Church of Saint Mary Parish Bulletin: January 26, 2025
Parish Mission Statement
We, the community of Saint Mary’s, Manhasset, building on our rich heritage of Catholic faith and tradition, center ourselves in the Eucharist and honor God in proclaiming the Good News of Jesus Christ.
Guided by the Holy Spirit, we seek to be the presence of Christ through our liturgical, educational and social ministries. We dedicate our time, talent and treasure to the service of all as we build the kingdom of God in our world. We commit to this mission in the name of Jesus Christ.
Church of Saint Mary
1300 Northern Boulevard
Manhasset, New York 11030 (516) 627-0385
Fax (516) 627-6070 www.saintmarysmanhasset.org
Schedule of Masses
Tursday 7:00 AM (when school is in session)
Monday–Friday 9:00 AM
Saturday 9:00 AM, 5:00 PM
Sunday 7:30 AM, 9:00 AM, 10:30 AM, 12:00 Noon
Sacrament of Penance
Saturdays from 4:00-4:45 PM and by appointment. Please call 627-0385.
Anointing of the Sick Te Sacrament of the Anointing of the Sick is celebrated in the Chapel on the second Sunday of the month following the 10:30 AM Mass. If you are unable to come to Church, please call the Parish Ofce to make arrangements for Anointing or to receive the Eucharist.
Parish Ofce
627-0385 | Fax 627-6070
Monday 9:00 AM - 4:00 PM
Tuesday - Friday 9:30 AM - 4:00 PM
Saturday - (phone only) 10:00 AM–1:30 PM
Sunday 9:30 AM - 2:00 PM
E-mail: information@stmary.ws
Good Samaritan House
365-2705
Monday-Wednesday-Tursday 11:00 AM-3:00 PM
E-mail: kkosciusko@stmary.ws St. Vincent de Paul Society: svdp@stmary.ws
Religious Education
627-4028
Monday 12:00 Noon-8:00 PM
Wednesday 9:00 AM–5:00 PM
Tuesday and Tursday 9:00 AM–6:00 PM
Closed on Friday
PARISH DIRECTORY
Pastoral Staf
Rev. Fr. Robert A. Romeo Pastor 627-0385 | ext. 1004 pastor@stmary.ws
Rob Cammarata Director of Operations 627-0385 | ext. 1037 rcammarata@stmary.ws
Jane Cliford Bulletin Editor bulletin@stmary.ws
Marie T. Granieri
Director of Religious Education 627-4028 | ext. 1127 releddirector@stmary.ws
Kathleen Kosciusko Director of Parish Social Ministry 627-0385 | ext. 1126 kkosciusko@stmary.ws
Jennifer LaChance Ofce Manager
627-0385 | ext. 1000 information@stmary.ws
Daniel Maimone Music Director 627-0385 | ext. 1021 dmaimone@saintmarysmanhasset.org
Vanessa Quiros
Parish Ofce
627-0385 | ext. 1008 vquiros@stmary.ws
Te Schools of Saint Mary Nursery through 12th Grade
Very Rev. Dom Daniel Nash, Can. Reg. President 627-2711 president@stmary.ws
Norma Ragalli Staford Director of Admissions 627-2711 | ext 1084 nstaford@stmary.ws
Eileen M. Symmons ’82, ’86 Director of Communications 627-2711 esymmons@stmary.ws
Kiera Gmelich Walsh Director of Alumni and Parent Relations 627-2711 | ext. 1162 kwalsh@stmary.ws
Sarah de Venoge Grifn ’02, ’06 Liaison for School Relations sgrifn@saintmarysmanhasset.org
St. Mary’s Elementary School 627-0184 www.stmary11030.org
Teresa A. Kemp Principal tkemp@stmary11030.org
St. Mary’s High School 627-2711 www.saintmaryshs.org
Gerard J. Buckley Principal gbuckley@saintmaryshs.org
From the Pastor’s Desk
Dear Parishioners,
“He has sent Me to bring glad tidings” (Luke 4:18)
In our First Reading from the prophet Nehemiah, the Israelites have returned to their homeland after years of exile. Tey begin to rebuild and re-establish themselves as a people. Before they continue in the physical rebuilding of their land, they know they need to re-establish the covenant they made with God. So all the people are gathered and Ezra reads the Word of God. But why, when Ezra read from the Law, were the people sad? Perhaps, on hearing the Word, they realized their past failures and sins; sins that brought them into exile in the frst place. Or, maybe previously they hadn’t understood the Word and now they can hear its life-giving qualities and it moves them to tears. Would that we had their hunger to hear God’s Word and, when we did, that it would move us to tears of repentance and gratitude for what we hear God continually ofers us.
