DIRECTOR: BRIAN KNAPPENBERGER)

Programming prodigy and information activist Aaron Swartz achieved groundbreaking work in social justice and political organizing. His passion for open access ensnared him in a legal nightmare that ended with the taking of his own life at the age of 26.

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Yañez, Ariel Mateluna. World Premiere

Wetlands/ GERMANY Viktoria / BULGARIA,

ROMANIA (DIR./SCREENWRITER: MAYA VITKOVA)

Although determined not to have a child in Communist Bulgaria, Boryana gives birth to Viktoria, who despite being born with no umbilical cord, is proclaimed to be the baby of the decade. But political collapse and the hardships of the new time bind mother and daughter together. Cast: Irmena Chichikova, Daria Vitkova, Kalina Vitkova, Mariana Krumova, Dimo Dimov, Georgi Spassov. World Premiere

(DIRECTOR: DAVID WNENDT, SCREENWRITERS: CLAUS FALKENBERG, DAVID WNENDT, BASED ON THE NOVEL BY CHARLOTTE ROCHE)

Meet Helen Memel. She likes to experiment with vegetables while masturbating and thinks that bodily hygiene is greatly overrated. She shocks those around her by speaking her mind in a most unladylike manner on topics that many people would not even dare consider. Cast: Carla Juri, Christoph Letkowski, Meret Becker, Axel Milberg, Marlen Kruse, Edgar Selge. North American Premiere

White Shadow / ITALY,

GERMANY, TANZANIA (DIRECTOR: NOAZ DESHE, SCREENWRITERS: NOAZ DESHE, JAMES MASSON)

Alias is a young albino boy on the run. His mother has sent him away to find refuge in the city after witnessing his father’s murder. Over time, the city becomes no different than the bush: wherever Alias travels, the same rules of survival apply. Cast: Hamisi Bazili, James Gayo, Glory Mbayuwayu, Salum Abdallah. International Premiere

WORLD CINEMA DOCUMENTARY COMPETITION Twelve documentaries by some of the most courageous and extraordinary international filmmakers working today.

who we are and celebrates the transformative power of the creative spirit. World Premiere

Concerning Violence / SWEDEN, USA, DENMARK, FINLAND (DIRECTOR: GÖRAN HUGO OLSSON) —Con-

20,000 Days On Earth / UNITED KINGDOM

(DIRECTORS: IAIN FORSYTH & JANE POLLARD)

Drama and reality combine in a fictitious 24 hours in the life of musician and international culture icon Nick Cave. With startlingly frank insights and an intimate portrayal of the artistic process, this film examines what makes us

cerning Violence is based on newly discovered, powerful archival material documenting the most daring moments in the struggle for liberation in the Third World, accompanied by classic text from The Wretched of the Earth by Frantz Fanon. World Premiere

The Green Prince / GERMANY, ISRAEL, UNITED KINGDOM (DIRECTOR: NADAV SCHIRMAN ) This real-life thriller tells the story of one of Israel’s prized intelligence sources, recruited to spy on his own people for more than a decade. Focusing on the complex relationship with his handler, The Green Prince is a gripping account of terror, betrayal, and unthinkable choices, along with a friendship that defies all boundaries. World Premiere. DAY ONE FILM

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FINLAND (DIRECTOR: THOMAS BALMÈS)

Peyangki is a dreamy and solitary eight-year-old monk living in Laya, a Bhutanese village perched high in the Himalayas. Soon the world will come to him: the village is about to be connected to electricity, and the first television will flicker

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on before Peyangki’s eyes. North American Premiere

an unforgettable look at a unique Canadian artist. International Premiere

We Come as Friends /

FRANCE, AUSTRIA (DIRECTOR: HUBERT SAUPER) — We

Love Child / SOUTH KOREA, USA (DIRECTOR: VALERIE VEATCH)

In Seoul in the Republic of Korea, a young couple stands accused of neglect when «Internet addiction» in an online fantasy game costs the life of their infant daughter. Love Child documents the 2010 trial and subsequent ruling that set a global precedent in a world where virtual is the new reality. World Premiere

The Notorious Mr. Bout / USA, RUSSIA

(DIRECTORS: TONY GERBER, MAXIM POZDOROVKIN )

