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From left, Columbus North senior Hannah Kestler, adviser Julie Orben, Turning Point representative Whittney Barker and Columbus East senior Katie Hollenkamp.

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editor’s note

This issue is about the fifth or sixth time I’ve written my annual New Year’s note for the magazine. It’s always a nostalgic one for me, because as I’ve said many times, the drafting of it prompts me to take a look back at the previous year. (Enter the lyrics to a famous John Lennon Christmas song). When looking back at 2012, I can answer him and say, well, actually I’ve done a lot!

It’s not surprising that this was a banner year for me. My husband and I welcomed our first child, and my son, Nolan, has opened the door to a kind of love I, before, could not fathom. Speaking of, as you read this, I’m probably in the midst of planning his big first birthday party; it’s hard to believe the momentous occasion is upon us already.

In my professional life, our company launched a beautiful, full-size community magazine catering to Columbus, a publication for which I serve as editor. And She magazine, although our publishing frequency changed slightly, continued to highlight the great women and women’s issues of this area, as well as sponsor meaningful and fun events in the community.

So all-in-all, I’d say a wonderful 2012.

As 2013 begins, I foresee more big changes and exciting opportunities. It will be such a joy to continue to watch Nolan thrive and grow.

I also look forward to taking on new challenges and upholding important traditions with my professional endeavors as well. So as I look on 2013 with optimism, I wish you and your loved ones the same.

Happy New Year!

EDITOR Kelsey DeClue COPY EDITOR Katharine Smith GRAPHIC DESIGNER Stephanie Otte WRITERS Margie Campbell Melissa Fears Crystal Henry Brenda Showalter photographer Carla Clark Stock Images Provided by Thinkstock

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By Kelsey DeClue | Photos by Carla Clark For a group of 12 women who took a chance on themselves and a few fitness instructors they didn’t know three months ago, a chapter has come to a close. However, according to most of them, the journey (and the fun) is just beginning.

Strong, Healthy, Empowered – the third healthy lifestyle challenge hosted by The Republic’s She magazine and Tipton Lakes Athletic Club – celebrated its finale and awards ceremony last month.

Contestant Joanne Heavrin won, losing nearly 35 pounds. The winners were determined based on body fat percentage lost. Heavrin cut her body fat by more than 16 percent.

“My reaction to finishing first? I think we were all winners,” Heavrin said. “We all finished with a better knowledge of how to be healthy, both physically and mentally. And the friendships that came of this, I believe, will be lasting ones.”

Heavrin received $500 and a free year membership to Tipton Lakes Athletic Club.

Rounding out the top three were Joanna Shinn in second place, and Joanna Meister in third place. Both women cut their body fat percentage by more than 11 percent and mere tenths of a point determined their final placements. Shinn received $250 and Meister, $100.

“The whole process was about creating new habits and a new way of living, so getting the ex-

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tra monetary reward was a reward on top of the real gift of a lifetime,” Meister said.

For the mid-December finale the 11 women who completed the contest, dolled up in cocktail dresses and evening attire, along with a large group of their family and friends, filled a fitness room at TLAC. They hugged each other and wiped away tears of joy. They exchanged gifts and introduced each other to family members.

“It’s like a middle-age prom,” said contestant Nancy Lewis, with a laugh.

TLAC fitness director Ian McGriff, who led the women through the fitness, nutrition and self-awareness program, presented a video that encompassed highlights of the previous three months. More happy tears were shed. More hugs exchanged. It was certain this group formed lasting bonds. The “SHE-sters” they called themselves.

“All of us worked so hard and made such progress physically and emotionally that winning a prize was just icing on the cake,” said Shinn. “I feel as if I have gained my freedom. I am not afraid anymore.

I used to be afraid of everything – meeting new people, walking into crowded rooms; even shopping for clothes was terrifying to me.

“Now I have such a great sense of peace. I do not feel lesser than others. I am not easily intimidat-

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ed, thanks to some of the extraordinarily difficult workouts directed by (McGriff).”

As the finale came to a close the women posed individually for their “after” shots and each exuded a new level of confidence that was impossible to miss.

“I was a self-help book nut,” Meister confessed.

“I would buy any how-to, easy-fix, psycho-babble piece of junk out there, and then I would read about three pages and set it down.

“My perspective has changed from one of contemplating, stewing, studying, looking for magic pills, to acting, doing and generally putting verbs in my days.” Meister said she plans to incorporate running into her fitness routine and has set a goal

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of running at least one 5K race this summer.

Winner Heavrin isn’t slowing down either.

“This challenge got me two-thirds of the way to my goal weight. With my new membership to Tipton Lakes Athletic Club, there is no doubt in my mind that I’ll be able to reach my goal,” she said.

“And I love the idea that I won’t just be losing weight, but also getting stronger, healthier and, of course, more empowered.”

