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Tina Sordellini Managing Executive Editor

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Let me start by saying that what I am going to tell you is something that, at first, you might think was better suited for last month’s issue. But if you stick with me for a few minutes, you’ll realize why I am telling you about this now instead.

The first time I met Beverly McClellan was about 15 years ago, in my wild days. It was back in the glory days of South Florida’s lesbian bar called The Otherside. I had been working for a lesbian magazine for a while and it was the best place in town for a single gal to start her evening out. Like I said, these were my wild days. I was a young thirty years old and was really only interested in partying and playing the field as much as possible.

Now Bev, she was a wild one as well. In many cases, she seemed almost larger than life to me. She was very talented, but since her wild side tended to seep into drama, we weren’t much more than acquaintances with a mutual friend or two. I was more of a silent observer in the background.

As the years went by, I saw Bev here and there at events. I loved her as a musician, but shied away from the dramatic parts of her life. And then, I saw her audition for The Voice. Admittedly, as the weeks went by, I became glued to the TV for every episode, especially the ones when Bev was on. Of course, each time I was blown away by her voice and stage presence, just like so many others across the country. My gut told me from day one that she would get far in the competition and, because of my knowledge of the history of her home base of J’s Bar, I immediately and continually appreciated the irony of her being on team Christina. But something very interesting happened the week that it was down to Bev vs. Frenchie Davis and stuck with me right on through the final winner was announced. This Bev was not the Bev I met 15 years ago and had seen through the years. This was a new Bev. This was a Bev that had grown and blossomed, not only in talent but also in courage, wisdom and spirit.

It takes a huge amount of courage and self-love to be willing to get on a stage in front of millions of people—whose job is to be your judge—being openly gay, larger than life, bald headed, tattoo covered, wearing stunning men’s clothing and basically saying, “This is me and I am not going to be anyone else just to make you like me.” Not only did she win people over with her massive talent, but for many, including me, she blew people away with her heart, larger than life personality and grace. And in those final moments, when she cheered out loud as they announced Dia Frampton’s name with Javier instead of hers, she brought tears to my eyes. It takes a really big person to be that thrilled for someone else’s success under those circumstances. For me, in that moment, Bev had won it all. For me, Bev achieved something far greater than anyone else on that stage.

That final night, tears rolled down my cheeks as I thought about the countless people— gay, straight, old and young—whose lives she will have changed with her courage and grace.

Title or not, I know Beverly McClellan will be filling stadiums and topping charts. My hat is off to Ms. McClellan. I may have met the wild girl, but I am truly proud to have watched her represent this community as the remarkably incredible woman she has become. You don’t need to have the title of “The Voice,” to succeed when you have achieved the title of “The Inspiration.”

See you next month!

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DEPARTMENTS

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The Real L Word Season 2

Movies, Music, DVDs & TV

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Gets recognized by Congress

26 SHE GIRL

35 WHAT THEY SAID ABOUT...

28 JUST 4 FUN

New York marriage equality

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Opening in limited release on July 15 is Snow Flower and the Secret Fan, A two-tiered story set in present-day Shanghai and 19th century China. As longtime friends Nina and Sophia balance careers, husbands, and families, they look to the past to understand their ancestral connection as evidenced by the story of Snow Flower and Lily, a pair of sevenyear-old girls who are matched as laotong — or “old sames,” friends who are closer than husband and wife and are bound together for eternity. Stars Bingbing Li, Gianna Jun and Vivian Wu.

Are you part of a gay or lesbian family with children? If so, Fomo Films is looking for you! They are looking for pictures of gay and lesbian families to use in the documentary UNFIT: the Ward vs. Ward Story.

These pictures will be used towards the end of the film. They are looking for pictures like you would include in a holiday card. They can be portraits or they can be snapshots. They need to show the family unit with two moms or two dads. Pictures need to be hi-resolution. For more information, please contact info@fomofilms.com.

It’s time to admit a newfound obsession with The Ghost Whisperer, starring Jennifer Love Hewitt. The series ran from 20052010, boasting co-stars Aisha Taylor and Camryn Manheim along the way. Melinda Gordon, is a woman born with the gift of being able to see and speak with the dead. While there was a bit of a running storyline in the background, each episode holds its own, as Melinda uses her gift to help spirits settle their issues here and crossover into the light.

While you can’t see new episodes, the entire series is available on DVD as well as playing in order daily on Syfi Network.

The married lesbian duo of Sugarbeach, has released two chart topping albums and have won three Pride in Arts awards. Their 2010 gay anthem, “Living Out Proud” won song of the year, was the most requested song of 2010 on the GLBT Outvoice Top 40 Charts and has spent 19 months in the Top Ten. They are also the creators/producers of RightOutTV.com, the web’s first LGBTQ music video channel streaming 24-7 and promoting out artists from around the world. Sugarbeach will also be performing their new anthem “Come On Out” the official song of the 2011 Outgames at this year’s event.

If you’ve been looking for a social network site exclusively for women who love other women the check out Lezzbook.com. It is designed to become a local meeting place for all women. There you can post or participate in discussions, post and view events in your local area, share pictures with your friends or even find a hottie! The great thing about Lezzbook.com is that you have the privacy to be yourself without worry of straight friends, family or co-workers seeing your communication. Add pictures, content, music and videos with the profile page design of your choice.

July marks the return of two super TNT shows.

In The Closer, Deputy Police Chief Brenda Johnson (Kira Sedgwick) runs the Priority Homicide Division of the LAPD with an unorthodox style. Her innate ability to read people and obtain confessions helps her and her team solve the city’s toughest, most sensitive cases.

The new season of The Closer begins on July 11 at 9pm on TNT. Then at 10pm is the return of Rizzoli & Isles, based on the novels by Tess Gerritsen, starring Angie Harmon, as police detective Jane Rizzoli and Sasha Alexander as medical examiner Dr. Maura Isles.

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NOT TO BE MISSED: The search to find artists for season 2 of The Voice starts this summer across the nation, and is coming to a town near you. Solo artists and duos that perform all types of music, auditions for season 2 will be sweeping the nation beginning this month! For more info visit nbcthevoice.com

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IN THE NEWS PORTRAIT OF GAY AMERICA AT PRESS TIME:

AS OF JUNE 23RD, THE WILLIAMS INSTITUTE (UCLA SCHOOLS OF LAW), A LEADING THINK TANK IN THE FIELD OF SEXUAL ORIENTATION AND GENDER IDENTITY-RELATED ISSUES IN LAW AND PUBLIC POLICY, STARTED RELEASING LOCAL-LEVEL CENSUS 2010 STATISTICS ON SAME-SEX COUPLES LIVING IN CALIFORNIA, WYOMING, DELAWARE, KANSAS, PENNSYLVANIA, HAWAII, ALASKA, COLORADO, CONNECTICUT, NEBRASKA & NORTH CAROLINA. THE NEXT STATES WILL BE RELEASED ON JULY 14TH. FOR MORE DETAILED DATA PER STATE AND UPDATES, VISIT SHEMAG.COM

CALIFORNIA

PENNSYLVANIA Total state population 37,253,956 SAME-SEX COUPLES 125, 516 Same-sex Couples per 1,000 households 9.98 PROPORTIONS OF SAME-SEX COUPLES BY SEX AND CHILDREARING (adjusted) FEMALE 53% / 66, 535 MALE 47% / 58, 981

RAISING CHILDREN 21% / 26,265 NOT RAISING CHILDREN 79% / 99, 251 TOP 5 CITIES among those with more than 50 same-sex couples (ranked by same-sex couples per 1,000 households): Palm Springs, Guerneville, West Hollywood, Rancho Mirage and Cathedral City

Total state population 12,702,379 SAME-SEX COUPLES 33,602 Same-sex Couples per 1,000 households 5.55 PROPORTIONS OF SAME-SEX COUPLES BY SEX AND CHILDREARING (adjusted) FEMALE 63% / 31,282 MALE 37% / 12,320

RAISING CHILDREN 20% / 6,624 NOT RAISING CHILDREN 80% / 26,978 TOP 5 CITIES among those with more than 50 same-sex couples (ranked by same-sex couples per 1,000 households): New Hope, Lansdowne, Wilkinsburg, Harrisburg and Morrisville .

