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Today, it’s a 2-party system

BY MICHAEL AARON

Like many,

I’ve been reading a lot of posts on Facebook and Twitter from LGBT and ally friends and the rhetoric is heated and extremely polarized. And if you, like me, are just waiting for the election to be over, just know that because of the level of this polarization, it will continue well past Nov. 8. If you thought the vitriol of the political system was bad after President Obama was elected, wait until whomever is elected this year. The lady with curves is far from singing the coda of this opera.

Others I have read are holding their marble and saying they will vote for a thirdparty candidate for president. I am all in favor of other parties in certain races where they have a chance to win. I am also in favor of creating a grassroots movement to build a party to the level it needs to be to be elect-

able. That, however, has not happened as of my writing this column. I highly doubt it will happen by Nov. 8.

At this moment in time, voting for any candidate but the tarred-and-feathered-andstill-standing GOP or Democratic candidate is simply casting a vote for Minnie Mouse.

Yeah, Johnson may get seven percent of the vote and McMullin has a shot at getting an electoral vote. That and two bucks will get you an hour of parking downtown.

Seriously. Send a message? Do you seriously think the message hasn’t already been received? That the candidates at the helm of both parties have the lowest approval ratings in the history of approval ratings is lost on no one.

Waiting for the perfect candidate in either party is futile. Frankly, a perfect candidate doesn’t exist in the more-than-adozen options we have on this year’s ballot in the state. The election, however, is about more than who sits in the Oval Office.

Vote this year for one of the top two candidates and then work to build a better, more viable party for 2020. Or just stay home. The end result will be just the same. Q

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news The top things you should know happened last month (Full stories at gaysaltlake.com.)

Anti-marriage equality judge is out Alabama Chief Justice Roy Moore, who was suspended without pay for the remainder of his term for ethics charges, has been evicted from his office.

Acting Chief Justice Lyn Stuart wrote to Moore, “to arrange the removal of your personal effects from your office and to return your keys (both brass and card).” Stuart also told Moore any official correspondence will be dealt with by “my staff.”

The controversial Moore was found guilty on judicial ethics charges stemming from his defiance of the U.S. Supreme Court’s ruling on same-sex marriage. He had instructed Alabama court officials to disregard the Obergefell decision on marriage equality.

Bad recipe for business The Oregon bakery, Sweet Cakes by Melissa, which made headlines after refusing to serve a same-sex couple, has closed.

In 2013 the owners of the bakery declined to bake a wedding cake for a lesbian couple, citing conflicts with their religious beliefs. The couple filed a complaint and the state of Oregon eventually ordered the bakery to pay $135,000 to the scorned couple. A crowd-fund for the couple raised $352,000.

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tion closed in 2013, but the owners still made and sold cakes from their home before announcing the closure of the business.

Gay ref threatened in Spain Spain’s first openly gay football referee, Jesús Tomillero, has received death threats as he returned to the game after quitting in the wake of antigay abuse.

While officiating a game, a fan told him to “get off for being gay” for penalizing the fan’s team. The fan was ejected but returned to taunt Tomillero.

Following the match he got death threats on social media like, “You son of a bitch. You messed with the club. We’ll kill you.” Another message featured a photograph of a handgun and bullets.

The Barcelona Football Club is taking steps to support the ref by inviting him to attend a Barcelona game in the coming weeks as the Catalan club look to lead the fight against antigay behavior in football.

Rentboy’s bad boy sentenced The founder of the Rentboy. com, Jeffrey Hurant, plead guilty to promoting prostitution on the site. He faces up to five years in prison and a $10 million fine.

In a plea arrangement, Hurant admitted that he knew the ads on the website were for male prostitution. He and six employees were arrested in 2015 after a Homeland Security raid of his offices. The employees’ charges were dismissed.

The roundup triggered protests outside the courthouse by gay activists, telling the feds to, “stay out of [their] sex lives.”

The feds now own the Rentboy domain name which featured the slogan, “Money can’t buy you love … but the rest is negotiable.” The site claimed to

have a database of 10,000 men in 2,100 cities worldwide.

Hacked emails show Clinton concern about gay backlash Hacked emails released by the WikiLeaks group showed Hillary Clinton’s campaign staff worried about a response to the gay community’s backlash over a comment concerning former first lady Nancy Reagan and AIDS. Clinton’s aides fretted over how to respond to backlash from the LGBT community after Clinton lauded Nancy Reagan for starting a “national conversation” about AIDS in the 1980s, emails released Sunday show.

Activists blame President Ronald Reagan for what they view as a devastatingly slow response to the AIDS crisis.

Clinton immediately tweeted an apology after her initial remarks last March.

But her aides felt the LGBT community was unsatisfied and agreed to release a more detailed response.

“I don’t want this to fester,” wrote Clinton’s campaign’s LGBT outreach director, Dominic Lowell.

An initial draft of Clinton’s statement began by stating: “I made a mistake.” The line was changed to “I said something inaccurate” with the phrase “I made a mistake, plain and simple” added later.

‘Rocky Horror’ goes queerer The Rocky Horror Picture Show was always queer, and now it’s being performed, on Fox TV with openly queer and wellknown actors. LGBT icons Lavern Cox, Adam Lambert and Staz Nair take top roles in the remake of the 1975 movie that has become a cult classic.

Laverne Cox plays Dr. Frank-n-Furter, a role originated by Tim Curry, who appears

as Dr. Scott in the October 20 telecast. Cox is best known as an actor in Orange Is The New Black and is a civil rights activist.

Adam Lambert from 2009 American Idol fame is also an “out” performer who has appeared on the TV Show, Glee and is a recording artist who has sold over 3 million albums and 5 million singles worldwide. Staz Nair, from Game of Thrones, brings a pumped and oiled, hunky body to the incarnation of Rocky Horror.

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Golden Girls action figures are now on the market—but getting a set may be a challenge.

Toy manufacturer Funko announced that it has produced the dolls of the characters from the LGBT favorite, classic sitcom. The first production run was selling exclusively at New York City’s Comic Con earlier this fall.

Funko’s Mark Robben reported that response to product had been “Wild. We almost weren’t prepared for the excitement,” he added. The toy is currently unavailable for the masses to purchase, but it is listed on Target’s website with a price tag of $24.99.

If Golden Girl action figures are not enough, there is now “puppet show” (called a “head over”) dedicated to the sitcom appearing in NYC, to Blanche’s disappointment, Off-Broadway. Q

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HRC inducts Utah Sen. Lee in Congressional Hall of Shame The Human Rights Campaign released a list of several U.S. senators and representatives who have “particularly antiLGBTQ records.”

“These elected officials not only voted for anti-LGBTQ legislation, but they’ve introduced harmful bills and amendments, made extreme anti-LGBTQ statements and received a low score on HRC’s Congressional Scorecard,” the group said in a statement.

SEN. MIKE LEE (R-UT) earned a zero on the Congressional Scorecard. Lee is the Senate sponsor of the anti-LGBT First Amendment Defense Act. In an interview about the bill with NPR last year, Lee claimed that LGBTQ people are not “subject to widespread discrimination.” Lee is also a cosponsor of legislation that would allow child welfare organizations, including adoption and foster care providers, to make placement determinations based on the organization’s “religious beliefs or moral convictions” regardless of the needs of the child.

Also listed are: REP. LOUIE GOHMERT (R-TX), who, among other things, said PayPal’s decision not to invest in North Carolina because of their anti-transgender law “the height of lunacy”; REP. STEVE KING (R-IA), a ring-leader for anti-LGBTQ causes for his entire career in Congress; Rep. Steve Russell (R-OK), who in a 2 a.m. committee vote offered an amendment to the National Defense Authorization Act that would allow, under the guise of religious

liberty, sweeping anti-LGBT discrimination in all federal agencies; REP. ROBERT PITTENGER (R-NC), who offered an amendment that would stop the federal government from using federal law to end HB-2 discrimination in his state; REP. BRADLEY BYRNE (R-AL), who offered an amendment to require federal agencies to allow religiously affiliated contractors to discriminate in hiring with taxpayer funds; REP. SCOTT GARRETT (RNJ), who refused to make his required contribution to the National Republican Congressional Committee because they were recruiting and supporting gay Republicans; REP. RAÚL LABRADOR (R-ID), the sponsor of one of the most dangerous anti-LGBT pieces of legislation in Congress — the First Amendment Defense Act that would sanction unprecedented taxpayer-funded discrimination against LGBTQ people; SEN. TED CRUZ (R-TX), who was making anti-transgender comments at practically every campaign stop, even releasing an ad attacking transgender people using the restroom in line with their gender identity, calling it “PC nonsense that is destroying America”; SEN. JAMES LANKFORD (R-OK), who in 2012 said being gay was a choice, has made it his mission to attack the Departments of Education and Justice for issuing guidance supporting transgender students, calling it “threatening and intimidating.”

For good measure, HRC also included REP. DANIEL LIPINSKI (D-IL), with a 56 on the Congressional Scorecard has the dubious distinction of being the worst scoring Democratic in the House and Senate. The average score for Democratic Representatives is 96. Q

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Penfold announces effort to add public accommodations to Salt Lake’s nondiscrimination ordinances HRC, Equality Federation rank Utah cities in equality

BY MICHAEL AARON

At a press conference releasing the Human Rights Campaign and Equality Federation’s fifth Municipal Equality Index, Salt Lake City Councilperson Stan Penfold announced an effort to add public accommodations protections to the city’s nondiscrimination ordinances.

“Salt Lake City is at the forefront of LGBTQ issues, rights and concerns in this country. This is partly because the people of Utah come from a history of persecution,” Penfold said. “This year Salt Lake City approved a budget that included health care benefits for employees, because it’s the right thing to do. In the same spirit, we want to begin efforts for our LGBTQ residents and individuals in this state to be incorporated in a statewide nondiscrimination in public accommodation law.”

Penfold said he and Councilperson Derek Kitchen would start these efforts by reaching out to business owners and concerned citizens.

Public accommodations are generally defined as public and private facilities that are used by the public, such as retail stores, rental and service establishments, as well as educational institutions, recreational facilities, and service centers.

Municipal Equality Index The 2016 Municipal Equality Index has ranked over 500 cities in the United States, including eight in Utah.

This year, SALT LAKE CITY was given a 69 rating out of 100, a drop of 6 points since last year’s report. Differences found between the two years are a drop of three points for “Enforcement mechanism in Human Rights Commission,” and two points in “City provides services to people living with HIV/AIDS.” The report also dropped the maximum amount of points available by one for elected or appointed

Human Rights Campaign President Chad Griffin addresses a press conference in Salt Lake City. He is flanked by Equality Utah Executive Director Troy Williams (left) and philanthropist Bruce Bastian.

LGBTQ officials.

Lacking in Salt Lake City are public accommodation non-discrimination laws at the state, county or city level; availability of healthcare benefits for transgender employees of the city (Salt Lake County passed these benefits this year); a robust city contractor non-discrimination ordinance; and an LGBTQ Police Liaison or Task Force. Lost bonus points include: Municipality is a Welcoming Place to Work; Enforcement mechanism in Human Rights Commission; City provides services to LGBTQ youth, homeless, elderly and transgender communities; and Cities are pro-equality despite restrictive state law.

OGDEN was listed for the first time this year, and received a ranking of 47, receiving points for a city nondiscrimination ordinance in employment and housing, non-discrimination in city hiring, and the police department reporting hate crime statistics to the FBI. LOGAN received only 35 points, being credited for a city nondiscrimination ordinance in employment and housing, and the police department reporting hate crime statistics to the FBI. In 2013 the city received only 23 points, but gained 12 with the FBI reporting.

OREM received 23 points, only because of the Utah state nondiscrimination laws.

Last year, the report showed Orem with FBI reporting and a city human rights commission.

In its first year being reported, PARK CITY received a 38 rating, with credit for city nondiscrimination laws in housing

and employment and FBI hate crime statistics reporting, as well as a non-discrimination policy in city hiring.

PROVO dropped three points this year to a score of 47 for the state’s nondiscrimination ordinances, a city policy of non-discrimination in hiring, and FBI hate crime statistic reporting. Gone this year is a 3-point bonus for “Leadership’s Public Position on LGBT Equality.”

WEST JORDAN received a rating of 35 for state non-discrimination policies and FBI reporting. A bonus of two points was listed last year for “City provides services to people living with HIV/AIDS,” which was dropped this year.

WEST VALLEY CITY dropped six points to a 35 rating for state policies and FBI reporting. Six points were no longer being counted for “Leadership’s Public Position on LGBT Equality” and “Leadership’s ProEquality Legislative or Policy Efforts.”

In Idaho, BOISE received a rating of 61 and COEUR D’ALENE 62 (half of which are for each city’s non-discrimination policies that cover employment, housing and public accommodations). IDAHO FALLS was at 53, MERIDIAN at 24, MOSCOW at 50, NAMPA at 18 and POCATELLO at 59.

The MEI rates each municipality in five categories: non-discrimination laws, municipality as employer, municipal services, law enforcement and relationship with the LGBTQ community.

This year, 98 were added to the MEI to create a total of 506 cities rated across the country. Q The full report is at hrc.org/mei.

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Report: LGBT seniors are welcome here A senior housing referral service has ranked Salt Lake City as 11th in a list of America’s top cities for gay-friendly retirement. SeniorAdvice.com created SeniorScore, which they call the first comprehensive unbiased scoring system specifically designed to measure the livability for seniors; most recently determined the top gay-friendly cities for seniors.

In a release, SeniorAdvice.com said the company recognizes that the LGBTQ older adult community is currently a very important part of the American population to consider. According to the American Psychological Association, more than 39 million people in the U.S. are age 65 years or older, including 1.5 million people who identify as LGBTQ. Furthermore, as the Baby Boomer generation ages, the senior population will increase from 12.8 percent to an estimated 19 percent in 2030, meaning that the LGBTQ senior niche will undoubtedly grow as well.

The following U.S. cities were named by SeniorScore as the most accommodating for LGBT seniors based on a datadriven algorithm: The 15 cities are, in order: 1. Austin, 2. Ft Lauderdale, 3. Minneapolis-St Paul, 4.

Atlanta, 5. Phoenix, 6. Orlando, 7. Tampa, 8. Portland, 9. Seattle, 10. Columbus, 11. Salt Lake City,12. Dallas,13. Las Vegas,14.

San Francisco and 15. Houston.

In its write-up, the company said of Salt Lake: “It was a big surprise when the Utah capital started making lists of gay-friendly cities, but it is for good reason. Nearly 5 percent of the metro area population identify as gay and Salt Lake has been very progressive on employment and

housing protection for LGBT residents in an otherwise conservative state. Salt Lake is also home to the Utah Pride Center and a fairly active gay social scene, much of which is centered in the “gayborhood” of Marmalade District. Salt Lake City has a lot to offer beyond a strong and inclusive LGBT community. Residents can access world class health care from one of the more than 20 area hospitals, including some that are nationally ranked. Low property taxes, high average incomes, and a stable housing market all make Salt Lake a good place for those living on a retirement budget. For outdoor fun, this city is hard to top, with beautiful mountains surrounding the city and tons of city parks like Liberty Park, Ensign Peak Park, and the International Peace Gardens.”

To assemble the list, the company says they compiled and factored over 100 variables, including access to health care and number of senior residents, to help determine how well a specific location accommodates the comfort and needs of senior citizens.

The score takes four categories into account: health and safety, recreation and leisure, finance, and general quality of life.

After being scored, SeniorAdvice.com says they carefully researched and identified individual variables and conveniences specifically for the LGBT community. Some of these specific considerations include: acceptance of the LGBT community; gay-friendly bars, clubs and other establishments; LGBT festivals and other recreational activities; level of legal protection for gay, lesbian, and trans residents; and presence of gay senior groups. Q Info at senioradvice.com

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Utah County candidate mocks gay teen suicide victim for ‘following Gospel of the Devil’ A Utah State Senate candidate said on Facebook that a gay teen who committed suicide had been guilty of two sins: homosexuality and murder.

Independent American Party candidate Jason Christensen, who is running in a district that includes the east sides of Provo and Orem, shared his bigoted views on a post about a 19-year-old man’s suicide.

He later apologized, though he didn’t try to retract what he said.

Karin Josefina Berg wrote on her Facebook wall, “Braxton is the latest known LGBTQ suicide here in Utah, taking his life last weekend. This beautiful boy lived in Kaysville and shared the same zip code as I do. He attended the same jr. high school as my children, and was just nineteen years old.

For those of you who want to close your eyes to these deaths, please open them and

see Braxton.”

