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celebrate the 50th anniversary of the Stonewall riots that happened at a little gay drag dive bar in Greenwich Village, New York, we are thankful for those who finally sparked our movement for civil rights. While some people formed groups and tried for decades with limited success to reason with the world that our community was made up of good people, a quiet summer night in Manhattan was turned on its ear when a small group of angry homosexuals and drag queens stood up against continued persecution and wrongful prosecution. They righteously rebelled, revolted and rioted.

They said, with words and actions, “No more.”

A half-century later, gay Americans are much less likely to live in dark closets or gather in secret places. We are the mentors and mayors of our towns. We have not just survived, but thrived. We are not apart from our communities, we are a part of them. Our meeting places and bars are on Main Street. We publish mainstream magazines, serve in our nation’s armed forces, and lawfully marry others of our same sex. We hold our own parades.

Still, we are not home free.

As we applaud our achievements and celebrate our victories, there are still contests to fight, and battles to be won.

Bullying has not come to an end. Advocacy for the Neanderthal policy of gay conversion therapy still has a voice. Equal rights in workplaces have not won universal legal success. We

are just beginning to recognize the wrongs we have for too long inflicted upon the transgender community. All of us still have to fight a never-ending battle against those who still deny and discriminate against our dignity.

Of course, LGBT America has come a long way. Today, we fight AIDS, not people with AIDS. We pass laws that protect us from persecution. We have International gay games and worldwide Prides. But lest we forget, gays are still hung in Kenya, tortured in Eastern Europe and jailed in Saudi Arabia. Transgender people, especially those of color are being murdered here, in our country and around the world. We can find comfort in our lives, to be sure. But we can never stand for complacency. We can never acquiesce to abuse.

Our duty as we move forward with our lives is to remember one fundamental principle: that while some of us are celebrating by the shore, many of us are still drowning in the ocean. We can’t let our lives become apathetic; our voices become silent.

We cannot ever afford, as a community, to forget our past.

We must jealously guard our rights and assert our principles.

Those who seek to turn back the clock must know we will march proudly, speak firmly, and fight furiously to maintain our place at the table. Never let them think we’ve forgotten how to huck a stone.

We are making much more progress today with the help of allies than with throwing cobblestones. Our Prides can be open, embracing, and welcoming rather than angry, accusing and hateful. They can be a riot in a fun way. Q

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The top national and world news since last issue you should know

BY CRAIG OGAN

Mayor Pete tops president It’s a little early for a victory lap, but Mayor Pete beats the incumbent president in the well-thought-of Quinnipiac 2020 Presidential Match-up Poll, winning 47 to 42 percent.

Other Democrats running also beat the incumbent. Buttigieg is polling well among most demographics and surprisingly well among African-American voters, a key demographic where heretofore he has not found much support.

Research in Canada reveals that suicide has surpassed HIV as the leading cause of death among gay and bisexual men.

Though HIV mortality rates had been declining for years, suicide rates remained stable.

In 2007 the lines crossed and suicide surpassed HIV as the leading cause of death with the difference being now twice as many deaths from suicide as from HIV. The survey points to “Minority Stress” if a man stays “closeted.” The stress is felt even if the man is “out,” says the study, because there is the stress of conforming to cultural norms of “gay life”.

DA Domestic Violence Craig Northcott, a district attorney in Tennessee is being asked to resign his office for statements made while running for the office in 2018.

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In a discussion about domestic violence involving married same-sex couples, he said he wouldn’t prosecute because he doesn’t agree with the 2015 Supreme Court marriage equality ruling. He made an arcane legal argument about prosecuting any domestic violence, as it had an effect on the right to bear arms. He said he had prosecutorial discretion so he’d decline to prosecute most domestic violence cases. Northcott also is quoted a writing that Islam is “evil, violent and against God’s truth” and that being Muslim is no different than “being part of the KKK, Aryan Nation, etc.”

Caster in love A South African runner, Caster Semenya, has been embroiled with the sport’s regulation of the testosterone level in amateur female athletes. She has a very high, natural production

of testosterone which has caused increased bone density and “male-like” muscle development and endurance. She has been repeatedly tested and examined but always allowed to compete. Her lawyers say the Swiss Supreme Court has ordered track’s governing body to suspend its testosterone regulations. The two-time Olympic 800-meter champion can now run in her favored event without suppressing her natural testosterone level.

She just announced she is in a relationship with another female athlete.

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Star of David banned by ‘Dykes’ The Washington D.C. Dyke March is being criticized for banning rainbow flags with the Star of David on them. The flag proved controversial at the Chicago Dyke March in 2017.

The DC organizers said that they banned all “nationalist symbols” and specifically flags of “nations that have specific oppressive tendencies.” They said Israel, the only country in the Middle East with marriage equality and non-discrimination laws (Hell, the only one that does not throw gay people off of rooftops) oppressed Palestinians and so the flag was not allowed in the Parade. Defending charges of anti-Semitism, the Dykes told the Washington Blade, “We welcome yarmulkes, tallitot, tefillin, rainbow pomegranates, Lions of Judah, Hamsas, chai, a menorah and anything that doesn’t directly replicate nationalist images and symbols.”

YouTube just can’t please everyone YouTube will not enforce its anti-harassment policies against comedian and conservative commentator Steven Crowder, who has been mocking gay journalist Carlos Maza’s race and sexual orientation for two years. Maza is not happy, Tweeting, “@YouTube has decided that targeted racist and homophobic harassment does not violate its policies against hate speech or harassment. That’s an absolutely batshit policy that gives bigots

free license.” He didn’t like Crowder writing Maza was “An anchor baby, a lispy queer, a Mexican”. Though YouTube didn’t take Crowder down it “demonetized” him. He can’t sell his popular tee shirt with the slogan a “socialism is for fags” or charge a commercial rate for click delivery.

Boston Straight Pride goes gay Super Happy Fun America, which sounds like a Japanese game show, is really a bunch of straight Boston men who have convinced city officials to greenlight a “straight pride” parade. They wanted to use Brad Pitt as their mascot, calling him “the face of this important civil rights movement.” The “civil right” was not mentioned. Pitt threatened to sue so they’ve turned to gay Internet troll Milo Yiannopoulos as their mascot, which makes no sense, but then, neither does “Straight Pide.”

Don’t be a douche According to a study published in the Journal of Sexually Transmitted Infections, rectal douching might increase the odds of contracting HIV and other STIs — including hepatitis, chlamydia, and gonorrhea.

Researchers state that douching before sex can damage the lining of the rectum, which leads to an increased risk of transmission due to indirect entry into the bloodstream. Twenty of the studies were particularly focused on the association between douching and HIV transmission. They found that men who practiced rectal douching were nearly three times as likely to contract HIV.

Some Pride in Diplomacy US embassies have been ordered not to fly the Rainbow Flag on the official embassy

flag pole. The Vice President said it was because the Stars and Stripes is the only flag allowed. That didn’t stop embassies from showing Pride support. Some embassies are ignoring the directive, while others are getting more creative. In New Delhi, the building was illuminated with rainbow-colored lights.

In Jerusalem, U.S. diplomats tweeted photos of themselves at the local March for Pride and Tolerance. Seoul, S Korea; Santiago, Chile, and Vienna all appear to be flying the Rainbow flag.

No “Rocketman” in Samoa, Russia, N Korea The South Pacific island nation of Samoa joins Russia and many Middle Eastern countries in banning the Elton John biopic Rocketman from cinemas. Samoa’s official censor objected to scenes that were “not good for public viewing.”

The censor gave the movie a good review, though, “It’s a good story, in that it’s about an individual trying to move on in life,” he said. “He (Elton John) went through a difficult family life and managed to move on and become very successful.

But there are acts that are not good for public viewing and against the law.” Russia deleted the sex scenes from the movie, proving everybody is a critic.

English Poet A “lost” love poem by celebrated British poet Siegfried Sassoon, written to his boyfriend Glen Byam Shaw, has been found and published. Sassoon was writing to his age-inappropriate boyfriend. Shaw became one of Great Britain’s early movie stars and later a director, who worked with John Gielgud, Albert Finny and Charles Laughton. The two had spent the night together and Sassoon memorialized it with this poem:

The untitled poem Though you have left me, I’m not yet alone: For what you were befriends the fire lit room; And what you said remains & is my own To make a living gladness of my gloom The firelight leaps & shows your empty chair And all our harmonies of speech are stilled: But you are with me in the voiceless air My hands are empty, but my heart is filled.

Sassoon was a noted WWI poet who was having a writer’s block until he met Shaw and historians think this was the first poem he had written in some years. Sex with a young person will do that to a man.

Pulse National Memorial Proposed Members of Congress from Florida introduced a bill to make the Pulse nightclub location, scene of the worst mass violence against queer people in the USA, a national memorial and Federal landmark. 49 people lost their lives in the early morning shooting the dance club in Orlando in 2016.

The legislation would make the memorial part of the National Park System, but allow onePULSE Foundation to retain control of the memorial’s construction. The foundation unveiled the interim memorial last year. It includes interactive wall exhibits, lighted benches and a steel fence where visitors can leave messages and mementos. The foundation needs to raise $50 million for a permanent facility. Foundation officials recently met with the Mormon Church President who was in Orlando to check on the 297,000 acres of property the church owns in Central Florida, ostensibly for a donation to the cause. Q

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LDS Republican Utah County Commissioner comes out in video “There’s no easy way to say this, I might as well just jump up and say it — I’m gay. That’s my reality and that’s what I need to talk to you about today.”

That’s the start of a 5-minute coming out video by Utah County Commissioner Nathan Ivie on his Facebook page. “I’m as committed today as I have ever been to my faith, family and freedom,” Ivie said in the video. “But I realized I could not continue to live a lie. It wasn’t fair, it wasn’t right for anyone.”

He also said at 9 years old, he “just felt different” because his orientation and attractions were not what was expected of him.

“I believed that there was something wrong with me and I fought from the beginning to find some way to change

myself. That battle resulted in a failed suicide attempt when I was 22 years old,” Ivie said.

“I’ve come to accept while I may be different, I’m still a loving person, worthy of love, who values others and hopes to be valued. I’m as committed today as I’ve ever been to my faith, family and freedom.”

After viewing the video, Salt Lake City Mayor Jackie Biskupski, the first openly gay member of the Utah Legislature, offered support in a tweet that referred to Ivie’s description of how moved he was seeing a gay couple hold hands.

“All the best to you @IvieNathan! I (heart) how a simple act of love among strangers helped you find your truth & that you are being embraced by family and friends!” Biskupski said in her tweet. Q

HS football players’ burning of a gay flag ‘sickens’ coach In June, a couple of players of the Kearns High School football team set fire to a Pride flag, filmed it, and posted it to social media. And someone in the video is heard saying “all gays die.”

The head coach of the football team, Matt Rickards told FOX 13 News, “There’s no place for that in our program at all, and it won’t be tolerated. It’s potentially a hate crime, so it sickens me.”

“Our number one goal is to build men of character, integrity, be responsible, have empathy for others and serve the community for good.

That’s our number one objective,” Rickards said.

The Granite School District is investigating the incident and evaluating what discipline the students will face if deemed necessary, and Rikards is also

considering ramifications from his position as head coach.

“We take any comment, content or social media post that is intended to make any student feel unsafe, very seriously,” said Ben Horsley, a Granite School District Spokesman. “This student’s actions are in no way reflective of the Kearns community and high school. This is an unfortunate reminder that we need parents’ help to monitor children’s use of social media to ensure they use it in a responsible fashion.”

Rickards is also looking into the ramifications from his position as head coach. “We have one rule in our program, and that is not to embarrass yourself, your family or your team,” he said. “That rule was broken. There’s got to be consequences for that.” Q

Austin DeSpain took his two-year-old daughter Madilyn to the Utah Pride Parade last weekend, and her face lit up when she saw drag queens for the first time. DeSpain uploaded the live photo and video to Twitter where it quickly went viral.

UAF leadership change as Penfold departs Stan Penfold, long-time executive director, was fêted at a downtown hot spot by long-time donors, friends, and employees of the Utah AIDS Foundation. Penfold steps down after 20 years to pursue his candidacy for Salt Lake City mayor. He served two terms on the Salt Lake City Council, including stints as council chair.

Penfold started as a volunteer at UAF in the 1990s and served as associate director before being appointed to the top spot. He recounted that over the 20 years of his tenure they have moved the

UAFs mission from an “end of life service” to “helping those with HIV to lead very healthy lives.” He hailed the continued research and development of therapies which have lead to HIV becoming a more manageable health issue.

His quip of the night was making an acknowledged pun, “We have given away millions of condoms over the years.

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Dennis Gwyther, LGBTQ community supporter, killed in shooting near the Utah-Idaho border

BY MICHAEL AARON

A man accused of shooting Dennis Rowley Gwyther and his passenger is in an Idaho jail, awaiting extradition to Utah.

Jonathan Mendoza Llana, 45, was booked into the Cassia (Idaho) County Jail at 12:41 a.m. Saturday, May 25, according to police records.

Wednesday night, May 22, as he drove with a coworker to Boise to work an early morning flight, Gwyther was shot and killed near the Utah-Idaho border by a California man who was on the loose for three days.

Utah State Bureau of Investigation Lt. Ryan Van Fleet said that the Utah Highway Patrol responded to a 911 call around 8 p.m. Wednesday night from the passenger of the vehicle Gwyther was driving, saying they had been shot at. When UHP and Box Elder County Sherrif officers arrived, they found that Gwyther had died from a gunshot wound and the passenger had been hit by a single round. The passenger was taken to a hospital in Tremonton.

The passenger was able to give a description of the vehicle that fled after the shooting, including specialty antennae that were attached to the vehicle. Police in Idaho located a vehicle that matched the description and attempted to pull it over, but the driver fled. The car subsequently crashed and when officers approached the vehicle, the driver was gone.

Idaho State Police, the Cassia County Sherrif’s Office, the Utah Highway Patrol and the Division of Public Service helicopter spent the day looking for the suspect.

