November 2011 - She Magazine

Skinny Jeans contestants approach final month Q&A with Columbus native and producer Jennifer Barrie A guide to living the single life

Mary Stroh

following in her father's footsteps; making her own strides

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Growing awareness

ON THE COVER Mary Stroh Photo by Alton Strupp

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editor’s note

Just when I start thinking common courtesy and genuine selfless kindness are dying in our society, God reassures my faith in humanity.

These acts take on many forms and you have to be open to being a witness, but they do happen.

While in the ethnic food aisle of a local supermarket, I overheard a man ask the woman, a stranger, standing next to him if she had heard of a certain type of product and if so, where to find it.

Intrigued by the “two roads” option just given to the woman, I decided to stick around to see which path she chose, so I pretended to be searching for something.

Instead of brushing him off, she listened to the description of what the man needed and navigated the aisle with him until the two of them found what he was looking for. It took a few minutes of time, and we all know time is increasingly more valuable and coveted these days.

His sheer gratitude and her genuine happiness to have been of service left me believing that both were better off for their brief encounter.

Last month, I got to be on the receiving end of some selfless giving, as our neighbors spontaneously not once, but twice, cleared the leaves from our front yard for us. They’ve also been known to corral a certain Boston terrier of mine that likes to jump the fence gate.

And perhaps not daily, but certainly weekly, I notice the more simple acts of people opening doors for each other, drivers letting each other enter the roadway during backed-up traffic and the like. It’s enough to put a little perk in my day.

What’s the point of making this my topic for this month’s editor’s note? There isn’t one really. It doesn’t relate to a story in this issue. It’s just random. But the acts of which I have spoken are random, so it’s rather fitting, huh?

Well onto this issue … as always I hope you find it another mix of intriguing and inspiring stories. Happy reading!

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Raising the bar

Mary Stroh

brings female perspective to venerable law firm with familiar name

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Mary Stroh is among a minority. She is one of the few (and youngest) practicing, female attorneys in Columbus.

The daughter of John and Beth Stroh began practicing in Columbus last year as the newest member of the longstanding Columbus firm, Sharpnack Bigley Stroh & Washburn, where her father is a partner.

“I think it does offer a little bit different perspective being both young and female and working in a field that isn’t majority young and female,” Stroh said.

As an undergrad at DePauw University, Stroh majored in psychology, the same as her father did. But her studies eventually veered to political science.

“I decided I was going to do something that interested me, so political science is the fall-to, at least it used to be, for people intending to go to law,” Stroh said. “But I wanted to get more out of what that interest was and kind of expand on that.”

The 26-year-old Columbus North High School alumna graduated from Indiana University School of Law – Indianapolis in May 2010.

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Stroh at Zaharakos, one of her favorite places as a child.

Looking back, Stroh is unsure when she decided on law. She says her father was supportive and encouraging, but never pressured her.

“He always said, ‘If this is something you want to think about, it’s something we can potentially see in the future,’” Stroh said. “I think we are both very excited to have this opportunity. I have a lot of respect for him, so having the opportunity to practice with him has been great.”

After receiving her law degree, Stroh went straight to work at the 187-year-old firm.

She says her husband, Patrick Sabo, always had an idea that she would return to Columbus to practice law, and he’s excited she’s had the opportunity to so do at her father’s firm.

Stroh’s work encompasses a little bit of everything.

Involved with civil litigation, she focuses primarily on business and family law, including business and estate planning, divorce and adoption cases. Intrigued by family law, Stroh says it is unusual for lawyers to enjoy

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practicing in that area.

“In family law you are usually picking up the pieces and helping them through that process,” Stroh said.

“And business is usually on the planning end. I like having the variation, so that every day is different, and it brings new challenges.”

Along with her work for the firm, Stroh works pro bono for Legal Aid, which serves clients in Bartholomew and surrounding counties.

“It’s been really rewarding to work with those individuals and kind of help them through the process,” she said. “It is just more of guidance than counseling and helping people get results that maybe they couldn’t have had the access to without assistance.”

Serving as president of Bartholomew County Bar Association, she is also on the board of directors for Foundation for Youth and for Children Inc. Stroh admits her unique position helps her, but also creates the potential for obstacles. In the past, she says,

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“Being a female attorney in Columbus can be very beneficial to me because, depending on what I’m doing in the practice area that women focus on, some people want a female attorney for different reasons,” she said. “And particularly in family law, that can be a big issue.”

Having good mentors is key to overcoming issues that arise, and Stroh considers herself fortunate to have mentors to help guide her. She says practicing law is somewhat intimidating, but she’s looks to female colleagues for guidance.

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Stroh also enjoys the historic charm of Powerhouse Brewing Company’s Columbus Bar.

Molewyk says the biggest misconception about practicing law is that it is the same as depicted on television.

“Attorneys spend a lot of time working outside the courtroom,” she said. “The biggest obstacle when I started was demonstrating that you were just as capable as anyone else, which is overcome by lots of hard work and working with difficult people.”

Shari E. Long met Stroh last year at a Bartholomew County Bar meeting and says she saw Stroh “would be a great asset to her firm and to the community.” According to Long, Stroh fulfills her role as president of the organization with a refreshing, youthful vigor that has been absent of late.

Long says women are held to a stricter standard of behavior than men.

“If you are as aggressive as many of the male attorneys, you are looked upon as a shrew instead of just being a strong advocate,” Long said. “I have personally attempted to overcome obstacles in my practice by being as prepared as possible for each situation I enter and by fo-

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cusing on the needs of my client and adjusting my interaction with judges and other attorneys in order to get the client the best outcome possible.”

Long says women can have a quality family life and successful career as long as they keep their perspective and manage their time appropriately.

When she’s not working, Stroh likes to stay active. Aside from spending time with family and traveling, she pursues another passion.

She coaches girls soccer.

“I’m very involved in that. I played soccer all through high school and three years in college,” she said. “So it’s nice to be able to do that again.”