“Yes this is sad, and hopefully God will have mercy on both sins that this boy committed. The sins of homosexuality and the sins of murder,” Christensen replied on Facebook.

Several people berated Christensen on his lack of respect and compassion, and Berg demanded he “get off my wall.”

“Read the scriptures, stop denying the scriptures. I do feel bad for him and his sins. But one must recognize what’s sins and what is not sin. One must live the Gospel of Jesus Christ and not the Gospel of the Devil,” Christensen replied.

Christensen then shared a Towleroad story about his comments on his Facebook wall, writing, “That’s me!” and noting the negative comments at the end of the story: “Don’t you love how intolerant the left actually is?”

When contacted by Fox 13 News, Christensen backed down.

“I apologize for that, and I hope with my love and asking for apology, I hope the family can accept my apology,” he said.

Equality Utah’s Troy Williams responded, “Jason’s online bullying is both reckless and dangerous. Too many young LGBTQ people in Utah are hearing damn-

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“We can never allow the hate of one miserable individual to dim the bright light of our youth,” Williams continued.

Christensen then posted his proposed solution to teen suicides: “I have taken up an additional solution when it comes to suicide prevention. I am of the belief if we mandate at least one student run faith based after school club with one adult mentor whom is fully aware of many different faiths and solutions for the issue of depression. This should dramatically reduce the level of teenage suicides.

Let us use faith and hope to combat depression before there are even thoughts of suicide.”

His opponent, incumbent Sen. Curt Bramble, .responded: “The incivility, the vulgarness, the insensitivity of those comments, there’s no place for that in a political campaign, there’s no place for that in Utah Legislature, and, frankly, there’s no place for that in our society.” Q

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UofU under fire for antigay marriage test question The University of Utah was forced to take action after being exposed for a homophobic question one of its courses asked students to answer.

International students taking Public Speaking 640, a continuing education class, were presented with a course packet that included an exercise asking for the best answers to certain statements.

One of those statements was “Gay marriage should not be prohibited.” Students were asked if the best supporting answer was: “Gay marriage has never been allowed,” or “Gay marriage is disgusting,” or “Societies should promote traditional marriages as the ideal environment for children.”

The “correct” answer was the latter response about society,

according to a report in the Salt Lake City Tribune, which was tipped off by a student who encountered the question and asked for a response from the university.

“The scenarios in each exercise, which were created years ago by an instructor no longer employed by the university, are intended to help students hone their writing skills, not engage students in a debate about laws or values,” university spokesperson Maria O’Mara said, adding the question would be eliminated from the curriculum “in the future.”

The UofU was named as a top school for LGBT-friendly atmosphere in the Campus Pride Index. It has an LGBT Resource Center and hiring policies protecting LGBT employees.

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“I think the cultural impact of RuPaul’s Drag Race is something we won’t even feel for many years, but the truth is that it’s breaking down the gender binary, it’s breaking rules and pushing boundaries.

I’m just so grateful to have been given the opportunity to be a part of it.”

— RuPaul’s Drag Race Allstars 2 winner Alasks Thunderfuck

“I’ve seen what can happen as the result of hate … When I see the hate that Donald Trump has brought to his campaign for president, it terrifies me … Words have an influence. Violence causes pain. Hate can rip us apart.”

— Judy Shepard, mother of Matthew Shepard, in an ad against Donal Trump

“How can we expect the construction worker making $20,000 a year to come out when the rich and pampered are still hiding in the closet?

How will gays living in Peoria find the fortitude to live honest lives, when the gay denizens of New York and Hollywood won’t?”

— Washington Blade editor Kevin Naff a decade ago when he outed Fox News’ Shepard Smith

“For me, Will being gay or not is besides the point.

“Stranger Things” is a show about a bunch of kids who are outsiders and find each other because they have been bullied in some way or are different. I’m only 12 but I do know we all relate to being different.”

— Actor Noah Schnapp on Instagram about if his character Will Byers is gay

letters Straight-ticket voting lacks responsibility Does anyone remember Kevin Garn, the Utah legislator, who was found in a hot tub with an underage girl? How about Alan Howe, and another legislator arrested for soliciting sex with prostitutes?

This is what happens when you vote for a party instead of really looking at your ballot and electing a person. The disease of lazy, straight-ticket voting is the rotten core of our electoral system.

In 2014, nearly 200,000 voters — representing 33.5 percent of votes — punched a straight party ballot. During the last presidential cycle in 2012, 376,514 Utah voters punched straight tickets — 36.6 percent of all votes cast.

And we wonder why our system is in its current state.

We the voters have abdicated our responsibility to choose our leaders. We have given that job to party officials and delegates who we follow in lockstep.

If we want our candidates to be better, and our country to be better, we need to be better.

We need to look closely at those who want to represent us, and demand that they do better. The responsibility is ours and we need to accept that responsibility and act upon it.

—BECKY MOSS, Millcreek

Log Cabin fails Admittedly, the Log Cabin Republicans constitute a minority within an already small, underrepresented group. But that doesn’t mean we should ignore bad, negligent behavior from

within our own ranks.

Less than one month out from the election and Log Cabin still hasn’t said whether it plans to endorse GOP nominee Donald Trump. The failure to do so initially held promise the group would do the right thing; its continued effort to play coy with such an important decision has become a de facto endorsement and constitutes dereliction of duty.

There is precedent for Log Cabin to withhold its endorsement of a Republican presidential nominee as it did when George W. Bush used the marriage issue as a wedge in the 2004 election. Here’s hoping Angelo and the Log Cabin board come to their senses and join the rest of the thinking populace in denouncing Trump’s demagoguery before it’s too late.

— Kevin Naff

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who’s your daddy?

The right equipment The first

BY CHRISTOPHER KATIS

trans* person I ever knew about was Dr. Renee Richards. Dr. Richards was an ophthalmologist who transitioned from male to female in her early 40s in the mid1970s. What made her famous was the fact that in the 1950s, prior to the transition, Richards had played professional tennis as a man named Richard Raskind. Following the transition she fought to play on the women’s circuit.

In her first tournament, a small regional competition, nearly 80 percent of the competitors withdrew rather than play against her. They argued that gender reassignment or not, they would unfairly be playing against someone with the strength of a man. When she refused to submit to a Barr body test, which the Women’s Tennis Association (WTA) used to identify gender, she was banned from playing major tournaments like the U.S. Open and Wimbledon.

She took the WTA to court, and won.

In 1977, she made her major tournament debut in the U.S. Open. Spectators and the media were anything but kind. And an entire nation talked about trans* people for the first time.

I watched that match, and the subsequent discussion wasn’t very comfortable.

Words like “freak” and “sick” were bandied about. People insisted that she was gay and therefore wanted to be a woman. That confused me: I was beginning to realize I was gay, but I didn’t want to be a woman.

As a society, we’ve made great progress on trans* issues — in spite of the truly bizarre public bathroom brouhaha. Celebrities like Laverne Cox, Caitlyn Jenner, and Chaz Bono have led to greater visibility for trans* people.

This had given my husband and I an opportunity to discuss trans* people with our boys. Not unlike the very public coming out of Renee Richards when I was a kid, my sons were introduced to the reality of trans* people when virtually every media outlet was talking about Caitlyn Jenner. At first the boys didn’t quite follow: what was the big deal about some woman on TV? Then they saw photos of Bruce Jenner.

That opened the door to a conversation about trans* people. We used words like “brave” and “courageous.” We talked about how incredibly difficult it must be to live in a body that simply is not what it should be. We admitted that we cannot understand what it is like to feel that way. Most of all, we talked about accepting people for who they are and respecting them. I’m

incredibly proud that for our boys that part was a no-brainer.

It is who Jenner had been that caused such a stir — a gold medalist in the decathlon, an athlete’s athlete. Although a few right-wingers demanded the International Olympic Committee revoke Jenner’s medal because women don’t compete in the decathlon, no one accused her of trying to gain a sporting advantage.

The same wasn’t true of Richards. On the men’s circuit, as Raskind, she was never a threat compared to the greats of the time like Pancho Gonzalez, Jack Kramer and Ken Rosewall. Raskind’s best performance was a second round loss at the U.S. Open. Detractors reasoned playing against women, she would do better.

Actually, playing on the women’s circuit, Richards did do better. She was the 20th ranked player in the world in 1977, and was a Ladies’ Doubles finalist at the U.S. Open that year. Here’s the kicker: she started back on the tour at 43, long after most professionals hung up their rackets.

There will always be detractors who argue Renee Richards found tennis success as a woman because she was born a man. I think it had much more to do with finally playing with the right equipment. Q

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lambda lore

Who killed Tony Adams?

BY BEN WILLIAMS

November

is a dark month in which deadly deeds have been done. Murder. Homosexual homicide.

Between 1969 and 1978 Gay Liberation came to Salt Lake City with the formation of gay churches, openly gay bars, and a gay student club. In 1974, the American Psychiatric Association removed homosexuality as a clinical mental illness. At its giddy peak in 1977, Salt Lake City’s gay organizations protested Anita Bryant’s appearance at the Utah State Fair, forced the state not to hold church sponsored dances in the capitol’s rotunda, forced the Hotel Utah to pay a settlement for breaking a contract, and helped more and more people to come out of the closet.

Despite all of this, in the following year an event occurred that nearly sent the gay community back into the closet.

In 1978 a series of murders of men in Utah’s gay community took place. Most of the men were closet cases and murdered in compromising situations. But when a gay activist was murdered on Nov. 3, 1978, shock waves of fear rippled throughout the community.

Anthony “Tony” Adams was a gay African-American socialist. Rev. Bob Waldrop, then pastor of the Salt Lake Metropolitan Community Church, called him “a true freedom fighter.” Born July 30, 1953 in Baltimore, Maryland, Adams was raised in Salt Lake City and graduated from Judge Memorial High School. He was attending the University of Utah at the time of his death.

As a leader in the Salt Lake Chapter of the Socialist Workers Party, Adams had helped organized the Anita Bryant Protest in 1977. His membership in the SWP kept the leadership of Dignity/Integrity, Catholic and Episcopalian gay support groups, from joining the Salt Lake Coalition for Human Rights of which he was a member.

They claimed that their Christian values made them not want to associate with a Marxist.

At the time of his murder, Tony Adams was the campaign manager for the Socialist Workers Party Congressional candidate Bill Hoyle who ran in the Nov. 7 general election. Adams was murdered just days before this election, which led the National Socialist Workers Party to believe that Tony’s death was politically motivated.

At about 8:45 p.m. on Nov. 6, 1978, Bill Woodbury, Adams’ boyfriend, Rev. Bob Waldrop, and another friend went to Adams’ apartment at 125 E 1st Avenue. They were concerned because no one had seen or heard from him for several days. After climbing in through a window, Woodbury found his boyfriend in the bedroom, naked and covered with blood. Adams had been stabbed repeatedly with a butcher knife and his throat slit. An autopsy showed that he had been dead for several days and murdered on Nov. 3.

Coincidentally, police detectives were still investigating the death of 16-yearold Sharon Schollmeyer who was found strangled to death in the same apartment building in December 1977.

During that November, gay leaders patiently waited for the police to catch Tony Adams’ killer(s). When news of the assassination of Harvey Milk on Nov. 27, 1978 reached Salt Lake City, gay activists in Utah feared the worst — that vocal gays were being targeted.

On Dec. 13, 1978, Rev. Bob Waldrop along with members of the Salt Lake Coalition for Human Rights and Sid Stapleton, a Socialist Workers Party official from New York, met with Public Safety Commissioner Glen Greener and Salt Lake City Police Chief Bud Willoughby. They demanded that police “provide more vigorous protection” in a “general atmosphere of violence in the community against Gay people.” The group accused the police of being insensitive to the needs of the gay community and suggested they were involved in a “calculated program of harassment.”

Rev. Waldrop told the city officials that

he himself had been the recipient of 22 death threats in the past two years, and added he had heard rumors that police were looking the other way when violent acts against homosexuals happened.

Stapleton accused the police of dragging their feet investigating the recent murders of homosexuals and stated the investigation in the death of Adams should be considered an “assassination of an out spoken political leader.” Both Greener and Willoughby denied the charges, claiming that murders were being “rigorously” investigated and that a suspect in the murder of Doug Coleman, another gay man, was in the state mental hospital for observation.

Coleman, 28, was last seen leaving the Sun Tavern on Nov. 30, 1978. He was later found in an empty box car behind the Union Pacific station, shot in the head.

Police determined that robbery did not appear to be motive since Coleman’s wallet was found untouched.

Community leaders were not satisfied with the officials’ responses and claimed that they had inside knowledge from a “closeted police officer” that some officers in the police department joked about Adams’ death, saying, “Nigger, Queer, Communist — Three Strikes You’re Out.” The meeting ended unsatisfactorily with Rev. Waldrop stating that fear was sweeping the gay community; that there might be “an L.A. Slasher type out there” who was systematically murdering persons thought

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This Joint is Legal. to be homosexual. Waldrop noted that four persons with ties to the gay community had recently been murdered in the Salt Lake area.

The SWP charged that the police had been “lax and ineffectual” in pursuing the investigation. They also charged that the police had harassed Adams prior to his death by entrapping him in a sex charge. It was uncovered that shortly before his murder, the city vice squad had arrested Adams for soliciting sex acts for hire. The police claimed that Adam’s phone number had been scrawled in a telephone booth and in restrooms throughout the Salt Lake area. The vice squad officers then called the number and arranged to meet him for a “sex act.” Upon meeting with Adams they arrested him. Shirley Pedler, director of the Utah ACLU, upon learning about this situation questioned Chief Willoughby about this method of locating “sex offenders.” The chief promised that he would “look into the situation,” but nothing was ever done.

On Dec. 30, 1978, the SWP went to the United Sates Department of Justice Civil Rights Division requesting that the FBI investigate the death of Tony Adams. The maintained, “we believe the murderer violated his civil rights and also committed the crime of interfering in a political campaign for federal office.”

Then the Socialist Workers Party outlined why they felt that the motive for the murder was political. First, there was no evidence that anything was taken from his apartment, thus burglary did not seem likely. Second, the murder was particularly vicious — Adams was stabbed three times in the chest and then after death his throat was cut. The SWP

charged that the Salt Lake Police Department was “not pursuing this case with the attention a political crime of this type would warrant. Conflicting and confusing reports from the police as to physical evidence and the progress of the investigation raise questions in our mind about the competence of the police to investigate the murder of a man to whom they were actively hostile.”

The murders of homosexual men in 1978 cast a long shadow over the city’s gay community.

Rumors abounded and the trust level between the police department and the community became virtually nonexistent. When rumors surfaced that the knife used to murder Adams was one taken from the Salt Lake Police Department’s evidence room, many feared that someone in the department was the killer of both Adams and Coleman. These same people felt that the police were covering it up to avoid a scandal.

For whatever reason Tony Adams was murdered his death sent a pall over the newly emerging gay community, imparting to many activists a sense of melancholy and fear. Gay Liberation activism virtually came to an end in Salt Lake City for the next four years until a new generation of gay leaders unfamiliar with the events of 1978 came forward to take their place.

Tony Adams’ murder remains unsolved to this day and is listed as cold case #1978-86442. The police’s synopsis of the crime is simple: “The victim was found inside his apartment. He had been stabbed. The initial investigation showed that the victim was a member of a local radical element.” Q

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BY D’ANNE WITKOWSKI

Hey, have

you heard the one about Hillary Clinton? Yeah, she’s a lesbian.

I know what you’re thinking: That joke was poorly constructed and executed and was not funny at all. And you’re right!

Because it is NOT A JOKE. But don’t take my word for it. Just ask Larry Klayman, who made a name for himself representing women who claimed to have had affairs with Bill Clinton. He lays it all out in an insightful piece posted to World Net Daily titled, “Hillary’s Biggest Lie?” Before you dismiss Klayman as an antigay bigot, know that he means no ill will!

“Let me make one thing clear,” he begins. “I totally respect a person’s right to live his or her life as he or she may choose, so long as no one is hurt as a result. And, that goes for someone’s sexual preference, even though homosexuality is not endorsed in the Bible, and it is not my ‘cup of tea.’”

See? He’s “totally” a respectful guy even if he doesn’t like “tea.” He says that gays and lesbians “are generally very nice and kind, and they have a right to be treated equally, not discriminated against. They should be frankly left alone to be what they want to be. That’s called ‘freedom.’”

Not sure why he puts “freedom” in “quotes,” but we’ll take what we can get!

So far Klayman’s looking pretty fly for a right guy. Since he’s being so “nice” I can “totally” trust him and can’t wait to hear what he has to say.