The 2012 Strong, Healthy, Empowered contest was sponsored by Hilliard Lyons, Fair Oaks Mall, Coca-Cola Smart Water, Bob Poynter, Red Lips Spatique, Renner Motors, Tipton Lakes Athletic Club and The Republic and She magazine.

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County’s tobacco prevention coordinator has come home to focus on community well-being

By Brenda Showalter | photos by Carla Clark

Coming back to Columbus after graduating from college, Stephanie Truly knew she wanted to start a career that involved community-focused work. She was eager to roll up her sleeves, use her communication skills and find a meaningful role.

An opportunity presented itself that was a perfect fit. In July 2011, the 2005 Columbus East High School graduate was named the tobacco prevention coordinator for Bartholomew County, a role filled for 13 years by Peggy Voelz.

Truly, 25, liked that she was able to spread the positive message about how quitting smoking can improve health and save lives. She also wanted to impress on children and teens the dangers of smoking and encourage them to never begin.

Perhaps the most challenging part of her job has been going out in the community and to the state capitol to fight for tougher smoking laws.

“A big part of what we do is prevention, but we have to sustain these efforts through policy,” said Truly about her role, which has included speaking at Columbus City Council meetings.

In December, she found herself under fire as the council took up the matter of creating a tougher non-smoking ordinance in Columbus.

As Truly expressed her support for creating a healthier work environment, she faced business owners who worried about the economic impact of the law. The owners also voiced opposition to having the government dictate rules inside their places of business.

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Stephanie Truly and her fiance, Greg Womack, discuss wedding plans with her mother, Stella Collins.

In the end, the council voted 4-2 (one member was absent) to further the city’s nonsmoking law to include bars, taverns and private clubs. It also is stricter than a state nonsmoking law that focuses on other public places.

“Our goal for this is worker protection. We want to protect people from secondhand smoke,” she said.

“We did take Columbus to the next step. Finally we have a very strong law, and we’ve caught up with our community values of health and being progressive.”

Truly added that she will assist businesses with the implementation process until the law takes effect June 1.

POISE UNDER PRESSURE Voelz said she has been impressed with Truly’s poise under difficult circumstances and her ability to communicate her message even when opponents of the law were very vocal.

“I’m just as proud as I can be of her,” Voelz said. “I feel lucky we have her in our community and that she came back to Columbus to take on this leadership role.”

Voelz originally met Truly through their work in another community group involving alcohol and drug prevention and suggested she apply for the tobacco prevention coordinator.

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people end a very addictive habit.

“We always want to help people quit smoking and help them stay away from tobacco,” she said.

Truly said she already has received heart-wrenching calls from friends and family members who want to know how to help their loved ones quit smoking. Her tips are ones she tries to follow in her work.

“I tell them to try not to offend them,” Truly said. “They’re already on edge if they’re trying to quit smoking. It’s a daily balance and learning process. You want to learn how to get your message out there but to not be too judgmental.”

Her supervisor, Beth Morris, director of Community Health Partnerships at Columbus Regional Hospital, said Truly has quickly picked up the knowledge and skills needed in her job.

“Stephanie has far exceeded all our expectations as tobacco prevention coordinator,” Morris said. “I have to keep reminding myself that this is her first professional position and that her master’s isn’t even in public health. She learned the science behind tobacco control very quickly, and because her background is in communications, she is a natural and effective communicator and advocate.”

Morris said Truly already has contributed greatly to improving the health of the community.

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Action Team who assist her with many tasks. And she is building on work led by the diligent efforts of Voelz.

OUTSIDE OF WORK Truly’s first year and a half on the job have been very busy, but she has found herself equally busy when off the clock.

She and longtime boyfriend Greg Womack are planning an Aug. 24 wedding in Columbus. The two originally met at a family barbecue in 2005, then lived in different cities.

“He reached out to me, and we reconnected,” she said. “Before we knew it, we were engaged.”

Truly has enjoyed the planning process, although it has been stressful at times to ensure she sticks to a budget. But she loves bargain shopping and spending time with her mother, Stella Collins of Columbus, who has helped the wedding work come together.

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ing jewelry, home decorations, wedding ideas or art projects.

She and Womack also have many of the same interests and have started a business together on a small scale for now.

“We both have a passion for helping others, so we decided last summer to start a personal assistant service, aimed at older, active adults that may not have the time or capacity to run their own errands,” she said.

They even have talked about expanding the service to small businesses to help employees who might be too busy to run their day-to-day errands.

As much as Truly likes her current full-time job, her position is paid with a two-year, state-funded grant. Whether it will be renewed is always up in the air.

Keeping the grant funded is important not just for the work in Columbus, but to keep the message moving forward, she said. “We have to be out in the community and creating that awareness.”

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About Stephanie

AGE: 25 EDUCATION: 2005 graduate of Columbus East High School. Received bachelor’s degree in public relations and marketing, and master’s degree in communications, all from Indiana State University.

