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editor’s note Sometimes we just need a little change. My latest is my new super-short haircut. The pixie do is the shortest I’ve ever taken my hair, and I decided to make the change on a whim (inspired by a story I had planned for this issue). I like my choice, but perhaps more entertaining than my reaction from looking in the mirror is the slew of comments I’ve gotten from others. I’ve heard everything from “You look even younger now — like I’d say 10” to “It makes you look older and sophisticated.” I’ve gotten “It’s gorgeous,” and “It really suits you perfectly.” I’ve also heard “You look like Justin Bieber now.” It’s been a roller coaster of highs and lows — compliments and innocent jabs. However, it’s been fun because I’m happy with my decision and I like the way I look. It is amazing what a hairstyle can do for a person, and my experience during this past month has proved that. As I mentioned above, my haircut arose from a story I worked on for this issue about how to find the right hairstyle for your face structure. See what I found out and pictures of my transformation in the story to follow. Also in this issue: • You’ll meet Sarah Henderson, a full-time bank employee by day and dance instructor by night who’s changing children’s lives (and some adults’) through dance and exercise. • Check out highlights from the latest She Goes Out. This year we celebrated “A Cure for Cabin Fever.” The story and pictures from the evening follow. • Marcia Potts might just have one of the coolest jobs ever — photographing newborn babies for two local hospitals. However, it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. According to Potts, one has to watch for unexpected emissions. Read her story in this issue.
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cabin fever By Kelsey DeClue | Photos by Cathy Klaes The evening started at Tre Bicchieri with a traditional Italian family-style meal consisting of a choice between grilled chicken breasts in a lemon caper sauce with Yukon gold mashed potatoes or vegetable pasta with a goat cheese cream sauce.
took advantage of the respite from the harsh cold and walked to Yes Cinema in the nearly 60-degree temps. The women enjoyed brownies with caramel sauce and shopped at vendor booths from Mary Kay and Silpada.
A restaurant full of women chatted, laughed and sipped on She-tinis, enjoying the chance to catch up with friends and make new ones, unhindered by everyday responsibilities. It was another successful She Goes Out. At this year’s event, The Cure for Cabin Fever, attendees
Prior to the movie, Lynne Hyatt, owner of Lockett’s Ladies Shop, emceed a fashion show highlighting popular trends for spring. According to Hyatt, we’ll see a lot of color, animal prints, the return of white jeans and ruffle embellishments on tops and jackets.
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Then it was time for giveaways from our sponsors — Mary Kay, Silpada, First Financial Bank and Imagination Station. Anita Woodard, Janice Taylor, Gale Branigin-Good and Connie Borgman were the big winners. The evening ended with a private She Goes Out viewing of “Eat, Pray, Love,” based on the book by Elizabeth Gilbert and starring Julie Roberts. Thanks again to our sponsors and attendees for another lovely evening.
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Photographer Marcia Potts knows the right angle for capturing her young subjects By Jennifer Willhite Photos by Joe harpring
Out of a way to drum up business came perhaps one of the most rewarding and entertaining aspects of Marcia Potts’ career. Although photography was her passion, Potts pursued a degree in elementary education at IUPUI. She taught at Smith Elementary School for 10 years. Even as she taught, the lure of photography continued to call her. In 2006, Potts opened The Right Angle Studio out of the Columbus home she shares with her husband, Jeff.
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“The last two years I was teaching, I started my studio and did both and was just killing myself burning the candle at both ends,” she said. Once her photography business was established, Potts quit teaching in 2008 to pursue her dream full time. It was shortly thereafter that Columbus was struck by the flood. At the time, many residents were concentrating on rebuilding their lives. Scheduling family photos was not a priority. “I was trying to be as creative as I could and thinking outside the box. I thought, ‘What is the one constant?’” Newborns. Potts pitched a proposal to Columbus Regional Hospital to contract as the hospital’s newborn photographer. After a lengthy process, her efforts paid off, and the mother of six was awarded the contract in November 2009. A few months later, she made the same proposal to Seymour’s Schneck Medical Center and was awarded a similar contract. Within the first 12 to 24 hours of a newborn’s life, Potts and her staff visit the parents and offer them the opportunity for photos. “We have an album that has lots of different poses, but we are not limited to the ones in the album,” Potts said. “We also do things that they request.” Babies and bears As the business matured, her creativity blossomed. Watching her daughter play with a Build-A-Bear inspired Potts to offer a twist on the traditional newborn’s first picture. “We actually take Build-A-Bear costumes and put them on the babies,” she said. “And these are a huge hit.” Of the most popular outfits, newborn boys sport a fishing or Colts outfit. Little girls may be dressed as a Colts cheerleader or in a princess-like, satiny dress. And if none of the costumes strikes the parents’ fancy, there’s always the crocheted Snuggie-like blanket. Potts says that newborns don’t seem to care too much for being naked. Many seem very content with the warmth the blanket offers. “If they had a voice, just from the way that they are when we’re taking the picture, that’s their favorite,” she said. Photographing an average of 140 babies a month between Columbus and Seymour, Potts and her three assistants have many memorable moments.