“In today’s world, it is no longer a social stigma to be gay or lesbian, and as a result the Supreme Court has even ruled that they constitutionally are to be accorded the right to marry each other,” he continues. “As a result, I have much less respect for those gays and lesbians who continue to live in the closet and hide their lifestyle.”

Ah, I see. Apparently Klayman used to have some level of “respect” for closet cases, but now he doesn’t because the Gay

Good Life is legal and discrimination is a thing of the past. Thank you, Mr. Klayman!

I’m sure gays and lesbians everywhere will hustle forthrightly out of the closet into your waiting and loving arms.

But wait, there’s more: “Case in point, one Hillary Rodham Clinton, who has apparently lied about her sexual preference for decades to help pave the way for her presidential candidacy.”

The rest of his column is full of rehashed rumors and accusations that have been following Clinton for years (and yet somehow, after decades in the public eye, there exists no evidence that she is a lesbian. So I guess she’s a Ninja lesbian).

Klayman then writes, “[G]ays, lesbians and transgenders have to wonder why Hillary would call Republican presidential candidate Donald Trump a ‘racist’ against people of an alternative lifestyle, and then continue to lie about her own sexuality.”

I’m not totally sure what he means here, but apparently he thinks that black and brown people are “of an alternative lifestyle,” which makes sense since he’s white. And he apparently also thinks that LGBT people are going to buy his concern that Clinton isn’t a true champion of their rights since she’s “ashamed” to be one of them.

WND readers, however, bought his it hook, line, and sinker. The comments section is awash with people who think that Klayman is drinking the left’s Kool-Aid to dare say “nice” things about LGBT people.

They apparently believe him sincere. I, however, do not.

There are also many claims in the comment pit that President Obama is gay and that Michelle Obama is a “tranny.” It’s no wonder that WND readers have no problem believing Hillary Clinton is a lesbian.

They just think that Klayman should have been “meaner” about it. Klayman and these deplorables truly deserve each other. Q D’Anne Witkowski is a poet, writer and comedian living with her wife and son. She has been writing about LGBT politics for over a decade. Follow her on Twitter @­MamaDWitkowski.

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gay writes

Change is hard

BY THOMAS CUSHMAN

Do you

know who’s having trouble adjusting to our new gay reality? Here’s a hint: He doesn’t look like an FLDS sister-wife gone to seed in Kentucky, nor a chief bigot of the Alabama Supreme Court.

Though, you would be excused if you thought Kim Davis and Roy Moore were the two people in the country most affected by gay marriage since our story is now being told almost exclusively from their point of view.

No, it’s me, an older gay man living in Utah, I’m the one having a little trouble adjusting.

It turns out that the people most affected by the tsunamilike shift in same-sex marriage and the resulting tidal wave of LGBTQ acceptance are just ... maybe gay people!

In one way it makes sense that we’re not the focus of our own story since LGBTQ folk make up only 3.9 percent of the US population (Gallup Poll, June 2016).

Now you and I both know that number is a little low.

Sure, maybe only 4% percent of Americans are willing to selfidentify to a pollster, but we all know there are at least twice that many other Americans who are only a six-pack of beer away from ‘self-identifying’ on any given Saturday night. But I digress.

Newspapers and cable news have to be profitable, so maybe it makes sense that they tell our story from the perspective of the other 96 percent, even if a lot of readers are older throwbacks — like me — who are having trouble adjusting to the direction this country is heading — though for entirely different reasons.

I get it. I get why those folks are a little uncomfort-

able with all this acceptance.

I mean if you’re straight and 50 or 60 years old or more, the whole gay lib thing must have really come out of the blue. There you were minding your own Christian business, living with your opposite-sex partner and your 2.3 children (maybe 5.75 in Utah) in the lilywhite suburbs (preferably not inner-ring) with your two-car garage (attached, please) and the most difficult decision you had to face down was whether to support Gerald Ford or Ronald Reagan in the 1975 Republican primary. Then suddenly its raining gay men right next door and the next thing you know two strong women from across the street show up to borrow your gas-powered hedge trimmer. The nerve!

Well I’ve had trouble adjusting too, Bubba. The new reality slapped me upside the head one night just after the first few states had legalized gay marriage — before the backlash. I was at a pleasantly small cocktail party with my then boyfriend, and I had closeted myself in the bathroom for a little alone time (it’s a bad habit of mine). Trouble was the bathroom was not well-insulated and I could hear every word being spoken outside. (Does that mean they can hear every noise going on inside the bathroom?

I’ve always wondered this.

But I digress.)

(But I sure would like to know.)

Anyway, I heard my then boyfriend asking the others in the room questions like, “What do you think Tom will say? Should I ask him? I’ve never done anything like this.

Do you think he’d say yes? I should ask him, shouldn’t I?” Suddenly it hit me like

a three a.m. Trump tweet: He was going to ask me to marry him. I was equal parts horrified and terrified. Horrified because I’d already been plotting to gracefully end the relationship, terrified because I suddenly saw the possibilities; he could actually ask me to marry him and in an alternate reality I would say yes; we would actually, legally, pledge our lives, our mortgages and our bad moods to each other.

So, I formulated a plan as I finished quietly urinating (onto the porcelain and not into the water), I would say yes in the moment, so as not to embarrass him, and then on the car ride home I would gently break up with him, but tell him we could carry on the appearance of a romance for a few weeks until one of us suddenly moved away to take a better job — I had coincidentally just finished updating my resume anyway and I could even help him update his, and people would think we were starcrossed lovers because we were on the verge of eternal happiness when our careers tore asunder. Thus no one would be

any the wiser and we (meaning he) could save face.

I may have been a little buzzed. And anyway, he only wanted to ask if he could get stoned. He’d never before smoked marijuana, and apparently he thought he needed my permission. I think you can see why we’re not right for each other. (Also, his parents had campaigned for Reagan while I came from an entirely Ford family, if that helps you to understand our difficulties.)

Nevertheless, for a moment, the possibility was there; after a life of never even thinking it possible, I suddenly had to confront the specter of a lifelong commitment. I mean, what happens if next time the bathroom walls are thicker and I don’t have time to formulate an escape route? One almost longs for the old days, when all you had to dodge were the eggs that straight guys would throw as you walked out of the gay bars. Q Gay Writes is a DiverseCity Series writing group, a program of SLCC’s Community Writing Center. The group meets the 2nd and 4th Monday of each month, 6:30-8pm, 210 E. 400 South, Ste. 8, Salt Lake.

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mikki

Misgendering is violence Over the

BY MIKKI ENOCH

last couple years, I have spent quite a bit of time receiving acute medical care. I have had four medical hospital stays, one mental health stay and, finally, time at a treatment center. These stays have taught me to stand up to be recognized by my preferred gender pronoun. I use female pronouns: she, her, and hers.

Prior to my legal name change, I had to work harder to get staff to remember my chosen name and gender. Since my legal name and gender change it has been much easier, but struggles remain.

My experience with the Salt Lake VAMC has actually been fairly positive. Over time, the staff have become more accustomed to dealing with transgender patients or, more specifically, with me. At the VA, it isn’t a struggle to be called Mikki or Ms. Enoch because, legally, that is my name.

However, this isn’t a universal reality.

Through discussions with other trans* people, I have developed the phrase, “Misgendering is an act of violence.”

Misgendering is when a person uses pronouns other than a trans* person’s preferred pronoun and contributes to violence both internally and externally.

First, misgendering someone may contribute to internal sources of violence. People who are already at risk for suicide or other forms of self-

harm may internalize the denial of their identities inherent in misgendering, and this may push them toward violence against themselves.

Second, misgendering someone in public “outs” a trans* persons and may create an environment where that person would be at greater risk from external sources of violence.

In either of these examples, the violence isn’t a direct attack. This is more about contributory violence. People who are stuck inside the gender binary may see trans* people as unworthy of respect, dignity and safety. Many times a year, the news reports of murders and suicides of trans women. So, when a person is misgendered, there is a very real concern that person’s life might be in danger.

Understanding the true consequences of denying Transgender people’s identities allows for exploring new and better options to ensure their safety and well-being. Receiving this respect means trans* people are better able to accept themselves at an earlier age, feel safe doing normal things such as using the restroom and receiving necessary medical care, and use their skills and talents to find suitable employment. This list is not exhaustive, but it does illustrate how little is really required to ensure their safety. Respecting a person’s preferred gender is the first step in doing this. Q

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guest editorial

Is God transgender?

BY MARK SAMETH

In the

1970s a cousin of mine, Paula Grossman, became one of the first people in America to undergo sex-reassignment surgery. As Paul Monroe Grossman, Cousin Paula had been a beloved music teacher in New Jersey. She was fired after her surgery, and she subsequently lost her lawsuit for wrongful termination based on sex discrimination (though a court did rule that she could receive a disability pension). The story was all over the news back then; I’d like to think it would have ended differently today.

Forty years after the Supreme Court refused to hear Paula’s appeal in 1976, the transgender story is still unfolding. This month, a transgender high school student in Virginia lost the right to use the restroom of his choice when the Supreme Court temporarily blocked a lower court’s order. Still, for the first time it is possible to imagine a ruling from a fully seated Supreme Court to comprehensively outlaw discrimination against transgender people.

There is real reason to be hopeful, even if social prejudices don’t disappear overnight.

I’m a rabbi, and so I’m particularly saddened whenever religious arguments are brought in to defend social prejudices — as they often are in the discussion about transgender rights.

In fact, the Hebrew Bible, when read in its original language, offers a highly elastic view of gender. And I do mean highly elastic: In Genesis 3:12, Eve is referred to as “he.” In Genesis 9:21, after the flood, Noah

repairs to “her” tent. Genesis 24:16 refers to Rebecca as a “young man.” And Genesis 1:27 refers to Adam as “them.”

Surprising, I know. And there are many other, even more vivid examples: In Esther 2:7, Mordecai is pictured as nursing his niece Esther. In a similar way, in Isaiah 49:23, the future kings of Israel are prophesied to be “nursing kings.”

Why would the Bible do this? These aren’t typos. In the ancient world, well-expressed gender fluidity was the mark of a civilized person. Such a person was considered more “godlike.” In Ancient Mesopotamia and Egypt, the gods were thought of as gender-fluid, and human beings were considered reflections of the gods. The Israelite ideal of the “nursing king” seems to have been based on a real person: a woman by the name of Hatshepsut who, after the death of her husband, Thutmose II, donned a false beard and ascended the throne to become one of Egypt’s greatest pharaohs.

The Israelites took the transgender trope from their surrounding cultures and wove it into their own sacred scripture. The four-Hebrew-letter name of God, which scholars refer to as the Tetragrammaton, YHWH, was probably not pronounced “Jehovah” or “Yahweh,” as some have guessed. The Israelite priests would have read the letters in reverse as Hu/Hi — in other words, the hidden name of God was Hebrew for “He/ She.” Counter to everything we grew up believing, the God of Israel — the God of the

three monotheistic, Abrahamic religions to which fully half the people on the planet today belong — was understood by its earliest worshipers to be a dual-gendered deity.

Scientists now tell us that gender identity, like sexual orientation, exists on a spectrum. Some of us are in greater or lesser alignment with the gender assigned to us at birth.

Some of us are in alignment with both, or with neither.

For others of us, alignment requires more of a process.

It may come as a surprise that scientists view gender as anything other than a simple binary. But thousands of years ago, as a review of ancient literature makes clear, that

truth was known. In court challenges, administrative directives and popular culture, the issue is playing out in real time, before our eyes. But behind the unfolding legal drama lies the reality of human nature: the fact that gender is not, nor has it ever been, a matter of “either/ or.”

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COMING OUT OF THE DARK Tyler Glenn opens up about resisting suicide , l o si n g hi s r e l i gi o n a n d b e i n g ‘u n a p o l o g e t i c a l ly’ g a y

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

“TO BE HONEST…”

Tyler Glenn begins, fol-

lowing a telling deep breath.

Glenn’s lead-in could serve as the prologue to his new no-holds-barred solo debut album, Excommunication. Here, however, it precedes the heavy moment when Glenn, the lead singer of Neon Trees, reveals he’s considered suicide twice this year.

Perhaps that comes as a surprise. The singer seemed vibrant and hopeful when he came out in 2014. At the time, Glenn was looking to reconcile his Mormon faith with being gay, and during our talk that same year he said, “I think that there’s a time and a place to come out, and I don’t know if waiting till I was 30 was the best thing, but it definitely has turned out fine, and I’m a happy person.”

A year later, Glenn received dispiriting news that left him feeling just the opposite: The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints enacted a policy that prevents children living with same-sex couples from being baptized until age 18 — also, they must “disavow” same-sex relationships be-fore baptism — and proclaims members in gay marriages subject to excommunication.

The church’s shameful decision had a destructive effect on Glenn’s well-being.

“I tried to kill myself,” the singer confesses on the new album’s G.D.M.M.L. GRLS (i.e.

“God Didn’t Make Me Like Girls”), “and I’m not the only one.”

During our sobering exchange, the 32-year-old ex-Mormon spoke candidly about his descent into a life-threatening low and how his own fans pulled — and are still pulling — him through.

When were you having these suicidal thoughts and what kept you from taking your life? (Sighs) To be honest, it was earlier this year. For me, I believed in Mormonism, and I knew I was gay, and then I tried to merge the two together. Then, when the church put out a policy that clearly put same-sex couples in their place and in a marginalized box, it was just clear to me it was a toxic space. I started looking at things that I thought I knew were true my whole life and really began to see that those things weren’t

true. I looked deeper and I fell down a rabbit hole. I felt the rug had been pulled out from under me, and I didn’t know what to believe in. It became really dark, and I realized how it feels to want to sort of, you know, leave. And, to be honest, even two months ago I felt this thought and saw my life sort of — I don’t know. It’s been a long road. I totally recognize now what it’s like to be that dark and to think that that might be an option, and it freaked me out.

I’m sorry you were having these thoughts just a couple of months ago. I hope that you have pulled yourself out of that rabbit hole.

I have. I hope I don’t go back. I know that I need to be stronger, but there are times when it’s just all fresh for me, and that’s the thing with this record: I’m still sort of living it. It’s not completely behind me.

How would you describe the feeling of being this beacon of light for young queer people, but at the same time experiencing the same struggles they’re going through? Is it conflicting for you? It is. (Sighs) A month ago I went to Wyoming for a weekend with LGBTQ kids to speak with Matthew Shepard’s mom, to hear my own mom speak about being a mother of a queer kid, and then I just got to hear from kid after kid and adults as well who were pouring their hearts out. But the day before was probably one of the lower points in my life — of this year, at least.

I was on a plane and I was telling the lady next to me that I want to be able to tell all these people that it gets better, but I don’t know that for sure. Then to be able to go and spend a weekend in Wyoming and have my perspective and attitude change — those are the things that keep me from falling completely down that dark hole. So, it’s conflicting. It exhausts me because I’m actually just kind of an introvert. I know that about myself. But I am so in awe of other people’s strength, and I need them as much as maybe they need me sometimes. I need to hear that it’s gonna be good, that there’s a point to all this. So, I feel really bonded to my gayness, I feel really bonded to the community more than I ever have, and I’m really exploring that. That, I think, is one of the most rewarding things about

this record so far for me.

What were you feeling during the process of writing and recording the songs for Excommunication? I felt pretty out of my mind when I was writing a lot of it because I just felt compelled every day. I woke up and paced my apartment, manically writing beats so that I could sing the melody in my head. There are a few songs that didn’t make the record that are even more raw and pointed, but what ended up making the record is a body of work that showcases the highs and lows of this transition, as well as this coming to terms with identity. In that way, writing it was really effortless, but exhausting.

Recording it was one of the most creative, joyful experiences so far in my musical career. That’s what makes it worth it. It’s really rewarding. I hate to sound like this guy who’s like, “I don’t care if it’s No. 1,” or, “I don’t care if I have a hit off of it” — those things are important — but what’s driving this record is the real-life crisis that I’ve gone through and shining a light on those who are also going through it. To know I’m not alone is really exciting. So, if the record reaches the audience I made it for, then I’m stoked. To me, that’s success.

Which song on the album means the most to you? That’s hard for me; there’s a few.

There’s one called “Midnight” that when I see people’s reaction it means so much to me. There are a lot of songs on the record that talk about big questions and wondering about [my] purpose and feeling the hurt, but “Midnight” encompasses the universal experience of not really knowing for sure. Growing up Mormon, I knew the church was true. Now, to say “I don’t know” is really kind of freeing.