Viktor Bout was a war profiteer, an entrepreneur, an aviation tycoon, an arms dealer, and—strangest of all—a documentary filmmaker. The Notorious Mr. Bout is the ultimate rags-to-riches-to-prison memoir, documented by the last man you’d expect to be holding the camera. World Premiere

Mr leos caraX / FRANCE

Return to Homs / SYRIA,

— Mr leos caraX plunges us into the poetic and visionary world of a mysterious, solitary filmmaker who was already a cult figure from his very first film. Punctuated by interviews and previously unseen footage, this documentary is most of all a fine-tuned exploration of the poetic and visionary world of Leos Carax, alias Mr. X.World Premiere

Basset Sarout, the 19-yearold national football team goalkeeper, becomes a demonstration leader and singer, and then a fighter. Ossama, a 24-yearold renowned citizen cameraman, is critical, a pacifist, and ironic until he is detained by the regime’s security forces. North American Premiere

(DIRECTOR: TESSA LOUISESALOMÉ)

My Prairie Home /

CANADA (DIRECTOR: CHELSEA MCMULLAN)

A poetic journey through landscapes both real and emotional, Chelsea McMullan’s documentary/ musical offers an intimate portrait of transgender singer Rae Spoon, framed by stunning images of the Canadian prairies. McMullan’s imaginative visual interpretations of Spoon’s songs make this

GERMANY (DIRECTOR: TALAL DERKI)

Reaching for the Stars / DENMARK (DIRECTOR: BERIT MADSEN)

Sepideh wants to become an astronaut. As a young Iranian woman, she knows it’s dangerous to challenge traditions and expectations. Still, Sepideh holds on to her dream. She knows a tough battle is ahead, a battle that only seems possible to win once she seeks help from an unexpected someone. North American Premiere

Come as Friends is a modern odyssey, a science fiction–like journey in a tiny homemade flying machine into the heart of Africa. At the moment when the Sudan, Africa’s biggest country, is being divided into two nations, a «civilizing» pathology transcends the headlines— colonialism, imperialism, and yet-another holy war over resources. World Premiere

Web Junkie / ISRAEL

(DIRECTORS: SHOSH SHLAM, HILLA MEDALIA)

China is the first country to label “Internet addiction” a clinical disorder. Web Junkie investigates a Beijing rehab center where Chinese teenagers are deprogrammed. World Premiere

NEXT <=> Pure, bold works distinguished by an innovative, forward-thinking approach to storytelling populate this program. Digital technology paired with unfettered creativity promises that the films in this section will shape a “greater” next wave in American cinema.

Appropriate Behavior / USA, UNITED KINGDOM (DIR./ SCREENWRITER: DESIREE AKHAVAN)

Shirin is struggling to

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become an ideal Persian daughter, a politically correct bisexual, and a hip, young Brooklynite, but fails miserably in her attempt at all identities. Being without a cliché to hold on to can be a lonely experience. Cast: Desiree Akhavan, Rebecca Henderson, Halley Feiffer, Scott Adsit, Anh Duong, Arian Moayed. World Premiere

Drunktown’s Finest / USA (DIR./SCREENWRITER: SYDNEY FREELAND)

Three young Native Americans—a rebellious fatherto-be, a devout Christian woman, and a promiscuous transsexual—come of age on an Indian reservation. Cast: Jeremiah Bitsui, Carmen Moore, Morningstar Angeline, Kiowa Gordon, Shauna Baker, Elizabeth Francis.World Premiere

The Foxy Merkins / USA

(DIRECTOR: MADELEINE OLNEK, SCREENWRITERS: LISA HAAS, JACKIE MONAHAN, MADELEINE OLNEK)

Two lesbian hookers work the streets of New York. One is a down-on-herluck newbie; the other is a beautiful—and straight— grifter who’s an expert on picking up women. Together they face bargain-hunting housewives, double-dealing conservative women, and each other in this prostitute buddy comedy. Cast: Lisa Haas, Jackie Monahan, Alex Karpovsky, Susan Ziegler, Sally Sockwell, Deb Margolin.