What’s challenging about our First Reading from Nehemiah is how solemnly Ezra proclaims God’s Word and the devotion with which the people receive it. “Ten they bowed down and prostrated themselves before the Lord, their faces to the ground.” While that isn’t how we physically respond to hearing the Word proclaimed at our liturgy; still, it does challenge us to attentiveness and devotion to the Word we hear. After the readings are proclaimed, have we ever contemplated our response, “Tanks Be to God?” Are we thankful for the Word that nourishes us? Yes, at times, it may be a difcult challenge, but embracing the Word can change our lives. It is God’s plan for happiness in our lives.
In Luke’s Gospel, Jesus’ frst public words are a synthesis of His ministry. He picks the reading from Isaiah that will defne who He is. It is a life that, for three years, proclaimed hope to those who seem to be robbed of joy. To those imprisoned by their sins and their past, He will ofer freedom. He comes that we may have a new life in Him. As the people in Ezra’s time come with repentance and then joy to hear and LIVE God’s Word, Jesus comes as the embodiment of that joy. Jesus ends His words with “Today this scripture is fulflled in your hearing.” Jesus IS that hope to all who hear. We are the inheritors of the ministry of Jesus. We are not only inheritors, but called to share that message with all we meet.
We are invited and challenged to fnd in the Word the hope, freedom, and joy that God ofers to us. But for us to allow the Word to reside in us we frst have to READ the Word.
Tis Sunday is the Open House for our Catholic Schools. I encourage you to consider a Catholic Education for your child. Not only are our Elementary, Middle School, and High School places of academic excellence, but also, as mandated in today’s Gospel, we preach and teach our Catholic Faith that professes the Lordship of Jesus. Please come and see what we have to ofer; it is an investment in the faith-life of your child.
In these days of cold weather, I ask that you be conscious of the church doors. We certainly want to be aware of those entering or exiting the church after us and hold the door. If there is no one behind you, please make sure the door is closed. Tis will ensure the heat is retained in the church, keeping it comfortable for the next Mass, as well as helping to keep heating costs down. Tank you for your cooperation in this matter.
In Jesus and Mary, Fr. Bob
J Stewards of God’s Gifts
Jesus came to us because God loves us.
Living Stewardship ~ Pillar of Service: Troughout these winter weeks and months, be at service to those in need. Give donations of heavy clothing to your parish pantry, assist the elderly with outdoor work, and help shovel snow in front of your neighbor’s house.
Te collection for Sunday, January 19, 2025 amounted to $20,284.00
Te collection for Sunday, January 21, 2024 amounted to $23,589.00
Have you enrolled yet? Visit www.faithdirect.net. Our parish code is NY281.
We Care for Our Parish Community
Baptism
We celebrate Baptism at 1:30 PM on the second Sunday of the month and at 12:30 PM on the fourth Saturday of the month as scheduled. Please call the Parish Ofce at least one month in advance to see if a date is available and to arrange to fll out pre-baptismal paperwork. New parents are required to attend a Baptism preparation session held once every month. Tose chosen as sponsors for Baptism should lead lives in harmony with the Catholic faith and the role of Godparent.”
Marriage
At least six months before you plan to be married and before you make arrangements for the reception, please make an appointment with one of the priests to begin the necessary preparations.
Children’s Education
Saint Mary’s Elementary School ofers excellent education in the spirit of the Gospel from grades N, Pre-K to Eighth grade. For information call 627-0184.
Empowering Character, Innovation and Leadership in our students, Saint Mary’s High School is a dynamic, contemporary, Catholic value-centered school, combining a commitment to academic excellence and educational innovation, with a passion for learning, and an emphasis on moral character development through the pursuit of truth and discovered in faith and reason. For information call 627-2711.
