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in this issue 33 39 Official Utah Pride Guide

A pull-out schedule you can take to Pride with you for times, locations, stage lineups and more

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Pride sells building Nick Jonas Utah Pride Center will move to a new building

NEWS �������������������������������������������������������������������10 Utah leaders react to trans* edict Harvey Milk Boulevard celebration Utah Pride Center sells building Qmmunity news briefs VIEWS �����������������������������������������������������������������24 A call to protect all LGBT kids Creep of the month: Mike Brown Christopher Katis says you’re welcome

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from the publisher From rally to celebration to rally again

BY MICHAEL AARON

June brings

Utah Pride festival and the beginning of the Pride season across the country.

In the day, Prides were about screaming for support and laws and equal treatment. They were about presenting who we are openly and honestly for the world to see and, potentially, embrace. There were rousing speeches filled with disgust for the way things were, for how we were treated and for how people were cowards for not being on the front lines.

Then this crazy thing happened. Things changed. People had listened and, slowly, began to agree. More people braced themselves up and headed to the front lines. Gay and straight alike, people started talking about equal rights.

A San Francisco mayor suddenly married samesex couples on the city hall steps. Wait! We didn’t mean THAT. But it worked. It sparked conversation

which grew to wildfire levels. Pro and con screamed at each other on the radio waves, pundits spoke on television. And then gay characters that weren’t caricatures started showing up on the small and big screens.

And then we won.

And then for a year — last year — Pride turned into a celebration. The speeches were thank yous to gays and allies that made it all happen. “We Are Family” was sung in a while new way. The tears of rage turned into tears of joy.

And then, the backlash.

And here we are this year as Bible Belt states pass laws to turn back the victories. Lost in all the bathroom talk is the fact that these states were also turning back LGBT non-discrimination laws passed by more liberal cities.

So, we once again are hearing the heated speeches imploring people to keep fighting. I will. Will you? Q

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news The top things you should know happened last month (Full stories at gaysaltlake.com.)

Obama Administration directs public schools to accommodate trans* students The Obama administration issued guidance Friday directing public schools to allow transgender students to use bathrooms matching their gender identity.

A joint letter from the Departments of Education and Justice went to schools Friday with guidelines to ensure that “transgender students enjoy a supportive and nondiscriminatory school environment,” the Obama administration said.

The announcement comes amid a heated national debate over transgender rights in schools and public life. The administration is embroiled in a legal standoff with North Carolina over its controversial House Bill 2, part of which has to do with transgender bathroom access. Other states and local governments have attempted to draw lines around rights for transgender people with mixed results.

This latest guidance for schools goes beyond the bathroom issue, touching upon privacy rights, education records and sex-segregated athletics, all but guaranteeing transgender students the right to identify in school as they choose. It echoes what members of the administration have previously said on the topic.

“There is no room in our

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schools for discrimination of any kind, including discrimination against transgender students on the basis of their sex,” Attorney General Loretta Lynch said. “This guidance gives administrators, teachers and parents the tools they need to protect transgender students from peer harassment and to identify and address unjust school policies.”

Anti-LGBT laws continue to roil states Laws passed in North Carolina, Mississippi, and a court order in Alabama continue to make headlines: North Carolina Legislature passed a “bathroom/shower” law requiring people to use those facilities in public buildings “corresponding” to the sex listed on the person’s birth certificate.

This drew immediate protest from businesses and entertainment figures. The United States Department of Justice announced action based on the 1964 Civil Rights law which threatened to withhold Federal funds from North Carolina.

Later the US Department of Education issued an advisory nationwide to all schools to make reasonable accommodation to transgender school age children.

Mississippi Legislature has passed a “religious liberty” protection law giving public officials and private businesses legal cover to deny services which are somehow contrary to public official or business owners’ religious principles.

The ACLU of Mississippi announced legal action against the Mississippi law.

The Chief Justice of the Alabama Supreme Court, Roy Moore, faces sanctions from the State Bar for his order to county clerks and others in Alabama prohibiting the issuance of marriage licenses to same-sex couples. That order was overturned by the U S Supreme Court earlier this year,

but Moore continued to insist his order be obeyed.

Caitlyn Jenner: no big changes, soon A spokesperson for Caitlyn Jenner denied that Jenner will soon be “de-transitioning’: The rebuttal came after Ian Halperin, who is the author books on Jenner and the Kardashians, claimed in an interview that a family friend told him that Jenner found living her authentic life was “much harder than she anticipated.” Halperin predicted that Jenner would “de-transition.”

trans* and lesbian events .

“Community members strongly object to the intentional erasing of the Los Angeles LGBTQ community’s legacy and history by [Christopher Street West],” said a statement from #NotOurPride. “Furthermore, the community rejects the division that CSW is creating between various LGBTQ communities and organizations with their festival plans.

Elsa girlfriend idea make some blood run cold A suggestion on Twitter, #GiveElsaAGirlfriend, made in the hopes of getting Disney to write a same-sex relationship for the Ice Queen into “Frozen 2.” Some Fans loved the idea whose story has already been viewed as a metaphor for coming out. But some were not pleased.

CitizenGo started a petition demanding that Disney not “give in to the pressures of the liberal agenda” and instead have create a “Prince” to fall in love with Queen Elsa.

Franklin Graham, the son of evangelical minister Billy Graham took to Facebook to decry this Tweet as an effort to “get the LGBT agenda to young children”. He asked his FB friends to “Pray for our nation, and get involved by standing up for God’s truth.”

#NotOurPride Organizes Boycott of LA Pride A group called “#NotOurPride” is calling for a boycott of the June 10–12 parade and festival in West Hollywood.

The group’s decision to boycott the LA Pride Festival was in response to rebranding the Pride event as a music festival, an increase its ticket prices by 40% and reducing the Festival’s

East/West Bromance?

Donald Trumps and Vladimir Putin’s mutual admiration has found expression in Lithuanian street artist, Mindaugas Bonanu, mural showing the pair locking lips.

Bonanu painted his mural on a building, in Lithuania’s capital Vilnius, alongside the caption of “make everything great again.”

Both Putin, who has overseen the introduction of anti-gay laws during his time in office, and The Donald have their eyes open for the smooch. Trump also tenderly cups the back of Putin’s neck with his hand.

Texas, Again?

An openly gay Texas pastor who had accused Whole Foods of defacing his cake with an anti-gay slur dropped his lawsuit against the grocery chain and issued an apology saying he was wrong to “perpetuate this story.”

Whole Foods countered the claim with surveillance video showing the cake as it left the store.

“The company did nothing wrong,” the pastor, Jordan Brown, said in a statement.

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Utah leaders react to federal directive on trans* students Utah Gov. Gary Herbert (R) called an edict from the Obama Administration on inclusion of transgender students in public schools, “one of the most egregious examples of federal overreach I have ever witnessed.”

He promised that “if we have to fight this order, we will not hesitate to do so.”

On May 13, the Department of Justice and Department of Education told the country’s schools that they should be making sure transgender students have equal access to all educational opportunities, including using facilities that match their gender identities. If they don’t, they put themselves at risk of losing federal funding.

“Under Title IX of the Education Amendments of 1972, schools receiving federal money may not discriminate based on a student’s sex, including a student’s transgender status,” the joint statement read Under the rules, schools are told to: 1) Respond promptly and effectively to sex-based harassment of all students, including harassment based on a student’s actual or perceived gender identity, transgender status or gender transition; 2) Treat students consistent with their gender identity even if their school records or identification documents indicate a different sex; 3) Allow students to participate in sex-segregated activities and access sex-segregated facilities consistent with their gender identity; and 4) Protect students’ privacy.

“There is no room in our schools for discrimination of any kind, including discrimination against transgender students on the basis of their sex,” said Attorney General Loretta E. Lynch. “This guidance gives administrators, teachers and parents the tools they need to

protect transgender students from peer harassment and to identify and address unjust school policies. I look forward to continuing our work with the Department of Education — and with schools across the country — to create classroom environments that are safe, nurturing, and inclusive for all of our young people.”

Utah State Board of Education member Stan Lockhart, who was appointed by Herbert last year, said, “While it’s important to look after the rights of the minority, it’s also important to look after the rights of the majority.”

Lockhart went on to say that he’d be willing to abandon federal funding for the state’s schools “if we can’t find any other way to create a safe environment for our kids.”

“We need as a state to stand up as a sovereign entity and tell the federal government to go jump in the lake sometimes,” Lockhart said.

Utah State Board of Education chairman David Crandall said Utah schools “are not required or expected to take any action” to comply with the guidance, saying the Board will be talking with attorneys.

Sen. Jim Dabakis, D-Salt Lake didn’t mince words.

“We have a governor who looks at Utah school children who are being bullied, whose lives are living hell, 7-, 8-, 9-yearold Utah school children, and says, ‘If I don’t kick that child, I’ll at least hold the coat of the bullies that are.’ Because you cannot stand against allowing children to be comfortable in doing the most basic bodily functions in a school and call yourself a Christian.”

An interim Utah Legislative Session hearing discussed the edict and ordered further study by an education committee. Q

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Hundreds gather to celebrate naming of Harvey Milk Blvd.

Hundreds of people gathered in the 9th & 9th District to celebrate the naming of three miles of Ninth South to Harvey Milk Boulevard. Booths from many organizations, food vendors and entertainers lined the street in what seemed like a mini Pride.

On a stage, several speakers talked about what Milk would have said if he were there.

“Harvey never wanted to be the last of his kind, and he wasn’t,” said lesbian Salt Lake City Mayor Jackie Biskupski. “I am here today because of people like Harvey. He was a hero of mine — somebody I looked up to and who truly inspired me.”

“When I stood on the floor of the Utah House of Representatives, representing this diverse city, in 1998, it was because Harvey Milk paved the way and did the leg work so it would be possible for people like me to represent this great community, she continued.

“Harvey said, ‘Ya gotta give them hope.’ And that is what this is about today. Every time people walk this street, it will give people hope that we will truly be equal one day. The work needs to continue.”

Jeanetta Williams, president of the Salt Lake Chapter of the NAACP said today’s political struggles mirror those of an earlier time.

“When there were separate bathrooms — colored and whites — the NAACP stood up and we won that battle. We are going to win this one as well,” Williams said. “On [May 17], the NAACP and others across the nation will celebrate Brown v. Board of Education. And the reason they didn’t want that to happen was because they didn’t want the brown kids in the bathrooms with the white kids. But again, we won that battle, and we’re going to win this one too.”

Dr. Forrest Crawford, co-founder of the Martin Luther King Commission, said Milk was a visionary, looking beyond his time.

“Hope is never silent.” That is one of Harvey Milk’s greatest quotes. When Harvey Milk spoke those words, he knew he and his contemporaries were in the middle of a battle to define the future of a community.

Archie Archuleta, former president of the board, Utah Coalition of La Raza, welcomed Milk Blvd. as part of a larger culture.

“The naming of Harvey Milk Blvd. is another thread in the fabric for the struggle for social justice and equality in Salt Lake City, Utah and the U.S.A. — nay, in the world.”

Troy Williams, executive director of Equality Utah, said, “Harvey was the man who told us to stand for hope. Harvey was the man

Who was Harvey Milk?

As Salt Lake City has named three miles of 9th South Harvey Milk Boulevard, many people seeing those signs might ask, “Who the hell is Harvey Milk?” That is part of the reason city council members decided to name the street — to start a discussion and teach people about the gay pioneer.

Harvey Milk was a civil and human rights leader who became one of the first openly gay elected officials in the United States when he won a seat on the San Francisco Board of Supervisors in 1977. Milk’s unprecedented loud and unapologetic proclamation of his authenticity as an openly gay candidate for public office, and his subsequent election, gave hope that was never before experienced in our community and came at a time of widespread hostility and discrimination. His remarkable career was tragically cut short when he was assassinated nearly a year after taking office.

Milk was born May 22, 1930, in Woodmere, New York. He and a brother worked in the family’s department store, “Milks,” founded by his Lithuanian-born father, William. He also served in the U.S. Navy during the Korean War. Milk came from a small, middle-class Jewish family that founded a Jewish synagogue and was well known in the New York “Litvaks” community for their civic engagement. He knew he was gay by the time he attended Bayshore High School, where he was a popular student with wide-ranging interests, from opera to football.

While in college at New York State College for Teachers, Milk penned a popular weekly student newspaper column where he began questioning issues of diversity. He graduated in 1951 and enlisted in the Navy, serving in

who told us to come out of the closets and into the streets, Harvey was the man who gave his live so that the closet doors could be shattered forever.”

Tylor Glenn of Neon Trees, who just released a music video on his disagreement with the LDS Church, sang David Bowie’s “Changes” and Louis Armstrong’s “What a Wonderful World.” Q Video of the speeches and Glenn’s performance can be found on QSaltLake’s Facebook page at facebook.com/qsaltlake San Diego. In 1955, he was discharged with the rank of lieutenant junior grade.

Milk became a Long Island public school teacher, then a stock analyst in New York City, and a production associate for Broadway musicals, including Jesus Christ Superstar and Hair. In the 60s and early 70s he became more actively involved in politics and demonstrated against the Vietnam War. Late 1972, Milk moved to San Francisco where he opened a camera store on Castro Street, in the heart of the city’s growing gay community. It quickly became a neighborhood gathering center. Milk’s sense of humor and theatricality made him a popular figure.

Little more than a year after his arrival in the city, he declared his candidacy for the San Francisco Board of Supervisors. He lost that race, but emerged from the campaign as a force to be reckoned with in local politics.

After some area merchants tried to prevent two gay men from opening a store, Milk and a few other business owners founded the Castro Village Association, a first such business guild in the nation, with Milk as president.

He organized the Castro Street Fair in 1974 to attract more customers to area businesses. Its success made the Castro Village Association an effective power base for gay merchants and a blueprint for other LGBT communities in the US. In 1975, he ran again for the combined San Francisco City/County supervisor seat and narrowly lost. By then he was established as the leading political spokesman for the Castro’s vibrant gay community. His close friend and ally Mayor George Moscone appointed him to the city’s Board of Permit Appeals, making Milk the first openly gay city commissioner in the United States.