When police interviewed the injured passenger, they were told there was no interaction between him and Gwyther and the suspect.

“As far as we understand it, there was a slow-down in traffic. Once the slowdown was cleared, both vehicles passed where the slowdown was occurring and this shooting occurred shortly after that,” Van Fleet said. “Nothing that we’ve been

able to uncover so far indicates a road rage incident or any previous interaction.”

Gwyther was very active in Salt Lake’s LGBTQ community for several decades.

He often helped with staging and sound at events, including the Mass Reception held right after marriage was declared legal in Utah and hundreds of couples, including Gwyther and his husband, Matt, ran to the County Clerk’s office to get married. He provided a mobile stage for a rally held at the Salt Lake City Building after the Orlando Pulse Massacre, knowing that it would rain that day. He’s helped with events for the Utah Bears, the leather community, the Royal Court of the Golden Spike Empire, QSaltLake Magazine, and other groups.

Matt Gwyther and Dennis’ family released a statement to the press: “Dennis Rowley Gwyther was a loved husband, father and brother. He loved his family. His family was the most important thing in his life. He married Matthew Gwyther, the love of his life, the day gay marriage was legalized in Utah 12/10/13.

He enjoyed being the bonus dad to his two teenage kids.

“Loved to have fun and laugh. A kid inside an adult body. Always kidding around and playing jokes.

“Loved gadgets. A literal genius when it comes to technology. He could create anything especially if it involves wiring.

He did sound and lighting for many clubs in Salt Lake.

“He was an entrepreneur and always looked for new opportunities.

“He was a strong advocate for LGBTQ rights and used his connections to help wherever he could.

“His life was tragically taken while commuting to his job as a flight attendant based out of Boise. We are still in shock and have not processed much as the suspect is still at large and investigation is pending. We want him caught and swift justice.”

The Box Elder County Attorney’s Office formally charged Jonathan Mendoza Llana, 45, of Los Angeles, with aggravated murder and attempted aggravated murder, both first-degree felonies. He will be sent to the Box Elder County jail June 22. Q

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Dad launches Mormon teen suicide prevention, awareness campaign The father of a boy who took his own life has launched an awareness campaign.

The campaign features a blog post titled, “The homophobic teachings of the Mormon Church killed my son,” written

by Brian Bresee, a Las Vegas father who, until recently, had been a sixth-generation member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

The Child-Friendly Faith Project, a national nonprofit organization that raises awareness of child abuse and neglect enabled by religious belief, is assisting Bresee in his campaign.

Bresee says that when he began his family, he believed that the LDS Church offered a healthy environment in which to raise children. But on June 9th, 2014, his 14-year-old son Samuel took his own life. From that point on, Bresee’s life was forever changed.

The blog post not only looks at why Samuel likely chose suicide, but it also raises questions about the possible connection between Mormon teachings and teen suicide, in general. Statistics show that states with large Mormon populations have teen suicide rates that far exceed the national average.

“By the time I finally came to grips with my son’s choice to end his own life, I learned that one contributing factor rose above the rest — one that, at first, was extremely difficult for me to accept,” Brian writes. “More than anything else, what led my young Samuel to choose suicide were the teachings and policies of our church, the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.”

The campaign points out that there are numerous factors that contribute to teen suicide rates. However, one factor that should be studied and addressed is religious teachings and practices, particularly those of the LDS Church.

In Utah, which has the highest Mormon population in the US (nearly 70 percent), suicide is the leading cause of death among youths aged 10 to 17. Last year, Utah’s Governor Gary Herbert launched a task force to study the issue of teen suicide. In other states with large Mormon populations, such as Idaho and Wyoming, teen suicide rates far exceed the national

average for that age group.

THE CFFP PARTNERS WITH A GRIEVING FATHER The CFFP works with parents whose children have been harmed in faith-based environments. Many, like Brian, want the public to hear their stories so that others don’t have to endure the same hardships that they have suffered. And so some turn to the CFFP for guidance and support.

“I knew when Brian approached us that he had an important story to tell,” says CFFP founder Janet Heimlich.

“We offered guidance in publicizing his important message, although this was Brian’s story, told in his honest and courageous voice. We are honored to be able to partner with him in informing the public about an issue that every parent, especially Mormon parents, should be aware of—the possible connection between homophobic teachings in the LDS Church and teen suicide.”

The blog post describes Bresee’s shock upon learning that his 14-year-old beloved child, Samuel, had chosen suicide.

Immediately after receiving that news, while he was still consumed with grief, Brian embarked on a personal and intensive research project in which he was determined to learn just what had led his son to make his end-of-life decision.

“I was immersed in grief upon learning that Samuel had taken his own life, and yet that question of why? gripped me intensely and immediately. From the night of his death until early the next morning, I searched the Internet for possible reasons,” writes Brian.

DANGEROUS TEACHINGS IN THE LDS CHURCH What Brian learned was that some Mormon teachings and practices have the potential to instill in young people shame and self-loathing, particularly teachings that discuss sex and homosexuality. Bresee explains how Samuel, starting at the age of twelve, had to sit through “worthiness interviews” in which a bishop meets with a child and asks him or her inappropriately intimate questions about sexuality and masturbation. (Until recently, parents typically weren’t present at their children’s worthiness interviews.)

Brian Bessee, right, poses with his son, Samuel, before Samuel’s suicide.

Bresee also makes clear that the LDS Church has a long history of terrifying children about the possibility that they might be gay and, therefore, risk not following their loved ones into the afterlife.

He points to sermons in which congregants are told that young people are “better dead, clean, than alive, unclean.”

Bresee explains that Samuel wasn’t gay, yet he, like many other Mormon children, was mercilessly bullied at church and at his school which had a large Mormon population. What’s more, the bullying often was homophobic in nature. Samuel continually had homophobic slurs hurled at him and was ostracized by other children once they learned that he had been targeted for such abuse. Like many abuse victims, Samuel’s intense embarrassment prevented him from confiding in his parents about the bullying. In the end, he saw suicide as his only escape.

Bresee believes that the bullying that drove Samuel to kill himself was a natural outcome of the church’s sexuality-shaming of children and manipulating of parents.

“I know that if my son and I had grown up in a loving and affirming church community, one that embraced people for who they are rather than filling them with shame and self-loathing, everything—my sense of well-being, our family relationships, and my son’s mental health—would have been better,” writes Bresee. Q

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Long-time Salt Lake drag performer Vivaca Starr dies at 31 Skylor Folcomer, much better known to Salt Lake City’s LGBTQ community as Vivaca Starr, died in the hospital Tuesday due to complications from diabetes and a pancreas transplant earlier this year. Vivaca was a staple at Royal Court of the Golden Spike Empire drag performances, and performed onstage at many local and regional clubs for the past 11 years. She started, with 3 others in her drag family, The Four Starr Review at Club Try-Angles, which has since expanded to “Those Bitches at Club Try-Angles.”

Vivaca struggled with diabetes for much of her adult life and was able to get a pancreas transplant in January, but since April was in and out of the hospital.

Vivaca was a talented cosmetologist, having attended Paul Mitchell the School.

“Oh my beautiful daughter, friend, confidant and little monster. May all heaven’s angels and all the music of the universe carry you to your next adventure.

Today the world is truly lesser from your passing. Be at peace Vivaca Starr / Skyler,” wrote John Griffin, who per-

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RCGSE Emperor I Pepper Prespentt to present oral history The Utah Queer Historical Society’s July oratory will feature Pepper Prespentt, who will give her oral history to the public on Wednesday, July 31, at 6:30 p.m. at the Utah Pride Center, 1380 S. Main St. Pepper has been an LGBTQ rights activist since the 1970s. She helped to fund and support the establishment of the Gay Help Line in the 70s and 80s. In 1976, Pepper was one of the founders of the Royal Court of the Golden Spike Empire and is one of its most active members to this day, having earned a Lifetime Reign as Emperor 1 and King Father of Utah of the Golden Spike Empire. In May Pepper, received the Kristen Ries Community Service Award for her many years of activism.

formed as Nova Starr and was Vivaca’s drag mother, on Facebook.

“You were literally the first person in the community who had taken me under your wing. You did my makeup for my first photo shoot! I hope you found love and peace and happiness in the next life!

Love you angel and I’m forever grateful for you! I know you’re in much better hands now. No more struggle or pain, again I’m so thankful to have known you,” wrote Treasure Nicole Forsyth.

“She was always so supportive of my drag when I first began, wrote Savannah Van Cartier. “We have lost one of our own and my heart aches in solidarity with her family, both given and chosen. Your fight is over Vivaca Starr, but you left your mark on us. Thank you for the work you did while you were with us as a Queen and as Crown Princess 37. You will live on in the memories of all who knew you, rest now and twirl for the kids in heaven.”

“I love you and your sarcastic remarks.

Thank you for being my friend all of these years, and never holding back. This one is definitely going to leave a hole in the hearts of the community! I hope you’re finally able to rest easy without any pain,” wrote Tina Bergström.

“You were my very first LGBT+ friend, and even through the last few days you were always right there for me with a

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text or a call,” wrote RJ Error. “You were my constant, my guide. I always knew I could call you with anything and you’d be right there with advice or a bottle and we would get through any problem. Even when I was half the country away you would check on me and make sure I was ok. I will never forget everything you’ve done for me. And I’m still sorry about throwing up in your wig that one time.”

“Heartbroken to hear about Vivaca Starr. Thank you for being such a fierce queen and supporter of everyone in SLC. You were such an amazing supporter of local drag. I will fondly remember our times at Try-Angles and Gossip, together talking about everything from drag to boys and Pokémon. Rest In Power my friend,” wrote Ben Matthews.

“I remember you were the first drag queen I ever came out to, talked to even.

I met you through a mutual friend and helped you decorate club sound when it was still popular cause you were stressing out to get it done, wrote Agustin Garcia.

“We talked, laughed and had drinks. You invited me into the LGBTQ community that day and I could never thank you enough for that. Before I left for deployment we talked about getting drinks as soon as I get back.. I guess I didn’t make it in time. I’m so sorry. May you rest easy queen. Love you always!”

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The Stonewall riots were not the first attempt to push for equal treatment of the LGBT community, but it became an important rallying cry that fueled the gay-rights movement and is now commemorated every year during LGBT Pride Month.

Historian David Carter detailed the events of the raid in his book Stonewall: The Riots that Sparked the Gay Revolution.

Around 1:20 a.m. on Saturday, June 28 1969, eight officers — four in plainclothes, two in uniform, a detective and a deputy inspector — arrived at the establishment and shouted, “Police! We’re taking the place!”

Typically, LGBT bars and other places were warned ahead of time of raids, but that didn’t happen this time.

Carter wrote that the Mafia owners of the Stonewall and the manager were blackmailing wealthier customers, particularly those who worked in the Financial District. They appeared to be making more money from extortion than they were from liquor sales in the bar. Carter deduces that when the police were unable to receive kickbacks from blackmail and the theft of negotiable bonds they decided to close the Stonewall Inn permanently. Two undercover policewomen and two undercover policemen entered the bar earlier that evening to gather visual evidence, as the Public Morals Squad waited outside for the signal. Once inside, they

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called for backup from the Sixth Precinct using the bar’s pay telephone. The music was turned off and the main lights were turned on. Approximately 205 people were in the bar that night. Patrons who had never experienced a police raid were confused. A few who realized what was happening began to run for doors and

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windows in the bathrooms, but police barred the doors.

The raid did not go as planned.

Standard procedure was to line up the patrons, check their identification, and have female police officers take customers dressed as women to the bathroom to verify their sex, upon which any men dressed as women would be arrested. Those dressed as women that night refused to go with the officers. Men in line began to refuse to produce their identification.

The police decided to take everyone present to the police station, after separating those cross-dressing in a room in the back of the bar.

The crowd outside started to swell and police feared they were losing control.

A scuffle broke out when a woman, described as a “butch lesbian” and possibly identified as Stormé DeLarverie, in handcuffs was escorted from the door of the bar to the waiting police wagon, but she repeatedly escaped and fought with four of the police, swearing and shouting, She had been hit on the head by an officer with a baton for complaining that her handcuffs were too tight. She sparked the crowd to fight, yelling, “Why don’t you guys do something?” After an officer picked her up and heaved her into the back of the wagon, the crowd became a mob and went “berserk,” Carter wrote. “It

NYPD apologizes for ’69 Stonewall raid In a historic first, the New York Police Department apologized for the 1969 raid of the Stonewall Inn in New York City’s Greenwich Village. Historians largely consider this event to be the dawn of the modern LGBTI rights movement.

NYPD Commissioner James O’Neill spoke at a press conference on June 6, describing the actions of officers during the early hours of June 28, 1969 as “wrong, plain and simple.”

“The actions and the laws were discriminatory and oppressive, and for that, I apologize,” he said. “I think it would be irresponsible to go through World Pride month and not to speak of the events at the Stonewall Inn in June of 1969.”

New York City is hosting World Pride this year, marking the 50th anniversary of Stonewall.

“I do know what happened should not have happened. We have, and we do, em-

brace all New Yorkers,’ he concluded.

This is the first time the NYPD has ever formally apologized for the raid and subsequent violence.

On June 5, NYC Pride, a division of Heritage of Pride, released a statement demanding an apology.

“Last night we voted unanimously to demand that the NYPD formally apologize to the LGBTQIA+ community for the violent police raid that triggered the Stonewall Uprising,” the group wrote in the statement. “We offer our stage at the Stonewall 50 Commemoration Rally on Friday, June 28, 2019 for Police Commissioner James P. O’Neill to do so on behalf of the Department.”

“Under Commissioner O’Neill, the NYPD has made significant strides in improving relations with LGBTQIA+ New Yorkers,” the statement continued. “Taking responsibility and apologizing for this single event

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was at that moment that the scene became explosive.”

Some claim that it was self-proclaimed “drag queen hustler,” Marsha P. Johnson, who was homeless and living in the park across from the bar, who “threw the first brick.” She denied the claim in a 1987 interview, saying she arrived after the riot had started.