The Religious Education Program provides excellent formation in the Catholic Faith for children in public or private schools. Preparation for First Holy Communion and Confrmation requires two years. Classes are held at St. Mary’s for Grades 1 through 5 on Tuesdays and Tursdays
4:30-5:30 PM. Classes also meet on Sundays from 9:3010:20 AM for Grades 1 through 8 and on Mondays from 7:00-8:00 PM for Grades 6, 7 and 8. We also ofer the option of an online home program for Grades 1 through 7. For information about Grades 1-8 call 627-4028 or email Mrs. Marie Granieri at releddirector@stmary.ws.
Parish Social Ministry
We care for our sisters and brothers through our Parish Social Ministry and Food Pantry. For information call 365-2705.
Respect Life Ministry
We strive to help build a civilization of love and life that upholds the dignity and inviolability of all innocent human life, seeks objective moral Truth, embraces the value of redemptive sufering, and yearns for the fullness of life in eternal communion with God the Creator. For more information, email RespectLife@StMary.ws.
New Parishioners
We welcome new members to the Catholic Church and to Saint Mary’s Parish. If you are new in the area or interested in learning more about the Catholic faith, please call the Parish Ofce.
Opportunities For Prayer
Te Church is open Monday to Friday until 8:45 PM, on Saturday until the end of the 5:00 PM Mass, and on Sunday until 6:00 PM. Te Miraculous Medal Novena is said each Monday following the 9:00 AM Mass. Monday to Saturday the Rosary is said following the 9:00 AM Mass. Eucharistic Adoration is held every Monday from 3:00 to 5:00 PM in the Chapel. On First Saturdays, the Scriptural Rosary is recited following the 9:00 AM Mass.
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Masses and Special Intentions
Maria DeAngelis
Donna Chesney
Erica Klock
Mason
Gabriel & Frances Romeo
Ann Shields
Nina Principe
Cole Marguglio
Richard & Mary Atkinson
Anthony Polizzi
Kathy Dellis-Stover
Neil Gillis
Pamela Gallo
Allison Azzara
Teddy Connolly
Sarah Praay
Agnes Gaus
Glenn LaChance
Christine Marchese
Gerald Schmaedick
Diamantina Jannone
Jon Jodka
Heather Smolowik
Teresa Malysa
Ronald Grubert
Names will remain on the list for three months. Please email bulletin@stmary.ws if you would like to continue with the listing.
Maryann D’Angelo Teodore Peng-jie Connolly
125th Brigade Support Battalion
23rd Marine Regiment
25th Marine Regiment
2-4 GSAB Task Force Mustang
2-211th GSAB Task Force War Horse
51st Security Force Squadron
75th Ranger Regiment
82nd Expeditionary Rescue Squadron
Alacqua, Alexander, CPT, USA
Amerson, Jason, CPT, USA
Anderson, Michael, 1LT, USA
Arnold, James, LCpl, USMC
Arnoux, Seraph, PFC, USA
Avasthi, David, Capt, USAF
Baber, Joseph, Maj, USAF
Blake, Julia, Cadet, USN
Broderick, Evan, SGT, USA
Broderick, Steven, SN, USN
Brodie, Virgina H., 2ndLt, USMC
Brown, Jason, SGT, USA
Casazza, Jack, 2nd Lt, USMC
Collins, Matthew, LT, USN
Fontanetta, Joseph, Maj, USMC
Grubert, Sean, LCpl, USMC
Grygiel, Jack, MIDN, USN
Hannan, Jack, ENS, USN
Hayes, Andrew, Capt, USMC
Hellman, Tomas, 2d Lt, USSF
Hernandez, Steven, SSgt, USAF
Higgins, James, GySgt, USMC
Hilton, Justin, SGT, USA
Hilton, Nathaniel, SGT, USA
Horner, Brian G., 1stLt, USMC
Howard, Edward M., GySgt, USMC
Jones, Scott B., LT, USN
Jones, Katherine L., LTJG, USN
Kennedy, Michael, Col, USAF
LaManna, Vincent S., Jr., PVT, USA
Landolphi, Michael, ENS, USN
Lanza, Anthony E., LtCol, USMC
Madden, Michael E., Major, USAF
Major, A. Edward, III, LTC, USA
Marine Medium Tilt Rotor Squadron 161
Marine Transport Squadron 352
McGorry, Patrick F., HM2, USN
McKievear, Gary, LT, USA
Millau, Jefrey, PFC, USMC
Morris, Jr., Brian J., ENS, USN
O’Leary, Jason, SSgt, USAF
Petracca, Evan L., LTJG, USN
Quinn, Anthony, Jr., SGT, USA
Richardson, Timothy, PV2, USA
Radman, Paul Cpl, USMC
Rodi, Caroline G., CAPT, USN
Saville, John A., ENS, USN
Sharkey, John J., LtCol, USMC
Spivak III, Edmund, Capt, USAF
Sweeney, Timothy, CPT, USA
Swersky, Roberto, Capt, USMC
Tafone, Samantha, SGT, USA
Ullrich, Kenneth C., HN, USN
Unger, Matthew J., SPC, USA
Vachris, Madison, LT, USN
Wood, Kelly, BMSR, USN
If you have a service member that you would like to add to this list please e-mail bulletin@stmary.ws. Please include name, rank and branch of service.