Milk ran and lost a race for California

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State Assembly. Realizing he would have a greater chance of political success if he could rely on voters in the Castro, he successfully worked for passage of an amendment to replace at-large elections for the Board of Supervisors with district elections.

In 1977, he easily won his third bid, and was inaugurated as a San Francisco CityCounty Supervisor on January 9, 1978. This was an important and symbolic victory for the LGBT community as well as a personal triumph for Milk. His election made national and international headlines.

A commitment to serving a broad constituency, not just LGBT people, helped make Milk an effective and popular supervisor. His ambitious reform agenda included protecting gay rights — he sponsored an important anti-discrimination bill — as well as establishing day care centers for working mothers, the conversion of military facilities in the city to low-cost housing, tax code reform to attract industry to deserted warehouses and factories, and other issues. He was a powerful advocate for strong, safe neighborhoods, and pressured the mayor’s administration to improve services for the Castro such as library services, and community policing. In addition, he spoke out on state and national issues of interest to LGBT people, women, racial and ethnic minorities and other marginalized communities.

Milk built coalitions between diverse groups — women, Asians, Hispanics, the disabled — and even brought together the teamsters and gay bar owners — in return for a pledge from the teamsters to hire more gay drivers, Milk asked bar owners to stop selling beer from certain distributors while drivers were striking.

One of these was a California ballot initiative, Proposition 6, which would have mandated the firing of gay teachers in the state’s public schools. State Sen. John Briggs, seeking to marshal anti-gay sentiment and an agenda of hate, spearheaded the initiative.

With strong, effective opposition from Milk and others, it was defeated at a time when other political attacks on gay people were being successfully waged around the country.

Attendance swelled at gay pride marches in San Francisco and Los Angeles as Milk and others campaigned against the Briggs Initiative.

In one of his eloquent speeches, Milk spoke of the American ideal of equality, proclaiming, “Gay people, we will not win our rights by staying quietly in our closets. … We are coming out to fight the lies, the myths, the distortions. We are coming out to tell the truths about gays, for I am tired of the conspiracy of silence, so I’m going to talk about it. And I want you to talk about it. You must come out.”

On Nov. 27, 1978, a disgruntled former city supervisor assassinated Milk and Mayor George Moscone. Dan White sneaked into City Hall through a basement window, avoiding the metal detectors, went to Moscone’s office and killed him, then walked down the hall to kill Milk. That night, a crowd of thousands spontaneously came together on Castro Street and marched to City Hall in a silent candlelight vigil that has been recognized as one of the most eloquent responses to violence that a community has ever expressed.

Having been the target of death threats since his election, Milk had recorded several versions of his will, “to be read in the event of my assassination.” One of his tapes contained the now-famous statement, “If a bullet should enter my brain, let that bullet destroy every closet door.”

White was acquitted of murder charges

and given a mild sentence for manslaughter, partly as a result of what became known as the “Twinkie defense.” His attorney claimed that White had eaten too much junk food on the day of the killings and thus could not be held accountable for his crimes. He was sentenced to less than eight years in prison, which ignited what came to be known as the White Night Riots. Enraged citizens stormed City Hall and rows of police cars were set on fire. The city suffered property damage and police officers retaliated by raiding the Castro, vandalizing gay businesses and beating people on the street.

On Aug. 12, 2009, Harvey’s nephew, Stuart Milk accepted the posthumously awarded Medal of Freedom from President Barack Obama, who praised Milk’s “visionary courage and conviction” in fighting discrimination. Q

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Utah Pride Center sells building Utah Pride Center leaders announced that their building, which they have called home since April of 2013, has been sold.

“As our community continues to evolve, we found that the building no longer met our needs,” said Carol Gnade, executive director of the Center. “The annual maintenance costs and construction budget to update our current space were prohibitive.”

The Center has been reeling ever since moving to the 4th South location. Efforts to raise the million dollars they expected it would take the bring the building to full utilization stalled well before reaching that goal.

Several staffing changes and layoffs were found necessary since the move.

When Gnade joined the Center as executive director, she and staff and board members did an evaluation of all Center expenditures, including programming, staffing and the building itself. In the end, leaders determined it would be better to find another building that better suited the current needs of the community.

“This sale gives us the opportunity to find a building that matches our diverse needs of today, focus on how we can grow in the future and continue our mission to create a safe space of inclusion for all,” Gnade said.

Leaders cited extensive building maintenance and cost associated with upkeep, lack of sufficient ADA access, and the fact that the facilities were “unable to match the

Outgoing emperor Nathan Graham and empress Krystyna Shaylee flank Salt Lake City Mayor Jackie Biskupski.

This year’s candidates Kery Shaylee and Erik Shaylee are to the right.

Coronation XLI: a journey through the grandeur of gemstones

BY MIKKI ENOCH

For the past 40 years, the Royal Court of the Golden Spike Empire worked to build community and help those in need. Every May, the RCGSE elects its leaders through a public vote. The emperor and empress lead the organization for a year and guide the course of the organization with the help of their Prince Royale, Princess Royale, Crown Prince, Crown Princess, and the RCGSE Board of Directors. These six individuals work tirelessly to plan how to raise funds and distribute those funds

where they can benefit the greater community.

On May 29, the RCGSE will celebrate the end of its 40th reign. Emperor Nathan Graham and Krystyna Shaylee will host the local community and guests from other courts of the International Imperial Court System at the RCGSE’s 41st Coronation.

The show will feature local and guest performers as well as awards from the current reign to recognize the connections made and the hard work of members of the community.

diverse needs of the LGBT community.”

Gnade says that the search for a new space has already begun. Top priorities for the new location will be proximity to public transportation and other support agencies, greater ADA access, ample parking and more diverse sizes of meeting spaces.

The Center will continue to run from its current location for the next 12 months while a new location is found. Q This year’s coronation will be head at the Red Lion Hotel Salt Lake City Downtown. With the central location, the Red Lion Hotel allows for a central location for the local participants and out of town guests to get to know each other outside of the event and for the guests to see local attractions. This location has hosted this event several times.

Candidates for emperor and empress campaign around the community to increase their connections and the visibility of Utah’s oldest nonprofit LGBT organization. This year’s candidates are Kery Shaylee, Crown Princess 39 and 40, for Empress 41, and Erik Shaylee, Crown Prince 40, for Emperor 41. Kery invites the entire community to participate in the activities of the RCGSE, especially the youth. Kery says she brings a love for her community and an open and honest heart. Erik says he brings his business experience to further enhance how the RCGSE runs today and into the future. They both say they share a dedication to this organization and the Utah LGBT community.

Voting is open May 21 from noon to midnight at the Red Lion Hotel Salt Lake Downtown, 161 W. 600 S. Those living south of Shepard Lane in Farmington, who have a valid Utah identification card or driver license and are 18 years of age or older are eligible to vote (The Imperial Rainbow Court of Northern Utah covers the northern part of the state and has a separate coronation). Q For more information see rcgse.org

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Honorary degree earns controversy for UofU The University of Utah found itself in the middle of a controversy by giving an honorary degree to Lynette Neilsen Gay. The selection ignited backlash from faculty and staff because of her activities with the World Congress of Families and Family Watch International. Both groups are described as hate groups by the Southern Poverty Law Center, and oppose rights for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender individuals.

In response, Gay resigned from the WCF board of directors, but that didn’t quell the controversy. Approximately 25 graduates stood and turned their backs as Gay received her honorary degree during the May commencement ceremony. Also,

about 10 chanting protesters greeted graduates and their families outside the Jon M. Huntsman center.

Speakers chose not to directly address the controversy. Student speaker Charles Koronkowski said, “The world has enough cynics; it does not need another.

Do not allow the limited imaginations of others to bind you.”

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Kelly Schneider, Jayson Woods, Kevin Tracy and Daniel Henkel, arrested for murder

Gay Boise man killed by gang of men during hookup In the early morning hours on April 29th, Steven Nelson, 49, was murdered after responding to an ad for a male escort from the website Backpage. The ad showed a heavily tattooed man with his face covered.

The tattoos helped identify Kelly Schneider, the suspected primary perpetrator. Nelson and Schneider met at the Wal-Mart in Nampa, ID. Schneider then drove to Gotts Point area of Lake Lowell. Nelson offered money in exchange for sex from Schneider.

Nelson was able to describe the events of his attack before he died. Three other men joined Schneider in the attack. The attackers kicked Nelson, stripped

him, and stole his clothes and wallet. They then left Nelson to die in the 30 degree weather.

However, Nelson was able to walk to a nearby home. The residents called 911. Nelson died after reaching the hospital.

Four men, Kelly Schneider, Jayson Woods, Kevin Tracy, and Daniel Henkel, have been arrested for the crime. All of them have been held without bail. If convicted, the men face up to life in prison or the death penalty.

Canyon County Sheriff Kieran Donahue seeks more victims of similar attacks. These victims should not fear being charged with solicitation. Donahue believes this is part of a pattern by the assailants. Q

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Third Friday Bingo at First Baptist The Matrons of Mayhem return to First Baptist Church for Third Friday Bingo.

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Team Try-Angles to raise funds for MS at Best Dam Bike Ride Team Try-Angles is the only official LGBTand-Friends team for the Bike MS cycling event held at the end of June in Logan, Utah. All money raised goes to the Utah chapter of the Multiple Sclerosis Foundation to fund programs for those living with MS, and research to find a cure.

This event has something for everyone, whether you’re just learning or are a veteran rider. On mostly flat terrain, tons of rest stops and different route/mileage

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Alternative Garden Club to tour a Sugar House farm and craftsman cottage The June meeting of the Alternative Garden Club will be gathering at a historic house and farm in Sugar House.

The Club is not revealing the address of the property as it’s a private residence, but all are welcome and the address will be given to those who RSVP. The farm contains a beautiful Craftsman style home, complete with all its original woodwork and historic furnishings. The small farm is tucked away behind a residential neighborhood.

The grounds include ¾ acre of ornamental gardens, vegetable gardens, and fruit trees.

On June 11, the club will be participating in the Rose Show and the Urban Gardens Tour (Details TBA).

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Utah Bear Jamboree The Utah Bears’ annual campout will happen the end of July in McCammon, Idaho near Lava Hot Springs. Located alongside the Portneuf River, the campground is a beautiful place to spend the hottest part of Summer. Camping fees include meals and the event is open to bears, bear lovers, and men who love seeing bears in the outdoors.

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Inclusive Salt Lake Boy Scout troop now accepting girls

BY MIKKI ENOCH

Since 1935, Wasatch Presbyterian Church has sponsored Boy Scout Utah Troop 38, an all-inclusive scouting unit of Boy Scouts of America. The scouting unit has always been all-inclusive in regard to race, religious affiliation, ability, disability, and sexual orientation. Their inclusive policy applies to their leadership as well. The troop always welcomed female leaders. They now welcome girls 14 to 21 into their Venturing Crew, Crew #9038.

Scout Committee Chairman Scott K. Fausett, Utah’s first openly gay Scout Committee Chairman, invites all boys aged 7 to 21, girls aged 14 to 21, and anyone wanting to help by being a scout leader. Fausett proudly points out that Troop 38 has members from many faith traditions and backgrounds. Troop 38 has always been welcoming to all people. The addition of the Venturing Crew gives them more opportunity to expand their opportunity to assist more young people.

Fausett proudly speaks of the members of this group. The group is not a gay troop but it does have children of married gay couples are active in the program. While several of the Scout leaders are openly gay, sexual orientation isn’t the focus of the group but inclusivity is.

According to the Boy Scouts of America’s website, “Venturing is based on a unique and dynamic relationship between youth, adult leaders, and organizations in their communities. Local community organizations establish a Venturing crew by matching their people and program resources to the interests of young people in the community. The result is a program of exciting and meaningful activities that helps youth pursue their special interests, grow, develop leadership skills, and become good citizens.”

Any eligible youth interested in joining Troop 38 or adults interested in helping with the scouting group as a leader or their Scout committee, please email join@utahtroop38.com or text 801-8606559. Q

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Homeless youth shelter opens in Salt Lake For as long as there have been homeless youth in Utah, there has been limited resources for them, especially when it came to a place to sleep. At one point, Utah law forbade anyone from housing an underage homeless teen.

Now, the new Volunteers of America Homeless Youth Resource Center at Ninth South and Fouirth West is open not only for shelter, but for programs to help them become self-sufficient.

Many years of planning and hundreds of fundraisers brought the Center to reality.

The place is specifically designed for the needs of homeless youth.

Rob Wesemann, Volunteers of America Utah Division Director of Homeless Services said at a media event, “What we’re really looking at is a way to provide services that really focus on this specific age group so that we can help support them in the unique ways they need the support, so we can get them out of homelessness and into independence.”

While the new facility can offer a place to sleep for up to 30 kids a night, it’s more than just a shelter. A majority of the facility is made up of classrooms, meeting spaces, a computer lab and counseling offices.

“We don’t want this to be a final destination. What we want this to be is a launch pad for really people to experience independence,” Wesemann said, “We’re going to have education, we’re going to focus on job training, job skills, we’ll have a legal clinic up there and we’ll have some activities just to get people stable and ready to take those next steps.”

The former Homeless Youth Resource Center on 600 S. State Street had little meeting space and, more importantly, no place for the homeless youth to stay overnight.

“Right now at 5 o’clock we have to ask people to leave and we don’t know where they’re going to go, and we don’t know even if they’re going to return the next day.” Q For more information on VOA Homeless Youth Resource Center go to: voaut.org/homeless-teen-services

Homeless youth meal program serves its last breakfast

BY CONNIE ANAST-INMAN

On May 21, 2016, the all-volunteer group dubbed the “Saturday Breakfast Club” will serve their last hot meals to the homeless youth population. Over the past seven winters, the volunteers have gathered in various combinations to ensure local homeless youth had a hot breakfast each Saturday during the winter months. It was an opportunity for those kids living on the streets to get out of the cold, receive food, comfort, clothing, and sometimes supplies, to help them survive and a chance to regroup. With the opening of the Volunteers of America Youth Shelter on May 24, the youth will be served meals 365 days a year.

