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8 | Out & About

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Digital devices are stealing our sleep

19 | She Says

Being fake has never been so pretty

What helps you sleep at night?

20 | Community

kidscommons Carnivale

22 | Five Questions For 32 | Community 34 | Cuisine

HIRING A BABY SITTER

ON THE COVER

6 | Just a Minute

16 | Health

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International Teas

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38 | Mind Over Mom

Bright futures

40 | She Designs Make a pleather brush holder

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Tessa Wetherald models our favorite faux items.

Photo by April Knox.

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FAKING YOUR WAY TO THE

real thing

As I pulled items for this issue’s fashion spread, which highlights faux fur, diamonds and other delightful imitations, I put some thought into when to fake it. We tend to disparage anything that’s less than genuine, but if being fake gets you started, I say fake it till you make it.

In 2011, I lost my job as a reporter. After two months of sitting on the couch and gaining 20 pounds while watching Netflix and eating Big Macs and cupcakes, I decided to go to hair school. My best friend, Misty, already a professional makeup artist, also signed up for the 10-and-a-half-month program. Hair school tested every aspect of my soul. I’m an introverted over-thinker who could be described as highly self-critical and very sensitive. Cosmetology, I soon discovered, is for happy extroverts who aren’t overly sensitive. It’s for the person I often wish I could be: someone who brushes off mistakes and problems and carries on with life.

Though hair wasn’t the best career fit, I was in for a penny, in for a pound. I got my license and went on to apprentice in a salon. Anxiety settled over my life like a dark cloud, but I’d ditched journalism and committed, fully, to being a hairstylist, with student loans to pay off. There was, I thought, no turning back.

I would have to fake it till I made it.

So fake it I did. I pasted on a big smile as I worked seven days a week (five days at a salon, two days at a massively popular gift shop). I passed out cards like Halloween candy, approached strangers with my message (“I want to make you look your best”), and I worked hard to beam a welcoming aura to attract and keep new clients, even when I was giving them a pedicure (and believe me, I scrubbed a lot of feet). When Misty’s friend invited the two of us to do hair at New York Fashion Week, we rented a car and drove overnight to New York. The experience was scary, but I noticed something about the other hairstylists: A lot of them were faking it, too, and they weren’t doing as good a job as I was.

Of course, there were dark days. One day Misty and I sat in her car during a lunch break, both of us fighting back tears. She was having trouble keeping her spirits up; my soul was so overrun by anxiety, I could barely think.

“I didn’t know you weren’t doing so hot, Misty,” I said to my incredibly confident friend.

“Well, no, I’m not,” she replied. “But no one wants to see a depressed hairdresser. I’ve got to fake it.”

Shortly after that, we both got breaks. Mine came in the form of a job offer at The Republic; it was a return to a career I know and love. Misty’s came in the form of a new salon.

Of course, I wasn’t done with faking it yet. I had to pick up writing again after about two years off.

I had to smile even more as I worked to make friends here in a new town, but as I hope you all know, the smiles were sincere. As I settled into Columbus life, the happy face was no longer masking so much inner turmoil. I was peaceful and happy to be here.

Though I never faked my way into an incredibly viable career in hair, I can still see the value of doing something until it becomes second nature. Faking it is one way to mask horrible insecurities, and you can think of it as a Band-Aid. As you fake it on the outside, your insides can adjust and adapt and gel into something real. You want to be a generous person, but you find it hard to part with your candy or your money. Start small and give away a little bit; tell yourself you like doing it. Fake it. If you want to be a kind person but are overwhelmed by negative thoughts about others, smile at more people until you mean it. Fake it. If you want confidence but find yourself afraid to talk to new people, take a deep breath and introduce yourself. Fake it. It’s more than likely they’re faking it, too.

Best (and I really mean that),

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january 20, 2016 EDITOR Jenny Elig COPY EDITOR Katharine Smith WRITERS Alisa Advani, Kelsey DeClue, Kyle Hendricks photographers Carla Clark, April Knox ART DIRECTOR Amanda Waltz Editorial Design Emma Ault Cassie Doles Desiree Poteete Advertising Design Emma Ault, Tonya Cassidy, Julie Daiker, Cassie Doles, Josh Meyer, Desiree Poteete SEND COMMENTS TO Jenny Elig, The Republic, 333 Second St., Columbus, IN 47201.

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Keep the Peace It’s Friday night and it’s time for some Netflix and chill, but problems arise. Your honey wants to watch a Drew Barrymore rom-com and you want to watch the newest installment of the “Alien” franchise. You could fight it out (with the victor picking the movie), or you could check out Date Night Movies, datenightmovies.com. Visit the site and you are prompted to enter the movie you want to see and the movie your date wants to see. Using a slick algorithm, the site picks a movie that falls right in between your movie picks. Speaking of, if you enter “Alien” and 2007 romantic comedy “Music and Lyrics,” starring Hugh Grant and Drew Barrymore, Date Night Movies suggests “All About Eve,”“Shakespeare in Love” and “Shrek.”

Mood

Boost Landscape Logic “Eager for some floral in the bleak midwinter?

Fast-blooming flower bulbs can add color and fragrance to your indoor space. Look for paper-white narcissus or amaryllis, some of which can be found on post-holiday markdowns at garden or home centers,” says Kris Medic, agriculture, natural resources and community development educator/ board-certified master arborist.

For more information, see www.hort.purdue.edu/ext/HO-19.pdf

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In an effort to increase positivity online, Dove Beauty last year launched its #SpeakBeautiful campaign. It debuted on Oscar night on Twitter after research discovered eight of 10 women encounter social media-based negativity that is destructive to their self-esteem. Using a first-of-its-kind algorithm, the campaign uncovered negative conversation about beauty/ body image and then generated a response, encouraging positive beauty talk about themselves and others online. After crunching the numbers at the end of 2015, #SpeakBeautiful analysts revealed the following impact on Twitter:

#Speak Beautiful

•1 40 percent more positive than negative beauty conversation from women on Twitter.

• F rom 2014 to 2015, overall negative beauty conversation is down 36 percent.

•3 6 percent fewer tweets about negative self-beauty.

•3 4 percent fewer tweets about negative other beauty.

Cheap Trick

Since we all went gluten-free in the New Year, we haven’t had much use for bread … until now. We’ll set up the scenario for you: You took off your wool dress with your lipstick on, and now there’s a tiny smudge of color on the front. To fix, remove the doughy center of bread and knead it into a ball. Blot the smear repeatedly with the dough until — voila! — the stain lifts from the fabric.