JOB: Tobacco prevention coordinator for Bartholomew County.

Work includes educating youths and adults about the dangers of tobacco, secondhand smoke and any new science that emerges regarding the effects of tobacco; advocating for change, including smoke-free laws and policies; helping residents stop using tobacco through cessation classes and the Indiana Tobacco Quitline.

FAMILY: Mother, Stella Collins of Columbus; father, the late Herbert Truly; fiancé, Greg Womack.

ACTIVITIES, INTERESTS: Member Second Baptist Church and NAACP, writing, crafting, shopping, puzzles, word games, going to the movies, occasional wine tastings, family get-togethers.

INFORMATION: To learn more about classes and medication to quit smoking, contact Truly at 375-3194 or struly@crh.org.

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By Crystal Henry Photos by Carla Clark The Dance Marathon started as a senior project by a few students at Columbus East High School to raise funds for Turning Point Domestic Violence Services. It’s a night of food, fun, dancing and prizes for teens, and now in its 12th year it has become the biggest fundraiser benefiting the shelter.

“But what’s really, really neat about it is that you have a group of students from North and East who come together for it,” said Julie Orben, one of the adult mentors for the Dance Marathon finance committee.

Students from East, North, Hauser and the International School of Columbus work together and learn valuable lessons about business, hard work and dedication. In its first year, there were 100 in attendance and the dance raised $18,000. This year the goal is to draw 750 students and to raise $127,000.

Last year they raised $140,000, but $40,000 was money from a matching grant that expired this year. So the students had to come up with a new plan to meet their lofty goal.

The group is led by North senior Hannah Kestler and East senior Katie Hollenkamp. Kestler said she and Hollenkamp actually met at St. Peter’s when they were little, but the two ended up at different schools and grew apart. Working as co-chairwomen of the Dance Marathon has given them a chance to reunite and rekindle that friendship.

Kestler joined the committee her sophomore year as a fun extracurricular activity. After two years on the committee, one of the mentors suggested she run for chairwoman this year. Obtaining the position was similar to a job search. She filled out an application, the committee checked her references, and then she interviewed with the adult mentors, the president of Turning Point and the previous year’s student leaders. She landed the position, and the work began.

Kestler said they started in June with meetings over the summer, and once school began they really dived into planning. Each Dance Marathon is

themed, so this year they chose “Rise Above It.” Every hour on the hour they play the event theme song, which this year is “Face Down,” by Red Jump Suit Apparatus. They have speakers, play videos, share statistics and pass along information in the hopes of informing people about prevention and facts about domestic violence.

“Being on Dance Marathon makes me realize there are people who go through hard things every day,” Kestler said. “And I feel lucky that I don’t have those struggles in my life.”

She learned that four to five women are killed every day due to domestic violence and that every 15 seconds someone is affected by domestic violence.

The program also focuses on dating violence, such as obsessive texting and controlling behaviors that lead into domestic violence even in teen relationships.

The students work on different committees to plan; garner finances and prizes; and find entertainment and refreshments for the event. And that’s where they learn invaluable business skills they can carry throughout their careers.

“It’s a terrific learning experience for the kids,” said Richard Gold, a former Cummins executive who is now the adult finance mentor for Dance Marathon.

He said the students learn real-world skills, such as setting and attaining goals.

“And these aren’t hopes and wishes. They do research and set goals, then put together a business plan to achieve those goals,” he said.

Gold said with the fund match expiration, the students have really had to dig deeply and get creative to come up with a business response that will help them meet their aggressive goal. Their plan is to get more teens to the dance, get engaged in earlier and heavier marketing and appeal to smaller businesses in addition to large corporations. They’ve also increased the prizes as incentives for students to raise more money.

Opposite page: Turning Point Dance Marathon student organizers Katie Hollenkamp and Hannah Kestler.

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Hollenkamp leads a discussion during a Dance Marathon planning meeting.

They’ve done radio spots and banners around town, and they’re having activities in school to drum up excitement about the dance. Instead of just sending out letters and following up with calls, the students are going out and presenting to CEOs and local businesses. Last year they did about 20 to 30 presentations, but Gold said this year they’ll probably do about 40. And each time they have to research the business and prepare tailored presentations.

“These are future leaders,” he said. “They’re leaders in their peer group, and they’re future leaders for us.”

He said they are competitive, goal-driven teens who are also concerned with bettering their community. And business owners and CEOs have contacted him to tell him that the students have delivered better presentations than some professionals they’ve seen.

“It’s really about delegation and accountability,” Gold said.

Whittney Barker, a Turning Point development director, said Kestler and Hollenkamp are a great fit for the position and thinks they’ll benefit from learning to hand over the reins and delegate responsibilities.

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“I think one of the greatest things that will benefit Katie and Hannah from this is the leadership experience,” she said.

This project pushes the students out of their comfort zone, she said, and they’ve proven themselves to be very professional and mature.

