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Gay dem moves to uproot Gardner Republican Sen. Cory Gardner of Colorado, who bills himself as a “pro-LGBTQ Republican” despite opposing marriage equality, voting against payments to gay and lesbian partners of Social Security recipients and veterans, and rates a 12 of 100 on the HRC’s Congressional Scorecard, is being opposed by Dan Baer, an openly gay Democrat and former ambassador. Baer received the endorsement of the LGBTQ Victory Fund, pulled in a Buttigieg-like $1.35 million, the largest ever initial fundraising total for an openly LGBTQ congressional candidate. If elected, Baer would become the first modern openly gay man in the U.S. Senate since Sen. Rufus King, aka Aunt Fancy, who was reputedly former president James Buchanan’s squeeze.

No Pulse activity, made it up What was Elizabeth McCarthy thinking? She’s an out candidate for the Florida legislature and claimed to be a doctor who treated Pulse Nightclub shooting victims at a hospital ER. Good story, but she made the whole thing up. Turns out she’s not an MD. “It is a false statement. I just made it up,” McCarthy said, according to the Florida Department of Health. She was, really, the leg-

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islative director for the Florida LGBTA Democratic Caucus.

John Waters loves Baltimore Baltimore native and filmmaker, John Waters defended the city of his birth after tweets and comments about the city’s congressman, Rep. Elijah Cummings (D-MD).

The icon said to the tweeterin-chief, “Give me the rats and roaches of Baltimore any day over the lies and racism of your Washington.” Waters said on TV, “I lived in that neighborhood for 17 years. I made Hairspray when I lived there. And rats and roaches, you know, Baltimore, we work with what we got and we make it better.”

Greek bishop says “gays created” The Most Reverend Metropolitan Neophytos of Morfou of the Church of Cyprus got it half right when he said “gay people are created” before birth. He says the gay person is created in the womb if a man performs anal sex on a straight pregnant woman, and “she enjoys it.” He postulates that if she enjoys anal sex, “a desire is created, which is then transmitted to the unborn child.”

Marriage censure fails A Republican Congressman representing conservative House District 5 in Virginia was threatened with censure by the local party for officiating a same-sex wedding. The toothless censure got only four votes out of dozens of members attending a hastily called leadership meeting. The congressman told the Washington Post, “My real belief is that government shouldn’t be involved in marriage at all, but if it is, everybody has to be treated equally before the law.”

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Mayor Pete, it’s not enough

Canadian PM cruises Vancouver gay bar

The Advocate published a “Dear Mayor Pete” letter to Pete Buttigieg beseeching him to be a little gayer. Banging on about the Stonewall uprising 50 years ago, Carson Jones (son of Alabama Senator Doug Jones and an out gay person), wants Mayor Pete to do more than introduce and embrace his husband at campaign events, speak to the Victory fund about the travails of “coming” out, and discussing on national TV his struggle being gay in the uber macho US Army. Jones said Mayor Pete let him and “the community down” in the debates by answering the questions in a rational, calm, funny and some would say eloquent manner. Jones wants the mayor to “fight” identity politics by emphasizing his identity as a gay man.

Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau started Pride week in Vancouver, BC by popping into popular, crowded gay bar, Fountainhead Pub, for a beer and to shake hands. He mingled and posed for selfies with the happy-hour crowd. He is reputed to be the first Canadian PM to patronize a gay bar, though his father Pierre was a wellknown pub crawler, haunting discos in NYC while visiting the UN as then Canadian PM, in the 1960s and 70s.

Grindr ok’d to go public Looks like you won’t have to worry about the ChiComs fishing your Grindr profile for much longer. Grindr’s Chinese owners said it would revive plans for an initial public offering since a U.S. national security panel dropped its opposition to the plan. It was

thought CFIUS opposed the sale because it meant the company would have to house its data in China and would be left open to cyber-pilfering by the Chinese government. The company said it will pursue either an IPO or a sale, and cease to be a Chinese company. Grindr says users should not see any change in the company’s operations.

First gay candidate for leader in Islamic majority country A Tunisian attorney and founder of a gay advocacy group has announced his candidacy for the presidency of that Islam dominated country.

Mounir Baatour practices in the country’s highest court and is a leader of a fringe political party. In a tradition apparently based on Mormonism, it is legal to be a homo in Tunisia, but participation in homosexual sex is grounds

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for imprisonment. Baatour has served 20 years in jail for sodomy. His presidential bid is a long shot as only seven percent of Tunisians approve homosexuality — the lowest approval in all of North Africa’s Islamic countries.

Wash DC park stings 26 In a counterpoint to the celebration of 50 years after the NYPD caused a riot by harassing gay men, the US National Park Service has started running stings in Washington DC’s Meridian Hill Park. Officers pose as willing consensual sex partners then bust men who take them up on their entrapment. Twenty-six men have been arrested. A defense attorney for some of the men decry the police tactics and suggests a racial aspect as the park is called Malcom X park by locals and attracts African-American park goers. Q

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Utahns support LGBTQ rights more than Californians, New Yorkers Utah ranks second in the nation in its citizens’ support for LGBTQ nondiscrimination protections, according to a poll by the Public Religion Research Institute.

The PRRI poll found that 77 percent of Utah residents either favor or strongly favor “laws that would protect [LGBT] people against discrimination in jobs, public accommodations and housing.”

The state tied with Vermont and was beaten only by New Hampshire, whose residents support such protections by 81 percent.

This may seem especially surprising considering Utah’s largely Mormon population.

But the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints has made some recent efforts to drop its toxic antigay policies

that treat LGBTQ people and same-sex couples like heretics — a significant change from 2008 when the church donated millions to help California invalidate same-sex marriage via Proposition 8.

In April 2019, Utah updated its hate crimes law to include sexual orientation and gender identity, and in 2017, the state repealed its “No Promo Homo” law forbidding positive mentions of homosexuality in public school classrooms.

But that doesn’t mean that Utah is perfect. In fact, in February 2019, the Mormon church said it wouldn’t oppose a ban on so-called “ex-gay” conversion therapy in the state. But then Republican legislators amended the bill to only ban the most extreme forms of conversion therapy

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The bill ended up dying in committee.

The PRRI poll contained several other hopeful signs: Namely, majorities of every age, religion and political affiliation support LGBTQ protections.

Approximately 59 percent of seniors, 56 percent of Republicans and 55 percent of conservatives support them, as do 59 percent of Orthodox Christians, 54 percent of White evangelical Protestants

and 53 percent of Jehovah’s Witnesses.

Despite conservative state legislators and the president wanting to allow anti-LGBTQ discrimination in the name of “religious freedom,” most conservatives and religious people don’t actually support such discrimination.

“Utah passed its own imperfect LGBTQ nondiscrimination bill in 2015. If they can do it, surely it can happen in other conservative holdouts,” said Daniel Villarreal, writer. Q

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National LGBT Bar Association honors Utah’s own Chris Wharton The National LGBT Bar Association awarded one of Utah’s own as one of the Best LGBTQ+ Lawyers Under 40 for 2019 last weekend at the Lavender Law Conference in Philadelphia.

T. Christopher Wharton is an attorney and senior partner at Wharton O’Brien, PLLC. Chris’s practice focuses on family law, criminal defense, and LGBTQ advocacy. Chris graduated magna cum laude from Westminster College with a Bachelor of Arts in history and political science. He received his J.D. in from the University of Utah S.J. Quinney College of Law. Later he was president of the S.J. Quinney College of Law Student Bar Association and managing editor of the Journal of Law and Family Studies.

Chris opened his own practice in 2012, where his work in the areas of family law and LGBTQ advocacy has gained local and national attention. In 2013, Chris helped lead a team of attorneys in submitting amicus briefs to the United States Supreme Court for Hollingsworth v. Perry

and United States v. Windsor. In 2015, he obtained the first same-sex common law marriage adjudication in Utah. That same year, Chris represented members of “Utah’s Capitol 13”— a group of LGBTQ civil rights demonstrators. Chris has represented more transgender and gender non-binary clients seeking name and gender changes than any other attorney in the state.

In January 2018, Chris argued before the Utah Supreme Court that a judge in Ogden, Utah erred when he denied two transgender Utahns gender-marker changes. The Utah Supreme has yet to issue a decision in that case. In addition to law practice, Chris is also a member Salt Lake City Council. Chris’ pronouns are he/his.

In 2016, then again in 2018, Chris was honored by the LGBTQ community in

Utah with two QSaltLake Magazine Fabby Awards for ‘Best Attorney’, and Salt Lake City Weekly named Chris the “Best Advocate for LGBT Families” in Utah.

In addition to his work as a lawyer, Chris serves on the Salt Lake City Council where he has been a champion for human rights, equity issues, and traditionally under-served communities. Chris and his husband live with their dog, Blanche, and cats, Tim Gunn and Furguson. Q

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Mendenhall vs Escamilla in a historic mayoral race Final ballot results released Aug 15 in the Salt Lake City mayoral race, in an incredible turn of events, third place Luz Escamilla pulled ahead of the largely presumed next mayor of Salt Lake, Jim Dabakis. On election night, a mere 109 votes separated the two, while Erin Mendenhall confidently announced her moving on to November’s general election.

Escamilla explained her come-from-behind victory: “We knew we had an aggressive field game to get out the vote and these results show that our hard work paid off.”

If elected in November, Escamilla would become Salt Lake City’s first ethnic minority mayor. She spent her last two years of high school living in a border town in Tijuana, Mexico, and crossing into the U.S. every day to attend school in San Diego.

In 2004, she became a U.S. citizen.

As a resident of Rose Park, she has touted her understanding of the West Side and of the city’s growing minority populations, as well as her relationships with state leaders, as a boon to residents. She has received a large degree of support from her Capitol Hill colleagues, and Salt Lake City Mayor Jackie Biskupski, who is not running for re-election, has all but endorsed her.

Salt Lake City Councilwoman Erin Mendenhall entered politics because of the area’s air quality.

“I entered public service 13 years ago when I learned that the air quality in Salt Lake City was so bad it could take two years off my newborn son’s life. My first thought, of course, was to walk away and take my son somewhere

with cleaner air. But instead of walking away, I decided to stay and get to work.”

Mendenhall and Escamilla set the stage for a friendly, respectful race. During a question-and-answer forum at the First Unitarian Church of Salt Lake City, they often called each other “the good councilwoman” or “the good senator,” and praised one another’s experience and knowledge.