Masses for the Week
Monday, January 27th
St. Angela Merici, Virgin & Religious Founder
Heb 9:15, 24-28, Mk 3:22-30
9:00 AM | Sarah Geoghegan (living)
Tuesday, January 28th
St. Tomas Aquinas, Priest & Doctor of the Church
Heb 10:1-10, Mk 3:31-35
9:00 AM | Sarah Walsh
Wednesday, January 29th
Heb 10:11-18, Mk 4:1-20
9:00 AM | Mario Alba
Tursday, January 30th
Heb 10:19-25, Mk 4:21-25
7:00 AM | Edward & Midori Emanuel (living)
9:00 AM | Anne Amoruso
Friday, January 31st
St. John Bosco, Priest
Heb 10:32-39, Mk 4:26-34
9:00 AM | Joseph V. Stanoszck
Saturday, February 1st
First Saturday
Heb 11:1-2, 8-19, Mk 4:35-41
9:00 AM | Mario Reali
5:00 PM | Tomas J. Flynn, Sr. Carrado & Josephine Mancini
Tomas J. Milone
Biagio Petrucelli
Michael Flaherty
Anne Amoruso
Mary Keogh
Sunday, February 2nd
Te Presentation of the Lord
Mal 3:1-4, Heb 2:14-18, Lk 2:22-40
7:30 AM | Joseph V. Giunta, Jr.
9:00 AM | People of the Parish
10:30 AM | Anne Pierson Mulholland
Ken O’Brien
Joe Stallone
Keegynn Martinek
Mary Nicholas
Carrie McDonald
William Ryan
12:00 Noon | Purgatorial Society
Cover art: Jesus Teaching in the Synagogue. Artist: Greg K. Olsen (1958- ).
Courtesy of the LDS Media Library
WINTER COAT DRIVE
Readings and Questions for Faith Sharing on the Feast of the Presentation of the Lord
Reading I: Malachi 3:1-4
But who will endure the day of his coming? And who can stand when he appears?
Reading II: Hebrews 2:14-18
He had to become like his brothers and sisters in every way, that he might be a merciful and faithful high priest before God to expiate the sins of the people.
Gospel: Luke 2:22-40
“Behold, this child is destined for the fall and rise of many in Israel.”
Question for Adults:
How am I using Sacred Scripture to shape the way I see the world?
Question for Children:
How can I bring joy and hope to others?
Rosary Society
Our Mission Statement: Te Rosary Society fosters devotion to Mary through prayer and good works for causes that would be dear to her heart
Invest 20 minutes of your day to pray the Rosary, and see the diference it will make in your life.
If you would like the Rosarians to pray for a special intention, please e-mail us at rosarysociety@stmary.ws.
Rosary Society Monthly Meeting - Wednesday, February 5th 6:15 PM in the Saint John Paul II Room. Light refreshments will be served.
Membership Directory: We will be updating our directory. If you would like to be included in the directory, please ensure your membership information is current and you are up to date with your dues. If you have forgotten to pay your dues, please send in the membership information card with your check for $35.00. If you cannot fnd the card, please send us an email with your current contact info, phone number, and email address, Once we receive your check, we will fll out a card on your behalf. As always, any member who is eighty years of age or over is free from paying dues. Te deadline to be included in the directory is February 15th.
Society of St. Vincent de Paul
In this Sunday’s Gospel, Jesus reads the words of scripture: “Te Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has anointed me to bring glad tidings to the poor.” In the month of January, through your gifts, the Society of St. Vincent de Paul was able to assist families, by providing food and assistance with utility and rent, bills, etc. Tank You!