Tell me about “John, Give ’Em Hell.” Did you write that for excommunicated Mormon podcaster John Dehlin? I wrote it for John Dehlin, yeah. I wrote it for John just as a friendship gift. It was on acoustic guitar, and I recorded it on my cell phone and sent it to me. Then, I just kept listening to it and going back to it, and I played it for my producer and he was like, “You gotta put this on the record.”

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I’m sure you’ll be hearing this a lot, but Excommunication is the album I needed when I was 16. Has it dawned on you that you could save so many lives just by being yourself and putting this out there? It didn’t at first. I literally was just doing it so much for my own sanity. It wasn’t until I started putting out songs from the record slowly that I got that feedback, and I’m just beyond stoked that that’s one of the reactions — that it’s helping people or carving a space for people. That to me is a huge deal.

Where’s the feedback coming from? Mostly from fans on social media. I see it on Reddit. I see it from a lot of LGBTQ people, and also just a lot of marginalized people in religion. So, it’s not just the gay community, but that’s meaning a lot to me because that’s the audience I intended it for. I’m glad that it’s being received by those types of people.

This album will likely define a lot of comingof-age moments for a lot of LGBT people.

When you were going through your darkest moments, which artists and albums did you find yourself clinging to during your journey to self-discovery? Who did you turn to for musical salvation? Often it was The Smiths and Morrissey just because I looked at him as doing sexuality in his own way, and I always clung to that idea that I didn’t want to be defined so much by orientation. Even Lady Gaga, during 2008 and 2009, when she was first coming onto the scene, was such a breath of fresh air. I remember obsessively watching any interview I could find on her when she first started doing press for The Fame and The Fame Monster. I felt validated as an artist and we hadn’t

even made our first record as Neon Trees yet, but I just felt like, “Damn, hell yeah, thank you.”

Does she know you feel this way about her?

I told her briefly when I met her, but when you meet people you look up to — these icons — you don’t always get the two-hour sit-down conversation. I also have trepidation when I meet people. I don’t want to come off as the needy fan who just wants a picture, so I don’t know... maybe one day I’ll be able to.

When a fan of yours wants to express the same sentiment to you, how do you navigate that en-counter? I honestly give a lot of time and space for that because I know how much it means to me, and I know my experience with meeting certain celebrities in the past who I’ve looked up to. I know that it’s meant so much to me when they give me their time. I try to give as much of myself to make sure people feel validated.

What inspired the “Who the Fuck is Tyler Glenn?” shirt you’re wearing in the video for “Shame-less”? It’s a riff on a shirt that The Stones used to wear. (Stones guitarist) Keith Richards used to wear a “Who the Fuck is Mick Jagger?” shirt when they first started putting records out, but also, I’m sort of in a moment where I’m asking, “Who the fuck is Tyler Glenn?” I’m on the search for the meaning and purpose of life much more now.

Now, I feel way more whole than I ever have because I feel like I’m being a gay man for the first time even though I came out two years ago. I feel like I’m without filter — and I’m without a framework that never really had a space for me to begin with. Now, I’m just really free to exist and find out just who I am and what I want in life and what I want my life to be and look like.

What does it mean to you to be gay “without filter”? When I came out, I came out as gay and Mormon, and for about a year after that experience I tried to reconcile religion

and continued to try to fit the square peg into the round hole. I think now I’m kind of rebuilding my own framework. I’m still trying to fit into a space that doesn’t really have any room for me or people like me.

I’m excited that I’m only 32, but at the same time I wish I had done that earlier.

I’ve always been worried: “How do I be a good Mormon?” “How do I be the right kind of gay guy?” Now, I don’t really feel like there’s one way in religion. I don’t feel like there’s one way in the gay community either. It’s way freer. Being able to hold hands with a guy that I’m seeing in public — I know that kind of sounds like baby steps, but I just feel so effortlessly comfortable in my skin and, honestly, it took me almost 32 years to get there. Where what usually occupied my thoughts was my nature, now I don’t even think about it. It’s so nice to live unapologetically.

Seeing as how bold and personal your solo debut is, where do you see yourself within Neon Trees going forward? Could you ever be this personal within the band? I don’t know. It’s definitely been on my mind. I’ve had convos with the band and they’ve been really healing, and some of the members of the band who are still Mormon are unsure of how we carry on. I have the same questions.

For me, it’s completely possible because I love my band and I love what we’ve done, but I can’t go back to it in the same way. If I’m able to write freely and if they’re able to feel comfortable creating with me, then I think we might be able to make even cooler records. But I don’t know.

I just can’t ever create anymore in a space where there’s a limitation. I wouldn’t say that Neon Trees is ever limiting, because for where I was in my life at the time it was completely as authentic as I could be, but I’m just not the same Tyler Glenn from even two or three years ago when we made our last record.

You’re sending a lot of messages to a lot of people with this album. But what message do you hope to send to Mormons who’ve condemned you and other LGBT people?

I want them to recognize that it’s not a tantrum, and that there are thousands upon thousands of voiceless LGBT people within even just the Mormon community who feel like they can’t ask questions and can’t have doubts and can’t be themselves. I want to be able to give a microphone to those people. Q Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, and can proudly say Mariah Carey once called him a “daaahhhling.”

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Grayson Moore is a happy, thriving young man.

He wears an infectiously bright smile, reads voraciously and has an excellent relationship with his parents. Grayson is also transgender and an active, believing Mormon.

BY KELBY VERA

Since

transitioning, Grayson has become a beacon of hope for trans Mormons and their families looking for self-acceptance.

“The LDS strategy of silencing people makes it so much harder because everyone feels so alone and questions [if they’re] normal or crazy,” says Grayson “[Since coming out publicly] I’ve had people from five other states, complete strangers, reach out to me and say ‘I’m transgender and Mormon and I thought I was the only one.”

His story would be very different, however, if not for his family’s support.

As a child, Grayson had no idea about gender but began to experience dysphoria with the onset of puberty.

“I had the thought that I feel more like a boy than a girl but didn’t know what to do with that. So I just bottled it up and [the feelings] gradually descended.”

This part of his life still painful to talk about and has left Moore with scattered memories from the time. His mother, Neca Allgood, helps him tell the story. “[Before he came out] he was having what are called ‘crashes’, which we understand as panic attacks now. What it looked like was a bright happy kid not being able to speak, not being able to function and they were happening more and more often.

I thought it was a physical thing.”

They went to a series of doctors searching for an answer, but no answer could be found. Moore continued to pray and came out to his mother as a lesbian. But it was his mother, in fact, who first learned about

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gender dysphoria.

“Back then, there was nothing [about LGBT Mormons]. I was looking at Affirmation (a resource for LGBTQ Mormons) and one of the tabs said ‘transgender’ and I feel like the spirit prompted me to click that tab. I was aware of what transgender meant but I hadn’t really put it together.”

She sat Grayson down and explained what she’d read.

“I know you’re not supposed to out your kid, but he needed the information.” Neca and Grayson began a conversation. His mom had broken a silence that isolates so much LGBTQ youth, especially those with devout backgrounds.

Being transgender and LDS did not make his faith falter. In fact, his family became all the more convicted. Allgood created a network for parents of LGBTQ Mormon youth called Mama Dragons to support their children emotionally and spiritually. Moore continued to be an active member of the church while still being transgender and out.

In Moore’s life, identity and understanding of scripture are not at odds. He does not feel like he has to choose between religion and living an authentic life.

“In the Articles of Faith [part of the Book of Mormon] it says there are yet many things to be revealed in the Kingdom of God” says Moore, “and I think that things like gender and relationships are very important things pertaining to the soul and welfare of God’s children. The church right now has very little understanding of the true complexity of God’s creation.”

Even with growing acceptance, LGBTQ people still face the reality of people’s bias depending on their ward or church community. The idea that you’re really at the behest of the leadership in your particular community is what Moore referred to as “Bishop Roulette.”

“If you have a bishop who is willing to listen to the spirit, you’re lucky…if you end up with a bishop that’s transphobic, then things can go very badly for you very fast. ” Moore has been very lucky so far.

“I do have a strategy… I have my existing supportive bishop call the next bishop before we ever meet, saying this is a good kid who wants to [serve God].” This type of compassion is becoming a new form of support for LGBTQ members of the church, however small it may seem. “But a lot of it comes down to luck,” Grayson

Neca Allgood, David Moore, Grayson Moore

laughed “and that’s my strategy for most other games!”

Today, Moore lives the life of a typical college student studying linguistics at University of Utah in Salt Lake. Like most Mormon families, they have a strong appetite for board games and puzzles. He’s currently writing a novel and his mother remarks he has a lovely singing voice.

“Since I’ve been on testosterone, I’ve been singing baritone these days which is rad.”

Moore is set to graduate in 2017 with plans of beginning a masters degree in computational linguistics.

“And beyond that… who knows. Linear time is meaningless.” Like scripted, Mom chimes in “… After you find a job, that is” and she hugs Grayson tight. Q

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Genderevolution talks trans* history, voices, future

BY MIKKI ENOCH

Utah’s own Genderevolution conference meets this year at The Leonardo Museum on Saturday, November 5th. This year’s theme is “Our History, Our Voices, Our Future.” Each year trans* fold and allies meet to create safe space to explore the boundaries of gender in Utah and Salt Lake City area. Months go into planning this event.

This year was planned by a twelve-member committee. The committee includes Andy Rivera, Dallas Rivas, Heather Franck, Jandy Stelter, Jennifer Lynn, Jimmy Lee, Karen Russell, Liesl Archbold, Nick Watts, Rachel Edwards, Salvador Oregon-Torres and Winter Bonza. “We are proud to host a nationally renowned speaker for the conference. The speaker garners national recognition and will attract participants from all across Utah and surrounding states,” according to their website.

Since 2009, the annual conference has continued to grow. From 2010 to 2013, Westminster College hosted the conference. For the last two years, Rowland Hall hosted the event. Each year, more and

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more participants attended. The workshops and keynote speakers have educated members of the trans* community and allies about life “Beyond the Binary,” 2011’s theme. The conference creates a space where participants build relationships and make friends.

Past keynote speakers have included, in 2014, Pat Manuel, also known as “Cacahuate (Peanut)”, who is a transmasculine QPOC who has shaped his masculine identity in boxing gyms around Los Angeles, CA, in 2013, Ruby Corado, founder of the inclusive Multicultural Center and Casa Ruby in Washington DC, in 2011, Yoseñio V. Lewis, a transgender man and activist, in 2010, Lim, who is Canadian and of Chinese decent, a drag king. This year’s keynote speaker is Jessica Taylor, a Denver based pilot who worked to change the FAA designation of gender dysphoria from a mental disorder.

Annually, Genderevolution celebrates the diversity of our community with workshops and tables to highlight available resources. In addition to educating for members of the community, the

workshops address topics for employers and healthcare providers, both medical and mental health. This year’s schedule of workshops is still pending but last year’s topics have included “Gender-free pregnancy and early childhood”, “Trans Mental Health and Suicide Prevention”, and introductory sessions such as “Trans 101” and “Trans 201” Genderevolution celebrates that gender is more than a binary. Scholarships are available so everyone may attend. “No one will be turned away,” the genderevolutionutah.org website states. This event is as much a social event as it is an educational one. Genderevolution is the pinnacle event of Transgender Education and Awareness Month.

Salt Lake City Mayor, Jackie Biskupski, will open the conference as well as have a have a table. This is an opportunity for Salt Lake’s trans* community to meet the city’s first lesbian mayor. Dallas Rivas of the planning committee was very excited to share the parts of the conference that are complete. Q Genderevolution is Saturday, Nov. 5th from 8:30 am to 5:30 pm. Purchase your tickets for $25 at ­genderevolutionutah.org.

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Pilot Jessica Taylor will keynote Genderevolution conference The Leonardo Museum’s “Flight” exhibit will be a backdrop for Jessica Taylor as keynote speaker of Genderevolution 2016 on Saturday, Nov. 5. Called the “Caitlyn Jenner of airline pilots” by John Walton at runwaygirlnetwork.co, Taylor said, “That very simple comment will allow dialogue to begin with people who previously didn’t have the language to ask questions.

[Jenner] has provided a basic understanding for mainstream people to begin a conversation with a transgender person.”

“For me, flying has little to do with actually flying. It’s about being the catalyst for connecting people with what matters most

to them,” Taylor wrote in an essay for the New York Times. “Having the ability to be a part of my passengers’ day, hearing their stories and showing them love is at the heart of my passion for flying. Having the unique ability to be your pilot makes being transgender disappear. Our love is the same, our differences become irrelevant as the earth become smaller. This is where my soul finds it purpose.”

Taylor is an airline transport pilot based in Denver, Colo. She learned to fly in Long Beach, Calif. where she first soloed, then went on to train across the United States.

She now flies the Canadair Regional Jet 200/700/900 series aircraft under the United, Delta, American and Alaska Airlines.

She mainly flies the Aspen, Colo. route structure under the United Express flag.

“Being transgender is best the gift I could have ever been given. To see humanity and to love in spite of our differences, has changed the way I love others and caused others to stretch their own definition of love,” Taylor said. Q

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Q&A IDINA MENZEL ON WORKING TOWARD LGBT ICON STATUS, A LESBIAN ELSA AND ANGRY GAYS WHO OPPOSE HER BEACHES REMAKE

Though

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

it arrives nearly 20 years after her debut album, the timing couldn’t be more perfect for a self-titled Idina Menzel release. Menzel’s latest is a declaration of self — of her real self, that is.

“It’s how you pronounce my name,” the Broadway star says during our recent interview about the eponymous title, idina., not-so-subtly alluding to that infamous name botch at the 2014 Academy Awards.

You remember: John Travolta called her “Adele Dazeem” just before she hit the stage to perform her careerchanging song “Let It Go” from Disney’s Frozen, during which the Tony winner voices cold-thwarting snow queen Elsa. Frozen fame took Menzel to Elphaba heights, but it was Wicked and Rent that forever made her a gay fave.

Imagine, then, what a new Beaches might do for Menzel. The Lifetime remake of the 1988 classic has the 45-year-old portraying Bette Midler’s CC Bloom, a career choice the singer-actress admits has ruffled the feathers of her loyal queer following.

Menzel talked about one gay fan’s tweet that led to her almost backing out of the film altogether, how LGBT support solidified her success and why she’s “excited” that Frozen fans are pulling for a lesbian Elsa.

What’s a trip to the grocery like now, after Frozen made you a household name? It depends on how many little kids or gay men are there. And they certainly have been complimentary, and yeah, we take some pictures and I’ve put myself on a video for several people’s birthday wishes and bar mitzvahs.

But the gay guys aren’t just singing “Let It Go” to you, I’m sure. Exactly. And you know what, I’m leaving out the ladies too! Because, of course, I was Maureen in Rent, so it’s not all the gay male community. There are a lot of beautiful women that have been very supportive of me.

What does your long and loyal history with the LGBT community mean to you? Honestly, you said the word “loyal” — it means everything to me. All the women that I’ve revered in my life have been beloved by the gay community. So, when I was younger it was like, if I’m not in with that club, then I haven’t made it. So, as soon as I felt like I was being included and appreciated and supported [by the LGBT community], it just really meant everything to me. Not to mention, PHOTO: MAX VADUKUL

the accolades and all the compliments don’t come easy. There can be harsh critics; it’s not an easy crowd to win over, so it feels good when you feel like you’ve made friends and they are so loyal and so supportive.

When were you first aware of your gay following? The first moment was probably when I’d go to the Nederlander Theatre when I was in Rent [in the mid ’90s], and I’d get all these amazing letters from young kids struggling with their sexual orientation and who they were and how they wanted to come out. I’d get a lot of letters about that and how I was helping them be honest with themselves and be brave about coming out, so it started then and that was even… that was stronger than I had even anticipated or ever really had dreamed. Just on a much deeper, much more important level than singing a high note with a lot of bravado and people clapping. And it’s continued to be like that, really, with Wicked and Frozen, with Elsa. There are always these characters who are literally trying to come out of the closet — they’re hiding something within them that they’re afraid to let people see, and then finally they embrace it and change the world around them.

You seem to gravitate toward empowered female characters and tropes. Is there a particular reason why? I have no idea! (Laughs) I swear to god, I don’t know if I find them, or they find me. I went into the studio [for this album] — I was going through a divorce [with former Rent co-star Taye Diggs in late 2014 after 10 years of marriage], and I can’t tell you how many times I’d sit with these amazing writers and want to write some really upsetting, sad, dark song and it would turn out to be some uplifting, empowering song about trying to find my strength as a woman. I’d be like, “Aaack, why did we write that?! I hate that!

I’m just so sick of it! I wanna be miserable!

And I want people to let me be miserable!”