“They’re doing a great job,” she said. “It’s wonderful.”

She said the Dance Marathon means a great deal to Turning Point Domestic Violence Services. The money raised helps support the agency through intervention and prevention services. One of the things they are focusing on now is breaking the cycle of violence, and reaching out to the students is a great way to do that.

But the students aren’t the only ones learning about domestic violence. Turning Point offers free domestic violence detection and intervention training for each business that donates to the event. They teach business owners how to reach out to employees who may be suffering or showing signs of domestic violence.

Kestler said although it’s a lot of work, it is very rewarding.

“I just really enjoy doing it,” she said. “When I leave from the meetings, even though I’m leaving at 8 o’clock, I leave with a smile because it’s for a good cause, and it’s helping others out.”

Students brainstorm during a meeting at Columbus East High School.

The Turning Point Dance Marathon starts at 6 p.m. Feb. 23 at Central Middle School. To donate, contact Whittney Barker at whittneybarker@turningpointdv.org or call 379-5575.

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Bridal designers have ushered in a new wave of couture styles for spring, from dazzling bursts of color, to fashion-conscious silhouettes and chic lace gowns.

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Color Many designers splashed their dresses for the upcoming season with bold pops of color, including vibrant reds and blues, and, of course, understated bridal blush tones.

“People are being more romantic and using soft tones,” said Kim King Smith, owner of Kim King Smith Events LLC. “Although last year the color of the year was tangerine tango, and it’s still going strong. Pale blush, shimmering pearl and dove gray are perfect soft neutral colors that are popular.”

Lace Kate Middleton’s royal wedding gown has proved its staying power since almost every collection for the spring season showed some variation on lace.

This fabric is being offered in flattering silhouettes and hints of tradition.

Chantilly lace is popular. Many designers are offering a dream world of choices with yards of tulle complemented by touches of lace. For a romantic at heart, this look is ideal.

“This is a perfect time to buy a gown with so many choices out there,” said Terry Kutsko, owner of That Special Touch.

“There’s a zillion shades of white and same with lace,” said King Smith. “I’m seeing underpinnings of the dresses in complementary colors to the lace. This makes the lace stand out more.”

Sleeves Gone are the days of bare arms. The long-sleeved look first popularized by Middleton almost two years ago is still going strong. Not only is this trend popular with the royals, but also in movies and with celebrities.

Being covered up doesn’t mean it has to look old and frumpy. Open backs and sheer fabrics can balance the look.

“We saw a lot more cap sleeves hit market for this year than ever before,” said Kutsko.

Black Details Vera Wang featured black wedding gowns in her fall 2012 line, and the color will continue to be popular in weddings this year. Bold brides can be adventurous wearing all black, or the more traditional bride can use black details.

“Nothing can surpass the beauty and elegance of black and white,” said King Smith.

Timeless classic is always in style.

“Black gives you the illusion of elegance and sets the tone for the whole wedding,” said King Smith. “Couples want to look back 20 years later and think, ‘Oh my gosh, it’s so beautiful’ instead of ‘Oh my gosh, what was I thinking?’”

Shorter Dresses Two really hot trends for the bridal party right now are short bridesmaids dresses and one-shoulder dresses.

“Most bridesmaids dresses are shorter now, especially if they want to use them again,” said King Smith. “Longer gowns are being used for more formal weddings.”

And there are a lot of tea-length options now for bridal gowns.

“It can be a lot more sassy, especially if used as a reception dress,” she said.

Vintage Themes The vintage wedding trend is still going strong. There’s just something that feels so romantic about adding mementos and that “something old” to your big day. Many couples opt to include family heirlooms within their décor and centerpieces, giving a personal touch to their big day.

Homespun barn weddings complete with branches, lanterns and mason jars are more popular than ever.

“Using jewelry and mementos and incorporating them in the bouquet or a broach on a sash around the dress is also really popular right now,” said King Smith. “Having an heirloom piece or comb in your hair instead of a veil is a great option.”

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No Two Alike Tradition calls for each bridesmaid to wear the same dress, same color, same style. Now the newest trend is for bridesmaids to look different. If correctly done, it can be fun and unique.

Brides are also more likely now to let their bridesmaids pick out their dresses.

“It makes it cost-effective, and it’s a dress they picked out and can wear again,” said King Smith. “It makes it fun because you can see each girl’s personality and style. I see it also with shoes.”

Unique Shoes It makes sense that brides want to walk down the aisle in shoes that can be worn again. More brides are searching for unique, non-traditional wedding shoe styles and colors.

“This trend sort of started with girls using blue shoes as their ‘something blue’ and grew from there,” said Kutsko. “It’s a very fun surprise under their wedding gown.”

According to King Smith, brides are leaning toward crystal-embellished shoes, painted soles and putting their style on simpler designs. Shimmery metallic colors are still on-trend, with golds, feathers and silvers all making the cut.