They both stated a focus on air quality, immigration and protecting the city’s interests in connection to the inland port, if elected. In regard to immigration they also agreed to tell the city police force not to aid Immigration and Customs Enforcement with raids or deportations.

Where they differ though is on the reorganization of city government: Mendenhall would not do it because she values the current administrators’ experience and knowledge. Escamilla said she would reorganize the city government and focus on helping it become more efficient, improving communication to underserved communities, and bringing “city hall to the neighborhoods as well.”

Another area Mendenhall and Escamilla agree upon is LGBT rights. Just prior to June’s Pride Festival, they both commented on the LGBT community to QSaltLake Magazine.

“I firmly believe that city government should serve inclusively; this means that a Mayor should lean in — and give our LGBTQ community leaders a seat at the table. As Salt Lake City grows, I will ensure we intentionally cultivate and foster local talent from tech to creatives to

entrepreneurs. Those seeking a vibrant and progressive community should be able to grow roots here in Salt Lake City free of discrimination.

Affordable housing, clean air, and well-paying jobs are LGBTQ issues, and we need to treat them as such,” Mendenhall explained.

Escamilla said, “Salt Lake City Pride and its festivities are critical and are an extension of the love shared among the LGBTQIA+ community.

The growing visibility of all members of this community shows that Salt Lake City values diversity and progress.

Salt Lake City residents have a long-standing reputation for making members of its community feel valued. We are a family and all parts are integral here. Our culture is vast and has space to expand.”

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The Utah AIDS Foundation and The Sun Trapp present “Category is: WALK”. Sashay on down to The Sun Trapp, 102 S. 600 West, Sept. 7, and give your most sickening runway realness! the winner will be crowned as the 2019 Queen of WALK and featured at this years 30th annual Salt Lake AIDS Walk (September 21). Contact Aria Starr for details and entry into the competition at 801-349-6787.

All contestants must be registered for the Salt Lake AIDS Walk, heels required.

Register today for Salt Lake AIDS Walk and make a difference in preventing new infections and providing compassionate services to those impacted by HIV/AIDS. Join the Utah AIDS Foundation for a 3-mile pledge walk in downtown Salt Lake City, Saturday, Sept. 21, 2019. Signup as an individual or form a team today. Ask your friends, family and co-workers to help raise HIV/AIDS awareness.

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of your church, even strangers on the bus.

Facebook and other social media makes it so easy to take the lead. Utah AIDS Foundation staff will help with hints and tricks to raise more money and are just an email away.

Registration begins 11 a.m., Saturday, Sept.

21, at the Utah State Capitol Building.

Third Friday Bingo for the Utah Pride Center The Matrons of Mayhem Drag Queen Bingo will raise funds for the Utah Pride Center, Sept. 20, 7-9 p.m., at the First Baptist Church, 777 S. 1300 East. So get practicing your most fabulous twirl and support the Center.

Additional parking is available in the East High School Football Stadium lot just east of the church parking lot.

People are encouraged to arrive early to get a seat. On several months there has been standing room only and they’ve had to turn people away at the door due to overcapacity.

You may save seats at your table by purchasing a bingo card for each seat to be saved to hold the space. Seats may not be saved past 6:45 p.m. and tipping of chairs to save seats is prohibited due to tripping danger.

Admission is $6 for one card or 2 cards for $10 / per person. Party foul insurance is $5, The flamingo hat of shame is also $5. Drag-ina-bag is $50.

Kitchen concessions available for purchase: hot dogs, soft pretzels, nachos, soft drinks, and candy bars.

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The Queer Utah Aquatic Club will hold its first annual Adopt a Duck Golf Tournament and Fundraiser at TopGolf on Saturday, Oct. 6, 9 a.m. to noon, 920 Jordan River Blvd., Midvale.

Entry into the fundraising tournament is $500 for a team of six. Proceeds go towards helping QUAC athletes attend swim meets and water polo tournaments such as the 2020 IGLA Championships in Melbourne, Australia.

Salt Lake City has many great clubs and non-profit organizations that support the LGBTQ+ community. QUAC’s goal with Adopt a Duck is to not only raise funds for our organization, but also to build more camaraderie and share our collective missions of supporting and celebrating diversity within the community.

If you’re not a part of a team of six, but still interested in attending, QUAC will put you on a team that will provide you with extensive networking and friendship-building opportunities. Follow this link to sign up as an individual participant, and the cost is $85. Q

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Court rules surrogacy opened to same-sex parents in Utah The Utah Supreme Court ruled on August 1 that a state law that allows for gestational surrogacy contracts subject to approval by a judge is unconstitutional to the extent that it excludes married same-sex couples from entering into enforceable contracts. Concluding that the offending exclusion is “severable” from the overall statute, the high court sent the case back to a trial court for approval of a surrogacy agreement involving a gay male couple.

The gay couple, identified in the court’s opinion as N.T.B. and J.G.M., wanted to make a surrogacy contract with D.B. and G.M., a different-sex married couple and submitted the paperwork to District Judge Jeffrey C. Wilcox.

Utah’s surrogacy law was enacted in 2005 when marriage was not available to same-sex couples. Though it did not explicitly exclude same-sex couples, it included language saying the judge must find that “medical evidence shows that the intended mother is unable to bear a child or is unable to do so without unreasonable risk to her physical or mental health or to the unborn child.” In other words, Utah legislators were unwilling to okay surrogacy agreements for intended parents who wanted to pay somebody to bear their child for reasons of convenience, but instead only for reasons of medical necessity.

Wilcox, reading this provision, literally argued that the words “mother and her plainly refer to a woman,” so because “neither of the legally married intended parents are women the court must deny their petition.” The judge rejected the petitioners’ argument that he should apply a gender-neutral interpretation to the statute or that denying the married gay couple the right to make a surrogacy contract violated their constitutional rights.

The gay couple’s appeal was greenlighted to go directly to the State Supreme Court. Even though the state filed a brief urging that court to allow the gay couple’s agreement to be validated — and so there was no direct conflict between parties to be resolved — Chief Justice Matthew B. Durrant, in his opinion for the court, concluded that it had an appro-

priate role in resolving this question of family law.

Like Wilcox, however, Durrant was unwilling to resolve the case by simply applying a gender-neutral interpretation and requiring only that the intended parents show they are medically unable to bear a

marriage on their child’s birth certificate because only one of them was “biologically related” to the child. The US Supreme Court reversed that decision, finding that since the husband of a woman who gives birth is automatically listed on a birth certificate, so too must be a same-sex spouse because the 14th Amendment requires that all married couples be treated equally.

Durrant found this clearly applicable here. The Utah statutory requirement

child. If such an approach were taken, he noted, a different-sex couple would qualify to enter into a surrogacy agreement if they could show the intended father was unable to bear children. And that would essentially override the clear legislative intent to limit different-sex couples from entering into surrogacy agreements to those in which the woman was medically unable to bear a child.

Having rejected a gender-neutral construction of the 2005 statute, the court then considered whether the requirement that one of the intended parents be a woman violated the gay couple’s constitutional rights. On this point, the court unanimously concluded that it did — under both the US Supreme Court’s 2015 marriage equality ruling in Obergefell v.

Hodges and its Pavan v. Smith decision two years later.

Even though Justice Anthony Kennedy’s opinion in Obergefell made clear that because the right to marry is a “fundamental right” same-sex marriages deserve all of the rights of any marriage, some lower courts did not get that message.

The Arkansas Supreme Court, in Pavan v.

Smith, found that the state could refuse to put the names of both women in a

that validation of a gestational agreement requires that at least one of the intended parents be female, he wrote, “squarely violates Obergefell in that it deprives married same-sex male couples of the ability to obtain a valid gestational agreement — a marital benefit freely provided to opposite-sex couples… Because under Obergefell same-sex married couples are constitutionally entitled to the ‘constellat­ion of benefits that the States have linked to marriage,’ we hold the intended mother requirement… unconstitu­tional.”

Although the 2005 law did not explicitly include a severability clause, the court concluded that it could feasibly strike the intended mother requirement as applied to gay male couples without undermining “the operability of the remaining portions of the statute.”

This opinion is an important contribution to the growing body of cases adopting a broad construction of the precedent created by Obergefell v. Hodges and the Supreme Court’s subsequent decision in Pavan v. Smith. It’s also worth noting that same-sex couples in Utah now enjoy a right denied them here in New York, where compensated gestational surrogacy contracts remain illegal for all couples. Q

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quotes “Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once we grow up.”

—Pablo Picasso

“You don’t take a photograph, you make it.”

—Ansel Adams

“Art enables us to find ourselves and lose ourselves at the same time.’”

—Thomas Merton

“I really cut my teeth on offoff-off Broadway shows.”

—Bea Arthur

“When ‘Catch Me If You Can’ was published back in 1980, I never dreamed that it would become a bestseller, much less a major motion picture and now a big Broadway musical.

What’s amazing about the book is that it has never gone out of print.”

—Frank Abagnale

“People say graffiti is ugly, irresponsible and childish… but that’s only if it’s done properly.”

—Bansky, Wall and Piece

“Art is an evolutionary act.

The shape of art and its role in society is constantly changing. At no point is art static. There are no rules” —Raymond Salvatore Harmon

“I often paint portraits of women from the past, women that tried to break the rules.

We still need to break the rules, we still don’t have a real gender equality, this is my message, not always very obvious, but often added to my work.”

—BTOY

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who’s your daddy

Of houses and homes

BY CHRISTOPHER KATIS

Like all

Greek kids — especially the youngest boys — I was terribly spoiled growing up.

If I didn’t like what my mom made for dinner, I’d simply call my “yia yia”, my grandmother, and she’d tell me to come to eat at her house. On those occasions that she and my mom prepared the same meal, she’d assure me I should still come over — she’d make me something different to eat.

I loved it at her house. And not just because I was spoiled there. I loved it because it was my second home and I was encouraged to be whomever I wanted to be.

On Fridays, after the dinner dishes were washed, my Aunt “Mimi” would make us a bowl of popcorn and the three of us would watch the antics of Redd Foxx on Sanford and Son. Each time he clutched his heart feigning cardiac arrest and called out to his late wife, “I’m coming to join you, Elizabeth!” we’d laugh until our sides hurt. The following afternoon, my Aunt Matina would arrive, bringing with her small gifts, treats and a knack for having fun.