Approaching life with balance and patience, Stroh advocates taking every day one at a time.

“Make sure that you are living up to everything you want life to be,” Stroh said. “I set my expectations to where I want to achieve those things.”

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“I would give the same advice to anyone starting a career in law. You need to have a good mentor from the start.”

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When it comes to finding the right jeans, there is really only one standard a woman needs to go by: “If it makes your butt look good, go with it.”

That’s according to Tonya Leach, owner of the new Red Lips Spatique on Washington Street.

Leach’s light-hearted advice is supported by her deeper philosophy that women should buy an item of clothing because it makes them feel good about themselves, not because of its size or name brand.

“Nobody but you knows what size you’re wearing,” Leach said. “And the sizing and cuts of different items always vary drastically. I could put you in a size 5 pair of jeans in one brand and a size 7 in another.

“If it feels good, wear it. Who cares about the number?”

Red Lips Spatique, which opened in early fall, offers the experience of a spa, salon and boutique clothing shop in one location.

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Single-minded

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Professional groups are source of friends and fun for unmarried women

By Crystal Henry

Relationship status is part of a woman’s identity. However, unlike the days of Jane Austen, where a woman’s ultimate goal was to land a husband, it is no longer a defining factor in her success.

Women shape their own identities and take time, for example, to work on their Ph.D. instead of their M.R.S. degree if they so choose. The days of feeling incomplete because of being single have been replaced by the casual mention of it as a part of a Facebook profile.

A little less than half of women in the United States in their late 30s to early 60s are single, and more than half of women in their 20s and early 30s are single, according to the U.S. Census Bureau.

With that chunk of the population formally unattached, it would seem there would be a wide range of activities and groups with which they could be involved. However, single women often find themselves frequenting the same haunts again and again. And while being single doesn’t mean constantly being on the hunt for a mate, the single status does leave plenty of time to make new friends and explore new things.

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Kristen Thompson, a billing associate for TLS, said she likes to meet new people through meetup.com.

The website is composed of groups of people with similar interests ranging from wine tasting to fishing. She said most of the groups are not specifically for singles, but it is a great way to meet new people who are interested the same types of activities.

Dan Boyer, a licensed clinical social worker, said it can be very beneficial to try new things at any age. And meeting people can be an added benefit of trying these activities.

He cautions singles to really take their time getting to know the other people in the group because although they might seem to have one common interest initially, that is really all they know about each other. He said going to the same old places such as the gym or a bar to meet people is fine, but if that’s all they know, then that’s the only group of people they will meet.

“You never know what you’re walking into when you’re walking into a bar as a single person,” said Suzie McKenna, life committee chairwoman for Columbus Young Professionals.

McKenna’s job is to organize social events for the group. She said Colum-

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bus is a great family town, but that also means that many of the activities here are geared toward families instead of singles. This year the group is planning specific events that cater to singles and also some that are geared for families.

The third Thursday of each month CYP has a social hour at a local gathering spot or a bar where young professionals can get together and unwind. She knows of several people who met their mates at these events. Board members attend, and people can find out about future events and committees.

The group also hosts big parties.

Last year it had a black-and-white party at Factory 12 Event Loft with DJ Indiana Jones from Indianapolis. McKenna said it gave them a chance to bring the Indy club scene to Columbus. It also hosts Colum-

Bash, another big party and social opportunity.

Aside from the parties, CYP has community service projects, which is another great way to meet people.

And it has career development and professional events as well.

McKenna is still planning the 2012 activity calendar, but she said they’ve talked about hosting a mixer at a winery or having a speed dating company come to town to host an event.

Of the 295 members, more than half are single — almost 100 women and 80 men. In the entire group, 83 percent are college educated, and 66 percent don’t have children. She said the nice thing about Columbus Young Professionals is that it is a quality group of people with similar interests but different skills, so although they might meet at a bar or

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lounge, it wouldn’t be the same as walking into a bar full of strangers.

CYP members are a subsection of people who are like-minded, welleducated and within a smaller age demographic, according to McKenna. However, their interests vary from biking and reading to wine tasting and beer making.

Cheryl Wright, a CYP member, is also a member of Columbus Newcomers Club. It is for women only and features all kinds of activities for newcomers to meet people. She said they have ladies night out once a month where they go for dinner and sometimes drinks.

They also play bunco once a month. The club has several regular activities during the day, such as a culinary group that meets monthly, breakfast and lunch groups and a book club.

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Some members are new to Columbus, and some have lived here for years. The club is for people who just want to make new friends and meet new people.

It has a Facebook page, and Wright said it’s a good place for people to go for more information.

With clubs and activities like these, single women in Columbus have opportunities and options to get out and meet new people and have fun with their single status.

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Jennifer Barrie Ta l k i n g w i t h

Columbus native promotes the thrills of TV production Compiled by Kelsey DeClue Photos submitted by Jennifer Barrie

In this Q&A we catch up with freelance producer Jennifer Barrie.

She is the daughter of Dave and Sandy Watts and a graduate of Columbus North High School and DePauw University. She lives in Washington, D.C., with her husband, Sean.

SHE: Tell us about growing up in Columbus — what were your hobbies and interests, favorite hangouts, etc.?

JEN: I’ve said this a million times, and I’m not just saying it because this article will appear in my hometown. I honestly believe Columbus, Indiana, was the absolute best place for me to grow up.

It’s a small town with incredible opportunities. Other towns of that size don’t have world-renowned architecture, a symphony orchestra, a great local theater program, a People Trail, an oldschool soda fountain shop, and let’s just be honest because I love it, a huge outlet mall.

As far as hobbies and interests, I lived for Junior Mill Race and the Mill Race Players. My best and favorite memories are with those kooky, crazy, theater folks who were like family. We had amazing times in rehearsals, on stage and at a lot of late night cast parties.

I attribute my ability to be able to present, speak and feel comfortable in front of an audience to Mill Race Players. It built my confidence.