HAWAII

KANSAS

Total state population 1,360,301 SAME-SEX COUPLES 4,248 Same-sex Couples per 1,000 households 9.33 PROPORTIONS OF SAME-SEX COUPLES BY SEX AND CHILDREARING (adjusted) FEMALE 53% / 2,252 MALE 47% / 1,996

Total state population 2,853,118 SAME-SEX COUPLES 6,176 Same-sex Couples per 1,000 households 5.55 PROPORTIONS OF SAME-SEX COUPLES BY SEX AND CHILDREARING (adjusted) FEMALE 71% / 4,356 MALE 29% / 1,820

RAISING CHILDREN 26% / 1,593 NOT RAISING CHILDREN 74% / 4,583 TOP 5 CITIES among those with more than 50 same-sex couples: Merriam, Lawrence, Leawood, Prairie Village, Gardner SHE -

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RAISING CHILDREN 23% / 976 NOT RAISING CHILDREN 77% / 3,272 TOP 5 CITIES among those with more than 50 same-sex couples: Wailea, Hawaiian P., Wailuku, Kihea and Kailua

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DELAWARE

Total state population 897,934 SAME-SEX COUPLES 3,352 Same-sex Couples per 1,000 households 9.79 PROPORTIONS OF SAME-SEX COUPLES

BY SEX AND CHILDREARING (adjusted) FEMALE 60% / 2,005 MALE 40% / 1,347

RAISING CHILDREN 19% / 643 NOT RAISING CHILDREN 81% / 2,709 TOP 5 CITIES among those with more than 50 same-sex couples: Rehonoth Beach, Edgemoor, Wilmongton, Middletown and Bear

COLORADO

Total state population 5, 029,196 SAME-SEX COUPLES 16,114 Same-sex Couples per 1,000 households 8.17 Proportions of samesex couples by sex and childrearing (adjusted) FEMALE 64% / 10,274 MALE 36% / 5,840

RAISING CHILDREN 19% / 3,014 NOT RAISING CHILDREN 81% / 13,100 TOP 5 CITIES among those with more than 50 same-sex couples: Denver, Lafayette, Boulder, Welby and Englewood

Total state population 563,626 SAME-SEX COUPLES 1,147 Same-sex Couples per 1,000 households 5.06 PROPORTIONS OF SAME-SEX COUPLES

BY SEX AND CHILDREARING (adjusted) FEMALE 73% / 833 MALE 27% / 314

WYOMING

RAISING CHILDREN 28% / 316 NOT RAISING CHILDREN 72% / 831 TOP 5 CITIES among those with more than 50 same-sex couples: Riverton, Rocksprings, Cheyenne, Casper and Laramie

CONNECTICUT

Total state population 3,576,097 SAME-SEX COUPLES 10,747 Same-sex Couples per 1,000 households 7.84Proportions of same-sex couples by sex and child-rearing (adjusted) FEMALE 64% / 6,838 MALE 36% / 3,909

RAISING CHILDREN 20% / 2,122 NOT RAISING CHILDREN 80% / 8,625 TOP 5 CITIES among those with more than 50 same-sex couples: New London, West Hartford, New Haven, Manchester and Middletown

N. CAROLINA

Total state population 9,535,483 SAME-SEX COUPLES 10,747 Same-sex Couples per 1,000 households 7.84 Proportions of same-sex couples by sex and child-rearing (adjusted) FEMALE 64% / 6,838 MALE 36% / 3,909 RAISING CHILDREN 20% / 2,122 NOT RAISING CHILDREN 80% / 8,625 TOP 5 CITIES among those with more than 50 same-sex couples: New London, West Hartford, New Haven, Manchester and Middletown

NEBRASKA

Total state population 1,826,341 SAME-SEX COUPLES 3,749 Same-sex Couples per 1,000 households 5.20 Proportions of samesex couples by sex and child-rearing (adjusted) FEMALE 71% / 2, 671 MALE 29% / 1,078

RAISING CHILDREN 22% / 833 NOT RAISING CHILDREN 78% / 2,916 TOP 5 CITIES among those with more than 50 same-sex couples: Omaha, Lincoln, Kearney, Bellevue and Grand Island

FOR MORE DETAILED DATA PER STATE AND UPDATES, VISIT SHEMAG.COM

DATA AND METHODOLOGY: Data are compiled from PCT 15 (Husbandwife and unmarried-partner households), Census 2010 SF-1. Same-sex couples are identified in households where Person 1 describes his or her relationship with another adult of the same sex as either a “husband/ wife” or “unmarried partner”. The reported number of same-sex couples in the state and the associated figure for same-sex couples per 1,000 households are based on official Census tabulations.

ADJUSTED DATA: All other data used in the report are adjusted figures and do not represent official Census Bureau tabulations. The adjustment procedure accounts for the likelihood that a small portion of different-sex SHE -

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married couples miscode the sex of a spouse and are incorrectly counted as a same-sex couple. It also takes into account the possibility that some same-sex couples may not be counted in Census tabulations due to concerns about confidentiality or because neither partner was Person 1 in the household.

ABOUT THE AUTHORS: Gary J. Gates, PhD is the Williams Distinguished Scholar at the Williams Institute, UCLA School of Law. Abigail M. Cooke is a PhD candidate in the Department of Geography at UCLA and is affiliated with the California Center for Population Research.

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You probably need a vacation – most Americans do. But what kind?

Staycation? You know you’ll end up watching reruns and cleaning the garage. Family trip with your “black socks and man sandals” brother-inlaw? Yeah, we’re not convinced either. Fabulous lesbian cruise or allwoman, all-inclusive resort vacation?

Now we’re getting somewhere.

If you’ve ever heard the words “lesbian” and “vacation” together, you’ve probably heard of Olivia. In the last 21 years, Olivia has taken over 100,000 lesbians on vacation, and along the way, they’ve made a lot of lesbians very, very happy. 98% of their travelers leave grinning and vow to return. (We heard the other 2% simply refuse to leave.)

Part of the off-the-charts happiness is because Olivia always charters the whole ship or buys out the whole resort so Olivia guests are the only guests. This means you can be out and free every minute of the day.

You’re not part of a small group on a huge straight cruise. You’re not crowded into the “lesbian-friendly corner” of the resort pool. Olivia knows that even if you down the entire mini-bar contents, you won’t have fun if the family in the next room spends the week screaming nonstop at their kids, or the frat boys in the cabin above you are entertaining every night.

Why share your precious vacation with them?

On an Olivia vacation, every night is “Ladies’ Night”—It’s your vacation, and Olivia knows it should be your ship or your resort. An Olivia vacation is one of the only times you’ll be in the majority for a whole week, and what a week it is!

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magic acts you find on standard cruises disappear. Instead, you’ll enjoy comedians like Kate Clinton and Julie Goldman, who you can catch on Olivia’s January 2012 Western Caribbean Cruise out of Tampa, FL. On an Olivia vacation, you’ll see up-and-coming lesbian singers and meet filmmakers, actresses, authors, top chefs and more. Most of the entertainers and special guests are onboard or at the resort all week— they call bingo, MC the all-female Oldywed/Newlywed Game, or encourage you to belly flop into a pool of lesbians during the wet-n-wacky pool games. Sounds better than the “Hairiest Back on the Lido Deck” contest, doesn’t it?

Dislike being on a boat? Try an all-inclusive resort. Love Europe?

Take an upscale riverboat cruise. Feel the urge to meet a blue-footed boobie? Check out the Galápagos adventure. From spas to scuba diving, from Alaska to Tahiti, there’s an Olivia trip for every stripe of the rainbow.