(Laughs) But no, I’m half joking. I just want to make sure that people know that I’m not always feeling that empowered and that confident in what I’m doing. Just like anyone else, I gotta work on all that stuff.

Are you saying you’re a real person? (Laughs) I think so! I think I am!

There’s a lot of pressure on you and Disney to make Elsa gay. Are you surprised by the #GiveElsaAGirlfriend movement? Am I surprised? (Sighs) Maybe at first I was a little surprised because it’s Disney, but I can say that I’m excited that the conversation is happening. I can’t promise anybody that that’s what’s gonna happen. I’m just a servant at a big company called Disney and I’m happy to have a role and a job. But deep down am I really happy that it’s causing people to talk

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about it and have these kinds of conversations? Yeah, I am.

Do you think the world is ready for a lesbian Disney princess? Umm… I don’t know about that, considering we’re having a hard time even getting Donald Trump out of the way.

Sometimes it’s a little discouraging. But you never know. We keep making all these strides.

We’ve made a lot of strides in the last couple of years, and then all of a sudden the hate and the vitriol within our country is exposed and you’re like, “What happened? We’re in the ancient times again.”

What does it mean to you to know that so many LGBT people interpreted “Let It Go” as a coming out anthem? And did you when you first read the lyrics? Yeah, umm... probably not right at first because I’m an actor first, and so I’m thinking, what is it for this character and this young girl? Having had the Wicked experience, I bring those themes to it as well. But then I quickly saw all of the parallels and the universality of the song and how it could speak to so many people in so many different ways.

We must talk about the Patti LaBelle-inspired note you slay during “Queen of Swords,” from your new album. (Laughs) I have to say that sometimes my best moments, artistically speaking, have come from really emulating someone I love and playing around, because then I get out of my own space. I was literally just having fun. We had already recorded the end of that song a million times and I sang a million different runs of ad-libs at the end, and I was trying to make my producer and engineer laugh. And I didn’t know I could do that one! So then, of course, they put it in.

I’ve had other moments in my life where I’m on stage and if I’m having a hard time — if I feel insecure about a beat or how I’m interpreting something — I’ve done something like, how would Glenn Close approach this moment? Then, all of a sudden, I’m like, “Oh, look at this,” and I’m holding for applause and taking an extra two seconds just to own the stage, not feeling like I have to get out of there because I’m undeserving. It’s interesting if you put yourself in their footsteps once in a while how it can open that up for you and you realize, “Oh, I’ve been selling myself short. I can sell this moment.”

I’m not saying anybody should copy anybody. I don’t think anybody should mimic anyone, but I’m always an advocate of emulating and soaking in all of the greats, because then once it comes out of you, it’ll never be a clone — it will be you inspired by these people.

You’ve had three other studio albums — why self-title this one, and what’s the significance of the period? It’s very personal. I went through the hardest time in my life while writing this

album — a beautiful, successful time, and also a very tumultuous, complicated time in my personal life, and so it’s very intimate. It’s my way of saying, “Hey, this is me and my barebones.” And the period is… what’s the word?... just a little nudge, like, “This is me,” with a little attitude in there, whether it’s how you pronounce my name or [directed toward] anybody who has tried to keep me down.

We refer to our most beloved icons by one name — Cher, Madonna, Mariah, Bette — so maybe this is also your initiation into gay iconography. (Laughs) Hey, if I can get into that realm or that class, I would be very happy. It would be a huge compliment. But I’m still working toward that. Those women have done a lot more than I have!

Why was it important to you to be a part of the “Fight Song” for Hillary Clinton during the Democratic National Convention? Elizabeth Banks asked me to do it. You know, I’m just … I believe in Hillary and I’m a Democrat, and I’m not trying to put off or judge anyone who isn’t, but I felt it was important to be a part of it.

“Wind Beneath My Wings” is a song that’s so iconic and so owned by Bette Midler. What was it like taking it on for your upcoming Beaches remake? (Sighs) It was almost reason to say no. I mean, I did say no a couple of times at first to the whole thing because to walk in her footsteps, I mean, you can’t. I needed to find what the reasons were to be a part of this when the (original) movie is so beautiful as is.

I found that there’s a whole young generation of women who hadn’t seen Beaches. Because of the time we’re in now, as women, there’s a new perspective we have within that story, and there’s a new conversation that can go on as far as us living out our passions and our work and our home life. It’s a little different when you watch the movie now, in this context of life. There’s more that we can bring to it to update it. But as far as the song — the song terrified me. I brought it to my producer, Greg Wells, who did “Queen of Swords” and half of the album, and I said, “How can we make this contemporary?” We sat at the piano and stripped it down, and he just found this way that brings in all these modern sounds. We stayed pretty strict to the melody and I don’t know — I’m just really happy about it. I think it came off really beautifully.

It’s an homage to what was already there, but also just a new incarnation of it.

Gay men are very devoted to Beaches. Have you consulted any of them for the role? By accident I went on my Twitter feed and saw somebody who wrote, “Idina, I love you, but it’s sacrilege that you’re doing this!” I called my agent and I was like, “Tell them I can’t do it.

All these gay men are mad at me and they’re

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gonna hate me!” But it’s just such a great role for me and the experience of being on set and working every day on this beautiful woman that is funny and talented and she gets to do drama and comedy — it was such a great experience for me and it was just hard to turn down. So I hope they’ll forgive me! I understand if they cannot. But you know, come on, Judy Garland redid A Star is Born and then Barbra redid Judy Garland! So sometimes these things happen. I’m not saying I’m any of those women, but you know, sometimes we redo these movies.

Earlier this year, you reunited with your Wicked co-star Kristin Chenoweth and sang “For Good” with her for the first time in 12 years. What was it like to revisit that song a decade-plus later with Kristin and can we expect you to work on anything else with her? Ah, maybe! Yeah, I would never say never to that.

That experience that day was very powerful for both of us, and very moving. We both sung that song a lot through the years in our own concerts, but we hadn’t gotten back and sung it together. And you know, that show changed our lives and the trajectory of our careers. It bonded us — it bonded lots of people — and it’s a song that people connect to in so many ways. They use it at their weddings and their dances with their mothers and they play it at funerals. It’s this incredible song, and for us to have sort of originated that — and together — it’s something we’ll always share.

We felt such a pride about it.

Are you going to be OK if Wicked gets made into a film with actresses other than you and Kristin? No, I’m gonna — no! I’m gonna have a hard time with that. (Laughs) Let’s be honest… you want me to be honest? Or do you want me to say, “Oh, sure, can’t wait for whoever looks 20 years younger than me but can’t sing as good as me gets the role”?

They better not fuck it up, right? They better not fuck it up! I’m lobbying to do it like Benjamin Button. A little CGI on a beautiful, green face. I could look gorgeous! Like, who cares — just take out a couple wrinkles.

Green and exotic. I still have a girly innocence about me. And here I am trying to audition for this role... (Laughs) I’m sorry, Idina; believe it or not, I have no say in this. (Laughs) No, it’s all good. It’s not gonna happen for a while anyway. I’ll be 70 by the time it comes out and still be trying to get this role.

The special effects will be even better in 30 years.

(Laughs) I hope I’m just not in Vegas in some bad lounge singing it, that’s all I hope. Q Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate and can proudly say Mariah Carey once called him “daaahhhling.”

He’s at chris-azzopardi.com and tweets @chrisazzopardi.

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Q&A

KRISTIN CHENOWETH ON LGBT LOVE DURING HER ‘NOBODY’ YEARS, DISMISSING HOMOPHOBES AND THE CHRISTIAN MAN SHE SAVED

like they’ve been ostracized by their own family.

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

When in your professional career did you know the gay community loved you back? Oh gosh. The first time I felt it I was doing a show on Broadway called Steel Pier [in 1997], and it was not a hit. But it was a big, splashy Broadway musical, and I had a pretty incredibly difficult aria to sing in that show. I remember leaving the show one night. I was a nobody. I was just starting. And there was a group waiting for me. I figured they were waiting for Karen Ziemba or Debra Monk, and all of a sudden they were like, “Kristin, Kristin!” and I turned around and there’s this fabulous group standing there and they go, “Will you sign our program?” And I said, “Me? Are you sure? Really?” (Laughs) They said, “Yeah. You! You’re incredible. Your voice, your voice! And you’re not lip syncing — that’s fabulous!”

So I was signing the program and this one guy reached over and grabbed my hand and said, “Us gays love you!” I just remember smiling so big and feeling the power and the love and I sent it right back. I guess that’s been going on ever since. But really, ever since I was a little girl too, because I had friends who were outsiders because of their orientation. I am so thrilled at how far things have come and how far they’re coming. I just keep praying that it keeps evolving and changing and becoming more open and that people are allowed to love who they love and marry who they want to marry.

Before

celebrated soprano Kristin Chenoweth morphed into a mélange of nice and naughty personalities both on stage and screen, from Glinda in Wicked in 2003 to her forthcoming role as Velma Von Tussle in NBC’s Hairspray Live!, the Broadway icon was a “nobody.”

Except, she notes, to the gay community.

Our bond with Chenoweth is for good, as demonstrated on a recent afternoon, the same day as the release of her sixth studio album, The Art of Elegance. Then, the 48-yearold rang to look back at the unexpected exchange that established her place within the LGBT community, along with an unforgettable moment in her career that “really affected me” — when a gay Christian man revealed to her that she saved his life.

Happy release day, Kristin! Where are you in the world right now? I am in terrible traffic in New York trying to get to Morristown, New Jersey for my show tonight.

Are you gonna make it? Well, I’m supposed to do a live Facebook feed at 5:30, so we might be pushing it a little. But it’s OK. I’ll get there some way or another. The Facebook feed might be from the car!

A la James Corden’s “Carpool Karaoke”? I’ll do my warmups from the car, exactly.

You and your Wicked co-star, Idina Menzel, both have solo albums being released today.

Why have we not heard another duet with you two since Wicked? I don’t know.

I’m surprised. Me too! I’m surprised too. I think it’s just timing and scheduling, and what would we do? We’d probably want to make it really cool and different and original. But I don’t know. I think it’d be something we could write ourselves, maybe.

That’d be cool.

What goes through your mind on album release day? You just have to release it and just go, “That’s my creation and I hope you like it!” (Laughs) You know, it’s a lot of pressure, actually. But then once it’s out, it’s not, because then it’s just… what it is. And that’s a lot of relief.

So aside from the traffic right now, you’re feeling relief? Yeah, I am. I am!

How can a gay man like myself achieve elegance if he can’t sing? (Laughs) You guys actually have nailed the whole elegance thing already. You don’t really need my help!

And if you can’t sing, I’m positive you’re doing it in other ways. I’ve always said: “If you want anything done right, if you want anything done good, if you want anything to look good, hire your gay best friend.” You guys have nailed it — nailed it! — when it comes to just about everything.

So, you’ve been employing a good portion of the gay community since the beginning of your career? (Laughs) I can’t imagine that that would not be true! Yes. That is true!

That is very true. And it’s just a bond I have.

I can’t explain it. I just can’t.

For your upcoming return to Broadway in November, what’s it like to know that your out costume designer and Project Runway winner, Christian Siriano, also designed for Michelle Obama? I am a smart girl; I know everyone who he designs for. I am lucky that he said yes!

What’s the most memorable conversation you’ve had with a gay fan? The second record I made was a Christian record [2005’s As I Am]. So, I was doing one of those talks — one of those moderated talks. After it was over I did a meet and greet, and I was signing the album and a guy comes up to me — he was probably about 35 and he was so cute and kind — and he just said, “I want to thank you for helping me. Just recently you helped save my life.” And I was like, “Wait, whoa, what?” And he just said, “My whole life I’ve been told I was going to hell. And I’m gay and I love God and I’m Christian and I was able to show my family that, ‘Look at this girl. She made this album and she thinks I’m OK.’” That was 10, 12 years ago. That really affected me and stayed with me. One I really remember.

Do you think about these powerful exchanges when you’re making music? Yeah, I do. I think about lots of kids who are persecuted by their very own families for who they are or what they believe or even what they want to do with their life. That’s a really — that’s harsh. My parents weren’t that way. I have such deep compassion for anyone who feels

As someone who’s been a staunch supporter of LGBT issues and rights, what’s going through your mind regarding this election and whether, if elected, Donald Trump could affect the progress we’ve made in the LGBT community? I don’t think it will affect it that much in that arena, but I worry about other arenas. I worry about world safety — our safety. When your brother is kind of running off at the mouth, you go, “OK.” But when somebody you don’t know does it, it’s scary. That’s the way I view it. Like, how will we be viewed? So, I am like the rest of the world. I am in shock.

How much flak have you received from conservative Christians because of your support of the community? Oh, I’ve definitely lost fans. I’ve been fired from Women of Faith.

The haters online and on social media are there. But I don’t know... I think I’ve gotten tougher or somethin’.

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The negativity has had the opposite effect on you? Yeah, yeah. I think so.

Why do you think that is? Well, even if you believe different things, you still want to be able to have music in common. And now, I guess maybe what’s changed is, it’s OK if you don’t like my music. If you don’t like what I believe, maybe I don’t want you to.

If you have a random run-in with a gay man, what work of yours is he most likely to compliment? It varies! It’s so interesting. A lot of times it will be Candide a lot of times it will be Glee or Pushing Daisies. A lot of Pushing Daisies! It was a good one, right?

So good. And GCB! And GCB! Oh my gosh, of course. How could I leave that one out?

They love that one.

There’s a song on this new album for just about every occasion. If you could dedicate any classic song from this album to your gay following, which would it be? Just on sheer orchestration, melody and lyric and, of course, no soprano — all belt — I’m gonna go with “Skylark” because it’s complicated.

It’s not easy to sing, and I feel like they’d know that and appreciate it and love it.

Your voice is surprisingly deeper on this album. I do go deep! It’s changing!

You’re going through a late puberty? I guess so! I’m like, when was someone gonna tell me this was gonna happen? I’ve still got the high, but my voice is dropping.

Are you comfortable with your voice changing? Oh yeah! Because I think 10 years ago — five years ago even! — I would’ve done an even different piece and it would’ve been what you would’ve expected from me. But this necessarily isn’t. I love that.

As someone who played Glinda the Good Witch, what can people expect when you play her antithesis, Velma Von Tussle, in December in Hairspray Live!? I’m so lucky that I haven’t been too terribly typecast! You know, I’m definitely gonna have a fabulous wig. I’m definitely gonna have fabulous makeup and costumes. I’m also going to really go there with her. I mean, she’s not necessarily lovable, but I’m gonna try to make her fun to hate. (Hairspray Live! composer) Marc Shaiman has been working with me a little bit to make the song “Miss Baltimore Crabs” a little more my own. More crazy high notes, some low ones too. Physically, a lot of fun stuff. I’m excited.

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How do you like playing someone with opposite morals and values? I think that’s why I enjoy her — I’m thinking, “Kristin, you would never be that way!” (Laughs) It’s kind of fun to delve into someone who is polar opposite because she is polar opposite.

You’ve collaborated with many people throughout your career. What comes to mind when you think of the following? First, obviously: Idina Menzel. We made magic together.

She’s not into the idea of having other actresses take your parts in a Wicked film. How do you feel about it? I totally agree with her. We want someone who can do what we did. We don’t want someone who can make it sound good in the studio. We want someone who can actually sing.

How about when you sang Mika’s “Popular” mashup with him in 2013 in New York City? Oh my gosh. He is — oh, let’s see — an open vessel! He has no edit. He’s like Prince in a way. He’s just music.

So, I have so much deep love and respect for him. He is a star.

And Jennifer Lopez, whose BFF you played in 2015’s The Boy Next Door. She wants the best for me. Loyal.

Real. A friend.

And fun to work with! We laughed all the time. Ahh, I love her. And that movie — it’s a guilty pleasure.

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I have a feeling the gay community might have found it more pleasurable than the general public. I think so! And I’m fine with that.

Your Glee co-star Matthew Morrison? Beautiful, best spirit, supportive, protective. He wants to be great so he works hard. Again, nothing but respect there.

And you worked with Betty White when you guest starred on an episode of Hot in Cleveland — what stands out to you about her? I said to her, “How do I find the balance in life?” And she said, “You don’t. You’re a lifer.

Accept it. You’re a lifer.

You were born to do this and this is what you’re supposed to do, period.” Q Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, and can proudly say Mariah Carey once called him a “daaahhhling.” Reach him at chris-azzopardi.com and on Twitter @chrisazzopardi.