The crowd gathered outside began throwing coins at the police, saying they were “paying them off” to keep the bar open. Coins turned to trash from nearby garbage cans, and then loose cobblestones from the street.

Sylvia Rivera, a self-identified “street queen” remembered that it was the most outcast people in the LGBT community, including “flame queens,” hustlers, and gay “street kids” who were responsible for the first volley of projectiles, as well as the uprooting of a parking meter used as a battering ram on the doors of the Stonewall Inn. “You’ve been treating us like shit all these years? Uh-uh. Now it’s our turn!”

Rivera remembers yelling. “It was one of the greatest moments in my life.”

Police were trapped inside the Stonewall Inn, so a Tactical Patrol Force was sent to the scene. One inspector who was there said, “Fights erupted with the transvestites, who wouldn’t go into the

patrol wagon.”

The TPF formed a phalanx and attempted to clear the streets by marching slowly and pushing the crowd back. The crowd openly mocked the police, cheering and starting impromptu kick lines.

The crowd lighted garbage on fire and threw it into the large window of the bar that had been broken.

The “riot” died down and on the next day, a large number of people came to see the fire damage of the bar and evidence of what happened overnight.

Reportedly, thousands of people came to the bar that night, as it had reopened. So many people showed that they blocked the street. Cars trying to make their way through the crowd were hassled and Johnson was reported to have climbed a lamppost to drop a heavy bag on a police vehicle, breaking its windshield.

Beat poet and longtime Greenwich Village resident Allen Ginsberg went to Stonewall Inn for the first time, and said “Gay power! Isn’t that great!... It’s about time we did something to assert ourselves.” He reportedly said, “You know, the guys there were so beauti-

ful — they’ve lost that wounded look that fags all had 10 years ago,” as he walked home.

The following few nights had less activity, in part due to rain. Fliers were scattered around saying, “Get the Mafia and the Cops out of Gay Bars.”

After the Village Voice printed a disparaging story of the events on the following Wednesday, using such terms as “forces of faggotry,” “limp wrists,” and “Sunday fag follies,” another crowd descended on their Christopher Street offices, threatening to burn it down. This action lasted only an hour.

A new movement began to surface of people no longer afraid and unwilling to life by the “rules” imposed on the community. The conservative Mattachine Society, founded in 1950, was calling for the actions to stop. But a new group was formed, the Gay Liberation Front, which was not willing to take a back seat. A citywide newspaper titled, Gay formed within six months and on the first anniversary of the Stonewall uprising, the first “Christopher Street Liberation Day” assembled on Christopher Street and simultaneously in Los Angeles and Chicago. The next year, marches took place in Boston, Dallas, Milwaukee, London, Paris, West Berlin, and Stockholm.

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is a small, albeit meaningful, step towards improving the larger systemic issues that continue to cause significant harm to LGBTQIA+ people, especially transgender people and people of color. It demonstrates what is possible for the future of our community and our movement.”

Police officials have not announced if O’Neill will accept the invitiation to appear at the rally later this month.

NYC Pride released a statement after the commissioner’s remarks.

“We appreciate NYPD Commissioner James O’Neill’s words and leadership today, apologizing on behalf of the Department for its actions that triggered the Stonewall Uprising,” the organization wrote. “For many years, Heritage of Pride has worked to build a productive relationship with the NYPD, a relationship that was, and is, critical to ensuring the safety of all NYC Pride participants. We’ve engaged with innumerable NYPD personnel, deeply committed to Pride’s safety and

success, all the while recognizing the irony that these individuals represented the very institution whose violence and discrimination gave rise to Pride as a movement.

“We recognize that the work of those LGBTQIA+ NYPD employees, who are part of our community and work within law enforcement have played a role in making this historic apology a reality and work daily to build bridges and improve relationships with all New Yorkers.

“And we also know that the work is far from done, as members of the LGBTQIA+ and other diverse communities continue to demand better treatment by and improving relationships with the NYPD and other branches of law enforcement.

“Today, as millions of people from across the world prepare to descend on New York City for WorldPride 2019 NYC | Stonewall 50, that relationship has reached a turning point, and we hope that this gesture will allow for even more dialogue moving forward.” Q

NYPD Commissioner James O’Neill apologizes on the behalf of New York Police Department for the raid at Stonewall Inn in June, 1969.

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quotes “Standing across the street that night, that little 18-year-old boy who is me, I never thought that I’d be here 50 years later talking about it. We didn’t know it was history. We just ... knew it had changed.”

— Mark Segal, Stonewall Riots

“And once they get a certain sense of self-respect, they say I’m tired of being treated this way, they resist.”

— Randy Wicker, Stonewall Riots

“‘Gay’ as a word was a new, dynamic radical word to use,” Knoebel said. “We were the first organization [Gay Liberation Front] that actually called ourselves gay and that was an offensive word to many people. We were naming ourselves and identifying ourselves and finally out of the closet and open and radical.”

— John Knoebel, Stonewall Riots

“There was no omniscient presence looking down at the scene. Memory is what we remember, how we wish to remember it, and how we wish to be remembered in it.”

— historian and scholar Eric Marcus

“The actions taken by the NYPD were wrong, plain and simple. The actions and the laws were discriminatory and oppressive, and for that, I apologize.”

— NYPD Police Commissioner James P. O’Neill, Stonewall Riots

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who’s your daddy

A well-stocked fridge

BY CHRISTOPHER KATIS

You

know how there’s always that one house in the neighborhood where all the kids congregate?

Yeah, so we’re that house.

At first it drove me nuts. I’d come home from work to find the kid from across the street with his head shoved into my fridge looking for a snack. Then I had an epiphany (spurred on by the helpful insights of my friend Nancy, a mom herself): I want all these guys at my place because then I know what my own kids are doing and with whom they’re hanging out.

Now, on any given weeknight, there can be half a dozen kids not on my insurance plan hanging out somewhere in my house. And since most of these kids are teenagers, eating their own body weight in food every few hours, they’re frequently in my kitchen.

With some new kid devouring my food seemingly every day, I was curious what they thought of the boys having two dads. And apparently kids hearing their buddy has gay parents fall into two categories: those who are curious what it must be like; and those who think it’s totally the coolest life ever.

Obviously, I totally understand the group that is curious. I mean even with the growing visibility of openly gay people in society, gay parents are still a minority within a minority. I can only imagine what they think it must be like to have two dads. Would

we be like the two dads on Modern Family? Was one of us going to be wearing a dress and pearls? Better yet, would we be wearing leather?

When I asked one of Gus’s best friends what he had thought when he first heard about our family dynamic, he admitted that he had actually been really curious about life at our house simply because it was certainly going to be very different from what he experienced in his very traditional LDS family. He said that after he got to know us and spent time around us, he realized it wasn’t really all that different from his own house.

Then there is the group who thinks it’s cool. I’m not sure I understand their logic. Maybe the mom is the disciplinarian in their house and they figure with two dads it’s pretty much a free-for-all.

I guess they think having two dads is tantamount to living in a frat house.

I think we probably disappointed both groups.

The novelty of interacting with two dads wears off pretty quickly when these friends realize we’re rather boring, average parents. Sure, maybe there’s sports on the TV more often and maybe we laugh a bit more easily at goofball behavior, but that’s about it.

Having these kids over is a little like one of those student exchange programs, the kind that introduced you and your buddies to the German kid in your math class. You know, the one who wore the weird

shoes and never seemed to grasp the punchline of a joke?

Well, that kid went back home and told his family and friends what life in America was really like – warts and all. These teenage hordes invading my kitchen every afternoon are basically doing the same thing: going home to their families and sharing what life in a two-dad family is really like – warts and all.

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And I think that bodes well for LGBTQ rights in the long run. After all, familiarity breeds acceptance. With each consecutive generation it becomes more difficult for politicians and conservative groups to try to roll back equal rights.

I guess the least I can do is keep the fridge well stocked. Q

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In the eyes of a child

BY DR. LAURIE BENNETT-COOK

My niece

is 6 years old. She and I share a pretty special bond. I’m lucky that I get to have her stay with me when her parents are working and travel with me pretty much anywhere I go. Our most recent road trip was from Long Beach, California back to Salt Lake City. As is the case with most of our road trips she talks away, unapologetically, sharing insights from her young mind.

On this particular day, after having attended both Long Beach Pride and Salt Lake City Pride, she was expressing her thoughts about it all. I had bought the book This Day In June by Gayle E. Pit-

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man for her a month or so prior to Pride to educate her on why we celebrate. I must interject here: children are far more observant and accepting than most adults give them credit.

Our house in Long Beach is located along the parade route and every year we have a party on the porch as the parade goes by. We play music, serve donuts and mimosas, and the crowd that shows up is a mixture of people we know and people who just happen to be passing by and decide to stay while the parade goes on.

This year my niece, overcoming her shyness and now after having read up on the event, was feeling full of knowledge and confidently took hold of the microphone. Happily, she called out to parade-goers as they pranced by in their most festive attire. She had no hesitation (or prompting for that matter) in telling people what she was thinking as they passed.

“You look like a beautiful princess!”

“I love your makeup!”

“Keep dancing!”

And as members of the leather contingent passed by: “Here come the Puppies!”

To anyone walking past who happened to look her way she would say (into the microphone of course) “Happy Pride!” To her delight she would more often than not get a “Happy Pride” back.

So as we’re driving along she shares her thoughts out loud with me. Quite matterof-fact she states: “You know that boys can love boys and girls can love girls?” I nod while she continues: “Some people love both at the same time. I saw that at Pride you know.”

I continue to nod. “But I can love whoever I want to too so I’m gonna love Draco Malfoy.” Being 6 and a Harry Potter fan this sounds reasonable to me.

She continues: “But did you know that if I want I can love other people too and not just Draco Malfoy? Like I can even marry a girl when I grow up!” I’m smiling

by now while she’s talking knowingly, as though educating me on the topic.

As she sits back and goes back to playing with her etch-a-sketch I find myself overcome with a feeling of hope that the world ahead for this beautiful soul is one of acceptance; and that relationship configurations in all their complexities and sexual orientations in all their diversity can become commonplace.

I am only 50. I feel young still. And yet, only 50 years ago there were no Pride festivities. I knew of only one gay person when I was growing up, and of course he was talked about and bullied by every other classmate of ours in every derogatory way imaginable. Thirty-six years we’ve been friends and I’ve witnessed him suffer a lot at the hateful hand of others and yet I’ve never known anyone who holds their head higher. People, like him, who fight for their right to authenticity are what make it possible for my niece to contemplate her own future of who and how to love without second guessing herself.

“Aunt Laurie, can I say Happy Pride all the time?” She asks. “I don’t see why not” I reply. Followed by asking her to tell me more. In the purest way that only a child can speak, she says: “Because when I say it people say it back to me – like Merry Christmas. But it means people get to love whoever they want and I like that because I want to love whoever I want too.” Then, making a face that only means she’s making a big decision, she firmly states: “I decided that Pride is the BEST holiday!”

If we could all see the world through the accepting eyes of a child. Q Dr. Laurie Bennett-Cook is a Clinical Sexologist and maintains private practices in both Salt Lake City and Long Beach, Calif. Welcoming and affirming of all gender identities, all sexual orientations and all relationship configurations – She can be reached at DrLauriebennettCook@ gmail.com or on Meetup though her organization Sex Positive Utah – a social group for sex education, discussion and social interaction.

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Doctors aren’t offering young people PrEP; that has to change

BY TYUNIQUE NELSON

As a young

person who identifies as nonbinary, meaning I do not identify within the gender binary, accessing pre-exposure prophylaxis was a challenging quest. PrEP is a once-daily pill regimen that supports people in remaining HIV negative. Although I have been an organizer and advocate in support of LGBTQ youth for over five years in Philadelphia, I have only been aware of PrEP for about two years.

PrEP is extremely effective at preventing HIV transmission. So why is no one talking about it to young people?

In 2016, 21 percent of people newly diagnosed with HIV were age 24 or younger (about 40 percent of HIV diagnoses are in people under 30), and yet people under 25 were only 15 percent of all people on PrEP. There have only been approximately 27,000 prescriptions issued to this group since 2012. A recent report from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention on how PrEP is prescribed found that black and Hispanic/Latinx people are most likely to benefit from PrEP, but least likely to be prescribed it.

Truvada (FTC/tenofovir disoproxil fumarate) for PrEP was first approved as an HIV prevention method in 2012, but only for individuals age 18 and older. In 2018, the Food and Drug Administration expanded the approval of PrEP to include adolescents. But there are still too many logistical, economic and cultural barriers to young people receiving this vital medication.

One key barrier and area of missed opportunity is the doctor’s office. Unfortunately, like many LGBTQ people, until recently I never felt like my doctor’s office was a safe place to openly talk about my sexual health and experiences. I often felt like I was being slut-shamed or othered for my identity and the partners I had. I answered the standard questions

about sexual behavior, but these didn’t create an opportunity to ask about PrEP. No one offered it to me, and I wasn’t sure if it was my job to ask for it. I’d go to my appointments and end up leaving without a PrEP prescription because I was afraid to ask my doctor about it.

Then there’s the price tag. Without insurance, PrEP can cost up to $2,000 per month. A young person on their parents’ insurance pays far less but faces the risk of their parents finding out they’re on PrEP if their explanation of benefits goes to their parents. Title X clinics, like Planned Parenthood, provide cost-effective and confidential options, but the Trump Administration is intent on shutting them down, without regard for the vital services they provide young people.

There’s also a huge gap in comprehensive sex education. Today, fewer than half of all states mandate medically accurate sex and HIV education. In Pennsylvania, schools are required only to provide education on HIV and AIDS, with a focus on abstinence. The Philadelphia School District (where I live) provides teachers with additional information on contraception and dating violence but fails to require any specific curriculum.

Unfortunately, what students learn can vary greatly depending on the teacher.