Recommended Reading

Selections by Mary Clare Speckner, adult programming director at the Bartholomew County Public Library.

‘The Natural World of Winnie-the-Pooh’

‘The Only Woman in the Room: Why Science is Still a Boys’ Club’

By Kathryn Aalto

By Eileen Pollack

» When I picked up “The Natural World of Winnie-the-Pooh,” I was transported back to childhood days full of adventures, mysteries, lots of outside play and hours spent roaming the neighborhood. These were days with virtually no worries about stranger danger.

Almost 100 years ago, British author A.A. Milne began chronicling his son Christopher’s adventures with a stuffed teddy bear, Winnie-the-Pooh. These adventures were set in the Hundred Acre Wood, and in “Natural World” author Aalto takes the reader to the putative spot of the real-life Hundred Acre Wood, aka Ashdown Forest in southeast England. She lovingly details the creation of Pooh and the collaboration of Milne and illustrator E.H. Shepard.

Aalto believes Christopher roamed Ashdown Forest, dragging Pooh along as he climbed trees and built forts from natural elements at his disposal. The House at Pooh Corner could, indeed, be at several locations. Even now, in the teens of a new millennium, piles of wood that might have been Pooh’s house can be found in Ashdown.

With Aalto, the reader explores the Hundred Acre Wood. A lover of the natural world herself, she gives gorgeous detail of Ashdown’s native flora and fauna. Readers will visit Poohsticks Bridge, the pasture that was most likely the setting for Eeyore’s Gloomy Place. The text is accompanied by photographs and Shepard’s illustrations.

“The Natural World” is for anyone who loves Winnie-the-Pooh, and Pooh lovers can celebrate in February when the Bartholomew County Library will play host to Aalto during her U.S. visit

Kathryn Aalto

Bartholomew County Public Library

» This reviewer is not a big reader of nonfiction. I did not do well in science and math classes, so the fact that the world of science is often dangling out of reach of women’s scope of knowledge does not elude me. Nonetheless, it was disappointing to see this new book title. Some of the best and the brightest from my 1970 all-girl high school graduating class were very science-oriented.

Author Eileen Pollack graduated from high school in the mid-1970s and wanted to be a theoretical astrophysicist. She graduated summa cum laude from Yale with a Bachelor of Science degree in physics. And then she was denied access to a career in science. Feeling isolated by the scientific world, she altered her path. She is currently on the faculty of the University of Michigan in its creative writing program.

“Only Woman” is based on Pollack’s interviews with women studying and working in assorted fields of science. What she discovered was disheartening. These women report that while in high school many of them were encouraged to head to the humanities, not the realm of science or math. Those who did not listen and went on to pursue their dreams were met with some of the same forces Pollack met during her college years: isolation, sarcasm, teasing from students and teachers, and a lack of encouragement from faculty.

Though this is not good news, Pollack does find something positive.

Many women are undaunted and continue to enter the world of science and math. She writes about astrophysicist Meg Urry, president of the American Astronomical Society and former chairwoman of the physics department at Yale. And hope is coming, sometimes from overseas.

Pollack’s research showed that students from all-girl high schools did much better dealing with the pressures of sexism, as did students from countries other than the United States.

When: 2 p.m. Feb. 13 Where: 536 Fifth St. Cost: Free Information: mybcpl.org, (812) 379-1266

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Reasons to Leave the House Music of life

Catch it before it’s over

Get your laughs

Jan. 28 Cabaret at The Commons featuring Spencer Day

Through Jan. 22 ‘Columbus Makes’

Jan. 22 An Evening of Stand-up Comedy

Gallery show features fine art, crafts, sculpture, painting, musical instruments, quilts, photography, furniture, knitting, ceramics, jewelry, clothing, toys, perishable items and games, all handmade, unique and rare items. Time: Regular gallery hours are 1 to 5 p.m. Tuesday through Saturday. Location: Indiana University Center for Art and Design, 310 Jackson St. Cost: Free.

Information: (812) 375-7550.

Featuring comedian Dennis Regan, a silent auction, photo booth and more.

All proceeds will benefit Ivy Tech Foundation’s scholarships, academic programs and community outreach.

Heavy appetizers and a cash bar provided by 450 North Brewing Co./ Simmons Winery. No one under 21 admitted. Time: 7 to 10 p.m. Location: The Commons, 300 Washington St. Tickets: $45 per person, $80 per couple, $300 for a table for eight, $50 per person at the door; available through connect.ivytech.edu/events/stand-up.

Singer/songwriter and pianist Spencer Day performs as part of this popular Columbus Indiana Philharmonic series.

Time: 7:30 p.m. Location: The Commons, 300 Washington St. Cost: Tickets are $15 to $50. Information: thecip.org.

Feb. 4 Cabaret at The Commons featuring Paula Dione Ingram Internationally known soprano Paula Dione Ingram will perform her cabaret show, “Dark Legacy: Bright Lights of Broadway,” a tribute to some of Broadway’s leading black composers and performers to honor Black History Month. Time: 7:30 p.m. Location: The Commons, 300 Washington St. Cost: Tickets are $15 to $50. Information: thecip.org.

Feb. 6 ‘Musical Journey’: Chinese New Year The Columbus Indiana Philharmonic celebrates the Chinese New Year with pianist Tianshu Wang who will perform the “Yellow River Concerto.” Time: 7:30 p.m. Location: Columbus North High School auditorium, 1400 25th St. Cost: $10 to $45. Information and tickets: thecip.org, tickets@thecip.org or (812) 376-2638, ext. 1.

Feb. 14 Columbus City Band More than 50 volunteer musicians from the community perform show tunes, big band, military, concert and symphonic selections. Time: 2 p.m. Location: The Commons, 300 Washington St. Cost: Free. Information: webmaster@ columbuscityband.org.

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‘Creche the Halls’ Tour the Miller House while it’s still decorated for the holidays, featuring a selection of Xenia Miller’s creches from around the world. Location: Tours depart from Columbus Area Visitors Center.

Hours: 1 and 3 p.m. Thursday through Saturday in January. Cost: $50.

Reservations required by calling (888) 718-4253 or at columbus.in.us/columbus/tour-options.

Jan. 30 Yes Comedy Showcase Featuring Dan St. Paul; other shows include a Feb. 27 appearance by Ron Feingold. Location: Yes Cinema, 328 Jackson St. Cost: $20 in advance, $25 at the door. Information: (812) 379-1630.