Our St. Vincent de Paul Conference is able to help our neighbors in need through the generosity of our St. Mary’s parishioners. Each time you donate, either through the collection slots at the doors of the church, or in an envelope marked for St. Vincent de Paul, you are helping our neighbors within St. Mary’s Parish. If you or someone you know is in need of assistance, contact the St. Vincent de Paul Society at 516-627-0385, ext. 1125, or email SVDP@stmary.ws. To donate furniture, clothing or household items, please call the store in Garden City Park at 516-746-8250. Tank you for your continued support.
Two Part-Time Custodial Positions Here at St. Mary’s
St. Mary’s is currently seeking dedicated individuals to join our team in providing essential maintenance and custodial services for our buildings. Tese positions are for a maximum of 20 hours per week, usually 3 days a week. On-the-job training will be provided. Please send applications or inquiries to rcammarata@stmary.ws. For a complete job description, go to https://www.catholicjobs.com/ job/15120167790
ST. MARY’S: A BRIGHT BEACON OF HOPE IN THE FUTURE OF CATHOLIC EDUCATION
ACADEMIC EXCELLENCE, FAITH VALUES AND CREATIVE LEARNING
Saint Mary’s Elementary and Middle Schools offer an innovative Catholic education designed to ensure that experienced, caring faculty knows how to bring out the best in every child, whether we’re encouraging shy writers to share their stories or guiding tech-savvy seventh graders to complete science assignments
With small classes, an emphasis on shared values, state-of-the-art technology, and exciting after-school activities, we integrate the values of the Catholic faith into the lives of our students while
WHAT MAKES SAINT MARY’S UNIQUE?
From the outside, Saint Mary’s Elementary and Middle Schools are well-kept suburban schools with bright, airy classrooms and
school where friendly, dedicated teachers warmly nurture each child’s unique talents
We prepare students to achieve their greatest academic potential as they grow in mind and spirit by offering:
• An Atmosphere of Faith and Kindness
We graduate well-rounded students prepared for the future not only academically, but also spiritually and
atmosphere of respect, tolerance, and generosity through Gospel lessons
• An Innovative Curriculum for Inspired Learning
emphasizes core subjects and enriches your child’s life through special programs in art, technology, music, physical
With small classes and experienced teachers, we offer differentiated learning
within all subjects as well as extra help for those who need it, encouraging children to
• Today’s Top Technology
to our youngest scholars, embraces the newest learning technologies with with an interactive whiteboard, a class set of iPads, and there are three computer labs, one for younger students and two for
in Pre-K, technology is integrated through keyboarding, coding, and 3D printing design, where mathematical skills and creativity are applied to bring 2D drawings
receives a Chromebook, which increases student interest in learning and ownership
School students have the opportunity which leads the School in prayer, pledge, announcements, and special programs communicated daily through a livestream
• A Vital Community Outside the Classroom
What happens at a school after the last bell says a lot about that school’s Middle Schools, our classrooms, halls, and enthusiasm as teachers, coaches, moderators, and students gather after school for athletics, extracurricular
Middle School Extracurricular Activities:
Program including ice hockey, track, bowling, lacrosse, volleyball, soccer, baseball, softball, and basketball;
EARLY CHILDHOOD EDUCATION (Cherubs, Nursery, Pre-K, and K)
critical foundational skills, strategies, and experiences that promote success
intellectual, social, emotional, and spiritual developments are intricately woven, we provide an educational environment where social, cognitive, and creative skills are enriched with one-on-one and small-group interactions through agecurriculum is enhanced through interactive learning with the latest technology, special enrichment activities, and ample
providing our students with a challenging yet comfortable learning environment, we prepare them both academically and socially, instilling a love of learning and
ELEMENTARY SCHOOL (Grades 1-5)
Elementary School focuses on educating the whole child, by integrating the values and virtues of the Catholic faith into the curriculum and by helping each
love of learning and encourages students
Parent involvement is a key component in building upon our students’ academic,
Parents are invited to participate in all liturgical celebrations and be active within the school community as volunteers in a
We utilize an interdisciplinary approach throughout our curriculum, which is enhanced through the use of current technology, hands-on learning, and