It’s unforgivable that most students get through school without learning that there is a medication that can help them remain HIV negative.

I’m asking everyone to take the steps they can to ensure young people have access to PrEP. In hospital and clinic settings, sexually transmitted infection screenings have to go beyond the standard of offering condoms, lubrication and dental dams after a person is tested. Information about PrEP and post-exposure prophylaxis should be publicly promoted in health care environments and spaces that LGBTQ youth, people that identify

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as nonbinary, and black cis and transgender women occupy. Sex education needs to be honest and comprehensive, and it needs to address real solutions and skills.

And young people ourselves need to take the initiative and ask our health care providers about PrEP. It was only after I met an affirming nurse at Planned Parenthood, who happened to be queer, that I became comfortable discussing my sexual health and HIV prevention needs, including PrEP. When young people are educated about PrEP, when staff and physicians are knowledgeable about LGBTQ-competent services and provide equitable and affordable care, we are empowered to take our sexual health into our own hands. Help us protect our futures and lay the groundwork for a lifetime of sexual health. Q Tyunique Nelson is a contributing writer for TheBody, a member of Advocates for Youth’s YouthResource Leadership Program, and a program associate at the Mazzoni Center in Philadelphia. This column is a project of Plus, Positively Aware, POZ, TheBody, Q Syndicate, and QSaltLake Magazine.

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Lavender marriages

BY BEN WILLIAMS

Aren’t

there times when you’d give anything to be a fly on the wall? I’d loved to have been in the Salt Lake Mormon Tabernacle in 1928 and no, not to hear the choir. But rather to see a gay spiritualist medium conjure up the spirits of the dead kinfolk of Rudolph Valentino’s mother-in-law, Winifred Kimball Shaunessy, De Wolfe, Hudnut.

In June 1928 Winifred Hudnut and her sister Teresa Kimball Werner, granddaughters of Mormon Apostle Heber C. Kimball, a counselor to Brigham Young, held a seance in the Mormon Tabernacle to conjure up the spirits of dead Kimball relatives.

Winifred’s only daughter was Winifred Kimball Shaunessy, who changed her name to Natacha Rambova in order to become an exotic Russian dancer. Her mother Winifred Kimball was briefly married to Edgar de Wolfe. His sister, and Natacha’s aunt was Elsie de Wolfe a famous interior designer. She was also the lesbian lover of Elisabeth “Bessie” Marbury, who was her agent and longtime companion for four decades. Shaunessy lived with this lesbian couple until returning to New York to join a Russian ballet company.

In 1926, Elsie de Wolfe made tongues wag by marrying British diplomat Sir Charles Mendl, largely for social reasons.

These arrangements were then called “Lavender Marriages.” Mendl was a gay man and she was quite an open lesbian.

Elsie had the tendency to entertain guests by doing hand springs for them. As “Lady Mendl” you may recognize references to her in “Anything Goes” a song by Gay composer Cole Porter. “When you hear that Lady Mendl standing up now turns a handspring landing up on her toes, Anything goes.”

Before this time, Natacha had moved to Hollywood to work in films where she met Alla Nazimova, a famous silent film star.

Nazimova had open relationships with Hollywood actresses and women directors at her mansion called the Garden of Allah on Hollywood’s Sunset Boulevard. The Garden of Allah was believed to be the

scene of outlandish homosexual parties.

Nazimova is often credited with having originated the phrase “sewing circle” as a discreet code for lesbian or bisexual actresses.

Through Nazimova, Rambova met and married Rudolph Valentino in a “Lavender Marriage. Valentino, who was gay, or bisexual, needed a female “beard” as a cover for the Hollywood studios. Valentino, at the time, was the top matinee idol due to his “Latin lover” persona. His performance in the film The Sheik was so erotic at the time that a brand of condoms was named for the character.

In 1925, Rambova and Valentino separated, and a divorce ensued. By 1926, Rambova’s mother, Winifred Kimball Shaunessy de Wolfe, had divorced two husbands and was now married to Richard Hudnut who made millions in the cosmetic and perfume business. Valentino died unexpectedly of peritonitis in August 1926, leaving Rambova inconsolable even though they were divorced. She purportedly locked herself in her bedroom for three days in grief.

Her mother Winnie Hudnut insisted that the distraught Natacha join the family on the Hudnut yacht for a cruise around the Mediterranean Sea. Natacha brought with her George Wehner, a “Spiritualist Medium” who also happened to be a gay man. Wehner was employed by both Winky and her daughter Natacha to be the medium for seances as that Natacha was a believer in spiritualism.

He was also said to bean amusing traveling companion for both women. But then aren’t most gay men? Wehner traveled with the Hudnuts on their dime enjoying a two year vacation. He held seances all along the way up and down the coasts of Southern Europe so that Natacha could be comforted by visits from the spirit of Valentino.

Winifred decided in June 1928 to visit her Mormon relatives in Salt Lake City, taking her sister, Teresa Werner, and George Wehner with her. While in Utah they visited their cousin, Edward P. Kimball, who was then the organist in the Salt Lake Tabernacle. There Edward gave

them a private recital in the tabernacle and while Kimball played the world famous organ, Winifred and her sister Teresa had George Wehner hold a seance. I am not sure what music was being played by Edward but I sure hope it was a fugue.

Gay George was immediately in contact with the “who’s who” of Mormondom, including Joseph Smith, Brigham Young, and countless Kimball relatives. Among those said to have left the Kimball sisters messages were “Grandpa Heber C. Kimball,” “Uncle William Kimball,” the Danite “Aunt Margaret Judd Clauson,” who was the mother of Mormon Apostle Rudger Clawson, and even and their mother Phoebe Judd Kimball.

As these apparitions began to fade away, Wehner said he saw an even more remarkable vision. He wrote, “I saw the whole interior of the Tabernacle shimmering in a glorious blaze of golden light, in the midst of which appeared in the air above the organ, the figure of a young man in blue robes holding a long trumpet of gold. From my clairvoyant description of this radiant being, my friends recognized the spirit as that of the Angel Moroni who led his people across the plains and deserts to ultimate safety… as a beacon light of faith and love.”

After the homosexual clairvoyant conjured up the spirits of dead Mormons and Nephites, Wehner, however, failed to predict Richard Hudnut’s death in October of 1928. Hudnut left his fortune to his wife Winifred and his adopted daughter Natacha. However, Winifred put the financially irresponsible Rambova on an allowance, which then enabled her to pursue her “spiritual, artistic, and intellectual interest without financial worry” for the rest of her life. Wehner wrote an autobiography called A Curious Life was eventually published in 1930.

Despite George Wehner’s inability to predict Hudnut’s death, Rambova’s admiration for his psychic powers went unabated for the next two years. In 1930, Wehner returned to New York City with Rambova where he began to host séances on a regular basis in a Greenwich Village apartment.

Rambova stayed in New York and operated her own clothing store in Manhattan.

A description of these psychic sessions were related by one of Wehner’s devotees. “Regularly throughout the fall and winter evenings, the group assembled

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around a refectory table in the darkened apartment while light from the fireplace danced across a gold sari stretched along one wall. Their meetings inspired many intellectual discussions on the subject of life after death, and at one seance they felt they had brought healing to an ailing friend by invoking the spirit of Christian Science founder Mary Baker Eddy.”

Natacha Rambova in the 1932 left New York and married a Spanish aristocrat but had to flee Spain during the Spanish War. She eventually she moved to Egypt where she became a dubious Egyptologist as she believed she could see past life in Egypt through clairvoyancy. It was during this time that she developed a fascination with the country of Egypt that remained with her for the rest of her life.

Rambova spent her later years studying Egyptology and she earned two Mellon Grants to travel there and study Egyptian symbols and belief systems.

She served as the editor of the first three volumes of Egyptian Religious Texts and Representations. Late in her career she gave her collection of Egyptian artifacts to the University of Utah. Some of these artifacts turned out to be fakes. Natacha died in June 1966 denying in most accounts that she was ever a lesbian or bisexual despite her close association with the homosexual communities of 1920’s Hollywood. Q

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creep of the week

Trump Administration June is

BY D’ANNE WITKOWSKI

Pride Month, which means anti-LGBTQ folks are losing their goddamn minds.

I attended Motor City Pride in Detroit with my wife, our son and my wife’s 69-year-old aunt. It was a family affair. There were rainbows galore, men holding hands with men, women holding hands with women, transgender and genderqueer people holding hands with men or women or with whomever they wanted because it’s pride and love is love, damn it.

Oh, and there were Nazis, complete with swastikas and guns because open carry is legal in Michigan. Yes, that’s right. In Michigan, an LGBTQ person has no right to be free from discrimination, but a Nazi has a right to carry guns out in the open.

As a state, our priorities are pretty fucked up.

Thankfully, my family didn’t encounter the Nazis. We were too busy at the kids’ tent learning about fossils from a man in a lab coat named Dr. Dinosaur. My son got to hold fossilized dinosaur poop. Definitely the highlight for him.

The Detroit Police Department got a lot of criticism for “escorting” the Nazis, though in their defense their goal was to keep the Nazis and the Pride celebrants separate to prevent violence, which they achieved. Ideally, the police would have told the Nazis to GTFO, but that’s not their job because of freedom of speech.

Though I’d like to point out, that marching with guns and screaming that LGBTQ people should die, is not free speech, it’s an incitement to violence, which is not protected by the first amendment and should not be protected by the police or any other governmental entity. But that’s not where we are as a society yet.

The Nazis reportedly destroyed a rainbow flag while trying to disrupt Motor City Pride. Thankfully, there were more where that came from.

Also thankfully, the Trump Administration is protecting embassies worldwide from Nazis… Wait, I’m sorry. That’s my mistake. Let’s try this again: The Trump Administration is protecting embassies worldwide from rainbow flags.

Under President Obama U.S. embassies were allowed to officially raise a rainbow flag during June. Under Trump they are not. Rainbow flags aren’t banned from embassy premises, but they are conspicuously absent from the official flag pole.

And that absence is definitely intended to send a message.

And anti-LGBTQ Trump supporters and self-pro-

claimed Christians are getting that message loud and clear.

Franklin Graham thanked Trump and Secretary of State Mike Pompeo “for making the decision not to fly the gay flag over our embassies during June in recognition of gay pride month. That is the right decision. The only flag that should fly over our embassies is the flag of the United States of America. The gay pride flag is offensive to Christians and millions of people of other faiths, not only in this country but around the world. The U.S. flag represents our nation — everyone — regardless of race, religion or sexual orientation.”

The rainbow flag isn’t offensive to Christians, but it is offensive for people who use their religion as a weapon against people they don’t like. So I can see that while Graham would be offended, many LGBTQ and allied people of faith are not offended by a rainbow flag. They are offended by bigotry though.

“Most people don’t know that these State Department folks are defying the president of the United States and flying the rainbow flag,” Right-wing pastor E.W. Jackson railed against anyone at the State Department who dare display a Pride flag, calling the rainbow flag “an accursed thing.”

He continued, “The rainbow was given to us by God as a sign that he would not destroy the earth by water again, and you’re going to appropriate that as pride in homosexuality? Are you kidding me? Talk about blasphemy. Talk about arrogance. Talk about boldness. Talk about shaking your fist in God’s face.”

If the music at Pride festivals around the world is any indication, there’s a lot more shaking than fists. But I get Jackson’s point. Then again, it’s nice to see that he’s so worried about floods. I’m sure his sermons on global warming are lit.

If only the Christian right got as worked up over Nazis as they do over LGBTQ people. Imagine a world where Graham said, “Nazis are offensive to Christians and millions of people of other faiths” or where E.W. Jackson said, “Talk about shaking your fist in God’s face,” and he was talking about hateful Nazis, not about peaceful LGBTQ people.

Until then, we’ll keep shaking our fists, and our asses and refusing to apologize for who we are. Q D’Anne Witkowski is a poet, writer and comedian living with her wife and son. She has been writing about LGBT politics for over a decade.

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CONCERTS

The new “darling” of the gays, CARLY RAE JEPSEN bops the Utah stage. From “Call Me Maybe” to “Call Me

by Your Name” this adorable Little Pony of a singer and actress (remember her in the live television version of Grease?) seduces me to call her (my BFF), maybe.

MONDAY — CARLY RAE JEPSEN

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Tony’s Gay Agenda

BY TONY HOBDAY

The Depot, 13 N. 400 West, 7 p.m. Tickets $39.50 Adv/$45 Day Of, smithstix.com

FESTIVALS

While on our heels, the UTAH ARTS FESTIVAL is no Utah Pride Festival, but definitely still worth the visit.

Anything from funky pottery to unusual yard art to handmade silk ties to future auction-worthy paintings to so very much more can be seen during the four-day event. Oh, and there of course will be plenty of food, activities, live music, and most importantly alcoholic refreshments. However, it’s highly unlikely to see dudes in chaps and gals shirtless. Bummer!

This year’s UTAH FESTIVAL OPERA & MUSICAL THEATRE stages West Side Story, Master Class, Newsies, The Marriage of Figaro, Mary Poppins, and Bravo, Caruso! (starring UFO’s charming Michael Ballam). So

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THURSDAY — UTAH ARTS FESTIVAL

Library and Washington Squares, 200 E. 400 South, noon11 p.m, through Sunday. Ticket & Pass prices vary, uaf.org

SATURDAY — UTAH FESTIVAL OPERA

Multiple venues in Logan, times vary, through Aug. 3. Ticket & Pass prices vary, artsaltlake.org

WEDNESDAY — BACHAUER INTERNATIONAL PIANO FESTIVAL

Rose Wagner Center, 136 W. 300 South, times vary, through June 29. Ticket & Pass prices vary, artsaltlake.org

SATURDAY — LOVELOUD FESTIVAL

USANA Amphitheatre, 5150 Upper Ridge Rd., WVC, 2:30 p.m. Tickets $29-99, smithstix.com

SPECIAL ENGAGEMENTS

Five years after EDDIE IZZARD’s last comedy tour Force Majeure made comedy history having played 45 countries including all 50 States, and in four languages, making it the most extensive comedy show ever, he is back to his roots with an all-new show which expands on his own very unique, totally surreal view of life, love, history and his ‘theory of the universe’.