I also tap danced, played soccer, took voice lessons and participated in choir, including high school show choir, the Debuteens and Music Men. As far as favorite hangouts, I have fond memories of the former playground at The Commons. In high school, my friends and I spent an inordinate amount of time at Steak ’n Shake. I sure do miss that place. We don’t have them on the East Coast!

Also, I have incredible parents who always encouraged us to have people over. Their basement was filled with teenagers eating all their food and drinking all their soda.

SHE: When did you decide you wanted to get into the television business and why?

JEN: I knew a long time ago that I wanted to work in television. I remember when Fox 59 came down to Columbus and taped kids reading “news stories” outside the Payless shoe store. They Sean and Jennifer Barrie page 17

Barrie at a promo shoot with playmate Bridget Marquardt

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chose certain ones to go on the air. I honestly can’t even remember if mine ever actually aired, but I was so excited about the prospect.

As a kid I had grand illusions of being the next Katie Couric. I started every morning before school watching her on the “Today” show while I ate breakfast. As I got older, I started to think I’d like to be behind the camera — it seemed like a more realistic goal. I just found TV really exciting and creative. I always liked to write. I think since TV is familiar and we see it every day, it’s a field that catches a lot of people’s attention.

Even though I went to North, I used to take a bus over to East (high school) every day for TV classes with Vic Fields. That’s when I got my first real experiences and taste of what TV entailed, and I loved it.

My parents always encouraged us to choose a career path that we’d enjoy. You spend more time working than you do with your friends or family, so you’d better like it. Sure, financial security is important, but my parents definitely instilled in me that happiness is also important and that we shouldn’t choose a career path just for the money. What’s the point if you’re miserable?

SHE: What/where was your first job in this field?

JEN: It was radio, not TV, but my first job was at White River Broadcasting when I was in high school, and I think it helped me understand a lot about the business as far as ad sales, revenue, show clocks and entertainment. I’m pretty sure I had one of the cooler high school jobs I could possibly find. I didn’t work retail or food service, I was reading the weather on 1010 WCSI and deejaying at WKKG. In college I interned in the newsroom at WISH-TV 8, in pre-production on the show “Trading Spaces” for a semester in Philadelphia, and at Innovative in Indianapolis one summer. After college, my first job was at Innovative, a full-service production company that works on broadcast, Web, marketing, you name it. I was writing, producing, editing, shooting and generally touching all aspects of the business there.

From there, I moved to D.C. to be closer to my then boyfriend, now husband of almost four years, and got my foot in the door at Discovery Network.

SHE: What are some memorable moments throughout your career so far?

JEN: There’s a lot of them. So hard to choose. One of the more bizarre was when I was on a beach in Croatia, directing two gorgeous gals in bikinis, Playboy models Bridget Marquardt (former Girl Next Door) and her Playmate of the Year friend, Sara Underwood. I had this moment where I just thought, ‘You’ve got to be kidding me. This is my job? How did I end up on a beach with playmates?’

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I also will never forget going to Brazil for 48 hours. I was on a shoot, on the beach, in February. This pasty, white, Midwestern girl was not prepared for that sun! I was so red and covered in sand. Host of the show we were shooting for, Samantha Brown, and I were leaving straight from the beach for the airport with a quick stop at her hotel since I had already checked out.

She insisted that I shower before getting on the plane because she thought I’d be miserable flying all the way back to the States with sunburn being irritated by all that sand. She only had one clean towel left, a hand towel, so I quickly showered in her hotel bathroom and dried off. She is absolutely amazing to work with, no ego, just an incredibly funny, charming, genuinely nice person.

I have a lot of great moments and memories both on shoots all over the world and in dark, tiny edit bays working with really talented, fun editors on long, trying projects.

SHE: Discuss some common misconceptions about the television and production business.

JEN: I think a lot of people assume the TV business is super glamorous, but that’s not always the case. Just a few weeks ago I was in an abandoned warehouse all day with dust flying around everywhere and feral skunks running through set.

It was an awesome day, and we shot amazing footage, but I was a mess when I got back to my hotel. One misconception about my particular part of the television business

is that everyone expects to see my name in the credits. I work in television promotions, meaning I write and produce promos or commercials for TV shows, not the shows themselves. My work airs in the commercial breaks.

SHE:What is the most fun aspect of your line of work?

JEN:I love that my work is always changing. I’m always working on a new promotion, a different show, a new challenge. I can go from working on a show about cocaine smuggling one day to sandwiches, beaches, witch doctors or storm chasing the next.

I love being creative and coming up with unique ways to sell a show to an audience. No matter if the show is good or not, my job is to make it look good and get people to watch. TV is a team effort, and I love the people I work with. From directors to editors, creative directors, audio mixers and production assistants, I work with incredibly creative and enjoyable people to be around for hours each day. I like seeing my work all the way through from just an idea to a script, shoot, edit and final product on the air.

It’s a good feeling when you ship it off to the uplink for air. Most of all, I just love what I do. Work is fun for me, and I realize I’m really fortunate to feel that way.

SHE: The most stressful?

JEN: Changing deadlines and changes in schedules.

Sometimes a show will get pulled last minute or a show will end up being really good so someone will make a lastminute decision to promote it. At those times you’ve just got to roll with the punches and rush to do whatever you

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need to do and what needs to be changed, pulled or adjusted. There are a lot of moving pieces with production schedules, but I’m really detail-oriented so I thrive on that.

SHE: What projects are you currently working on?

Where can we see your work?

JEN: I’m currently working on a few really fun projects ... the promotion of a new series called “Homicide Hunter” on Investigation Discovery. … I’ll be producing the weekly topicals that specifically promote the episodes from week to week.

I’m also writing and producing National Geographic’s “Expedition Week” launch spots as well as the topicals for the week. In addition, I’m working on some ad sales and sweepstakes spots for Discovery and Travel Channel. My work can be viewed on the networks I work for ... National Geographic, Nat Geo Wild, Discovery, Investigation Discovery and Travel Channel.