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“With the little boy babies, we’ve learned, you lay them on their belly and then take their diaper off,” Potts said. According to assistant Erin Francis, Potts can take a screaming baby from his mother and turn him into a “calm little baby.” Her assistants have jokingly dubbed her the “baby whisperer” because of the effect she has on the newborns. Experiencing frustration during her first few days of flying solo on the job after training, Faith Simmons recalls the encouragement Potts offered. “I was so overwhelmed from being on my own without my personal baby whisperer that I walked into her studio and just broke down in tears,” said Simmons. “The first thing she did was give me a hug and tell me it would be OK.” Shared knowledge Dani Mohns has worked with Potts since the fall. She says Potts has taught her much about the technical aspects and editing involved with professional photography. The advice and experience she shares are encouraging to Mohns, who has similar professional aspirations. “It’s definitely given me my foot in the door toward the photography I want to do,” said Mohns. “It gives me hope that I can someday have my own studio.” Photography has been Potts’ passion since she was young. During the 1970s,
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her father worked as a part-time photographer, and his darkroom was in the basement of the family home. It was her job to place the developer-soaked photographic paper in the magic water. Watching the pictures appear before her eyes the first time was all it took. She was hooked. “From that moment, I would go down with him all the time,” said Potts. “And I just absolutely loved it.” To be a photographer like her father became her dream. In high school, she was involved in the photography club and yearbook. But her dream was put on the back burner by a stranger’s single, dismissive gesture. While participating in a county beauty pageant, Potts approached the interview process with confidence. However, when she shared her photography aspiration with the interviewing judge, she was crushed by the lack of encouragement she received. She left the interview devoid of confidence in her dream and resigned to pursue her second love, education. After all these years, Potts has proved that stranger wrong and made her father proud. “He’s very excited that I get to do what he mentored me to be able to do,” Potts said.
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Shape
Shifters Face it — some hairstyles will suit you better than others
By Kelsey DeClue Short and sassy or long and elegant? Soft curls that fall around your shoulders or side-swept bangs that drape across your forehead? When it comes to hairstyles, the possibilities are endless, but knowing which possibility is right for you is tough. Our hair has a dramatic influence on our overall appearance. It reflects our general health and portrays our personality. A great hairstyle can make us feel on top of the world; a bad one makes us want to hide in the closet. Better said, it is a high-risk, high-reward asset. So with all that riding on our heads (literally), what’s a girl to
do to ensure a positive return? “There are several factors to consider for hairstyles,” said Wendy Kirts, stylist at Room with a Do salon in Columbus. “Hair texture, shape of head and face, natural parting of the hair, hairline, hair swirls and cowlicks are all things to consider.” There are five facial shapes — round, oval, heart, long and square — and some of them overlap details so it can be difficult to identify which category you fit in. The coveted oval face is symmetrical and works with any hairstyle, so we won’t be helping you ovals out with this article. You have a classic round face if the width of your face, at your cheek-
bones, is the same as the length of your face (moi). The same is true for those with square faces, but the difference comes in the angles. If you have strong, angular features (especially around your jaw line) then you have a square face. A heart-shaped face is wider in the forehead area, narrowing to a point in the chin area. As the name implies, a long face measures greater from forehead to chin than cheekbone to cheekbone and generally comes with a proportionally longer forehead. So let’s break down the options, shape by shape.
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Stylist Wendy Kirts adds highlights to freshen up my look.
The finished product, a pixie do with fringe bangs.
Roundies You probably have soft features and may have those pinchable “chubby” cheeks, so your best bet is to go for long layers (don’t let any of those layers go shorter than chin length) or gentle waves. Why? “The goal here is to create the illusion of length,” Kirts said. Layers and waves deflect attention away from the roundness of the face. Those with round faces should be careful with short hair; however if you have your heart set on a short do, go with a long bob that brings the hairline down to below the chin in the front and angles up toward the back. Another short option: the pixie cut. Style it by creating a sassy, pieced look on top to add some height and elongate your features.
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Be there and be square Long hairstyles are the best bet for square faces. You have a strong jaw that you probably want to de-emphasize. “Here we want to try to add volume to the sides of the face and the top,” Kirts said. Try parting your hair in the middle and straightening it around your face. This look will frame your fabulous cheekbones but distract from harsh angles. Note: Pushing your hair back to rest behind your ears negates the effect of this look. Prefer the ease of a short style? The classic bob looks great on square faces, as long as it’s soft and layered.