Commons, 300 Washington St. Cost: $25 door. Information: columbusarea.chambermaster.com/events.

‘Creche the halls’ Tour the Miller House while it’s still decorated for the holidays.

Photo by Tad Fruits, courtesy of Indianapolis Museum of Art.

Reasons to Leave the House For the children

For the children

Feed the soul

Feb. 4 Active Artists

Feb. 5 First Fridays for Families

Saturdays through March 26 Winter Farmers Market

Run and roll on the gymnastics floor and make a craft or two during the family open gym session. Crafts are free. Parental supervision/participation required. Time: 12:30 to 1:30 p.m.

Location: Columbus Gymnastics Center, 405 Hope Ave. Cost: $3 per child. Information: (812) 376-2680 or columbusparksandrec.com.

The February installment of this annual family series features Hastey Pudding Puppets’ “By George and Everyone Else,” with Thurston Osgood. Time: 6 p.m. Location: The Commons, 300 Washington St. Cost: Free. Information: (812) 376-2539, artsincolumbus.org, 6 p.m. Location: The Commons, 300 Washington St. Cost: Free. Information: (812) 376-2539, artsincolumbus.org.

Check out the booths of vendors that feature fresh produce, meat, poultry, eggs, breads, pies, cookies, jams, jellies, herbs, honey, specialty soaps, dog biscuits and more. Time: 9:30 a.m. to 12:30 p.m. Location: Inside Fair Oaks Mall. Admission: Free. Information: Facebook at Columbus City Farmers Market.

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Imitation pieces are the real deal Styling and Story by Jenny Elig Photos by April Knox | Modeled by Tessa Wetherald

Within us humans, there’s this innate desire for authenticity. Colas are marketed as the “real thing,” and celebrity faces are picked apart by folks eager to discern just what nature or a plastic surgeon Wilsons Leather Edinburgh Premium Outlets, 3099 Outlet Drive, Edinburgh divvied out. In her 2014 hit song “Fancy,” Iggy (812) 526-2575, wilsonsleather.com Azalea is quick to introduce herself as “the realest.”

Minash Boutique 915 Washington St. (812) 799-7915 The hip-hop world just as quickly rejected her minashboutique.com as a total fake.

Red Lips Spatique 643 Washington St. (812) 372-0477 No matter how clever a mimic, there’s nothing on Facebook at Red Lips Spatique like the real thing, right? Wrong. We are here to Lockett’s Ladies Shop 426 Washington St. (812) 376-8363 argue in favor of the fake, the mock, the substitute, lockettsladiesshop.com the reproduction. For starters, the fake stuff can be Target 1865 N. National Road a lot more fun: Faux items come in a variety of hues (812) 376-0450, target.com not available in nature.

Another thing to consider: Fakes are a fraction of the cost. Made of chemicals and “harvested” through easier processes than the real thing, a strand of real pearls might be several months’ rent. A strand of fake pearls might cost as much as a decent pizza. And we don’t say this to guilt-trip you, but most fakes are largely crueltyfree; after all, when was the last time you heard about human rights violations at a cubic zirconia mine?

So in this world of genuine things, be a little fake. Ersatz is where it’s at.

Where we shopped:

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bite into this

Dress with faux suede accents, $40.95, Red Lips Spatique; purse, $160, Wilsons Leather; fake apple, $6.99, Hobby Lobby

Fake charmer Dress with faux snakeskin accents, $231, Lockett’s Ladies Shop; necklaces, $15 each, Red Lips

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mock bird

Pleather jacket, $180, Wilsons Leather; dress, $79, Minash; decorative bird, $3.99 for a pack of three, Hobby Lobby

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the sound and the furry Vest, $500, Wilsons Leather; pearls, $16.99, Target; dress, $78, Minash; hat, $19.99, Target

artificial sweetener

Trapper hat, $80, Wilsons Leather; necklace, $15, Red Lips

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pseudo dreams

Coat, $341, Lockett’s; clutch, $88, Lockett’s

fake it till you make it

Vest, $124, Lockett’s; pleather joggers, $68, Minash; necklace, $21, Red Lips; purse, $160, Wilsons Leather; stool, $32, Target

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decorate in fake Block stool (left), $54.99, fur throw, $32, both from Target; fake floral arrangements, $85 to $155, Lockett’s

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>> health

Your digital devices are robbing you of sleep story By Jenny Elig

You devote your evening to relaxation, to shaking off the day. You get in a good 40 minutes of exercise, eat a solid but light dinner, and luxuriate in a warm bath. You are gently switching your brain into the “off ” position. And then you tuck yourself into bed … with the enemy.

This enemy, says Sherry Johnson, Columbus Regional Health Sleep Diagnostic Center educator and registered

Facebook check on your phone is actually nudging your brain back into the “on” position.

Blue Light Special sleep technologist, is a far more insidious danger to your

sleep than your spouse or your pet. The sleep killer in this

Your biological clock

case is your cellphone, your tablet or the TV. Any device

We all have a biological clock that regulates our sleep

that emits blue light, Johnson says, is robbing you of deep,

patterns, Johnson says. The light signals that we get (i.e., the

restful sleep.

sun rising and setting), help us wake up in the morning and

At the Sleep Center, Johnson works to educate patients

go to sleep at night. Light cues also tell the brain when to

and evaluate sleep disorders. She has worked at the center

release melatonin, a hormone that influences our biological

for 35 years and has seen changes in sleep behavior over

clock’s circadian rhythm, that is, our personal sleeping and

that time. Now, she says, we seem to be having trouble

wakefulness patterns.

finding our “off ” switch.

“We are living in a 24/7 society,” Johnson says. “There

The blue light coming from our devices throws off the melatonin release. “That’s what is telling us to get

is a significant loss of evening reduction light that has

sleepy, but we have all of these devices on,” Johnson says.

traditionally cued our brains to wind down for sleep.”

“Harvard research shows that blue light is a significant

The light emitted by our favorite devices, she says, actually causes mental activity and wakefulness. So that last

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melatonin suppressor. People’s sleep is decreasing by one or two hours.”

The struggle is real Sleep, Johnson says, is one of the most important elements of good health, yet it’s the first thing we sacrifice.

Speaking to a group of high school students, she was taken aback by how many would sleep with their cellphones right next to them.

“There were approximately 40 kids there,” she says. “I asked, ‘Who leaves their phone on at night?’ They all raised their hands. ‘Who would answer a text message at night?’