I also do a bit of writing for Food Network, GAC, DIY and HGTV. My work can also be viewed on my website at www.jenbarrie.tv SHE: What career goals have you set for yourself?

Where do you see yourself in the future?

JEN: One of my goals a few years ago was to eventually resign from working on staff at Travel Channel and go out on my own as a freelancer. I did that in February, and it’s been an incredible journey thus far.

I love working with a variety of networks, shows, content and people. I hope to continue my own company and build up my business with even more clients. I see myself continuing to work on a freelance basis.

One of the things I love about being a company of one is that I contract with and work with other production companies, directors, crews, etc. ... So I have a lot of different partners that I work with frequently. I can contract with and hire partners based on the scope of a project. Maybe one day I’ll expand to a full company rather than just me, but I doubt it. I like adjusting according to the project and being able to collaborate with different people depending on the needs for a project.

SHE: What do you like to do in your free time and what interests and obligations do you have outside work?

JEN: I love to ride my bike. My husband, Sean, races and is super serious, but he’s patient with me so we ride together as well. I got more into cycling the past couple of years and really enjoy long rides and riding with my husband and friends. My girlfriends and I do a lot of catch-up and gossiping while riding.

I run some, but I kind of hate running. I just pretend I like it so I can take our dog and wear him out. I love musicals and theater, so I attend shows, act in shows, and I’ve directed a couple shows. I’m also a bit of a karaoke junkie. I teach Sunday school every other week. I love living in D.C. and being able to take advantage of all the free museums, exhibits and opportunities around the city.

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Barrie and her husband in Costa Rica.

Barrie with Andrew Zimmerman and co-producer Monesha Madison.

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By Kelsey DeClue Photos by Alton strupp

As they head into their final month of the competition, the contestants of She Wants in Her Skinny Jeans are nearly fully equipped to carry on the healthy lifestyles they’ve gained during the challenge.

They’ve learned the moves to make their bodies stronger and their diets healthier. They’re receiving motivation and support from friends, family and fellow contestants.

And best of all, they’ve gained confidence in their abilities. They believe in themselves again.

“This is the best thing I’ve done for myself in a long time,” said contestant Linda Robinson.

At the end of the first month, Robinson could already see and feel results — her clothes started fitting better and she had more energy throughout the day.

Throughout the 12-week healthy lifestyle challenge, the 12 contestants, so aptly nicknamed the Skinny Jeans Queens, exercise weekly at Tipton Lakes Athletic Club with trainers and husband-wife duo, Megan and Ian McGriff. They also attend life coaching and nutrition sessions and complete workouts at home and in small groups.

One such example of a nutrition session involved the trainers taking the women to a nearby grocery store and helping them navigate through the aisles to

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identify healthy food choices.

Of course the road hasn’t been easy, but the “queens” continue to push through their hardships.

“The biggest challenge I’ve faced in this contest is my mental attitude,” said Megan Mathews. “The day after our initial fitness assessments, I was diagnosed with pneumonia.

Two weeks later I got a virus and was in bed for four days with fever.

“At first, being sick was literally a challenge — I just didn’t have the energy to work out. Now, it’s become a mental challenge — I can’t use the ‘I was sick’ excuse as a crutch forever.”

Mathews said, though, that she’s now to a point where she feels great after exercising.

“I thought it would wear me out, but I have so much more energy. I love coming away from the gym feeling like I’ve worked hard. I’m actually proud to go to the store all sweaty after a workout.”

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Although they are competing against each other, the women have formed bonds, and many of them work out together in smaller groups on the days they don’t meet as a large group. They exchange emails with questions, advice, support and encouragement.

But outside the gym, a queen’s most crucial advantage lies in the support of her family.

“My husband, John, has been surprisingly helpful and my biggest cheerleader,” said Rose Ann Dunlap. “He is so supportive, from asking what he can do, fending for himself on workout nights, grocery shopping for my healthy items and timing my workouts here at home.

“And he doesn’t let me slack!”

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Contestant Jennifer Carlin asked her daughter if she noticed any changes about her mom since she started the competition.

“My daughter, Peyton, said, ‘You get really excited before working out.’ And I have noticed how awesome I feel afterwards,” Carlin said.

The competition ends Dec. 15. The winner will be chosen by total body fat percentage lost and will receive $500.

The contest is sponsored by Tipton Lakes Athletic Club, Renner Motors, Lockett’s Ladies Shop, Fair Oaks Mall, Columbus Clinic of Chiropractic, Hilliard Lyons, Red Lips Boutique and Bob Poynter of Seymour.

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P a m p e r

P a r t y

Story and photos

by Kelsey DeClue Last month, pink saturated The Commons as hundreds of women gathered to celebrate another Pamper Party with She Goes Out. There were music and dancing, food, shopping, health information and of course, pampering. This year’s underlying theme was breast cancer awareness, and the first 100 breast cancer survivors in attendance received a pink rose. The free event ran from 6 to 9 p.m. Attendees browsed the booths set up by the more than 30 area businesses that participated, sampling foods ranging from appetizers to sweets and partaking in activities ranging from dancing the electric slide to testing firsthand just how stable a wine glass is on a Tempur-Pedic mattress. The minimanicures and massages were also a hit with the crowd.

Beverly Hall from Blondie’s Tan and Spa gives Scarlet Williams a chair massage.

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check out the products tagged as must-haves for Christmas!

Play time Wind-up toys from Kikkerland, $13-$17.

Wind-ups jump, dance, climb and mesmerize. Perfect for a desk and the curious child.

Viewpoint Books 548 Washington St. | 376-0778 www.viewpointbooks.com

Just relax Enjoy a massage, facial or invigorating full-salon treatment.

Gift certificates available.

Blondie’s Tan 2441 California St. 376-3066

She’s back!

Fruit pies, cream pies, sweet breads, cookies, brownies, candy and more.

Ahlemeyer Farms Kim Kiel, owner-baker 1120 Washington St. | 447-5863

Ring in the holidays Show your love with beautiful diamonds. Layaway for Christmas.