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I heart you The frustration for many of those with heartshaped faces is the proportionally wider forehead area that can dominate their appearance. The upside is that it’s easily remedied by a little thing we call bangs. Side-swept bangs are a flattering and trendy way to balance a heart-shaped face because they create an angle that draws attention away from the forehead and toward the eyes instead. The shortest part of side-swept bangs should hit at the arch of the eyebrow and gradually get longer to the outer corner of the eye. Bangs that cover the entire width of the forehead can work for heart shapes, too, if they’re long enough. If you’re deciding on bangs for the first time, ask your stylist to cut them while your hair is dry.
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Why the long face? Why not? Long faces are complemented by many hairstyles, but the best advice is to hover in the middle: Don’t go with a cut that’s super short but don’t grow your locks super long either. Both can bring out the negative features of a long face. While bangs are also a friend to the long face, one cut takes the cake — the classic bob. Bobs, especially those that end at the chin and incorporate side bangs or layers, look great on most long faces. However, Kirts suggests the bob for just about any face shape. “There are so many variations that it can work for almost anyone,” she said. She suggests looking through everyday lifestyle magazines for hair ideas (instead of hairstyle trade magazines) and finding styles you like on people who have similar face shapes to yours. Then work with a stylist who knows you and your hair type to find the best fit. Information for this article also came from www. about.com.
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by step From ballet to Zumba, Sarah Henderson’s dance students stay on their toes and have fun along the way
By Shannon Palmer Photos by Andrew Laker With an emphatic hello, Sarah Henderson greets her class of 3to 5-year-olds, most donned in tutus and ballet slippers, all the while fielding questions from parents. In the classroom across the stage, young girls are getting ready to tumble while keeping time to the music pumping through the loudspeakers. STEPs Dance Center, in the Vernon Gym, incorporates two of the remaining classrooms that housed students years ago when it was Vernon High School. The rooms have been renovated with dance decor to create a fun and inspiring workspace for self-expression and innovation. Families enroll their children in ballet, jazz, hip-hop and tumbling, and in the evenings the gym is filled with mothers chatting and minding children while music wafts from the classrooms full of tiny dancers. march 2011 • she magazine
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“I am so passionate about dance; it’s the one thing I look forward to.” — Sarah Henderson
Henderson, who has been dancing since childhood, is passing along her love of the trade to a new generation of girls. STEPs Dance Center is her baby (besides the two boxers she and her fiancé adore), and with more than 20 dance classes and approximately 180 students, the center is a hopping place after 5 p.m. And that’s not all. After the children are tucked into bed, moms from across the county tiptoe out of the house to participate in Henderson’s Zumba classes —
held at 8 p.m. each evening — to sweat off the pounds in a fun and friendly atmosphere. So, how does one run a popular dance studio in the evenings, all the while planning a wedding and working full time at a bank during the day? Some would say it’s the power of youth bringing extra energy to make dreams into reality. But for people who have met this 26-year-old it is obvious: She loves what she does.
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“Many people end up having to drive their children out of town for activities, and this is perfect. My daughter loves it.” — Melissa Patterson
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Starting young Although Henderson has been involved with dance since she was a tutu-wearing toddler herself, she began her teaching career right after graduation, advising the high school dance team on choreography while at the same time opening STEPs Dance Center. When her co-owner left for college, Henderson, a North Vernon resident, took over as owner/director and eventually resigned from coaching to focus on the studio. “I am so passionate about dance; it’s the one thing I look forward to. The studio has been a huge learning experience. The kids are great, the parents are great and I want to have a lot to offer my students,” she said. She is also quick to note that the studio wouldn’t be possible without her teachers and takes pride in the fact that they are just as excited about dancing as she is, which ultimately leads to student satisfaction and keeps them coming back year after year. And speaking of years, this will be the eighth annual recital for the center, usually held in May. There tends to be a real buzz in the air as the date gets closer and the rehearsals get more focused. Carrie Owens, whose daughter, Mattie, has been taking classes at STEPs for three years, praises what Henderson and her teachers have created. “My daughter has a lot of energy and loves to dance, that is why we keep coming back. The recital costumes are beautiful and affordable as well, and recital time really gets everyone excited,” Owens said. Katie Davies and Chris Megal agree. Both women have daughters in the hip-hop class who love coming to the center and look forward to seeing their classmates. The moms praise the teachers for their kindness and patience. Henderson’s first students are now in middle school and have been transformed into graceful and disciplined dancers. “I’ve got a lot of kids that have been with STEPs for five years, and now they are taller than me,” she said. “Plus, they have turned into really great dancers and hard workers as well.” Melissa Patterson, whose daughter is enrolled in the preschool dance class, appreciates the opportunity to have a location within the community to enjoy extracurricular activities. “Everyone is so busy, with work and school schedules; it is nice to have a place in town that is convenient and accessible. Many people end up having to drive their children out of town for activities, and this is perfect. My daughter loves it,” she said.