Started at the Sacred Light of Christ

by Lee Castillo and Ginger Phillips in 2009, the breakfasts were served by many hands and in multiple locations. Funded by the church’s patrons, the youth were often treated to the only hot meal they would have all weekend. Organizations and people joined each year, including Stonewall Democrats, First United Methodist church, community members and individual families, who would donate money, food and McDonald’s gift cards to give out to the youth. In 2014, TEA of Utah hosted a backpack drive to provide each youth with a backpack and survival

items such as gloves, scarves, sundries and snacks. The backpack drive was held a second time in 2015 by private individuals.

Donors stepped forward to provide scholarship assistance and even paid for needed medication for the youth as well.

The meals were served at the Sacred Light of Christ, Utah Pride Center and the VOA Drop-in center. This gave the youth an opportunity to find assistance from additional programs.

Beginning in 2015, a brown bag lunch was added to further assist the youth.

Coordinated by the Lindi Inman family, the lunches were also used in outreach opportunities and often taken to groups of homeless youth who could not come to the VOA Center.

Castillo feels the effort has been a community accomplishment, saying the experience “gave me a sense of smallness… The world has so much love and big things can happen with small actions. It also made me realize we’re all the same. No matter what, we all just want to be loved and deserve to be treated with dignity and respect… and a warm meal.”

It is estimated the all-volunteer group has served approximately 3,100 breakfasts and 540 lunches. Q

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Harvey Milk’s Hope speech (excerpt) And the young gay people in the Altoona, Pennsylvanias and the Richmond, Minnesotas who are coming out and hear Anita Bryant on television and her story. The only thing they have to look forward to is hope. And you have to give them hope. Hope for a better world, hope for a better tomorrow, hope for a better place to come to if the pressures at home are too great. Hope that all will be all right. Without hope, not only gays, but the blacks, the seniors, the handicapped, the us’es, the us’es will give up. And if you help elect to the central committee and other offices, more gay people, that gives a green light to all who feel disenfranchised, a green light to move forward. It means hope to a nation that has given up, because if a gay person makes it, the doors are open to everyone.

So if there is a message I have to give, it is that I’ve found one overriding thing about my personal election, it’s the fact that if a gay person can be elected, it’s a green light. And you and you and you, you have to give people hope.”

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“My victory is yours, and yours, and yours. And that is how the movement is.”

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Fight for the children

BY LUCAS FOWLER

Mass hysteria

is nothing new.

In the 1690s, men and women in Salem, Mass. were tried and executed for the crime of being witches. Experiencing a collective delusion of a threat, otherwise seemingly rational people chose to take people’s lives because of a perceived threat to their families and community.

We saw something similar in the 1970s.

Anita Bryant demonized gay people, calling them predators, saying that teachers who were gay and lesbian had plans to recruit children through school. She became the spokesperson for the anti-gay movement, trying to prevent the acceptance of gay and lesbian people into mainstream society. It took 40 years of fighting, but we’ve won the major battles, here in the U.S., specifically repealing Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, and gaining marriage equality.

Today, we’re being told that transgender people will molest children in bathrooms.

Make no mistake. This is not about bathrooms; any more than the civil rights movement was about water fountains.

These accusations have gained traction with people who are naively responding to a perceived threat to children. Without examining the issue closely, the response by many has been to do what seems easy – prevent

trans people from having access to children in bathrooms.

Statistics show that this delusion has no foundation. Not a single transgender person has attacked anyone in a bathroom. It simply hasn’t happened. This widespread fear has no more basis in reality than the accusations made in the Salem Witch Trials.

When the Departments of Justice and Education released a joint statement May 13th, instructing schools that Title IX of the Education Amendments of 1972 protect transgender children, the response was one that we’ve seen throughout history. Unfounded hysteria, with a surface argument that makes it sound as though Unfortunately, the children that are being hurt are transgender and gender non-conforming kids. These kids are not a new phenomenon. They existed a year ago, 10 years ago, and 20 years ago. Transgender people, including children, have always been around, regardless of whether our existence was considered a subject that was acceptable to discuss socially. We have been using bathrooms since they were invented centuries ago. Now, not only does a young trans child need to worry about strangers and peers having an inappropriate interest in their private parts, bullies are able to reuse the predator myth to justify harassing other children.

Since bathrooms have become part of the national conversation, I’ve heard from many trans adults suddenly experiencing new levels of dysphoria. The conversation inside our private walls has shifted from more optimistic topics like how to approach transitioning at work or college, to far more pessimistic topics, like whether stopping transition would make them feel safer to exist. If adults are feeling this way, what must the children be going through?

In the last decade, transgender children and adults had begun hearing Harvey Milk’s call to come out. There has been increased societal acceptance for trans people, and more parents were listening to their children, and taking them seriously. These kids were no longer having to bury their thoughts and feelings inside themselves, and present a fake version of themselves to society. Instead, they were beginning to be able to focus on the things all of the other children do. Things like homework, video games, and learning how to eventually become fully functioning adults.

Instead, this newfound societal acceptance is being ripped away from them, under the guise of protecting other children. The message this sends to gender non-conforming children is that they are not worthy members of society, that there is something wrong with them, and that they are inherently bad.

Let’s band together, and show these children that we will fight for them, and that we agree with Harvey Milk, when he said “All young people, regardless of sexual orientation or identity, deserve a safe and supportive environment in which to achieve their full potential.” Q Lucas Fowler is a board member of Transgender Education Advocates of Utah.

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the first Pride occurred more than 45 years ago, it was a blatant political statement. It was a warning to “authorities” that gay men would no longer be harassed, arrested and extorted.

The next 10 years or so the parades and festivals grew in size and took place in more and more cities across the country.

The bawdier Pride started in the ’70s, and greater resistance was elicited. Crusaders against LGBT rights came out of the woodwork. The most famous was Anita Bryant — a beauty queen, singer, right-wing Christian activist and Florida orange juice spokeswoman. As her political victories grew, Pride became an act of unity.

Then the AIDS pandemic hit. While Christian religious leaders screamed hatred and pointed to the disease as God’s vengeance against homosexuality, Pride became a display of defiance. Seeing hundreds of thousands of angry LGBT people in the streets must have been frightening to bigots from the pulpit to the White House: we were fighting for each other.

We’ve made remarkable advances in equality since that first Pride, and we still have battles to fight — especially when it comes to full rights for trans* people — but life is better than anyone could have dreamed. The way I see it, the Prides past were about the fight; the Prides today are about the victories.

For me, Pride is a yearly reminder that we’re still here, we’re still moving forward. It’s a time for us as a community to cheer our successes and to stiffen our resolve to continue the fight.

Recognizing this progress is important both for our community and the straight community.

The more inroads toward full

equality that LGBT people make, the more distance the mistreatment of the past becomes. Just as it is difficult for people of my generation and younger to comprehend the mistreatment of African Americans prior to the Civil Rights Movement, younger gay and lesbian people cannot fully grasp that there was once a time they could’ve been arrested just for going to a bar.

You don’t even need to go all the way back to Stonewall to realize the victories we’ve gained.

The progress we as a society have made means that many younger LGBT people may not understand how — when I was a young adult — being gay was something to be kept secret. Only I didn’t.

I’d like to think that decision helped advance everyone’s rights.

I’d like to think that my marriage, my kids, the life we enjoy today are all possible on some level because I, and millions of other gay people, refused to be ashamed.

Sure there are still risks associated with coming out. But the support systems and the widerspread acceptance of lesbians and gay men means more often than not that those who have a problem with LGBT people must explain themselves. Nowadays two guys go to the prom together, or a lesbian introduces her wife at the company holiday party and nobody blinks an eye.

That wasn’t the always the case.

That’s why Pride for me is a celebration. It’s a reminder that, as a young man living in a time when it was easier and wiser to be in the closet, I chose to be out.

The other day at the dog park, I saw a young gay couple, barely in their 20s, holding hands while walking their dog. That wouldn’t have happened when I was their age. So as I passed them I smiled and whispered, “You’re welcome.”

Happy Pride! Q

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I will not yield

BY SEN. JIM DABAKIS

DEAR JIM DABAKIS, I am appalled and horrified at President Obama’s national ‘gender equality’ school bathroom policy, which he wants to illegally force upon our society by threatening to withhold federal funding.

I am trusting that you will stand up against this and demonstrate that we, in Utah, have values and standards that compel us to look out for the safety and dignity of all children, even if that means losing federal monies. I urge you to do all in your power to send a clear message that we will not cower to such federal bullying!

I am a college student living at the University of Utah, and will soon be having children. I cannot comprehend the dangerous circumstances my children will face in the near future if this bathroom policy goes through. I have known too many innocent victims of rape, sexual harassment, and pornography and can’t bear the thought of my future sons and daughters being such victims. Please stand up against this mandate now.

Thank you for your time and efforts in this matter!

—Peter DEAR PETER Congratulations on attending the U. Best of luck on building your family.

As to your comments on transgender children.

Have you ever met a 6 year old Utah transgender child? Have you seen his little face crinkled as he describes the sharp pains in his tummy in anticipation of going to school every day? I would love you to meet such a brave, strong child. He marches into a first grade class (vomits most every morning on the way to school) because of the abuse and

bullying brought on relentlessly by his classmates, who just cannot accept him as being different. And his plight is not helped much by ignorant teachers, a principal and a school district that somehow are threatened by this dazzling young man who simply does not live up to their expectations.

Peter, have you ever listened to a 6 year old boy utterly baffled by why other boys corner him in the bathroom and force him to show his underwear. He shrugs his shoulders and says — they are white (clearly unaware that there was ladies and mens underwear).

Have you heard a boy tell about how he wanted to stay friends with the bully boy that took his hand and forced it onto a hot steel outdoor slide until there were second degree burns? Have you seen a shining young soul say he wanted to stay friends with the boy who hurt him because that boy had no other friends?

Have you heard an emotional mother describe watching her outgoing fabulous child, the friendliest, most sharing child at primary evolve into a withdrawn, frightened, sick child as others (especially adults) could not accept him? Have you heard this woman breakdown as she remembers her Bishop telling her that she had to take control of her child and turn him into a boy? Warn the family that their eternal destiny was in jeopardy?

After you meet some of these precious children and their parents, only then, do I want to hear your opinion.

As for me, I will not yield. I will not compromise. I will not back down. I will help, speak out for and honor these precious children who have so much to teach us!

—Jim

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Prior to

the 1969 Stonewall Rebellion one of the duties of the nation’s police was to keep the city streets safe from sexual deviants.

Not only the streets but in private spaces such as in hotel rooms and parked cars.

The police were allowed to look through keyholes and over transoms in hotel rooms in which two men were suspected of lewd behavior. They were allowed to sneak up on parked cars to catch men in a sexual liaison. They thought it was their responsibility to curb prostitution and homosexuality, which were treated as the same vice. Both were seen as corruption of youth.

In Utah there were not any sodomy laws prior to 1876. Men caught in the act of anal intercourse could not be prosecuted.

Utah legislators only criminalized sodomy because the federally appointed governor asked them to adopt California’s criminal code, in which sodomy was punishable with a five-year imprisonment. For the next 30 years, however, Utah judges gave sentences of only three to six months for those convicted of homosexual activity. The punishment for sodomy in Utah was changed in 1907 to imprisonment in the Sugar House Penitentiary for three to 20 years.

In 1851, the “State of Deseret” had enacted a criminal code for the territory that made sodomy illegal between “any man or boy,” and set the penalty at the discretion of the Bishop courts. However, the following year, Utah’s legislature removed sodomy from its criminal code without explanation, and Governor Brigham Young had claimed that legislators had never criminalized sodomy. The lack of a sodomy law became an issue when a Ft. Douglas soldier was accused of raping a Mormon youth in 1864. Ironically the man could not be convicted because of the lack of any sodomy law. Although not convicted, he was later killed by “mercenary” Mormons while returning to the fort.

Punishment in Utah of homosexual activity often depended on whether you were a member of the dominate religion or a gentile. Non-Mormons were sentenced

to prison in a greater number even for consensual anal intercourse while Mormons “guilty” of homosexuality often were dealt with in Mormon Bishop courts. In 1886, Thomas Taylor was removed from office as Bishop in Salt Lake City due only to his sexual relations with males. In 1887 this teenage son of an anti-polygamy crusader was committed to an insane asylum for his homoerotic sexual activities.

When Mormons did get arrested for sex they were frequently tried by juries of other Mormons. Such a jury in 1891 acquitted two Mormon men of sodomy, despite the testimony of numerous eyewitnesses.

Later, in 1893, the town of Honeyville was “rocked” by a homosexual scandal which pitted local LDS leaders against each other.

This extraordinary case did not involve the police but was settled in a Church court. A few years later a house of prostitution was raided in the mining town of Eureka, Utah where the gentile owner and three male prostitutes were arrested.

In 1901, 16-year-old Joseph Flaherty was committed to an insane asylum for engaging in sodomy. However, the next year 14-year-old Clyde Felt, the son of a prominent Mormon family, murdered Samuel Collins with whom he had been having an ongoing sexual relationship for gifts. Felt was not only cleared of Collins’ murder, but he was allowed to go a Mormon mission.

The Utah Supreme Court ruled in 1913 that fellatio did not violate the state’s “crime against nature” law. Ten years later Utah legislators amended the statute to outlaw oral sex, even among heterosexuals.

This law criminalized most sex acts regardless of sexual orientation or genders.

In 1925, Utah passed a castration law for certain criminal or immoral offenses.

However, in 1929, the Utah Supreme Court ruled that an African American prisoner, caught in the act of consensual sodomy with another prisoner could not be castrated for that reason alone.

During the 1930s and ‘40s, Utah was more preoccupied with the Great Depression and World War II than with

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homosexual conduct within the state. In fact, a homeless person arrested for sodomy was released by a Utah Court in 1933 because the state had little money to incarcerate and it was not worth the expense as he was just passing through the state.