Columbus Gold and Diamond 2725 24th St. and National Road 372-6530

To your health Receive a complimentary consultation, exam and X-ray if needed with every $20 donation to the Bartholomew County Humane Society.

Family Chiropractic and Wellness Dr. Mandy Wyant 1001 Washington St. | 373-3376 www.drmandywyant.com Page 30

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Look radiant Laser hair removal, Titan skin tightening, Botox Gift certificates available.

Skin Deep Laser Center at OB/GYN Associates 3183 N. National Road 376-4020 www.skindeeplasercenter.com

Give pink T-shirts, sweatshirts, hats and more.

Bevers Home Health Boutique 200 S. Pine St., Seymour 812-523-5231

Here’s to the holidays Cabernet Franc, Reisling, Vignoles Gift baskets available.

Chateau de Pique 6361 N. Road 760E, Seymour 812-522-2296 www.chateaudepique.com

2012 Jeep Grand Cherokee Just what Santa ordered.

Bowman Automotive Group 1873 E. Tipton St., Seymour 812-522-2982 www.bowmanautomotive.com

Holiday greetings Custom-designed greeting cards. Surprise your family with personalized ornaments for their tree. Create a canvas print from your favorite snapshot.

Stillframes Photography and Design 810 Brown St., Suite A 372-0762

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Front load washer and dryer Smart Dispense Technology H2ition Wash System Steam Refresh and DuoDry System Steam Dewrinkle Bishopp’s Appliances 1647 National Road 372-5899

Special occasions Designer-brand dresses, tuxes and more.

That Special Touch 544 Washington St. 375-2223 www.specialtouchbride.com

Fossil handbags Many styles and colors.

Gift certificates available.

Register to win a Fossil accessory.

Norm’s Footwear 204 W. Second St., Seymour 812-522-3563

Traditional Japanese cuisine Gift certificates available for the holidays. Open for lunch and dinner.

New Japan 3820 25th St. 372-1128 www.newjapansushi.com

The gift everyone enjoys Gift certificates available at customer service.

Fair Oaks Mall 25th Street 372-3831

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Pamper packages Delight someone special with a gift certificate. Holiday hair and spa gift packages are 50 percent off. They start at just $20 and range to $150. Call us or like us on Facebook for package information.

Clipper Club Salon & Day Spa 2370 N. National Road 372-9949

30-minute workout Curves offers a program that combines strength training and sustained cardiovascular activity that is safe and effective. We offer Zumba classes three nights a week.

Curves for Women 3124 National Road 375-0529

Add color Beautiful centerpiece arrangements for your holiday party or family get-together.

Text Lois to 36000 for a discount coupon.

Flowers by Lois 3633 25th St. 379-9278 www.flowersbylois.net Shades with style Chemistrie sun lenses for “eyewear that clicks.” Many tints and coatings as well as 3-D lenses with that magnetic appeal.

VanArsdall Family Optometry — Dr. Ken VanArsdall 11th and Jackson streets 376-3068

One-of-a-kind finds Gifts, home décor, floral, candles and more.

Strawberry Fields Mercantile 326 Jackson St., Hope 546-0640

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Store your Christmas gifts with us Storage solutions big or small, short or long term available.

Aton’s Self Storage 739 Repp Court 372-6717 www.SelfStorageOfColumbus.com

2012 Honda Odyssey A perfect way to haul all your gifts this holiday season.

Renner Honda Motors 3055 Central Ave. 372-1562 or 800-467-8450 www.rennerhonda.net

Bringing Italy to you Artisan-crafted, hand-blown Bella Luce Vase Lamp. A gift everyone will enjoy.

Cummings Lighting and Design Center U.S. 31, Seymour 812-523-1034 www.cummingslighthouse.com

Gas log sets Come see our burning displays.

Your fireplace specialist.

Bradbury’s 2801 Central Ave. 372-1324 www.bradburys.com

Spooner Boards Develop balance, coordination and motor skills at home.

Imagination Station 315 Washington St. 373-9636 www.imaginationstationtoys.com

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Visit our Christmas room Filled with Nativities, boxed cards, gifts and more. Advent supplies available.

Ark Book and Gifts 2622 Eastbrook Plaza 376-9548

No reflections in photos Digital lenses with Crizal anti-reflective coating for your best sight ever.

VanArsdall Family Optometry — Dr. Ken VanArsdall 11th and Jackson streets 376-3068

Design unforgettable moments Pandora charms in sterling silver, 14K gold and precious gemstones.

Lockett’s Ladies Shop 1202 Washington St. 376-8363

Antiques for the holidays See our sleighs, bears, rockers, trunks, rugs, dishes and more.

Nichols & Dimes Antiques 101 Pennsylvania St. Elizabethtown 812-579-5267 nicholsandimesantiques.com

A gift of health Give a gift certificate for weight loss, which will bring happiness in the new year.

Metabolic Research Center 2121-B 25th St. 375-1900

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Large selection of spas Imagine stepping onto your back patio under the stars and the coolness of the night, and within seconds you are soaking in the warm, bubbling waters of your hot tub. Hot Springs spas available exclusively.

Bradbury’s 2801 Central Ave. 372-1324 www.bradburys.com

Home for the holidays Relax in a big recliner.

Brad’s Home Furnishings 729 Washington St. 538 Washington St. www.bradshomefurnishings.com

Serve pizza Let Bella do your holiday catering.

Bella Pizza Co. 220 25th St. 375-6767 www.bellapizzacompany.com

Bags, purses and accessories We have just the right size, just the right color, just the right amount of bling.

Red Lips Spatique 643 Washington St. 372-0477 | www.sunkisstanning.com

Green dreams come true Large selection of green gifts: pedal tractors, bikes, hats, clothing, balls and more.

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Charmed by Mogo Express yourself with MOGO charm bands and charms. Holiday special: free charm with purchase of a tin or charm band.