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Something for everyone What could motivate more than 20 women to get out in freezing temperatures to shake their bodies for an hour three to four times a week? How about an upbeat, high energy and inspiring Zumba instructor who knows how to motivate a crowd, according to the participants. The workout is fast-paced, and Henderson shouts encouragement and shares laughter. In fact, the classes have become so popular she has had to move them onto the stage area to accommodate more women. Eileen Helm, who has been coming to Zumba classes
for four months, has lost 14 pounds and now has several family members who attend. “We have formed a great support network,” Helm said. “Sarah is so energetic, and she makes you want to come back. Plus it’s good social time as well.” Zumba attracts a wide age range. Henderson, who teaches the classes four times a week, will attest to its outcome. “I have lost 20 pounds since doing Zumba, so if anyone is skeptical they should try it, as it is effective,” she said. While rows of dancers step in time to the Latin music,
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After the last person in the gym has filed out and Henderson is able to lock the studio doors, she heads home to her fiancé and her dogs. “If I have any spare time, I like to spend it with family and friends,” she said. “Spare time is very rare to come by, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.” march 2011 • she magazine
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she periodically turns to check on the class and see how they look in unison. With a large smile and clapping with excitement, she offers a “You guys are awesome!” and then joins back in while the rest of the group continues to kick and turn and rotate those hips.
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What messages
do you send about money? “True financial freedom is more than having a lot of money; it is being free of money myths and notions that influence our money attitudes and behaviors.”
— Money Quotient By Jalene Hahn
I just got back from a “Fundamentals of Financial Life Planning” retreat. It reinforced my belief that financial planning is more than just the numbers on paper. The three days were a time for personal reflection and insights into what my core values are and how my unconscious and conscious thoughts impact my financial satisfaction. Financial life planning is a fairly new discipline. According to George Kinder, one of the more wellknown life planners, “Life planning is the process of melding money with meaning. It allows people to live richer, fuller lives — personally, professionally, financially and spiritually.” One of the best benchmarks is a tool called the “wheel of life.” I have seen several versions. It plots the various roles or aspects of our life and graphically shows where we think we are out of balance. The most interesting exercises led us to construct our money biography. Most of the conference participants were skeptical of what value this would add to the financial planning process. I was surprised about the depth of understanding I uncovered in a relatively short amount of time. One of the exercises we did was money memories — What were your earliest memories of money? Growing up what money messages did you learn? How was money used in your family? What does it all mean now?
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One of the “ah-ha” moments from this exercise was that we are creating money memories for our children. What are the money messages we are sending? What skills and beliefs do we want to pass on to our children? Do we use money as a reward, punishment or to buy love? I started to think about my habits and the way I handle money and what impact that will have on my children. One of my friends uses the phrase, “We choose not to spend our money that way,” instead of saying they can’t afford something. It just emphasizes that spending decisions are choices. There are several good books that will help you get started. One of the first books I read that introduced this concept was “Your Money or Your Life” by Joe Dominguez and Vicki Robin. It provides a framework for equating money with time spent earning money. You are basically trading your life energy when you make a purchase. The key premise is, “Are you making a living or making a life?” I would invite you to try to find some quiet time and reflect on your beliefs and actions around money. Jalene Hahn is a certified financial planner with Warren Ward Associates.
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For better or worse, Laura and Dan Davis believe that
at work and at home togetherness is an asset
By Crystal Henry Relationships are a lot of work, and no one knows that better than couples who choose to punch the clock together. While sharing an office may sound like a nightmare to some, others wouldn’t have it any other way. “I don’t know what it would be like to work without her,” said Dan Davis. He and his wife, Laura, have worked together since the beginning of their marriage in 1972. Through close to 40 years, the Columbus residents had full-time jobs and raised three children. And all but four of those years were spent working side-by-side.