For the Groom Grooms are getting creative and breaking away from the normal with bow ties, patterns and skinny ties.

“A lot of grooms and groomsmen are going for the suspender look rather than a jacket,” said King Smith. “It is a more casual and relaxed look, but still is a nice finished look.”

Break away from traditional ties with a modern skinny one. Patterns can add a cool vibe to any look. A bow tie can be a style staple if you’re having a formal affair.

Add a modern feel with a non-black suit. Some options are warm brown tones, herringbone tweed and leather details. Gray is the ideal match to the on-trend pale blush or deep purple bridesmaid dresses.

“A lot more guys are ordering tan, sand or gray tuxes,” said Kutsko. “Guys are changing it up as well, not just the brides.”

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Thirty-one years ago, my daughter, Zoe, was born. I was ecstatic. But it wasn’t just about the baby. I was almost as excited to mark the end of the most miserable nine months of my life — or, as it will be known from this point forward, the Princess Pregnancy. (Britain’s Kate Middleton is actually a duchess; there’s just something about the word princess.)

In 1980, hyperemesis gravidarum was, at best, a royal pain. I had heard of morning sickness.

At first, if anything, it was a relief, proof positive that there really was a baby in there. That was until morning sickness set in 24/7 throughout my entire pregnancy.

Which is why Zoe’s birthday was cause for double celebration. No more throwing up, getting dehydrated and ending up in the hospital on IVs. No more concerned friends suggesting burnt toast or vitamin B shots or sharing stories of starved women in concentration camps whose babies came out fine. No more doctors suggesting that perhaps I was ambivalent about giving up my freedom or, worse, a hypochondriac.

I had been thrilled about being pregnant. I may as well have had the plague. Forget glowing: just getting out of my ratty robe and into real clothes was a remarkable feat. Plus, I felt guilty that my husband’s life had been reduced to running back and forth to the hospital while moonlighting, since I was too sick to work.

On the positive side, for me, pregnancy was a radicalizing event. For starters, there was my doctor, who had the gall to suggest that my round-the-clock sickness was a function of being ambivalent about motherhood. I told him I wanted a baby, couldn’t wait to be a mother — I just wanted my head out of the toilet, if that wasn’t too much to ask.

But that was only one side of how my pregnancy was life-changing. Being as vain as the next girl, I cared a lot about how I looked. I had been a chubby teenager, but, now, each pound gained was a triumph. For the first time I could, and did, eat anything I wanted, which would have been great had I been able to keep it down.

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And then there were those matronly maternity clothes. We’re talking pre-sweatpants. In 1980 the idea was to keep pregnancy literally under wraps, wearing smock tops and tent dresses, which several women I knew burned once their baby was born.

This is one issue Kate will not have to deal with. Think Demi Moore on the cover of Vanity Fair: a proud pregnant woman sunning in a bikini, wearing her baby like a beautiful full moon.

But even when maternity clothes were more function than fashion, I loved them. It didn’t matter that they were ugly or shapeless; instead of seeing my body as a “clothes hanger” I now stared at my swollen belly in awe, amazed at the miraculous evidence of my baby’s development. I was growing a baby! Making a fashion statement paled beside the greatest miracle on Earth.

None of which negates the severe hyperemesis that is headline news now that Kate is bearing the next royal baby. I’m a bit envious when I think back to how defensive I felt about being less than a “perfect pregnant woman.” It won’t take away the nausea or fear, but Kate’s ordeal will change perceptions of this serious medical condition.

What Demi did on the fashion front, Kate will do for expectant mothers having difficult pregnancies.

Here’s what I’d tell her: Your baby will be fine. You will feel better, and even if it takes the whole nine months, it will be well worth it.

Because becoming a mother doesn’t just happen. Being a princess — OK, a duchess — is big.

Global, paparazzi, the-future-of-England big.

But carrying a child is bigger. Whether you’re royalty or the girl next door, nothing you do will ever be quite this momentous.

Ellen Sue Stern is the author of 20 books, including “Expecting Change: The Emotional Journey Through Pregnancy.”

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join us for She Goes Out

By Kelsey DeClue

When the blustery winds and single-digit temperatures have us down, there’s one thing we can count on to lift our spirits … the annual She Goes Out dinner and movie night!

That’s right; it’s that time of year again. Gather your gal pals and make plans for an evening out without testosterone. This year’s event will begin with dinner at 5:30 p.m. Feb. 21 at a downtown location, yet to be determined at this issue’s publication deadline. A showing of “Hope Springs,” starring Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones, will follow at Yes Cinema. The movie is about a couple, Kay and Arnold, who explore counseling in order to spice up their 30-year marriage. Actor Steve Carell plays Dr. Feld, who guides them on their hilarious and touching, albeit sometimes awkward journey. Streep’s performance earned her a Golden Globe nomination.

As always, event sponsors will host vendor booths with goodies to sample and buy. Lockett’s Ladies Shop will conduct a fashion show before the movie. Look for details in the weeks to come in The Republic.