Imagination Station 315 Washington St. 373-9636 www.imaginationstationtoys.com

Big Green Egg The best ceramics ever created for outdoor cooking. We also offers a variety of sauces, rubs and wood chips for your grilling pleasures.

Bradbury’s 2801 Central Ave. 372-1324 www.bradburys.com

LED TVs Break-through picture quality, smoother motion and eco-friendly features wrapped up in a 1.2 inch-deep HDTV. Luecke Audio, Video & Appliances 1255 W. Tipton St., Seymour 812-522-5123 www.lueckeaudiovideo.com

Artisan marshmallows Over 100 flavors, as seen in Martha Stewart Weddings. Gift certificates and classes.

240 Sweet Studio 1120 Washington St. 372-9898 www.lemleyscatering.com

It’s a cover-up Every good book needs a great cover.

Available in four colors, $32.

Made by Vera Bradley.

Lockett’s Ladies Shop 1202 Washington St. 376-8363

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Gourmet cookies More than 28 varieties. Great for holiday parties or as gifts. Deliver to Columbus locations and ship elsewhere.

Casey’s Cookies 901 Washington St. 764-2847

Brighton — Twister Collection ID card phone case, $56, available in nine colors.

Lockett’s Ladies Shop 1202 Washington St. 376-8363

Don’t forget your best friend Come in and let us pamper your pooch.

We offer a full grooming experience, or if you’re the do-it-yourself type, we offer a self-serve doggie wash as well.

Mutt Tubbs 1503 Cottage Ave. 372-8822 Gift certificates for …

Our specialty boutique, hair, massage, nails and products – perfect gifts Red Lips Spatique 643 Washington St. 372-0477 | www.sunkisstanning.com Spa parties and getaways Celebrate the holidays with us in the cottage at Irwin Gardens.

One Body One Soul Massage & Wellbeing Studio 603 Sixth St. | 344-4941 www.irwingardens.com

Unique vintage Antiques, gift items, floral arrangements.

A must-see for the holidays.

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Designer Diamond deLuxe Husqvarna Viking, the best in sewing and embroidery machines and sergers starting at $179.

Free classes with every new machine. Fabric, service, repair and more.

Sew Crazy 1735 Central Ave. | 418-8200 www.sewcrazycolumbus.com Glitz and glamour Tanks, dresses, sweaters, jeans – all perfect for your holiday parties.

Red Lips Spatique 643 Washington St. | 372-0477 www.sunkisstanning.com

A full-service spa Laser treatments, Botox, leg vein treatment, facials, massages, permanent makeup.

Gift certificates.

Renaissance Medical Spa 1414 E. Tipton, Seymour 812-524-9222 | www.renmedicalspa.com

Food and spirits Book our upstairs room, overlooking the lights of Washington Street, for your holiday parties.

Gift certificates available.

Tre Bicchieri 425 Washington St. 372-1962

Towel wraps You pick the color, you pick the trim, we personalize — only $32.

That’s Pretty Personal FairOaks Mall | 2254 25th St. 375-9855 | www.tpponline.com

Unique Christmas gifts Jewelry, pottery, books, kids gifts and lots more.

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cuisine

An apple a day ‌ can be made into a variety of dishes

By Debbie Arrington Sacramento Bee A new apple season is here, offering a crisp, sweet edge to fall meals, plus the promise of lots of pie.

Love of apples seems eternal. The sweet scent of baking apples, mixed with cinnamon and a dash of nutmeg, automatically brings back memories.

APPLE PIE SALAD Servings: 4 This salad features a brown butter vinaigrette and a pumpkin seed streusel. Serves 4.

Streusel: ¼ cup all-purpose flour ¼ cup raw pumpkin seeds 1/3 cup rolled oats 1 heaping tablespoon brown sugar ½ teaspoon kosher salt 3 tablespoons cold unsalted butter, cut into small pieces Vinaigrette: 4 tablespoons unsalted butter 1 small shallot, minced Juice of half a lemon (about 2 tablespoons) Few pinches finely chopped fresh marjoram or fresh thyme Kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper, to taste Salad: 1 head red leaf lettuce, washed and torn into bite-size pieces 1 sweet-tart apple, cored and sliced thin 2 ounces fresh chevre For the pumpkin seed streusel: Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Combine the flour, pumpkin seeds, oats, brown sugar, salt and 3 tablespoons of butter in a small bowl. With fingers, blend the ingredients into large streusel-y crumbles.

Spread the streusel on a parchment paper-lined baking sheet and bake for 20-30 minutes, or until lightly browned and crisp. Cool slightly.

Make the brown butter vinaigrette: Melt the remaining 4 tablespoons of butter in a small pan over medium-low heat. Watch it carefully — when the foaming

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has subsided and the butter has started to brown, add the minced shallot and soften for one minute. Remove from heat, and transfer to a small bowl. Whisk in the lemon juice, a sprinkling of fresh marjoram or thyme, and season to taste with salt and pepper.

To assemble the salad: Toss the lettuce, sliced apple and chevre with a few tablespoons of the brown butter vinaigrette. Add dressing as needed until leaves are nicely coated. Sprinkle liberally with the pumpkin seed streusel.

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APPLE PIE COOKIES Servings: 4 dozen

These are soft cookies with a spicy apple flavor and sweet caramel glaze. Makes about 4 dozen.

Preheat oven to 350 degrees.

Combine butter and sugar in mixing bowl; beat until fluffy and well blended. Add egg and blend until fully incorporated.

In a separate bowl, whisk together flour, baking soda, cinnamon, cloves, nutmeg and salt. Add half the mixture to butter mixture, stirring until incorporated, and then add remaining flour mixture.

Add milk, then gently stir in grated apple and chopped nuts with a wooden spoon. Drop by rounded teaspoons onto a cookie sheet covered with parchment paper. Bake 10 minutes or until cookies are golden brown.