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4 signs your friends are failing you — and how to dump them

BY MIKEY ROX

For gay

people, our friends are often our family. They’re there for us through thick and thin, even when our blood relatives let us down — which, as unfortunate as it is, happens more than we’d like it to. As a result, we devote more of our time, energy and love to these friends who become our support systems, but that doesn’t mean they always have our best interests in mind.

On occasion we befriend people who seem benign on the surface but who will also stab us in the back as soon as we turn it.

If you’ve got a “friend” like this in your life, it’s time to cut ’em loose. Here are four signs to look for when determining that detrimental presence — and how to eliminate the negativity altogether.

1.

THEY’RE CREATING DRAMA FOR YOU

Yes, gay people are prone to drama — and at times it’s just playful, devious fun — but when one person’s backhanded habits, like spreading gossip about you, starts affecting your own happiness, it’s time to reevaluate the positives they provide in terms of friendship. When the cons outweigh the pros, you’ve got to drop the dead weight before it drags you down further.

Rhonda Milrad, a licensed clinical social worker and founder of the relationship app Relationup, provides an anecdote for perspective.

“You hear from sources that your friend has been commenting on your relationship, your career and life choices to others.

Sure, they’re ‘only sharing their opinions,’ but who needs this?” she asks. “Don’t bother discussing this with them; it won’t change. Instead, make sure that this person is no longer in your inner sanctum of go-to people. If approached, don’t discuss your life with them. When other confidants are telling you things they have said, set a firm boundary and tell them you don’t want to hear about it. Your friend will lose their privileged position of knowing what’s going on with you and will fade to an acquaintance.”

In other words, #gurlbye.

2.

THEY’RE NOT THERE FOR YOU WHEN THE GOING GETS TOUGH

One of the greatest aspects of friendship is expecting that your friend will provide a proverbial safety net when you’re experiencing the hills and valleys of life. But when they’re nowhere to be found as the ground starts to shake, can you still count them among your besties?

You shouldn’t, and mental health professional Noémie Dupont offers advice on how to navigate those murky waters.

“My main tip is to know the difference between comfort and safety,” she says.

“Sure, a lot of people make us feel comfortable, but can they really keep us safe? And plenty of people who make us uncomfortable are not actually unsafe for us. So what do we want in a friend? True safety.

Meaning, someone who accepts you and also challenges you. These challenges may cause us to sit in discomfort, but learning something new always feels like that. It makes us even better people. A friend who can be with you through uncomfortable learning periods or uncomfortable life stages is the perfect friend. They won’t be there for ‘fair weather’ or ditch you until you work it out yourself.”

3.

THEY FLIRT WITH YOUR PARTNER IN A WAY THAT MAKES YOU UNCOMFORTABLE

We’ve all had that friend who gets a little too flirty with our partner. In many cases it’s harmless, but you shouldn’t let your guard down. This “friend” may have designs of their own, without any regard for your feelings — especially if they think they can come out on top while leaving you lonely and in the lurch. Thus, unless you want to spend your weekends scarfing down Ben & Jerry’s by the gallon, nip the problem in the bud before it comes back to bite you.

“Share your feelings with your partner and get on the same page,” Milrad suggests.

“No more dinners, brunches or get-togethers.

Stop extending invitations and start denying request to this boundary-crossing friend.

Drag out responses and appear disinterested.

Before long, they’ll get the message.”

But not your partner.

4.

THEY’RE A PERPETUAL VICTIM

Have somebody in your circle that always seems to invite trouble then plays the victim?

Take that trash to the curb. Because at some point, we all need to grow up and accept responsibility for our actions, and if your friend is still acting like the world owes them something, it’s your duty to open the hatch and wave goodbye.

“It’s always something — a fight with their partner, a problem at work, a dissing from their family — and they are always the victim,” Milrad relates. “It’s draining and ugly and you just can’t show up for it anymore. This is who they are, and it’s time to fade out of their life. Don’t be so available. Delay replies, tell them you can’t talk, don’t ask what’s going on, and soon you’ll no longer be considered one of their go-to people. They need an immediate audience, and if you aren’t there they’ll fill your seat.”

And Godspeed to that poor sap. Q Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBT lifestyle expert whose work has been published in more than 100 outlets across the world. He splits his time between homes in New York City and the Jersey Shore with his dog Jaxon. Connect with Mikey on Twitter @mikeyrox.

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mr. manners

Election Day It has

BY ROCK MAGEN

never been and never will be my prerogative to tell you whom to vote for in any election.

I may present you with facts and opinions, but I will never blatantly tell you whom to choose. Now, this may be due in part to my southern raising and healthy respect for opinions, but I believe that the stance is heavily influenced by the freedom we experience as citizens of the United States of America. It’s no secret that some of our citizens make stupid decisions and lead us to radical candidates whom I believe would quickly start a world war for the sake of “entertainment” — but, as stated previously, I will not tell you whom to vote for.

Each election cycle, we introduce new generations of first time voters, and these

voters are afforded the opportunity to fulfill the most basic action in a democratic society — they are granted the ability to choose. For many of us in the LGBTQ community, we have fought an uphill battle for the rights we enjoy today, and all too often we forget that our choices influence how our future will continue to be recorded. So will you help to ensure the future of our “people?”

Many will argue that their vote really doesn’t count. Some will say that they do not know enough about the “issues” and feel guilty for what they believe to be a “blind vote.” Now, we may all have a moment of hesitation on voting day, similar to the remorse you may feel after a large purchase, but we cannot let this stop us from exercising our constitutional rights. The act of voting is a fundamental process that keeps our system of government working.

Through our elections, we get to decide who will represent us in all levels of our government. Even here in SLC, we have seen the impacts of voting as we historically have our first mayor who is a member

of the LGBT community — change can happen, but we have to help.

Researching the issues, the candidates, and the ballot you will be voting is part of our responsibility as voters, and all too often it is a responsibility we take too lightly.

We causally hear about candidates at the gym, in conversations, or on the news, and use small incomplete pieces of information to make decisions. Our government is elected by its citizens and voting allows us to have a say in how we believe the decisions effecting the public should be made. Enough voices in unison can elect someone to office, reaffirm or even change the course of our government.

This election day, I challenge you to let your voice be heard. It is your voice, combined with the voices of many others, in unison, that can change the direction of our community, state, nation, and even the world. We in the LGBTQ community have come so far. If we let it go now, all of the uphill battle of those who have come before us may be lost. Q

TYING THE KNOT? Know who WANTS your business and will treat you with the DIGNITY and RESPECT you deserve.

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food & drink

What you may not know about Beaujolais

Many wine

enthusiasts wait for the third Thursday in November for something they might bring to their fourth Thursday of November celebrations, because that is the day the Nouveau Beaujolais wines are released.

But what do you know about Beaujolais?

If you know of Beaujolais, you might think of the floral labels of Georges Dubœuf

Bortoli. According to Karen MacNeil of the Wine Bible, “Drinking Gamay is like diving into a pool of black cherries.” It’s a lighter red, a bit lighter than Pinot Noir.

Until 2015, the reds could also include some Pinot Noir. They can still include up to 15 per cent white grapes. White wines make up less than one per cent of production, mostly made of Chardonnay or, until 2024, Aligoté.

There are ten Crus (individual regions that are bottled separately). North to south these are St-Amour, Juliénas, Chénas, Moulin-a-Vent, Fleurie, Chiroubles, Morgon, Régnié, Brouilly, and Côte de Brouilly.

The Crus have individual characteristics.

Moulin-a-Vent is considered to be sturdy, due to tannins, and will live the longest.

Fleurie (taken from the French word fleur, or flower) is noted to have a distinct floral note, such as violets. A good description of the Crus is available at On the labels, you will generally see Beaujolais, Beaujolais-Villages, or the names of one of the Crus. A Fleurie wine may not say Beaujolais on the label, just Fleurie.

NOUVEAU

in the rosé fridge at your local bottle-o. This may give the impression that they’re light, lively wines, not to be taken too seriously.

Some are, but there are also some serious drops from the region.

BEAUJOLAIS GRAPES The main grape is the red Gamay grape.

Some Australian producers also make wines using Gamay, including Bass Phillip and De

CLASSIFICATION Beaujolais comes in three levels: Beaujolais (the lowest classification, which can include grapes from any vineyards within the region), Beaujolais-Villages (the next level up, which excludes grapes from certain vineyards that are deemed to be lower quality) and the Cru wines.

To complicate matters a little, there is also the ‘nouveau’ style. The idea behind the nouveau wines is that they are given only a short amount of time to ferment and are bottled early, so that they are fresh and zingy. These are meant to be drunk young and are often chilled – great for hot days. They are not designed to age.

They are released on the third Thursday in November, and there used to be races amongst the producers to get the wines to various markets as quickly as possible, although that has died down a little.

This classification only applies to the Beaujolais and Beaujolais-Villages level – the Crus are not released in the nouveau style.

The label will say Beaujolais Nouveau or Beaujolais-Villages Nouveau.

Some Australian producers are mimicking the nouveau style with some of their own wines. For example, Clonakilla now produces a Viognier Nouveau, which is a bright, fresh version of their more serious Viognier.

Alex Head (Head Wines) also makes a nouveau style wine. Q

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positive thoughts

Trumping Ignorance

BY MYLES HELFAND

It’s a shame

Donald Trump hasn’t said anything horrible during this campaign about people with HIV. Earlier this summer, as thousands descended on Cleveland, Ohio, to mark the controversial ascension of a presidential candidate whose campaign went viral and consumed one of humanity’s most powerful political parties, a very different group of thousands gathered halfway around the world to mark the controversial ascension of efforts to eliminate one of the most devastating viruses humanity has ever known.

During the same week as the Republican National Convention in July, the 21st International AIDS Conference (AIDS 2016) took place in Durban, South Africa. Occurring just once every two years in a different international city, the conference brings together more than 15,000 of the brightest minds and strongest spirits in the HIV community — a diverse mix of researchers, activists, policymakers and others who are on the front lines of the global effort to prevent HIV and improve the health of people already living with the virus.

The meeting came at a critical time, as the fight against HIV has reached a turning point: We have the means to (gradually) obliterate HIV from our species, and we even have an increasingly accepted plan to get there. What we don’t seem to have a lot of is political will, funding or widespread popular

support.

In a reflection of this reality, here in the U.S., mainstream media set up camp at the political buffet in Cleveland and gorged itself on the fast-food bonanza of the Republican convention. AIDS 2016 was largely ignored, the health-conscious restaurant left to languish in an era when reckless abandon seems to be the flavor of the day.

Yet the conference had its fair share of tasty news — the kind of stuff that can fundamentally change opinions about HIV and the people living with it. For instance: • We learned that almost 80,000 HIVnegative people in the U.S. are now regularly taking PrEP. (short for “pre-exposure prophylaxis,” a daily pill that virtually ensures a person won’t become HIV positive if taken correctly) • We learned that PrEP is so effective, people appear to remain largely protected from HIV even if they only take the drug about once every two days.

• We were reminded that people with HIV who are on effective anti-HIV medications have almost zero chance of passing the virus on to someone else.

• So convincing is the science on this that Demetre Daskalakis, M.D., one of the top HIV/AIDS officials in New York City (which is still home to more than 100,000 people living with HIV), recently endorsed a major new statement from experts publicly affirming that HIV-positive people have a “negligible risk” of transmitting HIV if they’re on meds and their viral load has been undetectable for the past six months.

In other words, we now know that people with HIV in the U.S. are almost completely uninfectious if they’re on successful treatment — and we also know that people without HIV can almost completely guarantee they’ll avoid infection if they take PrEP. Remind me again why there are still such stringent restrictions on gay men who want to donate blood, and why HIV-positive people continue to receive lengthy prison sentences simply for having consensual

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sex with HIV-negative people? Remind me why a person’s HIV status still renders them a pariah across huge swaths of this country?

How is it that, in an age where it takes mere moments for popular anger to sweep the nation when an angry old man questions the patriotism of parents of a MuslimAmerican war hero, we’re still struggling 35 years later to sweep the nation with accurate, tolerant messaging about HIV? Instead, the tremendous successes of scientific advances like PrEP — or another highly effective form of virus prevention, clean needle exchange — are met with skepticism, as practical discussions about putting the power of HIV prevention in the hands of more people become bogged down in a morass of moralism, bigotry and budget wrangling.

Heck, I still meet people who are surprised that people with HIV can live long, healthy lives while taking a single pill once a day — even though that’s been the case for a decade now. From a practical standpoint, managing HIV today is little different from managing high cholesterol, and a person on successful HIV treatment is roughly as likely to transmit the virus as a person on successful statins is to transmit an elevated LDL. But the perception of HIV in our society remains frustratingly entrenched in an ignorant past. Even as the science moves farther and farther from the rhetoric, fear and ignorance remain the driving forces behind America’s understanding of HIV — in much the same way they have been the driving forces behind so much of this year’s presidential campaign.

It’s almost enough to make the dark, cynical side of my soul wish that Donald Trump would say something outlandish about people with HIV, in hopes that his explosive words would catalyze a wave of productive discussion and education about preventing and treating the virus. But I wouldn’t wish that kind of attention on anyone.

Instead, I remain hopeful that reason and compassion will win out in our country’s conversation about HIV. Publications like the one you’re reading right now help spread that hope and ensure that conversation happens. So can each of us, by ensuring we stay educated and that people close to us do the same Q. Myles Helfand is the editorial director of TheBody.com and TheBodyPRO.com. Find him on Twitter @MylesatTheBody.

This column is a project of Plus, Positively Aware, POZ, TheBody.com, Q Syndicate, and QSaltLake Magazine.

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graduated college in 1992, the same year I tested HIV positive. Sometime in the late ’90s, I reconnected with a college friend.

He was actually a friend with benefits, so I was quite happy when he tracked me down, which wasn’t that easy back then, at least compared with today.

He invited me to a nice dinner in Chelsea, which was becoming the happening place in New York City for LGBTs. (Hell’s Kitchen now has that distinction.) His intentions seemed to be more than two friends catching up. It turns out I wasn’t off the mark.

He’d recently broken up with a boyfriend.

We were all smiles by dessert, but then he became awkwardly silent. “I have to ask you,” he said, “are you HIV positive?” I said yes. He said, “I knew it!” I said, “What do you mean you knew it?” He said, “Well, come on, we both know what I mean.” Then I became furiously silent.

Finally I asked, “Because I’m a slut?” Breaking the tension with a smile and a squeeze of my hand, he looked me in the eyes and said, “That’s why I tracked you down!” We laughed and moved on, but between his hypochondria and my HIV it was clear that we weren’t going to be a couple.

Instead, we became close friends with some minor benefits along the way as he be-came more educated about the virus.

We’re still good friends, but those benefits expired a while ago, which is fine. Although I’ve long since forgiven him, I often use this memory as a touchstone.

Even with such a wealth of affection between us, my dear friend couldn’t see past his assumptions. His sexual appetite was no different than mine I eventually confirmed, but nonetheless, as a white gay man, he assumed that I, as a Latino gay man, was naturally more sexual

than him.

And there it is, this doubleedged sword of a myth. Just as black men have to contend with the myth of their endowments, Latinos have to counter the myth of our libidos. I admit the Don Juan persona can come in handy on occasion, but the price over time for using it is quite high.

Case in point: When citing these statistics — if current trends in U.S. HIV rates continue, 1 in 2 black men who have sex with men and 1 in 4 Latino MSM will get HIV in their lifetimes — what often follows is a train of thought among too many people that blames and shames.

Studies show that MSM of color aren’t more sexual or taking more risks than white MSM, and lack of access to health care explains only part of those stats. Another factor is that the sexual networks of many MSM of color only include other MSM of color. There is a measure of choice in that fact.

However, prejudice from white MSM, no matter how benign, is also at work. That is an uncomfortable truth, but it’s not too difficult to see just by browsing posts on dating apps and sites that clearly rule out certain racial or ethnic identities. Such sweeping categorical rejections are all too common.

I know many of you are saying to yourselves, “I like what I like.”

I agree, in general. I, too, like what I like. That said, if I don’t find myself attracted to someone, I still take a moment to question why that is. I encourage you to do the same. You may be missing out by sticking to your predetermined likes. Q Oriol R. Gutierrez Jr. is the editor-inchief of POZ magazine on Twitter @ oriolgutierrez. This column is a project of Plus, Positively Aware, POZ, The Body, Q Syndicate, and QSaltLake Magazine.

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the bookworm sez

BY TERRI SCHLICHENMEYER

The Wonder

by Emma ­Donoghue c.2016, Little, Brown $27.00, 304 pages

The truth was bent a little bit.