But, you say, what if the trip doesn’t have my type of lesbian? The last Olivia cruise was filled with 1,800 lesbians aged 21 to 93. It’s not all cargo shorts and Crocs, nor is it all pinstripes and pinup girls, though you’ll see a bit of both. Rock your mohawk or your mullet – everyone is welcome. Plus, Olivia’s diversity program—Olivia’s Sisters at Sea & Sisters at Play—provides a great way for African American, Latina, Asian and other women of color to meet, mingle and enjoy special programming. The diversity might just end up being your favorite part of the trip.

With anywhere from 50 to 2,000 women per Olivia trip, you are sure to make new friends. Couples can reconnect with a commitment ceremony, couples’ spa treatments and romantic sunset sails. They don’t call it “The Lesbian Love Boat” for nothing! Single travelers are warmly

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welcomed into the Solos Program, which is filled with hundreds of women mixing, mingling, and spending the day together snorkeling or seeing the sights. Olivia’s Solos Coordinators are there to make sure all you single women have your best vacation ever.

Like to do good in the world? Olivia has been giving back wherever they go for over 21 years. Their Costa Rica travelers raised enough money to spay or neuter 140 animals in Playa De Coco and donated 14 huge bags of school supplies to local schools. Whether it’s bringing binoculars and birding supplies to an indigenous women’s project in Baja or year-round partnerships with organizations like NCLR, GLAAD, and HRC, warmth and generosity are the norm. And who doesn’t like to be around warm, generous people?

Curious about Olivia’s magical, fun, relaxing and romantic vacations?

HOP ONBOARD THEIR WESTERN CARIBBEAN CRUISE (JANUARY 29-FEBRUARY 5, 2012) DEPARTING OUT OF TAMPA, FL. You’ll experience a week of freedom surrounded by 1,300 lesbians, with entertainment including Kate Clinton, Vickie Shaw, Julie Goldman, and Gina Yashere.

ITINERARY: Sunday, Jan 29th • Tampa, Florida late departure at 10PM aboard the ms Ryndam.

Mon, Jan 30th • At Sea Tues, Jan 31st • Cozumel, Mexico 8AM - 5PM Wed, Feb 1st • Mahogany Bay, Roatan Honduras 10AM - 9PM Thur, Feb 2nd • Belize City, Belize 8AM - 5PM Fri, Feb 3rd • Costa Maya, Mexico 7AM - 3PM Sat, Feb 4th • At Sea Sun, Feb 5th • Tampa, Florida 7AM Visit Olivia online for bookings, air travel, hotel information and other necessary information or call 800.6316277. The only hard part of your Olivia vacation will be that first jolting step back into reality!

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Showtime’s The Real L Word… you either love it or hate it. The new cast (Whitney, Claire, Romi, Francine, Sajdah, Cori & Kacy)… you either love them or hate them.

Now in its second season, TRLW brings a new group of girls living in Los Angeles, along with season one’s unforgettable Whitney and Romi (Whitney’s sort of ex-girlfriend), in what seems to be a more dynamic season, with more real issues for lesbian couples like looking for a sperm donor, financial issues, ex-ex girlfriends, nudity and plenty of drama!

We spoke to some of the new cast mem-

bers prior to the show’s premiere last June 5th.

Right after the first episode the viewers were quick with their opinions on the social networks.

If you don’t have Showtime, don’t worry, the DVD will come out towards the end of the year and you will catch up. For now, get to know some of the new girls on the block.

CORI & KACY Cori and Kacy have been together for five years, legally married for two, and are now ready to start a family. It’s an emotional journey without a roadmap.

YOU GIRLS ARE DEFINITELY PEOPLE’S FAVORITE AND MINE TOO. IS WANTING A BABY SOMETHING THAT CAME UP RECENTLY OR YOU HAVE BEEN PLANNING IT FOR A WHILE?

Kacy: Well, first I’d like to say thank you. Cori and I have been married for coming up on three years, and starting a family was always a planned next step. We knew we wanted kids and had discussed it very early on in our relationship.

Last year we sat down, looked at our life and tried to determine if we were ready. We wanted to enjoy our kids while we were younger and had more time and energy.

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YOU ARE BOTH ENTERTAINMENT EXECUTIVES, AS YOUR BIO READS. WHAT EXACTLY DOES THAT MEAN. WHAT DO YOU DO?

Kacy: I have worked in the Home Entertainment industry in Worldwide Marketing Production for the last four years. I oversee the production of Home Entertainment products distributed by my company. It’s like air traffic control - moving pieces around to make sure everything gets where it needs to go. I have recently made the switch to marketing, which is a larger scope, but I still oversee and manage moving pieces.

WHERE DID YOU GET MARRIED?

IS WORKING IN THE SAME FIELD A BENEFIT FOR THE RELATIONSHIP, OR NOT?

Kacy: The first time we got married, we had a tiny ceremony at the LAX Courthouse. We got engaged after two years of dating and a month later, they lifted the ban on gay marriage. I am so grateful we [got married].

Kacy: Working in the same field is hit or miss for a relationship. We initially started out in totally different worlds. But once we both settled into similar positions, it was a new world of nights and weekends to-

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gether. It was like rediscovering each other all over again.

BEING IN A SOLID 5-YEAR RELATIONSHIP, WHAT’S YOUR TAKE ON THE OTHER GIRLS’ EX-GIRLFRIEND & EX-EX-GIRLFRIEND ORDEALS?

Kacy: After five years, it’s hard for me to remember being with anyone else. I mean, I can remember the person and perhaps some negative emotions, but the reality is, my life truly began when I met Cori.

Cori: I can completely relate to the girlfriend drama some of the other girls are going through. We have all been there. If I would have had cameras following me seven years ago, mine would be a completely different story then what it is now.

DID YOU LEARN ANYTHING NEW ABOUT YOURSELVES AS INDIVIDUALS & AS A COUPLE FROM DOING THE SHOW?

Kacy: We learned that sex shops are not the place to look for female-centric pregnancy aids!

Mainly, that all of the things we thought about our relationship are true - we are strong and our commitment to each other runs very deep.

We have had some really tough times caught on camera, but we always turn to each other for strength and support.

Cori: I learned that I am a lot more open than I thought. I thought I would have a harder time opening up and letting people in. As a couple, the show brought us even closer. A few people warned us that the show might be hard on our relationship. It was exactly the opposite. It strengthened our relationship.

WHAT HAS BEEN THE HARDEST DECISION TO MAKE SO FAR WHEN IT COMES TO THE BABY AND WOULD YOU CONSIDER ADOPTION?

Kacy: The hardest decision is always where to get the sperm. Lesbians need this to make a baby. It had to come from somewhere. Adoption is always a question that comes up, but what most people don’t realize is that there is no way around it. I will have to adopt my children legally because I will not be their birth mother. It just seems so odd that people would even bring up the idea of adoption when Cori is not infertile. It’s not like that is the only option, and it’s not like Gay adoption is easy, straightforward, cheaper, or comes with any less difficultly than

trying to make a child of our own. Straight couples are not deemed selfish for wanting to have children of their own, and when straight couples are trying to get pregnant, people don’t automatically throw out the idea of adoption in the same time period.

Cori: In the beginning the hardest part was deciding whether to use an anonymous donor or a friend. We struggled with that for a long time and we were both on opposite sides of the fence.

I will definitely consider adoption in the future.

I would love to adopt our second child. But I also have the desire to experience the miracle of birth myself. It hurts a bit to hear that I am selfish for wanting this life experience.

SINCE YOU ARE LOOKING TO START A FAMILY, WHAT’S YOU TAKE ON A COUPLE OF CATHOLIC DIOCESES IN ILLINOIS ENDING THEIR ADOPTION AND FOSTER-CARE PROGRAMS JUST BECAUSE A NEW LAW IN THAT STATE WILL REQUIRE FOR THEM TO PLACE CHILDREN WITH GAY AND UNMARRIED COUPLES?