No one there ever discouraged me from trying on Mimi’s shoes, or donning her vintage white evening gloves that stretched to my shoulders — a look made complete by a black-veiled hat from the 1940s that she’d grab from my grandmother’s closet. It was the closest thing I ever did to

drag. And it delighted all of us.

My uncle sold the house last month. It had been in the family for 70 years. I support his decision unequivocally because it had simply become too much house for him.

When I think of that house, I can’t help but be flooded with amazing memories of encouragement and acceptance. The experiences I had there helped shape the man I’ve become. I learned to cook by watching my “yia yia” make the thousands of meals I ate there. I learned to embrace and foster my Greek heritage, hearing her stories of the Old Country, her life as an immigrant and the people from her youth — stories powerful enough that I named my youngest son after her longdead favorite brother. Most importantly, I received complete and unconditional love for the person I am today.

Please don’t get me wrong: my parents were rock stars in standing by me and accepting me. But parents have to set boundaries and rules from which grandmothers and aunts are exempt. I recognize that I was only able to have the life I did at my grandmother’s house because my parents allowed it, recognizing the important role extended family can have.

That’s why I believe LGBTQ+ people make such great parents. The lack of acceptance and the hostility many in the community faced by their biological families

forced us to redefine what family means. We understand that various people beyond a traditional family unit play significant roles in kids’ lives, making for well-adjusted, happier adults.

As my cousin Laura and I walked through our uncle’s house one last time, she outlined the perfect confluence of events that had occurred for me growing up: I lived walking distance from that house; I was the young-

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lambda lore

Weber State official convicted of kidnapping in ’94 because he was gay

In April

BY BEN WILLIAMS

1994, the 42-year-old director of academic advisement at Weber State University, Dr. Phillip O. Austin Ph.D., was charged with aggravated kidnapping, a first-degree felony. A 20-year-old man named Colby Clifford said he was kidnapped by Austin after he offered him a ride into Ogden and then began making sexual advances toward him. When Clifford refused, he claimed that Austin pointed a .38-caliber pistol at him and locked the car doors, virtually kidnapping him. Clifford then claimed that as the car came to a rolling stop, he jumped from the car, ran, and called the Roy police.

A month after the so-called kidnapping, Clifford was visiting the Ogden campus to retrieve his school records to enroll in the Navy. He then spotted Austin in the administration building, found out his name, and again called the police. Authorities arrested Austin, who acknowledged he had given Clifford the ride, but denied he threatened him with a gun for sexual favors, saying that he didn’t even own a gun.

He was charged with a first-degree felony Dr. Phillip O. Austin Ph.D of aggravated kidnapping and booked into the Weber County Jail. He was released on $20,000 bail to wait for his arraignment and trial.

The jury trial of Austin began in September. Two surprise witnesses for the prosecution were called who also said they had been sexually approached by Austin.

They testified, however, that Austin never displayed a gun or used force to keep them in his car. To prove aggravated kidnapping, the state had to show that force was used to kidnap the victim for sexual purposes.

Austin’s defense lawyer asked 2nd District Judge Stanton Taylor to disallow the testimony; however, the Weber County Deputy Prosecutor said their testimonies showed Austin’s pattern of behavior and would thus bolster Clifford’s testimony as to what had happened in March when Austin picked up Clifford.

Clifford testified that he only escaped from Austin by leaping from the moving vehicle. Austin’s defense lawyer called an accident expert who testified that if Clifford had slid that far as he claimed, he would have suffered major injuries and his clothes would have been shredded. When Clifford reported his alleged kidnapping to the Roy police only 20 minutes after the incident, there were no signs of injury to his body or clothing. Clifford could not even produce the clothes he had on at the time of the incident, saying he had given away the jacket he was wearing that day.

When Austin was called to testify, he admitted that it was his “protocol” to pick up young men at bus stops, offering them rides, but said he never used threats or force, and never had used a gun to gain sexual favors from anyone. Austin said he tells his passengers as soon as they get in his car that he’s gay. If they show him any interest, he then makes a proposition to take them back to his residence. However, he insisted, if the man is not interested, he simply dropped them off at their request.

To prove a charge of kidnapping in Utah, prosecutors had to present evidence that a person was detained against his or her will for a “substantial” period of time.

Clifford, by his own admission, was only in Austin’s vehicle for a few minutes.

However Austin was being charged with “aggravated kidnapping” which has no time limits, but it does require proof that a weapon was used or there was an intent to commit an additional crime.

Austin’s lawyer, in his closing comments to the jury, said that it was not illegal to be a homosexual in Utah and that it was not illegal for one adult to proposition another adult. The lawyer also said Clifford’s alle-

gation that Austin pointed a gun at him was not true as that no weapon was ever obtained by investigators.

The three-man, five-woman jury then received their instructions from Judge Stanton Taylor before beginning their deliberations. The prosecutors, nevertheless, persuaded the judge to instruct jurors that if they could not find sufficient evidence to convict on first-degree aggravated kidnapping, they could find Austin guilty of simple kidnapping, a lesser felony.

The jury, having deliberated less than three hours, found Austin guilty of second-degree kidnapping. The lesser charge of simple kidnapping carried a sentence of 1-15 years in prison instead of the 5-yearsto-life sentence for the more serious crime.

And by finding that no gun was used in the incident, the jury also rejected an added five-year penalty for using a weapon during the commission of a crime.

In contrast to August, earlier in the year, 3rd District Judge David Young had sentenced the murderer of Douglas Koehler to a much lesser prison sentence for fatally shooting Koehler, a gay man, in the head. His killer, David Thacker, could have been sentenced 1-to-15 years in prison. But that was “too high a penalty,” according to Judge Young who reduced the penalty to zero-to-five years, also imposing a one-year firearms enhancement.

Austin’s lawyer, filed a motion of an “inconsistent verdict” by the jury because he said his client could not have held the victim against his will if no weapon was involved. He said the trial evidence also showed there was no prolonged restraint

by Austin, and that Clifford was not exposed to any serious bodily harm.

Austin blamed his troubles on homophobia and said, “Because I’m gay, the jury found me guilty of kidnapping. I’m gay, not a criminal.” Austin told reporters that “two and a half days were spent talking about my homosexuality and only half a day was spent on the evidence.”

Even though investigators never produced a weapon, in November 1994 Judge Taylor dismissed the defense motions and ruled that Austin’s moving car was the “restraint” and that the risk of serious harm came from Clifford’s escape from the moving car.

Austin was sentenced 1-to-15 years in prison. While awaiting appeals, which delayed his imprisonment for three years,

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Austin was fired by Weber State University. In 1997, Austin lost all his appeals and was sent to prison for two years until he was paroled in March 1999. He was nonetheless sent back to prison in December 1999 for refusing “sexual deviancy therapy,” according to parole records.

Finally, in January 2000, the Utah Court

of Appeals overturned Austin’s conviction.

A brief opinion issued by the Appeals Court ruled that kidnapping was not “a lesser included offense” of aggravated kidnapping, and jurors were wrongly advised that they could find Austin guilty of the uncharged crime. “It follows that the defendant’s conviction must be, and it

hereby is, vacated.”

Austin died in 2008 at the age of 56 and his obituary read in part “Philip was a gifted professional writer and patron of the arts. He was an independent, intelligent, passionate man of high spiritual character.

His first priorities were always helping people and his passion for fine art.” Q

creep of the week

Don Grundmann

BY DANNE WITKOWSKI

Don

Grundmann is not having the best month. He is very much not at all racist, and yet the people of Modesto, California, have the nerve to think otherwise.

They even laughed at him!

Humiliated him in public! It’s an outrage.

Grundmann, a California chiropractor who is running for Senate and who really hates the gays, is trying his best to put on a straight Pride parade in Modesto on Aug. 24. For some weird reason, a bunch of people are like, “Nope,” and are accusing him of being anti-LGBTQ and even racist!

The flyer for the event invites people to the “Straight Pride Parade/Event” put on by the National Straight Pride Coalition. It reads in part, “Join us to celebrate Masculinity, Femininity, Babies Born and Unborn, Western Civilization, Our Wonderful Country, Christianity. Celebrate life!”

Hmm. Now whatever could lead people to think that such an event would be racist? I mean, maybe the Western Civilization part since that’s a favorite of White Nationalists/ White Supremacists/Racists.

Then there’s Grundmann’s campaign website that’s called Fight the Power and includes the image of a white fist.

It could also be the fact that Grundmann yells, “We’re a totally peaceful racist group!” into a microphone at a Modesto City Council meeting.

This caused members of the audience and members of the City Council to lose their collective shit. A woman in the audience can be seen and heard in the video laughing and saying, “He said it!” while pointing at Grundmann.

Laughing and pointing! What are we, in first grade? Just because a racist who wants to put on a hate parade accidentally tells the truth on himself?

After his “mistake,” Grundmann turned around to address the crowd, thereby turning away from the microphone, which makes it harder to hear what he is saying. But he goes on to say something about “all races and colors” and that he started the White Against Racism Alliance.

“It’s on Facebook!” he says.

Then he says that the biggest hate group against blacks is Planned Parenthood, calling it

“the greatest mass murderer of blacks in this nation’s history.”

This is a point he makes on his website as well. In fact, on a page called “Issues” wherein he provides “a quick list of my stands on the many issues which our nation is facing,” under “racism” it literally just says, “Ban all funding to Planned Parenthood.”

Another issue he lists is Homosexual marriage, which simply reads, “Ban all homosexual marriage.”

On his homepage is an image of a drag queen reading a book to children with the words “They are attacking the children” and “stop the mutilation of children.”

And then there’s what appears to be a photograph of four black men who have been lynched, ropes still around their necks and a white man standing in the background, with the words, “From a White Guy to Black Americans: You are CHUMPS.” This links to a very long and very insane and very condescending and totally fucking racist screed by this totally fucking racist person.

Anyway, Grundmann is basically shouted down at this point at the meeting and told his time is up. Which is much kinder treatment than he deserved.

Also speaking at the city council meeting was Matthew Mason, the gay son of Mylinda Mason, one of the Straight

Pride event’s other organizers.

Matthew, identified by CBS Sacramento as an “LGBTQ advocate,” told the news station, “Everybody in the community has really been speaking out and taken a stance against this really harmful rhetoric that Don Grundmann is trying to bring to our community.”