In 1949, the Utah Supreme Court finally upheld a sodomy conviction; but three of the justices instead urged “treatment” by citing sexologist Alfred C. Kinsey. This was the first sodomy opinion in the United States to refer to the Kinsey study. As legal opinion began to shift, homosexuality changed from being criminal to a mental illness. In 1953, consensual sodomy in Utah was reduced from a felony to a class-B misdemeanor, while forcible sodomy remained a felony. It would take 50 years for the United States Supreme Court to rule that all state sodomy laws are unconstitutional.

The paranoia of the 1950’s Cold War influenced the belief that homosexuals were subversives and un-American. It was a horrible time to be a homosexual, male or female. When a 1955 news headline “Three Boise Men Admit Sex Charges” began a public disclosure of sexual relationships between men and boys in Idaho, it led to a massive witch hunt in the homosexual communities of the Intermountain West.

SLC Chief of Police, Cleon Skousen, lead the morality crusade against the city’s homosexual population in 1956, preying on the fears of parents.

He ordered police to charge homosexuals under state law, rather than city ordinances, so that courts could commit offenders to the Utah state

mental hospital for life. Judge Marcellus K. Snow added to the misery by stating that “more use of the jail sentence” would curtail homosexuality.

Snow claimed that certain places in the city were widely known as “mecca’s for sexually maladjusted persons.”

The police, under Skousen’s orders, increased arrests of homosexuals. Skousen ordered the vice department to institute a policy of using “handsome” decoys to entrap men for “solicitation.” He also ordered the surveillance of homosexual meeting places such as taverns and city parks.

Movie houses were also raided, where patrons and owners were arrested. In 1964, the film, “The Fourth Sex,” was shut down after Salt Lake City police decreed it “objectionable for this community.” Homosexuality was a prominent theme in the picture according to the police. A couple of years later, the newly appointed Police Chief, Dewey J. Fillis, ordered those arrested in sex offenses to be held in jail to undergo a health check for venereal diseases.

In Oct. 1969, young people named Ralph Place, Pam Mayne, Mary Heath and George Kelly formed Utah’s Gay Liberation and Anti-war Fronts in a hippy commune in Salt Lake City’s Lower Avenues. Due to the sparks that Stonewall ignited, Utah’s gay community was prepared to fight and organize. Within five years Utah had over 20 businesses, organizations and churches for homosexuals, where many years before there had been none. Today there are hundreds for the gay and trans* communities in Utah alone. Q

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Generational PRIDE

BY CHARLES LYNN FROST

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difference is a themed topic in the world today. Of recent, I have found the universe hurling the topic at me on almost a daily basis; from language, thinking, health and education to politics, art (in all its manifestations) and particularly, the approach to life. So I thought why not pride? Over the last month I’ve interviewed queer people from across three unique generations, asking them about what Gay Pride means, their unique perceptions of Pride, and I have discovered some very major differences, as well as some strong similarities among the Millennial, Gen-X, and Baby Boomer generations. We hear the words such as inter-generational, cross generational, multi-generational a lot in the queer community, so rather than combining all I discovered in my interviewing process into one long column,

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I’ve decided each generation needs it own unique spotlight. I’ve also chosen to present the combined interviews generation by generation so you can taste and savor each, much like a fabulous fruit salad in a bowl, contrasted to throwing all of them into one huge column like a fruit smoothie in a blender, where all become a conglomeration of one another and the defining differences around generational Pride may be lost. After all, we are about celebrating the differences above all else. So, the following is something new — three nonfictional compilation monologues, derived from individual generational interviews, combined into one representative interview. I asked about the meaning, purpose and perceptions of Pride.

Millennial Pride (born 1981-2000) Pride is a party! For me, it’s a time to … like … plan special outfits, decide your party list, what you’ll wear at different times of the day and into the late of night. I love that we can be open without anybody in our faces judging us. I love the colors during Pride, the music, the men. Everybody goes all out, bars, clubs, restaurants, some churches even.

Guess it’s about extreme fun, doing and experiencing new things, fucking exploring!

I think the Millennials have tons of street smarts; we are the savvy generation about being queer. I think our self confidence and social ability make us unique. Pride has changed, it’s not what it used to be, not that my generation doesn’t respect how things have changed and shit, how things are better now, but we are also not about hanging on to all the traditions and stuff. We know what we are proud of, what we stand for; things like diversity, civic duty when it’s needed, and no, Pride is not civic duty, it’s our time to roar. Pride is also about gender fucking and not having to conform to a binary norm. If anything, normal is something we outright reject. Pride, above all else, is about being fiercely independent.

Gen-X Pride (born 1965-1980) Pride for me isn’t as important as it once was, which could be part of growing up and other things taking priority. I like to go to individual Pride parties, where I can

spend an evening or an afternoon talking to friends and meeting new ones. The big Pride events have to really draw me in or I usually don’t attend — sort of a been there, done that attitude. I feel LGBT people have come a long way, and having been in the midst of those civil rights battles, they define what Pride means to me. My generation wasn’t the first to fight for these rights, but we were fortunate to be adults when the battles were being forged and fought.

I take great pride in being able to be exactly who I am, defined by me, living the life that works for me. I would really like to find that one particular guy and settle down for a long time. I find this to be one of the most challenging things of my generation.

Not everyone wants that, but I do, and at this time in my life I’m really ready to settle down and settle in, and live life to the fullest with a life companion. I still think support for LGBT issues is vital, and I find that I am into politics a lot more now than at earlier times in my life. I am also less involved or enticed by the party life/bar scene that once captivated me; it’s rare that I find myself not saying in my head this is so predictable, so non-creative, so boring.

Pride, my freedoms means balance to me at this time in my life, and I really have to find value in something, to give it my time, energy or money. I have lived long enough to be pretty skeptical of organizations having sustainable solutions for me and the LGBT community at large. I have to admit that possessing pride in aging is also something that I am having a difficult time with.

I want to stay vibrant, young and young at heart, but I also want the wisdom that comes with maturity. I still focus on staying healthy in all aspects, and my friendships, relationships, marriage and variety.

Boomer Pride (born 1946-1964) I’m still a radical deep down inside, and most all of my perspectives come from that viewpoint. Boomers were the “me” generation, and to survive we had to band together to become the “we” generation. Pride means courage, standing up against all odds, losing the fear of being called out and hated for being who I am. The closets we grew up in

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were great and spacious, with many a corner to hide deeper when needed. It is so interesting that the haters who hated us back then, are still abounding in 2016; certain religions if possible, are even uglier and more oppressive. Political division and legislation is, if possible, meaner and more actively harmful than when I was a young gay man.

I also truly believe with all my heart that what the Boomers endured and did was a huge part of the tremendous changes we have seen in the past few decades. Our allies are with us, certain politicians, all the way up to the President, are our advocates, and that feels damned good. Many from our generation are still scarred, frightened, ashamed and damaged from what happened in our diverse journeys.

I love the fact that a lot of Boomer men and women have gotten legally married and validated, because that validation and societal acceptance are two extremely important things our generation fought for. The last two decades have been full of surprises!

Our generation was the first to embrace the ‘Just Come Out’ movement, our generation had, and has, many a strong leader in the gay movement, and our generation was decimated by AIDS. Beyond Vietnam, we queers have fought many a war ourselves and have the PTSD to show for it.

Pride is not an event or a noun to me, however I am glad it exists in that definition. Pride is a copular verb containing many feelings, such as accomplishment, overcoming, self-worth, possibility, bravery, remembrance, and contribution to name a few. Pride is about legacy, have I done and lived a life that I can be proud of? Have I pushed and pulled where and when it was needed? Have I spoken out when my voice may have been one of very few, I guess it comes down to the big question: have I made a difference? If you can say yes to a couple of those questions — that is Pride.

Talking and doing a lot of listening with very few pointed interview questions taught me so very much, which also reinforces that I need to listen a hell of a lot more. People have such amazing stories, I wish space allowed me to share some of the touching and powerful stories I heard. I was seriously touched by all the people I interviewed.

Oh—and all three generations love Golden Girls and RuPaul, so there’s a wonderful generational continuity dish. Thank you to all the people I interviewed, you know who you are, and you made the time I spent with you treasured. Have a great Pride, whatever it means to you. Q

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In the morning he made my wife breakfast (a cheese omelet, with a little help) and then in the evening he and my wife gave me a hot stone calf- and footmassage. He was disappointed that we ran out of time to paint Mommy’s nails.

This Mothers’ Day was especially meaningful because it’s the first one I’ve been able to celebrate as a legal parent. Anti-gay marriage and adoption discrimination made me a legal stranger to my son for over five years of his life. Now my name is on his birth certificate and he has the protection of having two legal parents.

So when President Obama mentioned the existence of lesbian mothers — and even thanked us! — in his 2016 Mother’s Day Presidential Proclamation, that felt really good.

“Performing the most important work there is, mothers — biological, foster or adoptive — are our first role models and earliest motivators,” Obama wrote. “Regardless of sexual orientation, gender identity or marital status, mothers have always moved our Nation forward and remained steadfast in their pursuit of a better and brighter future for their children.”

Not everybody was pleased, however.

Dr. Michael Brown, rightwing radio host and author of books like “Outlasting the Gay Revolution,” wrote an opinion piece on BarbWire in which he

lamented, “It’s a real shame that our president, rather than just making a positive statement about the importance of our mothers, chose to politicize the moment, putting his radical social agenda above the sacredness of motherhood.”

Yes, what a shame that Obama should acknowledge people like me as real mothers. As you can see by the examples at the beginning of this column, my wife and I are obviously raising our son to be an evil creep.

But as far as Brown sees it, we are terrible parents because neither one of us has a penis.

Mind you, he does say “without a doubt, there are single moms, adoptive moms and lesbian moms who are deeply devoted to their kids and are doing their utmost to be the best parents they can be.”

BUT he goes on to say that these women are basically selfish bitches who never should have brought a child into this world without a man. Specifically without being married to a man.

He writes that it’s “sad” that “kids raised in a lesbian home will not be able to celebrate Father’s Day, and this by the choice of the moms.” Nope. That’s not sad. Kids who have abusive parents or who spend their lives tossed around in the foster care system? That’s sad. Having two moms who love you is not sad.

He then goes on to give some anecdotes about some girls becoming man-hating lesbians just like their moms! And how kids raised by trans mothers are likely to be trans, too. He doesn’t provide any evidence, because he doesn’t have to.

Not all mothers live up to Obama’s proclamation. Some are terrible. Raising kids is a hard job that demands everything of you. I am proud to be my son’s mom, and I don’t need Brown’s approval. Q

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WEDNESDAYJUNE 1 Sapphire Spectacular

A Sensory Experience, presented with pride by Mark Miller Subaru. Formerly the Grand Marshal Reception, the SAPPHIRE SPECTACULAR will help ring in the 2016 Utah Pride Festival as we celebrate the past, present, and future of our beautifully diverse community, and recognize the recipients of the 2016 Dr. Kristen Ries Community Service Award, Pete Suazo Political Action Award, Breaking Barriers Award, and Lifetime Achievement Award.

6pm at The Leonardo / $65 209 E 500 South

THURSDAYJUNE 2 Pride Interfaith Kick off this year’s Pride Festival with the annual Pride Interfaith worship service. Many faiths and traditions come together for this service, featuring the Salt Lake Men’s Choir

7pm at First Baptist Church / Free, 777 S 1300 E

FRIDAYJUNE 3 Rally & March

For the second year as part of the Utah Pride Festival, the Rally will include four Utah Pride communities: Dyke, Trans, B+ (Sexually Fluid), and Poly. Honoring the memory of Harvey Milk, we’ll march from 9th&9th to Pride Festival Grounds to the Rally on Library Square. Come out and celebrate, agitate, and stand with these communities!

Sister Sledge is Family Sister Sledge have been around since the dawn of disco and the sisters are now bringing their dancing shoes back to Salt Lake.

If you’re struggling to place Sister Sledge, three words should do the trick: “We Are Family.” The 1979 song is one of the most requested of all time, a timeless disco classic. Love it or loathe it, you’re going to hear it at karaoke bars, pride marches and wedding receptions for the rest of your life. According to Kathy Sledge, the youngest of the sisters, the song’s longevity owes much to its feel-good message.

“We Are Family is like the theme song for everyone from gay pride to girl scouts,” Sledge says. “I think it’s a song that unites you and lifts you up and the message is universal — that we can be strong together.”

9pm at The Depot / $41 advance, $46 door, 21+ 400 W S Temple

6pm at 9th&9th / Free. Messages from Mayor Biskupski, National Center for Lesbian Rights Kate Kendell 7:30pm at Festival Grounds / Free. Rally at the Library Square Amphitheater, 450 S 300 E.

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MAIN STAGE 7–7:45pm DeelanZ 7:55–8:05 DJ Suzy Bean 8:30–10 Opening Ceremonies 9–9:30 Fire Muse Circus 10–11 DJ Suzy Bean

Saturday PRIDE STAGE 3-3:45pm Scenic Byway 4:05-4:50 Violettas 5:10-5:55 Canyons 6:10-6:55 Batty Blue 7:10-7:55 Talia Keys 8:15-9 Hive Riot 9:15-10 MINX 10:15-11 Audio Treats SPOKEN WORD STAGE 3–5pm Children’s Book Reading 5–9 Poetry Slam Team Competition MAIN STAGE 3–3:45pm Samba Fogo 4:05–4:50 School for Performing Arts 5:10–5:55 Rockin Jukes 6:05–6:50 Jason Cozmo 7:10–7:55 Perfume Genius 8:10–8:50 AB Soto 9–11 DJ Tracy Young KARAOKE STAGE 3–9pm Karaoke

LIBRARY 1–2pm Trans Health 5:30–6:30 Pronouns and The Language of Inclusion THE LEONARDO 3–4:30pm Kate Bornstein

Sunday LIBRARY 1–2pm Bi-Erasure 3–4 LGBTQ+ Legal Issues SPOKEN WORD STAGE 1–2:30pm Wiseguys Comedy 2:30 - 5:30 Youth & College Poetry Slam Team Competition PRIDE STAGE 11:30a–1pm DJ 1:05–2:55 Karamba 3–3:10 Miss City Weekly 3:15–5:05 DJ Jesse Walker 5:10–7 DJ Luis Perez MAIN STAGE 12–12:45 Oscar Alvarado Group 1:05–1:50 Salt Lake Men’s Choir 2:10–2:55 Sister Wives 3–3:05 Parade Winners 3:15–3:40 Utah Repertory Theater Company 4–4:30 Saliva Sisters 4:50–5:35 Voodoo 5:45–6:30 Belinda Carlisle

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SATURDAYJUNE 4 Pride Brunch What could be a more civilized, and gay, way to kick off a Saturday than a Pride Brunch?