Okay, so it was actually mangled. Warped beyond anything that might remotely be real. Wrapped up in a colossal “liar-liar-pants-on-fire” conflagration. The truth was nowhere near the lie you told to save face, to save feelings, or as in the new novel “The Wonder” by lesbian author Emma Donoghue, to save a life.

Lib Wright was so angry, she could hardly breathe.

Yes, she was told that she would be handsomely paid and put up – which was true – but she was also told that her skills as a nurse were essential, which was a lie. All those years of working in a field hospital in the Crimean War, all the time spent learning from the great Miss Nightingale, all the hours spent on patient care, and these Irish villagers were telling her that her assignment was to be little more than jailer.

Anna O’Donnell, they said, was eleven years old and hadn’t had a bite of food for four months. She consumed water by the spoonful, which was to say sparingly, and skeptics had come ‘round. To prove that the child’s feat was a miracle of God, a committee had hired Lib and an elderly nun to watch the girl’s every movement for two weeks.

Anna didn’t need nursing care. She absolutely didn’t need Lib. But nevermind. Miss N had

taught Lib to finish a task and, as Lib saw it, her task was not merely to report her observations in respect to Anna, but to reveal the little shammer for what she was. Surely, no child can live without sustenance, and Lib aimed to get to the bottom of it all.

But it wouldn’t be easy.

Anna was a sweet, gentle child with a devotion to God and an eagerness to please those in her household, Lib, and the nun, Sister Michael. Many times during her eight-hour shift, Lib heard the child’s prayers and saw her playing with her holy cards, but she never saw her eat a bite.

A miracle? No, it was obvious that Anna was in distress: her body was slowly shutting down for lack of food, as Lib’s job suddenly expanded…

Coming to a theatre near you? Don’t be surprised.

“The Wonder” practically begs to become a movie, and for good reason: as she’s done in many of her past novels, author Emma Donoghue takes a snip of something true (yes, there were real Fasting Girls throughout history) and spins a tale around it – in this case, a possible murder, set in Victorian Ireland. While readers of Sherlockian whodunits will relish that, the alternate (and perhaps larger) appeal is in Donoghue’s main character, a no-nonsense, self-assured woman who becomes someone else before us, as the story unspools.

Add in a hint of magic that seems, even to some of its characters, to be terribly out of place and you’ve got a novel that grabs you good, and an ending that’s purely perfect.

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Your real estate agent matters

Buying or selling a home can be a long and difficult process. Sometimes there’s a snag in your financing or the entire sale falls through due to some minor detail. Dealing with lenders, inspections, and all the paperwork involved in the purchase of a home can also be confusing, especially for those who have never bought a house before.

During the entire process, though, you should always have an ally by your side. Your real estate agent is someone who will guide you through the process, answering every question you have and assisting you with every task that must be done before you’re a new homeowner. Working with your agent should help to alleviate stress, but if you’re working with someone you’re not comfortable with, it can actually increase the amount of stress you’re dealing with.

Working with an agent who seems to intuitively understand what you need makes the entire buying process much, much easier.

Sometimes the process is made easier just by them displaying common sense. For example, if you have several children, seeing homes that only have one bathroom or only two bedrooms may be a waste of your time. Good agents will highlight homes that have goodsized backyards for kids to play in or that offer plenty of space for families to grow. Any agent can take your list of needs and match it with some houses, but not all of those properties are going to be right for you. A

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ARIES March 20–April 19 The closer you are to someone, the more likely becoming dependent will be. While friendship means togetherness, you could end up smothering certain people. Stay in check and have confidence. No one is running away, but some need more space. Take time off in order to keep friendships fresh and fascinating TAURUS Apr 20–May 20 With an abundance of tasks to complete, the best method is to push like a boss! Don’t let distractions stump progress, especially when so much is at stake. A goal must be accomplished, but a sense of duty could be holding you back. Do the right thing, but don’t be afraid to ask the tough questions of others.

GEMINI May 21–June 20 Nothing is more intrusive to you than bossy people. Even if good ideas come from them, an opportunity to learn could be lost. Don’t let pride stop you from learning. In fact, staying

great agent is able to tell from your personality which ones will work.

You also need to find an agent that knows the type of house you’re looking for. For example, there are some agents who specialize in older homes. If you want to purchase a house in a historic neighborhood, you may want to seek out one of these experts. They have often spent time researching the history of the area. They can give you information about what particular regulations apply to owning a home in a neighborhood that has been declared historic. Many of these agents even live in older homes themselves.

If you’re looking to live in a specific neighborhood, you also want to have an agent who understands that neighborhood’s particulars.

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If you’re selling your home, having a great agent is just as important. You want an agent you know is going to go the extra mile to sell your home. Your agent should be willing to be honest with you about the state of your house. You want someone who will look at all of the small issues with your home and tell you exactly how they will impact its sell-

focused is the best way to demonstrate resolve and earn respect. While admiration isn’t required, it helps in boosting confidence.

CANCER June 21–July 22 conflicting opinion has you questioning the validity of a deep seeded belief. Even if faith has not always been a trusted guide, it has never let you down. The best way to proceed is by prioritize beliefs that matter most, and stop worrying about the rest. The only true choice is whether to be good or delightfully bad.

LEO July 23–August 22 Treasure could be found in someone you cherish very much.

Love isn’t something that comes easily, but deep fondness can provide a lot of good times. The past has a way of conditioning, so learn to let go of methods that don’t work anymore. Fear and suspicion is a default position, but love is worth the risk.

VIRGO August 23–Sep. 22 A dwindling desire to hang out with a good friend stems from a sense of boredom. This would be a nice time for diversity and trying something new. Apply for a different job or meet an online friend for the first time. Life is pretty good right

ing price. You need someone who is going to honestly tell you when he or she thinks your listing price is wrong.

You also want to work with an agent who has a great eye for detail and creativity. He or she can point out places where your home could be improved or staged differently in order to bring in more interested buyers. He or she should point out spaces that are too dark or look too crowded and work with you to determine how to best present those areas.

If you’re a member of the LGBT community, working with an agent who identifies as gay or lesbian can help put you at ease.

These real estate agents understand the specific needs of the LGBT community and can help you find a home that meets those needs. Local real estate agents can be found in the Marketplace section (page 44) of this magazine and the QPages Directory, available at qpages.com and at 300 locations along the Wasatch Front. For a national search, try GayRealEstate.com. These resources will help you find a professional no matter where you live or want to move.

Working with a great real estate agent makes buying or selling your home a much easier process and, in some cases, can even make it a fun process. On the other hand, working with someone who seems disinterested in your needs or who simply doesn’t understand what you want can make everything much worse. Q

now, but there’s always room for change and improvement. Go out and play.

tomorrow. Realize that today is actually pretty good

LIBRA Sept 23–October 22 No one sets out to lose their mind, but some friends feel you’ve intended to do just that. Figure out what is troublesome and make changes. The hardest task is cutting things most cherished. But there is indeed a greener side to be found. Stop settling for second best and enjoy by making some progress..

CAPRICORN Dec 21–Jan 19 Head toward a safe place and spend time with someone you love or trust. Family members aren’t the best ones to confide in now, so seek out objectivity. Everything you have worked for will either pay off big, or fizzle out in an instant. The result depends on your willingness to rely on logic and reason for a change.

SCORPIO Oct. 23–Nov. 21 Take a break from the things you enjoy. The reset button of life is found inside you and it’s time to push it. There is a capacity to do some really great things, but it’s time to let go of some bad habits. A mental malfunction could be a real problem, so don’t try doing anything that could lead to embarrassment..

AQUARIUS Jan. 20–Feb. 18 Knock out important work and don’t procrastinate. It may seem tempting to put off a dreaded task, but a lot of distractions are headed your way.

Sometimes the straight and narrow path is the correct one, but make sure you’re hitting the right target. There is a lot that can go wrong simply by not looking out.

SAGITTARIUS Nov. 22–December 20.

Something amazing is always on the horizon. It may grow tiresome waiting for life to get better, and there is a lot to enjoy right now. Take time with your family and friends, and the company will provide a path to feeling better. Stop the trend of waiting for

PISCES Feb 19–Mar 19 The temptation to run and hide could be very strong. Anxiety runs high by caring too much. It is good to have empathy, but for your sake, identify whether you have the power to change things that are bothersome. If action is possible, take it. But realize that there are some situations that are bigger than your will. Q

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screen queen Fall 2016 movies on the small screen

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

A TASTE OF HONEY Remember 1961?

The world was straighter then.

There was no Will, no Grace. No Ellen, either. So, it’s no surprise films from this era had to eschew queerness. When British New Wave delight A Taste of Honey stirred the pot with its explicit-for-the-time portrayal of a groundbreaking gay character named Geoffrey (Murray Melvin), who gets chummy with fellow outsider Jo (Rita Tushingham), it was a landmark for both the film and for the future of LGBT cinema. Geoffrey is sympathetic to Jo’s situation: Her selfish, socialite mother is too busy pursuing male suitors to invest an iota of attention in her daughter. First, Jo finds refuge in a black sailor named Jimmy — his race leading to contention in one of the film’s controversial subplots — and then Geoffrey, whose homosexuality piques her curious, guileless mind (“I’ve always wanted to know about people like you”), who’s “just like a big sister” to her and whom she relishes because “I always want to have you with me because I know you’ll never ask anything from me.” Openly non-hetero portrayals in cinema weren’t, obviously, a reality in the ’60s. Of course, later, we’d celebrate many gay characters in films such as Brokeback Mountain and Weekend, but thanks to a newly restored Blu-ray edition of A Taste of Honey from Criterion Collection, today’s nonconformists can experience a seminal moment in LGBT cinema history, a gauge of just how far we queers have come on the screen. Don’t forget to tune into the extras, which include Melvin’s illuminating remarks about using mere context clues to depict Geoffrey’s sexuality. “I always say I was the start of gay pride,” he says. “It’s old gown to me, honey. It was on my shoulder and I’m very proud of it.”

Certainly, he should be.

EVERYBODY WANTS SOME!!

Let’s hear it for the boys who don denim cutoffs and romp around the locker-room and spank each other. It’s all so casual — a

suggestive position, a couple of perky nipples, a guy with a donk so juicy other guys can’t help but admire it too. And that’s the charm of Everybody Wants Some!!, the gayest nongay movie since everything James Franco has made in the last five years. Like vintage porn without the man-on-man sexy time, director Richard Linklater’s irresistible throwback teems with the kind of bro-y homoeroticism you lap up at your local gym. Maybe it’s the source material: jocks, the ’80s, years of mounting gay subtext like that volleyball scene in Top Gun. Surely, Everybody Wants Some!! is one big and very welcome cock tease, but because Linklater is an accomplished filmmaker — it doesn’t get much better than his groundbreaking film Boyhood — this wonderfully amusing and adjacently gay frat film is more than male-gazing. In the lead role is Glee star Blake Jenner, as puppy-eyed Jake, a high school pitcher entering his freshman year of college and experiencing the typical first-year intimidation from his teammates.

It’s not long before those same teammates, who razz him for being new and without their pervy streak, learn that even a college newbie can have a few tricks up his sleeve.

For more boys being boys and acting just gay enough to make you think you have a chance with them, check out the special features, which include a tease-y blooper reel. And because life is good, there’s a behind-the-scenes feature on how they found “that groove in their pelvis.”

CARRIE If you saw the original Carrie in 1976, you know how greatly it resonated with the queer population — so much so that one gay filmmaker even remade it for the #ItGetsBetter era. Nearly four decades after Stephen King’s book first became a film, Boys Don’t Cry out director Kimberly Peirce resurrected the classic revenge tale in 2013, though so innocuously she may as well have left it alone. Carrie didn’t need a remake. This 40th Anniversary Collec-

tor’s Edition reminds us why. For one: the spooky yet wholly empathetic Sissy Spacek.

As “Creepy Carrie,” her name according to one young neighborhood prick, Spacek inhabits Carrie’s complicated being with pathos and utter horror, making the film’s protagonist a frightful presence and a pillar of outsider empowerment. High school humiliation and her mother’s constant Jesus-led condemnation come to a head on prom night, when Carrie lets her telekinesis rage into a fullblown blood bath. You know the scene.

The pig’s blood. The car wreck involving a young John Travolta. Then what follows: the showdown with her mother (played by the wonderfully nutty Piper Laurie). In all its gory glory and queer resonance, and executed with surprising grace, Carrie did to proms and periods what Nightmare on Elm Street did to dreams. The mayhem lives on courtesy of Shout! Factory, with a stacked edition honoring its nearly half-century reign. Included among the supplemental materials: a peek at the film’s musical version and rare photos. But most satisfying are the ample interviews, featuring Spacek and director Brian De Palma, that thoroughly explore Carrie from inception through its reboot-sparking legacy.

Also Out INGRID BERGMAN: IN HER OWN WORDS What might Ingrid Bergman’s life have been like if she hadn’t become a screen legend? That question looms throughout fellow Swede and director Stig Björkman’s 2015 documentary, culled from diaries, letters, film clips and home movies. The doc serves as both a celebratory and humanizing homage to Bergman, who went from Sweden to Italy to Hollywood to build her film empire, finding remarkable success while also yearning “to be free.” And so the Casablanca heroine was, prioritizing film over family, pursuing romance despite controversy and, eventually, breaking out of the box Hollywood put her in. Björkman’s doc is intimate, moving and melancholic,

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touching on the most interesting facets of Bergman’s romances and legendary filmography. But matched with a gentle score from Michael Nyman and Alicia Vikander’s voiceover narration, and through interviews with the icon’s children, including Isabella Rossellini, the bittersweetness of “what could’ve been” permeates the fleeting flash of every family photo.

Seven minutes of additional home movies are included among the recently released Criterion package, along with extra scenes and a music video for the emotional endcredits song, “The Movie About Us.”

SING STREET John Carney is coming for your tears again. After bringing together a pair of Irish musicians in Once and testing our very emotional well-being every time “Falling Slowly” played in a public setting, the director / writer gleans music from the ’80s, as Sing Street follows a group of friends who assemble a band as one does when you’re young and aspiring to “babe magnet” status. Rock ’n’ roll, though, becomes salvation as the band’s leader singer, Conor “Cosmo” Lalor (Ferdia Walsh-Peelo), navigates adolescent strife:

his parents’ divorce, bullying and identity issues. Featuring tunes by Duran Duran and The Cure, and a closing number by Adam Levine, who speaks about the track during the disc’s too-few extras, Sing Street is a warm love letter to the transcendent power of music.

HELLO, MY NAME IS DORIS Queer ally and mom-to-a-gay-son Sally Field works her onscreen magic in Hello, My Name Is Doris as a delightfully wonky golden girl whose life is in shambles after her mother dies. Her husband’s dead too, so Doris is in a hard place. Imagine your grandma having make-out fantasies about 20-something men and participating in the “LGBT Knitting Committee” — that’s Doris, and Doris, despite recent hardships, is determined to live her best damn life.

So, Doris crushes on a much younger coworker (beware: after this, you will never think of a medicine ball as just a medicine ball) and, in another age-defying moment, jams out amid hipsters to a fictional altrock band featuring fun.’s Jack Antonoff.

Because she’s Sally Field, you adore her in her charming, frantic, cat-lady state even if you can’t quite cherish this slight dramedy

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the same way. Deleted scenes and a commentary from director Michael Showalter are among the special features.

NEIGHBORS 2 James’ younger, handsomer brother Dave Franco, who famously jumpstarted his career by sodomizing himself for Funny or Die, keeps the family tradition of gayness going. In Neighbors 2, Franco helps put a refreshing bend on the Seth Rogenstarring stoner comedy Neighbors, reprising his role as Zac Efron’s BFF, but with this surprising revelation: He’s gay and has a fiancé, Darren (John Early). Efron’s thirst trap of a bod is, obviously, reason enough to see this sequel, which somehow manages to tackle gender politics, growing pains and the messy line between gay guys and the merely bromantic. And stay for the same-sex wedding. Who knew a premise this rooted in bros and boozing could also be this sweetly homo-hued? Extras are less gay, though your queer sensibilities certainly won’t mind a funny deleted scene featuring a shirtless Efron and a bunch of boys in crop-tops.

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10-ish Horror movie hardbodies to die for

BY MIKEY ROX

Every

horror movie spectator chooses one character as soon as the story starts to unfold that they hope will make it out alive — and for us gays, it’s usually the one who’s most physically appealing. We know full well they’ll be among the first to meet the business end of a machete, meat hook, saw, pitchfork, [enter your weapon of choice here] about halfway through (after sufficient skin time on screen, of course), but that doesn’t deter us from pining for them any less. It’s what make us, us.