participate in age-appropriate, skill-related experiences such as book discussions, exploring different perspectives through conversation, reenacting the Stations of the Cross, and participating in mission fundraisers and our blood drive, where they begin to develop skills in making connections, in critical thinking and
MIDDLE SCHOOL (Grades 6-8)
its own dedicated building for students in Grades 6-8, we begin to place more focus on moral and ethical formation, instilling curriculum is enriched across the content areas with topics that are connected to students’ moral development with an emphasis on developing responsibility, independence, integrity, and consideration
spiritual, social, and academic growth as
making, problem-solving, critical analysis,
Strong extracurricular programs and the integration of technology enhance the challenging academic curriculum for the Middle School including electives to further
Parents and students can access the website and Parent Portal on a daily basis, and every Middle School student has the
have the freedom to discover solutions to problems both independently and programs include Faith and Sports,
spring, students have the opportunity to work with theater professionals to prepare or learn backstage arts in stage crew,
enrichment classes built into the schedule
Mary’s ensures that our Middle School students are well prepared for continued success in their secondary education, as demonstrated in the partnership with our
students have the opportunity to take two Regents level courses, Living Environment
is open to students who meet the required scholarship, service, leadership, character,
PROFILE OF A GRADUATE
become a well-rounded individual who believes in his or her own abilities, who is prepared for the future, and who embodies the
• CREATING and self-expression
ST. MARY’S AT A GLANCE
HISTORY
The Sisters, Servants of the Immaculate Heart of Mary,
ACCREDITATION
FACILITIES
STUDENTS
ADMINISTRATION SAINT MARY’S ELEMENTARY & MIDDLE SCHOOLS
• LEARNING – Possessing a love of learning with the ability and motivation to pursue knowledge both independently and cooperatively
• BELIEVING – Understanding the Catholic faith and incorporating Christian values into everyday life
• RESPECTING and kindness as well as an expression of respect, tolerance, and generosity toward others
• GROWING and trusting in his or her capability of succeeding
• SERVING – Embracing a sense of empathy toward others and a desire to contribute to the community through service
• COLLABORATING – Knowing how to compromise, communicate clearly and assertively, and effectively work in cooperation with others
• EXCELLING and strategies to strive for excellence in conquering obstacles and reaching his or her full potential
Our proud members of the Class of 2024 were accepted to
Good Samaritan House FOCUS
Friends Ofering Care, Understanding, and Support
Please Join Us for
Tursday, February, 13th
in the Marian Room Lunch at 12:00 Noon followed by Miracles from Heaven starring Jennifer Garner
Reservations $20.00 per person
RSVP by February 10th
Chairpersons: Esther Markiewicz & Bill Urig For information, call 516-320-5879 or 516-697-9579
Make checks payable to: St. Mary’s Good Samaritan House. Return the form below with payment to: 1300 Northern Blvd. Manhasset, NY 11030, Attention: FOCUS Movie & Lunch or drop of at the Parish Ofce.
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PHONE NO.
Saint Mary’s Elementary & Middle Schools
PARENT TEACHER ORGANIZATION
cordially invites you to
Take-A-Break
Saturday, February 8 | 7:00 PM
Nino’s Beach | 43 Orchard Beach Blvd. | Port Washington
All are welcome to join us for an evening of cocktails, dinner, dancing, and a fantastic auction! All proceeds will go to Technology Enhancements. Any
Tickets: $175 per person | Cocktail Attire
Registration Deadline: February 3 saintmaryses.org
In Session with Dr. Patricia Pitta
You Can Be Kind and Right at the Same Time
Lessons for a Relationship: People Can Communicate Respectfully
We have begun a New Year and have almost completed the frst month. Many people have made resolutions and statistics have it by the 10th of the month New Year’s Resolutions are put aside. Now, as you walk through the stores, there are reminders for Valentine’s Day. February is known as the month of love. We all want to feel loved, but when we feel hurt by the ones we love, our feelings of love turn into sadness.
One of the biggest difculties for most couples is they become emotionally charged or out of control when their partner does something they consider wrong. Some yell and scream while others distance themselves and give the other the cold shoulder. Neither way of communicating is appropriate and helpful for creating a connected, loving bond.