They all raised their hands. It’s wreaking havoc.”

sleep. Though you can fall asleep with a blue light device around, they encourage a shallow sleep and create a sleep debt. This more shallow sleep is detrimental to our health. “It can make you extremely tired during the day,” Johnson says. “Your mental awareness is not as sharp; it’s not as keen.”

Also, we might not look our best; there is a reason why sleep is often called “beauty rest.” Sleep plays a part in weight control, and good sleep helps us avoid looking fatigued, she says.

In the sleep clinic, staff have found themselves pleading with patients to ditch their cellphones when it’s time for

“Harvard research shows that blue light is a significant melatonin suppressor. People’s sleep is decreasing by one or two hours.”

— Sherry Johnson, Columbus Regional Health Sleep Diagnostic Center educator

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>> health

Clean up your sleep All is not lost. One of the treatments at the Sleep Center is behavior modification, Johnson says, and encouraging patients to adopt good sleep hygiene practices. With a few steps, we can go from a mass of sleep-deprived cranks to being a nation of well-rested individuals.

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Rethink your bedroom. “Your bedroom should be for sleep, illness and intimacy,” she says. Create a sleep-conducive environment, one that’s dark, cool, quiet and comfortable.

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Start dialing down your activity and intake four to six hours before bed. Avoid caffeine, alcohol, strenuous exercise and large meals.

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Try a blue light reduction app. “You can download those, and it lowers the backlight of the screen,” Johnson says. “The brighter the light, the less we’re going to secrete the melatonin.”

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Take cellphones, computers, tablets and all other electronic devices away from kids before bedtime.

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Though the technology is here to stay, the key to

Sleep only when you’re drowsy, Johnson says. “If

successful sleep is not letting the devices that we own

you cannot go to sleep, you need to get back up

manage us. “We’re not going to regress in society,” Johnson

and engage in a quiet activity, maybe reading a

says. “It’s part of who we are now. You’ve just got to remove

book, and return to bed when you’re sleepy.

it from being the cause of lack of sleep. Sleep is essential.”

“The brighter the light, the less we’re going to secrete the melatonin.”

— Sherry Johnson, Columbus Regional Health Sleep Diagnostic Center educator

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»shesays

By Jenny Elig

Each issue, we ask women a different question.

This issue:

“I try not to eat or have anything with caffeine after 7:30. When it is real bad and goes on for several nights, I bring out the melatonin. My endocrinologist explained to me that when people get older, your body stops making this naturally, as well as being diabetic, which compounds the problem.” — Vicki Griffin

“I use a lavender badger balm under my nose and on my temples. It’s the best.” — Jessica Abouelela

Whether it’s never going to bed angry or making sure you get an hour of cardio every day, what’s something you do that helps you sleep better at night?

“No booze, no news, no blues.

Meaning keep my focus high, not low.” — Lynn Weddle

“Breathing exercises: I breathe in eight counts, hold eight (quick) counts and breathe out eight counts and repeat.

Eye masks and bite guard also have been lifesavers.” — Rebecca Berfanger

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Carnivale Life is a

story By Jenny Elig Photos by Carla Clark and April Knox

For one night only each year, Columbus’ kidscommons children’s museum becomes the backdrop for an unparalleled celebration: Carnivale.

Traditionally, Carnivale celebrations are held around the world in anticipation of Lent; think of Louisiana’s Mardi Gras or the massive Carnivale celebrations of Brazil. Each year, Carnivale leaders and kidscommons staff research countries that have Carnivale celebrations and select one to serve as the event theme. In the annual fundraiser’s 13th year, the theme country is France.

The celebration, which is set for Feb. 13, will be part Carnivale celebration, part Valentine’s Day revelry, says Diane Robbins, kidscommons community relations marketing manager.

“Paris, France, is a romantic city,” Robbins says. “We'll be tying the two together and touching on Valentine’s Day and on France. And the food from France is delicious.”

On the evening of Feb. 13, Carnivale attendees will enter the children’s museum, and a Columbus Young Professionals volunteer will hand them a signature drink. This year it’s Kir Royale.

Guests can mix and mingle to the sounds of France, provided by Indy-based band Bleu Django or the locally based group The Tiptonians. Volunteers will circulate French finger foods as guests check out the silent auction items or head to the museum’s third floor to try the heavier menu items. Carnivale will feature a cash bar, and a caricature artist will be on hand to capture you and your companion enjoying the joie de vivre.

The 2015 Carnivale fundraiser (theme country: Italy) netted $108,000 and brought some 350 guests to the museum to enjoy the evening. For Robbins, who calls the Carnivale Columbus’ “most fun fundraiser,” the event will be like a tiny vacation to France. “(Carnivale is) a great cause for members of the Columbus community and those that come to visit our community,” she says. “I enjoy featuring other cultures; it kind of embodies Columbus and who we are and what we do. Every year we get to know something about others of the community.”

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kidscommons

Carnivale 2016 France

When: 7 to 11 p.m. Feb. 13 Where: 309 Washington St. Tickets: $75 per person Information: kidscommons.org, (812) 378-3046

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Questions For …

Charlotte Battin Lifelong dancer, lifelong dreamer interview by jenny elig

Charlotte Battin began dancing at the age of 3 and never completely stopped.

The Columbus native, who recently wrapped up her eighth year as a choreographer and dance organizer for the Dancing with the Stars Columbus Style fundraiser, ran her own dance studio, Battin Dance School, from 1977 to 1989.

She continues to dance whenever she can.

“I guess I’m just so motionoriented. If I’m moving, I’m happy, especially if I’m moving in dance,” Battin says.

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Q: What led you into dancing?

A: Elementary school and a wonderful mother; my first dance lessons were when I was 3. My mother had always wanted to dance. She was an only child, and her parents just didn’t approve. She did try it once behind her parents’ back, and they caught her. When she had girls, my sister and I, she decided she would give us the opportunity to dance.

I really never stopped dancing after the age of 3, except for short periods of time, like during pregnancies. Theater came not long after that. I minored in dance at Butler. When I left (Butler), I just thought, you know, there’s nothing I want to do but dance and theater.

It has not made me rich, but it has certainly given me a lot. I graduated from (Indiana University) with a degree in theater.

Q: What drew you to hula dancing and what do you like about that form of dance?

A: My best friend in first grade was a half-Hawaiian girl. I went home with her one day to play, and I met my friend’s mother. She somehow knew that I was already taking tap and ballet.