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Cookies: ½ cup unsalted butter, slightly softened 1½ cups light brown sugar, packed 1 egg 2 cups all-purpose flour 1 teaspoon baking soda 1 teaspoon cinnamon ½ teaspoon ground cloves ½ teaspoon ground nutmeg ½ teaspoon salt ¼ cup milk 1 cup grated apple, from 1 large or 2 small peeled, cored baking apples 1 cup walnut pieces, toasted and chopped Caramel glaze: 2 tablespoons butter or margarine 2 tablespoons brown sugar ¾ cup confectioners’ sugar 4 teaspoons milk or half and half

Cool on rack for a few minutes, then slide the paper, with cookies still on it, to rack and let cookies finish cooling before removing from paper. (An offset spatula works well.)

To make caramel glaze: Combine brown sugar and butter in a small pan.

Stir and bring to boil over medium heat. Simmer for 2 minutes. Remove from heat and add the confectioners’ sugar and half the milk, stirring before adding the rest of the milk, 1 teaspoon at a time.

Drizzle over cooled cookies using a fork. Add a little more milk if glaze becomes too thick.

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health

Menopause is time to refocus on health

By Margie Campbell The topic of menopause generates concerns, emotions, controversy and lots of questions among women.

When does it start? What symptoms can I expect and how can I deal with them? How will menopause affect the rest of my life?

Menopause is defined as the time in a woman’s life when her menstrual periods end. The National Institute of Health says that the median age menopause occurs is 52, but it can vary between 40 and 58 years of age. So with current life expectancy close to 80, the average woman is postmenopausal for nearly one-third of her life.

The menopause transition begins when your menstrual periods first begin to change and ends when you stop having periods. This first transition is referred to as “perimenopause.” Menopause occurs when your periods have stopped for a year. “Postmenopause” is the period of time after menopause.

Menopause is a normal part of getting older. Women often go to their health care provider when they start to experience symptoms that can include: • Hot flashes — a sudden feeling of warmth. You may feel it just on your face and neck or all over your body.

• Night sweats — hot flashes that occur at night.

• Insomnia and tiredness, trouble sleeping or staying asleep.

• Vaginal dryness and loss of flexibility may make sex uncomfortable.

• Leaking of urine (incontinence).

• Fluctuation in sexual desire or response.

• Increased muscle and joint aches.

• Memory problems or forgetfulness.

• Anxiety or depression.

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Women should discuss with their health care provider whether treatment is necessary. Hormone therapy may be helpful to treat symptoms. There are risks and benefits related to a woman’s health and family history.

It is important to learn as much as you can and discuss options with your health care provider.

Menopause is a good time for women to consider lifestyle choices and make changes that will maintain or improve their quality of life, including: • Regular medical and gynecological checkups.

• Mammogram and Pap smear, screening for vaginal infections and STDs, according to recommendations.

• Bone density screening.

• Blood work to screen for diabetes, heart disease, cancer and thyroid problems.

• Colonoscopy.

It is also a time to maintain a healthy lifestyle. Such as: • Exercising regularly; use a combination of aerobic, flexibility and weight-bearing exercises. Exercise outdoors as often as you can; it increases vitamin D. • Eating a well-balanced diet, including fruits, vegetables and whole grains; limit fatty foods and sweets.

• Eating calcium-rich food. You need 1,000 to 1,500 mg of calcium and 400 to 800 IU of vitamin D every day to keep your bones strong.

• Stopping smoking.

• Limiting alcohol.

Menopause is a natural part of a woman’s life, and life after menopause can be fulfilling and healthy.

Margie Campbell is a women’s and children’s clinical nurse specialist with Columbus Regional Hospital. page 43

The simplest solutions

By Daniel Schuetz

I am teaching a writing class at my alma mater.

Grammarians and contrarians: fear not! I am striving to guide these bright young minds to write clearly and properly — not to follow my style, or anyone else’s, for that matter. If they tighten up their form a bit and write in a clear voice, I am satisfied.

At the beginning of the course, I anticipated that among my greater complaints would be writing that was too simple. I thought they would need coaxing to use clauses and commas. I thought that maybe we would have to spend a great deal of time developing vocabulary.

Ah, but here is where the instructor learned a lesson [cue ironic background music]. The biggest problem, across the board, was elevated diction (I had to borrow that term from another professor). This elevated diction, then,

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viewfrommars led to convoluted sentences, otherwise good vocabulary that was out of context, and so forth.

After a bit of reflection, I reminded myself that they were, perhaps unwittingly, showing off a bit. Oh, not to impress me necessarily, but just to strut a bit. My students are mostly freshmen and a few sophomores.

As we try to find our place in this world, who among us does not want to sound smart?

After a little more reflection, I decided that this phenomenon had less to do with strutting and more to do with conditioning. So, when I met with my students to discuss their first papers, I approached the problem thusly: I suggested that from the point when we first write a simple story, in first grade or whenever that is, we have limited vocabulary and the most basic of sentence

structures. As we progress through school, our vocabulary improves, our ability to construct complex sentences and paragraphs increases, and our writing becomes more mature.

The problem, then, is that if one were to graph this progress, the line could continue forever until our writing became so complex as to be unintelligible. The solution, then, is to look for simpler ways to say what we mean. While it may initially seem counter-intuitive, a sign of more advanced writing is often saying more with less.

I was reminded of a valuable bit of knowledge that I learned from an astronomy professor at the very school at which I am now teaching.

I may have learned the lesson elsewhere, too, but it was in this astronomy class that it stuck.

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The lesson was about Occam’s razor — the notion that when faced with a number of complex ideas, we should tend to select the simpler solutions in favor of the more complex. Of course, the razor is more complex than that, but for the sake of simplicity, that will have to do.

In the midst of all of this, I also came across a writing contest requiring a very short story. Referenced was Hemingway’s shortest story ever written. It is too sad to tell here, and besides, I have reached my word limit. But you should look for it.

Saying more by saying less. Simple.

Attorney Daniel Schuetz lives in Columbus with his wife and two girls.

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Accept the challenge to be obsessed with success

By Ian McGriff So, here we go again.