Kacy: It’s no secret that I was raised Catholic, and still appreciate some of the traditions that were passed down to me. There are some really beautiful practices there, but on a whole, most Christian-based religions have an aversion to sexuality - hetero or homo. They see the sin in bodies, and they condemn - at will - any transgressor. If you were to ask me to be blunt, I would say that the dioceses that have suspended their programs have done a major disservice to those children - because they assume a very narrow viewpoint of what love is or can be. Because at the end of the day, they are not dispelling homosexuality, nor are they encouraging straight couples to engage in traditional bonds of marriage. They are denying love.

SAJDAH She’s new to LA as well, having just moved from Washington D.C. Articulate and opinionated, Saj isn’t shy about making friends or speaking out on behalf of the gay community through activist work.

YOU HAVE A GREAT PERSONALITY AND ARE ADORABLE. I AM GLAD TO SEE THE AFRICANAMERICAN GAY WOMEN BEING REPRE-

SENTED ON THE SHOW. WHAT WAS YOUR AUDITIONING PROCESS LIKE?

There was actually a young woman that I was interested in, and while she was less into me than I desired, she was a huge fan of the show.

So in order to gain more of her attention, I submitted an email to the casting directors expressing my interest. It opened with something like, “If Ellen and P. Diddy somehow had a daughter, that Kanye West babysat, I would be her! Saj Golde...what’s a rainbow without Golde!” Cheesy.

I know. But they bought it! (laughs) I UNDERSTAND YOU CAME OUT ABOUT A YEAR AGO, OR AS YOUR BIO SAYS YOU “RECENTLY WENT BUTCH.” HOW WAS THE COMING OUT PROCESS FOR YOU?

Wow. Actually. I developed a crush on a girl so we started hanging out and I quickly realized that what I felt for her was much different than what I had ever felt for any guy. The next day, I was calling my mom to tell her I was taking a girl out to dinner.

IT IS NICE TO SEE THE RELATIONSHIP YOU HAVE WITH YOUR MOM, WAS IT ALWAYS THAT GREAT THAT YOU ARE ABLE TO SPEAK TO HER ABOUT WHEN YOU GO ON DATES, ETC.?

Yes! My mother is my very best friend! I can, and have always been able to talk to her about everything! Now, my original conversations about women weren’t initially comfortable, but they happened just slower than most.

BESIDES THE OBVIOUS REASONS, WHAT MADE YOU WANT TO BECOME AN ACTIVIST AND FIGHT FOR GAY MARRIAGE?

For the most part, it was because I woke up one day and realized that I didn’t have a right that I once had! Being a woman of African decent, my rights have been decided at least twice before now. This was my opportunity to fight for myself!

I DO SEE YOU AS A FUTURE LGBT COMMUNITY LEADER. WHAT DO YOU SEE FOR YOURSELF IF YOU STAY AN ACTIVIST?

The possibilities are endless! I’ve always wanted to be a catalyst in my community, leave the world a better place than I found it! As for LGBT concerns specifically, we’ll just have to see. Two years ago, I wouldn’t have been able to tell you that I would be doing what I’m doing today.

WE MUST TALK ABOUT CHANEL, WHO IS SIM-

“I WOKE UP ONE DAY AND REALIZED THAT I DIDN’T HAVE A RIGHT THAT I ONCE HAD! BEING A WOMAN OF AFRICAN DECENT, MY RIGHTS HAVE BEEN DECIDED AT LEAST TWICE BEFORE NOW. THIS WAS MY OPPORTUNITY TO FIGHT FOR MYSELF!” —Sajdah SHE -

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“I WOULD SAY THAT THE DIOCESES THAT HAVE SUSPENDED THEIR PROGRAMS HAVE DONE A MAJOR DISSERVICE TO THOSE CHILDREN— BECAUSE THEY ASSUME A VERY NARROW VIEWPOINT OF WHAT LOVE IS OR CAN BE.” —Kacy

“AS A COUPLE, THE SHOW BROUGHT US EVEN CLOSER. A FEW PEOPLE WARNED US THAT THE SHOW MIGHT BE HARD ON OUR RELATIONSHIP. IT WAS EXACTLY THE OPPOSITE.” —Cori

“I WAS TIRED ALL THE TIME AND SO ANNOYED THAT SHE WOULD SPEND SO MUCH TIME TELLING ME HOW SHE NEEDED SEX. NO ONE WANTS TO GIVE SOMEONE SEX WHO IS BEGGING FOR IT.” —Romi

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and yet a very common problem in relationships, gay or straight.

WE DEFINITELY CANNOT LEAVE OUT KELSEY RAISING THE RED FLAG ABOUT THE SEX. HOW ARE YOU HANDLING THAT?

Kelsey and I used to not be able to keep our hands off of each other. We were passionate and in love. I’m not some cold bitch who does not want to give my girlfriend sex. I was tired from working so much and I was filming the show and trying to please so many people including Kelsey. I was tired all the time and so annoyed that she would spend so much time telling me how she needed sex. No one wants to give someone sex who is begging for it. It’s not attractive. I felt like I had to. Maybe I needed a friend at the time and not a girlfriend?

ANOTHER ASPECT THAT GRABBED ME WAS THE FACT THAT YOUR GIRLFRIEND, AS SHE PUT IT, IS “NEEDY” AND PROFESSIONALLY YOU ARE PLY GORGEOUS. IT WAS NICE TO SEE HER BE A PART OF YOUR ACTIVISM. HOW IS THE RELATIONSHIP GOING?

Chanel is a beautiful human being, both inside and out! As for the relationship, it’s a relationship, so it has its ups and downs. You’re gonna have to tune in and ride the coaster as I do!

has helped Romi manage life in the past but it’s become a toxic medicine.

I AM GLAD PRODUCERS DECIDED TO BRING

WERE YOU BOTH ALWAYS SO COMFORTABLE

YOU BACK, NOT ONLY TO SEE THAT YOU ARE OVER WHITNEY BUT YOU HAVE OTHER STORIES TO TELL. LOVE SEEING YOUR MOM AS PART OF THE SHOW AND YOUR RELATION-

ABOUT BEING OPEN ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP ON THE SHOW?

SHIP WITH HER. WAS IT PLANNED FOR HER TO BE IN THE SHOW?

(laughs) Imagine all the awkwardness of meeting someone new and getting to know them while simultaneously allowing the world to get to know you. Just writing that was uncomfortable!

I was excited to be asked back to the show and get the chance to share a little bit more of my life. I have so many more stories to tell other than being someone’s girlfriend. My mom is a huge a part of my life and I was so happy when she agreed to share our life with the show. When Showtime decided to film my life, I had to have her in it because she is my life.

THIS SEASON SEEMS MORE DYNAMIC AND YES, THERE ARE THE SEX SCENES AND NUDITY. DO YOU FEEL THEY WERE NECESSARY AND WHY DID YOU AGREE TO HAVING YOURS AS PART OF THE SHOW.

Sex is a part of life and therefore a part of lesbian life, but there’s more to my life and story than what happens in my bedroom.

WHAT ARE YOU DOING NEXT?

Currently, I am working on a hip-hop inspired marriage equality campaign in hopes of gaining more support for same-sex couples from communities of color. This is sort of my passion project, so it’s slow moving but ultimately will contribute to an overall goal of reducing antiLGBT prejudice everywhere!

ROMI Romi made a strong impression during season one and is back with her almost one-year relationship with Kelsey. A social butterfly, alcohol

AT THIS TIME, WE HAVE ONLY SEEN TWO EPISODES OF THE SHOW. ONE SIDE OF YOUR STORY I FEEL READERS WILL IDENTIFY WITH YOU IS THE FINANCIAL SITUATION WITH YOUR GIRLFRIEND. ASSUMING YOU GIRLS ARE STILL TOGETHER AFTER FILMING, HOW ARE YOU DEALING WITH THAT?