He’s also told news outlets that his mother is a white supremacist, making Grundmann’s claim that he’s a super chill non-racist dude just putting on a super chill non-racist parade even less believable.

Adding insult to injury, the permit for the straight Pride parade was denied by the city for insurance reasons. Grundmann claims it’s still going to go on, but as of right now it’s in limbo.

In any case, I really don’t see the point as there already is a straight pride event. It’s called The Bachelor and I hear it is very popular.

Also, in case it wasn’t already clear, Don Grundmann is a racist. An awful, awful person.

Totally in groove with today’s Republican Party. I’m sure he’ll be named to Trump’s cabinet any day now.

In the meantime, let’s bring around a cloud to rain on his parade. Q D’Anne Witkowski is a poet, writer and comedian living in Michigan with her wife and son. She has been writing about LGBT politics for over a decade. Follow her on Twitter @MamaDWitkowski.

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‘I am the only out LGBTQ athlete at BYU’

BY EMMA ELIZABETH GEE

I am the

only out LGBTQ athlete at BYU. A lonely label and a sad reality.

Because, between you and me, I’m not the only athlete at BYU who is LGBTQ. I’m just the only one who is out.

The only out LGBTQ athlete at BYU. A title that fails to capture why it exists and how it came to be mine.

I’ll do my best to explain.

Let me begin by telling you the first time I fell in love.

It was a warm September evening, and I was sitting alone on the bus after a high school cross country meet. I was alone because I peed myself during the race and was attempting to hide the smell. After a few minutes, I heard someone climb into the bus. I hoped whoever it was wouldn’t sit near me, for obvious reasons.

The footsteps stopped next to my seat.

“Are you OK?” I fell in love with the voice first. The lilting Spanish accent was magical. I looked up and caught my breath. A golden hour glow sparkled on the glistening figure above me.

“I’m fine. I just feel kinda sick,” I stammered.

“Oh, I’m sorry. I have something that might help. May I sit down?”

I nodded, hoping the open window would mask my scent.

“Where are you from? Why haven’t I seen you before?” I asked.

“I’m an exchange student from Spain. I

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just joined the team. Here you go.”

Our hands brushed as she handed me a bottle of gummy bears cheerfully labeled “Happy Pills.”

A smile crept onto my face, and my discomfort slipped away.

“What’s your name?” I asked.

Her name was Isabella, and she was my first love.

There are days I wish I never fell in love with her. There are days I wish I told her how I felt before she went back to Spain. There are days I wish I never had to confront how I felt and what it meant.

Because what it meant changed how I fit into my own world. It brought clarity and confusion.

“IT” IS MY BISEXUALITY. I was born into the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Growing up, my family maintained a conservative household that rigorously upheld traditional Christian values.

Three hours of church each Sunday, family scripture study every night, youth group on Tuesdays, and seminary (Bible study class) every morning before school.

I was raised to believe in eternal marriage between a man and a woman. My future was conditioned and clear, and I was prepared for it.

When I realized my sexuality, I knew the only life I’d ever known would reject me.

Sometimes I lie in bed at night and ask myself, “Why the hell did you go to BYU?” Great question.

Brigham Young University is a private university owned by the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. To attend, every student must be “ecclesiastically endorsed” by a religious leader and agree to abide by the Honor Code. BYU boasts a competitive Division 1 long-distance running program and its tuition is thousands of dollars cheaper than the other colleges by which I was recruited.

Not bad, right?

Here’s the catch.

BYU’S HONOR CODE states: “Homosexual behavior is inappropriate and violates the Honor Code. Homosexual behavior includes not only sexual relations between members of the same sex but all forms of physical intimacy that give expression to homosexual feelings.”

To be clear, no one really knows what that last sentence refers to. Handshakes?

Hugs? It’s hard to say. Whatever it means, the ambiguity has created a culture of paranoia for LGBTQ students.

Does paranoia sound extreme?

It’s not just LGBTQ students.

Anyone caught breaking the honor code must face BYU’s controversial Honor Code Office.

According to the Honor Code Office, all credible violations of the code are investigated, a process that includes reviewing the evidence and speaking with witnesses. An employee interviews the accused student, who responds to the allegation. If the student is found to have committed the violation, penalties can range from a warning to suspension or expulsion.

Punishments are based on individual judgment calls and reviewed by a committee. Other consequences of violating the code may include mandatory religious worship, hours of community service, and the withholding of diplomas, regardless of academic standing.

Professors, coaches, students, roommates, and ecclesiastical leaders are encouraged, and in some cases obligated, to report those who break the honor code.

Does paranoia still sound extreme?

If so, please read the experiences of BYU students on the Instagram page “honorcodestories.” These true stories expose the toxic reality of Brigham Young University’s Honor Code Office and provide insight into the homogeneous, homophobic, judgmental, and close-minded

environment it creates on campus and beyond.

That is the culture I exist in.

And I am not straight.

Most everyone assumes that I am.

Every year of college, I sit in required Bishop’s interviews where I am asked why I don’t have a boyfriend and why I don’t date the boys in my student congregation. And every year, for my own protection, I’ve played along.

“Oh, I wanted to! I was too busy with cross country — I didn’t have time.”

The truth is, I did have time to date.

IT’S JUST SAFER NOT TO. I didn’t want to chance being outed or get kicked out of school for breaking the honor code.

Still, the assumption of straightness is a painful reminder that I am somehow deviating from a “correct” path, that I am unnatural, and that I don’t really belong.

For the first three years of college, I compartmentalized the pain and frustration and assumptions so I could function in school and athletics. I took a leadership position in the first diversity and inclusion committee for BYU athletics because a part of me hoped I could help create a safer environment for people who felt as isolated as I did.

While the committee’s work did initiate meaningful conversations at BYU, the influence of an inherently homophobic honor code prevented significant cultural improvement.

Some people ask, “What makes it hard

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being at BYU?” Being an out-of-state college student is exhausting. Being a D1 athlete and competing three seasons a school year on a competitive team is exhausting.

Trying to succeed at both, with the weight of everything I’ve held back to protect myself, is hell.

For me, it’s the little things. Little things I hide about myself, some so small I don’t even notice. The days go by, and the little things pile up until it’s all I PHOTOS COURTESY OF EMMA GEE

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think about. Until I’m not me anymore. I become something I never intended, the effect and consequence of everything I cannot be.

Sometimes I think I deserve an Oscar for the straight performances I’ve turned in.

THE WORST PART IS, I know I’m not alone in my experience.

Like so many other students at my school, there are times I want it all to end.

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thought in my head.

I feel everything until I can’t feel anything.

And yet.

There is something in me that feels stronger than the numbness.

Something I developed during years of long-distance running.

PERSEVERANCE. Yes, there is pain and anger and frustration and shame. But there is also joy and determination and grit. There is possibility and strength and commitment to every dream I’ve ever had.

And the emptiness I feel in those dark moments has nothing on everything I want in life.

Emma Gee, left, with teammate Maddie Cannon at the Payton Jordan Invitational at Stanford. Photo by Drifting Crackerjack I work with mental health professionals for support and constantly recommit to prioritizing my well being.

I’ve decided If I’m going to accomplish my goals, it will be as myself.

April 2018 was the first time I made this commitment. The next week, I came out to BYU athletic administrator Liz Darger. She was supportive and accepting. I subsequently dropped my time in the 3,000-meter steeplechase by 20 seconds, qualifying me for the NCAA regional meet.

I had never qualified before.

I came out to my family a month later.

The conversation was raw and uncomfortable. It was a hard summer living at home, followed by a school year with minimal communication and no physical contact.

When I got to cross country camp in the fall, I felt relieved to be around my teammates again. Three miles into the first tempo run of the season I told them, “Running with you guys is where I feel most at home. I just want to let you know I’m bisexual.”

“WE LOVE YOU, EMMA.” And we ran on.

My coach, Diljeet Taylor, wasn’t even fazed.

“I love you, Emma. I’m just glad you finished the tempo. How’s the body feeling?”

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My team is a huge part of why I came out at school.

They are my safe space in an unsafe environment.

Competing in athletics as myself has been a magical experience. My team took seventh place at the 2018 NCAA Cross Country National Championships.

During the 2019 outdoor track season, I dropped my steeplechase time by 15 seconds and qualified for the NCAA West regional meet.

At regionals, I was two spots out of qualifying for nationals and got a new personal record of 10:04.

I AM THE ONLY OUT LGBTQ ATHLETE AT BYU. I’m in unfamiliar territory in a hard environment.

Coming out has proven

difficult, confusing, awful, heartbreaking, and wonderfully liberating.

As I try to find my place in the world and my place in me, there are a few things I know.

I’m not alone.

I can openly acknowledge how I experience the world.

I’ve found power in vulnerability.

The weight is gone.

I trust myself.

I’m free.

And the future awaits. Q Emma Gee, 22, will graduate from Brigham Young University in the spring of 2020. She is a public relations major and international development minor. She is on the cross country and track teams and served as chair of the diversity and inclusion committee for BYU’s Student-Athlete Activities Committee. Find her on Instagram at emma_gee1777. A version of this story was first published by OutSports, a division of SB Nation.

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Tony’s Gay Agenda

BY TONY HOBDAY

Do you know what to do to remedy a bee sting? Mud… or Kahlua… or “Every Breath You Take.” Any hum, the 17time Grammy winner, STING, joins the illustrious UTAH SYMPHONY on August 31. As a member part of The Police (the good ones, anyway), and then going solo, Sting has sold over 100 million records during his career.

Not to sell this too quickly, but I’m excited for winter.

Hence, the beautiful BON IVER is on my side coming to Utah this September. On July 11, 2019, this wish-washy, problematic, hobbled-horse (albeit really cool) band announced that their forthcoming album, I, I (stylized as i,i), would be released August 30. So here’s your chance to hear, at least some of it first, before the snow falls.

Earlier, on July 31, 2019, the band released a documentary short called Bon Iver: Autumn, featuring Vernon and band mates discussing the i,i album and Autumn tour, for your perusal.

Generational music icon, MORRISSEY, takes to the Utah stage this September. If you’re over 40 and relate to “the low of high school,” or are under the age 60 and appreciate hypersensitive, yet brilliant artists, then you’ll enjoy this unique concert presence promoting his highly anticipated covers album, California Son, with special guest Interpol.