She said, ‘Let me show you a different dance.’ She taught me a hula. I did that same hula to “To You Sweetheart, Aloha.” I won first place in the state fair talent show at 6 years old dancing to that song. (Hula) is very fluid; I’m talking about the slow ones. The hands tell a story in so many of the hulas. In a way, to me, it’s similar to sign language.

It’s telling a story in a whole new way.

Q: Why do you encourage parents to get their children in dance lessons?

A: Dance is such excellent exercise, and it’s a preliminary to sports. In fact, you’ve probably read or heard how some national sports figures study ballet. Ballet makes all other dance easier, I believe. (Dance) almost always adds a grace to the body. I don’t want anything to sound “braggy,” but people have said to me, ‘I bet you dance.’ People notice it. (Dance) makes your body more stable. It makes your body have better balance. It gives you kind of a way of moving that you might not have experienced without dance. It gives children something to look forward to.

Q: How is it having this kind of career in Columbus, Indiana?

A: The dancing is not so difficult. I did have a dancing studio for 12 years.

In those 12 years, hula dancing was one of my favorite dances, and I kind of specialized in it for a while. I had a troupe. We traveled around five states.

That was pretty good for a while. And I ran the dance studio. I think I did it for two reasons: I like to share the dance with other people, and I had two little girls at the time. They had already started to dance at that time. I thought, I could teach them and share with other people at the same time.

Q: What would you say to anyone who wants to pursue dance, both as a hobby or as a career?

A: To anyone who wanted it as a hobby, absolutely go for it. In my opinion, there couldn’t be a better hobby. I do believe that as far as making a decent living, you would have to leave Columbus. I would just say, if that’s your true love, then really go for it, if you can, although I didn’t take my own advice. I appreciate all of the people who have helped me along the way. There have been quite a number of people who have helped me in Columbus, including my parents and my husband, Jim Battin, and my daughters, Samantha Harpring and Steffany Van Epps.

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Taste

A for Success

Story By Alisa Advani | Photos by April Knox

Entrepreneur May Young brings healthy, gourmet food to Columbus

M

ay Young knows a business opportunity when she sees one, and her professional story reads like a dossier of MBA case studies: a clothing brand, a home fixture sales company and now, in Columbus, her own line of organic, nonGMO and gluten-free meals. Though most entrepreneurs aspire to successfully launch at least one privately owned enterprise, she has done it multiple times, each brainchild born of her passion.

Her latest venture, May’s Kitchen, blends her love of cooking healthy cuisine with culinary experiences abroad. She stirred this new endeavor together with the realization that most Americans value wellness but often end up eating too much processed food because of time constraints. “I believe healthy living is about enjoying what you are doing, not forcing yourself to the gym to get fit. I say, ‘Be smart, eat smart.’”

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“

I believe healthy living is about enjoying what you are doing, not forcing yourself to the gym to get fit.

“

May’s journey began in the mountains of China, near Tibet. At an early age, she recognized that her country’s tight control of its citizens didn’t jibe with her wanderlust, so she fashioned a plan to obtain a bachelor’s degree in international finance at Dalian University of Finance and Economy, one of China’s key institutions of learning.

“A bachelor’s in the field made me powerful in China,” May says. “It’s called a Golden Bowl; you can throw it on the floor, but it is never broken.” Back then, prior to the 1990s most citizens were not allowed to travel outside of China unless they had a passport designated only for government officials. “I had to be in the top .5 percent of my class to get this placement.”

Armed with an open-state visa, May, only 25 at the time, traveled to Italy and France. During her time in Europe, she fell under the fashion spell of Rome and Milan. It was the early ’90s, and China had just started to crack the door of its import market. Well-heeled Chinese women craved new design, and May entered the upscale clothing scene in Shanghai, Hong Kong and Beijing with her new brand, Passardi.

“I thought clothes in Europe were so simple and beautiful. At that time, they weren’t available in China, so I bought fabric in Italy and brought it home to be manufactured,” she says. “My brother still manages the factory.”

May’s restlessness returned. She saw things within her country that concerned her, and she wanted a life free from the restrictions and environmental hazards that residency in China guaranteed. At the age of 32, she came to the United States during the tech bubble for a dot-com business, investing in a New York City startup. She spent only half a year there before the bubble burst, moving to Ann Arbor, Michigan, marrying and becoming a mother to daughter, Yianna.

Ever industrious, May busied herself customizing the family’s home. As she decked out her neoclassical

residence, she had yet another realization: By moving production back to China, she could sell ornate marble and stone fireplaces at steep discounts to high-end builders. CarvedStoneGallery.com was born in 2005.

“I ran (CarvedStoneGallery.com) for four years in

Ann Arbor, but when the housing bubble popped, I moved sales to Dubai,” she says. She sold the company’s goods in Dubai until the country’s new construction market bottomed out.

Spicing things up Then she started cooking. When she felt stressed or a rainy day kept her inside, May began to experiment with favorite ingredients. May, who has tested as pre-diabetic, began to craft paleo meals. Paleo diets restrict intake of grains, refined food, or homogenized dairy products; prediabetic and diabetic diets restrict consumption of starchy foods, grains and tubers. These were meals she couldn’t find in restaurants or pre-packaged in the grocery store.

She pored over cookbooks and recalled the flavors and

May’s Kitchen

May cooks each Euro-Asian inspired dish from scratch and then freezes individual portions.

Clients can pre-order as little as one meal at a time and as much as a week’s worth. Orders that total more than $50 come with free delivery.

For smaller pickups, she sells from the Free to Be Naturalee shop, 903 Washington St. Information: maysliving.com.

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techniques that the culinary masters of France and Italy utilized, becoming a self-taught chef.

“The road to healthy living starts with my personal journey with fighting food allergies to preservatives, food additives and other harmful chemicals,” May says.

Personal diet also had tinges of politics, May says. “In China (previously), there were no laws that required food labels.

The main reason I wanted to stay in the United States is because of the quality of life here. There is transparency here,” she says. “I can read food labels to see what ingredients are in my food. I can avoid things that I know I am allergic or sensitive to. We have freedom of speech here. If I wanted to speak about food allergies, I would not have been allowed to go to the newspaper in China to discuss this. I was able to get healthy in the United States, and I now want to help others to eat right and get healthy, too.”

After featuring her preservative- and chemicalfree foods at events in Ann Arbor, she received an enthusiastic response.

“One of the professors asked, ‘Why don’t you freeze these and sell them?’” May says. Ever industrious, she headed to the closest Whole Foods to sell her product line. The company showed interest in her product but stipulated that she operate out of a commercial kitchen. Around that time, newly single May moved to Columbus.