I wish that money was never an issue but unfortunately it can put a lot of stress on a relationship. I was the one making the money and taking care of us in the relationship. Kelsey had part-time jobs and could take care of herself a little but most of the responsibility is on me. It’s hard. I love her and I want to make it work but I need some help. I’m working like a maniac and all she wants to do is ask for sex. I was beat and started resenting her in ways. I know it is sad

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GOING AFTER WHAT YOU WANT AND THAT TAKES A LOT OF YOUR TIME. HAS KELSEY BEEN SUPPORTIVE ABOUT YOUR GOALS?

Kelsey is very needy. She needs a lot of attention and she deserves it. I just was not in the place to give her all that attention. It was time to start growing up for me and start getting my life together. I know it may look selfish to the viewers but I have lived for so many relationships in my past and I was not going to do it anymore.

Kelsey has always been my number one supporter. She just does not really get what it is I want right now out of life. It is not always fun and sex. You have to be a team.

THIS SEASON SEEMS MORE DYNAMIC AND YES, THERE ARE THE SEX SCENES AND NUDITY. I KNOW IT’S CABLE, BUT DO YOU FEEL THEY WERE NECESSARY AND WHY DID YOU AGREE TO HAVING YOURS AS PART OF THE SHOW.

I am very comfortable with my body. The original L Word had so much sex in it and that is what honestly helped me figure out I was a lesbian. It made it real, normal and ok. Sex is sex. It’s a part of life and being in love. If you are going to film me and my life… well, I do I get naked and I do have sex.

Yes people, I do have sex! I like that I am part of a network like Showtime that doesn’t have so many boundaries as to what they can show.

DID YOU LEARN ANYTHING NEW ABOUT YOURSELF THIS TIME?

Yes! I have struggled with a drinking problem my whole life and once cameras were in my life, I was not able to hide it anymore. Kelsey had known that my battle with drinking was getting worse and when we started filming I woke up after a really bad night and said no more! If the

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show had not been there, I don’t know that I would have stopped as quickly as I did. It made me look at an issue I had been avoiding for years.

karma, I never meant harm to the girls, which is why I never chose to be in a relationship at the time. So I’m not sure if it’s karma, but yes, this “wild child” can be vulnerable too (laughs).

HOW DO YOU FEEL WITH THIS CAST AND HOW IS IT DIFFERENT FOR YOU FROM SEASON ONE?

WE’VE LEARNED YOU HAVE BECOME A PRO-

I love the cast. I think they got it right. I am very close to the original cast. This season though we really have this young diverse group of women who really open themselves up. I think what makes the biggest difference is the fact that we are all friends and our lives are intertwined. I feel this season looks more like the original show. The stories go a lot deeper.

MOTER FOR A WOMEN’S NIGHT IN WEST HOLLYWOOD. WAS THAT AN OBVIOUS STEP FOR YOU?

Somewhat, yes. I go out a lot and enjoy my social life for sure. So if I can be part of a new night of bringing different groups of women together than I’m about it. My job doesn’t suck,that’s for sure!

THIS SEASON SEEMS MORE DYNAMIC AND YES, THERE ARE THE SEX SCENES AND

WHAT’S NEXT FOR YOU?

I am working on my fashion blog tenderomi.com and my jewelry line, Hija Por Vida. I’m staying sober and taking life one day at a time.

WHITNEY Returning from season one, Whitney is the untamed lover of life. An undeniable woman magnet, her life is a complicated web of friends and exes, and exes who are friends. By far the biggest complication is Sara—the temptation Whitney just can’t seem to resist.But beyond the girl drama, Whitney is making 2011 her year to re-focus on her creative passions and give back to the community.

“I HAVE BEEN ASKED AFTER SEASON 1 IF I REGRETTED THE SCENE WITH ROMI, AND TO THIS I SAY, WOULD YOU ASK ME THE SAME QUESTION IF I WAS A MAN?” —Whitney

WELCOME BACK. THIS MIGHT BE ALSO A QUESTIONS FOR THE PRODUCERS, BUT WHY DO YOU THINK THEY BROUGHT YOU BACK

HOW DO YOU FEEL WITH THIS CAST AND HOW IS IT DIFFERENT?

One of the things I’m most grateful in gaining from this experience is a second family. Most of the girls from Season 1 and I are incredibly close so it was bittersweet in a sense when new women where cast. With getting acquainted with the new girls this season I must say that, again, I am so lucky to be surrounded by such dynamic and amazing people and my Real L Word family has grown even bigger.

DID YOU LEARN ANYTHING NEW ABOUT YOURSELF THIS TIME?

THE NEW GIRLS, OMG! YOU OBVIOUSLY ENJOY THAT DRAMA OR DO YOU SEE IT MORE LIKE A CHALLENGE?

Oh jeez, of course. Through the process alone you learn about yourself and that’s mainly why I even did the show in the first place. It can be pretty challenging at times to see yourself under a microscope. I definitely felt I have grown a lot since the beginning of season 1 and this season I’m definitely taking the training wheels off my relationship potential and trying to get out with no scraped knees.

THERE HAVE BEEN SOME POSTS ON OUR SOCIAL PAGES ABOUT SEEING YOU VULNERABLE AND SOMEWHAT HURT/DISAPPOINTED,

BY SARA IN THIS CASE. I GUESS YOU CAN CALL IT KARMA. HOW DO YOU SEE IT?

(laughs) Karma eh? Well, people have their own opinions for sure and they are allowed. I definitely watch back some episodes from Season 1 and can acknowledge that some of the decisions I made with some of the girls weren’t always the best, but it’s a learning experience. In terms of

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Reality shows have really opened up a whole new world in television and I feel like The Real L Word has opened up a new world in reality TV. I feel lucky to be part of a project that is telling the whole story of our lives, uncensored. Turns out in real life, I have sex, and on top of that my intimate relationships are usually key pieces to the puzzle. I have been asked after Season 1 if I regretted the scene with Romi, and to this I say, would you ask me the same question if I was a man? We are consenting adults who care about one another and I think not only does it add to the story but it is empowering to women to have real “non-porn” sex portrayed.

WHAT’S UP WITH THE EXS, THE EX-EX-EXS &

FOR SEASON 2?

I think when I signed on to be part of this project I made a pledge to myself that I was going to approach it completely uncensored. Whether it’s the kitchen, the bathroom, or the bedroom, my world would be open; as you could see in season 1. I think it allowed my story to click with people because they saw everything from the laughs to the down and dirty and they could relate, or it was like a car wreck that you couldn’t look away from. Either way, it worked.

NUDES. DO YOU FEEL THEY WERE NECESSARY AND WHY DID YOU AGREE TO HAVING YOURS AS PART OF THE SHOW?

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HOW IS YOUR CHARITY WORK GOING?

Good! Im hoping to tie in business and nonprofit to help generate funds for causes I care about through items I create. I’m also really excited about a new project I’m going to be working on making interview style videos of animals in high kill shelters to encourage adoptions. My two biggest goals right now are trying to launch my eco-friendly clothing line, Natural Artifacts, and working on my animal adoption advocacy videos. But I’ll tell you this much....you haven’t seen the end of me yet!

CATCH THE REAL L WORD SEASON 2 FINALE ON JULY 31ST ON SHOWTIME, 10PM.