Grammy Award-winning trumpeter and audience favorite CHRIS BOTTI returns to kick off the 2019 Deer Valley Music Festival with the Utah Symphony in an electrifying evening of jazz under the stars.

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Delta Performance Hall, Eccles Theater, 131 S. Main St., 8 p.m. Tickets $49-57, artsaltlake.org

FRIDAY — CHRIS BOTTI WITH UTAH SYMPHONY

Snow Park Amphitheater, 2250 Deer Valley Dr. S, 7:30 p.m.

Tickets $15-97, artsaltlake.org

THEATRE

Utah Arts Festival Saurus

mix-n-match or see them all in beautiful Logan, Utah. It’s an experience you’ll always remember.

THE BACHAUER invites music enthusiasts to join in on four days of brilliant piano virtuosity, featuring world-renowned pianists in evening concerts, and young pianists showcasing their developing artistry in the Festival Recital. The featured pianists are Frank Weinstock, HaeSun Paik, and Serhiv Salov.

The third installment of the LOVELOUD FESTIVAL will feature a headlining performance by multi-platinum-selling pop star, Kesha, as well as a star-studded lineup of other artists and speakers that includes Martin Garrix, Tegan & Sara, Daya, Grouplove, K. Flay, PVRIS, Dan Reynolds, Laura Jane Grace, and more.

In 1996, American composer and playwright Jonathan Larson passed away at the age of 35; his untimely death occurred just one day before the Off-Broadway premiere opening of RENT – a seven-year project on which he and playwright Billy Aronson initially collaborated. The musical rock opera became an instant hit, moved to Broadway three months later, and garnered Larson three Tony Awards and the coveted Pulitzer. Based loosely on La Boheme. It’s a compelling story of several young “Bohemian” artists and musicians struggling to survive and love in New York City.

Salt Lake Acting Company’s annual musical satire, SATURDAY’S VOYEUR, celebrates 41 years of lauding and lampooning this peculiar place we call home. In its rich history, Voyeur has firmly established itself not only as a raucous, riotous cabaret but also as an integral community event for Utahns who live and love to challenge the status quo.

TUESDAY — RENT

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Delta Performance Hall, Eccles Theater, 131 S. Main St., times vary, through June 30. Tickets $50-140, artsaltlake.org

WEDNESDAY — SATURDAY’S VOYEUR

Salt Lake Acting Company, 168 W. 500 North, times vary, through September 1. Ticket prices vary, s­ altlakeactingcompany.org

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Utah Film Center presents the 16th Damn These Heels Film Festival

Utah Film Center announced the feature films selected for the 16th annual Damn These Heels Film Festival and new elements to the Festival for film lovers, filmmakers, and all storytellers.

Damn These Heels will run July 12–14 at the Rose Wagner Performing Arts Center and is a festival that explores LGBTQ issues, ideas, and art through independent, documentary, and foreign films from around the world. Passes and tickets are now on sale on the Utah Film Center’s website at UtahFilmCenter.org.

Additional titles will be announced on the website leading up to the Festival.

The longest-running LGBTQ Film Festival in the Mountain West, Damn These Heels has presented more than 230 films over the years. This popular LGBTQ film festival has been fully embraced and supported by the Salt Lake City community because of its unique and cutting-edge programming.

Over the past five years, Utah Film Center has programmed 92 films that did not play anywhere else in Utah but went on to run in larger cities. With festivals like Damn These Heels and other yearround screening programs, Utah Film Center continues to providing access to voices and stories that would otherwise be inaccessible for Utah audiences.

Patrick Hubley, Programming Director for Utah Film Center, said, “At the heart of Damn These Heels is both an appreciation for our inclusive community and a powerful expression of individuality. We invite audiences to come share in this meaningful cinematic celebration and explore this year’s lineup of complex, original, and thought-provoking stories that will stay with you long after the film is over.”

Damn These Heels remains a grassroots, locally-produced festival. Films are curated with help from a community programming committee and the Festival is supported through community partnerships with Encircle, Equality Utah, Utah AIDS Foundation, Utah Pride Center, and The Blocks, among others.

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GUEST PROGRAMMER: This year, the film festival introduced a guest programmer to curate select films that have influenced them. This year’s guest programmer is Jordan Blok, a trans non-binary writer based in Salt Lake City who covers popular science, LGBTQ culture, issues, and trans health. They also have a deep, enduring love of lesbian revenge thrillers. New programmers will be chosen annually to showcase the depth and variety of LGBTQ cultural voices in Utah.

WORKSHOP: Join Giuliana Serena, founder and producer of The Bee, for two stimulating sessions of engaged listening and personal reflection inspired by the films at this year’s Festival. Space is limited for this intimate workshop, tickets are available on the Festival website.

An Almost Ordinary Summer (Croce e delizia)

DIRECTED BY SIMONE GODANO 101 MIN | 2019 | ITALY | ITALIAN WITH ENGLISH SUBTITLES

Two families don’t realize they’re being brought together for a wedding for their respective patriarchs.

CAST: FABRIZIO BENTIVOGLIO, ALESSANDRO GASSMANN, JASMINE TRINCA OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2019 SEATTLE INTERNATIONAL FILM FESTIVAL

VIRTUAL REALITY LOUNGE: Created in collaboration with InterSpatial, the DTH VR Lounge is a new element to the festival that audiences cannot miss. Intended to give festival-goers an opportunity to experience the creative power and storytelling potential of VR, the lounge’s program will feature some of the best LGBTQ+ themed stories that focus on the intersection of faith, identity, and sexuality, created to be experienced through this immersive platform.

The lounge located on the Mezzanine level of the Rose Wagner will be open from 1–6 p.m. Space is limited and registration will be required. More details on the VR stories will be available on the Utah Film Center website soon.

Bit

DIRECTED BY BRAD MICHAEL ELMORE 94 MIN | 2019 | USA

Laurel, a teenage transgender girl, moves to LA and falls in with a gang of intersectional feminist vampires.

CAST: NICOLE MAINES, M.C. GAINEY, DIANA HOPPER OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2019 FRAMELINE

FILMS AT THIS YEAR’S FESTIVAL:

Changing the Game

DIRECTED BY MICHAEL BARNETT 88 MIN | 2019 | USA

Adam

DIRECTED BY RHYS ERNST 95 MIN | 2019 | USA

Missteps of a cis man pretending to be a trans man for the sake of dating. Follow him through queer Brooklyn.

CAST: NICHOLAS ALEXANDER, BOBBI SALVÖR MENUEZ, MARGARET QUALLEY OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2019 SUNDANCE FILM FESTIVAL

Three trans high school athletes fight for acceptance in their sports while embracing their authentic selves.

OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2019 TRIBECA FILM FESTIVAL, 2019 FRAMELINE

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Fabulous

DIRECTED BY AUDREY JEAN-BAPTISTE 47 MIN | 2019 | FRENCH GUIANA | FRENCH WITH ENGLISH SUBTITLES

Lasseindra Ninja, an international performer, brings vogue to French Guiana, her home country. Through her workshop we witness the dance culture’s impact on this marginalized queer community.

Gracefully

DIRECTED BY ARASH ESHAGHI 60 MIN | 2019 | IRAN | PERSIAN WITH ENGLISH SUBTITLES

A contemplative portrait of a rural qenderqueer drag queen, banned from performance after the 1970 Iranian Revolution.

WORLD PREMIERE.

Ma Vie en Rose

DIRECTED BY ALAIN BERLINER 88 MIN | 1997 | BELGIUM/FRANCE | FRENCH WITH ENGLISH SUBTITLES

Ludovic is an innocent seven-year-old child who provokes horror in her community when she dresses in girls clothes and insists she’s a girl.

CAST: GEORGES DU FRESNE, MICHÈLE LAROQUE, JEANPHILIPPE ÉCOFFEY WINNER: BEST FOREIGN LANGUAGE FILM–1998 GOLDEN GLOBES SELECTED BY THE 2019 DAMN THESE HEELS GUEST

OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2019 FRAMELINE

DIRECTOR, JORDAN BLOK

For They Know Not What They Do

DIRECTED BY DANIEL KARSLAKE 91 MIN | 2019 | USA

The director of For the Bible Tells Me So explores four American families as they face sexuality, identity, and the undeniable connection of the personal and political.

OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2019 TRIBECA FILM FESTIVAL, 2019 FRAMELINE

Gay Chorus Deep South

DIRECTED BY DAVID CHARLES RODRIGUES 100 MIN | 2019 | USA

The San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus embarks on a deep south tour, confronting intolerance with fine music.

WINNER: AUDIENCE AWARD–2019 TRIBECA FILM FESTIVAL

The Handmaiden (Ah-ga-ssi)

DIRECTED BY CHAN-WOOK PARK 145 MIN | 2016 | SOUTH KOREA | KOREAN AND JAPANESE WITH ENGLISH SUBTITLES

A handmaiden to a Japanese heiress is plotting to defraud her until their relationship becomes more complex.

CAST: MIN-HEE KIM, JUNG-WOO HA, JIN-WOONG CHO WINNER: BEST FILM NOT IN THE ENGLISH LANGUAGE–2018 BAFTA SELECTED BY THE 2019 DAMN THESE HEELS GUEST DIRECTOR, JORDAN BLOK

Jonathan Agassi Saved My Life

DIRECTED BY TOMER HEYMANN 106 MIN | 2018 | ISRAEL/GERMANY | ENGLISH AND HEBREW WITH ENGLISH SUBTITLES

A rare and intimate story of one of the world’s most successful gay porn stars. A look at porn and escorting in a way that redefines family and cultural norms.

WINNER: BEST ISRAELI DOCUMENTARY–2018 JERUSALEM FILM FESTIVAL

A Night at Switch n’ Play

DIRECTED BY CODY STICKELS 72 MIN | 2019 | USA

“Switch n’ Play” hosts experimental burlesque dancers, drag kings, and traditional drag queens in one venue.

OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2019 INSIDE OUT TORONTO

No Box For Me. An Intersex Story

DIRECTED BY FLORIANE DEVIGNE 58 MIN | 2018 | FRANCE | FRENCH WITH ENGLISH SUBTITLES

A lyrical film that questions gender and reflects on the way intersex people seek to reclaim their bodies.

OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2019 BFI FLARE, 2019 FRAMELINE

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Sister Aimee

DIRECTED BY SAMANTHA BUCK, MARIE SCHLINGMANN 97 MIN | 2019 | USA

Olivia

DIRECTED BY JACQUELINE AUDRY 96 MIN | 1952 | FRANCE | FRENCH W/ ENGLISH SUBTITLES

Known as a “landmark of lesbian representation,” the film works in charged moments to explore unrequited love between a headmistress, her colleagues, and a pupil.

A famous 20s evangelist mysteriously disappears with her lover at the height of her stardom.

CAST: JULIE WHITE, MICHAEL MOSLEY, AMY HARGREAVES OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2019 SUNDANCE FILM FESTIVAL, 2019 SARASOTA FILM FESTIVAL

Socrates

DIRECTED BY ALVARO DELGADO APARICIO 95 MIN | 2017 | PERU | QUECHUA AND SPANISH W/ ENGLISH SUBTITLES

14-year-old Segundo, a story-box maker, observes his father in a situation that shatters his whole world.

CAST: MAGALY SOLIER, AMIEL CAYO, JUNIOR BEJAR OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2018 BERLIN FILM FESTIVAL, 2018 SEATTLE INTERNATIONAL FILM FESTIVAL

Schedule

FRIDAY, JULY 12 @ 7 PM JEANNÉ WAGNER THEATRE OPENING NIGHT FILM:

CHANGING THE GAME

FRIDAY, JULY 12 @ 10 PM JEANNÉ WAGNER THEATRE

BIT

SATURDAY, JULY 13 @ 9 AM JEANNÉ WAGNER THEATRE

SHORTS PROGRAM 1

SATURDAY, JULY 13 @ 9:15 AM BLACK BOX THEATRE TO BE ANNOUNCED

DIRECTED BY ALEXANDRE MORATTO 70 MIN | 2018 | BRAZIL | PORTUGUESE W/ ENGLISH SUBT

Teenage Socrates faces isolation for his sexuality on the margins of São Paulo following his mother’s death.

CAST: CHRISTIAN MALHEIROS, TALES ORDAKJI, CAIO MARTINEZ PACHECO. WINNER: SOMEONE TO WATCH 2019 FILM INDEPENDENT SPIRIT AWARDS, JURY PRIZE FOR BEST FEATURE–2019 OUTSHINE FILM FESTIVAL

SATURDAY, JULY 13 @ 1:15 PM BLACK BOX THEATRE

MA VIE EN ROSE

SATURDAY, JULY 13 @ 3 PM JEANNÉ WAGNER THEATRE

RETABLO

SATURDAY, JULY 13 @ 3:15 PM MEZZANINE STUDIO

SPECIAL EVENT: COMMUNITY REFLECTION W/ GIULIANA SERENA OF THE BEE

SATURDAY, JULY 13 @ 3:30 PM BLACK BOX THEATRE

NO BOX FOR ME. AN INTERSEX STORY

SATURDAY, JULY 12 @ 10:45 AM JEANNÉ WAGNER THEATRE

SATURDAY, JULY 13 @ 5:15 PM JEANNÉ WAGNER THEATRE

SATURDAY, JULY 13 @ 11:30 AM BLACK BOX THEATRE

GRACEFULLY

SATURDAY, JULY 13 @ 5:45 PM BLACK BOX THEATRE TO BE ANNOUNCED

SATURDAY, JULY 13 @ 12:45 PM JEANNÉ WAGNER THEATRE

SATURDAY, JULY 13 @ 7:30 PM JEANNÉ WAGNER THEATRE

SOCRATES

FOR THEY KNOW NOT WHAT THEY DO

Unsettled

DIRECTED BY TOM SHEPARD 81 MIN | 2019 | USA

The story of four LGBTQ refugees and asylum seekers from Africa and the Middle East as they flee persecution to seek better and safer lives in the U.S. OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2019 SAN FRANCISCO INTERNATIONAL FILM FESTIVAL

CAST: EDWIGE FEUILLÈRE, SIMONE SIMON, MARIE-CLAIRE OLIVIA, NOMINATED: BEST ACTRESS–1953 BAFTA

Retablo

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WOUNDED BY THE WIND

SISTER AIMEE

Wounded By the Wind (Las Heridas del Viento)

DIRECTED BY JUAN CARLOS RUBIO 75 MIN | 2017 | SPAIN | SPANISH WITH ENGLISH SUBTITLES

Finding his deceased father’s love letter to another man, David seeks out his father’s lover for the truth.