“We’ve got these mini-adventures.” — Dan Davis One of the challenges couples who work together face is separating their work life from their home life. Dan said when he and Laura were first married they worked at his family’s music store. Back then it was easier to separate work and home because when they walked out the door at 6 p.m., they didn’t talk about work again until they walked back in at 9 a.m. the next day. Now in the real estate field, they are on call for their clients around the clock, so their work follows them home. They are tethered to their laptops and cell phones to field calls from clients, but they said they enjoy not being shackled to a brick-and-mortar business. And since they’re together all the time, including their ride into work, there’s no need to discuss their day because they already know what happened to the other person. But that lack of news is one of the challenges to working with a spouse. When Laura was working at a bank and Dan was working with the sheriff’s
department, they still wanted to see each other during the day. So he made it a point to pick her up for lunch every day. They could swap stories, and they actually had time to miss each other. Eventually though, they missed each other too much and wanted to work together again. “We do everything together,” Dan said. “You don’t do laundry,” Laura said, with a laugh. “OK, we don’t do everything together,” he said. Division of labor Just as they split office responsibilities, couples who work together have to find a balance for the work at home as well. Dan said he’s responsible for the outside chores, and Laura takes on the inside. And when the work is done, they choose to spend their free time together as well. While some couples who work together have separate interests and hobbies,
the Davises said they enjoy spending time together on their motorcycles. “I’d rather ride with her than anyone else,” he said. Dan used to ride in high school, and Laura decided to get her license so they could ride together. And although she is the more subdued of the two, she’s no timid traveler. She recently won an award for riding 6,100 miles in a year. They also take advantage of the fact that they can make their own schedule. While some couples have to work hard to coordinate their vacation time, Dan and Laura know they can go at the same time. “We’ve got these mini-adventures,” Dan said. And it’s those mini-adventures that drive them and have helped them succeed in their relationship and in business. Laura said Dan’s sense of adventure is what attracted her to him in the first place. He finds something he wants to do, and they work out a plan to make it happen. “He’s an idea man,” she said. Complementary couple And when he has an idea, it’s her job to take action. They have a rhythm of what needs to be done. He has a strong personality, while she is quieter. While she handles the marketing and communications, he crunches numbers and works the logistics. “I point the gun; she pulls the trigger,” Dan said. When they worked in the music store, they didn’t work as a team. But now, instead of having his clients and her clients,
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they tackle clients together. “I’m looking at garages and lawn mower space,” Dan said. But Laura can see how accessible the garage is to the kitchen. So if their client is a mother with three children, she won’t have far to lug groceries inside. Dan said she just sees a side of things that he can’t. Couples who work together have to embrace their differences and use them to their advantage. Dan is the front man, and Laura is behind the scenes. They both know what needs to be done, so there’s no power struggle. They agree that since they are working toward the same goal and both feel appreciated, they see no need to bother with pleasantries. The please
and thank you are implied. “We take each other for granted in a good way,” he said. Dan said that partnership and mutual investment are another benefit to working with a spouse. Because their licenses are different, they sometimes have to take different continuing education classes. So while he is gone, Laura takes over. Since her livelihood depends on the success of their business as well, Dan doesn’t have to worry about who’s minding the store while he’s gone. He said he feels like he has an extra set of eyes and ears. “And I can count on him,” Laura said. “I can rely on him.” In working together they have
learned to read each other and communicate effectively. “The fact is we can read each other’s mind,” Dan said. They joke that they will have to get the same room at the Alzheimer’s unit so if he starts a sentence, she can finish it. And while some couples say working together would end in divorce, Dan said he just doesn’t understand it. He said divorce is a foreign concept that just isn’t an option for them. “I think our working together has made our marriage stronger,” Dan said. “We just enjoy being together,” Laura added.
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Hazardous to your health? The roots of
Brazilian Blowout By Juliana Barbassa Associated Press RIO DE JANEIRO — Erlice de Oliveira juggles two kids, a full-time job and a long commute and resents the time it takes to tame her curly hair every morning. She had heard of a hair smoothing treatment that worked well but used potentially dangerous chemicals. Still, all her friends were talking about it, and Hollywood celebrities endorsed it. She decided to check it out. “It looks like I just walked out of the salon,” she said. “My life is rushed; I can’t go to the salon all the time. This is easy and practical.” Known as the Brazilian Blowout in the United States, the treatment surfaced around 2005 in Brazil, where a combination of high humidity and a largely mixed-race, curly haired population made for a nation of eager customers. It soon spread throughout North America and Europe.
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Available in several brands, the process often contains varying levels of formaldehyde, which has been classified by the U.S. Environmental Protection Agency as a probable carcinogen. According to complaints, it has made some stylists cough and reddened the eyes of clients. The flap has rattled the beauty world: Canadian authorities issued a warning about possible health hazards; France pulled products with high levels of formaldehyde; the U.S. Food and Drug Administration is still investigating whether the ingredients cause health problems. The California attorney general, meantime, has filed a lawsuit alleging the Brazilian Blowout brand has high levels of formaldehyde despite claiming otherwise on its website and other advertising. Time and money After hours with her stylist applying the products, blow-drying her hair, then flatironing it at 450 degrees — which creates clouds of acrid-smelling smoke that sting the eyes — Oliveira remains a satisfied customer with a no-fuss mop of shiny black hair. She has been preaching the benefits of the process to friends ever since. The treatment was nothing short of a miracle for women with curly, kinky or hard-to-tame hair. After a lifetime of fighting frizz with endless sprays and creams only to see their efforts vanish with a gust of wind, they could get a smooth, fresh-from-the-salon look that lasted for months. Because of the health concerns, however, some salons in the U.S. have stopped offering the Brazilian Blowout. Upscale salons in Ipanema, the Rio beachside neighborhood that sets fashion trends in Brazil, have sworn off treatments that use formaldehyde. Jussara Fernandes said she won’t let anything with the chemical into her Ipanema salon, which instead offers four different types of hair smoothing or straightening treatments with prices ranging up to $250.