A Girl Walks Home Alone at Night / USA

(DIR./SCREENWRITER: ANA LILY AMIRPOUR)

In the Iranian ghost town Bad City, a place that reeks of death and loneliness, depraved denizens are unaware they are being stalked by a lonesome vampire. Cast: Sheila Vand, Arash Marandi, Dominic Rains, Marshall Manesh, Mozhan Marnó, Milad Eghbali.World Premiere

Imperial Dreams / USA (DIRECTOR: MALIK VITTHAL, SCREENWRITERS: MALIK VITTHAL, ISMET PRCIC)

A 21-year-old, reformed gangster’s devotion to his family and his future are put to the test when he is released from prison and returns to his old stomping grounds in Watts, Los Angeles. Cast: John Boyega, Rotimi Akinosho, Glenn Plummer, Keke Palmer, De’aundre Bonds.World Premiere

Land Ho! / USA,

ICELAND (DIRECTORS AND SCREENWRITERS: MARTHA

Stephens, Aaron Katz) A pair of ex-brothers-inlaw set off to Iceland in an attempt to reclaim their youth through Reykjavik nightclubs, trendy spas, and rugged campsites. This bawdy adventure is a throwback to 1980s road comedies, as well as a candid exploration of aging, loneliness, and friendship. Cast: Paul Eenhoorn, Earl Nelson, Alice Olivia Clarke, Karrie Krouse, Elizabeth McKee, Emmsjé Gauti.World Premiere

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Listen Up Philip / USA (DIR./

SCREENWRITER: ALEX ROSS PERRY)

A story about changing seasons and changing attitudes, a newly accomplished writer faces mistakes and miseries affecting those around him, including his girlfriend, her sister, his idol, his idol’s daughter, and all the exgirlfriends and enemies that lie in wait on the open streets of New York. Cast: Jason Schwartzman, Elisabeth Moss, Jonathan Pryce, Krysten Ritter, Josephine de La Baume. World Premiere

Memphis / USA (DIR./SCREENWRITER: TIM SUTTON)

A strange singer drifts through the mythic city of Memphis, surrounded by beautiful women, legendary musicians, a stone-cold hustler, a righteous preacher, and a wolf pack of kids. Under a canopy of ancient oak trees and burning spirituality, his doomed journey breaks from conformity and reaches out for glory. Cast: Willis Earl Beal, Lopaka Thomas, Constance Brantley, Devonte Hull, John Gary Williams, Larry Dodson. World Premiere

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Donna Stern gets dumped, fired, and pregnant, just in time for the worst/best Valentine’s Day of her life. Cast: Jenny Slate, Jake Lacy, Gaby Hoffmann, David Cross, Gabe Liedman, Richard Kind.World Premiere

Ping Pong Summer / USA (DIR./ SCREENWRITER: MICHAEL TULLY)

1985. Ocean City, Maryland. Summer vacation. Rap music. Parachute pants. Ping pong. First crushes. Best friends. Mean bullies. Weird mentors. That awkward, momentous time in your life when you’re treated like an alien by everyone around you, even though you know deep down you’re as funky fresh as it gets. Cast: Susan Sarandon, John Hannah, Lea Thompson, Amy Sedaris, Robert Longstreet, Marcello Conte.World Premiere

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War Story / USA (DIRECTOR: MARK JACKSON, SCREENWRITERS: KRISTIN GORE, MARK JACKSON)

A war photographer retreats to a small town in Sicily after being held captive during the conflict in Libya. Cast: Catherine Keener, Hafsia Herzi, Vincenzo Amato, Donatella Finocchiaro, Ben Kingsley.World Premiere Photos courtesy of Sundance Institute and filmmakers.

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My 8 Minutes with Britney Spears Pop star on (not) being a gay icon, feeling like an outsider and that ‘adorable and hilarious’ comment BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

It’s Britney, bitch.

No, really, it is. She’s on the phone. And Britney Spears – the meek, reserved, media-shy entertainer – doesn’t get on the phone with press very often these days. She’s speaking to me from L.A. on a busy day full of frenzied promo leading up to her eighth release, Britney Jean, when she drops the word that elicited eye rolls from some in the gay community. The word is “adorable,” and Spears – who, in a radio interview with San Francisco radio station 99.7 NOW FM, used it to describe her beauty team (they’re also “hilarious,” she said at the time) – mentions it to me when I ask her how wild the gay boys go when they’re in the midst of their pop princess. “They’re adorable,” says Spears, 32. “They’re absolutely adorable.” It seems like an appropriate time to tell her how that “adorable and hilarious” comment went viral and rubbed some the wrong way. “Wait, what? Who felt the other way?” she asks, sincerely concerned she’s offended people, and even a little lost. You get the impression Britney Spears doesn’t Google herself. So, I fill her in. “I would never say anything to be mean to them. I love my gay fans. Gay people are always usually my best friends in the whole world,” she says. “I completely adore them.” Considering the pop star’s clout in the gay community, it’s obviously mutual. From the then-17-year-old’s sexually suggestive breakout hit “... Baby One More Time” – when the once-Mouseketeer,