CAST: DANIEL MURIEL, KITI MÁNVER OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2018 SEVILLE EUROPEAN FILM FEST

SATURDAY, JULY 13 @ 8 PM BLACK BOX THEATRE

SUNDAY, JULY 14 @ 1:45 PM BLACK BOX THEATRE

SATURDAY, JULY 13 @ 9:45 PM JEANNÉ WAGNER THEATRE

SUNDAY, JULY 14 @ 3:15 PM MEZZANINE STUDIO SPECIAL EVENT:

JONATHAN AGASSI SAVED MY LIFE UNSETTLED

SATURDAY, JULY 13 @ 10:15 PM BLACK BOX THEATRE

A NIGHT AT SWITCH N’ PLAY

SUNDAY, JULY 14 @ 9 AM JEANNÉ WAGNER THEATRE

OLIVIA

SUNDAY, JULY 14 @ 9:30 AM BLACK BOX THEATRE TO BE ANNOUNCED SUNDAY, JULY 14 @ 11:15 AM JEANNÉ WAGNER THEATRE

ADAM

SUNDAY, JULY 14 @ 11:45 AM BLACK BOX THEATRE

FABULOUS

SUNDAY, JULY 14 @ 1:45 PM JEANNÉ WAGNER THEATRE TO BE ANNOUNCED

SHORTS PROGRAM 2

COMMUNITY REFLECTION W/ GIULIANA SERENA OF THE BEE

SUNDAY, JULY 14 @ 3:45 PM JEANNÉ WAGNER THEATRE

AN ALMOST ORDINARY SUMMER

SUNDAY, JULY 14 @ 4 PM BLACK BOX THEATRE

THE HANDMAIDEN

SUNDAY, JULY 14 @ 6 PM JEANNÉ WAGNER THEATRE

GAY CHORUS DEEP SOUTH

For more information on the Damn These Heels Film Festival, visit utahfilmcenter.org/dth2019

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the bookworm sez

BY TERRI SCHLICHENMEYER

Three books on Stonewall INDECENT ADVANCES: A HIDDEN HISTORY OF TRUE CRIME AND PREJUDICE BEFORE STONEWALL

by James Polchin, c.2019, Counterpoint Press, $26, 256 pages

THE STONEWALL RIOTS edited by Marc Stein, c.2019, New York University Press, $35, 341 pages

OUT IN TIME

by Perry N. Halkitis, c.2019, Oxford University Press, $34.95, 288 pages

Fifty years ago, it was a busy summer.

Nationally, everyone was glued to their TVs to watch men walk on the moon.

Woodstock called to every hippie here, there, and abroad.

Charles Manson terrified Californians. And gay and lesbian folks watched closely as a little bar in Greenwich Village became a flash-point for rights.

If you are over age 55, you might have memories of the Stonewall Riots; vivid ones that may’ve become gauzy; or sketchy ones, perhaps, from the viewpoint of a child. If you’re under age 55, the Stonewall Riots are undoubtedly just a story to you and there’s a lot for you to learn. To mark the anniversary of this event that altered so many lives, look for these new books…

Beginning in the years

before the Stonewall Riots, Indecent Advances: A Hidden History of True Crime and Prejudice Before Stonewall by James Polchin takes a look at the crimes committed against gay men, long before equality and rights were a notion, let alone even being on the table.

Murder, of course, lines the pages of this book but you’ll also read stories of harassment, assault, and minor crimes that were embellished so that they could be charged as more serious. Polchin also looks at how criminal acts committed by and aimed at LGBT people came under controversy when attention was paid to one minority group’s safety, and not to that of another group. This, the embedded presence of many (in)famous criminals, and other stories lightly linked to Stonewall make it a unique and interesting book.

Because memories fade, opinions differ, and people die, The Stonewall Riots: A Documentary History, edited by Marc Stein is a valuable resource to have. Here, Stein collected photographs, court transcripts, notes, newspaper excerpts, and transcripts of documents that prove an intimate timeline for the years 1965 through 1973. His focus was on four major cities but he also includes documents that originated elsewhere; works of fiction also show up in this book. While it’s pri-

marily about gay men, lesbians and “transvestites” are inside its pages, as well.

Says Stein, “there is always more to the story…” and this book displays it.

And it’s normal to want to compare the way things were in 1969 to the way things are now.

In Out in Time, Perry N. Halkitis does exactly that with three generations of gay men to show that, while there are differences in social attitudes, health, legalities, and politics, there are also striking similari-

ties in challenges and in gains.

Done with mini-interviews woven through the narrative to hold together the words of everyday people, this is an easy book to step into, with short chapters and browseable segments.

Readers should note that these books are historically-based and may be on the scholarly side, eye-opening, and quite entertaining. If you have keen memories of the summer of ’69, what’s here may pull you back fifty years.

If you’re too young to remember what happened then, these books on the Stonewall Riots will keep you busy all summer. Q Terri Schlichenmeyer is a book reviewer, ceaseless reader, and Lhasa Mom. She loves science books, and books that make her think. Find her at bookwormsez.com and on Twitter at twitter.com/bookwormsez.

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LOVELOUD’S THIRD YEAR Dan Reynolds and Tegan Quin talk LGBTQ festival’s third year, leveling the industry playing field and the best kind of straight white man

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

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Dragons frontman Dan Reynolds’ devotion to LGBTQ issues — chief among them: mitigating queer-youth suicide rates — has only escalated in the years since he founded the first LoveLoud Festival Powered by AT&T in 2017. Look no further than the Billboard Music Awards in May, when Reynolds chose to use his brief onstage moment while accepting the top rock prize with his band to bring public awareness to the troubling prevalence of conversion therapy.

On June 29 at USANA Amphitheatre in Salt Lake City, the 31-year-old musician will once again put his global rockstar clout to good use, returning to the stage for the third annual LoveLoud Festival with event co-organizer Tegan Quin, one half of openly lesbian indie-pop twin duo Tegan and Sara.

Last year, Reynolds raised over PHOTOS COURTESY OF LOVELOUD FESTIVAL

$1 ­million for LGBTQ charities, including The Trevor Project, GLAAD, HRC, the Tegan and Sara Foundation, Encircle and GLAAD, among others.

This year’s one-day event includes a headlining performance from Kesha, who will perform alongside Reynolds, Tegan and Sara, Daya, Grouplove, K. Flay, Laura Jane Grace, and more.

During a recent call, Quin and Reynolds spoke about the festival’s evolution (more LGBTQ artists … and rainbow buses?!), how Reynolds has set a new bar for straight white men, and hoping to get Beyoncé on the bill.

Tegan, what does it mean to you that a straight white man, particularly now when the straight white man is not the most popular person in the room, is standing up for us?

TEGAN QUIN: (Laughs) Honestly, it’s why I’m involved with LoveLoud, because the first conversation I had with Dan, I

was just like, “Oh, this is the bar, this is not just where straight, white, cis men should be but where all of our allies should be.” And at this point, it’s fair that we should just all care. Here’s the thing: there’s really, really easy ways to show up and care as an ally. We did it before we started a foundation. We just donate a dollar from every ticket sold to something that matters to us.

I think that Dan is an incredible ally and he’s the new bar, and when he gets up every single time it bewilders and moves me and I’m just like, I can’t believe this! Every time he performs on television in a Tegan and Sara Foundation shirt (laughs) I have a giggle because most people don’t know what the shirts says, but Dan is on national television broadcasting a mission about supporting LGBTQ women and girls and fighting for economic justice and health and representation for an in-

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credibly marginalized group of people in society. I think that it’s absolutely wonderful, because for the people who know what he’s doing it says to them, “I care.” And we should care. And I’m so moved that he cares.

I hate that in 2019 I even have to ask a question like this, but Dan, being a straight white male ally, do you think you’re able to reach people that an out lesbian female artist such as Tegan may not?

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Yeah, I think it would be ridiculous to not recognize the privilege that I’ve been given as exactly that: a straight white man.

Our LGBTQ artists are just starting to come up on the scene and they’ve been there for a long time. In fact, they probably are more of a backbone in the arts community than a straight white man but a straight white man is given a stronger voice because of privilege and that’s it. Further marginalized are LGBTQ women, especially those of color. So we have a long way to go, absolutely. But sadly it is going to take those who are privileged to speak up because some people are only going to be hearing them, and that’s the sad truth and it sucks. But the only way to change it is for all hands to be on deck.

Having done this now for three years, do you find you’re reaching the people that you have intended to reach?

REYNOLDS: Yeah, I think we’ve reached a small margin of the people we want to reach but, certainly, we’re starting to get there. A big part of this year and last year was AT&T live streams the whole concert, so people really, all across the globe, can watch. Because this is way more prevalent than just Utah. Really, there are hundreds of cities that need LoveLoud desperately. We started in Utah because the number one reason for death among teenagers there is suicide and LGBTQ youth are

seven times more likely to take their life when they’re not accepted in the home or their community, but that statistic is really prevalent all over the place and Utah just happened to be a place that I grew up in, and I understood the community to some regard, especially the religious community that exists there. So, this has been kind of a learning process for the last three years and we absolutely want to grow and expand and move to other places and raise more money and put on these celebratory events in as many places as we can.

Anybody can watch the livestream. Is there anyone specifically that you think should tune in?

QUIN: What was cool about when I got involved with LoveLoud was to hear Dan and the whole team who’ve been involved since the beginning talk about their dreams for what LoveLoud will become, and obviously AT&T is allowing them to live that dream. I think the people who need to watch the stream are the same people who need to come to the show, which is just all of the community that surrounds LGBTQ people, whether you are completely understanding, or OK with it or not, it’s a great place to start that conversation.

I think Dan draws really kind of beautiful pictures for every kid who’s watching the livestream on their laptop, maybe alone at home, who haven’t had that conversation yet, or maybe they’re watching with their family.

There’s so many moving moments. It’s not just the music — in fact, it’s what happens in between the music: the speeches and the speakers and some of the other big moments that happen from community members.

To see the power and to see the positivity, I hope a lot of young people watch the stream and feel good about themselves and see themselves represented. I know for myself, personally as a young queer person, I did not see myself represented. In the ’90s the closest representation I had were the few women who were out, like k.d. lang and Melissa Etheridge, who were amazing but they were decades older

than me. Representation is important, and Dan and LoveLoud and all of us on the board are trying really hard to find representation of everyone so LGBTQ people see themselves and feel good.

What are some next steps the music industry can take in combating homophobia in the industry?

REYNOLDS: I think affording more opportunities for LGBTQ artists. One of the rad things that Tegan was just telling me she’s doing right now: They’re finishing their record and it’s all produced and engineered by women, which is super rare. And it’s not for lack of women trying; it’s not for lack of women producers. It’s just because people don’t afford them the same opportunities.

And especially for LGBTQ songwriters, they’ve been around for a long time but just finally are they being recognized. One of my dear friends is Justin Tranter, who now is being recognized as an incredible songwriter and yet way before he was songwriting for his own band, Semi Precious Weapons, he just wasn’t afforded the same popularity because he was asked to be less queer by so many people time after time. I can just say that absolutely affording more opportunities for our LGBTQ community would be a great start.

Tegan, do you feel like we have to stifle our queerness… you, not we… ha, I’m not in the music industry. But do you feel you or other LGBTQ artists have to stifle their sexuality to get a leg up in the music business?

QUIN: No, actually, I think you should say “we.” I think as queer people, of course we have to stifle who we are no matter where we work. My experience is not singular; it’s not mine, it’s ours.

We all feel it. I know tons of women in the music business who are not out at work, which is wild to me. But the music business is like every business: men are at the top. And generally, it’s straight men, and if they’re gay men that doesn’t necessarily fare any better for us as women (laughs). Yeah, I think we do have to stifle a part of who we are, our personhood, and I think Dan’s right (about) providing more opportunities for LGBTQ women. Clearly, obviously, all LGBTQ people need that space but for women specifically in

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project for me. I knew in the beginning that my heart was in this and it was in it because it affected people around me. It was my friends growing up who were Mormon and queer and watching the struggles that they had with that and the acceptance they weren’t receiving at home, and then meeting my wife who’s a fierce activist (who was) living with her two best friends who are LGBTQ and all of them dressing up in wedding dresses and wanting to go handcuff themselves to the Federal Building during Prop 8. So I married

❝This year’s onethe industry that would be incredible.

But it’s a double-edged sword. You don’t just want to be known as a queer producer or a queer songwriter. And so we all face this sort of question of, “How much do we make that a part of who we are?”

I think what’s really gonna have to happen is that straight men and men with huge recording budgets and men with power are gonna have to stop making their records with 20 men and start using women — and women at the top. And I think that’s when the industry will really change. All the women we just worked with are all under the age of 30 and that’s a good sign to me. I think Dan’s right: those rooms are getting more diverse and they’re getting more opportunities, but I think what the industry really needs to do is just address the problem with women still. It’s a desert out there for women, so of course it’s hard for LGBTQ people.

More LGBTQ artists are on this year’s bill than during the festival’s first and second year. Can you talk about how queer inclusion in the festival has changed, why that has changed and if there was any pressure to be more LGBTQ-inclusive?