Now settled, she and Yianna, now 10, continue to enjoy their new lives in Columbus, each nurturing the other’s creative outlets. May’s medium is food, whirling together elements of cuisine from around the globe. Yianna has her mother’s creativity; her medium is paint and canvas. Her work was included in the 2016 Bartholomew Consolidated School Corp. calendar for student art. “We did tulips because I illustrated the month of April,” Yianna says. She admires Amedeo Modigliani portraits and copies his style with unnerving ease. Of her own works, she favors her painting, “Plume Hat.” “I drew the picture in the car, and I painted it in November to show in a gallery. (The lady in the painting) looks like a rich lady, maybe a queen,” Yianna says.

A recipe for achievement May continues to develop her food and lifestyle umbrella brand, working under the Maysliving.com domain. Working out of the commercial kitchen at Free to Be Naturalee, May has created a line of freezer meals. Her short-term goal is to grow May’s Kitchen and feed her Columbus clients what she calls “true home cooking.”

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Her food has won over local clients already, garnering a loyal following with employees at Cummins, Toyota and other Columbus-area businesses. “The food is a great, healthy alternative,” says Tom Scott, a financial adviser at PNC Bank.

“It is quick and easy for lunches or nights that I work late.

When I eat May’s food, I feel so much better than I do when I eat out. I have lost weight, even during the holidays, because of her cooking.”

In the longer run, May hopes to grow her enterprise with a return to Whole Foods, equipped with her commercial kitchen and a growing fan base, to mass market her individual frozen meals. She plans to complete her cookbook, “Asian Girl Diet,” which will feature her signature Asian/European fusion style with recipes that cater to many diets, including vegetarian and vegan. She’s considering producing YouTube cooking videos that will complement the book.

“Once we have published the book, I want to add May’s signature table and kitchenware products to my website,” she says. “I will design all of my products with a clean, European influence. The concept is just exactly like my fashion label, Passardi. We will manufacture in China and Italy with a focus on high quality.”

Whatever the endeavor, she starts at one simple point.

“Whatever I do, I do for passion,” she says. “Passion needs to be first, then the money will come.”

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Adventures

in hiring Baby Sitters How to find child care for your night out

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story By Kyle Hendricks | submitted photos n extreme situations, silverback gorillas

communities. She found the MOMS Club of

in captivity have been known to

Columbus Indiana after a Facebook search. A

unexpectedly watch over and care for

chapter of an international group for mothers,

young human children. In Columbus,

the MOMS Club connects Columbus-based

there is a dearth of silverback gorillas, and we’re

mothers with resources, including play groups,

also thinking they might not make the ideal

book clubs and moms’ nights out as well as the

baby sitter (think about it: They probably can’t

most useful resource of all: other moms.

heat up the Jiffy Pop, and they are clearly antidiaper of any kind, plastic or cloth). But keeping our young safe and cared for is a priority that we share with our primate cousins. Gorillas might have an easier time finding a baby sitter, so we asked some local parents just how they found someone to watch their young primates.

No matter the medium, most baby sitters are found through some kind of word-ofmouth. Most Columbus-based parents share information within their networks regarding their baby sitter picks and passes.

Margaret Trunck and her family moved to Columbus in September when her husband took a job at Camp Atterbury. “Usually the Army has community groups set up for families to help connect you to the community, but when we got here there was nothing,” Trunck says.

She got creative with social media to find the resources she was used to having in other Army Margaret Trunck and her son, Francis.

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“I wanted to find a network, and I’m so happy that I found the MOMS Club,” Trunck says. “They welcomed me with open arms when I showed up at the first event in October.” Through the MOMS Club, she connected with other mothers who kept a running list of recommended baby sitters.

Cathy King and her son, Sam.

Facetime

Social media

Also, neighborhood associations are often

offers new

connected to community services to help

alternatives for

parents find child care. “I have gotten calls from

finding a good

neighborhood residents before looking for

baby sitter, but

baby sitters,” Diane Doup, community outreach

face-to-face

director for Lincoln-Central Neighborhood

hospitality is just

Family Center, says. “When I get those calls, I

as effective. A

usually refer them to Columbus Parks and Rec,

former teacher,

who try to place them with sitters who have gone

Columbus mom

through the local baby sitter training course.”

Cathy King

Local gyms and churches can also be good

remembers a woman who moved to her Tipton

resources of information for child care. Many

Lakes neighborhood a few years back. “She was

of the gyms and churches in Columbus have

new to the area and new to the United States,”

community boards that may have a list of

King says. “She brought cookies around to all the

potential baby sitters. “We have high school

different neighbors in our cul-de-sac, and while

students who baby-sit at the church and also

she was at my door she asked me for baby-sitting

for church members. Usually if I get a call from

suggestions. She asked if my older sons had any

someone looking for child care, I will get in touch

friends that would be willing to baby-sit. My

with one of those students and see if we can help

son, Will, passed on some names to me that I

them,” says Judy Kiesow, Lifeworks specialist at

then gave to her.”

St. Peter’s Lutheran Church.

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Use Your Connections

Local chiropractor and self-described Type-A personality Mandy Wyant admits that when she and her husband were expecting their first child, she immediately began scouting her patients as future sitters.

“I’ve got a list of six 15- or 16-year-old girls who I treat that I contact when I need a baby sitter,” Wyant says. “I’m kind of lucky here that I do have access to a lot of different people. We become friends with a lot of our patients, so I’m able to learn who has daughters that might baby-sit.”

She also had an extra consideration: She wanted a sitter who could drive and provide her own transportation. “When you’re going out, at least for us, we don’t want to drive the baby sitter home after a night out,” Wyant says.

Customization

It’s a given that baby sitters should be qualified and responsible, and it doesn’t hurt for them to be able to relate to your children. When King moved back to Columbus, her sons were ages 2, 4 and 5. “We did fine with girl baby sitters for a while, but as the boys got older, I connected with the local high school sports teams to find another boy who was willing to do more guy things with them. I had one boy who would take them out and give them a pitching lesson for a couple hours,” she says.

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The results turned out well for her athletic children. “The boys were interested in sports, so having a high school basketball player come over who could play with them was really a big deal. It was really fun for the boys because I think they could relate a little better to a high school kid who they looked up to.” King’s sons are now in middle and high school and teach younger boys the skills that they learned from their sports-minded baby sitters.

Sometimes parents should build on relationships that are already present and look to teachers as baby sitter

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Mandy Wyant and her son, Will.