dressed in that iconic Catholic schoolgirl getup, merged childhood innocence with the onset of sexual desire – to “Toxic,” easily one of the greatest gay club jams of the aughts, Spears has influenced the queens and queers of the dance floor as much as they’ve influenced her. “I get inspiration from them on almost all of my songs,” Spears says of her gay fans. “They’re somewhat girls, so it’s so inspiring to do stuff that they like to hear, like the cool ‘in’ stuff. Whatever I do for each record is definitely inspired by them.” If you’ve heard 2007’s defiantly bold Blackout and its pop-dance follow-up , and then, obviously, Femme Fatale, you know Britney isn’t just full of it. These are really gay albums. But her gayest? Is it Britney Jean? “I would say so, yes,” Spears says, sounding almost unsure, as if the gayness exists equitably on all her releases (and, really, it does). “I just feel like it has that feeling. You can’t really put your finger on it. It just really has that feeling of ... that.” “Work Bitch” has the feeling of “that” — of gay — so much so that Spears herself has said it’s a salute to her queer fans. The title is “a term of endearment” and was inspired by gay patter among her pals. What other queer street slang has she picked up from them? She snickers, letting her Louisiana drawl fully flex. “I don’t really know that much. I mean, I hang out with gays all the time. They always surprise me. It changes weekly, you know?” “The slang you learn?” I ask, just to be clear. “Yeah.” So maybe Britney doesn’t watch RuPaul’s

Drag Race on the regular, maybe she isn’t out getting all crazy at the gay clubs (she tells me that being a mom doesn’t allow for nights out with her friends at queer bars, but before children: “Yeah, always”), but part of her – a part she’s not really addressed until now – can empathize with the plight of growing up gay. “Alien,” one of the most self-reflective tracks on Britney Jean, alludes to her own feelings of being an outcast, of being alone, of being Britney Spears: “Had to get used to the world I was on / While yet still unsure if I knew where I belong / That was then, like an alien.” “The song is basically about when you’re all alone and you feel like you’re alienated from the world,” Spears says. “I think it’s human nature; we all innately do that sometimes and keep to ourselves, and that’s what the song is about.” It was during her second release, 2000’s Oops! ... I Did It Again, with its self-empowerment mantra “Stronger,” that she recognized a big gay following. “I really started noticing more coming to the shows,” Spears recalls. “People were emulating my clothes and wearing the same outfits, and it was just really fun.” Through the years, she’s met many of these gay boys after shows, where, she says, “a couple of them have told me about their heartbreaks and shared stories about their boyfriends, which has been really kind of sweet.” I tell her we relate to people who fall down and get right back up. Britney, for all her success, has been to the top, but not without seeing the bottom. Between 2006 and 2008, Spears divorced Kevin Federline, fought tirelessly for the custody

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of her two boys and sobered up at a drug rehab facility. There was also the pantyless partying, the British accent, the head-shaving and the time she attacked a paparazzo with an umbrella. Life was looking bleak for Britney then, and she knew it. On “Piece of Me,” a track off Blackout, Spears called herself “Miss Bad Media Karma.” But when she talks about the time she felt alienated, there’s no mention of this more recent regrettable history. It’s clear – not just from our chat, but the rare times she’s been on the phone with a journalist in the last five years – that she doesn’t care to look back. For the most part, anyway. “Since I was in high school, I’ve been kind of a shy person,” Spears admits to me. I ask, “Would you say you felt like an outsider then?” Her voice drops. “A little bit, yeah.” Because she felt different as a kid, but also, of course, musically – Spears, despite her public ups and downs, has been a mainstay in the queer scene for the last 15 years – I wonder if Britney considers herself what many call her: a gay icon. “I don’t know about that,” she says, surprisingly frank. “But I know I do have gay fans.” I remind her that a large part of the community sees her as a gay icon. Her response? “That’s nice. I don’t know about that.” But surely she’s thought about her status in the gay community, right? “Not really, no.” What about equal marriage? Would