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OCCUPATION: Photographer

THE CARTOON CHARACTER I AM MOST LIKE: Papa Smurf

DREAM JOB: Bodyguard

I LIKE TO WEAR: Tank tops and boxers

for a celebrity RELATIONSHIP STATUS: Single MY MOTHER THINKS I: Wear my hair way too short DREAM GIRL: A sophisticated, femme, exotic woman TURN-ONS: A pretty smile and a nice backside TURN-OFFS: Negative attitudes SENSITIVE BODY PART: My earlobes SECRET FETISH: Is too x-rated to publish I HAVE A WEAKNESS FOR:

THE LAST THING I PUT ON MY IPOS WAS: Grenade by Bruno Mars I FIRST KISSED A GIRL AT AGE: 19 IF I COULD HAVE ONE WISH GRANTED, I WOULD WISH:

I had a

baby when I was younger IF YOU COULD HAVE ONE SUPER POWER,WHAT WOULD IT BE?:

To make all ignorant people disappear WHAT BREAKFAST CEREAL BEST DESCRIBES YOU?

Captain

Crunch

Straight women with 10 kids

YOUR HOUSE IS ON FIRE. BESIDES A LOVED ONE, WHAT IS THE

IF MY LIFE WERE MADE INTO A MOVIE,MY PART WILL BE PLAYED

My cell phone MY GREATEST ACCOMPLISHMENT: Solving a string of bank robberies when I was a detective

BY:

INANIMATE OBJECT YOU’D GRAB?

IF YOU COULD CHANGE YOUR NAME, WHAT WOULD YOU PICK?:

Frog legs If it is not broke, no need to fix it.

MY FAVORITE TV SHOW: The Real Housewives of New York and American Pickers THE WEIRDEST THING I EVER ATE WAS:

CELEBRITY’S BUTT I’D MOST LIKE TO SQUEEZE:

Nicole

FRENCH FRIES, FRENCH VANILLA, FRENCH TOAST OR FRENCH

Scherzinger I JUST WON A MILLION DOLLARS.THE FIRST THING I AM GOING

THE STRANGEST PLACE I’VE BEEN NAKED:

MANICURE?

French fries

THE LAST MOVIE I WENT TO A THEATER TO SEE WAS:

A Trip to Vegas with all my friends Nowhere. I am very

I THINK OUR COMMUNITY NEEDS: More

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Summertime = frizzy hair and, for some of us, more-than-usual oily skin. Here are some great and very affordable products I personally tested to make this summer a shine & frizz-free one!

PUT THE SHINE AWAY Anytime is good to get rid of dead skin cells. Sephora’s BROWN SUGAR AND APRICOT BODY SCRUB ($18) is just delicious, especially if your girl is rubbing it on you. It leaves your body smelling yummy and feeling smooth. If you are not used to body scrubs, it might feel too waxy at first. Sephora’s MOISTURIZING LOTION ($22) is a great way to prep in the morning, it absorbs quickly.

Summer is the worst for oily skin. I absolutely love and recommend MAC’s OIL CONTROL LOTION ($15). It absorbs quickly and you just need a little for the whole face. It really works. When it comes to foundation, MAC’s STUDIO FIX FLUID ($26.50) is one of the best I have tried. It is very light, nice natural matte finish, long-lasting and absorbs oil. Thumbs up to MAC! Available at Sephora, you can also try Tarina Tarantino’s PEARL GLOW PRIMER ($32). It acts as primer and foundation, too. It works good for oil control. It is a good idea to always carry in your purse BLOTTING PAPERS ($12 for 100) in case you are as obsessive as I am when it comes to putting the shine away. At bedtime, Shephora’s REFRESHING TONER ($12) comes in handy after make up removal. >> sephora.com | >> maccosmetics.com SHE -

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Now in its 4th year and during July and August, Miami celebrates Miami Spa Month where you can enjoy special treatments at its premier spas.

We at She Magazine have taken it over the county line to bring you some signature treatments you should pamper yourself with!

RECOMMENDED SIGNATURE TREATMENTS: • MY SPA: Personalize your experience with myMassage. Choose a relaxing, therapeutic or sports oriented, softer or harder pressure, more concentrated on areas of the body you need worked. At a set price.

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BY MARISSA COHEN

ARE RECOGNIZED IN OFFICIAL CONGRESSIONAL RECORDS FIGHTING FOR THE RIGHTS OF LGBT FAMILIES AND YOUTHS South Florida is a stomping ground for organizations fighting for the rights of LGBT families and youths. Alongside many others, one of our own, the National Voices for Equality, Education, and Enlightenment (NVEEE) is a champion in this fight. Founded in 2009 by Jowharah Sanders, NVEEE was established to empower communities and facilitate open communication surrounding increasing levels of bullying, violence, and suicide among students of all ages, ethnicities, and identities.

Last month, on June 5, NVEEE’s red-carpet fundraiser, “The Art of Liberation”, held at the W Hotel in Washington D.C, was an absolute success which truly propelled the launch of NVEEE’s “Not On My Watch” Anti-Bullying Campaign. NVEEE welcomed entertainment and sports celebrities, elected officials, business and community leaders, educators, and of course teens from across the nation, as they met in our nations capital to kick off its antibullying campaign”, the night was not only a show stopper, it was groundbreaking.

Congresswoman Frederica Wilson’s Chief of Staff, Tasha Cole and Senior Advisor, Keenan Austin paid tribute to NVEEE and its founder, Jowharah Sanders, in Official Congressional Record for its extraordinary work of providing children and families with support services, and for being agents of change. This Proclamation is entered into the Library of Congress and the Congressional Records of the United States.

Special Guests included Director and Screen Actor Morris Chestnut, Television and Screen Actor Omari Hardwick, NFL Player Visanthe Shiancoe of the Minnesota Vikings, BJ Coleman, and celebrated jazz recording artist Art Sherrod, Jr., who offered a heart-rending rendition of “I Believe I Can Fly” by R-Kelly.

Although this star-studded event featured seasoned community leaders and anti-bullying advocates, it was NVEEE’s Teen Mentors and Peace Ambassadors who stole the show.

Teens like, Jacob carpenter, Jamia Barber, Kaylyn Schubert, Ruth Sanders, Brianna Spencer, Josie Lou Ratley, As Omari Hardwick delivered a personalized in-promptu spoken word piece dedicated to NVEEE teens, there wasn’t a dry eye in the room as the crowd roared with excitement and inspiration. Each of the teens received plaques in honor of their unwavering commitment to “being the change (they) want to see in the world”.

This incredible opportunity has made it possible for NVEEE’s Teen Mentors and Peace Ambassadors to introduce their signature “Not On My Watch Bullying & Harassment Prevention Workshop” to the nation. Its Teen Mentors and Peace Ambassadors have created a thoughtprovoking and interactive presentation with proven results. Through NVEEE’s “Not On My Watch Anti-Bullying Campaign”, the message will continue to be heard. [ NVEEE.ORG ]

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Drawing on Sun Tzu’s concepts, she explains these principles in simple yet spiritual language. For example, drawing on the Japanese Zen state of mushin (“no mind”) can help us conquer our fear by allowing it to propel us forward and not hold us back. Thought provoking and inspiring, SUN TZU FOR WOMEN CAN HELP US GROUND AND EMPOWER OURSELVES AND OUR BUSINESSES. Adams Business, $12.95.

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NOTICIAS TASK FORCE, HRC Y UNID@S PRESENTAN NUEVA GUIA EN AMBOS IDIOMAS DIRIGIDA A FAMILIAS E IGLESIAS, “A LA FAMILIA”.

En un esfuerzo por promover el diálogo dentro de las familias e iglesias latinas sobre la orientación sexual, la identidad de género y la Biblia, el National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, la Campaña de Derechos Humanos y UNID@S, presentaron el pasado 29 De Junio una nueva guía bilingüe de 124 paginas, A LA FAMILIA, UNA CONVERSACIÓN SOBRE NUESTRAS FAMILIAS, LA BIBLIA, LA ORIENTACIÓN SEXUAL Y LA IDENTIDAD DE GÉNERO en una conferencia de prensa durante la 82va convención nacional de la Liga de Ciudadanos Latinoamericanos Unidos (LULAC por sus siglas en inglés) en Cincinnati, Ohio.