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She remembers as a child hearing her mother and other women mention formaldehyde as a potent straightener in home-brewed mixes. In her 14 years as a stylist, she’s seen horrors from overuse of the chemical — women with bald patches from negative reactions or ulcers on their heads. “I’m adamantly against it,” she said. “I have clients who’ve been coming here for years — I care about their health and the health of my professionals. But there are people who do it.” Less potent Many of the women who’ve grown addicted to their smooth locks continue to swear by the process — and many salons in Brazil and the U.S. continue to offer versions of the treatment with reduced formaldehyde levels. “The smell is still really strong — you can’t have children in the salon, and you have to have the fan on,” said Oliveira. It’s a small price to pay, she said, for the ability to wake up, shower and be out of the house in 15 — minutes with perfect hair. As long as stylists and clients are well-informed and take precautions, it’s worth it, said Xavier Guerin, a business partner at the Point de Vue salon in West Hollywood, Calif. The salon does Brazilian Blowout treatments, though they’re careful not to book several treatments in a day, and they keep the salon well-ventilated. “Time in our modern society is such an issue, and you need to be more and more perfect. There is all this pressure,” he said. “My experience is that most of our clients are ready to pay the price.” When the straightening treatment started in Bra-
zil, hairstylists mixed their own formulas in beakers with formaldehyde, water, keratin and other ingredients. In 2009, the government agency in charge of health and safety, Anvisa, started cracking down on salons that overuse the chemical. In January alone, it investigated 202 salons suspected of spiking their products, according to a spokesman. The sale of formaldehyde in pharmacies and supermarkets was forbidden in 2009 to stop the practice. The new products, with limited amounts of formaldehyde, don’t straighten the hair as much or last as long, which leaves many stylists and their clients longing for the days when the product was unregulated. “These new products, they just don’t work as well — you have to do it two, three, four times on some people for it to really work,” said Ana Paula Santana, a stylist in Rio. “If you’re going to charge someone $120 for something, it had better make a difference.” Now, a chain of 11 salons focused Xavier Guerin on women who want to wear their hair curly is finding demand hard to meet. It was started by a former housecleaner who was tired of straightening her hair with harsh chemicals. The salons, called Instituto Beleza Natural, don’t use any products with formaldehyde. “In the ’70s and ’80s, the only solution for women with wavy or kinky hair was straightening,” said one of the founders, Leila Velez. “Nowadays, it’s possible to wear hair with this structure and keep it healthy and beautiful, without transforming it into something else.”
“Time in our modern society is such an issue, and you need to be more and more perfect.”
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Location is everything By Tim Coriden Not too far back, my mother dropped off a bag of my personal items at our house. Apparently my former bedroom had been officially transformed into a guest room, and her son’s mementos didn’t fit with the room’s new décor. Thankfully, Mom was thoughtful enough to throw everything into a trash bag and drop it off at our back door. She may as well have sold the recipe for Coca-Cola at a garage sale. Amazingly, even after discovering the trove of goodies, my wife left the bag at the back door. When I asked why these valueless items were left outside and unattended, my wife stated simply that there was no reason to move them farther away from the Toter. Shame on my wife for not understanding that one woman’s trash was another woman’s treasure. A ticket from the 1985 Notre Dame vs. Navy game, signed by Wally Kleine (at the time, the tallest player in Notre Dame history). A poster of George “the Ice Man” Gervin sitting on a throne of ice blocks. A piece of the net from
the 1993 regional championship game between Columbus North and Whiteland. (I was on the team, so it’s not as weird as it sounds). A couple of unflattering pictures of my former college roommates following the completion of our senior year. There were countless other riches in that flimsy vault, each one irreplaceable. All could have been lost. Thankfully, they were not. With that crisis averted, I was left with the decision of where to display these reacquired pearls. Clearly the living room made the most sense, but was it foolish to restrict their layout to one room? Which of the kids’ pictures would need to come off the walls? Not one to make household decisions without my wife’s input, I solicited her opinion. Smartly, Ann suggested the basement. I agreed with her suggestion in full — an entire level of our home dedicated to the display of my memorabilia was genius. There would be logistical issues to address, such as whether to create
a strictly Celtics wall for the Dave Cowans, Dennis Johnson and Danny Ainge posters. Or did it make sense to include the Larry Bird & Magic Johnson, Converse Weapons poster on that wall as well? Obviously I needed to reduce my VHS game films to DVDs so that our guests could better enjoy the viewing experience. The 2010 Fantasy Football trophy needed to be prominently displayed near the television, but not so much that a person could ignore the rediscovered 1985 Hanover Basketball Camp league trophy. While pondering the best potential layout, my wife walked past me and placed the bag — treasures included — in the basement closet next to our water heater. Seemingly, my wife and I experienced a simple miscommunication. Tim Coriden is the city attorney. He lives in Columbus with his wife and two boys.