Britney like to see her gay friends – she tells me later, via email, that she has an “amazing” relationship with them, many of which are her dancers – get married? “Yeah,” she says. Then silence. (I give her the opportunity to elaborate over email after our phone chat: “Yeah, it would be a special moment.”) “So you believe gay people deserve equal rights?” “Yeah,” she assures. (Via email: “I think everyone should be treated equally.”) At this point, seven minutes into the conversation, a publicist grabs Britney’s attention. She tells me to hang on a second. Because she’s getting whisked away for a Britney Jean listening session that she’s already late to, “This has to be the last question,” she informs, sounding distracted. I ask about Las Vegas, where she’s launching her twoyear residency, Britney: Piece of Me, at Planet Hollywood. Expect half-

naked men — she says, because obviously — but also “look forward to a really good time. They’re gonna definitely feel like they’re a part of a show.” Milking every second of my scheduled 10 minutes with her by sneaking in one final question, I ask her which girl kiss she preferred: the cheek peck Rihanna gave her during the 2011 Billboard Awards, or the legendary Madonna lip-lock at the Video Music Awards? There’s brief silence, a “thank you” and then a sudden click. That’s it. Our eight minutes together. And just like that, Britney Spears gives exactly what she promised: a piece of her. Q Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service, chrisazzopardi. com.

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dining guide

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CAFE SUPERNATURAL Trolley Square

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OMAR’S RAWTOPIA  omarsrawtopia.com 2148 S Highland Dr 801-486-0332 Omar prepares all raw, live and organic food from scratch with absolute love to create amazing food that is powerfully healing for your mind, body, and spirit.

SAGE’S CAFE 234 W 900 S 801-322-3790 Your favorite vegetarian restaurant is moving to

Vegan diner serving downhome comfort food and breakfast all day. Specialties include fried faux chicken, blueberry pancakes, and hand cut french fries. Also serving fair trade coffee, tea, chocolate, and more.

WASATCH BREW PUB  wasatchbeers.com 250 Main, Park City 435-645-0900 At the top of Main Street and a local favorite since 1989, Wasatch Brew Pub serves lunch, dinner and

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one of the largest selections of locally produced wines and beers; and live music, deejays, and dancing.

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wine terroirist Kermit Lynch’s Journey of Wine Discovery BY DAVID WHITE

“When I wrote the book,” explained wine merchant Kermit Lynch, “I thought the oenologists were going to take over.” We were chatting about Adventures on the Wine Route, Lynch’s seminal tour of France that can be found on every wine enthusiast’s bookshelf. When the book was released in 1988, Lynch feared that “old-style wines” — artisanal projects that expressed a sense of place — were on their way out, so he launched a crusade to educate his “clients to the diversity and virtue of those wines.” Lynch entered the wine industry in 1972. A struggling musician, Lynch had been paying his bills by fashioning purses out of rug scraps. That business wasn’t personally fulfilling, so when a suitor came knocking, he sold, using the proceeds to spend four months in Europe. Lynch came back from Europe with a passion for wine, but wasn’t able to find a job in the industry. So his girlfriend lent him $5,000 to open up a wine shop in Albany, California. Lynch soon became a distributor and importer, as well, and relocated to Berkeley in the early 80s. It’s fitting that Lynch moved to Berkeley. The site of so much ferment, it’s a logical place to spearhead a wine revolution. And that’s the only way to describe Lynch’s efforts. He transformed America’s wine scene. By the time Adventures on the Wine Route hit bookstores, Lynch had gained a dedicated, national following. Unlike other merchants, Lynch’s portfolio was focused — he assured his customers that he’d tasted and enjoyed every wine on offer. He was obsessed with authenticity, happy to criticize producers who churned out industrialized, soulless wines. He brought attention to unheralded wine regions. And he mocked blind tastings as “spurious and misleading.” As he wrote in the introduction to his book, “Such tasting conditions have nothing to do with the conditions under which