Las personas lesbianas, gays, bisexuales, transgéneros y transexuales (LGBTT) muchas veces tienen retos únicos dentro de las familias e iglesias latinas. Para ayudar en el proceso de aceptación e inclusion, A La Familia nace de un profundo deseo para integrar fielmente a un grupo excluído de personas a la vida de sus iglesias y familias. Esta guía fue escrita para dos audiencias primarias: personas heterosexuales que honestamente luchan con entender asuntos LGBT y la Biblia, y para aquellos cuya orientación sexual o

identidad de género ha sido utilizada para marginarlos dentro de su familia, su iglesia o ambas.

“Como latinos y latinas, sabemos lo que es vivir bajo la opresión”, dijo el Rev. Dr. Miguel A. De La Torre, co-autor de A La Familia y miembro del Concejo de Religión de HRC. “A

SE CELEBRO CON GRAN EXITO EL MES DEL ORGULLO GAY EN VARIOS PAISES DE LATINOAMERICA CUBA: EL 28 de Junio, un reducido grupo de activistas cubanos independientes protagonizó en La Habana una inusual “marcha-paseo” para celebrar en la calle, por primera vez en la isla, el Día del Orgullo Gay. Este acto se celebró al margen de las actividades culturales que también programó el oficial Centro Nacional de Educación Sexual (Cenesex) que dirige Mariela Castro.

Apenas diez personas participaron en la convocatoria del Observatorio LGBT de Cuba y caminaron por el céntrico Paseo del Prado portando banderas multicolor.

MEXICO, D.F.: El 26 de Junio, un aproximado de 30 mil personas participan en la marcha por el Orgullo Lésbico Gay. Con disfraces, globos, antifaces, banderas, collares, pulseras, gorros y todo aquello en lo que estuvieran impregnados los colores que representan a esa comunidad, los

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La Familia, es nuestro intento de asegurarnos de que nadie sea excluído, nadie sea discriminado y que nadie sea abusado basado en prejuicios. Es un intento, de aquellos que nos llamamos cristianos, a vivir plenamente la buena nueva de nuestra fe”.

“Como cristianos, luchamos cada día por vivir la palabra del Señor. Como latinas y latinos, trabajamos para insertarla en nuestras vidas y familias”, dijo Lisbeth Meléndez Rivera, directora de UNID@S, la Organización Nacional Latina/o LGBT de Derechos Humanos. “A La Familia nos guiará a través de un diálogo ponderado acerca de la integración de la fe, la religión, la orientación sexual y la identidad de género. Los católicos y protestantes, los latinos y Latinas somos gente hospitalaria. Esta guía ayudará a expandir, integrar y hacer crecer a nuestras comunidades y a acabar con la cisma mítica que muchos piensan que nos separa”.

Para bajar una copia de A La Familia, Una Conversación Sobre Nuestras Familias, la Biblia, la Orientación Sexual y la Identidad de Género, visita THETASKFORCE.ORG y busca bajo downloads.

primeros participantes arribaron al Ángel de la Independencia para hacer escuchar “su voz”.

BOGOTA: También el 26 de Junio, miles de personas marcharon en la capital colombiana.

El desfile partió después del mediodía desde un punto al norte de Bogotá y recorrió unas 20 cuadras a lo largo de la famosa carrera séptima hasta llegar a la Plaza de Bolívar.

COSTA RICA: El 26 de Junio, unas 300 personas de la comunidad homosexual de Costa Rica realizaeon una marcha por el centro de San José, que se llegó a extender hasta por cuatro cuadras. En la actividad, donde participaron unas 300 personas, desfilaron comparsas, carrozas y varios transformistas que mostraron su arte a lo largo del Paseo Colón y la Avenida Segunda, donde obtuvieron la atención de transeúntes y conductores

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SOY MUJER

SON COSAS DE LA

GENERACION Siempre me ha resultado fascinante conocer sobre épocas y costumbres pasadas. Cada vez que me encuentro algún documental en la televisión sobre generaciones anteriores, algún descubrimiento arqueológico o alguna momia…me prendo atentamente.

El mes pasado hubieron dos incidentes que trato de llevarlos muy presente. Uno de ellos es ver los avances y los logros de nuestra comunidad LGBT después del logro en el estado de Nueva York a solo 4 días de conmemorarse el 42 aniversario de las redadas que hubo en The Stonewall Inn. La comunidad se junto en ese mismo lugar, pero esta vez para celebrar una victoria.

El otro incidente fue la visita a mis padres, junto a mis hermanos, para celebrar el cumpleaños de mi mamá. Igualmente aprovechamos para turistear en nuestro propio país, Nicaragua.

Mis padres ya están en los 70s & 80s años de edad. Aunque agradecida, no es muy de mi agrado ver cómo ha pasado el tiempo por ellos. No es de mi agrado ver cómo el paso es mas lento, el hablar un tanto enredado, sus facciones van cambiando, la energía va disminuyendo y la edad se va notando. Los observaba y recordaba cuando, en la misma casa, era, más robustos, más ágiles y, para mí, invencibles. Me di cuenta del tiempo que ha pasado sobre ellos… y sobre mí.

También me di cuenta que el exterior cambia pero los modales, la moral, la esencia de la persona y el carácter, entre otras cosas, para nada. Mi mamá siempre has sido la mas fuerte de los dos, mas decidida, mas arriesgada. Mi papá, aunque de carácter j*dido, siempre fue mas calmado. Los miraba y recordaba unos cuantos años atrás. La interacción entre ellos sigue siendo igual, añadiéndole a eso el que ahora están todo el tiempo juntos y en la casa. Ahora ya no hay que salir a trabajar o no hay que ocuparse en otras cosas que no sea el uno del otro y del día a día. Me imagino que lo que antes era pasable o tolerable, se nota más. ¡Y es que lo achaques de la edad no llegan por gusto!

Mis padres llevan un poco más de 50 años de matrimonio. Me pregunto a veces lo que cada uno tuvo que haber soportado del otro. Me pregunto lo que fue o siga siendo de su vida intima, y no precisamente hablo de sexo. Son cosas que a mis 41 años me gustaría saber. No sé si por cosas de generación a mi mamá le de vergüenza contestar, ¡o quizá sea yo la sorprendida!

Al observarlos en su diario vivir y después de estar tantos años juntos, hay pequeños detalles que se olvidan o no se notan. Por ejemplo, el que la mujer le sirva la comida al esposo se vuelve una rutina y el

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hombre no le da las gracias por haberle atendido. Por otro lado, la mujer siente que es su “deber”. Obviamente, hablo de un incidente que noté una mañana al desayunar con mis padres. Al estar ya retirados, algunas de las cosas que antes hacia la sirvienta, ahora ya no son necesarias.

Por supuesto que se los hice notar, como le hice notar a mi mamá que servirle a la pareja no debe de ser un “deber” sino mas bien un gusto, un deseo. Les hice notar que hay que darnos cuenta cuando lastimamos a nuestra pareja y que debemos pedir disculpas en el momento; aunque no siempre sea fácil hacerlo, nos ahorramos disgustos sin sentido y es tiempo perdido.

Igual me di cuenta que la generación de mis hermanos que son de 7 a 12 años mayores que yo, son la generación intermedia que tienen un poco de lo anticuado mezclado con la imparable “tecnología” de hoy a la que tienen que adaptarse para estar de acorde con la generación de sus hijos.

De esa estadía y convivencia me traje algo que siempre quiero llevar presente en mi, y es el poder ver todo el tiempo a mi pareja y mi entrega a ella como mi deseo y no un deber. Aprendí a que siempre quiero darle a ella las gracias por algo que haya hecho por mí y sobre todo por estar a mi lado. Aprendí que la generación tuya y mía es más expresiva, mas abierta, mas arriesgada, mas decidida, mas atrevida, mas práctica. Somos todo eso y más sin la necesidad de perder nuestras bases y la pizca de lo añejo de los padres. Nada, que… ¡son todas cosas de la generación!