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Physical is key component in patient’s well-being By Megan Allen When most people think of physical therapy, they think sports injuries, post-surgical procedures and treatment for the elderly population. However, physical therapy can be beneficial at various points in a woman’s life. It treats a variety of injuries and complaints. Some specialties include worker’s compensation injuries, sports injuries, vestibular and dizziness issues, balance and gait disturbances, women’s health concerns, chronic pain such as fibromyalgia, headaches, and back and neck pain, to name a few. Some concerns that women have include bowel and bladder issues, incontinence, bone density issues, postural concerns that may worsen with aging, pelvic pain and postpartum difficulties. Physical therapists are licensed and trained to treat these problems. Also, as many women are more active, the general aches and pains we develop can become a concern if they are not addressed. Our lives are very busy, and sometimes those pains can develop into more serious problems. A seemingly minor muscle strain from lifting a bag of groceries or a squirming 1-year-old can potentially increase to the point where everyday activities are intolerable. Physical therapy education has progressed remarkably in the past few decades. The majority of physical therapists are graduating with doctorate degrees, and all have a vast knowledge of the musculoskeletal and neurologic systems of the human body. Communication with a patient’s doctor and other members of the health care team is a crucial part of therapy, and treatment is thought of as a team approach. march 2011 • she magazine
Physical therapists have to know how the human body moves and how joints, muscles and tissues are related. This awareness helps them treat patients more efficiently and effectively. Treatment begins with a detailed individualized evaluation during which a therapist examines all components of a patient’s diagnosis and addresses any abnormalities that are found. While undergoing treatment, the patient is taught a home exercise program based upon her needs. Treatments vary greatly depending on the patient’s evaluation. Often therapy involves manual therapy with use of the therapist’s hands and/or specialized tools to examine the tissues and muscles and correct any abnormalities that are found. Soft tissues, bony alignment and correct posture are an integral part of human motion. A therapist focuses on these areas and confirms that everything is moving optimally to lessen pain and weakness. Strengthening and stretching exercises are utilized to help correct any deficits. If a patient does not tolerate land-based exercise, often treatment will involve exercises in a warm water therapeutic pool. Treatments in therapy can also comprise modalities including ultrasound, cold laser, electrical stimulation, traction and iontophoresis to name a few. Our goal is to aid patients in their healing, correct their deficits in a timely manner and educate them on lifelong behaviors and exercise programs that will restore them to a healthy active lifestyle. Megan Allen is a senior physical therapist at Columbus Regional Hospital’s physical therapy office.
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Spring vegetables and brie make easy lunch
By J.M. Hirsch AP Food Editor Finally — fresh peas for busy people. The trouble with frozen peas is that, no matter how you cook them, they tend to be mushy. Fresh peas are another world entirely. They are tender, but still a bit firm. And they have a pleasantly fresh taste lost in frozen and canned varieties. Of course, they also come in their pods. Which means to eat more than a smattering of them, you need to commit some time to popping them out. While that can be fun, and is a nice project for the kids, it doesn’t always fit with weekday cooking. So I was pleased to see that a growing number of grocers are carrying shelled fresh peas by the bag in the produce section. Of course, you do pay for the convenience, but the quality is good and the prep is effortless. Whether you buy them shelled or in the pod, try fresh peas in this simple bruschetta-like recipe. Thick slices of sourdough bread are toasted, then topped with a slab of brie and a quick saute of asparagus, fresh peas and onion. The asparagus and pea mixture also would be good tossed with cooked pasta. If you go that route, cut up the brie as best you can and toss that in, too. You may need to add ¼ cup of the pasta cooking water to help create a sauce to coat the pasta.
ASPARAGUS AND PEA TOASTS WITH BRIE Start to finish: 20 minutes Servings: 4 2 tablespoons butter 4 large slices rustic sourdough bread (½ inch thick) 1 tablespoon olive oil 1 clove garlic, minced 1 small yellow onion, diced 1 bunch asparagus, bottoms trimmed, cut into 1-inch lengths 1 cup fresh peas Salt and ground black pepper, to taste 2 tablespoons chopped fresh mint 6 to 8 ounces brie
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Heat the oven to broil. Divide the butter between the bread slices, spreading it evenly over one side of each. Set aside. In a large skillet over medium, heat the olive oil. Add the garlic, onion, asparagus and peas. Saute until the asparagus is just barely tender, about 4 minutes. Remove the pan from the heat. Season with salt and pepper, then stir in the mint. Set aside. Place the bread slices under the broiler. Toast until just lightly browned and the butter is melted. Remove the bread from the oven and smear a quarter of the brie over each slice. Return to the broiler for another minute. Top each slice with a quarter of the asparagus and pea mixture.