REYNOLDS: The answer is: yes, yes and yes (laughs). As far as the artists and speakers: this has been a learning

day event includes a headlining performance from Kesha, who will perform alongside Reynolds, Tegan and Sara, Daya, Grouplove, K. Flay, Laura Jane Grace, and more.

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a woman who also ignited what was already there for me and who is also the roaring fire behind LoveLoud.

So every straight white man needs to marry your wife.

REYNOLDS: Yes. But hell no. I got there first! (Laughs) My long answer is that I came into this as, you’re right, a privileged straight white man saying, “Hey, let me help,” and the only thing I knew to help with was my band, Imagine Dragons; it has a big platform and a big following and a lot of that following is families, which is exactly who we wanted to affect. We wanted this dinner-table conversation to destigmatize. So long story short: It started with

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the band, it launched off the shoulders of the band, and now we’re moving it toward where it should be, which is primarily focused on LGBTQ artists, affording them more opportunities, affording them a stage in front of tens of thousands of people. Between our lineup, between our speakers, it’s a very LGBTQ-focused lineup and I think on top of that it’s all hands on deck, so we also have some really great mainstream artists who are allies.

What’s the future of LoveLoud?

REYNOLDS: That it’s everywhere. I want it to be such a household name that it becomes boring so that this becomes destigmatized so people can stop talking about it as an issue. That’s the main goal at the end of the day: for this to be destigmatized so that LGBTQ kids can just be kids and that’s it. I think that’s the goal, and to do that we take it into every city and every home.

I want everyone talking about this, I want conservative-religious parents to sit down and have to talk about this with their kids because the kids say, “I want to go to this concert,” and they say, “What is it? What does that mean?” and have the conversation and that starts the destigmatization process.

Would either of you be interested in taking LoveLoud on the road?

REYNOLDS: Yeah.

QUIN: Yeah, I’ve heard some pretty awesome ideas thrown around at some of our board meetings and I think it could be really cool to see LoveLoud in a lot of other places. Again, I’ve said it so many times, but this isn’t just a Utah issue, so I think there’s lots of potential. There’s just nothing like it.

Just never had that feeling. There’s just literally never been another thing like this — the closest is, of course, celebrations around Pride every year in major cities, but this is different because it’s everyone coming together for a very, very specific reason and rallying around our youth. But it touches everybody because it really connects with the families, but it also connects with older LGBTQ people. I went with some of my dear friends last year and

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they were just like, “I needed this as a young person, desperately.” It just makes you really feel so seen when you’re there.

If you could pick a dream artist or speaker to appear at the festival, who would it be?

QUIN: For me, personally, I feel like I walk a fine line because I think it would be cool if Madonna came, if Pink did it; I think it could be an amazing thing if Katy Perry came and did it. I think having women like that who have been incredible allies to the community would be so powerful.

Beyoncé and Jay-Z, when they got their GLAAD award, I was like, “They should come to LoveLoud!” They would be amazing. But I think Dan just pointed out something really important, which is that often when LGBTQ events happen our allies get the stage and it’s often the LGBTQ artists who don’t get asked to play.

And so, I don’t know. There’s a fucking amazing crop of young LGBTQ people: I’d love to have King Princess, I’d love to have Shura, I’d love to have Janelle Monae.

REYNOLDS: I’d love to have Frank Ocean.

I’m just putting these names out just to get the offer out there. I’d love to have Lizzo. There’s a lot of artists, both queer and not. And like I said, I think it’s all hands on deck. We need everyone, because this is a global issue.

QUIN: Every year we’re just gonna keep adding to the list, and Dan’s quite ambitious about what he wants to do and I’m along for the ride.

REYNOLDS: And rainbow tour buses rolling across the U.S.!

QUIN: Rainbow tour buses! I’m into it. Q As editor of Q Syndicate, Chris Azzopardi has interviewed a multitude of superstars, including Cher, Meryl Streep, Mariah Carey and Beyoncé. His work has also appeared in GQ, Vanity Fair and Billboard. Reach him via Twitter @chrisazzopardi.

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Reasons sitting at the bar is the best way to dine

Booths may be the most popular seating option at restaurants, but dining at the bar has more benefits than you may realize. Here are five. BY MIKEY ROX

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You’ll receive faster service

Wait staff that serve the main dining floor have several to many tables each, and it’s sometimes difficult to receive the attention you need when their hands are literally full throughout your experience at that restaurant. That’s not to say that the bar doesn’t get busy too — it does — but at least there you have a dedicated bartender or more who is constantly scanning the length to see who needs what. Lock eyes or raise a finger and you’re good to go.

The bar also is a better option if you’re in a hurry. You usually receive your food and drinks much faster compared to sitting at a full-service table or booth, which can be helpful if you need to dine and dash — after you’ve paid for everything, of course.

candy is up close 2 Eye and personal

I can’t confirm that bartenders are hired based on their appearance related to the type of clients the establishment serves, but when have you ever been to a gay or gay-friendly

bar or restaurant where the hired guns didn’t have a pair of their own to gawk at? Thus, if you enjoy sucking on a little eye candy — proverbially speaking — while satisfying your nutritional cravings, belly up.

and drinks are 3 Food often cheaper

I practice what I preach in my other life as a personal finance expert, and I’m always looking for deals and discounts when I dine out.

The best way to score those savings is usually at happy hour, which requires bar seating to qualify for limited-time food and drinks specials. Even outside of happy hour, bar-only menus typically features lesser-priced items than the regular menu. Making a meal out of a couple of those dishes will save you cash over buying a full-fledged entrée.

can be more affectionate 4 You and romantic

My boyfriend and I almost exclusively sit at the bar when we dine out, save for a couple special occasions a year where we like to

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switch it up and be a bit more traditional at a cozy table. What we both love about bar seating is that we can be closer than if we were seated opposite another. We like to canoodle, put our arms around each other’s shoulders, and rest our hands on each other’s thighs. The seemingly inconsequential decision on where to sit when we dine out helps us maintain a certain closeness — figuratively and literally — which is very important to our relationship. Spending an hour or two at the bar is a simple way to accomplish that.

meet new people 5 You’ll and make new friends

My boyfriend was a server at a restaurant when I met him while dining at the bar with a couple buddies, so, yeah, I’m a bit biased on its benefits, but you can’t deny that in a restaurant setting the bar is where social people make connections. I’ve met friends, business contacts, one-night stands and long-term lovers while noshing on half-price apps and dollar-off drafts at the bar, connections I would have denied myself dining in another location. Q Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBT lifestyle expert whose work has been published in more than 100 outlets across the world. Instagram @mikeyrox.

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What were all those different flags at Pride?

If you went to Utah Pride, you likely noticed a whole “rainbow” of flag designs but probably couldn’t name what each of them means.

Here is our guide to LGBTQ flags.

RAINBOW FLAG — LGBT MOVEMENT Designed by Gilbert Baker for the 1978 San Francisco Gay Freedom Celebration to represent the diversity of gays and lesbians around the world. In the original eight-color version, pink stood for sexuality, red for life, orange for healing, yellow for the sun, green for nature, turquoise for art, indigo for harmony, and violet for spirit.

Original 8-stripe version:

BEAR BROTHERHOOD FLAG Bear is an affectionate gay slang term for those with hairy bodies and facial hair; some heavy-set, some working-class masculine.

The International Bear Brotherhood Flag was designed in 1995 by Craig Byrnes

BISEXUAL

A seven-stripe version with hot pink color removed due to a lack of fabric (1978–79) then the six-stripes version with turquoise color removed and indigo color changed to royal blue (1979-present):

First unveiled on 5 December 1998, the bisexual pride flag was designed by Michael Page with pink representing sexual attraction to the same sex only, blue for sexual attraction to the opposite sex only, and the resultant overlap color purple represents sexual attraction to both sexes.

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LESBIAN PRIDE FLAGS

PANSEXUALITY

There are several Lesbian pride flags developed over the years, but there is no concensus on which is the “right one.”

Labrys lesbian feminist pride was created in 1999 by graphic designer Sean Campbell, but is rarely seen anymore:

The pansexual pride flag has been found on various Internet sites since mid-2010. The pink band symbolizes women; the blue, men; and the yellow, those of a non-binary gender, such as agender, bigender or genderfluid.

PHILADELPHIA PRIDE A lesbian pride flag design often seen at pride festivals and dyke marches is the rainbow flag with two interlocked astronomical Venus symbols representing the female sex in biology

To show support for people of color, the city of Philadelphia added black and brown stripes to its pride flag in 2017.

PINK JACK The lipstick lesbian flag was originally introduced in the weblog This Lesbian Life in 2010.

In the United Kingdom, since 2006, the Pink Jack, a pink version of the Union Jack, has been used to represent LGBT British.

TRANSGENDER NON-BINARY INTERSEX ASEXUALITY The flag was created by a user of the Asexual Visibility and Education Network in 2010.

Black represents asexuality, gray represents gray-aces and demisexuals, white for allies, and purple represents community.

Created by Intersex Human Rights Australia in July 2013 with yellow and purple as “hermaphrodite” colors, the circle as “unbroken and unornamented, symbolising wholeness and completeness, and our potentialities.

The non-binary flag was created in 2014 by activist Kye Rowan with yellow for people who identify outside of the gender binary, white for nonbinary people with multiple genders, purple for those with a mixture of both male and female genders, and black for agender individuals.

A transgender symbol is the Transgender Pride Flag designed by transgender woman Monica Helms in 1999, with light blue as the traditional color for baby boys, pink, the traditional color for baby girls and white for nonbinary. “The pattern is such that no matter which way you fly it, it is always correct, signifying us finding correctness in our lives,” wrote Helms.

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UTAH PRIDE FESTIVAL 2019

BY THE NUMBERS According to organizers, here is a snapshot of this year’s Pride: ❝A big, heart-felt, beautiful thank you to every volunteer, every sponsor, and every one of you who came together to celebrate love and diversity! You have made Utah Pride Days 2019 the biggest and best Pride ever! It is truly amazing to see LGBTQ+ communities, families & allies unified! All proceeds from Utah Pride Days events will support the critical and life-saving services provided by The Utah Pride Center year-round!❞ —Utah Pride Center leaders

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some new friends. Expand your social circle. Someone has a crush on you.

CANCER June 21–July 22

BY SAM KELLEY-MILLS

ARIES March 20–April 19

Everything you were afraid of seems to manifest itself in the form of an event. There is something going on with a friend or family member that has you uneasy. But this is also a time of celebration and, while you want to do all you can to give this person a hand, you have to put your well being first. No one else will care.

TAURUS Apr 20–May 20

The right way to deal with a relationship matter is to sprinkle a bit of fun into the mix. Whether it be a series of dates or simply taking the time for some passion, there is no wrong way to fix it as long as you have a positive attitude. A gift will come in the form of a reward, one you have earned.

It may be a wild summer season.

GEMINI May 21–June 20

Playing games is okay until someone gets hurt. Keep the good times safe and don’t take any risks. The consequences are never as easy to live with as it seems. But there are some great places to visit and fun things to do. Be creative and make

If life right now had a motto, it would be “so what?” While this though may become a theme, don’t be quick to end the path of reasoning there when dealing with friends and family. Have involved interactions and try to see the deeper meaning of those around you. A lover could hint at a hot time, so don’t turn down the offer.

LEO July 23–August 22

If life right now had a motto, it would be “so what?” While this though may become a theme, don’t be quick to end the path of reasoning there when dealing with friends and family. Have involved interactions and try to see the deeper meaning of those around you. A lover could hint at a hot time, so don’t turn down the offer.

VIRGO August 23–Sep. 22

The ability to feel satisfied is elusive right now. This is a time to check on your health and mental state. Both have experienced some strain lately. Go easy on cheap tricks, which provide temporary relief but rotten feelings in the long term. It’s not easy to strive for long-term goals, but baby steps could prove remarkable easy to take.

LIBRA Sept 23–October 22

The hardest part of being a mentor is teaching something you don’t understand. It may be necessary to send friends or loved ones on their own path, and guide only when things get a little rough. There could be instances where work and family life don’t seem to balance. Cater to individuals who care, those who know the real you.

SCORPIO Oct. 23–Nov. 21

Defy odds and seek out learning opportunities. Do not invite danger, but simply re-exam the limitations you have placed for yourself. The road less travelled may turn out to be the easier path to follow right now. Take a chance and get involved with some new groups. The associates who matter will always be there for you.

SAGITTARIUS

Nov. 22–December 20.

Striving for perfection will only lead to higher recognition of meaningless flaws. A person of interest isn’t perfect, but have the most to offer in matters of the love. Give in to temptation and allow the heart of enjoy some passion. Losing the ability to feel is a real possibility right now, so take action to avoid it. Deep love is the best kind.

CAPRICORN Dec 21–Jan 19

You will find friends in strangers, and strangers in friends during this time. A mild crisis in life can reveal the true nature of those around you. Take solace in the fact that something slippery is not meant to be held tight, but simply stroked. Attachment is healthy if the end result is something pleasurable. Be adaptable and flexible.

AQUARIUS Jan. 20–Feb. 18

Work will start to seem dull, leading to the desire to find a new career. Tread carefully in this quest, and explore all possibilities. Enlisting is easy, but commitment is hard.

Don’t jump until you are ready. What matters is making time for friends and family, so take that into consideration.

A dream job may come at too high a cost.

PISCES Feb 19–Mar 19

The battle between thoughts and emotion is not something everyone understands. The warmth of dependency is easy to crave, but not always easily satisfied. Indulge lightly in the company of others, but be sure you feel good on your own first. Placing trust in others feels unwise, and with good reason. Betrayal is possible right now. Q

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that another SLC pride has come and gone, my thoughts continue to focus on how this is the 50th anniversary of the Stonewall Riots. The month of June honors the riots of 1969, which as you may recall are an important turning point for the LGBT community. These riots began after police raided a club called the Stonewall Inn for violations, angering the LGBT community who felt targeted by the police. What started as a one-day celebration and remembrance grew into a whole month filled with parades and other events to bring people together regardless of sexuality or gender identity. Although the month of June has passed, it is my belief that the spirit of inclusiveness and pride should continue even after LGBT Pride Month has faded into the memories of another summer.