I wanted to find a network, and I’m so happy that I found the MOMS Club.

They welcomed me with open arms when I showed up at the first event in October.

—Margaret Trunck

options. King says parents should consider turning day care workers into night care workers; after all, young teachers and day care workers are already familiar with the children who need baby-sitting; the teachers and day care workers might need the extra cash. “I definitely baby-sat for my students when I was younger,” King says.

Parents who have an evaluation plan for their candidates are usually more comfortable when it’s time to trust them to baby-sit. “One of the moms in my group suggested a girl that she went to church with to baby-sit for me,” Trunck says. “I did my mom duty and stalked (the girl) on Facebook first. She looked like a great kid, but I didn’t know her, and I wanted to learn more before trusting her with my kid. So I had her dog-sit for me first.”

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Get Engaged International Teas are a

by Jenny Elig

worldly experience

ne afternoon a month, you’re invited to learn about your neighbors. You’re invited to learn about the world.

On the last Wednesday of every month, Engage Columbus hosts International Teas. Born of an Engage volunteer’s idea, the events feature different elements of culture and give attendees a chance to learn more about the world outside Bartholomew County, says Leah Retrum, Engage Columbus community navigator. The events dovetail with Engage’s mission. “Short story, (Engage) exists to help anyone in Columbus love where they live,” Retrum says. “(International Teas) are a chance to experience different cultures.”

Each month, Engage volunteers pick an element of culture and use it as a theme. So far, individual International Teas have centered on poetry, sports, dance, food, music and fashion.

The subject is then explored through examples (i.e., a dance instructor might teach a dance) and sharing.

The teas, Retrum says, are a chance to get a closer look at a new culture. “My favorite thing about (the International Teas) is that they’re small enough. It’s an intimate gathering, and you get really exposed to the different cultures,” she says. “You’re always meeting people from different cultures. (They are) an opportunity for international newcomers to experience our culture. It’s awesome in that it’s so cross-cultural and vibrant and fun.”

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WINE-POACHED CHICKEN BREASTS Recipe on the Next Page

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By Elizabeth Karmel Associated Press

Poaching in wine produces chicken breasts that aren’t bone dry

We’ve all suffered through cardboard-dry chicken breasts. We do it because periodically we commit (or recommit or re-recommit) to healthy eating. And boneless, skinless chicken breasts are a fine and filling lean protein well suited to the job.

Except for one thing ... Because boneless, skinless chicken breasts are so lean, they overcook and dry out heartbreakingly fast.

Doesn’t seem to matter whether I grill them or bake them or saute them. I always end up with dry, chewy and unpleasant chicken breasts. No wonder everyone gets irritable when they’re trying to eat healthy.

But I have a secret for cooking chicken breasts that produces moist, tender meat every time. In fact, it’s so foolproof and effortless, you don’t even need to watch the clock. Though the chicken takes just 30 minutes to cook, you can let them go for as long as an hour and you won’t risk ruining them in the slightest.

The secret? Poaching the breasts in a blend of stock, wine and seasonings. But my poaching technique is slightly different than what you’re used to. And that’s what makes it so forgiving.

First, I use a flavor-packed wine-infused stock to poach instead of water. The flavor

difference is big. Second, I use mostly residual heat to cook the meat. As in, I bring the chicken stock, wine and aromatics to a boil, then add the raw boneless, skinless chicken breasts. I bring the liquid back to a boil, then turn off the heat, put a lid on the pot, then let the chicken cook. That’s it.

This method allows the chicken to cook slowly, absorbing the seasonings and letting the wine in the broth deepen the flavor of the meat. The chicken is never tough and doesn’t taste “boiled,” which sometimes happens when you put raw chicken in cold water and boil it.

I started poaching chicken in this manner to use in chicken salad. Moist chicken just tastes better in salad than grilled or baked. And because the chicken is so juicy, you need less mayonnaise when you prepare it this way. But now I make poached chicken breasts for many other dishes — on a green salad; sliced and tossed with pasta; chopped and mixed into soup; mixed with barbecue sauce for an easy “pulled” chicken wrap; etc.

However you use the chicken, be sure to season it with salt before serving, as there is no added salt in the poaching liquid.

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Wine-poached chicken breasts (Pictured on page 34)

Start to finish: 45 minutes Makes 6 breasts INGREDIENTS:

INSTRUCTIONS:

1½ quarts low-sodium chicken

In a large (at least 6-quart) stock pot or Dutch oven over medium-high, combine the chicken stock, wine, carrots, celery, onions, garlic and thyme.

Bring to a boil, then gently add the chicken breasts one at a time. If the chicken breasts aren’t entirely covered by liquid, add a bit more stock or water.

Return the liquid to a boil.

As soon as the liquid boils, turn off the heat and cover the pot. Allow the breasts to poach for 30 minutes, then use tongs or a slotted spoon to remove from the liquid. Chicken can be used immediately or refrigerated for up to three days.

The poaching liquid can be saved for another use. It can be frozen, then thawed and boiled before reusing.

Nutrition information per breast: 150 calories; 30 calories from fat (20 percent of total calories); 3 g fat (0.5 g saturated; 0 g trans fats); 85 mg cholesterol; 55 mg sodium; 0 g carbohydrate; 0 g fiber; 0 g sugar; 27 g protein.

stock or broth 3 cups white wine 3 medium carrots, cut into 2-inch chunks 3 stalks celery, cut into 2-inch chunks 2 medium yellow onions, halved 4 cloves garlic, smashed 4 sprigs fresh thyme 6 boneless, skinless chicken breasts

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To go along with your flavorful chicken, try this straightforward salad, which has a pop of citrus, courtesy of Bon Appetit.

MIXED GREEN SALAD WITH ORANGES, DRIED CRANBERRIES AND PECANS INGREDIENTS:

Makes 6 servings

1 cup plus 3 tablespoons orange juice, divided 6 tablespoons dried cranberries 3½ tablespoons olive oil 2 tablespoons white wine vinegar 1 tablespoon grated orange peel 6 cups mixed baby greens 3 oranges, peel and white pith removed, segmented ¾ cup pecans, toasted INSTRUCTIONS: Bring 1 cup orange juice to simmer in heavy, small saucepan. Remove from heat. Mix in dried cranberries. Let stand until softened, about 30 minutes. Drain well; discard soaking juice.

Whisk oil, vinegar, orange peel and remaining 3 tablespoons orange juice in small bowl to blend. Mix in cranberries. Season dressing to taste with salt and pepper. (Can be prepared 1 day ahead. Cool and refrigerate.

