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ISSUE 305 | October 17, 2019
LDS leader Oaks: gender set at birth
Kitchen and Sbeity announce their divorce Utah State Sen. Derek Kitchen and his husband Moudi Sbeity announced via Facebook that they are ending their marriage. Sbeity came to Utah from Lebanon in 2006 and studied at Utah State University. Kitchen grew up in South Jordan, Utah. The two met Oct. 10, 2009. They joined a discussion group in 2012 with Restore Our Humanity to discuss the possibility of suing the state of Utah for equality in laws dealing with marriage, including the Utah State constitutional amendment that defined marriage as only between “one man and one woman.” The lawsuit was filed March 25, 2013, and was titled “Kitchen v. Herbert.” Nineteen months later, to almost everyone’s surprise, a ruling came down from Judge Robert J. Shelby siding with them. Couples began marrying immediately until a stay was granted by the U.S. Supreme Court 21 days later. Kitchen v. Herbert was won when the State of Utah was denied without comment the petitions for certiorari by the United States Supreme Court on October 6, 2014, four days before the couple’s fifth anniversary. The two waited to marry until May 24, 2015, in a public ceremony at the Gallivan Center. Together, the couple owns Laziz Foods, which sells hummus and spices online and at farmers markets, and Laziz Kitchen in the Harvey Milk Boulevard District which serves modern Lebanese cuisine. The couple made the following statement on Facebook: “When we met ten years ago, we did not know what would be in store for
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us, nor did we know how far our shared strengths and compatible differences would take us. We are incredibly proud of what we’ve been able to accomplish together – from our fight for marriage equality, growing two businesses, and running for public office. We’ve been proud to share this journey with you publically with full transparency, right from the beginning. We couldn’t have done it without your support. “Within our fight for marriage equality, we fought for all the challenges and rights that come along with it. So, It is with much love and in the interest of living with full transparency still, that we are letting you know that we have decided to pursue individual paths and end our marriage. “Had we known that this would be the outcome when we met, we would do it all over again. We remain good friends, business partners, and supporters for each other. We still care deeply for, and love each other, and hope that you can find comfort and love in the knowledge that we will continue to stand for and work for our community, whether it’s through politics, or a safe space for a warm meal. “As we navigate this new reality, we hope that we can count on your respect and ongoing support. We are reminded of this quote from Francis Weller: “The work of the mature person is to carry grief in one hand and gratitude in the other and to be stretched large by them.” Grief for our loss and gratitude for our shared growth. “Love is love, and love will be love again.” Q
Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints first counselor in the First Presidency, Dallin H. Oaks offered remarks about the “eternal nature of God’s children, His plan for them and the commandments to love God and to love our neighbors” at the semi-annual conference in October. “While God’s commandments forbid all unchaste behavior and reaffirm the importance of marriage between a man and a woman, the Church and its faithful members should reach out with understanding and respect to individuals who are attracted to those of the same sex or whose sexual orientation or gender identity is inconsistent with their sex at birth,” Oaks said as he set out three “fundamental doctrinal truths that God has revealed.” “First, … that God created ‘male and female,’” and that this “binary creation is essential to the plan of salvation.” “Second, modern revelation teaches that eternal life, the greatest gift of God to His children, is only possible through the creative powers inherent in the combination of male and female joined in an eternal marriage. Finally, the long-standing doctrinal statements reaffirmed in [The Family: A Proclamation to the World] 23 years ago will not change. They may be clarified as directed by inspiration.” For example, “the intended meaning of gender in the family proclamation and as used in Church statements and publications since that time is biological sex at birth.” Sue Robbins, chair of Transgender Education Advocates of Utah expressed concern for the safety of trans people. “Again, we have the church making statements that are deeply damaging to their members and to the general population in Utah. There is little regard in these statements for the health of their transgender and intersex members, families, and friends,” she said. “Faith is a powerful human emotion and erasing their transgender and intersex members is abusive and tragic. Elder Oaks’ words disregard the biology around being transgender or intersex, which is how our creator, whichever you might believe in, made us. Revelations and other statements cannot change our make-up! I hurt for our LDS transgender and intersex church members. Again, a knife is struck in their heart as they are summarily rejected by their leaders. The rest of the community is here for you. We see you, we hear you, we love you!” Q