the wines will presumably be drunk, which is at table, with food. When a woman chooses a hat, she does not put it on a goat’s head to judge it; she puts it on her own.” Lynch spread this gospel across the country through regular newsletters. He spoke about wine comfortably and sought to make it approachable, convinced that “those who would make it ponderous make it dull.” Lynch inspired many imitators and changed the way Americans purchase wine. These days, if you walk into any good wine shop and watch how the geekiest consumers select wine, you’ll undoubtedly see people flipping bottles over to check import label. These savvy shoppers know that in addition to Lynch, they can rely on importers like Neal Rosenthal, Louis/Dressner, Terry Theise, Peter Weygandt, and others to bring in good wine. One could even argue that Lynch helped save wine from itself. By proving that the American market was thirsty for traditional wines from the back roads of France, Lynch helped stave off the industrialization of wine. During our chat, Lynch was too humble to take credit for any of this. But even though he still worries about the ascension of so-called “pop” wines — heavy, oak-soaked concoctions designed for mass appeal — he’ll admit that his crusade has succeeded beyond his wildest expectations. “When you go to New York,” he said, “look at the wine lists today and the inventories in the wine shops. Gosh, it’s amazing! Wines from all over the world, regions all over the world, grape varieties you’ve never heard of, little domains that you’ve never heard.” The 25th anniversary edition of Lynch’s book was published this month. It’s still as relevant as ever and an absolute pleasure to read. Q David White is the founder and editor of Terroirist.com, which was named “Best Overall Wine Blog” at the 2013 Wine Blog Awards.

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Pet Month of the

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Jasmine is a very sweet and wonderful cat who needs a special home with someone who can care for her and cater to her every need. She is very special and came to the shelter as a stray, but was very sweet once we took her in. She was allowed to live in someone’s office who noticed that once she gets one-on-one attention, she becomes a complete and total love bug. After coming into the rescue world, Jasmine was able to go into a foster home who doted on her all of the time. Her foster family said she was the sweetest cat that they had

fostered and that any family would be absolutely thrilled if they took her home. She loves to curl up on your lap and will purr as loud as any diesel engine and start to make “happy biscuits” with her paws to show you how much she loves you. Jasmine does have a special diet as her gums have a condition that causes them to be sore at times, so she prefers to have soft food to munch on that is easy to swallow When you visit with Jasmine we can tell you all of the wonderful things about her! Contact Best Friends adoption center specialists at 801-574-2440 or email utahadoptions@bestfriends.org

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ARIES March 20–April 19 The farther away your mind wanders the better your chance is of getting lost. Imagination is one of your strongest qualities but it can sometimes run away from you. Keep your fantasies rooted in reality and don’t be afraid to live them out from time to time. TAURUS Apr 20–May 20 Don’t be too quick to judge a coworker or associate. They are only thinking of what is best for them but mean you no harm. Try to charm them with your quick wit and a healthy dose of common sense. Keep smiling and lighten the load. GEMINI May 21–June 20 Fighting your fears isn’t the best way to overcoming them. Facing them is. What you fear most isn’t your lack of ability, but what others think of you. Don’t aim to please everyone, only the ones that share a mutual sense of caring and respect for you.. CANCER June 21–July 22 A slew of proposals could be coming your way, either of a personal or professional nature. Keep your agenda’s in perspective and don’t lose sight of what really matters to you. Keep your chin high and your mouth open (to speak your mind, of course). LEO July 23–August 22 Don’t ram yourself into another person’s business until you know your assistance is welcome. It’s always wise to put your efforts into a good cause. Spend time with family and friends for a much needed rise. Laugh a lot and let yourself feel good. VIRGO August 23–Sep. 22 The deeper you feel, the more likely it is to hurt. However, pain is not always a bad thing; it can remind you of how much you care. A good friend can push your buttons, but can also make you feel amazing. Spend some one-on-one time with this person.

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49 Provides a seat for 51 What Garbo ACROSS “vanted” to be 1 Top 52 Bahrain biggie 5 Path through leaves 53 Source of the quote of grass 57 One with flaming 10 In need of a massage pants? 14 Just one of those 58 Hurricanes of sports things 59 Targets of men who 15 Eagle on a par five make passes 16 TV’s Trebek 60 Suffix with sermon 17 South Park composer 61 Banish from a flat Shaiman 62 Buster Brown’s dog 18 Lubricated 19 One who says, “Let 63 A Scout may do a good one us prey” 64 Piddle around 20 With 34-Across, 65 Sucker’s start? where sister Liz is 22 ___ Hari of espionage DOWN 23 Part of an IRS return 1 Tops 24 Type of fluid 2 Monopoly square 26 _Love Songs_ poet 3 Style expert Stewart Sara 4 Emulates Paul 30 Bounce on the knee Cadmus 31 Stroke the ball 5 Unload loads gently 6 Spin like a top 33 Rods’ partners 7 Alice’s Restaurant 34 See 20-Across patron 39 Error or erection 8 Andrew Van de 40 Short term emCamp, and others ployee 9 Avoided commit41 Susie Bright, to ment erotica 43 Game in which you 10 Giant actor bend over 11 Poisonous bush

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cycle, “Bound 2” – is the most effectively delirious, biggity work of the rapper’s already delirious, biggity career. He’s angry and horny, he’s delusional and deranged; he’s everything you love to hate about Kanye West. And yet, he’s still a mastermind in the beat department, producing some of his most vanguard tracks via a palette of punk rock and new wave – hip-hop takes a backseat – that’s more maniacal than its creator.