SATURDAY — STING AND THE UTAH SYMPHONY

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USANA Amphitheatre, 5150 Upper Ridge Rd., WVC, 8 p.m.

Tickets $35 and up, smithstix.com

WEDNESDAY — BON IVER

Maverik Center, 3200 Decker Lake Dr., WVC, 7:30 p.m. Tickets $36-96, smithstix.com

SATURDAY — MORRISSEY

Saltair, 12408 W. Saltair Dr., Magna, 7:30 p.m. Tickets $65 and up, smithstix.com

DANCE

Once a year, six Utah performance arts companies co-produce a lively, one-night-only showing of all-new short works: some created that day, some rehearsed a few days in advance, all being shared with their first (and maybe only) audience — you! Once we arrived at a theme and title for this year’s installment — #TRENDING — total freedom of interpretation was offered to the playwrights and choreographers. The companies: GINA BACHAUER, PLAN-B, PYGMALION, REPERTORY DANCE, RIRIE-WOODBURY, and SB DANCE. And once a year, albeit early this year, ODYSSEY DANCE COMPANY thrills yous you with Halloween terror and humor, and just a great entertaining night of Halloween pranks, ghouls, goblins, and possibly chainsaws. Anyhoo, Thriller returns, beginning this September at Egyptian Theatre in Park City. And will also be showcased at Peery’s Egyptian Theatre in Ogden, the Ellen Eccles Theatre in Logan, and beginning in October, at the Covey Center for the Arts in Provo and Kingsbury Hall at the University of Utah.

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SATURDAY — ROSE EXPOSED: #TRENDING

Jeanne Wagner Theatre, Rose Wagner Center, 138 W. 300 South, 8 p.m. Tickets $15, artsaltlake.org

FRIDAY — THRILLER

Egyptian Theatre, 328 Main St., Park City, 7:30 p.m., through Oct. 6. Tickets $23-28, egyptiantheatrecompany.org

FESTIVALS

Well, “The Riot Continues” near snow-capped mountains during the PROVO PRIDE FESTIVAL, because Provo’s community of queer folks and allies faces enormous challenges, but it is their home and they’re not going anywhere. Instead, they are there, immovable as the mountains that surround them. They will not back down — the only way forward is toward the mountaintop.

For the first time in its 5-year history, LOGAN PRIDE FESTIVAL will include a Pride Ride “alleycat bicycle race” is open to anyone who can ride a bike approximately 10 miles. An alleycat is like a scavenger hunt on a bike.

Choose your own route, hit the stops you want, try for bonus points, compete in challenges, and find some hidden gems in Logan. Riders will pick up swag on the way, and the winners will get prizes. You can compete individually and as teams.​The race will begin at Aggie Blue Bikes at 5 p.m. Manifests will be handed out at 4:40 p.m.

The cost to enter is $20. They will have a Best Dressed category. So whip out the rainbows, glitter, and anything that helps you show PRIDE!​ The festival itself will be held in Willow Park, with vendors, exhibitors, and live music including Mama Long Legs, Curtis Wardle, Big Sis, Panthermilk, and more.

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Provo Historic Courthouse, 51 S. University Ave., 10 a.m.-6 p.m. Free, utahvalley.com

SATURDAY— LOGAN PRIDE FESTIVAL

Willow Park, 450 W. 700 South, noon-7 p.m. Free, loganpride.org

SPECIAL ENGAGEMENTS

The KILLER QUEENS was started in 2012 by lead singer Nina Noir. They bring the magic of QUEEN to audiences across the nation. They love to share the stage with so many talented women, not only in the band, but on stage as well. Some of the incredibly talented women include TIA CARRERA, ILANA GLAZER, ABBI JACOBSON, TIG NOTARO, JANET VARNEY, and more.

The stoic man-meat on the cover of QSaltLake Magazine‘s August issue, JUSTIN UTLEY, is holding a album release party this month. Scars is his new album — an intimate storytelling of his hardships growing up Mormon and the effects of the so-called conversion therapy. For me, I don’t get the practice; I mean if it didn’t work on Dayne who happens to love grabbing my bum-bum in every corner of the bar, well Hell! But, then again, I get a kick out of his e-cigarette, so we’re good.

WEDNESDAY — THE KILLER QUEENS

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Metro Music Hall, 615 W. 100 South, 8 p.m. Tickets $20, ticketfly.com

SATURDAY — JUSTIN UTLEY ALBUM RELEASE PARTY

Metro Music Hall, 615 W. 100 South, 9 p.m. Tickets $15, jrcslc.com

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Plan-B Theatre Company’s 2019/20 Subscription Series Nationwide, female playwrights are woe-fully underrepresented. Not so at Plan-B: Thirteen of the 20 playwrights of the company that work regularly through The Lab and the Theatre Artists of Color Writing Workshop are female. And it just so happens that the 2019/20 Subscription Series is entirely from female playwrights. All local, by the way. And who better than the playwrights themselves to tell you about their plays?

cheesy, but the point is that you can find community and a place where you belong. One that is very unlikely, and not where you might have thought you should be, or even where people have told you you should be: one that allows you to own all the parts of yourself.

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Playwright Jenifer Nii

Playwright Jenny Kokai Allison, the central character in SINGING TO THE BRINE SHRIMP (premiering February 13-23, 2020 ), is struggling with her identity. But the parts she is struggling with are not the ones baked in — they are that she’s queer and a mom. It’s the way people see her and label her, and the snap judgments about her that impact whether or not she feels welcome in a room. For Allison, her sexuality is just who she is as a human.

Whether or not she’s a Utahn, whether or not she can claim being a writer, whether or not she can get the Brine Shrimp in her head to stop singing at her, these are real problems. I’m not good at articulating this without sounding incredibly

THE AUDACITY (premiering March 26-April 5, 2020) was going to be a story about one remarkable woman who made her home here in Utah in the late 1800s. However, researching Josie Bassett — a smart, independent, positively scandalous woman who thumbed her nose at customs, culture, and laws in order to live the life she loved in the wilds of Uintah County — led me to other women who lived with and near her, who were just as audacious, each in her own way.

So now I was in a pickle, albeit a wonderful one — I’d met Josie Bassett and her mother Elizabeth and sister Ann; their Latter-day Saint neighbors; and the “family” they gathered from fellow travelers and outlaws and refugees. Each of these women had a fascinating, important story to tell. At first, I tried to build a narrative that was plucked from recorded events. But then themes began

to emerge that spoke (yelled, really) to my own experience and the experience of just about every other woman I know.

So the story has become more than a historical tribute.

It became a story about the necessity of audacity — specifically, the audacity of women.

Now. Today.​Like the Bassetts, we find ourselves facing a jagged, dangerous frontier.

Like them, we have decisions to make about the lives we deserve to live and what we’re willing to do to have them.

The stakes are higher now than ever before and, with the advent of Twitter-spawned laws, the threats are more immediate. I pray that there are Bassetts among us. I’d like to think there are Bassetts within us. I hope THE AUDACITY honors those who have passed, and stands firmly alongside those who dare to live audaciously.

Playwright Camille Washington Two headstrong Black women whose motives seem clear — one a psychiatrist, one a criminal — do battle for the highest stakes: Freedom. Ultimately the hope is that ODA MIGHT (premiering November 7-17, 2019) can be a uniquely theatrical experience. By that I mean I hope it raises questions, challenges perceptions, and forces audiences to engage with these characters and story in the moment. Q

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familiar and foreign settings experiencing chaos, a state of isolation, or the exercise of power dynamics. The issues are personal, familial, and societal.

AN OTHER THEATER COMPANY:

The Moors

SEPT. 6–28 ANOTHERTHEATERCOMPANY.COM AN OTHER THEATER, PROVO

Two sisters and a dog live out their lives on the bleak English moors, dreaming of love and power. The arrival of a hapless governess and a moor-hen set all three on a strange and dangerous path. The Moors is a dark comedy about love, desperation, and visibility.

GRAND THEATRE COMPANY:

A Wall Apart

AUG. 15–SEPT. 7 GRANDTHEATRECOMPANY.COM

Follow four girls, with voices as big as their hair and personalities as kooky as their crinoline skirts, from prom night to their 10year reunion. Learn about their lives and loves as they serenade classic hits including “Lollipop,” “Dream Lover,” “Stupid Cupid” and “Lipstick on Your Collar.”

Featuring over 30 classic 1950s and ’60s hits, you’ll smile ear-toear with this musical trip down memory lane.

SALT LAKE CITY ARTS COUNCI:

Amy Bennion and Elizabeth Matthews

AUG. 22–SEPT.20, UMFA.UTAH.EDU FINCH LANE GALLERY, SLC

Using the lens of visual language, Amy Bennion’s “I, Your Glass”, investigates trauma’s core, naming and placing it in search

for the sublime kinship between all people. With this body of work, Bennion is exploring how trauma can connect a person to the multifarious archetypes that live within the Self. In these portraits of her siblings, Bennion investigates the connection that they have to the collective unconscious through a close look at how universal myths play out within each of their individual psyches through their shared similar traumas related to mental illness, divorce, and fear of death from physical illness.

For each portrait, her siblings collaborated generously with her — through long walks, emails, and the sharing of notes and sketches — in order to discover a deeply specific trait or experience that they each share.

In “Untold Aftermath”, Elizabeth Matthews explores concepts that frequently occur in cases of domestic violence: scapegoating, silencing, gaslighting, coercion, and financial abuse. Modeled after Matthews’ personal dining room chairs — objects often associated around a table where families share food and conversation — these chairs now find themselves in both

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ven’s overture The Consecration of the House. Re-visit every planet in our solar system with Holst’s beloved tour guide, The Planets. Expand into new corners of the universe with contrasting cosmic sounds by Haydn, Messiaen, and Saariaho.

And re-live the drama and anticipation of the greatest space story ever told with the main title of John Williams’ Star Wars.

LIVE AT THE ECCLES:

Diana Krall

SEPT. 18, ARTSALTLAKE.ORG DELTA PERFORMANCE HALL GEORGE S. AND DOLORES DORÉ ECCLES THEATER

Diana Krall is the only jazz singer with “A voice at once cool and sultry, wielded with a rhythmic sophistication.” Krall’s unique artistry transcends any single musical style and has made her one of the most recognizable artists of our time.