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health

By Margie Campbell

Winter begins with the busy and stressful holidays and then continues through the short days and long, cold nights. Who has time for taking care of ourselves? Here are a few suggestions for staying healthy through the winter.

Changes in temperature and light this time of year can have physical and psychological effects on your body that can impact your health. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, Americans suffer from an amazing 1 billion colds during the year, mostly in the winter months. Hand washing is the single most effective way of staying healthy in the winter. Remember what your mother told you? Cover your mouth if you cough, stay out of crowds and get your flu shot.

Winter tends to affect people’s moods.

The lack of sunlight and spending time indoors may make you feel tired, bored and depressed. Make sure that you get eight hours of sleep and continue to exercise and eat well. Spending time with friends can lift your mood. It is tempting to sit by the fire and read a book, hibernating rather than exercising. It is a good habit to take a small walk after meals. Just make sure you dress warmly.

Exercising in the winter offers unique opportunities, such as skiing and ice skating.

Prepare yourself before hitting the slopes.

Since you often use different muscles than those involved in summer sports, you should build up to the trip to avoid injury by doing exercises such as riding a stationary bike and doing squats to strengthen your quadriceps.

Remember to keep well hydrated during outside activities.

A gym membership makes winter exercise easier. Be sure to include aerobic cardiovascular activities. The recommendation is at least two hours and 30 minutes of moderate intensity aerobic activity each week. Alternate muscle strengthening exercises on two

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or more days a week, working all muscle groups. If you find you can’t get to the gym, break your 150 minutes of activities into small chunks of time. Short, brisk walks at work or home are an easy way to exercise.

Swimming is also great aerobic exercise.

Avoiding extra pounds in the winter can be challenging. Some people believe that metabolism decreases during the winter, but there is no scientific evidence to support this.

Continue to eat fruits and vegetables, at least five servings of each a day. Soups are a great way to get your vegetables and keep warm. If fresh fruit is in short supply, dried and canned fruit can be an alternative. It is especially important that you consume vitamin D, which comes from the sun and dairy products.

Skin care in the winter can be challenging.

Heating can take humidity out of the air, making your skin scratchy and flaky. If you use foundation, add extra moisturizer to the product and make sure it has an SPF of 15 or higher to protect your skin. If you don’t use a foundation, a lightly tinted moisturizer will work. Use of a night moisturizer is important during the winter even if you don’t use moisturizer in the summer. Continue to use sunscreen and lip emollients when outdoors. Feet need extra care in the winter, including exfoliation and plenty of cream. You might even put cream on your feet and wear socks to bed once a week.

With the stress of the holidays behind us, winter can be a good time to focus on our health with exercise, sleep and healthy eating.

Margie Campbell is a women and children’s clinical nurse specialist with Columbus Regional Hospital.

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By Danielle Braff Chicago Tribune MCT Photos It’s small but packs a big punch. A medicine ball is a weighted ball used to whip your body into shape, without taking up much space.

It’s similar to standard weights, but with the medicine ball you only need one in order to get in a full workout. If you’re a fitness newbie, start with a 4-pounder (sold at most sports stores).

Advanced fitness junkies may choose to use a 20-pound ball.

SQUAT TO SHOULDER PRESS SIT-UP CHEST PRESS

Dr. Rick Kattouf, author of “Forever Fit,” is a triathlon and conditioning coach. Below, he shares his favorite medicine ball exercises.

Do each exercise 10 times. Gradually work up to doing each one 25 times.

SQUAT TO SHOULDER PRESS Beginning in a standing position, hold the medicine ball at chest level. Squat, trying to drop your buttocks as low as possible, keeping your heels on the ground. Then, stand up and raise the medicine ball directly over your head. Bring the medicine ball back to your chest and repeat.

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Muscles worked: quadriceps, glutes, triceps and shoulders.

JUMP SQUATS Stand and hold the medicine ball at chest level. Squat as low as possible while keeping your heels on the ground. Jump off the ground as high as you can. When you land, you want to immediately drop back into the squat position. This is designed to be a very fast-paced, rapid-fire exercise.

Muscles worked: quadriceps and glutes.

STRAIGHT-LEG DEAD LIFT In a standing position, lift the medicine ball above your head, keeping your arms extended. Bend forward from your waist as if you are trying to touch your toes. As you bend forward, keep your arms extended while holding the medicine ball and bringing the ball toward your feet.

Keep your knees slightly bent the entire time. When the ball hits your feet or the floor, return to your original standing position, maintaining the full extension of your arms overhead.

Muscles worked: hamstrings and shoulders.

SIT-UP CHEST PRESS Lying on a mat or a rug on your back, knees bent and feet flat on the floor, hold

the medicine ball on your chest. Perform a sit-up. As you get toward the top of your sit-up position, extend the medicine ball in front of you. Then, bring the ball back toward your chest and lower your upper body down to the starting position.