I am on fire after reading “The 10 X Rule,” by Grant Cardone. Man alive, am I excited.

In his book, Cardone encourages people to set targets that are 10 times higher than they think they want and then do 10 times the work it will take to accomplish those targets.

His philosophy and strategy can be applied in all aspects of life, from fitness to career goals.

This is the first time I have made the decision to reread a book like this. I’m not just going to re-read it though. No. I’m creating action steps and exercises that are pertinent to each chapter. That will make certain that I take “10 X” action and ingrain these principles so I can become as successful as possible. So this column is not about a specific type of workout or fitness goal but rather, I hope, a source of inspiration.

I know some of you are thinking that I’m crazy and probably excessive, but I want to share with you an excerpt from the book to give you some insight into the mind-set of Cardone.

“If you become obsessed with your idea, purpose, or goal, you will become equally addicted to the idea of making it work. Anyone who makes it his or her mission to create long-term, positive 10X survival will have to approach each moment, decision, action, and day with this level of fixation.

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to preoccupy the thoughts of others?

Something has to absorb your thoughts every second of every day, so what should it be? Be obsessed with something. Make your dreams, goals, and mission your mind’s actions’ dominant concern!”

What are you obsessed with? What preoccupies your thoughts? Is it your success? Do you literally dream about your achievements and how happy you are to be successful?

And remember, obsession isn’t a bad thing. Obsession is what made Bill Gates, Michael Jordan, Mia Hamm, the Beatles, the Stones, Starbucks and Apple the best at what they do — obsessive levels of achieving.

If you’re not obsessed with your dreams, then what are you preoccupied with? Is it because it’s too hard? It’s too farfetched; it’ll take too long; you can’t do it anyway; you don’t have the time; you don’t have the resources; you don’t have money? Or is it because you’re flat-out scared and lazy?

Harsh words, I know ... it took me 10 minutes to decide to even leave that accusation in, but I am. I was scared to write it, but I went ahead because I know that if this reaches even one person, it was worth it. I’m challenging you to become obsessed with your success and take “10X action” to acquire “10X results.”

I want to leave you with some more words from Cardone that inspire me to live at 10X levels.

“I believe that one of the major reasons why people don’t

stick to their goals and fail to accomplish them is because they fail to set them high enough from the beginning. …

Frequently and regularly, most of us have been warned against setting goals ‘too high.’ The reality is that if you start small, you probably are going to go small.

“To maintain your enthusiasm, you have to make your goals substantial enough that they keep your attention. Average and realistic goals are almost always a letdown to the person setting them — who is then unable to fuel his or her goals with the actions necessary.

“Indeed, most people are so apathetic about their goals that they only write them down once a year. As far as I’m concerned, nothing worth doing is done only once a year.

The things upon which your life depends most are based on the actions you take daily. … If your goals are so small that you don’t even consider them on a daily basis, then you are going to lose interest.”

No matter what you strive for, are searching for or working toward, you can always give more. You can always do more, work more, become more, develop more, share more, etc.

“10 X” your life by taking such committed and concerned action that there is no way that you can not be successful at what you strive for. True desires cannot be contained.

I challenge you.

Ian McGriff is the fitness director at Tipton Lakes Athletic Club.

F R I D AY, N O V E M B E R 1 8 T H C E N T E R CO U R T AT 6 : 3 0 P M Children 0-12 years who visit Santa 6:30pm-9pm, Friday, November 18 may register to win a $100 Shopping Spree with Santa to Express.

Mon-Wed 5pm-8pm Thurs 11am-8pm Fri-Sat 11am-9pm Sun Noon-6pm

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Carson’s, JCPenney, Kmart and over 40 exciting specialty shops 25th Street & Central, Columbus (812)372-3831 www.fairoaksmall.net Mon.-Sat. 10 a.m. - 9 p.m., Sun. Noon - 6 p.m.

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Landscape logic With most of us wrapping up mowing our yards for 2011, a common question I’m asked is, “Should one adjust the mowing height of their lawn mower?”

The answer is no. Mowing shorter does not reduce damage from snow mold, and mowing higher does not improve insulating properties of a taller grass. The best recommendation is maintain the recommended

mowing height all the way up to the last mowing of the season.

As long as you stay at a height of 3 to 3.5 inches for most cool season grasses, your lawn will be fine.

Information: 379-1665. .

— Extension educator Mike Ferree

Recommended reading “When She Woke: A Novel,” by Hillary Jordan Inspired by “The Scarlet Letter,” this is a stunning, suspenseful and scary look at what happens to Hannah Payne when she is arrested and convicted of having an abortion in a futuristic America.

Her punishment is to become a “chrome,” a criminal whose skin color is genetically altered to reflect her crime.

Hannah becomes a Red for the crime of

murder, and she further complicates her situation by refusing to name the father of her unborn child. Once chromed, she is released and must survive as best she can.

Her navigation through the perils of a hostile society launches Hannah on a journey of self-discovery and makes readers question the consequences of politicizing the personal.

— Viewpoint Books

Beauty bits What’s the proper way to apply liquid liner?

To apply liquid eyeliner, line the eye from the inside of the lashes outward in one big sweep. You can also line the eye from the middle of the lash line outward, and then finish the line from the inner corner of the eye to the middle.

Another liquid eyeliner trick requires a steady hand and will make eyes appear wider: •Start with a completely bare eye.

•On the upper lashes, dot the liquid liner into the spaces between the lashes, wiggling the liner into the lashes. The result is not supposed to be a line. It’s supposed to look as if the lashes themselves are super thick at the root.

•Apply mascara.

•Compare to other naked eye.

— www.beauty.about.com

Healthy habits Sleep is important — all that much more around the holidays when stress levels rise.

Try these tips for battling insomnia: • Wake up at the same time each day.

• Eliminate stimulants, such as nicotine, caffeine and alcohol.

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• Limit daytime naps.

• Exercise regularly.

• Don’t drink or eat right before hitting the sheets.

• Make your sleep environment comfortable and distraction-free.

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