Noon–2pm at The Leonardo / $15 buffet and mimosas 209 E 500 South

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Pride Stage Local bands from Salt Lake’s great music scene 3-3:45pm Scenic Byway 4:05-4:50 Violettas 5:10-5:55 Canyons 6:10-6:55 Batty Blue 7:10-7:55 Talia Keys 8:15-9 Hive Riot 9:15-10 MINX 10:15-11 Audio Treats

Pride Festival Opens Gates are open, vendors are eager to meet you, food is cooking, and let the entertainment begin!

2–11pm at the Festival Grounds / $10/$12 at the gates

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SAMBA FOGO

Main Stage 3–3:45pm 4:05–4:50 5:10–5:55 6:05–6:50 7:10–7:55 8:10–8:50 9–11

Samba Fogo School for Performing Arts Rockin Jukes Jason Cozmo Perfume Genius AB Soto DJ Tracy Young

Fire-infused AfroBrazilian Music and Dance Performance and Education.

SL School for the Performing Arts Dedicated to teaching children grades 9-12 about the performing arts.

Jason Cozmo Jason CoZmo has been performing for 15 years from coast to coast. He not only entertains, but spreads a message of diversity and love in his celebrity impersonations.

AB SOTO A regular on RuPaul’s Drag Race, AB’s work as a visual / performance artist and musician is an amalgamation of his Latin roots and early influences; street and pop culture. This combined with a rebellious streak that challenges and questions mainstream gay culture and norms is what defines AB as a recording artist.

AB’s early background as a professional dancer and fashion designer informs his work as the artist he is today — all of AB’s work is original and self produced; choreography, lyric, styling and design.

AB’s art is a stylized commentary on homophobic attitudes present in the dominate culture. His aim is to show the diversity of the more marginalized members of the gay community and bring them to a wider audience.

Perfume Genius Twitter phenom Mike Hadreas is silly and serious. “I may wink in some of my lyrics, but for the most part my music is deadly serious.

I am a silly bitch, but I’m also a gloomy bitch.

Those two extremes aren’t far apart for me — when something shitty happens I either laugh about it or spin out and eventually need to sit down at the piano.

Tracy Young It wasn’t only the gay community that was drawn to Young’s magnetic musical pull.

Musical legends from Cher to Sean Combs and from Shakira to The Smashing Pumpkins, fell under her spell, booking the disc jockey to spin their exclusive parties.

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SUNDAYJUNE 5 Pride 5K Race along the Utah Pride Parade route to cheering fans. Outrageous costumes are always encouraged.

8am registration, 9am race / $35, 2nd S and Edison St

Pride Parade The Pride Parade is on the same route as previous years, but reversed! It now begins at West Temple and Second South, heading east to Fourth East. This gives better staging for floats and groups to set up before the parade.

10am / Free, Second South downtown

Pride Festival Opens Gates are open, vendors are eager to meet you, food is cooking, and let the entertainment begin!

12–7pm at the Festival Grounds / $10/$12 at the gates

Main Stage Oscar Alvarado Group Salt Lake Men’s Choir Sister Wives Parade Winners Utah Repertory Theater Company 4–4:30 Saliva Sisters 4:50–5:35 Voodoo 5:45–6:30 Belinda Carlisle 12–12:45 1:05–1:50 2:10–2:55 3–3:05 3:15–3:40

Salt Lake Men’s Choir Now 80 members strong, Utah’s Other Choir is one of the state’s oldest member-supported arts organizations. The choir represented the State of Utah with a performance at the National Cathedral in Washington, DC and participated in the Cultural Festival of Gay Games performing at the Sydney Opera House in Sydney, Australia.

Pride Stage 11:30a–1pm DJ 1:05–2:55 Karamba 3–3:10 Miss City Weekly 3:15–5:05 DJ Jesse Walker 5:10–7 DJ Luis Perez

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The Sister Wives A rockin’ assortment of blues musicians, each with a diverse musical background. They started in January 2003 at numerous regional festivals, clubs, live television, and private shows.

The Saliva Sisters The Saliva Sisters are an unnatural act. Who would have supposed a girl group singing parody songs about fiber, bidets, and bras would have survived, let alone flourished in Utah? They have performed for groups as varied as the Western Republican Governors and the Utah Gay Rodeo.

Voodoo Productions Cirque and specialty act entertainment, guaranteed to inspire and awe, featuring traveling talent nationwide, you never know what to expect with Voodoo Productions,

Belinda Carlisle The Go-Go’s are heading out on their nationwide Farewell Tour, but they are not coming to Salt Lake City. In fact, the closest they will get is Phoenix. For $80+ a ticket (with fees).

But lead singer Belinda Carlisle, the vivacious lead singer of the most successful all-female band in American history, is. She will be performing at the Utah Pride Festival.

The Go-Gos were the first all-female band in America that wrote and performed their own music, formed in 1978.

Carlisle has been performing lately as a solo act, but don’t expect her to leave her bouncy Go-Go persona too far behind “They’re both equal part of me,’’ Carlisle said of the band and her seven and soon-to-be-eight-solo album career.

“The Go-Go’s is a different working situation,’’ Carlisle said. “I have the camaraderie of the band, which is great. For me, it’s my roots, but it’s a totally different thing than doing my own thing.’’

The Go-Go’s made a living with that quintessential MTV pop sound in such songs as “Vacation’’ and “We Got the Beat.’’ Her solo work includes hints of that, but really is a lot deeper, boasting lush production and even hints of Edith Piaf angst, sung in French, since that is where she spends her down time.

“I grew up with lushly produced pop songs, and then in my late teens, I got into the New York scene, with Lou Reed, the Velvet Underground and the Sex Pistols,’’ she said.

“When the Go-Go’s formed, we had a certain pop sensibility, but we always aspired to be more punkpop, like the Buzzcocks,’’ she said. “But part of me is very, very pop.’’

Entertainment Lineup #WeArePride

6/2 THURSDAY

6/4 SATURDAY

6/5 SUNDAY

The Depot

Main Stage

Main Stage

Sister Sledge 9:00pm

Samba Fogo 3:00pm School for Performing Arts 4:05pm Rockin’ Jukes 5:10pm Jason Cozmo 6:05pm Perfume Genius 7:10pm AB Soto 8:10pm DJ Tracy Young 9:00pm

Oscar Alvarado Group 12:00pm Salt Lake Men’s Choir 1:05pm Sister Wives 2:10pm Parade Winners 3:00pm Utah Repertory Theatre Co 3:15pm Saliva Sisters 4:00pm Voodoo Productions 4:50pm Belinda Carlisle 5:45pm

6/3 FRIDAY Main Stage DeelanZ 7:00pm DJ Suzy Bean 7:55pm Opening Ceremonies 8:30pm Fire Muse Circus 9:00pm DJ Suzy Bean 10:00pm

PRIDE Stage Scenic Byway 3:00pm Violettas 4:00pm Canyons 5:00pm Batty Blue 6:00pm Talia Keys 7:00pm Hive Riot 8:00pm MINX 9:00pm Audio Treats 10:00pm

PRIDE Stage DJ Pancho 11:30am Club Karamba 1:05pm Miss City Weekly 3:00pm DJ Jesse Walker 3:15pm DJ Luis Perez 5:10pm

Library Stage

Library Stage

Wiseguys Comedy 1:00pm Wasatch Wordsmiths 2:30pm

Children’s Book Reading 3:00pm Wasatch Wordsmiths 5:00pm

The Leonardo

The Leonardo

Bi-Erasure 1:00pm LGBTQ + Legal Issues 3:00pm

Trans Health 1:00pm Kate Bornstein 3:00pm The Language of Inclusion 5:30pm

Karaoke Stage

Karaoke Stage Karaoke 3:00pm

Karaoke 12:00pm

Thank you to the 2016 Pride Festival Sponsors.

RUBY SPONSOR

EMERALD SPONSOR

PRESENTING PARADE

DIAMOND SPONSOR

SAPPHIRE SPONSOR

TOPAZ SPONSOR

TEAM

AMETHYST SPONSOR

PEARL SPONSOR

MAIN STAGE

KARAOKE STAGE

RIDE WITH PRIDE

PRIDE STAGE

ARTIST ALLEY

FRIDAY HEADLINER Sick of Sarah

Natalia Zukerman Cheryl Wheeler Honey Crys Matthews Johanna Johanna

AUGUST 12-13, 2016

SATURDAY HEADLINER

Hunter Valentine

Kristy Lee ELLIS TOBY Sister Wives Canyons

Robber’s Roost

Bookstore

Torrey,UtaH

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Together is beautiful.

We celebrate the power and beauty of working together. It’s why Wells Fargo works with national and local organizations that serve the LGBT community to strengthen their impact. And it’s the reason we work with you — to help you realize your potential, and succeed financially. wellsfargo.com/LGBT

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801-308-2050

www.jonjepsen.com

Foster homes needed — MEOW!

Together, we can Save Them All . ®

utahfoster@bestfriends.org or 801-574-2417

Third Friday

7pm, Third Friday of the Month Matrons First Baptist Church of Mayhem 777 S 1300 East

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Pride History Grand Marshals 1995 to 2015

20 years of Grand Marshals for Utah’s Pride Parade-From actors to politicians to sports heroes to philanthropists to LGBT Utah activists, Utah Pride has attracted a diverse crowd to be the grand marshal of Utah’s Pride parades. Here’s a list of grand marshals.

1995 –DR. KRISTEN RIES humanitarian and primary physician to PWA during the AIDS Crisis. Dr. Ries was the first grand marshal of Utah’s Pride Parade.

1996 — CHASITY BONO, now Chaz Bono, transchild of Sonny and Cher. Spokesperson for the Human Rights Campaign’s “National Coming Out Project” 1997 — CANDACE GINGRICH Gay Rights activist sister of U.S. Congressman Newt Gingrich. Author of “The Accidental Activist” 1998 DEBRA BURRINGTON AND CHARLENE ORCHARD founders of the Utah Chapter of the Human Rights Campaign.

1999 — TWO GRAND MARSHALS GAY ACTOR DAN BUTLER, “Bulldog” from the television series Frasier, and GARY AND MILLIE WATTS of Family Fellowship an LDS support group for parents of LGBT children.

2000 — UTAH REP JACKIE BISKUPSKI, Utah’s first elected Gay woman to the Utah State Legislature.

2001 — SALT LAKE CITY MAYOR ROSS C. “ROCKY” ANDERSON, a strong advocate for GLBT rights.

2002 — TWO GRAND MARSHALS UTAH SEN. ALICIA SUAZO WIFE of the late Pete Suazo who championed anti-hate and

anti-discrimination laws, and STEVE KMETKO, host on E! Network.

2003 — KATE KENDALL, a Utah native, executive director of National Center for Lesbian Rights.

2004 — BRUCE BASTIAN, WordPerfect co-founder, philanthropist and backer of queer-rights measures and member of HRC. 2005 — UTAH SEN. SCOTT D. MCCOY, Utah’s first elected Gay man to the Utah state Legislature.

2006 — J. BOYER JARVIS, PhD Professor of Speech U of U ally to the GLBT community.

2007 — JOHN AMAECHI, a Utah Jazz basketball player, NBA player to speak publicly about being Gay. 2008 — SLC MAYOR RALPH BECKER has championed a domestic-partnership registry.

2009 — CLEVE JONES, founder of the AIDS Quilt.

2010 — DOTTIE S. DIXON Mormon House Wife a fictional character portrayed by local actor Charles Lynn Frost.

2011 — ROSEANNE BARR comedienne and Salt Lake City native sister of Ben Barr AIDS activist.

2012 — DUSTIN LANCE BLACK Oscar-winning screenwriter and queer-rights advocate.

2013 — DAVID TESTO is an openly gay soccer player and civil-rights advocate.

2014 — LAURIE WOOD AND KODY PARTRIDGE, MOUDI SBEITY AND DEREK KITCHEN, AND KATE CALL AND KAREN ARCHER. The three couples who brought the suit involved in Marriage Equality in Utah.

2015 — JANET MOCK New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and advocate for trans women’s rights

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The Gay Agenda

SB DANCE SNaked

BY TONY HOBDAY

ANNUAL EVENTS

CONCERTS

What can I say about another Utah Pride Festival?? Duh! BELINDA CARLISLE ... Yay!! My friend Jake Culley had met her once in a West Hollywood hotel elevator. Apparently she had her hair wrapped in a bath towel and was carrying a laundry basket of her son’s undies in her arms. She asked him for a roll of quarters to which he told me he had peed himself a little and then gave her a five-dollar bill for a sniff of the pink ones with dozens of frog jumpers on them. Happy Pride!

“Porngraphy,” a rap duo paraphrasing “a book written 35-hundred years ago” (Thank you Michael Aaron!) and wardrobe malfunctions (“Nipples!”) grace the concert stages of Utah this month. I have to say pornography is the most titillating for me … especially when it’s from the 1980s.

3FRIDAY — UTAH PRIDE FESTIVAL

Through Sunday, June 5, Washington/Library Square, 210 S. 400 East, times vary.

Passes $5-50, utahpridefestival.org

3FRIDAY — THE CURE

Maverik Center, 3200 Decker Lake Dr, WVC, 7:30pm. Tickets $28-58, maverikcenter.com

— PAUL SIMON

Maverik Center, 3200 Decker Lake Dr, WVC, 7pm. Tickets $64.50-144.50, maverikcenter.com

— MACKLEMORE & RYAN LEWIS

Saltair, 12408 W. Saltair Dr., Magna, 8pm. Tickets $46/Adv-51/Day of Show, smithstix.com

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DANCE SB Dance authenticates once again. Where’s Barbara Eden when you need her? And what gay man doesn’t like a snake with “superb athleticism, earthy humor and wild invention.” Bill Cosby stars.