Most couples have trouble communicating when emotions run high. Te problem is that when you hear something that isn’t correct about you, or annoying, or hurtful, your anger and anxiety spikes and you are no longer thinking with your rational head. You are responding with your emotions. So how can you change that pattern?
I call it “God and You in Relationship.” When you feel your emotions running high, “Take a deep breath with God” and say to yourself
in an audible voice or quiet voice, “Jesus, help me calm my reactions.” Ten ask your partner to repeat what they just said and listen with a calmer head and heart. It is good for you to discuss with your partner that you are working on calming your emotions and you will be practicing bringing God into your relationship. See if he or she would like to join you.
So, after your partner talks, I want you to repeat in your own words what you heard him/her say. So, for example: Your partner says, “You never put away your dishes and you are such a mess!” You repeat in your words, “You say that I never put away my dishes and I am such a mess. I agree that sometimes I don’t put my dishes away and I do not appreciate that you call me a mess and are judgmental.” Ten say a repair statement: “I am doing too many things at the same time, and I need to work on this.” What you are doing with this type of responding is you are owning your behavior and correcting his/her judgment of you and making a statement about repairing and changing your behavior for your own good and the relationship. You are being kind to yourself and your partner by owning your behavior and you are taking steps to improve your actions so not to cause yourself or the other grief. You are not responding with out-ofcontrol behavior and instead, setting an example for the relationship that is mature and kind.
Tese steps are simple and hard at the same time. Here are the steps spelled out:
1. Partner says something that sets of your emotions
2. You ask Jesus to help you calm your emotions and take a deep breath
3. You repeat what your partner said.
4. You respond to what he/she said and own your behavior and identify what is incorrect or inappropriate in what he/she said
5. Ten you say a repair statement to change your behavior if appropriate.
If you both follow this pattern of communicating, your relationship will become more open, honest, and loving and the tension in the relationship will decrease. Below is a prayer you can both say daily to help each of you get in touch with the love of God within you and that you have for each other. Maybe say it before dinner or before bedtime.
My dear Jesus, I am grateful for how you help me to calm my emotions and my perspectives. I know that I need to take responsibility for my behaviors and that I need not judge or be judged by another. If I ofend, I must admit my actions and change my ways with your guidance and help. Amen.
You can also go on my website: drpatriciapitta.com and listen to the relaxation exercise on the frst page to help you calm your emotions, in addition to inviting Jesus into your relationship to help you calm your emotions.
Dr. Pitta (drpatriciapitta.com) is a Clinical and Family Psychologist practicing in Manhasset and is the chair of the Mental Health Ministry of St. Mary’s. She is a professor of psychology at St. John’s University and the former director of the Postgraduate Couple and Family Terapy Program within the department of Psychology. She is a graduate of the Pastoral Formation Institute of Rockville Centre. Dr. Pitta is the author of Solving Modern Family Dilemmas: An Assimilative Terapy Model published by Routledge and Integrative Couple and Family Terapies published by American Psychological Association.
Exposition and Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament
Eucharistic Adoration Prayers
Prayer to Jesus in the Holy Eucharist
My Lord Jesus Christ, Your Eucharistic presence teaches me how to love as you have loved me. In your great love for me you continue to give yourself, body, blood, soul, and divinity in this sacrament of your love. As I pray here in your Eucharistic presence, enkindle in me the fre of your gospel. Nourish me with your love and compassion, so that I may be your living presence to all I meet. Amen.
Prayer of Adoration
I adore you Jesus, true God, and true man, present in the holy Eucharist, kneeling before you and united in spirit with all the faithful on earth and all the saints in heaven. In gratitude for so great a blessing, I love you with all my heart, for you are worthy of all praise and adoration. Lord Jesus Christ, may I never ofend you with my lack of love. May your Eucharistic presence refresh me in body and soul. Mary, Mother of the Eucharistic Lord, pray for me and obtain for me a greater love for Jesus. Amen.
Going Forth
Lord Jesus Christ, I have spent this time of adoration and prayer in your Eucharistic presence. Fill my life with love, joy, peace, and kindness. Transform me by the power of the Holy Spirit into a living image of your compassionate presence. May I go forth from this hour of adoration and prayer to be your hands, feet, and heart to all those I meet. Risen Jesus, may I be surrounded by the radiance of your love. Amen.