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WHAT THEY SAID ABOUT...

NEW YORK’S WIN ON MARRIAG EQUALITY ON JUNE 24, 2011—ALMOST 42 YEARS AFTER STONEWALL RIOTS ON JUNE 28, 1969.

FEB ‘08 THE L WORD SEASON 5 PREMIERE PARTY AT BONGOS IN DOWNTOWN MIAMI. ....................................................................................

EQUALITY FLORIDA: “Winning marriage in New York is particularly special for Florida’s LGBT community. So many of us either came from New York, have 2nd homes there, or have friends and family in New York... But here in Florida we are also moving in the direction of equality, and today 6.7 million Floridians live in communities that recognize our families with domestic partnership benefits. Our goal is the same as our friends’ in New York, and this victory is a turning point that brings us much closer to full marriage equality for all of our families.” — Deputy Director Stratton Pollitzer WANDA SYKES: “When I land in Paris, I hope to be able to toast to marriage equality in NY. Peace and love!” —Via Tiwtter PFLAG NATIONAL: “After years of actively fighting for marriage equality in New York State, I am elated that both of my sons — gay and straight — will now have the same basic civil right to marry the person they love in the state in which they were raised.” —Dale Bernstein, PFLAG National Board Member, PFLAG Mom, and lifelong New York resident.

ROSIE O’DONNELL: ”Happy gays r here again!” —Via Twitter FREEDOM TO MARRY: “The surge in new support and this epic win in New York add to the momentum for the work ahead: ending the cruel exclusion from marriage in other states and overturning the so-called ‘Defense of Marriage Act,’ which denies married gay and lesbian couples the safety-net of protections and responsibilities marriage brings at the federal level.” —Evan Wolfson, Founder and President HUMAN RIGHTS CAMPAIGN: “There’s no doubt that this was the most unified marriage effort ever... Today’s victory is made even sweeter by the fact that organizations were able to rally around a common goal, work hard and deliver a huge win for civil and human rights.” —Joe Solmonese, President.

NATIONAL GAY & LESBIAN TASK FORCE: “...To finally be able to share and celebrate one’s love and commitment both publicly and legally is a lifelong dream for tens of thousands of same-sex couples and their families. This vote affirms our common humanity... It honors New York’s unique history as being the place where the modern gay rights movement sprang to life 42 years ago at the Stonewall Inn in New York City...” —Rea Carey, Executive Director NEW YORK STATE ATTORNEY GENERAL: “At our founding, what made America different from every other country that existed before was a commitment to an ideal that had never been advanced – that all are created equal, endowed by their Creator with the rights of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness... Today, our state rose to the challenge, and New York, once again, has carried on this great American tradition.” — Eric T. Schneiderman LADY GAGA: “I can’t stop crying...The revolution is ours to fight for love, justice + equality. Rejoice NY, and propose. We did it!!!” —Via Twitter EMPIRE STATE PRIDE AGENDA: “It’s truly a historic night for love, our families, and democracy won.” —Ross Levi, Executive Director

The New York freedom to marry bill passed in the Assembly 82-47 and then in the Republican-led Senate 33-29. Law goes into effect July 24, 2011.

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AQUARIUS JAN 20 - FEB 19

LEO JULY 23 - AUG 23

‘Show me the money’ is your new mantra as your career is your entire focus. Expanding your sphere of influence and your store of knowledge will definitely be extremely beneficial to you. However, you do need to take care not to neglect your loved ones in your pursuit of a better future. Stress is a waste of good brain power and solves nothing. Stay positive with yourself, the situation and the significant others in your life.

It’s time to stop burning the candle at both ends and take some needed time out. This will be a very good thing for yourself and the others in your life. Pay attention to any issues that might pop, uninvited, from your subconscious where you thought it was safely buried away. Now’s the time to deal with them as the ‘you’ you are now. Be gone with any negative self-talk and be totally confident in your ability to move forward, unencumbered.

PISCES FEB 20 - MAR 20

VIRGO AUG 24 - SEPT 23

There’s a good chance you’ll be wearing your rose colored glasses, and we all know what that means.

You’re definitely in the mood for love and therein lies the danger. As long as ‘I want’ doesn’t turn into ‘I do’ immediately after, you should enjoy this opportunity for life’s pleasures. Be realistic about your goals and don’t expect financial aid anytime soon, so be proactive in seeking new, better, and more opportunities and sources of income.

You’re feeling very self-protective these days. Don’t let that prevent you from taking advantage of all the opportunities to network. Remember to actually stick to one thing at a time. Pay close attention to any communication problems as you have greater clarity now about your contribution to the confusion, and therefore, will now be better able to make whatever adjustments necessary to say it differently, hear it differently, and react and resolve it differently.

ARIES MAR 21 - APR 19

LIBRA SEPT 24 - OCT 23

You have to pump yourself up to finish what you’ve started before rushing off to start your next project.

Move your base of operations, thereby increasing your sphere of influence. Be careful that you don’t make impulsive moves that undermine your existing foundation. Convince others that your ideas have merit, instead of bullying them into submission. Avoid arguments or at least think before you say anything that you can’t take back. Stay focused on the positive and strategize your future success.

Most of your attention is on your career and your sphere of influence in the business community. Even if conditions are not ideal, don’t give up. Patience and persistence will win the prize. Learn new ways to get goals accomplished and to learn new techniques in dealing with the competing demands of work and relationships.

Don’t forget that your primary responsibility is to yourself, so make sure you’re taking care of your own wants and needs too.

TAURUS APR 20 - MAY 20

SCORPIO OCT 24 - NOV 22

Changes are about to happen to you. Go with the flow and don’t waste precious energy fighting to swim upstream. Instead of stubbornly holding on to what you thought, be open to what others think. Enjoy a change of pace. Accept and extend invitations to join like-minded others to share ideas and information. This is a great time to reconnect with your friends and family, so relax and have some fun

You’re anxious to get started on your best idea ever.

However, it is a turbulent course that you have chosen, and in order to successfully navigate it, you’ll have to learn better coping skills to maintain your balance. You’ll need to exercise discipline and commitment, but you will get there. Keep fine-tuning your plans, and keep dreaming of the rewards you’ll obtain for all of your efforts. Just don’t allow yourself to become too distracted.

GEMINI MAY 21 - JUN 21

SAGITTARIUS NOV 23 - DEC 21

Your entire focus is on your financial situation. Your vision of the future is driving your present activities and you find yourself actively making adjustments to your everyday routines. Take stock of what you already have before giving yourself permission to go on a spending spree. Allow yourself some time off to play, to reconnect with loved ones, or just to chill out and recharge your batteries and dream up new plans for world domination.

Changes have to happen. However, you’re truly confused and uncertain about what those changes might be. Review the past with an eye to the future, and go way below the surface of your current situation to the root cause.

Give yourself permission to enjoy life while you’re figuring out your next move. Travel even if you’re only able to explore locally. That goes for business opportunities and ideas as well.

CANCER JUNE 22 - JULY 22

CAPRICORN DEC 22 - JAN 19

Even though the thought of changes is scary, the thought of staying in the status-quo is equally daunting. You’ll cope and thrive. That’s not to say that you won’t have emotional responses to situations, but you don’t have to breakdown over them. Strive for emotional balance and you’ll be surprised at how quickly things will work out. Now’s a good time to use every opportunity to network yourself and your ideas and to re-introduce yourself to influential people.

You’ll have to walk a fine line between professional responsibilities and needy personal relationships. Oh yes, it’s going to be an interesting month for sure, but it doesn’t have to be an unproductive month. Real progress can be made towards overcoming obstacles to harmony and happiness. Your best strategy is to compromise and cooperate if you want to avoid fights for control. Remember, we can only really control ourselves. Only you can prevent forest fires.

The Village Sage is a freelance writer and astologer, who is available for consultations and charts. You can reach her by e-mail at info@shemag.com.

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