Muscles worked: abdominals, pectorals, triceps and shoulders.

180-DEGREE SQUAT Begin in a standing position, holding the medicine ball at chest level. Squat down, drawing your buttocks as low as possible while keeping your heels on the ground.

Then, in a very fast and powerful motion, drive your body back up, jumping as high as possible while simultaneously turning 180 degrees in midair. When you land, you will be facing the opposite direction. Now, take a deep breath and prepare to go into your next repetition, holding the medicine ball at your chest the entire time.

Muscles worked: quadriceps and glutes.

TOSS SQUAT Hold the medicine ball at chest level while standing, then slowly squat down, trying to drop your buttocks as low as possible while keeping your

heels on the ground.

Then, while standing back up, extend your arms overhead as if you are doing a shoulder press. But instead, toss the medicine ball up in the air. When you catch the ball, in one seamless movement, immediately return into a squat position. This is another fast-paced, rapid-fire exercise.

Muscles worked: glutes, shoulders and triceps.

ALTERNATE-ARM PUSHUP Begin in a pushup position, keeping your knees on the ground if necessary.

Place your hands shoulder-width apart, with your left palm on the ground and your right palm on the medicine ball.

Your hands are now in a staggered position, and you have to steady your body.

Then, perform a pushup. When you come back up and fully extend your elbows, you will then bring your left hand onto the medicine ball and move your right hand onto the ground, arms extended at this time. Perform another pushup, alternate arms and repeat.

Muscles worked: pectorals, shoulders, triceps and abdominals.

cuisine

Macaroni and cheese: winter’s ultimate comfort food

By Janet K. Keeler | St. Petersburg Times Scripps Howard News Service photos For all its naughty tendencies, we love macaroni and cheese. It’s a staple on the table for family gatherings and holidays. It’s a go-to meal for finicky kids and broke college students. And it has now popped up on lots of menus, sometimes even gilded with delicate lobster or earthy truffle oil.

There are primarily two ways to make mac and cheese.

One traditional method includes mixing milk or cream and grated cheese or Velveeta right into the hot pasta, along with some dried mustard. The starch released from the pasta thickens the sauce. From this point, the dish can be eaten as is — a stovetop version — or baked in a casserole dish or 9-by-13-inch pan.

The other popular method is to make a roux (flour and butter), then add liquid (milk, cream or even stock or a combination) to make a thick sauce. (With milk or cream, this is the basic French sauce called bechamel.)

Then grated cheese is stirred into the sauce until it melts and the mixture is combined with cooked pasta. That’s macaroni and cheese in its truest sense.

Any small, hollow pasta pairs well with cheese sauce.

Penne rigate, small shells or elbows are the best because they let the sauce nestle inside them.

Cheese is another ingredient you can experiment with.

It should be a cheese that melts well, and that includes cheddar, Jack, blue, Swiss, Gruyere, goat cheese or even mascarpone, the extra-thick Italian cream cheese. Parmesan adds a tangy touch to the top of a baked macaroni and cheese.

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SWISS MAC WITH POTATOES

Butter for baking pan ½ pound elbow macaroni 1 medium potato, peeled and sliced ½-inch thick, with slices cut into 1½-inch strips Coarse salt 2 cups (8 ounces) coarsely grated Swiss cheese 3 eggs, lightly beaten 2 cups whole milk Freshly ground pepper Preheat the oven to 350 degrees.

Butter a 9-by 13-inch baking pan.

Bring a large pot of salted water to a boil over high heat and cook the pasta until al dente, 8 to 10 minutes. Drain.

Place the potato strips in a medium pot and cover with cold water by an inch or two. Add 1

tablespoon salt. Bring to a boil over high heat, then reduce to simmer and cook until the potatoes are softened but still firm, 8 to 9 minutes. Drain.

Layer the cooked macaroni, potatoes and cheese in the baking pan, ending with a layer of cheese (there should be two full layers of each ingredient). In a small bowl, mix the eggs, milk, salt and pepper and pour over macaroni mixture. Bake on the middle rack until hot and bubbly, 20 to 25 minutes. Serves 4.

— “Macaroni & Cheese: Recipes From Simple to Sublime” by Joan Schwartz (Villard, 2001)

The recipes that accompany this story are basic macand-cheese dishes using slightly different techniques.

Ideas to boost interest and flavor: • Add 1 cup of diced ham before baking.

• Top with a mixture of breadcrumbs and grated Parmesan.

• Mix in frozen, thawed veggies such as spinach or peas. (If using fresh vegetables, blanch for a few minutes before adding.)

• Stir in 1 or 2 chopped chipotle peppers in adobo sauce or 2 cans chopped, drained mild green chilies.

• Combine sauteed mushrooms with the pasta mixture.

• Top with sliced tomatoes before baking.

• Incorporate fresh herbs such as parsley, basil, thyme or oregano.