REPERTORY DANCE THEATRE:

Brine-5 LIVE NATION & KINGSBURY HALL:

Randy Rainbow Live

SEPT. 13 KINGSBURYHALL.UTAH.EDU KINGSBURY HALL, UOFU

Randy Rainbow (yes, real name) is a comedian, actor, writer, host and Internet sensation best known for his viral comedy videos. His popular series of political spoofs and song parodies have garnered international acclaim and over a hundred million views. Randy has also written for comedian Kathy Griffin and hosted and performed in numerous theatrical events for the Broadway, cabaret and gay communities, as well as for the Tony Awards and some of New York City’s most popular night spots.

UTAH SYMPHONY:

The Planets

SEPT. 13–14, USUO.ORG ABRAVANEL HALL

Utah Symphony celebrates the 40th anniversary of the opening of Abravanel Hall with Beetho-

SEPT. 19–21, ARTSALTLAKE.ORG BLACK BOX THEATRE ROSE WAGNER PERFORMING ARTS CENTER

Repertory Dance Theatre’s Link Series presents BRINE-5, an evening of dance featuring new and re-imagined work of five rising choreographers. Rebecca Aneloski, Lauren Broadbent, Daniel Do/Mar Undag, and Trevor Wilde offer exquisite choreographic visions with stunning performances by local and California-based dancers.

PIONEER THEATRE COMPANY:

Cagney

SEPT. 20–OCT. 5 PIONEERTHEATRE.ORG PIONEER THEATRE, UOFU

The award-winning musical follows the life of the legend-

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ary James Cagney from the streets of New York to his rise as one of the brightest stars of Hollywood, from a vaudeville song-and-dance man to the cinema’s original tough guy. The multi-talented cast includes Robert Creighton who originated the role in New York that earned him the 2016 Astaire Award.

UTAH ARTS ALLIANCE:

Urban Arts Festival SEPT. 21–22 UTAHARTS.ORG/URBAN-ARTS-FEST GALLIVAN CENTER

The Urban Arts Festival is the largest free community art event in Utah. It’s a two-day celebration of Salt Lake’s urban and artistic culture for the community, art lovers, and families. The festival features artists, music, dance performance, automotive arts, projection art, virtual reality and new media arts, street basketball league, fashion, live street art and mural painting displays, and more.

RIRIE-WOODBURY DANCE COMPANY:

Traces

SEPT. 26–28, ARTSALTLAKE.ORG JEANNE WAGNER THEATRE ROSE WAGNER PERFORMING ARTS CENTER

This concert includes two vastly different dances by two dynamic choreographers. The return of Elizabeth, the dance by Ann Carlson and a world premiere by Company Artistic Director Daniel Charon.

AERIAL ARTS OF UTAH:

Flight of Fancy: Mystique SEPT.27–28, ARTSALTLAKE.ORG JEANNE WAGNER THEATRE, ROSE WAGNER PERFORMING ARTS CTR

Aerial Arts of Utah returns with their eighth annual Flight of Fancy performance. This soaring mystical world will feature high-flying acts of beauty

and strength on aerial fabrics, trapeze, rope and more. Magic abounds in this fairy tale fantasy world as aerialists push the limits of their apparatus and their bodies, transporting people to places where the confines of physics and reality seem to melt away, and imagination takes flight.

irresistible rock ‘n’ roll score, is a wild ride that no audience will soon forget.

GRAND THEATRE COMPANY:

Curtains

OCT. 3–26, GRANDTHEATRECOMPANY.COM GRAND THEATRE, SLCC

When a newly engaged couple, Brad and Janet, innocently set out to visit an old professor, a thunderstorm and a flat-tire lead them to seek help at the castle of the alien, transvestite scientist, Dr. Frank ‘N’ Furter. As Brad and Janet are swept up into Frank ‘N’ Furter’s latest experiment, the night’s misadventures cause them to question everything they’ve known about themselves, each other, love and lust. This humorous tribute to the classic “B” sci-fi films and horror genre, with an

REPERTORY DANCE THEATRE:

Inside Outside

OCT. 3–5, ARTSALTLAKE.ORG JEANNE WAGNER THEATRE ROSE WAGNER PERFORMING ARTS

Renowned classic and contemporary dance-makers Doris Humphrey, Lar Lubovitch, Andy Noble, Noa Zuk, and Ohad Fishof present highly technical choreography, and quirky invention laced with rhythmic humor and deeply humanistic voices.

BALANCHINE’S BALLETS RUSSES THE NUTCRACKER GISELLE BOLERO & THE DREAM CHOREOGRAPHIC FESTIVAL SNOW WHITE PRESENTED BY BALLET WEST II

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ZIEGFELD THEATER:

The Rocky Horror Show OCT. 11–NOV. 2 THEZIEGFELDTHEATER.COM ZIEGFELD THEATER, OGDEN

Sweet Transvestite from Transylvania: it’s the cult classic musical, just in time for Halloween. Sweethearts Brad and Janet (Damnit!) stumble upon the mansion of transvestite scientist, Dr. Frank-N-Furter.

Their innocence can’t withstand this houseful of wild characters including a rocking biker, creepy butler and the scientist’s newest muscular creation, Rocky. It’s a raucous, laugh-filled evening of great music and fun.

UTAH OPERA:

Verdi’s La traviata OCT. 12–20, ARTSALTLAKE.ORG CAPITOL THEATRE

Romance! In-Laws! Disaster!

Experience Verdi’s heartbreaking masterpiece, and see the opera for yourself that moved Julia Roberts’ character to tears in Pretty Woman.

BALLET WEST:

Balanchine’s Ballets Russes OCT. 25-NOV. 2, BALLETWEST.ORG CAPITOL THEATRE

Explore the origins of Balanchine’s choreographic genius in this historic triple bill. Le Chant du Rossignol (The Song of the Nightingale) is a tale of a mysterious songbird that cures an ailing Chinese emperor.

What emerges is a parable about nature’s capacity to heal wounds, and the need for humanity to be led by beauty and light. Balanchine’s Apollo is as elegant and restrained as it is dramatic and powerful. His version follows the young god as he is ushered into adulthood by the muses of poetry, mime, and dance. Finally, Prodigal Son‘s story of sin and redemption, taken from the Gospel of Luke, presents a universal message through an expressive score and provocative movement.

GOOD COMPANY THEATRE:

Blu OCT. 25–NOV. 10 GOODCOTHEATRE.COM GOOD COMPANY THEATRE, OGDEN

An epic poem for the stage, blu traces the explosive after-effects of prison and hunger, desire and war. The play follows a queer Chicana/o family as they try to envision an earth and sky without police and their helicopters.

THE STATE ROOM:

Todrick Hall: Haus Party A GALLERY / ALLEN+ALAN FINE ART:

Toni Doilney A Sense of Place OCT. 15–NOV. 12 RECEPTION OCT. 18 AGALLERYONLINE.COM 1321 S. 2100 EAST, SLC

Toni Doilney uses a unique combination of American Primitivism and Modern Expressionism to present a fresh, direct interpretation of place. Her intimate connection to the subject matter, whether domestic interiors or dramatic landscapes, is clearly felt by her viewer.

OCT. 29, ARTSALTLAKE.ORG JEANNE WAGNER THEATRE, ROSE WAGNER PERFORMING ARTS CENTER

Multi-talented singer, rapper, actor, director, choreographer, and YouTube personality, Todrick Hall rose to prominence on American Idol. His popular YouTube channel has over 2.7 million subscribers and 510 million channel views consisting notably for original songs, choreographed flash mobs for Beyoncé, musical collaborations, and appearing on RuPaul’s Drag Race as a guest judge.

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AN OTHER THEATER COMPANY:

Doubt

NOV. 1–23 ANOTHERTHEATERCOMPANY.COM AN OTHER THEATER, PROVO

Picture this: A Catholic school in the Bronx, New York, 1964.

A time of uncertainty: the assassination of John F. Kennedy, civil upheaval. Sister Aloysius, a ruler-swatting teacher prone to old-school thinking and a fear of progression, suspects an inappropriate relationship between Father Brendan Flynn and Donald Muller, a 12-year-old “negro” student/altar boy.

UTAH ARTS ALLIANCE:

Arcadian Dreamscapes NOV. 5–DEC. 1, UTAHARTS.ORG URBAN ARTS GALLERY

Arcadian Dreamscapes is a vibrant and compelling collection of work by Utah artists Anna Martin, Brian Hoover, and Brittany Volquardsen. Each of these three talented artists uses their own unique approach to create works which crackle with life, energy, and imagination.

PLAN-B THEATRE:

ODA might

NOV. 7–17, ARTSALTLAKE.ORG STUDIO THEATRE, ROSE WAGNER PERFORMING ARTS CENTER

A doctor, a medium and an orderly walk into a mental hospital … A psychological thriller blurring the line between truth and reality. In partnership with The David Ross Fetzer Foundation for Emerging Artists.

KINGSBURY HALL:

Axis Dance Company NOV. 8, KINGSBURYHALL.UTAH.EDU KINGSBURY HALL, UOFU

AXIS is the nation’s most acclaimed ensemble of disabled and non-disabled performers. The company commissions, creates, and performs artistically stunning contemporary dance, developed through collaboration with high-profile choreographers and cutting-edge, innovative dance makers, including dancers with and without physical disabilities.

More than any other company in the United States, AXIS has been at the forefront of the field, building a bridge between contemporary dance, integrated dance, and disability culture.

PYGMALION THEATRE COMPANY:

Two Headed

NOV. 8–23, ARTSALTLAKE.ORG BLACK BOX THEATRE, ROSE WAGNER PERFORMING ARTS CENTER

The play begins in Utah in 1857 — the year more than 100 California-bound immigrants traveling from Missouri and Arkansas were killed in what became known as the Mountain Meadows Massacre. It follows the 40-year relationship between two girls/women as they each find their place in an intolerant, patriarchal Mormon society and the polygamy it espouses.

LIVE NATION AND KINGSBURY HALL AND PRESENT:

Chelsea Handler: Life Will be the Death of Me NOV. 22, KINGSBURYHALL.UTAH.EDU KINGSBURY HALL, UOFU

Regarded as one of the most successful figures in entertainment today, Chelsea Handler and her talk shows, best selling books, and stand up comedy have attracted millions of fans worldwide.