Arcade Fire, Reflektor Winning the big daddy of Grammys for The Suburbs didn’t just change Arcade Fire’s career – an Album of the Year trophy will do that – but it also, in part, changed their sound. The Canadian avant-gardes went bolder and older, harking back to the late ’70s for a complex and myth-inspired take on rebirth, post-love and societal standards. The concepts are vast, sure, but so is the sound. Reflektor is a sonic behemoth, where the band trots out their choral wallops for the liberating twosome “Afterlife” and “It’s Never Over (Hey Orpheus),” tracks that rank as some of Arcade Fire’s best. The rocking “Joan of Arc” cautions that, “If you shoot, you better hit your mark.”Reflektor gets it in the bull’s-eye.

byes, addiction and domestic abuse – and the soul-country crooner’s own redemptive state with the sharpest of confessional narratives (“A heart on the run / keeps a hand on the gun / can’t trust anyone”), this deeply personal work from the former Drive-By Truckers member taps into his soul, his emotions and his heart – and then it taps into yours.

James Blake, Overgrown When James Blake sings, his soulful croon washing over you like water in a warm bath, you’re helpless. That sexy thing he does will sweep you away. Overgrown, the follow-up to his 2011 debut, is a seductive and magically poignant head trip where gospel and R&B inspire the English producer’s minimalist approach to electronica. Basically, these compositions won’t get you dancing, but hey, they’ll probably get you laid. Sultry to the touch with its bottoming bass and synth progression, “Life Round Here” is a musical boner that transports you all the way to a magical place of ... ah, gotta go. Bye.

Haim, Days Are Gone One of the best pop albums of this year wasn’t from Gaga, wasn’t from Katy, wasn’t from Britney. It was from Haim. And who is that, you might ask? An underwear brand? Not exactly, though they may motivate you to dance in yours. They’re three geeky sisters from L.A. who obviously live for the ’90s and let that era’s sonic radness wash over a spirited sound so addicting it should probably be illegal. With that punchy hip-hop fever and those humdinger melodies that go down as easy as ice tea on a hot day, Haim is the modernday answer to everything good having to do with a brilliant and bygone era in music. Jason Isbell, Southeastern It’s only his fourth solo LP, but when people look back at the highs of Jason Isbell’s career, Southeastern will be way up there. How does it get better than this – an earthy, fromthe-gut triumph that already sounds like a classic? Reflecting on the hard knocks – good-

Kanye West, Yeezus So about that Kanye West and Kim Kardashian video – it gets better. The music on Yeezus – including the inspiration for Kim and Kanye’s awkward whatever-that-was on a motor-

pop like non-Americans, where those Swedes and them Brits know what’s up when it comes to crunking. But don’t forget the Scottish: Chvrches, a trio hailing from Glasgow, have been rolling out deliciousness since 2012, eventually culminating into The Bones of What You Believe, where the icicles of lyrical woe melt all over balmy electro anthems. “Recover,” a gem of exhilarating ’80s-fashioned electronica with Robyn-type sensitivity, is big, booming and danceable – and it’s also a facade. That’s hurt you hear in the fragility of Lauren Mayberry’s Kate Bush-like voice. Her pain, our gain.