Exposition and Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament with Closing Benediction Mondays 3:00 - 5:00 PM in the Church
Second Collection Next Weekend for California Wildfre Assistance
Te Diocese of Rockville Centre has authorized a special collection to assist those sufering the efects of the California wildfres. We will take up this collection the weekend of February 1 and 2. Checks may be made payable to St. Mary’s noting “California wildfre assistance” in the memo line or cash will be accepted. Tank you in advance for your support. Let us continue to pray for the victims, frefghters, and frst responders.
Let the little children come to me... (Matt 19:14) All Children Are Invited to Participate in Children’s Liturgy of the Word Every Sunday at the 9:00 AM Mass
Interested in becoming a CLOW Prayer Leader? Please contact Jane Cliford at bulletin@stmary. ws or sit in with us on a Sunday. Materials and training are provided; scheduling is fexible.
Christmas Flower Offerings 2024
In Memory Of
Sr. Jackie Walsh, RSM
Louis Young Bariso Family
Richard G. Masterson
Ciro DeAngelis
Julia DeAngelis
Mario Calcagno
Anna Calcagno
Mr. & Mrs. Brian Mesina-Feit
Mr. & Mrs. Safraz Yacoob
Mrs. Deirdre C. Major
Mr. & Mrs. Gaspare R. Abruzzo
Mr. & Mrs. Dominic Dasilva
Mr. & Mrs. Norman Maclean
Rudy & Erminia Endrizzi
James O’Brien, Sr.
Dorothy & William Raferty
Josephine Arkwright
John M. Lentini
Edith & Rudolph Ciniglio
Michael K. Brennan
Juan Lopez
Donated By
Mr. & Mrs. Nicholas Fuller
Ms. Kathryn Licursi
Mr. & Mrs. Tomas Rowan
Mr. Andrew Digiacomo
Mr. & Mrs. Daniel L. Cataldo
Mr. & Mrs. Pawel Majewski
Tird Time
John Smith and Katharine Connolly St. Ignatius Loyola St. Mary, New York, New York Manhasset, NY
Mary Tatur
EugeneTatur
Joseph & Dorothy Salat
All in Heaven
George A. Doyle
Muriel H. Doyle
Vincent Valentine
JoAnne Valentine
Ms. Irene Dillworth
Mr. & Mrs. Sung Cho
Mr. & Mrs. Paul Iskyan
Mr. & Mrs. Michael Rizzo
Mr. & Mrs. Christopher Doroszczyk
Mr. & Mrs. Anthony Rezza
Knights of Columbus
Father William A. Daly S.J. Council #2122
Serving St. Mary’s Parish in Manhasset and St. Aloysius Parish In Great Neck www.kofc2122.org
What is a Knights of Columbus Family?
We are Catholic families building a bridge to our faith.
Our lives, time, eforts, and resources are dedicated to these values: Charity. Unity. Fraternity. Patriotism.
We come from diferent places, backgrounds, and all stages of life. But the common thread is our Catholic faith. We are Catholic families seeking to improve ourselves and the world. It’s one thing to say who you are. It’s another thing is to live it. Put your values into practice. Become a Knights of Columbus family.
Interested? Please call:
Tony Racioppo 917 539 0859
Dan Garcia 516 358 1817
Ladies interested in joining the Columbiettes, please contact Maura Cliford at Maclif56@gmail.com
Tird Sunday in Ordinary Time
Nehemiah 8:2-10: “Ezra, the priest brought the law before the assembly. All the people listened intently to the book of the law. Ezra read from the book and interpreted it so all could understand. Ten he said, ‘Today is holy to the Lord your God.’ Do not be sad and do not weep. Instead, rejoice in the Lord for he is your strength.” Would you like to strengthen your marriage? Check out a Worldwide Marriage Encounter (WWME.org). It can help you in your communication, teach you many skills, and also help you to grow in intimacy and in faith with one another. Some of the dates to sign up are:
February 7-9, 2025 in Long Island, NY
March 21-23, 2025 in Burlington, Vermont
April 25-27, 2025 in East Sandwich, MA
Worldwide Marriage Encounter sponsors a variety of in-person and virtual marriage experiences, some on weekends and some on seven weekdays. Couples explore their relationship with each other, God, and the Church. Registration is limited; there is a $100 application fee. For more information or to apply, call Kevin & Regina Hickson at 516-554-3835 or https://wwmenyli.org/.