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BROADWAY AT THE ECCLES:

A Christmas Story DEC. 3–8, ARTSALTLAKE.ORG DELTA PERFORMANCE HALL, GEORGE S. AND DOLORES DORÉ ECCLES THEATER

AN OTHER THEATER COMPANY:

The Santaland Diaries

DEC. 6–21, ANOTHERTHEATERCOMPANY.COM AN OTHER THEATER, PROVO

PIONEER THEATRE COMPANY:

Out of work, our slacker decides to become a Macy’s elf during the holiday crunch. At first the job is simply humiliating, but once the thousands of visitors start pouring through Santa’s workshop, he becomes battle-weary and bitter. Finding consolation in the fact that some of the other elves were television extras on One Life to Live, he grins and bears it, occasionally taking out his frustrations on the children and parents alike.

The Play That Goes Wrong

BALLET WEST:

A red rider BB gun, a tongue stuck to a frozen pole, a gaudy woman’s leg wearing a fishnet stocking lamp, a boy’s mouth washed out with soap, hillbilly neighbors with 785 smelly hound dogs, and more weirdness — all make for the perfect Christmas story.

DEC. 6–21, PIONEERTHEATRE.ORG PIONEER THEATRE, UOFU

The title says it all — and that’s why it was Broadway’s funniest and longest-running play. A hilarious hybrid of Monty Python and Sherlock Holmes, the opening night of The Murder at Haversham Manor is one our audiences won’t forget. With an unconscious leading lady, a corpse that can’t play dead, and actors who trip over everything (including their lines) — it’ll be a riot for this holiday season.

Everything from Angels to Zen

The Nutcracker: 75th Anniversary DEC. 7–26, BALLETWEST.ORG CAPITOL THEATRE

In 1944, critics were stunned when Christensen staged the first full-length Nutcracker in America. “We can’t understand why a vehicle of such fantastic beauty and originality would not be produced in its entirety in this country until now.” It was produced on a shoestring budget, but captivated a nation.

Now, during this momentous year and following a $3-million new production, see the original choreography, just as Mr. C intended it — and only at Ballet West. Q

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Arts for All

When I

BY ROCK MAGEN

think about “the arts,” my thoughts instantly turn to the theater. There are many reasons why theater has been around for thousands of years and is still growing. Many people describe it as something magical, and truly an extraordinary experience. I can echo that sentiment. I can recall the first time I saw a Broadway show in vivid detail.

The house lights dimming while the orchestra starts the overture is a unique rush of adrenaline that you never forget.

But what is it that makes attending the theater so special?

First and foremost, the theater brings people together. Many people go to performances with groups of family members and friends. It not only gets you to the same place, but it allows you to share the experience of that particular show with one another. I have even heard stories of people making new friends with those sitting next to them.

For many, theater has become a tradi-

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BY SAM KELLEY-MILLS

ARIES March 20–April 19

Someone who hasn’t spoken to you in a while will emerge out of the blue. Try to sort out your feelings but tread lightly. There is always give and take, but giving will provide much more enjoyment than you might thing.

TAURUS Apr 20–May 20

Now it the time for transformative thoughts. A lot happened in a short time. Take what’s been learned and use it. Help out a friend who needs some company.

There is no better time to find inner peace with a buddy.

GEMINI May 21–June 20

Start getting prepared for the

tion. Maybe it is an annual event with your family. It’s even possible that you go to the theater every time you’re on vacation or visiting NYC. Regardless of the specifics, it can be a wonderful thing to share with other, and it never gets old!

New shows, new theater buildings, new actors, new directors, you name it… each show will feel new whether you’ve seen it before or not.

Much like books and movies, theater shows allow us to escape for a time being.

Not like books or movies though, the theater often feels more real since the audience shares the same space as the actors. While shows can help us enter the world of the story, and temporarily leave our own lives, this escape can also bring meaning into our lives as well. Maybe the story presents a different perspective of the world that you did not notice before.

Often, theater performances demonstrate to us the love, the strength, and the determination that we need to move forward in our lives.

new season. There’s more than just a temperature change on the horizon. It’s time for re-invention. No one is better at being versatile than you, so explore both sides of an issue.

CANCER June 21–July 22

It might be good to feel your way through a clumsy experience. Whether it be personal or professional, someone needs a helping hand from you. Though it might not be a good time, being helpful will feel amazing.

LEO July 23–August 22

Get passionate about a project that has been in the works for a while. It’s good to take a new look at an old idea. No one is judging despite some vocal feedback. The best thing to do is be assertively innovative.

VIRGO August 23–Sep. 22

A lasting friendship or relationship has gone a tad stale. Freshening things is key in order to keep it

Conversely of helping you temporarily escape reality, theater performances can even help you deal with difficulties by going through similar situations with you. While shows bring joy and laughter, they can also bring sadness. But this is not a negative attribute if you feel the same way as the characters. They are not only going through the same thing as you, but also can demonstrate ways to get through it.

I have often remarked that the theater saved my life. Maybe you feel the same?

I am sure that many of us have a memory of going to the theater, even if it was part of a grade school field trip. Regardless of the reason, I am sure that for a moment you appreciate the hard work and dedication of the actors, directors, set designers, and production staff that brought that show to life. Theater reflects the people it serves, so I challenge you to get out there and see more theater. Who knows, they may be telling your story and you don’t even know it! Q

going. Try taking a trip, go on a date, or other types of one-on-one time. It’s never a bad idea to start over again.

LIBRA Sept 23–October 22

DA lot has been invested in a gamble. Whether the pay off is there or not doesn’t matter as long as you’re willing to learn. Experience is your best asset, so apply it generously.

Gratitude is the best reward of all.

SCORPIO Oct. 23–Nov. 21

You can deal with a lot, and sometimes you prefer it that way. Test the limits but don’t be afraid to switch gears when the need arises.

The more you cram into your calendar, the more accomplished you feel.

SAGITTARIUS

Nov. 22–December 20.

It’s easy to give up after an long and exhausting ordeal. Even if there were some great times, the need to rest is apparent. Take personal time and give yourself a hand. Solo time is

the best type of therapy.

CAPRICORN Dec 21–Jan 19

The need to take charge has been a more profound lately. Whether it be with a family member or someone important, be a guide but don’t push a frivolous issue. Your ideas are worthwhile. Don’t waste them.

AQUARIUS Jan. 20–Feb. 18

The moon and stars are aligning, or so it seems. There is a great sense of order in your world and is a source of great comfort. Work on getting finances in order. A bothersome career issue is finally working out.

PISCES Feb 19–Mar 19

A lot of people has seemed to retreat right now. While it might appear like no one cares, it’s totally not true. Your confidence has been high and inspirational to many.

Take the time to reconnect and have some fun. Q

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The War on Porn

BY DR. LAURIE BENNETT-COOK

During

a discussion group at my house not long ago the topic of pornography came up. The overall consensus was that nearly everyone in the room watched it from time to time.

And, nearly everyone in the room had shame about it. Until my professional career as a Clinical Sexologist, I also had shame about viewing porn.

Several years ago, while attending grad school in San Francisco at the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (also known as the “Institute”) the study of the history of porn was a course requirement. Being raised a sweet LDS lady, at 35, this was my first exposure to anything pornographic. I have to admit, much like the people attending the recent discussion group in my home, I was incredibly intimidated by the concept of it. I honestly felt any exposure would corrupt me or harden me in some way.

And a part of me was certain I’d end up setting all my heathen classmates straight about the evils of porn.

Much to my reluctant surprise, when I was challenged to sit down and actually study pornography (it’s creation, background, etc.) the judgement, shame, and fear I had about it melted away. There I was confronted with my personal fears and bias’ regarding pornography, but in a space where every aspect was discussed and presented objectively. It changed me.

Prior to this class I had never considered all the examples of erotic art (aka porn) that are prevalent in the world. Pornography found in the form of carvings on cave walls to painted pottery to mini, life-size, and giant-size sculptures of people depicting sexual acts. What’s even more impressive is these findings, in one form or another, are found globally. I was confronted with my own feelings and how much my fascination, acceptance and even a bit of reverence around sexual artifacts were seen as artistic solely because of their age.

Most astonishing to me was discovering how most every-

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thing found in porn today was once originally filmed over a hundred years ago during the silent film era. And trust me on this one, some of it would be considered so raunchy and controversial by today’s standards that they cannot be found anywhere legally.

Nothing we see is new.

Porn is not new. The format that makes it so readily available may be, but graphic, orgasmic, group sex, same sex, solo sex, cum shots, sneaky sex, outdoor sex, religious sex, age play sex, on and on and on, and yes, even animated sex, is not new.

I have a personal theory.

I believe that ancient sexual artifacts are no longer seen as pornographic because we now have other, more realistic, pornographic things to look at. If ancient items still provoked arousal in people and not just mere curiosity, they’d still be considered pornographic.

The fact that many people are sexually stimulated by their visual sense should not be seen as shameful. The vast majority of porn is produced by people of a legal age and in very consensual agreements.

The performers in the porn are full aware, and hopeful, that people will be watching their content and pleasuring themselves in the process.

So, it’s probably apparent by now that I am a supporter of the erotic arts, and at the same time I do understand the

controversy around it. After all, I was also once one who was fearful of its exposure.

Mind you I am not advocating for porn to be accessible to those who are underage or for the trafficking of individuals; and I also recognize that there are those whose compulsive viewing habits are destructive, but this is not the majority.

So why all this talk of porn?

Well, I’m honestly tired of seeing people’s self worth destroyed by shame or people living in guilt because of their viewing habits. For those who do consensual performing and for those who are viewing legal content, who am I to judge? Who are any of us to judge what people do in a consensual manner? The pleasure police are hard at work to keep people in a shame ridden head space. I’m here to advocate for each of us to feel free to express and seek out whatever forms of consensual pleasure are available — even if that pleasure is through pornography.

For more information on the effects of pornography to people both at a personal and societal level, I recommend the books Ethical Porn For Dicks by David Ley Ph.D., and America’s War on Sex by Marty Klein Ph.D. Q Dr. Laurie Bennett-Cook is a Clinical Sexologist with a private practice in Salt Lake City. She also leads the educational group Sex Positive Utah which can be found on Meetup. To reach Dr. Laurie email her at DrLaurieBennettCook@gmail.com

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the bookworm sez REVIEW BY TERRI SCHLICHENMEYER

YAY! YOU’RE GAY, NOW WHAT? A GAY BOY’S GUIDE TO LIFE

BY RIYADH KHALAF

c.2019, Frances Lincoln, $14.99, 223 pages

The light beneath the door is just a sliver. It’s enticing, though, and you’re eager to see what’s on the other side, finally ready to open that door and come out.