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MOVIES Maggie’s Plan is having Harry Potter’s baby?!!? … Wait in line betch!! Umm, I might be on one too many cocktails. Thank you Chelle’s 50th birthday celebration. Anyhoo, the flick stars the incomparable Julianne Moore and B-actor Bill Hader (who plays “Tony”). Or as I like to think, “plays with Tony!” That’s me; I adore cute, dorky guys.

Who would think a renowned editor and a beloved writer would hook up??? Michael and I have, but that’s because he has naked dinner parties and a hot tub. Lol. Among the “geniuses” are Colin Firth and Jude Law. Of course they don’t hold an inch to Michael!

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9THURSDAY — NOISES OFF! Egyptian Theatre, 328 Main St, Park City, times vary, through June 12. Tickets $1929, egyptiantheatrecompany.com

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GOOD TIMES WITH

NICK JØNAS POP’S DREAMBOAT ON STANDING UP FOR LGBT RIGHTS, HIS ‘VERY WELCOMING’ GAY CLUB EXPERIENCE AND HIS MAN BOD

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

Boys do

Nick Jonas sometimes, but it’s mostly girls.

They dress up as the pop star, emulating his rousing onstage persona and donning denim that looks practically painted on. Yes, if we needed further proof about why the 23-year-old former Jonas Brothers is a celebrated beacon in the LGBT community, for his abs and for his advocacy — for standing up against the North Carolina “bathroom bill” by canceling two upcoming gigs there — look to the drag kings.

Those kings are sure to find even more fodder for their glitzy acts on Last Year Was Complicated, Jonas’ second solo album.

In our new interview, Jonas talked candidly about last year — his year of “growth.” And although he was congested — yes, even the perfection that is Nick Jonas deals with allergies that

are “terrible” this time of year — he was more than happy to dish on LGBT rights, the night he and brother Joe ended up at a West Hollywood gay bar, and touching his… face.

I’ve never asked a guy this question — I’m always asking female artists who are being impersonated by men — but there are Nick Jonas drag kings, so we must talk about this. (Laughs) I know, right? What’s it like to know that lesbians are dressing up in Nick Jonas drag? Also, what tips do you have for a Nick drag king who wants to perfect their Nick Jonas drag act? Well, it’s an honor, you know, first of all. I feel very honored! (Laughs) I think the tips would be, make sure the jeans are fairly tight — not too tight, but tight enough.

And I do a lot of face touching, I’ve noticed, so maybe incorporate that into the act and it’ll all work.

When do you touch your face the most? When I’m singing, when I’m talking. It’s kind of a strange thing I do.

I spoke to your brother Joe recently and he mentioned getting down at the gay clubs with you. What’s a night with you and Joe like at the gay club? It was very fun! We were out at The Abbey in LA. Good place, good drinks. Good drinks! And it was just a good environment overall. People were very welcoming and we had a good time and we hung out and had a couple of drinks. And they played our music too, which is always nice when you’re at a club.

The DJ was being friendly.

(Laughs)

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Was this a promo obligation? No, it’s just where we ended up. It wasn’t promo at all.

Who gets hit on more: you or Joe? We were kind of isolated, in our own sections off to the side, so we weren’t able to interact that much, but I’m not sure. He was also with his girlfriend at the time, so maybe he was getting less attention.

What would you say to straight guys who might not feel as comfortable going to a gay club as you are? In the same way I feel like there’s no difference with my fans, gay or straight, the same thing applies to the club.

And you can have a good time anywhere you go if you just choose to have a good time. I think it’s a unique environment to be in — and it’s a fun place and they play great music, (laughs) and as long as you’re willing to go in and have fun, I think it’s all good.

Some straight guys worry they might be the object of some man’s affection. Insecurity drives a lot of really poor decision-making.

I think as long as you can be confident and comfortable in your own skin and who you are then you don’t really have to be worried about that.

When did you become comfortable in your own skin? It’s a continual thing, continual growth. Just like everybody else, there are some days when I don’t feel great in my skin. I do my best to grow. But I think when I came into my body, you know, and started building muscle and realizing that in a lot of ways physically I had become a man, that’s when I became comfortable and confident. Getting into fitness was helpful.

When did being accepting and loving to the LGBT community really become important to you? Was there a person or a moment that really drove you to become the advocate that you are? It was my early Broadway days and being kind of immersed in the community at an early age and really seeing that there was no difference. The key was accepting and loving people from all different walks of life. It was just a priority at an early age and also because my parents were really open and loving and laid it out for us that there was no difference. I think that was a healthy environment to be in at an early age.

What do you make of speculation that you are gay? I think people are gonna make their assumptions regardless, you know?

And I’m a heterosexual male who’s playing two gay characters on TV shows and really doing my best to be the most accepting

and loving person I can be because I think that’s the way we all should be. So, if people have opinions or thoughts on my sexuality, that’s on them. I know who I am and I’m comfortable with who I am.

You stepped in for Iggy Azalea last year and headlined Pittsburgh Pride when she canceled her headlining performance after LGBT groups pulled out in protest of her past homophobic tweets. What was it like playing your first Pride event? It was a lot of fun! I think there was a real warmth because of the fact that I kind of jumped in last minute and covered, so I think people were really pumped about that. The show itself was great. It was a lot of LGBT community people and it was good. They were a great crowd. And I’ll tell you what, I think it was one of my favorite shows of last year. There’s something to be said about surprising people!

Last year seemed to be pretty darn good for you, but your new album, Last Year Was Complicated, begs to differ. What was the biggest hurdle you had to overcome last year? It was a real year of growth, going from being in a group with my brothers for years to traveling alone, being alone all the time — it was intense at first. Then, on top of that, the breakup I had last year was, well, complicated (laughs), it was tricky. It required me to really dig in deep and lay out all my thoughts and feelings in my music, which, for me, is the best outlet possible.

Beyoncé is obviously experiencing this with her new surprise album Lemonade, but I wonder, for you, how do you feel when you release a body of work and the public dissects it and relates it back to your personal life? I can’t comment for Beyoncé or speak for her, but as an artist I think it’s so important to lay your heart and feelings out in your music, and if you want to be an open book in that way, it’s a great outlet to be able to do it. For me, I’m just thrilled to have that outlet to pour my heart into because it’s a good way to process my feelings and emotions.

Do you keep the gay community in mind when you make music? I think you have to create and have it be authentically you and kind of worry about what people are going to think afterwards, or who might be listening. That’s what I’ve tried to do: tell the stories the best way I can first, (so they) are the most honest. If I have to go back and edit afterwards, I will, but for the most part what I write in that room that day is

what ends up on the record.

Outside of Scream Queen and Kingdom, do you see more gay roles in your future? I think it’s about the material. If something comes up and has a great script and a great creative team, I would definitely do it. It’s all about the script though. That, for me, is the focus.

When I talked to Joe he said he was working on music with you. He also alluded to the possibility of there being a Jonas Brothers reunion down the line, saying, “It could easily happen.” What’s the status on the new music? And how do you feel about a Jonas reunion? Well, he and I live together now.

We just moved in together actually. So yeah, we have a music room in the house and we’re always writing, whether it’s for us, for (his band) DNCE, for my stuff, or just writing for other people. I’m definitely trying to always create. But I’m not sure about a Jonas Brothers reunion. I think that we’re all very happy doing our own thing. And our oldest brother, Kevin, is expecting another baby with his wife, so it’s exciting times for everybody.

When might we hear some of the music you’ve been making with Joe? It’s gotta be right first, so if we get something done and it ends up on a project, that’d be great. But I’m not sure about anything coming out very soon — it’s gonna be a little while.

Following in the footsteps of some defiant tour cancellations in North Carolina to protest the state’s “bathroom bill,” you and your tour-mate Demi Lovato also took a stand, nixing both of your dates in the state. Why did you decide to cancel your shows there instead of, say, going the route that Cyndi Lauper did, which was to keep the show but donate the proceeds to LGBT causes? It’s an incredibly tough situation overall and one that we thought really hard about. Speaking with Demi and the whole team, the thought was, we needed to do our best to take a strong stand, and although it’s difficult and it’s gonna be a disappointment to our fans who were looking forward to the shows, we feel that it’s the right thing to do. Sometimes you gotta go with your gut feeling and do your best to help a situation. Hopefully our fans understand and stand with us. We’re trying to do our humble part. A change would be good. Q Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate. He once made Jane Fonda cry. Reach him at chris-azzopardi.com and on Twitter @chrisazzopardi

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The undercurrent is always clear: You’ve got to make a decision and stick with it, because focusing on who you want to be is the only path to prosperity. I was once told by a relative, “Here’s your lane, son — stay in it, bear down, and you’ll make it.” But the truth is, rules like that are made up by people who need them so they don’t feel scared. Ignore them.

As a person who has changed careers twice so far in his life, I can tell you this: You don’t have to decide what you want out of life. You can have it all. You can make big money and pursue creative passions.

You can have an engaging career and also raise a terrific family. You can reach a certain level of achievement, then pivot into something else, even if it feels dangerous to do so.

Pursuing your dreams – every single one of them – is what matters, and it’s okay if they don’t fit neatly into the same box. As we enter into the month of June, its exciting to think about the upcoming Pride festival. An important part of the festival is taking time to reflect upon the work done for us by our forefathers.

As you are enjoying the parties and festivities remember that the reason you have all of your rights is due to the work of those who came before you.

The success of our LGBT ancestors came because they refused to subscribe to the

rules laid out for them. They knew that life could be better, that it could be equal, and they made new rules.

The past year has been a big year for our community. We have had wins and we have had losses. My heart breaks as I think about the LGBT of North Carolina, and the laws that have been passed to discriminate against them. However, my spirits are lifted when I hear about the employers

and organizations in that state who have stood up for our rights and fight to protect us.

They have decided that rules do not apply to them, and have worked to change the game.

So what rules are holding you back? Part of being associated with the LGBT community is a legacy of making our own rules. It’s a legacy of changing perceptions and working to be better. We are bold, we are not scared. So dare to be different, dare to be bold. Use this Pride season to reinvent yourself and add your legacy to those who have come before you. Q askmrmanners@qsaltlake.com

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the bookworm sez A Body, Undone: Living on After Great Pain

by Christina Crosby c.2016, NYU Press $22.95 /208 pages REVIEW BY TERRI SCHLICHENMEYER

Touch your ear.

Go ahead.

Reach up there and give it a tug.

Either ear, it doesn’t matter, just grab and pull. The point is that when you want to tug your ear, scratch an itch, chew your nails, or wiggle your toes, you can without much effort – and once you’ve read “A Body, Undone”

by Christina Crosby, you’ll appreciate it more.

For most of her first fifty years on earth, Christina Crosby was strong, confident, and determined. She played hard, excelled at sports, was passionate about her professorship at Wesleyan University, and was planning life with her partner, Janet.

And then everything changed: nearly a month after her fiftieth birthday, Crosby’s speedy, custom-fit bicycle caught a branch in its front wheel and stopped abruptly, bucking her off, knocking her to the pavement. She took the full brunt of the accident on her chin, which broke her neck.

Weeks later, she woke up in ICU, a quadriplegic.

When she was growing up in a small Pennsylvania town, Crosby and her older brother were raised to know that neither was better than the other.

Because Jeff had been a year older, Crosby says she often fantasized that they were twins; indeed, they tussled and competed as though they were.

But then, as a relatively

young man, Jeff was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis and was eventually wheelchair-bound.

Her old dreams and the irony of the situation didn’t escape Crosby’s notice.

With the help of her “lover,” assorted friends, and paid caregivers, Crosby began to learn to live differently. She could no longer ride a bike or motorcycle, walk, take the stairs, or use a pen or bathroom by herself.

Getting showered took two extra people and ten steps. Her sex life adapted but her bowels did not. And though it’s been more than a decade since the accident, Crosby admits that she still has fears: she’s afraid of grief, of making peace with her situation.

Afraid that there’ll come a time when she will no longer want to live…

On many levels, “A Body, Undone” is a surprise.

Readers will almost immediately notice that author Christina Crosby is matter-offactly blunt. Just as you’ll learn that modesty is near-impossible when relying on caregiver help for the most basic bodily functions, you’ll also learn that – at least for Crosby – that easy attitude extends to sharing her reality. That’s not at all a bad thing; it’s just a surprise, especially when it comes to bathrooms, bedrooms, and profanity.

The second, most welcome, surprise is that there’s a good amount of warmth in this book, despite its sometimes-winceful subject matter. It’s filled with friends and family, and memories of them, which seems a nice distraction from the shocking details of Crosby’s accident and its aftermath.

This is a powerful book that asks its readers to think about many things. It’s not an easy read, but it’s not one you’ll easily be able to tear yourself away from, either. “A Body, Undone” won’t just touch your heart – it’ll tug at your mind, too. Q

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hear me out Cyndi Lauper, Rihanna

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

CYNDI LAUPER, DETOUR Girls just want to have… a country album?

If you’re Cyndi Lauper and your repertoire is as delightfully ADHD as hers — the American Songbook, pop ear-candy, the blues, a damn musical (she won a Tony for Kinky Boots) — the next “logical step” is, well, inevitably illogical. But hearing the “Time After Time” singer channel good ol’ honky-tonk alongside a mélange of veterans isn’t so unusual after all; in fact, Lauper sings this collection of country classics as if she never even turned the pop world upside down three decades ago with a string of bubbly hits and timeless power ballads. She did, of

course, but on Detour, she sinks her cowboy boots so far into Nashville soil it’s hard to believe this is the same Cyndi whose polished pop songs continue to abide under the disco glow of the gay clubs.

Even so, Cyndi’s personality and charisma is intact, from the yelpy runs on Guy Mitchell’s 1959 No. 1 single “Heartaches by the Numbers” to the husband-and-wife razzing she and Vince Gill partake in on “You’re the Reason Our Kids Are Ugly.”

Lauper’s version of Patsy Cline’s “I Fall to Pieces” is a staggering achievement. Just listen to the way Lauper enters the track, her voice low and husky and, through and through, divine; yes, hand over the Best Female Country Vocal Grammy right now.