Here, I’ve compiled some of the more memorable scary-movie standouts — some still alive and kickin’ by the end, some six feet under — to remind us all just how precious life is when there’s a killer on the loose, especially when you have a pretty face.

THE CAST OF THE COVENANT It only took a decade for Hollywood to deliver the male equivalent of The Craft, and The Covenant didn’t disappoint — so long as you judge this proverbial book by its cover and not its content, anyway. The movie’s main characters — all too-cool-for-school, pre-Gossip Girl-esque locker jocks (one of whom, Chace Crawford, would actually fulfill that destiny a year later) — spend so time emerging from swimming pools and standing around dripping wet in their Speedos (between casting spells and killing people, of course) that you don’t even notice how bad the film really is. Alas, the guys’ combined powers couldn’t save this dud from a 3-percent rating on Rotten Tomatoes, ranking No. 31 on the site’s “Worst of the Worst,” but their svelte, college-bound torsos still got 10s across the board.

hibited serious lack of judgment in his choice of mentally compromised companions. As a result, he was dragged through his own mattress by Freddy Krueger’s iconic claws before being splattered across his bedroom ceiling in an eruption of blood — leaving you scarred for life for the past 30 years.

3. JENNA JAMESON We all know Jenna Jameson from a different genre of film — which, if I’m honest here, has horror elements all its own — but I have to give props to the “Queen of Porn” for making a legitimate attempt at going mainstream. It hasn’t always been a smooth ride for the most famous adult film star of all time, especially when you consider her role in 2008’s comically low-budget Zombie Killers, but she gets the last laugh: Jameson has amassed a net worth of $30 million, much of which was made lying down on the job.

4. MIKE VOGEL You knew Mike Vogel — he of incredible ass-dom (which explains how his career got the jump off as a Levi’s model) — wasn’t making it out of Leatherface’s clutches alive in 2003’s remake of The Texas Chainsaw Massacre. On his return trip from Mexico to buy weed with his friends — a decision that only added insult to injury (drugs are bad, kids!) — the group was intercepted by one of horror’s ultimate villains by whom his leg was expeditiously chopped off before he was impaled on a meat hook to dry out like a bag of beef jerky.

5. MATT BOMER This flick, a prequel to 2003’s Texas Chainsaw Massacre — DOA among critics and fans alike — was the adorable Bomer’s second appearance on film after Flightplan, starring Jodie Foster. Despite succumbing to a chainsaw up the groin halfway through the movie, Bomer managed to grab screen time until the end — as Leatherface’s freshly skinned mask.

6. SELMA HAYEK Queen vampire Santanico Pandemonium, played by Selma Hayek in director Robert Rodriguez’s bloodbath of a cult hit From Dusk Till Dawn, wreaks havoc in more places than the movie’s Titty Twister strip club — like that special spot where lewd and lascivious intersect in every lesbian’s love box.

2. JOHNNY DEPP

7. JAY HERNANDEZ

Before Johnny Depp’s career took a sharp right toward cinema’s quintessential character actor, he played boy-next-door types who fancied crop-topped football jerseys and ex-

Impossibly good-looking Jay Hernandez barely made it out alive in director Eli Roth’s torture-porn magnum opus Hostel — sans a few fingers — and serves just deserts

to the Dutch Businessman bent on keeping the Elite Hunting Club’s devious secrets safe. But despite surviving the hellish events of the first film, Hernandez reprises his role briefly in Hostel 2 before losing his head — literally — in the first five minutes.

8. RYAN PHILLIPPE Phillippe, well-to-do and -on-the-eyes resident bad boy of I Know What You Did Last Summer (which, along with its ’90s predecessor Scream, reinvigorated the slasher genre for a whole new generation), made homo boys in theaters across the country wiggle in their seats — less for his dramatic stabbing during the annual Croaker Pageant and more for the locker-room scene where we were all treated to a little towel bulge and a generous helping of that terry-clothed ass.

9. CHRISTIAN BALE Listen, if you’re going to be hunted down by a naked chainsaw-wielding maniac, it might as well be a buff-as-ever Christian Bale.

You know, right after he gets done satisfying your carnal proclivities and smackin’ you around a bit while he admires his own biceps. Best Saturday night you’ve ever had.

10. THE ENTIRE CAST OF MTV’S TEEN WOLF OK, so MTV’s Teen Wolf isn’t a movie, but what it lacks in tight feature-length characterization and storytelling it more than makes up for in tight torso-ed supernatural creatures masquerading as students. Tyler Posey and Tyler Hoechlin, Dylan O’Brien and the Carver Twins all have proven themselves worthy of fanboy swoons, but at least in this article let’s all hail out-and-proud Colton Haynes, who became an object of our collective affection (for two seasons at least) as lacrosse team bully Jackson Whittemore — who can body check us any day. Q Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBT lifestyle expert whose work has been published in more than 100 outlets across the world. He’s on Twitter @mikeyrox.

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Living ‘Life Elevated’ without STDs

BY PETER STOKER

If you haven’t heard already, then where on earth have you been? People in Utah have sex … a lot. It’s no surprise to many due to the number of minivans, large families and Costco memberships. Sex is one of the forbidden “S” words we don’t talk about in this state, which does us no good by ignoring the issue. Sex is a risky act in and of itself. Throw into the mix alternative types of sex and multiple people and you’ve got a perfect recipe for disease transmission. As the old adage says: An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.

As I look at reports of STDs each week it doesn’t surprise me to see that gonorrhea is on the rise. Each week it goes a little higher, reaching toward the top. What does that mean?

That means that many people (men, women, adults, teens) are getting infected and not learning preventative skills. Merely because you had had gonorrhea, or any other STD, doesn’t mean you are now miraculously immune to the infection in the future. You can get be infected every month forever if you continue to expose yourself to the infection. People do this all the time by having the same partner that doesn’t get treated, having multiple partners who also have multiple partners; creating what’s called

a sexual web, or not receiving proper treatment, therefore not getting rid of the infection.

Gonorrhea, as well as many other STDs, can infect multiple sites within your body. Gonorrhea and chlamydia can infect your throat, urinary tract, or rectum; therefore you must get a test done for each of these sites, otherwise you might get a false negative. HPV, Herpes, Scabies, and Syphilis can be transmitted via skin-to-skin contact. So you see that if you only urinate in a cup to test for STDs you could receive a false result; you might have an infection in a different part of your body. Therefore you could pass the infection unknowingly to your next partner. If your partner says that they recently had an STD and you have no symptoms, it’s still wise to get tested. Many people don’t initially show symptoms and live with an infection for months without knowing.

The only way that one can be certain they aren’t infected with an STD is to abstain from sex for a period of three to six months and get tested in all sites in order to get an accurate result and then use protection until all parties have been tested and treated. Being monogamous and using protection help fight the rise of STDs as well. If you’re a sexually active person then you should be getting tested for STDs every three to six months.

If you have any questions about what STD tests you should take, don’t hesitate to contact the Salt Lake County Health Department’s STD clinic at 385-468-4242 or by visiting slco.org/health. Q

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Greatest drag queens ever

BY PRINCESS KENNEDY

A herstory

lesson for the young and ill-

informed.

Recently I was on everybody’s favorite source for irritating news — Facebook — and came across the most irritating news story. It a was some little young millennial from some millennial online zine who put out the top 10 greatest drag queens of all time. I could not have been more irritated, except for when Kylie Jenner said she started the wig thing, uggggggg!

In the author’s list there were nine drag queens, seven of whom didn’t even come close to the honor of being graced with such a title and one well-respected transsexual. As a person who was once a drag queen that now identifies trans, this was highly offensive, but we’ll get into that later.

In this column, for the sake of space, I will talk about queens who I think you should know with some brief information that, in my humble opinion, you should know. There are literally hundreds to note, so please don’t hate if there is someone you think I missed but I will cover much ground in my attempt to give a list of the All Time Greatest Drag Personalities Ever!

Let’s start with a brief history, shall we?

Let’s time-twerk back 8–10 thousand years ago to the father of the glamorous King Tut, AKHENATEN. Was she a drag queen? Who can say, even I’m not that old, but Tut had to get it from somewhere!

Akhenaten certainly acted like one, causing lots of controversy and being declared one of the most notable of history. Casein-point: she had all of her statues made to have all the appearances of a woman, including breasts. I mean, come on girl, if someone was making your statue, wouldn’t you be like, “Less nose more bewbs!”

JOAN OF ARC: yas King. We don’t segregate here at Q-mag, oh no! When I say drag I include the boi-ladies with the lady-boys. Yes, the fearless defender of the Catholic Church and its right to hate everyone equally donned the armor of her male counterparts in the fight for said

rights, but in that sad Brokeback Mountain scenario, it didn’t end too well for her.

Of course I’m being trite but when we use phrases such as “all time,” one would need to think past the girls on RuPaul’s Drag Race. On the aforementioned author’s article is seven RPDR stars and “greatest of all time” they ain’t, although SHARON NEEDLES is quite amazing. The fact that didn’t she didn’t have RAJA leads me to believe that she wrote her article purely off her young gay BFFs telling her, “you know who’s totally amazing?!” The other three are spot on, sort of.

Number one was RU hermself, I mean the bitch just won an Emmy, BOKAY— tongue-pop! RuPaul has been a leader in

this genre and there is no denying that, breaking down the barriers the way she has is ... well, pretty great.

Last on the list was JACKIE BEAT, a singer, songwriter and actually a voice over artist from Los Angeles. She said she was last on the list cuz she’s, like, 250 years old and deserves better than that!

Somewhere in the middle of this child’s top 10 was CANDIS CAYNE who, yes, was once a drag queen, but is now more of a chanteuse who performs her magic in front of hundreds of gays in West Hollywood. So I guess, technically, she should be recognized, but then we have to mention the trans girls that once were pretty fucking great like; VICKY MARLENE (joined the circus sideshow to escape her small town in the ’40s to dance the hoochie and now has a street named after her in SF), MARTHA P WASHINGTON (started PHOTO: LEIGH BOWERY

Stonewall riots), HOLLY WOODLAWN, VERONICA KLAUS, JUSTIN BOND (Short Bus) and the dearly departed ALEXIS ARQUETTE. From here on out, I will give names and maybe a bit of info for some queens, but it’s up to you, the reader, to do your own research and find your beloved favorites.

Let’s head back 100 years. Locally, we had Brigham Young’s eldest and namesake son (he founded Mutual) the great MADAM PATTIRINI. JULIAN ELTINGE was one of the first of drag kings and starred in many a film with the likes of Mae West and Rudolph Valentino. Flash to the 1930s and there was BARBETT, an absolutely stunning drag performer/aerialist/force/ toast of Europe (think Victor/Victoria amazing Jean Harlow Impersonator).

The great CHARLES PIERCE is who your parents will think of when they think drag. Her career in the 70s was the stereotypical ‘female impersonator’ role. She did all the old greats like Betty Davis, Joan Crawford, Mae West, Talula Bankhead, etc.

As we flash thru time we get to LEIGH BOWERY and DIVINE who came in and changed the game. I swear to god, if one one more child with disturbing, abstract makeup on says to me, “who’s Leigh Bowery?” I will beat them with the ugly stick they painted that fucked-up face with.

I could fill this entire issue with the who’s and why’s and what’s they did, but alas, in no particular order are queens you should know who da fuq they are because they are great and talented and without them there would be no Ru Paul Drag Stars!

LADY BUNNY, HEKLINA, JUANITA MOORE, GLAMAMORE, THE STEVE LADY, PIPPI LOVESTOCKING, UTA HAGEN, LIPSYNKA, JOEY ARIAS, FLOTILLA DEBARGE, JAYNE COUNTY, JER BER JONES, BEVERLY LASALLE, RACHEL HARLOW, MISS GUY, VINSANTOS, PEACHES CHRIST, MS ANA MATRONIC, FAUXNIQUE, TOOTSIE, FLLOYD, SQUEAKY BLONDE, BEA DAZZLER, MISTRESS FORMIKA, MISS COCO PERU (drop this and go watch her play grand theft auto on YouTube), CRYSTAL WATERS, WENDY WILD, TABOO, DINI MARTINI, GIRLINA, and many X100 more.

RuPaul did not invent this wheel, and for every queen I just mentioned there are five or more in every city that was or is the greatest drag queen ever! Q

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the perils of petunia pap smear

This story leaves us with several important questions: 1. Do you think that my Dame Edna fashion eyeglasses clouded my judgement of the preview?

2. Does time actually warp between the small screen and the big screen?

3. If I had not called the paramedics, do you think the ice skating twink could have survived the intimate encounter with my Rotundas Bodundus?

4. Should I re-name my right breasticle Krakatoa, and the left one Vesuvius?

5. Should I make volcano tits my new image?

6. Whatever should I use for the lava?

7. Similar to the secrecy of magic statute in the Harry Potter books, should we initiate a secrecy of porn statute, keeping gay porn away from the Muggles?

These and other eternal questions shall be answered in future chapters of the Perils of Petunia Pap Smear. Q

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shy boy moving to a big city for the first time, joining a fraternity and eventually coming out of the closet.

In preparation for the festival, Tim and I previewed each movie to ensure we would not be showing something too racy for the Logan audience to handle. We both recalled that Issues 101 was a cute, feel-good story that would be a nice fit for the university community.

The show time for Issues 101 arrived. The audience was made up of a varied sprinkling of the LGBTQ community of Cache Valley, and then there was this mother and father, unknown to all of us, escorting their teenage son. After the family had entered the auditorium, Tim and I looked at each other trying to remember if there was any nudity in this movie. It had been about a year since we had previewed it and we couldn’t remember. The family chose seats that were halfway down and on the left of the audience.

Tim and I sat in the back row.

Our eyes locked on the family.

The movie began, innocent enough, but about 15 minutes in there was a fraternity initiation scene where they blindfolded the lead actor, wearing only a jockstrap, and had him give a blow job to the frat president. I guess that when we previewed the movie on a 27-inch television, the scene wasn’t all that memorable. But on the large screen, his balls were two feet across, his dick was nine feet long, and the ass sticking out of that jockstrap was as large as Mount Everest, filling up the entire screen. An innocent family was viewing all our deepest darkest secrets in public. Oh god!

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to Logan is fraught with danger and excitement and memories.

Last month I was privileged to attend the Logan Gay Pride Festival. Wow, was I impressed.

It was much larger than I ever anticipated (I almost got the vapors), and I thought it was very well organized, with something to appeal to almost everybody.

I know I should have been a jealous bitch because there were some pretty fierce drag queens present, but I was just overcome with joy at their success.

When I first learned about the event, I saw that it was being billed as “the first ever” Logan Gay Pride Day. I felt the need to gently remind the organizers that the Gay and Lesbian Alliance of Cache Valley organized Gay Pride Days in 1995 and ’96, held on the Taggart Student Center patio on the Utah State University campus. My excuse for forgetting things is that I’m a senile old queen. Of course, in a university town like Logan, institutional memory only lasts four years. Therefore, in the intervening 20 years there have been five new generations of community leaders over which the memories of past accomplishments by the queens of yesteryear have been lost to that great trash bin of makeup remover.

In conjunction with the Gay Pride Day in 1995, Tim Keller also organized a fantastic Gay and Lesbian Film Festival at the Taggart Student Center Auditorium that lasted an entire week, which we named Pride Fest that included about 15 movies that otherwise would never have come anywhere close to Logan.

A most memorable movies was called Issues 101, the tale of a

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that they didn’t run right up to the police officer and make a complaint. They came up to Tim and I and the mother said, “Well, if you were going to show porn, the least you could do was show good porn. To which we all giggled ... and I shit my pants!

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BY PETUNIA PAP SMEAR

Tim whispered to me, “Should I run upstairs and have the projectionist turn it off?” I replied that the damage has already been done. The entire audience was stone silent. All that could be heard was the greatly amplified slurping sound of the blow job echoing around the room as the scene went on, and on, and on. I gripped the armrests so tightly that my Lee Press-on Nails popped off with such energy that they became flying missiles throughout the theater. Where was the premature ejaculator when you really needed him?

Each and every separate thrust of the blow job was equivalent to a full scale eruption of Mount Vesuvius destroying Pompeii, or Krakatoa destroying Java, or that one time when I fell on top of a poor unfortunate twink while trying to ice skate in Logan’s Central Park. Still, no one moved. The family just sat there stone still.

Finally that scene ended and the rest of the movie was much less eventful. I began to relax a little bit, thinking we may have just dodged a bullet.

As the movie let out, Tim and I went to the lobby to greet the audience. And there, standing in all his sexy uniformed glory was a Utah State University police officer, “keeping the peace.” As the family emerged from the auditorium, I was greatly relieved

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