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This stew can be stirred up in little time
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t dinner time, try a spring stew, a dish that isn’t as counterintuitive as it sounds. The intermittently cool and rainy then sunny and warm weather is perfect for a simple stew. The difference is the timing. Unlike a stew meant for the dead of winter, a spring stew should be a relatively speedy affair. This recipe compensates for the flavor typical stews develop during long simmers by drawing on potent ingredients like Marsala wine and balsamic vinegar. It also uses flavor-enhancing techniques, like browning the chicken before adding it to the stew. The result is a light but flavorful stew perfect for spring. Serve it with a crusty baguette. P a g e 46 SHE m a g a z i n e • m a r c h 2 0 1 1
CHICKEN MARSALA STEW WITH SPRING VEGETABLES Start to finish: 45 minutes (30 minutes active) Servings: 4 2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil, divided
1 cup frozen baby peas
1 pound boneless, skinless chicken breast, cut into
1 large sweet onion, chopped
1-inch chunks
3 tablespoons all-purpose flour
½ teaspoon salt
2 cloves garlic, finely chopped
½ teaspoon ground black pepper
½ cup Marsala wine
8 ounces cremini mushrooms, sliced
1½ cups chicken broth
8 ounces baby carrots
1 tablespoon balsamic vinegar
In a large Dutch oven or stock pot, heat ½ tablespoon of the oil over medium-high. Add half of the chicken pieces and season with ¼ teaspoon each of the salt and pepper. Cook, stirring occasionally, until the chicken is browned on all sides, about 5 minutes. Transfer to a plate and repeat with another ½ tablespoon of the oil and the remaining chicken, salt and pepper. Set aside. Add another ½ tablespoon of the oil to the pot. Add the mushrooms and saute until they begin to soften and give off liquid, 3 to 5 minutes. Add the carrots and peas, then saute for another 5 minutes. Transfer to a bowl and set aside. Add the remaining ½ tablespoon of the oil to the pot. Add the onions and saute until they soften and start to brown, about 5 minutes. Add the flour and garlic and cook, stirring for 1 minute. Pour in the Marsala and cook, stirring, for 2 minutes longer. Add the chicken broth and reserved vegetables, then bring to a simmer. Reduce the heat to low, cover the pan and cook, stirring occasionally, for 15 minutes. Add the reserved chicken and vinegar and simmer until heated through, about 3 minutes.
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Recommended reading “How to Sew a Button: and Other Nifty Things Your Grandmother Knew.” Companion book for guys: “How to Build a Fire: and Other Handy Things Your Grandfather Knew,” both by Erin Bried. $15. 304 pages. Nowadays, many of us outsource basic tasks. Food is instant, ready-made and processed with unhealthy additives. Dry cleaners press shirts, delivery guys bring pizza, gardeners tend flowers, and,
yes, tailors sew on those pesky buttons. But life can be much simpler, sweeter and richer — and a lot more fun, too. As your grandmother might say, now is not the time to be careless with your money, and it actually pays to learn how to do things yourself. In “How to Sew a Button,” Bried shares more than 100 step-by-step essential tips for cooking, cleaning, gardening, and entertaining. — Viewpoint Books
Landscape logic If your lawn will need to be re-seeded due to last summer and fall’s drought, now is a good time to make plans. As we approach warmer temperatures and the grass starts to green, assess the damage. If you have less than a 50 percent stand of grass, you can start over or try an overseeding method of renovating your lawn.
Early establishment of seeding enables the new grass to take hold before the weed pressure and hot, dry weather of the summer. If you would like more information on reseeding your lawn this spring, please contact our office at 379-1665. — Extension educator Mike Ferree
Healthy habits Valentine’s Day is over, but that’s why we think it’s even more important to keep the love alive. In a recent poll, 79 percent of readers said they don’t kiss their husbands nearly as much as they’d like; 14 percent said they’re lucky to do it once a day.
Kissing promotes intimacy and elevates mood, making couples happier overall. It’s a simple act that can make a big impact, so get smoochin! — webmd.com
Out and about Stuck at home during spring break and looking for something to do? Check out the Celebrating African American Art exhibit in the Phi Gallery at Hotel Indigo.
The exhibit, open through the end of this month, showcases the work of six local artists displaying paintings, pottery and quilts.
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