Skeeter Davis’ 1963 hit “End of the World” also gets a lovely Lauper reading as well.

That quiver near the end? Ah, nice touch.

Though the singer recently confirmed that she’s working on another Broadway musical, let’s hope she laces up her cowgirl boots and takes another detour as radical and rich as this.

Grade: A-

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Rihanna can sing. Soar and dip and drop — she’s no Adele (because who is?) but when the unassuming Barbadian pop princess commits herself, it’s a magical awakening. So if creative differences are the reason behind RiRi’s decision to split with longtime label Def Jam (she’s now with Jay Z’s Roc Nation), going in for the vocal kill, as she does on “Love on the Brain,” is the best kind of record-label retribution.

The swaying slowie is refreshingly notRihanna, unless you’ve envisioned that Ri’s time offstage is spent belting Etta James’ classics. That’s what this soul throwback resembles, after all. Her fluttery voice is dramatic and full, and she slays every syllable, channeling her inner vocal goddess.

ANTI, the “Umbrella” singer’s surprise drop, then, resists the Rihanna we knew, the one who wasn’t known for the kind of avant-garde, Beyoncé-like wildcard that ANTI is. Let her pointedly remind you that she, too, can dig deep and pour her innermost feelings all over a solo piano, which she does on “Close to You.” Listen as she lashes out at an ex-beau, which she does atop the slinky grind of “Needed Me.” Yes, like 2009’s head-turner Rated R, Rihanna excels when she challenges not just herself

but those who expect the superficiality of her baityand-sometimesbland singles, from “S&M” (bland) to “We Found Love” (not bland).

That’s not to say that now, eight albums in, Rihanna is getting everything right (that grating Drake collaboration, “Work,” is a bust), but her persona-altering diversions are less eager to please and more eager to be everything you thought she couldn’t be.

Grade: B

Also Out MARGO PRICE, MIDWEST FARMER’S DAUGHTER Rural flavor meets Southern sizzle and, naturally, the dive bar down the street on Margo Price’s superbly drawn Midwest Farmer’s Daughter. The Nashville singersongwriter is heated during the jukebox jam “Since You Put Me Down,” directing her drinking problem — and a prayer that requests her “voice haunt you above the ground” — at a cheat. A compliment to both Price and her throwback style, the cheeky song could be mistaken for a Tammy Wynette cover. Heck, the entirety of Midwest Farmer’s Daughter, with its hard-won narratives and vintage production, and all the way through the mellifluous coda “World’s Greatest Loser,” is a classic country stunner.

LUKAS GRAHAM, LUKAS GRAHAM At 11, Danish child actor-turned-pop star Lukas Graham Forchhammer was “smoking herb” and heeding to his father’s advice to “go get yourself a wife or you’ll be lonely” because he didn’t know the difference. He distills that truth into “7 Years,” his personal verity and the launch track for his band’s respectable debut.

Ed Sheeran, Jason Mraz, Gavin DeGraw, Five for Fighting — the comparisons are apparent. From the rollicky Annie-sampled “Mama Said” to the pained “Happy Home” and the churchy campfire sing-along “Funeral,” this is old-soul folk-pop designed for maximum cross-generational appeal. Q Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate. Reach him via his website at chris-azzopardi.com.

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Festivals begin; celebrations are abundant. Happiness and tragedy walk hand-in-hand with me as I taste the chaotic beat of life.

I honestly do not recall why most of the celebrations and festivals have happened, and are happening. Any reason to party I accept as a marvelous distraction and question no more.

All the people I’ve met and had a short but intense connection with randomly come up in my memory. Usually with a flash of the moment behind my eyes.

I love it when this happens — at least when it’s a happy moment. I get those tragic memories that come up and blur everything in my mind so that the hideousness of itself is all I can see or feel.

So I initiate alteration of my mind. Alcohol and pills, meth and GHB with a Viagra kicker, special K and ecstasy, marijuana and mushrooms, LSD and a hard, naked, rough lover. These have all worked to get me where I like to be.

With every ending of a celebration it’s necessary that I take recovery days before the beginning of a festival. Memories begin to flow again. One of my favorites is when I hooked up with this guy who worked at Disney in Florida as Buzz Lightyear. Fuck, he was hot. He had the biggest cock that has ever slapped my face!

Sometimes I think about my friend Ken. I met him about a week before I moved away from Madison, Wisconsin, to Palm Springs. Six months later, I’m taking a vacation in a lovely rehab out in Desert Hot Springs, and Ken happened to check in. I believe it was one of those big cosmic events that happen to me now and then.

I think about the weekly street festival in Palm Springs and wonder how the hell I ended up being involved with one of Coachella Valley’s biggest meth distributors after rehab. All the crazy, disturbing memories start to flow into my mind. A free supply of “Tina” for two years really fucked with my head.

I came home to Salt Lake to get a grasp on myself, again, only to end up falling in love with a guy more fucked up than I was. Together we were like gasoline and fire. Violent, passionate, and self-consuming. He ended up overdosing the day before the Pride Festival in 2011. Thus my reason for loathing Spring. Q

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BY SAM KELLEY-MILLS ARIES March 20–April 19 The ability to finish up quickly is not always a rewarding one. Take time when doing something pleasurable, and observe how much more interesting the experience becomes. The daily grind is bound to cause some aches in both the head and heart. Don’t be afraid to put off a few obligations in order to focus on what matters.

Three Days in June ACROSS 1 Ballet follower 6 Loesser’s most happy one on Broadway 11 Like family 15 “What does she see ___?”

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land 54 What you can give it 57 Fruit flavor for gin 59 Cats inspirer’s monogram 60 ___ Menace (Radicalesbian phrase) 64 Carolina pro footballer 66 Speech in which Obama mentioned 39-Across in 2013 68 Carbs or cabooses 69 Room at the top 70 Kind of queer 71 Puts into service 72 Onetime Oprah rival 73 Fender bender scars DOWN 1 LGBT ___ (Obama was the first to mention them in a 66-Across) 2 Come apart 3 Bulldykes 4 Come off as 5 Sea eagles 6 King of Lawrence’s land 7 SASE, for one 8 Cowardly lion actor 9 Vidal’s ___ from Golgotha 10 Words before were 11 Kate’s sitcom partner 12 “Bears” that aren’t bears 13 Take into the body 14 Had an opening for 19 Finish filming 20 J. Caesar’s tongue,

or back muscle 25 Bitch’s response 28 Queen’s “subjects” 30 Mooring sites 31 Long, slippery one 32 Martin of the Daughters of Bilitis 35 “Get thee ___ nunnery” 37 Tyler of Lord of the Rings 38 Cut quickly 40 Love, to Navratilova 41 “Xanadu” band, for short 42 From the Union 45 Has a hissy fit 46 California home of Streisand 47 Planet with a butt sound 48 William of Knots Landing 50 South American that may climb every mountain 51 One that attacks a fly 53 Emily Dickinson output 55 Dr. for the children’s hour?

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haunts you in bed. The division between work and home has been blurred lately.

Set some clear designations.

SCORPIO Oct. 23–Nov. 21 Nullified feelings of a friend could lead to doubts. If placing blame is all that matters, you’ll end up blaming yourself. Associates will gather around a common goal. Get all the facts before deciding to join. Everyone has their own agenda, and crossovers are simply that.

You can’t have everything, but go away something desired.

TAURUS Apr 20–May 20 A horrible human being is bound to be a real problem.

Avoid negativity as much as possible, including your own inner demons. There is great capacity for despair in all of us, but you need not experience it all the time.

A good reminder of self-value would do some good, Taurus. Chin up, and put this negative person in their place.

SAGITTARIUS Nov. 22–December 20.

Familial frustrations are rooted in a money matter. Get cash flow in order and lay off frivolous expenses.

With happiness currently tied to wealth, a loss of spirit could become reality.

Keep it simple and enjoy the little things in life. What seems small now could end up having the greatest impact of all.

Brace yourself.

GEMINI May 21–June 20 The gentle hand of a stranger may open doors once thought to be sealed. Get to know this person in whatever fashion is most appropriate.

Love and friendship go hand in hand, though the lines may become blurred and easily mistaken for the same thing.

A definitive moment may lead to a life altering decision. Watch out.

CAPRICORN Dec 21–Jan 19 Making a mess can be fun as long as clean up doesn’t overshadow the experience. Never put out more than you can afford to lose. Show someone close how much you care, as they may ready to leave. Holding on isn’t hard, but a grip is required. Never take for granted that people will be there.

Conditions are part of any bargain.

CANCER June 21–July 22 The workplace or career path has been swirling with bizarre instances. There isn’t a lot of reason behind the big shake up, which will cause confusion. Remember, all actions are the result of desires. The whim of another could be a powerful force. Look for a seed of compassion, and growth will occur in the form of realization.

AQUARIUS Jan. 20–Feb. 18 Sweet and happy times will be frequent as the temperatures rise. Plan accordingly for difficulties and they won’t spoil the fun. Everyone will be pushing to party, so make rest a priority whenever possible. Your winning smile and good cheer will impress those around you. Enjoy the spotlight for a change, as it is much deserved.

LEO July 23–August 22 If life right now had a motto, it would be “so what?” While this though may become a theme, don’t be quick to end the path of reasoning there when dealing with friends and family.

Have involved interactions and try to see the deeper meaning of those around you. A lover could hint at a hot time, so don’t turn down the offer.

PISCES Feb 19–Mar 19 Give a friend a break and display true talent. It’s amazing what kind of doors open by providing a slight nudge. The flourishing limelight of a good friend could translate to you, so don’t be quick to dismiss their good fortune. A sense of clarity could overcome all doubts in matters of home, as well as the work you do. Q

VIRGO August 23–Sep. 22 There is so much to do, and the universe isn’t handing out extra time. Do best with what allotted, and don’t fret if not all gets done. For now, life is like walking a tight rope. Balance is crucial, and giving is as important as taking. A friendship will develop between a co-worker, so relearn how to interact.

Put the workplace aside.

LIBRA Sept 23–October 22 Your dreams have been unsettling lately. It might be time to fill up on good thoughts. Seek out good experiences and start rejecting ideas that don’t equal uplifting feelings. Remember, reality exists in your head and

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Damn These Heels announces first round of films Utah Film Center’s Damn These Heels LGBT Film Festival has announced the first round of films that will be screened July 15–17 at the Rose Wagner Performing Arts Center. All-Access passes are available for $50 before June 9, $75 after.

A Film Lovers pass good for 10 screenings is $35 before June 9 and $50 after.

STRIKE A POSE [DOCUMENTARY] CLOSING NIGHT FILM 83 MIN | 2016 | BELGIUM/NETHERLANDS | NOT RATED DIRECTED BY ESTER GOULD AND REIJER ZWAAN

In 1990, seven young male dancers — six gay, one straight — joined Madonna on her controversial tour. Now, 25 years later, they reveal the truth about life during and after the tour.

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For an aimless young woman in rural Pennsylvania, the only path appears to be enlisting in the Army, but she falls for a married woman.

CLOSET MONSTER [DRAMATIC] 90 MIN | 2015 | CANADA | NOT RATED DIRECTED BY STEPHEN DUNN PRINCIPAL CAST: CONNOR JESSUP, AARON ABRAMS, ISABELLA ROSSELLINI

An East Coast teenager and aspiring specialeffects makeup artist struggles with both his sexuality and his fear of his macho father.

FROM AFAR / DESDE ALLÁ [DRAMATIC] 93 MIN | 2015 | VENEZUELA/MEXICO | NOT RATED DIRECTED BY LORENZO VIGAS PRINCIPAL CAST: ALFREDO CASTRO, LUIS SILVA, JERICÓ MONTILLA

Wealthy, middle-aged Armando lures young men to his home in Caracas with money, only he doesn’t want to touch, he wants to watch.

One day he meets 17-year-old Elder

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AFTER HIS EX-GIRLFRIEND DISAPPEARS, SIDNEY, A GRIFTING GLAM ROCK DILETTANTE, IS FORCED TO LOOK AFTER HIS 11-YEAR-OLD SON FULL-TIME. HIS “COOL DAD” FACADE CRUMBLES AND HIS LIFE GOES INTO FULL TAILSPIN AS HE STRUGGLES TO LET GO OF HIS ROCK-AND-ROLL LIFESTYLE. More information on Damn These Heels is at the Utah Film Center website utahfilmcenter.org/dth/dth2016/

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Researchers have acknowledged the therapeutic qualities of art for years; today, art therapy is used to help people express themselves when what they’re feeling is too difficult to talk about. Research has shown that coloring has tangible results in therapy. A recent study found that mindful art therapy significantly decreases symptoms of physical and emotional distress from cancer treatment. Art therapy has been proven to help those with cancer as well as other conditions such as depression, dementia, anxiety and post traumatic stress.

If you aren’t familiar with art therapy it involves using an art medium as a tool to help address specific problems. What’s great about the adult coloring books is that it eliminates the perception that one must be a “good” artist. One simply needs to color to get the desired effect. However, with this being said, some experts suggest that because of the lack of artistic input from patients prevents adult coloring being considered a genuine form of therapy.

Donna Betts, board president of the American Art Therapy Association, said in comparison, “It’s like the difference between listening to music versus learning how to play an instrument.”

Although coloring isn’t considered a form of therapy, that

doesn’t mean it isn’t therapeutic in nature. Many people are beginning to use coloring as a way to focus. Some therapists have coloring books in their offices to help fidgety clients focus on the session and to express their concerns. Some students have been taking them to lectures to help them focus on what is being taught.

Coloring has been compared to meditation from its effect on the human brain. Coloring elicits a relaxing mind-set, similar to meditation. Coloring allows us to switch off our brains from other thoughts and focus on the moment. Tasks with predictable results, such as coloring or knitting, can often be calming. Concentrating on coloring erases negative thoughts and creates a state of peace; and many people who have a difficult time with meditation can find this easier.

This gentle activity where you choose the colors to create your picture and the repetitive action of coloring it focuses the brain on the present, blocking out any intrusive thoughts. A recent study from San Francisco State University has shown that people who partake in creative activities outside of work not only deal with stress better, but also their performance at work improves, too.