Chvrches, The Bones of What You Believe Face it, no one does synth-

The National, Trouble Will Find Me It’s true that The National’s latest is slow and slumberous, like a walk that never ends. But keep going and you’ll get somewhere. You’ll get to some of the most achingly beautiful melodies you’ve ever heard, like the lonely lament “I Need My Girl.” “Don’t Swallow the Cap” lets some light into the darkness, which is really where lead singer Matt Berninger likes to sulk. When he closes with “Hard to Find,” a wistful daydream, it doesn’t get any better for him. It does for us, though. The coda is a quiet reverie that’s just about the prettiest thing you’ve ever heard. As for Trouble, let it sink in. Play it over and over. It’ll find you. Tegan and Sara, Heartthrob Tegan and Sara ... pop stars? It happened this year, when the songful, great-hair-having lesbian twins busted through the indie barrier, got lost in

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all the nostalgia of their ’90s records and turned out Heartthrob, a confectionary listen of Greg Kurstin-produced synthrock with enough trademark touchy-feelies (they’re still sad, so that’s good) you’ll hardly be concerned that the duo has shared the stage with Taylor Swift. From the cotton-candy rush of the Cyndi Lauper-esque “Closer” to their pained plea of rejection – the lovelorn-yet-liberating “How Come You Don’t Want Me” – Heartthrob is the pop marvel no one saw coming.

Patty Griffin, American Kid It’s tough to find any fault with Patty Griffin’s artful Americana, except that there’s never enough of it. And now she’s gone and spoiled us: The “lost” LP, Silver Bell, finally got its official release, and her stunning American Kid used grief and pain as a crux to illustrate, quite poignantly, the experience of letting go. It’s raw and transformative, effecting a truth that Griffin and her inimitable voice have delivered

since her debut release 17 years ago. The “Faithful Son” who went his whole life underappreciated saddens, the tale of a “Wild Old Dog” is a spiritual godsend, and “Gonna Miss You When You’re Gone” conjures classic Judy Garland. That’s how legendary Griffin sounds on American Kid.

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Kacey Musgraves, Same Trailer Different Park It’s about time country music got their Lady Gaga. Only 25 and easily the most outspoken of her peers, Kacey Musgraves modernized the politics of dated tradition with her majorlabel debut’s “Follow Your Arrow” – reminding folks that it’s fine to smoke pot and be gay (“love who you love”) – and “Merry Go ’Round,” the launch single that gave stark insight to small-town living (it’s not all it’s cracked up to be). She even surprises with a little ditty about casual lust, “It Is What It Is,” the saddest sex song you’ll ever hear. Waitress and mobile home stories have heart and humor, but Musgraves also has the simple, old-timing sound to match her impressive wordplay. All the talk of her being “the future of country music”? Yeah, believe it. Q Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate and canbe found via his website at www.chris-azzopardi.com.

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raised with the belief that a good man is a lifelong learner. He is one who admits his mistakes, growing stronger from experience and adversity. In my pursuit to be a lifelong learner, a reoccurring mantra is “Man up.” Here is what I mean: You are what you are and the sooner you stop hating what makes you unique and start celebrating it, the better your life will be. Make this year your year. Set goals, accomplish dreams, fall in love, and live the life you were meant to live — just don’t ignore the lessons along the way. TV personality Ross Matthews said it perfectly — “One thing I’ve learned about life is that no one gets through it unscathed. You can’t control much of anything. The only thing you can hope to control is how you react

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to situations.” Character makes you stand out from the crowd. Shakespeare said, “Honor is the gift a man gives himself. True nobility is exempt from fear.” Aspire to live your life governed by the virtues will and grace. You need willfulness to carve your life. A man lives intentionally: a man has plans. What do you want to accomplish? Your goals don’t have to be high-minded or expensive; they just have to be yours. A man has to chase. And the grace? Well you need that when you’re thwarted by your limitations or by the great uncooperative nature of the world. Grace allows a man to be humble when he ought to be, and to remember how it felt to be small. This isn’t the dress rehearsal, this is your life. Yeah, this. Right now. There’s no time for napping.

How will you react? Are you doomed to repeat the mistakes of your past or will you “Man up” and finally grow into your full potential? What haunts you – maybe its time to face it head on, conquer it, and take the lesson from it. And if you fail? Then you fail. Get up and try again. Keep going until you succeed. Be open, honest and truly authentic with yourself. Dig down and find your deepest fears (Losing connection with others? Not being trusted? Failure?) Identify how these fears drive your behavior and have held you back from truly living. Once you’ve identified what has held you back, declare new goals and objectives. Begin by making one small promise toward your new goal, and keep that promise everyday until you are ready to make another. Whatever you set out to accomplish, look good doing it. You may not reach the desired goal, but never compromise what you set out to do. When you “Man up,” your potential is limitless and the rewards just keep on coming. Q Need advice? Email askmrmanners@qsaltlake.com

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