Bring to room temperature before serving.)

Place greens in large bowl. Toss with 2/3 of dressing. Divide greens among 6 plates.

Add orange segments to bowl; toss with remaining dressing. Top salads with orange segments and pecans.

Per serving: 308 calories; 18 g fat; 2 g saturated fat; no cholesterol; 5 g protein; 34 g carbohydrate; 23 g sugar; 6 g fiber; 30 mg sodium; 206 mg calcium.

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Wishing for bright futures By kelsey declue

Pretty much from the moment the The DeClue Family nurses handed Kelsey DeClue is a Columbus native, me each of my a wife and the mother of two. She is the public relations coordinator at wriggling, slightly Columbus Regional Health. slimy babies and I was able to lay eyes on them for the first time, I’ve been hypothesizing and daydreaming about the kind of people they will be and the lives they will lead. Now, they’re 2½ and nearly 4, so although I have some early insight, with God’s grace the journey is just beginning. In

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other words, as this point, these futures are mostly entertaining theories and fun daydreams for my husband and me. However, as a parent, in the back of your mind, you’re constantly second-guessing every example you set, version of discipline you invoke (or don’t) and forms of outside influence to which your children are exposed.

It’s a slippery slope into gradual neurosis, one that begins typically with the naming process. You pore over options, figuring out which ones have a cool meaning, project confidence and provide the fewest possible ways of being distorted into a demeaning nickname. It only gets worse from there.

You question everything. Will this pouch of nonorganic pureed peaches ruin my child’s diet and lead him to a life of fast-food addiction and chronic hypertension? Is her room colorful and stimulating enough? Is it overstimulating? Am I holding him too much? Should I let him cry? Is she napping too long?

(Don’t even get me started about the “mommy wars” and unwarranted social judgment out there. Parents have enough against them in their own heads; they don’t need the thoughts and ridicule of others.)

But I digress.

As your child ages or perhaps you have another, the self-questioning doesn’t end; it just morphs, and you must begin taking into account the personality traits your child already displays. In late December, my husband and I had the opportunity to experience the first of what will likely be many “Oh, my gosh, we’ve created a monster” moments. At a family friend’s wedding, Nolan and Evey were having a blast grooving on the dance floor. As usual, Nolan had a crowd in the palm of his hand. They formed a circle around him, cheering him on as he pulled moves out of nowhere. I could see the pure elation

on his face as all the attention and praise powered him. So naturally, as a mom, I decided it was time to intervene and make this rock star “take five.”

“OK, come on buddy, let’s take a break,” I yelled, attempting to usher him out of the crowd.

“No, I don’t want to go!” he screamed.

“We’re not going; I just need you to take a rest. It’s getting a little crazy.”

He looked me dead in the face and said, with more spite than any 3-year-old should know how to harness, “Mom, no, get away from me. People are trying to watch me! They want to see me! Go!” I’ll admit, my heart broke a little, and I had a flash-forward moment to my nearly unrecognizable celebrity son sitting in his dressing room about to perform for tens of thousands but miserable

because he’s trapped by the fame he once craved.

A little over the top? Perhaps. However, as parents we struggle to find the delicate balance between fostering confidence and teaching humility.

It’s these types of questions we ask; these moments we ponder from the start because we want the best for our children. We want them to succeed, to break limits. We never want them to feel pain, but we know it’s inevitable. We want them to be individuals with their own opinions, but first, we have to help them discover just what those are. It’s exhausting just writing about the weight we feel sometimes. That said, there’s no other weight I’d rather take on. No bigger challenge. So bring it on, rock star Nolan (and his little 2-year-old apprentice, Evey). Dad and I are game.

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What’s Your

Designs

created by jenny elig

Create a fake leather makeup brush or devices cord roll What you need: Fake leather, 9-by-12 inches Square of felt, 9-by-12 inches Fabric adhesive X-Acto knife or box cutter Piece of ribbon

Step 1:

Cut your square of pleather to match your square of felt.

The felt will line your makeup brush roll.

Step 2:

Bond the two using a fabric adhesive.

Allow the pieces to dry.

In the fall, I purchased a couple of pleather skirts. Pleather, in case you didn’t know, is fake leather (etymology: plastic + leather = pleather). One of the skirts was thick, black faux leather. The other bore a rich floral print on a black background. Like a fake within a fake, the skirt looked like an ersatz Renaissance painting printed on faux leather. I fell in love with it immediately and bought it without trying it on (c’mon, I know I’m not the only one who does that).

I got the skirt home and tried it on there, squeezing it over my rear end with some difficulty, only to realize the skirt had a concealed zipper, and I’d just busted it, meaning the item couldn’t be returned. That was the end of that, I thought; too bad, so sad.

But there was a way to recycle the fabric that would have me using it every day: a makeup brush roll. In years past, I had a gorgeous makeup roll from MAC Cosmetics, but that has since disappeared. A makeup roll in pleather would be easy to make and easy to clean, and it would save the lovely fabric.

Step 3:

Starting about three inches in on either side, measure three sets of horizontal parallel lines (like equal signs). The lines should be one inch long and a quarter inch apart; each set should be one inch apart. These bands will serve as the brush holders and should be an inch long.

Step 4:

Now, insert your makeup brushes and roll your brush holder up, securing it with a ribbon. The holder is also fantastic for charging cords for all of your devices.

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This decreases the volume and the weight of the breasts and lifts them to help restore a more youthful appearance.

Before scheduling surgery, make sure your surgeon was trained specifically in plastic surgery and is certified by the American Board of Plastic Surgery. This will ensure you’ve got a surgeon who is best qualified to perform a breast reduction.

A NOTE ABOUT OUR DOCTORS Jessica N. Gillespie, MD, and Jaime M. Ranieri, MD, of Plastic & Reconstructive Surgeons, a Franciscan Physician Network practice, perform cosmetic surgeries and procedures that treat the results of trauma, birth defects and disease.

Dr. Gillespie and Dr. Ranieri are board certified in plastic and reconstructive surgery. From tummy tucks and mommy makeovers to facial vein reduction and skin rejuvenation, the doctors and staff at Plastic & Reconstructive Surgeons offer an array of life-enhancing treatments.

To meet with Dr. Gillespie or Dr. Ranieri for a consult or appointment please call (317) 528-7650.

For more information visit IndyCosmeticSurgery.com or FranciscanDocs.org.

Jessica N. Gillespie, MD Jaime M. Ranieri, MD