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frustrating to have progress stop, so we will address how to beat strength-based plateaus. Trying to pass through plateaus can increase the risk of injury if you mindlessly keep pushing. For example, your bench press is not continuing to go up like it once was but you keep trying to force more and more weight. Eventually you’ll see your form suffer and possibly injure yourself. But you can defeat that sticking point and see results again if proper planning is used.

The first technique is called unloading.

You continue to do your regularly scheduled workouts but back off on the weight and volume (amount of sets) by about 25 percent. This means if you regularly bench 100 pounds in four sets of 10, during an unload week you’ll lift only 75 pounds in three sets of 10. Focus on form during this week and resume normal lifting the following week. Lifting numbers often begins moving up again immediately following this procedure.

More drastic than unloading is taking a full week off from the gym. For a consistent lifter this may be difficult to fathom.

This time off can help muster up more recovery than their body is accustomed to.

This will make you feel refreshed and usually even stronger once you return.

Outside of unloading or rest weeks, the final technique is eating more. Bodies need fuel to grow. If pushed too hard or too long without proper nutrition, oftentimes lifters will begin to see their numbers start to drop.

If you’re constantly feeling achy, aren’t seeing results and your sleep is being affected then definitely try this technique first.

Even the most dedicated gym-goers have encountered their share of plateaus. Have you felt like you’ve been spinning your wheels? Don’t quit! The next step could be as close as resting and eating more. Q Tyson Dayley trains clients at the Sugar House 24 Hour Fitness by appointment. He is also available for private training in noncommercial settings. He can be reached at tyson@qsaltlake.com

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the frivolist

5 reasons you need to stop treating your gym like a bathhouse

BY MIKEY ROX

Visit a

gym in any major city and you’ll quickly pick up on the local “culture.” You know what I’m talking about. New York and Los Angeles, specifically, are notorious for the goingson in its gyms showers, steam rooms and saunas. It’s become such a huge problem in certain places that there are signs posted warning guests about lascivious behavior, and a handful of locations have removed the locker-room relaxation stations altogether to discourage such activities.

While I contend that exercising your demons to completion can be exciting and fun and – probably, the most appealing part of it – anonymous, it can make other gym-goers uncomfortable. Thus, five reasons you need to stop treating your gym like a bathhouse – if you know what’s good for you.

walk around naked, stand at their locker for an extended period of time in the buff (sending minutes-long emails, no less), and generally move at a glacial pace drying off every nook and cranny of their bodies.

Certainly that’s not a definitive statement – there are men of all ages trying to entice the rippling mass of man-flesh next to them with an ample showing of their own skin – but from my experience there’s consistently an age gap between those of us who from go from soaking wet post-shower to dry and draped in clothing in less than 60 seconds and those who could’ve had a three-martini lunch in the time it takes them to put on a pair of underwear.

1. YOU’RE MAKING OTHER PEOPLE UNCOMFORTABLE WITH ALL THAT CRUISING

Your gym’s saunas and steam rooms exist to serve its customers with a place to unwind and loosen tight muscles after an intense workout. They were not installed for anybody to have sex inside them, despite popular opinion. But thanks to the bathhouse culture that’s deeply rooted within our community, we’ve come to regard any heated, clothing-optional area as a destination of desire. Sure, these spaces and situations can be sexy – exposed private parts have a way of getting a rise out of people, after all – but not all occupants are up for getting down. That’s not to say that two consenting adults can’t make a go of it, but you shouldn’t put anyone else out, run them off, or otherwise make them uncomfortable because you want to act out a fantasy. You have a bedroom for that.

And if your boyfriend is home – making a one-on-one tryst with a gym trick a no-go – that’s your problem and nobody else’s.

Although it may seem like everybody came to the gym to get a “full body” workout – from your perspective, anyway – not every guy in the joint is looking for play.

Believe it or not, the majority of dudes are there to get their lift on and go about their day. Staring bros down with come-hither glances may work on some patrons, but there are a high percentage of people who aren’t into it – at all. Of course, as gay men we think every hot bloke pumping iron must be at least a little bit homo, but that’s rarely the case. Do what you came to the gym to do – stay active and healthy – and save the cruising for the bars and bedroom apps where they belong, lest you become a homophobe’s new punching bag.

2. MOST GUYS PREFER DISCRETION IN THE LOCKER ROOM It must be a generational thing, because when I’m in the locker room I rarely see guys my age – I’m 35 years old – milling about with their junk hanging out.

Rather, it’s the older crowd that likes to

3. LIKEWISE, MOST GUYS CAME TO WORKOUT AND RELAX – NOT HOOKUP

4. WHAT YOU’RE DOING IN THE ‘FACILITIES’ IS UNSANITARY All that grimy sweat pooling on the benches and floors of steam rooms and

saunas aside, the fact remains that not everyone showers before they enter; that’s issue number one, and it’s pretty disgusting if you’ve just come from a five-mile run on the treadmill. Secondly, if you’re having sexual contact with another person in these rooms, you’re introducing a whole host of other bacteria to the scenario that, personally, I’d rather do without – and I’m not alone. I’ve witnessed plenty of questionable activities happen here – from making out to oral sex to full-on penetration – and I’m never more disgusted (or run out of a room quicker) than when a guy blows his load all over the wood or tile structures instead of his towel and quickly exits without a second thought about cleaning it up. This is how things like death get spread, and it needs to stop.

5. PERFORMING LEWD ACTS IN PUBLIC IS ILLEGAL While the after-exercise facilities at your gym seem like private places – low lights and condensation-covered doors have a way of suggesting to your subconscious that they are – they’re still very much public. As such, if you get caught performing lewd acts in public, you’re subject to the codes of conduct that help keep our world free from sexual predators – and that’s exactly how you’ll be defined, perhaps forever if you’re charged with a criminal act. Now, most gyms will simply ask you to leave and revoke your membership in this case, but if you’ve offended or touched someone else without their consent, it could mean big trouble, and in the end that’s just not worth it. Which brings me back to the bathhouse: If you’re feeling frisky, head over there. Otherwise, keep your love muscle to yourself at the gym and nobody gets hurt. Q Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBT lifestyle expert whose work has been published in more than 100 outlets. He spends his time between with his dog Jaxon. Connect with Mikey on Twitter @mikeyrox

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princess kennedy

Proud

BY PRINCESS KENNEDY

I thought

I’d take the opportunity to tell you about some of the things I’m proud of this year. At the forefront I want to say I’m proud to be from Salt Lake City and hope that each of you understands how lucky we are. Though true it might be an embarrassment to deal with the stupid things the church elders come out and say, but we really have it good here and it’s only getting better. A couple weeks ago an article popped up on my Facebook feed that was touting that the writer felt Salt Lake was quickly becoming the next San Francisco; that’s quite a terrifying thought with the way things have gone awry with its ridiculous cost of living, My friend from San Francisco and his wife had been violently attacked by a gang of ruffians just blocks from their house in the Castro district — an attack so brutal they were left severely beaten, broken and scared of big cities. I might feel stared at and maybe even looked down upon by certain citizens of Salt Lake City but I don’t feel unsafe. I love how, for the most part, I feel accepted and safe. I’m glad I don’t have to deal with a fucked up government

telling me where I use the bathroom and I’m glad to have the support of both the straight and gay communities.

I’m proud to live in a city that is an artistic mecca. Once in great while there emerges an artist that shines so bright that you can’t help but bask in their afterglow. Artists like Andy Warhol and Keith Haring.

We have one in our midst right here in lil ol’ 801. His name is Andy Simmonds and chances are you have seen him or his work on Instagram. With nearly 45 thousand followers @heyrooney? this sprite little pocket-sized homo is becoming quite the media giant by simply doing what he loves and has unwittingly crossed cultures within the gay community to de-stigmatize femme culture. To quote the Out Magazine feature from last September: (bit.ly/simmonds) “The result of these supposedly clashing interests is a sprightly brand of bubble letters and highly distinct illustrations, which turn common phrases like “Masc-4-Masc” into something that looks like it was peeled off a My Little Pony poster.” If you ask Simmonds himself he’ll tell you, “It’s offering a critique against the masc4masc mentality by, celebrating the things I love about girly-ness. Pink, bubbly girly-ness.”

What I really

love about this and other artistic characters in this pretty great state are the back stories that make us all that much more interesting than any other place. For example, this bitch can speak Zulu! Fucking Zulu, okay! He served his mission in Johannesburg, South Africa where he regaled me in a story of graffiting the Zulu word for ‘white boy’ mlungu on the wall of a jail cell (corrupt government bullshit), She has a drag name Dorothy (though hes never done drag) and I hope she’ll take my advice and use the surname Mlungu. You can see and purchase his highly popular tees and such at heyrooney.bigcartel.com.

I’m very proud to say that yours truly will be featured in RooneyToon and I will be the first local gal to have such an honor.

Simmonds is making me stickers to hand out at my annual rooftop Pride day party at the Green Pig. DJs Artimis and Nick James will spin, and this year, the Green Pig owner Bridget Gordon has gone above the call and secured a street fair permit on Cactus Street. So I’m proud to announce that I’ll be taking it to the street, in association with the Utah AIDS Foundation, to bring you the biggest and baddest party of the year. And what I’m most proud of is I don’t take one dime for planning and throwing this party because I want to do something special for all of you, of whom I am most proud of for being you.

We’ll see you out there my little Kennedarlings, Happy Pride! Q

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the perils of petunia pap smear

A tale of ‘habit’-ual Pride

BY PETUNIA PAP SMEAR

Thus being a permanently grounded parade participant the past few years, I take pleasure in stopping along the parade route and posing for photos with the parade watchers. This also has some inherent dangers. Excited photo-bombers would rush into the street to pose between the twirling breasticles. The words “you’ll poke your eye out” actually became my mantra.

On two occasions, one of the breasticles fell off and landed in the street.Believe it or not, it is actually rather difficult to reattach a breasticle on the run.

Last year I decided to ride on a float for the first time. I positioned myself on the of the float,and posed with breasticles twirling the bow, just like Leo and Kate did on the Titanic. My goodness, that was exhilarating.

And boy howdy, did that solve a lot of my wardrobe malfunctions.

All these problems aside, the most dangerous and fraught thing about Pride is the fact that, with my beehive hair, twirling breasticles and cape, I can’t fit inside a port-a-potty.

Every year when I’m planning my Pride day wardrobe I come up against the most important of all eternal queries: ‘To pee or not to pee, that is the question!”

PUZZLE SOLUTIONS

Because of the difficulty relieving number one, I try not to drink much because what goes in must come out.

Two years ago I had a budding case of heatstroke from lack of hydration. So, if on Pride day you should find me lying in a ditch somewhere and I don’t respond to your jingling of shiny objects, please pour a bottle of water over me.

This story leaves us with several important questions: 1. Should I design a bedazzled line of nun’s habits?

2. Should I attach a generator to my pinwheel breasticles so I become a mobile wind turbine and recharge cell phones at community events?

3. If everyone on the parade route pointed their wands at me and performed the Wingardiam Leviosa spell, could I fly?

4. When a breasticle pops off during a parade is the proper distress call “Boob Down?”

5. Should we make the phrase “What goes in must come out,” a new Pride day mantra?

These and other eternal questions shall be answered in future chapters of the Perils Of Petunia Pap Smear.

Cryptogram: ““F A BULLET SHOULD ENTER MY BRAIN, LET THAT BULLET SHATTER EVERY CLOSET DOOR.”

Anagram: HARVEY MILK BOULEVARD

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be enterprising princess in training should, I made my own nun’s habit, complete with big wings made out of cardboard. I waited until I was home alone on a windy day. I didn’t want an audience. I tied the habit on and went to the backyard;I jumped off the swing set into the wind. Sadly, I did not sail into the air like Sister Bertrille but instead crashed very unladylike at the bottom of the slippery slide, resulting in a sprained ankle. In hindsight, it may have been all the added weight from the rhinestones that I bedazzled on the habit.

Nowadays, as an adult queen, I still hold the memory of Sister Bertrille close to my heart. When I hit the open road in the Pride parade, I still feel the call of the wind and the urge to fly. Thus, I like to attach whirling, twirling, spinning pinwheels to my breasticles, and to wear a cape – for flapping like wings – hoping to turn into the wind and soar through the air. I walk the parade route thinking that I will a better chance to get a running start and catch the current. If Dumbo could fly, I sure as hell should be able to.

Sadly, over the course of repeated failures to fly, I have finally come to the miserable conclusion that I do not possess the sleekness of a jetliner; I’m actually bellied with the aerodynamics of the Queen Mary. I am no longer a delicate, svelte princess. I apparently have made at least one visit too many to Chuck-A-Rama because this rotundus abundus, maximus hippoglottamus, gravity-enhanced queen “CAN’T GET IT UP,” as it were.

Oh the shame.

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to the Utah Pride Festival is fraught with danger and excitement. “June is bustin’ out all over,” and with it comes Utah Pride.

The first Pride Day celebration I attended was in 1988 when the fledgling GLBT Pride celebration was held at Sunnyside Park. There was no parade. I don’t remember seeing any drag queens. We sat on the grass because there weren’t any chairs offered. We brought a picnic lunch; I don’t remember there being any food vendors.

There was an oval of about 20 information tables on the lawn, and a truck trailer that doubled as a stage. I’d guess there were about 200 people roaming the park. There were a few speeches; Rev. Bruce Barton blessed the celebration and Allan O’Feldt sang some songs.

There was nary a tree in sight.

News accounts had said there were no incidents or injuries, yet this princess-in-training got a horrible, terrible, no good, very bad sunburn that day.

This was the largest gathering of GLBT people that I had ever been a part of and I was exhilarated. I swore, sunburn be damned, that I would never miss a Pride Day, and so far I have been able to attend every one for 28 years. The modern Pride festival is a far cry from the old days, but nonetheless, the road there is fraught with danger and excitement.

Having been a budding princess in training, stuck in the potato fields of Idaho among 5,000 sheep in the 1960s, I was desperate for role models. One of my childhood heroes was Sally Field as “The Flying Nun.” As any would-

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