In Yay! You’re Gay! Now What? by Riyadh Khalaf, you’ll find some advice for doing it.

For awhile, months, maybe years, you’ve been “feeling different.” You think you might be gay and that’s “okay, it’s normal, and it’s not something you need to change.” Or you may be bi or pan or non–binary, “it simply comes down to how you feel” and it may have everything or nothing to do with the anatomy you were at birth. The thing to remember is that “YOU CANNOT CHANGE WHO YOU ARE.” This may cause a lot of worry, for you, and for people you love. Recognize that anxiety before it goes wild, and know how to break the cycle. Being gay, says Khalaf, is actually a “gift,” as you’ll eventually begin to see.

That’s a gift you can share or not, says Khalaf, because “you can come out whenever and however you want,” it’s your call. Yes, family members might freak out at first and your friends might retreat but you’ll find advice on how to cope with that, and a reminder that “almost every relationship is salvageable.”

So let’s say you’re out, comfortable with it, and you’re

ready to find your first true love. It’s okay to go online and look, but Khalaf says to be wary: you know how easy it is to pretend you’re someone you’re not when you’re on a computer, so be safe. Also be safe when you go to clubs or parties, and remember that protecting your heart is important, too. Relationships can be different, your first kiss can be amazing, and your body may respond in embarrassing ways to all of the above. And on that note, remember that consent is the new hot.

Here’s the first thing you’ll need to know about Yay! You’re Gay! Now What?: Absolutely anyone can read it — including parents and allies — but it’s really geared toward gay teen boys and young men. Indeed, author Riyadh Khalaf includes pages expressly for those allies and parents, but later parts of the book are filled with valid information that may be more graphic than they’ll want.

Still, that info will speak directly to the heart and the health of young men just coming out, in a way that’s not stuffy or clinical, but that’s more lightheartedly factual.

Khalaf is gay and he uses his own personal anecdotes as tools to teach, but he’s not pious or pushy.

Instead, there’s a whole lot of care and camaraderie in these pages, and the words “you are not alone” are not just written, but they leap from each page. That could make this book a lifesaver for a boy with a dawning understanding but a short support system.

Yay! You’re Gay! Now What? is serious, but fun to read, and may help to shed some light. Q

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BY MIKEY ROX

There’s

more to gay travel than P-Town, Fire Island and Fort Lauderdale. Every state (yep, even the red ones) has something to offer our community, and with the help of LGBTQ-friendly travel site Orbitz, I’ve narrowed them down to the best of the bunch. Start packing.

1. Camp Wonderful in New York Leave the glitz and glam of the big city behind and head for the Catskill Mountains where you’ll find a camp for

grown-ups unlike its competitors. Camp Wonderful at Timber Lake Camp in Shandaken offers an adult summer-camp experience focused on diversity among campers, building meaningful connections, learning new skills (like pickling vegetables, casting spells, and stargazing), and having a blast in the great outdoors. But there’s a twist: It’s completely alcohol-free — because by the time summer closes, we could all stand a detox. Sign up for the “less screen time, more green time” post-Labor Day Weekend session at CampWonderful.com.

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2. Cruise Alaska The Frontier State: So much land, so few people! Lesbian cruise company Olivia offers two Alaska itineraries this summer while RSVP Vacations (now owned by Atlantis) offers a “Summer in Alaska” ship that hits up places like Juneau and Ketchikan. Also, most mainstream cruise ships offer onboard meetups for queer folk.

3. Gay Rodeo in Arizona Gay rodeo is a nationwide phenomenon, and Arizona is as good a place as any to squeeze into your tightest pair of Levi jeans and give the Cowboy lifestyle a try. The 34th Annual Arizona Gay Rodeo happens in Phoenix in February 2020; the World Gay Rodeo Finals happen this October in Scottsdale; and then there’s queer country western bars in Phoenix, including Charlie’s, the Cash Nightclub and Lounge, and Latin-flavored nightclub Karamba (which hosts occasional cowboy nights).

4. Cocktails in Indiana Gay bars have the best names (think C.C. Blooms in Edinburgh or Nellie’s in Washington DC), but surely the best of the bunch belongs to the Back Door in Bloomington. Hilarious moniker aside, the Back Door is a gay bar par excellence located in one of the coolest college towns in America. The crowd is diverse, energetic and friendly as heck, the lineup includes all kinds of crazy cabaret and queer entertainment, and the gay naming even carries over into the drink menu. Boozy

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5. Eclectic Nebraska Omaha is quickly becoming one of the hippest cities in the U.S., and a big part of that is the city’s colorful LGBTQ scene. The city doesn’t have a “gayborhood,” per se, but rather its robust gay community is well woven into its tapestry, the most worthy part of which for travelers is festive Flixx Lounge. With weekend performances featuring both drag queens and drag kings in an eclectic range of comedic, dramatic and even burlesque-themed shows, Flixx will shatter the stereotype you probably have of gay life in Nebraska.

6. The Village in Kentucky No, not the boho-chic Village of NYC fame, but rather a city block that sits in Louisville’s Smoketown neighborhood and formerly home to the legendary queer nightclub and entertainment complex The Connection. Now gone, its out owners have kept the block queer by opening Vapor, a men’s spa and bathhouse; Vu Guesthouse, an adult-oriented luxury boutique hotel; and The Eatery, its onsite diner.

Although LGBTQ nightlife in Derby City has since moved to Bardstown Road, while catching 40 winks at Vu or making new friends at Vapor, consider the three decades of gay nightlife that happened on this very block. Q Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBT lifestyle expert whose work has been published in more than 100 outlets across the world. He spends his time writing from the beach with his dog Jaxon.

Mikey is on Instagram @mikeyrox.

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BY PETUNIA PAP SMEAR

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Every year I anxiously await the QSaltLake day at Lagoon amusement park. I totally enjoy seeing all our “extended family” enjoying themselves on all the attractions and barely escaping death when they ride Cannibal. For the past 10 or so years it has been my humble duty to help host the activities in the picnic pavilion.

I drive to Lagoon wearing my muggle clothing, due primarily to my great fear of having a flat tire or some other automobile difficulty with Queertanic that might cause me to become a damsel in distress stranded in the middle of the median of Interstate 15, which I’m sure would cause an epic traffic jam. Or worse yet, that I should somehow get pulled over by the Highway Patrol for some minor traffic infraction. I have no doubt that they would quickly haul me away to Shady Pines, the joint where Golden Girls and old drag queens go when their girdles lose their structural integrity.

Upon arriving at Lagoon, since the pavilion does not have a private changing room, I try to discreetly step behind the picnic pavilion and get dressed. Unfortunately, this process necessitates that I mostly disrobe, and often it would frighten passing children and greatly distress their mothers.

All these years, the first Sunday in August has been dreadfully hot, and my breasticles have been prone to wilt. Last year, I finally wised up and brought an

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electric box fan to give me a much-needed blow job up my skirt. I set up my chair with its requisite cup holder right in front of the gushing wind and I felt just like my cousin, Queen Elizabeth II. Gene Gieber, the owner of Club Try-Angles, always makes a huge cauldron of “punch” that contains enough alcohol that if need be could disinfect all the cars on Colossus. He promptly gave me one of those red drink cups filled with the exceedingly delicious, yet pungent, punch.

I placed the cup of royal nectar in my regal cup holder and reached for it from time to time to refresh my palate while holding audience with my loyal subjects.

Unbeknownst to me, every time I left my cup unattended and ventured away from my throne, that sneaky bastard Gene refilled my cup. I was holding court there for a solid six hours, and I only refilled the cup myself one time. I thought to myself, “Self, you are being incredibly responsible, only drinking two glasses. You are modeling the epitome of restraint and decorum, fit for a queen.” Little did I realize that I was becoming more and more animated with every sip. I should have become suspicious when I noticed that after about three hours in the intense heat of the pavilion, my drink was still cold. Apparently, my deductive reasoning was significantly impaired, because I had no clue.

After about three hours of sipping my drink, the “Royal We” needed to wee.

I thought how could this be? I’ve only drunk half a cup. Oh, how inconvenient!

So, in desperation, I left the safety of our communal pavilion and ventured forth into the Lagoon Midway in search of a commodious commode, lest my panties become unnecessarily moist.

I had trekked no more than 30 feet when I became aware that a couple of children were following me, while dragging their mother’s along, begging to follow the “pretty lady.” Oh, how sweet. They called me pretty. Then I overheard one of the mothers telling her kid that I was no lady, I must be a clown. Indeed! My breasticles began to well up with righteous indig-

nation at the slight. I’ll show them. Not wanting the powdering of my nose to become a public event, I quickened my pace in hopes of leaving behind the precious little rug rats. Unfortunately, this had the exact opposite effect. With my increased pace, it must have appeared to the muggles that I was instigating my own little princess parade and the following gaggle had now become an actual procession.

I quickly called upon the training I received from my formal education in princess finishing school concerning emergency extrication from a riot situation without seeming rude. I deftly switched into “Crouching-Tiger, Hidden-DragQueen” mode and ducked behind a food stand containing a huge rack of cotton candy. My beehive hair blended right in with the candy and it became as if I had donned my own invisibility cloak. The parade passed me by. I stealthily slinked back to the safety of the pavilion.

Though safely back in the pavilion, I was left with my bulging bladder, squirming in my throne. In desperation, I even contemplated finding an empty drink bottle and discreetly maneuver it up my skirt to receive the emergency torrent.

That is the one thing however, that my princess finishing school failed to teach me how to accomplish without appearing like I was pleasuring myself in public. I packed up and hurriedly left after bingo and went Wee, Wee, Wee, all the way home.

This story leaves us with several important questions: 1. Should Shady Pines be renamed Bridges, a place for has-been trolls?

2. If I had required a bedazzled challis for my drink, could I have avoided Gene’s sabotage?

3. Should I ask to be crowned Queen of Lagoon?

4. If so, would I be forced to ride Cannibal?

5. How much Aqua Net would be needed for my beehive hair to withstand the ride?

7. Should I market my own brand of bedazzled catheters?

8. Should I design a special set of breasticles that could incorporate a hospital style urinal for these types of special occasions?

These and other eternal questions will be answered in future chapters of The Perils of Petunia Pap Smear. Q

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