• Experiment with seafood. If lobster isn’t on your budget, consider shrimp or scallops. Cook before adding to pasta mixture.

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PANKO-CRUSTED MAC AND CHEESE

Butter for the pan

1 pound penne rigate 2 cups heavy cream 2 cups whole milk ½ teaspoon cayenne pepper ¼ teaspoon ground nutmeg, freshly grated preferred 2 cups (8 ounces) grated cheddar cheese 1½ cups (about 5 to 6 ounces) grated Monterey Jack cheese Coarse salt Freshly ground pepper

½ cup panko breadcrumbs

2 teaspoons chopped fresh parsley 2 teaspoons grated Parmesan cheese Preheat the oven to 350 degrees.

Butter a 9-by 13-inch baking pan.

Bring 6 quarts of salted water to a boil. Add the pasta and cook, stirring occasionally, until al dente, 9 to 10 minutes. Drain.

Combine the cream, milk, cayenne and nutmeg in a large saucepan over medium-high heat and reduce by half, about 15 minutes.

(Once the mixture starts to simmer, stir to break the layer of

foam so that it will not boil over.)

Reduce the heat to medium-low, add the cheddar and Jack cheeses, and whisk until well-blended.

Season with salt and pepper.

Add the penne and stir vigorously (take care not to break the pasta). This will release starch and help to thicken the sauce.

Pour or spoon the pasta into the prepared baking dish. Combine the panko, parsley and Parmesan and sprinkle over the pasta. Bake until bubbly and golden, about 15 minutes. Serves 6 to 10.

— “Macaroni & Cheese: Recipes From Simple to Sublime” by Joan Schwartz (Villard, 2001)

INA GARTEN’S MAC AND CHEESE

Kosher salt Vegetable oil 1 pound elbow macaroni or cavatappi 1 quart milk 8 tablespoons (1 stick) unsalted butter, divided use ½ cup all-purpose flour 12 ounces Gruyere or Swiss, grated (3 cups) 8 ounces extra-sharp cheddar, grated (2 cups) ½ teaspoon freshly ground black pepper ½ teaspoon ground nutmeg 3/4 pound fresh tomatoes (4 small) 1½ cups fresh white breadcrumbs (5 slices, crusts removed)

Preheat the oven to 375 degrees.

Drizzle oil into a large pot of boiling, salted water. Add the maca-

roni and cook according to the directions on the package, 6 to 8 minutes. Drain well.

Meanwhile, heat the milk in a small saucepan, but don’t boil it. Melt 6 tablespoons of butter in a large (4-quart) pot and add the flour. Cook over low heat for 2 minutes, stirring with a whisk. While whisking, add the hot milk and cook for a minute or two more, until thickened and smooth. Off the heat, add the cheeses, pepper and nutmeg.

Add salt to taste. Add the cooked macaroni and stir well. Pour into a 3-quart baking dish.

Slice the tomatoes and arrange on top. Melt the remaining 2 tablespoons of butter, combine them with the fresh breadcrumbs and sprinkle on top. Bake for 30 to 35 minutes, or until the sauce is bubbly and the macaroni is browned on the top.

Serves 6 to 8.

— Ina Garten, Food Network

Landscape logic Last year’s drought caused many to ask what they can do to the landscape during a drought. If you lost a lot of landscape plants or want to make changes in your landscape because of the drought, now is a great time to consider the use of xeriscaping, which reduces water use by purposeful landscape planning and purposeful garden management.

An example of purposeful planning is to select drought-tolerant plants.

Plants native to Indiana are often more drought-tolerant and can take the heat, cold, wet and dry of Indiana weather.

An example of purposeful garden management is to add organic matter to the soil in your landscape. This helps make more water available to your plants.

— Purdue Extension Bartholomew County

Recommended reading In “A Thousand Mornings,” Mary Oliver returns to the imagery that has come to define her life’s work, transporting us to the marshland and coastline of her beloved home, Provincetown, Mass. In these pages, Oliver shares the wonder of dawn, the grace of animals and the transformative power of attention. Whether studying the leaves of a tree or mourning her adored dog, Percy, she

is ever patient in her observations and open to the teachings contained in the smallest of moments. Oliver opens our eyes to the nature within, to its wild and its quiet. With startling clarity, humor and kindness, “A Thousand Mornings” explores the mysteries of our daily experience.

— Viewpoint Books

Healthy habits The winter blues tend to set in after the glow of the holidays becomes a distant memory, but the chilling winds and longer hours of darkness remain. Take steps to keep your mood in check by making sure you exercise and get outdoors

in the daylight. Make it a priority to avoid hibernating by planning a weekly night out or treating yourself to a pampering service, such as a massage or manicure.

Out and about It can be tough to find fun activities in the middle of winter. Well, She magazine to the rescue! Join us for our annual She Goes Out dinner and movie night at 5:30 p.m. Feb. 21.

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