When we ask ourselves, “What is Pride,” I think we could all agree that it is the positive stance against discrimination and violence toward lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender individuals. However, I believe that it is important that we continue to push that belief one step forward and continue to promote our self-affirmation, dignity, equality rights, increase visibility as a social group, build community, and celebrate sexual diversity and gender variance. That’s a lot of words. But simply to sum it up, Pride is an idea that goes beyond the Parade.

I recently read an article about Pride and the modern movement for LGBTQ acceptance. In the article, the author broke out PRIDE as follows: P: PERSEVERANCE — progressing forward in the face of

difficulty or oppression R: RESILIENCE — toughness, bouncing back from pain, and continuing to press on I: INCLUSION — embracing the human desire to be a part of something greater than one’s self D: DETERMINATION — continuing to fight unwavering for rights and dignity in the face of continual hatred, judgment, ignorance, and bigotry E: EXPRESSION — allowing one’s self to be free to live and exist as one wants While this is a very thought out acrostic, what I find to be key is the message this delivers.

It brings forward extremely bold expressions and couples them with the resiliency necessary to weather the storms of life.

When I re-read the message, this sings to me of the type of individuals we need to be all year and not just during a month of celebration.

Even if rainbow products disappear from store shelves, the positive attitude and acceptance fostered by Pride Month needs to persist. Inclusivity should not be limited to a single month every year and treating people with respect and an open mind is something to be practiced all the time.

We have fought for well over five decades to be treated with dignity and respect. The fight continues, and we must remain diligent to our cause. Progression is very fickle. The moment you let what you have been fighting for slip, it regresses back to the way it was before.

So, lets continue to keep the spirit of pride alive all year.

Besides, who doesn’t like an occasional rainbow throughout the year! Q

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BY JOEY AMATO

The

Pacific Northwest is and has always been one of my favorite places in the country to visit. Natural beauty is around every corner, and Spokane is no different. The city, historically overshadowed

by Seattle, is going through a bit of a renaissance as of late and creating a vibe and culture that sets itself apart from its larger neighbor to the west.

Begin your tour of Spokane by walking around downtown.

Visit RIVERFRONT PARK, take a ride on the SkyRide (over the Spokane River) and jump on the Looff Carousel. Yes, I was probably the oldest person riding the carousel, but when in Rome…

An interesting note: Walt Disney tried to purchase the carousel for his Anaheim property but was outbid.

DOWNTOWN SPOKANE is an Instagrammers paradise.

A giant red wagon, garbage eating goat, running statues and of course the waterfalls, make downtown the perfect spot for vacation photos.

The first stop in my downtown tour of the city was MARYHILL WINERY, a beautiful winery overlooking the river and the perfect place for a tasting of some local wines.

Washington state is known for having some of the best wines in the country and Maryhill didn’t disappoint.

Spend your evenings at the DAVENPORT GRAND, a 4-star property located in the heart of the city, which provides easy access to all of Spokane’s main attractions and dining. Their penthouse suites feature king size beds with luxury linens, a cozy seating area with electric fireplace and magnificent views of the city. The Grand Terrace Bar is the perfect place to enjoy some happy hour cocktails be-

fore heading out on the town.

Grab dinner at WILD SAGE BISTRO, a wonderful restaurant in the heart of downtown. Being so close to the Pacific, fish should be your top choice. I opted for the Hawaiian Style Poke and Alaskan Halibut, which came pan seared with basil butter, Walla Walla sweet onion soubise, dressed peas, and pickled rhubarb.

Wild Sage is a favorite among residents of the ‘Lilac City’ and I was able to see why.

LGBTQ nightlife is vibrant in Spokane. To catch a glimpse of the local crowd, head to THE BLIND BUCK, one of Spokane’s hottest gay bars. I got a chance to meet some of the bartenders, a really cute shot boy and a few of the drag queens. They informed me about a gay pride cruise to Coeur d’Alene, Idaho that has been going on for over 20 years in conjunction with Spokane Pride.

The journey to Coeur d’Alene takes about 45-minutes and well worth the trip. It is one of the most beautiful places I have visited in recent memory. As I boarded the ship — emblazoned in a huge rainbow flag — I quickly noticed how diverse the crowd on board. Every member of the LGBTQ rainbow was represented. Over 200 revelers sipped cocktails and danced on the sun deck as the DJ spun classics from Cyndi Lauper, Madonna and Cher, leading to multiple sing-alongs. The 2-hour cruise took us around Lake Coeur d’Alene, whose shoreline is dotted with mega-mansions that would make the Kardashians jealous.

Spokane is a very cool destination with a thriving culinary, arts and music scene. It may not be as large as Seattle, but that adds to its appeal. Consider the destination for an upcoming adventure.

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9 Seemingly cheaper travel ‘hacks’ that could be robbing you blind

BY MIKEY ROX

Cutting

costs on travel can be a boon for your vacay budget, but there’s a dark side to some of those “discounts.”

Flying budget airlines Travel discounts apps and sites may populate your air travel search with lower-cost,

no-frills lines like Spirit or Norwegian, but what you’re saving on the front end could cost you even more on the back end. Unlike slightly higher-priced traditional airlines, “budget” carriers charge for everything, from carry-on bags (and the fee is WAY more than traditional airlines) to food and water (yes, you have

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to buy your own water on Spirit), so if you don’t plan accordingly, you can end up spending a fortune to get there in a seat that’s been consciously designed to be less comfortable.

And that’s assuming you get there…

I booked a flight to Paris from Dublin on Ryanair many years ago and the airline canceled the flight, ruined our New Year’s Eve, stranded us in the airport (we slept on the floor), only to send us to London a day later without so much as a sorry or a flight voucher.

Being flexible with your flight time and duration to save money You can save a lot of money by choosing to fly at an inconvenient time or booking a flight with a long layover. But at what cost to your vacation?

“Oftentimes, it pays to spend more on a flight if it means you’ll get to your destination faster or at a better time,” says Calvin Iverson, travel expert at TravelPirates. “If you’re spending 10 hours doing nothing at an airport during a layover or arriving in your destination at three in the morning, are you really having a good vacation?”

Or you can do what I do – book the longest layover possible in a place you’ve never been. I took a 16-hour layover in Iceland from London about 15 years ago – because when was I ever going to go to Iceland – and I loved it so much, I’ve returned twice. It was the best part of my vacation by far.

Clearing your “cookies” to game the system One misconception is that when you’re searching online for flights that you need to clear your search browser history before evaluating flights as the airlines have algorithms that will automatically increase flight prices if you continue searching for flights to the same destination. This may be counterintuitive as some airlines will reduce a flight price in the hope of securing your booking. Very often airlines will offer reduce rates to frequent flyers so browsing for flights in incognito mode could actually cost you money.

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Prebooking a vacation package deal before you leave It’s important to understand when booking a vacay package that you’re not booking direct with the providers themselves and you will pay an inflated price to the booking agent as they need to make a margin.

“The other inherent problem with ‘vacation package deals’ is that you will often end up with inconvenient travel times, poor rooms, and less than ideal rental cars,” adds Patricia Russell, a certified financial planner (CFP) and founder of the personal finance blog FinanceMarvel. “You will end up overpaying for each service and then receive a subpar service from each provider. You’re much better to book directly with each provider as they will generally match the rate from the ‘vacation package’ broker anyway.”

Booking a hotel outside of the city It’s true that hotels farther from the city center or the airport are often less expensive than hotels closer to the action. “But before you book one of those hotels for the low price,” says Iverson, “look into how you plan to get from the hotel to the city center.

Sometimes public transportation isn’t easy or inexpensive, and you end up paying more than you would have paid for a stay at a more conveniently located hotel.”

Saving money by booking a bus or train instead of a flight Sometimes you can get from point A to point B much cheaper by bus or train instead of a flight. But time

is worth money too – are you turning one of your hardearned vacation days into a travel day?

Being flexible with your flight dates to save money Most people know that one of the easiest ways to save money on your vacation is to change your departure or return date.

But before you adjust your dates to save $100 off your flights, don’t forget to check your hotel’s rates for your updated dates – hotel rates can change dramatically from day to day, and you could actually end up saving money by choosing the more expensive flight if your hotel ends up being cheaper for those days.

Signing up for travel credit cards Travel credit cards offer free points, miles and other rewards to get you to sign up.

While these signup bonuses can be very generous, it’s easy to forget why they are so generous. These bonuses are so enticing because, on average, the company will make more money off of interest it charges. This makes it extremely lucrative for them to give out so many bonuses. If you aren’t responsible with a credit card, no matter what the signup bonuses are, you can easily end up paying much more than your signup bonuses and easily end up in debt and even damaging your credit score if you aren’t careful.

Waiting for prices to drop Waiting for the price of a flight, cruise, rental, hotel or anything related to travel can cost you more if the prices increase.

“For example, if you wait and the price goes up, you can’t go back and book at a cheaper price,” says personal finance expert Dustyn Ferguson, founder of the money-saving blog Dime Will Tell.

“However, if you book as soon as possible and the price drops later, you can usually contact

the company for a price match to their new offer.” Q Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBT lifestyle expert whose work has been published in more than 100 outlets across the world. He spends his time writing from the beach with his dog Jaxon. Connect with Mikey on Instagram @mikeyrox

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The tale of the grapes of wrath

BY PETUNIA PAP SMEAR

The road

to Chateau Pap Smear is fraught with danger and excitement.

This month is the fifth anniversary of when Mr. Pap Smear and I purchased our home, Chateau Pap Smear. When we first decided to start the house searching process, I was all excited at the prospect of getting to tour fabulous houses. I thought, oh, one or two Saturdays and we would find the house of our dreams. Little did I realize that house hunting in Salt Lake is about as difficult as getting spilled glitter out of shag carpet.

We engaged the services of Benjamin, who was extremely handsome, and fortunately, happened to have a realtor license.

Ben proceeded to find dozens and dozens of houses in our price range. Of course, we couldn’t settle on just any ole house. My foremost requirement for a new house was that I needed a proper place to display my collection of glass “Relief Society” grapes.

Secondly, I needed to have sufficient storage space to accommodate my 19 wigs and 24 sets of breasticles with 78 pair of interchangeable nipples, let alone a space large enough for mooring Queertanic, my 1975 Buick Electra land yacht. Therefore, in reality, we probably should have been looking for warehouse space.

Little did I know, that our price range was more closely suited for the search of decrepit manure-filled sheep sheds — reminiscent of my youth on the Idaho farm — than for human habitation. And,

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who would have known that there are so many absolutely scary, hardly livable pieces of crap on the market that folks feel no compunction about asking for a fortune?

These certainly were hardly suitable for muggles, let alone a palace fit for a queen.

After several weeks of touring and rejecting many various houses for not being large enough to hold even a few wigs or for being so scary that only the Munsters would consider living in them, I began to feel sorry for our realtor. The only bright spot in the whole process was that after several years of watching HGTV I felt fully qualified to cast judgmental aspersions upon the various homeowners for their decorating abilities or lack thereof. Every time I would enter another scary home, I would stand in the doorway and envision myself throwing sequins, rhinestones and lame’ scarves into the air and giving the abode a “Too Wong Foo, Thanks for Everything Julie Newmar” style makeover. Praise be the late great Vida Boehm.

One Saturday, we toured a very lovely house that met all of my requirements and was even within our price range, so I asked my friend, Bongo — The Urban Jungle Boy, to come give it a look-see and give me a second opinion. We were excited, looking around this very promising house and I was thinking this just might be the one. I was on the patio speaking with the realtor about putting an offer on the place, when Bongo emerged, ever so dramatically, through the French doors and theatrically announced that the house was haunted.

He had detected the presence of someone who had died in the upstairs bedroom, and I should not, could not, would not buy this house. I was totally annoyed. The realtor began to cry.

Weeks later, Ben e-mailed me some photos of several houses to screen before the next day’s house hunting. One photo had a refrigerator mounted 18 inches off the floor in the wall. I was so revolted by the concept that I decided I did not even want to look at that house. The next day, he showed me six or seven totally unaccept-

able candidates. I was tired and wanted to call it a day. But he persuaded me to look at just one more.

I steered Queertanic to the designated address. Upon first glance, it was a cute brick bungalow grandma house, perfect for an aging queen. I thought, “Oh this charming and full of character. It has potential.” Then Ben arrived. I took one step inside and shrieked with delight. Ben dropped his keys in fear. There, before my eyes, stood an actual fireplace with a real honest to God mantle suitable for displaying my grapes. I turned around and squealed in glee.

The passage to the dining area was covered by an arch. I love arches! Immediately, my cleavage became moist. The bathroom had a garden tub with massaging jets. I immediately thought of a place to aim those jets of water. I turned the corner and the master bedroom was indeed large enough for a king size bed with a wall large enough to properly display my life-size portrait of a Speedo-clad Pietro Boselli. Be still my beating heart. I entered the kitchen and there in the wall, eighteen inches above the floor was the fridge. God damn it! It’s the house with the fridge!

Shit! Damn! Hell!

Pouting, I returned to the living room, and laid down on the carpet, staring at the fireplace, envisioning my grapes graciously displayed on the mantle to the envy of any Relief Society president. Like Vida Boehm said, “style over substance”. I bought the house! (And a step stool so I can reach the fridge.)

This story leaves us with several important questions: 1. Did I pass on so many houses so that I could continue to meet with Ben? 2. With 24 sets of breasticles and 78 pair of interchangeable nipples, how many different combinations are possible?

3. Was I annoyed with Bongo because he ruined the house for me, or because he stole my dramatic entrance?

4. Is the color of a hankie for a grape fetish purple?

5. Might the grape fetish be a subconscious desire for Ben Wah Balls?

These and other eternal questions will be answered in future chapters of The Perils of Petunia Pap Smear. Q

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